Everand Logo

Welcome to Everand!

  • Discover millions of ebooks, audiobooks, and so much more with a free trial

    Only $11.99/month after trial. Cancel anytime.

    Preventing Damage to Children During Divorce: A HarperOne Select
    Preventing Damage to Children During Divorce: A HarperOne Select
    Preventing Damage to Children During Divorce: A HarperOne Select
    Ebook48 pages51 minutes

    Preventing Damage to Children During Divorce: A HarperOne Select

    By Michele Lowrance

    ()

    Read preview

    About this ebook

    Michele Lowrance is a practicing domestic relations Judge who over the last four years has seen one hundred percent of divorcing couples who followed her principles avoid trial. Utilizing her expertise as a former divorce attorney and family court judge, Judge Michele offers concrete advice from the bench, real-life stories, no-nonsense tools, so that you will be able to prevent collateral damage and protect what we all value most. Life goes on and the decisions we make during this process must endure as well.

    Michele F. Lowrance has been a domestic-relations Judge in the Circuit Court of Illinois since 1995. A child of divorce who was raised by her grandparents, Judge Lowrance is twice divorced. She has devoted her professional life to helping those similarly situated.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherHarperCollins
    Release dateFeb 7, 2012
    ISBN9780062123619
    Preventing Damage to Children During Divorce: A HarperOne Select
    Author

    Michele Lowrance

    Michele F. Lowrance has been a domestic-relations judge in the Circuit Court of Illinois since 1995. A child of divorce who was raised by her grandparents, Judge Lowrance has been divorced and has devoted her professional life to helping those similarly situated.

    Related to Preventing Damage to Children During Divorce

    Related ebooks

    Personal Growth For You

    View More
    View More

    Related podcast episodes

    Related articles

    • Article

      Podcasts For Couples

      Jan 3, 2020

      Podcasts For Couples
      2 min read

    • Article

      The Wheel Of Life

      Aug 11, 2020

      The Wheel Of Life
      1 min read

    • Article

      Beat THE DISEASE TO please

      May 18, 2020

      Beat THE DISEASE TO please
      4 min read

    • Article

      Kind Of Blue

      Jul 4, 2021

      Kind Of Blue
      10 min read

    • Article

      Put That Phone Away—now

      Apr 1, 2019

      When I talk to parents about my research on teens and technology, their questions often boil down to this: Is it bad for my teen to be spending so much time on electronic devices? Recently, several analyses have said that the research on this front i

      3 min read

    • Article

      STOP Beating Yourself Up!

      May 13, 2019

      STOP Beating Yourself Up!
      4 min read

    • Article

      How To Handle Toxic Bullies

      Jul 14, 2020

      How To Handle Toxic Bullies
      1 min read

    • Article

      Making The Grade

      May 15, 2023

      Making The Grade
      9 min read

    • Article

      Go with YOUR GUT

      Sep 29, 2020

      Go with YOUR GUT
      3 min read

    • Article

      ‘Help Me Help My Mother’

      Jul 14, 2020

      MARY FENWICK is a writer, speaker and executive coach; she’s also a mother, divorcee and widow. GOT A QUESTION FOR MARY? Email mary@psychologies.co.uk, with ‘MARY’ in the subject line. FOR MORE about Mary’s one-to-one work and speaking, go to m

      4 min read

    • Article

      Laughter: A Love Story

      Feb 5, 2023

      Laughter: A Love Story
      9 min read

    • Article

      Open Mic

      Feb 26, 2020

      Dear Parents and Caregivers, Now that we’ve had a few weeks to settle into the school year, I thought I would write to say how much I’m enjoying working with your children, watching them grow and learn and change. There’s a restless kind of beauty t

      3 min read

    • Article

      Trustworthy Traits

      Jun 6, 2018

      We are living in such interesting times. Change is rapid. The brands most popular today may not be the brands we use tomorrow. Who we thought we were last year, may not be exactly who we are next year. What we knew last month is different to what we

      4 min read

    • Article

      How To Make Better Choices During Uncertainty

      Apr 29, 2020

      • Count your blessings. Look at what have rather than what you may have lost or missed out on, as this helps lower emotion and brings you into a more rational headspace. • Think in three time frames. Ask yourself what the impact of your decision will

      1 min read

    • Article

      Bookmark This

      Feb 22, 2022

      A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself Nedra Glover Tawwab • TarcherPerigee “‘Boundaries’ can be such a broad and intimidating term,” therapist, author, and relationship expert Nedra Glover Tawwab writes in the first few pages of Set Boundaries, Find Peace.

      6 min read

    • Article

      Coaching Exercises

      Apr 21, 2020

      Human beings all have similar emotional needs that must be fulfilled for our self-esteem and self-worth. If we are not getting one of our core needs met, we will feel unhappy although we may not realise why. If some of your needs are not being met, t

      1 min read

    • Article

      How To Move Past A Bad Birth

      Sep 23, 2019

      How To Move Past A Bad Birth
      4 min read

    Related categories

    Reviews for Preventing Damage to Children During Divorce

    0 ratings

    0 ratings0 reviews

    What did you think?

    Tap to rate

    Review must be at least 10 words

      Book preview

      Preventing Damage to Children During Divorce - Michele Lowrance

      Preventing Damage to

      Children During Divorce

      A HarperOne Select

      Michele Lowrance

      HO_title_pg.eps

      Contents

      Cover

      Title Page

      Preventing Damage to Children During Divorce

      About the Author

      Also by Michele Lowrance

      Also from HarperOne

      Also Available from HarperOne Selects

      Permissions

      About the Publisher

      Preventing Damage to Children During Divorce

      Let me give you one definition of ethics: it is good to maintain life and to further life; it is bad to damage and destroy life. And this ethic, profound, universal, has the significance of religion. It is religion.

      —Albert Schweitzer

      I love my children. I would never do anything to hurt them, say parents. Operating under the illusion that love conquers all, most parents overwhelmingly believe that whatever behavior they engage in during their divorce, their children will get over it in the long run. The belief in this myth appears to give parents license to behave any way their urges dictate. It is almost as if being in pain means they can break the rules.

      This belief is at least part of the reason that children coming from those families that make up the 50 percent divorce rate have been negatively and indelibly stamped. The results of long-term studies of children of divorce done by Dr. Judith Wallenstein, author of The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, have shown that, as adults, two out of three children of divorce decide not to have children of their own. The reasons given range from: they would not want to be the kind of parent they had, to they would not know how to parent and thought they would have little talent for it, to if their marriage ended in divorce their children might go through the same horrible experience they had.

      I call this an epidemic, because according to this research a primary reason for marriage (to have children) no longer exists as it did in the past. What is wrong with this picture? Can it be true that so many children are being so damaged when their parents often mean so well? I began to search for the disconnect between parents’ hearts and their behavior that could account for this disturbing trend.

      I started my search by asking a husband who had admitted to hitting his wife in front of their children if he understood why this was so damaging to them. He answered candidly that, no, he really didn’t know why that would harm his children, because he wasn’t hitting them. Although that may have been an extreme example of parental obliviousness, it got me thinking.

      I continued to ask litigants battling in (and out of) my courtroom if they thought that arguing in front of their children or speaking negatively about their spouse was damaging. Some parents thought those actions might be damaging, but few could articulate the dangers. The truth is, too many weren’t really sure, or they didn’t exactly know how those actions could be damaging. I’ve come to understand the importance of spelling out the dire correlation between their combative spousal conduct and damage to their children. I tried to determine what the most damaging pervasive myths are that parents believe.

      Enjoying the preview?
      Page 1 of 1