Vivere: Live, Laugh, & Just Be
By Alex Abaz
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What is the secret to happiness? “The recipe for your exuberance combines nuggets of joy, hysteria, and wisdom.” Oh No! That’s someone else’s book. This book, “Vivere: Live, Laugh, and Just Be.” is intended to inspire you to live your best life despite the day-to-day grind. It's a beautiful book that is intended to amuse you and teach valuable life lessons.
“Vivere: Live, Laugh, and Just Be” started as a personal gratitude journal during a difficult time in the author’s life. Most of us “live” in a virtual reality or fantasy world which leaves us unfulfilled and disappointed. We need real-life scripts to inspire us. The journal is raw and honest. It’s a snapshot into the life of a stay-at-home mom and an entrepreneur which is bound to inspire anyone with relationship problems, work challenges, financial woes, and parenting guilt. It proves that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
Each day presents us opportunities to learn from. The book weaves lessons and stories about life: weddings and funerals, courtship and friendship, dreams and destiny, fun and laughter, pets and parenting; love and loss, and anger and fear. It speaks to outdated rituals, nostalgic traditions, and fun excursions. Life can amuse us at every turn when we pay attention. There is beauty and pleasure along the way and this book is full of beautiful images.
We love the movies. It’s art imitating life. Motion-picture films have given us some of the most memorable lines. The author draws upon favorite scenes from a selection of films such as: Cast Away, Titanic, Ocean’s Eleven, The Hunger Games, Under the Tuscan Sun, and Easy A. The goal is to recreate the experience which the author went through – one of harmony in the midst of chaos. “Vivere: Live, Laugh, and Just Be” is about experiencing wonder, inspiration, and abandonment. It’s about taking chances and realizing your dreams. It’s about finding joy in the ordinary. It’s about moving on. It’s about “vivere”.
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References and Quotations
A Thousand Words – comedy drama film (2011): Directed by Brian Robbins; with Eddie Murphy
Arianna Huffington – Great Conversations #302 with Howard Fineman
August Rush – romantic musical film (2007): Directed by Kirsten Sheridan; with Freddie Highmore, Keri Russell, Jonathan Rhys Meyers, and William Sadler
Black Gold – adventure drama film (2011): Directed by Jean-Jacques Annaud; with Freida Pinto, Mark Strong, Antonio Banderas, and Tahar Rahim
Break Lyrics – Steve Erlody and Jonathan Rhys Meyers (2007); Sung by Jonathan Rhys Meyers in film August Rush
Burlesque – romantic musical film (2010): Directed by Steve Antin; with Cher, Christina Aguilera, Cam Gigandet, and Stanley Tucci
Cast Away – romantic drama film (2000): Directed by Robert Zemeckis; with Tom Hanks, Helen Hunt, Paul Sanchez, and Lari White
Charlie St. Cloud – romantic drama film (2010): Directed by Burr Steers; with Zac Efron, Amanda Crew, and Charlie Tahan
Easy A – teen comedy film (2010): Directed by Will Gluck; with Emma Stone, Amanda Bynes, Cam Gigandet, Dan Byrd, Lisa Kudrow, and Patricia Clarkson
Father William – poem by Lewis Carroll (1832–1898)
From Prada to Nada – romantic comedy film (2011): Directed by Angel Gracia; with Camilla Belle, Alexa Vega, Kuno Becker, and Tina French
Mona Lisa Smile – romantic drama film (2003): Directed by Mike Newell; with Julia Roberts, Kirsten Dunst, Julia Stiles, and Maggie Gyllenhaal
Nim’s Island – adventure comedy film (2008): Directed by Jennifer Flackett and Mark Levin; with Jodie Foster, Gerard Butler, and Abigail Breslin
Ocean’s Eleven – comedy crime film (2001): Directed by Steven Soderbergh; with George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Matt Damon, Don Cheadle, Andy Garcia, and Julia Roberts
One Day – romantic comedy film (2011): Directed by Lone Scherfig; with Anne Hathaway, Jim Sturgess, Patricia Clarkson, and Tom Mison
One Week – poem by Carolyn Wells (1862–1942)
Satisfied Mind – song by Jeff Buckley (1998)
Something Borrowed – romantic comedy film (2011)
Song of Myself – poem by John Whitman (1866–1951)
The Adjustment Bureau – romantic action film (2011): Directed by George Nolfi; with Matt Damon, Emily Blunt, Michael Kelly, and Anthony Mackie.
The Blind Men and the Elephant – poem by John Godfrey Saxe (1816–1887)
The Break up – romantic comedy film (2006): Directed by Peyton Reed; with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn
The Height of the Ridiculous – poem by Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809–1894)
The Holiday – romantic comedy film (2006): Directed and written by Nancy Meyers; with Kate Winslet, Cameron Diaz, Jude Law, Jack Black
The Hunger Games – action drama film (2012): Directed by Gary Ross; with Jennifer Lawrence, Josh Hutcherson, Wes Bentley, Stanley Tucci, Woody Harrelson, and Willow Shields
The Lost Valentine – romantic drama film (2011): Directed by Darnell Martin; with Jennifer Love Hewitt, Nick Moon Stephens, Betty White, and Sean Faris
The Lucky One – romantic drama film (2012): Directed by Scott Hicks; with Zac Efron, Taylor Schilling, Blythe Danner, and Riley Thomas Stewart
The Purple Cow – poem by Jelett Burgess (1866–1951)
The Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants – romantic drama film (2005): Directed by Sanaa Hamri; with America Ferrera, Alexis Bledel, Amber Tamblyn, and Blake Lively
The Three Princes of Serendip – translation from book by Michele Tramezzino (1557) & reference to Horace Walpole and Richard Boyle @2000
The Vow – romantic comedy film (2012): Directed by Michael Sucsy; with Rachel McAdams, Channing Tatum, Sam Neill, Scott Speedman and Jessica Lange
The Wizard of Oz – musical fantasy film (1939): Directed by Victor Fleming; wiith Judy Garland, Frank Morgan, Ray Bolger, and Bert Lahr
The X Factor – television music competition franchise created by Simon Cowell (2010)
Titanic – romantic drama film (1997): Directed, written, co-produced, and co-edited by James Cameron; with Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet
Under the Tuscan Sun – romantic comedy film (2003): Directed by Audrey Wells; with Diane Lane, Raoul Bova, Sandra Oh, and Lindsay Duncan
W.E. – romantic drama film (2011): Directed and co-written by Madonna; with Abbie Cornish, Oscar Isaac, Richard Coyle, James D’Arcy, and Andrea Riseborough
Casual reference to, and quotations from some of my favourite people: Oprah Winfrey, Dr. Oz, Dr. Phil, Anderson Cooper and other sages and artists.
The Height of the Ridiculous
I wrote some lines once on a time,
In wondrous merry mood.
And thought, as usual, men would say
They were exceeding good.
They were so queer, so very queer,
I laughed as I would die;
Albeit, in the general way,
A sober man am I.
I called my servant, and he came;
How kind it was of him
To mind a slender man like me,
He of the mighty limb.
These to the printer,
I exclaimed,
And, in my humourous way,
I added (as a trifling jest),
There’ll be the devil to pay.
He took the paper, and I watched,
And saw him peep within;
At the first line he read, his face
Was all upon the grin.
He read the next; the grin grew broad,
And shot from ear to ear;
He read the third; a chuckling noise
I now began to hear.
The fourth; he broke into a roar;
The fifth; his waistband split;
The sixth; he burst five buttons off,
And tumbled in a fit.
Ten days and nights, with sleepless eye,
I watched that wretched man,
And since, I never dare to write
As funny as I can.
Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809–1894)
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.
– Melody Beattie –
What is Vivere
?
Vivere
is both a noun and a verb in the Italian language. It means to live, to be alive, to be, and to subsist; it is living, it is life, and it is lifestyle. For me, it is the practice of focusing on what is good in our lives. It is finding joy in the ordinary. It is pondering what is essential for our happiness. One way to train ourselves to do this is to read inspirational verses and keep a gratitude journal. This simple distraction can pay huge dividends.
Vivere: Live, Laugh, and Just Be
is a path of inspiration through active meditation. It leads us to still waters. By sifting out what really matters we are motivated to improve our circumstances. When we immerse ourselves in positive light, we shine. It is my sincere hope that this book will inspire you to live gratefully, laugh often, and just be. Be who you are. Be where you are – in the moment. I found that this process helped me through some challenging days and traumatic events. As it happens, when life hurts the most, it is most difficult to do anything. That’s because the energy flow within us gets blocked. Shock and pain can do that to one’s consciousness. But this is when the way of Vivere: Live, Laugh, and Just Be
is most therapeutic.
Dedicated to my son for all the joy and laughter he has given me.
INTRODUCTION
As a stay-at-home mom, working full time from home, my experiences are mostly mundane. Sometimes they are chaotic and occasionally adventurous. You may identify with some of them. Life stressors can deplete our energy. Relationship and financial issues can cripple us. Inspirational verses and my gratitude journal kept me sane during the worst of it and sustained me to the next day. I made it a point of writing at least five things that I was grateful for each day. This practice required that I look for blessings throughout my day. That changed my focus and my attitude. Some days it was hard to find even one thing to praise. Repetition was unavoidable but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. The inner spirit is comforted by rhythm and chant. Our subconscious does not mind repetition – it approves of it. This is how change happens. There were days when I was too busy or in shock and found it impossible to journal. That’s okay too.
Vivere: Live, Laugh, and Just Be
started as a personal journal at a time when there was some distress in my life. My journal reveals the drama and dread of everyday living. Most of us live
in a virtual reality of theatre and fantasy. The lifestyle of the rich and famous
is alluring. It raises our expectations and desires only to give way to disappointment. Reality doesn’t always have a happy ending. The way of Vivere: Live, Laugh, and Just Be
, while simple to do, can be life-altering. It teaches us to focus on the positive in our lives, no matter how insignificant it may seem. In this way the negative is automatically diminished. This helps us cope with our circumstances and leads us to a more beautiful place, where we can experience joy and tranquility despite it all. According to Dr. Daniel G. Amen, author of Magnificent Mind at any Age: Natural Ways to Unleash Your Brain’s Maximum Potential
, research has shown that those who wrote down five blessings each day and meditated on them throughout the day were happier within three weeks.
Publishing my personal drama was a difficult step for me. Most of us find it difficult to divulge our inner truth. It’s too raw. I felt it necessary to include it as an illustration of a real-life journal in order to dispel the notion that everyone but us is living a fantastical life. I hope it will help you accept your truth. There were trials and tribulations during that season which changed my life forever. The journal is honest. The drama is in what is said as well as what is omitted. It speaks to the strength of the human spirit. It’s quite amazing really. Something cries out to us and drives us onward. It’s bound to inspire anyone with relationship problems, workplace challenges, financial woes, and parenting guilt. It’s a snapshot of marriage, friendship, family, and entrepreneurship. I have made only minor editorial changes to the original journal because I wanted to keep it real. I changed some people’s names to protect their identity.
Each day presents us opportunities to learn from, and scattered here and there, we get snippets of joy and delight. I chose one lesson each day for reflection and quoted freely from certain motion-picture films for illustration. It’s art imitating life. The embedded scripts add a sense of theatre and indulge us a little with romance and comedy. It was my intention to recreate the experience which I went through which was one of harmony in the midst of chaos. To do that, I contrasted the journal and reflections with beautiful images. There is always beauty on our path if we train our eye to look for it. In beauty there is awe. Its breath first snares us and then releases us, but by then we’ve experienced wonder, inspiration, and abandonment.
Life is a gift not to be squandered. Regret is not a coupon which we can redeem. I hope that Vivere: Live, Laugh, and Just Be
will give you the courage to persevere no matter what circumstances you face. Life offers us lots of choices. We have to choose at every crossroad – life doesn’t wait. There is no right or wrong decision. It is only by looking back that we can tell what pivotal choices made the difference in the texture of our lives. The experience is all that matters. If we are willing to learn from someone else’s choices then we can avoid some bumps and enjoy a smoother ride. Life is circular – it winds and loops back to the beginning. When we chase after life, it’s a rollercoaster ride. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. Live, Laugh, and Just Be. There is no reason to chase time, even if we could. All we can do is live each moment. Vivere: Live, Laugh, and Just Be
is about living a full life.
I am convinced that we are all addicted to optimism. We like to drown in happiness. Vivere: Live, Laugh, and Just Be
is intended to add a pinch of happiness to your life. I hope you live your life in blissful tranquility. I hope you are inspired to be grateful every day. I wish you well on your journey of a lifetime.
DD 1: A warm and breezy day.
Today I begin my gratitude journal. I noticed that by acknowledging what I am grateful for, no matter how insignificant it may seem I find more to be grateful about.
On this first day of my journey inward in search of my authentic self, I am grateful for Pam and Stephanie. Making friends in a new place seems impossible at first but it happens. We need friends and neighbours especially when family is far away or distant emotionally.
I am grateful for spotting the error in my last batch of work and the positive way in which I was able to interact with my sub-contractor to correct the problem. It felt good.
I am grateful for Sara Chalmers, the 90 year-old lady living in the retirement home next door, who glowed with optimism and told me I was interesting, and that she loved talking to me. I promised that my four-year-old and I would visit her again and she delighted in that. Sara gave me precise directions to Room 107. Wow!
I am grateful for the sun rays warming me while I sit on this rock watching my little one play, resisting the call to duty. The work will just have to wait for night-time.
I am so grateful for the shaded playground which just happens to be behind our temporary abode. It’s a green retreat. I don’t have to walk far to amuse my little one.
I am grateful to Sarah Ban Breathnack for her wonderful book, Simple Abundance
and Oprah for bringing the book to our attention. It nudged me to start this journal and inspired me to view life differently. I even put on a little makeup this morning.
REFLECTION
Friends are essential.
Friends are not disposable. They are like oxygen. I am grateful for my best friend Cheryl. She’s been there for me through thick and thin – a bosom friend indeed. Friendship is based on trust. It takes time to get to know people. Most of us hide inside a shell, afraid to show who we really are. Some try to blend into the world like chameleons. Others like to step out into the limelight. Don’t let any of it fool you. It’s all the