Living with Character Series

The Science of Living With Patience and Understanding Table of Contents Introduction Why Can’t We Admit That We Are Wrong? Have the Strength to Take the Blame I Am Always Right – Can’t You Do Anything Right? I Just Hate That Habit of His/Hers Living with Showoffs Bringing Up Baby For the Sake of Argument! Open Windows On Your Mind Listening to Your Views with Patience Conclusion Introduction How many times have you heard a person tell you brightly, that they could achieve some particular goal, or do something, but they do not seem to have the patience. In fact, they are quite proud of the fact that they leave things half way, because they do not have the patience to complete it. Others are going to tell you all about losing patience with another person, who does not see their point of view. And then the argument gets to be really acrimonious, and friendships break, because of a loss of understanding and patience on the part of one stubborn person. Well, the science of living book is going to tell you all about the importance of patience in your life, when touched with understanding. I remember an instance, when I was traveling with a couple of friends, in their car, to visit some more friends for the weekend. This was the first instance that we were driving down to their weekend cottage in the country. The atmosphere was very pleasant, and we were looking forward to amusing times, with friends, when one of those all too frequent arguments started up between the husband was driving and the wife was reading the map. I could see that we were well and truly lost, and would inevitably not keep our luncheon appointment. We do not have the GPS installed, because it had not come into vogue, lo those many years ago. So arguments over Map reading were extremely common, and many of us who remember such instances in our own lives are going to smile reminiscently.

The Science of Living – Graciously Table of Contents Introduction – What Is The Science Of Living? Contentment and How to Achieve It Other People’s Problems – Possibly Your Headache Self-Pity and Self-Absorption Is it Worthwhile to Keep a Stiff Upper Lip? Expressions and How They Facilitate Your Passage through Life My Beliefs are Superior to Yours – You Have to Follow Them Introduction – What Is The Science Of Living? Many of us are familiar with the Art of Living. But do you know about the Science of Living? The physical, spiritual, mental, and emotional processes which we are going through in our day to day living are natural, inbuilt, and something which we do instinctively and automatically. Apart from these activities, we add spiritual and emotional strength to our lives by practicing the social, traditional and ethical principles and guidelines to good living brought to us by our ancestors and the wise ancients. This is the extra that we put into our lives in order to achieve spiritual and mental peace and equanimity. These rules of living brought to us by these ancients, under the heading of the art of living. The Science of Living is looking at little incidents throughout the day or occurring in the lives of people around you. Now how are those actions going to influence you? How are you going to benefit from their mistakes? How are you going to be inspired by their experiences? How are you going to take advantage of this knowledge? This is the basis of The Science of Living in the modern atmosphere of stress, tension and worry. The Science of Living graciously is going to be made up of a number of lessons. These are easy to implement in your own lives after you have understood them. They are going to be examples of people you see around you. You need to have the power of analyzing this factor – does this example relate to me? Am I a person who spreads joy around me? Or am I a taker contributing nothing to society except possible worry and tension to them. How do I achieve contentment? Is it possible to achieve everything you wish and desire in this world? How do I manage this stressful life, when I find myself facing problems and troubles at every turn? How do I gain the mental strength to cope with sorrow and loss? Can I achieve all the goals I have set out for myself during this lifetime? If not, is it really worth struggling against huge odds? Well, I hope this book and the others following it is going to teach you lessons in life and how they were used by the ancients to gain spiritual and emotional guidance, help and strength.

The Science of Living With Honesty and Integrity Table of Contents Introduction Earning Good Karma. Quite an honest man! Let My Conscience Speak for Me Black, Gray and White – Inflexibility And Compromise. Walk Quietly by, by the Other Side Conclusion Author Bio Introduction “Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people.”- Spencer Johnson. I was reading a story by a French writer, in the 17th century, and I found this line very amusing. “The more he talked about his honesty, the faster we counted our spoons.” Well, cynicism is definitely not something new in the 21st century. It has passed down the ages, and especially, when Shakespeare said “The lady doth protest too much, methinks,” when he wrote Hamlet in 1602. Here was a clear-sighted person who knew that somebody was trying to persuade herself and trying to pretend to the world that what she was saying was her own belief and the truth as she saw it. How many of us are self-deceivers? Some of us will not and cannot face reality. Some of us are ready to blame others for our shortcomings. Some of us are quite prepared to fight for what we consider to be the truth, because we have expounded it, and we want other people to share our beliefs and thoughts. Be honest with yourself. Once you have faced reality, you can be honest with others. Honesty, especially when you are able to face reality, and you can understand that you are in the wrong or you are in the right is something very few people can do. They would rather stick their heads in the sand, hoping against hope that the problem is going to go away. Of course, they were not responsible for that particular problem. It just happened. I was reading a Novel by Amanda Quick in which the whole family decided that they belonged to Bad blood, which was frivolous, spendthrift, and definitely not responsible. That is why they could fob off all their extravagances, and stupid behavior, to this excuse, “we cannot help it, our ancestors were like that and they passed on their habits to us.” This was Regency England. Even today, we have plenty of people using the same excuse, because they are definitely not honest enough to admit it that they do not have the strength or the willpower or the inclination to make something of themselves. They would rather go with the wind, and pretend helplessly, that they really cannot do something, because, well, they are not capable of doing that. They belong to a genetically imperfect family, they do not have any money, they have always been pulled down by circumstances and situations, and other such puerile and feeble excuses. These are just ways and means in which they can shirk their responsibilities. These people are slackers and freeloaders. They are not honest, to themselves, or to others, however much they may pretend to be honest in the given sense of the word. They also do not have personal integrity.

The Science of Living - How to Improve Your Communication Skills Table of Contents Introduction Starting a Conversation Communicating With a Spouse What about Communication with Close Friends? Talking To Small Children Maximizing Your Potential at Work through Communication How to Communicate During Interviews Talking To Strangers and Making New Friends Conclusion Author Bio How to Improve Your Communication Skills Introduction Communication is the process of conveying a message or feeling through verbal or non-verbal means. It entails talking, use of gestures, posture and/or facial expressions. Although most people tend to ignore the importance of communication skills in their lives, the truth of the matter is that it greatly affects their relationship with other people. You must therefore take your time to understand how to improve your personal and professional life by developing better communication techniques. Regardless of your height, race, gender, age or place of residence, there is no way that you can live a comfortable and stress-free lifestyle without good communication skills. Your choice of words and other expressions will have a huge impact on the number of friends you have. It will also affect how close –or distant- you are to your friends and the kind of secrets you are likely to share with them. Your love-life is also greatly determined by your verbal and non-verbal communication techniques. This means that you must put some effort to improve these skills so as to have a strong and fulfilling love-life. Learning good communication skills is also one of the things that can make your professional life so much easier and enjoyable. With good skills, you will find it easy to talk and relate with your juniors and superiors. Students might also find it very important to improve their communication skills as it will have a huge impact on their performance at school. Socializing with fellow students or even teachers will be so much easier once you learn how to communicate properly. It is my hope that after reading this book you will have gained the necessary knowledge to improve your communication skills. Nothing will give me more pleasure than knowing that I improved somebody’s relationship(s) through this book.

The Science of Living How to Cope with Grief After Losing a Loved One Table of Contents HOW TO COPE WITH GRIEF AFTER LOSING A LOVED ONE OTHER CAUSES OF GRIEF COMMON REACTIONS OR BEHAVIOR SHOWING GRIEF HOW TO DEAL WITH THE FEELINGS OF GRIEF AFTER THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE HOW TO COPE WITH COMPLICATED GRIEF THAT MAY ARISE AFTER LOSING A LOVED ONE REASONS FOR EXPERIENCING COMPLICATED GRIEF STRATEGIES TO DEAL WITH COMPLICATED GRIEF HOW THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE CAN BRING OUT PAINFUL EMOTIONS IT IS POSSIBLE TO ACCEPT THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE? HOW TO COPE WITH LONELINESS AFTER THE DEATH OF A LOVED ONE HOW TO COPE WITH DEPRESSION AFTER THE DEATH OF YOUR LOVED ONE HOW TO COPE WITH GRIEF AFTER LOSING A LOVED ONE Is it normal to go through the grieving process? I tend to think that grieving is normal and natural; it takes place over time and through it you can accept and understand the loss. How does it differ from bereavement? Bereavement is what you go through when someone close to you dies. Grieving may involve actions and emotions which may assist one to go through the difficult times people experience due to the loss of loved ones. Both mourning and bereavement are part of the grieving process. Every loss of a person may not be the same to everyone hence grieving may not be the same for everyone. Is this true? This is true. I want you to compare the loss of your beloved mother and a very close friend of yours, which one do you think may lead to prolonged grieving? Keep that answer to yourself. But you should agree with me that grief doesn't look the same for everyone. I lost my mother and still I cannot talk about that death freely. Below are some of the reasons that may cause grief; Losing your job Relationship breakup or divorce Miscarriage Serious illness of a loved one Loss of health Loss of a friendship Loss of financial stability To some people even retirement Losing a pet to some people may cause grief

The Science of Living - Parenting With Responsibility and Purpose Table of Contents Introduction-What Do You Mean By Parenting Responsibly? Child Psychology –Do You Understand Your Teenager? Parental Attitudes Teenage Discipline Defiant Behavior in Children – Boot Camps Taking on the Responsibility of Raising a Girl Child Mama, daddy, Why Do Not You Listen? Conclusion Author Bio What Do You Mean by Parenting Responsibly? “It is not enough just becoming a parent; you need to take on the responsibility of a lifetime of conscientious guidance. No man should bring children into the world who is unwilling to persevere to the end in their nature and education.” [Plato – 427-347 BC] This was written millenniums ago, by one of the most famous philosophers of Classical Times, Plato, but even though we read his books and his system, we definitely do not know how to apply his teachings in bringing up children, responsibly and conscientiously. The Science of Living is a series, in which you take example from daily life, and try to implement them in your own lifestyle and gain guidance from the lessons taught to you by the people who have gone before you based on their experience, knowledge and wisdom. This particular book is going to tell you all about parenting responsibly, and whether you are doing it for your own children, or are you just shirking responsibility?

The Science of Living with Tolerance and Trust Table of Contents Introduction Tolerating Weather-Vanes and Stubborn Mindsets Exploring Fresh Opinions Simple Words of Praise Bringing up Children with Trust Tolerating the People around You Happiness means Self-Control Conclusion Introduction Humans are fortunate, because they are spiritually inclined. Nevertheless, we succumb to our human failings, and we need lots of patience to reach that stage of evolution when we can tolerate with patience the people around us. Along with that comes the feeling of trust. Human beings are natural cynics too – our first instinct is always to see the bad in anything we see and hear unless we are so spiritually evolved, that we can immediately look for the good in everything. The science of living takes examples from our own daily lives as well as the lives of people before us who showed qualities of greatness through tolerance, care, sympathy, and a genuine, sincere and honest interest in the beings around them. These are the ones universally loved. They knew everything about the science of living with tolerance and trust. I do not advocate trusting everybody around you blindly. Trust comes only with the passage of time. It is said about a person who is in a position of trust and responsibility that he has to prove his worth every day through his every action, because of a feeling of self-respect and self-worth. Now this can only be done by a very brave woman and man. The Science of Living series are books which give you lessons in living, and how you can be happy while spreading happiness around you. Remember happiness comes from within. Happiness comes in a mind which is at peace and a heart which is at rest. Have faith in you. Have faith in the people around you. Give your support and sympathy to those who deserve it. Live your life so that people miss you and remember you, even after you have gone. I remember the saddest epitaph, I heard about someone I knew. She was a troublesome dove and loved spreading misery all around her. We were just coming back from her funeral, when her own son just brushed his hands together and said, “Well, that is done, thank God. We do not have to have anything to do with her again. Good riddance.” The implication of “bad rubbish” was there. That made me feel that perhaps the son was too harsh and intolerant about his mother’s failings, but all of us had suffered. So there was this feeling of relief that she had gone, and we would spend the next 40 years clearing up the broken relationships and bitterness she had left her behind her. Now that is not a heritage which you would want to leave behind you, would you? The Science of Living advocates Live and Let Live. If you get some lessons on how you can make your life sublime through this book, I would consider my work well rewarded. There is absolutely no chapter on tolerance or intolerance in matters of religion, caste, Creed, or race in this book. That is because the science of living is universal with the universal truths based on day to day life. All of these other weighty and potentially controversial matters are individual beliefs and I leave it to your conscience to follow your heart, as it thinks right.

The Science of Living - How to Raise Kids With Discipline and Values Table of contents Raising Successful Children Creating Healthy Routines for your kids How to Discipline a Child Effectively How to Discipline a Child According to Age Effective ways to Discipline Children -- That Work! How to Love Your Kids Ways to Bring Out the Best in Your Children Parenting to build character Kids and money Important Values to Teach Children Author Bio RAISING SUCCESSFUL CHILDREN PHRASES such as “helicopter parent” and “tiger mom” have made their way into the daily language. But does over-parenting help, or hurt? While parents who are embarrassingly and obviously inappropriate come in for ridicule, many people find themselves drawn to the idea that with just a little more parental elbow grease, they might turn kids with amazing talents and assured futures. The main question of whether there really is anything wrong with a kind of over-parenting lite still remains unanswered. Parental involvement has rich and long history of being studied and researched. Decades of research, many of them by renown clinical and developmental psychologists, have revealed that the optimal parent is one who is responsive and involved; who sets high expectations but still respects his/her kid’s autonomy. The “authoritative parents” tend to hit the sweet spot of the appropriate parental involvement and usually tend to raise kids who perform better academically, socially and psychologically compared to kids whose parents are either more involved and controlling, or less involved and permissive.

The Science of Living With Friendship and Peace Table of Content Introduction The Pleasure of Lasting Friendships. What Do We Expect from Our Friends. What Does it Take to be a Friend A Good Friend is Always There for You Friendships Affecting Relationships at Home The Golden Rules about Friendship Golden Principle Number One – No Loose Talk Golden Principle Number Two – Friends taking advantage? Misunderstandings Among Friends Social Life And Personal Life Peace Among Mankind Conclusion Author Bio Introduction The Science of Living is a new way of life, in which you are going to live your life, learning from the examples and experience of the people around you. Life is for living, not just for existing. And this life is for living Emperor size, holding every moment precious, because once it is gone, it is lost in the mists of the past. So, our Science of Living series give you lots of information of how you can live life fully, and enjoy the action of living on this earth, at this moment. This is the third book in the series. And this talks about living with friendship and peace. Peace is an ephemeral thing, which everybody wishes, but it is so elusive. For millenniums people have been seeking ways to gain peace among mankind, but that is only possible when they understand the meaning of friendship. And man is naturally and genetically inclined not to hold out his hand in friendship to another one not of his race, caste, Creed, area or religion, because of his upbringing, innate bias, genetic instinct, history, or anything else which makes him feel, “I do not want you as my friend.” I do not like thee Dr. Fell Why this is so I cannot tell But this I know fully well I do not like thee Dr. Fell. Charles Lamb said this more than two centuries ago, but thinking about this, anyone can understand why people do not like others instinctively. There is no logical rhyme or reason for this – like or dislike. But there is something which tells them that friendly relationships with that particular person is going to harm them or going to cause them emotional, physical, mental or spiritual trouble. And that is the reason why so many of us do not make friends at all. This book is going to give you information on how you can cherish and nourish peace and friendship, and thus understand the basis of the Science of Living and living Emperor size