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When Bonny Cook was growing up in Connecticut she wanted to be a school teacher, and she didn’t want to hear about any other possibilities. Actually, in 1960, the career possibilities for women were pretty much confined to teacher, nurse or secretary—or getting married and becoming a housewife.
When Bonny graduated from college in 1962 she went to California and taught for four years. She became disillusioned with teaching because of bad principals, quit, and shoehorned her way into becoming a business computer programmer, a job that had only recently been created. After gaining several years of experience she joined Xerox Corporation, and eventually worked her way up to vice president.
Bonny did this against the background of the women’s movement, which started about 1960. She was one of the pioneers as she broke through the so-called glass ceiling that prevented women from rising to high positions in the business world. She and others like her paved the way for young women of today, and made their climb easier.
The story of how she did it is interesting and exciting, and contains not only history, but also tips for today’s people in the workforce, whether female or male.
Bonny Robinson Cook
When Bonny Cook was growing up in Connecticut she wanted to be a school teacher, and she didn’t want to hear about any other possibilities. Actually, in 1960, the career possibilities for women were pretty much confined to teacher, nurse or secretary—or getting married and becoming a housewife.When Bonny graduated from college in 1962 she went to California and taught for four years. She became disillusioned with teaching because of bad principals, quit, and shoehorned her way into becoming a business computer programmer, a job that had only recently been created. After gaining several years of experience she joined Xerox Corporation, and eventually worked her way up to vice president.Bonny did this against the background of the women’s movement, which started about 1960. She was one of the pioneers as she broke through the so-called glass ceiling that prevented women from rising to high positions in the business world. She and others like her paved the way for young women of today, and made their climb easier.The story of how she did it is interesting and exciting, and contains not only history, but also tips for today’s people in the workforce, whether female or male.
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Breaking Through the Glass Ceiling, Traveling the World, and Other Adventures - Bonny Robinson Cook
BREAKING THROUGH THE GLASS CEILING,
TRAVELING THE WORLD,
AND OTHER ADVENTURES
by Bonny Robinson Cook
SMASHWORDS EDITION
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Copyright © 2016 by Bonny Robinson Cook
Cover by Janelle Carbajal
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DEDICATION
To my mother, Ellen Robinson Robinson, my hero, who struggled to raise her children, often under dire circumstances, but never complained, and who became an enthusiastic traveler and explorer.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
FOREWORD
CHAPTER 1 LESSONS AND PEAK EXPERIENCES
CHAPTER 2 EARLY YEARS
CHAPTER 3 HI-FOLKS GUILD AND KATIE HEPBURN
CHAPTER 4 COLLEGE
CHAPTER 5 THE OTHER SIDE OF THE MOUNTAINS
CHAPTER 6 SANTA BARBARA
CHAPTER 7 FIRST YEAR TEACHING
CHAPTER 8 BUYING A HUSBAND
CHAPTER 9 MY TEACHING CAREER ENDS
CHAPTER 10 BECOMING A PROGRAMMER
CHAPTER 11 OUR SON IS BORN
CHAPTER 12 AN EARTHQUAKE, A DREAM HOUSE, AND LAYOFFS
CHAPTER 13 GOING TO WORK FOR XEROX
CHAPTER 14 A FREE-RANGE KID
CHAPTER 15 MANAGEMENT STYLE
CHAPTER 16 SPECIAL NEEDS
CHAPTER 17 XEROX COMPUTER SERVICES—MORE STORIES
CHAPTER 18 MOVING TO BIG XEROX
CHAPTER 19 TRIPS TO JAPAN
CHAPTER 20 ADDING COLOR TO PRODUCTION PRINTERS
CHAPTER 21 TEST CENTER AND A 50 MILLION DOLLAR BUDGET
CHAPTER 22 SECRET MEETINGS
CHAPTER 23 WINNING THE XEROX PRESIDENT’S AWARD
CHAPTER 24 INTERVIEW FOR VICE PRESIDENT OF INFORMATION MANAGEMENT
CHAPTER 25 FIRST STAFF MEETING AS VICE PRESIDENT
CHAPTER 26 ROCKING THE BOAT
CHAPTER 27 STICKY NOTES
CHAPTER 28 TRIPS TO BUDAPEST
CHAPTER 29 VICE PRESIDENT OF CUSTOMER SUPPORT SERVICES
CHAPTER 30 ANNIVERSARIES
CHAPTER 31 PRESENTATION IN WARSAW
CHAPTER 32 Y2K—THE YEAR 2000 PROBLEM
CHAPTER 33 AROUND THE WORLD
CHAPTER 34 RETIREMENT FROM XEROX
CHAPTER 35 EDUCATIONAL OPPORTUNITIES
CHAPTER 36 WORKING IN TEAMS
CHAPTER 37 WOMEN’S ADVISORY COUNCIL
CHAPTER 38 REMARKABLE WOMEN
CHAPTER 39 CARING FOR MOTHER
CHAPTER 40 TRAVELS IN THE US AND CANADA
CHAPTER 41 PRIMARILY GREECE
CHAPTER 42 UNITED KINGDOM
CHAPTER 43 OTHER PRE-RETIREMENT TRIPS
CHAPTER 44 POST-RETIREMENT TRAVEL
CHAPTER 45 GENEALOGY, DNA, AND BRITISH COUSINS
AFTERWORD
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
FOREWORD
I’ve been married to Bonny for over fifty years. We have lived exciting lives together that neither of us had envisioned. I’ve been bugging her to write this book ever since she retired from Xerox in 2003, because I feel her story is not only interesting but instructive.
When I first met Bonny in 1964 she was a teacher. I knew she was bright and ambitious, but I didn’t recognize her full potential, and of course I didn’t know she would one day become a vice president at Xerox.
She told me how she had started the Hi-Folks Guild in her hometown of Old Saybrook, Connecticut and that one of her students called her Miss Tiger. Those were clues to what she would do in the future, but I was paying more attention to the present because I was head over heels in love with her.
The Hi-Folks Guild made Bonny an activist at an early age. She started it when she was in high school to counter adults who were bad-mouthing young people, and the resulting publicity got her and several of her friends a meeting with Katherine Hepburn, Old Saybrook’s most prominent citizen.
Two years after we were married she stopped teaching, partly because of bad principals and partly because she had suffered a back injury. I knew she could find another job if she wanted to, but I was surprised when she said she wanted to become a programmer. I was working at IBM in a technical position, and had done programming, system design, and other kinds of customer support, so I gave her a programming manual to read.
Bonny got a job as a programmer with no experience and no formal training, another clue to what she was capable of. She survived being fired and/or laid off from two companies, and went to work for Xerox where she stayed for thirty years and became a vice president, although she almost didn’t last the first week.
Her rise in the ranks at Xerox is a remarkable story, but it’s more than that. It happened against the background of the women’s movement, as told by Gail Collins in the book, When Everything Changed. Bonny and other women shattered the glass ceiling and paved the path for young women of the future.
Starting with our first date, Bonny and I have traveled extensively, first within North America, and then internationally. She logged well over a million air miles flying for business. The experiences she had in her travels and the insights into other cultures add another layer of interest and understanding of how human beings behave.
It’s time to let you read about Bonny’s adventure in her own words. As they say, the rest is herstory.
—Alan Cook
February 2016
CHAPTER 1 LESSONS AND PEAK EXPERIENCES
Forget about gender, race, or family background barriers. Continually work on building your own self-esteem. Make an effort to become a more interesting person. Have fun in your work and personal life. Gain business experience in a broad set of areas; don’t just stay in one, comfortable environment. Alternate between leadership positions and follower positions. Keep your eyes and ears open and look for new ideas and opportunities.
When I was a vice president at Xerox I gave this advice to the Women’s Information Network, which included all the women who worked at Xerox throughout the world, and it was published in their newsletter.
In one of the mystery novels written by my husband, Alan (Catch a Falling Knife) the lead character who is a senior citizen, says, When do we get old enough so that we’ve learned all the lessons?
Unfortunately, the answer appears to be never,
but I’ve certainly learned a lot in my life, and writing this book has brought some of these lessons to mind.
Interwoven with the lessons have been many of what psychologist Wayne Dyer calls peak experiences,
and I’ve included them too. After all, don’t we live for peak experiences?
An early lesson I learned was that if you want something done you probably have to do it yourself. That’s why I started the Hi-Folks Guild in my hometown of Old Saybrook, Connecticut. It gave me experience in leading a group of people and it led to a peak experience—spending an afternoon in the home of Katherine Hepburn.
When I was a teacher I learned that your principals won’t necessarily support you. That was one of the reasons I quit teaching, but it also helped prepare me for being a manager. As a manager, I always tried to support my people.
A definite peak experience was meeting Alan. On our first date we drove over a hundred miles to the San Diego Zoo, the prelude to many wonderful trips all over the world. Having our son, Andy, was a peak experience, but we had many anxious moments until he became healthy.
After I quit teaching I became a programmer with no formal education in computers and no experience in programming or business. If there’s a lesson here, it’s to keep your options open when you’re young, and don’t shut yourself off from possible opportunities.
During my first week working at Xerox I almost got fired. If I had been fired I probably wouldn’t have become a vice president, and certainly not at Xerox. I would never have had responsibility for a fifty-million dollar budget. I hate to think what the lesson is here, but it’s probably something about what part fate plays in our lives.
I took a class introducing me to the Xerox way of doing things. The instructor invited some members to his home to go skinny-dipping in his hot tub. I was glad I wasn’t invited. Not everybody at Xerox was like that, but when I was still new at the company I was kissed by a vice president. I punched him in the nose, which, as it turned out, was probably the right thing to do. He never tried anything again.
I traveled all over the world for business and had many interesting experiences, including eating a twenty-nine course meal in Japan, practicing for a presentation in a simulated coal mine, and being protected by the mob.
When I won the Xerox President’s Award the ceremony started out badly for me because members of the Xerox Board of Directors, who apparently weren’t yet used to female high achievers, congratulated Alan instead of me, but it turned into a peak experience with the help of the people who had assisted in getting me there.
And when I attended my first staff meeting as a vice president of Xerox, the first question somebody asked me was, Bonny, what are you doing here?
It took time and a lot of hard work before I was fully accepted by my peers, but I always received support from my friends, and that helped keep me going.
In my career I met a lot of remarkable women, such as Sally Ride, the astronaut.
As a world traveler I’ve accomplished three of my major goals: sitting on the steps of the Parthenon, kissing on the Great Wall of China, and sitting in an ancient ruin under a full moon.
Looking back, I wouldn’t have missed these experiences for anything.
CHAPTER 2 EARLY YEARS
World War II
Although I wasn’t born on Easter (I was born Tuesday, March 12, 1940), for years my brother Frank thought the Easter bunny had brought me and was confused about when my birthday really was. Frank was born in 1936 and my other brother, John, Junior in 1934.
After World War II started, my mother, Ellen Robinson, was pushing me in a baby buggy when a low-flying blimp cruised over our heads, dragging the ropes that were used to moor it. She could have reached out and grabbed one of the ropes. The pilot would fly over Long Island Sound looking for German submarines.
My parents were working at separate defense plants not far from our house in Old Saybrook, Connecticut, which was close to the beach. I believe my father, John Robinson, Senior, had at least a temporary deferment from the draft because of his job. However, one day in October 1943 Ellen was brought home from work by her car pool driver and found a note from John. It read something like this: I’ve gone off to join the navy. The car’s at the train station. The keys are under the front mat.
There was no information about where he was headed or where he would be stationed. Ellen was beside herself and didn’t know what to do. She found someone to drive her to the railroad station to retrieve the car, and then called her parents, Frank and Lillian Robinson, who lived in Wallingford, Connecticut. Since both my parents had the surname Robinson, all of our close relatives were named Robinson. It wasn’t until many years later when I started doing family research using DNA that I proved my parents weren’t related.
Ellen received a postcard from John, Sr. within a few days saying he was at Camp Peary, Virginia. He had joined the Seabees. However, as she soon found out, he had marked single
on his enlistment form, meaning that she wasn’t receiving the monetary allowance she was entitled to, part of which should have come out of his pay.
We were renting our house at the time for forty dollars a month. As soon as the company that owned the house found out my father was gone, the principals decided my mother wouldn’t be able to afford the rent, and they tried to force us out. Representatives of the company showed us cheaper locations they had for rent, in Deep River and other communities near Old Saybrook.
One was an apartment that had been constructed within a barn. It was shabby and dingy with not much light, but with stables and barn smells. When I saw it I burst into tears. Grandfather Frank was looking at places with us, and he said there was no way we were going to live in a barn.
My grandmother, Lillian, handled the finances for their family. She met with her banker and somehow figured out how she and my grandfather could afford to buy the house for about eleven thousand dollars. In addition, they found out that families of men in the military couldn’t be kicked out of a rental property while the husband was on active duty.
Our house was a prefabricated model, manufactured by American Motohome, and sold by Sears for a reasonable price. The buyer furnished the land and a concrete foundation. Ours had been a demonstration model. Only a few were ever sold, including another one in Old Saybrook. The house was well built, but it couldn’t be altered because of the metal used in the construction. It was also small—around 1,000 square feet. The garage was converted into a bedroom for John, Jr. and Frank.
Ellen may have paid my grandparents some monthly rent during the war, but probably not as much as my parents had been paying. My grandparents didn’t buy a house for themselves until 1949. Immediately after my father died in 1967, Grandfather Frank executed a Quit Claim Deed on our house, giving it to my mother for a dollar.
Within a short time after my father enlisted, I was sent to Wallingford to live with my grandparents. My brothers were both going to school, and stayed in Old Saybrook. Grandfather Frank and Grandmother Lillian were living in a two-bedroom apartment. Lillian’s sister, Minnie Drucquer, lived with them. I slept in a crib that had been my grandfather’s, in my grandparents’ bedroom.
I have happy memories of living with my grandparents. My grandmother would wash my hair in the sink, and then we would walk to the park across the street where she would brush it dry in the sunlight.
My first Christmas with them was wonderful. I remember walking into the living room where the Christmas tree was located. A couch had been set in front of the tree, facing me. It was covered with dolls. Friends of my grandparents had made the dolls out of socks. A bride doll, that had been in the family for years, was sitting in a position of honor, and was wearing a new dress my grandmother had made.
Grandfather Frank was a dye cutter with International Silver. He started as an apprentice after he finished eighth grade, and worked there for fifty-nine