The Indian Girl's Definitive Guide to Staying Single
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"IT professional seeks Hindi-speaking homely girl with US citizenship who can cook and make chai. Career girls acceptable. Please send biodata and photo."
This indispensable guide may offer answers to some of those questions plaguing single Indian women everywhere:
- Does this sari make my marriage photo look fat?
- If I drink a cup of chai, but no Indian sees me, did I still become more marriageable?
- What's the difference between dhania, coriander, and cilantro?
- How can I prevent the writer of the above matrimonial from showing up on my mandap?
Nivi Engineer
I'm a writer, software developer, and mom. I earned my Bachelor's degree in English from Case Western Reserve University, focusing on Creative Writing, and a Master's degree in Computer Science from Washington University in St. Louis, which did nothing to quell my story-telling urges. I now live in Cleveland, Ohio with my husband, three kids, and dog.
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The Indian Girl's Definitive Guide to Staying Single - Nivi Engineer
The Indian Girl’s Definitive Guide to Staying Single
Nivi R. Engineer
Published by Nivi Engineer
Copyright 2012 Nivi Engineer
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Table of Contents
Introduction
Rule #1 - Don’t Break Out In Bhangra
Rule #2 - Sorry, Sari!
Rule #3 - Don’t Bolo the Bhasha / Hold Back the Hindi
Rule #4 - Never Let Them See You Cook
Rule #5 - Chase Away the Chai
Rule #6 - Maro the Mind Games
Rule #7 - Beware the Biodata
Rule #8 - Sabotage the Shaadi Shot
Rule #9 - Flaunt Facebook: Make Your Social Network Your Naukar
Rule #10 - Make Masala of the Meet and Greet
Rule #11 - Be You, Be True, Bindaas
Glossary
Introduction
If you're reading this, then you have undoubtedly been asked by your parents and their friends, and probably by your friends, when you are planning on getting married. The nice thing is, in this day and age, we girls have a little longer to go before we're considered unmarriageable, but do keep in mind that this is thanks to your fellow Indian single sisters. We have been paving the way with our stubbornness and unwillingness to compromise our dreams in order to live by rules that simply don't allow for our freedom.
Now, I have nothing against marriage. I grew up watching the same Indian movies as everyone else. My friends would gaze dreamily at Akshay Kumar and Amir Khan, envying Karina Kapoor, Juhi Chawla, and the other actresses whose characters were lucky enough to find that special man who worked hard, cared for his family, was highly moral, and looked incredibly hot. Their heroes were willing to fight for their girls, and they always lived happily ever after.
I, meanwhile, rolled my eyes at how the girls, no matter how 'tough' they were, instantly gave in to his charms. I groaned when the girls learned that the key to a happily-ever-after involved giving up any career aspirations and choosing to stay home, raise children, and take care of the house. This typical Indian movie formula worked well for most parental audiences, since this was the life they wished their daughters to lead after graduation. But if the idea of this kind of future makes you cringe, then read on. This guide was written to help you avoid matrimony. Just keep in mind that by publishing this guide, there is always the potential that this may fall into the wrong hands. So protect it well, and always be on your guard.
Remember, you are on the market, whether you want to be or not, and you need to think carefully about what your choices are saying about you. Hopefully this guide will help you become more self-aware, so that the message you send is the one you wish to convey.
Rule #1: Don't Break Out In Bhangra
My parents moved here from India after they got married. My sister and I were born and raised here, but my parents were clearly set on raising us with Indian standards. They were so afraid of our losing our Indian culture that we were never allowed to go to school dances. They taught us to read and write Hindi, and we watched Indian movies every Friday and Saturday night. We socialized with other Indian families. I know I have criticized the movies, but as sheer entertainment, I confess I did enjoy them. My friends and I would watch the songs again and again, learning the dance steps. When we'd visit India, we'd return with plenty of great outfits that we'd wear to parties and when doing dances. First our moms choreographed dances that we would perform on stage at