The Cup of Our Life: A Guide to Spiritual Growth
By Joyce Rupp
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Now with a new preface and fresh design, The Cup of Our Life is available to anyone seeking a more intimate and disciplined life of prayer. Joyce Rupp, the bestselling Catholic woman writer today, illustrates how the ordinary cups used each day can become sacred vessels that connect readers with life and bring them into closer union with the Divine. She explores how the cup is a rich symbol of life, with its emptiness and fullness, its brokenness and flaws, and its many blessings. With daily devotions for six weeks, this book is ideal for individual usage as well as group usage in parish settings, religious communities, and small Christian communities.
Joyce Rupp
Joyce Rupp is well known for her work as a writer, retreat leader, and spiritual midwife. She serves as a consultant for the Boundless Compassion program. Rupp is the author of numerous bestselling books, including Praying Our Goodbyes, Open the Door, Return to the Root, Jesus, Friend of My Soul, and Jesus, Companion in My Suffering. Her award-winning books include Boundless Compassion, Fly While You Still Have Wings, and Anchors for the Soul. She is a member of the Servite (Servants of Mary) community.
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- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5A mismash of a book of religious stuff with great black and white drawings of cups. I was about to trash it, when I realized I hav e a 10 years' collection of souvenir Atlanta cups all arranged together in my kitchen. Exactly where it belongs and it will go there. I dip intothe mishmash"It is time for me to cherished the unwanted" p. 68. So, yes, it will stay for awhile.
- Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5For the right audience, this book might well be helpful and insightful. It was simply not the right book for me.
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The Cup of Our Life - Joyce Rupp
Scripture quotations are from the New Revised Standard Version of the Bible, copyright © 1993 and 1989 by the Division of Christian Education of the National Council of Churches of Christ in the USA. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Excerpt from Gitanjali: A Collection of Indian Songs by Rabindranath Tagore (New York: Macmillan, 1971) is reprinted with permission of Simon and Schuster.
Excerpt from Landscape
is taken from Dream Work, copyright © 1986 by Mary Oliver. Used by permission of Grove Atlantic, Inc.
Excerpts from Open Secret: Versions of Rumi, copyright © 1984 by John Moyne and Coleman Barks, are used by permission of Threshold Books, Putney, VT.
Excerpt from Psalms of Lament by Ann Weems is used by permission of Westminster John Knox Press, Louisville, KY.
Excerpts from Selected Poetry of Jessica Powers, Regina Siegfried and Robert Morneau, eds., are reprinted with permission of Sheed and Ward, 115 East Armour Blvd. Kansas City, MO 64111.
Excerpt from You Are a Love Song
by Theresa Hucal is taken from Harvesting: Songs of Theresa Hucal, copyright © 1987, The Sisters of Charity, New Brunswick, Canada. Used by permission.
Excerpts from The Way of Passion: A Celebration of Rumi, copyright © 1986 by Andrew Harvey, are reprinted by permission of Frog, Ltd., PO Box 2327, Berkeley, CA 94712.
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© 1997 by Ave Maria Press, 2012 by Joyce Rupp
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever, except in the case of reprints in the context of reviews, without written permission from Ave Maria Press®, Inc., P.O. Box 428, Notre Dame, IN 46556.
Founded in 1865, Ave Maria Press is a ministry of the United States Province of Holy Cross.
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Paperback ISBN-10 1-933495-31-6 ISBN-13 978-1-933495-31-6
Ebook ISBN-10 1-933495-53-7 ISBN-13 978-1-933495-53-8
Cover image ©Thinkstock.
Cover and text design by Brian C. Conley.
Illustrations © Jane Pitz 2012.
Printed and bound in the United States of America.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Rupp, Joyce.
The cup of our life : a guide for spiritual growth / Joyce Rupp ; illustrations by Jane Pitz.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 0-87793-625-0. — ISBN 0-87793-626-9 (alk. paper)
1. Devotional calendars. I. Title.
BV4811.R76 1997
242’.2—dc21
97-19768
CIP
For all those
who have been with me
when we have prayed with a cup.
Together we have brought
this book to birth.
This cup holds grief and balm
in equal measure, light, darkness.
Who drinks from it must change.
—May Sarton
Contents
Preface
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Week I: The Cup of Life
Week II: The Open Cup
Week III: The Chipped Cup
Week IV: The Broken Cup
Week V: The Cup of Compassion
Week VI: The Blessing Cup
Group Gatherings
Music Resources
Bibliography
PREFACE
The other day I was in a hurry and broke the handle off my favorite coffee cup by carelessly hitting it on the sink. This large cup with delicate purple and blue flowers has a thin rim that makes drinking from it just perfect.
When it broke, I thought, "This is a bit ironic, breaking my beloved cup in the midst of writing the preface to The Cup of Our Life. "
I felt irritated at myself for such mindless behavior and sad to have caused that damage. I recognized in this experience how much a cup can take on a life of its own. This cup had accompanied me every morning after my meditation and journal writing and often for evening tea. Yesterday I found some strong glue, and now the handle is again firmly attached. As I look at the cup this morning, the cracks in the mended part remind me of the flaw in myself that tends to rush too much.
A cup can evoke a compelling connection with one’s self. I learned this in the twenty years since The Cup of Our Life was first published. While I enjoyed creating this book, I had considerable mistrust and apprehension about its ability to speak to those who used it. I wasn’t sure others would find the potential for spiritual growth that I did in the cup’s symbolism. As it turned out, this concern of mine was wasted energy.
During the years after The Cup of Our Life emerged, I received countless messages from readers telling me how profoundly their encounter with the cup imagery changed their lives. These messages have never stopped coming. Hearing these stories renews my strong belief in the power of symbol to connect our worldly selves to our deeper soul-selves. It is in this connection that we can find meaning and inspiration to live more fully.
Not long ago one of my readers reminisced in a letter and reminded me of a retreat I had given. Judie’s comment re-confirmed how this movement from the exterior to the interior of our lives takes place when we pause to pray with a symbol:
You invited each of us to bring a cup and introduce ourselves to each other by sharing a story of the cup’s significance. That retreat awakened me into the ordinary experiences of life that are made holy when seen through the eyes of faith. Praying with our cups during that week of retreat set me on a path of appreciation for all the simple things of life that bring the sacred home to me. I return to this book over and over during times of difficulty or transition in my life.
It is not so much that our lives are made holy by symbolism. Rather, symbols invite us to go beyond our obscured and tired views, to enter the hidden dimensions inherent in our lives and to refresh our awareness of the sacred. Most recently at a conference, an older woman whose family had been killed in the Holocaust came to me with The Cup of Our Life in her hands. With moist eyes, she held it out and said, This is exactly what I need now, especially the cup of blessing. It is time for me to look beyond my sorrow and see what is of value in my life.
Those who have experienced life’s woundedness and troubled events are especially influenced by the various imageries associated with the cup. This is another power of symbolism. It can move us to a place where we find our unique experience connected to the universal experience of others. When this happens, it can bring both comfort and strength. Geraldine expressed this well when she wrote from Ireland about using the book: In essence we all go through similar stuff at different times in our lives.
Her comment is reflected in that of Marci, another correspondent:
I am writing to let you know how much The Cup of Our Life has meant to me over the years. The first time I went through the book . . . my mother was dying of cancer, my daughter was struggling with health issues, and my husband was going through a career transition. I experienced a tremendous sense of loneliness and despair during that time, but the one thing that I looked forward to each morning was getting my cup and notepad out and reading from The Cup of Our Life. It was like someone opened a window and let fresh air into my soul. I took courage from the readings and began to develop a prayer life that continues to sustain me today. I’m happy to say that I made it through that tough time and have come out of it with a greater appreciation for developing my spiritual life.
Knowing that this book has helped another person to develop or sustain a prayer life lifts my heart. Others have expressed similar comments, like Gale’s note: "I read The Cup of Our Life and learned to pray. When I finished the six week program, I went back, read, and prayed with it again. . . . I had found myself in a spiritual wasteland until the book made me feel human and normal. The Cup of Our Life opened up a pathway to God for me."
People of various ages from different countries have let me know how this book influenced their lives. From newly married couples and college and seminary students, to medical personnel and elderly folks, I continue to learn of their spiritual growth when they pay attention to how a cup speaks to them. One of the most moving stories I heard regarding this book came while I was visiting a prison in Ohio. The chaplain invited me to come and sit in a circle of incarcerated women who had read and prayed with The Cup of Our Life. As the women shared about their study, I was touched by their depth of insight and their desire for personal transformation. Later the chaplain described the experience of an inmate with cancer who had been part of this group. When the cancer became terminal, she was moved to a hospice facility. As she was preparing to leave the prison, the only thing this dying woman asked to take with her was the cup she had chosen and prayed with for six weeks.
I have also appreciated learning about the kinds of cups readers choose to use for their prayer journeys. Helen described meditating on what kind of cup she was:
My thoughts kept going to my girlfriend who would have chosen a fine thin white porcelain cup and saucer. I, on the other hand, felt like a worn piece of stoneware maybe with a chip or two. I questioned why I couldn’t be the beautiful cup. The Cup of Our Life spoke to me: I was reachable, approachable, not a cup to be put on a shelf and admired. I realized people would talk to me, tell me about themselves because I was open to them. Perhaps the worn-ness and chips of my life reminded others of the harmony of our imperfect humanness.
When I designed this book, I did so with the hope that not only individuals would find it helpful but also that groups who were seeking to enhance and deepen their faith life could use it. Fortunately, this occurred. Claudia wrote from Colorado to tell me she was profoundly affected
by the chapter on the The Perfect Cup.
This led to Claudia’s facilitation of days of reflection on perfectionism. Along with this, she used the sections on The Chipped Cup
and The Broken Cup
to lead forgiveness
retreats and seminars. Her latest project is to develop a spiritual formation experience around chapter five, The Cup of Compassion.
A deacon named Patrick and his wife gathered some of their friends in Massachusetts. They read the book and shared their reflections on it, their cups, and their lives. Patrick wrote to say thanks and added: It gave us all something to take with us, to look at and into, as an example of what we do in our sharing of faith.
Similarly, Sara, a young high school campus minister, used the book with a faculty group. Another woman mentioned she had participated in this book three times, once with a close friend, once with a group of women, and once with a group of college friends
and that each time the cup revealed new things to her.
Something I did not fully anticipate is how rich and enduring the bonds would be among those who prayed with The Cup of Our Life. People who were acquaintances became friends. Those who were friends grew deeper in their relationships. Married couples learned to see each other in a fresh light.
The union of faith among those using the book goes further than one of lingering enjoyment. It often provides much needed courage in times of adversity. Such has been the situation with a Nova Scotia group from the United Church of Canada. Karen described how they "embarked on a journey, meeting weekly to share emotional stories of our lives as symbolized by the cup. . . . We quickly created a bond so strong that when three of our members went through major back surgery, a brain tumor, and a brain aneurysm in the next year we drew on our closeness, our new understanding,