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When Life Happens: How to Go from Trap to Triumph

When Life Happens: How to Go from Trap to Triumph

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When Life Happens: How to Go from Trap to Triumph

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Jan 13, 2017
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Life. We all want to know how to make the best of it. We all want to know how to get the most out of it. We all want to have the best possible outcome with the least amount of opposition. The tools within these pages will help real people with real issues matriculate through real life, successfully. The riveting and thought provoking, material will help anyone, no matter what stage of life they are in, become better at handling LIFE when it happens.
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Jan 13, 2017
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When Life Happens - William Jackson

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If there’s one thing life has taught me, it’s to embrace the reality that there will be storms. As a matter of fact, this life is full of them. Storms are always lurking and brewing even when the sun is shining. How we adapt in the presence of the storm ultimately determines our ability to survive it.

I used to become very aggravated when I would encounter a storm, especially because it seemed like they came one after another, after another. I (like you may have) asked the question, Why me? Why is it one thing after another?. Have you ever felt like the storm you were facing seemed a tad bit unfair? I stayed in this place of frustration for a while before realizing I was wearing myself out staying mad about a situation I had no power to change. I mean really, how would I look becoming physically angry because it was raining outside? If you saw me yelling at the clouds because they were gray instead of white, you’d probably think I was crazy. Why? Because I had absolutely no control over whether or not it rained.

Once I realized that it took double the energy to not only endure the storm, but to be frustrated and angry while going through it, I decided to make some changes. I came to the realization that in order to maintain my level of sanity I had to find another way of thinking. So I began to study. I wanted to learn about these storms in my life and what was the best way to minimize my time in them. As I studied, I started to see patterns. I started recognizing when they would appear, what vulnerability gave them life, and how the length of the storm was directly correlated to how I handled it. I began to kick myself when I realized how much time I wasted complaining about the storm, when I could have used that same energy to get through it.

What are the storms in your life right now? Are they relational? Financial? Physical? Now ask yourself How am I handling my storm?. If you’re honest with yourself, you can see areas where you maybe could have handled things better and thus, minimized some of the time you spent in it. They say hindsight is 20/20 because you can see what mistakes you made when looking back on the totality of the event.

Well this book will provide you with preventative measures on how you can not only minimize the length of your storm, but how you can maximize the growth that the storm can bring. Contrary to popular belief, pain produces growth, hence the name growing pains. The more you embrace the pain, the more you increase your potential for growth. Just think about it for a minute. No athlete becomes stronger, faster, or more physically fit without embracing the pain of development. Once you change how you look at the pain associated with the storm, you will be able to endure it much easier. It’s all designed to make you stronger, faster, wiser, and more equipped.

This book will help you get a grip on where you are in your storm, or help you prepare for your upcoming storm. You were created with the ability to withstand the toughest most ferocious of storms. All you have to do is embrace what you’re about to read, dig down deep, and be ready…when life happens.

I believe life is all about two things, growth and development. From the moment you are born into this world, to the moment you take your last breath, you are growing and developing in some way. As we matriculate through life we find our stages of growth and development being shaped by learned knowledge and experiential knowledge. It is a fact (well maybe not a fact, but it should be) that all knowledge stems from contact with a person , place , or thing . These are commonly referred to as what you learned to identify them as in grade school… nouns . Since all knowledge can be traced back to contact with a person , place , or thing , then it is only right that we begin initially by placing our first point of emphasis on making sure that we are in contact with the right ones (nouns) in order to ensure proper growth and development. Let’s take a look at each one individually.

People

If I had to do a percentage estimate on the amount of knowledge I believe is accumulated through interaction with people, I’d have to say at least 75 percent. Interaction with people is so vital in determining one’s success. I tell people all the time, Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.

I say this because the people you are connected to have the power to do one of two things, either push you towards success or pull you away from it. Not only do they have this incredible power, but it is exercised with or without your knowledge. This is how a person can look at their lives one day, have a moment of reflection, and then wonder how they got to where they are. The change did not happen overnight. In fact, the state of a person’s progress can be largely attributed to the gradual lasting effect of their relationships. People adjust and adapt to their surroundings.

Just stop for a minute and think about how you are and the way you act. What mannerisms did you develop over time by being connected to someone? What accent did you pick up by living in a specific region? People are mostly shaped and molded by interaction with people. The more interaction you have with someone, the more likely you are to develop a sense of trust and the people you trust have the greatest influence on your life.

What we sometimes neglect to take into consideration is the fact that with influence comes power. Every time you give your ear to someone, you grant them the access to influence your decision making. Who have you given power to lately? I’ll give you a hint, it’s the person you call for advice. It’s the person you call to vent to. It’s the person that you consider when you’re making a big decision. It’s the person whose opinion you want about the outfit you’re wearing. It’s even the person you want to show off your new purchase to. They are the ones that have power over what and how you think, because you ultimately care about what it is that they think.

Now don’t get me wrong, I think it is healthy to give certain people that type of access. I believe everyone needs someone they are accountable to, but accountability to someone void of responsibility leads to the exploitation of vulnerability. That’s just a fancy way of saying Being accountable to the wrong person is a setup to be misused or abused. I can personally think back over my life and pinpoint how certain things I went through could have all been avoided if I had examined my relationships more intensely.

I have given my life to people in attempts to make them happy, just to have it end in tragedy. I approached marriage with the desire to be the perfect husband. The truth is, for a while I was content with solely making my wife happy. Then one day it hit me like a ton of bricks; I wasn’t happy. I realized that I had focused so much on what I thought she needed that I neglected my own needs. I created a canyon size void and didn’t even know it. A short while later, I found myself picking up the pieces after a divorce. I thought that if I just gave enough in relationship that their smile would be enough for me to live off of emotionally. The reality is, you can only survive on another person’s smile for so long before you realize that everyone is smiling but you.

Why do people settle so often in relationships? Why don’t people attack their relationships with the same level of passion and intensity that they use in obtaining and maintaining their money? I’ll tell you why. It’s because of the monstrous level of importance we put on happiness. People often times put up with the negative aspects of relationships, even if they outnumber and outweigh the positive aspects, because of the illusion of happiness. People stay in abusive relationships because most abusers condition the mind of the abused to believe they will never be happy without them. This can also be said about relationships that cause people to become stagnant and stunt growth. People stay connected to people, even to the detriment of their goals, dreams, and success, because they are made to feel happy simply just by being connected. People make these decisions to remain connected to toxic relationships based on that burning desire for personal happiness. The reality of the situation is, these types of decisions are made to ensure the happiness of the ones we are connected to.

It goes without saying that relationships should consist of two or more people working together to achieve the best possible outcome for each other, but who’s to say that being happy is what’s best for you? Now I’m not saying that you should live life in misery, nor am I saying that relationships should take a back seat to your dreams of success. What I am saying is, that if you want to be successful, you have to understand that who you are connected to has a great deal to do with your journey in reaching that success.

Anyone who has reached great levels of success will tell you that they have had to endure much discomfort, pain, and unhappiness before achieving their dreams. They will also tell you that the people who they were connected

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