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    Your Positive Potential: Action Steps for Self-Empowerment
    Your Positive Potential: Action Steps for Self-Empowerment
    Your Positive Potential: Action Steps for Self-Empowerment
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    Your Positive Potential: Action Steps for Self-Empowerment

    By L. Krystalina Soash

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    Your Positive Potential: Action Steps for Self-Empowerment offers a compilation of personal life experiences, overheard stories, anecdotes, and insight with encouragement to overcome obstacles for a more productive life.

    All adults have a past. Just the simple fact that we are alive today says that we have a past called, yesterday. We may classify our yesterday as years of experience, or we may classify it as one memorable experience in a single day for example, a wedding day or a tragic accident. But one thing is certain, and that is that we cannot change our yesterdays, but we can make choices afterwards.

    As adults, we have the potential to change the results of our yesterdays, if we have the willingness to change them. Its a fact of life that wounds happen without our permission, scars result from those wounds, and how those scars are perceived determines our peace with ourselves.

    Life is too short to settle for an unsatisfactory existence. Become proactive with your physical, spiritual, and emotional well-being for a more productive and fulfilling life. Find self-empowerment and a new path in life through self-discipline.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisheriUniverse
    Release dateOct 11, 2010
    ISBN9781450250696
    Your Positive Potential: Action Steps for Self-Empowerment
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    L. Krystalina Soash

    L. Krystalina Soash is a certified meditation instructor and freelance writer. Though at times she's had to overcome serious regrets, pulled herself out of some self-imposed blunders, and maneuvered twists with sudden turns that life has handed her, she's picked up some valuable tools and golden nuggets she shares with her readers. She holds a bachelor of arts degree in psychology with honors. As a published author, she has also written Writing Tips for Student Projects and New Freelance Writers. She lives with her family in Oakdale, Minnesota.

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      Your Positive Potential - L. Krystalina Soash

      Copyright © 2010 by L. Krystalina Soash

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

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      Table of Contents

      Introduction

      Wounds Happen without our Permission

      A Past We Cannot Change

      As Children, We Thought as Children

      Blame Feeds Our Resentment Monster

      Don’t Pick at That Scab!

      Surrender? You’ve Got to Be Kidding!

      Trust: Is There Anybody Else Out There?

      Affirmations: Is That a Wish List?

      Affirmations from Our Wish List

      Oops … I Found Out the Hard Way

      Get Your Raft Ready—We’re Going for a Ride!

      We Can Learn from a Retired Donkey

      Insanity Is Not Complicated

      Help Is Not Outside the Well

      Reaching Out: We’re in This Together

      Action Steps for Self-Empowerment

      A Simple Life Experiment

      Self-Awareness

      A Little Whining Is Good for You

      Stepping Out of the Box at the Potluck

      Healthy Self-Esteem versus Over-Confidence

      Do You Need More to Feel Complete?

      Do More and Wish Less

      Who Defines Happiness, Good Health, and Success for You?

      Simple Components for Inner Reflection

      A Little Positive Something

      Two Main Causes of Procrastination

      Glowing with the Essence of Loving Life

      If You Must Compare, Then Do This

      Your Own Profitable Mistakes

      Going from Negative to Positive Self-Talk

      Thinking Mindfully or Mindfully Thinking?

      Is Your Dinosaur Running You Ragged?

      What Should You Do While Waiting?

      Did You Close the Garage Door?

      Have You Tried to Get Away from Yourself Lately?

      Positive Ways to Work with Change

      Good Intentions Sure Look Good on Paper

      Healthy Living

      Just Two Anti-Aging Formulas

      Eating for Good Health

      Basic Steps for Your Good Health

      With These Exercises, You Won’t Forget Your Brain

      For the One and Only Body You Possess

      Prevent Those Icky Feelings

      Self-Sabotage, How Could You?

      Goal-Setting Pointers

      How to Avoid Regret Stress

      Okay, Grump, It’s Time to Modify!

      Now, Now, Don’t Shoot the Messenger!

      It’s Not Boredom; It’s Your Ultradian Rhythm

      Your Thoughts Will Tell on You

      Meditation

      Meditation and Your Brain Waves

      Meditate to Break Away from Past Conditioning

      Benefits of Joining a Meditation Group

      Simple Daily Meditation

      How to Establish a Regular Meditation Practice

      Common Experiences for New Practitioners

      Most Well-Known Methods of Meditation

      Meditation Basics of a Mantra and Its Uses

      Strengthen Your Awareness with Mindfulness

      One-Syllable Mantras

      Assistance with Your Meditation Practice

      Meditate with the Cow and the Rose

      Relationships

      How to Defuse an Argument

      Maintaining Healthy Relationships

      Peaceful Living with Your Other Half

      Is Your Request Reversible?

      Establish a Good Rapport with an Elderly Person

      Strengthen Your Friendships

      Words of Wisdom for Your Friend’s Same Old Problem

      Allow Your Thoughts to Work for You

      The Profound Difference between Attachment and Appreciation

      Taking Charge or Charging Through—Which Is It?

      Enhance Your Communication Skills

      In Conclusion: You Have a Choice

      What Will It Be?

      Recommended Reading

      Proactive Resources

      About the Author

      Dedicated to my loving family and my dear friends who have never given up on me, even through hard times I brought upon myself.

      With love,

      L. Krystalina Soash

      Limits of Liability/Disclaimer of Warranty

      The author and publisher of this book have used their best efforts in preparing this material and make no representation or warranties in regard to accuracy, applicability, or completeness of information. The author and publisher shall in no event be held liable for any loss or damage whether incidental or consequential. With the intent to protect privacy and anonymity, all names mentioned in this publication are fictitious. As always, the advice of a competent therapist or other professional should be sought.

      Introduction

      Decades of personal experience have taught me that life is too valuable and too short to waste it as an unsatisfactory existence, and that’s exactly what my life used to be like—an unsatisfactory existence! I used to think that no one understood me, and worse yet, I felt I’d never get past old wounds and scars. However, with the proper guidance for a more productive life, I’ve been given a second chance and the realization that I possessed a lot more positive potential than I thought. I’m certain you do too!

      Your Positive Potential: Action Steps for Self-Empowerment is a compilation of my own personal life experiences, stories heard throughout decades of my life, and suggestions for a better life in the areas of self-awareness, health, meditation, and relationships. Within these pages you’re highly encouraged to try the Life Experiment at home and think about your results. This Life Experiment concept came to me one day during heartfelt sobbing while I wrote down regrets in my life. Life Experiment is so simple yet so profound.

      Interestingly enough, the thread that binds my experiences, insights, and results together is actually self-discipline, or the lack thereof. My intention for sharing such a personal part of my life in Your Positive Potential: Action Steps for Self-Empowerment is the hope that it will stir initiative on your part to overcome your own personal obstacles and, if necessary, to seek professional guidance for a more productive life.

      After all, the true purpose of self-discipline is to save us from our own self-destruction.

      Namaste,

      L. Krystalina Soash

      There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving and that’s your own self.

      -Aldous Huxley

      Wounds Happen without our Permission

      All adults have a past. Just the simple fact that we are alive today says that we have a past called yesterday. We may classify our yesterday as years of experience, or we may classify it as one memorable experience in a single day—for example, a wedding day or a tragic accident. But one thing is certain, and that is that we cannot change our yesterdays, as the following story demonstrates, but we can make choices afterward.

      A Past We Cannot Change

      Daddy stepped into the house just momentarily on that beautiful summer day while his happy six-year-old little girl, Katie Ann, bounced with glee in her favorite red and black spotted jumpsuit. Up and down she went on that green trampoline, and through the black safety netting, Daddy could see his daughter’s long hair bouncing with her as if to agree they were all having a great time. He had just bought that trampoline for her birthday the day before. Up and down Katie Ann continued to bounce until suddenly she was distracted and stopped jumping. She directed her gaze to the dark blue sedan that had pulled into their driveway at the back of the house. Though she lived with her Daddy, her Mommy would come visit when she was in town, and today she was in town.

      It’s Mommy! Katie Ann squealed with excitement.

      Hi, Katie Ann, Nice jumps! Don’t stop, said Mommy, waving her hand as she walked toward her happy little girl. Show me what you can do on that trampoline.

      Katie Ann looked toward the kitchen window and saw Daddy waving at her and Mommy, so she stopped to give Mommy a hug. It was then she noticed Mommy suddenly had a serious look on her face.

      Come on, Katie Ann, Mommy said in a quivering voice.

      Katie Ann sensed something wasn’t right, but what she didn’t know was that Mommy and Daddy had just had another one of those talks on the phone, the kind that left them angry at each other. As Mommy got closer to Katie Ann, she gestured to her little girl, Come on, darling, jump into Mommy’s arms—I’ll catch you!

      Mommy’s outstretched arms summoned Katie Ann to take that leap of faith, and with a great big smile, Katie Ann proudly held out her arms and flung herself into the air toward Mommy. But in midair and as if in slow motion, she noticed Mommy moved aside. But it was too late. Katie Ann landed sharply on the ground, and feeling bewildered, she sobbed with physical and emotional pain. Through her tear-filled eyes, she could see her bloody knees and hands and waited for Mommy to console her. But instead, Mommy bent over her little girl, looked into her scuffed-up little face, and with a gruff sharp tone of voice, said, Don’t you ever, ever trust anybody!

      And Mommy’s words were imprinted on Katie Ann for a lifetime!

      It is sad but true that some of us carry some sort of similar experience to a varying degree. The hurts and the devaluing experiences imprinted on us as children may seem permanent, and permanent they are as long as we allow them to be. Unfortunately, some of us go through life blaming others or even ourselves for situations we had no control over as children, and worse yet, we haven’t been able to get past those wounds that manifest as scars today, leading us to a miserable existence. But one thing is certain in this process, and that is that as long as we were the child and in the care of an adult, someone else had responsibility for our well-being. But when we became adults and took responsibility for ourselves, we had no reason to blame others for our past childhood experiences. Another trigger that helps the painful memory linger is that somewhere in the recesses of our mind, we may even feel that somehow we contributed to that experience and that therefore, it was our fault. As adults we can choose the direction we’d like to go with those experiences. It’s really eye-opening, not to mention a relief, to realize that our negative childhood experiences were not our fault at all.

      Having been around young children for over fifty years and as a former child advocate, I’ve found it very common to encounter little children blaming themselves for their mommy and daddy fighting, for the dog getting out, or for the broken dishes on the floor, and the list goes on. If we observe little children, we see that they have an inclination to want to put things together, to plug holes, to fix things, to fit parts in their place, and to put pieces together to make a whole; they especially want to put broken things back together. Ever watch small children try to put a square peg into a round hole? You’ll see their whole little body quiver as they try to shove that square peg into that round hole. And if that characteristic is very strong, and they don’t succeed in accomplishing that goal, they will become very frustrated, they will cry, and they may even throw a tantrum.

      What these little children don’t know yet is that they cannot put Humpty Dumpty back together again. Try as they might, it just won’t happen. We as adults also need to know that we cannot put Humpty Dumpty back together either, and the sooner we realize that fact, the sooner we can begin to heal.

      That childhood inclination of wanting to put things back together to make a whole carries over into the adult years, and when we can’t seem to fix ourselves, we perceive ourselves as failures. As adults, and sometimes even during younger years, we may even get involved in risky behavior as an escape from our own perceived failures, making matters worse and continuing to blame others for situations that were out of our control when we were still children. The impact of our harmful decisions seems to

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