For We Know in Part: Two New Words for a Hungry Vocabulary
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Stephen Morris
Steve Morris has been writing about computers and software packages for 14 years. His first book (Getting to Know Your IBM PC ) came after a degree in Maths, an MSc in Statistics and 5 years' experience in market gardening! He has written about most aspects of computers, with books ranging from beginner's guides to more advanced reference manuals. Although he has written over 40 titles, he remembers with particular affection such gems as 'Business Computing with the Merlin Tonto' and 'The Automated Office'. Stephen is the Author of the following Made Simple Computer Books: Excel for Windows 3.1 Excel for Windows 95 Excel 97 EXCEL 2000 Excel 2000 in Business Lotus 123 (v5) for Windows 3.1 Visual Basic Delphi Made Simple Visual C++ Made Simple Windows Programming He is also author of the following Digital Press title: Object Oriented Programming under Windows: A practical handbook and has also authored the following Newnes titles: Newnes File Formats Pocket Book Newnes PC Programmers Pocket Book
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For We Know in Part - Stephen Morris
For We Know
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Two New Words For A Hungry Vocabulary
Stephen Morris
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Published by AuthorHouse 11/16/2012
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Contents
Preface
Introduction
Chapter 1 CHOOSING BETWEEN LOVE & TRADITION
Chapter 2 RULES & PRINCIPLES: WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE
Chapter 3 A WORD TOO NARROW
Chapter 4 WELCOME TO THE TABLE
Chapter 5 TWENTY QUESTIONS
Chapter 6 HAVE YOU EVER WANTED TO PET A SNAKE?
Chapter 7 HOW TRADITIONALISTS VIEW HOMONATURALITY
Chapter 8 E.L.P.S.
Chapter 9 WHAT IF YOU HAD LIVED BACK THEN?
Chapter 10 ANCIENT UNDERSTANDING OF SLAVERY & DIVORCE
Chapter 11 STEREOTYPING BY THE CHURCH?
Chapter 12 WAS FILTHINESS EVER NEXT TO GODLINESS?
Chapter 13 THE ONLY GOOD INDIAN IS A DEAD INDIAN*
Chapter 14 WHAT DO HOMONATURALS REALLY WANT?
Chapter 15 WHAT DO SAY TO MISINFORMATION BY CRITICS
Chapter 16 THREAT TO MARRIAGE? PROVE IT!!
Chapter 17 FAMILY VALUES
Chapter 18 LETS JUST AGREE TO DISAGREE
Chapter 19 HOW CAN I PERSUADE YOU?
Chapter 20 IS IT POSSIBLE TO BE BOTH GAY AND CHRISTIAN?
Chapter 21 THOUGHT READER
Chapter 22 GOBBLE-D-GUCK
Chapter 23 THE SCRIBE AND THE PHARISEE
Chapter 24 ADAM AND STEVE
Chapter 25 PLAIN TALK ABOUT A FUZZY IDEA
About the Author
Preface
star.jpgYou know, I’ve never really thought about it like that
is the comment I’m looking for from my readers. Most other writers defending homosexuality focus on rebutting bad interpretation of the ‘Clobber Passages’, verses in the protestant Christian Bible used by fundamentalists to prove that heterosexuality is the only sexual orientation and that a homosexual is just a sick and depraved heterosexual.
First, let me say that this book does not follow the crowd talking about Bible verses mainly, although I do touch on them sporadically. I prefer to create metaphors and ‘what-if’ articles that prompt the reader to think more philosophically about ideas having to do with sexual orientation. Toward that end, I am introducing two words (heteronatural and homonatural) that immediately upon typing trigger the ‘spelled wrong’ wiggly red underline on my computer. Some day that will not happen because expanded use and acceptance will bring them into our daily vocabulary. I did not create them; one (homonatural) was actually copyrighted some time this year.
I did think of it on my own without any outside help in the morning minutes before I got up, but when I googled the word I found it was already in use. That’s fine, but I wonder if it has ever been put to as much use as this book.
Sexuality is just one trait of our personalities along with a host of other aspects of what defines us. Since the words ‘sex’ or ‘sexuality’ stimulate such a negative and occasionally hostile reaction, why not use words that take the sting out of communication with words that signify much, much more than just one trait? So, throughout this book only the two new words are ever used unless I want to address sexuality more narrowly. It might cause you a little disconnect when you first encounter them, but I am certain you will learn to appreciate the substitution. (See chapter 3 for a wider discussion of this matter.)
Secondly, I want to thank my dear wife and gay son for their positive and helpful feedback on this project. I have turned our living room into a very messy writing studio that is beyond ‘straightening up.’ Doing so would cause me to lose the structure of my little piles. I also credit my wife with helping me to remember to tone down my language so she can understand it, thereby helping many others in the same way. Thank you, dear. You’re right.
Any names used in this publication are fictional to protect loved ones who are not in agreement with us from any embarrassment in facing their family members and friends who might direct unwanted and uninvited questions or comments to them. I am also using a pen name for that same reason.
Introduction
star.jpgBesides myself, two other members of my family have approved of this book. Two other members would throw it in the trash (or hide it from their children) because it would offend them and their strictly literal understanding of the Bible. This book is what I want those two people to read someday, even if it’s after I die (I’m 73 now). I’m also using a pen name so people who know me don’t have to be feel embarrassed by that association.
For We Know In Part is primarily directed at heteronatural parents, family, and friends of gay and lesbian loved ones who have just come out of the closet. If you are one of these people caught in a scary place not knowing how to react, this book is for you. If your relationship with your gay loved one is more important than any other matter in your life, you will be comforted. If you are unsure about what to do or think or say, give this book a chance to help you answer that question.
For We Know In Part is a collection of essays that I originally wrote as handout brochures for persons interested in understanding homonaturality. Most of the articles are intended for supportive persons ministering to others who cannot quite let themselves approve of a sexual orientation other than heteronaturality. I have compiled these essays to expand on four ‘fundamental’ truths:
1. Sexuality consists of how one feels attracted to others (orientation) and how one responds to that attraction (behavior).
2. Traditional interpretation of Christian scripture does not consider homonatural orientation to be neutral like heteronaturality.
3. Because orientation has to do with knowledge that could not have been available to Bible writers, any interpretation of their writings that either denies homonatural orientation or condemns it is prejudicial. (Note: the root of the word ‘prejudicial’ is ‘pre-judge.’)
4. Because orientation has to do with knowledge that is still incomplete and possibly inaccurate, any Biblical interpretation by those of us supporting homonaturality that describes it with unswerving certainty is premature.
This book is like a quilt, each chapter being a stand-alone creation. The primary thread in this quilt is a thin, fragile, off-white strand of reason representing my belief that no one can ever know all there is to know about anything. No matter how long our tradition has supported the positions we take, we can never be absolutely certain we have heard the last word on the subject, neither from man nor God.
I need to be open to the possibility that my convictions are only as reliable as the latest revelation and that God can and does tell us more through people: prophets, scientists, and even our neighbors. That we only know in part, through a glass darkly
, is basic to how I understand truth. And, as I wait for a more perfect understanding, I will try to live a life of faith, hope and love, knowing that love is the most important of