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268: The Practice of Self-Assertiveness (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 4)
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79 minutes
Released:
Mar 7, 2014
Format:
Podcast episode
Description
Wes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes a discussion based on the fourth pillar, the Practice of Self-Assertiveness.
LIVING CONSCIOUSLY and asking in every applicable situation:
Am I being authentic or not?
Assertion of consciousness, see, think, be aware, outward and inward
-ask questions
-challenge authority
-think for oneself
SELF-ASSERTIVENESS isn't tested by what we are against, but by what we are for
COMMITMENT: to my right to exist
CONVICTION: my ideas and wants are important
CONCLUSION: no one is coming, we are all responsible for our own existences
all relate to COURAGE:
When we were young: we were taught that what we think and want are not important and we're often left with an underdeveloped sense of identity
and unnecessary "what if" worries...
-if I express myself
-if I love and affirm myself
-if I am too happy with myself
-if I stand out
-how to balance this with most people's lack of appropriate self-assertiveness
-living as spectators instead of actors or participants
standing and moving "as if they have no right to the space they occupy"
WHAT DOES SELF-ASSERTIVENESS look like?
-confront challenges
-strive for mastery in self and what we pursue
-expand the boundaries of our ability to cope
-learn, challenge, venture into unfamilair spaces
-persevering through challenges
-be in an intimate relationship without abandoning our sense of self
-kind without self sacrifice
-cooperation without betraying standards and convictions
-how many great minds and great ideas were suppressed throughout history?
simply because they had nowhere to go
-authenticity
-author
-authority
ALL derived from: auctor "master, leader, author"
Who is the author of your story?
THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM
1. The Practice of Living Consciously
2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance
3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility
4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness
5. The Practice of Living Purposefully
6. The Practice of Personal Integrity
Questions to answer in this series:
what is self-esteem?
why is it important?
what can we do to raise self-esteem?
what role do others play in our self-esteem?
The steps we'll try to follow for each pillar:
-identify and define
-what are the obstacles
-personal stories, struggles
-how to overcome them
Bumper Music:
"Punchup At A Wedding" Radiohead
"Hold Your Head Up" Argent
Look Closer:
Complete Liberty Podcast
http://completeliberty.com/
NathanielBranden.com
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/
An Introduction to Nonviolent Communication
http://happinesscounseling.com/NVC_Intro.pdf
Happiness Counseling Resource Page
http://happinesscounseling.com/happiness-resources/
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (pdf)
http://experiencelife.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/70-the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem.pdf
LIVING CONSCIOUSLY and asking in every applicable situation:
Am I being authentic or not?
Assertion of consciousness, see, think, be aware, outward and inward
-ask questions
-challenge authority
-think for oneself
SELF-ASSERTIVENESS isn't tested by what we are against, but by what we are for
COMMITMENT: to my right to exist
CONVICTION: my ideas and wants are important
CONCLUSION: no one is coming, we are all responsible for our own existences
all relate to COURAGE:
When we were young: we were taught that what we think and want are not important and we're often left with an underdeveloped sense of identity
and unnecessary "what if" worries...
-if I express myself
-if I love and affirm myself
-if I am too happy with myself
-if I stand out
-how to balance this with most people's lack of appropriate self-assertiveness
-living as spectators instead of actors or participants
standing and moving "as if they have no right to the space they occupy"
WHAT DOES SELF-ASSERTIVENESS look like?
-confront challenges
-strive for mastery in self and what we pursue
-expand the boundaries of our ability to cope
-learn, challenge, venture into unfamilair spaces
-persevering through challenges
-be in an intimate relationship without abandoning our sense of self
-kind without self sacrifice
-cooperation without betraying standards and convictions
-how many great minds and great ideas were suppressed throughout history?
simply because they had nowhere to go
-authenticity
-author
-authority
ALL derived from: auctor "master, leader, author"
Who is the author of your story?
THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM
1. The Practice of Living Consciously
2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance
3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility
4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness
5. The Practice of Living Purposefully
6. The Practice of Personal Integrity
Questions to answer in this series:
what is self-esteem?
why is it important?
what can we do to raise self-esteem?
what role do others play in our self-esteem?
The steps we'll try to follow for each pillar:
-identify and define
-what are the obstacles
-personal stories, struggles
-how to overcome them
Bumper Music:
"Punchup At A Wedding" Radiohead
"Hold Your Head Up" Argent
Look Closer:
Complete Liberty Podcast
http://completeliberty.com/
NathanielBranden.com
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/
An Introduction to Nonviolent Communication
http://happinesscounseling.com/NVC_Intro.pdf
Happiness Counseling Resource Page
http://happinesscounseling.com/happiness-resources/
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (pdf)
http://experiencelife.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/70-the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem.pdf
Released:
Mar 7, 2014
Format:
Podcast episode
Titles in the series (21)
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