Divorcing Facebook? Really!?
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Facebook may be robbing you of simplicity and happiness. It may be eating up your time, stressing you out, and distracting you from what matters most. If you are a highly sensitive person like me, Facebook may be overwhelming your nervous system. If any of these things are true for you, I'll inspire you to kick Facebook to the curb. Divorcing Facebook? Really!? is not about privacy concerns or anything you can read on the news. Rather, it is a book that dives deep, uniquely exposing the psychological delusions and societal pressures that keep you on the site. Yes, you really can quit Facebook.
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Divorcing Facebook? Really!? - Audrey Wagner
Divorcing
Facebook?
Really!?
Audrey Wagner
Edited by Nathan A. Jacobs and Keith Buhler
Copyright © 2015 Audrey Wagner
Only with written permission from the author may parts of this book be reproduced in any form or by any electronic or mechanical means including information storage and retrieval systems. It is permissible for reviewers of this book to quote short excerpts in a review.
ISBN: 069243240X
ISBN-13: 978-0692432402 (Rural Roads Publishing)
This book reflects my experiences as a Facebook user until I deleted my account in January of 2015 and also includes my thoughts about Facebook after that time.
Audrey Wagner
DEDICATION
This book is dedicated to those of you who will be happier without Facebook. If you are a highly sensitive person (HSP) like me, this book is dedicated particularly to you, as Facebook may often be overwhelming and anxiety-provoking for you. Divorcing Facebook may bring you a great sense of relief, happiness, and simplicity.
CONTENTS
Acknowledgments
Is It True Love?
Soul Erosion
Too Much Real Estate
The Rent Is Too Damn High
Maybe We’re Not Missing Out
One Foot In Cyberspace
The Feelings Were A Delusion
Socially Anxious
We May Want To Divorce Facebook If...
"It’s Complicated"
Filing The Papers
Old Flames
About The Author
Endnotes
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
I WOULD LIKE TO THANK those who shared with me their thoughts about Facebook. I also thank Heather Jacobs for reading my first draft and offering honest, insightful comments that shaped the content and direction of my book. I am indebted to Nathan Jacobs for his thorough editing work and key suggestions. I am grateful for Keith Buhler’s edits and suggestions for structure and additional content. I thank my mom for her unconditional encouragement, support, and recommendations that brought clarification and creativity to this writing project.
1
IS IT TRUE LOVE?
MY FIRST REACTION TO Facebook, over ten years ago, was, Oh, neat.
I began using it, assuming my use was beneficial. However, I never stopped to truly evaluate my relationship with Facebook.
I became a typical Facebook user in my ten-year relationship with the site. I checked it throughout the day, shared posts anywhere from daily to monthly, and often liked and commented on statuses. I used it for much of my personal messaging. I liked pages and shared articles, photos, and quotes. I even joined some groups. Facebook was helpful in developing my love for photography as I began posting pictures of sunsets and cornstalks. After a year of positive feedback, I bought a professional camera and started a photography page on Facebook with hopes of gaining clients for portrait photography.
I enjoyed posting my latest sunset photo, a party invite, or a status about my Saturday-morning front porch sitting. I felt connected to cousins, aunts, uncles, siblings, close friends, and acquaintances. Even my interactions with strangers meant something. And I’d be lying if I said I was not elated by the dozens of birthday greetings on my Facebook wall. I felt like a star shining a bit more brightly on my special day. Likes, comments, messages, and wall posts made me feel cared for and connected. These interactions were encouraging, warmed my heart, gave me desired input, and offered me some good laughs.
Yet for reasons I will begin explaining in the next chapter, I ended my relationship with Facebook. I even decided to write a book about it.
I have a twinge of guilt and a vision of an angry mob propelling tomatoes at me as I write. After all, I hear about Facebook in a positive light almost daily. People find life-changing articles, cute photos, and important news on Facebook. Facebook has made possible the saving of lives; the reunion of estranged family and friends; the finding of jobs, spouses, and abducted children; the thriving of businesses; and help and support for those in need. As the slimy insides of ruptured tomatoes slide down my clothing, know that I am happy for those who love Facebook. I hope the blessings and benefits of Facebook continue for them.
Facebook use has also led to divorce, bullying, and job loss. But even that is beside the point. Whether or not Facebook is inherently good, bad, or neutral isn’t the subject of this book. The subject of this book is a particular relationship with Facebook that may be grounds for a divorce