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    Better Choices, Better Decisions, Better Living: Higher Level Thinking With Conscious Behaviors
    Better Choices, Better Decisions, Better Living: Higher Level Thinking With Conscious Behaviors
    Better Choices, Better Decisions, Better Living: Higher Level Thinking With Conscious Behaviors
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    Better Choices, Better Decisions, Better Living: Higher Level Thinking With Conscious Behaviors

    By Frank C Auenson

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    Mistakes happen but you can't allow them to define you as a person.
    Understand you have more control over your choices and decisions
    than you originally believed. In this book is an opportunity to learn
    and understand what you have been missing all these years.

    You are not alone! I too have made some bad choices and poor
    decisions in my lifetime which could have ruined me but here I am,
    still standing. Th e cool thing is, I get to help you with your journey
    to understanding your higher-level thinking through conscious
    behaviors. Frank C. Auenson
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTotal Publishing
    Release dateJan 1, 2020
    ISBN9781633021761
    Better Choices, Better Decisions, Better Living: Higher Level Thinking With Conscious Behaviors
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    Frank C Auenson

    As the "Let Me Be Frank" guy and a conscious behaviors coach, my passion is finding ways of helping people realize their dreams and challenge them to strive to bring out their potential to the fullest. I help them to get unstuck and out of their own way to get what they want in life. I believe it starts with having higher-level thinking when it comes to decision making and choices and choosing better conscious behaviors for better living. I won't always be politically correct, I can and will tell you "what the score is" and what I see in you. I will challenge your mind and help you design an action plan to live your life to the fullest. It's all about you discovering and believing in yourself. If you don't believe in yourself after spending time with me and your confidence isn't at a higher level, then you aren't living. I am the coach that will push you that little bit further than you thought you could go, and then surprise you with what you can achieve! I will celebrate your accomplishments with you. I will make you laugh, and I might even make you cry, but you will be stronger and more in control of yourself and life when we reach your goals. Allow me to motivate you! Challenge you! Reward you! Believe in you! Are you up to the challenge? You have to start some place, so let's get started!

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      Better Choices, Better Decisions, Better Living - Frank C Auenson

      Jr.

      Making bad choices and decisions

      Most decisions are made from instant gratification rather than what it will mean tomorrow or the next day.

      – Frank C. Auenson

      We have all made bad decisions in our lives. Some might have cost us money, relationships, perhaps a job or promotion, the list is endless. Bad decisions can even affect our health and that is nothing to play around with. I remember making the decision to hitchhike to the nearby city and go have some beers before hitchhiking back home.

      The problem was, I got out of the vehicle with my McDonald’s bag in one hand, with the other, I closed the door. On my thumb. Yes, I had to literally open the door to get my thumb out before closing the door again. Think about it a moment. What if the driver had stepped on the accelerator the moment the door closed the first time? That would have been bad news for me and who knows what the consequences might have been.

      As it turned out, I really did some damage to my thumb and the whole event sobered me up pretty quick. Now that I was in pain and under the influence of alcohol, my judgement was clouded with making choices and decisions.

      I knew I needed medical attention for my thumb, so I turned around and hitchhiked back to the nearby city and knew there was a first-aid tent at the festival I had previously been at. So that is what I did, I went there, gave some story and they patched me up. Looking back, I made some bad decisions but at the time, did I really even know what making decisions for myself were all about?

      What is a decision?

      According to the four most popular dictionary descriptions listed below, a decision can be anything from a process to an answer.

      Merriam-Webster Dictionary-

      The act or process of deciding, a determination arrived at after consideration

      Oxford Dictionary-

      A conclusion or resolution reached after consideration.

      Cambridge Dictionary-

      Something you choose; a choice.

      Dictionary.com-

      The act or process of deciding; determination, as of a question or doubt, by making a judgment.

      The act of or need for making up one’s mind.

      Something that is decided; resolution.

      Confused yet? Let’s have a consensus that decision means the act or process of deciding. See how easy that was to decide? And we wonder why we have such a hard time making good decisions and better choices.

      When we make decisions, it influences our brain activity, especially in the medial orbitofrontal region, the anterior cingulate cortex and the hippocampus, the areas responsible for emotions and emotion-related memories in the brain. Some decisions ramp up emotional stress and cause these areas of the brain to go into overdrive, which clouds our attempts at clear-headed thinking most of the time.

      Some studies suggest that the end of an experience has more influence on our decision-making memories than the overall experience, that the brain doesn’t forget the bad choices you’ve made in the past. Of course, if this were true, you would think the brain would prevent you from making a bad decision in the future, right? Wrong!

      There is more at play when you are making a decision or making a choice. Emotions were mentioned and according to Moran Cerf, a neuroscientist at Northwestern University who has been studying decision-making for over a decade, the surest way to maximize happiness has nothing to do with experiences, material goods, or even personal philosophy.

      A great deal of research has shown, decision-making is tiring, that humans have a limited amount of mental energy to devote to making choices. Think about it a moment, from the time you determine what time to set the alarm and when it goes off, your brain starts making choices and decisions. Should you hit the snooze or get up, a shave or no shave day, what clothes to wear, breakfast or no breakfast, what to eat, what music or audiobook to listen to, and what will you do in your free time? All these questions require answers and puts a demand on our brains to exert this energy on a daily basis.

      Humans are highly motivated to avoid making choices they will regret but often have a weakness for the immediate gratification of a pleasant experience, even if it makes for a very poor decision. Gratification over the long term simply doesn’t deliver the same instant, feel-good endorphin hit. The fear of making the wrong decision also creates stress so we seek out instant pleasure to override what would otherwise be a long-term positive decision and choice.

      Remember, the brain is functioning at about 50 tasks at once. Are you conscious of those tasks or are you stuck on autopilot? You decide for yourself!

      Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from making bad decisions.

      -Mark Twain

      NOTES

      What is Conscious Behavior

      Conscious Behaviors play a major role in all our lives. Wake up, look up, and live life!

      -Frank C. Auenson

      Ioften get asked, what is a conscious behaviors coach, what does one do and how can working with one, benefit another’s life. With all the different types of coaches to choose from, it dawned on me I wasn’t doing a very good job marketing my services. I wasn’t pouring out enough information to help educate people as to who I was, what I did and how I could help them. Don’t get me wrong, I am all about helping others find themselves and having control for a better life.

      As a Conscious Behaviors Coach, I can equip you with the tools and mindset to be conscious of your surroundings, interactions, and words. As a Conscious Behaviors Coach, I will give you the knowledge to change anything you desire to achieve your goals and live your dreams.

      You can relax, this isn’t anything about marketing. Or is it? I believe it is actually about sharing information and education. And yes, sharing aspects of my life with you that I believe will bring value to you, so let’s get started by defining the words in the title.

      Conscious is defined as being aware of and responding to one’s surroundings; being awake. Of course, there are many words associated with conscious, such as; aware, alert, responsive, and even sentient.

      While one can say they are conscious, we spend most of our time in a subconscious frame of mind. For example, I was out running errands and when I interacted with the different people providing the services I was in need of, we exchanged pleasantries. When someone would ask how are you doing? I would reply with I can’t complain, thanks.

      It was about the fourth time when I realized how I was replying to those who asked me how I was doing. I became conscious of my response. I became aware of the words I was using and the demeanor I was displaying. These were just automatic responses that were born out of my subconscious mind before becoming conscious of them.

      The more I thought about it and analyzed my interacting responses; I realized the type of negative responses/body language I was giving off. I can’t complain, thanks? Really? Perhaps I could complain but then again, why would the person who is servicing my needs at the time really want to hear how crappy my day was going? If they were a psychologist, they certainly wouldn’t be selling me groceries, right?

      At that point, I corrected my response by giving the reply I am doing quite well, thank you for asking. This one phrase turned the whole outcome of our interaction into a pleasant positive experience. Allowing both of us to smile and appreciate our exchange.

      The observation in my words and behavior allowed me to change the words which also changed my demeanor to a more positive reflection of the question and situation. By doing so, I walked out feeling good also leaving the other person feeling good and with a smile on their face. And if it is someone I know I could run into again another time, eventually they will recognize me and which will trigger something in their subconscious, creating a feeling of excitement or perhaps a feeling of anxiousness. Simply being conscious of my surroundings and my words, creates a positive or negative environment.

      When a stranger says hi in passing, I say hi, how are ya? and I could be setting myself up for many hours of listening to every painstaking problem the person has endured. But when I actually do this, I am sincere in asking, yet, I have found myself automatically responding in this manner. I usually catch myself pretty quick, as I have trained myself to pick up on my behaviors.

      With doing so, I am more alert and aware of my surroundings and what other interactions are occurring with other people. I can tell when people give automatic responses as opposed to genuine in the moment responses.

      Another example is when I was shopping at a retail store. I am greeted when I walk in and it always feels great to be acknowledged. The problem is, I wasn’t even a minute in the store when I walked around the corner and ran into the same store associate who greeted me the same way he had moments earlier. It happened several more times in the next five minutes or so and I truly became conscious of his automatic subconscious responses.

      It wasn’t his fault; he was simply doing what he was trained and told to do. Think about it for a moment, if you interact with a couple hundred people each shift worked, re you really going to pay attention to whom you are greeting? Probably not. If he was trained to

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