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It's Up to You, Now!

It's Up to You, Now!


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by Neil Haddon
by Neil Haddon

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Published by: Earthcat on Jan 30, 2009
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Now just bear with me a little: I can understand if you think I’ve just gone off
my trolley. In the last chapter, I encouraged you to open your eyes to a picture
of a world destroying itself, obsessed with war and violence, with greed,
manipulation, and control. Fear and worry are what we are supposed to feel.
However, that way we will achieve nothing.

Perhaps you may be familiar with the story of the rabbit hypnotised with fear by
the stoat? Horses, dogs, children, wives (and husbands) can be physically
and/or verbally abused into total confusion; and in that state, they will tend to
do exactly the wrong thing and aggravate the abuse.

To deal with fear, we need to understand it, to learn how to minimise it, and
overcome it.

Fear and worry, with guilt and judgement, are perhaps the most destructive
forces in the Universe. And yet we being humans have locked ourselves in to a
spiral of ever more preoccupation with all four. Centuries of conditioning, have
led us to a natural reaction to look for danger as a priority, to always exercise
caution before enterprise. Even when we commit to something, we are at risk of
sabotaging our efforts as we constantly worry if we will succeed…”have we
really done the right thing?”

You will often hear that fear is a throwback to our primeval ‘fight or flee’
instinct, but we can refine our understanding more than that. In those days we
were a herd animal, with a primitive group response to stimuli. It appears the
genetic memory of our physical form retains some of that aptitude buried deep
in our sub-conscious mind. If you are walking through the park at night and
someone jumps out from behind a tree in front of you, your response is
automatic; you do not need to consciously think, “Oh dear! What a shock! I’d
better be frightened.” You’re scared. Right there and then. (Check your
underwear for confirmation!)

Remember we were talking of neural pathways through the brain, and the more
often we use that path, the easier it is for the neurons to ‘fire’? This is what is
called a predominant brain cell pattern. These patterns become impressed on
our sub-conscious mind, and in a sense become part of our ‘reality’. For
instance a child who has a bad experience with the dentist, will often ‘be afraid’
of dentists in general as part of his make-up for the remainder of his days. He
will say, “I am terrified of dentists,” as if this is a pre-determined state, an

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unchangeable characteristic hard-wired into his physical construction. Even
conversation about someone else’s visit to the dentist will evoke the fear
response in his mind.

The ego exploits this weakness in our make-up to keep us feeling vulnerable,
and separate.

But when we came into this life being human, we were granted individualised
consciousness with which we can analyse our emotions and reactions. So, let’s
get this fear thing into perspective.

There are almost as many classifications of different types of fear given by the
psychologists, as there are things people are afraid of. Basically, I believe there
are just two basic types of fear: physical fear, and psychological fear.

The first can be seen as a positive natural instinct: you are about to be attacked
by a vicious dog, a wild animal, a snake, or even a mugger; your natural
physical fear instinct kicks in and requests a quick burst of adrenaline; this
sharpens your senses and your reaction times in an attempt to equip you to
avoid or survive the attack. Without this sub-conscious response, we would be
far more vulnerable than we are. In fact, when we boil it down, this is not fear
at all: it is simply our ever-loving sub-conscious mind demonstrating once again
its superior powers in providing a super-conscious defence mechanism, to keep
us safe.

All (other) fear is created in our conscious mind and can be seen as the ego
continuing its crusade to convince us that we are separate. I have seen this idea
expressed as our desire to maintain attachment – attachment to the status quo,
our reputation, our superiority over others, our family, friends, possessions,
youth, our (temporal) life.

We are frightened to move out of our comfort zone, frightened of ‘the
unknown’; we are afraid to put our heads above the parapet, afraid to stand out
from the crowd – in case we are judged ‘wrong’ or ‘at fault’; we do not want to
let go of our position (of ‘advantage’ as we see it); the thought of growing old
terrifies us almost to the point of despising our senior colleagues; and most of
all we fear death.

Attachment means dependency. The shipwrecked sailor clings to his life raft, he
is dependent upon it for his survival; the climber is dependent on the rope
which attaches him to his colleagues, or his anchor point. So it is with intangible
things – we cling to our family and friends because we depend on them for
support and love; we preserve our reputation for we know this governs how we
are perceived by our peers.

It’s Up To You, Now!

© 2006 NHaddon


A sly little voice inside our heads tells us that we must have this dependency or
we will be nothing special, a nobody. Actually, this is the ego defending itself:
the ego feeds on its self-image out of insecurity: actually, the ego is afraid! In
fact it is terrified that you will see right through its delusional power!

Let us now examine the last fear on our list, perhaps the most basic human
fear, since understanding the fear of death will put all these other fears into

Ask yourself exactly what you fear about death. Think deeply and be completely
frank with yourself – after all, no-one else need know! What is it? Is it fear of
what you leave behind – your loved ones? Is it fear of pain you associate with
death? Is it fear of the unknown – what lies beyond that portal of demise?

At the root of each of these is, in reality, attachment to this – mortal – life (and
I use the adjective deliberately.) We all know from very soon after we become
aware in our time on Earth, that our body is decaying, however slowly, and that
eventually it will expire. Yet we allow ourselves to be convinced that this
carbon-unit, this bio-chemical organism is in fact ‘us’. But if it were ‘us’ would
we not be able to control it? Could we not say to our body, “Stay young”, “Do
not feel pain”, “Do not die” and expect it to obey? We all know the body follows
the natural physical laws, it feels hunger if we don’t feed it, it feels cold on a
Winter’s day, hot in Summer, it ages, it feels pain when injured.

Chapter Three showed us that we are not our bodies – we are more, so much
more. We are spirit, which is ever whole and indivisible.

The human frame is only a vehicle we borrow for this temporal journey; like all
vehicles, when it gets old and unreliable, it is cast aside. But the driver doesn’t
go to the crusher with it. When a car goes to the crusher, it is empty; so also
when a human frame reaches terminal decay, it too is empty. Your body is
made up of physical elements – ultimately earth, wind, fire and water – there’s
no human spirit, no human life force in there.

Spirit, as we have seen earlier is whole, and indivisible. It cannot be harmed or
destroyed. Death of the physical body is therefore the means of release for the
spirit. How often do we hear the expression after a long painful illness that
death was a ‘release’?

Physical deterioration, aging, and death are therefore just another natural cycle
of life on Earth. Consider the caterpillar. It lives its lifespan, earthbound, feeding
on leaves. Then it undergoes metamorphosis, a transfiguration, a ‘complete
change of physical form or substance as if by magic’: it ‘dies’ as a caterpillar,

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only to be reborn as a beautiful, colourful butterfly which soars on the currents
of the air, and lives on nectar.

The well known bible, “A Course in Miracles” summarises itself as follows:
“Nothing real can be threatened.
Nothing unreal exists. Herein lies the peace of God."
You exist; the spirit of you is real: it cannot be threatened. Enjoy peace of

You live in a Universe, a Creation, of Infinite Love.

That sentence needs to be ground into the very fibre of your being. It needs to
be at the root of every thought, feeling, and emotion. It is the ever-present
motive behind every single emotion, every situation, every event.

Just think what it means: you are a being in a Universe, a Creation, of Infinite
Love. Realise the consequences upon that thought, and set them as the
touchstone of your future reasoning and assessment.

God, Allah, Creator, Universal Consciousness, The Infinite, - use your own name
– truly is Love. Through and through. His Creation through which we journey is
built solidly and solely on this awesome Principle.

That being the case, ask yourself, “Is hell fire, punishment, purgatory,
damnation, compatible with the concept of Universal – that is, ‘everywhere,
omni-present, encompassing-all-in-totality’ – Love?”

So, what is to fear? At the ultimate, everything will turn out for the best. Every
thing that happens to you, is for your ultimate benefit and greatest good. Think
back to ‘bad times’, ‘unpleasant’ events which have already befallen you: can
you not see in hindsight some benefit that came out of that trauma? Was there
a valuable lesson learned? A resulting change for the better? Are you stronger,
wiser, more accomplished now you’ve been tempered by the fire? And, did it
really hurt? Even at the time?

Seek the Love in every moment – even the ‘bad’ ones.

If you look hard enough – no that is misleading: in fact it usually requires very
little effort– but if you are open to hear the still small voice within, you will
inevitably find you are not alone as you journey through the dark. Just ask for
help, and a comforting voice, a guiding hand, a reassuring warmth will come to
your aid. We are loved more than we could ever know.

It’s Up To You, Now!

© 2006 NHaddon


Now, having bolstered our courage and with our emotions in perspective, let’s
face this current situation. Face it, analyse it, find the benefit, or advantage, or
opportunity in it.

Adversity inevitably brings out the best in being humans. It was this ‘best’, this
concerted human synergy which halted the might of Nazi Germany at the cliffs
of Dover. More recently, recall the wave of human emotion which encircled the
Earth in the magnificent response to the Asian tsunami of 2003.

The challenges we face today, present many occasions for fear. However, down
the centuries, those who have been subjected to the most frightening
experiences have frequently emerged with words of inspiration. These people
have detached their physical bodies from often brutal treatment and drawn
upon the infinite strength of the spirit. Invariably they have a deeper knowing of
their real selves as a result.

Often times, these dark events present the opportunity for us to remember the
innate goodness, the unselfish love which exists in most human breasts, but
gets forgotten, or buried by the pressures of the daily living mess that we have
gotten ourselves into. For some, these spontaneous reactions to others’
misfortune are short-lived, and they soon drift back into the humdrum routine
centred on paying this month’s bills and containing the over-spends. But a few
are inspired to retain the glow of self-worth they felt reflected by a victim’s
smile of gratitude, and their lives shift – maybe ever-so slightly, but each little

As we will see, not one passing thought is ever wasted and a thought or deed
imbued with Love travels the extent of the Universe. One candle can disperse a
hall full of darkness, so, although gloom may gather all around us, a reflection
of the Love that we know is the underlying principle of all there is, radiating
from our hearts will rekindle the flame in our brothers and sisters, banishing
fear for all.

It’s Up To You, Now!

© 2006 NHaddon


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