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I had a queglion, trr! going

and haven't

Eeen thls

topic

addle66ed here: \rhele very

Co be traveling

in an Eastern And I,n going

Europeen country

solnen speak Engllsh, th aoneone who 18 pretty lng a lot <touttry !'rlthout

to be hanging out !he!e so hopefully I,II be

kno\dledgeable, is:

of HB6. The queEtion cofifiunlcating

ho$ can I pU in a foleiqn I,n an avelage-Iookilrg etc. f,or pU'B;

verbally?

guy rrho ha8 alwayE used SS, lntel]igence, Irve never been forced to lely

pallefis,

JusE on geEtute,

body 1anguage,

tity,

etc. 3ny EuggeEtionB for an Amerlcan trylng in EaBtern Europe?

to pU

lish-apeakels

gtyle

wrl,tes of War

eubjects: the Art

Eey,

I thought

lal make a recomnendat ion

for one of the most ancient PU

guides: If

anyone ever read Che Art about ir, its totaLly

of, War by sutr Tzu in respecc to ss? work6 as a big

adalogy f,or

you thin].

strategizing

a seduction.

For Exanple, (eg, values),

he advise6, wealher kind

before

going

to !ua!, assess "moral

influence

(i6 the environmenE favotable

to aarging?),

of HB ale you dealing

irith) , comnand, and then

doctrine.

"

THEIN he goes on to 6ayt ia Long delayed,

nvlctory

is

the maln object

in waf.

If

thrs

lreaponB are blunted

and morale depressed.,

.AND trOf Eupreme inpottance !

in nar lE to attack

ttte enemy.s thoee skilted cllies protracted

BtraEegyi next best 1E to dlsrupt 1n !|a! gubdue the eneny wlthout wiChouE asgaultiag opelatj.ons,'

hlB a1Ilances...ThuB, They cepture hls

battle.

them, and ovetthrow

hlE stabe lrithout

anotlynou

aakej

Nwhat doas the Art

of gtar hevc Co do wltb

66ducel,o!r?'

For thogd !,rho object with Beductlon

to thinklng read i!

of the art

of war womell are in

in mind,

aE an anaLogy: obviouBly,

no way enemles ard Eeduclion lea1ly thi6 a war gulde: ltr8

ie not a war. But lhe Art lrhich is

of wa! is no! exactLy vrhat

a guide !o Blrategy,

new6group iE!

StyTa Eubject.

|'titaq lCora EaIp Needed

lilhat

doe6

it

mean when a HB yourre with you- -that

with

eaLs garLic/onion

tt4)e food

when she's

6he's rot

elpecting

to go back !o your place

lhat

night

and that

you're

going

tso have tso work halder

Eo get her

Applying

lipstick/1ip1iner--is

there

any Eignificance in frotrl of you,

in how/where it's ia it a signal or

done. When it'a sydbol

done very blatantly poeltive

f,or anythtng,

or negalive?

work nightB:

so many perfect

nlghtB

have been folled like crazy, ita

by the facc !ha!, 2 or 3 a.m. and

eved though she's

ready and kino-ing

ehe has co be up for hele for lrylng

lrork at 7 a.m. the nexts day. Any strategy/patlern a lIB to not' wolry abouL the fact that it's

Co convince

a xrofk/school

nighE and Just come back to your place?

gtyle

reepo',dg t

$t lav. he,

thLs work lhtng the !lgh! tl's

ls {here

I ke.p havlng

lhe problem. nore help.

r thlnli

you

aruver

her bu!

I need a llllle

I Jusl go!

a sunday nlsh!, a slore

and t'm comlng !!om whal woutr have been a d a flteld o!.'ns, 6aw a young HB?.5 ln a lhe whole rlne. sushl guggeseed vre I was me all sbe

trEfecl

Ptt. Vlslled 11t!1e

led &ss

naklng

eye conlac!

aooe food so ve could talk balhloom),

(she pald--lor

even--whlle

go! sone drlnl<s,

and she was prfecl--gtvlng

e 1,ror& ltght dropptng Dclleclly

away and, afler

I bounced l}rem back ar her, settlng me up

sex taLk lnlo

lhe convergatlon, we leave

!o lnlplovige

some pallerns.

rhe bar and she \ralks

s back !o her house. ghe says 6be,s tlred. aloor and ilalk upseatrs, and I fotloir.

But lben she opens che roonunales, lor

Then sh runs inlo

and we Ealk lo them. Sbe says she's oork. earlier nhat I sbould

ttred

agaln and bas !o sleep cu! the nlgbt shorr muctr

have done vas elther b 10 tbls sltuatlon

so I lroulalll'!

or brouqhr

her back !o mv

StyTe

wtLtea, Re! gS

Eubject!

A1Bo, aE for coufd

the initial

conunent that

started

this

whole thlead,

you

see SS aa a way of, f,ucking and leavlng eome people Itve talked

as many women aa Chey fLnd the tsheir

posEi.b1e. But fo! tlght

to here, if just

woman, they're

golng t'o keep her. the righ! thelr

SS is

increaglng

chanceB of findtng it'11 even lncleaae

woman, atrd not jueh set!]ing. uo alay faithful

(And maybe

abillty oa!a) ...

!o her cause

lhey've

already Eo&rt their

gtyla

wrlaa'

subjeqU: Party GLr16

Th16 i6 nhele SS fall.B just

for

me! the party

girl?

the fuckeil-u!,

ltB 60 lhe guy nith a Pul

want8 to have a good time atrd !ri]I

end up in bed with in Bome corne!

showa her on6. She doesnrt who trill adventure thege gir]s, lalk that

want to sneak off

Ehe e$eet words. e6calate8

She wants to be grabbed and Caken on an

the fun and mayhem. I of,ten ge! approached by other ItBs. BuE if I open my mouth and

because I'm seen with

dropping

paEtern8

o! anything,

she's

gone in a heartbeat

because that

ahit | 6 boriEg

to her.

Anyone have any good advice good routines-

oll landing

party

girls?

There have to be carl be sinply they crave the thats "lrild atrd

- tshey' d have to be phygical you can give then

ores--tha!

done to show that night.

tshe adventsure in this

Does anyone e16e have problems

area,

with

crazyl

IlBs ?

Aaonytuous gubject:

add' R6. Party Glrls

sA1Bo, I \danled to add.how does one get iato ao-cal1ed life-of t'he pa!ty?"

that

staee of becoming the

Style

rapTlcE t

Ihanks.

That,s

exacEly it

the ploblem.

the anEwer ls obvloue for

but

bow to execute canrt

iB Ehe d11ernna, especlally ,,llhoo-boot Partyt',

guys lj.ke us who

go inEo fake glrl

node at Ehe drop of a hat. bu! a party thistr girl would have glr1E be

lonnhandle,E

iE a IIB at a palty, 'twhat Eong is

ten bored wi.!h the

game. Could party

OodrB glfts lo the AFC? Someone nust end up wlth uight. BUE it'6 not noa! of uE i!

lhen at' t'he end of, lhe to give

seemB. And, I'm no! willing Lha! type.'

up etrd say,

roh, I JuEt caII'! Irolk wlth

go there

are two way6 t'o get .m answer !o thiBr 16 a good Etsaft,

maybe mirroring a really

Eheir

and then coming up with

quLck, kino in being

beevy roulinhaving offered ao that with

- somethlng

to nak6 bet 6ee you as h6r collaborator !ine. She needs !o feel her frlends like she's

a crazy unforgettable an adveEture they caD say, of lha!

Ebe cad tel]

about the next day

aohe aort

Maybe you do tshi "You did Ehat?l You're wildl" ndalefl gane: Baying something like. trYou a!e out of 'bite thats 9ir1's

your nindl aas/ge! shift that

I love thats! But I bee you nould never gi.ry to buy you a drinh/whatever

' n And tshen maybe slorly

the dares to things

she catr do to you in public.

That,s

just

an ldea:

I'm thiDking

out loud.

If

soneone has a good

idea,

I'd

be up for

tlying

its and reporting

back.

Af6o,

one other

line

of thinking:

V{hat. does a party inEecure, and badly

girl

really

want?

Vlhat is her ENDS VATUE? She is vaLidatsion. her?

Eow can we become that. source of social

validation

for

Any thoughtg?

StyTa wrlgea aubject'! RE! DaapBluo's AntL-Flakhg Fol|llula

Thia brlngE

up some good isEuesl

1. TtIe loglc

of ending a good hihe early

to keep her wanling caugh! up in the

@re

co

Boneelme backflreg Itra hald

when the HB was actually

!o know Bomet'lmee whether

Co cLose ea!]y,

or !o pusb lt.

6uggeEtsions?

2. Begidea the optlon Bound de6perale

of naking

a second plan on the spot

(wbich can

1f you keep mentsioning lt

Co her on the phone to get

her to hang ou! nith l.ou,re broken. prefe! worried

you again) , I would suggest doing a tsakeaway if Ioe interegt af,te! the spe1l of the nlght but you could alo Ehat. is I

a HB will

IrIn noE a fan of lhe nickname-tease, leaviag a story or pattern dangling.

For example. as you #close that woutd help her

or rcloae, real-ize tell

te11 her you have 6one great

advice

whatever

dream Bhets confideal to you that you get logether.

nights, and you'tl

her uext tine

:le wdtag ct: RedBull wE. Alcohol: A field report,

came up with aelgy fucked drinke.

two great

lhing6

last

night.

The firsh

was re:

The Becond: a good boyfriend

ki1]er.

BuC, ln the end, I

I met HB9 in a bookEtore. about.

She hag a boyfriend

she's

very,

very

gerious

But' Euddenly they startsed having major plobleng, We went ou! to !a]k about lt.

and 6he called In a previous

add said ahe waB upEet. thlead, firltiple give. ,bole

someone had EuggeBted a good pattern partner8 to really erq)elience thal

abou! people needing

nhat more lhan one pergon can to change her othet

But I had the feeltng belief

Ehe waB loo traditional pattern.

ayaten becauae of a Eingle (then degtfoying) tacEicg,

So, afEet

BF-Eupportlng

I cane up with

this:

Se!

E:veryone te1ls

me tha!

we should breah up.

I don,t

know, though.

Ee 6ay6 thet for

he thinkE

tbaE everyone ha6 Eeveral thet. I believe

people who are rlght there 1s JuEt one

tshen, buE I don'ts believe faled to be wlth.

tha!

person you'le

And whaE if

iE,B him?

l.G: BUC faEe lrork ilr gtrange nake i! find through

way8. Thlnk about its. Maybe you neeal to and out the o!he! Elde In otder tso

tshlE lelatlonablp

the real

pel8on I'ou' !e suppo8ed lo be wiEh. ME, I know tshat fate i! to, You may think you,re fated to be with

never worka hon you expect tbi6

guy, but f,rom whal you,re need to learn !o find

teLling

lne you don,t

6ound very happy. 60 that

Maybe you just

a leEson fron

tshiB relationship,

you can tben uae it with.

the perEon who faEe really anchoring thi6 to nyself

want6 you to be

ETC, ETC (of course,

wj.th gestsures tshe

whole time)

So \re hang out for

a white,

tbelr head back to my house. She ca116 her

BF and telle to tfy further

him shetl

be ower in 15 minutes. atll/!'ay. tlnd I would

really

That's

bad,

but to

wa'rlteal

an experiments

be curiou6

hear atcohol is: if

tshoughtss on !hia. I thought

InsEead of mixing we would drink

a drir*

(because

ie a dolrner), you driflk an energy drink and you feel having

an enelgy

drinj(.

The idea

(or a 1ot of caffelne)

, then your heart

starts

facing

exclted.

And 1f I could anchor tshoee feellnga that

ahe was

ho myself,

then Bhe \toufd feel

I !,tae maklng her excitsed. fluff-Lalking ehe just (afcer a good

Tt worked:

becauee ae \tere ELtting

there patlern),

descrlbe-your-filst-amazing-klBs leanE over and huge me, burying

Epontaneously

her face in ny chegt.

Notr, all furlher don't dldn't

good. RighE? But thi.s iB lrhere I fuck up. InEtead or lifting her face up !o nlne tbaE I've to kiBB, I fear

of pressing and

rejection

nove in.

(The fact

meL he! boyfllend

before

help elther.) being

Thls 1s !,rhat I wae thlrtrlng

I She's been hressed but she'6 to b

out alout already lrlth.

1a!e to he! BFE and having hln nad at her,

said 100 tlmeB ho\t I'm so mrch mole fun and exciting I figure ghe's going to go Ehere, flght wicb hln

the whole t to

and thlnk

abou! ho!,, nuch more fun I an !o be with. next time, vthen she's

So I can try

her to 6pend the nlght having

not Etre66ed ouE about

Eo go !o her boyfriend.

So tha queBtlon

i:

l{a tba!

AFc thinking?

was I JuBt fooling

nyself

becauge I \ras afraid done? )

of lejecElon?

(Probably,

huh? I'lhat ahould r have

(Fol1ow up: ehe call.ed tne first would like tsonight. tso hatrg out before

thing

the next norning

gaying Ehe

she has to go Eo her boyfriend'g

Should I pu!6ue or eject?)

Ard, mole importantly,

any tboughtE

on Red BuIl

vs.

Alcohol?

Anyone

else lrant to Ery thi.s and report

back?

Style

vtlEee nthe hungry don, t get fedtr

su.bjeet ! Re!

Right,

so how a.bout making it:

I'thoEe who LOOK hungry donrt geL fed. "

Irve flon

been thlnking trying

ebout thia giving

too.

I,ve

suf,fered

a few timeB lhis etc. So I am

r,reek

too hard,

her too much attentlon,

thinklng inlliate

of llying

to ahlfts lhe melhod a lltLte

Eo nake the HB

the rcloEe more.

So lngtsead of thlnking of laying letting on all

"the hungty donit

ge! fed,n

what do you think

the EV, pattsernE, I'm completely Ia thla

and kino,

bue at the ame time, and she is cornpletely o! tE

her knolr that

unavailable with

not my type phy8icalLy, lt golng too far?

ln keeping

ASF philosophy,

Irve fron ahe

been thirdrlng an obsCac1e, lt

Ehls because, \dhenever I reall-y 6eens tshat Ehe more I resisE,

wan! Eo get awey the more aggressive

Aa for

rrdeapelate energy, " I,m atI1l 1n Ealging

rmdecided on lrhetsher this (the Scruffy thlead

is an

advantage or digadvanlage ago nake6 the oppoaite when not looking for it)

a few alays

of the argument you make: that ,

PUA geEs more EC

Style

eEltag

subject:

Re: shere with

her fauily"

'

This happened to me the obher atay. I !'as eating this this

in a tetautant'

and

HB8,5 came ifl ltitsh her mother and auJrt ' r flgure like you woulal a IIB hanging out wlth f,lrst.

you approac[

two ob6tsac1es' Approach the

parent6/obBlacle6 firgE, bu! you try

Talk to everyone E)(CEPTthe gB you wadt at ln wha! yourle saying' then'

to make lhe EB intrigued are comfortable friendly to their

once the frlenals/pareots tshe ItB lthlle st1tl being

witsh you, you tsry co isolatse parente/ friendB '

so lrhen the ftothe!

walkd in and pasEed by table an English place,

to older

food'

healal Ehat they !,re!e gPeaking wilh rnon that ?eEtaulan! Bhe had come to the tlghE f,or a 11!t1e while.

accent

So I !o1d the abou! the

and talked

l'lhen the mon and aunt flent !o order In additlon !o eliciting l!

tooal, I talkeil va1ueB, I trietl NY) --and, at a cool

!,rith Ehe daughEer, who was 20' !o eliclt events

(LhlngE Bhe wanted to expelieDce her to a p'rtt I e't

aB aoon aa I hearal my oPpolEuniEy to lnvite lounge I nad going to the next night,

I said tha!

going there

and naybe Bhe ltould enjoy

accompanying ne'

I Ehink this

r,rorkeil because I nade it for the alaughte! dectlne

seem !o the non and aunt like nom and

waE dolng a favor aunt,

(and of course I lnvited lhe

knowlng they'd

bu! appreciate

conpLlments co their ErusE and show t}'em interes! in bheir you get tshe a

ryouEhr').

the secreE may be to earn lhe palents'E stabilily, anil completely platonic

your klndness, alaughter,

but not to kis6

up too much to them, becauae if palentsB, thetr you ri6k

along too i{e1l i,tith a girl'6 HB'6 atstraction teeny bit like you're

neutlalizlng

to !'ou. You s!il1 unaler their

want to a1low the HB tso be ju6t parents

rebelliouB juEt

noses? a'rld noE make her feel

another

lame friend

of, her Parents'

StyTe

writeg, Re! InEpiratLonal euoteg

subject:

ThoEe vrho reetraln restrained.

desire

do so becauEe theirs

is weak enouqh to be

--Wlluan

B1ake, Xhe Malliage

of l{eaven and Hetl

SEyle wri-eeE su.bjeet! Ret AELan Olrls ln AEla v6, Aelan trerLcan clrls In

uaA

Thia brlnga up another queBtion I,ve type guy, buC I have spent a lot Aslan languageE. A fen years about an A6ian 91rI !hat' r/'rheaf speak lhelr

had. I,m not an Asian fetlshist

of tlme iD Asia and can Bpeak a few used tso be cool if you knev, Now,

ago, i!

sohething I \rorly

in America,s

language and cutture.

Language to them o! nentj-on gooal fron Ehelr count.ry, they get scateat stuf,f juEt.

directora/wrlterg/celabritieB

becauEe I SEEM Like an ABian fetsishist. to seduce AeiaD ronen girla in Anerica (not truel).

who,s fearneat thi6

So Ehe que6Lion iE: girtE. i6 it betler

With ABiax to sho!, ott sCages of a now, Aslan them

or Asian Aherican knorledge total of their

your wide-raEging PU or to pretend girls

culture is

in rhe earty Ehat, righc

ignoratrce?

My worry

are ultra-sen6ltsive

to gnryE r{ho tshey think

nights be into

justs because they're

AEian and not because of who they are as

individuals.

SEyIe wtite, 6ubject! Dylng here, Need all po66ib1e advlce

I need Eome advi.ce. a field report.

I'm willing

Eo try iE thie:

every tacLlc

suggeated,

and poat

The El.luaelon

At home in America, an A!'C ah best.

I'm a The probLem

RAFC+. BUE now I'm i6 thlE! {and total them don't of askiag,

In lhe BaIkanB rnd I'n

I have never ever Been more beauLiful AFC gtryB) aq'nhere 6peak EngliBh. before.

HB96, 10e, and 10+B Lhat nos! of conelsts r can have

But the problem is lechnique baslcally

So my Barging

aDo you speak EngllEh?" and kino and it,B

llhen Ehe aDswer is yes, anazing (but this lef!

a convergatlon

RARELYhappena). In the dalk aad

vlhen the anslrer lE rnou o! 'a li!t]e," dotrrE knolr !rha! !o do.

I'm juet

Adding f,ather who iE Eolal.ly

complicatlon

iB the fac!

tha!

I'm visiting

a fllenal

f,Luents. But he ia auch an AFC thal aYE to say iMe buy ilri.nktr--and

A) when I ask hio !he!e'a no lray Ir!

!rha! !o do, he just dolng either that

and B) vihen I ak him to translale, Eay what I tell. he leer6 hi.n to or gets

he chickenB out and scared and runB away, On which nakea natstele

won't

lop of !hat, woree. I've they don't

at noat IIBE 1n any roon,

been a great wllgmen, Bending IIBg to him whenever they aay Epeak Engl.i6h, anal be ls JuBt unable to follow up.

So, clearly,

at cluba

and cafes,

I need to 6arge ao1o. But anyone have at a Los6, a$d going out of

any Euggeetions my mind, . .

on !rba! to do? I'm totally

(c|!re thing

I'm thinl(itrg

is that

through

SS I've

learned

to sarge with

lords;

how carl I do it

ririth

few or hot

lro words here,

esp in a country for

ebere tshe girls buEbands? )

KNOW they,re

add are mostly

tsrolling

Seyle vrites
subj6ct. Rer perfonance alxLety

This

is an intereatLng

thread.

I've

found that, hurt

lrhi1e asf tactics too.

have

worked amazing $onders fo! reaEon, quleter every now and then,

me, theytve Juat' afte!

a llttle

For some a

I meet a chick

(eEpecially

one \rho,a waltslng for ao many scriptB

me to get the pace of the convo) , I'11 aDd touCines lhlough tha! my head, t.rying I'11 juBt end up to

be shuffllng flnd the rtghl not

one !o say to get he! hooked,

BilenE, leaat

sayj.ng a lhing,

whereas ln my afc day6 I would have at going. Doe anyone else have Ehe ploblem Eo do--inBtead of Ju6t

kepts the conversallon to lhlnk

of trying doing?

of t'he ltght

ASF thing

A1Bo, Capltol, aa you!

here'B

Bomethlng to thlnh

about:

You are onty as good your sel,f-esteem you'le I

self-esleem. talking

You need t'o fi.nd a way tso raise wi.tsh other or loing, people, lhat It

*hen you're afraid how tba! it

seems Eo ne that

of rejection

you're

too hald on yourself. tlue

won'ts do any good to teLl try try

you the old and very

c1ich66

he who doen't h8tead,

never win6,

thats otre euccess is wortsh twentsy time you're vetl' around ot

fallures.

to do tlvo tshings: nex! altd being assertive an ex-girlfriend,

:comfo!tsable

being yourael"f

and in coEtroL an rjnderclasgnan

aomeone (a yormger Eibliltg, conorker), aarging,

t!"1' to renedber whal bhat feel6 Ereat. that HB like that

like,

and when you go out comf,ortable witsh, whele

pergon you,re

you have lhe attitude wa[t yourE. smiling, doesn't A1so, start

that:

you donrt try

need tsheir re6pects. but they challenge find (going out,

small:

the Svengali

and juets Baying hi to L0 gas). You'l1 come aear as often as you think

thats rejeccion

its w111.

Final1y, so don't tenlatively

people

are very

leBponeive

to your EignalB

and expectalio[6. !o acL be

expect lejection,

becauEe tben yourf,e going

anal get what you er.pecc. Erq)ect Euccess, and you'I1 cofireE.

arnazed how of,len lt

gtyL.

wrLEca

Eu.bjeet ! Taetlcs Ibat ttorked

;ruB! back to Earging back lnto

aftet

a long ttiP, laEt nlghl.

and decided I tried

!o get

AgF gea? at a party

sone tactica lb

lrorhed amazlngly, perty l-ittle lnitlete hlt

and had a fe$ refinenrents EkallEg lnd rink, ful]

of ouher !actic6.

was at a roller ro1ler outflt.

of Elendy HBs in ski4ttr becau6e lE naa so aay like or ju6t thlg! a friendly lt6g aomeone and one

its ltad anazing, ln a Biluatlon on wbeels,

convo when you'fe

about an HBB cootdlnation

buttlping into *closes

on tbe daDce f,loo!. ob6ervatloE!

3ny\day6, here are EtsolieB of llrlee

1, * cloee her.

1: IlBPlaEtlc

I'd

seen in a bar bef,ole,

but nevef, talked

to

She waE memorable becauge Bhe wag aetractive, surgery a.bout her face.

but Eomething really

looked plastic (uweren't

so Ehe opening ltas easy ni.ghtt'). Anyway, after fluff

you in the :llQtx bar the other

tsalk anal palterns,

I suggested we 6pend sone time tsogetshe! aince lte anyluay. so she Eaid, I've rlsule, Learned

seen to always enal up at' the sane places give me !.our nuiber. r lxstead

of u6ilxg one of the lines

T
I
hprp rdar ha/ n' mhcr

A r v r AIz G L Y . I N

ju6t

said,

,'Okay." -i

gh.

grabbed

a club

flyer

and gave ir rar

-.ve

her one nall.

Ther T borrowed of the flyer number

t.om a girl and then

Fmr I

sL-no-ng nedrby, wrote my nLsJre. on my half her the

ic

handed
n.rri

pen.

She of

course

wrole

down her .

and

ThF

haYA

inctse:,-l

...-.

, -..rng me give r.s

her number, me her

jusl If

pul

her

in

the p.pel

posilion

of

being

OBLIGATEDto

n-srber. to

she has lhe

and pen rn her hancl, uhdL e.se

she going

do.

It
I
I

2.

# close

2:

This

one is

where ASF really lhin cute parEy

paid grrL

off.

I got

a ride had

home

wlth

HBEnergy,

a rorally leIL

A muEuat friend

.nLlodlced kino on lhe skaling

pretly

comforcable Logerher and had a lor I asked for ber

of

T
I

rink. "cive

When she dropped me off, me your nunber. I never

number. Then I rrThat's The next I go! Itls

She said, did

give

guys my numicer.,, ASF. I said, off. worked.

something

I never

would have done before my number either,,, rude.

funny,

I never

giwe girls I,d

and walked rudeness

day I wondered if

been totally machine:

But

lhiE the

meEsage on my ansvering lrho's it, no! going to

,'Eey, guess vho? phone number. as very I lrae good lhe pas! and

girl about

giwe you her didn't reaction

lhinking yesterday

and I perhaps just

because it's me for

a natural Bul not

when guys in it, lt

hawe asked yourre

my nunber.

thinking being

about creepy

was rude,

good and I kno\,r yourre I came off bitchy,

and have some ulterior r had a rant

molive...If Iot
,F

t.hat,s

not

what I wanred ro do. if you still

of
T

fun
h:d

and I'm
<,,.h r

callrng

to gave you my nunicer,

l^nd

goEta call her

him.'

lL's

been on my mino a.l phone. chalk (She must one up for an AFc,

day.,

AI]d rhen she qave me my numbei fron if I

home phone AND cell friend.) given her so,

have gotten

our nutual

AsF, because l

know rhat

a
I
I

had jusl

my number like

she NEVERwould hawe ca]led.

3. Cloee #3: I collided HBscralrny on the rirk. net. and I sniled. 6aw her off neant-to-be accident, fate,

(accidentatly, In tha!

really)

into

a tsotatty cutse

momenE, though.

I made sure our eyes later. $hen I of

and she returned I apologized, on the spo!,

the gaze and 6mile. and lre tatked, that

the rink, pattern

and I ran a 6ort wasrir! an

saying

naybe this ln this

tha!

maybe we were throlrn she sort of feel

together

unusuat way by her boaty tshat

didn,t

a tingle

of energy lun through lhe cheesine3s pain flon

lrhen our ey6s met' (and then I off,set naybe that and finally lingle of, enerlfy was just

vrihh a joke

the head-on colti6ao[], and see if Lhink it lt was wolked I

suggeBted r{e get together

some tine

rneant to be. Thia naB my corniest becau6e Ehe !ea6 aceually notlced tbat intereeted

#cloEe,

and I only

jn me already

(after

we ctaehed,

she kepC looking

over at ne) .

4. Mirrorlng: that

Maybe I haven,t

read the entlre

archive,

but it

sE !

whenever we talk

about mlrloring,

it.rE ebou! phyeical I notlced loo tha! $ith if

nirtod.t|f;l vocal an EB. If she talked that'

and initating mirlor1ng ahe talked

novemenEa and gestules.

worka amaziag, and let6 fast and exciEed, I,d talk I,d

you create lalk

a lrorId

fast. and er.cited;

alow and nyBlerlou6, lhls lot crealeil instant

slow and myslerlou6. tha! she'd

And I noticedl

rappotts,

automatically

assume we had a were the

ln common because ou! eaergy 16ve1 aod speech patlerns iB an otd ASF thought, but thought I,d

6ane. Maybe thia anyway,

share it.

An!'!raya, that'a

ny reporE.

It's

the

,ehen its rains

It

pours' And iE.s

phenonenon. I'm sure I could have more *c1o6e6 that not becauEe I was ,on,' kinoing with it's probably

night.

because a lots of HBE 6a\,vme rink.

HBEnergy on tshe roller

SEyIe write':

t
I

Seeing HBPlascic : I went out with f--l^u

l'-1 ,h r.last

ieL you knou uhaE happens. In Ehe Lhe o.sos(e. fi-e. time rking her

HBscrauny

night,

and r,,e had an amazing out the night talk:ng

EverjLh.ng at lasl

went per recr. and I did

l'le started of

drd dr wilh

my house, boyfriend

a lor

listening

to what was rrong reflected

and what she wanledr Then, guy girl jukebox, we wenl oul (vhich there. lo

and then bar

wha! she wanted myself there !o was

back to her. be a fun a crazy

a local

and I proved lhe jukebox, our hipple bowl

alpha hippie

I usually we talked

am not) . al her into

pulting rhe

favorite glrl look was and (and

--r-rcr

songs on lhe super holding

TirEll_

and lhen giving

danced with me the

her.

physical,

and kept

doggie all

dinner this

my hands.
'

And because I

was gelting

atrention
.i/t i,

siving don,t nrohr lhough

me the kno\r if

look. this

I molioned 1,]asright,

for buL I

her

to join

us,

and she drd.

Now, I

kepl

rny allenlion

on HBscrauny a1I leven wanb to Was

and drdn'E go for hippie girl Eried

closeg w-Lh any oJ Lne oLhe. 9_rLs to tongue me larer)/ to because

I didn't

seem like lhis right?

a 6cumbag--jusE

a guy who likes

have a good time.

Arlnvay, anolher

lhe

bar

closes

and I bring said at

HBscrasny lhe rop of

back lhis 9ir1

to posl,

my house I just

for goE out L,yin9 Lo

drink.

Now, as I :p u:!h

or o reloLiorsl ge!

da insanely So,

jealous into

and am sLill

ny RAFC sea legs bul

back.

e walk

my bedroom,

and who should

be lhere

MY EX. Now, lhe I !,,as out poor with

only

reason my ex showed up was because she and wanled lo fuck out of up my game. the house. So The

must have known the Ex yells at

a girl

HBScraL'ny,

and HBscra!,ny

runs

- -. that book I followed this advice, which I read recently lhat. part in

co say

a 19Lh cenlury lhe

(it's

a little

misog),ni6t,

so ignore

and check oul

aalvice).

one of the main character6 wtfe obedient:

iE telling

anotsher how he keeps his

tenperamental

,'Euman ingenuicy.

my friend,

lras hitherto

only

discovered

two vtays in

which a nan cad manage a wohan. One way is Iargely abhorrent adopted by the brutal tso the lef,ined lower orders

to knock her dol.|n__a method of, the people, but utLerly

and educated claEBeB above them, The olher but i.n the end no leBa celtaln) lvifh

way (much longr,

m.rch more dlfficult,

is never to accepE Provocation animalE, it holdB wlEh children,

at a wonan ' s handa. Molds and it

holdE ntlth wornen, !,,rhoare is in. the one quality If they can once of of Ehe

nouhing but chililren anlmals, Ehake fhis hirn. If tshen. n the chlldren, supe?lor

gro$n uP' Qulet

reeolutlon fa1I

and the women all quatity ln thelr

nate!,

they get the better it,

Ehey can never succeed ln dlsturbiflg

he gets the better

So, in othet tried

xroldE, f lefueed

to be Provoked,

no matter

hoir brla so tro* I

(and I heve the bruiEes lwo plob1emB:

on my body to prove it).

faced wilh

1. llha! do I te1l

ltBscraltny,

or hou1d I just with

give

i!

up wlEh he!? Ehat with

2. How do you go back to Balging even afte! the relatsionshlP,

an ex-LTR lrho iB Eo jealous can't Btand You aleeping

ahe stil1

otsher people?

gtyla

vtLEea, Re: Iaqtics tbat Worked

subjeetr

A note on my prevt oua Post:

iiust

so you know. this breaking

i6n't

a case of me lrying clear with

to 6tart

dating

one

day after up for really

up or not being

my ex. We've been broken 6!art.ed dating, so it Anyone thi6?

a few months, is

and ehe has in facL already irrahional

a ca6e of extrene,

post-breakup

jealousy.

elBe ever bad a nlghtnare (I've already

cockblock

or salging

obstsacle tike email

taken one precaution

eince the last

and changed ny

1ockE. )

BTW, ASF helped ne invaluably real1y key to butlding relationghip

before

the relationBhip to go garging

and noxr it,s agaln after

been a

up my seLf-esteem like thlg

deatluctlve

one. So thank, I

Style

wtltes!. Nw tboughts on EupplleaClo!

lubjecE!

I waa Ealklng

to a paychologl6t $o!ks,

today,

and he gave ne a dif,f,erent when YOU get tshe gilI

idea to buy

of why not aupplicaClng you a drlnk

eapecially you.

or do gomething fo!

I may not be remenibeling EhlE l1ghE, aomething fo! a llB, 6he will thinl

but he 6aid: you're

when you do

tha!

a Buckef, or aE best a you, it makes her

nlce guy. But if nore attached her mind that that place

you carr get he! to do aomething for

to you and bonded to you. ALso, its planta iE is eaay !o do a amall favor

Che aeed ln you, so

or kinClness fo! you (1ike re6i6tance.

lrhen you ask her to do soneLhiBg else qulet.) she will not only be less likely

for

going

some

to offer

So the to

nssage is: make the girl estsabtishes

shouLd we not EuppLicate, to u6 (ever if

but we ehould try

Eupplicate

its,s just

in a Emall way it

some poner ove! her) .

BIIT, on the other date, fool

band, I ofLen talk for

tso girlE lhat

whotve been out on a 6he feela obligated of lhe girt she,6 to

and the guy ha6 paid around irith

everyrhing

him. ahe psychologist

said Lhat this

kind

eupplication knowa that if

work6 because lhere she lets

are e:eectsatsione involved: Ehe neal,

you take her oub and pay for i.n return.

expected to do something (unles6 I'n coflsidered talk already

Now, I do not date and do not pay ? but ia lhla sonethlng to be to

itr a relatsionship)

here? Vlhen aa AlC buye an $B a drink, {bef,ore blowing exceggive feel him off for

Bhets obLigated a real

to him a 1ltt1e

PUA}. So does le ho$ AFC6 get

IE stand !o reagon tbat laid (by maklng Ehe 9i!1

datlng/suppllcation lf

obLigateal and guIlty

they don,c)?

A'ronymous wrltag subJect,! Rr Eoir do I ehange rny appearance

"I'm

out one nlght

and thi6

girl

checklng

me out.

AE Ehe loota Do I give of,!

lhe \,ray I'm dreEaed? ahe a6k6 ne !o lratch he! coaC. lnpregElon t'hat I'n weak?,

geyle

replles.

Try looking

at thia

way. She walted

unEil

her $ly

f!1end6

Left,

and

then Lurned to tal.k Eo you. Sure, maybe she thought guy, buts ahe clearly would have beeo very herself. my stuf,f set it This is while $anted !o ireet you alld talk

you rdere a nice its

to you, Otherwise,

eay f,or her to tsake her purse to Lhe bathroom by PI,A tactic: I a]way6 ask a gi!1 to watch to

a total

I go to the bathroom or into I can talk

the pool o! rrherever,

up so tha!

to tshemlrhen I cor$e back.

Think

about it:

you're

Eitting

there

worrying

about how a momentsand got outside cuEtomer in a 6trip Ehe iiaSN,T reatly Sure, \rork The

YOU look a$d appear when, if of your wofries, club wa6 hitting hitting out: fact

you paused for

you would have realized you. Even if

tshat a girl miracte

by sone snall

on you, aEsume thaC she was and proceed accordlngly. but not to attract le that looking like chicks, ju6t !o feel better

about yourEelf.

a nice gnry can vrork too,

because hhen you come

in undef, the radar.

Anonymoua wtltaga

iDirect

S016 ea!1y can nake an HB lost. interes!

qulckly.,,

gtyle

rapllas.

lhiB

ia a really

good point,

Rlol

lJ!d,

Rio,

Ehis iE EXACTLYhow Tony CultlE ,'Sone Llke It Hot.,'Aa

(o! whoeve!)

gels Marilyn Like he lipg

Itodroe in

I remember 1t, even feel

he pretends

haa no feeliag

enymore, and canrt So Malill'n he says, iL,s

any sensaEion on hls

rben Bomeone kiaBeB him. bim if harder he feLt anythlng,

Monroe tries.

And nlren she asks

"Nothing, " So 6he keep trying JusE a movLe, but it mechanism with does rej.nforce a challeage.

and harde!. pre6eEt like

Of courEe, tlteir

l|our polnt: ItruE, ae:oal

EexuaL cont'lol

Chey feel

tshey musE Eeduce you in order another

to prove theil Rio, and I'11 be

polrers TO TIIBMSEIVES. Thj.6 is this nay nex!

good poinE,

have to Lhink of lt toEighh ! ) .

tsime I,m ouc Ealging

(which wilt

AJnon ,'@'lE

teE IieE'-

tlhe

guys \tho shorire no deEire

cannot be conErol'Led by an HB'"

gxyle

RepTlea.

ThiB iB trre. nolr that

BuE ltrs

eaBler

sald than done sonetimeB chat with the lotal

lrm finding'

rrn back ou! talglng, ltm talking

HB1os, soneElmes uhat I Etart

Itm Eo anazetl that !o g! netvous

to bhem and iE's

working

anil blow j't.

iluEt being nervoua ol not comfortable eayrng, Bholts then they bave 6mat1 ugly features bu! it' lqf and

aro\rnil a HB1O, tro matter power over you.

wha! you're

I FometlneB try

to took for

obsegs on then in order Bometines, tthen e glrl's

co keep the uppel

hand nentally,

Just my Eype, I geE nervous and blon

suggesllorlE, Rio, fo! keeplng your cool in these Bltuations' fol (and 5u4)r! not letting the fact that lnslde you're dying of lust that the'B begl ring Eo ge! hot fo! you) Eholt on the outeide?

gcyLe vrltaE Eublect3 Rqr I need rePlLca

I thinl

tbat

you ate too nervou6,

that

yourre style

too intsimldated

around

such a beautiful thinlr you,le

rdolnalr (even your writing

is nervouB) ' And I the person that diEcourages

thats shen you're

nerltou6 anal rmcomfortable,

wittr becotnea dervous anil uncornfortable' to be ldlh You.

and that

her from wanting

So, aI1 you need to do is beautif,uf, Challenge lromen. But thah's

ho find easier

a way to be comfortable said than done. Ihere'e

around svengali's

{which Fatass tsurned ne on to--thanks!), psychological reprogramming.

buts I tshink you Anyone have any

[eed some nore basic ideas?

SByle vt!,tes subj.qt! ldyetery'E Basle frallllg

llas anyone hele taken MyBlery'B BaBic Training recomnend it? Dial anyone get reaults them Earge otl lheir own afteirardB?

courBe? Can anyone

or learn technique6 that helped

Fo! me, Iid tespect,

ju6!

Love some erq)erience

ln the clubE wlth

a PUA I

!o get over aDy lingerlng

ahyneBE I atIll

have r and to have pointa. So,

aomeone glve me eome fedback on rny 9ty1e and Eticking tha! Bald, 18 thls worEh an RAFC paying for?

[AIao,

when you lespond,

plea8e keep 1n mind thal

I do not cale I do not care vrho real and which

wheEher Roaa, MyBtsery, or Rayre methods ale bet!e!, gela lald more; I don,t I don't

care which one of, them i6 for

i6 a posert

!,ran! to sEa!ts one of EheEe ugLy fLaming wars \re otberwise lal.d greats newsgroup. They've ThankE.l al1 got

gets bogged do$n ia in thiB good ideaa and Ehey a1l get

(I hope).

SEyIe

wtixeg

Eubject:

DoubLe Field

Repor!:

Dou-b1e SuggeEtionE

Needed

okay, two HBs, two good times, bu!...a

couple mistakes'

Three at

days

ago,

my friend shv l

sal' thr.ee to talk lo tha! doon. I

HBs al

a restauran! them !o the

late come to thi6

night

but

\tas too

them and get every went guy in

partsy up lo "I

he was having Lhem, and gelting is going

noticeat shoc to

room kepl something after but a parly

cominq like'

up and said

kno$ lhis what i6

sound like

a clich6, through to inwite Inp

especiallv tonigh!' you to

watching over having probably terrible

you guys a liltle

have been going shy and wanls

ny friend he is This i! was a fot

there a!

xxxxxx.

" Then I paused, Bul

"God,

so enibarrassed i Honeslly' a favor: the

sounds cheesy approach, one of lable,

he really

means it

anal I \{as jusl lbe which girls

doing

my friend sit

But'

some reason, spot a! lbe

asked me !o

down a!

emply fourth rhere L'ere up

because now I was siltrng and burn verv Their biEch shields

lralching

guys

come up and crash \tere being and Eor! the !,ith of

supet-high, and just AFcs.

and they care in

garcastic,

buE I negged a lirrle !hem, naking a fluss lookr fun of the with

didn't

became one of a av like cool

My friend,

meantsime, ran just

1#closed hair'

HBFrosred, skinny, nol lhe

a nodel

an amazinglv I lef! the the

friosled

leggy, girls

and super-aloof. actually

restauranE,

and beliewe

it

or

showed up at

parcy

At

lhe

partsy,

had another

girl,

an ex-stripper, well_defined look like facial

who was thin' structure stalue rf w1!h she I went alvay

artsy looking,

anat with

a really face

makeup tshat aLmos! artacheal to !a1k herself tso oLher to

maale her ne,

a beautiful stop for lalking

and $e just she lhree ould

didn't just wail

people,

me and shoo away I just !o said hi'

other

guys.

so when the them to

HBs came !o

the

parly,

introduced

eome of

my friends,

and then

proceeded

ignore a

lhem anal focus

on EBExstripper,

itho said

she was trylng

co scart

modeling putting

agency.

She is giving

tlle ToNs of kino,

hotding

llly hand and

her hand on my cheEts. Then, HBExetripper

say6 she has to go and I

to the bathroom and asks ne to $atk her tshere. We walk thele, go in r,rith her. we atand arld talk She atrops her parts and pees with a littte

me in tshe room. Then I probably should

irl Lhe bathroom for but it just

while.

have made my move here, urinated. girl Any thoughtg

seened etrange

after

she had jus!

on how to stalt

rnaking out ln tshe -you sj.tuat.lon

- takeE -you-to- Lhe-bathroon- and-peeB - ln- fron!-of a 1ot)?

{lrhich I Eeem!o get lnto

Anyway, it aheady thlee

feels

like

it'

ls

on anyway, especlalty

since

he! frienat alrd the reatty and pay

iB

maklng out vrilh one of ny frlends. gir1g say bye to me. I just becauae HBExBtlippe! Then the boyfrlend

We step outslde

lrave to them and don,t

nuch atCention conversatlon. ltr but

and I are in deep kino callB.

of HBExstrlppet

She ignoreB aclogs her when

I aee her poBture Then he callB to her, again,

grogr dlstant

and he! arms fold aflet

ches!. I talk

and she arlslrerg it,

they !alk,

the vlbe

and klno

is gone. ghe and her friend

(whoBe

boyfliend leave.

ia alao cetting

on HBExstrlppe!, totally

s phone) say they have !o

I *c1oge with a quick,

inadequate *close.

16 there

anything

I could have done here? Boyfriend becauge they urere leady Atso,

deBtloyers,

I fe]t,

would have been useless,

to cheat,

so whaE

ahould I have done here? Any suggeetions? nunber, boyfrienil how should I handle calllng might be with her?

now that. I have the ceLl

her and making ptan6 r,rhefl her

Okay, on Lo HBFlogtsed. We went out Eonight. she brought along a friend nho wa6 a bit pretty

I brought

some frienalB,

andt

of a bore and kept wadtsing to and spent a 1ot of lime

go home. I disarmeal the friend talking alt to her, but

we1t,

6he kepts trting

tso get HBFrosted to go home. At6o. a4d shooting dorrr guys tefts and

nights, HBFrogted was 6uper aloof,

lights who came up to her, kind of had her tigured commenteal on how probably can tell she is ju6t

bu! out.

I lefused

to leE it

intini'Late

ne r

At sone point, of guye think

when !'e were alone'. she is a bitch'

a lot

but to the

a quiet

type who likes

to be an ob6erver' proceas

vratch peoPl.e and liBlen lnforflation that and leafi

to them and olt fron lt. This etalt6 me that

of nentally a really

good convelBation la

eaile up witb

her telling

my eta!

sign i6 the one that for me to inploviee

supposeil to educaEe her 6Ear sigin {a good place anil increalible conneclion type of Pattem)

' Ftnally,

we have bonded ' agor and aa

She algo 6ays 6he go! out of a long lelationghlp not looking encouraglng !o get trapped fo! in a lelatlonEhlp

a yea!

again,

whlch is this_

me because I have a reaL1y great EayB 6he reaLly off, wants !o go hone and then call

responge for

Then the frlenal

llBFrosued says ahe aE'

is goiEg to alroP her flielrd

me Lo 6ee vhere Irn

so I'm with

tny frlends We Bit

aE a bar, and talh

itB for

dead because its a litt1e lthile'

Monilay' ald AB we are \tant lo 1n the

meete me !he!e. I aBk lf out,

sbe ca! glve ne a ride half

hone because my frlendE

I live

an hour away end she Eays she iB going

dlrection actually

(whlch iE anal lea1Ly has a 1ot of work !o do lhe nex! day also a cop out). So then (and this iE !'here I E!ue, buts it's sluck anil can! figure 16 kino ouE a way to ge! uB aLone but I could noE into being aloof lihen we r can The

need bel.p) I get

s19n6 are good, anal lhere escalate when I'n part teft

and rappolt,

1t co a *c1oEe ol more. she 6!i1t no! heael' lapport-buildlng

drifts

and intensely

Patterning' rne her cheek

aflal iE cones time to 6ay gooalbye, she offele tbat a *close is built is out of, lhe question,

though definiteLy

enough

rapport

to haug out again'

My questlon

here is

tbis:

I feel

like

she gave ne a good opportrmilv' I can tse]1" 6he gets

coning back without

her friend.

AE tshe same time,

hits on and used for

her looks

a lot,

so making any sort tor

of direch

move

on her would have been a problen. handled this situatsion arld rappole

Any Euggegtiors

how I should have it

and, especially.

how I could have escalated close? How I could

beyodd kino

to a more romantic

have stooal

out mote from all with? but

the OTHERguya as someone she wantsB to get phyFical see her again when she is back o! I,m ifl her to$n, bettser and bond her cloBer to

I !1111 probably

I definitely

anled tso seal the nlght MLTRmaterial.

mer because Bhe,a deflnlhe

Seyle vtltaar 6u.bjest3 Rq! Double tleld Rsportt Doublo guggesllone Needed

Aarln,

you! obBervatlong

are perfect.

You nailed picture,

exaclly nailed

what \rorked my strengths

and wha! nent wlong and, itr Ehe blgger and weakneEaeE. in lurni,ng I epesia1ly appreclete

the advice

about HBFtosted, doeEn't ln the work.

an oblacle f,al]ed

t'o an advantage $hen 6onething ln noE getting sonelh1ng

A13o, I totalLy

stalEed

balhroon- -!,rhy else would Ehe bring whigpering r.eport Eheae lhiDga I'11 1n firy ea!,

me Ln there? lhen naybe I'd who I'n

I wi6h I had you have a different supposed to Bee on

instead.

ulrdate on llBFroBled,

Saturday.

SEyle vrltes subjgct3 enyone u6e a tdotorcycle?

ilusc got offereal

a moLorcycle

ha.nal-me-doirn. Thin.|ing

of

learnj.ng

ride.

Out of curiosity,

does anyone use a motsorcycle in their

PUs.

Thj-n](ing about it,

it'8

much cooler arld we'Il lhan going

to say nwhy don't rlde

I pick

you up on

Sunday on my motorcycle, fie1I, if's a lot sexier

alolln Lhe XXX !o the YYY.' or nhateve!. Man, you

f,or coffee foutlrle

couLd even do a bs value-demonstrating theo borrow a halrpln in 30 aeconds. to fix

where you bf,eak dor,rn, valve (or lthateve!)

tshe exhaut release

So, does anyone go on "firs! o! lrork? I a16o thlnk

. F^i^?^v.l a halhai

meetings'r

on a notorcycle.

DoeB it

heLp

lt

would be pretty

cool to be at a bar catrying

gtyla

vrleas. report ifltb four *slosss

Eubjsqg! IEs!'ae flsld

I have been meaEitrg to poBt here for counEly. llhat I want to wlite

awhi,le,

buE I've

been outs of the baslc training, po8b a

18 a report

on Mygtery'a

which \daB leafly long report

amazing. When I teturn

home nerat week, I will nighE, I Probably of my life,

on tshe exPerience. sengational,

One particular artistlc

witsneE66d Ehe lrost I will

PUA +close

which

Ehare when I get back.

In lhe meantime, here's visiting.

a nild

fleld

report

from lhe European city

I'n

TI{E TEXTBOOK *CIJOSE on Friday lright, I weat to a dance club and ran intso a friend. She was

r,ritsh two Britsigh arms folded

wonen. And one was jus! had a shitly

a totat

bitch.

She hadt her

acrosa her chest,

altilude.

and basically

tsold me to go to hell Myslery, I've

when I was intr.oduced. if, you treat of, ju6t , you,re trying loylng thie

Since hangirlg out with att tike a game, ir,6 like you so

tearned that

very easy because instead (r,vhich ia aeen as pathetic) them) .

t.o make people

xrith them (which intrigues

So I decl.ded tha!, HB!Vi1. trlck I lBolated

Juet for

t'he 6port

of it,

I,d

try

to break down

HBEVll and dld a 1ltt1e I leafned, At flrst,

mind reading I,d read her nlnat and Then ehe said I \ren! Then we Then

oll he! tha!

I said

come up with Bhe'd never with

Ehe name of the fllEt loved anyone before

boy she ever loved. (no Burprlse welt

Ehere) . So insteaal her,

he? mother,s

name, and got it

enough to implegs pattelnB

aat do$n and X lan a couple I tried

11ve-for-the-monent

past her.

the Grbe game olr her--her go f told out for

horBe wa6 a unlcorn

anal he! slorm was

ove! the unlcoln.

her that,s

vhy she,d never loved and then Ehe,s

anyone--ahe | 6 holdlng got thls 6torm cloud stuf,f,

a nan who doeEn?t exis!, So we talk a 1itstle

over hlm.

nole abou! deep to tes! her because \4rork?, AB

lelationshlp I'm gettlng we all

aDd tben I Just Btop ealking She say, IOI,

the DDB look. a sule

'So, what do you do for

know, lhat,s

60 I use t'he Mygtery

+cloEe and say, give her

'So, would you I1ke !o klss tlne to reply. So we stalt

me? She he6ilates, making ouE fo!

and I don,t

a while.

A lit.tle bathroon,

later?

we decide

Eo go to anotber

ctub.

She goe6 to the and I decide to just

and she,6 gone forever, her.

so my friend

leave lrithout

THE DISASTER TCI,OSE We go to anotlter dru.nl< gB{very, dance club. hot, A6 soon a we watk in, furlky black I see this haired girl tsotsa1ly witsh

vety

yormg, lender,

a ied ecarf, and red lipstick partsy the night dfulxk, nietake and ne're before.

and tight

red top)

who I had seen at a thtoits herself on me.

I say hi,

and ehe just We sit she is this

af1 over each other. using asf tacbicEand it

doim, and then r nake the too lrasted to !ea1]y awkwar&res between ua off drulk

of actually

understa[d

a rdold of it,

createa

(anyone ever have the problem of, patternB gl!LE?). She Bays Ehe !,rants druga,

and SS turning do dlugs,

and l don'!

but I lell

her I can maybe lake her to anoEher club

tso get 6one. she says okay. me in. she sits f,i.eld

vfe get up, and as Ehe pasaea the batshroom, ehe pullB dordn on th lollet !6port--THIS and lakeg

a long pee (renehber my laat

IIAPPENSAJ,IJ THE F-INe TIME TO ME). as 6he finieheE, pourditrg o! the doo!, I Eell hin r!'s someotle'e in lhe sone guy, naybe Ehe and finally she

aomeone EtartE

bachroom, and lhen he burEls girl'B boyfriefld. Ihey

ln the door.

EEart yel1i.dg

at each other,

graba my alm ard we leave,

lle go to tbe other Bitt.ing at e table

club,

and aE Boon aB we nalk

in,

I eee HBEviI me !h6

alone !,rlth he! arma folded. her, and I Jok6 and play llrto

She gives with

of death for

dltchlng

her a liutle Blereotl4)e, for 1l'a

(becauBe her regponseE fall easy !o be one .tep half party hour, glrl,

such a predicEable

ahead of, het) . Any$ayE, I'n upet that

in heIl this

the nel.l

because I have IBEvil and I've go! thl8

I'm wilh

dtujlk

drurtc party

gilI

upeet becauae there

are no drug6 fo? he!.

A MARRIAGE CIJOSE?I{ELP I Outside, tlBlhri1 disappears aBd I #close the party gj.rl, itho iE vely

upset wlth rrm iEto

me becauae ahe ia tired

a[d wanEE drugs to atsay awake. I (I know one gnry 1n the group), who

a group of abou! 20 people

are tsrying to f,igi.Ee out \rbere to go. I stsart talking suggest that while they are slandirxg around indecisive,

tso llBRussian arld we carl go tso a

frm after-hourB

c1ub, have an rmforgetcable

tsirne, grab a sandwich

{becau6e ahe's

hungry),

and then call

her friendg

anal neet up with

then.

She Eays she likes

Lhat I,m decisive,

and we Eneak awav.

There i6 a_line to us.

outside that

the clu.b. and a guy behind us startss tatking HBRuEsian and I gots engaged tonight uEed this before, and are

I t.ef,l hin (I,ve

celebraLing good t,actlc

never aclually

but I tshink iE- a seal3 you to tshe ln an joke in for

wi.tsh Bomeone you've

just. met becauBe it

HB lomantlcelly-it,

B a loke that. ptanLg a seed of possibiLily least., you,re both eharing a prlvate

fiB's mind, At' ghe very Cogether, the ntght. creatlng

a fantasy

worLd for

the two of you t.o live

Any Choughts on thls?)

Any$ay, the guy in line then he took a ring perf,onned thia 1ove. It real1y

wag Juet amazing. ge 6aid he cra6 e priest, ot like malriege a keyring) cerenony, off full his cell phone and pledges

and

(Eo!t

beeutiful wes quite

of undying

of

beaut.iful.

I puE Ehe ring very welL for our prieEt

on HBRussian, s a coupte mi.nuteg. hlB

thunib, and of cour6e kiEEed the brlde we went lnalde, Bervices. ki8Bed mo!e, a.rld pald

a beer for

He took ou! nameg and addlesges, he,s really

and said he,d send us our a priest.

paperwork becauae he gwearE tha!

Aftser a Liltle the colner. a$ay again, perfect,

while,

we leave the club and her friends

are STILI, on

lfe hang out and !al.k wiEh then, we go back to my hotel can,t be !ea1,

then I sugges! we slip i6 too

room. she 6ays tshe nlght and getE a little

Ehat thig

shy about getting like, ,I knew you I!,6 ait

hoo phyaicaL.

She say8 Eomething sonewhac earcastsic. !o do this., and ther

wele goidg to try anazingly their

I tsel] he! a st'ory.

sad but effectsive

sEory abouts a girt

and a boy who each meet tsheir minds. They

soulmate, it

atld then a aliver jusl

of doub! crosses

decide !o test otsher forever.

to nake sure, it

but in the proce6E they tose each if anyone's inlereEtsed.

I can lrrite

in more detail

Anylvay, she gpends the night actually have sex, despite in tshe morniDg, until. ,.

antl we f,oo1 aroud my amazingly and 1 like told

more (buE we don'h . She's very sweet'

story)

and leave6

her and think

6he could be a

MLTRPo6sibility,

r$E tCI,OSE FROMHEIIIJ On Satulday night, I go to a alance c1ub, and aB I get a drink, woman dtendlng next to me. she i6 sott to her for !o ne, Iike, fun. l'lhite lhere of

18 a noE very dleBBeal tlashy. I'n decldlng,

aEtraclive

x wonde! if, I Ehould talk the EayB sonethlng for practlce, boring

rAre you an a *close I tefl in five Bome storlea,

Anerican? mlnuteg

So, lust (thari{6

I aecide

to go for

agaln to MyBtery fo! about i,rlld nights

lhe confidence). out. ghe talks

arlal we EEart talking

about ao orgy ab'

to and I get he! worked uP on Ehat,

asklng

abouE he! feelings

aod

there. you're tha! lote

I tetl totally you'le of kino

her ho\t it's comfollable

Eo gleat

Eo be In those siluaEionE let youleelf go, therc''

and you can Just

safe to do ldhatever you want and 1!'s and 6he's glvltrg

al,I okay'

me lhe DDB, so I do lhe MyEEery *cloae'

It' s terrible.

As Boon as we 6top, tshat

lIBRuBElan aPpealB out of nordhele and te113 the girl

she 1E ]eavfu1g lhe club now' It frozen aail EpeechleEs, in

turn6

out' that

Ehey're

friendBl

I an

and HBRuBslan leaves withouE a wold to me' I several mole minutes' then intloduce tshe girl gone ' tso a

seanal tbere flienat

6hock for

of mine and go to flnd of all, I nevet

ltBRuEsian. sadly,

6he'6 alleady

Aaal, worst story

got her nuniber the previoue

4ight ' So the come6

I told

her abou! the Eoulmatses ttho lose each otsher forever

F
E

all

in

all, than

an amazing weekend ful1 I,ve ever had in jokes are

of

romance, clubbing.

tragedy,

and nore

*closes advice,

F I

a reekend

Any rhoughts,

and funny

welcone.

SLyJe writes subject:

! Eeminar in LA

Re: llystery's

Yes/ right

it

vent

grea!.

I have so much ro work on a fu]] report

say,

and I/m it

out

of

rhe rime

counlry ln a!. a

no!,.

I will

and posr ro share in

nex!

compuler.

I have a few quick

lhoughrs

the

meanrime

If

you are

READY for

it,

it

is

invaluable. carry

In

orher

words, wirh

if

you nave

absolutely may no!

no game and cannot it. to If, the

on a conversalion

a woman, it ro

be \rorth or get

however, nex! just But four It

you have rhe

some game and tranr witt it field reatly witt

improwe ir away. before posted wilhout I I

level,

class

btow you ne monlns I ju6r

learned

so much in it.

a few days lhar I kno$ lhat kiss closes the

take

can implemenl olher

reporh

the

day oith learned.

woutd no!

have been possible to be watchrng

wha! I i!,

makes such a huge difference reading abour ir.

and doing

inslead

of

just

And, honegtly, being out wirh

what I lhe asf

lowed most in

lhe

ctass in

je

!ha!

it

u,as tike Many peopte post you,re sending

net sgroup whispering

your

ear.

here go ou! aeking silling for

sarging/ advice

come back withour they should

a good close, bave done.

and lhen here, or

on lrhat

Wett,

on a couch lrith to vrhigper

a girl/ just

and Mysler:y is to do in your

cordng over ear, like

whar

MORE KrNO or

TIME CoNSTRAINT, CLOSE NOW or DOES TIIA'I'AGAIN SHOUI,DERor

lltRlr AWAY FROM HER FOR A SECOND l,tHEN SHE IIER SHE HAS NICE SKIN AND RI]B HER

OT PEASE SHIFT OT TEIL

whalever,

Pleaae,

no flarnes from Mystsery,s collll)elition.

leally

clasEes, like taete

but tso me, they seem tike

two conpletety

atiffere[t

thing6, but they

comparing 6teak and ice cream. Sure, you eat. them bo!h, nothing alike. Sotne like one, 6ome like the other.

andt most tike

then both.

gtyle

w'!,tee. kIE6 cloge

Bultjaet,. Qusseloa about ltyEter]

Okay, after

I aBk, would you like

Co kiss ahe just the rlght

me, I know what t'o alo if hesitates.

she

Bays yeE, o! no, or maybe? or if omeone 6aid naybe later. What ls

But, Last nj.gbt,

reBponee here?

It

kinil

of lhren

me for

a loop,

egpecialLy

slnce

I knew I lraB i-q of Lease br, a\{ay to face

gett.ing

ton6 of killo

from her. "Uh, !eally,'

Vthat I did lras sort and then I turned She, of cour6e, and I slowly

aay aomethlng like, bar and pretended trled

to lgrtote

he!,

catne up t,o ne anal

to ge! my at'tent.lolr before. ft

agaln,

began to pay at'tentlon Anyone have any beEter

to her like ideas.

!re6 Bort' of, punlshment,

gtyJ.a wal,taq:' EubJecb. WEtary qles6 report

A SUMMARY FOR TITE 1AZY

1. Yes, Myetery alone, leaet in groups,

iE an anazing

ptA.

?here are VERY FEWwomen (rrhether

or witsh nen) who he can noE approach anat at the very 15 mi[utes.

#close within

2. I recommend this

cla6s very,

very highty

for

hhose who have some poinrs. If, you have that first. you

gane but need to improve it a!6o1utse1y no eelf-confidence caat carry on a conversationr

or \rork on stickj.rg or are so painfulty Id try

inhibited

to work on those iesues if

However, the cla66 may stitl accoq)Ilehed 3. Irike netve this PttA at work.

be worthwhile

onty to watch an

saial a hundreal tiftes

in ASF, there

is no magic pi1l.

anat

clasa len't

one, But, at the same tlme, anil helpful than a full ls just

tshis [eekend of claBses year of juBC reading about educatlon, Dur ASF

ia much more valuable poatlnga

and SS matelials.

The reading

tshe claBE lE all 4. Finally,

about appllcation. me, the c1as6 was dlfferen! than I expected, but at

as fo!

the Bame time I goE more out of i.E than I expected. better underatanding of how !o use the lacllcs brought

I have a MUCH And,

I read about here, leve1.

nore lq)ortantly,

Mystery

my game to the next

What I alao learned never really

ale four

lnportsant They are:

things

that

I,d

read but

appl.led before,

I'AIT A PIAN. Watching IityBtery, VIHATto 6ay and IIIIEN !o Eay it. nearly !h6 exac! Bame opener,

I realize It6

lhat

lts

inport.ant

to kdow

lngane to watsch him JuEt use aame gimnickB, and lhe eraac!

Ehe exac!

aame 1ine6,

and Ju6t reduce HB6 to mueh,

EAVE A OIMMfCK (or at. the very bypasE the malL ta1k, performance (a story

1east. a prop).

Thi6 way, you can just a short

demonsErate value

to her with

or trick

or demon6tlatiol

or rdhatever) , and 6carr su.bject arises

arl i.n-deptsh convelaation fron

about whatevei (that,

deepty personat i6 part

the uEe of the gimmick

I guess,

of Eex nagic).

EAVE STORIBS. Most people go out to be entertsained.

Be the

entertsaioer. possibility

Buts encertain of a connectiolt

in a way that

suggestss or opens up the

belween you and Che tsarget'

TREAT IT A]lL AS A GAME, Because

lts is

one!

I only have one ctllique As!'ers beoefits aE for can PU alyone.

with

the claes,

and I'11

say thls

aB much for he

Myeteryrg.

The rnan is

anazing.

He knowa tha!

gomelines

!te'1L juet

be walking fot

out of a bar,

and herll

Etop bxto gBE walklng that he BpenE a 1it!1e ard {orklng Sio,

ln and JuB! #cloee

spor!.

I qtlBh, howeve!, mole tlne

leBB Elme demonsElatlng wiEh ua orle-on-one.

and a 11t!1e

coachlng great easiIy be flxed. aB palt

Forlunately,

he had a great, can

wing,

!,rho a16o helPed oue. And thiB

i6 a problem tha!

I'd

a16o llhe

to have an afEernoon though Mygtery saye lhis nhlch

earging sLuff is true.

ln mafla or cal{

of the claEs,

conpared to sarglng

in c1u.bE and ba!B,

No!r, for

n4a main pralBe: like

Ehe great

advantageE have come af and know exactly wttat

ne. I now feel

I can apploach any gi!1 a'rld cloBe.

alo anal say to get her lntrignred *cloglng

I waa neve! very goo'l at

Bomeone I'aI only net mlnuteE ago, atld now I EhiDk I can' for a couple lteekB and had al1 aortE of

JusE wen! on vacalion advenEures. f muE! have #closed

20 girtst

*closed

6ix,

slePt

vtith two, and, ln a

Etrange night,

f-closed

tlto crazy

islere.

And o$e of Ehe girlg he? giBter

#closeal ltaB oae of the citsy'E yesteralay, wouLtb't addltion,

enobbiest

HBBt I rarl ialo about me alL day'

\rho tolal ne sbe \ta talking have dlone one-te4lb I found myselt this

r probably clasa' In

good ttitshouts MyBtery'E

becomirg more clrarismatic sitsuations tshat didn'!

arld nore of a involve sarging'

teaaler in regllar andl, most irPortant,

everyday

whethe!

Eucceeding o! faitidg,

I had lons of flm'

I can't

qai!

to put thls

stuff

co work a! home. Anyone in LA wanr to somewhar confidenr, inrelligenr,

wing? Email me: just and socially

make sure you,re

comfortable.

AND, FINALLY whot I need now is Advanced Trarnrng. through the next steps: calling adventure. I need a class #ctose with Lo lake and taking me her for

an HB I I

a perfect/ lo lhe level

passionale of

have ro bring

my fottow-up

gane up

my approaching

and-closing

game. Mystery,

you ready?

Aj:o,:ltmoue repTieg, Eubject: rer Myetery claes field report (daya 3 and 4)

"Was the stuff jus!

you accomplished over the weekend really sluff Ehat was in the manual?,,

due to the

StyLe replies.

The lruth me the

is

lhat

the

manual

gave me rhe

knowledge

and the

ctass ro

gave

Ekil]. the

Withoue ASF and TFM, r wouldn,t class. Bul withou! make all all) rhe class,

have been able I wouldn't

appreciate confidence So, yes, clase. anyone I

have had lrie r did. rhe

and know-how lo credil then a 1ot again, to learn

the of

approaches lhe

and closes

(but not lhat'e

vacarion learner,

succesE ro bur lhan I jusr

Bu!,

rne. r,m a quick watching

rhink

as going

more from

and doing

think

Lha!. for

Mysle-y, at.

magrc and nysr iclsm Magic doesn,! you find

work oecouse be for you/re everybody: passionale you,re

that's going about

whal he excels lo

have to

be a good PUA if inl-igues

something

rha!

tha!

oEherg,

"nd !'hen amplrly

Lh"!. thing.

A'lo'iltfroud Eu.bJ ects:

aek'a Re! ldygtery

clasg

f,Ield

reporl

(Days 1 and 2)

"Do you have any lvords or linee

that

gave you succees?,,

g|yla

t{)lLee I

For openels,

there

are three

I uEed: flght etc.i outside. TheBe trro girl6 were

1. ,tomigod, did you 6ee that tsotally going at it...e!c,,

2, ThLs iE the enrbarlassing

one Mylery

EuggeBCealfo!

me. Iry!

had the gutE !o use its a coupLe timeB, but it

Iooka like g1ll the parCy/fun/whaEeve! 1n ard say, turns off trIf

hae actually

yorkeat.]
to the

is ove! he!e.,, I lrasn,t

Then I turn

I'm lntcrested inEtantly

gay, you woutd be SO (anat tbose of others When it in the Ied

mlne.tr ft g!oup),

her defenses

and f can then hit

he! $ith

heavy sluff. aftenards

acCuatly 'aren,t

to a lcloBe once, It you gay?, agaln,

nasnrt' urrtil {wi!h

that, she sald,

I BaLd, ,I wag,

a j oking

6mile)

anit then kiBBed iqer replleE?)

a llt't]e

nore paBeionately.

(Anyone know any bettet

3. Iily favorltse MyaEeryrE. poineed

r,ras a variatloa

of ehe "do spelts

wotkn tine

of I

I said tbat

and lhen launched ineo a Etoly sonething tike,

I maale up.

to my friend

and said over lhere

"The reason I,m aBking at a

iE becauae lny friend

ls new to IrA. And he met a gir1

clu.b. Ee \rasn, t intetestsed h16 tl4)e lAts tshiE point, 'no,

in her Bexualty. t'he girl

becauge she rrrasn,t really 'sure,r kino i{hich is grear

atwayE says, and begin light

beeauae I can 6ay,

reatly",

andt teasing_

p1u6 it

shous uE as nice guys wbo ieomen are att.ract.ed house arld afLer she teft,

hol . ]\n],way,

she came over to his meLal ring

he foundt a corrodeat under his

and some f,eathers

lrrapped around a scrotl to a magick store

sofa cushion.

We1l, he took it spell. altracted

and they 6aial its is, itrs her6 sualdenty Lhe spelt or

waa an altraction finding htmself

And. now, tshe strange to her. Do you think

thing that

jusc peychological?,

this

isn,h

genLue ot anylhlng,

but

iE nevef, falleal patlerng.

to ge! a gooat slnce the class.

convo golng and open up doore for Irve been uing Eone other

Iton ever,

openerE that

lnvolve

props/glfimickE.

Ae for

other

toutineE/pabtern,

I liked:

C|tle about ho!,, there ahould enjoy

ate so few day6 in ou! actlve

lifehime,

anal we

each moment to LtB maximum.

Theretg perfection

aIBo one abou! holr our enotlonal whil.e tbe inteltectuaL It end6 wlth me pulting tight

cilcuitry

hag evolveil

to

pa!ts of our bralns

is ne!, anal but I can,E

Lmperfec!.

the back of he! halr. adymore. Mystery

seen Eo get thls poEL It here?

one quile

or aoneone, can ysu

A felr good BF deFtroyerE

too long to explaifl

right

now.

various

nega- -f,al<e naj.IB,

ometbing in her ear,

etc,

Question ganes

A kino

storl

called

Dino I6land

Etc,

eLc. etc.

ABoaTmouB aekea

"You said Lt lras easy bo di8arm the guys.

lihat did you say to them on

gtyTe

replleEl

Thls is In other ju6t

eaBy. You jusc words,

eay to the guys what you'd elxile

neve!

eay to a girl. i3 sarging, you

you make Bma1l ta1k. anything:

your fllend

ask her ma16 frlendB

nHowrd you guya end up here do before tb.I-

Conight?n thi6?'t

uwhat did you alt "Are you guys from around here?u They juBt \rant to be pald aetention watching

llhaEeve!.

to so lbat guy

egoB alen't enteltaLn

brulsed the chick

a6 they Etand arouid they're

some olher

Buppoeed to be enlertaining.

seyl.

wr!EeF.
Re! Odious aad ldygtery

Eubject'!

Okay, I think

I should weigh in on thiB

is8ue

(ha ha) .

seriously, lt tike

thi

j.6 the word on iteight: If

IE i3 not how nuch you weigh, (tsry a course

i.s how you ca?ry yourself. Alexande! Technique), (just

you have good postule

move glacefully

(take dance or novemen! or black (do people to

classes), button

dress well

a clean. pressed black !_shi!t padts witl do),

dol,'rr shlrt

and black

and have confidence

what you need tso do tso get this--be about their think tavolite lopic,

ouEgoing ar}d EPeak Eo other

tshemselve6), people r,till

be le6e 1ikely

of you as nfatr

and more likety

!o eee you as rbiS.i

I knott tshis

because a good friend ooLrds--jusE

of

nine

is

IMMENSE. He's sr6gdrious, is. cu-e,

vell

over

3OO ou.soirg cute

huge. ErL he,s a clean, parry

posicive,

guy who always knowe where the s'rls. socialite I can't In facE, girt.

And he gets ve y thin,

laid--by very .iry

I know Lhis reall) and, jusl recently, fi!

she srarred together, bu!

daring I

my Brc

friend.

ewen imagine

hovr they

guess she can...

So, Grim Reaper Dude, it it. If you really

may take nore work for

you, but you can do

set your mind to it yourself

and made some changes, you could

completely reinven!

in a year and be THE MAN.

Style

writesr Quick Adwice Needed on HBBxstripper

aubjeclr

You rnay remernlcer HBExstr:ipper, ago. lons She tras the of IOIS, one who brought

from

a field lhe

report

from

a couple

weeks

me into kep!

balhroom

and was giving ce_ l. I had

and Lhen her boyfriend I should i! call turns her out

calling

on rhe rhar

asked whether \,,ith her I called

or no!,

considering me lrhile

she lives

BF. well/ her

she called

r was on vacation. on the last phone nighr tust on. r bu!

back roday,

and she \ras giving for

good rOIs kiss

(talking couldn't broke

about find

how she was looking any good guys). her boyfriend, but got But, so I off

eomeone to

aE t.he same time, was also the her the

6he atso !o cry

up with

ehoulder

gave her invited

some advice, ne lo go lo

phone a liEtte this

quickly.

Then she are lhe

Las Vegas wilh

weekend. Now, here

1. How do I keep myself lurn lhe conversalion have me in

from being

the

shouldex positive but

!o

cry

on and insread She may ro turn inlo

towards as lhe

eliciting rebound,

slales. wanr

already lhe

mind

r don,t

shoulder.

2. Her BF lives "with going a really jusL

in Vegas. She said she'6 hot frierd"

going dot+'rrthere

thiE

weekeDd

and warlts ne !o join about lhingE.

them. she said shers so. should I:

Lo have fun and forget

A. co along and hope lhat her and her BB friende.

netfl

have a f,un, crazy

lost. weekend oltb

B. Make planB for he! there

nhen Ebe returnB her lhere

fron

vegas.

I fear

that

going with

or meeting

may be suppllcatlon-

- I | 11 be depending alwaya the riak

on HER to Bhon ne a good bine in HER clty, her BF nrl1I call

and thererE

and Bher1l go lunnj.ng back.

gtyla

vtltat:. Ra3 IdID REPORTIttttI

acts Bu.bJ

Nice,

honest

lay repo!ts.

Made me think

of Ewo lhlnga:

1. succeBs is

a matEer of talent

and Eining,

the fact

lhat

you all work. you

apploached a IIB who bad jugt The lesson here for find lhe right

beeIl etood up iB wbats nade thig approach,

newbie6 is appfoach, at the right Eine.

apptoacb untiL

pelson

2, Novr, the Eecodd thing wonan's self-esleen,

your post raise6 a girl

i6 a good lesson

in a with a

Of, coulse,

who goes back to a hotel good about hersef,f. all

gruy 6hei6 JuBE nets iB not going to feel talteal out, al1 acltng like a "bitch,'

l{hen Ehe freaked

aE you eay, arld getting

she wanted vas solne reassurance you don't do this atl

thats she had done tshe righ! and that you were a nice

tshing, that

the tine,

guy. Wben you say ,,we11 the leasr you leave,,' thal's total

you can do is

give me a bj before

Neanderrhat/AFc behavior.

l']y guess her

is

thal If to

you

felt

insecure

afteiwards,

and 11'ere freaked and been

out

reaction.

you had understood (in other. words,

how she was feeling eased her to doubts

slnpathetic her),

her

and raken gorren

cdre youx

you probably inl of,

could

have continued feeling this

see her--and

pracrice advantage

Instead, and I'd

she left guess that

lricked sor! of

and feeling ruined the

taken experience

Nexl time,

r.rndersland hoo she's feeling. vork on a parlern

And, if telting

you,re really

feeling

bad about your ability, firsl

gomeonehow the

rime, you re lusr so exciLed co be wirh her char you can L netp sood rhing, and berler,

yourself because she turns you on Eo much. But. rhis rs. because you know lhat unril over time/ the sex will get berter

you bolh know juEr how to pleasure each oEher for hours and Tell her how i!'s grear ro have gotten rension se*

hours, over and over, etc.

out of the way, and now you can drop lhe sexual and just be complelely comfortable together

and the gameE,

aE you get to know each

o l h e r e m o E i o n ally a n d p h y 6 - c o l l y .

Othe! inslead

lhan of

t.hat, coning

it

sounds like on so strong

you did

a nice

job.

lhe

future, hor

and persistenr, (something

conslder r only

ptaying

and cold,

rewarding lo

and punishing

recenrly

tearned

from Mystery

greats effect),

!o make HER wan! you more.

I hope lhis

helps I

Style

writes,

eubjecu:

Daallng

with

"diffLculti

girls

cEre in every 20 or so $onen I approach is geh tshro tr for purposely then, a loop.

a 'difficult"

girl,

and r

What I nean by difficuLt It'E

ie tshat theyrre talking. But,

contfarian.

okay to approach and staf,! out.

hhey don'E want to be figuied to uBe bhe values

So anyt ime thaL you say of, gain rappor! or sbow

anythlng that

yourve elicited

you underBland

lhem, tshey'1l

leBpond by either

Baying the and you shit

oppo6lEe or by Jus! answerLng vaglrely non-cofifilta11y. Basically, lte

and mysterioualy

these are ltomen who are glving all the time, half

leBts and batEleB of, and half Bmillng nowhe!. ever eahit so tied aE a protectlve and enjoylng Theyrle !ha!

aB a meehod ot ftilling dislance. Theyrie abeolutely ones to ia

Ehleld

to keep enotionaL

the convelsalion, gir16

but you are getling

the easles! lheyrve

!o flgule

out', but Che laat

been fl$Eed

out becauBe their and "too

gelf-image intelligeDt thie

up 1n the idea of belng plcked up.i

"compLicatedtr

be ou! getting

ltm probably

not erq)laining

aa wall

I cou1d, but do you know the Eype of woman lrm talking

abou!?

Anyway, I usual,ly

ge! frustrated

and ejec! alnays

ol move on to her friend siriLe and nevel 6hou i!).

(becauEe I ge! annoyed, Ehough It1I BuE. doeg anyone have a blldge women, Eo get pas! simple, there's trying lntereEting,

or pattern crl4)tlc

or idea thaE works od these cotnnents to the more underneath? perhaps, Or maybe inEEead of

the BS atrd alupid and vulnelable

woman hlding

a way !o compleEeLy change her state--by. to build rappolt, taking het outside

of belseLf of adventure

in some (witb worda or

ray--very actionB) self,-inage don't

gtlongly

takLng her on 6one sort

Ehat rnakes her fofge! she so lightly elings

about asd let to for

go of, her6elf

and the

a noment. Maybe nore negs? I as an

know. Any 6uggestions? must be a way.)

(and I'n

not acceptsing "eject"

anslre!--there

Style

writea: Inlroducing.
..the balhroom lakeaway?

Eubj ect:

learned somelhing nFq (at

least

think

iE's

new) by accioenL -dsl

ntghl .

Slrike

up a conversation be in line.

with an HB who,s in lhe bathroom line

(you

can either

walking past/

or lralking oul of the bathroom) . sex magrc,

Have a gimmick in mind (pa1n-reading, handwrihing analysis, runes, digicam, \rhalever) . Turn lhe convetsalion you oan! lo perfornr on her. gimmlck would really
hF/ ind cFc rf r,^,, .:r

ro whatever gimmick her thar your ir on

Thell do a rakeaway. Tell and i!

blou her. nind,

ial I hcr

would be fun to try

invrhird

obviously, enough time But find

the

bathroon

Line

isn,t

the

place t

to

do it, go find

and there

isn'h

an,'way. Then say,

rrLisEen,

have to

my friende.

me when you're

done, and we'll

Lry LhiE LogeEhe..'

It

worked great a1I of

for

me ]ast

night,

because I,d HB (returning

be lalking from the for

l,lith

one HB,

and lhen would find

a sudden pull

another

bathroom) ber. proof/ This but I stay

ne/

me aside, because not wheie HB after

and beg me to perfom onty was i! great of or

worked out was in

great/

social

a situation bathroom to

I had my choice we sat for being do\rn,

women. I go find

could other

eilher

witsh the talking

the

HB I was

and apologize

too popular.

Maybe this I tried il

is

obvious,

but

lrd tines

never lhe

lhoughL

of

il

before. for

Last me. (Ir

nishl helpe

lwice,

and bolh

HB came looking

tso be a good, enthu6iaetic intsrignred by the

giiunick. )

conversa!iona1:6!,

60 thaE tshe HB is really

SeyTe wrLEes. 6ubjecgr Re. Altl-Flaklng Iechalques?

I've

noticed

that

the beat way to keep an HB fton you leave. In othe!

flahing

1B to aets uP Plan olr

DEFINITE plang before meetlng for coffee

nroldE, donrE juat

aomebime or seeing each ouher later va1ue6, 'I'11 eliciL

in the week.

l,{hen you're

ell.cl.ting

EV!:NTS Eoo. Then, !,,hen you (wbatever, Ltut cool barJ. facto! ia rnuch

#cLoEe, you can say, the more nenorabfe this probably

sall

you to go to Ehat..,n -concert, advice, anu6enent park, but the flake

the btter-

seemE like

obvious a definile

l-ess when you cloBe wilh to 'hang out. i

plan lalher

thall ju6ts an agreeDat

A1Eo, on lhe he!

Eame Ehread, whetr you #cLose wiEh a g1!1 and don't

cell

(whlch bappens a1l the tlme), lf

whaE do you aay Eo her lrhen you see up where you lef,l {and having to

her agaLn, eBpecially off, and go fo! apol.ogize for

you decide you wan! !o pick or no!e? l{aa not calling rappolt? her

a *clo6e lt) ruined

Style

wtlEegr Ret PaID readi.lg

subjeqt!

okay,

you aI1 are going to thanh ne for

this

additsion to your

palm- reading

Novices The right

may wonder whether to read the left hadd 16 connected to your left

hand or the right Lhe analytic

hand. side

brain,

(which deals r,ritsh numlrers, larguage, teLls

logic,

etsc.),

eo its generatly hanat iB 6iale whele Ehe the left anal

you about who sorneone isr on Ehe outside. by the right artietlc, brain, which is

Xhe teft

controlled (creative,

someone,s intultive Now, and here's i6 true, lines tha!

itetinctual, tell

erotic). her, and tbis

good patterning

cones in,

hand almoat alwayB has clearef, this reflectE

and cleane!

than the right,

the degree of repressLon selves.

in ou! society

of our nahural the

intuitive Natural

and erotic !{oman patleln.

you can use thle

to launch into

Oh, and 6ometLmeB, because I llve palm-feading hag become c1Lch6 for

ln CaliforDia, pus. But ilrB

I worry

that

JusE noE tsrue: ItBs stuff

love 18, At a bar on Saturday, riCh 6aid,

I nras talklng

about psychlc-lype her hand into t.ireal of heering

an HB and e1l of a gudden Ehe Ju6! thrugt "Can you read palmE?,' No one eve! gets people could get thetr

mine anat about wanE

themBelveg!

palms tead every alay elral BEiII

SEyle wrlgest Eubject3 Crgual OpeDers vE Routj.DEs

l'{hich

do you think

16 nole ef,fectlve: or a loutite

a caBual opene! (a made-up story

(a Bholt,

EituaEiooai.

question)

or gimmlck)

AL6o, j.s o4e better

fot

a cl.ub and the other

better

fo,

stsreet pus.

For example, you walk up !o the bu6 stop and an HBg.5 is tshere. what is goirg greace! close: to Lead uLtirnatsely to greate, rapport

Etanating or a

A. Saying eomething like,

"Have you been iraitsing

tong?"

or ,rThose

boots ale amazing. Where did you get them?,'

B. Laulrching handwriting

into

a routlne, for

tike

telting

he! you need t'o pracrice it or1 her. (spells, story, and Or tsetling

analysis

a cfass

and then doing witsh a frlend

her you lrere having relael.onship8, then ellciting

an ar$rment

about

whatever) , giving b6r values.

her the lrhole excitlng

Non, Eay you Bee an H88.5 ets a ba! (uhich le eBaenelally leading

in a club.

What do you go vrith, or B ($hich is

w{Ch 6ma11 talk) lhe rlgk

throwing

her int'o the excitemen!, "irelrdn ) ?

brrt also llllre

of maklng you eeem

Etyla

v!!ta'r Charact.rlgtlcs of Whg

Eubjecl!

Is 1t better looklng

t.o aarge wlth

a Wing who le belter

1ooking o! worse

than yourself?

The dil.emma la that atEentlon prize

the better

looking

ning aLtracts

more femal"e

to your gloup of lhe grouP.

but the worse-looking

wing makes you the

catch

(Itm a8king

this

quesElon cause f Bonetsimes wtng lritsh a $ry who rs and we talk to ton6 of HBs. but him--ever I tend no! tso do as though he haB almost

model naterlal, well

because they naj.nly

have eyes for

no PU 6tyte. )

Arlonylrou6

writeg:

"Does anybody have Eargi[g

stories

ir

grocery

stores?"

geyle

z:epllesl

Even beEte! natural

tban a grocery store fiI1ed

store

is

a hea1tsh-food-Cype sbore, fiBrket o! $hatever. And no! only

or a They are are up a

fooal grocery

or an organic

aLmost excluaively thele

$itsh nomen from 18-40. few guyE, but its it'E

bons of HBs and very

so ea6y to strlke

conversation. $eird then,

Ttrle i6 weak, but

urorked f,or me !o just and say,

see some

food ploduct fron thele,

1n an HBt6 cart Elert talking there flnd

'rAre those any gooat?', and lhen health, for a *c1ose. and then

about dlet, a connectlon

lifeEEyle,

and wlehln

gtyle

wtltas!. Tha Best Frlend tpproach?

subject3

I Ba\r a girl of mine.

from the back laBt

week, and thought

it. was a good friend but \rrhen she ',I'n 60

I grabbed her Buper-affectionaEeLy i.t waB a ilifferent llke my best friend

from behind, girl. I 6aid,

turneal around X reallzed 6orry. but you look juBt

:{XX. And you can take Then I walked tshink anyEhing

lhats a6 a complinent,

because Ehe,E a very cooL girt.r and didn'ts

away becauBe ehe was in a gloup of friend6, of it.

Later,

I was by the bar arld she just

came up? a tittle

drunk,

put her

hand on fiV chest

and looked at me with

tshe DDB. We fluffed

f,or abour s

seconds. and then l realized whispering doesn't while. in her ear with to kis6

thats she was just my cheek brushing iny best friend.

up for hers,

it.

I 6aid. just a

'tYou know, it

seem right I probably

t' arld then we nade out fo! some reaEon,

could have taken het hone, but' for I startsed tso get a litLle .

because iL waE TOO easy, (MAVE to $ork olr this)

nervouE and blew it

Anyway, the question a cloae friend,

is

thlB:

do you think

that

misEaking

someone for

greellng

tbem very

affectionately, that it's

and then euddenly

doidg a lakeavray when you reallze generaL approach?

not' lhen lrould lrork aB a

(I thought affecli.on

that

naybe thiE

wolked because she 6aw the ingimacy 6he was a friend

and

Ehe COIU,Dhave lf

of mlne, o! nraybe she iras

Just feeling

randy and in the mood. )

seyZe vrltas. subjccts Rq! OraI 6er<

ItrB

actually

really

eaEy: role play.

SuggeBE 1016 playlng s!ar, that being rornally naid/boEs, you can tel1

some f,ur night.

V{haLever you do (groupie/rock of authoriby of she Bo

e6cort/cliert)

putss you in a posiLion

he! what tso do, alld puts her in the posiu-on than herself, It's especially so lhats itt6 good if

Eorneone other wouldrrts. (like

okay tso do lhiDg6 a role-pl.ay

you create

relationship

rock eta!/groupie)

where oral

sex is part

of hhe

IJeC me kaow bow !hi6

wolks

for

you!

It

shoutd open up other

aepects of

tr
I t
I
StyTe writesr Eubject: Sunday Sarging Report wiEh QuegtsionE

I wanled reporl. I

lo

deal. wilh

a couple

issue/

but

in

the

for.m of with there

a field crimble. for future

had a reatly Ross ,l a!

interestins a museum to

sunday of les! lhe

sarging walers

I
I

We wen! wilh sarging.

I!

v,as lhe

firsE

time

I had met Ross, in the our besl

and I was inpressed: lhe \rord.

the

man is

a master palterns

maniprjLator, were jusl lo

senEe of

Anchors

and

oozing at

of him. and/ to

My favorile near at the

was when we vrent out some women/ he expanse and see how

on a balcony commenled all

look

a city it l'as

standing look out

on how amazing

the pieceE frt

60 smoolhly rnto

the uhole/hole.

Also,

Grinrlcle of

and I fun.

cruised

around really

a student done a lot eaey.

neighborhood of street

and garging (nore

had a to! bars

T haven'l but il in

and clubs), dilections;

was amazingly the process,

We'd just

6top

someone and of info

ask for about

they,d about like get l the

giwe us some scrap it; and then werd

lhemselves. into

t^Ierd ask a question doing something frm

lransitj.on crimloLe is for +closes.

lhe

Cube with

tbem. Now, lr:ances

a genius

SSrer,

and {ou1d a slore.

them into

anazing

The best girl

was in

was cutJing one super-cute same vith the orher girl ho

Asian-Latina uorked lhere,

while

he was doing chlck. and,

a hippie

They were rgnoring if we were in

the phone and or bar or house, over Two:

customers the hippie

and everyching, girl

a club

was so turned

on that

ehe would leads

hawe been aff me to Question

Grimble.

I muet learn

moxe NLPI And this

Raised E:.peclations. e16e, I was excitsed just to geE one about anv

Before asF anal sS and everything

phone nuniber a week. Non, I know that girl, So, no$l lrm coming home tith actually calt),

I can #close l,vith just

a pocketfut

of nurnbere {one or euo or like te3ults r fail'ed' ttith to

of, which I'11 I'n

and f,eeling frustlated get instant physlcal problen

rnore inpatient

now 1f I ilon't

these nen methoalg. DoeB alryone else bave lhis manage theii expecEationB?

of needlng

Anywayr we met tno bisexlrat nranalellng aloutd didn't), bit We dld kl1l1ng

91!18 ln the shteeE who !'ere Jus! time' They both lived in lhe alea (!te anil tha! go! them aloused' I felc like and had a

Eome Ss'lng,

of 8ex taLk. But, when \de lef!, PUA woulil have brought the roIB.

we had falled' for if you thtl a

^a

becaue a lrue litt]e

them somewhere pllvale go, the quesllon 13'

fud once he Balr all

a couple girlB

ir! tshe EtreeE atutillg the day, arld you can tell

up for e little
to thei! smoolhIy feel

aalvenlure, what is your EtraEegy fo! getEing tbeo

you cad'E be loo blatant: it muBL be 'ld and they ddrt' Any ll

honee? ObvlouEly, anal na!u!al1y,

so that

tshe mood doesn'E bleak ol whatever'

eiEher

scaleal or Blutly

o! nanipulated

suggeEtlonE?

SEyIe eEiEeB. subjects: Now Stripper $cloEe: field tegt

Irve

lteve? been a stlip

club guy'

because I know thats with

seduction, club,

I have a belter get played.

chance of Eut,

getting

laid

than tas

ar

a srrip

where I,11

since

I !,,as in I

Vegas rhis srrip

weekend and knew I'd club Etuf! I in the in

end up in

strip

cLubs, to

read Mysrery's

archiveE

and dec:ded

Ery my olrn plan. a eeat at the table facing r

walked

wiEh my fr:iends, I didn't at look the

and took once.

away from lhe said, 'Of all

stage.

when a stripper lhe

approachedr I'm

rhe people

table,

you picked

wrong guy.

complele]y

gay. 'l 'rA lot of my best cuslomers rourine are gay( of and offered

Then she said, me a nassage, doing this for

and went into a ]irlle to

the

srripper and really

how she was jusr Lne dd her r'm off

while, start.

needed the money ror lhe speech/ I cur

company she wanted and said, keeping rrwhy don'! you fron

Midway through

you rake my seat

and talk

to my friend.

making money.,, also, I realize in now, is "Why would I wan!

(What I lo

shouLd have said a massage. I,m

pay you for

trained

S!.redish masEage, and you

should

pay me f,or a massage.") lhe bathroom, then relurned again, and took I told a sea! her behind the Then buy

I went !o table. I said, Another

stripper

came up and,

I !,as gay. I vrouldn,t

nAnd, do you know wha!? Aven if

I wa6 etraigh!,

a dance from you. ,,why?i, she asked. 'rBecause my boyfriend soon as he dancee for he's !o]d a hundred -i6 a dancer,, starts I said. 'And I then lhe know chat as

someone, or thal

telling he doesn,t

same storres

people

night,

see them as human person, amazingly " someone who fun {I lhrngs drdn't

beings. I could

And you aclually actually and I delrver it

seem like wilh

an interesting and do a lot ruin lhat of

be friends

with/ qr'!e

woulah't

want you to

opportunity.

Lh-is as ue1l as I seemed effeccive. told her lhat laps

juEt )

krroce -L-i-

w.s my firsE

altempt-but

Then I on one of

she should but kepl

go make some money,

eo she sat. ne a

ny friend's

ralking

to me. She touched

Iot,

but

I didn't

return

the kino once.

I gave her a variation

of the

NaEural Womanpattern, are tslutst

eaying how moat men may think tupLight,' but

thaE 6trippers every i{oman stripper she

and businesswomen are It

in fact

haE tto

women inside.

worked okay. but then she went into

mode and 6aid, wag pald

nI Love aex.n So I juat and $e talked for

cul her doetr and sai.d lhat a whLle. But it

to Bay that,

was hard to

keep her from delivering In t'he neantine, wlth my other fllend.

her uauaf routine. the oliginal Blripper who approached lreat off

She gave fire the thunibE up behtlrd hie back as she becauBe It neane that lre nere colleaguee-r lraE

1efE. lrhich \ra gleat on her alde helping

her get BuckerE/cuBtonerB. wilh my friend, and thankg me. I tell ber

she comeB back laler !ha! If

ahetE bored between ilanceE, to come bach and I'lL She leturna and pretly at valious points, the thlngB and I tell

keep be!

edtelt,alned. boyfllend, girl.

her about ny

rnuch repeat

I a-ald to lhe previoua

Every now and then I Bend her alray to go nake money, and Bh She aayB I'm leally i

makea a 1ap and lhen JuBt comeE back.

atd I tel1 her Iim coning !o lordn nexts t eek for a concerE and d.or:l know anyone (hlnE, hlnt) . she Bays sh6'E lnuo the band, and Ehat tlq can'! flnd anyone to go? I ebould call
I'n i!'a reall.y not that irto herr thiE

her.
was just plactice. r thinh

a good rouEine

though? because r estsablished

myse1f, as completely (Bo Ehat I lras aE the noat I'm not

unintereted

in he! phyaically,

helped her ge! buaineae

more pirlp than cugtoine! to her) , and then proved my north inlereBting that \rorried guy in the c1ub. and, alouts Ehe gay line, lt \ronr! matte!. It if I do actually call

he!,

becauee if

I can get he! attracted

enough to ne, for he!. it.

nay even be nore of a fun challenge excited !o work on it and

Any Ehoughla on lhis

approach? I'n

refine

Now? one nore thidg: that for atstractive,

oue of llv friends, cool

who ia older job,

and no! wents off one.

but is pretty a stripper,

and haa a kick-aaE

a lapdance with

\dho totaLly

Euckeled him irlto

il F

F
F

Back lhere, r:eally

he said, for

',co gentle. lvet pants or

have a wife

at

home, and am no! they ralked a to!, she came

looking

anything.

,' Anlray, and if ir

and she asked him where he was stayrng over lonight or tonorrow. They stayed paid for

was okay if for rwo said

back one. dance,

rhere

songs !ha! her patms And "Did

talking, vere then,

ewen though after the

he only talk club,

He also as if

swealy

and light her

she was excired_ asked my friend,

\,,hen we lefl Rachel's the

the

srripper

friend

you get

number? " is this: rdorrh was rhis (or get lusr a strlpper racEac to , or ras in she

Nov, give

queslion his

my friend

money's And if

him ro rerurn) inrerested rutes

actually he paid have !o a lilt]e

intere6ted? for a dance,

she ras

actually

hjm after atwdys tob lrith

does Ehis mean that Or does i! mean that matler

stripper if

don'r

be followed? pover/ it

you have a coot the

doesn't

really

\,rhat you do in

club?

Styla

wtitegr Celling into her house

6ubject:

I went out

!'rth of

an Asian fun, I

(,Iapane6e) girl

I met sarging

wirh

Grimble. so I go!

She was a lol

and really a1l

responded !rel1 lhe cord of lighr

ro palterns, stuff

to make up a lot. building for his if inside inlo but

lurned

(and energy palEern, with as

needing

release)

from

rhe insEan!

connecraon singer

example, audience, I'm the

a pattern of course

on lhe

way a cerrain

connects

gesEurins the

belween us and firing

anchors

singer

and she's

audience.

Anl vay, pul1

re

make

in
h.

the club,
cn-,t

and she,s Id
e i I r.--a

r_y responsive.

Then we

up outside

iYA

but also move6 my hand away a litlle private.

ia case it

goes anl.lrhere Eoo' umr

I kno!, tshat if tha! don't saying,

I coulal get upstalrB, nlets's take thiB

it

would all

be okay'

But, o!

I knott

Bonewhete more comfortable'r for he!' for

rtwhy

we go upstairsrtltitl

be tsoo direct

so, when you canrts an excu6e easy to and you

get to youf, house, rirhat are your tactics !o go Eo e HB'E house? Obviously, come up wlth sonehhlng !o sbow he!, if lt'e ptay

coming up with

your house, iL's for her, whatever,

bolh know !tha! the gubbetct ls, lhere

buE lthat do you do fo!

HER house? (A!e

any plop6 you could bring-_Eomething

you want Eo show her bu!

neeal to alo 1t itr Ehe prlvacy

of a houee as opposed to a ca! or a bar?)

gtyl

jElteer Ret geducuLoa lBd l4lrrov

6u.bjact.

Actually, taking ONLY if

lttl!)rov can help your game. But not enough t'o make iE wolttr the cla66

for thaE reaBon afone. Hele's how inplov helps--aDd

(enail me if you wan! recoinnendaliong) |

you have a gooal teacber

1. l,eatning actually spot. thlng !o spin

to alo good inProv

is not abou!

ibeins

furmy,'r with

iE'6

about learDing

t'o cleaEe a leLatlonshtp

Eoneone on the the

so, 6everal you learn into

of theEe tactics abou! creating

appl'y to Pu'ing'

In additlon'

refatLonEhlpB

in lmprov are very easy with a EB'

gooal paEterlls

in conversations

2. It's

also gooal for

Learning

to be in lhe nomenE more, to ltalk

into here)

a scene witbout and cow)tetely reEpoadling escalatsiltg

a script cleate

(whlch sometime6 we reLy on too heavily out of notbing otshe! per6on by EirFly sayF and tshen though it'6

a relationship to \,rhat the

affifiBtively it (and often cool

making a gane of it)' (and there

But,

a lot

of, fu.Ir a.!Id pletty

alwaye a couple HBs in a c1a6s) ' I

find vnen

that

improv

hasn'l

necessarity

nade me any quicker:

or

cleverer

sargrng.

SEyle

wtitae Rer

t cetting into her house

Eubject:

Ird firs!

love to post thi6

on faslseducrion,

but,

for

some reason, afler

p o s r s t h e r e , I b e c a m ea ' d e l e E e d u s e r ' a n d I c a n , ! t o g Btrange. Foroihandle, can you email me and let the name, I,d like to use i! me knoi.t there,

back on. ItrE

\rhat I need !o do to reactivate since it's

lhe nar0e I use here on AS!'.

lAlso,

I believe

Chris had me pos! a field

reporc on fastseduction, Chris, I love your what you -- bur s!i]1

promising posts,

Co share some an6!,ers and thoughts.

nan, bul I hope v,he! you're

sarging you deliver

promise! Ho\r abouts a liet1e q,aiting .) l

congruence I irust teasing

Style

writeg t WordleaE PUE

6ubject:

The first with

PUA I net

was a friend arrayr she,d and then, follow hin,

to just

nEke eye conract

a HB. Ee,d walk in the

vhatewer a word

corner,

rhey'd

just

part

wilhou!

exchanged.

Anyone ever done hhis? takes j.s chooEilg

I figure

it'E

juets a fe!, easy 6t.epE. Anat all important, for

it

the right

person and, nost

going i.n with even a

totsa1 and complete confldence, millisecond.

\ritshout hesitsating

I've

a1way6 relied juBt felt

on talk

flrEt,

though there's it with

been that' rale someone I was

tlne

lfherl Irve a1lting

the vlbe

and gone for tatked

next

Eo without

even having

to her.

I'd

l1ke to play tecbnlcally

around with

\rordleEE making out and *cf,oseE (I gueBs Any thoughCs or suggeslions

they'd flon

be *opens) mote oflen.

people rdho do !hls?

Etyla

tb!.tag, Approaqh

u.bjeqt r mreD Olrl6

Hey, I was cM:N

a nlckname today,

and thought

it. waE and goL five nft$ers.

about time I had one. Anl4,'ay, I went outs lonlght In ny AFC dayg, I'd lhl[k I wa6 a BEud for all

Ehis. But now, al1 I approached more,

can Ehlnk abou! Is how I could have done better. f!,Ir!ed and SS'ed better, a.!ld gone for nole

cloBea.

So, before one faiLule. HBs. HeLl, dancing

I get to lhe succeaseg, I went to a great

I need some serious

help with

this

ctub in LA tshat was justs packed wilh by 1j.ke Eeven HBs

even Hugb Eefner nas tshere, surrorrtded tsa.b1e.

around hln aIId oE his

lrnyway, as soon a6 I get there,

the pivotsE I'm with

go to the

t
I I I
b.llroor. thinking girls of lell just Irm alone, how this is dnd T sit all arong on a corch. for As T m siEling social proof/ .here three gener.ating

come up and surround par.ty girls,

me on the and they

couch. their

Theytre

sor!

not-too-bright

put

arms arormd me and a lirtle retf and r 9ir16 and totd r wasn r froze. ran!

me what a lucky bu!,

guy I

am. And I lhey

smiled drifted ready

and joked away. for I

I
I

a good slory, holding This is their

one by one,

coutd

interesl.

They were like I knov don't

actron,

because the that),

openers bLjlding

work

(because the

Lo ge! past it takes too

rapporL dnd NI p rs usefess into

a
I I t

her e \because

much lime),

and phase shifting of three.

making a physical

move won,! Please te11

work on a group ne, like becauEe for lhis fal]s

Whar would you have done here? I atways seem ro ger any vork. stuck

some reason into my lap

lrhen a gifl

withou!

t
t

Anyway, them rha!

luckily,

two really

cute

brunertes with

si!

next

to

ne.

And I

tell

I was diecuEsing to hear lhat in their failed

somelhing opinion. rrilh I

bhe orher lhe

9ir16,

and woutd (about it works.

be curious spirituality) And we get lives wilh

rhen re]1 girls,

same srory rhis line

t I
I I

Ehe three and lhey cell

but

a deep discussion,

siwe me ibeir #--a good tor)

nunJrers {one and make me

a BF so she gives

me her

].alei,

I'm

lalking walks

with by. I

my pivots lurn

and an exotic,

amazingty

slacked She girts.,'

Latin-Aslan says tr23.D I (Thank6 to dom

around and ask her ,'See, that,s discussion over. I 29 in for

how o1d she is. dog years rha! one.) for

!e11 my friends, al faslseduction looking

Kirk but

she sirs

nearby. the

keeps

I wa < up !o

he1 .a e- and and

explain lots

commenL polilely. of kino. in

do sone EV'ing, though I

some palmreading, hawe *closed

and lote

We #c1ose, the orea.

shoutd

buc she

had too m.ny friends

hedr o really

hot blonde saying il's

her o-rEhday Lomo row. T

nenorize birthday

her face so tha!

r cab come up ro her later freaks her our). h

and ,guessi

(which r do. and ir I tett

her

I
-

kants a cigarette. your name, wilt original.

a small,

cule blonde,

lhe meantime, a pivoc i,If I can guess lhe conmenE rs and lake lter

I I
f

you qive ne a cigarerte.r

She 6ays tha!

and then gives

ne one. r ask !o see her palns,

to a seat !o read them. We #close and promise to 90 dancing togerher. But she has been in tove \dith rhe same guy for three yeais anat they decided to take a break a vreek ago. !te,s there, anal tater she brings hin by to introCtuce hin. I can t ell she teets guilty tor giving me l}er number in froht of his f,rj.ends, and he is sizing me up. I,n so coot in these situations that, while he,s Eryrng !o prove how atpha he is around me to her, I nake fliende vrith him and even get his numbet, tolally disarning hirn. I don,t reatly thing the blonde is worlh pursulng uhder thl.s cilcumBlance, thouqh. Laler,

F It I
J
-

et another bar. talking

a prgggy naEty gtrl

is a]t

my chest,

about how badly

6he wanted to

and about how she olrars her boyfliend,s penis. f have some fun 6ugge6ling !ha! we pick up a girl for a threeway (she hug6 me when I suggest lhe idea) and lhen try EO ejec!, buts 6he forces her nunber o!) me when I,m leaving, Anal says "just aE friends, okay?" sure...not lhat I,LI catl

ower me, ber hands on ,,do, some guy who ]eft

a
-

Anyway, sone ctosing on this stuff.

thought'.

one ot my pivots

On the neg abou. age, she 6aiat: that.

aDour conments like r:emenber you. tr

had 60me good comnenls ,,GirI6 think att nighr tshey

when you come up to them 1ater,

And on the importance prepaled: wait finally all

of having

sEoraes,

routsines,

ginmicks,

,,AE these ptaces, night for

etc, Anat I

I atvrays see quys I think

are cute.

them to come and talk 60 boring that

ro me. Then. when they I wonder why I was vlasrind

do come up, they're

Anylvay? tbie

post nay be a little firet thlee

long, party

but girls

let

me know lrhat you lroul.d value

have done !,rlth those instantly.

Eo demonElrate

Seyle v'lltes. subjeet: Re! Wordlegs PUE

Doc, My fllend neceEBallly rlght nolEl noticed puttj.ng

wean,t' teally you're

a good-looking a good-looking lelaxed,

guy. And 1! r,ron,t guy. t{hat you need is gaze, the

be ea8y lf

pleBence! 11ps that that out, l!

conforta.bl.e, Beem alnost $aE a certaLn

a deep Bensit.ive When l,ve

BLi.ghl1y

lrrei6tib1e. frieDdly,

done its, I've vibe I wag

open, seductive it

I JUE! can,t

f,lgulc

out' how to call

up at \ri]ll

And, Ploto, So, tell

I agree lhat

lts'a maLnly a thing

to do ln clu.bB and bars. I'n dyj.ng t'o

uE, ho\drd you !,u11 tht6

of,f 1n a bank llne?l

hear thlE oae..,

SEyle vrlEes ubjact3 Re. Grset plaqe lo piqk up

Nice o!re. Anil you Imow wllat llray even be better: a,rn., when the ba:aa are closed mi6ed her laat train stalion. train and isn,ts arld maybe theret6 looking

Penn Statior atr IIB there

at 4 who's out in

forarard to clashing

Next tine have to hit It,

I'm

in NY, and have a bad night

in tshe bars. ltow that 6he's

I jost I thirtr

migh! abouc lritsh

thie

up on tshe way home. In fact,

a gooal harmlesE o!,ener would be to ask if ln a powder blue colrboy hat"

seen "a girl

blonde hair calleal

(or nbatever)

. say she lusc

and wanted to craEb at your place f,ind her. Then, after

because Ehe miBsed her train, building sone ?apport with the

but non you can't targe!, frieod lnvltse doean't

her over,

60 that

the Bofabed you prepareal f,of, your

go Co lraste.

let

uF know when you field

test. any of EhlB penn Statlon

etuf,f,..

Ano'Jr,'|tott9 vtltas,

Where are tbe6e traEhy

chickE?

gtyla

rep !!,etl

Iraa Vegas, lrhere elEe? {Tustsgot back from a nlght

out.

Tons of #closes,

An).!ray, what workeil for

me tonighc

was:

1. ToI1Eof aocLal proof, frorn one !o the other, attentsion aII three from very

I had three sets of g86, and ]'d tha!

Just move

and I noticed

the mole I was getting of which had bf,6--and the lightly less

attractive

HBs (alL thlee the more btatant

of which I *closed).

attractive

EBs wouLd be in coming olr to me. By bhe end of tshe nighr, coning up tso me 6aying, "Don'ts I knolr you from

women $e!e just

I
2. Knoirring where then into the lhe party clubs. was. I made myself \rho wanted the the to leader of rhe group, on I go! had lo taking really Anyone myself to in know what of has host, was goirs "the guy r! cone !o me. I put care of everything position everyone

make sure

a good time.n

worked for

ne lonight.

Bu!,

I s!i]l

would l.ike some adwice for all, despite

cold approaches qilh all Che altenrion

rhose

clubbed-out chicks ! After making out, I'n slill

and kino and on ASFI

back in my holet

roon alone tonight

SEyTe writeel

Here'E the \dog years" neg script:

My frlends

and I !,ere Just talklng

abou! ho!, !,onren age ilifferently a lot of \dornedthink 20, you're like

from

men. AB nlen gel oLder and mature, altractive.

they become more already too o1d year6, So we

But for women, once you hit

to be a modeL. So 19 in glrl were saying If you lhtnk !ha! it was unfair

years i6 like

27 in regutar

of our sociely tems.

to age women so quickly. a ironan doesn'r reach her

about it

in evolutionary in life.,'

eexi.ral prime ul)EiL much later

This would have made a good lransition but inslead I sort of lhrew in another

into mini

the nalurat neg.

woman palcemr

',So r,rhen you walked

by, I thought you,d make a perfec!

example."

she said,

r,You keep insulring

ne" (laughing)

said,

laughing to

too

and starting

kino,

',accidentally', trteL's my routine sit

Alld rhen dor:n. r'Il

gestured explain.r

Ehi6 bench nearby went straight

and said. into

And then

without

ever

reatty

e4)1aining,..

This liras all

improvieed

on the fly

{based on a Kirk tso e:.I)lain tshe

po6t

on Formha[d].e I E 61te) , but comnent to her wichout Eex ta1k,

I wa6 ba61ca11y trying (and with

apologizing

negs conlcined with

slighl

animated converEation,

and Bmiling) .

Anoayrcus vtLtes I

'disairn" "Eow did you

her boyfriend

by being

cool and even got hiB #?

DetaLlB on the converEallon/sltuatLon

you had would be grea!"

gtyl.

r.E lLe'l.

Guya here ahrayB Eeen to ask thi8. kind of fulury.

It

$a6 Euper-easy. fluff talk

In fact,

lc was

I Juat aahed hlm uaual

questionB.

She had

already

toLd ne tshat he played

l,aclosae profeB6lonally

(he waB about and how he bad., and fllendly. hln Eo aome he trylng I

20x nore good-Iooklng just noved to xxx.

than me), Eo $e Ealked abou! that 6a1d I go to )lXK all there

go I Just cool tine

lhe time, ale really

thought

1t lras really

and Ehe people I waB there, becauBe after

And Ehen I Bald next cool people. guddenly went !o sor! I!

r could

lntroduce

wa8 funny. hls

he gave ne hla nutibe!, atound, party

utr)to

gi!1f!1end

and BEarted junping he waa a fun, reali.zlng

of do a dance move and sholr tha! aB him alnoBt suddenly

$ry.

Bort of Baw lt happened 6d priinate

subconsciousLy tso his His girt

what had just (showlng his and

reEurning

originat

misslon

maEtery over hi6 girl).

didnrts respond reall-y,

looked over ats ine and Eml1ed (aa if deal with?tr) again I just

to aay,

nDo you see vrhat I have to her on tshe vtay out, very but

she tolat IIle not to fotget get the feelitrg class leaLly dadtty's that, 9ir1'I

Eo call

evett lhough she's way, 1tt6

cute in a because

iupper middle she is for still

not wortsh the tine

enotionally

atstached !o this

guy she ltent out ititsh (even lhough they're

so 1o4g anal seeB him as lhe love of he! Iife

temporarily

broken up)

SEyJe wEiEeE. aubl ect I Ser<ualizing Your caltle

I'm so close lhat poin! jrisl

I ca!] almost laste

it,

but I have one major sticking (rf you,re in a rusn,

and need some Eerious advice from you a]l. skip to the last paragraph of lhis pos!):

I jusl

got back froft

an amazing weekend, but not amazing enough. I gor who work at Hooters and one ilh a tatl

12 #closes. slripper

Tlro $ere with girls

(al1 \rere off

duly at the time) . Another one uas a total with a serious bf, if bu! so smart work).

pale black haired rnodel t]?e, and cooL l'd seMe for

friends

lhe bf deElroyers don't

INOTE

FROM STYIJE,2006: I,M STIIIJ IRIANDS WITH THIS GIRL.] Then there lras thi6 sick Lalin !,oman with a thin, thin baby face, girl and huge sott with with (It naturat breasr6,

and a real1y cool, and lwo liprings

black-haired

a perfec! tiprings?

stender body Anyone?). I had ]ols of

(how do you kiEs a girl

Probabty one of my bes! weekends sargi4g. social proof all

hetped tha!

weekend, and kneo tons of people.)

Now, here,s v,here I need help. I was on a couch with analysis--il like

Despite att

lhis

euccess (at one point hanitwr:iring

six btrs begging to be next. for

uas ridiculous)

/ I only *closed once. And I had a faited I knew she liked so she could me (rons of srand nexE Eo

*c1ose with one of the Eooters girts. hair playing and manipulaling my cell for

her friends phone to find

ne and even calling but I lost confidence

me whenever we separated), rhe *ctoee, so I

a moment when I \,renr in for

The way I eee it, Tbi6 is especially

my sticking true

Poj.nt rights now is

sexualiziag

my gane ' more of i of But

wihh very attractive

vtornen. where tt'E this etc.

challenge.

what are ltays tshat oChels here uee tso accoq)lish patternE, ni6sing. self-points, 6tory-te11in9.

courge, I us6 kino, somelhlng is stl11

t'lhat are way6 others

hele u6e tso gee a girl and su.btle {body

to Eee then and think 1an9ua9e, tonaLity,

of lhen ser<ually, eyeF, lltpes of kino)?

bolh overt A lot

of EBa aaid I was one fel! like way''l r

of the most intereFtiag

guyE lhey had evet met, buL I Etil] naking then want me in rthat

was a Bmall etep away fron

apeclal

I'm also

looking

fo!

i'maklng the move't confidence tt1!h apploache6, should I go fo!

builders,

becauee, thinkiag I gets too

altshough I have no fea! much before rejected?i') kieslng('tHow and blolt i!.

I Eometimes Blart the close? what if

I|ooayapug

reE llagl

"DeEcribe what kino you are doing in detailr when?"

whag, how,

gtyle

rapllegl

Yes, maybe you and supelBobo are rlght. thlnk maybe I've iltte4)reted touching points kino

The key is

In the klno

to mean siq)1y

naking body contact !''aist initial things go when we

when we speak--just Iaugh or make etrorg kino, well.) quality. contact?

ghoulder /nd, of agreemetrt.

then later, (Ats least for

as opPo6edl to the healtt' kino Bu!, naybe, kino

or halrd-hol_ding tsest if

6hou1d be fess abou! qua$tity Etimulating touches instead

arld more about of a 1ots of arou6ing

A few ltell

placed

Maybe Iny probleh

i6 thats I reserve

more firm,

touching

for

the bedroom, and don't

do a4ything

Euggestive

enough

beforehand.

So, SuperBobo anal anyone else here, kino (or how I Bhould) ? Not just

can you retl

me how you u6e The

rhere

and how, buts also lrhen etc.

sooner the better, EBE I #c1o6ed with post. ls

becauee tomof,row (Tuesday) I,m seelng one of the a couple days ago in the nVthen cirts Approachl me why ASF

Thank l|ou 60 nuch f,or Lhe replles, will

and for

remiading

such a godEend. Your advlce

be lq)Ienented

imnediatelyt

8ty7e wtlgag. Eubjequr Rer tn antl-trouble * close, paEEive forqa

YeE, thlg Chat lrve Ilalian

16 a good one. I do 1t all caI]ed, I havell'! iju6t give gotten

the !ime.

And, of Ehe *cloEeB Even once, when an call you,', I didn,t

one fake nunber.

HB aaid

me liour nuriber and I,11 trick,

respond .nd JuEt dld nudber. ]Jike you 6aid,

the paper-flpping 1t'E

And Ehe gave me het wilh a paper

very hard for

her Eo lefuse

and petlcil

ln her hand without

belDg very obnoxlou6.

SCyle viLEesr EubJqetr GetbiDg the .close Etsraighb

fihen I read here about people getting just what they mean.

a *c1o6e,

sometimeE I llronder

llhen I say *cfose, to[gue, When othete llhich is

Irn

talkiog

about pasEiotatse kissing, it soundE like tshey just

wirh got a Peck

eay *c1o6e, the right

the 1ipe.

defiricion?

Ital asgume tshe

naybe Irtll wrong.

I couldnrt lraEnrt

flnd

a speciflc bard eflough.

enough deflnltlon

in the FAO, buh maybe

looking

SEyIa vr!ta1. Eu.bject: Rsr ge:<uallulng Your Catne

Nice poEt,

and klno

degcrlptiodE,

gee my post belolr,

Thi6 iE gleat aone g1rla dealE wtlb her atate

etuf,f,,

and nlce

!o see lt

in detail.

Out of culiosigy, I ltked how

rbaulkn the

aa you 6ayr others

glve a "speech.tr

"baulking."

You were perBi.slent,

hoplng that

at on

would be dlfferent

and she wouldn ' E nbaulk.i if, instead,

But' vrhat. would

l.ou have done, out of culio8iey, dreaded flEpeech.'

Bhe had given you the juBt go! out' of a

You know, the one E\at and you're right " now.

goes rI

seriouB relatio[ship, leady for anyEhlng be flleltds.

rea1ly nlce and a].1, but Itm Just not and vre

I hope you rmderBEand

can !il-l

Style

wrLEes:

Man. Red Conila,

Ehinl< we have

the

EXACT 6ame problem,

We 6hou1d

talk

via

email last

and gel night.

to

the

bottom

of

Lhis.

For fun,

let

me rel]

you

abour

I went out with a beautiful par!

one of those HBs from rhe when Girls Br.azilian girl who just I am:

Approach post. warnrest eyes.

has the bigges!

And, dude, check oul how stupid Afler dinner, she inwites

me up to her house. She sits

next to me about it and

on tshe couch, And do I make a move? No. I keep rhinking lhen imagining relationship', s!i]t...how her rebuking me vrhile Baying ,'r just

gor ou! of a bad

(which she did) . I,m sure its,s on for nexr rime, buc could I choke like lhis game is geltlng ar rhe las! ninure. My girl I #closed of

Find-Meel-Altrac! with last not talkihg

so good (every single

ereekefld called

me backl)

r also made the mistake tonigh! her before.

abou! sex or gexually vith ocean, ar!,

The best I did was terrns.

describe lhings--the

whatever--in

very erotic

StyJ.e wtiEesr Eubject: Ever come acroBg this block?

so all kino,

is going vrell.

I an building

intense rapport,

lhere's

1o!6 of

and we,re back at my house. Two of her friends but she keeps glopping. Her line

are in lhe other heard it

room. We kise, before):

(and I've

I'I've always been eaey and just

jumped inro bed !,irh anyone, like you.,'

bul I wan! !o lake il

slov, because I really

1. gow do you re6pond?

2.

Does this

nean of the

I used oNs?

Lhe wrong

approach:

tsiied

!o

be the

perfect

guy instead

3. lihy am I always the guy who bringB inatead of the bad girl?

outs tshe good gtrt tny biggeEt

in hhem

Thts is probably

6tumb1in9 btock.

tbe other

li.ne she used (which I aleo hear atl maklng further progress

tbe time)

when 6he

stsopped me fron

waB: 'rEvery time I eee you, in evely

yourf,e surrounaed

by a dozen 9ir1,

you musts have a gj.rl

9lhatt6 your reaponge for

thi6

one?

gtyla

wtltegr

EubJeeU: Pboaa llalr|rer 3 Bad AgF advlce

f ,ve notlced sty1e. thing

that

in doing

Ehls Etuff.

everyone haB to fi.nd theh and Eome don,t. Co the it t ere Bo Orte ,'nake pla.Es

And some tenets thal I Etarled

of SS/ASF/FaBtSed work,

dolng when I read ASF ls keeping routine. BuE, I noriced

and get off

the phone fast',

lhit

a]wayE freaked abrupt

t'he IlBs out a llttle

when lhe converBations

end almoBt buiEe6B-1ike. fo11olring

ThiE week (iErE a no Farging been trying to build

week- -and all better instead

up on cl.oses week) I're f clo6ed,

colrnections lo talk for

rdlth the people

and I've

been tsrying they feel nore

Like 15 mLnutes. Tlis investing

way, I think thelr !ime,

connecEed to you (becauae lhey're atoliee in you). Non, I'm not Irnnore gives

thoughtsE, and

juEts a stranger their life,

they met, had fulr wj.th, atrd its's harder to

and can ignore; f,lake. A1Bo, it

woven lnto

me a chance to writse do\m their future

trance

and EV

words next to tsheir name6 ln IIIy phone book--for

refetence,

So, I don't

know if

I gots tshe wrong impression

or idea from previous {with a lirrle

seduction posts, bil

but doing a short chatty phone thing is definitely

of patEerning and ss s]-pped in) and flaking factor

reducing the

blurring

for me. Am I missing sonething here?

Anon}7noua replieg

I feel

tha!

you should be dom-to-eatth

on the phone when talking as a pfayer.,especially trying if

to

HBs. Thie way, one does not come off i6 good-looking, conques!.

rhe guy f,o!

He neede to show he not just

use her jus!

style

tepilaE

I aglee

with

lhis.

A mediocre

looking while other for

guy dripping

vritsh aetirude

may

be ineliguing seem like

and alluring, On the

a stuck-up hand, you,

good-looking \ran! !o is to

guy may just come across

an as6hole.

you don't I,d say,

as a doolrnat'. The bes! olher bul This other not words, slo\r]y lel a girl

approach think

aE frrsL

EhaL you're warm, she's

aloof

or arroganL, 6ide. t.hat

open up lo two

them and 6hos your thingg I Bhe thinks for

down-to-earlh making progress

accomptishes HBs donrt this

and i!'6

exciling

her,

because

she knows you,re good way of return

like

with her if

everyone. you don't to earn if your your

secondly, like her

you have responses for. a 1itt.le

a very (if

"punishingtr kino) vrith

ehe doesn,t vrhile.

by reverling lelting I her think

aloofness

Experiment

rdarn do\rn-lo-earlh lhis right

Bide (not

and see vhat on Ehe

happens.

you

can play

be tsoo aloof

openei,

but noi be too super-nice

immediately),

you'l]

get amazing

gEyle

eftlCer Re: Ever come across thiE block?

Eubjec!!

Once again, Cood post, Btuff.

lot8

of, good advlce, DMZ, brutal

I am realty but tsrue--I

loving

this

board.

Alesgandro.

have t.o wolk on lhis

And Wlzzard,

let's

elther

comnunlcaCe vla I think

email o! BEalt a neu tshread

hele to diacuge

our ploblem.

Lhat maybe Eone HB6 want a And you can,t

rrperfect' guy,' frame and otherts aLwayE find thi8 out r,rlth nornal honest with

lranE a trhot ONgn frame. Ev'ing,

becauee HBs ate not' always abou! which they you !ry

golng to be toeally 'rreal1y

you (o! themgelves) Fron your posts,

lranE deep doldr inside." rrEay the right even if

I wonde! lf

too hard !o supplicalIon!

thi.ng"

to women now. That may be a form of lhings. by ahvayE trying to

we don,t

pay for

pfeaBe Eorneone with tordg we're st.ilt

Euppllcaling.

Sllck That'B

Eddiez, probably

I'm u61ng tha! all

paltern

next

time I hang out lriet! he!.

Bhe wanCed Lo hear.

And naybe I shoutd have by girLEr Line witsh a cocky when they knew out with rigbt

lesponded pacing that, llne

Co the like,

nyou're

always surrounded

"YeB, and ivouLtln't you're

they be jealous

outs of aLl of then,

the one I'rn naking

A'tonyfrou'

wtites2 Ntght club nB7

Eubjects: Re. Lay report:

"I agree tha!

it's

ok to talk

wtth

a wonen about sex as tong as you

don'C cone across, a6 a deEperate horny guy.-..

SEyle reE ilesl.

Exactly. her point deeperate, dellver

I uBed to never of, view,

Lalk abou! Bex, Bu! nord I talk storles that

about it

fron

and leL1

shon ne no! aB soneone lrho ls

bu! a6 soneone who iE able to get anal? nore lnportantlyr I JUBC read a lot idto coovergatLon, about tantra, Bo 1aee1y I've

Eatirfaclion,

been nrorking that behind It.

balking

abou! the ideag and Btuff

Aaoat8o$s

tddgr

ol've

alBo have mede the rnistake gLrl hone.

of golng

fo!

a *close

when I could

have

taken thi6 Laid.'

Keep 1n mlnd that

a #close !ron, E always get you

StyLa add'l

Not only out,

that,

but you ca! gets the phone #, get a leturn ad amazing conneclion.

cal],

hang and

and cfeale

A.nd Ehe STIL! might blur

digappear real"Iy hlo

on you. Thi6 just me, and I ati1l fear of Etartfulg

happend to ne wlth caD't figure

someone who f kne\r waB

out vrha! went \rrong. li4y beat (itt6 with a loss her and

g1rea8ea are: of contlol

to like that

aoneone inlen8ely get physical nan/otd

isue)

or the fact

I didn't

she justs wanted to get iL on lny badl] in the lnearltime- . .

o! another

BF appeared

I I
I think rhe tesson tha! you (and r) are tearning here is: seize rhe momenE, becauae the srate disappear for bul helping an HB i6 in when yourre v/ith her may

t t
I t
I

she teaves you. Of coulser to make her rhink

lhere are SS lactics goxe, than orher

and dream about you when you,re conclusively wolk belter:

I have yet

to see these reatty

methods like

a good takeavay

or e4)ressing

necessary

watue. Arlyone

a
t t

Style Eubject:

|'tLtes

t and Ran Away

She coC Scared

A few days ago I posted tha! HB I had sarged. A strange

I vas going !o see a real"Iy cute

Asian

thirg

happened, anal I wanted to ge! advice. a!|d only a year ago moved out of her

She's from a very stric!

famity,

motherrs house. She was 20 then, and haal never kissed a guy o! anything. Nord, of courBe, she,e lost her virginity. but is stilt pleE!y lnnocen! and inexperienced,

a
3 3 J

a a

F I

So we welrt out, all lhis

and I patlerned

att

nighr,

making nyself

the key !o

out on. The sarge was atong the lines of a famous quote I reait somewhere_ _ ,,The tragedy of life is no! thats il ends so soon, but tha! we wair so tong ro begin it."

adventure

6he was missing

a
a
]

She said thar with,

any guy she had ever been virh we connecred wett part

she had been friends a tot about 6ex. She

but nonethelesE

anal latked

She said that her favorite loved t'o kiss. seraight kiss.

of getting

phyEical was kissing. room, I lookeat her for

When she came back ro my hotel and came in very stowly

in the eyes,

and confidently

t t C
.

She responded,

and I lrent to tower her backwards so lhats sherd of a 6udden, she ctinnced on top of me.

be lying

on the beal. But att

+ + a

aDd just

r,rent oild.

lihile

we were naking

out,

I paused and said

Eomething fike,

,,tou,re a great kiser.',

AlL of, a sudden, 6he just tso go.rr I lried

wents ten6e,

rolled

off

ne, and said, anal talk

trI have t.o her. being

to make her stay,

arld feel

relaxed,

She Eaid Bornething about her ex-boyfriend. f,atr tso hin or Co ne by slarting

and how she wasn't

a new relatlodship

because he was to

golng through patteln

a rough time and needed hin.

I agreed lhen trled

he! out of i!.

But she was Bet on leaving,

and grabbed her that either

purae and walked out of the room very brlBkly. ehe naa aca!6d of ne becauBe things time hanglng out,

I figure

were movilrg loo faBt

on our fi!s! "natural

or ghe lraE scated of herEelf a bllef momenl.

becauEe he!

wonran'r came ouE for

Has anyone had an er<perlence like her loday o! tomorrow,

thls?

Mole impoltanc, out:

I need Eo call it. that

and am trying

!o flgure

What is

ahe needa to hear to be lesB f,ealful, this nen relatlonBhip?

to 6ee ne agaln,

end t,o B!a!t

Attoay'noug

aaka I

"what dld you do to handle two \ronen?"

Style

reFtltae:.

HBAnistor her,

na6 looklng

bored fir6t

because HBpersian wasnrt. i.flcluding and

so I 1et llBturislon

share nry sea! wiEh me. Now Bhe lras stuck, I

when I llras talking

to EBPer.sian I could kino her.

remember wha! I said.

I justs remeniber tshat wtlenever one looked bored,

I'd wilh

turn

to hei

to get an opinion talk

on the su.bject

I nas talking

about

the olher l{B. Tben I'd

to her about her answer, and Itd light up when she had lhe IE

Eotice

thac her face \rould litserally once it of like was lit, trying

attention. was kind

I could turn to lhe other HB Lo talk. lit

to keep llro candtes

on a windy day: I had untit I could hint Overall,

tso keep lighting to HBPer6ian tha! as their incerest

one lhen the other,

over and over, ready for

she 6hou1d be getsting lras building, i!

her flighl.

so was lheir wen! on for

frustration too long.

and jealousy,

and its could hawe gone bad if

At the palCy, I tried HBAnlston,

a different

tactic.

Af,ler a while,

I said to

"Why don,E you ualk to HBcirlinblack. convelgation. tl And :{BAni6ton did feeL like lhe domlnanE female, including it,

we,re leaving her ou! of the

maybe becauee I eald ic

In a way ehat nade her

the other ou! of pI!y.

However, I muEE noee !ha! girls

Mystery's ia:

advj.ce for

Buch sltuauion

with

lwo

i,ho don'c know each olher

say !o HB1: "Heyr have you ever kiased a gj.rl befote?rl HBL: YeB

say to HB2: ',Hey, have you ever kissed a girl HB2: Yes.

before?rt

Say to Botsh: well, Because it

I don't

nant you two kissing I'm

in flont included.

of ne.

only makes me j ealous . , . unless

styTe

wtiteg.

subject:

R e ! Socially

Inepts

Liseen to everyole important, readlng

here. will Start

And read what Specialis! onty get you o f,ar.

says.

But,

mosL the

you nust acts. That is one steD at a time.

only lray to 1earn.

out s1ow, arld take it

Here,a nbat I 6uggeat. newbie challenge epecially),

In additlon

to whah's already la]k with

nentioned

(the

and luet

making snatl

everyone you pa6s you can tel1, aying an

Etart

vrith a p1an. Make a list

of stories

phraBeE you can Bay to people, them ouE 1oud. Ctro\d to llke

uhatsever workB. Then practice

the sound of your o$Yl voice

and trust people.

Lhe f,acts tshat \rhat you have !o Bay Ls iDterestlng They ale boled, of thei.! borlng and looklng daily for

!o other

6ome Bort of etimulatlon

to break our

routine.

Irm alao wiLllng

to bet Ehat yor don'!

look people

in the eye when you

Bpeak to !hem. llold Blalterg, for

your head up and meet their and practice

gaze. Then, for aBking direct,lonE or

walk a?ound where you Iive

Ehe ts1ne o! whalever.

These are AFC tacticB, crea!1ng foltolr

but you have to sta!!

Eomewhere. Then practlce

up conversation.

Itd

lecofilend

reading

nlntroducing

NIJP.,, NoE just

becauEe of the lelearning celtain aE flst, Sone of the and

seduction behavior8,

tactj.cg,

but' becauge of iE6 idea6 about yourEelfr 1!. tearn it

You nuB! retlaLn internalize

may seem contrived

but aoon you'l.L

to nake 6matt taLk.

be8t PIIA I know don't

uBe Sg: tshey're jusE casuat and fliendty

Style

Jtritea.

Eublecu.

ldy New Frale

I've

noticed

tha! my most succegsful

salges

laLely

have been when I

have the mindsets Ehat...

nI an not trying vrhat you nant . rr

to get a[ylhing

from you'

I am trting

tso give You

Last night, was alrlnklng Elory short,

r ltent to neet an HB I haal garged who t'n wiuh another I made nyBelf lE that, ltltb friend, !'lto was lurning girt'6

realIy

into'

she

30. To make a Long preaent' The

the birthday this atlitude,

blrthday

fu.nny thingg

even her frlendB tike)

(including us

Lhe HB $rho I know likee to ]eave logether, happy.I' so it

ne and who I really

were encouraging her. Make her

te1li.ng

ne "Please go home with

becane ME doiag her a favor

f,o! her and her f,linds'

and

lhe obsEacleg became collaborauore.

Anony,8'oue wtlcasr EubJEcC! Rq! Ebe Got Scared and Ran Awry

"I've

reaal aomevthere that

while

kisging

a girl

on a bed, you really

shoulaln'ts give her any cornpLinenEa.'

SEyle repllaa:

Hmn. I get contslaalictoly arld he said thats girts unalelstarld, it's

advice on thie.

I tsa1ked to Ross 'f, about it' From whats I ard, tben back off for a

deed to be fractionatsed t-hat you move for

the theory

little while,

ohile, etc.,

then nove fonrard

further,

Lherr back off

for

a 1itst1e

untsil you've gone all

tshe l'ay.

Any one e16e have ldeas on conversation tshe pa6t, the right Itve hhing, tiked

afler

lhe kiss.

Yes or no? (In Bhe,6 doing

to eay eomethlng tso let not necessary

her know that

but maybe it.'s

and breaka 6t.ate.)

Anonyuoug vrLteEr EubJecC! Re! ('ood day6 & bad DayE

"I,m lrolklng

to becone a PUA and an doing pretty

well

at getting

lhere,

but 6one dayB the AFCa

Styla

tcpT!El

Yes, EoneEhing like

this

happens to me. I call vrhen I'n

iE AFC ReverFion not on. The synpEomB

Syndrome. Thele are Juat' lhose nightB

1 . Don't

nake approaches can't. think ot anything with HBS, to say

2 . vlhen IIB EaLkE to you, 3 . Awkward fluff

phone conversationB

UEuaLLy ltra

when Irm tj-red now that

ot' have sonelhing

etse on my mind.

It'B

very f,rustrating of the week.

I'm used to getsting good re6ults

atry night

And, vrhat f tve noticed

abouts AFC Reversion

Syndrome is

that

I become I suck,

WORSE tshan an A!'C. Because not, I an codscious

of the fact

tha!

and i!

tshrows me furtsher off

iny game.

The only way I can think eo that tbat {It's it is inte!flalized

to get over its is

to practice

all

tshe tsime,

and becomes i!6tinct. I end up with

The only problern iE too nany IIBB ca]ling. me befole I ge! a

when I practsice weild,

a1I the tim6,

Iatse1y the HBs I sarge are calllng them--Irm trylng to figure

chadce to call

out whal Irm doing right.)

Anyone have alry other

Euggestions

for

geLtlng

rid

of AFC fla3hbadke?

Etyla

wrltasl GroupE and Walllng to Ieolate

EubJacgr Eatertalnlng

I,ve nights

been experinenting when I feel In other that I'11

with

Eomething new lately, is entertaining

eBpecially

on to tell are

on, and thiE wordB, r'11

gloupa and walling

lBolate. a slory llstening I'11 topic, EeI]

apPloacb one or lwo HBE 1n a gloup, on, and i'f thei! othe! fliendE

I need their lnclude

oplnlon

lhem in the Btory ol tepeats it

to Ehem. Then to lhe

tlrem I want Eo shovt them BomeLhing cool two o! lhree with

tshat relateE

anat bring

me aomerhere quiet. girls follow

then I cube,

rnagic, whaEeve!. Eventually, flnal nyEelf against lhe waIl nith

the othar

Eoo. And aoon I I'm getting and for the

surrounded by Eay f,ou! girlB' everyone, I do thi6

real.Ly good aE flilEing conmenting on things

by obsen'ing, (especially

abouts thern bad body language

cB of the group) . r I 11 aL6o put ny arn6 around tshe group of gir16. smile, ard say somethiltg l-ike, I'May I suggeEt beginni[g tonight.' a faitshful 4

(or whatever nuniber) ltay relationhip

Also,

inBteadt of making a decision tshe most responBive.

and isolaEing The additsionat

right plus

ar"ay, I ltait tso lhis i6

anal see who is

t
tshat I ou! can #close \relr:e but all with best is everyone friends in the group, And this because we,ll means not least all hang more then l,i1l

cause

now.

only

oplions, be calling

blur.ring

impossible with

because at again.

one of

me to

hang oul

them atl

(Not to mention rhe amazing social will

proof--gir16

r,ve already sarged the

cone up to me in the group and say,

,'Wow, you are quile

Iadies man.', And I just is: it's just

smile and pretend like

I don'r know vha! ir

sorne crazy magnetic power I exude. And of course, wnen a group of 9ir1s proof and anolher girl comes up to you,

yor.rrre enteltaining iE's good social

for them as v,e11.)

Last lreekend, one group I was with house for an aiter-after-palty Uoforlunalely, do i!. I haal a plane

suggested coning back to their stoned. It l11as on. so

and getling to calch

in a couple hours and couldn't

In my AFC dayB, I'd

kick my8elf for missing the opportunity. numbers and k$ov there are plenty

Nol,r, I don't

care cause I have hheir

ShyJ"e wtiEeer aubjoctt My Main Sticking Poinb

Okay, one ol

Irve

had a great

nine

days, That,s five. I

with

three

new f-closeE. celebralion is that one of

(I,11 Jor ne. I didn't them, the

post

the reporEs later., it could on two have been of

r.rorthy of

However, phase

And ny probtem could the hawe. bar

shift

tshe girle

With

Ehe

was even really hotcest you.ri to girl Right

tipsy

and a guy in can lell a hotel

was saying you by rhe tying

"she,s

here nowr is I

and I am in lhe

she

likes

way she tooks in the

at

room and she is be inl

bed next

me. That

not

bed she should

My problem i6 that

lvitsh a 9ir1

I real1y

respect

and have rea1ly the Physical IE's

deep because

rapports witsh, I have problems phase_shifting I'n worlieal I'11 bleak that rappor! an'l triet stuptd AFc ialea. But both of these girts shy of gettlng

into

ve have

euch a tine6

were into

me' and bolh lt'E

I etopped the PU juet oLd fea! (ficould

physical'

I lhtnk acting

eltshe! an a

a I{B really loo 6nart

be attracte'l to fa1l close' fo!

to !lE")

uP' or itre and foutines

worf,y bha! an I{B is that ltoulil

the pattelng

leaal !o a physical already

I uhj'nh lhere

may even be a voice on

in my headl tbatrB the cloBe. lejecteil

imaglning

a Bcene iin which r ge! rejecced Irm going i9' to get

I tshlnk Ehe key hele aEd/o! break the t!us! ge! rejecleal

ie a $orrY !ha!

thaE lve have ' The uluth

who calea? ) But

(And x lale1y thele'E lid

when I go for lurking

tE ltiEh confidence'

8t111 a nlce

guy Eti1l

1n ny head Lhat r have !o get

of . AnY EuggetlonB???

Ar.on'r,ovg eultjsct.

wrlta,

t Proof ??

Rqr Eoclal

"If it witl

I'm inleresged bettEr

in uEing Eoeial proof, on H B g e a n d 1 0 E , i E

Eo be Eeen by them aceonpanied by a 9 o r 1 0 ? O x a 7/8?

they 58i11 be inpreEeed ltith

SEyla

tep].!ea,

Ye6. Yourle girl itrs you're

?ight with,

otr eocial

proof.

And, yes, proof

the more attractive

the

the more social

you have. But.

more jmpollar}t ' proof'

not just

simPlY BEING with

atl HB that

gets you the social

Itre it

how she is behaving

towards you. But if

If

you'le with

both in a corner one or two less laughi.ng all with

bored,

wonrt get you anywhere. hanging

you're

atLractive

women, but they,re having going

orl your ever word,

the time,

a 1ot of fun, to make juet

and maybe even dirty-dancing

you, THAT ie

aboul any woman itant. !o neets you.

Anony!.oug

writegl

One of my queEtLons ie, having a problem after

what iE the easiegt the initial hi,

aPproach,

I 've

but I am gett ing

SCyl

tepllesl

RaFM for

EhlE que6tion, thiB,

I can suggeBt aone Late!

1f you want.

In Ehe

meantlme? try

Start

a conpuler

fi1e.

Make the

fo1loll'lng

heading8:

OPENARS

DEMONSTRATE VA'JUE

ESTAB!]SH

MNNECTION/RAPPORT

P}IASE SH]FT

*ctosE

#crrosE

(You can also make eubheadirgs

of NEGS and PATTERNS/SS. )

Now read tshe manual and browse tshe Newsgroups. Grab you! etuft, teet out ome of your own lactids, storlee, Nord you kno figure

favorite

out your mo6t you under each Work on

interestlng heading.

and put !'rhatever can work for exactly

$hat to dor and how to escalate.

proceeding

one 6tep at' a time, point. The secretr

and come back here and seek advLce for as you 6ee, is sometimes simply

each sticking knowldg

WmT TO SAY/DO and !{llEN TO SAY/DO 1T.

Afronyfroue

wt!,tag

"A good freme lE to aaaoclate not geducing tshefiL" Nuse kino on them Eo build

touchlng

people lriEh being

friendly

and

rapport"

StyLe rapllegl

I carr see this.

and I do uge kino,

Maybe I need co pLan out a kino

map. In oEher words. good kino moves to acconpany each Etage of the PU, From tbe encounter rapport holding, bulldlng (Bhoulder bouching, hand slapping, Lo hair whatever) hand to

(rubbing

arm, hand on back)

Bcroking, kino,

atrd o on. A16o, 6orne here advocate very finn

loEE of li.ght touches

otshers say a few well-pLaced I,{here do you fal1?

Eugge6tive

are good.

I think I've

you may be xight really

lhat

gelting

kino

theory

dovm may be key.

Bul

never seen it

digcussed of kino.

in depEh any\,rhere, oEher than the

advice to just

use lots

SEyle wriEe! z Eubjectr from?' Re: tlhat to answer when eh6 aaka: 'Where are you

OPTION ONE (DEFI]ECTAND REI'RAME) HB: So where are you fronr? YOU People alwaya ask me that. I yourre from ianrt fulfitling But you know what I Cblnk, we lly \,,here

who you are. Why don't than I do lrith If

to have a mote else and lalk about.

conversaeion ghlngs.

everybody

more imporlant,

I \ras interested

ln tho you we!e,

f would

ask a quegtion 1ike, paaBlonale aboue, that

So wha! is lhere in life rea:,Ly motivaCes you?

that you ale very

OPTION TVIO (FIJIRTATIOUS) HB: So where are you from? YOU: Somewhere dark add mysterious. HB: No, Berioualy, YOU: Seriou6ly, it's it's somewhere that you would love !o go one day. And But you're going ro have t.o

somewhere I could

even lake you !o.

HB: So you're

not going to tsel1 ne? tell you. When you earn it.

YOU: No, of course I'11

OPTION THREE (HONESTY) Telt u6 here where you're you. from, and we,ll cone up with turned off sone good by any ansx,er

ansners for

I doubt lhat

any rrB is truly

you give. are Eelling

It' s not wItAT you are tse1]ing tshem, I'd !hem.

gueEs, it's

l{ow you

A,aoayd,oua Jtt.lce9r subject. Rer oK, ay tura to aBt a EtuPid queetion

an rot or Jusc a greeEing?' "should I take the cbeek kigs aB

gtyla

tePl'lesl
le Ehat it aloesn't !ea11y matber lvhether Ehe cheek kiss is uP to you to nake her interested open From everything (YoU are the male yourve told me

My fhought an IoI

or DoE. It's

of the specieB),

anil the aloo! is lwice,

(she gave you het nuiber lbat Bhe tlkes

Bhe was happy Eo see you) ' it it

seemB

you enough, though maybe aE !iIBF ' BUE' again' he!'

alice6n't tnaEter. You neeil !o JuBt call reaBolr to catl her (sonethl'ng lhat

You need to have a good

makes her Efidle) ' You need Eo otr the phone Then you need to Elme'

alemontrate Bome charn anil personality tsahe her out, and don'! 1e! he!

61eeP in the room next door this

AB for your wtng, Just Eell hin what you're doing first' rltonrt mind: he ha a HB no!t.

r'm sure he

T DON' WAIT TIIIS TIMEI

Srylewfilesl
ideasf'st Subjcl Celebrity PU opporhmity...ned

il

f I E

Alright, all your ideaspretty much sucked.I like that you valueEv'ing and otherskills so highly, bur you neda slightly djfferent skill setin this league. This is how far your advicegot me. Shesaysto me, about me, "Why js it that certainpeopleyou rejust atbactedto,like vibant, whenthey talk to you?', INOTE THE VISUAL LANGUAGEI.Thatactually didn'tmearl wasin, but itwas agoodsign.I,m teaming, I and think thjs was an impossibleoneanyway.And to tell the truth I didn't really want to crossthe lin here.But celebsneeda different routine.You don'ttreata l0 like a 2, right? So considera celeba 15 on th ou.sroe, anda 3 on the inside.Therearehugewalls you needto hurdle,but onceyou're in you are in.

e
h

I think aroutine that could made. xample, be For before meeting youcalldemonstrate to people her, value you'realsodealing people whoarein herentourage, thattheytalk youupto her in advance. so with who everyonealways is constantly to impress, simply trying so being performer storytellerboring a o. is to them. You're dealing narcissists are super-inscure,different ofnegging needed. with who also soa form is There a different is mentality than here youraverage They fulfilledyet HB. are completely empty, can they dowhatever want they're yet they completely fappd. one Any ofuscan fulfilltheir needs: only the obstacletheirhuge is DISTRUST, because everyone meet they always wants something them. from

I
E

I wouldlike to work on this,because I said,I encounter as thema bit ard I think it would be the ultimale sarge. know that Mystery feelsthe sameway. Doesanyonewant to I really work on this for rea.lwith me?

StyJ"a writeE. Eubject: Making eirlB Cry (In a cood Way)

Lasl weekend, something nea started different girls I was talking

happening on my sarges. rearlng

Two

!o starred

up. I'we seen lhis r,d like !o figure out

happen wilh wha! button

PUGS, bub newer with myself before. I,m hitting. So here's the slory.

HB1: A very gophisticateil on her like

cerebral, African

sonewha! sar.castic, American girl.

very beautiful

and approach

I used the besE friend I'm sorrv,

(i'Hi (friendly

squeeze, big snile). Ann. Bu! lake lhat

vou look exactlv

I
I

ny best friend

as a compliment r because she's

a cool gir1. t')

IJaier,

\de started

talking

about mystery stuff on her,

and the unknovm ' I and we lalked a recenl a liltle ex (this sluff' got in and out I about

denonstrated the powerfut probably

some psychic

I I t

emotional. connection

she had with

triggered

it) . Then, when asking off my analylical

about the psychic brain and jusl

tatkeal about how I lurned touch wilh

my emouions, my feelings, them. Ae lte !a]ked, teary

because lhey are alvays tears juBts staleed

righE

I can always trust

dlipping

of her eyes as Bhe 3miled thie when \de orlginaLly Ecayeal and talked !a1ked. witb AlI

smile. And she had a bilch wanted to f,eave, but

shield she

her friend

me and of course *cloeed.

EB2r at a small party, salging important traveLs tatked, her, But

there was a ptastic_surgeried abou! how traveL

gilL

I wasnr! even

she was talking to her,

was lhe most

experience and insighls

and I cold her abou! 6one of my amazing Ird me! Her hadds !'ere so Boft aB we

and people

I I I I I I I I I I I

chat I coldt her I should hold them. As I !a]ked,

at about five

o! Bix ditferent anat tear coulse. Baid no.

Bcories or ideas I shared, her face vould juBr well up this !,ith certsain touches she often cried on her hand, of like that' and she

up, I anchoreal alt Tiater,

I askeat my old MLTR if

I
happened, I felt I could just slovlly brush her slovtlv and for

I
Both tinee hair vtheD this

back from her face,

make eye contacts, and move in very

a gentsle kiss.

Does anyone else here have experience \thal is being lriggered

witsh this,

iloes anyone know exactly

here?

(Mv preeent

t
T
!
theory their in ls that it may be some sort release of unfutfitled frusrrat.ion rharrs with ml6sans

o 1 4 a ll i f e

findins maybe. )

because

r have rhe piece

rny o1,]n life,

PS My old I pretended, again for

MLTR a!

lhe

parry that

asked

whea I

had become such this monst.er.

a ladies Thanks

nan.

tseasingly, everything/

she had created I

brorhers

StyLe vtLtesr subject! DealiDg trllh BeEE Friedd: FaEt Hetp Needed

Okay, as I was posting the girla

(in

trtactlcsr)

about making girts

cry,

one of

I Earged (bu! didn't

rnake cry)

ca1led fte. The HB vho I mec both avray frofi\ our Thi6 is good, because "Do you think we shoutd

at an ex-MlTRrs party phoned and, sidce ve're families, she want6 !o spend xmas eve togelher. MIJTR cF material. or

shers detinilely

She said, i!.

hang out? EX-MLTR probably t^rouldn,t. like

I haven'!

totd her."

I could not think

of the righr

answer at all guilty

here. She wants a reason over her friend.

!o hang out witsh me and not I think

feet

about fucking

I said the wrong thing,

becauee by ans\,,ering i'I'm sure it,s to be a t easet.

okay, " I may be shovring myself

so, no doubt, when uetre making our ronighr is going !o come up again. ex-mlrr tast

(if

at1 goes wett), (esp since

rhis r

wha! shoutd be my response though rhis girl

slepE wilh

nighr,

doeen't know it)?

Ah, the tangled web lre weave...

StyTe wtiaeg. 6ubject! Dealing ltj.Ch Best Frietld3 FaEt EelP Needed - Updage

1. what I did wrong. 2. The lnportance of havlng backup p]anB.

So, ltBg called

ald

fucking

flaked.

She eald tha! her boyfriend,

a frlend

of hers wae

ln toxm and had Ju6b broken up lrlth console her.

and ahe needed to (I had the !o get a a miod to

Like an AFC, becauEe I waB o sulplLeed I told he! to call

PERFECTsalge pl.anned), drlnk. calt In other

ne aftelwardg

wordB, I r,ET he! flake he? \dhab I thlnk

on me. I have half

he! back alrd teII

of people ltho nake p1anE and

chen cancel

lhem. ghould I do th16? lqha! would You 6ay?

Forlunate1y, haven't

!,rhlIc lre lrere laIklng, on the olher

anolher line,

HB I lecently

met (bu!

cLoEed) called a liEt1e

so now I'm golng to eee her Irnfortunately, Ehig HB

ln an hour foi

t<raE eve celebratsion.

1 not MIJTRor GF natserlal.

obvl.ously, girl

I dldn'E

gay the rj.ght

thlng

on the phone to che orlginal

(lhe unspoken Bexual tenslon chickened

on the phone between us was eo high) , to my ex-MIrlR, I 8Eill need t'o

a4d Bhe eitbe!

out or talked

know: What SHOITIiDI have Baid.

Man, no firatter mole to leaft.

how good you get at this ..

stsuff,

lhere's

ahaya

so much

I I
StyLe writes eubject: I 1cirl away from a croup of cirls Re: Pulling

I have a different Myatery. lo like I try

tactic

than rhe above advice,

lrhich

I crealit

Eo

Lo entereain

the whole group at first.. rf

I wanE eve.yone

me and include

me in the group.

I t.ry co shut. everyone lese in the group) can

out and focus on the HB, the group get upset and try

(or an obstacle

to drag the HB auay.

So my Bleps are: 1. Entertain the group. more in depth with the HB you want. lhe HB. (rto gaLk nore . me see

2. But, as you are doing Bo, talk 3. Cone up with your excuse for

iBolating

comforCably/ r ',to show her a cool lrick/gane/Ehin9/exercise"; 4, If, neceasary, tlatter your sweater. the obstacle in the group. "Wow, let

You have such a c o o l a e n s e o f s t y l e . i trDo you mind if I borlo\r your friend tor a

5. Then aBk he! friendB,

Asking pernission friends igolate

is great,

because unLeEs you're

rotalty

creepy, rrle

always say yes. And not, you have ratification,

so aftser you back to

the HB, 6he's not going to be worried abou! getting becauEe they,ve already said tshat they approwe.

her friendg

When I firsts heard the idea of asking rhe friends gounded silly. I win e*tra But. I've

for permission,

it

never had anyone say no. In facr,

when I asK,

points

with her friends.

Style

tEite', Re: Invent a misEion

6ubject':

I'd

like

to try

lhe kiEs ctose mission'

It's

a more advattced one'

this teast

involves

going bar o! club

sarging

The nission f,or a *cloee

is to sarge at with everY one of afte! a

1-OHBs in lha night

afl't to try

thoee HBs. Thle mean6 thau if, you teel couple minulee, llB who ls pelfect you eti11 have to !ry and all

the PU 16 failing for a 'c1o6e'

And if

yOU meeE a

GF materiat

you wane to do is you'

exchange

phone numberB, loo bad. Try to ge! her to )'iss

*closing Ehe goal here iB to improve your youre1f to go for lt nole, by modifylng

cechnique by forcing your tecbnique to Bee wnaE

noveE wolk bedt,

and by seeing if

you can increage

lhe number of even develop

6uccesBf,ul *cloeeB you will rating Bygtem. It

have in a night

We could

!',ould be EoneEhing like:

0: AFc 1-2 ' RAFC 3-5 | aBpiri.ng 6-7 | PUA 8-9: PU Guru 10: PU God anyone el6e want !o go for i! PUA

I i,r111 Ery lhis and lepolE

goon anal report

back'

back too?

Style

wrLteg, Rel Invetlts a DLaEton

subject3

I define just

a *ctose

a6 a kiss

with lips

passionate when you

intent.

h I

other donrt

words, consider does), but {I

slealing Il

a p e c k on the doesnrt I1AVE to

6ay gooalbye (though your it

a *close. il gAS lo

hawe longue give

usually

be a kiss

EhaL you couldn'!

moLher or

sister

hopel).

Stlle n'fitesi

Subject: How doyoumake girl laugh, high,make likeyou? feel a her

Hey Tirn,

you.I'll probably wingingin SanFran, it'll befirnto workonyoursticking point. Mystold meabout be so yout you're It sounds melikeyousometimes to with "mioomanage" PUstin othefwords, over-concerned you whatshethinksolyou frommomettt moment, thiskeeps fiom moving to and forward with youl game. Yourproblems seems benot leaming to linesandroutires, anoverall change. but belielsystem

Oneway to do this is, to quotefiom IntroducingNLP: "Simply act for a time as ifthe beliefyou WANT you andwhat wereaue andrcticing what cbanges when you do...ifyou realizethat the only thing betlveen you wafi is a beli4 you car beginto adopta new oneby simply actingAS IF it werc fu." Ifthe new beliefwo*s, keepil if it doesnrtthrow it out.

Stylewrites: Subjec*Put a priceonyourself

as odginalideas, usualArothersimilartacticI like to useis ifa And Thisis all goodstus Juggler. great, being just metsomeone they're and s me touches in a barwhenslrc walkingpas! or if I lingringly woman ofrthe ttuowin a 'hands (Youcanalways veryphysical. "That' be$30.Thisshitain'tfor free" this') line merchodise" befoiesaying

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wfites: Style SubjectrAttn. StYle

CONCERNINCTHE PROPBAG

The bestong but I do not know ifthey carry it anymore, is the shoulderbagat A\X (amani exchange). It is small,andhasa little flap so that it \rraps amundyour sidewhen you wear it strapped your across shoulder.Ill try to take a picture. Otherwise,you canalwaystry a cool leatherluggagestorefor these.

Inside is: pez Stufedanimal dispenser Magicshit Notepad Pens piercjngs Fake etc. Digicam Mini recorder rccording for sarges Photo routin (shit,forgotto bringthemwith ineonthistdp) Sometines runes (just Micromassager gotit, haven't used yet) it Condoms pencils, Exta necklaces, cigarette otherlittle gifts for HBsto remember by me

.,,more stuffthatI cantremember now... right

Nice stripperextraction,Vision. And goodjob on insistingon the instantdate.Could haveflakd otherwise...

Sty76

writeg, Boy Toy Iray R6port

aubject:

okay,

Irm exhausted,

so I'm going to bave to make tshi'E quick' fancy hotel looking bar'

went

vrith a frieoit gitting

to a pretty bolh

There wele Ewo women We aPproached'

at the bar,

amazing from the back' 40el

anat they were actually

in !hei!

The blonale \das jus! thin

amazingly face,

hot anlT'tay: thin' And ehe wag very,

great very

body'

eoft The

skln'

wAspy arietoctatic

6enaua]'

approach was the aEhacllon EPell.

"do spellE T1t blonile

l,o!k, " coliblned said:

wiEh a BEory about an

a6ked her abou! EhiB girt it and being

go f,o! itr lthen I "You ehould JuBt off golng for So I patlelned 1a Ehe gtory' patterning only' me on hovt Bhe ller fllend I used a

in lhe moments, tben she talted Eeconil tso second, fo!

llveE

alay to day,

helse1f

teaEeil he! abouE a one nlght new RoEs technigue very erotlcatly. to eliclt

Etand, and she told value6 and EtaleE?

Ehe 6tory'

and she answeledltery' friend ho!'t

fhen Ehe sald she was !rying

to teach hel

inne! Eo be In Ehe nonenE nore aad ge! ln touch wiEh her

E1u!'

I tolal a Etory lhelaplBt.

I've

been lefllng I lncorpotate

tatety

about how my uncleta Btuf,f

a eex

In it,

some Tantra sex lvith

(abou! women's for

orgaems anal how \donen ate Ehe only feeling BQ<uaI pleatule)

an otgan made so1ely tshat rlt

, and end wlth

the concluslon

would

nake 6enEe, logtcalLy of, reaLly gooil ser, rrord.

galigfaction out tshen, t'ha! Bince {omen get nore I' They lhey 6houl'd be out actlng like p!edato!6'

hung on evely

Anylray, the Bex talk Iast 'ring, extracted frlenal call,

contlnued

for

a lietle

while'

Then' there for

waa

and r suggesleal aaljournidg one, bu! it

to my place

rnore drinl<s ' My I

aLmoe! blew thie the bfo*le coultltr't

worked out afld they came up' orbe on he!'

by saying

I wanEed to do the uould give I said'

buE her way I

hear because tshen it later,

its away' ftris

can dlo the Cube on her frieud

I
I

Anl'way, a weird started

thing

happened. we went out on rhe balcony, I talked about how ir

and T

patteming

a little.

is when yourre wirh that you like

someone and you begin in their face.

lo focue in on one certain in on ir. She srarls

feature

And the more you focus in and out."

rhe more you become to ge! lhe DDB. Then freaked me out a bit, r vas just

aware of your brealhing, 6be says, ',Are you trying because l don,l lalking trance-y. really

to h)'pnotize ne?'r rt thing

kno$ the first felt like

abou! hFnosis.

But it

I \,,as busred.

I recovered

okay.

and then kissed

her without

any kind of rourine

I
I

(verd been lubbing hands and arms for a while by then) . Then I look her into the bedroom. There lras no resistance is tha! at any point: Ah, otder She

t
I

women. And, lhe bet part had a great light laler. body, and sti1l

the packaging was not deceptive. makeup rubbed off

looked good with

in the

Anyway, thereis

something elEe I learned from thie.

Later,

all

four of

uE \rere in lhe same room. The oTHER wonan kept took her hand and we slarted realized ot her. I'd just lhal I couLdn't

looking

at me now. I

rubbing each olher's just

handB. The[ I slepr with in front

ignore the woman I'd

So I sCarted to be very erotic stept with. Everything

and revrarding with

the blonde

I did to the blonde, I did ro turn on is that the blonde she was jusr

lhe olher rroman (a brunette). jusl went $,ild,

The amazing thing

saying ho!, amazingly crazy.

Eexy I was and thar

getling

turned on like

I suddenly realized lhaE you're girl doing it

a new $ay to lhink to rurn on someone

about sex: do it,

and inagine

else who is vaeching, an even hotler For me ac least, smoldering. it

thar you wan! !o steep wirh.

made my movenents and EoucheE incredibly

Airyway, my friend.

who didn,t

even have sex rrith

the brunette,

did]r,!

hawe much game. I teased them a 1ilt1e overatl somethi[g I coulal$tt f,i$rre

bit

about bisexuauEy. partners

Euts get

ouE a way !o 6$itch bid

or to just

crazy going on, 60 we eventually

then goodbye.

I may try

to eee the blonde again because 6he realty most senuaf, and, wel"l, oldeat lrofiranI've

vas one of tshe claseiest, ever been i,ith before.

I reatize

|m

writlng

hhlB quickly, the Polnt

Bo l_eL me know if of theEe f,eports

you need more on like to

any of ttrj.6. Afler ee MoRE of)

a1t,

(which I'd

iE to lealn

about the PRocEss of seductlon and see whae workB

in detall' Well' thia that dld we

even nrold f,o! wold when possible, work, Ehough thele

were a few sEicking Mink rbat

polnuB when I felt

coulil have loBt lhese olilet

then.

eaved uB wa6 lbe simple Looking for

facL chat

HBE vtere in the bar already

adventure '

At onymouE adde,

"You Ehould have extracted in the bedroom. "

Co do 'the

cube' on the brunette

scyZe teplLes|

You're

right.

or even betEer, that

exEracEed then both'

My wing'

BTw' was

u6e1eBs: everylhing it. all

happeneal thaE nighE ttas becauBe I instsigatsed he'6 cool by not doing anyEhidg at voice' I think I backed off

tte was too busy TIITNKING that and talking in a really

bored negative naking

becauEe we were Bittirlg coupleE, couldnrt really artl, figure easy if

there

ou! afteflvard6 wa6 ptaying

as two iBolated my hand' I

even lthelr the brunette out ho\t tso mir. it I'd up.

with it

In hind6ight, Next timel

would have been

jusc been nore direct'

I I

I
I
ArtonydrouE aske:. subjech: Re: Boy Toy IJay Report

"You had a gxeat had a belter time

time

wilh to

the

blond

but

don,t:

you with

think

you woutd lwo

have

lrying

execure

a lhreesome

these

gorgeous

il

Style

tdplieB it

t here. I had a great !ime, yes, but coul.d have haat a beEter and just clear SOIg. I should lhey

I
I

You nailed

one. And whal I needed was less parterns, have simply were looklflg been lhe alilector, for. Isn,! it and given

T
I

then lhe real

adventure

f\rnny hov, high ou! standards of nunbelB or get laid,

are nowr I can leel like a

go out and get pocketfula

and s!i1L

Anyleay, a general note: lalely, bur have a lo!

I've

been traveling reports

and haven't posted here

of fieLd

to conre. However, vhat you point Bo

ou! here Yaritai, Derek-looking

screwed me up las!

nights when I vas so IN t/rith thiE I need !o tru6! lhat I,ve

rdoman.You are 60 rightr

conveyed enough personality, fucking balL6 t'o SOI hardcore but i6 very

have enough IOI9,

and should have the dictated Eo

(tshe above sentence was just

ne by My6tery,

true)

AnFday, we,re having here il's into sick--and

an amazing time in yugoEtavia--so have tsons of srories

many amazing HBs and we need

to get out of our brains

cyber:space, when we have time. in Ehe afternoon. club took

Sleep iE neeateal now...(cause for the field reporr

to meet glrls

on one of four

lhem: a whole entire $lys in the corner. )

npaltrnedn for

one HB in a seven-set. trith

Style

wtLEes. Regpo!5as to Stevie M PoECE

subjecl!

Hey atl,

been gore a few weeks. Back now. Misaed tsheae forums !

Any{ay,

Stevie

B, your Posts kick the bar for youlEelf

ass.

It

soullde like

its'e time fo!

you to falae

a 1ittle.

a1so. tlouble

from your fout-k1BE getting

cloae

repor!,

you sald you were having techniqueE I

phone nunibels. Here are tvro Euper baslc the other claEaic #cloeeB:

BonetimeB use o! combine wlth

1. In convo,

I aLways Beed the cloBe.

In othe!

words,

I know already

what I lrant !o do with

them when we meet again: (a Ehow, a Epeclaf

Lahe then somewbere, place, an exhlblt, a

sholv them Eomething, \dhatevef hlke, etc.), I nenllon it

caBually in Ehe convo as a cooL lhing askE for

to do.

llhen I leave, thlng,

Bbe uEually

ny number Eo thaE we can do thia

2, Ingtead really. write

of asklng

for

her nuiber,

I 'givetr

her mine. and rip to her.

But not lt ln balf. the I

I take a Plece of a paPer or something, rqa nane and nuiber. But I dotr't give it of, paper.

r hand her

96n and lhe oEher half unusual not to write

of the plece

She ha8 to be real

hera do!,n. Tben we exchange pieceB of paper.

a NOTE In thi6 ! number. ltve nunber too. already actually

forum, ne've alwayE slressed getting aoxt that itls lnPortant to give

the girlrs the HB your (becauae I'n call wilt

realized I call

Eo f,ev, of tshe nunibers thats I get 60 Imrch), ard sometimes a gB I don't VERY interesteal.

juggling call

me. Then I XNOWshe's

and the game j"6

I I I I I

Alright/

Slevie

B. Looking

forward thal proof

to your in not

reports

in lhe fulure. like thal footballer

And, by lhe party closes

way, you']] to, the

not.lce 6ocia1

BiEuations only nakes

you went easy. It

approaches and

HUGEIY reduces

flaking...

t
I I

Style

writee I New Phone Nunicer RuIe

subject!

This should have been obvious, bu! I've

only iust

realized

this:

ALWAYS, when #cLoslng, if

give

your number to lhe HB as oell. her or just don,t have tine,

This way, she has Ene for

you never bother !o call of caLlldg

oplion

you. And if

you nade a good enough inpression you're in.

her !o calL you, then you kno!, lhat

I neve! really

did lhj.s before.

I was so focused on just

gerring

the

HB'E number, that most of the time f never bolhered to give her mine. (3nd I think lheyrre +closing an HB always assumes you're going to call, because

no! used lo being bloi{a1off many times every night,

by guys.)

But, vhen you're

there's

no way yourre going ro calr from an Asian HB I #closed

every HB back. Today, I just wirh lhree

got a call

weeks ago and never called. So flon

And tshis has been happenirs

bunch lately.

now on, I'm stdilching ny frame from making lhe

HB want to give ne her nun rer !o EXCHANGING numbers.

also,

If

you waat to remain mysrerious and give her that

and unavailable,

just

set an

ansqrerlng service

nurber.

Problem sotwed.

sEyle writeg:. Eubject! What to gay flhlle ldakiBg Out

Today, a gllL

who IriiBFted ne a few years ln a over a yearr and hadn't

ago Btsopped by'

We hadn't

6een each other rea1ly exheusted

and Bhe looked good. But I was or changed clothes, nuch at all. o I didnrt rn f,act. any r

shorered

pu]1 any Beduceion-type specitlcatly SS/ASF Eactics

lactics

or even talk to myeelf,

remember thlnkiflg or patterns?rr giving

trwhy arenr! matte!

you using

Buu 1t dldn't

because for

aome she her.

reaEon ahe 6ta!!ed hugged ne,

me the DDB look.

when Bhe went co leave, klBBing

atrd then I looked her in the eyes and Btarted

So, everylhing people here,

waE fine? when you'le

it

was vely

paeBlonale.

But I r'tanted to agk bleak f6r a

making out.

and you take a littsle of lhought I don't that

second, rdhaE do you say? The!'E falk t111 you're done ltith

a school

you don'! I buy t'hat. he! know she I

the deed, but

know if

ofEen feel

Ehat lhe HB wAlflts to hear Bomelhing Ehat lels thing and that its's okay to ploceed. Eay?

dld the right

What are your

Ehoughts on thl.s? what do YOU usuelly

A!'onyrcus

wlEes

"a girl

that

f've

been seeing has just llepatilis

ca11ed me and told

me that

ahe

\ras diagnosed with

B. llha! do I do?!

gtyle Con

tepl{ea t on, let'E be underEtandiag hr. Tbia does Euek'

So, here's

what I kno$ about HeP B:

t t
I t I
1. You can't mainly contrac! sexual it rhrough kissing untess you have cuts. I s through contacr,

2. GeC a dose of HBtc NOW! If sexual exposure,

you ger rhe shot wiEhin two !,{eeks after it. r hope

you have a good chance of eliminat.ing not/

yourwe cal1ed a doctor by novl If immunizations or something like specializes in immunizations.

check the yettow pages under or find a rtravet docror', wrlo

that,

3. Your shors would only give you Lifelong shot series wilhin a year.

immunity IF you had a Enree as a kid. Ask your

Hey, maybe you got tbis

4. Let this

be a lesson to aLl here: NEVERhave unprotected

sex with you,ve

anyone--no matter how clean cu! and innocent lhey look--unless bolh been test.ed for home that lheir everything.

I always asEume \,rith anyone I bring and protec! myself accordingty,

lasts bf was a junkie,

5. Stop leading thi6, doctor Itrs

drop everything

you're

doing, and go see a 6hot)

IMMEDIATELYand ger your HBIG sho! $40-$100 for the vi6i!.

(not a ganma gtobutin

6. Are you slill

here? col

I
I

StyTe adde,

Dude, GET a HBIG imnurlity post.

sho! NOW, like for

I advised you in the tasL lifelong immunily. Don'r accep! can'! hurt ro get Enac

You NEEDa ttrree-shoa series advise that

a doctor's exlra results

yourre pRoBABrry okay. It

shotr eapecially in infection.

since 90 percen! of sexuat contacr with Hep B so if you ge! lhats shor wirhin a good chance yourll rwo weeks (rhe

sooner the betster), there's

be okay.

After

you immunize yourself, girl.

THEN you can worry

about whats !o do about I have

tshat shitEy

Okay? Report back here when you do, othervrise

Betle!

eafe than sorry.

..

gtyle

vrltaa NaluralPuA, ..

EubJecg. tntroducdng

f've arti6! like

been Chlnklng

a lots about NaluralPuA, the PUAE I've

who ls

the first

Pick Up

I ever meE. Of all him. Irnfortutately,

Eeen since, hi8

no one operated

hets nonr lenoujlced

PUA \,raye and 16

ceLibate,

and I am not able Eo model him. Holrevet, he's the best l,ve vrork.

aeen, and maybe lre could discu6B hele WHATmade lt

He waE about 5r7i, and plettsy

long curly

hal.r,

Senieic

Looking,

average build, of guy who turns nade hin Btand out.

average looking,

DefinlEely

not the kind Chlng that

heads. His long hair

was maybe lhe only

The day t meC him, $e wents to a club. nade eye contact in the corne!, lrlth

and, wilhln

tll,o ninutses, he had made out

a EB Btanding nearby,

They walked off,

atrd lhell parted,

Not a word t aa epoken between them ats slink off witsh different A total AFC

any points. Every Eime r/re wene ouE, herd ju6t gir16, friend

and nake out or get' BiIa and hand jobs in the ctub. of mi4e hung out llrltb bim for three days clu.bbing, 12 different

and within pair6 of wa6 60

tshatstsime they walked back tso their girls (tshat's tha! 24 HBB) to make out. he could PU a girl

car with

In otsher wordE, NaturafPuA for himeelf and o4e fot

effective

his AIC

friend.

He had no real

PU tines.

He was very casual,

rotally

fearless,

and

very soft-spoken.

When l was wilh him, he'd do a street saying, very casual, if rHi.

pickup by

naking eye contacc and just parly. Want to join

we're going !o a ,

us?,' At resEaurants,

he caughE a HB looking conversalion, if

he'd say, rwerre having a very interesting to join us.rrAt part'ies,

you,d like Arld fron

he'd say, ,'Do you know my friend?',

lhere Ehe advenlure would begin...

From what I aeked at. lhe !ime, !ha! off women craved, their fee! Irve for

his

frame was tha!

he wa lhe adventure

t.he dark nyslerious a blief

anonlrnrous guy who,d 6$eep thenr rendezvous. Compared to the NaturalFuA worked so much a lit.tl_e before

unforgeetable

lactics qulcker

learned from the gutus online, almost do talk. out a bi!

and wilh

He,d Eomelines lalk

and afler,

and find

aboul Chem in a very caring way. He !

loved women, from lhe bomely to bhe beautifut

This is what e16e I know: he lost

his virginity

at like

age 11. A! 13, and jur

he saye he used !o walk arolrnd wilh pick up girls of !hi6, his age right and left.

the mind of a 19-year-otd So I suppose afler instincc for

so many years out who

he just

honed tshis animal-like

sniffing

was ready for

1ts, and juse moved in with 61ow confidence.

My questions

are.

Is lrhat NaturatpuA

did

parl

of

Ehe tactics

lre fearn

here? And, nore iryortant,

how can WE

(I can maybe email hin quescions

if

we

SLyJa repond.E,

His failures care.

never seemed like

failures

because he didn't

(very inportant ! ) someti.meg he'd approach very and if the HB wasn'C interested, he just

casuaLly to talk,

eralked away--no bruise Elightly

to his ego. He also seemed to have a HBs,

harder Cime PU'i.ng more jaded tytr)eg of city

whoEe guardg were up, and in placeg player reputation.

where che gBE knew hiB

Anoay4ols

a9ks1.

"whaf kind

of womn did this

$ry Pull?"

gtyl,a

tq)ZLeqt

In generaf, just

when he was in a club,

he waBn'L picky

about 1ook3. He Bometsimeg

loved $omen- - Bonetimes they happened to be Euper-hot, Eonetines they wete married and olde!,

they were pLain;

Eonelimeg

younge! and innocents, etc.

For MIrTRs, he usually senee of the

cboae very aEtractlve

one6 or oneB who appealed to lhis ,radveBtute!-artis!-aesthete' tha!

he soneElnes cofleideled

himeelf .

SEyle vtlEes, aubject : Re: C@utricathg Idaas reeded that you're qualif,ying tbe$ -

I like

!hie,

,Jugg1er. Irately. all

I've

been working

on adding challengea here

antl qualificatiolE

the time when I talk,

and your que6tions

are a good way to do it. questions

Il

keeps you in the drivex,s

seat,

and your

also inwolves a 1ot of presuppos it ions. I hang out wilh an HB, I've

which are grear. to seem

AIso. before

been working on trying and naking all ir

make THEMnervous by giving like too,

them MY e4)ectations, been into

THEY are loo eager. I've tike in the fotloi{ing

mixing this

with humor afrer

exchange serring

up a lunch hans-our

an ilB I sarged IU,ed me today. There's no genius stuff just shows the altitude,

here, but it

qrhich is a ne\{er frame for me:

lvle:

So XXXXXX

Me:

2 p. m. by lhe way... thank you

Me: HB:

W a i t , I d i d n ' L acCually inviCe you yet. fine

<snip>

Me:

I viLL cafl

you before I leave for your ptace on saturday. your sharp wit and adventurouB spiri! \rith

I you.

do expec! you to bring

Me: gB: HB: quite Me:

Oh, and aome towels !oo. I'11 be 6ure they're inlact I don'! know... clean tolrets are

yeah... lhat,B a tough one... ginply a preciorlE commodity. it.

Okay, forget

I nentioned

The wit

and adventure

should be

Style sulject:

wtite'r Solution for the dreaded *cloEe blocker speech

one llB I met at a lounge tbi6 pulleal back anal said that

weeken'l' aflet

a short

soft

kiss'

reallv

she 'rwas tired

n And then of, Eexual energy'

and it worked vely gave bhe atreaalealSPEECS' Thi6 iB how I reframed' was 6aying' rrbut I totat her that I undersboo'I lthat she we1L. First you ne' Thi6 ls somethLng that haPpened bet{een trou're no! taLklng to day you'1I get the chance to say and Eoneone e1Be, antl hopefuLly one a ne experience to be open t'o " this !o him. In the meanlime, this is alout hol, what ebe experienced she agreeat, ana tshen I a'lded Eomethlng before 18 not about all guyE, 1t's about lmnaEure 9uy6 ' my game (some llnes):

Then I inprovlBeil of itB, to give

thig clealit

bit,

x'hich x nay incorpolate 'lue ' uEeB Ross J'

lnlo

wbere itE

and Mylery

'rI feel

t'ha! nervouaneBg an'l fear thing.

atso'

It'B

part

of Ehat whole boy the exacE lalne gensaEion

meets girl pface ln6lds,

But ilo you know $ha!? Fear conea flotl Itey both glve you the 6ane Physical

aB excitement.

E,tld.whB \de're netrvoua an't excite'l' so I'11 telr

lre sonetimeB inberpret Bomethlng: let'E 91ept and get it

Eha!-a fear.

you wha!? Iretre lry easy' Preten'I like

out' of, the way. It'rE vely together. liou juEt

we've aLleady

Maybe we me! IaBt tnrBleal then,

night ' arld you felt

thoge buttelfIlee' a very

an'l \te went back to you! house ' Itre

cuteplace,anallllkeyou!BenseofEEyle'thoughyourbedroomwasa e4)ec! company' A$yway' iE dtdnrt 1it!1e netsy. You probably 'liibx' t armE' very nighE in each othel'a mattet. We Bpent a woltletful and it $aB ju6t pasEionale but alBo very 6afe an'I comfortable' Lime becaue we just the fir6! \donderful. It' didnrt even f,eeL like wanted' And we botsh geemeil to lsrolt already what each other I'iked an'I lrhen we were apalt ' so r just glordeal a$al tingledl ftom it afterwa!'lB' rI hatt a wonderful time lasE niqht' calleal you this tnorning antt 6ai't' Meetsne at Xx(x.' Atrd here we are'"

scyle

wtiteE, RLneathetica Do IC Better

6ubjaett

I've

been notlcing

latety

Chat the HBs that

put off

the moBt sexual The vibe. f,ve As a been

vibe uauafly procesB inf,ormation kinestheticalty visuale tend to talk fast,

firet.

and put out more of a fun, palty fun energy. Bu! lately

vj-aualr f eome in lrith lrying lrylng Co phaEe-shift !o feel

a goodr faB!, by thinking

klnesLhetlcatty.

In other wolds,

(through

body eensations) Chat it

j'neleaal of see lhe

environment.

And I noticed

stows my speech dovrn anal I put out sexr you're glowing and

a much more sexual vibe. and juBE radiatlng feeling sexual

(ThiB may be why, afte! energy, becauee you're

60 in touch with )

your body sensations,

which have just. been stimulaleal.

Does this

nake eense at all? this? fo! ftodetiflg kineBthetics du:.ing

Has anyone e16e notlced

A!!d doea anyone have any suggestions a PU?

SEyIe wtites! Eubject! Phon6 Sarging Advlce

A couple for

months

ago.

I net

an Brazilian because I

HB in Vegas. Anyvray. r wen! ju6t didn't go in with

a *cloee

and failed

solety

enough confidence sbe calls two molths,

at the nonent' ' But I haa! Eons of rapPort. atl lhe time.

and now ne an

and we talk

She's going to come to vi6it then'

because I told

her I'm bu6y until

Now, I can tell gooit frlenal like

on the phone hhat $hen l,ve Ealk I'm oo hhe line d?eam nan. she sayB she doesn't Bo confoltable, wa6n't often

betlteen open up about in

anil alestiny

Ehts to people,

anal feels

and is pasEionate ln laE vegaa gelting inBide'

Che same tsh1ngs, anal lti6hes

her fliend

ou! way. shers haB an lntsenBe atti'lu'Ie att:i.tude nothlng. toxraralg relatiodBhipe

but i'B delicate

and her

{anil friend3hipe)

seens to be a1I or

In tha oLd dayE, I lrou1d Just maintain then lrait however, untll I'd like she comes to viEi! to escalaEe this like ne'le

frlendly

phone contac!'

and

to try

and nake he! an I4LTR Now' on the phone ' so that that needB befole to

relatlonshiP already

when Bhe comee ehe feele

daEing and all

to be tlone 18 to conBuimatse the relaEionEhip' o! have any aalvice on dotng thlB create

ADyone done thi5

or lines/patterng/routlnes *clo8ed

to try yet?

an MIJTRover Ehe phone w1!h an HB you havent!

Anoalt',]ou'

asks,

"Have you taLked about having

eex yet?"

Etyle

repliF t

No, thi

is my probleltt'

I've

haal social

ploof,

denonstsrated value ' and how tso of it' lhia

fiEile a'rl enotionat initiate advice a phyEicaf

connection. cormectlon

Buts, I am at a losE regarding on tshe phone ' Cone to lhink game tsoo'

coulat definitely

hetp my off-phone

So. before beirg

we discuss

having

sex, I have to get her. t'o agree thaL me is something sbe wants to do and is doesn,t

together about.

intsimately And it

with

Lhiflking

probably

has to be done in a way that

scare her away or make her Ehink thaL 1 ONI,Y want sex...

Therers probably a sinple bridge

inlo

this

stuff...

9ty7e

tEite' R6: Change in game plaa

Bu.bject:

I havenrt followed part I llked

chiB whole thread, here,

bu!,

in genelaL, for the !1106! to paBs HER want to give

your firnmess

But your frarne of trying And, besides, you don't

teat waB a 11tt1e supplicating. yourBelf over !o a glrl

who's going to play LheBe gameB,

TelL lh1s girl

when you see her tha!

you don't

play gamee aDd don,t

flave time for games. Then go inlo patlern being, (do you know this and if ahe tanta one?).

the 36,000 days in a lifetime TeLl her you are a mature human Co tru6t her

to be one, she has to learn As I said before, made progre8s ye!

feelinga

and not he! friend6. so if you haven't paCterns

I haven,ts kept up on lhere are sone perfect

Ehi6 thread, inlellect lrilh

vs feelinga

you can 6pin off

of from here tshar enal

a little

BLrong kino.

Style

wtitee

t tonality

eu.bjedt ! Rer Learning

Actually,

asked

abou!

lhis

a white

ago,

and Eomeone emailed

and

-l

I
I
Jonachan Altfeld mentioned a guy naned r an They look pretty powerfulCDs on Eonarlty and sells webeite Has anyone here tried or'tered them myself tenpteal, buts haven't very He is an Nl'P trairre]: who l1as

a.

a
3

a
-

Style

eftiteEt Lay RePort: Xnlernalization

t t t

6ublec!:

a
t
I I I

Tonights stariedl MyBtery Btyle

with an'l his

a phone call oq'n highly

flom sin' sexual

of a FUA who uEeE a combo but earging (no! in a GM way' how latelv'

language way) we discuseed in a euggestsive alpha body \terie getting abouE se'Iuction' or lhinking when \re're no! even tlying maybe' from having from IlBe. we decided tha! a lot firore attencion just exu'Iing eomelhing a fol ot this' vterre learned and lncernalized agor I got' cogelner For examplet l!"o nights sexual anil nore confident \tith both I ended up making out couin a friend of an ex an'I he! \ri!h t\tilhout even real-ly unforcunately) Ehem (not together lhougb' of inind' I venl lo meec so' witsh Ehis all in about this stuff lhinking HBsl inkY. job ats lhe same place t{e had a sunmer EBstinky worked there hot I{B that everyone ltho lthen' And sbe wa6 tne way back Back tshen' I was jusc a hit on and tsrie'I to daEe constantly her' suPpticatsing IJJBF !o I hatto't seen aE yeats tonigtrt ' I tlitLr't have anY expectations and giffiricks her up' But nv and bits' I wenE

vithell !,e got together frarne wae rhis: .ras justs going

I wasn't

going to do routines

to exu'te ee:(uatity'

so when I picked

into very

her bedroom and jusc laid

hung out.

r tatked

very quiet. and stow, and just

vas I

back but at the sane rime mysterious, there. IE,s hard ro explain, but

showed that I was 1n

was comfortable

I kne!, thar

already because I,d made a good firsr

impression.

Fxon here.

we went to dinner

\rith

friends

and Lhen to a barltounse.

Here's whaE woxked for me:

1. Social

Proof:

I called

HBRed, lrho is very flirtarious This way, HBslinky could

with ne,

!o meet us at the lounge. artention

see ne getrins

and kino from someone else.

Ilrstantty, tf I liked

HBstinky totat me rhat her. This

HBRed Beemealto like worked perfect,

ne and kep! asking

becauBe HBslinky now had to compete for me. Also, liked me, so I 1et her betieve it.

HBstinky thoughl lhe waitless

2. Fractsionating: kino escalated

Instead of hanging on to HBsLinky a1t night brushing against each olhe!

as lhe

(fron

!o hand6 on each

olher,s talk lhis didni!

knees t.o hand-holdj.ng HB or a friend

to kis6ing) or juet

, I woutd sornetimes leave ro

to another

\rande! afound Che room. I think or ctinglng, anil

v,as importalr!

so Ehat I didn't

seem degpelate

bore her. When I left,

she v,as excited

to have me leturn.

3. ThiE DIDN'T work, but aE Long as I had HBRedand HBslinky there, I thought I'd try !o gets then togeEher. I tolat them how lhey afld, after probably

could be friend6,

had HBRed sits on HBstinky' s tap, I told her lhat

HBRed pecked me on the cheek, f,elt said, left

UBstinky

out and sbe should kiss

her too.

She did. wilh

And then they rhe wrong arrswer, me,n I eaid.

rrcuys love iL when girLs noh no, not me. I'd weren'r

kiss.r'

I reptied

I think,

ralher

have you kissing

Any\cay, my skills

good enough here.

When I lef!

with

HBstin].y,

we had been making out a tirtte.

I triecl

to

EelI far the

her

how nice

its would she bave

be to anted just

ake up at to

my Place. but i!

was too h

a ay and she said old days, \,rhat I I would

do sone stuff th].s

in the norning. Il1tead,

taken

at face value.

here's

did:

I I
tatsher's house a l-itlle hone ' j"n making ne r'shen 15 l told while her I luas 1]oo so lhat I

1. she was sLaying a! a friend's lipsy didl]'t

to dr.ive aoal needed Eo sober up tor get pulled over on the long dlive conslraint on mysetfr

a
I
I I

2. I put a tine her confortable minutes

\thich vras inporlant I asked her lo te]I

witsh ne coming ower'

haal passeal so that

I could drive

home' because I leeded to be !hen' with the idea lhats like her

up a! 9 a.m

I Eolal he! to make sute I lefl making oul, eEc

3. So we starteil her frienal's naughty rlrginlty littsIe

I pl'aye'I a lot

a
I
I

father kide.

{ere Ytae ln the next roomr and ho\'r lte I aeked her about the time she los! to link her to tha!

a
t t t
I
I

as a kld

sEatse' l^lhen she said r Bhould

while againsts me tor a lilt]e probabty head home, r asked her to 1ie (courtesy ot adonis) ' whlch did Then r did a sexual value eLicrtation a lot !o geC her lurned again, on' l'MR (lasts minutse reBistance) coming

4. We starleal on, I no\t try felt

and I feLt

Eo anticipate

lhese objeciions

l EoLd her Chat tnle

nexE tsime' so that buE \te 6hou1't 6ave somechirlg f,or (This also obviously does and excitemen! lre leave \titsh anticipation by assuning Ehat \te'11 do it nexe two other chings: future pacing ber krlolv that r'11 aee her agarn' l !ime, anil letting sex' because thought we weren't going to have 5. I really t{hich was in my figure out a way Eo get to my condomr I couldrl't rea11y nice, jacketontsheothereideoftheroorn'\tithoutcompletelyruiningtne and how nide value eticitation nonen!. So I tliEcusse't her sexual ih

$'oultlbebofeellhosefeelingeofcompletetogetherneseand!,armth. This ltas my first three rules of Riker's Then I wenE intso a variant vre have to promrse rrBut, if i'Ie're going to do this' t.ine using !hem.

ourselves.

thlee

things.

No, nake thaE four

things.

The firsr

is

that

we llave Eo be safe, second is third is that thal

and use a condom. Thats,s wery iryortanE we botsh really

ro ne. The

has to be someLhing that

want to do. The

you have tso be able to wake up in the morning and be lhis, and feel during good about yourself hhe day and think every Line you get' night." Then

happy you did that tingly

feeting

back on this since

I added 6omething like. dad is

,,And tshe fourEh take this

is that,

youi

friend,s

in the other room, let,s

easy and ston. !ime,

This way we,tl asrkward

kno!, vha! we have to ]ook forward Pressure wlll be removed, I'

to next

and sone of tha!

5. And nay Rlker

be b1e6seal, because Bhe vely

easily

agt:eed !o theee here it the

r_uLes and we had a wonalerful night

that. I lrould describe not, so you'I1

newEgroup wae alt . sexatorles . com. But' Ilts your lmaginalion,

have to uBe

An)'way, lhls

i6 the lesson

I learned:

I uBed to believe

tha!

sarging

lraa knowlng what. palternB/routines/glmmicks I reallzed that it''E conveying an attitude.

to ayluBe and when. Now, Irearning and placticing enough with And then,

Cheae ASF tactics yourself

verbatin

helps

you get' comfortable

and wi.th l{86 so tha!

you can adopt this

attitude.

lbe gimmickB and toutines !o keep the convereation

are Ju6! secondary, lively and stimulating

almost

something to use

t henever j.! goe6 f,tat.

Ac leas!,

that's

lrhat I believe

Eonigh!.

Anony&ouE wtiteE

"Man, you are pretty

good a! this!,,

Style

rePIieE,

have a 1ot Eo r s!il1 compliments Thanks. man. These are at1 huge into place piece by piece r learn, but r can feel ny game falling just in having thaE kno\"ledge' but in think bhe challenge is not also in not taking anylliing said learrring how tso irnplement its lt's hereassolidfact:usewhat\torksr'liscardlthatdoeen'E'andknow it nigbE not lre in one eituatlon' thats just because sometshing works effecliveinanother.Forexample,]triedtouseRikerlsEhreerules EB' and they almost backtired again yesteralay t\tilh a differenE Alnosts : ) helped ne to learn this were: on me'

T t
I I

a
t
I

r guees the tshings thal

a
t
I

A. Getling

in lhe field

and pracciclng' R'l' Mystery' sin' crifilb1e' T{otimer' eEc'

B. sarging with people like

Icoulalwatchthei!ganean'Ilearnandmodel';and\decouLd\talcheacn feedback' detailed other work and give each other for' a few nonths and tried the atcilude to

The truch inptenent behinal ie. high gear,

is that

r readl this

6Euff

its {ithouts Mystery's simply

full_y un'lerstandinq

and context ne anEo

\tork6hop \'as the experience

tshat kicked is a lot

t t I
I
I

because Eeeing tshese techniques

more useful

month6 aftser lhat {and oith conetanE than teaaling about tshen In tsleo good in and Tr'otirner) ' I felt pr:eiEy exchanges of ideas \titsh Grinntle and \tas stuck theie for stsicking poinl' lhe fie1d. Then I hiE anoEner and a coupf,e 'tays of Ross's seminar' a montsh. Novr, I jusE Eats in on point' pas! tshat sticking that seerns to have goEten ne And he knovs every line and is

I I

I hung out with

an AsF'er

tecently

fearlessaboutl}JalkupsButtnissEuffisn't\"orkingforhimbecause he can gel laid an'I 'toesn't Eruly believe that he is a virgin

I so Ehe

key,

I think

now, is working

on your ovrn internal

state

so that

you

says this

can be accomplished lbrough e4)exiencer

Ross says lbis

can

be helped with NLP and hwnotism. ) *+*I!'s the frame of "trying

going ou! lhere noE with

that to ge! an HB to sleep witsh you,'r blrl IGilOi'rING And, from lhere, sone compare i! to a

she wants to eleep with you.*** vialeo game. There silt

be certaiD

challenges and obetacles around lhen.

on vour path,

and you have to know ho1' lo navigate

So, ny advice, done so, \rrile challenges,

for what it's out a list

worth,

is Lhis.

If

you havenrl already

of lhe phases in your PU (openers, ginmlcks, and chemislry, of plan for #closing, *closing, and write etc.). out

crealing

rapport

Make sure you have sone sor! your different options.

each stage,

Then go out in lhe field

and work on one (vho

piece a! a time.

Try no! to go out nith

your sane old friends comfortable

anchor you !o your AFC stale experimentsing around) ; try

alrd ltho you atenrt !o find a wing online. lhe conversalion

Once you have and demonslrating an enolional doun, you'11 have

openers do\{n, work on continuing value. Once you have that

down, rrork on creating .And know lhat

conneclior1 and *closing. find that you $on'l it all.

once you ge! thi6 because you'll

need notes or sleps,

incernalized

I,m still a! !his.

working on ny game, lhough, because il's r!'s helped in the non-sarging $orld loo.

fun getring l'Iv curren!

betcer

challenge:

learning

tso be DIRECTand GUTSY(in lhe right

situalions).

A'lonyfiolJa

wtitee

''l am finatly

Eekins tlis

9i r1 o"- '

Where should

Eake her?"

Donrt take her to a movie, an'I 'Ion't be just "hanging ouE" to eee if taking

take hex on a 'date'n

You should for someone

a
j
; -

she meets your standards

you'd even considei girts you're

on a date' And' of course' you only date \'rho deserve lhe re{ards already ' and

already sleeping {ith,

p::ivileges

of dating

you. But you know thal

Listen,

don't

forgel

lhat

sHE pursue'I you in the club you You are already IN'

And sHE

rearrangeal her plans before you go. Letrs

to be {ith

Nowr plan

say thats you're

already commilted to a novie'

$here you live for coffee Here's what you do. Meet her somevtherenear 'Ihere, work on rapporl' humor ' interesting or a soack or \thalevel Maybe even seop mid-gimmick and gimmj"ck (graphology, cube, whalever) sualdenly realize whatever ihat you left your ltal]et or the movie Eimes or coffee or snack Stop rlone co with Sav

t t t t t t I
t
I

a! your house ilo\tn vtilh analyEis

liave her pay fo! her, coDtinue holil

get !hem. sit handwriting rgive

ginmick'

As you continue

or r'halevel,

your hands out

(palns up)

doh'n your ne your hands.r' You shouldl, by no\t' be 61o\dlng

I
I

speaking and Phase-shif ling' If sbe aBks about it n (Mystery line ) Nocice: Does 6he there's again in a to

t
Does 6he squeeze you back? If

wetre not sl.lpposedEo talk give you her hands easily? j.esisEancer liEtle punish If

(bv witshdrawing vour attention) are positive' go into

and trv

\tbile.

Etle lors

the "Would you like

kiss me" close.

Make sure vou do atl

this

with complele confidence'

another kissetl,

fun Ehing to do is

tso get her amped up and wanting

to get

and Ehen fractionating

by going !o the bathroom or somethlng' until she's going crazv for vou' if r reneniber

ceL her aroused, and then back off (Aftser ar1, this

is vrhat she did to you in the club'

Irm

exhaugled

tonight,

so I

hope some of

Ehi6

he1ps.

I,er

us know what.

happens .

StyTe wtites Eubject: Re: inlereating cloae failure

You did lhis

vell.

Nice teasing,

and 6he called

you back. I hate to do

a takeaway, bul 1will.

There's a great slory

thae I use tha! you It,s gotden: in

could have tol-d here. 1'11 post it

when r have more time. files. It

to be added Co the permanent Eeduction lhi8 situat.ion,

not only $orks of my living

but last. week I sat on lhe tloor

room and

tol"d lhe story afler

to an HB on our FIRST time hanging out. I aeked her when she firs! tbe story.

That nighc,

1l,eelep! together,

wanCed to kisE me, I adapted it from a

and she said it ahorl story

wa when I was telling

by the 'fapanese writer

Haruki

Murakami.

I PROMISEto n^ei

its here soon, unless you all

already know it'.

Also/ won'!

I wan! to dispute a certain

ASF lenet. here is

And lhat

is,

{henever she

give you he! nurll3err tshe advice of,

ro 6ay something along because ro you

the lines itrB ju6t

,,I don,t glve ou! my nuniber to girls,

anolher nuniber arrd you won'C use it,' give

or oharever. And, here, who won,ts give

you said lhats you don'l you lheirs.

out youri number !o gir16

These responses (especially supplicating

the srandaid ASF reeponse) is lhat rhe ASF while

bolh sound a ]itt.le

to me. The problen call

response ASSWES that' she won,! funny, is also babyieh steal either. story their

you and your responge/ like it).

(lhough I etill fumy,

My response is !o

framer "That's

I don't is.,,

give our ny numbers to girl6 (sometimeg r'11 make up a

My phone rings about a girl

enough as ir

who cal1ed me or drove me crazy or whatever her I undersrand. ) Then, because T,ve eay, ,'Thas 1s

fear 6eems to be, to show lhat

already seeded lhe convergation with a SOtrD pIr.AN,I'11

xxx' " Then we'11 both agree going !o make its awf,u1]Y hard to go Eo the stolen her rules just thi6 orce, and Ir11 have totally f,rane by thi6 tsime anat EaY when I hand its Eo her' force me to block You! nuriber' " crazv uith

tlhil.e

I say this,

I'n

bunorous,

conveyi[g

the tbings

she liked

about

me. I'm no! being

This angly ol upseE ol argunrentsative or Persietents lhe HB actsually !'rork trdide. Holrever, one of thoEe timeg' only didn't caLted ine the next day' apologized cOT my nutdbe! f,rom a muuual frien'I, !) left it on the machine for not. givlng ne her number, and Ehen

StyTa wtlea, eu.bj eet ! Ibe Wlndotf

a uindol, oPens uP. I! make your move lnslde tha! {

Mystely lastg,

says that

when you're

Barging

e girl'

say, 5_20 ninuteE.

And if

you don't

winalolr, it's

ovef. You'fe done. Gameover.

I ay tha!, some future

But it's Justsa 6tate, and at YeE, the wlndow can cloee' poinE you can ge! he! back i n E h a t 6 t a t e .
my quesElon:

anllt,|ay, with

that

debate in nind,

berera

At dimer. latin

I meE a great . sitting

gB {a super-thin

exolic

beauty'

a mix of I totally thac

I
I

analfewish)

ne"ts tso her durittg

tlre neal'

openedt the I'n right doing,

inalow. What opened its for \dhich is to find

me was a nelt spifl on Ev'ing and tshen poinE ouL how' ll'ith me'

her core vatue tbat

then and there,

shet6 feeliug

core value

t I I

Aryway, he!.

the window opened, and I knew right wirh

lhere

Ehat I coutd hdve I fractionatsed Then I relurneat a while

BUT, we were at a table

a bunch of people. for a white.

and tsalked with ny atterlt.ion I felt just that

lhe HB on my oEher side

to het. incredible

Holrever, the nreal was so tong t.hat afler connect.ion we made start to fade.

(Or mavbe I

got tired. )

So. what do you do when Ctte windox, opens and you're where you can go tor a *cfose?

not. in a place

Once it

closes,

I oflen

feel

like

thingE

someeimeg get awkward. What. and affirm t.he like a

do you do AFTER lhe window closes conneclion leldo!,n--1ike and excilement iC \ras ju6!

to maintain

you hadr so tha! a monent that

i.t doe8n't

feel

passed?

If

thls

makes Eenee, please

commentI

AnonynnaustapLlaE,

"You need to know how to anchor reBponses to open the !rindo!r.,,

StyJ.e tep7i.es,

Okay. I u4derstand poteotial. like slide

anchoring.

But maybe I don't lrhen she's "in

use i! sra!e,"

!o ir6

futl

As I r.rndersland it',

I,d do sometshing

my hand down her forearm touch/geeture is effective,

or. whatsever. Then, sonetime iaEer, righr back in state. Bur,

repeat. that even if this

and, bam, 6he's

she's back in state

for a second ar nosc, scenario?

no? How lrould you then use tshis tso your advantage in this

j
sEyla wtitea t (raverDil + subject: Re: unatj.mutaCLngi sex.'..

a
t
I

HBpetiteHotsti6)

a
t

Rave!D!T,

I haven't

read thie

thote

lhread,

but two things

come to mind:

1. You canrt herself

MAK! a wornan orgasm or feel

good'

She has !o A!'LOW

!o orgasn or feel good. (This iBn'E an NLP lurn of repeateil in Tanera, se*ua1 psychologv, everything ) so

t F
3
!

pbrase--ltrs

going lhe more pressure you apply on her Co enjoy 6ex, the mote she's to get lense and enjoy i! LesB.

And, thiS

ig MOST IMPORTANT:

t
the kind that likes to please Tell her (Irm 6ure

2. Role play!

she seems like

a
I

you want to role play. you're creative

Spin up a good fantagy scenario a role enjoys that sex

here) , and have her play who voraciously go of } erself

would be Thi6 way you lhe role responsiwe'

t
F

associatsed witsh a fenate can't tha! tose: either she actually

she lets enjoys it,

and gels Eo into more involved'

or she ie just

and 1oud, and it's

more fun for: Youl

SLyIe wtiEes, subjectr The WaY I EV

I T I I

t t
I I

In re6ponse not sure if but

t'o five583, itts it

here's

rLe new w a y I r m E V , i n g supposed to be done or

lhese days. even if it's

r'm new

Ehe way it's REAtr,y work6.

at. at1,

Here's a ecript please read on:

from 1a6t night.

And lhere's

a question at the end. so

HB: I want to produce. I4e: But thattg things that not \rhat you real]y want !o do. That.r6 just tooking for. one of many

vri1l give

you lhe end goat you,re

HB; What alo you mean? Me: llell, actlng what iB l! appeals about producing, t'o you. things done, done. But you don,! want it' to gei tha! alEracEs as opposeal to directing o,

that

HB: I 11).e getling

Me: Yea, you Like to ge! things

done in the business worLd. There's somelhlng abou! film

HB: Yea, because it'E

creatlve. creative, Norrr le!

Me: Ah, now we're get.ting Eomewhere. Because itrs me aBk you Eoriething. If you produced this end tt

amazing fi1m,

anat got i!

alL done completeLy by yoursetf. did il and now you were standing it, how would you feete

took a lob of work, but you an

on a stage a! su:ratance accepting

award for

EB: Accompli6hed. Me: So !hat'6 acconplishment. it. That'E vhat you're really after: a senBe of reit.l Now. Iet me

tshe lightE

up here anat gets alnoet

ask you Eomething else:

you can be totatty youisetf

honeet. Is this done it

a sense of, yoursetf. others 6ee

accomplishmene thats comes fron Or is it

and having

a 6ense of accomplishment done and approve of it. fron others.

in rhe sen6e of having

\dhat you've

HB: I guess it.'s Mer Thatr6 fine.

ThaL kind of accomplishment is realty

rdhat you,re

after.

Isnrt

lhis

greaEr in jusE a couple minutes'

we already

got

sonelhing

done hogeEher' and !ed) ' a sense of acconpliEhmen! reil aitl big smiLe now') and no$'

HB: Yeah (now big grio Me: And alontt you feel H!; Yeah, I do. (totatly

And, by the way, I don't EeaFing,

flirling saY bhiB in a sneakY way. I'rn and what I'm doing ' and l,|e'!e boeh ln on Ehe loke 60meone dtose f,un right

I aleo tried futt.

EhlB a felr nightB I'Ye6, and

ago, wlth erre havlng

cole value

ltag

I Juet saiil,

novr' look

aE You: 1s aLt

your face 16 flu6hed

!tha! life and Your !e laughlng ' IBn'h THIS

Itsrd aweBome? beceuge it quesEion:

I

olks

anazlngly

!tel1

Now' helerg

ny

logether

an'l Bhared th19 amazlng momenE x wha! 'Io you 'lo NEXT How can anal Bhe's laughing/flushed' once you've ilon thie from thi6?

phase shlft

Ideaa?

Anonyrious vtlee',
older tsonight who iE about 11 yea!6 I don't know going to be a bunch of, people Ehat than I am' llhere ale out at tntimldaEed buE I want tso Btand ealing at her house ' I'm realLy " front ot her friends het an'l not appear stupid in dlitmer anal altlact *I'rn going !o alinner with a girl

Style

,eP7!es,
to be dudb or TRY to prove TRY to be sma!! or TRY not

Warning:

Don't

1. whaE are Your 6tickirg from what I can lell sticking PointB

points? little'

You offer

a lot

of great

advice r buE have

a6k for

nus! 1'm assuming tshat You can be inproved.

or PartB

of, Your game that

like to reaal how You! rePo!! froin You' r'd X'd love !o see a lieLtl 2. for You' etc' nork on a night ou! pogls, laleaF, Llnes' f,avor-BltapPlng,

ThankB, nan. . '

Slylewiles: Subiect:I hatethe crriivc closet

use Mystery it to greot lve us'lit However' seen have I for 'vrybody' personally never Not evdrthingis that it \Mong; just msos ifs that me6n youte doinganything It close, doesn,t the gfect andgottcn numbe! witb lot cDngruedt Yoursarg' Like you to hasanything dowith flakilg tbatthe"{ay" youaskfor the#olose OfcoursqI don'ibliove conoretQ also Mystery makes plans bforehand and rappott (fol6e) ltaking c4ncrete say,it'sNlding thg for exadple' goilg upto toud theHolDvoodsigir *hlosiog: too plans before them make therD' th allswers phoneBeftiend rry to chata little with whoever ahvays Iinaly, youshould or say' I never "Tell hel tllat Chis called" pmoftlo' id arxsy Atso' atiny tletail: likeyou.Thisis social askif theyhavea petra[d thenmak to likely to FORCET tell hr'I always they're Bcause wiatever. themuritedotrmynumber.Thswayshe.lefinitlygetsihemessage...brrtyouprobablyakadylmow this...

Style writes: Subject: Atila & Badboy found HBPlayer

Hey Badboy,

[t'sawesome have female to pivot.Will reallyhelpyourpU. I like thismore a thanmalewings, though I oftenusethePivotwithoux knowing (',Hy, gofuckwith some her it. people...") let,s Don'thave much time.butthree thoushts:

1.I likeusing rcgular the openers a Pivot.Approach andsay,,,We with "opinion" HB wanted getan to you just outside opinion something,,,(tell story)...,, can getin sosmooth, on funny

2. When she's someone thenit'sperfect getanother to walkby herto make with else, to HB your you Maybe caltstarta wholeroutine "gitltiend" or your"ex-gilfriend"j ealous. with pivot(l've nver tned this,justthought it), where youte escalating with yourrespective of patnersto mak kino each other jealous. hugs guy,youhuggirl. Sh She guy, kisses youkissgirl. She seriously tongues downguy,you seriously tongue downgirl. It couldbea lot offm to getanHB wrappd in thislunnywar... up

3. I alsolike to usethepivot!o wingmy friend.l,ll explain: Atila is talkingwith pivot.Goapproach say an lIB, saythatyourereallyinto Pivot,butAtila is a bit ofa ladies andyouwantto separate soyou man them cantalk to Pivot.AsktheHB to distract Atila for you.(you,resortofmakinghera fakewing.)Then walk in, introduce "old fiiend"HB to Atil4 andlet thetwo ofthemgooffandgetto knoweach your (And other. Atila couldobviously thislor youioo.) do

an'l possible'walk into a club with Pivot on oneaml 4. And, whenever IIB in the room will notice

anotherIIB on the otherarm Every

girl Get her into the ideaofa threesomeHave like an open-minded 5. This is most importanl sheseems Badboy (Rick H has shouldtake your gameto the next level' her PU gitls for BOTH of you to sharc'This a lot ofpattems for this.)

I I

I I

I
style wt!.taa, EuccegE - - > f a i l u r e FR eubjecb: Distated

okay,

thiE

FR ie going to be dictaEed Poitlt I

to ne, because it

totatly

tho1lJe

I I I I

my st-icking

I I
lrn really intso' She's got long

that TonlghE, I waB \titsh a woman

blackhair,abouEEhleeinchesEalferlhanme,andabeautifulbody' thal I atmost feel out of my 6he looks so rnuch Like a model Eonestly, sher6 problen) an'I I'm so Ehankfut tha! league (antl herein nay be tne to blov' i!' into ne that I almosts ge! afiaid leho she's been Beeing for a \dhile But'

Anway, he's

she has a boyfriend

avray fot

he'E not' tshe

though she loves hj-m' six weeks, and she 1o!O!lStbats' Eays thaE she could guy she \tantss !o marry she alEo

Dever be unfaitltful anything defense.

up before sbe did and woulct have tso be broken says tshis is jus! anEi-slut with someone ef,ser buc Mystery from t"lystery' I'n glad someone Anylvay, oo tso lhe dictation'

else was here Eo waEch it: go to lurch (split the tab) ' and

,,You pick

her up the verv lext

dav'

lhen

she goes over you 90 ro a couple over to --

to

your

place

immediately,

dude.

lror

#11

(oh,

and

before you're leaning showerr

look ar an apartmenL-Lor-renr IOI #2.) your Dude, she,s knee (IOI in opens, praying

and pretend wilh your

like shoe and of rhe that

touch

#4 and 5). corner,

when I

cane out

and noliced opportunity

her

sitting

the

I noticed: got to

Etrere's it

\,tlndow of

and it

and you've

90 for

there,

because oLhelwise you'11 come back tanled that over to and have happen,

stale rhose

Lhe en!.ire relationship. feelings that nothing

She,s gorng !o She !o

happened. for

there

vere

lhose

er?ectations

sonething

happen.

But vhat did you do wrong? You didn't cloae (say

shur up, you didn,t

do a kiss she,s

Dude, you were in complece conlrol:

your house, laughing,

pl.aying with the bottom of your shoe, leaning her hand. She Bat with you on lhe couch and

to louch your knee wilh listened lhink,

!o your muic and sharied time with you. I winged you/ I wonderfully, brrnging up che sublect of sex and a real-]y 1on9 shower. could smell the

boytriend-blasling, How did you keep it pheromonesr man.

and then leaving

and taking

going rrhen the sexual

energy--I

There was nolhing wrong rith right

Ehis ee!: you went all

the way ro rhe end

Lhere. Her bf i6 gone foi for

six \,reeks; she doeEn't know how she's sexual. Dude, i! was SO

going to survive

six weeks; she,s ralking

norey. You shou.ld slao yourself:

you were rhere.

sl-e came over.

Do you know e,hat I would have done? I have a loofa in the shower, I would have said:
TrLp v.',r <hi Yf ^rl

sponge. when I was

,come into

lhe bathroom with ne.

.--

----t

grea!.

Irm going to rub you down wiEh my loofa

sponge.' Would she have

lurned you down? No, because you,re a cool guy. You could have said, ril doesn't have lo be sexual if you dontr want il lo. It's a great

feeLing.

But you r,vete afraj.at of he! ltle ivhole point it's thing. o! getting

saying no an'I having to lhaE poin!

that

awk!'ard feeling' tso find oui lf

of, yeB/no is lt'6

a no, Iets it

be a no, but at }east you know Du'le, ehe's here'

no! a bad

IE'e not a failure.

The onfy reason i'hY 6herd not that ehe dldnrt lhe

6ay no iE Ehat 6he tlialn't wan! to fuck l.ou. All it

\tan! to appear a elu!'

Eakes iE f,or you to invite

her into

Bholrer. Yoil have the gutg to apptoach, !hem? to get then over to your house' dj.ctationl

bo make tshe moves I lo go eee Dnde' take your re!'rardl" (end of

So, trm poBling you al} LLltLe

Ehig here to A) Inlernalize

lhiB

and change ' B) Have

on how to stop Lhat !e11 me what an AFc I an' c) eet advlce 'ohat lf Bhe lejec! ne ohen I Ery volce 1n firy heaat lhat say

tso kiBB he!.t

Anon!,g,ous tap TlaE:. rny bogE nag gelling V{hen go Pull

"a gaod analogy rookiee do their

erag one that

ne.

Ealee deno, 50t of them are afraid forn aC Uhe end "'

out the ealeE order

Btyle

reElronda I
Both good posts thats

Ye6, ttuale, tha! nail

is exactly

i!'

A great

analogyl

the ProbLen' because later tshat same niqht ' lldice before' did a

It's

so Etupidt that

l dida't

go fo? i!'

I wenE tso a party

antl rnet an HB8 I had h]JIg out l'ith l'ef,t tbe party' returned'

wents in more fearfee.

found her'

I I

camera *close. took a novie of

have this us. l

cool

carnera lhat

takes we do'r

mini-movies, I 6aid,

so I

she said, knew il

"What should was already

rcome Lhe r.lio I a lold

here.'r

And kissed.

on,

so ended up wilh _ t - ir d .

new variation her the first go all

of

Riker's

thr.ee rules: and then So 1 said, t.hird I told

lhe

lhree

rules not

lakea{ay. wanting around to

two ru1es, lhe way.

she diecussed okay. rule?" her,

actually then its lel

We fooled Il

some nrore, because

she a6ked,

"What lras the

was beautiful,

me know sbe was ready. r' :)

and she said,

rrThose are

good rules.

Bu! when I for ME to

left

this

morning,

realized: I

Thal blevt il.

HB9 was jusl

ltaiting

make a move the

day before.

Anonyfroug wrLEea, Eubject: Re. Left brain - Right brain. Very long. Good read.

"I

don'l

lhink

it

applies

as far

as lactics

and techniques?"

style
No, it creativity pick the

replies:
totally or applie6. something turn Here's like hovt I use it. I say, at wben {e're lalking hands her right about ' how I

that,

rl]leL me see your her brain, palms. I lell

them upr left is

them over,

and look by the right

hand i6 lhe

conlrolled side,

and how the

brain

artis!rc

Ehe anima, where intuitrve, come from. and thatrs The right

erolic, hand is and

creaEiver controlled

and spifitual by tshe left

thinking brain,

where 1ogic,

reason,

lailguage look.

(1igttt And when I look c1o6e1y at her hands

ki[o

on

palms here) . Ehe, lj-ke noet people, on he! right lepreBsetl hanal, and this reflectE

ha6 deePer and nore complex lines how strongly self--the our society part has

our aalural,

lntuitive,

erotic

thats Eruly

al1ow6 us t-o develop personally

and splritsually'

And then you can sPln {hatever usually) You want from lhie "

pactern/routine

(trNatural' lfoman' "