Identify and express the feelings that precede anger Express the feeling; not the anger

Try to become aware of the emotion Respond assertively

PURPOSE : Express anger in nonaggressive ways State your thoughts calmly and assertively

Do not suppress anger Stop blaming and calling names Learn to relax

HOW HOWTO TO COPE COPE WITH WITH ANGER ANGER

Write down angry thoughts Try not to fan your own fire Write it to the person you are angry with and tear it Challenge and reappraise them

PURPOSE : Recover from psychological arousal

Train yourself to keep a lid on angry feelings until calming down

Confront the situation/ person calmly Monitor the feelings and learn to use them as cues

Do not react impulsivel y Take some time out

What is happening What to do about it

PURPOSE : To stop and consider

Examples : Yoga, massage, meditation, running, dancing

Engage in activities that work off anger & feeling relaxed Relinquish your anger Do not brood; see things differently Reframe a situation

Become aware of what precipitates your anger Know the roots of your anger

PURPOSE : Can deal with it more constructively

Meet a professional counselor / therapist

Look at the situation from THE other persons view Interpret situation from less provocative perspective

Just let it go

Change the thoughts that trigger anger

PURPOSE : Produce new feelings which displace the anger