10/13/2013

Strengthening Families
Teaching Responsible Behavior

Outline of Session
What to teach (values)
Alien observer

Teaching children by example Giving children responsibility Clear expectations

Corner video

Teaching new behavior (1 step at a time) Rewards

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What do you Value?

What is a value? How do you teach values? Video

Teaching Children
Examples become memories that guide our lives.
Elder Robert D. Hales

Increasing missions and temple marriage:

The Poop Detectors in your life.

Remember to scaffold
I do You watch I do You help You do I help You do I watch

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Circle of Freedom and Responsibility

Those who do too much for their children will soon find they can do nothing with their children.
Elder Neal A. Maxwell

Tie freedom to responsible actions. A word about Chores.

Learning Activity
With a partner discuss:
Do your children have adequate work opportunities? Do your children have opportunities to serve? Do you children have opportunities to play? How can you change things to increase all three?

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Clear Expectations
State exactly what you want done (Example). Avoid:
Lets commands Question commands Chain commands

General rule
Age 7 and under, give only one command at a time. Ages 7-8, increase to two. Ages 8+, increase by two.

Compliance
Healthy families only have between 50-60% compliance for requests. This increases by adding 10 seconds to each request.

Teaching New Behavior

5 year old Taking a shower? 5 year old Taking out the trash?

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Provide Choices
Allow choice, between choices you are comfortable with. Allow the natural consequences to result from choice.

Questions?

Target Behavior:

Goal 5: Goal 4: Goal 3: Goal 2: Goal 1:

Step Chart

Target Behavior: Making School Lunch

Goal 5: Goal 4: Goal 3: Goal 2: Goal 1:

Decide what to have for lunch the next day, at least 60 minutes before bedtime. Make lunch for the next day, at least 30 minutes before bedtime. Put lunch in the refrigerator 5 minutes after making the lunch. Get lunch out of the refrigerator upon at least 5 minutes after waking up. Put lunch in backpack 5 minutes before leaving for school.

EXAMPLE
Samuels Step Chart

SMART Goals
SMART Goals SSpecific: MMeasurable: AAttainable: RRelevant: TTime-Bound:
something specific, such as a statement, quality, detail, etc. capable of being measured to arrive (at) with effort or exertion

bearinguponorconnectedwiththematterinhand;pertinent
having a time limit

Good Example: I will lose 20 pounds by July 2011, by excercising 30 minutes three times a week. Bad Example: I will lose weight. A. Macro Goal 01: 1. 2. 3. B. Macro Goal 02: 1. 2.

3. C. Macro Goal 03: 1. 2. 3.