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ENDGAME PROLOGUE
By Steven McConnell

Ive always been wary of people who claim to have the answers to my problems. You know the ones: Have a washboard stomach in 4 weeksnever have to work out again! Make money onlinemake money while you sleep! Attract women like a magnetwomen will approach you! Especially that last oneoh, women, the glorious women, and the promise of magic powers over them by a guy who spent most of his teenage years casting his eyes at a beautiful femme only to be stopped by a thought: Im not in her league. Or what should I say? or what do I need to do to make her like me? or some other variation on that theme. And it wasnt until I ended up in a very strange conversation with a random man whose haircut looked like part Bruce Lee and part mishap with an upturned soup bowl that I realized why those quick fix solutions have never worked for me and for so many other guys Ive spoken to. Excuse me, did you just grab my arse? the stranger in front of me spun around. I was about to push past him, as I was navigating the courtyard of one of Sydneys busiest bars. This watering hole was a well-known destination for rowdy English backpackers, legions of drunken hens arriving by party bus load and, you guessed it, aspiring pickup artists. It also gave a new meaning to the term watering hole because the beverage of choice for most of said pickup artists was a large glass of iced water, sucked through a long straw from within a tight circle of like-minded water lovers. It was a Tuesday night, and if you walked through the crowd, youd easily catch snippets of pickup wisdom being offered, debated and defended alongside the usual bar racket. And if you were the one walking through the crowd, chances were, you were in search of a suitable female on

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which you aimed to test out your most recently acquired pickup wisdom. Internally, youd be in a mild state of analysis paralysis, processing a million thoughts per second, and secretly hoping that no such female crossed your path. Externally, youd be trying to project a confident, alpha male exterior to this room full of strangers who you were convinced were watching your every move. Your face would be warmed with a smile, but not too much. Youd make good eye contact, but not too much. Youd be armed with a good opener on the tip of your tongue, but not being committed to it too much. Youd try to seem a bit vulnerable, but not too much. Youd be walking with shoulders back, but not too much. Oh, and giving value, but not too much. It was on one of those walks, caught up in the middle of all that internal dialogue madness, where I bumped into the moppy-headed stranger. Sorry, but I was just looking for your wallet. Oh, its in the front. Dont mind me. Yes, I could banter as well as anyone, unless, of course, I was in front of a cute girl. Speaking of which, I noticed one of thosea short, curvy brunette now occupying my new friends attention. And, just behind thema cute, tall, slender blondie making eyes at him as well. Hmmm. Maybe this guy was someone I could learn from? I watched him bounce from woman to woman, laughing, playing, and making each woman feel special and alive. What was the result? They seemed to want more. I wanted more! More of whatever mojo he was on. One or two women brushed him off with a tight-lipped smile, but that didnt seem to faze him at all. Hed just thank them, move on to the next (and hotter) group of girls and make friends there. I caught up with him in the mens toilets, where he was busy trying to dissolve a urinal cake. Hey man, whats your deal? How do you get all that attention? Oh, hey mate. Mostly by chatting up dudes, in a urinal. Thats the secret these days. It seems youre well on your way to becoming a master so I might leave you to it! He replied with a cheeky smile. Well, its kind of hard to get your attention with all those women hanging off you. Ive been trying all night but its not getting me anywhere. Come on, tell me. Ive tried everything Ive learnt but its not working. Whats the deal? Oh, ok. I get it. I know what that means. I could tell you, but you wouldnt believe me. Youre probably one of those pickup artists or something, arent you? He did up his zip and washed his hands. Well, Ive read some stuff, Ive met a few, and I post on some forums, but I wouldnt say Im a hard core fan.

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Why would it matter, anyway? You guys are so caught up in your complex theories and evolutionary psychology to see the most obvious answer in the world. I could tell you, but it wouldnt fit any one of your techniques, routines, and systems. So you guys usually just dismiss it. And Ive got women to play with, anyway. And with that, he was off. She was 56 brunette with blue eyes and had curves from here to eternity, and she was in his lap. It took me 20 minutes to get his attention again. I promise Ill listen. Is it some special confidence technique? What is it? OK. You want to know the secret? Here it is. But listen up! You really have to listen to get what Im talking about. I mean really listen. Are you listening? Sure. When youre on, youre on. When youre having the time of your life, when youre not focusing on what other people are thinking and just doing what you want, when youre just being real, open and letting out the larger than life you that you have locked inside, you dont have to learn pickup lines or special things to talk about, everything just happens. So why would you waste your time with that stuff? It made so much sense. So I just have to learn how to be on and Ill be able to make girls attracted to me? See? I told you that you have to listen carefully, and you didnt so you missed it. Sorry. Time for me to play again. He went back to the brunette again. The bastard. I sat down to think about what he had just said. When youre having the time of your life, when youre not focusing on what other people are thinking and just doing what you want, when youre just being real, open and letting out the larger than life you that you have locked inside It didnt make sense. Hes just talking about getting in the zone to get girls. Thats no secret. Even those pickup artist guys know that. So how could I be wrong? What was he talking about? Please? Why do you want to know this? What are you into this for? I love women. I think theyre beautiful, they smell great, theyre bubbly and fun, and I want to be around them more, and I just dont know what to do. Okay, you seem like youre a good guy, and you seem like you have good intentions, which is more than most guys. So Ill tell you the secret. Listen, think about it, and then see how you go. I told you that you just need to have the time of your life and you wont have to worry about any of that pickup stuff. Yeah, I know you said that. You said just have to get on and you can get any girl. See, you missed it again. I didnt say you could get any girl. I said you dont have to bother with any pickup stuff. There is a very big difference, and its the difference that separates my success from yours. I know

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because Ive stood in your shoes, and it wasnt till this clicked that I could run the entire club and have the time of my life. I felt confused and lost. Okay. I still dont get it. Then lets try something. Have you spoken to any women here tonight? I smiled, because Id done a very impressive amount of sets tonight. Yeah, at least seven. Good. I want you to think back to the last one you spoke to. When you went up to her, what story were you trying to tell her? I scanned the room, looking for her. She was a short, petite blonde girl with a big smile. She wasnt anywhere to be seen. I managed to squeeze out, Well, I started with a natural Hi opener and then gave her some value. before I was cut off. He was shaking his head at me No. I didnt ask you about what pickup theory you executed. I asked you this: what story were you trying to tell her about yourself? What image were you trying to make her see of you? How did you want her to perceive you? That Im a high-value, cool guy. I wanted her to see me as having my shit together. I wanted her to see that I was fun, outgoing, playful, and had the kind of life that she wanted to be a part of, I guess. Great. Really good answer. Now, think about it. So, first, consider that youre trying to manipulate her perception of you. And there is nothing wrong with that. You can choose to do that, if you want. But why were you doing it? I dont know. Well, have a look! What was going on for you in that moment? This was far deeper than Id really planned on going in this cheap bar, but I guess it was leading somewhere. Well, I wanted her to be attracted to me. I wanted her to come home with me. Okay, great. Now, consider this: the motivation behind any action is a feeling. And youre telling her this story about yourself because you want to feel a particular way. How do you want to feel? Umm. I dont know. Okay, lets slow this down. How do you feel right now? I shook my head a little and searched around me for an answer. Confused. Great. And before that, before I started talking to you. Were you happy, neutral, or sad? Oh, Id say pretty neutral. He smiled and nodded. And how would you feel if that brunette you were watching me play with started touching you like she was touching me? This was a no-brainer. Happy, obviously! So youre neutral now. And in order for you to be happy, you need her to come over and be into you? I paused for a second. Id never thought of it like that. Yeah, I guess. So, youre not happy now and youre making her responsible for your happiness. How much of a role do you

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think the fact that youre not happy now and youre waiting for her to make you happy is affecting your chances with her? How much would you want to talk to someone who was needy, clingy, and trying to get you to make them happy? I took a deep breath in and thought back. Id hung around needy and clingy people before. Id felt the constriction that they bring. Id always thought to myself that I was glad I wasnt like that. I guess I just hadnt thought about it enough. Heres the difference. Im happy now, without her. Im not focusing on trying to make her attracted to me, or getting her to approve of me; Im simply taking control of my happiness. Instead of trying to make other people the shining light of my otherwise dull world, Im creating a world full of excitement and happiness that people just want to be part of. I dont have to focus on creating attraction in her. Shes naturally attracted to me! And I wouldnt even know a thing about how to do natural game or whatever. He had a point, but he was missing something key. Hang on, so youre telling me that I need to be self-amused? People have been saying that for years. Yes and no. Yes, because when youre happy and fulfilled and self-amused in your life, meeting new women becomes a side effect of your happiness. And no because if youre just being self amused so that women will like you, youre still placing responsibility for your happiness on their shoulders. It made so much sense. Being truly self-amused has nothing to do with doing what you want so that other people will like you. Thats not self-amusing at all. It cant be about anyone else. I think I get it. He continued passionately. Thats the issue. Its not what youre doing. Its why youre doing it. If youre being self amused so that women will like you, youre not going to bring anything to her world, youre not adding anything to her life, and youre following a map that you think will allow you to get things from her more effectively. If youre being self-amused so that people will like you, then youre still going to face the same issue that youre facing now. If youre doing anything, just so that people will like you then youre never going to come out on top. Youre still going to have to learn lines, routines, methods, and techniques to disguise the fact that youre dissatisfied with your life and that youre hoping shes going to fill that gaping, empty hole in your heart. Its only once youre able to get to a place where you dont need women that youre ever really going to get the success you want because youre not putting any pressure on them to be responsible for your life. But I like women and want them in my life. Are you saying I should get to a place where I dont want women anymore? You obviously want women. Thats right. I love women. I adore women. I think theyre amazing creatures. But I dont need them in my life to feel happy or complete. Im talking about something different here; Im talking about not needing them. Theres a huge difference between wanting and needing. Wanting or desiring is where youre complete without the thing, but youd still like it. Needing is where you feel incomplete without it. The difference is that when you need something, your life is in deficit without it. With wanting, your life is full without it and its just an added bonus. I see. I took a deep breath and thought back to the women Id met tonight: the tall brunette, the short Norwegian blonde, and the shy redhead. When you really cut it all back to the core, Id been using them all. And this is what you were saying about learning the pickup stuffits all about trying to make her attracted to you, rather

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than creating a life thats naturally attractive to beautiful women. He smiled and nodded. Now youre getting it! But couldnt you just do both? He shook his head and took a deep breath. Some people say yes, but I dont believe its possible. Sure, you could do the things that make you happy and just do a little bit of stuff to make you more attractive to her, but you have to consider the underlying mindset. If youre focused on creating the kind of life that you want and making yourself happy, then its all about you. Its you taking control of your life and doing the things that you desire to do. If youre focused on trying to be more attractive to her, youre not focusing on what you want to do; youre focusing on what you think she wants you to do. One is focused inwards, the other, outwards. Theyre diametrically opposed. If you want to be naturally amazing with women, you have to pick one. But it sounds so like such a long journey! Well, the way I look at it. You could spend years learning different techniques to cover every possible scenario and every possible situation that can occur when youre trying to make her attracted to you. You could learn different openers for day time, then night time, then mixed groups, then all girl groups, and spend months perfecting those, then you could learn different stories and routines for all the different situations, then you could learn the different social dynamics of all those areas, then you could keep going, and going, and going, and going. And even if you did do that, what kind of women would you attract? One whos willing to settle for a guy whos too afraid to stand up for what he believes in and changes himself so that people will like him. What kind of woman is that? Probably just as shallow, insecure, and needy as he is. Or, you could not even worry about that kind of stuff, you could start being real, genuine, open, honest, having the time of your life, right now, without having to learn or internalize all this useless stuff and then find people who complement that life. What kind of women do you think youre going to attract then? And which journey sounds longer and more rewarding? It was starting to make a bit of sense. So, what youre saying is that the secret to being incredibly attractive to women isnt learning all the different things that an attractive person does, its becoming an attractive person so all those things come out naturally. Now, youre getting it. I stopped and looked around the bar. But what about doing all those things that Ive been told that I have to do, like qualification and leading and being an alpha male and having some solid material to talk about? Okay, another great question. If you had a fulfilling life that was fun, filled with great times and great adventures, would you want anyone to come into it and interrupt it or would you be selective about who was part of it? Id be pretty selective. Great. You just did qualification. Now, if you lived a fulfilling life that was fun and amazing, would you sit back and wait for other people to take the lead and tell you what to do or would you be going off and doing the things that you loved? Id be doing the things I love, I guess.

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Great. You just did leading. Now, if you lived a fulfilling life filled with fun and adventure, would you have to come up with stories to try and impress people or do you think your life would be filled with fun and interesting things to talk about? Thered be plenty of fun things to talk about. Great. You just got some solid material to talk about. Now, if you lived a fulfilling life filled with fun and adventure, would you sit on the sidelines being needy and clingy, desperately trying to work out ways to get people to like you or would you do what you want, when you want to, regardless of what other people thought of you? Id just be doing what I want. Great. You just became an Alpha Male. Would you like a certificate? Yeah. Great. Just slip me $50, and Ill get it made up right now. Anyway, Im off to play. Ms Brunettes getting tired and is looking for a place to lie down. Maha. Wait. So, what youre saying is that I should just go up to her and try and determine if shes the kind of woman I want in my life? No. What Im saying is that you should go home now, and do that with the rest of your life first. Create the kind of life that the people you want to bring into your life are attracted to because its the kind of life that youre attracted to. Create the kind of life that excites you when you wake up in the morning, and you have trouble getting to sleep at night because youre so excited about tomorrow. Then, when you have that life for yourself, go out and find people that you want to be part of that life. See how many issues you have running out of things to say then Good luck, brother. And with a flick of his ridiculous hair, he was gone. Straight into the waiting arms of the woman that I wanted. I grabbed my water, walked outside, and sat down. It took a while to sink in but I realized something very clearlyIve been using women all this time. Well, at least Id been trying to. Its no wonder that they didnt want to be part of my life. I was offering them nothing and trying to take everything! No wonder I was struggling with my openers and my techniques. Under the surface, I was still the same old needy chump! Wow. Its so simple. He was right. It was two weeks before I was able to find LoGun again but when I did, I wasnt going to let him get away with screwing with my mind like that and not giving me the answers I needed. After two weeks, the change was unbelievable. After four, I was unrecognisable. No more lines, no more pickup theory. I was real, alive, and powerful. Its time to show you how that happened.

Steven

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