Determi ni ng a topi c: It s i mportant to know your
communi ty!
The dialogue should address an issue that isnt going away. Informal conversations have already begun, and the dialogue is the next step. Ask yourself:
Are there any challenges your community is facing as it tries to be a more inclusive space? What are some of these social issues/obstructs? What issues do you feel your community is ready to talk about? What issues do you feel your community is not ready to talk about? 2
Choosi ng your team
The best team is composed of diverse individuals who agree on the purpose (and need) for the dialogue. Diversity promotes inclusion and promises that the dialogue will reflect the community you seek to serve.
Consider the following:
Are you reaching out to people who reflect the diversity of your community? Have you reached out to under- represented minority groups and people with ideologies that fall at different points on the spectrum?
Are there other initiatives (third spaces) in your community? Do you have a trusting relationship with any of the current members?
Have you reached out to activists and non-activiststhose already known for their views and others who display a general interest in community building?
Do you and your friends share a common desire/vision for starting a dialogue? Could you imagine yourself working with any of your friends in this initiative?
Do you all believe in the need for a dialogue on a particular issue?
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Composi ti on and Structure of Your Team
The organizing team can start as small as two peopl e and grow as you take on additional responsibilities.
We started off with a Logistics Guy and a Content Girl and branched out to be what we are now!
The group grows and retracts, depending on the need of the dialogue. Set your goals, distribute responsibilities, and trust each other in the shared vision!
Here are a few roles/items to think about! Logistics. Think about: Location. Accessible via public transportation. Space. Accommodate at least 100 people (seated) and avoid panel setting! Convos are better with eye contact! Time. At least 2.5 hours for the discussion with thirty minutes on either end for set up and cleaning. Content. Manage the: Topic selection. List of potential topics (the pros/cons of everything!). Moderator selection. Meet with potential moderators and people interested in moderating the dialogue or volunteering in content creation. Timeline. Create a timeline for all those google hangouts/meetings and send out an update so everyone is on one page!
Outreach. Promote through: Flyer. Contact a local artist/designer for the dialogue flyer. Social media. Social media venues used to advertise the dialogue, creation of the FB page, etc. Listservs and organizations. List of contacts, listservs, and American Muslim and supporting organizations to promote the initiative and upcoming dialogue.
Funding. Take care of the money by: Cost. Determine the costs for each dialogue and project the yearly goal. Fund-raising. Primary contact/administrator for all fundraising sites (e.g., LaunchGood). Distribution. Manage the donations during the event and payments (as well as additional costs as expenses grow). 4
Those Amazi ng Moderators! The moderators work with the Content person and take charge of the finer details such as:
Topic. What aspect of the general theme should the dialogue address? Format. How should the dialogue be structured (big/small groups)? Who should moderate the small discussion groups? Questions. Devise the questions for the discussion.
Choosi ng the Moderators
The moderators change for each dialogue. We suggest (2) main moderators who have prior experience with discussion groups and are comfortable with ideas/ideologies different than their own. They may or may not have topical knowledge for the particular dialogue but are open to sharing their personal experiences related to the topic.
A few things we think about when selecting our moderators: Do you know the person personally or professionally? Is he/she part of your spiritual group (or other religious network)? Have you ever seen this person moderate (or interact in a discussion group) before? Was he/she comfortable with other peoples opinions and different views? How did he/she handle the uncomfortable situations? Once again, diversity is important. Select moderator pairs who reflect your communitys genders, racial and ethnic diversity, etc.
A sweet suggestion: Go out to lunch or coffee with these folks before you select them as moderators! Get to know them (their personalities and opinions) because they will be a major part of your team!
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Structure of the Di al ogue
The structure should promote a conversation not a panel discussion. A few tips and thoughts!
Avoid panelists and the stage layout. There is no authoritative figure in the room so avoid any visual creating that impression.
Have moderators (large and small groups) share their personal stories. This creates the atmosphere of acceptable vulnerability and allows moderators to share without taking on an authoritative role.
Use a model that allows for intimate discussions. We suggest a big group-small group model. The big group helps participants understand the point of the dialogue and the small group allows participants to share in a more intimate setting.
Have a concluding activity. An end activity helps the participants reach a point of closure after sharing such intimate and personal stories.
Creati ng a Saf e Atmosphere
Vulnerability requires trust that the listener will be compassionate and adhere to the principle of non-attribution. We start each dialogue with Community Ground Rules. Feel free to add to the list!
Non-attribution. Respect your community members by not revealing (directly or indirectly) the individuals identity associated with a specific story.
These are experiences, not lectures. Respect the individuals experiencehe or she has felt a certain way even though you may not agree with the others theology.
Step up, step back. Please contribute! Also recognize there may be others who have not spoken and step back to allow others to contribute to the conversation.
This is not a debate. Do not try to solve another individuals problems. Add your experience to the stories being shared to contribute to an organic conversation.
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