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INTRO:CHAOS
Today it's all the rave for women to juggle just about everything there is available to
add to life, career, relationships, ministry, & recreational obligations. We are one
woman circus performers who smile for the spotlight and perform to the crowds
content. We're masters of confusion! Better yet we're ambassadors of chaos!
Any woman, whether she is a family woman or not, is able to relate to that five letter
word...C-H-A-O-S.
Whether you're a career woman who's earning a degree at the same time or a mother
of four running a household, a business, and serving on the Church board, anyone
who is juggling more than two commitments is controlling chaos. We tend to forget
we only have two hands!
What exactly am I referring to when I say CHAOS? Well, if we want to be logical
then we'd say chaos is a state of utter disorganized
confusion. However, we're women so let's talk about
how we feel when we're swirling in the tornado of chaos.
Many times you hear life coaches or psychologists ask
one simple question, "How do you feel in one word?"
So here are some words to describe women like myself who have lived in a world of
chaos for more time than we'd all like to admit.
FRUSTRATED. EXHAUSTED. UNCERTAIN. GUILTY. EMBARRASSED.
CONFUSED. ANGRY.
BITTER. UNAPPRECIATED. HOPELESS. DEPRESSED. OVERLOOKED. IGNORED.
TRAPPED. UNSTABLE. BETRAYED. OBLIGATED. MISUNDERSTOOD.
COMPLACENT. INADEQUATE. LEFT BEHIND.
If none of those words resonate with you then perhaps this isn't the literature for
you to read. In fact, perhaps you should be writing a book on holding it all together
and being the SUPER achiever of the decade. Most women I interact with will
vouch to one of those words listed above at some point in their everyday lives. You
see there's a secret that we all must learn in our tender years of maturity...we never
fully arrive at total balance and management. Just like success and wealth is a
journey, so is life and business management. It's a process to accept, work at, and
seek to master even when we will never fully master it.
I bet that sounds exhausting all in itself! Not so much! Truth be told, life is a
journey. Everyday is a new opportunity to learn something we've never learned. See
something we've never seen. Feel something we've never felt. Do something we've
never done. Think about it, we were actually given a new change every 60 seconds!
A new minute is a new chance to change what we're saying, doing, and thinking.
It's all about the walk, Ladies.
How does one walk with utter chaos going on from the inside out? That's what I'm
here to share with you. I started this quest to be the perfect wife, mother, or
perhaps I should just say SUPER WOMAN at the young age of seventeen years old.
Now in my life, I look back over the mistakes and the lessons learned and I tell you
this very thing...it's all about trial and error. But, that doesn't mean the mistakes are
a reason to look down on yourself or allow others to either. Mistakes mean find
what works for you. What works for you will create harmony between what you
want inside yourself and what you want the world to look like around you. We look
for a One Size Fits All solution but just as different as we are in our shopping antics
so we are in our skills of the art of balance. The art of balance is only achievable
with the honing of our life management skills.
dawned on me one day that there are experienced and inexperienced women alike
who know something is off in their lives but just don't know how to put their
fingers on it. I've decided that life management skills are vital to figuring out that
'off'' thing and figuring out how to work through the 'off'' days still feeling the
promise of the 'on' days where I'm at peace, I'm productive, and I'm ready to take
on all that life throws at me. I'm juggling the balls without exhaustion, confusion,
helplessness, or losing myself in the balancing act.
Life management simply put is the understanding and skills used to exercise your
own authority over your life to handle and direct your life choices and actions
treating them with care, consideration, and full functionality providing the state of
fulfillment, success, and happiness along the process of living. In layman's terms,
you take control of your life and find what works for you to properly manage and
maintain the life that you desire on your terms daily.
I'm sharing with you three elements that I've found to be pretty vital to the ins and
outs of life management. Motivation, Moderation, & Management.
However, there is so much speculation out there about women and unhappiness. If
you Google women unhappy there is a smorgasbord of choices to read about how
surprising it's not to hear women are more and more unhappier as the years go on.
If you look deep enough you'll find words of opinion on this top that state that
feminism is the 'evil' that brought women to the place of never enough fulfillment. I
beg to differ.
I believe women weren't happy revolving their lives around men and children all
day. I also believe that women aren't happy commuting to a place where their
families are no where in sight and spending most of the day with people who stand
on the borderline of love and hate. In all honesty, me being on both sides of that
fence at some point in my life, I'd like to say that we experience unhappiness
because we set our expectations to what others want and not what we want
ourselves.
Some women want to be the traditional woman at home with the kids administrating
their home. Some women are on fire for the career mother's world, doing the career
thing, and still going home to the administering of a home. Every woman is as
different as a pair of shoes on the beautifully organized aisles of the DSW shoe
store! Many similarities but different in purpose, attraction, and functionality. We
all have different motives in life.
That is the NUMBER ONE ELEMENT to life management. Knowing your
motives! Knowing what will keep you moving against all odds.
Motivation is what causes a person to act. It's an incentive for action. What will
keep us from succumbing to the depths of negativity during the hard times? Those
words we listed above...those are normal reactions that we all experience at some
point during our everyday lives. What will keep you going when those feelings kick
in?
This is absolutely vital to gaining control of yourself and what surrounds you. You
have to know what will keep you fueled up and driving forward even in the darkest
wilderness. What's your reason for adding ball number five to the already four balls
your juggling for the world to see? What's your motivation?
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Standing on that rope and balancing that stick is great. While you're walking the
rope you're juggling those balls. However, balancing yourself on that rope requires
focus and moderation. What's going to keep you from toppling over and falling flat
on your face in front of everyone watching. Ladies, we need to practice the art of
moderation in order to manage our lives.
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for our own shortcomings. How easily we overlook the areas where we aren't
pushing beyond the mediocre. How easily we don't recognize that our focus is on
the wrong things.
While we may focus on why we aren't keeping our homes spotless, perhaps we
should focus on why we feel like we should be perfect in our housekeeping. After
you've decided why you want to juggle six balls and you learn what makes it possible
for you to juggle those balls while balancing on that rope, it's time to hone in on the
skills that will avail you the success you seek.
How does one begin to manage? Pay attention. Increase your knowledge base on
the area of interest. Find what works for others. Start applying it to your own life.
Find what does and doesn't work for you. Make it a part of your daily things to do.
Management should become a part of you. It should be natural for you to seek
ways to make things turn in the direction that you want them to.
Sure, there are different elements of managing life. You can start looking at
different areas and what will work for you to get the most out of each area. Then
start implementing your plan of action. Your plan of action will yield your success.
Areas such as: Personal Development(feelings, thoughts, physical health), Time
Management, Financial Management, Goal Planning, Career & Entrepreneurial
Skills in respect to Professional Development, Relationship Management, and the
list goes on and on. So, grab onto the reality that you are the chairman of your
success and happiness and start finding ways to treat those desires with care, most
importantly start exercising your authority to chose what will and will not work to
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Something that has proven true in my life NO MATTER WHAT is this...the chaos
on the outside is by no means in control. It's the inner chaos that makes us
absolutely miserable. It's absolutely our choice. :-)
Choose all things that make you smile & keep you walking forward.
BE ENCOURAGED. BE EMPOWERED. BE HAPPY.
~ Niqui Wise
Remember: we're all aiming for the art of balance in life and business. WE
ENCOURAGE YOU TO PLEASE PASS THIS ON!
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Cates Hayes (c) 2015
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