Victoria Richardson

November 17, 2014

The Keys To A Successful Relationship
During ones life he or she is likely to be in a relationship, so it is
important for one to understand that there are an abundance of
fundamental aspects that are essential in a stable relationship. Despite
the fact each relationship runs uniquely the core elements that are
ambiguous are typically trust, communication, physical and/or
emotional intimacy, compromise, commitment, and the acceptance.
These elements collaborate in order to produce a successful and
healthy relationship.
In an online survey conducted participants say that the most
important element in a relationship is trust.i It is significant for one to
be able to trust his/her partner because in a relationship a couple is
likely to encounter circumstances where trust is necessary. For
example if a member of the partnership wants to go out with someone
of the opposite sex, then his or her partner needs to feel comfortable
with the outing without the fear they he/she will be betrayed. The
author of The Importance Of Trust states the partner who can't trust
the other not to betray him or her will either drive them away or into
some real or assumed act of faithlessness. Evidently, a lack of trust
can kill a relationship, so in order to maintain a healthy relationship
trust is curial.

Another component of a relationship is communication, an essential

factor in any healthy relationship. In a relationship it is important for
one to be able to, and effectively communicate with their partners.
This allows one to understand the needs, wishes, or emotions of their
partner. Lack of communication could end in misunderstandings that
could put the couples relationship in jeopardy. If a member of the
union is displeased by the behavior of the other and doesn't speak up
about it, then it is likely the behavior will continue, and the member
will continue to be displeased. Eventually this could lead to a break up.
In order to prevent tension and potential break ups it is extremely
important for one to communicate with their partner.
Yes communicate in a relationship is a good thing but too much
of a good thing can be deadly. It is important to establish a balance of
communication. Too much communication could be overwhelming
especially if one or his/her partner has other responsibilities. Be
mindful of the partners other daily duties, and understand that
sometimes they might not have the time of day to give to you. Also
avoid being to clingy. Lets face it no matter how much two people love
each other they are bond to get bored and tired of each other if they
are around 24/7. Give you partner the opportunity to miss you,
because like they say absence makes the heart grow fonder.
In addition to being able to communicate concerns and wishes, it
is also important to communicate as far as talking to each other. It is

imperative for a couple to speak regularly to expand their bond,

continue to recognize their love for each other, and grow fonder.
Logically speaking we have better relationship with those we speak to
on a daily basis than those we speak to scarily. It is important for one
speak to his/her partner regularly in order to stay emotionally intimate.
Having either physical or emotional intimacy is also relevant in a
relationship. Intimacy can mean being closely acquainted, private and
personal, or very close. Usually ones companion is someone he/she
are intimate with. Dustin Wax author of 10 Keys To A Successful
Romantic Relationship writes, Small acts of intimacy gives your
partner a warm feeling and conveys the love and affection you feel for
them. Intimacy is a key way to communicate with to communicate in
a relationship. Often times people assume physical intercourse is the
quintessential way to demonstrate your affection, however in a survey
conducted 85.3% people agreed that it is not mandatory in a
relationship.
Aside from trust and miscommunication, commitment issues
were also a major reason for break up. In an online survey conducted
out of the 1,400 women Cosmo polled 36.6% percent of women ended
a relationship because of unfaithfulness. In another online survey
conducted 42.7 % of those surveyed revealed that they have ended a
relationship because of commitment issues. Many find it important to
be both loyal and faithful to their companion because doing so

enhances the love they share. Many people enjoy knowing that their
partner feels strongly about only one. It gives them the sensation of
feeling wanted or special. When one no longer feel important in their
relationship a couple is likely to run into relationship issues. Being
committed in a relationship also means being devoted to the
relationship. Aaron Karmin, author of 5 Keys To A Successful
Relationship writes Successful marriages include both spouse
committed to the relationship. When two people are truly dedicated to
making their marriage work despite the unavoidable challenges and
obstacles that come they are much more likely to have a relationship
that last, Often times people arent committed to working towards a
successful relationship. Often times people give up easily and break up
over solvable problems. In order to obtain a successful relationship it is
essential to stay committed and devoted during the highs and lows.
No couples will always see eye to eye, which makes compromise
another essential element to establish a sturdy relationship. Practically,
speaking in a relationship where one partner always gets his/her way
one person will constantly be satisfied while the other will always be
displeased. There is an extreme importance for compromise in a
relationship. In order to ensure that both parties are satisfied,
According to Michelle DSouza author of The Importance Of
Compromise defined compromise as the art go acknowledging that
the other person with his/her unique character might also be right and

in affirming that the relationship is more important than the difference

in opinion When a couple is afraid to compromise the lust in the
relationship will fade, tension will be created, and potentially the
relationship will be at sake. In order to prevent such as a couple it is
essential to come to a middle point or end point ohm disputes. It so
essential to hear partners side and swallow your pride. According you
an online survey conducted people who try to understand their partner
during disputes have relationships that last longer periods of time.
We spend most of our lives trying to fit in and be accepted so it is
very curial for one to accept the person they are in a relationship with.
5 Keys To A Successful Relationship written by Aaron Karman states
when people feel their [partner] truly accepts them for who they are
they are usually more secure and confident in their relationship. Often
there is conflict in relationships because people can not accept each
other and try to demand changes from one another... however,
research shows that change is much more likely to occur when people
respect difference, and accept each other unconditionally as they are
right now. Meaning that the key to helping each other grow in a
relationship is simply accepting what is. In addition to accepting ones
partner it is essential to accept oneself in a relationship. One should
know his/her self worth and tolerance level. Studies have shown that
people it higher knowledge, acceptance, individually, and identity are
more likely to function effectively in a romantic relationship. It is often

said you need to love yourself in order to love someone else. Usually
those who lack confidence end up in abusive relationships, or in
relationships where they aren't treated respectfully. If you dont love
yourself, then you should refrain from relationships.
Trust, a balance of communication, physical or emotional
intimacy, commitment, compromise, partner acceptance, and selfconfidence are all essential to a sturdy relation. There are also things
that typically lead to break ups that one should be aware of. According
to a survey conducted by the website Ask Men cheating is the number
one reason for break ups. Lack of balance between independence and
dependence is also a relationship killer, in addiction to tight
restrictions. It is important too remain faithful, determine a balance of
power an reject influences from outsiders to maintain as long
relationships in collaboration with the many other components. Those
who abide by and live by these elements are likely to have a successful
relationship.

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