YOUR FRIENDS &

PEERS
Ch. 3_Lesson 2

VOCABULARY
Relationship

The connections you have with other people

Friendship

A special type of relationship between people who

enjoy being together

Reliable

Dependable

Empathy

The ability to identify and share another persons

feelings

VOCABULARY
Peer

Your friends and other people in your age group

Peer

Pressure
The influence you feel to go along with the
behavior and beliefs of your peer group

Refusal

Skills
Methods for saying no

RESISTING NEGATIVE PEER PRESSURE

PG. 65

- ay no in a firm voice

- ell why not

ffer other ideas

romptly leave

DID YOU KNOW?

can be your own best friend.
Sounds

Think
Who
So,

weird?

about it.

are you with all the time? Yourself.

take some time to really get to know yourself.

Start

by asking yourself some questions.

WHO AM I?

Am I a friendly person?

Am

I a positive person who looks forward to each day?

Am

I a good listener?

What

am I good at?

What

do I like to do in my spare time?

What

do I like about my looks?

Do

I like myself?

WHO AM I? CONT
you too.
If

, others will probably like

someone doesn't like you don't worry - you

can't expect everyone to like you. After all, you
don't like everyone either, do you?

WHAT IS FRIENDSHIP?
Spending

time together.

Sharing

ideas and treats.

Having

fun.

Respecting

each other's differences.

WHAT IS FRIENDSHIP? CONT

Loyalty,
Caring
Both

sticking up for each other.

for each other's safety and well being.

of you working on the skills to keep your

friendship going

FRIENDSHIP SKILLS
-HOW TO BE A FRIEND- be interesting, keep up with what's going on
around you, eg. TV, sports, music, shared interests - so
that you have something to talk about.
the conversation, so that you each get a chance
to be listeners and talkers.
to what your friends are saying and ask
questions about it.

FRIENDSHIP SKILLS
-HOW TO BE A FRIENDyour friends when they do something well.
- say please and thank you.
Friends like to be pleasant to each other.

MORE FRIENDSHIP SKILLS

Think of yourself as being a friendly person,

and others will find
you friendly

do things for your friends without

keeping a score on whos done the most
things you have used or borrowed

MORE FRIENDSHIP SKILLS

think before
you speak

by being clear about what

you want and how you will compromise

MORE FRIENDSHIP SKILLS

with other friends.
about your feelings
people by thinking about
things from their point of view.
and get upset if your friend doesn't
agree with you about something. That's OK.
He/She has the right to an opinion too.

THINGS YOU SHOULD TRY NOT TO DO

Don't brag about what you've got or done.

No put downs - you wouldn't like it if someone did this to you.

No prejudice - don't make comments about country, color,

religion or physical appearance. "If you can't find anything nice
to say about someone, say nothing," is a good motto for
everybody.

Don't fight your friends' battles. You can support your friends
by helping them to deal with their problems without violence.

Don't talk about them without their permission.

 You

are a
(only one like you) person with
lots of different sides to your character, so you can
have different friends who share your different
interests, eg. friends at school, in your street, in
sport clubs, at church, in your family, etc.

It's

good to have a best friend but it's good to have

other friends too.

WHAT MAKES A GOOD FRIEND?

Having

equal shares, not one always the leader

and the other following.

Having

lots of fun together (if not, you'd better

look for another friend!)

Both

of you working at keeping the friendship.

Giving

each other some space. Even best friends

need some time to be alone or with other friends,
so don't try to 'own' each other.

WHAT MAKES A GOOD FRIEND?

Respecting

each other's differences.

Feeling

safe talking to each other about your

feelings and problems.

Trusting

other.

each other and looking out for each

FRIENDSHIP VIDS

Count on me

Toy Story

Aladdin

JOURNAL
ENTRY
Or

Haiku

HAIKU
I love Maria
She is my Super Hero
Saves me every time

No matter how hard

You can always count on her

Just be her best friend

FRIEND AD
Friend Needed
Friend Wanted
In Need of a Friend
Looking for a BFF

THE STORY OF KYLE

One

day, when I was a freshman in high school,

saw a kid from my class was walking home from

school.

His

It

name was Kyle.

looked like he was carrying all of his books.

thought to myself, "Why would anyone bring home all

his books on a Friday?

 He

must really be a nerd."

had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football

game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I
shrugged my shoulders and went on.

As

I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward

him.

They

ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms

and tripping him so he landed in the dirt.

 His

glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass

about ten feet from him.

He

looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes

My

heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him as

he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a
tear in his eye.

As

I handed him his glasses, I said, "Those guys are

jerks.

They

really should get lives.

 "He

looked at me and said, "Hey thanks!"

There
It

was a big smile on his face.

was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.

helped him pick up his books, and asked him where

he lived.

As

it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I

had never seen him before.

 He

said he had gone to private school before now.

would have never hung out with a private school kid

before.

We

talked all the way home, and I carried some of his

books.

He
I

turned out to be a pretty cool kid.

asked him if he wanted to play a little football with

my friends

 He

said yes.

We

hung out all weekend and the more I got to know

Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the
same of him.

Monday

morning came, and there was Kyle with the

huge stack of books again.

stopped him and said, "Boy, you are gonna really

build some serious muscles with this pile of books
everyday!

He

just laughed and handed me half the books.

 Over

the next four years, Kyle and I became best

friends.

When

we were seniors we began to think about

college.

Kyle

decided on Georgetown and I was going to Duke.

knew that we would always be friends, that the miles

would never be a problem.

He

was going to be a doctor and I was going for

business on a football scholarship.

 Kyle

teased him all the time about being a nerd.

He

was valedictorian of our class.

had to prepare a speech for graduation.

was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak

Graduation

He

He

day, I saw Kyle.

looked great.

was one of those guys that really found himself during

high school.

 He

filled out and actually looked good in glasses.

He

had more dates than I had and all the girls loved
him.

Boy,

sometimes I was jealous!

Today

was one of those days.

could see that he was nervous about his speech.

So,

I smacked him on the back and said, "Hey, big guy,

you'll be great!"

 He

looked at me with one of those looks (the really

grateful one) and smiled.

"Thanks,"

As

he said.

he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began

"Graduation

is a time to thank those who helped you

make it through those tough years.

Your

parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a

coach...but mostly your friends...

am here to tell all of you that being a friend to

someone is the best gift you can give them.

am going to tell you a story."

just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the

story of the first day we met.

He

He

had planned to kill himself over the weekend.

talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his

Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his
stuff home.

 He

looked hard at me and gave me a little smile.

"Thankfully,

My

I was saved.

friend saved me from doing the unspeakable."

heard the gasp go through the crowd as this

handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest
moment.

saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that

same grateful smile.

THE STORY OF KYLE