THE PERSONAL ICEBERG METAPHOR OF THE SATIR MODEL mn, J Garber, J, And Geencri, W151) oo Fn le Tens tot ve nil, Pale AND. CA. Sclarot and Betavine Boos IneSatir Hologram Change Model od i few “% Status Pha ‘ ; Sane / Quo 5 Chics “Noon Integration Practice Quo we ty we ae a ww on Pl - a ) OP s 5 Freedoms Coping Stances. Model OF Interaction ©) Copyright 2002, Satir [Institute of the Southeast, Inc, fetpe ff wove natireretitaptu org With ray thanks to all participants andl aad of the Yearlong Satir Systems program, to Hill Davis forcreating the Holograms protetype and to Db Seblestinges, feati MelLenclon ard Nivoke Fokma for creating this colorful version Arno very special thanks to the people keeping she pools alive and adding new tools tothe Salir Kit fane Gerber, Maria Gomori and John Hanmen for adkling the leeberg, and Joan McLendon for adding the FAs, GPs amd the Peart. — Boundary of Human ExperienceMy Declaration of Self-Esteem by Virginia Satir | AM ME In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me Everything that comes out of me is authentically me Because | alone chose it -| own everything about me My body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, Whether they be to others or to myself - | own my fanatasies, lly dreams, my hopes, my fears - | own all my triumphs and Successes, all my failures and mistakes Because | own all of Me, | can become intimately acquainted with me - bv so doing | can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts - | know There are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other Aspects that | do not know - but as long as | am Friendly and loving to myself, | can courageously And hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles And for ways fo find out more about me - However | Look and sound, whatever | say and do, and whatever | think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically Me - If later some parts of how | looked, sounded, thought And felt turn out to be unfitting, | can discard that which is Unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that Which | discarded - | can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do | have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be Productive to make sense and order out of the world of People and things outside of me - | own me, and therefore | can engineer me - | am me and | AM OKAYBEHAVIOR {action, story line) FEELINGS (joy, excitement, enchanimeni, anger, hurt, fear, sadness FEELINGS ABOUT FEELINGS (decisions about feelings) ee: PERCEPTIONS (beliets, assumptions, subjective reality, thoughts, ideas, values EXPECTATIONS (of self, of others, from others) YEARNINGS (universal) (love, acceptance, belonging, creativity, connection, freedam, etc.) a | Am” (spirit, soul, life-force, essence, core, being) FIGURE 1 The Personal Iceberg Metaphor