since sixteen-year-old Lesley Gore wowed legendary producer Quincy Jones and recorded the song, "It's My Party" which became the number one hit in the nation within two months, catapulting her to overnight stardom. Those were the days when all teenage girls thought about was boys, boys, boys. Gore became their voice and sang their anthems. The same year, 1963, she followed up with "Judy's Turn To Cry" which was written for her and it too became a hit, followed by "She's A Fool." In 1964 she recorded "You Don't Own Me," which may have foreshadowed her blossoming feminism and independent spirit. Gore recorded a total of eleven Top 40 hits before her 21st birthday. She appeared on the legendary T.A.M.I. Show, the Ed Sullivan Show, Hullabaloo, the Donna Reed Show and the Late Night Show Starring Johnny Carson. She also played "Pussycat," an accomplice to Batwoman in the Batman Television series. Last year she hosted two episodes of "In the Life," an LGBT newsmagazine produced for PBS, which is carried hy public broadcasting stations throughout the country. Though most people who knew her were aware of her sexual orientation, it was a public acknowledgement of her commitment to helping others in the community. She is committed to helping women take charge of their own lives and hopes that her matter-of-fact self-acceptance and selfconfidence will make a difference to others. At sixty, she is vibrant, sharp and enthusiastic about her latest recording, her upcoming tour, and her family. Lesbian News Contributor Denise Penn caught up with her between rehearsals to chat about her history, her career, her plans and her dreams for the future. Denise: Tell me about the process of coming to understand your sexual orientation and what that was like for you. Lesley; It has been a very long, a very tedious and a very soul searching experience. It's not something that I decided one day. It's been a process that's taken many years. I turned sixty years old recently and there's a lot that goes into just putting in alt that time. 1 felt that after 25 years in a relationship which has clearly not been a hidden relationship - 1 am secure about who I am. I never really tried to hide it. I just lived my life naturally and did what I wanted to do but I didn't put it in anybody's face. Denise: I understand that your involvement with the PBS program, "In the Life" really was a positive vehicle for coming out to many. Can you elaborate? Lesley: I began working with the "In the Life" people and hosted for them. And I am in touch with a lot of
young people in the Midwest when I am traveling
in that area and so many young gay people come up to me and tell me that "In the Life" is virtually their only connection to another gay human being. I saw the importance of the show and after being a host on the show a couple of times, I began to feel comfortable about just coming out and revealing myself - not in a huge way with trumpets and everything else - just in a matter of fact way: Here I am; this is where I am and this is what I have been doing and - oh, by the way.... Denise: Tell me what the significance of the PBS series, "In the Life" is and what you see as the importance of public television. Lesley: It is such a wonderful program; what I see is that being gay now for young people is not as difficult as it was for me back in high school and in college years. I think programs like "In the Life" help greatly and I am sure that The Lesbian News does the same. Funding has been cancelled everywhere and it is really up to us to keep all of the public TV and radio going and it's a travesty that they need help but they do. Denise: So you have been in a relationship for 25 years. To what do you attribute the longevity of your relationship? Lesley: Deep down, there is a tremendous amount of love. But I feel as though I look at life as a challenge everyday. I live in New York, so physically; I wake up ready to conquer the world every moming because that's sort of the way you need to face New York. And 1 feel as though I have a partner in that; it is like Lois and myself against the world. I feel as though I have a connection with another human being whom I can call on a daily basis as often as twelve times during the day and say" You are not going to believe this last phone call." And she will call me and tell me when something outrageous has happened and that's just nice to go through life with that kind of companionship. Denise: How did you and Lois meet? Lesley: She's a jewelry designer and I came back from Australia many many many years ago - back in the late sixties. I came back with a huge opal and a friend of mine brought me to her so that she could design a ring for me. We had a brief affair then and then I moved out to Los Angeles. In the summer of 1979 I came back to New York to work on "Fame" (the film) with my brother. That's when Lois and I got together again, for good. Denise: So Lois is a jewelry designer - do you have rings?
Lesley: You bet I do. (laughs) I've got rings, and
I've got watches... I've got everything. She is very esthetic. It's kind of an interesting combination because I'm very auditory: I do most of my things with my ears. And she is very visual, so it's a nice combination. Denise: Have you had a commitment ceremony of anything like that? Lesley: No, we haven't. Right now President Bush is actually spending time going against gay marriage. I think it is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard but so typical of his strategy and his thinking. But personally, for me, it isn't important to be able to get married. But I do understand that it is for others and I would fight for that right for anybody. Denise: That was a question I had - about marriage. You were brought up in an era where young people scrutinized and challenged the institution of marriage in this country, in general. Did that influence you? Lesley: Well, they were beginning to challenge it. You have to remember what was on television: it was "Ozzie and Harriet" and "The Donna Reed Show" and Lucy and Desi were sleeping in separate beds even though they were married. That's what communities were supposed to look like then. I grew up in a little town called Tenafiy, New Jersey and that is exactly what it was - "Ozzie and Harriet." Denise: In 25 years, you and Lois must have had problems just as any other couple does. How do you make it work? Lesley: Because I sometimes live in a dream world, one of the things that Lois has made me do is actually face the problems. That's half the battle right there; if you face a problem, or acknowledge it, then you must do something about it. So she is a little bit more pragmatic than I am. We are both Taums's so sometimes we have face-offs but she does keep me grounded. It can get rowdy but it certainly isn't dull. Denise: So are you saying that communication is the key? You don't just go into the comer and clam up about an issue? Lesley: Well, to tell you the truth, I have a tendency to do that. So Lois is good for me because she likes to talk everything through from the color of the toilet paper to the kind of soap we use. It's good for me to have that balance in my life because I can easily go off and not be communicative.
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Denise: But even though marriage may not be in your
future, you expect to be together forever?
true of the record industry.
Denise: So the record industry is plagued with sexism
Lesley: That's right.
and homophobia?
Denise: How does religion affect your decisions
about your life? Do you consider yourself religious?
Lesley: You bet: the double whammy.
Lesley: I would say I am spiritual. I was brought
up in the Jewish religion and I do observe certain holidays when I can. There are times when I am working and I don't let my work interfere with a religious occasion. But I think of myself more as a spiritual person. I believe that I have a higher power and that the higher power is in myself I believe that if you do good in this world, that comes back to you. Denise: Tell me about your family - are they supportive? Lesley: Yes. My brother and I are very close. He is a producer and has a terrific career in films, television and recording. We speak to each other once a day and still do a fair amount of writing together. My mom is still alive, God bless her; she is in her eighties and she lives down in Florida but comes up to the New York area for the summer so I get a chance to spend some time with her. I lost my dad eight years ago and I miss him but my mom has another boyfriend, so she's rocking, God bless her. Denise: You were so young - a teenager - when you started your career. Did you know that you were gay when you were a teenager?
Lesley: Oh boy, is it ever. I've told a number of
people now that I am going to sit down and write my memoirs. That would be one of the big messages in my book: to take care of yourself first. I got a lot of mixed messages when I was a kid and I didn't always feel that great about myself.
Denise: Are you going on the road with the new
music?
Lesley: I've lost so many wonderful dear friends
and I had dinner with a couple friends last night and we talked about all the people we missed. It's been a devastating pandemic. It's great that Bill Clinton is getting behind the issue. When Lois and I decide where we need to spend our time and our energy and give our contributions, it's really all about children and women. So we are very involved in those organizations. We are working now with Fay Waddleton on a benefit for her Center for Gender which is all about information on women and disseminating it properly so that they get the right care and the right information to take care of themselves.
Lesley: We have been out doing some short tours in
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Lesley: Well, for some I suppose but not for me. If
Rogers and Cowan were doing a film opening out in Palm Springs, they would get a hundred of their clients to come out and be a part of the opening. So they flew everybody out and they put you up for a weekend and it became the way that everybody got publicity. But for me, it didn't have anything to do with image making. Denise: Do you think the entertairunent and music industry has become more tolerant than it was before? Can you comment about that? Lesley: I think it is probably more accepting than it used to be. However, I still believe the record industry is the most homophobic, as well as the industry where they have the least number of women in positions of power. I say this just after reading a huge article in the New York Times about how many women are now in high positions in Hollywood and the film industry and I cannot say that the same is
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Denise; Aside from your work with "In the Life," I
know you are committed to helping others in some other arenas. Can you elaborate?
Denise: Because you are an open lesbian, do you
think you are a role model for young women who are listening to your music and do you think you are in a position to encourage tolerance?
Denise: Were you encouraged by managers and
publicists to date men for appearances in the same manner that film stars were when you were a young recording artist?
Denise: But was it designed to set up a certain image?
Denise: Is that one of the messages you thitik that
young women need to hear?
Denise: Tell me about your new alhum
Lesley: I like to say this: Remember the songs we used to listen and dance to in the sixties? Well this is an album you can listen to and dance to in your sixties. It's very organic. It is me with a rhythm section and background singers. The songs are very personal and very intimate. It is as calm and withdrawn and inside as "It's My Party" and "Judy's Turn to Cry." We are pop and out and fun. The songs are a natural outgrowth of who I am as a performer.
Lesley: Not really. I didn't really know I was gay
until I was in my twenties. I just experimented with boys and girls and had reason to adore them both. I think my first really serious relationship was a gay one so that began to tell me things about myself
Lesley: Well, I would go out to L.A. and I was
very friendly with some of my PR people and they would, in fact, fix me up with a date for an opening. That was very, very common. I don't think that it was necessarily to cover up anything. There were cases where that happened with others, but that was not true in my case. But there were many occasions where I was fixed up with an actor or a director to go off to some occasion and some of them were delightful encounters and some weren't -just like real life.
really taken care of myself financially and that's one
of the things that I regret most. That's one of the things I am trying to deal with now.
bursts. We were out on the west coast in April and we
hit Seattle, San Francisco, Napa Valley, Sacramento and Los Angeles. We will be in the New England area for part of this summer and then down into the North Carolina and Delaware area in September. So we have these mini-tours set up as opposed to going out for months at a time. I go out for a week or two; come home and revamp and then go out for another week or so. Denise: Does Lois go with you? Lesley: No. She's got her own work and what I do is not much fun; certainly not fun for her. When I'm working I have to have dinner at 4 o'clock and my whole day is about being onstage because my first priority is getting the show on. I can't run around and go shopping, going antiquing and having fun and that's what she deserves to do if we go away: not following me around from one dark nightclub to another. Denise: Do you talk everyday when you are on the road? Lesley: Absolutely, every day dozens of times. It's the glue that keeps us together. Denise: Do you have any plans for retirement? Lesley: I don't have the money to retire yet. I haven't
Lesley: If someone loved my music as a teenager and
now finds out that I'm gay and it helps him or her in some way, then that's great. It is a double-edged sword, though. God only knows what the old fans think. I'm not really sure. Most of the new music I am putting out now is only available online, so it involves a younger audience. They are very accepting and very open and they do seem to be supporting the new album. Some of the older fans aren't computersawy. It's not even something they want to get into, so I'm not really sure what the balance is there. Years ago there was an advertising campaign on television that used the phrase "Black is Beautiful." They showed accomplished black people doing what they do in their life, helping people and helping each other and making other human being's lives better and it was a campaign that lasted over considerable time. That worked back then and it is what we need now. I guess what I am saying is once you get to know one of us, it's really hard to dislike us. We need to get that word out. Recently we found Lesley singing "It's My Party" at the Rainbow Vision Santa Fe ribbon cutting ceremony. This event was held to celebrate the opening of the first LGBT Rainbow Vision Retirement Center in Santa Fe, New Mexico. IN Lesley Gore's Hit Records: 1963-h's My Party1963-Judy's Turn To Cry 1963-She's A Fool1964 - You Don't Own Me 1964 - That's The Way Boys Are 1964-1 Don't Want To Be A Loser 1964 - Maybe I Know 1965-Look Of Love1965 - Sunshine, Lollipops and Rainbows 1965 - My Town, My Guy and Me 1967-California Nights