ResearchNotesForNFRC

EventSetup
Techguywasnotintheboothallday
NottorepeatUMBCLawSchoolSetting
Tempwasalittlecold
Somepeopleboughtfoodwhentheyshouldnthave
Content:Panels,Keynotes,Moderator
dynamicpersongoesfirstandlasttoanchorpanels
ModeratorKeithshouldhavebeenalittletighterwithknowingpanelists
changeveryrapid35minuteskeptpresentationinterestingandflowing
Wheretogofromhere?
Cosponsorshipnecessaryforpeople
improvedworkingwithdifferentmindset
possibilityofmovingitaroundtodifferentcountiesovertheyear
redefinetermsforpartnershipw/UMBCLaw
trytomakeconferencemoreinteractive
postpanelcelebration/discussion1stweekofDecember
moremarketing

NFRC10/29/15
KidsConnex11/2Monday
Draftaresolution/nicestatementforeveryonetosay@Kidsconnex
getinputonprojectideafromkidsconnex
Putinsocialmediaplug
Research
http://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s0012700508656
IncreasedratesofsuicideamongAfricanAmericansbecauseoffamilystructure
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.01976664.2004.00052.x/abstract
Iwantthisarticle
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/14678624.00070/abstract
havingafatherfigureinthehomewhocontributesfinanciallyandissatisfiedwith
parentingcorrelateswithmorepositivecognitivedevelopmentamongthreeyear
oldsemphasizingthefatherfigureasveryimportanttochilddevelopment
http://www.cmhc.utexas.edu/vav/vav_healthyrelationships.html
Beginning
Build
Explore
Establish
Throughout
RelationshipsChange
CheckInPeriodically
Respect

UnderstandFamilyPatterns
NeedversusWants
Listening
Clarification
OverallreallystrongrelationshipadviceforDating/MarriageRelationshipsbut
canbetranslatedintootherrelationshipsIthink
https://www.kidsmatter.edu.au/healthandcommunity/familymatters/familyrelationships/
buildingblockshealthyfamily
StudyofAustralianhealthyfamilystructures
Characteristicsofhealthyfamily
eachpersonisvaluedandrespected
twowaycommunicationexists
eachfamilymembermakesanefforttounderstandandtrusteachothers
pointofview
familymemberscheckinwitheachother,especiallywhenmakingimportant
decisions

adultsshareresponsibility,wherepossible,forcaringroles
communication,togetherness,affection,support,acceptance,resilience,
commitment
tobuildstrongerrelationships,focusonstrengthsfirst
warmfamilyenvironmentshelpkidstobuildhealthyrelationships
kidsthriveonloveandaffection
makerelationshipsapriority
http://www.pamf.org/teen/abc/buildingblocks/boundaries.html
interestingthingtothinkabout,ithinkiwanttobringitup,teensneedtoset
boundariesinallrelationshipsfamily,friendromantic
wonderhowicanusethisideainmylesson
gobacktoregularwebsitetofindmorebuildingrelationshipsskills
http://www.uwec.edu/Counsel/pubs/selfhelp/bhr.htm
interestingidea,severalcentralfearsdriveourrelationshipissues
crossoverIstatements(alsousedinNFRCforfamilies)
Reflectionrepeatingwhatotherssayinyourownwordstoprocessinformation
willbegintofeelmorerealasprocesscontinues
acceptance
expressingappreciationafterfightsareover
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/pam.21608/full
BuildingStrongFamiliesproject
testingiftheprogramactuallydoesworktocreatestrongerbetterquality
relationshipsbetweenunmarriedparents
examinesitseffectsonavarietyoffactorssothereisdefinitelynodirectcause
andeffectrelationship

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BecomingParentsforLowIncome,LowLiteracyCouples
byPamela
Jordanlookthisup
EffectiveBlackParentingProgram
relationshipstatusmeasuredbyfollowupreportsofromanticinvolvement,living
togetherallormostofthetime,andmarriage
verylowattendancerates(evenwithincentives),similaramongmostlowincome
studies
statusdeterminedonlyifbothpartnersagreedonthesameone
qualitydeterminedbyfactoranalysisrelationshiphappiness,supportand
affection,useofconstructiveconflictbehaviors,avoidanceofdestructiveconflict
behaviors,andfidelity(surveys)
didntreallywork(ineedtocomebacktothis)
http://ps.psychiatryonline.org/doi/10.1176/ps.49.5.643
motherswithmentalillnesshavedifficultymaintainingorestablishingsupportor
maintainingfamilyrelationships(accordingtosixfocusgroupcasestudy)
mostwomeninstudy(55%)hadatleastonesupportivefamilymember
61%saidtheyfeltfullyaccepted
marriagerateslower,divorcerateshigher79%saidtheyhadnoonetheycould
confideinabouttheseissues
interestingcorrelations,mothersw/minorchildrenmorelikelytobe
noncaucasian
MentallyIll,parentsweremorelikelytobefemaleandAfricanAmericanand
weremorelikelytohavebeenmarriedthanwerenonparents(
13
).Childrenof
AfricanAmericanwomenwithmentalillnesswerelesslikelytobelivingwitha
fatherandmorelikelytobelivingwithagrandmother,infostercare,oradopted.
stressonfamilytohelpcareforminorchildrenofmothersw/mentalillness
https://www.nami.org/FindSupport/LivingwithaMentalHealthCondition/RomanticRela
tionships
https://www.nami.org/NAMI/media/NAMIMedia/Infographics/GeneralMHFacts.pd
f
https://www.nami.org/NAMI/media/NAMIMedia/Infographics/ChildrenMHFacts10
2615.pdf
https://www.nami.org/NAMI/media/NAMIMedia/Infographics/MulticulturalMHFact
s102315.pdf
introducingmentalillnessinromanticrelationships..interesting
notalotofresearchoutthereonitseems..moreaboutthestigma,thatcanbe
somethingtodiscuss
http://psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/199697393000
http://nfrchelp.org/thefacts/
Mrs.PamBlackwellsaidthatIcouldwriteaproposaltotheBoardofEdtoincorporatea
buildinghealthyrelationshipsunit
http://thenationshealth.aphapublications.org/content/41/2/20.full
relationshipsareimportanttoourphysicalhealth

 mindingmentalhealth,communication,establishingsupportnetworks
http://www.apa.org/science/about/psa/2010/10/racemarriage.aspx
http://psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/199742257023http://psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/1997422
57023NFRCPostConferenceMeeting
http://psycnet.apa.org/journals/psp/70/1/79/
peoplearehappierinrelationshipswhentheyidealizeeachother..interesting
http://psycnet.apa.org/journals/psp/99/6/948/
whatisapproachavoidancemotivationaltheory?
approachgoals(tryingtobemorepositive)=happierrelationships
avoidancegoals(tryingtoavoidnegativethings)=lesshappyrelationships
focusongeneratingpositivityasopposedtoavoidingnegativity
http://www.psychit.com.au/Psychlopedia/article.asp?id=60
approachandavoidancemotivationaltheoryhighlightmorepleasurablethings
andavoidnegativethings
ThinkIreallywanttodiscussdatingrelationshipsandcreateahealthclassforit
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/relationships/healthy_relationship.html
respectlikingeachotherforwhoyouare,beingmindfulofboundaries
support
trust
honesty
communication
equality/fairness
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/relationships/love.html?tracking=T_RelatedArticle#
whatisattractivenessdifferencebetweencrushandlove
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/relationships/love.html?tracking=T_RelatedArticle#
relationshipsareaboutgivingandreceivingbothmustbenefit
theyprovidesupport
andpeopleinrelationshipshavetolistentoeachother
FinancialDecisionMaking
http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0167487097000263
femaleslesswillingtotakefamilyrelatedfinancialrisksbuttheirdaytoday
strategieswithfinancialhandlingmaybeworsethanmen
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/magneticpartners/201311/therolephysicalattra
ctioninyourrelationship
physicalattractionplaysanextremelyimportantroleinarelationship,evenifitis
justalittleneedstobethereasapartoffoundation
http://www.familylifeinstitute.org/Articles/fli_aDecisionMakingInMarriage.pdf
BasicTenetsofDatingHealthyRelationships
Communication
Communicationisessentiallytheuseoflisteningandassertion,inawaythatis
clearandappropriate,inordertoexpressneeds,desires,oremotions.Itisaskill
thatcanbeusedinabroadrangeofrelationships.
Respect

Respectentailstreatingapartnerorfamilymemberinthewayyouwouldwantto
betreated,viewingmembersoftherelationshipasequal,andnotviolatingtheir
spaceorpersonalwishes.
Boundaries
Boundariesarepersonalparametersonecreatesforthemselvesina
relationship.Theyaretheretoprotectonesbodyandmaintainonesvalue
system,theycankeepanyonememberoftherelationshipfromgainingtoo
muchinfluence.
MutualSupport
Mutualsupportinvolvesbeingthereforeachotherandtalktooneanotherwhen
theyhaveaproblem.Listentoeachother,showappreciation,beexcitedforone
anotherandtheiraccomplishments.
Commitment
Commitmentinvolveskeepingtherelationshipmutuallymonogamous,spending
enoughtimewithoneanother(orthedesignatedtimeyouhavesetasideforone
another)
Trust
Trustisthedevelopmentofanunderstandingbetweenoneandthepartneror
familymemberinarelationshipthattheycanbehonestandrelieduponfora
varietyofneeds.

Themorecloseyouarewithyourpartner,theemotional/reactivejealousy
youhave
reactivejealousyresponseofcare/angertorealthreatordanger
torelationship
Emotionaljealousytriggeredbypartnersemotionalinvolvement
withanother
Suspicious/Cognitivejealousytriggeredbyperceivedor
imaginarythreatstoarelationship
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/thelovedoctor/201007/jealousyinnewrelationships
FactorsthatAffectRelationships
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18791883

degreeofcontrol(howmuchcouplesinfluenceoneanother)
http://sgo.sagepub.com/content/3/1/2158244013476054
problemsolving
love/affect
decisionmaking

DevelopingSkillsforLife:BuildingRelationships

DatingRelationshipstoMarriageRelationships
Discussionongoodqualitiesinamate,andproposedcharacteristicsofalongtermmatch
ledtomanyideasforlessonaswellasquestionsaboutprojectsaswellasfacts
thesinglebestpredictorforasuccessfulmarriageistheageofacouple
menandwomenhavedifferentstylesofcommunicating
moreintimacy=moreopportunityforconflict
financialissuesarethrmostcommonsourceofproblemswithinfamilyrelationships
loveforanengagedcoupleisdifferentthanloveforamarriedcouple
nonverbalcommunicationoftenrevealsourtrue,concealed,feelings
Theolderyouarewhenyoumarry,thebetterchancesyouwillbehappierinyour
marriage

http://www.apadivisions.org/division36/publications/newsletters/religion/2015/04/spiritualityyou
ngadults.aspx?_ga=1.171538275.2115344788.1425995655
involvementinreligiousgroupscanhelpadolescentscontinuetoformhealthy
relationshipsafterdivorce
Somethingtotalkaboutpossiblylovestyles

PossibleLessonStarter:

Crushvs.LoveTest!
https://scholar.google.com/scholar?q=effects+of+romantic+relationships+on+mental+health&hl=
en&as_sdt=0&as_vis=1&oi=scholart&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwi8xojny6LKAhWLGj4KHQCFAmAQg
QMIHjAA

https://books.google.com/books?hl=en&lr=&id=wrzBgAAQBAJ&oi=fnd&pg=PA180&dq=effects
+of+romantic+relationships+on+mental+health&ots=KzYgC4k4AP&sig=bSKm15HGwSUjrlJHP
1Bo4DIwxk#v=onepage&q=effects%20of%20romantic%20relationships%20on%20mental%20h
ealth&f=false

Studentsinromanticrelationshipsaremoredepressedthantheircounterparts(adolescents)
whereasadultsinhealthyrelationships.
Havinghealthierrelationshipscanleadtolongerlifehelpsdecreaseunsafelevelsofstress\
Childrenaremoresuccessfulacademicallyandromanticallywhenparentshavesolidromantic
relationship
Negativerelationshipscaninfluencefetaldevelopmenteventhephysiologicalbehaviorand
development

http://www.health.harvard.edu/newsletter_article/thehealthbenefitsofstrongrelationships
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6prjrL1Q_Mw