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16 Failures Every Woman Should Make in Her 20s

If you never fail, you'll never learn anything about yourself or life. So fail big or go home.

ByAmyOdell

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1.Thatrelationshipthatyouwantedsobadlytoworkjustdidn't.Becauseyoulearnthat
sometimesloveandawholelotofsuperhothookups(thatmayormaynothavestartedwithapost
11p.m.textthatread"Uup?")isn'tenoughtokeeparelationshiptogether.Healsohasto,youknow,
liveinthesamecityasyouandwantthesamethingsyouwant.Andthosesamethingscan'tjustbe
thenumberonefromthebanhmijointonthecorneronhungoverSunday.
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2.Youneverlostfivepoundstogetthat"bikinibody"likeyouthoughtyouwould.
Becausenotonlyhaveyoumovedontostylishnoveltyonepieceswithcoolcutoutsandmeshinsets,
butalso,youlearnthatthereisnopointinkillingyourselftolosealittlevanityweightwhenyou're
alreadyahotpiecejustasyouare.
3.Endingafriendshipwithsomeoneyoualwaysthoughtyou'dbefriendswith.Because
youlearnthatwhenpeoplechange,relationshipschangeandsometimesthepersonwhochanges
isyou.Your"friend"canrideoffintothesunsetoncasualweekendcocainebingesandhernever
endingneedtofeelsuperiortoyouandyouraccomplishments,andyou'llrideintothesunsetwitha
glassofrosandasquadwhoactuallycaresaboutyou.

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4.Decidingyouwon'tdrinktoomuchwhenyougooutonaweeknightbutOops!
yougetwastedanywayandthenextdayatworkishell.Becauseyoulearnthatbalancingan
adultprofessionallifeandpersonalpleasuretakeseffortthatisactuallyworthwhile.Youfeltdrunk
allmorningandhungoverfortherestofthedayandmentallyhazyinanimportantmeetingandyou
realizedyouneverwanttofeelthatwayagain.
5.Gettingfiredreallyearlyinyourcareer.Becauseyourealizethataplacethatfiresyouisn't
oneyouwanttoworkfor.Besides,gettingfiredwasthepushyouneededtoleaveandtakeanother
steptowardyourdreamjob.
6.Wearingsomethingtrendybecauseeveryoneelseiswearingit,notbecauseitmakes
youfeelgood.Becauseyourealizeyouareyourownwomananddonotdeserveafulldayornight
ofdiscomfortinefforttocopysometrendthatmakessenseforKylieJenner,whoprobablydoesn't
havetowaitinlineatCoachellaoreverfightforacabafteranightout.Youlearnyourclothesshould
makeyoufeelgoodandifyoujustwanttobecomfortable,sobeit.
7.Blowingawholepaycheckonsomethingessentiallyuselesslikejewelryorapurse.
Becauseyoucametorealizethatgoldbraceletwasactuallyaplaneticket.
8.Yourpartyinginterfereswithyourpersonallife.Becauseyoulearnthatwhilepartying
canbetheFUNNEST,yourealizethatitmakesyoufeelreallygrosswhenyou'retooabsorbedwith
yourownpersonalInstagrammablefuntimestoremember,like,yourdad'sbirthday.
9.Notspeakingupforyourself.Becauseyoulearnthattheonlywaytogetwhatyouwantisto
askforit.Besides,afteryouleavetoomanyoutingsormeetingswishingyouhadtoldsomeonewhere
theycanshoveit,youjustgetsickofitandstopholdingbackwhenpeopleareassholes.
10.Notwearingsunscreen.Becausesometimesyoujustneedaterrorburnfromoneillfated
dayinCabowithtoomanymargaritasandunnecessarydancinginapoolmusicplayedbyanactual
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poolDJtolearnthatnoamountofpartyingcanfendoffasunburn.Only
waterproof/sweatproof/danceproof/everythingproofSPFcanfendoffasunburn(andtheresulting
wrinklesandskincancer)andyouneedtoapplyitearlyandoftenwheneveryou'rearoundthesun.
11.Beingtooabsorbedwithyourphone/Instagramtoliveyouractuallife.Becauseyou
onlygetone,andeventuallyyourealizethatifyoudiedtomorrow,thelastthingyouwouldwantto
lookatonyourdeathbedisyourcellphone.
12.Stayinginabadrelationshipfortoolong.Becauseyoulearnvery,verywellwhatyou
shouldalwaysavoidinfuturerelationships.No,you'llnevergetallthattimeyouspentfightingover
themattressyouboughttogetherback,butyou'llhaveanearlifetimeofnotdatingmattress
obstinateassholesaheadofyou.
13.Obsessingoversomeonewhoisn'tinterestedinyou.Becauseagain,youlearnwho
andwhatnottowasteyourtimeon.Ifheonlywantstodatewomenwhoarefinewithnever
meetinguponweekends(andprobablyalso,like,nevergettinganorgasmfromhim)thenhe's
obviouslynotforyouoranyotherwomanwithasenseofselfworth.
14.Comparingyourselftootherpeople.Becauseyoulearnthatwhatotherpeopledoactually
hasnoeffectonyourlifeandcomparingyourselftothemisaboutasvaluableasanemptyChipotle
giftcard.
15.Beingtooobsessedwithhowyoulook.Becauseyoulearnthatyou'reactuallyatyourmost
beautifulwithminimalmakeupandyourhairunbrushed.Whichnotonlysavesyoumoneybutalso
enoughtimethatyouwillstopbeinglatetoallyourgettogethers.
16.Beingtoohardonyourselffortheoccasionalindulgence.Becauseyoulearnthatyou
arealwaysyourownbestdate.Ifyouwon'tbuyyourselfan$18drinkfromapoolbaronvacation
onceayearorbookyourselfanimpromptudeeptissuemassage,whowill?
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