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What is Grief?
Types of Grief
7 Stages of Grief
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Community Resources
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References
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Appendices
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What is
What can
look like?
Types of Grief
Type
Description
Normal
There is no normal and typical way to grieve. No timelines and varies between
people.
Anticipatory
Grieving before the event has even happened (Long term illness). Can be related
to loss of dreams, future plans, family roles, etc. This type of grief can help people
prepare for the loss.
Complicated
Debilitating, long lasting, can impair your ability to engage in daily activities.
Chronic
Does not subside and can last over a long amount of time. Complete distress with
no signs of improving or feeling better.
Delayed
Suppressed grief with grief symptoms that show up much later than the event
and much later than is typical.
Distorted
Intense, Extreme and Atypical reaction. Odd changes in behavior and destructive
behavior.
Cumulative
When the person experiences a second loss while still grieving a first loss.
Prolonged
Prolonged and tense. The person spends a lot of time contemplating death, longing for reunion and unable to adjust to life without the person they lost.
Exaggerated
Secondary Loss
When a loss impacts many parts of a persons life. In addition to the main loss, its
grief over other things lost as a result of the first loss.
Types of Grief
(continued)
Type
Description
Masked
Symptoms of grief impair daily functioning but the person does not recognize
them as grief. These feelings are masked as physical symptoms or other maladaptive behaviors.
When a persons culture, support group, or community make them feel like their
loss is not significant or valid. This happens when the death is stigmatized, the relationship is seen as insignificant, the loss is not a death or the relationship is stigDisenfranchised matized by the society.
Traumatic
Normal grief responses that are combined with traumatic distress as a result of
the loved one dying in a frightening, horrifying, unexpected or violent/traumatic
death.
Collective
Grief felt as a group -such as a community, society or country. Causes can be war,
natural disasters, terrorist attacks, mass casualties, natural tragedy or death of a
public figure.
Ambiguous
Losses that lack clarity. Different views of who or what has been lost.
Inhibited
Shows no outward signs of grief. The person inhibits the grief and can lead to
physical manifestations and somatic complaints.
Abbreviated
Short lived grief. Role of deceased could be filled quickly, could be little attachment to those who have passed away or could be able to accept and integrate the
loss because it was anticipated.
Absent
Shows no signs of grief, acts like nothing has happened. Described as complete
shock or denial. Can be concerning if it goes on for an extended amount of time.
(www.whatsyourgrief.com)
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Cognitive Behavioral
Therapy (CBT)
What is CBT?
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on changing the way
someone feels about a specific activating event by changing the way
that they think about that same event. Using both behavioral and
cognitive techniques to accomplish these goals, CBT has generated
more empirical research than any other psychotherapy
model (Corey, 2013).
The ABC Framework, a central tool of CBT, provides a model for
visually mapping out a persons feelings and behaviors so that the
student/client can fully understand their own emotions.
(Corey, 2013)
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Kerig, Sink, Cuellar, Vanderzee, & Elfstrom (2010) found that this
particular type of CBT is a well-validated approach for treating
traumatic grief in children and adolescents, making it a great
resource for school-aged children.
There is also evidence that this approach works well with students
from various backgrounds, both cultural and ethnic. In addition, has
been used successfully in a variety of languages and countries
Limitations of TFCBT
May not be appropriate for:
Students whose primary
problems include serious conduct
problems
Students who are acutely suicidal
Students who actively abuse
substances
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**This acronym serves as a guide to which steps should be taken, all of which are used with
TFCBT. It is important to remember that while each student will experience these general steps,
each treatment will be individualized to each students personal trauma or grief situation.
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Target Audience
The program consists of four
manuals that target age
groups based on developmental characteristics Students of
all genders and ethnicities are
able to use the program.
Kindergarten and first grade
Second and third grade
Fourth through sixth grade
Seventh and eighth grade
History of CODIP
CODIP was first implemented
during 1983 in Rochester New
York , at 5 suburban schools.
Since then, CODIP has be
implemented in over 500 schools
throughout the United States.
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CODIPs Curriculum
10 -15 sessions ranging from 45 to 60 minutes.
Curriculum is divided into four different categories.
The first set of sessions addresses children's divorce-related feelings and understanding
of family changes, providing children with an opportunity to get to know one another
and share their feelings and common experiences. These sessions also focus on clarifying
children's misconceptions about divorce, and books and film are used interactively to
convey an understanding of family transitions
In the second set of sessions, children are taught self-statements and techniques for
resolving interpersonal problems. A key distinction is made between problems beyond
the children's control (e.g., parent reconciliation) and those within their control
(e.g., appropriate ways of communicating their feelings).
In the third set of sessions, anger and other common divorce-related feelings are
addressed using puppet play for young children and role-play for older children.
Common divorce-related problems are acted out with real-life examples of effective
ways of solving problems.
The final set of sessions focuses on evaluating the group experience and discussing
feelings around completion of the program (directly quoted from website) This is used in
place of role play session. SEE APPENDIX FOR ADDITIONAL INFO ABOUT CODIP
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Narrative Therapy
Re-Membering Groups
The term narrative implies listening to and telling or
retelling stories about people and the problems in
their lives. In the face of serious and sometimes
potentially deadly problems, the idea of hearing or
telling stories may seem a trivial pursuit.
It is hard to believe that conversations can shape new
realities. But they do. The bridges of meaning we build
with children help healing developments flourish
instead of wither and be forgotten. Language can
shape events into narratives of hope.
(Freeman, Epston, & Lobovitz, 1997)
Key Points of
Narrative Therapy
Effective For:
Elementary, Middle
and High School
Students
All cultures
Individuals or Groups
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Activities
1. Make group rules/guidelines (including confidentiality and you should statements)
2. Group members introduce themselves and introduce the person who has died (Briefly.)
3. More detailed introduction of people who have died in dyads. Then each pair shares with the
group. Facilitators might ask...
a. Can you introduce me to your loved one?
b. Tell me about the person who died.
c. What things did they enjoy in life?
d. What were their professions?
e. What were their hobbies and interests?
f. What kind of things did you enjoy about them?
g. What did it mean to have them in your life?
4. Introduce the concept of journaling exercises, and get started if there is time. Besides in
group this week, when are the times that you notice a connection with your loved one who has
died?
i. Are there some times more than others that you notice this connection?
ii. Do you notice this connection more when you are alone or when you are with other people?
iii. Are there stories, songs, rituals or sayings in particular that remind you of this person and
your connection with him/her?
Meet with students briefly during sessions 1 and 2. Remind them to do the journal entry if they
havent. (Have extra copies of the prompt on hand)
SEE APPENDIX FOR FULL RE-MEMBERING CURRICULUM
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Community Resources
ASCA Resources
http://www.schoolcounselor.org/magazine/blogs/may-june-2008/the-grievingschool
https://www.schoolcounselor.org/school-counselors-members/asca-resourcecenter/death-dying-grief/journal-articles
NASP Resources
http://www.nasponline.org/resources/principals/School-Based%20Mental%
20Health%20Services%20NASSP%20Sept%202006.pdf
http://www.nasponline.org/resources/mentalhealth/mhtips.aspx
http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/answer-sheet/wp/2015/01/17/what-not
-to-say-to-grieving-students-and-other-tools-to-help-bereaved-kids-at-school/
http://www.childhoodbraintumor.org/information-for-patients-and-families/
support-articles/item/60-grief-101-some-common-facts-and-characteristics-ofgrief
http://www.childrengrieve.org
http://www.whatsyourgrief.com/
http://www.dougy.org/
http://www.schoolcrisiscenter.org/ (Letters)
http://grievingstudents.scholastic.com/
http://www.nctsn.org/trauma-types/traumatic-griefhttp://
www.nationalallianceforgrievingchildren.org/national-poll-bereaved-childrenteenagers
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References
Alpert-Gillis, L. J., Pedro-Carroll, J. L., & Cowen, E. L. (1989). The children of divorce
intervention program: Development, implementation, and evaluation of a program for
young urban children. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 57, 583- 589.
Child Welfare Information Gateway. (2012, August). Trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy for
children affected by sexual abuse or trauma. Washington, DC.
Children of Divorce Intervention Program (CODIP). Retrieved from http://www.nrepp.samhsa.gov/
ViewIntervention.aspx?id=220
Connolly, M. E., & Green, E. J. (2009). Evidence-based counseling interventions with children of divorce:
Implications for elementary school counselor. Journal of School Counseling, 26, 1-37.
Corey, G. (2012). Theory and practice of counseling and psychotherapy. Belmont, CA:
Brooks/Cole
Corey, G. (2013). Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. In theory and practice of counseling and psychotherapy
(9th ed., Student ed.). Belmont, Calif.: Wadsworth.
Desrochers, E. J., (2004). Divorce: a parents' guide for supporting children. Retrieved from
http://www.nasponline.org/resources/parenting/divorce_ho.aspx
Epston, D., Freeman, J. & Lobovits.D (1997). Playful approaches to serious problems:
Narrative therapy with children and their families. New York, NY: Norton & Company,
Inc.
Granados,S. Winslade, J., De Witt, M., & Hedtke, L. (2009). Grief counseling groups for adolescents
based on re-membering practices. Journal of School Counseling, 7(34), 1-26.
Helping children cope with loss, death, and grief tips for teachers and parents (2003). National
Association of School Psychologists. Retrieved from http://www.nasponline.org/resources/
crisis_safety/griefwar.pdf
J OBrian. (2009). Small-group bereavement counseling with middle school students.
Retrieved from jeannineobrian.weebly.com
Kerig, P. K., & Sink, H. E., & Cuellar, R. E., & Vanderzee, K. L., & Elfstrom, J. L. (2010).
Implementing trauma-focused cbt with fidelity and flexibility: A family case study. Journal of
Clinical Child & Adolescent Psychology, 39, 71327
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References
Klein Velderman, M., Pannebakker, F. D., & De Wolff, M. S. (2011). Child adjustment in divorced
families: Can we successfully intervene with Dutch 6- to 8-year-olds? Retrieved from https://
www.tno.nl/ media/4524/stoere_schildpadden_2nd_ed_140603_2014r_10697.pdf
Malkinson, R. (2010). Cognitive-Behavioral Grief Therapy: The ABC model of rational-emotion behavior
therapy. Psychological Topics, 11(6), 289-305.
Nafziger, J.& DeKruyf, L. (2013). Narrative counseling for professional school counselors.
Professional School Counseling,16(5), 290-302.
Pedro-Carroll, J. L., & Cowen, E. L. (1985). The children of divorce intervention program: An
investigation of the efficacy of a school-based prevention program. Journal of Counseling
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Pedro-Carroll, J. L., Cowen, E. L., Hightower, A. D., & Guare, J. C. (1986). Preventive intervention with
latency-aged children of divorce: A replication study. American Journal of Community Psychology,
14, 277-290.
Russell, S. & Carey, M. (2002). Remembering: responding to commonly asked questions. The
International Journal of Narrative Therapy and Community Work, (3).
The National Child Traumatic Stress Network. (2004). How to implement trauma-focused cognitive
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Winslade, J.M. & Monk, G.D. (2007). Narrative counseling in schools: Powerful & brief. Thousand Oaks,
CA: Corwin Press
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Appendix A-1
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Appendix B-1
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Appendix B-2
Session 3
Time: 50 minutes
Topic: Stories of strength
Materials
- Journals
- Pens
- Typed list of comments, words, phrases that the group came up with in session 2 (print one for every student)
- Students photos and items
- Journal question written out/printed
Activities
1. Revisit session 2, ask students if they have any lingering thoughts.
2. Sharing items and photos
Questions to ask (during sharing) to bring out stories of strength include:
a. What do you admire about how (the deceased) faced challenges in life?
b. What were his best moments?
c. How did she live with adversities?
d. In what ways did the deceased rise to the challenge of hardships surrounding his own death? e. What do you
think she would appreciate about why you selected this picture or item?
f. What does he know about you that would let him know you could manage the challenges in front of you?
g. What might she see you succeeding at in the near or distant future?
3. Journaling (just in case we need an extra activity)
- What were your loved ones moments of greatness in life?
- What strengths did your loved one have that you would like to keep close to you?
- What would he or she say are your own moments of greatness?
- What difference would you like this to make in your life as you remember the stories of strength?
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Appendix B-3
Session 4
Time: 50 minutes
Topic: Finding the voice of the deceased
Materials
- Journals
- Pens
- Journal question written out/printed
Activities
1. Reflect on session 3. If applicable, ask students about a question from Session 3s journal exercise: What would
your loved one say are your moments of greatness in life?
2. Remembering conversation a. If your loved one were here, what would he say he valued about you? b. What
would she say she appreciated about how you were during her illness? (if applicable) c. What would he say he
appreciated about how you have handled things since he died?
3. Additional reflective questions
a. If you were to remember your loved ones words, how might it make today, tomorrow, or whenever easier to
bear?
b. When you imagine her words of advice living within you, how might you access these words when you need
them?
4. Journaling exercise (start during session)
Please write a letter from your loved one to yourself. In it, please talk about the things you mentioned in the
group. What does your loved one value and appreciate about you?
** Students are asked to bring pictures between sessions 4 and 5 for the re-membering cards**
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Appendix B-4
Session 5
Time: 50 minutes
Topic: Stories of Strength (2)
Materials
- Journals
- Pens
- Journal question written out/printed
- construction paper
- scissors
- glue sticks
- writing utensils
Activities
1. Review Session 4s journal exercise - invite students to read the letters they wrote, and use the letters as a
starting point for conversation.
2. Re-membership card activity Students will make a collage like creation on construction paper. They will write
words and phrases related to the person theyve lost. Hopefully the discussions and journaling exercises in
previous groups will lead students to have thoughts on hand. Facilitators will use a copier to shrink the collages
down to the size of a typical membership card and laminate them.
**Students are asked to bring a picture and/or item of someone who helps keep alive memories of the person who
died**
Remind students to bring the item between sessions 5 and 6.
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Appendix B-5
Session 6
Time: 50 minutes
Topic: Expanding the club
Materials:
- Journals
- Pens
- Journal question written out/printed
- Collage materials from session 5
Activities
1. Students share the pictures/items they brought with them. Facilitators say a. Please introduce the group to
people in the pictures b. How have they come to know your loved one? c. Who else shares your stories, love and
memories of your loved one? d. What is it that they would say they value about your deceased loved one?
2. Give students time to finish up their collages from session 5
3. Reflecting on group
a. What has touched you about meeting other people who have died?
b. What stories of strength and love have you heard about from others in the past six weeks that have made
a difference in your life?
c. What would your loved one say that he values about what you have done in the past six weeks in this
group?
d. If there were one thing your loved one would want others to know about what it means to have her
stories shared here, what would she say?
4. Post-group evaluations will be completed a different day, in the office, 1 on 1.
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Appendix B-6
Pre-Group Survey
1) Who was the loved one you lost, and what was their relationship to you?
___________________________________________________________________________
6) What is your hope for your time in group with us (how could group be most helpful for you)?
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
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Appendix B-7
Post-Group Survey
1) On a scale from 1-10, how much grief and sadness do you have when thinking about your loved one?
1 2
10
2) In addition to grief and sadness, what other feelings have you experienced in connection to the loss of your loved one?
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
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3) What part(s) of group did you find helpful?
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
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4) What did you DISLIKE about group?
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
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--5) What else should we know about your group experience?
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
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Appendix B-8
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Appendix B-9
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Appendix C-1
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Appendix C-2
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Appendix C-3
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Appendix D-1
Age 4-7
Developmental State/Task
Gaining a sense of autonomy. Exploring the world outside of self. Gaining language. Fantasy
wishing and thinking. Initiative phase seeing self as the initiator. Concerns of guilt.
Concept of Death
Death still seen as reversible. Personification of death. Feeling of responsibility because of
wishes and thoughts. Common statements: Its my fault. I was mad and wished shed die.
Grief Response
More verbalization. Great concern with process. How? Why? Repetitive questioning. May act
as though nothing has happened. General distress and confusion.
Signs of Distress
Regression: nightmares, sleeping and eating disturbed. Possible violent play. Attempts to take
on role of person who died.
Positive Interventions
Symbolic play using drawings and stories. Allow and encourage expression of energy and
feelings through physical outlets. Talk about it.
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Appendix D-2
Age 11-18
Developmental Stage/Task
Formal operational problem solving. Abstract thinking. Integration of ones own
personality.
Concept of Death
A more ADULT approach. Ability to abstract. Beginning to conceptualize death. Work at
making sense of teachings.
Grief Response
Extreme sadness. Denial. Regression. More often willing to talk to people outside of family
and peer support. Risk taking. Traditional mourning.
Signs of Distress
Depression. Anger often towards parents. Suicidal thoughts. Non-compliance. Rejection of
former teaching. Role confusion. Acting out.
Possible Interventions
Encourage verbalization. Allow for choices. Encourage self motivation. Listen. Be available.
Do not attempt to take grief away.
http://www.dougy.org/grief-resources/developmental-grief-responses/
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