DATING

DECODED
A PRIMER FOR MEN ON GETTING A
GIRLFRIEND IN SINGAPORE OR ASIA

CONGRA
TULATI
ONS!
Youve just gotten yourself a
copy of what very well could
be the best information you
can find on how to meet,
talk to, and date women
in Singapore or Asia. Im
not sure how you found out
about me or Aura Dating
Academy... but Im glad you
went ahead and purchased my
book.
I dont like making big promises or
sweeping statements, but I am confident
of this... What youre about to read can
change your life.
Youre about to get some neverbefore-released information on dating
women in Singapore and some of my

greatest hits that only my private

clients get to hear (and theyve paid me
handsomely for it).
If youre wondering what is in the
mind of one of the worlds top dating
coaches, whos been doing this for nearly a
decade... if youre wondering what my best
technique is and what I make sure I pass
on to every student who passes through
my supervision at the Academy, youll find
BOTH in this brief book.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Before we begin, heres a little bit about
me. As Asias top dating coach and
president and director of the biggest
dating academy in AsiaAura Dating
Academy, based in SingaporeI provide

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I knew years ago that David had the

potential to reach the level of the top
mentors and even beyond. And now
hes fulfilled all that and more! With
all his unique experiences and skills,
he is totally going to dominate.
CHRISTIAN HUDSON, FOUNDER OF THE SOCIAL MAN

proven solutions and

practical guidance for men
and women on how to be
social and how to succeed in
love and life.
Ive lived as a resident
(not a tourist) in five countries
on three continents. Born
in Taiwan, raised in North
America, and now having
lived or worked in many
parts of Asia for over 15
years, I have excelled at the
highest levels of academic
study of Asian culture, with
awards and fellowships from
Harvard, Princeton, Michigan,
Toronto, McGill, as well
as national fellowship and
research foundations. I then
proceeded to a tenure-track
professorship at the National
University of Singapore.
I founded Aura Dating
Academy to empower men
and women throughout the
world with the social skills,
emotional intelligence,
and dating strategies to
find greater happiness and
fulfillment in life; to equip
people with a proven system

for achieving success in their

social lives, dating lives, and
love lives; and to deliver a
total solution for excellence
in relationships and lifestyle.
When I was a lonely 29year old graduate student,
depressed over my failed
marriage and completely
clueless about dating and
socializing, I had the good
fortune to be in a class with
Christian Hudson, the cofounder of one of the largest
dating skills companies in
the world at the time and
who was then responsible
for running much of its
operations. He became my
first mentor in the dating arts.
And I owe him a huge debt.
My many mentors
taught dating skills to, well,
ordinary men. But when
a life-long academic with a
Ph.D. in Asian culture and
philosophy appears with an
eager, deep desire to learn
and grow, well... the results
were on a different level. I
dug deeper to understand
not just how the various

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techniques, strategies, and methods

worked, but WHY. I applied my
specialized expertise in psychology,
philosophy, culture, and other fields
to breakdown and internalize the
principles underlying social dynamic
interactions and relationships.
Basically, I approached the subject
that way I did all my Ph.D. research.
The outcome astounded even me.
I was also lucky enough to count
many incredibly alpha Asian men living
in Asia as my mentors. I traveled the
globe, training with some of the best
dating coaches around the world. And
I started to get really crazy results.
Eventually, this led to a flourishing
consultancy, helping men and
women around the world from almost
every continent succeed in dating
and relationships. Ive successfully
coached clients from almost every
continent and throughout Asia,
especially in Singapore, China, Hong
Kong, Korea, Japan, Taiwan, Malaysia,
Thailand, Indonesia, Brunei, as well as
many cities in the USA and Canada.
In 2010, I resigned my full-time
tenure-track professorship at the
National University of Singapore
to follow my passion and found
and direct Aura Dating Academy

in Singapore, which, with almost no

advertising, is growing exponentially
every year.
Having a Ph.D. doesnt mean Im
a nerdy academic attempting to teach
you dating and charisma. Instead,
imagine a Doctor who hangs out at
the top clubs in Singapore and all over
Asia having the time of his life. And
imagine this Doctor studied dating
and relationships with as much tenacity
and thoroughness as he did his Ph.D.
and is now giving you the low-down in a
short, easy-to-understand guide.
If that gets you excited to read this
book you just purchased, then good!
That was the point. Approach each
page and every minute you spend
reading this with that same optimism
and excitement, and youll definitely
learn a ton from these pages that you
can apply in your life right away.
Read it over again once youre
done. Absorb and assimilate the
teachings contained herein. Internalize
them until they become a part of you,
for they are the keys to abundance and
fulfillment in your dating and social life.
See you on the other side.

Best,
David

Having a Ph.D.
doesnt mean Im
a nerdy academic
attempting to teach
you dating and
charisma.

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THIS

EBOOK
CONTAINS ...
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DATING SINGAPORE GIRLS: A PRIMER

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07

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CONCLUSION

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THE TOTAL TRANSFORMATION PROGRAM

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HOW TO ENROLL

PART 1
DATING
WOMEN IN
SINGAPORE
AND ASIA

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PART 2
THE BETTER
WAY TO
THINK ABOUT
ATTRACTING
WOMEN

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PART 3
THE
HOW TO

DATING
SINGAPORE
GIRLS: A PRIMER
OVERVIEW
This book begins
by explaining the
three most important
differences to account
for when dating
women in Singapore
and much of Asia.

How different is a Singaporean girl

from other girls? How does that affect
the way you meet and date them? Youll
learn that and more in this section.
Understand the proper approaches
and mindsets to have and never shoot
yourself in the foot again by saying or
doing the wrong thing.
Youre in Singapore, right? Read and
understand this short primer... and youll
have home court advantage.
Then Ill explore some of the ways
in which youve probably been misled
by common advice about meeting and
attracting women and what you need

to do to fix these false views so that

you can have an abundant sexual and
romantic life.
Dont take some copy-and-paste
template that some western dating
guru taught you (or the Singaporean
false guru who copied him blindly
too). Learn the secrets of dating
and attraction... customized for the
Singapore context.
Have you ever noticed how much of
the common teachings on dating are
actually contradictory? Learn the right
way to interpret all of them through
the lenses of truth.

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Have you ever been inundated with so much information

that you ended up applying nothing in the end? Thats
exactly what were NOT going to do here. I kept this primer
as concise as I could (and even then its over 15,000 words
of pure gold) to make sure we dont just cover ground but
actually go deep with what we cover. These truths are meant
to be applied. So do us both a favor and apply them.
Lastly, Ill give you the down and dirty template on how to
begin a conversation, create a connection, and get contact
info from a beautiful woman in Singapore and much of Asia.
This is an action book, my friend. Not just a theory book.
When youre done, roll up your sleeves and get ready to put
in practice what you learn in these pages.

LETS GET
STARTED

PART 1:

DATING
WOMEN IN
SINGAPORE
AND ASIA
This section explains
three main differences
you should keep in
mind when dating
Singaporean women in
Singapore, which apply
to most other dating
contexts in big cities in
modern Asia.

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DIFFERENCES
ere are three differences that make a
difference:
1. PERSONAL SPACE AND
THE POLITE ZONE
One factor that is culturally variable is the sense
of personal space.
Some men have the mistaken notion that
you should try to get as much as you can as fast
as you can, so they look for every opportunity to
touch a woman as soon as possible.
This is a very bad strategy in Asia and
Singapore. If youre of non-Asian race, you
might get a little leeway because she will think
this is what youre used to in your society. But its
not good to depend on her leniency.

In Singapore and Asian cultures, the

dominant society is still relatively conservative
and purposely touching strangers is not
common. So keep this in mind and calibrate.
Lay off the physical escalation until youre
in private, whether its in your bedroom or
her place. If the two of you really cant restrain
yourselves, you could use a corner booth in a
dark lounge, bar, or club, where fewer prying
eyes can spy.
Not only is this important to protect the
ladys reputation, but also because if you
escalate physically too earlybefore you can
capitalize on her arousal and take things even
furtherthen you run the risk of releasing her
sexual tension prematurely. Its generally better
to keep the sexual tension going all the way to
the bedroom instead of releasing the tension
by jumping at every opportunity for physical
contact with her like youre still a schoolboy.
Obviously, there are exceptions. Club sluts are
clubs sluts no matter where they are in the world.
But as a rule of thumb, de-prioritize physical
touch in public, at least until you are already lovers.
One good way of thinking about personal

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Personal
space is
largely
determined
by two other
factors: Eye
Contact
and Hip
Direction.
Remember,
eyes and
hips.

space is in terms of the Polite Zone.

The size of the Polite Zone varies
from society to society and even
from individual to individual within a
society. The Polite Zone is the distance
between two people that is considered
comfortable by both parties.
In Latin America, the Polite Zone
is quite small. You can get physically
close to a total stranger in Latin
America, and they wont think anything
of it. Think of some Latin dance styles
like the bachata. Its acceptable to
dance hip to hip with a stranger, or to
speak so closely to someone that they
can smell what beer you were drinking.
In Japan, society is more reserved.
Physical touch is not as accepted.

Recall the premise behind the

Japanese hit film, Shall We Dance?
In Japan, the Polite Zone is relatively
large. This distance helps when two
salarymen need to do a deep bow
towards each other.
But think of Japanese subway cars,
crammed full of people on the way to
work. Why arent they all screaming rape?
This is because the sense of
personal space is largely determined by
two other factors: Eye Contact and Hip
Direction. Remember, eyes and hips.
The next time you get on a
crowded elevator, try to make and
maintain eye contact with the person
next to you. Then you will understand
why eye contact is a determining factor

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Every second she accepts your presence inside

her Polite Zone, she will unconsciously become
more and more comfortable with you and
associate you with her close circle.

in personal space. If you

dont make eye contact
with someone, you can
actually get really close
physically without setting
off any alarms.
Also, next time you
get on a crowded elevator
and everyone is facing
forward, stand at the
door and face inwards.
Then you will understand
why hip direction is so
important.
So as long as you are
not making eye contact
and your hips are turned
away from the other
persons hips, you can get
very close physically.
The Polite Zone
is activated once eye
contact is made. And the

more your hips are facing

the other persons, the
more keenly you will feel
the Polite Zone.
In Singapore, the
Polite Zone is about
arms length. So if you are
approaching someone
on Orchard Road, you
can usually approach as
closely as arms length
without alarming the
person.
Once youve made
eye contact at arms
length, step at an angle
just inside the Polite
Zone. Youre coming in
at a slight angle so that
your hips are not directly
facing the other persons
hips. This allows you to
get a little closer.

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WHY WOULD YOU

WANT TO STEP
JUST INSIDE THE

POLITE ZONE?
Who do we ordinarily accept inside our Polite Zone?
Family, close friends, lovers. Every second she
accepts your presence inside her Polite Zone, she will
unconsciously become more and more comfortable
with you and associate you with her close circle.
You will trigger the anchors created by her family,
close friends, and lovers. She will think of you as one
of them. And she will begin to feel towards you, a
relative stranger, the way she feels towards them.
Dont make the mistake of stepping too far into
the Polite Zone. Dont be like the Latino man who
forgot he was in Singapore and mis-calibrated the
Polite Zone. If you get too close too fast, youll turn
her off and send her fleeing in the other direction.
However, if you stay too far for too long, shell put you
in the Platonic Zone and have a hard time thinking of
you sexually.

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Dont make the mistake of stepping too far into

the Polite Zone. Dont be like the Latino man who
forgot he was in Singapore and mis-calibrated
the Polite Zone. If you get too close too fast,
youll turn her off and send her fleeing in the
other direction. However, if you stay too far for
too long, shell put you in the Platonic Zone and
have a hard time thinking of you sexually.
Step just inside the Polite Zone.
And when it comes to physical escalation
beyond the platonic, it is best to wait until you
are in private.
2. SAVING FACE (MIANZI)
In Asian societies, the concept of face and
preserving face (or mianzi in Chinese) is
far more important than it is the West. This is
especially so in Singapore, which not only is
a small country but also feels like a
small country where everyone is
connected by only a few degrees
of separation.
Related to this aversion to
public physical escalation is
Singaporean womens hypersensitivity to what others in their
community think of them (public
self-perception). This is one of the main
reasons why you should generally keep your
physical touch non-sexual and platonic.
Platonic touch in Singapore is any part of
the body used for blocking in combat, including

the outer arm, upper back, and the outside

of the thigh or below the knee. I like to
touch people on the outside of the
elbow when standing or just above
the knee when seated. Pairing a
compliment with a platonic touch
is great way to get a girl used to
associating your touch with good
feelings.
Remember that when it
comes to touching someone, the
key is your mindset. You should
not feel like its a big deal. It should
be done naturally and without any
thought to it. Otherwise, she will feel
that youre up to something and will
get uncomfortable.
If youre not used to touching
people platonically yet, start practicing
in harmless contexts, such as with
those you have no sexual interest in, like aunties
at your workplace or your family members. Most
Asians arent accustomed to even hugging their
family members. If youre not used to platonic
touch, start doing it as much as you can, with
almost everyone you meet.
And start doing it early on in the interaction,
so that there isnt any kind of awkward build-up
to the first touch. A good practice is to touch
platonically when you greet the person, either
with a hug or a hearty handshake.
Protective touch, like going arm-in-arm as you

ELBOW

KNEE

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Believe it or not, to become

sexually intimate on your
first date with her, it is
actually unnecessary to
touch her sexually while
youre in public.
Practice platonic
touch with friends
and family

cross the street or placing your hand on the small

of her back in a crowded place, is also acceptable,
as you long you release your hand once the
situation is over. No lingering touch here.
Just be careful about crossing the barrier
from platonic to sexual when youre in public
with her. Sexual touch is a touch on any spot
towards the inside of her bodyinner arm,
lower back, her abdomen, neck, face, hair, inner
leg, and of course, her chest and genital areas.
Believe it or not, to become sexually intimate
on your first date with her, it is actually unnecessary
to touch her sexually while youre in public.
Escalating in public, especially outside
of a nightclub setting, can often cause a
Singaporean girl to feel self-conscious, anxious,
or nervous. She doesnt want others to think
shes easy or slutty. It should go without

saying that such feelings are counter-productive

to smooth escalation and an enjoyable time for
both parties.
3. UNABASHED MATERIALISM
According to a report released by Knight Frank
and Citi Private Wealth, Singapore is the worlds
richest country by GDP per capita, topping
Norway, the USA, and Hong Kong. And for the
third year in a row, Singapore also has the highest
percentage of millionaires in the world according
to a report from the Boston Consulting Group.
About 17% of resident households in Singapore,
which equates to more than one in every six
households--have disposable private wealth
of over US$1 million, even excluding property,
businesses, or luxury goods.
You might think this makes wealth less of a

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Instead of falling into the trap that comes

from buying into societys bullshit about what
you should want in life, determine your own
set of values and live by them.
factor. But it doesnt. It just means the stakes are
higher.
Dont make the mistake of playing the
wealth game to get girls. Sure, it can work... but
only if youre at the top. And as the reports have
shown, it takes a heck of a lot to stay at the top
in Singapore.
Men who play the conventional dating
gamein which they try to impress girls with
their wealth, status, or looksare playing a
losing proposition.
Why? Because they are always and easily
vulnerable to the Bigger Better Deal: Theres
always going to be some other guy who is richer,
higher status, or better looking.
In addition, because they themselves value
looks, status, and especially wealth so much,
they will be drawing into their lives precisely
the type of woman that would NOT be good

relationship materialthe gold-diggers or highmaintenance girls.

Moreover, relying on material wealth as
the source of your social value often tends to
bring out a similar attitude in the women you
interact with, which means youll actually be
creating your own problems by triggering those
materialistic attitudes in the women you meet.
Instead of falling into the trap that comes
from buying into societys bullshit about what
you should want in life, determine your own set
of values and live by them.
If you buy into the stark materialism rampant
in Singapore, you will always lose to the Bigger
Better Deal.
Instead of entering the Social Arms Race, in
which youll always be vulnerable to the Bigger
Better Deal, undercut the Social Arms Race by
attracting women, not through trying to impress

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them with material stuff, but

by being your
ideal self.
And that starts with
knowing what values you
stand for and living up to them
the best you can.
If you dont want to fall
into the trap of playing into
the dead-end materialism
game, then you have to
live by your own set of selfdetermined values.
This is more than just a
strategy to us, as effective
as it is. It is a matter of
values. Of course, values
take some time to truly be
internalized, and this is part
of the transformation process
my students and I undertake
together.
At Aura Dating Academy,
we operate by a set of core
values, which all members
must adhere to. I recommend
you think about these and see
which you would be interested
in adopting. Of course, feel
free to add any additional
values in which you believe
strongly.

AURA DATING ACADEMY

CORE VALUES FOR MEN
DIGNITY
Give good feelings to
others.
Add value to others by
our presence.
Never disregard the
emotions of others,
especially the more
vulnerable.
Respect the dignity
of all human beings,
regardless of race,
religion, gender, age, or
political persuasion.
Earn the respect of
others; do not simply
demand it.

AUTHENTICITY
Become our best selves.
Be true to my edge
wherever it may be.
Take constructive
criticism like a man.
Be understanding
and empathetic.
Compare my progress
against my former self not
against others; check my
ego at the door.

COURAGE
Have courage in
facing fear; in the
face of fear, step up.
Push beyond my
comfort zone.
Persevere; adapt
but never give up.
Speak up when
wronged; do not
harbour resentment
Have FUN!

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WE ARE ALL ABOUT GIVING WOMEN GOOD

FEELINGS AND BRINGING VALUE TO OTHER
PEOPLES LIVES.
Ive explained these core values in detail in the Aura
Culture Book, which is available for free at
www.auradating.com/auraculture If you havent
already, go download your free copy now.

What values do you live by? What arguments or reasons do you have for adhering to
those values? You will need to know the answers to these questions in order to hold
your own against the forcible current of Singaporean societys materialism, undercut
the dead end Social Arms Race, and and succeed in relationships with women without
having to rely on money, status, or looks.

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WE ARE ALL
ABOUT GIVING
WOMEN GOOD
FEELINGS AND
BRINGING VALUE
TO OTHER
PEOPLES LIVES.

AN IMPORTANT
CAVEAT
aving explored three cultural differences
that make a difference in dating, I
should also explain how this knowledge
fits into the overall context of acquiring
dating intelligence and skills.
Ive been living in Singapore since 2008
and in various parts of East Asia for many years
before that. And one of the most common
questions I still get asked, whether Im in North
America or Singapore, is, How is dating Asian
(or Singaporean) women different in contrast to
Western women?
Its easy to understand the North American
question from the white guys, as it stems from
the ubiquitous curiosity about the Other. I
usually just put them at ease with a quick but
accurate answer of, Other than the language
factor, cultural differences only account for
about 5% of what youd do differently in dating
in Asia or Singapore. So about 95% of it is the
same in North America versus Asia.
This is because sexual attraction is biological
and largely determined by our evolutionary

When it comes to Singapore, heres

the truth. Singapore is THE most
Westernized country in all of Asia.
heritage and the resultant human brain and
sexual drives that our ancestors bequeathed to
us after millions of years of evolution. What we
share in common as human beings far outweigh
any cultural differences.
Yet, in Singapore, curiosity is not the reason
for assuming theres something different about
women in Singapore. Its something much more
like a cultural exceptionalism. Look, everyone
likes to think theyre different; it makes them
think theyre unique, special.
In America, guys think that West Coast
girls are different from East Coast girls, that
Miami girls are different from New York girls,
that Northern California girls are different from
Southern California girls, that Upper West Side

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Everybodys the same:

We all want to think
were different.
New York girls are different from Lower East Side
New York girls, that girls from up the street have
to be approached differently from the girls down
the street.
Everybodys the same: We all want to think
were different.
Expats think of Singapore as Asia-light. And
Westerners looking for an exotic Asian vacation
are often turned off by Singapore because its
not what they traveled to Asia forthe main
language is the same as back home, there are
many excellent restaurants for Western food,
its as clean and efficient as any Western country
(actually more so), and hotels and fine dining are
as expensive as in New York or London.

Moreover, Singapores culture is cobbled

together from several other, more populous
Asian cultures, especially Hokkien Chinese,
Malay, and Indian. Within Singapore, many
men ask me to teach them how its different
dating a Chinese Singaporean versus a Malay
Singaporean versus an Indian Singaporean.
Of course, there are differences, and we
can spend hours discussing these, but its a lot
like tailors debating what buttons to use on
an identical suit jacket. The jacket, pants, and
shirt are exactly the same, but the buttons are
different.
Learn the fundamentals first.

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PART 2:

THE BETTER
WAY TO
THINK ABOUT
ATTRACTING
WOMEN
or How Aura Dating Academy
Differs from the PUA Industry

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he Better Way to Think

About Attracting Women
(or How Aura Dating
Academy Differs from the
PUA Industry)

In the autumn of 2004, Neil
Strauss published The Game:
Penetrating the Secret Society of
Pick Up Artists, which went on to
become a New York Times bestselling book for
many years. As recently as 2013, I found stacks
of the international version of this book piled
up right next to the cash register in a major
bookstore in Bangkok.
This book revealed a thriving online global
community of men who had been sharing their
experiences and knowledge of how to pick
up women, as well as the multi-million dollar
industry selling men coaching and products in
this industry.
In tackling the PUA (pick up artist) industry,
I should clarify that within the broad spectrum
of PUA teachers and teachings lie a lot of
contradictions and half-truths. Its easy to poke
holes in the teachings of the PUA industry. So
the points I make here are carefully selected to
reflect the vast majority of PUA teachings.
How is the PUA industry different from what
is offered at Aura Dating Academy?

1. PICK UP AS SPORT
First, the PUA industry approaches the
process of meeting, attracting, and
dating women as a sport. PUAs
compete with each other on how
many or what percentage of
women they can get numbers,
kisses, or fuck-closes from. They
dont treat women as human
beings but as HB6s (Hot Babe
6), UGs (Ugly Girls), or pivots.
They dont really care about her
feelings, dreams, or uniqueness,
except insofar as it helps them get a
close of some kind in the sport of pick
up. They constantly check their progress
against other PUAs to see how well theyre doing
in the sport of pick up, for example, whether they
can consistently pick up an HB 6.537 on the
street or go five for five in clubs on an HB88.95 or how many views, comments, or thumbsups theyve gotten on their lay reports on some
random online PUA forum.
Now do you understand why women find the
whole PUA thing so creepy and why emotionally
mature adults find it dehumanizing to women?
The whole pick up as sport idea was actually
created specifically to dehumanize women. Neil
Strauss explains in The Game that if you view your
interactions with women as if you were just playing
a computer game, then your ego could never be
hurt by rejection because if you see women like

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targets in a video game, then every time you

get shot down, you can just hit the continue
button and play again. No ego damage. No
need to actually open yourself up to real people.
Just see people as targets in a first-person
shooter game, and hey, you dont have to care
about what people think of you anymore. It makes
complete logical sense. If these people arent
really human beings, if theyre just objects in a
video game, then how can they hurt you? Problem
solved. Dehumanization begins.
Thats NOT how we approach social
interactions at Aura Dating Academy.
2. BEING GENUINE
At Aura, we place a premium on being genuine,

authentic, and real with people. After all, thats the

only way in which real love can happen. Not from
seeing people as objects in some virtual reality
computer game, but actually opening yourself up
to getting to know and becoming intimate with
real, individual, human women.
Notice that if you take the
pick up as sport attitude,
youll actually end up with an
extremely weak framework
for interpreting social
interactions (i.e., a weak
frame). Youll be tracking
your closing percentages
with women and comparing
your scores with other players
instead of truly screening people
to see whether theyre worth
getting to know.
This means that how good you feel about
yourself will still be dependent on how women
treat you and what they think of you. Putting your
self-esteem at the mercy of others is placing your
happiness beyond your own control. And that is a
recipe for depression and failure. The real issue
was never really resolved. You just learned how
to run away from it.
But if you view interacting with women as a
possible opportunity to connect with someone-if she is up to your standards and worth your
attention--then youll be coming from a much
stronger framework, one in which how you feel

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about yourself is not

dependent on how
others view you or
treat you and one
in which your selfesteem and ego
are not at the
mercy of others.

Instead, YOU
are in the drivers
seat. You are the
one who calls the
shots. You are the one
in control of your own selfesteem.
Because if you dont view women as the mere
targets of some sport that youre competing in
with other players, then you wont need to get
or take anything from them to feel good about
yourself.
And finally, you can enjoy women for who
they truly are--real human beings with dreams,
desires, and passions. You can face them without
fear because you are not dependent on them.
When you do that, when you adopt the Aura
attitude of being genuine and authentic with
people, youll be amazed at how women are
easily drawn to you, gravitate to you, and open
themselves up to you. Thats one of our secrets
to the tremendous successes weve had at Aura
Dating Academy

3. PUAS AND SHAME

Whats a sure sign of a weak frame and an
immature boy?
He exhibits shame in approaching women.
Many PUAs suffer from this shame.
Theyre ashamed of what theyre learning
and doing in attempting to approach and attract
women. And thats because deep down, they think
theyre actually doing something ethically wrong.
They mask it with bravado and
comparing scores, but deep downtheres an inner conflict that will one
day rear its ugly head and refused
to be hidden again.
This is also why many
guys give up learning
how to be better with
women altogether. They
think that the only way to
succeed with women is
to go down a path that is
against their values, rather
then encouraging them to
embrace their values even
more (which is what I am teaching
you here).
4. TAKING VS. GIVING
Do you know why the PUA guys feel like theres
something unethical with what theyre doing?
Its because they have a taking mentality
when it comes to women, showing that they think

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they are of lower value than the woman. Its

betrayed in their language:

Did you take her phone number?

Did you steal a kiss?
Did you get a date?
Did you get to third base?
Did you get sex from her?

They think theyre taking something from

her. And they feel like theyre taking something
from the woman that she doesnt want to give up.
Why dont PUAs say instead:

Did you give her your number?

Did you give her a kiss?
Did you let her touch you?
Did you give it up to her?

This is how hot girls talk. Why dont PUAs

think this way? Its because they have a taking
mentality.

What if the tables were turned? What

if you truly believed that you were of
equal value as the woman? Or even of
higher value?
Because if you knew were actually of
equal or higher value, you would speak
and act differently.
All women around the world say that
the number one thing they look for in a man is
CONFIDENCE.
And that kind of attractive confidence comes
from the deeply rooted belief that when we interact
with other people, we are actually adding value to
their lives. Their lives are better off for having met
us and interacted with us. Heck, our very presence
adds value to her life.
Why?
Because we are giving them what women
everywhere value the most: Good feelings and the
opportunity to know a really amazing guy.
They feel pleasure when we are around them.
And this pleasure is addictive. When you can
make her laugh at will, arouse her at will, make her
excited and happy when youre around her, then
women will want to be around you more and more.
And theyll miss you and obsess over you when
youre not around. Theyll talk about you with their
other girlfriends. And those girlfriends will become
intrigued about you and want to meet you. And ...
well, you get the picture. That could be your life.
And thats one of the most telling signs of a guy
who has a giving mentality. He knows hes not

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taking anything from

her. Instead, hes giving
her tremendous value.
And this comes
from the simple power
of expressing yourself
honestly, but in an
attractive way.
You dont have to be
someone else to attract
her. After all, eventually,
she will find out who you
really are.
You can be your
most genuine, authentic
self... and still attract
women. Heck, when
you master the proper
way to communicate
your genuine feelings
and thoughts to a
woman--one of our core
lessons at Aura--youll
be absolutely irresistible
to women. Theyll be
thinking about you and
talking about you long
after youre gone.
5. VALUE AND FULFILLMENT
Rather, you learn how

to enjoy yourself in the

presence of others and
how to be sexy and
sexual in a way that
maximizes pleasure
for yourself and your
partners.
Unlike the PUA
industry, at Aura, we
do not view women
as a means to an end.
Women are not objects
in a video game. Women
are not simply notches
on the bedpost to be
bragged about in some
online forum. They arent
just another numberclose, kiss-close, or f*ckclose.
Instead, view women
as ends in themselves to
be enjoyed for who they
are as unique individuals,
with their own dreams,
passions, and goals.
If you learn to live
fully in the present with
a woman and express
yourself genuinely and
authentically, with no
subterfuge or agenda,

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All women around the world say

that the number one thing they look
for in a man is CONFIDENCE.

Unlike the PUA industry, at

Aura, we do not teach how to
deceive or manipulate women.

then women will be drawn to you without even

knowing why.
Women love us because we open ourselves
to them without fear, not hiding anything, and in
turn, they open themselves fully to us.
They make our lives better. And we make
their lives better.
So when we approach a woman to get to
know her better and see where things may lead
with her, we know that we are giving her a rare
opportunity to meet an amazing guy, a man who
can add exceptional value by giving her endless

good feelings and adds value to her life by his

very presence.
At Aura, our members learn how to live lives
full of love, pleasure, and happiness. And woman
desperately want to be a part of that.
The point is not to toil away at beating another
player at the sport of picking up chicks, checking
off another number-close, club make-out, or notch
on the bedpost.
Rather, the point is to learn how to succeed
in forming fulfilling experiences and relationships
and truly making your life extraordinary.

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WOMEN LOVE
US BECAUSE
WE OPEN
OURSELVES
TO THEM
WITHOUT FEAR,
NOT HIDING
ANYTHING,
AND IN TURN,
THEY OPEN
THEMSELVES
FULLY TO US.

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PART 3:

THE
HOW TO

1. THE FUNDAMENTALS
Before I give you any lines, techniques, methods,
or things to say, I must remind you that when
it comes to attraction and likeability, the words
you say account for less than 10% of the result.
Its all in the delivery, your body language, eye
contact, vocal tonality, and most of all, your
mindset during the interaction.
IF YOU PRESENT A GOOD IMAGE WITH
GOOD FASHION AND HAVE SOLID
BODY LANGUAGE, TONALITY, EYE
CONTACT, AND THE RIGHT FRAME AND
MINDSET, THEN YOU CAN SAY JUST
ABOUT ANYTHING AND CAN ATTRACT
A WOMAN.
If you dont present a good image with good
fashion and dont have solid body language,
tonality, eye contact, and the right frame and
mindset, then even the best words probably will
not save you.
These are what I call the fundamentals. In
the Aura Dating Academy Total Transformation
Program, we have a six-hour sequence of
courses on Fashion & Image led by our resident
image specialists, a two-hour course just on
body language, a two-hour course focusing on
eye contact and vocal tonality, and over a dozen
hours of courses on the right attitudes, frames,
and mindsets. For more info, check out our
website: www.auradating.com/transformation

2. THE ATTRACTION MINDSET

Also, the most important mindset to have when
youre socializing is what I call the Attraction
Mindset.
The Attraction Mindset dictates that at least
90% of your mental processes are taken up with
the following in this exact order:
HAVE FUN!
MAKE OTHERS HAVE FUN.
MAKE CONNECTIONS AND SEE IF
PEOPLE MEET YOUR STANDARDS.
The remaining 10% of your mental processes can
be taken up with any techniques or strategies you
are working on and handling logistics, such as where
you are going to take her next or handling obstacles.
If this is your first time attempting a cold
approach, you will probably forget the Attraction
Mindset, which is a horrible beginners mistake.
Just remember: Have FUN first and foremost.
By have fun, I mean enjoy yourself. Have a smile
on your face. Get in a fun mood first. Thats the
MOST IMPORTANT thing, far more important
than what you say.
3. THE ANXIETY OF APPROACHING
But since beginners always want to know what to
say, Ill give you an excellent default opener.
First, youve got to get up the courage to

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approach that beautiful

girl you see walking by.
Feeling nervousness or
anxiety at the thought
of approaching and
flirting with a woman you
dont know is incredibly
common. In fact, if you
didnt feel that way, youre
probably not human.
Through the process of evolutionary
adaptation, our caveman ancestors bequeathed
to us a brain that is programmed to hesitate
before taking certain risks, such as approaching
strange women for mating. Back in caveman
days, if a man approached the wrong female, he
could be bludgeoned to death by her husband,
brothers, or father who were just out of sight
around the boulder. The cavemen who blithely
attempted to mate with any female he saw had
his genes eventually weeded out of existence.
There is about a 100,000 year lag between
the evolutionary development of our physical
bodies and our environments. Life in the
modern world means that youre mostly safe
from these caveman risks.
Fortunately, in modern cities like Singapore,
merely approaching
The possibilities are
and speaking with a
endless... and easy to woman is not a crime.
come up with.
In fact, it is actually
a crime for a man to

physically assault you for simply speaking to a

woman. So modern law actually protects you when
you strike up a conversation with a new woman.
However, your caveman brain will still generate
adrenaline in your body when you approach a
stranger. Heck, my caveman brain makes my heart
race when I know I have to raise my hand and
speak up in a large university classroom. Thats
just our evolutionary instincts kicking in.
Look at it another way though. Successful
people embrace the adrenaline rush that comes
from taking risks.
Think of it this way: Hundreds of thousands of
people every day around the world pay over $50
each to enter an amusement park and ride rollercoasters that scare the heck out of them. They
actually pay good money to scare themselves.
Actually, our brains cant distinguish between
the feeling of fear and adrenaline. Its our
interpretation of the context that makes that
feeling either pleasant or unpleasant.
That feeling you get when the rollercoaster is slowly ascending up the
track to the very first drop is exactly the
same feeling you get when youre first
approaching a new woman.
Its just that the guys who are really good
with womenthe mastershave learned to
There is about
a 100,000 year
love and anticipate that adrenaline high and
between the
have trained themselves to feed off that feeling. lag
evolutionary
development of our
If you want to learn how to eradicate
physical bodies and
approach anxiety forever, Aura Dating
our environments.

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Academy offers a one-day workshop that takes

you into the real worldonto the streets of
Singaporeand takes you through how to do
exactly that: How to conquer your approach
anxiety, and even in fact, how to turn your
greatest weakness into your greatest strength.*
4. THE OPENER: DROP THE PRETENSE
Also, the most important mindset to have when
youre socializing is what I call the Attraction
Mindset.
Second, once youve walked over and gotten
her attention, what should you say?
Here I shall reveal to you the most versatile
opener known to man. Some masters use this
as their only default opener because it is THAT
effective. You can use it in ANY situation in which
you find yourself.
I call it: Drop the Pretense. Its easy and
simple to use. Anybody can learn it.
There are basically just two parts to the opener.
I. First, you need a pretense to begin the
conversation. This is usually some bit of
information that any civilized, mature human
being would be willing to offer you. For example,
directions are a good one. If youve ever been a
tourist lost in a foreign country, youve probably
done this part before. You could ask directions
to the Starbucks nearby where you are supposed
to meet your friend, directions to the nearby art

museum, directions to a good sushi restaurant, or

even directions to the restroom.
But you could also use almost anything in the
environment as your pretense.
If youre in the pasta aisle at the grocery store,
you could ask whether she knows which pasta
sauce mixes best with seafood.
If youre in the travel section of the bookstore,
you could ask her if shes been to the place on the
cover of the travel guide shes skimming.
If youre in a clothing shop, you could ask
her for her opinion on the accessories selection
because youre looking for a gift for your sister.
The possibilities are endless... and easy to
come up with.
The point of the pretense is just to break the
ice and get her to start talking...
But... and heres maybe one of only two tricky
parts...
You have to interrupt her after 2-3 seconds.
Dont interrupt her right away. Dont interrupt
her after 5 seconds; thats too long. 2-3 seconds is
the sweet spot.
This means you cant ask for directions to
a place that is right near you, or she will just
point, and youre done. You also shouldnt ask
for directions to a place that is really far away, or
shell just give up and tell you to ask someone
else.
So you should ask a question that would
prompt a response of at least 5 seconds, so
that you can interrupt her after 2-3 seconds.

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II. After she starts to answer your question,

you interrupt her after 2-3 seconds with
something like the following:


Actually no, I dont really need to know.

Actually, I already know.

Actually, I dont really care.
This interruption will be completely
unexpected... And thats what makes it funny.
Yes, funny. It is absolutely essential that she
finds your interruption completely unexpected.
This is what makes it funny.
Make a girl laugh, and youre well on your
way to getting more intimate with her.
III. Then follow up with your explanation.
I just wanted to come over to talk with you
cause I thought you were really cute, followed
by a sheepish smile.
You must not do this opener with a serious
or straight face. It must be humorous, and your
smile must be sheepish, like you just got caught
playing a harmless prank.
Thus, putting it all together, you have:
You: Do you know where the Starbucks in
this mall is located? Im supposed to meet a
friend there. (Or whatever Pretense youve
chosen.)
Her: [Her answer]

You (after 2-3 seconds): Actually, I already

know where it is, haha. I just wanted to come
over to talk with you cause I thought you were
really cute. (sheepish smile)

Her: Haha

Its generally a good idea to get logistical

information right after this. Ordinarily, you should
stay away from boring questions. But in this case,
you can capitalize on her emotional high from the
humor, as well as make yourself seem normal and
not like a player, which can hurt your Believability
(more on that later).
But, you only get one logistical question. You
can ask something like the following:
So who are you here with?
(if its in a social environment, like a bar or
nightclub)

So where are you headed?

(if youre on a city street or in a shopping mall)

Or, you can ask something more pointed like:

So how do you know the host?

(if youre at a house party)

So how are you connected with [XYZ

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 company]?
(if youre at a launch party or a networking
event)

You can only ask ONE such logistical
question after the opener. Do NOT get caught
up in a question train of boring questions!
Then you can riff off her answer to the
logistical question, or you can move on to your
Transition.
5. THE TRANSITION: FIRST PASS
Going by chronological order, the next thing
youll do is transition into your Screen, which Ill
describe in the next section.
However, your transition will be largely
determined by the Screen you want to use. So
while chronologically speaking, the Transition
section should be here, Im going to save the
explanation of Transitions until after I explain
how to Screen and Qualify.
6. THE V-I-B MODEL
The technique Im about to show you is
incredibly effective because its one of the only
techniques that simultaneously increases all the
factors that account for sexual attraction. I need
to acknowledge the influence and teaching of
my old friend, Sebastian Drake, for inspiration
on the V-I-B Model and for first teaching me the
basics of Screening & Qualifying.1
V-I-B stands for Value-Investment-Believability,

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1
Most models of attraction are linear, what I call diachronic models (dia
as in the Greek, which means through). That is, they say how attraction is
built through time.

Diachronic models have a lot of limitations. One of the most salient is that
life rarely proceeds exactly as planned, and this applies to flirting and fun
conversations. Diachronic models are just not flexible enough to take into
account the constantly changing circumstances of real life.
If you must think in terms of a linear, diachronic model, keep it simple. My
A-B-C linear model is as simple and effective as it gets. A-B-C stands for
Approach-Build Believability/Pump Buying Temperature-Close.
Synchronic models (syn from the Greek, which means with) are much more
flexible and accurate. A good synchronic model enables you to analyze how
much attraction you have from a woman at any point in time.
Take any slice of time, say t3, and you can figure out how much attraction
youre getting from a woman at t3 by simply using the synchronic model.

By the way, its fine

to be friends with a
woman. Women hook
up with their male
friends. Women marry
their male friends.
This is perfectly
normal.

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which are the three pillars of attraction.

How attracted a woman is to you at any
given time, say t3, can be determined by
analyzing how much Value, Investment, and
Believability you have at t3.
In the Total Transformation Program at Aura
Dating Academy, we have a two-hour course
on Value, a four-hour sequence of courses
just on Investment, and a two-hour course on
Believability.
Simply put, Value here refers to how
important the woman thinks you are, i.e., how
much she values you.
According to the many studies in

evolutionary psychology, social psychology, and

neuropsychology, women generally value the
following in men: economic capacity, social status,
emotional maturity and intelligence, ambition and
industriousness, intelligence, physical strength
and size, good health, and most of all, whether he
can give her good feelings. Theres obviously a lot
more to be said about this, but Ill leave it at that
for now.
Investment refers to how much time
and effort a woman is putting into you, your
relationship, and the interaction. Money can be
a good gauge here, i.e., how much money she
spends on you, because usually, it takes time

and effort for her to make

money. But money is not
the only sign of time and
effort. Again, much more
can be said here about
Investment, including the
Cost-Worth connection
and differing Investment
Scales, but this is enough
to get us started.
Believability becomes
the determining issue when you
have your fundamentals down, that
is, when your body language and tonality are
solid and when you have a strong sense of your
identity and your own value. Unlike PUAs, I dont
personally think much about social value. I try
to live my life the way I want, going for the goals
I feel are important to myself, and giving it my
best. After all, Value is relative. While many of us
value the same things, there are always people
who consider different things to be important.
So I dont much bother actively to demonstrate
higher value. Its not something I do. I just am.
And at this point, believability really becomes
THE most important issue, in my experience.
Thats why I call it the key to ELITE game.
Believability gets at the issue of whether
the girl feels she can believe your sincerity,
that you really do mean what you say in your
compliments and verbal rewards, and that your
touch escalations make sense emotionally.

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 Lets be clear that she does not need to

believe that you want to have sex with her. Every
hot girl will automatically think that she can
attain sex from you. Thats not whats in question.
What she craves to know is that you appreciate
her for being more than just a sex object.
Thats a quickie explanation of Believability.
For more on Value, Investment, and
Believability, you should take the sequence of
courses offered through the Academy.
So at any given time, you can simply stop
and ask yourself, How am I doing on Value?
How am I doing on Investment? How am I
doing on Believability? If you find that your
Believability is low at that time, it wont do you
any good to try to bump up your Value. Actually,
thats one of the biggest mistakes of the PUA
community, which generally assumes that the
man is of lower social value and is obsessed
about trying to increase Value all the time to the
detriment of the other two factors.
To help you understand how explanatorily
powerful the V-I-B model is, consider the
following cases.
In the first case, the mans Value and
Investment are high, but his Believability is low.
That is, the woman considers him high value and
is putting in time and effort into the interaction.
Any player worth his salt would look good and
can make her laugh. She finds him fun to talk
to and pleasing to the eye. However, when it
comes time to escalate further, she hesitates and

withdraws. This is the Players

What you dont want is
Problem.
to be a just friend. If a
Why would she pull back?
woman ever tells a man
Because he lacks Believability.
they are just friends,
She doesnt trust his sincerity. He
this means the man just
now has to depend on getting
failed in an escalation
her drunk or high enough that
attempt.
she isnt in her right mind (or, he
can find a girl who is just feeling
slutty that night). This is the
Players only recourse.
So now the Player knows that getting
further Value or Investment from her is counterproductive. He needs to shore up his Believability.
In the second case, the man has moderately
high Value and very high Believability, but
moderately low Investment. This is the man
caught in the Platonic Friend Zone.
By the way, its fine to be friends with a woman.
Women hook up with their male friends. Women
marry their male friends. This is perfectly normal.
What you dont want is to be a just friend. If
a woman ever tells a man they are just friends,
this means the man just failed in an escalation
attempt. Imagine you turned to your guy
friend and said, Hey dude, were just friends.
Something weird just happened, ha.
So the Platonic Friend who has been given
the just friends speech needs to improve his
Investment mainly and to a lesser degree, his Value.
She values him to a degree and thats why
theyre friends. Friends are important to us.

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 And when he tells her, Babe, youre so

smart and sexy. Youre way too good for that
bad boy who keeps ignoring you, she believes
his sincerity. So Believability is not his problem.
His weakness is that hes not getting enough
Investment from her. Shes not kissing him or
opening herself up to him physically.
So he can skip the Believability techniques
and even the Value techniques for now.
What he needs to focus on first is to ramp up
his Investment. So now he can turn to his arsenal
of Investment strategies and start to build
Investment from her.
You see how powerful this model is?
Ive drawn these out in bar graphs for you to
see at a glance:

You can see that the third case is the typical

AFA (Average Frustrated Asian). The woman
doesnt consider him important. She doesnt
give him much time or effort. And when he
tells her he thinks shes hot, well, she believes
he thinks shes hot. He needs to first work on
raising his Value and Investment.
For the sake of completion, Ive added the
last case where the Value is low but the other
two are high. Because of the upward mutual
pull of Value and Investment, this sort of case
is thankfully rare. And Ive called it the rapist
case. This case would entail coerced time and
effort from the woman.
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VIB VARIATIONS
14

12

10

4
VALUE
2

INVESTMENT
BELIEVABILITY

0
PLAYER

JUST FRIENDS

AFA

RAPIST

7. SCREENING
Now that youve had a whirlwind tour of how
the V-I-B model works, lets move onto one of
the only techniques that simultaneously raises
all threeValue, Investment, and Believability.
(Before I go on, let me remind you that if you
have questions or want to dive deeper into the
V-I-B Model, were just an email away: support@
auradating.com. I kept that section short so we
could move on but realize you may need further
explanation.)
This technique is called Screening and
Qualifying.
w Youll see why as we proceed.
Overall, Screening & Qualifying done
properly:

Shows that you genuinely have high

standards (Value).

Allows her to earn your attention and
affection for her non-physical qualities
(Investment).

Shows her you appreciate her for her

special characteristics and for meeting your
high standards (Believability).

First, Screening.
You should reflect on what youre looking
for in a woman. I know almost all of you know
what kind of physical traits you want. The funny

thing is, almost every time I ask a guy what hes

looking for in a woman, the first (and only) things
he tells me are her physical traitshow tall she
is, her bust, waist, and hip measurements, her
hair color, yada yada. Dude, this is one of those
reasons why you dont have a girlfriend yet. Sure,
I have a pretty good picture of my ideal physical
woman. But what were after here are her nonphysical qualities. Otherwise, youre just like the
next creepy guy.
Think of at least five non-physical traits and
write them down. To give you an example, Ill give
you an abbreviated version of my current list.
The bad girl character traits I like: Openminded. Non-judgmental. Non-jealous. Nonpossessive. A girl who goes with her feelings.
Spontaneous. Adventurous in life. Sexually
adventurous. Independent.
The good girl character traits I like:
Loyal. Mature. Cultured. Sophisticated. Caring.
Affectionate. Responsible. Understanding.
I look for a girl who combines the bad and
good girl character traits, the more the better!
In addition, Im also looking for the following more
personalized qualities.


Loves East Asian culture, especially its
movies, art, music, history, fashion, and food
(the last is a deal-breaker)!

Loves to travel and experience new cultures

Appreciates the arts and has some artistic
talent (dance, drama, music, visual arts)

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S & Q (Screening and Qualifying)

raises all three of Value, Investment,
and Believability.

Passionate about life and is a positive and

optimistic person in general
Ill omit the rest; you get the idea.

These are just a few examples of what I

screen for. You should come up with your own
list. That means youll actually have to pause and
reflect for a minute or two.
Take a moment to do it right now. Reflect and
write down at least five non-physical traits you
want in your ideal woman.
For you to pull this off properly, you should
genuinely want these qualities in a woman.
Its really up to you how much youre willing to
compromise on any of them. For me, she would
have to be insanely hot for me to compromise
on any of the above.
This is NOT merely a technique. This is a whole
frame of mind.
To do this properly, you need to have and

maintain a SCREENING
FRAME. You are in the
position of the evaluator,
the judge, the referee.
You should have this frame
throughout the interaction, from
the approach to the close, and over
the long-term.
In fact, this should be your default frame in
life, not just with women, but with everyone. You
should be a man of high standards, who knows
what hes looking for in women, in friends, in a job,
in colleagues, employees, etc.
So thats the mental preparation and mindset
behind Screening, which are far more important
than the actual words you use.
These can be in the form of either statements
or questions. Always contextualize your
statements and questions. Dont just ask or say
them out of the blue. For example, talk about a

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AS FOR THE WORDS,

HERE ARE SOME
DEFAULT SCREENING
LINES :
I LIKE X.
BEING X IS REALLY IMPORTANT
TO ME. ITS SOMETHING I REALLY
LIKE ABOUT SO-AND-SO FRIEND.
ALL MY FRIENDS ARE X. HMM,
YOU SEEM X. AM I RIGHT?
YOU STRIKE ME AS AN X
PERSON. YOURE X, ARENT YOU?
I CAN TELL YOURE VERY X.
BUT ARE YOU Y AS WELL?
ARE YOU MORE X OR Y?
YOURE NOT Y, RIGHT?

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time when you or your friends were X before you

ask her how X she is.
These should roll off your tongue as if theyre
the sort of things you say or ask everybody you
talk to.
Here are some bare bones Screening
lines. Just substitute the X for the trait you are
Screening for.
And here are some more personalized
Screening questions that arose out of my own
personal interests:

[After talking passionately about some
travel-related topic,] I say, So where do
you like to travel? (this is a positive
presumption which implies that she does in
fact travel)

You have that artistic air about
you / You look artistic. What kind of art
do you do? (again, positive presumption)

All my friends are adventurous. Its
something I look for in new friends.
Whats the most adventurous thing
youve done... in the past month?

Uh, you dont get jealous easily do
you?
Now the delivery is crucial here. You can
parrot these words, but if you have the wrong
delivery, youll totally flop. So if you want her
working to get your attention and affection, you
absolutely must have the mindset of a Screening

Frame and you must have a Screening Delivery.

Whats the right delivery? Well, you want her to
put some work into her answers, to Invest in you.
Youre aiming for at least a 50-50 workload here.
Actually, the more she talks, the better.
After you make the statement or ask the
question, pause and hold the tension. Freeze your
body language, and look at her expectantly. Lean
back a little as if you are judging her and are a
little skeptical that she will have a good answer.
After all, you have high standards. Apply social
pressure with your expectant silence. High-value
people expect others to answer their questions
and respond to their statements.
If she doesnt give you anything after you
pause, resist the urge to fill the silence with
babbling. Look away or withdraw your body
language slightly to let her know shes losing you.
Then slowly turn back to her if you want to give
her another chance.
I usually give a girl three strikes before I
move on. Its up to you how much youre willing
to compromise on your standards. Remember,
though, its much more powerful if your standards

If she gives you a great answer, which

she should if you did this right, you
should reward her

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are genuine. Ive had plenty of girls that Ive

nexted come find me later in the night because
they were so impressed that I held to my
standards and walked away.
If she gives you a great answer, which she
should if you did this right, you should reward
her, which brings us to step two: Qualification.
One caveat: Having explained all that, you
should realize once you get really good at the
Screening technique, you can use it to screen
on just about any trait, even if you dont really
care about that trait. In fact, one fun exercise we
do in the Academy is to give you a random trait
and have you make up a screen for it and start
a conversation with it on the spot. Screening
on a trait you dont actually care about is called
False Screening. So yes, although ideally, it
should include the whole mindset of a Screening
Frame, it could be just a technique. As long as
you can act out the delivery properly, itll work.
However, you either have to be a good actor or
really experienced with the technique to do this
smoothly. For now, just focus on Real Screening,
getting practice and experience using Screening
on traits that you actually care about.
8. QUALIFYING
Before you can qualify, you MUST get
Investment from the girl. In other words, she has
to put time and effort into the conversation.
Always reward good effort and punish bad
behavior.

In a conversation, good effort can include

speaking a lot, asking you questions, telling you
a story, telling you a joke or just plain making you
laugh, defending her view, changing her own view
to match yours, or even just taking the time to pay
attention to you and focus on what youre saying.
You get the idea. She is supposed to contribute to
the conversation and make an effort before being
reward with a Qualification.
Before you proceed to the Qualifying stage,
you must first get her to Invest in you. That is how
you build your Investment.
Qualifying prematurely, without any effort
on her part, is worse than not Qualifying at all
because it will just showcase your neediness.
When you Qualify properly, you should see her
eyes kind of light up and a smile on her face, as if
nobody had really appreciated that in her for a
while.
This is because you will only be
qualifying her on non-physical traits.
Almost everyone else will be focusing
on a hot girls looks, everyone but you,
that is. You will be looking right past
her superficial appearances and
appreciating her personality
and character. Thats what
builds your Believability.
There is often a
good thirty seconds
to three minutes
or more of

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conversation between
the Screen and the
Qualification. This
is because you are
allowing her to
Invest in you and the
conversation, which
is vital to generating
Attraction.

Remember, the overall level of
Attraction a woman has for you is only as high
as the lowest of the three factorsValue,
Investment, and Believability. So if your Value is
very high, but your Investment and Believability
are low, it will do you no good to raise your
Value even more. The only way to generate
Attraction then would be to also raise your
Investment and Believability to match your level
of Value.
Also, once she has either demonstrated the
trait you are Screening for and she has put in time
and effort into the interaction, you MUST right
then Qualify her. You should not wait until later to
Qualify her on that trait because then she will not
associate the verbal reward with her effort.
You should Qualify her immediately after
she Invests the time or effort into attempting to
demonstrate that trait.
So thats the when. Heres what youre
actually going to say.
The following are examples of a bare
bones Qualification. Obviously, you should

contextualize and personalize the Qualification

as much as possible. Again, the X stands for the
personality trait you were Screening for.
WOW, YOU REALLY ARE X. I LIKE
THAT.
MMM. YOURE SO X.
ITS REALLY COOL TO HANG OUT WITH
SUCH AN X GIRL.
WOW, YOURE SO X. COOL.
YOURE SO X. I LOVE IT.
I like to sprinkle the word friend into my
Qualifications. Like most strategies that work,
its counter-intuitive. It gives you plausible
deniabilityyoure not hitting on her, youre just
appreciating her personality. And if you deliver
it correctly, shell like that you appreciate her
personality and will feel more attracted to you.
But then shell wonder to herself, Wait, why is
he calling me just a friend? Isnt he attracted to
me? I like him. I guess my womanly charms arent
working on him. Ill have to work harder to get him
hooked on me.
Yes, I am suggesting you put girls in the Friend
Zone first. LJBF them, haha. This makes them work
even harder for you.

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OKAY, OKAY, YOURE X. YOU CAN BE

MY FRIEND NOW.
I LOVE HAVING SUCH AN X FRIEND.
YOU REALLY ARE X. IM GLAD WE
CAN BE FRIENDS.
SO YOU ARE X. YOURE JUST LIKE
ALL MY FRIENDS!
MAN, YOU ARE X. ITS GREAT TO
BECOME FRIENDS WITH YOU.
GEEZ, YOURE JUST LIKE MY FRIEND
JENNIFER.
YOU REMIND ME OF A LOT OF MY
FRIENDS. YOURE SO X TOO!

By rewarding her after she meets your screen,

you are verbally escalating. Another way to put this
is that you are escalating on her high points.
If you stack enough of these screens followed
by qualifications, pretty soon, the girl will be
begging you to escalate big time.
If you feel that she isnt taking the compliment
well, you should release her from her discomfort
by injecting a backhand rejection or takeaway.
Here are a few backhand rejections you can use:

Too bad youre such a dork/geek/nerd/

snob/baby, etc.
But dont get a big head, or Ill have to
spank you maybe Ill do it anyway.
I knew this would happen. Id compliment
you. Youd get a big head. And then Id
regret it.
Too bad youre not my type.
But youre too cold/arrogant, etc.

Back-turn.
Your verbal rewards and escalations should be
accompanied by touch rewards and escalations.
Start off small. Give her a friendly squeeze on the
outside of her elbow or her outside thigh. Pull her
in for a big hug. Look deeply into her eyes with a
puppy dog where have you been all my life? look.
Basically here, you use S&Q as reasons for
your touch escalation.
You screen her. She passes. You verbally
reward her with qualifications while also physically
rewarding her with touch escalation. It all makes
sense to her rationally and emotionally. Shes
earned your affections and now she gets to collect
her rewards.
To give you a better idea of how this would
work, heres an excerpt. Notice how I hold off on
my approval until she gives me something worth
rewarding:

[A minute into the interaction, I say, its great

to be back in town.]

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Me: I just got back from backpacking

through southwest China. We were in
Sichuan and trying to get to Tibet, but with
all the rioting there, they wouldnt let us in.
Had a blast, though So where do you like
to travel? [looking at her expectantly]

Her: Oh, I like southeast Asia.

Me: Cool. Which part? (notice she gave me

so little, so I only gave her a one-word
answer)

Her: Haha, no.

[Me, looking at her expectantly, controlling the

tension.]

Her: Oh, I loved the beaches. We spent the

whole week on these beaches that were
almost completely deserted. What a nice
change from the crowded beaches in China.
(wow, this is a lot. So many possible threads to
take here.)

Me: Thats awesome. My best friend was there

last month, and she showed me all these
awesome photos of them scuba-diving. It
looked absolutely beautiful. What was the
most adventurous thing you did while you
were there?

Her: Uh, oh, yeah. We took a little boat out to

explore the small islands off the coast. And
then we went diving off the boat. We were
swimming with the fish!

Me: Damn, youre like adventure-girl! I like

that you about you. Gimme the rock, HB!

Her: Uh Thailand!

Me: Nice. So what do you like so much

about Thailand? (again, a one-word answer
deserves a one-word reward. Expect more.)

Her: Oh, I dont know. [Me, holding the

silence and tension while leaning back with a
skeptical look.]

Me: Well, a lot of guys like Thailand for all

the cheap sex. Im assuming thats not why
you like it.

Her: Haha, no.

[HB gives me the rock and smiles big-time]

Me: (smiling) Cause if it was, thats okay,

too. Im not judging.

Me: Youre really making me want to explore

Thailand now. The closest Ive been is Bali. You
know Bali? [wait for the nod] The beaches

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there were divine, and the surfs awesome!

[HB nods vigorously]

Her: Yeah, yeah, Ive heard!

Her: Hey, me too! Well, I was in Thailand,

but yeah, surfings a lot harder than it looks.

Me: Hey, if you like southeast Asia, you must

have been to Singapore.

Me: I went surfing for the first time there,

and I totally wiped out, like over and over
and over.

Me: Wow, youre an adventurous eater, too!

Thats cool. Mmm, okay, you pass. [Pull her in
for a big hug.] We can be friends now. [big
smile]
This girl opened up after just a little bit of
probing. It can get more complex depending on the
type of girl.
For a more advanced technique, check out my
article on Challenge Screening on my blog http://
www.doctorasianrake.com. Ive used the more
advanced technique of Challenge Screening to great
effect on pretentious girls who often think they have
higher social status, like models, actresses, rich girls,
and the like.
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Her: No, not yet, but I really want to.

Me: Cool. I was just there a few weeks ago.

Man, its like a food-lovers paradise! I
havent had so many different kinds of
curries in one place before.

Her: Oh, Ive heard. I love curry. Thats all we

ate in Thailand.

Me: Thai curries are so diverse. Yellow curry,

green curry, red curry, and theyre all sweet
and spicy at the same time!

Her: I know, I love it!

9. GOING FROM PLATONIC TO SEXUAL

Up to this point, youve gotten a great recipe
for starting conversations with women, building
connections, and making friends with them.
Now though, you might want to turn things
sexual.
The easiest way to have women thinking of you
sexually is to project a sexual vibe in your image,
body language, eye contact, and tonality. These
are all covered in separate classes and modules
in the Aura Dating Academy Total Transformation
Program and in the Attraction Accelerated Weekend
Workshop, which you can learn more about here:
www.auradating.com
In addition to these all-important nonverbal factors, you can also change your verbal

Qualifications from the

platonic (the I like X about
you variety) to the sexual.
This is most smoothly
accomplished after youve
delivered a few platonic
Qualifications.
An easy way to go from
platonic to sexual is to use
an Embedded Qualification.
An Embedded Qualification
is where you bury the
X-quality (some sexual
adjective, like sexy, hot,
attractive, gorgeous,
etc.) in the middle or the
beginning of the sentence,
so as not to draw attention
to it and make yourself
sound smoother.
The classic line, Not
only are you sexy, but youre
adventurous too! is an
example of an Embedded
Qualification where the X is
sexy.
This is of the form: Not
only are you [X sexual trait],
but youre [Y non-sexual
trait], too, which is a good
way to gradually build
sexual interest, as well as to

gauge her current degree of

attraction to you.
I usually do variations
on this: Look, missy, just
because youre all sexy and
sh*t doesnt mean you can
expect everyone to treat you
like a queen.
Or, Oh, good. I thought
you were just another pretty
face who just likes shopping
and watching TV.
You could also be
more direct, which could
be riskier. The degree of
directness is something
you calibrate to the specific
context and woman youre
interacting with.
With some girls, you
might even have to just say,
while looking deeply into her
eyes, I think you are
really beautiful.
As the interaction
goes further and further,
you can use Sexual State
Transference, a technique I
teach and demonstrate in my
Desire video course and in
my live coaching programs.
At the same time, you can

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NOT ONLY
ARE YOU SEXY,
BUT YOURE
ADVENTUROUS
TOO!
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start escalating touch and blaming it on her:

Dont look at me like that. Youre driving me
crazy. Stop it.
You dont know how hard Im trying not to
kiss you right now.
Eventually--maybe after a couple of hours of
building sexual tension--you can be even more
direct and say, while making sexual eye contact
and in slow and smooth tonality, I want to do
you really, really hard.
Or, I am going to do you so hard you wont
even be able to walk in the morning.
All of these sexual compliments should be
accompanied by some kind of touch escalation.
The degree and kind of touch you apply
depends on the woman youre with and where
youre at in the interaction. You can start off with
a light tap on the outside elbow, to pulling her
in for a big hug, to putting your arms around her,
to pulling her face in for a kiss, to caressing the
body part youre complimenting, and so on.
But just make sure that your touch escalation
are rewards. That is, she should feel like shes
won that physical touch for the reasons you state
in your compliment. And if youre in Asia and
interacting with an Asian woman, remember to
hold off on sexual touch until you are alone in
private.
10. THE TRANSITION REVISITED
Now that weve covered Screening & Qualifying,
we can return to the Transition, which is what

youll say between the Opener and your first

Screen. You literally just insert the short Transition
in between the Opener and the Screen. As
I mentioned, the Transition you use will be
dependent on the Screen youre transitioning into.
There are basically three types of Transitions.
1. Backstory
2. Observation
3. Tacit
1. First, with the Backstory Transition, youre
going to transition using an explanatory story or
anecdote. Keep it short and sweet.
Some examples:
I just got back from an amazing trip through
the islands around Phuket. Amazing snorkeling.
And the sand was perfect... So where do you like
to travel the most?
Just had a crazy intense workout today at the
Crossfit gym... So which gym do you go to?
My buddy from Korea is visiting next week,
and I cant wait. Whenever we get together,
we get into some crazy adventures... So, whats
the most adventurous thing youve done ... this
month?
2. Second, with the Observation Transition,
youre going to transition using an observation
related to your Screen. Generally, the more
specific you can be, the better.
Some examples:

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 You look really fit! ... So what do you to

keep so fit? Whats your secret?

I love how youve matched the blue in your
heels with the blue in your bracelet and belt.
Youve got a great aesthetic sense... So what
kind of art do you do?

You seem like a really cosmopolitan
person... So where do you like to travel the
most?
3. Third, you can use the Tacit Transition, which
is where you just skip the Transition because you
realize that you dont really need one. A highvalue person just asks a thoughtful question
and expects a smarts answer. These are best for
high-comprehension environments like a coffee
shop, a lounge, or a quiet bar.
Some examples, starting from the opener:
Hey there [smile]... So, whats
your passion in life?

Hey there [smile]... So
what kind of art do you
do?

Or,

You: Hows your girls
night out going?

Her: Great!
You: So, whats the most fun thing youve
done today?

After the transition, you get right into your
Screen.
11. SPECIAL NOTE ON HUMOR
Even though there is no stage marked Humor
(again, its best not to think too rigidly about
sequential or chronological stages, but to
analyze interactions instead using the synchronic
V-I-B model), you should remember to sprinkle
in humor throughout your interactions.
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ALWAYS KEEP THINGS LIGHT AND FUN!

This is especially true if youre in a

higher energy or louder environment
like a nightclub. The more
low-comprehension the
environmentthe less
people in that environment
can comprehend
conversationsthe more
humor you should use.
If youre looking for
practice and coaching in
humor, you should consider
the Aura Academys Total

Transformation Program, which features multiple

modules on humor and frequent drills and exercises
to develop your skills with humor: http://www.
auradating.com/transformation If the city you live
in has classes in improvisational comedy, you can try
out those classes, which are another good place to
develop your humor.
12. EXCHANGING CONTACT INFO
If youve done everything else up to this point
correctly, this will be the easiest part.
You can get an attractive womans number
or contact info within a minute of meeting her.
But theres no harm in establishing a more solid
connection before getting the digits.
The most common amateur mistake is waiting
too long to exchange contacts, which makes it into
a big deal in the guys head and messes up his
mindset.
The most important thing to realize in getting
the contact info is that ITS NOT A BIG DEAL. As
long as you believe its not a big deal, then she
wont think it is either.
I get asked all the time by the media how to get
a girls number. The fact is that the number doesnt
really matter.
Whats important is whether shes attracted to you.
What the media should really be obsessed with asking
me is how to get a girl attracted to you.
You see, if she isnt attracted to you, even if
you tricked or manipulated her into giving you her
number, it wouldnt matter because she wont be

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picking up your calls or responding to your

texts.
But if she is attracted to you, then you
wont even have to worry about asking for the
number. Shell be eagerly waiting for you to ask
her and even asking for yours first.
When should you go for the exchange?
Notice that I wrote exchanging numbers
and not getting her number. This is because
you should always see your interactions as an
exchange of equals.
You should view the contact exchange as a
REWARD for her. Your number is her reward for
investing time and effort into the interaction.
So the best time to pop the question is right
after shes Invested in you or the interaction.
In other words, its the same time when you
Qualify.
Right after your second or third
Qualification (I like X about you), follow up
immediately with this default line.
Lets keep in touch. Do you have your
phone with you?
The reason we are using the word phone
and not number is because the word
number is too deeply anchored with a pick
up scenario where the guy is trying to get a
girls number. Unfortunately in modern culture,
number is too loaded with bad connotations.

Instead, use the more more neutral term

phone here.
So again, the key question is:
So do you have your phone with you?
Its also a great question because youre not
actually asking for her number here. Youre just
asking a simple factual question of whether she
has her phone with her or not.
Its a Yes-or-No question, so there are only
two responses here.
If she says, No. You say, No problem, Ive
got mine. And you take out your phone and
open it to the keypad and put it in her hand.
Girls usually know what to do with something
once its in their hands ;)
If she says, Yes. Then you say, Great! Lets
trade. And you do the same thing. Take out your
phone, open it to the keypad, and put it in her
hands.
Remember to give her a missed call.
You can also do this on her phone instead if
shes got hers out. And you can save your name
as something cheeky like, [Your name], Man of
My Dreams or [Your name], Super Stud.
And then carry on as if its no big deal...
because it isnt.
Exchanging numbers is simply a logistical
tool so that when youve parted, the two of you
can get in touch again.

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Facebook is just as good as a number

these days, especially in Singapore,
which has one of the highest rate of per capita
Facebook users of any city in the world. Just
make sure youve got a killer Facebook profile
because she will check out your profile.
Carry on the
conversation for at least
a few minutes longer
so it doesnt seem like
you were just collecting
phone numbers (which
you shouldnt be anyway,
since like I told you, it

really doesnt matter

except as a logistical
tool).
... And thats it!
Just remember. The
magic line is, Lets keep
in touch. Do you have
your phone with you?

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CONC
LUSION
hus concludes Part 3-The How To, and it
concludes the rest of this
primer. I really hope it was
helpful. It is really a ton of
information, tightly packed
into these pages, so if I were
you, Id read it over several
times to make sure that the
principles stick.
Remember that its not just about
knowing something in your head.
There are a lot of guys who read tons of
material online and then get nowhere...
just thinking about a lot of things but not
really doing anything.
Worse, they may know a lot of things

and fail to truly internalize them. Ive

placed a lot of emphasis on adopting
the proper mindsets and attitudes about
many things, and I strongly suggest that
you read and reread those points over and
over until youve internalized them.
This is when true change happens.
When your thinking is set straight, the
way you behave, talk, and carry yourself
will naturally change too. Then the girls
will begin to notice. It isnt just an image
youre projecting. Its really something you
believe.
Then you will be sexually attractive,
genuinely and authentically.
And while this book is as packed as I
could make it, without turning it into an

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encyclopedia, and is truly powerful if you

apply everything Ive taught you thus far...
it still falls short in the areas where our
Coaching Programs shine and succeed.
I mastered this area of my life largely
because I got the right mentors and the
right coaching at just the right times in my
life. The ideal mentor really cares about
your progress. He tracks your growth,
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natural strong points and diagnoses your
weak spots. He challenges you when you
give him bullshit excuses and reins you in
when he knows you need to pause and
reflect to understand a lesson or point
more deeply.
Only a great coach can do that.
My hope is that youve received a lot
of value from this brief book... enough

to start doing a few things on your own

and gaining a bit of confidence, and
then your hunger to grow further in this
area will push you to reach out to us for
personal coaching. I would love to meet
you in person! You can grow just by
reading this book. But when youre in one
of our personal coaching programs, you
will transform in ways you never thought
possible.
I want to thank you for taking the time
to read this and for taking a bet on me and
the Aura Academy. I trust it was worth if
for you, and I look forward to hearing from
you!
Get it done. Get it handled.

All the best,

David Tian, Ph.D

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social, so he joined them on a couple

weekends at Zouk and Butter Factory.
He didnt like to drink much. He didnt
know how to dance. And he thought it
was much too loud to talk to anybody.
To top it all off, he got the feeling that
his friends thought he was a real drag,
too. So after that, he just stopped
going.
Still depressed about his social
life, he tagged along with a friend
who had signed up for a weekend
dating seminar led by some guy
named ABC. It was just $500, and he
had some cash saved up since he
rarely went out after work. Crammed
into a windowless little room for two
long afternoons, Michael learned
some basic techniques about
attraction. But there was no in-field
coaching. A week after the seminar,
nothing in his life had changed, and
he never got around to putting the
things he learned into practice.
He ran into another dating coach
he knew about, XYZ, in a club a few
weeks later. He had heard that XYZ
had started offering bootcamps.
He signed up for one of his group
bootcamps, and after that weekend,
he found those guys to be just too
immature for his tastes. Besides,

all the alumni he met from XYZs

company just seemed like a bunch of
young punks chasing dumb club girls.
Almost half a year had passed
when he got an email newsletter from
an overseas-based company, DEF,
announcing that theyd be offering
a bootcamp in Singapore. Michael
thought that the $4,000 SGD cost was
exorbitant, but Michael thought that
if they could deliver what they were
promising in their sales letter, it would
be worth it. So he signed up and
waited.
He found the weekend
exhilarating. For the first time in
his life, Michael completed a cold
approach. And the girl hadnt slapped
him or anything. In fact, she was pretty
polite. In the seminar, he learned A
LOT of information. Far too much
for him to absorb that weekend.
Information overload. But at least
by the end of that bootcamp, he
had gotten more comfortable at
approaching and opening.
Fast forward three months later,
and the high from the bootcamp had
long since faded. While Michael had
gotten some more approaches under
his belt, he still couldnt seem to hold
a girls interest for more than a few

But then he
overheard his friends
talking about this
report about that
Dr. Date guy holding
auditions and
initiations for his
new dating Academy.

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minutes and wasnt much nearer to his

goal of getting a girlfriend.
Michael had tried ebooks but
thought they werent suitable for
the Singapore context. He had tried
going clubbing with his friends, but he
just couldnt fit in. He had tried ABCs
weekend seminar, but there was no
in-field coaching or follow up, so he
never improved. He had paid $3000
USD for the overseas companys
bootcamp and got better at opening
but didnt improve much beyond
that. In fact, he was overwhelmed
with all the information jammed into
that weekend and suffered from
information overload.
What Michael needed was a
program offering coaching:
-Tailored to the Singapore context
-With an in-field component
-With extensive follow up
-With the right information given
at the right time
-Spread over the long term for lasting
change
Michael needed Aura Dating
Academy, which features longterm follow-up for a year that
trains men how to meet and date

women specifically in Singapore,

frequent Rockstar nights with infield assessments and coaching, a
comprehensive curriculum carefully
planned to avoid information
overload to ensure guys get the right
information at the right time, and a
price that makes this 12-month follow
up program as affordable as a 3-day
bootcamp!
Fed up with all his
disappointments, Michael abandoned
learning this whole pick-up thing
and resigned himself to getting
what hed always gotten.But then he
overheard his friends talking about
this report about that Dr. Date guy
holding auditions and initiations
for his new dating Academy. The
prospective students had to do some
pretty wild stuff to get admitted. That
got his attention.
Turned out Dr. Date had quit his
university professorship to open this
Dating Academy and was offering
coaching again. This was the guy who
had started him on this whole quest
in the first place. Maybe hed turn out
like all the others, Michael thought, or
maybe he was the real deal.
Michael checked out the dating
Academy website and filled out the

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short application form. He got an

email response later in the day to
set up a phone appointment. On the
phone call, he was told the price. It
was pretty steep. But if he gave up
that vacation to Korea, maybe he
could afford it.
In any case, he figured he might
as well go along to the no-obligations
audition (called the Admissions
Congress) to meet Dr. Date and see
what this was going to be like. So he
put down the refundable deposit to
hold his spot.
At the try-out a week later, he
met nine other guys. They hit it off
pretty well as they had quite a lot in
common. They had to do some pretty
outrageous stuff. He did things he
never imagined he would do, like
singing at the top of his lungs on a
street corner. But man, was it a high
once he was done.
After waiting an hour, he got
the SMS telling him to meet the
instructors. He showed up, and 5
other guys were there, too. They had
gotten in.
He was hooked. This was
cool. And different. He signed the
forms and opted for the 12-month
membership as it was the best value.

He went to class twice a week at

the start, soaking in everything he
could. Whenever he had a question
during the week, he jotted it down in
his iPhone, and then asked it during
class or posted it on the online,
private forum any time of day or
night. He learned just enough new
information that he could focus on
practicing just that much during the
week.
And he got a real sense of
satisfaction seeing his posts on the
online Forum, tracking his progress
week after week, and seeing a
steady trajectory. He also got a lot
of motivation out of seeing how the
other guys were doing.
He was paired up with another
guyhis personal wingman. And they
kept each other accountable. There
were a lot of guys hooked into the
dating Academy, and they pushed
each other to go out on weekends
and try out new things. They were
having a lot of fun and were even
meeting girls for once!
For the first time in his life, he felt
like he belonged to something cool.
After seven weeks of weekly
classes, he finally went all the way with
a girl he met from a cold approach.

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 And then the week after, it

happened again with a new girl.
Three weeks later, he hooked up
with a beauty pageant winner who
was drop dead gorgeous yet super
sweet to him.
Before the dating Academy,
he wouldve been happy to
have made one of those girls his
girlfriend, but now he was like a kid
in a candy store and wanted to try
all the candy before deciding on
his favourite.
Eventually, as he matured
over the next several months, the
dating Academy was right there
for him, giving him just the right
information at just the right time,
until he was ready to settle down
with the girl he had chosen. He
had achieved more than he ever
thought he could.

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