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You can be driven but you have to respect her boundaries. Dont make a big
deal about it even if she says no but badly wants to kiss you.
Your job to approach, carry conversation at first, initiate physical contact like
touching and handholding, kiss her, ask, her to come home with you, ask her
to be your girlfriend, maybe one day ask her to be your wife.
Whenever you move an interaction forward, always make sure it comes from
a place of genuine desire, never because you think you must for her to like
you. Likewise dont ever fail to do something simply because you think she
may not like you as a result. If she opposes your move, but shes still
interacting with you, then shes simply pacing you.
Her comfort level determines how she paces you and dont make a big deal
even if she says no. Just respect her boundaries and keep using your drive to
increase her attraction for you.
Whenever you approach a woman, you should experience a burning curiosity
to learn who she is.
Dont fake the interaction if you feel shes not the girl for you, if she doesnt
make you genuinely curious or curious.
You should experience a natural drive to touch her. Dont think too much
about it.
Once she comfortable with your touch, anticipate the kiss. Let the natural
desire to kiss her be there. Dont hide it and go for it.
Shell pace if too early for her. If she kisses back, dont squeeze all the
sexuality out of it. Kiss her long enough so she invests then break it off to
preserve the feeling of tension that built up to the kiss.
If she really attracted to you, she will match your shameless escalation with
even less shame.
At this point its your turn to pace her.
Use your drive to move the interaction to whatever direction you want it to go
because it will be rude not to
Speak loud and clear, talk slowly, express positive emotion without fear,
laugh freely and easily, dont take yourself to seriously, walk upright with
good posture, get relaxed and comfy when interacting with people, genuinely
pay attention to what others have to say with curiosity.
Just force and focus on one signal and youll supercharge your confidence.
Step toward a girl with drive without trying to force an outcome or being
needy.
Focus on the girl herself and not the feeling of possessing her.
Play it cool when she does not respond to you. Like nothing ever happened.
Do not force an outcome with everyone you approach. Focus on having fun
instead.
Focus on only the girl and not the outcome. Ignore your desire to possess her
and detach from the outcome. Appreciate women as individuals and pursue
them.
Walk up to a girl display your drive without needing an outcome.
Focus on trying to express the truth (your desire for her) rather than trying to
get the girl.
If response favorable keep using drive until she hints you need to balance
with inspiration. But until then keep going and keep enjoying yourself.
If she objects then balance with inspiration. Make observation about
something (her coat, hair) but with transparency. Agree with whatever
objections she may say but use slight humor and wit. Tease and start flirting
(accuse her of something absurd).
For the rest of the relationship is just rhythm. Drive then inspiration and then
back to drive unless inspiration needed again.
Be active with drive but you need to chill with inspiration and let it come to
you passively. Display your personality who you are and it reciprocates.
Use prompts and remember this is just a quest for the truth of who you are,
who she is and the truth of who you are together. Mix and match prompts
until you find the best way of expressing yourself in a way you communicates
your unique identity.
Narrow the focus by making it specific and concentrating on those specifics
when you run out of things to say and redirect the conversation to add a twist
and make it funny and let it express your own genuine personality.
Take clichs and commonly known phrases and add your own spin on them
use them generously but not overboard. Best times: when you approach,
when shes losing interest, right before you say something important.
Overwhelm her by overselling everything in your life, but not everything
about yourself. Be humble about accomplishments but exaggerate your
hobbies, music, friends like as if she is missing something in her life. Oversell
with passion not logic. Dont prove the oversell just show it. Just get her
emotional just when shes about to make a decision thatll affect you like
leaving her friends to go with you etc.
Use the oversell with tact; whenever a woman is on the fence about
something.
Agree with her objection about whatever shes on the fence about, show you
understand her objection, and oversell activity anyway. See page 61(72) 62(73)
Create the us vibe. The you and her rather than the you vs. her Play it
humorous.make a pop culture referencebe upfront and direct. See
page 63(74)
The theme of you and her should appear throughout the conversation and
ideally the relationship.
Be inspired by whats in front of you. Use everything from hows shes
dressed to the venue, to the environment and people around you. Keep it
funny, entertaining, and sexual when possible. Allow whats in front of you to
spark inspiration.
Use role-playing and scenarios as long as they reinforce an us vibe and
they play off whats in front of you.
Observe a behavior, describe the effects of that behavior and describe your
reaction to those effects.
Dont get stuck on a topic for too long. Keep her on her toes. Whenever you
see shes falling into a rhythm, abruptly change the topic.
Be willing to make mistakes but obviously dont go and mess up. If you make
a mistake just laugh at it.
Be ready to be imperfect if you want to make genuine interaction with
women.
Dont believe your game must be perfect to approach.
Focus on the girl not the idea of the girl.
Be comfortable with your imperfections, youre brave enough to be
vulnerable.
Demonstrate you trust her by being vulnerable.
Be both vulnerable to each other when youre bonded by trust. To inspire
trust in a woman, prove you trust her first.
Laugh at your mistakes no matter how big they are. Acknowledge them and
dont make a big deal out of them so the mistake does not become and
obstacle.
Dont care about your mistakes because they will always happen. Just laugh
about it.
Understand that rapport is necessary before making a deep connection.
Establish rapport first before delving into more emotional topics.
Dont get stuck on rapport. Once you feel a woman I comfortable with you,
move into deeper topics. You still cycle back into rapport but you should
move things forward emotionally.
Watch for her telltale signals that she wants to transition to a deeper topic.
Shell begin talking at length and telling you stories.
Explore pop culture through conversation. Popular movies, songs, internet
clips that would be universal to be both males and females.
People not from the U.S may not understand these pop culture references so
size up fast and adjust accordingly.
For situational rapport (venue and time) always make sure your comments
translate human emotion and are specific.
Use a story that can start off as a single sentence where you describe a detail
from your life.
Dont overanalyze every detail of your words but understand what your words
reveal about you.
Moreover, you should use these aspects of storytelling to transition
conversations into deep emotional connections with women you want to
attract and date.
Youll find as an interaction with a woman progresses, it becomes more
appropriate to tell longer stories. When you first walk up to a woman, you
shouldnt talk about any one topic for more than a minute or so. You can talk
a lot (at first), but you should be jumping from topic to topic.
Whenever an interaction begins, you talk on a variety of topics (mostly
guided by inspiration). As the interaction proceeds, you zero in on a particular
topic and explore it (mostly guided by connection).
Jazz up your sentences with colorful, evocative details. When its time to
make an emotional connection, decorate your sentences with a specific
sound, smell, sight, or sensation.
The instant you open your mouth you should know what you want to do.
Situation guidelines for knowing what to do, and when you want to do it as an
end game. Page 131(141).
When opening a girl, you might want to consider the three modes of
female reaction. Are you trying to get her attracted, interested, or
curious? Knowing the reaction you intend to elicit will improve your
opening skills exponentially.
Calibrate the mode of opener you want to use. Assume attraction, assume interest or
assume curiosity.
Calibrate depending on where you are and the situation. Let common sense guide
you. Examples of openers on page 132(142).
Have a fun vibe, always. FUN VIBE.
Once you open, you need to transition the interaction into vibing.
Notice: YOU need to transition the interaction, not wait for the girl to
do it for you! Its your responsibility as a man to lead the interaction
where you want it to go. Once a girls open (i.e. talking to you), start
vibing by generating rapport and using inspiration to express yourself.
This balances the tension created by your drive and the mechanics of
moving things forward.
The question is not what to say! The question is: how do you want to
express yourself? Give the woman a glimpse of your personality through
your inspiration. To do so, quickly transition out of the opener and into
one of the various conversation templates outlined in the inspiration
section.
Do NOT let a woman get caught up on the opener if its not the
direction you want the interaction moving.
Learn to align your opener with a vibe. Transition into something that inspires in case
your openers are not a representation of your unique character.
Move the
interaction away from feelings of strangeness and
awkwardness into feelings of rapport and passion. Do not let interactions become
awkward or fizzle
because you failed to transition into a vibe.
Remember: the girl will rarely if ever do this for
you. Even if you have to be abrupt, get off the
opener and quickly establish yourself as a guy
worthy of emotional investment.
Once youre vibing (and her group is cool with you), keep moving the
interaction forward. To do that, you must get your girl alone, one-onone. This is
crucial only when youre alone together can you begin to
find out if youre right for each other. This stage is hard for new guys,
because they fear making such a bold move. But understand: its
absolutely essential to get the girl.
Dont be afraid to try and isolate. It never hurts to be shameless.
Dont worry about
impressing her or fret over your next witty line. Instead, focus on
getting to know her physically and emotionally.
Instead, make it easy
on her by suggesting another activity. This takes the pressure off her
for isolating with a guy she just met.
Examples of isolation on page 136(146).
When going for the isolation, try not to pose it as a question.
Always act bold and make
confident statements, like I absolutely MUST
show you something! Then, simply take your girl
by the hand (not like a wimp, but not like a thug)
and feel certain shell follow.
Once you have her alone, utilize the full potential of the one-on-one
situation. Its the perfect time to exchange numbers, just in case you get
separated. More importantly, this is your time to have a genuine
interaction with your girl. Move things forward smoothly and casually,
all while having fun and getting to know the new, hot girl in front of
you. Take her to a place where you can kiss her.
Just remember to avoid responding negatively to any rejection. Being
unaffected is key here. Simply stay on track and proceed. Also, when
going for the kiss, just go for it.
Ways to keep yourself emotionally unaffected if trying to kiss page 137(147)
Blockbuster preview kiss. Peck her lips fast enough that she doesnt have time to turn
her head.
Dont acknowledge the kiss just talk about some random topic or tell a story.
Let her feel those emotions while you downshift for 1-2 minutes then start some light
innocent touching, then go for a blockbuster style make-out.
The soft close Getting her contact info (e.g., phone number,
email, Facebook)
The real close Having sex with her and/or
starting a relationship with her
Anything else kissing included is not a close as
it doesnt gracefully end an interaction
While its okay to take a phone number, dont
mistake collecting phone numbers for success with
women. Therefore, always shoot for a hard close,
but accept a soft close when appropriate.
To get phone number be smooth and be casual.
Relax and remember its no big deal.
Do not make it an awkward exchange like in the movies.
Simply state it as a fact not as a question
If you encounter resistance but she still standing in front of you, inject humor right
before asking.
Example on page 139(149)- 140(150)
Get her laughing to get her number
Texting is not the time to get cute. Unless shes your girlfriend, only
use text for one purpose: to get a meet up.
During texting engage her emotionally especially with humour.
Incorporate jokes and funny moments shared during the initial interaction into your
texts.
Keep the jokes light and obvious.
Dont abuse your text game once youve developed it.
Dont send more than two texts without pushing for a meet-up.
Oversell during texting and stand out. Suggest dates on off nights when
everyone has less going on.
By suggesting a slightly bizarre activity you stand out. Dont give yourself a
headache with the text. Just add a little finesse and artfulness and youll be
fine.
Example to set up meet up on page 142(152).
Whenever setting up a meet up, do it in the simplest way possible.
As such, its always best to minimize
your margin of error.
Dont call her unless absolutely necessary. Dont overgame by calling when not
needed.
There are some instances where calling a girl is necessary. Sometimes
girls forget you (if you wait too long to text them) or they may make
excuses for themselves about why they gave out their number, like, I
was so drunk. You know youre dealing with one of these girls
whenever you get flaked. Classic flaky behavior includes ignoring
your texts, responding with one or two-word answers, or not
responding when you suggest a meet up. For these girls, its possible to
recover them, but youre going to have to call them.
Therefore, you must begin by getting the woman
curious.
So when you call, never yell or ask her why shes not returning your
texts. Instead, pretend like shes been your girlfriend for ten years and
youre just calling to tell her something.
Have a story or social commentary ready to carry the conversation for the first
minute. A quick and punchy anecdote always greases the wheels of good
conversation.
Be less focused on the call and have something else that youre doing or is
distracting you.
Keep it short and simple. Before a first date, no phone conversation should exceed
ten
minutes.
During voicemails keep it simple stupid. Just deliver the facts: a hello,
your name, and an invitation to return your call is all thats necessary.
When pulling a girl from a nightclub or bar, it helps to use momentum.
To generate momentum, move your girl around the venue several
times before suggesting you leave together.
Hotspots include:
Dancefloor
Bars
Couches
Smoking sections
You can always make a second move to a hotspot regardless of where you isolate her.
Oversell the different venue you may chose to go to before the take home.
Also, plant the idea of leaving together early in the interaction.
Drop hints about the awesomeness of after events.
Examples of seeding the extraction on page 146(156).
If not get home that night you can set up a date.
Dont take girls on boring dates.
Robs perfect date setup on page 146(156)-148(158)
To setup a romantic supernova, you want to keep it
simple. After you exchange one or two flirty texts,
send her something like, Let's get a drink and see
if we can play nice together. Suggest meeting at a
bar or lounge thats within walking distance of your
home.
Talk to her focusing on rapport and connection.
Be funny and lighthearted just make sure it comes off as humorous and fun see page
149(159)
Make sure your apartment is dimly lit, with
everything ready to go. Light the candles, play
some music, pour a little wine, and take the
chicken dish out of the oven. Serve. Start talking.
Enjoy the girl. Listen to her. Tell her about
yourself. At some point, take her by the hand, lift her out of her seat,
and start slow dancing with her to the music. Move things forward
slowly but surely.
So always take peoples natural advantages into account when
considering their advice.
Already you
probably naturally possess one or two of the four elements. Once you
identify those elements, work on balancing them with the elements
youre lacking.
Being out of shape (especially overweight)
Having crooked or discolored teeth, bad breath
A haircut that doesnt compliment the contours of your
face
Any sort of hygiene issue
Bad fashion, wearing clothes that dont fit properly
Acne, paleness, or other skin issues
Remove your ugly features.
With ugly features balance with mechanics but no ugly features dont
overcompensate.
Negate your ugly features or, as Zack and I like to say, de-uglify yourself.
Steps to de-uglify table 156(166)-157(167).
So no more excuses: get to the gym, the dentist, the hairstylist, etc. and get rid of
those ugly
features! And start today!