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The Proven System for Creating the Money You NEED for the Life You WANT
By Self-made Millionaire Brad Turk
life·mon·ey (n): the non-monetary currency needed to attain success and develop wealth and personal satisfaction
Copyright (©) 2007 Brad Turk
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This book is dedicated to all those success stories that were earned through a smart plan, hard work and dedication. To the underdog that went beyond what they imagined they could achieve by never giving up. To those that are on the road to accomplish this success, are committed to their cause and will not be sidetracked....
.............................................................................6 My Early Years .................................................................33 You Are in Control.........................................................................................................................................................................................46 Goal Achievement Exercise D.........................................................................................................................32 Win Life’s Lotto (Real Wealth is Measured by Achievement....................6 If I can do it… ...............................38 Overview.........................47 Get Rid of It! ....................................................23 Lifemoney Lesson # 1: Defining Success.............39 Who are you? ....................................................................19 Self Made Records..........................21 …You Can Do It................................................................11 Learning About Business..........................................................................................................................................8 Persistence Pays Off .................15 This Was Only the Beginning .....44 What Are Your Limitations?.............................................................53 Can You Dunk?.......................................13 Getting Focused............................ Inc............................................................................................................................52 A Fish Story ...............................56 v ................................................................................... 6 Overview...................10 Knowing Myself....... Not Cash) .............................. Too!......................................................................................... Anyway? ...........................................................................................................................................................................38 Sometimes It’s Better to Strike Out ...................... Inc.................................27 Find the “U” in “SUCCESS” .................................................. 1 My Lifemoney ...........................................................................................................................24 Success on Your Terms .............................................................................................................................37 Lifemoney Lesson # 2: Knowing Yourself ................................ .........................................................................31 Goal Achievement Exercise A............Find More.........................................41 Goal Achievement Exercise B .........................9 Looking for Motivation ...........................com .................Table of Contents Introduction: Millionaire by 30........................................................... / MyMusicSite..................................................................................................................................39 Don’t Be a Stranger (To Yourself).............................................................17 Global Business Solutions.......................................................................................................................................................................................................51 Make Less ....................................... Inc...................................................................................................50 Goal Achievement Exercise E ...............42 Goal Achievement Exercise C .................................................................48 Buy Stock in Yourself ..........................................................................................................................24 Overview...............................................................................................................................36 Millionaire’s Checklist: ...................................................................................................28 WHOSE Dream Is It..................................... ............................................... Retired by 35: What Lifemoney Means to Me................................18 Heat Wave Tanning.........................................................................24 Want to Succeed? Sleep Late!.............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................34 Defining Success Summary .........................................
.....................................................................................................................................59 Overview................................................................................................................................70 Goal: To pilot my own airplane ..................................................................................................................................................61 Establishing Action Steps ......................................................................................................................................................................................84 Tool #2: Time Management ...................95 Gathering the Tools for Success Summary... 115 Lifemoney Lesson # 6: Resourcefulness..................................88 Goal Achievement Exercise L ........................................................................63 Goal Achievement Exercise G................................ 118 vi .............................116 Overview........................ 116 MacGyver It!..........................................................................................61 Goal Achievement Exercise F ...71 Three Huge Obstacles.......................................................................................................................................................................92 Tool #5: Do or Die Trying Commitment..................................................................................................................................60 Start by Writing a Goal............................................................................................................................................................................................................................... 103 Goal Achievement Exercise M ............................................................................................................ 110 Goal Achievement Exercise N................................... 101 Don’t forget the map! ..............................69 Goal Achievement Exercise J .....59 A Quick Review .....................................................................................................85 Tool #3: Efficiency .....................................................................................................67 Nothing Can Stop Me Now…................................................... 114 Millionaire’s Checklist: ........................66 Goal Achievement Exercise I ..................................101 Overview...................................................81 A Successful Person’s Tool Belt .........................................................What If You’re Way Off Track?....................................................................................................................................................................................................................................89 Tool #4: Priorities................................................ 107 O................................................................................................................................................................64 Goal Achievement Exercise H.......................................................................................81 Overview.........................................................................................................................................................................................................................57 Millionaire’s Checklist: ......................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................65 Write It Down .....................................................................................................................59 Step Up .......................................................................................................................72 Goal-Setting and Overcoming Obstacles Summary.........................................................................................................................58 Lifemoney Lesson # 3: Goal-Setting and Overcoming Obstacles................................................................................. 111 Evaluating Your Progress Summary ................................................. 105 Maintaining Your Course ..............................79 Millionaire’s Checklist: ........................... 116 Can’t Get a Job? Buy the Company! .....................98 Millionaire’s Checklist: .................................................................................................................... 100 Lifemoney Lesson # 5: Evaluating Your Progress ............K….......................................... 101 Progress Report .....................Knowing Yourself Summary ......................83 Goal Achievement Exercise K.................................63 Timelines .................81 Tool #1: Focus .....79 Lifemoney Lesson # 4: Gathering the Tools for Success...............................................................................................................................................
.............................................. 132 Lifemoney Lesson # 7: Creativity ......................................................................................................... 167 Change the Mental Channel.............................................................................Keep Looking ................ 173 The Key to Success? Live Out Of Your Car................................Fix It .................................................................................................................................................... 175 Eliminate Negative Self-Talk................................................................... 133 Goal Achievement Exercise Q...................... 131 Millionaire’s Checklist: ................................................................ 130 Resourcefulness Summary.............................. 166 Where’s Your Head At? .................. 137 Millionaire’s Checklist: ...................................................... 122 There’s No Need To Grow Up....................................................................................................... 195 vii .............You’ll Find It .......................................................................149 Overview......................... 164 Millionaire’s Checklist: ...............................Best Case....... 165 Lifemoney Lesson # 9: Positively Thinking ................... 175 Keep It Moving .................................................................... 183 Sacrificing for Success ........................................................................................................................... 184 Goal Achievement Exercise W ................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................ 179 Millionaire’s Checklist: ............................................................. 176 Create a Repeatable Success Thought ........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................... 151 Turk’s 12-Step Plan for Bridge Building......................................................................................... 135 Dream It.................................. 149 Goal Achievement Exercise S ................................... Do It! ...............................................................................................166 Overview.................. 169 Goal Achievement Exercise T ............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................... 127 Find An Expert .............................................................. 128 Goal Achievement Exercise P ........................................................................................................ 166 The Multi-Millionaire Blues .............................................................................. 194 Millionaire’s Checklist: ................................................................................................................................................................................ 137 Five Creativity Factors ............. 181 Lifemoney Lesson # 10: Sacrifice .. 170 Don’t Complain ................................................................................................................ 152 12 Steps for Power with People Summary ........................................................... 147 Lifemoney Lesson # 8: 12 Steps for Power with People.................................................... 174 Worst Case .................................................................................................. See It.......... 125 Goal Achievement Exercise O......... 135 Goal Achievement Exercise R .............................................. 149 Sharpen Your People Skills .....................................................................................................................................182 Overview....................... 189 Sacrifice Summary ........................................................ 133 A Lesson From Trump ..133 Overview.................................................................. 178 Positively Thinking Summary ........................................................ 185 Goal Achievement Exercise X... 171 Goal Achievement Exercise U................................................................................................................................................... Go into Debt and Max Out Your Credit Cards ............................................... 182 Borrow............................................................. 177 Goal Achievement Exercise V...........................
.................Lifemoney Lesson # 11: Be Patient and Enjoy the Journey ...................................... 208 viii ........................................................................................ 206 Patience and Enjoying the Journey Summary..................................................................................... 207 Millionaire’s Checklist: ...................................................................... 196 Mañana ........................................................................... 198 So what should you do to be more patient? ............ 201 Goal Achievement Exercise Y.......................................... 204 Goal Achievement Exercise Z .................................................. 196 Doing Time ................................. 200 Enjoy the Journey.................................................................................................................................................... 201 The 5 Year Test .......................................................................................................................................................196 Overview........................................................................................................................................................................................................ 202 GOAL (Go Out And Live)....................................................... 202 Seek Happiness in Simplicity .................................................
Consider it a revolutionary new way of thinking about money and success that fits the modern world of young. 1 . But how do you create the amount of money you are going to need to build your dream life? Lifemoney is how. It’s the actual personality currency that successful people use to build the financial wealth that lets them put “life” first.Introduction: Millionaire by 30. Retired by 35: What Lifemoney Means to Me “The question isn’t at what age I want to retire. Lifemoney will show you what you really need to live the life you want. Lifemoney will help you understand what success really means and teach you how to attain it. it’s at what income. not money.” -George Foreman Life comes first. Money is simply a tool to help you get what you want out of life. new entrepreneurs perfectly – but can be adopted at any age.
Lifemoney is just what its subtitle implies: The proven system for creating the money you NEED for the life you 2 .000 a year or $2. it’s the job that makes you happy on a daily basis or brings you closer to your goals.000 in quarterly bonuses. Lifemoney begs the universal question: What do I really want? Is it money? Happiness? Health? Self-worth? Or a life where money is merely a tool and not the measuring stick by which we rank ourselves against one another? When it comes to Lifemoney. we’ve finally got our priorities straight: We go after what we really want! You don’t have to be a celebrity – or even a millionaire – to feel successful and enjoy an intense and satisfying feeling of self-worth and accomplishment. it’s the dollar figure you define.One of the most unique features of Lifemoney is that it’s entirely personal. yet most people don’t use the correct tools to get what they want. it’s not the job that I feel is prestigious that matters.400. part financial management. a new job or just a raise or promotion in your current job. It could be $240 a week or $240. part how-to. In this book. But how much easier would it be using a hammer? Lifemoney is a hammer: it teaches you how to realize your goals and become a happier person by using the right tool for the right job. Most people are looking to achieve different things – whether it’s making a million dollars or simply just being happy. a new home. it’s not the dollar figure I define as Lifemoney that’s important. Imagine having the task of hammering a nail. For example. Would you use your shoe? Would it work? Possibly. be it a million dollars. If it’s career happiness you’re looking for. Part self-help. if it’s money that you’re after. I will show you how to do this by illustrating the attributes needed to become successful at whatever you are trying to achieve.
My definition of success is simple: Accomplishing what you set out to do. Whether you are looking to be the next pop star or the perfect housewife. Through my interactions with many successful and famous people (some recording artists. So who is Brad Turk and why am I qualified to write a book about life or money. let alone both? I was a millionaire before the age of 30 and retired soon after. Lifemoney will give you a blueprint for success in all facets of life. But more importantly. This book will show you what those characteristics are. etc. This book gives you a systematic approach to understanding your goals and abilities and walks you through achieving what you want out of life. My schedule and time belong to me and I do what I want with my days. some executives. not just financial. along with real-life examples you can use to plot your course for success. Instead of concentrating solely on the financial aspects of making your first million. This book’s objective is to show you how to attain and use these attributes to achieve any goal you desire. I have been fortunate enough to learn that most successful people share a lot of the same attributes.My Lifemoney WANT. I am living the life that I want to live. Lifemoney focuses on personal attributes that are prevalent amongst the many successful people I’ve met and studied . It offers a set of tools. I have distilled those attributes. characteristics and personality traits that you will need to get you there. and want to share them with you. The exercises in the book 3 .). used them for my own personal success. there are common qualities. If you learn these lessons – and actually follow them – you can and will succeed.most of whom happen to be multimillionaires.
The book’s lessons are designed to move quickly and are broken up in bite-size pieces for easy understanding and implementation. as a result be able to adopt them to fit your needs to reach your goals and attain the success you’ve always been looking for. you’ll find ways of: • • • • • Understanding what success means to YOU Matching what you want with your abilities Learning to go after goals by setting specific tasks with timelines Learning how to focus. In this book. 4 . prioritize and manage time Learning the value of determination and commitment in attaining goals • • • • • • Learning how to evaluate progress and welcome criticism Learning how to be resourceful when overcoming obstacles Learning how to deal with people effectively Learning how to use creativity to get more out of life Using the power of positive thinking Learning to sacrifice some of what you have to get more of what you want • Being patient and enjoying the journey Lifemoney is designed to walk you through each of these attributes. While reading Lifemoney you will become familiar with these attributes.will help you discover those personality traits within yourself and develop a plan for using those traits effectively. see what works for you and.
list and track your progress. I have created a list (that I use) of affirmations that you can also download for FREE at www.My Lifemoney Each Lifemoney lesson ends with the Millionaire’s Checklist.bradturk.com.bradturk. Because Lifemoney is about finding what will make you happy in life and developing a plan for getting it. Sprinkled throughout the lessons are A-Z Goal Achievement Exercises that ask you to reflect on how to apply what you just read to your own life. The higher your score – the higher your Lifemoney skill level. Everyone needs some kind of stimulation and/or support to keep their spirits alive. What’s the answer? Lifemoney. there is more to life than money but you just can’t live in this world without money.com (Code: naNtZB). Repeat these affirmations to yourself when you need a quick boost. Clearly. Remember that this book is designed to fix one of life’s biggest problems: blending your wants and needs. This checklist will help you quickly see if you are developing the skills that were discussed in that lesson. These proven tools are specifically designed to help you plot. Feel free to use mine – memorize a few of them and repeat them to yourself when you feel like you’re not making progress – or add some of your own. Lifemoney also provides quotes from real people from all walks of life and professions who have achieved extraordinary success. Both the Millionaire’s Checklist (Code: BAyyRJ) and the A-Z Achievement Full Exercise Workbook (Code: m3sUMQ) are available for FREE download on my website at www. you don’t want to forget to enjoy the journey! I find a good way to stay happy and motivated is by constant reinforcement. 5 .
rich and retired. Over the course of my very short professional life I’ve achieved the American dream: I’m young. I achieved personal and financial success through various ventures in the telecommunications industry.” -Brad Turk Overview I want to take just a few pages to introduce myself. Through experiences as diverse as being a break dancer. actor. business owner and entrepreneur. I’ve found the American dream and retired early. tell you a little about my journey and show you how the success I’ve experienced is something you can create for yourself. If I can do it… My name is Brad Turk and I’ve done what some might say is a very difficult thing.Lifemoney My Lifemoney “It’s never too early…to make your first million. entertainment field and having a 6 . salesman.
My Lifemoney retail tanning salon. teach them how to fish and they eat for the rest of their lives. These lessons can be learned by anyone. Consider these lessons to be the fishing rod. But if you look carefully at the histories of most success stories you’ll find a lot of similarities. All the successful people I discuss throughout this book including Warren Buffett. Give someone a fish and they eat for a day. boat and everything you’ll need for a life of accomplishment and success. Instead. Think of the old story about giving someone a fish or teaching them how to fish. It is also encouraging to see that many successful people have started with nothing and were still able to achieve tremendous feats. I think it’s helpful to see patterns in people’s lives to chart how they attained their level of success. I have used the attributes I describe for you in this book over and over again in many different businesses – all with the same successful results. I did not strike it rich in the dot. It is often hard for us to look at a Russell Simmons or a Donald Trump and think we could ever attain that level of success. That’s what Lifemoney is all about. You’ll never need to go hungry again. It’s not that hard really. and if you’re willing to be my student for just a short time I can show you how. adapting the rules of success to your personal situation. I am going to share just a little bit of my personal history first because I know myself that to trust someone I need to know a bit more about their background – what has formed them into the person they have become.com arena or hit the lottery. Diddy and even myself have been “taught how to fish” at some point in their lives. Not all of these successes share the exact same 7 . whether it was through direct interaction with a mentor or learning from other sources.
my mom and I had moved to Forest Hills. though. you can see the learning process I went through and how I overcame obstacles and dealt with adversity. When I got to junior high. I got heavily into break dancing. You can always come back to me later). best of all. There were new surroundings. New York. In addition. I relate this in the hopes that you too can see similar possibilities for learning in your life and understand that you can acquire the tools that are needed to be successful. Mom didn’t let it stop her. That’s where I first learned about work ethic. The move brought my working mother closer to her jobs and me closer to seeing what life could be like on the other side of the tracks. She kept right on plugging away with her 3 jobs. By the time I was in fifth grade. I’ve learned that they’ve come to their successful place in life by either having or by acquiring the attributes I discuss in Lifemoney. if you don’t care about me and want to jump right into Lifemoney Lesson #1 and see what YOU need to do to be successful. My Early Years I began life in the Pomonok public housing projects in Flushing. rapping and acting. new friends and.Lifemoney attributes. I won’t be insulted. It was a much nicer neighborhood. My parents divorced when I was two and I was raised by a single mother with little to no communication with my father. and she was a tremendous teacher. (Oh. It was then that I finally started to realize I wanted to be involved in the entertainment 8 . new neighbors. new opportunities. New York. and no money. I learned these lessons by reading books of successful people and from my peers. but they usually have a lot of similarities. and by the way.
This is when I first began to learn about the value of persistence. which listed talent agents. Finding an agent to represent my efforts was. I followed directions exactly and sent my headshot along with a resume to one hundred agents. I planned to visit five agencies each weekday for a month to get to all 100 that had received my materials. Actually. Persistence Pays Off To make it in the acting field you need an agent. I decided not to sit around and wait for something to happen. Most emphasized the boldface message “not to be called or visited. as you can imagine. I bought a reference book called The Ross Report.My Lifemoney industry.” The do-not-call rule was strongly enforced. and I began going into the city (New York) for auditions to try breaking into the business. The first agency I visited was Schuller Talent. not succumb to them. I’ve always been a hustler. the only way to contact agents was to send query letters with photos and resumes. For starters. dealing with people. I sent the package out to the same agents two times but didn’t get one response either time. I was a fifteen year old kid and didn’t have a car or money for taxis to get into the city and back. as well as how to contact them. Instead I went to visit each of the people who had received my packet to find out why they had not contacted me. a renowned child talent group. not easy. Frustrated by the lack of response. Since my working mom didn’t get home until late I would go alone by train. They represented such actors as Emanuel (Webster) Luis. a huge child actor of the time 9 . and thinking outside the box. In fact. To follow my dream I had to overcome several obstacles. But the first rule of success I learned was to work around your obstacles.
I continued my conversation with the secretary. auditioned. I turned to leave.Lifemoney and Danny Pintauro. As a result. I didn’t do very well in high school. I spent a lot of time learning the ins and outs of the entertainment industry and not as much on homework. I often skipped classes. and signed with Schuller for representation. This was one of the earliest times I realized how important it is to be nice to everyone and build relationships versus burning bridges. She followed me out and introduced herself as “Davina.” the agent in charge of the group that I wanted to join. who was extremely nice and reassured me she would get my packet into the right hands. After thanking the secretary. I told her I just wanted to make sure it got into the correct person’s hands. and when I did show up I didn’t pay much attention. She must have seen something about me she liked – I think it must have been my persistence – and she asked me to come back and audition for her. From the corner of my eye I noticed a woman standing in the doorway. Hanging out with my friends and social activities seemed more important. I thought that she was listening to what was going on. She listened for ten minutes as I explained that I hoped my package had not been lost or tossed into the trash. and found the success I was seeking. I returned the following week. Not surprisingly. the child actor from television’s Who’s the Boss? Walking through the agency’s door I met a pleasant secretary and introduced myself. I set out to get answers to my questions. But taking the initiative. Had I continued to wait for calls that never came. I might not be where I am today. I barely 10 . going out near the door where the other woman had been listening. Looking for Motivation Unfortunately.
I didn’t have much reason to go to college at the time – I just didn’t know what else to do! Someone in my homeroom class during senior year suggested a college she thought I could get into. I had a hard time getting into college.My Lifemoney made it through. But he and my mother told me that they would only support me if I did well the first semester. Although you can make a good income from acting. Through hard work. I learned early on that being a struggling actor was not for me. I earned a 3. It was a great lesson: Not all of success is flashy and easy. If I was going to “screw up” like I did in high school. Knowing Myself In time I would become a very successful entrepreneur. Sometimes you simply have to put your nose to the grindstone and finish what you started to end up where you want to go. And. I decided I didn’t want to end up stuck with no way out. After getting in. and was eventually inducted into the Phi Eta Sigma national honor society.88 grade point that term. 11 .92. In the end I was unwilling to make the necessary amount of sacrifice that most actors need to reach their goals. For these reasons. With this pressure from my parents. the odds are severely stacked against huge financial success. The following semester I got a 3. I changed my habits and learned how to be a student. using my acting resume. How? I practiced all of the Lifemoney lessons you’re about to learn and I was clear about what I wanted. My father had resurfaced in my life to pay for college. I was looking to make a lot of money and enjoy nice things. The only thing to be decided was how I would get where I wanted to go. they explained. I got accepted. I realized that my next job was staying in. I applied for a double major in business and theater and. they didn’t want to pay for it.
As with my junior high acting days. So I took a different route and it has paid off for me. I spent the last years of high school and beginning years of college working toward that goal.Lifemoney I remember meeting a good friend of mine. the sacrifice has paid off. I could have put all my drive and energy into acting and reached the success my soup-loving friend enjoys today. I wanted more of a sure thing than acting. I spent a lot of time in studios developing a demo to get a recording contract and learning the business. “It’s cheap and it fills me up. But. When he only ordered soup. But his limited income made it clear to me that this was something I did not want to do. Today he’s a successful actor who can go anywhere and order anything he wants. When it came to making money. as with acting. Being a struggling actor and making those sacrifices was the right path for him – it wasn’t for me.” I bought his lunch that day. From my break dancing and rapping days I had always kicked around the idea of being in the hip-hop industry as a rap artist. It was another important lesson: knowing yourself guarantees that any success you have will be tailor-made for you. I still had some entertaining left in my system. For him. I asked him if he was going to order anything else. I could see the moment in that restaurant as a turning point. But before I fully ventured into business. the music industry does not often accept unsolicited 12 . He answered. I knew myself and knew movie stardom wasn’t the right route at that time. I sent out many demos to try and get people interested. That could have happened for me but I knew in my heart it wasn’t MY reality. It was a real education. a struggling actor. for lunch one day. Looking back.
let alone were successful at it. Does it seem strange that a book about success begins by telling you to start by working for free? It shouldn’t. It was validation that hard work could pay off. co-sponsored by 98. A key lesson I learned was that if you want to understand an industry. a lawsuit can result. I did win over one of the judges—Chubb Rock—and was asked to work with Chubb Rocks Production Company. In fact. This was pre-Eminem and not too many white people even listened to rap. I recognized the value of this attribute and stored it away for later. Although no longer in existence they were one of the premiere labels at the time. I kept working toward my goal of becoming a rap artist and trying to learn the business. This is exactly how you build Lifemoney. My goal was to get noticed and possibly get someone interested in working with me. even when you’re going against the grain. I also tried to learn the business side of the industry. I knew 13 . and I think they were shocked when I arrived to perform at Victory Park to discover that I was white. If the artist believes a later recording is similar to his or her music.7 Kiss FM in New York. Learning About Business In addition to finding some measure of success in the entertainment side of music.My Lifemoney material. even for free. In 1991. you need to work in it. I was chosen as a semi-finalist out of 500 entrants. I got a job as an intern (for no pay) working for PolyGram Records. I entered the Pepsi Rap Up the Summer Contest. attorneys for the record labels advise them not to listen to demos to avoid a lawsuit later on. Although I didn’t win the contest. I sent in my tape. In this world you have to take opportunity where it comes if it will help you achieve your goals.
Other times the experience will be a real eye-opener and convince you that you never want to see another bar – or Congressman – again. For example. You might find it’s not what you expected it to be. and access is one of them.and the men and women behind the talent the producers.” along with my demo tape. Door after door was being closed to me. It’s important to understand what you are getting into before you are knee deep. feel free to import ideas from wherever you can find them. both the stars . For example my rap name was “Sneak.” I once sent a sneaker in a box to a record label with the note. If you want to work in politics.the talent . It was one of my earliest stabs at being resourceful. my targets would be curious enough to open it rather than throwing it away. The access I got taught me lessons I could have never learned anywhere else. It paid off. volunteer for a campaign or move to DC. I figured if I sent a package. The following year I released “That’s Evil Man” on ZOO Entertainment. “I just want to get my foot in the door. no one was listening to my demos and I knew to get to the powers that be I would have to get through to someone.Lifemoney that working with PolyGram would give me access to some of the industry’s biggest and brightest minds. BMG. if you want to someday own a bar you should work at a few for a while to learn the business. Basement Records. a recording label. The single reached Billboard Magazine’s “The Street Sheet Mix page’s Top 10” and 14 . And always be resourceful. There are more important things than money in this world. learn it from the ground up. But it’s all valuable. mixers. agents and managers. Most of the time the experience will be a positive one and you’ll learn what you need to know to be a success. picked me up and got me signed to BMG for distribution. It worked. If you want to learn a business.
I decided since making money was a priority that it would be easier to make money in another industry and that I could always return to the music world later. It was pretty exciting to walk into a record store and see my CD for sale and have friends call telling me they were hearing it played on the radio. but in reality there are very few people that make it big – and make the big money. full of rich stars and power players. I released “African Prayer” for Peace records and received writing credit on “Got Your Head Boppin. It is a difficult business to really make money. Money provides those things. I was finally seeing a dream come true. While I enjoyed working in the music industry. Getting Focused Looking back on it now I can see all the stair steps that were being put into place for my ascent to success in telecommunications and various other ventures. Eventually it went to number 27. actualizing my goals and watching them come to life. I needed the sense of security that comes with a regular income and the knowledge that I would be able to pay the bills and live a comfortable lifestyle. which I did. It didn’t stop there. But the truth is making money is hit or miss and is more often just smoke and mirrors. But like 15 . In 1994. I knew a prerequisite for a happy life (for me) was stability and the ability to enjoy life’s conveniences.My Lifemoney showed up as bullet number 42 on the Maxi-Singles sales sheet. PolyGram Records. for more reasons than just getting airplay.” Next Plateau. It was an exciting time. That’s a hard truth to see from the outside. The music business seems glamorous. You see – I already understood that making money was a priority for me – an important goal. I was concerned that I might not make the money I was looking to make – and I thought I might be able to make it easier somewhere else.
I decided to make business decisions that would bring me closer to where I wanted to be. And guess what? I started making more money working part-time than at my day job. I did not have a wife or family. For one thing. How did I do that? I started selling real estate at night. I also knew that I had fine-tuned all the systems there to do my job in half the time than I had been doing when I started working with the company. I saw that real estate was more suited to my personal goals at the time. I took over a job for a friend as an office manager for a life insurance company. My instincts were just forming and for whatever reason I felt the need to become focused on knowing what I wanted specifically. so I pursued this opportunity. In addition. I was interested in sales.Lifemoney most young people I didn’t understand what was going on. but it was apparent that I was a tremendous asset. Also. Becoming successful. Imagine what a retiree would think about a guy that appeared to be 18 years old providing advice on retirement! Recognizing that only true passion creates true results. Not to sound conceited. the branch focused on selling long-term care and retirement planning. I could make even more money. and could not fully understand or relate to getting life insurance for protection for other family members. I did not find that product to be a perfect fit for me or my personality. I went so far as to get licensed to sell life insurance. The branch owner wanted to train me to sell life insurance. I figured that my potential customers might question why I was selling a product that I didn’t have for myself. Unfortunately. I understood the insurance office management job completely. I decided to 16 . After leaving college. I figured if I spent more time on my part-time real estate job. I decided to take my hustling a step further.
I was putting those early Lifemoney skills into play and getting the same amount of work done in three days as I had done before in five. This Was Only the Beginning I mark this moment as the official beginning of my entrepreneurial life. This would permit me to have two more days to sell real estate. For example. When I went to my boss to resign. He reluctantly agreed on a test basis. Best of all. and there was a lot more to learn. but I had hedged my bet by learning the ropes first and not jumping ship from the corporate job too quickly.My Lifemoney leverage all that. at the same pay. I guess the company trusted me enough to give it a shot. making my own way and even started knowing myself and where my real talents and desires 17 . I was doing well enough and was confident enough in real estate to do it full-time and get rid of my “day job. the one you’re probably most interested in. and I went from initially working five days a week to just one day per week. You never know if someone will say yes or no to a question until you ask the question. I also promised him that the quality of the work would not change. I made sure I did everything efficiently and wasted no time at all. You never know what people are willing to do – or what you can accomplish – until you try. But my education was just beginning. my gamble worked! Eventually. I began to learn about the importance of defining success for myself.” It was a risk to leave the security of a full-time job. and I made a deal with my boss to move to a three-day-per-week schedule at the same pay. instead of just quitting I told him I could do the work in one day that I had been doing in three. I didn’t know it at the time but I was to go through many more experiences that taught me how to build and run successful businesses and be happy at the same time.
That is in fact how this book got its title: I literally realized that all the triumphs and setbacks were creating skills and qualities inside me that were worth something real. evaluating my progress.Lifemoney were. and I didn’t hit it big with the lottery. but the skills that were created in me were worth more than cash. At MCI.07. Inc. But I still had to learn about setting goals. Global Business Solutions. I also noticed that the larger companies were not flexible enough and many times did not fulfill their customers’ needs. I started building and using this knowledge in real estate but I really kicked it into gear when I decided to take a corporate sales job at MCI Telecommunications. It was a great place that provided huge opportunities to apply myself and use Lifemoney to make a ton of cash money. 18 . I was not an overnight success story. resourcefulness and creativity. I became one of the top salespeople in the nation. I’d learned that when the big companies couldn’t supply a product. Those skills were actually like internal money – fueling my daily existence and my motivation to reach the next goal. It was basically a mini-version of one of the larger telecom corporations. I used them to create many business successes. By my second year.086. Especially patience! It was a lot for a young person like me to absorb. like actual cash. After this very successful stint at MCI telecommunications (I will share more detailed stories with you later) I created Global Business Solutions (GBS). sacrifice and patience. Rather using the attributes I list for you in this book I became successful in project after project and business after business. I was already bringing in a six-figure salary and at the end of my third year there I earned $387. they bought it from someone else and still sold it as theirs. dealing with people – especially difficult people.
My Lifemoney lessons had shown me that some of success is seeing an opportunity where none exists. Because of my low overhead I was almost always able to provide services at cheaper prices than the major carriers. When you’re always on the lookout for something new.My Lifemoney My experiences over the years taught me to be alert and on guard for niches to fill and blank spots to cover. Heat Wave Tanning. and seeing niches before everyone else. lower to the ground and closer to the customer’s ear. Inc. 19 . If you could provide customers with everything they need and they knew you were price competitive and were competent to get the job done. I saw what the needs were and I fulfilled them. the customers would want you to do everything for them. Using my Lifemoney lessons I found success with GBS and turned it into so much more than I’d ever dreamed. I let the customers guide my business. remain loyal and protect them as much as possible. and to always be so reliable that I would always be the “go to” guy in the future. I understood that customers loved a one-stop shop. My Lifemoney lessons also taught me to be honest with my customers and do my best to help them out. One of these areas was in the pre-paid calling card business. I eventually contracted with many providers. you or the opportunity. I made a huge profit in this area by recognizing this as an opportunity where I could fill a void. allowing me to sell anything the big boys sold – and better – because I was smaller. it’s harder to tell which came first. Sometimes you go searching for new opportunities and other times opportunities find you.
maintaining equipment. So I kept the business for two years. and I decided that I didn’t want that kind of responsibility. grows us. The tanning business though was more hands-on. managing ten employees. and Heat Wave Tanning was really a great business and a great opportunity in my life. Change is good. I researched the business and found out that it was a very low maintenance business and pretty profitable. But I felt I was ready for that. I decided to open my own tanning salon. made my money and then I sold it. and might one day do again. It was like having a puppy at home: you never felt comfortable being far away for very long. I saw a line outside of the place and was wondering what they were giving away. After more research (and imagining that operating that type of business would be fun). That is true. 20 . and prepares us for the future. which was a huge plus for me. building the place from scratch. and managing customer issues just didn’t do it for me.Lifemoney I was amazed one day when going with my girlfriend to an indoor tanning salon. Better yet the business seemed as if it could run itself. It turns out that people just were going in there to catch a tan. I could manage most of it via remote control. This was a different venture from my previous forays in the world of small business. It is definitely a great business that I would highly recommend. But I was discovering that retail businesses require a lot of time and attention. through phone calls and faxes and emails and downloads and uploads and the occasional face to face. The tanning business was a big change for me. Besides. It was exciting. I told myself: it stretches us. A telecom business like GBS was more “virtual” than brick and mortar.
I am sometimes surprised by all that I have accomplished in such a short time. Inc. but on my terms. looking to blend business with pleasure. Later I was a college graduate looking to intern for a major hip-hop record label.com Sometimes success comes full circle. I am now in the process of coding and developing mymusicsite. Self Made Records. That makes me happier than I can possibly describe to you. and My Music Site. Inc. I will be selling and promoting online music downloads and cell phone ringtones for independent artists. I signed some artists to my label and I am currently marketing and promoting them.My Lifemoney Self Made Records. I am doing what I love. I have been launching companies left and right. For Self Made Records. / MyMusicSite.com are both my hobby and business. You’ll recall from earlier in this lesson that I was once a junior high kid trying to get my big “break” in entertainment. I will make independent artist’s music easily available to their fans. And I love it! Why? Because I’m sailing my own ship with no boss. I am involved in everything from the production of the songs to pressing up the albums to getting the music played on the radio. In 2007. And that’s exactly what I did! Remember what I said about following your passions? When you finally make some money you can blend passion with profitability and not have to stress that much about bottom lines. no limits and 21 . in reality I’m busier than ever. friends and family while providing a marketing platform for them to make their dreams come true. 2007. set to launch in the fourth quarter. Now I was a successful entrepreneur.com. And what’s best is that I can afford to be patient. It was a lot of work but it has been gratifying beyond words. with little to no risk and helping others all at the same time. But I can afford to do this because I love it. although I brag about being retired. Inc.
com) and is a retail conference location /coffee shop. In addition. I am also providing a marketing platform for these artists who want to make their dreams come true.tellbrad. break dancing on street corners and hustling for business opportunities. I have just signed a deal with Kingfish Productions to develop a television show that I created titled “Street Battle”. specialty beverages. Lastly. and business services. In addition to being its creator. These services will be available to groups as well as individuals that need a place to work between meetings or just to kill some time. phone. satellite television. This is a free website that gives the consumer a voice and enables them to be heard (rant/rave/leave video complaints) to both other consumers and the companies they speak of.com). Meeting ExpressO will provide full access to conference rooms which include internet. I will be selling and promoting online music downloads and cell phone ringtones for independent artists. In addition to that business.Lifemoney more freedom and money than I could ever have imagined way back when I was 15 years old.meetingexpresso.com (www.mymusicsite. friends and family. it allows people who are looking to purchase or get feedback on a product or service to get an unbiased opinion and rating.com). The business is called Meeting ExpressO (www. I also came up with a business idea that I am looking to launch (or sell the patent) in the near future. Meeting ExpressO will also provide walk in customers with a unique and innovative environment for enjoying great coffee. We will make independent artist’s music easily available to their fans. I will 22 . I just launched TellBrad.com (www. I am also in development on another site called MyMusicSite. and snack items.
That’s why I’ve written this book. go by some oranges! (Orange juice outsells lemonade by 10 to 1. Stayed tuned and look for my name in the credits! …You Can Do It. I will show you how to understand and learn a unique set of attributes you need to become successful. Too! I began this lesson by declaring “If I can do it…” without finishing the statement. invest your profits and. Work on the activities. sell it on the corner. And go for it! No excuses. adapt the principles described in each of the upcoming lessons.My Lifemoney also receive co executive credit and be involved with development of the project. I have found the common denominator for success. Lifemoney Currency “When life hands you lemons… make lemonade. Instead of sitting around thinking about what you want. Now. Lifemoney provides you with the tools you’ll need to reach your own unique potential. I’ll tell you how you can do it too! While my story is different from yours and from that of other people. when they mature. Keep score of your successes and failures. Learn who you are and what you want.)” -Brad Turk You can do it too! 23 .
Still. is in no danger of cracking it anytime soon. pure and simple. Success is never a game of chance and begins with clearly deciding what you are going to make happen. has never cracked the seven figure mark and. Want to Succeed? Sleep Late! I want to begin by sharing two success stories with you. some might consider him rich 24 .Lifemoney Lifemoney Lesson # 1: Defining Success “You have to arrive at your own definition of success if you ever hope to enjoy success on your own terms” -Brad Turk Overview It’s not possible to attain success without first defining it. two very different types of success stories. These are the stories of two friends of mine – John and Steve . In this lesson I want to show you the importance of deciding for yourself what success means to you. My first friend.and though totally different from one another they illustrate what I mean by defining your own success. John. as far as I know.
John. he has a big smile on his face. Most days he didn’t have to go into work early and he got to sleep late. He did it his way.push your idea of success on anyone. knows what success means to him. He is truly happy with how his life turned out. It didn’t bother him what everyone was saying about him. While talking about the future. They think that he is not responsible. Then one day we were talking and John really opened my mind to something. he just took it as a joke. he is successful. has no ambition and is going nowhere. just as important. he found his own success and it works for him. You can’t . he helped them out a lot and felt that his support was needed around the house. I have to confess that I kind of agreed with them. Steve. lives with his parents. He made enough money to live on his own if he wanted to. he also said he was happy with his job. He has a beautiful boat. From a professional perspective. He needs nothing else to fulfill his dreams. several sports cars and a very 25 .and shouldn’t . He told me that every night that he goes to bed. And how many of us can say that? I realized after talking to John that everyone’s idea of success is different. who on the surface would probably look extremely successful to outsiders looking in.Defining Success beyond compare because he knows himself and. John’s parents also enjoyed him being there. To me. All of my other friends make fun of him. who is over 30 years old. He told me he was still living with his parents because he liked living with them. John told me that he was really happy with his life. I have another friend. What he revealed was so far from who I am as a person but showed me that there are a lot of different ways to define success – and the important Lifemoney key is to define it for yourself.
The truth is that Steve lives way beyond his means. you have completed Lifemoney Lesson # 1. I remember one weekend he invited me to go to the track with him to “play” with his cars. This is success for him.Lifemoney nice house. Steve thrives on the adrenaline of living on the edge. he canceled the invite because he was actually selling one of the cars. He is actually so far in debt that he does not really own anything he has. He is always making maneuvers to try and maintain his possessions. Before the weekend came. Does this sound like success to you? It might. Most everything is owned by the bank and it seems every time I talk to him. Have you decided what your mark is? 26 . He is always stressed and always in fear of losing something. just so he can try to keep up with payments so that he does not default on anything. Once you define what you want and know what will make you happy. The weekend that he canceled our trip to the track was because he had to sell one of his cars to make his mortgage payment. not from without. Why? Because they both hit their mark. Some people thrive in that kind of stressful environment. Being that I know this friend well. My definition of success comes from within. These men are both successes. he is in a world of hurt. I also know more details about his life than someone seeing him jet by on the track or some of his “not as close friends” spending a weekend with him on his boat. He also has to work harder than anyone I know. It wouldn’t work for me either – just like John’s life – but both of these men are happy with their lives.
get more and be more.Defining Success Success on Your Terms The first step in applying the Lifemoney lessons to your life is defining what success means to you. It becomes yours. We have no control over our path and our lives can become haphazard. What works for some doesn’t work for others and what works for me might not work for you. our definition of success will be individual and unique. Although some people get lucky in attaining success. strategy or plan they stick to in order to reach their ultimate goals. I think this is important because I see so many people who spend their lives wandering. With the exception of my friend John who I just mentioned. In order to chase success on your terms you need to define what success means to you and be clear about what will make you happy. When you define success for yourself. you’ve taken the first step to taking your life back. most people are still on their quest for success. Why do they do this? They bounce around because they’re not prepared to 27 . we are on a journey without a map. But becoming – and staying – successful can be tricky. trend to trend. we all want more out of life. They go from idea to idea. There’s simply no future in succeeding for anyone other than you. If we don’t define success for ourselves. Like fingerprints. When you define success and what it really means to YOU. For the most part. Success takes personal planning and some work. They start up home improvement projects and don’t finish. Success means different things to different people. They buy gym memberships and never use it. No matter your net worth or social standing we want to do more. you own it. fad to fad not really knowing what they want and drifting with the flow. most successful people (whether consciously or not) have a system. They subscribe to magazines they never read.
Desire is the planting of your seed. for you. As Robert Collier. Lifemoney Currency “One of the things my parents have taught me is never listen to other people’s expectations.Tiger Woods Find the “U” in “SUCCESS” Forget about goals and spreadsheets and interest rates and performance appraisals for now. author of Riches Within Your Reach: The Law of the Higher Potential once wrote. says “success” with a capital S? Let’s explore this question and help you find the answer – and get you on your way. They live undefined lives. look past that next job promotion or future company you plan to build. See beyond money and its trappings. What is it you really want? What. “The first principle of success is desire – knowing what you want. you will be fully able to reap all the benefits that await you.” Plant your own personal seed for success and watch it grow.Lifemoney take full action.” . By starting your journey with a firm grasp of your meaning for success. You’ll be able to move in the right direction quickly and simply because you know where you are headed before you approach the starting line. You should live your own life and live up to your own expectations. and those are the only things I really care about it. And when we live undefined lives we miss opportunities to reach our definition of success more quickly and more easily. Take a moment and answer this question: What does success mean to you? Would the following definition of success work for you? 28 .
for example. Let’s take. He does not really have any extravagant items like a fancy race car. With all of Buffet’s billions he has always led a simple life. She now understands what all of her sacrifices were about and feels like she is on the road to fulfilling all of her dreams. billionaire Warren Buffet. a 22-year-old student who has just received her acceptance letter into the medical school of her choice. but successful people have taken the time to really think about their definition of success. He is doing what makes him happy.Defining Success “All I want is to have people around who love me. He has lived in the same house that he purchased for $31.500 over 48 years ago. This is a man who could do anything and have anything and is content to sit home and watch a ball game. She’s successful! 29 . Would I live the way Warren lives if I had his billions? No chance! Should he step up his lifestyle and start spending his billions mainly on himself? Absolutely not! He is enjoying his billions and more importantly his life. He was so content with his definition of success that he gave practically all of his money to charity (over $30 billion dollars). What would make you happy? We all define success differently. yacht or even a boat. She has spent her whole life making sure her grades were in order to some day get into a good medical school.” It works for the second richest man in the world. He drives himself to work every day (no chauffer) in his 2006 Cadillac DTS. She sacrificed many nights of going out with her friends and having fun in order to spend more time studying.
Then there is the couple that. have resulted in two stable children with above-average grades and well-adjusted social skills. Although he and his wife share a modest home. they have not missed out on anything they’ve wanted. Sounds like success to me. Twenty-five years of sacrifice spent on investing income from a second job have finally paid off. While avoiding expenses like costly entertainment or expensive vacations. And so now I’ll ask you: Are you ready and willing to take a little bit of time and plan to live your life on your terms? 30 . Months of preparation and training pay off for this guy’s single-minded determination. they have been able to stash enough away to enjoy an early retirement and see the world. While his finishing time does not win any medals. He’s been a total success. The 54-year-old millionaire spends his day choosing consulting projects and filling his schedule based on preference rather than need.Lifemoney A 39-year-old business executive runs his first marathon. Each of these people has achieved success. Living off just the husband’s income has not been easy. I call that success on their terms. upon marrying. That man is a happier husband. along with nutritional meals and emotional support. but the wife’s role as a homeroom mother at school and Girl Scout leader in the community. agreed the wife should give up her job when the children came along to provide a stable home life for all. and employee – or future CEO – because of this personal accomplishment. his self-esteem and confidence increase beyond measure. father.
love what you do. you might become bitter or resentful. As you see in this example. you can begin to set goals on the road to success. Anyway? You can’t get motivated unless you’re clear about what you’re shooting at. That’s why. So let’s figure out how you define success. if you’re planning on using the family garage to mass-produce your new video game or DVD) the success of your vision ultimately depends on one person and one person only – YOU. but you don’t really want to. Identify the goals you wish to achieve or the life you want to live and work diligently toward that vision. It really isn’t what you have or who you are that makes you happy or unhappy. in Lifemoney Lesson #2.” . Over time. So once you have an understanding of what will truly make you happy. I believe the common denominator in true success is happiness. it is possible to be a successful lawyer without feeling like a successful person.Defining Success WHOSE Dream Is It. Lifemoney Currency “Do what you love. what they all really want is personal happiness. you could succeed in meeting their goals for your life and still end up unhappy and unfulfilled because you never quite met yours. you’ll be finding out why it is so important to Know Yourself. If your parents are pushing you to become a lawyer. It is how you view your situation that makes all the difference. leave the world a better place.Jeff Mallett 31 . While it’s a good idea to talk to your family and others who may be impacted (say. That’s why it is important to understand your priorities clearly. Even though everyone usually has a different idea of what success means to them.
32 . so make it handy and easy to access. read over your ideas. and edit if necessary to make them readable and clear. in your opinion. It will also start you on the long road to developing your organization skills by keeping track of your plans and progress. Explain. I am going to ask you to open this document on a regular basis throughout this book. Once you have this in place. asking yourself questions like these.Lifemoney Goal Achievement Exercise A You will need to create a place to take notes and do the A-Z achievement exercises while you are going through this book. but more importantly.com. You can use a three-ring binder. etc. skills. set a timer for five minutes. open a document on your computer. the hallmarks of success—money. just letting your thoughts and feelings flow: • • • • Describe a successful person who inspires or motivates you. What would it take for you to feel successful? How will you know when you have become successful? When the timer goes off. or download a copy of the Workbook with all the exercises from my website – www. Then start writing about your views on success. time.bradturk. What themes emerge from the answers to the different questions? Did security come up over and over again or did freedom? Did a need to be your own boss emerge or would you like a little less responsibility in life and not have to be the boss? This activity will help you get a better idea of what you want from life and what you expect of yourself.
Money in itself does not equal success. won the New Jersey lottery twice. “If I only had money. Having come from a “no money” background. If you were handed everything you wanted without working for it. now lives on Social Security and food stamps: “I wish it never happened. Welcome aboard a new life. It was totally a nightmare. after declaring bankruptcy.2 million in the Pennsylvania lottery. I know many people with little or no money. “Everybody wanted my money. you might find you are still unhappy. they’ll tell you: • Evelyn Adams. Not Cash) Congratulations! You’ve taken a huge step.” 33 . I’d be so happy” or “Everything in my life could be fixed with some cash.Defining Success Win Life’s Lotto (Real Wealth is Measured by Achievement. We all do.” Her hand was out. William “Bud” Post won $16. Her total take was $5. What does she have to show for it now? Zippo. • In 1988. Most people just never make the move to define what they want and where they’re going. She lives in a trailer and recounts that. Says the man who. something of a statistical freak. Completing this exercise brings up a point I think worth exploring. But you just did. Everybody had their hand out.” These beliefs about money are all wrong. Ask the following people.4 million. too. It’s amazing how some people perceive money as the answer to all their problems. at gambling venues. in 1985 and 1986.
And accomplishing your dreams – your success on your own is very important. she had filed for bankruptcy and had just $700 in the bank.you miss the excitement. And satisfaction is more than being content. That’s why Lifemoney is an internal feeling. Understand that a lot of the enjoyment of meeting your goals is in the feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction that comes with hard work and success. Do you need more external recognition of your accomplishment? Make sure you keep that mind as you plan your own future. I know you’re probably saying “Yeaaa. they’re about satisfaction.the fruits of someone else’s labors . that wouldn’t happen to me!” Are you sure? People who get their wishes granted too easily. Goals are not just about achievement. and the ultimate triumph of accomplishing a mission.Lifemoney • Janite Lee was unlucky enough to win an $18 million jackpot in 1993. She shared her wealth with many charitable organizations. Here are several keys to keep in mind: 34 . the challenge. not a financial figure. and without effort are not actually participating in the creation of their own personal happiness. That is true success – at least by my definition. There is no amount of money in the world that can recreate that feeling of accomplishment. You Are in Control Success belongs to those who are clear about what it means to them. it’s that amazing feeling you get after finishing a job well done. It seems to be a rule of life that if you have good things handed to you . but before a decade had passed. To enjoy success you need to earn it.
it resides in you. How will you get there if you don’t take that first step? Take it now! Take that first step toward real happiness. even if the voyage looks choppy. Chart a course for paradise. sure. And remember that it’s important to enjoy this journey so keep an eye on the finish line. together – because you made a conscious choice to pick up a book called Lifemoney. Stop looking outside yourself or to others to explain your failures. Most likely it will be bumpy. You’ve already taken the first step. and that might not have been easy. and another. but your dreams are out there. When you lay blame or make excuses. but they do not own your ideas or lay claim to your dreams. or it could take decades. You are here – we are here. Create a legacy of a life well lived that will justify your existence and leave loved ones with affectionate memories of your success. it’s also worth doing despite the odds of failure and cost of success. Others have influence over you and affect you. Success is not a game of chance. waiting for you to come and claim them. Now all you have to do is take another step. until the value of moving is higher than the cost of those inevitable obstacles.Defining Success 1. that would be incredible. 35 . But why wait for the miniscule chance that this could happen to you when you have the power to wake up your dreams and put them to work for you – RIGHT NOW! 2. Anything worth doing is worth doing well. The power to change is your own. Don’t put your trust in success just showing up. Publisher’s Clearing House might stop by your house with that big check and. 3. you willingly give your power away. It may take months. but don’t forget to enjoy the sites along the way.
your old friends from school. All right.Lifemoney Why be satisfied with a simple living when you can build a great life? Defining Success Summary Of all the Lifemoney Lessons I’ve lived – and learned – this was the first: you have to arrive at your own definition of success if you ever hope to enjoy success on your own terms. so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. It will become clearer the more you focus and keep your mind open. If you do it for the money. Success must happen YOUR way. That’s totally normal. on YOUR terms for YOU to be truly happy. Whoever you’re trying to keep up with – the Joneses. you’ll always regret not doing it for yourself. Lifemoney Currency “Your time is limited. Don’t feel bad at all if you’re still a little unclear about what success should mean for you. Let’s go there right now. If you let others define success for you. something WILL be missing.” -Steve Jobs 36 . success must mean something to you if you are ever to truly achieve it. Lifemoney Lesson #2. If you do it out of ego or pride or greed. there will always be a nagging feeling that something is missing. trust me. your neighbors – forget it. Lifemoney Lesson # 1 is done! It was designed to help you define success on your own terms.
The expectations that matter most are mine.” -Brad Turk 37 . _____ 7. I will define success for myself. _____ 2. _____ 3. My life is mine and I’m excited to develop it on my terms. I spend time learning what it will take to be successful in what I love. I hope they enjoy it because you probably won’t. I am in control. giving yourself 10 points for each checkmark and 0 points for any left blank: _____ 1. I will decide for myself what occupation excites me. I will always seek to lead my own life. and then tally your score. I am seeking my own personal growth and happiness. _____ 4. I will look beyond money to find happiness. _____ 6. Lifemoney Currency “If you live for someone else. _____ 10. _____ 8. _____ 5. I am winning life’s lottery. _____ 9.Defining Success Millionaire’s Checklist: Check all the items below that you agree with.
I can never be good enough…It just comes with the territory of knowing yourself and making the most of what God has given you. great moves. In my mind. 38 . I expect to make great plays. “Defining Success.” -Reggie Bush Overview Knowing yourself is a huge part of attaining personal success. but it always starts with YOU.” by exploring who you were to determine who you are and clarify who you want to become.Lifemoney Lifemoney Lesson # 2: Knowing Yourself “I expect great things out of myself. you will build on the first lesson of this book. In Lifemoney Lesson # 2. It’s a journey that may veer off in a thousand different directions before finally coming to fruition.
Who are you? Who are you? That probably depends on who you ask. you need to know who you are. not a popularity contest. because he knew he had the ability to be a GREAT batter. but not without a period of introspection first. a computer whiz. unemployed worker. son. At the end of the day we must look in the mirror and face up to who we really are if we ever hope to become the person we know we can be – the person we want to be. Before you know where you’re going. a student. He took a lot of heat for his decision because he was a GOOD pitcher. a company executive. or two-time divorcee. father. 39 . This is valuable advice for many of us. But life success is a self-test. a basketball pro. or a musical genius. He stuck with the decision. unsure or even unwilling to concentrate on what we might be great at? Often the difference between being good and being great is making adjustments that allow you to spend more of your time developing your greatest strengths. So often we rely on our titles – or the opinions of others about those titles – to tell us who we really are. banker – merely describe you. lawyer. they don’t define you. But all of these titles – husband. someone’s parent. one of baseball’s legendary home run hitters. was once a pitcher? At one point he made the deliberate decision to stop pitching so he could focus on batting. How many of us hover around the comfort zone of what we’re good at. Just think how sports history might have been rewritten if the he had stuck to what he did well instead of focusing on where he could really excel. a son or daughter. Maybe you’re carrying around a little extra baggage as a high school dropout. right? You might be a wife or husband.Knowing Yourself Sometimes It’s Better to Strike Out Did you know that Babe Ruth.
Instead. Whoever you are. you find that those dreams never materialized. when you take a moment to catch your breath and see where you are.Lifemoney It seems like such a simple question: Who are you? But try to answer it and you’ll find the answer is not so easy. If you are just starting off on your voyage to success and don’t know where to begin. When was the last time you asked yourself this question? What was your answer back then? Has it changed? Many of us live such fast-paced lives that we seldom take time to reflect on the distance we’ve traveled from the starting point many years ago. Or maybe you were hoping to get married. and maybe not even worth the effort after all. let me help you rediscover that person again. Life has a way of sidetracking us from our goals to deal with day to day living. and live happily ever after. But now. you got sidetracked into making a living and getting by. wherever you’ve been. you can still find the path to your personal success if you’re willing to look for it. the goals appear too distant to reach anymore. 40 . more importantly. knew you were capable of attaining. whatever you’ve done. Maybe he or she is a little older. Remember those high school dreams of becoming a pro sports player? Maybe you planned to write a bestselling novel. instead of building the future you always wanted and. but ready to gear up for the adventure that lies ahead. and hopefully a little wiser. day to day. The best part of Lifemoney is you can start accumulating it at any stage of your own personal transformation. looking back. start here. Then. have kids. Whatever happened to that determined person with all that ambition inside? If this scenario sounds just a little too familiar.
not the Joneses. the time I spend with family and friends. but he was slowly driving himself insane. normally peaceful man now felt like hunting the driver down and ripping his head off! Then it hit him: keeping up with the Joneses was killing him. Twelve months later he was happier than ever. and what you truly want? I once knew a man who was famous for keeping up with the Joneses. and over the next year phased out four of his five clinics. It is not. This nice. how can you ever hope to achieve. or someone else was going to wind up dead!) He drove straight to his accountant’s office. Why? Because he was finally keeping up with himself. Lifemoney Currency “I’m starting to judge success by the time I have for myself. restructured his organization. less really was more. In his case. What is success if you don’t know who you are inside.” -Brendan Fraser 41 . The story of my doctor friend reinforces my belief that true success can never really be achieved unless you first know yourself. His patients and his workers loved him and he was loaded. One day while sitting at a stoplight on the way from one clinic to another a crazy driver cut him off. successful. they’re shifting. My priorities aren’t amending. He was a very successful physician with five private sports clinics. literally. or maybe just busy work. (Either that.Knowing Yourself Don’t Be a Stranger (To Yourself) The “know who you are” focus of this lesson might seem like a speed bump on your journey to success. If you don’t know what will make you happy.
reflect on the things that worked in your favor. For example. Even if you didn’t consciously use these qualities back then. Under each. list your personality or character strengths.” This took: Patience Commitment Hard work Self-discipline Organization And/or define it by specific steps: 2.” In order to achieve this accomplishment you: • • • • Made a thorough search of opportunities Researched the companies I wanted to work with Matched my skills to company needs Prepared for the interview 42 . recognition. now you can see how you managed to win that particular prize. or personal achievements. these might include honors. Make a list of your top four or five achievements. “I made a wise career move by getting a better job. define a recent accomplishment by personal attributes: 1. In looking back on your past.Lifemoney Goal Achievement Exercise B Now it’s time to take out the Workbook you started in Goal Achievement Exercise A. • • • • • “I earned a college degree. certificates. and/or specific steps you took while completing these accomplishments.
you: • • • • • Dated selectively Looked in the right places Studied my partner’s character before getting serious Worked on my weaknesses Got pre-marital counseling “I found an amazing partner and have a stable marriage.” and “selective” came up in one form or another with each of the three achievements.” “thorough. Look for patterns forming. Let’s say for instance that when comparing the events above words like “organization. while others could relate more to mental functions. You’ll begin to see how that person might emerge in the next stage of life. You gain a better sense of your gifts and talents so you can better apply them to reaching success in the future. you will get a better idea of who you really are down deep.Knowing Yourself 3. some may be more physically oriented. and so on. What might that say about you? Using this exercise to get a sense of your approach to important life goals will help you understand where your strengths lie and what makes you happy. like sports competitions. 43 . like academic work. You may even recognize the type of goals that attract you. As you think about the things you’ve done that you have enjoyed and made you feel good. Some people excel at social endeavors like arranging parties or special events.” In this case As you look over your list what characteristics come up over and over? Those are your strengths.
Write down the characteristics that you’ve often heard people mention to or about you.Lifemoney The world is full of born-again success stories. you are on your way to getting there. Maybe you’ve had a desk job so long you’ve forgotten how much you love being outdoors. You could be someone who inspires others when they go through hard times. And maybe your list reveals a part of you that loves physical activities and accomplishments. That means laying the mental framework now for the physical action you will be taking later. which shows up in words like “endurance” and “commitment” and “perseverance. So take this time to remember or remind yourself of what you want out of life. If you do. Or you may be the employee that handles confidential matters at your company because the boss trusts you most. enthusiasm. Goal Achievement Exercise C You might be wondering if I’m going to ask you to take your Workbook out every two pages. Your list could look something like this: 44 . but in the renewal of spirit. Within a couple of lessons we’ll get into a rhythm where we do fewer and fewer of these exercises. You’ve just done an assessment of the qualities you see in yourself and that you find positive. The answer is no! As we get our Lifemoney Lessons underway it’s very important that we start on the right foot.” Maybe you’ll get back that desire you once had to open a gym or start a summer camp or start taking at-risk youth groups on cross-country hikes. passion and effort. I would like you to make a list of the qualities others have noticed in you. Maybe your mom has always said you are hard working. not in a religious way. Aiming your thinking correctly requires more Workbook exercises at the start.
you will be able to confirm the qualities you see in yourself with those others have witnessed in you. Since most of us do a better job with activities we enjoy. you’ll probably find that you are drawn to things you think are fun. Now you have an even better idea of how to play to your strengths as you set up goals for the future. You need to keep this in mind as you plan your goals and how you will reach them. but I don’t think you can do well unless you’re having fun. Things that are fun for us are those that match with the ability to use these character traits. we’re playing a game.Knowing Yourself • • • • • • • Honest Funny Direct Loyal Thoughtful Thorough Crazy As you compare this list with the first.” -Derek Jeter 45 . Lifemoney Currency “You gotta have fun. This makes it that much easier to achieve your goals. It’s our job. Regardless of how you look at it. It’s business.
you can get into some real trouble. The machinery isn’t working right. right? I do. Everyone has flaws! But successful people understand the value of admitting to a weakness. working around it or improving it. As soon as you say.Lifemoney What Are Your Limitations? Let’s be honest. and moving on. I got the materials (or information) late. But all the while. “I don’t have any major flaws. You put things off. you will never be able to deal with the issues that are holding you back from success. I didn’t know what I was supposed to do. Maybe you have a lazy streak (sometimes I do). Lifemoney Currency “Denial does not change reality” -Brad Turk 46 . you’re making excuses why you can’t get things done right or on time: • • • • • I don’t feel good. I have a saying: denial does not change reality. As long as you keep fooling yourself. Everyone has weaknesses.” you’re finished. You do. It’s part of being human. But if you don’t admit to those limitations. My mom’s cat died and I had to bury it. Be honest with yourself here and remember that knowing your weaknesses is a sure way to finding your strengths. and then do a half-hearted job when you get around to them.
You also can add things about your character that could benefit from improvement. you will have a better idea of how “expensive” these traits can be in the way they keep you from meeting goals. like being able to say “no” when you don’t want to do something. what good is all that positive self-talk? 47 . write a brief description of an incident where this particular quality had a negative impact: • • • Overbearing—offended a good friend of mine Sloppy—embarrassed my girlfriend at her company picnic Late—arrived late for an interview and didn’t get the job As you begin to link certain behaviors to unwanted outcomes. or not taking shortcuts on a project. you can have the best intentions in the world when interviewing for a new job. like shyness or arrogance.Knowing Yourself Goal Achievement Exercise D Take out your Workbook. These could include personality drawbacks. even deciding how to invest the extra money you’ll be making. Now write down a few of your weak areas. Here is an example of what this list might look like: • • • • • Overbearing Critical Too eager to please Sloppy Late After each character trait. But if you’re late to the interview. For instance. telling yourself how it will be as a stepping stone to reaching your ultimate career goals.
Take stock of their weaknesses and work hard to improve them 2. the minute you start passing the buck. the bucks start passing you by Get Rid of It! If procrastination and chronic lateness are a symptom that both you and others recognize in yourself. But remember that people like Donald Trump. Knowledge. 48 . Don’t blame the product for being inferior.” Instead. don’t write it off as a cute character flaw. Bill Gates. Don’t blame the economy for low profits. that’s just me being me. for their inactions. Eat breakfast on the way and tie your tie in the parking lot.Lifemoney Successful people don’t write off damaging personal traits as “oh well. get rid of it. especially self knowledge. for their strengths 3. They did what it took to climb the mountain of their success. so take action. You may want to start working on these weaknesses one at a time until you start seeing better results. There are so many things you can do. for their failures. is useless if you don’t act upon it. Always assume personal accountability. for their actions. they blame themselves In other words. Set your clock ten minutes fast or set the alarm 30 minutes earlier than you think you need. Don’t blame the weather for being late. for their triumphs. it’s easy to throw in yet another excuse about finding the time to make these changes. Derek Jeter. they blame themselves 4. And action means work. and Russell Simmons didn’t earn their millions by making excuses. they blame themselves 5. and their efforts paid off. they: 1. for their weaknesses. Of course.
Though it was a full blown failure. Or it didn’t last. If you’re good with numbers. then do the work it takes to eliminate weaknesses and build on your strengths. Then be fearless about taking it. Many people have failed at that. if you like words and books choose a different road to your success such as writing or communications. 49 . Or then again you might end up on the exact same path your grandfather took a century ago. Whatever your interests and skills. Another example was a short lived photo search engine called Riya. you can find a path—or blaze a trail—that will lead to your personal happiness.com. one of the most successful photo search engines on the web.Knowing Yourself If you’re serious about becoming the person you want and need to be and getting the success you deserve. What matters is that you freely explore any path you wish until you find the one you are destined to travel. For example. They decided to view “failures” as information sources for building new things. Maybe you’ve already tried success “your way. On the other hand. they viewed the results as useful information.” but it didn’t work. the lessons learned provided the originators with priceless information which allowed them to create Like. Maybe you’ll take a route that no one in your family or neighborhood has tried before. But within weeks they discovered that their great inventions were totally useless. Google created an early version of Google toolbar with all kinds of great features. Using mistakes as useful information is the way many large companies are innovating. They treat everything they try as an experiment. Does it mean you’re a failure for life? Of course not! It just means that you can learn from past mistakes to create a successful future. then choose something that includes some type of numbers work like accounting or investments. So rather than dubbing the whole project a failure.
It’s easy 50 . Starting with a little mouse. And that is why I succeed.” Just think of that for a second. a publishing house.P. and they don’t let lack of money or support stop them. Disney was to fantasy what J. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Disney founded a $20-billion media conglomerate that includes a TV network. an Internet operation. a film studio. and Japan. Many successes start right where you are: not knowing themselves very well and beyond broke. But they know enough about themselves to know what makes them passionate and hungry. France.” -Michael Jordan Buy Stock in Yourself Do you think successful people are born knowing themselves? Or maybe they had money to make money? Neither one is true. Theme parks with the Disney name are located in the U. Consider one the top 50 business influencers of the 20th century. I’ve been trusted to take the game’s winning shot and missed. Morgan was to finance. Walt Disney’s rags-to-riches story is one of America’s preeminent success stories. and a worldwide store chain.S.Lifemoney Lifemoney Currency “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. “It all started with a mouse. As Walt himself recalls. Walter Elias Disney. Twenty-six times. forget the theme parks and cartoons and famous rides and Captain Jack Sparrow. Walt Disney also is credited with inventing the feature-length animated film genre when he released Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs in 1937.. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life.
But more importantly. or building financial security. Now. He stuck to his singular vision of himself and is now revered as nothing short of a genius. never tell yourself that you can’t do something because it’s never been done before. Remind yourself of the unique skills you bring to the process. This is done for two reasons. if you discover you are lacking skills or abilities in a certain area you may need to develop them to attain success. The reason for this exercise is to begin the process matching your abilities to some of the things you want. He knew himself thoroughly and he understood that his entire empire was based on a simple cartoon mouse that he was passionate about. One. Through rejection and derision. review your thoughts on success (Exercise A) and begin thinking about things you would like to accomplish. as well as any new talents you may choose to develop along the way. Goal Achievement Exercise E Take out your Workbook. failure and distraction along the way. it will help you understand if you are looking for success in the wrong places by objectively 51 . Under each thought you write. but what if it’s never been done before? That’s the dilemma Walt faced. Two. So let me ask you again. such as getting in great physical shape. Stay centered on who you are and the goals you want to achieve. never let the world tell you that you can’t do something just because it’s never been done before. list the qualities that you think you would need to achieve them. finding a life partner. Walt Disney held firm to what he knew. who are you? What is your driving passion? What is the secret obsession that defines you? Whether it is a mouse or music style or menu item or men’s fashion. landing your dream job.Knowing Yourself to imagine success when it’s already been done before.
be careful what you wish for. down cold. you must understand why you feel a million dollars will equate to happiness. You might find out there are other ways to achieve your goals that are more realistic and rewarding for you. Knowing Yourself. screaming fans. making a million dollars doesn’t necessarily mean you will be happy. the Hollywood Dream – and he left it all behind to risk his life and fight fires. adoring women. For example. knowing yourself and being true to yourself makes you successful.Find More As you learned in Lifemoney Lesson #1. wouldn’t you almost kill for a chance to be a big Hollywood success? And what are the chances that you’d walk away from your success at the very pinnacle? That’s what happened to former TV heartthrob and star of the hit TV series “90210” James Walters.Lifemoney highlighting what’s required for success. What remains important is that you feel successful at every step of 52 . because he knew he couldn’t be happy doing anything else. Know yourself and double check your motivations for success. who made a conscious decision to leave Hollywood behind and become a firefighter in Los Angeles. Understand that fortune and fame doesn’t equate to success. Make Less . it might not be what you expected. Why? Turns out he had Lifemoney Lesson # 2. Here was a guy who seemingly had it all – loads of money. because when you get it. and comparing those qualities with what you deeply desire to develop within yourself. Lifemoney is about knowing yourself well enough to create inner success first and external wealth second. if you want to make a million dollars. In other words. As an example.
like “I’ll be happy when I make my first million. The others pointed to a middle-aged man who had his own little boat and had a great reputation as a fishing guide. The next day. the two men took the boat out on the seas.Knowing Yourself the process. While waiting for the fish to bite. the executive was impressed with Fisherman Joe’s skill and 53 .” you’re in the conditional happiness trap. While there. where they are right now. See how that works? If you say “I’ll be happy when…. not a destination. detours. and that to skip the rest stops. They recognize that success is a journey. The man loved to fish and wanted to spend a relaxing day boating on the crystal clear water. So many of us set conditions for our happiness. and that most of his day was spent with his wife and children. today.. progress at any price should be more than most of us are willing to pay. Fisherman Joe told the executive that it would be a pleasure. but that he only went out to fish a few hours each day. The businessman had no problem going out for just a few hours while his own wife visited the spa. obstacles and roadside attractions along the way is taking away from true success. he asked the locals if there was a fishing boat that went out daily. or “I’ll be happy when I get that recording contract” or book deal or acting job or new promotion or partnership. and enjoy. The rich executive approached “Fisherman Joe” and asked if he could go out with him for the day – offering to pay for the privilege. Although success is a worthwhile goal. A Fish Story Here’s a story to illustrate the point: A very wealthy business executive was on vacation with his wife in Hawaii. Ask yourself this: What happens until then? Truly successful people make peace with.
“How would you like to go into business with me.A. would aid his partner’s goal of taking their company public. “How do you get so many in so short a time?” the businessman asked. and then working a fleet. they finally went public. The two men moved the business headquarters to Los Angeles. who had reached his goals. as though he was unaware of the value of his skills. Working day and night was more than he had expected. had no problem and 54 . asking if he could cash out his shares and return to Hawaii. Although Joe was reluctant to leave his comfortable home and family while working in L. Just a couple of hours a day supplies all my needs. I know their habits. teaching other guys how to fish?” He went on to explain that he would put all the capital up front to get the business going if Fisherman Joe would add his expertise. Soon business was booming. But Joe was now worn out. and remove himself from the enjoyable part of his business—fishing—he did it anyway. Fisherman Joe went from working full-time on his boat to getting three boats.A. for the man seemed unusually humble.” The shrewd executive knew a good thing when he saw it.” Joe replied. Joe agreed.Lifemoney ability to find the best spots to reel in a terrific catch for the day. Joe knew that being in L. After a slight hesitation.” “What do you do with them all?” the business man asked. Joe decided he could not take this life anymore. The prosperous businessman. Finally. truly amazed. and did not really enjoy what he was doing. Joe shrugged. After five grueling years. The business life was not satisfying. “After so many years. “I sell most of ‘em. He spoke to his partner. “and take home what’s leftover for dinner.
the entire experience had been a detour from Joe’s own sense of success. Both of them found success in completely opposite directions! 55 . Fisherman Joe had all he wanted before embarking on a new journey that was piloted by another man’s dreams. In the end.. It’s that you should know what you want out of life. so I can fish a few hours a day. But Joe found it a waste of five good years of his life. The interviewer was amazed by Joe’s journey and the story behind his success. “Yes.Knowing Yourself wished Fisherman Joe well. and many might have found it fulfilling.” the interviewer commented. He started by taking a small fishing boat out for a few hours a day before returning to spend the rest of his time with his family. it is. This journey was quite productive. “I’ll get a small fishing boat. that’s quite a journey. but he ventured away from it for more money. Before Joe left. a popular magazine interviewed him. While the rich executive who had become his partner considered their pricey fishing fleet and LA expansion success. his journey brought him right back to square one.” Joe replied thoughtfully.” The moral of the story isn’t that we should not try hard or set high goals.A. The final question asked about Joe’s future plans was: “Now that you will be giving up the good life in L. what are you going to do?” Joe replied that. “From fishing a few hours a day to a multi millionaire. He already knew what success looked like to him. Two very different men viewed the exact same experience in two very different ways. and he ended up doing exactly the same thing. and then I am going to spend the rest of my time with my family.
Is that a realistic goal for you? It was for Spud Webb. Aptitude tests can provide some insight into your talents and abilities.Lifemoney Can You Dunk? Part of knowing yourself is knowing what you’re good at. These assessments are available all over the internet or by looking in the Yellow Pages. Assessment testing can also help find your natural strengths. go for it. Lifemoney Currency Understand that fortune and fame don’t equate to success. If you are 5’8” tall and you know you want to be a pro basketball player and believe it’s possible. But he is the exception to the rule. unchallenging and even difficult. A local community college may also offer these assessments free of charge. The work you are most likely to enjoy and be successful in is work that best matches your aptitudes. and effort to reach something that is much harder to attain. -Brad Turk 56 . Do you have that drive? If so. If you don’t know where your talents lie or still don’t know what you feel you would be good at. just understand the obstacles that you are going to face. take an aptitude test. being true to yourself and finding your happiness makes you successful. Certain occupations will be a better fit for you than others. They can measure your characteristics and ability to acquire additional skills. Sometimes it will take that much more work. you may find your work unrewarding. No one knows better than you where you feel confident versus where you feel unsure of yourself. and if you work in a field that doesn’t match your natural abilities. who not only played professionally. but won many dunking contests – despite being nearly a foot shorter than most of his competitors. time.
Knowing Yourself Summary
We focused this lesson on discovering who you are and who you want to become. Answering these questions lays the groundwork for success. If the groundwork isn’t solid, the whole house will crumble. Remember that anything you set your mind to, you can achieve. The only limitations you have to achieving your goals are the ones you set for yourself. Use your understanding of your strengths and weaknesses to achieve your goals and you will achieve excellence. The best part is that when you know who you are, you’ll achieve it on your own terms.
“There is no discrimination against excellence.” -Oprah Winfrey
Check all the items below that you agree with, and then tally your score, giving yourself 10 points for each checkmark and 0 points for any left blank: _____ 1. _____ 2. _____ 3. _____ 4. _____ 5. _____ 6. _____ 7. _____ 8. _____ 9. _____ 10. I will discover what truly makes me happy. I have given serious thought to the roles I’ve played throughout life so far. I can remember specific goals for my life when I was young and idealistic. I have reclaimed those goals or revised them to fit my future plans. I have thought about the skills that others see in me. I have matched up my goals with my abilities. I have reflected on past achievements as a way of planning future success. I have identified specific weaknesses or flaws that need to be addressed. I am ready to take responsibility for my weaknesses and start changing. I will not let life’s distractions sidetrack me from reaching my goals.
“View mistakes as missed takes - take mistakes and learn their relevance.” -Brad Turk
Lifemoney Lesson # 3: Goal-Setting and Overcoming Obstacles
“You should set goals beyond your reach so you always have something to live for.” -Ted Turner Overview
Every journey needs a beginning. Planning, road maps, and packing are what prepare us for the trip that lies ahead. Although you are probably excited to hit the gas pedal and get rolling, overlooking these planning stages could set you on the wrong course. This Lifemoney Lesson prepares your navigation system of goals, action steps, and timelines and will give you the knowledge to handle the inevitable obstacles that will come your way.
A Quick Review
Let’s quickly review. In Lifemoney Lesson # 1: Defining Success you took the first step in your quest for success by understanding what success means to you and
Lifemoney forming an idea of the type of accomplishments that will make you happy. Lifemoney Lesson # 2: Know Yourself helped you learn more about your true wants and needs, and made you aware of what personality traits you will need to get you there. Now, in Lifemoney Lesson # 3, you’re ready for the next step on the path to selffulfillment: Goal-setting. This lesson will guide you through the process of creating some goals, developing an action plan behind your goals and deciding what you need to do in order to achieve your dreams in a timely manner. Let me start with a great story that illustrates two people with goals. One person has a goal with a plan and the other person is totally unscripted.
Six-time Grammy award winning rap star Kanye West knows a little about setting goals and overcoming challenges. Kanye wanted to be a successful rapper, but was known in the industry as a producer. His label, Roc-A-Fella Records was initially reluctant to support West as a rapper, because they saw him as a producer first and foremost. Nobody thought he had much star power. Companies felt he was not as marketable as rappers that portray the ‘street image’ that is prominent in hip-hop. But even with the Roc-A-Fella record deal Kanye West was not going to wait for anyone to take notice of his rhyming talents. If Kanye had not believed in himself, stepped up and remained persistent in reaching his goal – his definition of success - he might just be another producer on the Roca-A-Fella roster. But Kanye West had a goal, and it wasn’t to be a producer. So on his own initiative he planned, paid for, and filmed his first video for “Through the Wire,” which catapulted him into superstardom. It appeared that if Kanye had not done this on his own
Mr. make a list of your top 3 goals that. And they don’t allow $2 tokens .or the opinions of others . He was/is an up and coming “superstar” in the music business who missed a huge meeting I’d arranged because he could not get himself into Manhattan from Queens (a quick 20 minute trip). Start by Writing a Goal Goals form the cornerstone of any new beginning and are the first of several steps you’ll need to get where you’re going. It’s time to write some goals right now. Every successful person I know has clear goals they’re reaching for. His life was so unplanned that he failed to step up and missed his opportunity of a lifetime because of $2 token. Once they decide on that goal.Overcoming Obstacles accord he might never have been released and become the Rap Mega Giant that he has become.to side track their journey. obstacles became simply inconveniences to be overcome. Now let me tell you about another hip-hop artist you’ll probably never hear about. That’s because he had more daydreams than plans. It is the first step of turning the thought of doing something into the reality of achieving something. For this exercise. For instance: • Goal: Starting up a home-based travel agency 61 . Goal Achievement Exercise F Take out your Workbook. Nobody. Kanye West vs. would make you a happier person. Under each goal list at least 3 objectives (mini goals) that you will need to do to bring you closer to your goal. For two full days this artist could not come up with the resources for even a $2 token to get there. when accomplished.
Lifemoney o Objective: Get travel agent license o Objective: Build out basement to accommodate office o Objective: Save up enough money for expenses and a salary cushion • Goal: Opening your own bakery o Objective: Find 2 bakers o Objective: Find a location o Objective: Do a business plan • Goal: Starting a vintage car website o Objective: Find a website developer o Objective: Research cars that could be placed on website o Objective: Legally incorporate your company At this point it’s common for people to feel a little insecure or anxious about finally seeing their life goals and objectives written out. or read a book and you’ll see hundreds . The problem with dreams is that we’ve dreamt them for so long. they simply learned these lessons a little sooner and applied them a little earlier. Relax. They happen every day. that’s natural. Dreams are real and they do come true if you follow this path.even thousands of people who have applied action and planning to make their dreams real. get started! 62 . stronger. it’s often hard to see them as real. Those people are not smarter. Now is your time. or better than you. Just watch television. listen to the radio.
Schedule exam • Build out basement to accommodate office i. etc. Research classes that offer test preparation for agent exam ii. break the list down into three or four action steps you would need to take in order to reach that objective.Overcoming Obstacles Establishing Action Steps After you set goals and objectives you need to establish action steps. What bridges that gap? Action steps. We all know that goals just don’t happen. Prepare for exam iv. Understand the testing process (where given. It could look something like this: Goal: Open a home based travel agency: Top three objectives and possible action steps: • Get travel agent license i. An action plan is just a series of steps you plan out ahead of time to take systematic action. timeframes. Select one goal listed in Exercise F and create action steps for each of the objectives listed under that goal.) iii. Goal Achievement Exercise G Take out your Workbook. Clear space for new furniture 63 . Below each. Start looking into office furniture and equipment iii. Order a separate phone line from the telephone company iv. It’s what lies in the gap between setting goals and achieving goals that separate Kanye West and the no-name rapper I talked about earlier. Find out construction costs for renovation ii. Let’s set up an action plan for your goals right now.
but without a schedule to start with you’ll never know if you’re slipping. objectives and action steps. When you sit down to make your plan and you see that both of your children will enter college within the next ten years and your spouse is going to need significant surgery in the next year you may 64 . Successful people know that there are few assets as valuable as time. Sure. deadlines slip sometimes and you have to readjust your schedule. Now you’ve written goals and some action steps that lead to the goals. but they also add urgency to their goals by making themselves accountable to deadlines. Figure out what amounts of money will be needed to live off of while building the business iii.Lifemoney • Raise and save enough money for expenses and salary cushion i. Let’s say you want to own your house debt free within ten years. Start putting away money weekly toward travel agency iv. Find out about bank loans Lifemoney Currency “Actions make things happen that words just slow down” -Brad Turk Timelines Timelines fuel goals. Figure out a budget of what the business will cost ii. Establishing a timeline for meeting a goal also helps you realize if it’s reasonable. So not only do they spend a lot of time managing their time.
Timelines do not mean deadlines. but for the most part. rushing into it is more dangerous than not starting it at all. they identify action steps. many wannabe successes miss the chance to advance to their goals because they simply fail to put a timeline on their progress. Unfortunately. Go back to the list of goals. Schedule changes or circumstances may require adjusting a date now and then. The goal is still reasonable. jot down a date for reaching them. As a result. If you need a year. You must schedule your goals. Let’s actually do it now. and action steps. You’ll need to adjust. be VERY realistic about your timeline. many people leave this step out and things just never get done. Successful people set goals and objectives. objectives and action steps. but it’s also easy not to take. not written in stone. If you’ve been slowly researching local opportunities and putting together resource lists for longer than that. give yourself a year. 65 . For instance if you want to start your own bakery. you should set reasonable deadlines and do everything you can to meet them. Goal Achievement Exercise H Take out your Workbook. and that gets your heart rate back within normal ranges and allows you to actually sleep at night. Beside each of the objectives and action steps. and then they set times and dates when things will be completed. they are guides. objectives. but the timeline isn’t given the circumstances. give yourself six months. This is an easy step to take. With a large goal like opening a new business.Overcoming Obstacles realize that this goal does not have a reasonable timeline.
I stopped and paused.Lifemoney If you keep on falling behind and have to reset your dates. I actually had a business partner who is one of the smartest. Anything of importance that needed to be followed up on was immediately put in his Palm Pilot (that was/is his tracking and “things to do” vehicle). “I’m waiting for you to write that last item down. About 30 seconds of silence went by and he asked me why I became quiet. Like most successful people. I told him. Written words are also great for organization and focus. most talented and gifted people I know. I remember one day we were going over items that needed to be taken care of and we were dividing them up between us. After he said he was going to take care of one of the items that I did not want to do. I learned early on a major flaw that he had that amazed me. you might have to adjust your action steps or your due-dates to make them more reasonable.” 66 . he knew how to compensate for his flaw and it practically never affected his work or his success. The written word is a tremendous way to remind yourself to keep your goals and action items moving along your timeline. He probably had the one of the worst memories I have ever seen. Don’t forget to write the date for meeting each objective on your calendar as a reminder to continue working on it. Never underestimate the influence of actually seeing your goals written out and in front of you every day. Write It Down Words are priceless. His solution was to write everything down.
annoying. reserve a block of time to do what needs to get done. moving you closer to achieving your goal. You may not get everything you had planned done in a given day.Overcoming Obstacles Lifemoney Currrency “You must see your goals clearly and specifically before you can set out for them. but you will make progress and. and plan specific. 67 . “To do” list which you will reference daily. Set aside some time each morning to review your list and begin working on the listed tasks. tasks first. set deadlines. Here are a few tips for using your daily “To Do” list: 1. even if unpleasant. You will be less likely to postpone the things you like to do than those you consciously or unconsciously avoid. committed. you may be able to do more things in a day. Every day you should be aware of all your goals and the steps needed to attain them. measurable. over time. Keep it in the notebook you have been using or in a calendar program that you can keep handy. Depending on how organized you are. realistic. and anxiety producing things out of the way when you have more time. you may need to break down the week by hours to make sure you are managing your time properly at first.” -Les Brown Goal Achievement Exercise I Make a daily written. For goal setting you will need to prioritize tasks. Do the important. and visualized steps. You should get the boring.
It’s just something I want to get around to doing more often. even I know it is kind of strange – but it works for me. I want to start playing more basketball. I also send myself emails from my blackberry to remind me of things or to keep track of ideas as they come up. but it is not really a priority that I want highlighted on my daily to do list. I have a main list at home and a daily list that I take with me.Lifemoney 2. For example. Carry a pocket-sized list with you at all times. I know I could come up with a more efficient method. use them! Lifemoney Currency It’s true – if you fail to plan. For tasks that don’t warrant being on my “things to do” list I leave items around my house as reminders. -Brad Turk 68 . do what works for you. you plan to fail. So if you need post its. I don’t recommend this method. your PDA or phone alarm as a reminder. Obviously. We need to take luck out of the equation. I do this. Learn how to use technology. I will do things like leaving a basketball by my front door. and I am happy with it. but it works. but it is visible and reminds me daily to get out and play. It is not in the way. 4. 3. With computer programs and organizers you can adjust lists quickly and neatly. Computer programs and electronic organizers can save you a lot of time over manual lists. Although I suggest technology.
When I started my career with MCI Telecommunications I had to learn my very first year how to overcome obstacles. with fewer expenses. taking market share away from MCI and AT&T. The MCI philosophy was “we’re selling on value. But MCI was not concerned with this. it is extremely difficult to sell value at two times the cost for the same product. because it mostly affected the smaller customers. Whatever obstacles have been preventing you from starting your journey. The difference between starters and finishers often comes down to how prepared they are to just keep going when trouble begins. Most of their larger customers simply wouldn’t take a chance with a smaller. There were a lot of smaller companies. not stumbling blocks in their path. These companies were offering rates that were about half the price of what we sold. not price. They step up and success is their reward. 69 . My problem was that I was the one handling those smaller customers. newer provider.” Unfortunately. Mental and physical preparation is essential to finishing any journey.Overcoming Obstacles Nothing Can Stop Me Now… …except obstacles. and you must be mentally prepared to deal with them. Successful people use their Lifemoney skills to look at obstacles as opportunities. I found that MCI was one of the highest-priced long distance service providers on the market at that time. The gap between Lifemoney and real money is how you choose to perceive the obstacles you’ll face. now is the time to knock them down forever. Adversity and obstacles will come up along the way whenever you start setting goals.
Lifemoney I quickly scrambled to find a solution. This was the beginning of a booming market. I was fortunate enough to look where others were not and I weathered the storm by linking to a product that was starting to turn hot: prepaid phone cards. Describe one of your main goals in a sentence or two. I started looking for other products to sell even though long distance was supposed to be our main focus. let’s adjust your action plan (from Exercise G) to take into account any obstacle you might expect to face. Below that. Lifemoney Currency “If you don’t like what’s on TV. Trying to make your goal appear easier to reach by writing fewer obstacles 70 . 95 left or got fired. I tried looking for things that other sales reps overlooked that would provide me a new selling opportunity. Be honest and write every obstacle and fear you can think of. Luckily. but one I might have overlooked if I hadn’t learned to overcome obstacles quickly. get up and change the channel!” -Drew Carey Goal Achievement Exercise J Take out your Workbook. Then come up with the solution/objective and an action plan. The turnover rate for my position that year was 95%. With firm goals and objectives in mind from Exercise F. I had to overcome this obstacle so that I would not be in jeopardy of losing my job. That meant that for every 100 reps starting at MCI. list possible or proven obstacles or fears that may be keeping you from reaching your goal.
find an online interest group. save money for classes. so you will need to spend some time figuring out the possible or probable barriers to your goals. Here’s an example of what your obstacle list and action plan could look like: Goal: To pilot my own airplane Obstacles: • I don’t know how to fly. These obstacles come in all sizes. It’s like your teachers used to say in school: “You’re only cheating yourself”. Objective: Find out about buying a used plane Action plan: Find out about bank loans. The idea is not to overwhelm yourself or get stressed out with a long list but to break down your objectives into steps that conquer all possible obstacles. and manageable. but they are action heroes. and colors for different people. Objective: Take Flying Lessons Action Plan: Research Classes. etc. start a savings account with regular deposits. clear. People just like you and I. etc. they add action to their goals and steps and turn dreams into reality. focused. So how do they do it? They are not superhuman. so that you will 71 . etc. Objective: Research planes and prices Action Plan: Go online and research planes. • I don’t have a plane. Each part of this process should be specific. • I can’t afford a plane.Overcoming Obstacles could end up delaying your hope of fulfilling your dreams. So is flying an airplane impossible? Of course not! People fly planes every day. shapes.
Lifemoney end up where you want to be. we learn from our success and failures to meet the next obstacle with even greater results. your real goal at first may seem almost impossible to reach. All you need to do is create a plan of options to overcome the challenges and follow specific action steps. stay clear. As with this goal of flying. Lifemoney Currency “They say if everything’s going your way. and 3. and manage your way to achieving your goals. you’re probably going the wrong way. All of these steps we have completed so far help you get focused. or even when we face them with not-so-successful results. Let’s examine each of these and ways you can beat them every time. Number 1: Procrastination 72 . That’s because life is supposed to be a challenge. It becomes easier to see that you can achieve your goal with a little bit of will power and motivation. 2. allowing failure to be an option. When we face challenges and overcome them. procrastination. you’re probably going the wrong way. They say if everything’s going your way.” -Brad Turk Three Huge Obstacles In my life as a successful businessman. I’ve run into 3 very specific obstacles that seem to affect a lot of people: 1. making excuses. the goal suddenly seems reachable. But when you break the “impossibility” down by analyzing the real (versus imagined) obstacles.
or avoid taking action steps once the plan is made.” “My wife’s nagging won’t let me think.” “I don’t have the help I need.” “My husband says it won’t work. procrastination is one of the worst enemies of success. (Time management is so important I’ve devoted an entire section to it in Lifemoney Lesson #4). Remember how in school some kids put more effort into making excuses for not doing homework than in completing assignments (I know because I was one of them)? That’s what happens after graduation. It’s easy to put off making a plan for starting the journey to your goals.” “I can’t find a minute to myself.Overcoming Obstacles There is one obstacle that rises above the rest: procrastination. To me. 73 . All the time that is wasted procrastinating is not putting us closer to reaching our goals.” “I’m over-committed already.” “I don’t know where to start. too.” “I’m too tired. Many of us put off and find reasons to avoid creating a plan that leads to valuable accomplishments.” “It costs too much. and some of us are experts at it. We say things like: “I’m too busy.” The list goes on and on. By procrastinating I mean putting off or delaying an action or task to a later time or date.” “The kids need me right now.
places (the mall). Don’t think about the whole thing. be they people (your lazy cousin Eddie). You tell T 74 . Just do it! Example: When it’s time to go to the gym. just go and focus on doing the weight training. Maybe after that is done and your body is in motion. Example: If you’re not feeling well and you are supposed to do cardio and weight training. You’ll feel better after you do. Just get up and go. some willing to work. or things (Xbox/housework/chores). do “a part” of the task. Even pick one of your favorite exercises to start. go. Or don’t think about not feeling that well at the moment. • Do a part of the task. We all know time-suckers. Instead of doing the dreaded cardio. the rest willing to let them. Which one do you want to be? Isn’t it time you stop playing victim and start working on your plan for personal success? I have listed some effective ways to overcome procrastination (and an example for each using the goal of getting in shape): • Just start! Don’t let any thoughts enter your mind and don’t think about the task. Don’t think to reschedule it for a better time.” -Robert Frost h i nk about that quote. Example: You are on the way to the gym and your buddy calls you to go out somewhere. you might be feeling up to doing the cardio. • Avoid people or things that will take you away from what needs to be done. Maybe a part that interests you most.Lifemoney Lifemoney Currency “The world is full of willing people.
not the task. colleague or friend. • Find a partner. not the steps it takes to get there. find a workout partner. Number 2: Allowing Failure to be an Option Goals and challenges should not be lightly undertaken. Example: If you need outside motivation. All successful people meet their obstacles 75 . While this may be extreme. and spend every waking minute realizing their goal. You need to be firm and stick to your plans and continue on to go to the gym. Then work on the task and write down how you feel now that you’ve done some or all of it – enjoy that sense of accomplishment. If failure is always an option then success may never be within reach for you. I’ve seen people literally write down “make a million dollars this year” on an index card. get a friend involved or find someone at the gym who keeps the same workout schedule. You can hire a trainer. which explains why a significant number will fail or relapse when the going gets tough. • Write down why you’re avoiding the task. For instance. Yet most of us grab onto great ideas for self-improvement without much thought.Overcoming Obstacles him you can’t but he is persistent. visualize the result you’re after. Example: If you don’t feel motivated to go to the gym and you dread having to go. Sometimes we just need a little outside perspective from a family member. he’ll be waiting for you when you’re done. think of how you are going to look at the beach. If he’s a real friend. fold it up in their wallet. • Focus on the results. Many successful people consciously visualize a result before beginning a task. don’t think of the exercises that you need to do.
The word on the street is that Sylvester Stallone got several offers on his script for the original Rocky movie. star and creator to see his project come to life. Stallone refused to fail. Even when some degree of success was in his reach – he was offered thousands of dollars to buy the script at a time when he and his wife really needed it – he saw a half-deal as a failed deal. then ask yourself questions like these right now to avoid making failure an option: • • • • • • What type of lifestyle changes do you plan to make? Do you need to move to a new place? Should you change jobs? Do you need a different eating plan? Do you need to make time to get more exercise? Which skills will you need to develop to improve your capabilities? 76 . If you’re ready to begin taking the action steps that will lead you to accomplish the objectives you’ve listed. but lost out on several of them because he believed he was the only actor who could pull off the lead role to his demanding specifications. Not allowing failure to be an option reminds me of the recent resurrection of the Rocky franchise in a sixth movie.Lifemoney head-on because they anticipate them and are prepared to do whatever it takes to overcome them. at last. he found a movie studio willing to buy both his script and his portrayal of the main character. How far are you willing to go for success? If you concede failure before you even begin. He persevered until. you may never know. Sylvester Stallone went through huge trials and tribulations as a writer. Much like the boxer in his now famous movie.
Overcoming Obstacles • • • • • Do you need technological expertise? Should you take a class? Should you attend a marriage seminar or see a marriage counselor? Should you seek help from a professional consultant? Who do you know that could be a possible business partner or help you connect with the right business partner? • Do you need to network with others in your field to enlarge your knowledge boundaries? • • • • Will your current job or career environment support these needed changes? Does your company recognize and reward growth? Can you make more money or advance more rapidly at another company? Does your company pay for tuition reimbursement? Answering these questions might require some habit changes. But it is never too late to achieve your desires. For example. Being a doctor has been her desire since she was a child. Changes could include switching to another hobby or wearing a nicotine patch on your bowling nights. This becomes a lifestyle challenge that you must address. you may be tempted to light up with your buddies at the bowling alley. At the age of forty. You might feel too old to reach your goals or that it is too late to realize your dreams. my sister enrolled in medical school. Emotionally speaking you may be thinking it’s too late for you to change. if you’re trying to stop smoking but go bowling every Thursday night with team members who smoke. Life circumstances and 77 .
Lifemoney daily distractions could have kept her dream from becoming a reality but she did not – she would not – let them. be definite and defined about the action you will take and when you will take it. Utilizing the Goal Achievement Exercise I you will have a different plan and deadlines set to meet your objectives. -Brad Turk 78 . the thing you were suppose to do did not get done. and approaching your supervisor at just the right time to maximize your chances for success. Your elaborate reasons will not impress anyone. But guess what? Excuses are worthless! There is never a need to make an excuse. Start with one goal at a time. The bottom line is. Number 3: Making Excuses Excuses are very powerful. Excuses are probably one of the biggest obstacles that keep you from achieving your goals. Your action steps might include dressing the part of the higher position. This is just not acceptable. working overtime to prove your usefulness. Rather than making excuses. they allow you to justify an action or inaction so you don’t have to feel guilty or justify what you can’t do. Lifemoney Currency If failure is always an option for you then success may never be. like earning more money by asking for a promotion. maybe even a small one. when you make an excuse for not doing something.
We need to do everything in our power to make them happen. We need to do everything in our power to make them happen. objectives. Whatever you do. I have a good idea of my action steps to reach each goal. _____ 2. and then tally your score. remember that when this process is complete you are ready to step on the gas and head on toward your destiny. timelines and an idea of some of the obstacles you’ll face. -Brad Turk Millionaire’s Checklist: Check all the items below that you agree with. 79 . Lifemoney Currency: Good things don’t just happen by themselves. Being prepared to face them is a huge factor in overcoming them when you meet them.Overcoming Obstacles Goal-Setting and Overcoming Obstacles Summary Good things don’t just happen by themselves. I am ready to create goals. Let me repeat: NEVER FORGET to anticipate that obstacles will come up. action steps. giving yourself 10 points for each checkmark and 0 points for any left blank: _____ 1. That means creating a written plan for reaching a specific goal. The plan should list the goal.
_____ 7.” -Brad Turk 80 . _____ 8. I am ready to stay committed to my written plan and see it through with daily reminders. I have created a timeline for my action steps that appears to be reasonable. I am ready to adopt the mindset of someone who will be successful. I am looking to see how technology can make my life easier. I plan to tackle the more difficult things on my “To do” list first. No excuses: I will not let myself off the hook. _____ 10. I have thought about some of the obstacles I may face.Lifemoney ___ 3. I have plans to fully and completely address all roadblocks to my success. Lifemoney Currency “Excuses will get you everywhere. Just not where you want to go. ______5. _____ 9. _____ 4. _____ 6.
' it would have made me actually look and feel ridiculous. My favorite is the one where a television anchorman says to the caveman. efficiency." Overview Success requires the right tools. good point. A Successful Person’s Tool Belt I love the Geico Insurance commercials that make fun of cavemen. discovering fire. well done. like walking upright. time management. awesome.” 81 . and laying the foundation for all mankind. This lesson outlines the five critical tools you’ll need to succeed in reaching your goals. It's quite obvious most of the people who turned up for this audition didn’t have the tools and were hopeless. The five tools are focus.Tools for Success Lifemoney Lesson # 4: Gathering the Tools for Success “If I said to most of the people who auditioned. priorities and commitment. Yeah. Learn to use these five with skill and you’ll achieve whatever you can dream. 'Good job. inventing the wheel. you’re right. “Face facts: historically you guys have struggled to adapt” to which the Caveman replies “Yeah.
cars or computers . Now that you’ve made up your mind to go after your dreams. There was a time when people had to be told how to use a telephone. Technology is just a tool.” -Tom Clancy 82 . nearly everything in our world is a tool.stoves. We create mental tools to help us achieve greatness as well. If you stop to think about it.Lifemoney We’ve been innovating and making tools since we lived in caves. Though different tools may suit different people best. Here are some of the strategic tools that will help you succeed in achieving whatever you dream: • Tool # 1: Focus • Tool # 2: Time Management • Tool # 3: Efficiency • Tool # 4: Priorities • Tool # 5: Commitment Lifemoney Currency “There was a time when nails were high-tech. Just look around you: for the most part we can run our whole lives by pushing buttons that activate machinery to do stuff for us. People use tools to improve their lives. successful people use many of the same mental tools – and use them well. Humans seem to have this built in tendency to create easier ways to do hard things with tools that we make.our tools surround us. you need to select and develop the tools that will help you achieve your goals. Whatever the task requires .
Tools for Success
Tool #1: Focus
Bruce Lee, the martial arts expert and movie star, once said, “The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.” Focus is something we don’t usually hear about but trust me: it is on the minds of every single successful person. Focus is exactly what the name implies; a narrowing of the lens until we get bullseye aim on our ultimate desire. We live in a world full of distractions. There are more TV channels than we can ever hope to watch, an entire industry devoted to creating computer/video games, four new movies to choose from each week, nearly 200,000 new books that get published each year and nearly that many new CDs. When you add in blogs to read, email to keep up with, instant messaging, cell phone calls, and all of the other daily distractions we deal with, it’s a miracle we get anything done at all! It is extremely important to stay focused on your goals. Don’t be distracted by external things. Distractions and challenges will come daily, if not hourly. These could involve the things mentioned above, people in your life, your job, your hobbies, or just about anything else that comes your way. Look past your obstacles and stay focused on where you’re going. This is how you handle obstacles effectively and keep yourself zeroed in on success. Notice I didn’t say you don’t have to deal with the obstacles – you just simply have to return your focus to your goal as soon as you deal with the obstacle. As you begin to recognize some of the common factors that have been sidetracking you and possibly bankrupting your motivation to accomplish goals, you will develop a clearer mindset on how to avoid distractions in the future so you can steadily pursue your personal vision of success.
“The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.” -Bruce Lee
Goal Achievement Exercise K
Take out your Workbook. List the typical distractions you face in a given week. From unwanted phone calls to sorting email, write down everything that takes time away from more important matters. Here are some possibilities: • • • • • Yard work House chores Chatty neighbors or co-workers Last-minute errands Television, computer, or video games
Beside each distraction, write one or two ways of seeing through the distraction, as shown in the following examples: 1. Yard work—get the kids to help more; hire someone to do it; schedule certain days for it. 2. Unplanned errands—do what you have to; postpone non-essentials. When you identify your most frequent distractions, you can stay more focused by spotting them early and seeing past them. The key to laser focus is recognizing what
Tools for Success throws you off focus and planning what you will do about it ahead of time. There is no substitute for knowing exactly what drags your focus off point.
“A major part of successful living lies in the ability to put first things first. Indeed the reason most major goals are not achieved is that we spend our time doing second things first.” -Robert J. McKain
Tool #2: Time Management
Imagine there is a bank that credits your account each morning with $86,000. It carries over no balance from day to day. Every evening the bank deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out ALL OF IT, of course! Each of us has a bank like this. It’s called TIME. Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off as lost whatever amount of that precious, precious time you failed to invest to good purpose. It carries no balance. It allows no overdraft. Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the day’s deposits, the loss is yours. There is no going back. There is no drawing against “tomorrow.” You must live in the present on today’s deposits.
Lifemoney Invest it so you get from it the utmost in health, happiness, and success. The clock is running. Make the most of today. Consider the following list which has circulated on email listservs many times. To realize the value of ONE YEAR, ask a student who failed a grade. To realize the value of ONE MONTH, ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby. To realize the value of ONE WEEK, ask the editor of a weekly newspaper. To realize the value of ONE HOUR, ask the lovers waiting to meet. To realize the value of ONE MINUTE, ask a person who missed a train. To realize the value of ONE SECOND, ask a person who just avoided an accident. To realize the value of ONE MILLI SECOND, ask the person who won silver in the Olympics. Time is far more valuable than money, personal resources, and sometimes even health. Why? Because it is the one thing you can never get back. Once a moment passes, it is gone forever. You have lost the chance to make good with it. All you will have is a memory. If you are wise you put your time to good use – just like you invest money in the bank. But if you are careless then time will be wasted, leaving no significant memories and giving you no investment for future use. Time is the ultimate variable between success and failure. It is extremely rare to find a successful person who doesn’t manage his or her time effectively. Find ways to
If you’re unclear about your objective you’ll be unclear about the time you’re spending. Extra snippets of time come in the most unlikely places. minutes. insists that she. 87 . Take it a step further and think of how much time we waste every single day. To manage your time better I would suggest four things. be very clear about what you’re trying to accomplish each day. days. enjoying your family. or useful for others or yourself. In his latest book. or reaching that goal you think you just don’t have time to reach. interesting. The next time you’re tempted to spend time where it won’t count for much. let alone two or three.Tools for Success manage time well and you become a master of extra hours. driving to the store. contributing to the community. ignore the invitation and do something constructive. busy with multiple high-profile projects including a daytime talk show and cookbook empire. Just pride yourself on finishing projects and never allowing them to linger unfinished. like building a career. think of the extra hours you could find just by adjusting to one less hour of sleep per night. talking over the fence to your neighbor. Trump: Think Like a Billionaire. First. only sleeps 4 or 5 hours a night. too. finish whatever you start. or browsing the classifieds or eBay for things you don’t need. months and even years. after 50 years you would have spent more than a year of your life “wasting time. Second. weeks. Rachel Ray. If you wasted just 30 minutes a day on surfing channels. Donald Trump suggests sleeping only 4 or 5 hours a night. Third.” Can you imagine being 74 years old and wishing you had another year to spend with family or making a contribution to society? Use your time wisely by preparing a balanced schedule that allows you to spend time doing all the things that mean something to you. While this may be extreme for you.
While many consider him the “King of Horror. except for three: his birthday. King has consistently published three or four novels per year. Lifemoney Currency “The bad news is time flies. money. energy. The good news is you're the pilot. Remember that your time is your time. King has long said he writes at least four hours a day. don’t give into time wasters. You are the only one who can guard your time – no one else will do that for you. It’s a good lesson for all of us: you might surprise yourself 88 . Carrie. The Green Mile and Hearts in Atlantis. or any other resource you have available. the Fourth of July and Christmas. all of them bestsellers and featuring such instantly recognizable titles as Cujo. Salem’s Lot.Michael Altshuler Tool #3: Efficiency Efficiency means finding ways to do things so they take less of your resources – whether that is time.” .Lifemoney spend time at the end of each day reviewing what you accomplished and make 3 or 4 solid objectives for the next day. How does one author manage such a staggering number of pages? The answer is efficiency. Someone who knows a little something about being efficient is Stephen King. Fourth. back in 1974. The Shining. every single day of the year.” the author is also the mind behind movies like Stand by Me. he is efficient with his time and committed to writing practically everyday. the author of some of the world’s most popular novels. So even though he is not working 10 hours a day on his books. Since publishing his first novel. and Misery.
when you get the chance to make decisions. Everything in life has a price tag. Goal Achievement Exercise L Take out your Workbook. but efficient work. some activities are more efficient in getting you 89 . weigh each one with a view to your goals. from time spent with friends to starting a home-based business. you may need to reconsider that decision. From now on.Tools for Success how much more you could produce in your own life with four highly concentrated and efficient hours per day of real work. You also should get in the habit of counting the “efficiency cost” of each decision you make. Not pushing paper or daydreaming. I would like you to list five things you are doing today that could be done more efficiently – and at least one step to boost your efficiency. In other words. Let’s do an efficiency exercise. “how will this clear the way to fulfilling my goal?” If you don’t have a ready answer. For instance: Current Activity: Not getting enough time in at the gym Efficiency Booster: Join a gym closer to home so less time is spent on the road to and from your workout Current Activity: Never finishing all the chores on my “to do” list Efficiency Booster: Make a rule that you won’t watch TV at night until you finish just one more item on your list Another way to become more efficient is to make choices that will lead you closer to your goals rather than away from them. My guess is that you will get more done in four focused hours than eight unfocused ones. Ask yourself.
but efficiency of performance is what wins the game for the team. Using time efficiently is a huge obstacle for many people who are would be success stories. To better manage your time and utilize your time more efficiently. Some things are worth their cost but others can end up draining your resources and bankrupting your investment. Ride your bike to work to relax and get some exercise. get in the habit of asking questions like these before making major. or even minor. That’s why you need to think long and hard about any long-term decision that may impact other areas of your life. In order to focus and spend your time more efficiently. especially future goals.Lifemoney toward your goals than others. I want you to realize a few things about time and think about ways you can use your time more efficiently. decisions: • • • • How much will this cost in terms of money. For that reason. consider making changes like these to enjoy life now while working toward a better one for the future: 1. time. and effort? What must I give up in order to make this work? How will this choice bring me closer to my long-term goal? Will this decision prove worthwhile in the future? Lifemoney Currency “A particular shot or way of moving the ball can be a player's personal signature. We often work so hard to “fit in” exercise that we either can’t do it or hate doing it because it took so much effort 90 .” -Pat Riley Ten Ways Time Really IS On Your Side We’ve just finished discussing Tool #2 – Time Management and Tool #3 Efficiency.
2. we can’t perform task after task without stretching our bodies. Things do not always go like clockwork. 6. and make any needed adjustment. Set aside “unwind time” after work or school. cars break down and bosses demand overtime when you least expect it. spouses need our help. When viewed wisely. neither of which fosters success. Watch less TV and do something more productive. When our “To Do” lists are too full. like getting to work or going to the store.Tools for Success to accomplish in the first place. 5. kids get sick. Unfulfilled lists lead to depression and disappointment. This helps to assure only important emails get through so that you don’t waste anymore of your precious time on email that literally doesn’t matter. between important tasks. Don’t overfill your “To Do” list. What would you do with 7 extra hours per week? Watch one less hour of TV per night and you’ll soon find out! 3. which can be as little as fifteen to thirty minutes. 91 . Setting aside one hour at the end of every week to analyze how well. they often remain unfulfilled. you managed your time that week can save you hours the following week by learning from your mistakes. Eliminate the hassle by making something you have to do anyway. exercise. or both. 4. with planning and forethought. Don’t rush through every day without examining where you’re going and how long it’s taking you to get there. When we schedule a block of time. most don’t. or poorly. Monitor how you’re spending your time. We are not computers. television can be a valuable tool. we tend to perform those tasks more efficiently. Many programs offer everything from stock tips to weight loss programs to informational documentaries. Get a Spam filter for your e-mail. minds.
you would not have a roof over your head. get dressed.” Never waste an opportunity to learn. If you’re stuck in traffic. Think of the day you were sick in bed. You get up. Without those paychecks. 8. in restaurants. food to eat. there would be so much less to worry about. “Worry is not thought. and even the average Joe have their best ideas at the worst possible times – those times when they have nothing to capture that idea. we gain not just precious moments but momentum. Only focus on things you can control. the day begins with the priority of going to work and chasing a paycheck. especially when it’s spent in waiting rooms. Mason Cooley once said.Lifemoney 7. complaining is not action. 92 . Take a break to relax and listen to music. creative people. or a car to drive. and get going to a job so you can take home a paycheck every few weeks. Always carry something to capture your ideas. Use waiting periods wisely. don’t worry about the rest. lobby lines. Tool #4: Priorities What are the priorities in your life? For many. waiting for appointments. wishing you could be outside. etc. Consider carrying a small notepad and pen with you at all times – or even just a couple of index cards tucked in a pocket or purse with a pen so that when you get a great idea while standing in line you have somewhere to safely store it until you can turn that idea into reality.” If we could save all the time we spend on worrying and complaining about things we can’t control and apply it to things we can. I usually use car time to catch up on calls that I need to make. Appreciate unexpected delays. 10. even when it’s spent waiting for things. Entrepreneurs. 9. When we learn to use our time – all of our time – wisely. open the window and enjoy the air. Bring a book to all your “doctors visits.
Grab a pen and pad (or your laptop computer) and go to the kitchen table or to the park and just start writing – now.” That is why you need to prioritize your goals and make them part of everyday reality: if you don’t. something or someone important is going to get short changed. Finish what you start when you start something. Second. and take time to spend with the ones you love. complete all the important things at the beginning of each day. There will only be one of two reasons you don’t finish: either you found a better way to do the project or you feel that the task is not going to be worthwhile and thoughtfully bail out. 93 . Don’t do busy work. Don’t multi-task and try to accomplish too many things at once. focus on writing and not the collateral activities that might make writing that letter easier. The third suggestion for prioritizing. Focus on one step at a time. How should you start the process of prioritizing all the important people and events in your life? Start by asking yourself “Do I know how to give 100 percent?” Chances are the answer will be “no. Choose a priority and be a finisher. You come home to people that mean a lot to you. don’t spend three hours cleaning your desk so you can get started. Then commit to giving your best to your life and to your goals daily. The need for a clean desk before you can begin is less a necessity and more of an obstacle.Tools for Success Another priority for many people is their relationship with family members and friends. If your goal is to write a letter to someone. In other words. I have found this to be the only way I’ve been able to maintain my various business enterprises successfully. You can easily become distracted doing this and usually nothing gets done right. Do whatever you’re doing all the way.
Mother Teresa. Even though I had to share the profits. and Albert Einstein. don’t be afraid to say “no. Lifemoney Currency “Don’t say you don’t have enough time. I never answer my phone unless it is a call I’m expecting. Take on only what you want to do and say no to the rest. give up the little things that scatter your time and energy.” -H. One example from my life is that I pay to have my laundry done. Get a caller ID or another screening device for your phone to avoid sales calls or conversations with people who do not respect your personal time. Fifth. I would often share sales opportunities and business deals so that I would have less work to do. I could do it myself. Jackson Brown 94 . Sure. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller. create a sense of urgency for important activities that are going to be meaningful in your life. There’s no point wasting valuable minutes listening to a telemarketer selling me some new phone service I don’t want or need. Leonardo da Vinci. Together. Pay less attention to things that come up but have no relevance to your goal. Michelangelo. Pasteur. Sometimes you might want to consider sharing profits or payoffs in order to get needed help. it was worth it to me. But why spend hours handling that task when my time can be put to better use? Last. Thomas Jefferson. my partners and I had a synergy allowing us to accomplish more in less time.” Delegate worthwhile projects that can be handled by someone else.Lifemoney Fourth. That will only take me away from my priorities. and freed up some of my time to work on other priorities. Your time belongs to you.
he had not missed a single week of working out. as he calls it) for over ten years. consistently. a key part of your lifestyle. he told me that he hit the gym five times a week. eating. you need to make your goals – things to do – daily activities. I was amazed at his dedication and commitment. In the last ten years. when someone buys a house. When we make an appointment to see the doctor. However. Then the real embarrassment came: after going over his working arrangement. Most people take that commitment very seriously and will make all types of sacrifices to meet this obligation. or sleeping. I have a friend who has been bodybuilding (or body sculpting. it was like brushing his teeth. It was something he had to do. would you? 95 . besides his normal two week break.Tools for Success Tool #5: Do or Die Trying Commitment Most people are very good at keeping “commitments” to others. For example. His response was that working out was one of his daily events. You wouldn’t go a whole day without eating. we feel obligated to keep that date. few of us make that type of do or die trying level of commitment to ourselves and our own goals or even to the commitments we make to others that may help them reach their goals. we call it a mortgage. In the same way. they make a commitment to the bank. I learned that through most of those ten years he had worked 10-14 hour days between his job as a paramedic and a bartender! I asked him how he found the time and energy for working out at this pace. When I was talking to him about his workout plan. My response to him at that time was that I would love to make that commitment but that I was too busy for that type of schedule.
200 books will be shipped in the next 12 months with the wrong cover 5. 1. He set a goal and did not stop until he reached it. 22. Follow through. because a 99.314 phone calls will be misplaced by telecommunication services every minute 12 babies will be given to the wrong parents each day 268. give 100%.488. You have no choice really. Go big or go home.517. He wanted to run in order to raise money for health-care and education initiatives benefiting the Children's Hope Foundation.200 gallons of coffee assumed to be caffeinated will turn out to be decaf but consumed nonetheless in just one tax firm during the 1991 tax season • • • 103. Daddy's House Social Programs and the public schools of New York City. this was based on a study done in the 1990’s that circulated in email: • • • • • • Two million documents will be lost by the IRS this year.9% effort were given. He went from hanging out and drinking at clubs (I know. Here’s a breakdown of how things might look if only 99.2 miles.Lifemoney Another great example of commitment would be Sean “Diddy” Combs running the New York City marathon. I saw him) to a few months later running 26.000 checks will be deducted from wrong bank accounts in the next 60 minutes.200 cases of soft drinks produced in the next 12 months will be flatter than a bad tire • Two plane landings daily at O’Hare International Airport in Chicago will be unsafe 96 .260 income tax returns will be processed incorrectly this year 2. Now that’s commitment! Especially for someone as busy as he is with a priority list longer than you can imagine.9% effort will not get you where you want to go.500 defective personal computers will be shipped this year 2.
900 will be spent in the next 12 months on tapes and CD’s that won’t play 107 incorrect medical procedures will be performed by the end of the day today 315 entries in Webster’s Third New International Dictionary of the English Language (unabridged) will turn out to be misspelled.000 incorrect drug prescriptions will be written in the next 12 months 114.500 mismatched pairs of shoes will be shipped this year $761. He even went so far as to tell Jamie that he “would not waste one inch of film on him.” He did not believe Jamie could pull off the part.056 copies of tomorrow’s Wall Street Journal will be missing one of the three sections • • • 18.Tools for Success • 3.690 will be spent today. sporting equipment • • • • • • 55 malfunctioning ATMs will be installed in the next 12 months 20.000 credit cards in circulation will turn out to have incorrect cardholder information on their magnetic strips • $9. next Thursday and every day in the future on defective. wanted nothing to do with Jamie. Jamie was already a 97 . Jamie could have easily walked away. Any Given Sunday. Do You Have the Pit Bull Mentality? I think another illustration of how successful people stay committed to what they want is when the actor/comedian Jamie Foxx auditioned for the role of Willie Beamen in the classic movie about pro football. The director.322 pieces of mail will be mishandled in the next hour 291 pacemaker operations will be performed incorrectly this year 880. tomorrow. saying Oliver Stone didn’t know what he was talking about. Oliver Stone. often unsafe.
I think it is fair to say that although it turned out to be a great part for him. Roc.Lifemoney successful comedian/actor. they are confident in their abilities and they stay committed until the task is accomplished. They are humble enough not to think they are too good to put in the extra effort. Lifemoney Currency Never. I heard that after Oliver saw the audition tape. He had also starred in several movies by this point. First. and he had already done many TV shows like In Living Color. he said that he couldn’t make the movie without Jamie. at that point in his career he did not need the role. But that’s not how Jamie viewed and approached it. Cooper. never give up. practice wise time management to avoid wasting valuable time – the one resource you can never get more of because once a 98 . So that’s how successful people handle getting something that they want. Jamie took it upon himself (on his own time and with his own resources) to make an audition tape for Oliver Stone to show the director why Jamie was the perfect actor for the part. never. Second. The Jamie Foxx Show. remember to get and stay focused on success. He had his own TV show. Moesha and Hanging with Mr. -Winston Churchill Gathering the Tools for Success Summary The Five Tools of Success we learned about in this Lifemoney Lesson are all about developing your mental tools to get the job done of reaching your goals.
work hard to eliminate the “white noise” of your daily activities and learn to pay attention to the things that are truly meaningful – your priorities. talents. make efficient use of your time. minute. and resources. Third.Tools for Success second. you go to it. make a commitment to embrace your goals and make them part of your life. Last. Lifemoney Currency ”Success doesn’t come to you. Fourth. or hour passes it is gone.” -My Mother 99 .
_____ 4.Lifemoney Millionaire’s Checklist: Check all the items below that you agree with. _____ 6. I am taking steps to avoid or redirect or see beyond these distractions. _____ 7. _____ 10. I am “do or die” committed to doing what it takes to reach my goals. I have begun sorting high priorities from non-essentials. Lifemoney Currency ”What you can’t fix. I have evaluated my schedule and am eliminating the time-wasters. I have made a list of the major distractions in my life. I am determined to include my goals in daily lifestyle activities. I am taking specific steps to make better use of my time. I have identified my focus and am ready to pursue it wholeheartedly. _____ 3. _____ 2. I am learning to make choices that will lead me toward my dreams. _____ 5. _____ 8. I am willing to delegate some tasks to others. and then tally your score. _____ 9. change or impact – You can’t worry about” -Brad Turk 100 . giving yourself 10 points for each checkmark and 0 points for any left blank: _____ 1.
” -Christopher Gardner Overview Finally. You add them all up. to 101 . but just starting down the road to success is one small step for you. Gardner believes he has over $600 in the bank. only to find out later that the IRS has seized the bulk of the account.Evaluating Progress Lifemoney Lesson # 5: Evaluating Your Progress “Baby steps count. At one pivotal point in the movie. Progress Report When Will Smith played the lead character in The Pursuit of Happyness. and one day you look back and you’ll be surprised at where you might get to. Now it’s time to capitalize on this momentum and utilize Lifemoney Lesson #5: Evaluating Your Progress. as long as you are going forward. your plans for reaching your goals are in play. one giant leap for your life. he took on the role of a complicated. compassionate and ultimately successful man named Christopher Gardner. You may not feel like you’re making much progress yet.
let’s say you plan to launch your own line of T-shirts with clever sayings printed on them.000 for everything you need to get started. Busy work doesn’t get it. But don’t worry: patience and paying attention brings progress toward your goal. The resulting loss sent Chris and his young son onto the street. When things take time. to do everything that you want or need for your dreams to become reality. shipping and delivery of the first 2. filled out paperwork for an extension.Lifemoney the tune of $600. 102 . it will most likely take months. where they remained homeless until Gardner could complete a grueling internship program for Dean Witter. or simply withdrawn the money – in other words evaluated his position and adjusted – the nightmare period in his life might not have occurred. Why is this so important? Most of our goals take longer than a few hours or even just a few days it reach. you need your plan clearly laid out and a means to track how you’re doing. including printing. Instead. it’s easy to wander and not finish the essential steps that lead to your goal. What do I mean by “evaluate his position and adjust?” Hopefully you have already fallen into a schedule of activities that are moving you forward. Luckily Chris’s other Lifemoney skills compensated and he was able to build a bright future. But this motion is not complete unless you are taking active steps to measure your progress and know where you are on your journey at all times.500 shirts to local retailers. It will cost about $5. You’ve decided that you’re going to launch your t-shirt line six months from now. While the event seems tragic. in retrospect even Chris Gardner can admit that if he’d paid his taxes before hand. and literally withdrawn it from the account. if not years. For example.
What happened? Most likely – you made a bad assumption. Keep it simple. The simple reality is you need one single visual reminder of what you want. We often just assume things are going to work out once we have our plan in place. This messes you up because initially you only needed to deposit $110 in the account each month. I prefer a big calendar. Don’t forget the map! The solution to this common problem is either a chart of your own making. Was it out of reach? No. but a big 103 . and you recall spending $300 to get a new bicycle. electronic calendar or some other external system. What happened? Well. you simply failed to keep track of your progress.Evaluating Progress Now let’s say you have been saving for a year and have six more months to go as you continue putting the rest of the puzzle-pieces – printing. Was the goal bad? No. Were you on track? Yes. or about $160 monthly. This means that you will need to save $960 in the next six months.040 in your money market fund. It’s been a year since you made the decision to launch. so you decide it’s time to check your savings growth to be sure you will have enough money when the time comes to launch your line. But when you check you notice that there is only $4. In this example. A few hundred dollars doesn’t seem like much but sometimes it is the difference between success and failure. but by all means use something. where you’re going and how you’re doing. a daytimer. if we hadn’t checked our progress we’d have found ourselves a few hundred dollars short when the time came to launch. shipping and delivery – into place. What might have happened if you didn’t take notice that you took out all that money? You would have failed to achieve your goal.
Action Steps: This is where I keep track of the simple steps I will need to do to accomplish my objectives. I write these action steps in clear and direct language using 104 . As always. so I’ve broken down my own personal system into five easy to monitor factors. I make sure I regularly review my objectives.Lifemoney piece of paper would do. Written goals are powerful. Let’s find out what they are. 2. Objective: It is here that I write the specific objectives I’m trying to accomplish that are critical in reaching my goal. Remember from Lesson #3 these are like “mini” goals that help you reach the larger goal or break the larger goal down into easier pieces. I found that writing them down not only keeps them fresh in my mind but leads me toward acting upon them. I monitor them on a grid which I will introduce shortly (these pieces of information can be derived largely from the work we’ve done in the previous goal achievement exercises). They are items that need to be accomplished to get me further toward my goal. As you can probably tell. It’s important to monitor each goal separately so use a separate sheet/planner for each goal. 3. List a Goal: This is where I simply write out my goal – one goal per sheet. Your reminder system should have several key components. I’m addicted to simplicity. and putting them in a place where they can be reviewed regularly is a huge part of making them a reality. make this sheet physically easy to see as you go through your day. I would suggest that you go back to Lesson #3 and review/use the goals you set for yourself in Exercise F. Here are my basic elements: 1. Also. feel free to use your own system or means of tracking or modify the one you’ll find in the next exercise if you have something that works for you.
Completion: I always mark the date when I’ve achieved each objective. but below is a model that provides an idea of how yours might look. 105 .Evaluating Progress action oriented words. as well as your response to them. Now it’s your turn. I reach my objectives. Create a grid that lists basic steps for reaching your goals. Outcome: This is a clear statement of exactly what I expect to happen as a result of setting my goal. Goal Achievement Exercise M Take out your Workbook. Take it out for review often to make sure you are headed in the right direction. I will reach my goal. Closure on my objective always makes me feel good. If I reach my objectives. and keeps you in touch with the realities needed to make your goals happen. 5. and is a great marker of progress toward my goal. If I do all my action steps. the more accurately I can tell if I’ve reached what I originally envisioned. I am going to use an example of setting a goal of becoming a better golfer in a year. You may need to change the grid occasionally to reflect new stages of your plan’s evolution. How you arrange your grid is up to you. a popular time of year for making new resolutions or resetting ongoing goals. creating objectives and action steps. You can find lists of action verbs by doing a quick Google search for lists of action verbs. 4. We’ll start with January. Charting your journey in writing helps to make the whole process seem more real. I have found that the more specifically this is worded.
and equipment of golf. to work toward your goal. Some weeks. I will get expert help and assessment. will be spent revisiting an earlier action step. Year-round practice will improve my skills. When you go back and check your grid periodically. after telephoning the toll-free number during the 4th week of January to request your subscription to the golf magazine. Read one golf magazine article per week to learn more. I will make the time to sign up for lessons and commit an hour a week to practice. Outcome I will enjoy my golf game more and feel a sense of accomplishment. Date Completed You can see how easy it is to fill in each week with activities related to your personal quest. pros. I will surf Internet for local golf pros. Action Step I will take 2 hours during the first week of this month to write out my plan. Objective I will maintain a complete plan for attaining my goal of becoming a scratch player. For instance. you can quickly and objectively measure your devotion and success in chasing your dream. Learn terms. Call for subscription to Golf Digest. keeping a grid like this one will show at a glance what you are doing. and how often.Lifemoney Goal: Become a Scratch Golfer In Two Years Date January Week #1 January Week #2 January Week #3 January Week #4 Practice indoors during bad weather for an hour per week. Enjoy the thrill of getting better. Even if you don’t fill every moment with related tasks. you may spend another week in January (or whenever the first issue comes) reading articles from the publication as your action steps for those weeks. 106 . Check yellow pages for indoor putting green. by the way.
Maintaining Your Course So what can you do to make sure you’re headed in the right direction? Here are a few tips for realigning your journey with the original goals that motivated your action plan.” To get better information ask. and you found little change in the numbers after a few months. For example. This is good. If. even if that means rotating new activities through the process until you find one that works best for you.Evaluating Progress If you decide to change your goal for whatever reason. Find something that works. you are now going to get a few things that they were not that excited about. Evaluate the input. To find out if you’re off track I suggest you find out what you did wrong. remember to adjust the steps to getting there.” This makes them think. “Please tell me the three things you liked least about what I did. for example. chances are it is correct. I liked it all. Ask for outside input from people you trust to be honest. if your goal was to lower your blood pressure through a diet adjustment that reduced your daily intake of salt. the diet routine. Ask good questions Most people want to know what they did right. 107 . you could switch to a physical activity approach in conjunction with. Fortunately and unfortunately. you ask a trusted person “What do you think I did wrong?” I can almost promise you the answer will be. If you get the same input from different sources. Make it easier for them to evaluate you by asking the right questions. “You did nothing wrong. or instead of. it also forces them to be specific.
and thanks to a few good friends and trusted experts was able to refocus on the things that were most important to me. If you argue or make excuses. practice what I call the 4-BE System: • • • • BE objective BE open-minded BE sure to listen and see if it is accurate BE honest with yourself. people will stop telling you what they really think and say only what you want to hear. Read some of these famous examples of very wrong opinions: • Paul Orfalea who founded Kinkos and eventually sold it to FedEx for $2. He was told that his best hopes for a career would be as a carpet layer.4 billion was thrown out of 2nd grade. however. Don’t be afraid to be off track—or even outright wrong. don’t reject impressions just because they are negative. Keep in mind that not all opinions you get will be accurate. It also lets us know how others see us. Analyze the critiques and use them as you see fit. just listen carefully and ask how you can do it better. In 3rd grade he was sent to a school for mentally challenged children. You don’t have to take every piece of advice that’s offered. Before you open yourself up to criticism. I’ve been wrong on many occasions. You’re allowed to discard opinions if you have a strong impulse that they are wrong. 108 . When someone tells you point-blank that you’re going about something all wrong. which is totally worthless. Criticism is good – it lets us see a different side of ourselves.Lifemoney Welcome criticism Some of the comments you receive might include criticism.
Good thing he didn't. Yet. Registering for a financial planning seminar. where you want to be. Before being home-schooled he was kicked out of three schools. taking a personal finance class. With his creative mind he patented over ten thousand inventions. and how to get there in the most efficient way. or we wouldn't have his incredible. He wasn't a linear thinker and couldn't go from point A to point B the way his teachers wanted. including the light bulb. • • Walt Disney was once fired for a lack of "good ideas. founder of Woolworth’s and modern department stores.Evaluating Progress • Thomas Edison was told he was not teachable. Woolworth. or attending a money management workshop are additional ways of becoming more knowledgeable. far-reaching. His bosses thought he lacked the common sense. that he was a screw-up. Seek the input of experts Ask experts who know more about the subject than you do for their opinions about your progress to date. His last headmaster said he'd never make it. For example. Get enough information to provide a clear picture of where you are currently. he never gave up. • Albert Einstein struggled in high school math. and creative theory of relativity that has shaped modern physics. His name was F. the phonograph. You might even want to get several opinions and weigh several options before making a final decision.W.” There was once a twenty-one year old who wasn’t allowed to talk to the customers. and film. These also help to make sure you have a realistic goal set and that your 109 . if your goal is to retire at age 45 meet with a financial planner. or an investment agent to discuss planning strategies that can make this possible. your banker.
Above all remember. this is the time to reevaluate your goal. or meeting someone and falling in love. daily steps that carry us the furthest distance.What If You’re Way Off Track? Things happen in life that cause us to get way off track – a vehicle accident. O. you still have time to adjust your plan to maximize your chances for success. you may get off 110 .K…. Notes to yourself. a death in the family. carefully used can allow you to see at a glance whether you are maintaining the pace you have set for yourself. your plan. Your best skill is your ability to write things down and track yourself. I just can’t stress how important note keeping has been to me to evaluate my progress on a regular basis. a great new job offer that comes unexpectedly. As you try to achieve your goals. Are they moving you toward your goals? Review your “To Do” list to see what percentage of tasks get completed each day. Some people even use something as simple as notes. as long as you continue to make steady progress. If not. Watch your goal progress closely Check your daily activities. If after checking yourself you find that you are falling behind in daily activities that move you toward your goal. KEEP IT SIMPLE by using the graph I’ve described or some other simple system of your own. keep track of your progress. and your progress to see if adjustments are needed for a better chance at a successful outcome.Lifemoney plan for reaching your goal will allow you enough time to meet the goal. Either is fine. the loss of a job. Four hours on Saturday working toward your goal is still less than an hour daily for six days a week. Are some carried over for long periods of time? Are you making substitutions for temporary pleasures that eat up your time and resources without bringing you closer to lasting fulfillment? Remember that it is the small.
You stop exercising or you start watching a new television series that leads to another new show to another and to another. Then move on to do the same with larger tasks. And don’t forget that sometimes you get off track due to internal factors rather than external ones. properly aligned and refocused. List the five most common criticisms you hear about yourself. • • • • • • • “You have trouble following through to get things done.” “You’re stubborn and won’t do as you’re asked. Don’t beat yourself up for being normal.” “You work slowly. Here are some examples to get you started. Goal Achievement Exercise N Take out your Workbook. “You always complain and never offer solutions. take this information and use it to your advantage. There are some very good action steps you can take to get yourself going again. and then outline action steps you can take to address these. Your response might include action steps like these: • Track several small tasks to be sure you finish them correctly and on time. We’re going to address some of the internal areas that may get you off track to achieving your goals.” “You’re attitude is bad. the faster you can get on your way.” “You’re always late. 111 . The faster you uncover the weakness within you and address it.Evaluating Progress track too.” Rather than being upset or offended.” “I have to constantly watch you because you waste so much time.
Set a timer and trying to beat it on a certain task – just be sure you do the task correctly. you will lose track and wander in pursuit of your goals. Then be proactive in making changes to benefit yourself and others. Keep these keys in mind: 1. Especially honesty with yourself about your own weak spots. Write down the smaller. come up with a clever solution to some problem the boss is having.Lifemoney • • • • Make it a point of pride to be at work 15 minutes early Go overboard to do exactly as you’re asked without backtalk Work on being an encourager to others Step up your pace at work. break the goals up into smaller. there are many things you can do to address problem areas and turn them around to make negatives into positives. Break big tasks into smaller ones: If you are failing to achieve each of your outcomes. • • Finish the task at hand and ask for something to do next. Better yet. more specific steps you 112 . more doable chunks that you make note of it in your planner. I strongly suggest that if you break your tasks down into smaller. gut-level honesty. Being honest with yourself is a powerful tool. 2. If you don’t make notes of how you’ve broken down your duties. Be honest in soliciting opinions from others and acknowledging your weak areas. Fortunately. The next time you have a problem you aren’t sure of the solution for offer one or two alternatives for solving the problem. daily pieces that when completed will gradually accumulate and lead to success. Admit your weaknesses quickly: Every single successful person I’ve ever known understands the power and advantage of pure.
Meet with your mentor every other week for feedback. take personal responsibility for the difficulties encountered in your quest. weekly. Make one sales call daily at least five days per week. Work on replacing a bad habit with a good one each month. i. Here are examples of small activities that can be conducted daily. Contact at least one new potential employer each week. Have a weekly date with your spouse or child to improve family relations. d. Seek out successful people for advice: Free advice is all around you. f. e. 4. Seek it out and you’ll find more encouragement than you’ll be able to handle. and be willing to make the necessary changes that will help to ensure success. b. as well as find inspiration to help you continue to achieve your goals. daily. (I speak much more about this in Lifemoney Lesson #6. Learn something new related to your goal every month. h. Check out at least one set of blueprints for your dream home each month.) g.Evaluating Progress intend to take. Save at least $10 per day for an average of $300 per month or $3600 per year. or monthly and recorded in your planner as tangible evidence of your ongoing efforts: a. you will be amazed to see how much you’ve actually accomplished. Read a self-help book related to your goal. 113 . Stop and reflect on your life more often: When you stop and reflect on your life every month or two. Review your written goals more regularly (hourly. j. 3. Resourcefulness). Whatever you do. c. etc.
evaluate your progress thoroughly. Make a visual reminder – like the grid I use . To tell the complete story. and then give it all you’ve got! Lifemoney Currency “Dreams are real. plan to re-assess your progress. If anything has changed since you began the quest. After taking action steps toward your objectives and ultimately the goal. but that’s fine as long as you don’t abandon the journey. factor it into the equation.” -Winston Churchill Evaluating Your Progress Summary Successful people don’t just spring out of nowhere.Lifemoney Lifemoney Currency “The price of greatness is responsibility. living. If you feel that you are unable to follow the timeline or stay with the quest. realistically – and often. as well as anything that remains unfinished.to determine what you are able to complete on time. Do this assessment frequently. Come back to your journey when your batteries are recharged. You may have to revise your daily or weekly goals from time to time. take a short break to renew your mind.” 114 -Brad Turk . breathing things and you can see them every day – when you chart their progress in a way that is real and authentic to you. Every success story is written with dozens of action plans that were brought to fruition through focus and commitment.
I will be quick to admit my weaknesses _____ 7. _____ 9.” -Brad Turk 115 . I will check the grid periodically and make any needed changes. I will create a grid for recording action steps that lead to my objectives. I am going to regularly check my progress toward reaching my goals. I have the names of several people I trust to give me good personal feedback. I will solicit feedback from experts.Evaluating Progress Millionaire’s Checklist: Check all the items below that you agree with. _____ 2. In gathering feedback I will ask good questions. giving yourself 10 points for each checkmark and 0 points for any left blank: _____ 1. _____ 10. _____ 6. _____ 8. I will make efforts to change or eliminate bad habits. I will invite and accept criticism that is given with a view to helping me. _____ 4. along with my progress at regular intervals. Lifemoney Currency “Be consistently consistent. and then tally your score. I will reevaluate my goal. _____ 3. _____ 5.
” Overview Everyone struggles to meet their goals. This Lifemoney Lesson is about focusing all the resources at your disposal on overcoming challenges and making your dreams a reality. whose net worth is estimated to be $320 million. It’s how you handle the resistance that leads you to success. knows firsthand what it means to be resourceful. Can’t Get a Job? Buy the Company! Platinum selling rapper Jay Z (Sean Carter). We are stronger and more resourceful than we know. and we can endure much more than we think we can. who was brought up in the Marcy projects in Brooklyn.Lifemoney Lifemoney Lesson # 6: Resourcefulness “We are all capable of infinitely more than we believe. everyone encounters resistance along the way. 116 . had to create his own destiny. When things don’t go as planned. Sean. you need to look for other routes or means of help.
When faced with resistance he responded by finding solutions to his problems. Other ventures of his are Armadale vodka. but the careers of many other superstars. So much for the opinion that he had no talent! Where did this empire come from? Simple: it stems from Jay Z’s resourcefulness. Carter line of Reebok sneakers. with 18 Grammy nominations and 5 Grammy wins. he needed to be a businessman as well. which launched not only his career. you might be filled with 117 . No one seemed to be interested in his music or recognizing his understanding of the music business. which was the fastest selling Reebok shoe in history and made him the first non-athlete to have a signature line of sneakers. Jay-Z became one of the most respected rappers in the music industry. which eventually shaped his destiny.” but over it. he also expanded the Roc-A-Fella empire.a very successful clothing line.” And that’s what he did! He co-founded Roc-A-Fella Records. around it or. part ownership of the NBA New Jersey Nets and the S. including Kanye West. in some cases. Being a talent was not good enough to attain his success. I was forced to be like a businessman because when I was trying to get a record deal…it was either give up or create my own company. the 40/40 Club in New York City. “I was forced to be an artist and a CEO from the beginning. under it. How resourceful are you? Could you overcome adversity by thinking not just “outside the box. He has a willingness to find any way to achieve his goals. right smack through it? As you begin your journey to reaching your goals. Sean was unable to get a record deal. which includes Roc-A-Fella Films and Rocawear .Resourcefulness When he first started out. In addition to becoming the President of Def Jam Recordings.
You may be thinking. Successful people never hesitate to look for resources that can mean the difference between success and failure. Either way. The resources you’ll need to tap into can come from inside yourself or from around you. you can find resources that will make all the difference in your search. then slap yourself in the face. or mediocrity and brilliance. turn on the light. You’re going to need to be resourceful no matter how much you have going for you. “I’ve never felt better! I have a sense of purpose. the more likely you are to run into something unpredictable.Lifemoney confidence. no matter who you are or where you’re headed you need to focus on using these resources to get through the challenges you are going to face. do surgery with a pocket knife and 118 . run some cold water over your hands. They might come from your creative imagination or perhaps from the lives of other people. This lesson points out some useful resources and answers for the troubles you will encounter on your journey. and I know exactly what I have to do to reach my goals. With a little bit of effort and some common sense. What do I need to be resourceful for?” Do yourself a favor: go into your bathroom." -MacGyver MacGyver It! Remember that great series on television called MacGyver? It was about a resourceful guy that could build radios with coconuts. Lifemoney Currency "I've found from past experiences that the tighter your plan.
You’ll have to learn to let your mind go in this fashion. if we take the time to fully analyze a problem there’s a very good chance we can figure out a solution on our own just using what we know. 119 . I want to make four suggestions for being more resourceful. these four insights are a great place to begin thinking about your own resources and how you utilize them: 1. The trick is to keep your mind focused on what you want. wild and fun solutions. Though you may not end up being MacGyver. and then brainstorm big. He was the picture of resourcefulness. These are four ways of thinking that have made me a better businessman and human being. and when it comes to succeeding in your life. expensive. Clever. even if you’re unsure of the outcome. Did you ever consult someone about a problem you were having. you must be the same way. He was never played out.Resourcefulness make a computer out of duct tape. and realize that often the reason you’re stuck is because you’re not thinking big enough. You can always do something. 2. Relax and think: don’t let the complexity of a problem paralyze you. big thinker. Take stock of the situation to see what you can do. he could always find a fix to any obstacle he faced using just what he had around him. Take the time to take stock of the situation and think on your own. Never discount crazy thoughts and always try to open your imagination to bigger and more daring ideas. but the natural resourcefulness of your mind will reward you with many great and doable ideas. Take time to jot down problems for which you’re seeking solutions. resourceful problem solvers are some of the most open-minded thinkers I know. Be an open-minded. only to be told something you already knew? Often.
I was trying to launch my business and wanted professionals and industry experts to take me seriously. ask over and over again. I have a baby face. I look a lot younger than my real age. George and I appeared to meet expectations for maturity and sophistication. “Why? Why? Why?” And never be afraid to ask what you think is a dumb question. Don’t be afraid to ask questions from people who know.Lifemoney Let me give you personal example of an idea that was pure Lifemoney resourcefulness. As you can see on the cover of this book. 3. over a microphone to your computer. and in a moment of wide-open. Make sure you capture those ideas somehow – in paper. Be a pest. When attending a high-power meeting I’d take along a good friend. big thinking I created a great solution. 120 . Instead of focusing on what I could not change—my appearance—I worked on another aspect I could change by taking along a friend who helped to balance my looks. At twenty-five. That’s how you learn. I looked nineteen. Become four years old again. As an entrepreneur or creative thinker or just someone who develops their Lifemoney skills you’ll find that you have so many new ideas that you don’t have time to act on them. Don’t look at life with the jaded self-knowledge of an adult. As a team. It was a big thinking. who was middleaged and looked more of the part I needed to play. And when you come up with all those big thinking ideas – capture them. however works best for you – and then review them every once in a while to see if there is one you can implement. but walk with eyes – and ears – wide open. Once the perception piece of the introductions was achieved. I was able to pitch my products and services to an open ear. out-of-the-box resource idea and it worked. George. This was a problem.
new skills. you can’t know everything. some of the best solutions I’ve ever come up with have been very simple ideas from an area I knew little about. I've forgotten how to laugh at blunders… 121 . You see steps. Here’s a thoughtful letter written to a child from her grandfather. My dear granddaughter Hannah. You find laughter in mistakes. I see problems. I struggle to learn. you see colors. I see danger. You need to build confidence that you’ll find answers hidden in out of the way places then make yourself search there. and yet you have already mastered attitudes that have eluded me for half a century… You see opportunities everywhere. You want to know everything.ca/athomas125/hanna. Questions are your favorite tools. 4. hoping to master the computer in one easy lesson or not at all. Risk asking a lot of seemingly dumb questions and you’ll be paid back millions in Lifemoney. Look for solutions in the most unlikely spots.Resourcefulness You don’t know everything.htm. You want to paint. Book is your favorite word. And in my experience. I see mess. You love to learn. How many times have heard of a solution to a problem coming from a totally unexpected place? Resourceful people are always making themselves look for answers in places nobody else is looking. It was taken from the web site http://members.shaw. With wild abandon you tackle new words. I find embarrassment. You are only two. Notice how the man reflects on the child’s actions which are a surprising and amazing source of new thinking for him. You want to climb the attic stairs.
And learn to ask better questions and be a better listener. help me to grow up and become just like Hannah. But that comes with the territory. if it's not too late. neighbors. At lunch you boldly bite into broccoli. I stick with the familiar favorites. Keep Looking .You’ll Find It Finding the right information can be like looking for hidden treasure without a map. you might be given all sorts of misleading ideas. I love you for who you are! Grandpa Dan Dear Lord. After talking to one resource person or another. Just keep going until you find the information you really want. asking questions about their perspectives and ideas.Lifemoney You are courageous. Talk to people from teens to retirees. When you’re listening to an answer. and relatives who may have an idea or solution to your problem. and though you dislike it. You have to take the good with the bad in your search for answers and put all your resources into continuing the search. You walk right up to a stranger and smile. or information you can’t really use. Look around for success “MacGyvers” hiding in plain sight all around you. Sometimes you may not know where to begin the quest. 122 . tomorrow you will tackle cauliflower with the same exuberance. take notes and then summarize back what you heard so that you’re sure you captured both the words and the spirit of the message. You may be surprised to find someone right at your doorstep who can offer a positive example of courage and creativity. These could be friends. Ask questions that seek out detail rather than just yes and no.
That’s the beauty of the modern world. All you need to do is pick a search engine (I use Google. Even as there are more and more of us. If not. Here are four incredible resources. You don’t even have to buy the books. In a larger bookstore chain. Number 1: Google it The internet is one of the quickest and easiest tools you can use to research and learn about any topic. spend your time searching for buried answers. spread far and wide. technology is bringing us closer together. Whatever your needs or interests. You can even use full sentences to pinpoint the closest data to your topic search.Resourcefulness You probably won’t find everything you need in your back yard. Look at the jackets and back covers for ideas about whether a book will be helpful. you should be able to find worthwhile reading. because it is the most widely used and brings up the most comprehensive information) and type in the name or topic you want to research. find a seat at the café. If you don’t find an exact match. But you can go anywhere you want and talk to whoever you like. often at the press of a button. ask a store associate to order materials for you. Don’t be afraid to use all of the resources available to you to gather more resources. Number 2: Buy a book or magazine You can find dozens of books and magazines in your goal area or where you want to learn new things. you can just read while you’re there. and read a recent biography of someone you admire or a book on a topic related to your goal. buy a cup of coffee. There’s no better or quicker way to 123 . try different variations of the same words until you find what you are looking for. Instead of sitting in front of the television or playing video games.
Lifemoney educate yourself than by spending some time at the bookstore and seeing what’s available. You don’t have to buy the product. 124 . Number 3: Check it out at the library: If you don’t have money to buy publications or want to keep them for a closer reading at home. Check your local area for something similar. language CD’s or DVD’s (if your goal involves traveling abroad). Most libraries offer this type of service for free. Minneapolis.com) where they constantly have well known speakers. and Los Angeles you have the Learning Annex (learningannex. magazines. Many companies offer free webinars with noted experts in a particular field as a way to sell their products. In New York. You can also get audio books. San Diego. Don’t forget to check out online seminars – sometimes called webinars – that may pertain to the topic you are interested in learning as well. If your library doesn’t carry a book you want see if they can get it for you from another library. borrow books for free at the library. but you may learn a few things from the expert while you participate in the webinar. movie producers and music moguls at your disposal. and videos. Toronto. Number 4: Take a seminar There are a lot of seminars given and places to go that you can learn directly from experts in your desired field. San Francisco.
They will teach you how to become financially secure and independent. It is idling in you right now. For example if you’ve challenged yourself to get a great job in New York City. or showing off your playground skills to other kids. Ask the people around you what they know about New York.Resourcefulness Lifemoney Currency “No matter where your interest lies in making incredible amounts of money. How do you accelerate it when you need it? Approach each of your challenges with the intensity and curiosity of a kid. That thrill of learning still exists inside you today. waiting for the chance to drive you toward solving your challenges and meeting your goals. find out all you can about life in New York and the companies or groups associated with this new job in New York. Be 125 . Read books and look for television programs. you will be able to learn from the experts in that field.” -The Learning Annex Promise There’s No Need To Grow Up Remember that excited feeling you had as a kid when you started school? Remember that wonderful anticipation of what you were about to learn or do? You were probably thrilled at the thought of becoming smarter and impressing Mom and Dad with good grades. One life changing piece of advice can make you thousands if not millions.
and provide you all kinds of problem solving resources. • Online Special Interest Groups. To run for civic office in a few years. Listen first. Most colleges – especially community colleges offer informal. No matter what your interest. the internet provides an opportunity to meet many like minded people. find a writer’s group or a reader’s club. If they don’t have one you want. suggest that it be taught in the future. specialized courses that often cost under $100 and run over a day or several weekly classes. like minded people that share your intensity in life. • Join a special interest group.Lifemoney excited about moving to New York! Don’t stop in your quest for knowledge but develop a hunger for it. Over time our interests drift and friendships change because your interests no longer match. You can meet experts in your field of interest and learn things about your pursuit you never knew existed. If you’re planning to write a novel. Often we outgrow our friends. Learning new things is virtually guaranteed. then ask lots of questions. Here are some other ideas that will ignite that inborn excitement about learning: • Develop friendships with like minded people. volunteer at a local official’s office and see how it works. Those friendships can form quickly and be lasting. • Take a non-credit class. work on building friendships with new. Check with a local community college or university branch campus for information about these classes. Rather than ditch your old friends. Consider joining 126 .
List three places where you can go to find some information that will further your ability to be resourceful. such as: 1. Wednesday and Friday.Resourcefulness an online community. Online chat room--. Consult a community resource center 2. Join an online chat room 3. assign timelines in which you will visit these places. Community resource center – attend evening sessions from 8 to 9 Monday. such as: 1. Lifemoney Currency “In the decade ahead I can predict that we will provide over twice the connectivity that we provided in the '90s. reading blogs about topics that interest you. or subscribing to a mailing list of like minded folks.this week I will seek out one interest group related to my goal 127 . 2.” -Bill Gates Goal Achievement Exercise O Take out your Workbook. Visit a local learning annex Once you have these three written down.
You’ll be amazed at how often folks who have already reached a goal want to help you do the same thing they did. According to Answers. Lifemoney Currency “If you are going to be thinking anyway. D..” -Donald Trump Find An Expert Everyone can benefit from having a mentor. If you’re planning to write a best selling novel.com. you might as well think big. But Combs was an avid listener. Like Diddy. and found resources anywhere – and everywhere – he could. This is someone who will work with you to set goals and help you make plans for reaching them. Visit a local learning annex---I will call or stop for a brochure or information on upcoming free public lectures and interest group meetings.” There he swept floors and kept his ear to the ground. Sean “Puffy” Combs worked in thankless jobs like the rest of us.Lifemoney 3. Uptown Records. convinced childhood friend Heavy D to sign him up as an intern at the label for which he recorded. learning the industry from the ground up. Combs applied to Howard University in Washington. those who have already accomplished what you want to do. Before he became known as Diddy. It was there that Diddy met his mentor Andre Harell and Uptown Records proved to be his launching pad. and while attending. “Already a shrewd businessman through his two paper routes. contact authors whose writing style you like and ask them for tips on 128 . look for experts in your field. learner and observer.C.
Don’t rely on your own expertise. If you’re a student. too. Ask questions like. There are actually some fields like the music industry where the only path to a real job is to intern. Look up biographies. When learning from the experts. “What is one thing you would do differently?” Study those who are where you want to be. Go straight to those who know the ropes and can share a bit of wisdom. interviews. Don’t fight the system if you don’t have to. Learn it first then conquer it. if applicable. Try other people or be persistent with the ones you really think are important for you to meet or talk with. and look for readers that can tell you what they look for in this type of book. Look for people who can provide guidance. videos. but people are the ultimate resource. find out what not to do. get some books about famous people who have already made it in the area where you want to go. 129 . Avoid their mistakes. too. and find out what keeps them going strong as well as the things that hold them back. take a job as an intern like Diddy. Or look up a local leader that you might be able to interview or job shadow.Resourcefulness getting published. Always be prepared and don’t waste anyone’s time. Make sure that you research these people and their companies. don’t be surprised if some don’t return your calls. You could contact publishers. and other information that might hold clues to the reasons for a person’s success. libraries and the Internet are valuable. And. If speaking directly with an expert isn’t likely. before you speak to them. You also may want to consult the local Small Business Administration or a retired executive. and who won’t turn their backs when you need help. Books.
No matter what sorts of challenges you face right now. intrigue these people to help you in whatever way possible. think of key resource people you already know from your past and your present.Lifemoney Lifemoney Currency “If I have seen farther than others. there is probably someone in your network of connections that has faced the same problem at some point and would be happy to serve as a resource to you. Never forget to take advantage of your network of connections. 130 .” -Isaac Newton Goal Achievement Exercise P Take out your Workbook. it is because I was standing on the shoulders of giants. List three people that you will contact for assistance. While making your list. You’d be amazed how many talented people you already know that could help you along your journey. Using the people skills that you will learn in Lifemoney Lesson #8.
services and know-how you need to create Lifemoney. It’s important to utilize every opportunity. Try to count how many names are listed at the end of the film. small and large. Stephen Spielberg. every one of those people was a resource in creating his latest masterpiece. that can put you closer to reaching your ultimate goals. But there is.Resourcefulness Lifemoney Currency “Remember you will not always win. in this case. might be the director. to get the information.” -Maxwell Maltz Resourcefulness Summary This lesson is about understanding how being resourceful can help you on the road to success. and as far as necessary. but stick around for the credits after his next movie. the most resourceful individual will taste defeat. reach out as often. Some days. Very few people succeed entirely on their own. always tomorrow after you have done your best to achieve success today. 131 . Don’t limit your dreams by limiting your scope.
” -Jim Rohn Millionaire’s Checklist: Check all the items below that you agree with.” 132 . and then tally your score. I will network with people I know to find expertise beyond my circle.Brad Turk . I will take a class or seminar related to one or more of my goals. Searching and learning is where the miracle process all begins. giving yourself 10 points for each checkmark and 0 points for any left blank. _____ 2. _____ 7. I will keep my eyes open for a mentor. _____ 8. Lifemoney Currency “Some people say it’s not what you know. _____ 6. I plan to read an autobiography of a famous leader who inspires me. and observations. I am consciously seeking new sources for new answers I keep a notebook where I jot down thoughts. I believe learning is the beginning of wealth. _____ 10. I plan to visit a library. I say. find the people you need to know and introduce yourself. _____ 3. Learning is the beginning of health. ideas. I will enthusiastically seek information like a kid. I will read new material that relates to the pursuit of my goals. _____ 9. Learning is the beginning of spirituality. _____ 5. school or online special interest group. _____ 4. but who you know.Lifemoney Lifemoney Currency “Learning is the beginning of wealth. _____ 1.
These include visualization. They are your real wealth. objectifying your goal. I’ve distilled five major skills to having more of the kind of creativity that motivates you and serves you. He bought the property in 1977 when that part of New York City was in terrible shape. asking big and avoiding the herd mentality. directly across the street from Grand Central Station. Now I want to talk to you about the one Lifemoney skill that might be the most important to anyone wishing success in life: creativity. looking at things from a different perspective.Creativity Lifemoney Lesson # 7: Creativity “Rules? Hell there are no rules! We’re trying to create something here!” -Thomas Edison Overview I have built this book around the idea that your personal qualities are like money to you. your Lifemoney. A Lesson From Trump One of Donald Trump’s first properties in New York City was the former Commodore Hotel. Trump had no 133 .
Lifemoney other major properties at the time and was told that this was not only “out of his league” but would prove to be “a terrible investment.” Even though he was only 26, Trump’s imagination was endless and he saw something nobody else saw in that property. He was sure the city would eventually revitalize the area and that building would be a goldmine. But Trump did not have the wherewithal to do this deal on his own. For most people, the dream would have died there: no money, no deal. Not for Trump. Donald could clearly imagine a major hotelier working with him on the property, and convinced Hyatt to manage the property. It became the Grand Hyatt, with Trump and Hyatt owning the hotel on a 50/50 basis. But that wasn’t even the best part of the deal. In addition, Trump got Hyatt to agree that it would never manage another hotel in New York City. Trump was so immersed in his creative ideas for real estate that he would ask for outrageous things without thinking anything of it. These weren’t outrageous requests to him, just obvious ones. This boldness was born of creativity. It was a mindset that drove him to propose many more innovative projects. It is this type of can-do, creative thinking that, if adopted, will give you an edge in reaching your goals faster. As Trump shows us, imagination, creativity, brainstorming and audacity are some of the mental currencies of success.
“Man’s mind stretched to a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions.”
Goal Achievement Exercise Q
Get out your Workbook. Pick two goals that you have listed in Exercise F, and come up with a different and creative way that you can bring yourself closer to that goal. Do not use any ideas that you have had in the past or seem conventional. Really stretch your mind and look at achieving the goal in a new way. Read over your ideas, ignore the thoughts that these are impossible. Can you use your resources differently to make one of these impossible steps a reality?
“Don’t play what’s there; play what’s not there.” -Miles Davis
Dream It, See It, Do It!
Let’s use a creative approach that many successful people have used to expand their thinking. This may seem strange if you’ve never done it, but it’s called visualization. It involves creating pictures and movies in your head of things you want. For example, picture a snapshot of yourself on a cruiser yacht in the Caribbean, or taking part in a board meeting of a prestigious company – maybe even your own company. See that smile on your face? You’ve made it—you are living the dream in your mind. In this way the practice of visual creativity helps you own the feeling of success and generates more energy within you. 135
Lifemoney Walt Disney was famous for saying “If you can dream it, you can do it.” Nobody knows that better than Arnold Schwarzenegger, famous bodybuilder, actor and politician. Arnold always understood the power of dreaming and reaching for what you want. He grew up in Austria and he dreamed of leaving his homeland to pursue the goal of becoming a world-class bodybuilder. Years later after he reached that goal, Arnold visualized becoming an American film actor. Dreaming big once again it didn’t take long for him to meet that goal, too. His next dream was to hold public office in a country where he had not been born. Arnold continued building on his natural skills by visualizing many things. Today, Arnold Schwarzenegger is Governor of the State of California. He dreamed big, developed needed skills, watched for opportunities and followed his heart to become everything he wanted. In fact I saw him interviewed on television recently and he was sharing the fact that he’s not yet done dreaming. He has more, and when the governor’s gig is up he’ll be moving on. If you want to see a ‘dream it and do it” guy, watch Arnold. In your mind’s eye, walk through a typical day exactly as you want it to be. Who do you talk to? What do you do? Enjoy the mental image of your success by capturing each detail as a memory to motivate you when the going gets tough. Be patient and build that mental motion picture carefully. Rather than becoming overwhelmed by going from 0 to 60, use your creativity to visualize your daily activities, the house you plan to live in, where you go to work, what your days consist of, how it feels to go home; when you spend time with a spouse, kids, boyfriend/girlfriend, or family; where you go on vacation, what car you drive… Does
Creativity creating success in your mind make you excited, impatient, and eager to get started? This is the power of creativity to motivate you and form your life.
“If you can dream it, you can do it.” -Walt Disney
Goal Achievement Exercise R
Take out your Workbook. Rewrite two of your goals from Exercise F and actually see yourself achieving them. Make your visualizations into a mental movie where you’re seeing what you’ll see, feeling what you’ll feel and hearing what you’ll hear. You might have to get yourself into a quiet place to get all these senses activated, but do your best. When you’ve spent several minutes experiencing the visualization “movie” of your success, write a sentence or two in your Workbook about how the experience expanded and changed your thinking.
Five Creativity Factors
Let’s take all that we’ve been discussing over the last several pages and summarize it into some basic principles. When you are creative you: 1. Use Visualization to see your goal and watch yourself accomplishing it. 2. Objectify your goal to build a pathway to success. 3. Learn to look at things from a new perspective. 4. Ask big.
You’ll work out the bugs of a process that will move you closer to your goal. it’s time to shift gears and visualize it. it becomes more tangible. Your body will do what your brain focuses on. this proven 138 . Can’t you just see yourself taking phone orders and printing invoices on your computer? As you envision the thrill of success. What’s it worth to you? When you’re ready to give up on your dream. what does that mean for you? Do you want to sell houses? Do you want to manage rentals? Do you want to sell commercial property? Do you want to invest in real estate? Specifically describe your goal and envision yourself doing it. noticing colors of paint and the condition of the neighborhood. let’s look at each of these factors in depth to see how you can learn to apply them to your goals. so keep your thoughts positive and stay focused. For example. Don’t settle for vague pictures! Clearly see the kinds of properties you want to handle. If you want to operate your own business instead of working for someone else. imagine yourself doing it.Lifemoney 5. Avoid the herd mentality. copier. step by step. fax. Notice even small things like the shoes on your feet and the color of your clothes. This isn’t fantasy or play-acting. Creativity Factor #1: Maintain your Visualization They say a picture’s worth a thousand words. or when it becomes increasingly difficult to see yourself in the winner’s circle. Picture your home office with all the things you would use in a public office—computer. Visualization is when you mentally create an image of yourself accomplishing the desired objective. and telephone. if you want to get into real estate. Now. See yourself inspecting the houses.
Do you keep a special object to remind you of your roots. Why? Because you will create whatever you’re visualizing. Acquiring anything starts with imagining it constantly. Seeing your goal in your mind and describing it with your hands are two different ways to imprint your dreams in your memory. To date.” -Bo Bennett Creativity Factor #2: Objectify Your Goal I used to dream about driving a Mercedes SL500 or a CL500. There is no substitute for keeping the proper image in your mind at all times. All success starts in your mind. good or bad. Look at your workspace. Lifemoney Currency “Visualization is daydreaming with a purpose. Sometimes having that physical object can help make an abstract idea seem more real. but our brains respond better to the real thing. whether at home or at the office. I have had both of these cars. I kept miniature models of these cars in my room as a way to make my goal “real” and be an incentive of what I was working for. Do what you can to make a real “object” out of your goal. and I still have the toy versions to help me remember to make my dreams real.Creativity process will make your goal more meaningful mentally prepare you to undertake the challenges involved. Those that fail to reach their dreams are often letting their positive visualizations vanish. your accomplishments and your dreams? Some 139 . an action you take. Take responsibility to hold those images in your mind. That is a conscious choice.
They go to the closet and look at the outfit that they hope to wear a few months from now to remind them of their goal. it should be something that reminds you of and keeps you motivated to achieve your dreams. It also keeps her motivated and helps as a reminder of how precious life is. and she keeps it near her heart as a reminder of how much she misses him. and how important it is to enjoy every minute. Real objects have power. start collecting those things and placing them around you. A miniature horse that fits in your palm could be the symbol of your future breeding farm. A drawing of a sailboat on the sea may help you hold on to your goal of taking a cruise or buying a sailboat. Queen Latifah wears a key on a chain. seemingly insignificant object that reminds you of something very important. Whatever you choose. Chances are you have a framed photo. This is especially important in creating objects that represent your personal goals. present or future. The object for your personal goal might be something that brings to mind your dream. Who do you think is more positively driven? Around her neck. The key belonged to her late brother’s motorcycle. Dieters sometimes buy clothing in the size they want to be rather than what they are now. whether past. or another small. 140 . an award or commemorative gift.Lifemoney people have desks covered with trophies and some have desks covered with bills. the one he died on. If you don’t.
After bothering the agent.” -Jim Carrey Creativity Factor #3: Look at things from a different perspective I have a friend David who is very successful in real estate. What I saw as a negative. It looked like a hurricane had come through and no one bothered to clean up after. His success is attributed to seeing what’s not there and being open minded about what can happen. manages some and sells the others. that was it for me.” But David wasn’t quite ready to leave. I remember him helping me out once when I was looking for a small rental property. From his perspective it was good that the place 141 . I put that check in the casket with my father because it was our dream together. “We’re out of here. just before Thanksgiving 1995. it seemed I got the truth out of him. Well.Creativity Lifemoney Currency “I wrote myself a check for ten million dollars for acting services rendered and dated it Thanksgiving 1995. the actual apartment was terrible. I found out I was going to make ten million dollars for Dumb & Dumber. And then. I put it in my wallet and it deteriorated. He buys a lot of properties. crunched some numbers and while we were sitting down for coffee afterwards. and he informed me they had been trying to sell it for over a year. my friend saw as a positive. I looked at my friend as if to say. I thought I knew something about real estate and I asked the agent how long the place had been on the market. He asked more questions. he explained to me that this was a great deal. When we went into the place I was very disappointed. Although I loved the building and the area.
000. You can do this in your own life. She envied my work schedule and the fact that I could arrange my days as I saw fit.000 co-op for $175. David helped me to see the real value of that deal. The fact that it was on the market so long would enable this desperate seller to reevaluate the sales price. Keep your mind wide open and make yourself look for solutions and ideas that aren’t necessarily out in the open. does medical billing and is the office manager for a doctor’s office. Anybody can see what’s obvious but only a few can see potential. Although Liz was happy with the money she made and her success in what she did. How? We were able to get the price from $165.000 and after spending $25. She is good at her job and has been with the same company for over 10 years. My girlfriend.000 down to $150. By shifting perspective. So try! It is a valuable lifemoney skill that can translate into big cash money. she really wanted a more flexible schedule.Lifemoney was a wreck and was on the market for so long. Liz. She wanted the ability to occasionally pick up her son from school and also did not want to be tied down to the typical 9-5 work week. it appeared that I would be buying a $200. You know why? Asking for big and bold things always generates creative new ideas and usually uncovers a solution to your problem that you might not have thought of.000. Most people who walked in there did not see the value of the place and could not picture what the place could look like. Creativity Factor #4: Ask big There is huge power in learning to ask big. After David did the math with me. 142 .000 on fix-up we would be able to sell the co-op for what the market value was at the time: $200.
Creativity When I encouraged her to suggest something new to her boss, like a more flexible schedule, she was positive he wouldn’t go for it. But rather than just forgetting about the idea, we sat down and actually listed some very big possibilities she could take to her boss. Specifically we asked ourselves “What might her boss go for?” We made ourselves think outside the box. This thought process alone allowed us to quickly figure out a few adjustments she could make to maintain job duties and still free up some time in her weekly schedule. Then one day at work Liz asked her boss something big. “I’ve figured out a way to work even more efficiently,” she began. “Oh, yeah?” her boss asked. “What’s that, Liz?” “If I work a day a week at home where it’s quiet, I can get more billing work done without the distraction of answering phones or coworkers’ questions. I’m sure I can work faster, which will save the company time and money. Can I do it?” Now do you think that was easy for Liz to ask her boss? No way. But she boldly asked a new and surprising question. And guess what? Liz’s boss agreed to give it a try, and now she has more flexibility in her schedule. She has a day each week for personal errands and her son and on that day she works the hours that she sees fit. Even when it seems like the odds are against you, asking bigger and bolder questions can be a huge source of inspiration and possibility for you. When I worked at MCI, through hard work and utilizing the Lifemoney lessons in this book, I became the number one salesman in the country. My problem was that I knew I preferred working from home without a boss breathing down my neck. But my boss really wanted me to work out of the office in the more standard corporate way. Rather than just giving in to this expectation, I asked myself a bigger, better and bolder question: what would the boss
Lifemoney go for? I decided that I would go to him and candidly explain my vision, how I worked best and how we could make this work for both of us. I set up an appointment with my boss and I explained how much more productive I was from home and that I had two more hours in my work day by eliminating the commute it took to get back and forth to the office. All I had to do was point to my sales results, and my “work from home” sales pitch spoke for itself. I showed that I was able to do my job the way that made sense to me and worked with my personal schedule. I wound up only going into the office a few times a month. I took a standard practice of almost all corporations of working the typical 9-5 office job and turned it into something that worked for me. An enormously big opportunity for me began by asking a big question: “What’s possible here?” Asking big is not only a creative way to think, but when you take the short step of sharing your creativity publicly; profound things will start to materialize. Get in the habit of asking big. Even if it doesn’t work, you’ll be a step closer to finding the solution that will work.
Creativity Factor #5: Avoid The Herd Mentality
There is an old saying that “if everyone is doing it, it’s probably wrong.” We are herd animals, and often where the herd is going is not original or creative in any way. Successful people are more often those who are willing to dream about going another way. It is always best to have some foresight and try to do what has not or is not being done. That’s not too say that you can’t make millions or find happiness doing things that have been successfully done in the past, but the pioneers will usually capitalize the most.
Creativity In addition, you also have to be careful not to jump into a fad or in something that has already reached its peak. The perfect example would be all of the late comers who tried to break into the real estate market – well after the bubble was set to burst. Read what Robert Kiyosaki, author of Rich Dad Poor Dad says about the stampede that took off after the real estate boom. “In 2003, every fool was getting into real estate. The checkout girl at my local supermarket handed me her newly printed real estate agent business card. The housing market became the hot topic of discussion at parties. ‘Flipping’ became the buzz word at PTA meetings. Homes became ATM machines as credit-card debtors took long-term loans to pay off short term debt.” And now the papers are filled with stories of people who followed the herd and ran off a financial cliff. Once everyone is doing what you are looking to do, it often makes your goal that much harder to attain. Again, this does not mean that it can’t be done. It just means you will have to work that much harder and smarter to get your results. You don’t always have to do things the traditional (Herd) way to get it done. If you want $5,000 to buy a speedboat, do you have to start with a basic savings account? Are there other ways you could raise that money? You could: • • • • Sell used items you no longer use -furniture/tools on Ebay. Downsize to a smaller house or less expensive car. Create shares of the boat and bring in partners Get a second, part-time job.
Lifemoney While all, some, or none of these options may work for you, the point is to try to go in the opposite direction of the herd when the herd has been going in the same direction for a while. Back to my main man Donald Trump: many people thought he was born into his millions, or that he came by his wealth easily. The opposite is true. Donald’s father, Fred Trump, had to help support his family and started a construction business in Brooklyn, New York. Donald spent a few years working out of the same office as his dad. When he eventually decided to get involved in real estate, he did so with a limited budget. Though he had very little money, the first thing he did was to become a member of an exclusive New York club. He used his membership as a way to make contacts. That’s pretty unusual and not what a herd thinker would do. Who ever thought of starting a business by joining a club? Most of us would wait until the company was established – probably even well established - before developing business relationships. Trump took an unusual route to success, and it paid off.
“You see things; and you say, ‘Why?’ But I dream things that never were; and I say, ‘Why not?’ ” -George Bernard Shaw
I believe that if I can dream it I can do it I will try using visualization to move towards my goals. and invest the energy in some creative thinking about going after the things you want. I seek out new perspectives to old problems.” -Duke Ellington Millionaire’s Checklist: Check all the items below that you agree with. Engage your creativity now by taking stock of your situation.Creativity Creativity Summary Why wait for your dreams to happen when you have more time? You will probably never get more time to chase them than you have right now. _____ 2. I have objects around me that symbolize the success I seek. Is there some way to save time or money at your job? Can you trim the household budget? How about trying out a new skill? Most people have a lot of potential that goes untapped. 147 . but seeing what’s not there. _____ 4. and then figure your score. Make the time. Take the time to evaluate your situation and try a creative approach. _____ 3. _____ 5. Remember that one of the most important aspects of creativity isn’t seeing what’s there. giving yourself 10 points for each checkmark and 0 points for any left blank: _____ 1. I can visualize my success through a variety of mental pictures. Don’t let yours go to waste. Lifemoney Currency “A problem is a chance for you to do your best thinking. Set aside some time to consider new approaches to your problems and the barriers that stand in the way of getting what you want.
_____ 9. I will use creativity to help me attain my goals. Lifemoney Currency “Just because something isn’t being done. I avoid the herd mentality at all costs. I know when I ask boldly. _____ 8. hasn’t been done or looks like it can’t be done. I keep asking bigger questions to spur my creativity.” -Brad Turk 148 .Lifemoney _____ 6. great possibilities are created. _____ 10. I make detailed mental images of what I want. _____ 7. doesn’t mean you can’t do it.
So learning to interface with other people is vital to realizing your goals. Sharpen Your People Skills Almost all barriers to your success are barriers that can be easily overcome with the help of others. but it should make your life experience more rewarding as well. Using people skills in a competent. professional and powerful way will not only aid you in achieving your objectives. everyone benefits” -Daniel Goleman Overview I am going to introduce you to my very simple and powerful twelve-steps to becoming a more persuasive and accomplished people person. getting others involved will be a major key to your success. 149 . Understanding how others work and the mechanics of how they think will be crucial in gaining the support you need to get what you want out of life. if people get better at these people skills. For almost any goal you may have.People Lifemoney Lesson # 8: 12 Steps for Power with People “Motivation aside.
or had an excuse for something going wrong. that we are all different and had different needs. They were men and women of different races and backgrounds. I quickly realized that to deal with people effectively you really need to understand what motivates them. I did for her what I wanted my sales manger to do for me – I stayed out of her way. I had one rep who was just like I was as a salesperson. I worked as a manager for a short period of time. out sick. He had so many excuses that he was losing track of them. During that time. hard working and considered her sales position as her own small business that she was managing. As an example. I provided them the resources to work in an environment where they could thrive. that same uncle died again. I gave her freedom to do whatever she wanted (I didn’t even care if she showed up to work or not). I saw from past managers that I have had. I knew first hand. that one of the biggest problems in how they managed was that they had a uniform way of doing things. that she would get the sales in. who he missed that had passed away about a year before. was amazing at building relationships and closing deals but was also one of the laziest people I have ever met. I was managing a staff of 8 sales people who all had extremely different personalities. She was self motivated. I knew she was a hard worker. I found huge success as a sales manager by managing each of my sales representatives by what they needed in a manager. I had a salesperson who was one of the most charismatic people you could meet. Amazingly. He was always late.Lifemoney While I was at MCI. He once told me about his only uncle. On the other hand. from being a salesperson. and he needed a couple of days to 150 . Their “House Rules” were specific to how they thought a salesperson should be. and that I could not work her harder than she would work herself. Using my Lifemoney Lesson # 8.
Shared sorrow is half a sorrow. Are you a people person? Few of us respond to every situation in perfect form. I micromanaged him. I treated him how he needed to be treated. you need to know what their needs are. Anyway. some I still have to this day. Be as specific as you can. and told me that he needed that treatment to get him where he wanted to go. and at least once every day gave him a swift kick in the ass. So to get the most out of people and to win them over to your cause. Lifemoney Currency “Shared joy is a double joy. especially when it comes to dealing with people. but it allowed me to really connect to my reps and form lasting friendships. Think of a past problem you had with a specific person.” -Swedish Proverb Goal Achievement Exercise S Take out your Workbook. Not only was this experience a financial success for me.People grieve. He later thanked me for helping him. Reflect on why that might not have gone exactly as you’d hoped and ask yourself the following questions: • • • • What were my preconceived notions about this person? How did they affect how I dealt with him/her? What could I have done differently? How could I respond better next time? 151 .
Conversation involves someone speaking and someone listening. Listen. Get into the habit. The primary way we communicate with others is through conversation. For relationships to be mutually valuable you must build a bridge that goes two-ways. Success doesn’t happen by accident. even dealing with people – especially dealing with people – requires proper planning. Step # 1: Be a Good Listener People want to be heard and understood. everything. How do you start building these bridges? Here are my 12 basic relationship-building strategies that can help you get started. 152 . there are lanes for incoming and offloading traffic.” -Oprah Winfrey Turk’s 12-Step Plan for Bridge Building You can think of this section as the 12-Step plan for building relationship bridges on your road to success. do not speak.Lifemoney Use these questions as a guide when you have to deal with this person – and other people – in the future. or rhythm. When it is your turn to listen. of preparing yourself to deal with people rather than doing so on instinct or history. standing in the gap to close it for us. Lifemoney Currency “Every one of us gets through the tough times because somebody is there.
he took an interest in me. people like people who like them. Ask questions. find out about them. I asked the interviewer a few key questions about himself and what had made him successful in his career. He was so excited to talk about himself and his experiences that at the end of an hour. it seemed as if we did not even speak about me. Be enthusiastic about what they are talking about and who they are. Everyone’s favorite topic of discussion is themselves. Again. If you really take an interest in what they are saying you might learn something. When you talk to others. their needs and their accomplishments. we did not get to discuss my history. I will tell you a funny story about a job interview I once had. You can’t learn from them if you’re talking. this guy not only offered me the job. Because I took an interest in him. Let the other person speak – while you LISTEN. Watch for opportunities to offer empathy. Step # 2: Take an Interest in People When you listen. Keep in mind he found me so interesting and I barely said a word. let them talk about their skills. Don’t be like so many opportunistic listeners who use what others say as an opportunity to talk about themselves. At the beginning of the interview. Try and put yourself in their shoes.People To demonstrate how much people want and need to express themselves and feel understood. If you want to win them over. 153 . It turned out to be a win/win for us both. listen with a reason. Smile. advice or assistance. Yet. not just another segue to a story about yourself. Although I knew my resume would be suitable for the position. but he also remarked about how interesting a person I was and how I would be a perfect fit for the position. at the end of our meeting.
The gift you are giving is worth far more than anything you might hope to gain from turning the focus of the conversation to you. but it’s much harder – not to mention more important – to try and understand why people make the mistakes they make or take the actions they take. Let the other person feel important and appreciated. Most people react in a negative way due to circumstances. Don’t fake it! Did someone cut you off on the road? Maybe she was going to see her husband who has been injured in a car accident. 154 . and someone you are talking to tells you about a game of racquetball they played. The more you listen to others. In building up conflict instead of offering genuine kindness. Let the person tell the story. But the funny thing about building these bridges is they work both ways. Did they have a bad day? Was there a problem at home? The best way to turn a person with a bad attitude around is to be nice. you only aggravate yourself. Some people are just genuinely grumpy or mean – but these people are not the majority.Lifemoney Let’s say that you are a very good racquetball player. Even though you can relate to the story because of your expertise. brag or whatever they wish. They’re getting enjoyment out of reliving an experience or sharing an insight. Step # 3: Don’t Undermine – Understand It’s easy to criticize. But you need to be genuinely nice. at first. Don’t take that away by changing the subject to you. If this sounds fairly one-sided. it might be. the more they’ll learn by example and start paying you back– by listening to YOU. and telling your stories. the more two-way they’ll become. Try it and see how it works. you don’t have to interject your knowledge or skills. Have faith and patience that the longer these relationships last.
and he was a poor Scottish farmer.winstonchurchill.” said the nobleman. a fancy carriage pulled up to the Scotsman’s sparse surroundings. One day. The next day. mired to his waist in black muck. “I want to repay you.” 155 .org/i4a/pages/index. he heard a cry for help coming from a nearby bog. “You saved my son’s life. His name was Fleming. Then the boss yells at you for being late. Maybe you weren’t feeling well. even though you typically arrive on time. screaming and struggling to free himself. Farmer Fleming saved the lad from what could have been a slow and terrifying death.People Think back to a bad day you had recently. An elegantly dressed nobleman stepped out and introduced himself as the father of the boy Farmer Fleming had saved. Wouldn’t it have made all the difference if your boss had expressed some understanding with a comment about how your usual reliability made him suspect a problem? Step # 4: Give And You Will Receive Get people believing in their dreams and help them along the way.cfm?pageid=102. On the way to work you get stuck in traffic due to road construction. was a terrified boy. Crazy things happen when you reach out to people and pay some kindnesses forward. You’ll benefit in surprising ways including helping you better understand how to realize your own dreams. There. He dropped his tools and ran to the bog. The following is a very interesting and true story of paying it forward that was taken from the Winston Churchill web site at http://www. Maybe you got up on the wrong side of the bed. while trying to make a living for his family.
I can remember so many times when I had just been introduced to someone and two seconds later I had already forgotten their name. the farmer’s own son came to the door of the family hovel. in time. “Yes. I can’t accept payment for what I did. “I’ll make you a deal. graduated from St. “Is that your son?” The nobleman asked. Mary’s Hospital Medical School in London. If the lad is anything like his father. the discoverer of penicillin. What saved his life this time? Penicillin. but I think people can tell when you don’t remember their names.” the farmer replied proudly. Farmer Fleming’s son attended the very best schools and. His son’s name? Sir Winston Churchill. Step # 5: Remember People and They’ll Remember You Over my life I’ve had the hardest time remembering people’s names. the same nobleman’s son who was saved from the bog was stricken with pneumonia. The name of the nobleman? Lord Randolph Churchill. Years afterward. he’ll no doubt grow to be a man we both will be proud of. and went on to become known throughout the world as the noted Sir Alexander Fleming.” And that he did. 156 .” the Scottish farmer replied waving off the offer. and it’s a little bit insulting. At that moment. I know it is because I never really made a true attempt to focus on remembering them. Let me provide him with the level of education my own son will enjoy. This not only looks bad.Lifemoney “No.
” You get the idea. Where do you work? Is that right? Sounds interesting. Again. But if they look like they’re very tired and sad. but I will stress what’s in it for them: a great rate of return. One idea is to repeat the person’s name out loud a few times during the introduction. Let’s say for example that I need help with financing a business deal that’s important to me. “glad Brad. When I approach a potential investor I’m not thinking “how much can I get?” but rather “what does this person want and how can I give it to them?” During the course of the conversation I will ask for money. not have to assist? If you can sell others something genuinely interesting or provide information to help them obtain something they are looking for. it’s easy. How do you do that? Ever hear the term WIIFM? It’s “What’s In It For Me!” Most likely your best bet in getting help from someone is to show them what they are going to get in return! I think about this all the time when I’m trying to influence people to help me. they will be interested in helping you in exchange. For instance. Brian. Step # 6: Get People to Sign Off on Helping You How can you make people want to assist you. Brian. the intangible benefits of having their name 157 . the value of the proposed deal.People I would suggest you develop a system that helps you put greater effort into this huge priority. “Nice to meet you. you might think “sad Brad” or if they look happy. nice meeting you. If their name is “Brad” and they look like Brad Pitt.” Another popular technique is to associate their name with something visually unusual. These little tricks work amazingly well and are well worth the time it takes to practice them. Let’s talk about that sometime.
That only happens in courts in front of judges. when they did help. Remember that getting the support you want depends in part on providing others with what they need. they were less than enthusiastic? I bet if they were going to get something out of the arrangement. For what? To win your point? Is it worth it? Will you really feel better? Do you think you can change the other person’s view? Think about a recent argument you had with a spouse. a case of beer or concert tickets. a coworker or a friend. The winner of an argument in real life is often the loser in the relationship. how 158 . energy and commitment – will be that much greater if you provide people with something they want. the fun we can have together as a team. I’m always thinking “what do they want. inferior. stupid and embarrassed. whether a free meal. and how can I give it to them?” I am not saying you can’t get help any other way. …you get the idea. they would have behaved differently. Step # 7: Don’t Argue Don’t ever argue and think you’re going to win points. Who won? What were the stakes? What were the consequences? Would the outcome have been different if you had not let the situation escalate? If hard feelings resulted.Lifemoney associated with the project. too. offer to help. Ever had friends volunteer to help you on a project but they delayed it because they were busy? Then. but the level of intensity – time. All you will do is make the other person feel bad. If a friend is remodeling a kitchen. Those few hours spent pounding nails or carrying lumber might turn out to be the best investment you ever make if your friend has some useful tips or suggestions for helping you reach your goals more quickly.
upset or just want to communicate with someone they care about. even if it’s negative communication. Always try to look inward to the core issue. Show. and even then be careful. Don’t brag. Relax. Don’t speak out of anger. no one is impressed. Often. aggressive individuals that think they know it all.People long will they last? I have seen long term friendships totally dissolve over meaningless arguments. people argue because they are hurt. Disagreements on the other hand can be powerful sources of new information and a chance to grow. do nothing but harm. Think about someone in your past that pushed unwanted advice on you. and make every attempt to stay calm for a rational disagreement/discussion rather than an argument or even all-out fight. Didn’t you just hate to hear that person’s voice on the phone or see her face at the door? Don’t become one of those pushy. Wait for your opinion to be asked before shoving it at someone. Disagreeing is good – IF it’s mutually understood that the goal is a positive outcome for everyone. Don’t act rashly or lash out. particularly defensive and mean ones. Let others mention your accomplishments before you do. Don’t give advice unless it is requested. be self-controlled. be it personal or professional. Speak from a calm center. Arguments. Think your words through. 159 . I make a big distinction between arguing and disagreeing. Step # 8: Think Before You Speak In any discussion. Keep in mind that everyone is born equal and deserves to be treated that way. don’t tell.
but received no sense of appreciation. even after working hours of unpaid overtime. Take courtesy even further. Can you look back on a time when you did something nice and the person didn’t even mention it? Maybe you mailed a gift to a relative. Always say please when asking for something. From time to time you may even take the blame for something that isn’t your fault. but it’s extremely important. lower your expectations of others and increase them for yourself. Or you might have helped a coworker with a difficult project. To get along in this world without becoming an irritating whiner. Look people in the eye and give them respect when you speak to them. And if you do find yourself whining and complaining just remember that it’s not getting you any closer to a solution.Lifemoney Step # 9: Manners Matter Always say “thank you” when given a compliment or receiving assistance. Courtesy and manners are Lifemoney lessons that make you really standout in a crowd. Everyone makes mistakes and will disappoint you at some point. Just remain calm and don’t shoot your mouth 160 . Don’t cry or whine over any of this. but he never called or wrote to say thanks. Step # 10: No Whining Allowed No one likes a whiner. Shake hands firmly and introduce yourself when around new people. but we all have problems. You would be surprised how far all of this will take you in building relationships. Some of those mistakes will be at your expense. A few sincere words written in a card or spoken with a smile can go a long way toward making someone feel that his or her efforts are valued. It makes a deep and lasting impression that money can’t buy. This may seem like a small thing. It’s not that your problems are unimportant. What make yours so special that you should complain loudly? Don’t tell your problems to people unless they are directly involved with the solution.
time is their most valuable asset.People off and burn bridges. 161 . The person that I was meeting came out and told me that he would not meet with me and would not do business with me because I was late. Your word means everything. Also. I had an appointment with someone and I showed up 15 minutes late. You never know when you might have to go back the way you came and deal with that person again under better circumstances. to a successful person. The winner is always the person who refuses to complain and instead focuses on finding solutions without finding fault. being late is a sign of disrespect for someone else’s time. especially in business. Even if it is just to arrive to a meeting at a certain time. I know this is extreme and there are times when being late can’t be avoided. chances are your credibility will be shot for all that you do. When people know you are dependable. Step # 11: Your Word is Your Bond Do what you say you are going to do. more opportunities will be sent your way. Would you want someone to take your most valuable asset away from you? I learned this the hard way when I was first starting out in sales. but this true story illustrates how sensitive some people are to lateness. If you can’t be trusted on one issue. As I mentioned.
If you don’t like 162 . They may be hardheaded bosses who refuse to think out of the box. don’t be afraid to cut ties totally. or that costs you plenty when it does get a running start.Lifemoney Lifemoney Currency “Be more concerned with the value of your word than your reputation. It’s not that you can never enjoy recreational time. while your reputation is merely what others think you are. Problem people often hide in plain sight. politely let them that you will get in touch when you have time. or who tell you to give up because you have more important things to do. It could be a friend who is always cooking up a crazy idea that never gets out of the starting gate. They can be so-called “pals” who don’t believe in you. To get rid of the people who will hold you back. My uncle once told me that life is like a bus: you get on the bus with thoughts of going somewhere but you always have the opportunity of getting off. because your character is what you really are. If it’s someone who is really just negative and brings you down. put you down or turn you off. but you have to put first things first if you ever plan to reach your goals. like fishing or playing cards. Maybe it’s a girlfriend who demands more and more of your time – and gives half as much in return. You probably already know who some of these “avoidable” people are. They might be an older brother who sets a bad example with his drug use or gang activity.” -John Wooden Step #12: Find Great People Finding great people begins by learning who you should avoid.
Be relentless in seeking out good people and you will do yourself and your dreams a HUGE favor. quite literally. A motivator can be anyone who trusts you to follow your dreams. It’s not quitting if you’re the one doing the choosing. seek them out. Just as you must get rid of the people who will drag you down. Either way. And the more you hunt for them the more they will be attracted to you. They might be a good friend who listens while you describe the goal you want to reach. It might be a mentor who leads by example or. In fact. They’re a little harder to find. for every troublemaker you tell to hit the road – or get off your bus – make sure to pick up a motivator or two as a replacement. make sure that you’re always riding the right bus for you. as well as your plan for getting there. the motivational speaker who invites you to his seminar and makes time before or after to consult with you privately. if they’re far away. If they’re nearby. cling to them. it’s simply a move in a new direction. Find a new bus or another means to get there. 163 . you must also make room in your life for the motivators. Either way you’ll know these motivators because you’ll feel an instant attraction to them.People where the bus is going or you changed your mind in the direction you want to take – get off. It might be a business partner who provides scheduling flexibility or budgetary allowances that are in line with helping you meet your goals. or they may be a total stranger.
” -Brian Tracy 12 Steps for Power with People Summary I’ve packed some of my best people skills into this lesson. This is the best way I know of to master this list.” -Brad Turk 164 . Don’t move off to try another one until you’ve seen results with the first one. I try and use each one of these on a daily basis and have come to rely on my people skills to make many good things happen. In fact. Associate with positive. goal-oriented people who encourage and inspire you.Lifemoney Lifemoney Currency “Get around the right people. What’s the best way to learn them? Choose any one of these and use it today. keep using it until you don’t think about using it anymore because it’s so natural. Lifemoney Currency “One skill you act on is better than 12 that you don’t. Then magic happens.
you WILL know-how. I always remember the “what’s in it for me” rule. I try to stay calm and avoid arguments.” -Brad Turk 165 . _____ 7. I have a good sense of which people to pursue and which to avoid. A huge part of receiving is giving. and then tally your score. I don’t whine. although I can politely disagree. _____ 6. _____ 5.People Millionaire’s Checklist: Check all the items below that you agree with. I keep to my word. _____ 8. I am taking an active interest in people _____ 3. _____ 9. I make efforts to express appreciation and good manners to others. Lifemoney Currency “Find people to make up for your lack of know-how and. giving yourself 10 points for each checkmark and 0 points for any left blank: _____ 1. I am learning to be a good listener. _____ 10. eventually. _____ 2. and I often make efforts to give without expectation of receiving anything _____ 4. I understand the value of tolerance when dealing with difficult people.
whether you believe you will or you won’t – you’re probably right. That’s why it’s so important to guard your thinking and make sure you keep yourself thinking in a positive direction. Where’s Your Head At? Which of these statements sounds most like something you’d say to yourself: I am going to reach my goals and fulfill my dreams! or I am going to try to reach my goals but it’s going to be hard because… 166 . This talks about some of the things I’ve found useful in creating a positive mind. a well maintained attitude and a “no excuses” outlook. you'll start having positive results.” -Willie Nelson Overview Someone once said.Lifemoney Lifemoney Lesson # 9: Positively Thinking “Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones. What you believe you’re going to get in life is pretty much what you’re going to get.
When I finally had the chance to meet her personally. 167 . I figured she would have far fewer worries than other people! In getting to know her. You just have to know that you’re heading in the right direction. it appeared she had everything that a person could want. happiness and success are created by your mind and not your circumstances is shown by an acquaintance I knew from college. On the contrary. From the outside looking in. her money. The Multi-Millionaire Blues A good example of how attitude. I don’t know if it was her beauty. or do you think that it probably won’t happen for you? This question is like a fork in the road.Positively Thinking Do you believe you can reach your goals. It appeared that everything annoyed her and she was never happy. I could not imagine with all of the advantages she had been born with that she would not appreciate and enjoy each day of her existence. If you focus on the negative. I was amazed to see how miserable she was. you’ll find ways around all the road blocks that inevitably occur to everyone as they work to achieve their dreams. and whichever direction you take in your mind will probably dictate your destiny. believe that it can happen and know that you have what it takes to make it happen. As a general statement positive thinking plays a powerful role in helping us achieve what we set out to do. I saw her complaining everyday about what I thought were very trivial things. Her father had been an executive producer of some very well known films. you create road blocks that stop you from achieving your goals. He was both successful in his field and wealthy. or the fame of her dad but everyone in school wanted to be near her. This dropdead gorgeous young lady was the daughter of an established and widely recognized Hollywood producer. if you focus on the positive.
Lifemoney I stayed away from her negativity and did not associate too much with her. It’s a sad and unfortunate example of how your view of things can make a big difference in how you feel. It’s not what you have but how you perceive things that really counts. Maybe you will be the one family member who can show the others that success is possible? That would be a wonderful Lifemoney gift to give them. Maybe you come from a family with many losers and too few winners. “He’s the reason I can’t get ahead” or “If that hadn’t happened I would be rich by now” are just excuses for not taking responsibility for their own lives. You can take advantage of many opportunities to maximize your chances for success while downplaying the risk of failure. 168 . But it all begins with your outlook and your willingness to do what it takes to get out of the rut and mentally move in the direction of the finish line. do. You might feel as though you are destined to continue the long line of defeat. focus on what you can do. and say. But you may also have skills and opportunities for turning the game around and coming out a champ if you will only take the time to believe in who you are and who you will become if you reach your goals. you do have complete control over what you choose to think. Some people seem to enjoy being miserable and refuse to take responsibility for their own happiness. So don’t worry about what you can’t do. I heard a few years later that she had attempted suicide. what you attract into your life and your ultimate success. They complain about all the ways in which other people or circumstances are standing in their way. Though you have no control over the actions of others.
Though it might be hard to picture yourself in a three-piece suit presiding over a six-figure bank account. If you catch yourself repeating the complaints above. Lifemoney Currency “Just can’t live that negative way…make way for the positive day. I want you to understand that you’re holding the remote in your hand to switch to that channel. I was able to become wealthy. You have even more desire to do better than others may have. You have the resources others don’t have. What makes you different from any other human being? Nothing! You should be able to attain all the things you want in life including your dreams. there is nothing stopping you from becoming all that you dream of becoming.” Your mind is yours. you better change your mental channel. If you feel yourself beginning to argue with me.Positively Thinking Practice turning negatives into positives. In America. It starts in your head with your mental remote and plays out in reality. so use it positively. If you grew up wealthy – good.” -Bob Marley Change the Mental Channel If you don’t think you’ll ever be a success. Change the channel and play the role starting now. How do you work this “mental” remote? If you act like you are already successful the achievements you want and deserve become a near certainty. STOP! Forget the excuses! If you grew up poor – good. turn them into positive statements like “He could never stop me from getting ahead” or “Even with that first set back. You dream 169 .
Failing does not make you a failure if you let it teach you lessons.Lifemoney it. The mind rules over every part of the body. Arnold Schwarzenegger went into every competition thinking he was the winner. you have a smart plan. Obviously. This is the way you turn negative experiences into a positive ones. Do it and watch how your outlook brightens. and explain how you will avoid one of those failures in the future. you work hard to get it. List five failures that caused setbacks in your life. that had to be coupled with hard work and long hours in the gym. 170 . He visualized it. write down a lesson you learned from this failure. Also. took it on as his personal goal. This attitude and confidence spread and led everyone else to believe the same. Get your mind on the right channel and the body will do its part to follow the plan. He attributed a lot of his success in bodybuilding to his mental attitude and how he won judges over with how he presented himself. and guess what? It’s yours. and owned the feeling of a champion. It was the mental focus on all that he did that made him the best in his field. but he said that all the intense effort and workouts did not give him the extra edge that he needed. Goal Achievement Exercise T Take out your Workbook. Failure can be a very positive experience if you dig through it to find a good lesson. you implement your plan.
They have a mental certainty that what they’re doing will lead them right to where they want to be. but it does happen. Can you look back and judge whether or not your mindset was positive or negative before you started your last 171 . -Thomas Edison Don’t Complain . Rather they give years of their lives charting a positive course and expecting greatness. Negative people complain about things and positive people fix things.Fix It So you’re not exactly an Arnold Schwarzenegger in the gym. Understand that a positive mindset happens first. It usually doesn’t happen overnight. Looking back have you been a complainer or a fixer? If you had it to do over. If you want a piece of the action. But the truth is that to a large extent we make our own successes and failures based upon our positive or negative thinking. Don’t use that as an excuse to sit back and complain about everyone else getting the breaks while the parade passes you by. go after it with all the skills and abilities you have! It’s easy to blame others for our own lack of success. Which have you been? Be honest with yourself. a Donald Trump in real estate or a Jay-Z in the studio. would you handle things differently? If so. how can you use that knowledge to help you in the future? People don’t just fall into piles of money or get yanked into auditoriums to receive awards.Positively Thinking Lifemoney Currency “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up”.
Begin using positive thinking to search for new ways to impact your life. Why? Negative thinkers typically think that they’re stuck and will be miserable forever. but you didn’t go? Perhaps you thought “I’m too old” or “I don’t have the time right now”? Maybe you failed to follow up on a special talent or skill. These are all signs of a distressed and negative mindset. Begin positive. that a former teacher encouraged because you secretly had no confidence in your ability. stay open and be ready to jump into action. Instead of whining about what you don’t have. People are much more likely to admire and support you if you adopt this mindset in your everyday life. start looking for what you can get. especially if it was a thought that stopped you. 172 . If you want people’s attention. get it in positive ways by becoming an encourager. The solution is to stop complaining and fix your attitude. and a role model. an inspiration. did a previous employer offer to pay the tuition for you to return to school. The same is true about anxiety.Lifemoney venture? Did you miss opportunities or not take advantage of something because you were thinking negatively right from the start? For example. Make a mental note not to miss these kinds of opportunities again. How do you do that? You’ve heard me say that we cannot always control the events in our lives. Positive thinkers are always focusing on ways to positively impact their world. but we can control our responses to them and the actions we take as a result. like drawing. and get frustrated. and never feel played out. Is stress holding you back? Stress is often closely linked with a negative mental attitude.
When you’ve completed this list. cultivating new relationships (or restoring old ones). These could include lost academic. overcoming a bad habit. Include options like going back to school. developing new skills.” -Winston Churchill 173 . employment.” -Anonymous Goal Achievement Exercise U Take out your Workbook. or relationship opportunities. make a new list of potential opportunities for the future.Positively Thinking Lifemoney Currency “Though no one can go back and make a brand new start. That’s a great first step in positive thinking. anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. This list is very important in your Lifemoney process because it points out potential areas of negative thinking you’ve engaged in and will need to steer clear of in the future. Make the list with a new sense of optimism and hopefulness. Make a list of opportunities from the past that were missed due to negative thinking. Lifemoney Currency “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.
or at least their little piece of it. and even a modern example like Hilary Swank who after getting fired from Beverly Hills 90210 for being a bad actress went on to win 2 Academy awards. I never had a crisis that didn’t make me stronger. Often when we look at successful people we only see the end result without understanding what they had to go through to get where they are today. whose deafness did not stop him from composing classic musical compositions.” -Lou Holtz. who minus sight and hearing became a model of inspiration to others. Successful people have a positive way of looking at things and an understanding of obstacles being a temporary and inconvenient part of life. football coach.Lifemoney The Key to Success? Live Out Of Your Car Positively thinking is about believing in yourself enough to do anything! What do the following tremendously successful people have in common: Hilary Swank. Positive thinking sets them on a course for achievement. Jim Carey and Jim Cramer (of Mad Money)? All of these people lived out of their cars for a short period of their lives. Lifemoney Currency “Adversity is another way to measure the greatness of individuals. broadcaster 174 . Thousands of famous people in the world have hit unbelievable roadblocks but stayed positive and changed the world. Helen Keller. Some famous examples include Beethoven.
Best Case Try this experiment to create more positive thinking. And if they did laugh. So what’s the worst thing that could happen? People laughing and throwing things? I doubt it. Don’t be intimidated by life situations like this. so you’re already way ahead of them. many of our efforts don’t bring immediate results. most people in your audience would rather die than speak. Think about something that you are afraid to do because you think you might fail. Instead think in terms of best case/worst case.Positively Thinking Worst Case . You can “worst case/best case” think your way through any troublesome or negative situation you encounter. Lifemoney Currency “The only disability in life is a bad attitude” -Scott Hamilton Keep It Moving Unlike a great speech where you get immediate feedback. so what? Who cares? Besides. who is going to think twice about your errors after they arrive home that night? It would never happen. What’s the worst case scenario? The worst case scenario would be that you totally ruined the speech and bored everyone. What’s the worst thing that could happen if you failed? Is that really that bad? Would you get over it if not immediately than eventually? Let’s say for example that you were afraid to give a speech in front of a group of people. Then take on life without apology or embarrassment. Most people don’t remember what even great speakers say! Besides. You may submit a proposal and wait months before 175 .
those less than positive vibes we hear a hundred times of day and can’t help but absorb along the way. She’s probably like all the others. lack of feedback can lead to negative thinking. For example you’re working through a relationship problem and just start kicking around words like these: • • • • Maybe I should break up with her. Without those first small steps there could be no end result worth noting. 176 . why not be positive. Do you ever catch yourself saying negative things in your head? It’s human nature to soak up some of the negative energy surrounding us. Everyone faces down times. productive and get something done? Eliminate Negative Self-Talk A huge part of controlling a positive thought process is by eliminating ongoing negative self-talk. Think of it this way: you’re going to have to spend the day in some way. unrewarded accomplishments often lay the foundation for building to higher levels of achievement. Teach yourself to stay positive even if nothing great appears to be happening and keep it moving anyway if it is helping you reach your goals.Lifemoney getting a reply. Had I let negative thoughts overtake me during times when it felt like I was not getting anywhere I wouldn’t be where I am today: a self-made millionaire still young enough to physically and mentally enjoy my success. Unless you’re prepared to wait. Or you could spend time helping a widowed neighbor with her lawn work and never receive a word of gratitude. It’s time for a change. This relationship is going nowhere. Stay positive by remembering that lesser. The way to get over them is to keep it moving until something positive does happen.
especially if others are telling you it won’t happen. it may seem unreachable at first. or climbing to the top of your profession may seem unachievable at first. Here are some examples of transforming negative self talk into positive self-talk statements: • • • Maybe I should give it another month or so. Or maybe the girl has a habit that reminds you of someone you used to date. The idea is to simply stop thinking negatively and to find something good to say “yes” to. Really look carefully at these statements for a moment. We ought to try a little longer in case this turns out to be something good. But that is the time to push the envelope to reach your dream. trying to get into graduate school. Create a Repeatable Success Thought When you set your sights on a distant goal.Positively Thinking Statements like these feed uncertainties in your mind and motivate negative actions. For example. going back to college at 40. I’m going to call her and plan something exciting. They rob you of positive energy and momentum. The faster you find positive directions to turn to when you’re in the midst of a negative talk meltdown. 177 . the faster your mind will change into a direction that goes forward. Are they entirely accurate – or just knee-jerk reactions to momentary troubles? It might simply be that the relationship is too new for either person to know where it’s headed. The key is to quickly counter the negative talk the instant you recognize it.
Don’t write long sentences or anything that is too short or vague. I call these “success thoughts. Nothing can block my success.” (Too short and vague) 178 . I will speak up at today’s meeting.” (Too long and detailed) 2. To avoid negative self-talk and track negative thoughts. Goal Achievement Exercise V Take out your Workbook.” They’re like a subliminal message you play in your mind whenever you’re beginning to lose confidence. write down positively phrased replacement terms you can use as success thoughts. The more you say it. “I’ll stop spending. the sooner you will believe it. “I plan to stop spending too much money and will close all my extra credit card accounts and only carry cash when I go shopping. Make your success thought as specific as possible.Lifemoney People who take a can-do attitude often repeat key phrases over and over in their minds. I do not need second helpings. and repeat it often. For instance: Negative thought: “I’ll never get my finances in order” Don’t write these thoughts: 1. They are phrases such as: • • • • • I am not going to buy another pack of cigarettes. I will take my wife to Hawaii next year. Be specific and limited.
Instead. You can be told that you have a 90-percent chance or a 50-percent chance or a 1-percent chance. When you fall down. 179 .” In no time you’ll be tuning in to your own thoughts for an easy-to-reach.Positively Thinking These thoughts are both non-specific and vague – You’ll stop spending for how long? Forever? Neither of these statements will be particularly helpful in the real world. “I won’t charge more than $50 weekly. it’s how you view them and what you do about them that matters. Lifemoney Currency “Anything is possible. Everyone makes mistakes. “I’ll use just one credit card. but the important thing is to think positive. specific and helpful) 2. do you lie there indefinitely or do you get up and keep moving? You may have to try a different direction. After a few weeks. and you have to fight. “I’ll pay my balance each month. detailed and valuable) Use your imagination to come up with more positive statements like these. such as. but you have to think positive.” -Lance Armstrong Positively Thinking Summary Thinking in positive ways and using your mind for positive action lays the foundation for future success.” (Positive. pre-recorded message that reminds you to stay on track.” (Positive. use an expression that is easy to say and remember: Write and repeat these success thoughts: 1. update the success thought for a related goal.
Although others may have held you back at one time or another or you may have to seek help to reach your goal. Give thanks and be happy! Lifemoney Currency “He who has so little knowledge of human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but his own disposition will waste his life in fruitless efforts.Lifemoney Don’t let past failures hold you back. Think about the things that are positive in your life. Keep focused on what you want. remember that you are responsible for how your life turns out. You can neither blame anyone exclusively for your losses nor congratulate them solely for your gains.” 180 . Don’t let anything keep you from getting it.
not a loser.” -Brad Turk 181 . I can see how past accomplishments have prepared me for the future. I will not let others’ pessimism interfere with my plans to reach my goals. _____ 8. I am watching for opportunities to say yes to. _____ 3. I refuse to hold on to negativity and past misbehaviors. I keep moving ahead even though I’m not getting immediately rewarded. some view the glass as half full. _____ 2. I repeat success thoughts to myself as often as possible. I am learning to manage personal and job-related stress by positive.Positively Thinking Millionaire’s Checklist: Check all the items below that you agree with. _____ 6. _____ 1. proactive thinking. to fix my situation. _____ 5. I view the glass as half full. I am making consistent efforts not to complain. _____ 4. _____ 9. _____ 10. giving yourself 10 points for each checkmark and 0 points for any left blank. with the waiter on his way over to fill it up. I will continue viewing myself as a winner. _____ 7. I will act as if I’m in the role I want to play. Lifemoney Currency “Some view the glass as half empty. and then tally your score. but rather.
it turns denying yourself into investing in yourself. We want it now. Successful people know that dreams don’t come pre-packaged overnight.” -Evel Knievel Overview Few of us do well with sacrifice. Not true. They say I have broken every bone in my body.Lifemoney Lifemoney Lesson # 10: Sacrifice “There are a lot of myths about my injuries. 182 . it just doesn’t come naturally. They realize that to achieve their goals they often have to sacrifice something in the present for what they want in the future. I forget all of the things that have broke. I shattered my pelvis. If we could find a way we’d have it yesterday. But I have broken 35 bones. I had surgery 14 times to pin and plate. We want it all. When you recognize that sacrifice is frequently a part of success.
to get his first film project. But if that was the only way. saving every penny to open a restaurant. Why? Because they work hard. Go into Debt and Max Out Your Credit Cards Are you willing to max out your credit cards and assume massive debt to get where you want to go? Before I go any further. off the ground he did just that. In 1986. rigorous job to get where they want to go. It’s a real risky strategy but sometimes when you believe in something strongly enough. Since then Spike Lee has produced at least 22 other films that have made over $433. Their children attend the best colleges and inherit these successful companies started by the hard-working immigrants. Now I understand that not everyone is willing to sacrifice their ego or their prestige by taking a low-paying. sacrifice is often a part of any success story. you have to make those kinds of sacrifices.000 in domestic box office sales. Within a generation. some become millionaires. but I can tell you that Spike would probably say yes. sleeping just a few hours a day. They lay everything they have on the line. Spike Lee knows that sacrifice can pay off .big time! Big or small.000 in sales. They are simply unwilling to sacrifice anything to get where they want to go.100.000 to make the movie and it grossed $7. store or business. This much I can tell you. Yet. would you? 183 .Sacrifice Borrow. It cost him $175. Many immigrants come to this country with nothing but the shirt on their backs. She’s Gotta Have It. there are people who were born in this country who complain about the lack of jobs.000. Was the sacrifice worth it? You’d need to ask him. I will tell you right off the bat that I wouldn’t be. Some work two and three shifts for years at a time. grateful for the opportunity to have all the work they can handle. Ask filmmaker Spike Lee.
Yet he worked up to eight hours a day after his day job drawing editorial cartoons because that’s where his heart was. 184 . Lifemoney Currency “Judge your success by what you had to give up to get it. Pulitzer Prize winning political cartoonist. to reach out and grab your future? • Just how far are you willing to go? It’s vital to answer these questions and know these things about yourself. There were no shortcuts to success.Lifemoney Only you can decide what you are willing to sacrifice to reach your goals. These answers are all good preparation for those moments when the amount of your personal sacrifice is tested. at almost any cost. He had to sacrifice his nights and his only free time in order to get where he wanted to go. Ask yourself the following questions: • • • • What’s it worth for you to become truly successful? Will you work more hours at one or more jobs? Will you give up some free time to plan your future? Are you ready and able to do what it takes.” -Dali Lama Sacrificing for Success Mike Luckovich. took a job as an insurance salesperson straight out of college.
and/or enjoy that you are willing to part with in exchange for your goal. list three things you now do. Below the goal you just wrote. He could have taken the easy route to avoid jail time. Often the difference between attaining your goal and just dreaming about it are is the things you are willing to sacrifice. or is your goal just a casual want? Only you know. Are you “all in” as they say in Texas Hold ‘em? Are you fully committed and in “do or die” mode. and I can’t make up your mind for you. which you would be willing to exchange for something even more valuable? Is it time? Money? Resources? Possessions? Relationships? Only you have the answer to that question. They are costly and precious. and giving up your weekly poker game to play tennis. improving the lives of millions of people.Sacrifice Martin Luther King. I am committed to helping you get where you want to go.. Goal Achievement Exercise W Take out your Workbook. and you will have to be ready to give it when the time comes. You have to be willing to do whatever it takes to claim them. etc. But he stuck with it. $100 per month for a gym membership. or he might have gotten discouraged and given up. Choose one of your goals and write it out. However. Ideals are not cheap. spent months in prison rather than surrender his belief in equal rights for all people. if becoming more physically fit is one of your goals. have.. 185 . So let me offer you four guidelines for learning to sacrifice just a little so you can gain a whole lot more in return. What do you have in your life now that is expendable. List the tradeoffs you are willing to make to reach one of your goals. your sacrifices could include six hours of your time each week for daily workouts. For example. Jr.
they will mean the world to you because of what it cost to reach them. when you do reach your goals. But as we’ve seen that’s not always the case. Success has value because you have to work for it – you earn it. But after years of careful thought and unwavering perseverance. When you get enough. you eagerly add a few dollars here and there to save up the needed amount. One is given everything by rich parents who buy her everything she needs and most things she wants. presenting it to your friend or loved one with a sense of tremendous accomplishment. Whether it costs $20 or $200.Lifemoney Lifemoney Currency “Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work. you proudly go out and purchase the gift. If you could just reach out and get them today. They’re both chasing the same dream: business success. You can view your goals in the same way. Have you ever planned to buy a special gift for someone? You may set aside every extra penny you can get your hands on in anticipation of buying that present. Ten years later they both have good jobs – the first in her own company funded by her parents and the second in her own company that she scraped together every penny to start.” -Thomas Edison Number 1: Count the cost I would love to tell you that success is free and painless. there would be no effort or cost attached—and they would mean very little. Which one do you think 186 . Imagine a scenario of two young women. The second is raised in a poor family and is never given anything but a kick out the door when she turns sixteen.
). Put less important things on hold. and sacrifice to reach this goal? Here are some of the possible “costs”: • Give up an hour or more of sleep to work on my plan (get fit. Invest a certain amount of income toward reaching my goal(s). “anything worth having is worth working for. Find the non-essential time-eaters in my life and eliminate them. Period. That cost is part of the joy of success. 187 . Develop a needed skill through a second job. volunteering. Get feedback from those who already have accomplished similar goals.Sacrifice appreciates the success more? You know the answer. or do you have more of a take-it-or-leave-it attitude? The importance you attach to your quest will determine the amount of energy you will spend to reach it. or taking a class. write a book. You’ve probably heard the saying. • • • • • • • Set aside weekly reflection time to check my progress and adjust my plan. have a question. Are you ready to figure out what it will cost in time. sweat and tears for something you’ll own it in a way that nobody else can appreciate. or run into problems. you have already begun to outline some of the goals you hope to reach and have created a plan to get there. Why does she appreciate it more? It’s common sense that when you pour out your own blood. money. at least temporarily. But no plan is complete without counting the cost of reaching your objectives. Seek help when I get stumped. In planning for your future.” Do you feel that way about your road to success. etc.
too. Those who struggle with poverty are often willing to trade the shirt on their backs for a one-time meal. They fail to realize that keeping the shirt allows them to work outdoors in bad weather to provide many meals. Underachievers live for the day and overachievers live for the future.” -Sidney Howard Number 2: Delay gratification Sociology experts tell us that one of the differences between the lower class and the upper class is the ability to delay gratification. you will have enough for today and tomorrow. It’s a simple fact of life. What percentage of your daily schedule do you devote to working toward goals? Are you so preoccupied with getting by today that you haven’t given much thought to the days that will follow? You really must plan on setting aside between three and six months’ of income in case of a job loss or disability. If you spend all you have. The wealthy will have enough from current savings and investment plans.Lifemoney Lifemoney Currency “One half of knowing what you want is knowing what you must give up before you get it. there will be nothing left. but less than twenty percent of the population do so. Delaying gratification is one way to begin building stores of resources for the unseen challenges that will come. but those with mid-level or sporadic income typically focus more on the here and now than on a plan for tomorrow. But if you save and invest it. 188 .
In other words we’re doing it anyway. every other week. Then underneath each item you expect to give yourself today. etc. Let’s build your ability to delay gratification. which in the end brings it own kind of reward. When you have successfully conquered the need for instant gratification. play tennis. Often we don’t find out about a medical test result for several weeks.Sacrifice Delaying gratification is something you get used to. It might be go for a walk. We are all tempted to skip the difficult stuff of our lives and go straight to the fun. If you are consistent in doing the task before you get your reward your tolerance for delayed gratification will grow. List one or two tasks you will have to complete before you get your reward. This might challenge you and be a little difficult. Do this exercise well and discover how much more you get done and how much better you feel. or at the end of the month. For example most of us don’t get paid for our work at the end of each day. eat some ice cream. All of these things take patience. go shopping. we collect paychecks every week. watch your favorite television program. many areas of our lives undergo postponement. When you think about it. 189 . Make sure that those things on your list are things you really want to do. List two or three fun things you want to do today. list something you will get done before you have your fun. Goal Achievement Exercise X Take out your Workbook. Instead. almost any achievement in the world will become immediately more achievable.
So do it.” -Michael Jordan Number 3: Pull the trigger NOW! What I’m talking about here is taking the leap. Start small. and it may seem difficult at first to find enough extra income to make regular deposits. family. Just do it. Depending on what you hope to achieve someday. so you will never miss the amount of each savings account deposit. The same is true for working toward your future goals. and social activities. setting aside time for future rewards is like making deposits in a savings account. especially if you begin with a reasonable amount. you can arrange for a direct deposit straight from your paycheck. You may be reluctant to open a bank account. making community contacts. But actually. Most of us lead busy lives. Devote fifteen to thirty minutes several days a week to your goals. say $25 per month. then I can expect halfhearted results. We barely have enough time to get through a typical day with the demands of work. pulling the trigger and going for it. Many goals that seem hard at first become easier once you get momentum established. this could involve reading. But you won’t know that until you pull the trigger and get moving. Because I know if I do. the results will come.Lifemoney Lifemoney Currency “I’ve always believed that if you put in the work. But with a little effort. I don’t do things half-heartedly. doing 190 . Finding time to work on long-range goals may seem impractical.
you will be rewarded. But if you keep pulling the action and sacrifice trigger. For example. you may need to first attend some political rallies. It isn’t reasonable to expect that you will suddenly become the next mayor of your town just by wishing for it to happen. if you want to get involved in local government. And keep pulling the trigger at each “next” level of achievement you’re taking. of course. or a thousand other things that will move you closer to your goals – remember that grid from Achievement Exercise M. The following is a great thought on the payoff of sacrifice quoted from the book The Rules of Life by Richard Templar. None of those tasks took a long time – but each one was a step toward realizing a goal. Should it be a television program? An after dinner nap? You will have to decide what you are willing to give up in exchange for the time you need to work on your goals. so pull the trigger now and get your show rolling. Everyone has to pay their dues as they work. Whatever your goal. do it. visit with your representative. Life is a bit like that. Remember that one of the keys to success is to learn everything about the role you want to play. His point was. keep in mind that you may have to work through several levels of effort to reach them. Sometimes it seems unfair. Naturally. from the inside out. that if you can’t tell which half. or volunteer as an aide to learn the ropes. then you have to keep on doing the whole lot.Sacrifice volunteer service. You put in 191 . Pull the trigger already. fully aware that not all of it will produce rewards. this means you’ll have to give up something in exchange for this valuable daily time. Whatever it is you must give up.’ but he didn’t know which half. This is the perfect summary of the frustration we all face when we finally act and begin the process of making sacrifices to reach goals: “Someone once said that ‘half of the money spent on advertising was wasted.
and others cruise it. Well. The lesson is that you must continually give 100% effort in the direction of your dreams. engraved there to inspire the youth of that school. but then life isn’t.and which aren’t. It’s a simple lesson that has never failed to produce great results for me. and anyone with a dream must learn to live there. You work up a sweat. This is the shadowland of hope.” This quote summarizes a great lesson I’ve learned throughout my successes. you have to keep doing the 100% because you don’t know which bits will pay off. Why? Because success has many moving parts and you can never be totally sure what will work and what won’t work. Your efforts will be rewarded eventually.” -Alex Haley Number 4: Be Prepared In an inner city high school auditorium is a quote from a well-known figure.or for what -.Lifemoney loads of effort and get nothing back. Lifemoney Currency “I wasn’t going to be one of those people who died wondering what if? I would keep putting my dreams to the test—even though it meant living with uncertainty and fear of failure. but you’ll probably never know which efforts are being rewarded -. I know it isn’t fair. The only certainty you can expect is that if you give a continued effort something will pay off that will make it all worthwhile. You’re polite to people and everyone seems rude back. It reads: 192 .
” The emphasis is on the preparation. but they rarely do. no matter what the cost? That question hangs in the air several times during the movie as all the men do a gut check as to their willingness to take down the feared Capone. if you build your Lifemoney. the work doesn’t seem like work. Are you prepared to follow this through. It’s the story of how FBI agent Elliot Ness took down the infamous gangster Al Capone in the mid-thirties. an Irish cop played by Sean Connery. one of Ness’s fellow agents. In the movie. In addition. Preparing yourself is simply about getting yourself mentally prepared to do whatever is required to go after your dreams. we have to figure out which ones we want most. and then force ourselves to work hard for them. One of my favorite movies is The Untouchables. and if you love where you’re going you can know ahead of time that you have a lot of pleasure ahead waiting on you. asks the scared and unsure Ness “What are you prepared to do?” It was a question of challenge in the face of great fear and intimidation. Instead. But show me someone who has achieved their dream without it. Maybe they should. Connery for the last time looks into Elliot Ness’s eyes and asks “What are you prepared to do?”. At the climax of the movie.Sacrifice “I will study and get ready. Nobody wants to hear about effort and work and sweat. the whole process of success becomes easier. having been mortally shot. Sacrifice is sort of the dirty word of success. What are you prepared to do? 193 . Good things don’t just happen to us. then he dies. It’s not nearly as bad as you might think. The good news is that if you’re in love with your dreams and want them so badly you can taste them. Those people just don’t exist. and someday my chance may come.
the payoff will eventually be seen. focus on “what am I going to get in return?” Investments of time or money are long-term deals. Lifemoney Currency “One hundred percent of the shots you don’t take don’t go in.Lifemoney Sacrifice Summary Sacrifice isn’t the fun part of success. and some require harder work than others. at almost any cost. But don’t dwell on the negative aspects of “what do I have to give up?” Instead. But if you keep putting in the effort.” -Wayne Gretzky 194 . Most do not pay off immediately. Only you can decide what you are willing to give up in reaching your goals. What’s it worth for you to become truly successful? Will you work more hours at one or more jobs? Will you give up some free time to plan your future? Are you ready and able to do what it takes. Be prepared to give up more of what you have to get more of what you want. sacrifice pays off. Keep your eye on the prize and focus on what you’re going to get in return. to reach out and grab your future? Don’t spend the rest of your life wondering what might have been. No one likes to sit around wondering what he or she has to give up as an investment in a dream. In the end.
I will put forth 100% effort at all times. I believe that planning for the future is as important as getting by today.Sacrifice Millionaire’s Checklist: Check all the items below that you agree with. _____ 5. I am willing to pay the cost that is required for me to meet my goals. _____ 2. and then tally your score. Lifemoney Currency “Don’t sacrifice what you want most for what you want now” -Brad Turk 195 . ____ 10. _____ 1. I have calculated my goals’ financial costs and scheduling adjustments. _____ 4. Some of my goals will require that I hang tough. _____ 6. _____ 9. _____ 8. _____ 7. I have identified several things in my life that I must sacrifice for success. I am prepared for life. _____ 3. giving yourself 10 points for each checkmark and 0 points for any left blank. I am willing to set aside less important activities to focus on my goal. I am learning to delay my gratification for both the present and the future. I am pulling the trigger on my talent today.
Lifemoney Lifemoney Lesson # 11: Be Patient and Enjoy the Journey “The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever the same. Develop patience and the ability to enjoy your journey and your life will become better than you would have ever imagined. 196 . not the destination.” -Don Williams. tension or frustration. It is the ability to let go of the need for immediate gratification. I mean the ability to sit back and relax while waiting for an outcome. Yet our lessons come from the journey. J Overview Having patience is a key ingredient to successful living. By patience. It is the ability to settle down and relax and maintain a stress-free focus on where you’re going. without experiencing anxiety. Doing Time Do any of these sound like you? 1) I get frustrated when I can’t get instant results.
jobs and friendships. This is one of my personal flaws that I am working on. relationships and personal growth when you lack patience. you run the risk of anxiety.this task has two many steps. Accept that you don’t need to rush things ahead of their time and keep the belief that your day to day efforts will pay off in the long run. Once you have done your best to plan your success and have pulled the trigger and put your full effort forward. I’m going to move on to something else. without which you are going to suffer. There are many negative consequences on health. This can further result in losing important things like business relationships. 3) I can’t stop for even a second until I reach my goal. If you recognize yourself in any of these then you need to pay close attention to what I’m about to say. When you force efforts.Enjoy the journey 2) I will never get to all the things I have to do. It’s as if patience is a simple building block of satisfaction. the results just won’t last long. you need to be patient and wait for your results. 5) If something doesn’t work immediately. unhappiness and sometimes even anger. which is a powerful force that gets things done. Gradual change and growth give you the greatest chances for success. I have to be honest with you: I happen to be a very impatient person. which can be very destructive. from impatience. When you stress yourself to create results too quickly. But I am careful to differentiate urgency. How do I differentiate the two? A sense of urgency is a good and powerful 197 . 4) I hate having to do or say something more than once. 6) I just don’t know where to start .
For example when I take on tasks that are really time consuming (this book for example). urgency turns damaging and can lead to senseless and sometimes destructive impatience. If I can’t change or alter a situation. I have an unrealistic expectation of speed. And this is probably true for you too.Lifemoney tool. I told 198 . It’s a quality that helps me act quickly and get an enormous amount done. If I’m not careful this can create impatience in me. and don’t let the things I can’t control stress me out. It seemed as if I had finally worked out all of the points (including the pricing) and that all that was to go to Mexico and sign contracts. Mexico. Based on where I was in the process and the faith that I had in my contacts in Mexico. I need to clear it from my mind. I’d been working on this deal for a while and doing all of my communications with Mexico via the telephone. It’s the impatience that comes along after this frustrated sense of urgency which can be destructive to me. Let me describe this in another way: I like to complete things quickly and I don’t like waiting for my rewards. I can’t control those timeframes. There is no way a sense of urgency can create the satisfaction of writing a best seller (let’s hope this will be) instantly because of the timeframes involved in the task. I’d brought on an investor to put up the money for the deal. Mañana I learned the true meaning of controlling what you can control when I was working on a deal in Mexico City. But when urgency is applied to things I can’t change. This is a struggle for me as it might be for you. How do you and I remain urgent without dying from impatience and anxiety? The big lesson I’ve learned is to focus on controlling what I can control.
When reviewing the numbers in this new version of the proposal it was obvious to me that we would lose money if we signed that deal.000 that was needed to get this project going. me not speaking a word of Spanish (or only enough to order dinner and maybe get directed to a bathroom) and no deal on the table.Enjoy the journey the investor where I was in the deal (just going to finalize and sign paperwork) and had given him the price points that were worked out. When I sat down in my meeting and went over the paperwork that they had prepared. So there I stood in Mexico. a partner who trusted me enough to put up that $1. he decided to partner with me and put up the $1. It took all the Lifemoney lessons I talk about in this book to get me through this situation. and then I left the meeting. regroup and come up with a game plan. $1. Based on the trust that I had built with the investor on past dealings. I hired a translator to come to meetings with me in case the parties I would call on did not speak English fluently. and patience was number one. I flew down to Mexico for my big meeting and to sign paperwork. What was I going to do now? Go home with no deal and give up? How could I tell my investor what happened? Was I going to start from scratch after all this work in putting together this deal? What I did was relax. I picked up my things and told the company I was meeting with that I would look over their new terms. I immediately extended my trip from 2 days to a full week. I spent the next day gathering information on contact names for all of the competitors of the company that I 199 . I wanted this deal done. I noticed that they had changed all of the terms of the deal.6 million dollars.6 million already invested in the equipment needed for this project. There was so much I had no control over. Outraged by what transpired.600.
• Stay busy. Focus on the results and not the task.Lifemoney had met with. So what should you do to be more patient? Make an effort to keep track of the following things: • • • • Break large goals into pieces and focus on one piece at a time. I met with 8 competitors of the company that I had my initial meeting with and I signed 2 contracts before I left Mexico. Get preoccupied with another task until you have results from the first. • Remind yourself that you are human and that all great minds have been through what you are going through to achieve what you desire. reevaluate your objectives and make your goals more realistic for your needs. I would have never completed this deal that wound up being a very successful project for me. If I did not have the patience to stick this out. If you understand that success is a journey you will begin to enjoy each moment and will realize that being impatient is counterproductive and takes away from the joy of life. I wound up getting an even better deal than I would have initially. Look at the things you have accomplished to date. • Reward yourself for completing something difficult. Why? Because I was patient and focused on controlling what I could control. I started making calls and finding out key contacts and setting up appointments. 200 . If your goals don’t seem to be on track. Do something fun and celebrate your incremental success.
We need to count our blessings and enjoy what we do have and make the most of every day. Don’t take time for granted and let your life pass you by. Here’s a very personal technique I rely on to help me enjoy the daily journey. You need to live today like it was your last day and plan for tomorrow as if you were living forever. will I even remember it? How will it affect my life? Try it! Either take a problem that you are going through now or remember one from 5 years ago and see what came of it. You need to start enjoying a little everyday. Think of all the fun and excitement you will miss if you don’t savor every moment. before you know it. you will wake up and have missed out on what life really has to offer. I find something to make me realize that it’s not as bad as I think it is. I’ll think back to a time that I was sick in bed just wishing to be healthy to be able to be outside and enjoy a beautiful day.Enjoy the journey Enjoy the Journey The purpose of life is not to work hard for 40 years and be miserable so that you can retire at age 65 and enjoy the last years of your life. If you do. Are your problems really as serious as you think they are? I think about my problem and imagine how it will affect me 5 years from now. For example. Remember when you were a kid and you wished you were older? How many of you wish you were younger again? We always wish for what we don’t have and don’t appreciate what is right in front of us. Chances are you will look 201 . When I am having a bad day. In 5 years looking back at the issue. I open the window or take a walk outside and enjoy it. I’ll realize today is beautiful and I should appreciate my health. Who said life has to be hard? It is only tough if you make it tough. The 5 Year Test Another very effective technique I use is the 5 Year Test.
You will remember that in 5 years.” Do you remember your first break up? No matter how sad you were at the time. so we need to make the most out of our time. Don’t get so involved in the little negatives that you don’t appreciate life’s big positives. Seek Happiness in Simplicity Never let life’s disappointments keep you from having a good time. 202 . it probably has no bearing on your life now at all. Everyday is filled with something good or exciting that can be easily overlooked when we are preoccupied. Time moves faster than we all want to believe. list 2 problems that you are presently facing and put them through the 5 year test. a joke. they seem unimportant. spending time with friends or family. Now. Decide if these problems are really that important to your life that you should be wasting precious time and energy worrying about them. A good meal. that when you look back on. In 5 years it may turn out to be the biggest break of your whole life! Goal Achievement Exercise Y Take out your Workbook.Lifemoney back and think “I can’t believe I spent time worrying about that” or “I can’t believe that even bothered me. or listening to good music should be enough to keep us going and to get us over daily disappointments. Getting fired from a job? That may be a blessing in disguise. List 2 problems that you have had in the past. Don’t let one day pass you by without appreciating something that you may never have or see again. A death in the family is terrible and needs grieving.
how could he find perfection in such an average day?" Then I realized this was the whole point" (p. And going home and having a wonderful sleep. Tuesdays With Morrie. "That’s it.Enjoy the journey In the best-selling book. "That’s it. After all these months.What would you do?" Morrie talked of ordinary things like a breakfast of sweet rolls and tea. each Tuesday after the older man was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig’s disease. lying there. Don’t overlook the obvious in your quest for the brilliant. unable to move a leg or a foot ." Morrie replies. "It was so simple. In a chapter entitled We Talk About The Perfect Day. author Mitch Albom visited a former professor. So average... 203 ." he is asked. talking with people. I figured he’d fly to Italy or have lunch with the President or romp on the seashore or try every exotic thing he could think of. at the end of the day what is truly important may be the simple. unnoticed things we do all the time. Albom asked Morrie a question: "What if you had one day perfectly healthy . going out to a restaurant for supper. a walk in the midst of nature.175) This illustration drives home the point that while we spend a good part of our lives in pursuit of lofty goals. Morrie. a swim. dancing. I was actually a little disappointed. friends over for lunch.
it is best to have a fire in your gut for what you’re doing! I don’t necessarily agree with a lot of successful people who say that if you don’t have a passion for something you can’t be successful. It is easier to “enjoy the journey” if you pick things in life that excite you and keep you stimulated. I think people are 204 . In the process appreciate what you have and enjoy it. there is always someone with less doing more than you. Some people complain about going to work when they work in beautiful air conditioned offices.Lifemoney Lifemoney Currency “There is no one thing that is more important than everything else. it won’t feel like work. In other words. Think about the person who is working outside in the heat.” -Brad Turk Appreciate what you have and don’t complain and make excuses. But I do agree that passion helps. Think about a handicapped person who was born with a disability yet despite their struggles are making three times more money than you are because they are working smarter and harder. Don’t make excuses find solutions and make it happen. better yet. The people who succeed find reasons why they can do something. GOAL (Go Out And Live) If you do what you enjoy doing and have a passion for it. the person who is unemployed and is worried they might be evicted if they don’t get a job soon. the people who fail find excuses for why they can’t. I know successful people who are making it big in things they don’t care about.
But whatever you do. make sure you “Go out and live!” and don’t miss the beautiful things in life today because you’re so down about your situation.” At least that’s the way I am. My suggestion is that if you have a good job for which you don’t feel a lot of passion. writing one manuscript after another and firing them off to the publishers in hopes of being accepted. In fact. Use Lifemoney Lessons to set a course for what you really want while you do your very best where you are. I’ve worked in situations that I didn’t have the least amount of passion only because I knew that if I stuck with it I’d get something that I wanted out of it.and create some financial success that can free you. Then one day he 205 . he locked himself into his attic office and plugged away. He hardly noticed the leaves turning colors outside his small window. Day after day. then look hard to find something you’re passionate about and consider a career change now. long unwanted hours or working in a field that’s paying the bills even if you don’t enjoy the work? What are you supposed to do? I’ve never been a person that thinks you need “passion” for your job to get what you want out of life. But what if your job is the last thing you feel passion for? What if you are one of those people who has to put up with an aggravating boss. be stimulated and enjoy life…. Try to create an external world outside of your business that enables you to have fun. Sometimes the ends do justify the means. You can do that. If you can’t stand doing what you’re doing. There is a story about a young man who wanted to become a famous writer.Enjoy the journey a lot more motivated to satisfy a deep passion than they are to merely satisfy the requirements of a “job. see your job as your vehicle to get you someplace else.
As he got angry when she did not bring the mail at exactly 2 p. Don’t stop yourself from relaxing and recouping.Lifemoney waited for his small daughter to bring up the mail. It could be a ten minute break to get a cup of coffee and stretch or it could even be a week off to take your mind off things and have some fun. they were all empty of his family and furniture. the object is to make your life enjoyable. Sometimes you need to walk away from things and get a new perspective and sometimes you just need a break.m. Walking through one room after another. the man went downstairs and was amazed by the quiet that filled his whole house. Again.” Ironically. Renew your energy. On the kitchen counter was a note: “We couldn’t take the sadness of missing you at dinner and the kids’ softball games.. Make sure you’re enjoying the journey as you go or you will have to face some very serious regrets. If you are stiff and focused on a goal and have such blinders on 206 . and have moved out. hoping as usual for a long-awaited letter of acceptance from a publisher he mailed out to. Goal Achievement Exercise Z Take out your Workbook. now middle-aged. Better luck with your novel. That’s why you’re reading a book called Lifemoney and not MegaMillions-Billions-Never-Enough-money. found a publisher’s letter saying that his book would be published. The moral of this story is that success by any means doesn’t always “mean” success. in checking the mail. But it had cost him far more than he had ever imagined. List 5 things that you are going to do to ensure that you are enjoying your journey through life. the man.
There’s plenty of time to be dead.Enjoy the journey that you are letting life pass you by. you are missing out. Lifemoney Currency “Enjoy life. As life is moving by at warp speed we ask ourselves over and over again: How can I have the best life possible? It’s not an easy question to answer.” -Anonymous 207 . you’ve gone a long way to deciding where to spend your free time. Patience and Enjoying the Journey Summary Life is funny. because when you’re finally done and outta here. play hard. It goes by both very fast and very slow. I don’t want to miss out on life to get my reward someday in the future. If you’ve figured out what you’ll miss the most when you leave. This much I know: success without enjoying your journey through your days is pretty worthless. and how to really enjoy the ride. I want my rewards as I go along. You need to have a balance. Take the time to smell the roses. and sometimes the answers you generate for yourself are wrong. My motto is work hard. the small everyday things are the things you’re going to miss the most.
_____ 4. _____ 2. _____ 10. I will not take for granted what I already have. I will practice the 5 Year Test I will not stress over things I can’t control. I will have urgency in my work and patience waiting for my results. _____ 7. _____ 8. I will not wait until it is too late to enjoy my life. I will take time to stop and smell the roses. and plan for tomorrow as if you were living forever. _____ 5. I will break goals into pieces and patiently work on one piece at a time. Lifemoney Currency “Live today like it was your last day. I will find something positive out of everyday.” -Brad Turk 208 . _____ 6. _____ 3. I believe my day to day efforts will have an effect in the long run. giving yourself 10 points for each checkmark and 0 points for any left blank. _____ 9.Lifemoney Millionaire’s Checklist: Check all the items below that you agree with. _____ 1. and then tally your score. I will take a break from time to time to rejuvenate and enjoy my life.
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