Daytime Pick-Up Revealed

The Art of Meeting, Connecting and Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls, College Campuses, and Anywhere Under the Sun!
2006 All Rights Reserved 

IntroductIon A Word on consIstency GettInG the Most FroM thIs MAnuAl WArnInG!

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Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle 8 WhAt Is dAy GAMe? 8 An eye opener on cold ApproAchInG 9 WelcoMe to WoMen’s everydAy reAlIty 10 creAtInG A vIsIon 11 ActInG on your plAn 12 4 steps to IncreAse the eFFectIveness oF GoAl settInG 13 IntroductIon to the 8 essentIAl dAyGAMe FActors 14 Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS FActor 1: Inner strenGth FActor 2: IdentIty FActor 3: lonG terM And short terM vAlue FActor 4: eFFectIve coMMunIcAtIon FActor 5: eMotIonAl connectIon FActor 6: coMFort & trust FActor 7: loGIstIcs FActor 8: InvestMent Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS, rAcking up dAteS, And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndset For MeetInG WoMen Where to Meet WoMen Be In tune WIth the enerGy level crAsh course In stArtInG conversAtIon WIth WoMen BreAKInG doWn the opener deAlInG WIth contInGencIes GIFt shIFt theory the pInG ponG MetAphor 

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Go FIrst prIncIple poWer tAlK WhAt to do AFter InItIAtInG the conversAtIon you Must creAte A connectIon hoW to AnsWer lIGht rApport QuestIons BuIldInG suBstAnce: ActIve lIstenInG, FIndInG her core vAlue, And leAdInG WIth your pAssIons leAdInG WIth your pAssIons A couple oF eFFectIve conversAtIonAl tools here’s A conversAtIon I hAd In the pAst BuIldInG FAMIlIArIty & suBstAnce the Art oF GettInG phone nuMBers & settInG up dAtes 8 tIps For An unForGettABle FIrst dAte on creAtInG A sexuAl vIBe When & hoW to KIss her FroM coFFee shop, MAll, superMArKet to the BedrooM: the nAturAl proGressIon Words oF WIsdoM WrAppInG It All up

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at that time. there were no resources on meeting women outside of the “bars and clubs” context. streets. Anyone. beaches. and college campuses. It didn’t stop me though. I’ve piled up all the useful information that I’ve discovered in my pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups. quite frankly. There were no gurus. After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls.000 pages? Yes. I learned from my past failures.  . Back then. Over the years. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part of my life handled. by choice. In the process. it can be overwhelming. I really had no other option. I had to learn how pick up women from scratch. I don’t want you to take a year to see results. and trial and error. So I came up with a manual that anyone. regardless of age and experience. even my 8-year-old cousin. Worst of all. I just needed to know how to operate in the field. can benefit from this manual. with the right combination of passion. 2. dedication. You’ve taken the first step toward improving yourself. coffee shops. I want you to succeed now. books.000 pages filled with discoveries. or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up. Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you’ve absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book. I know there’s a lot of information out there and. I’ve compressed it all into this book. videos. I’ve developed a step by step system that will allow anyone. and perseverance to become successful with women.InTroduCTIon First of all. and tactics on meeting women during the daytime. would understand. What you’re about to read is a product of years of trial and error. theories. I learned the natural [**hard?**] way. I came up with over 2. It was a long and painful process but. I want to congratulate you. hanging out with guys that were good with women.

and without excuses. and you will not be figuring out this part of your life forever . You’ll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn. there was always one common denominator. You can have the best techniques. This manual is my helping hand to all those guys who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day. You must find the determination. without fail. consistently. this book isn’t some magic pill that will solve all your problems overnight. a Word on ConsIsTenCy Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency. Now. It doesn’t work that way. and choose wisely. You won’t be in college forever. would you be willing to experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to achieve the lifestyle of your dreams . I promise you won’t regret it. it’s all worthless. and the best coach out there. You’re about to begin your journey. make a stand. So now. If you don’t get this part of your life handled right now. Over the past three years. I’ve talked to hundreds of people who have successfully transformed their dating lifestyle. but without consistency. but you will never reach it unless you consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other. and drive within yourself to see this through. and keep an open mind. they each followed their pre-determined plan. passion.or will you continue to be an “average Joe” for 70 more years? Which path will you take? It’s time to make a decision.There’s a catch though… You have to want it. First of all. I want you to sit back.only a few months! This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself. relax. the best system.  . There are many ways to achieve your goal. Eventhough they were from different walks of life and trained differently. You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in this area of your life. Day in day out. then when will you? Treat this like going to college to get a degree.

You can drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect. ever be satisfied with just learning this stuff.com Let’s Rock n Roll!  . It’s similar to learning a sport.I want you to approach this as you. The more you practice. I’ll constantly be throwing new concepts at you. You need the right information and the ability to put that information into practice. Read. Some of them will be helpful to your current situation. It’s a repetitive process that will propel you toward success. practice it! Don’t go jump right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you learn here. reading. Read through it once or twice and absorb whatever you can. comments. You need to go out there and practice the things you learn. or just a simple “Hi” note if you will. complaints. Come back and read the individual section from time to time. Keep practicing. GeTTInG The MosT froM ThIs Manual There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. so be prepared. Treat this book as a reference or encyclopedia. and using it until you have it all down! Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas. you will need in the future. absorb. would when you’re trying to develop a skill. Most of them. and integrate the information you learn. I want to know what you think. if you want to become competent. Don’t ever. You need to practice several times a week. I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won’t be enough. the better you become.

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relax. get them on dates. WhaT Is day GaMe? Have you ever experienced seeing “your type” of girl walk down the street? Most likely you have. Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands. beaches. ”What Did You Do About It? Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by? If you didn’t do anything. Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day? If you answered yes to any one of those. The best thing about it is that YOU could potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how. then that’s normal. and how I’ve used this information to solidify my game and make myself more successful with women.Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle In this section. shop. I have yet to meet someone who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that catches his eye. I’ve met a couple of men that can pull it off. it’s a skill set. The question is. and coffee shops every single day. they roam around malls. and have the possibility of starting a relationship with them. then day game just might be the answer. Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday? Women of all types of beauty are not hard to find. as most may think. supermarkets.  . It’s not luck. build an emotional connection. have fun and a whole list of other reasons. outside of bars and clubs. What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me. I’m sure you wanted to accomplish something. I’ll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before the approach. they are rare. and believe me.

I didn’t even know their name. Several years ago. Now. do you want to sign up for our service today?” yada yada yada. If you think about it. more often than not. is their ability to communicate with people. and that’s when I learned something… If my initial approach was unique. Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What happened?  . What does sales have to do with being successful with girls? Everything. I’d always be shouting “Hey sir. I should know. then people usually gave me a bit of their time. they’d just continue walking. the one thing that’s similar with salespeople and guys that are successful with women. I learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must. then there would be no need for salespeople. It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a chance to get to know the customer. people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had to say. trying to get people to buy our products. I’ve had a history of being a salesman. and it did make sense. I’ve spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth in the middle of a mall. Heck.What if I told you that it’s possible to approach these beautiful strangers and have something positive result from almost all of your interactions? Would you think I’m nuts? an eye opener on Cold approaChInG Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger. I tried and experimented with a lot of different techniques. Communication is key in everything that we do. Occasionally. let’s get back to my story… After failing to produce results in my job. If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the customer. I’ll talk more about this in the upcoming chapters. But.

If you can relate to this scenario then. Then the conversation comes to an end and you either say “Nice talking to you” or just simply turn around and carry on with your business. The first thing you need to do is find a way to bypass her social filters.You probably heard them open with a familiar line like: “Hey what’s going on?” “Nice weather…” “It’s a pretty long line. Make or Break Moment The first couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or break moment. depending on your mood. There are a lot of whackos out there. They’ve developed tolerance to men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction. why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were you interested in getting to know them as a person? Chances are it was out of politeness. WelCoMe To WoMen’s everyday realITy Women get approached or hit on all the time. Your goal is to get her into a state of mind where she’s susceptible to be led.. It’s not their fault and I certainly don’t blame them for being rude sometimes. 0 . Looking back.. What does that mean? You’ve got to approach her in a way that she’s not accustomed. isn’t it” Chances are you reply with some sort of answer. How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off? I’m sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers that you say when you get the same question. It’s probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because it opens the door for escalating the conversation.

Don’t skip this part. when you first start out. there are no second chances if you mess it up. Most of the people you meet out there will have a very short attention span. If it’s something you really want then you WILL achieve it. It will be your first road block to success. If you don’t have one.  . It motivates you and keeps you on track. Just because someone opens the door. then by the end of this section. We all have things to do and people to see. That’s just setting yourself up for failure. If you have a vision of what you want your life to be then that is your incentive to work harder. open the door for you a little bit. Goal setting is very important for various reasons. But don’t expect them to be all over you after you’ve initiated the conversation. It gives you an overall direction so you know where you’re going. You have to set a goal for yourself. A lot of your time. Most women will give you somewhere between three seconds and three minutes to captivate their interest. will be focused on perfecting the first few minutes of the interaction. A lot of people out there are like chickens running around with their heads cut off. CreaTInG a vIsIon Do you know where you’re heading? If you don’t then you might want to start brainstorming. Have a pen and paper ready. there’s one thing you need to do first. I’m going to go with the assumption that everyone’s time is special. It’s always a good feeling knowing you’re working toward something that will benefit you in the long run. if you’ve got your whole presence and communication skills down.It’s like going to someone’s house and pushing the doorbell. You’ll find it very useful on your journey. That’s your window of opportunity. So I want you to take sometime to answer these questions. Women will usually. you should have one. They have no goals set for themselves. If you want to be successful with women. it doesn’t mean you get to go in and do whatever you want.

One piece of advice though: Information isn’t power.  . and monthly goals to ensure that you’re constantly improving you skill set? How much time and effort do you need to put into this? What strategies do you have in order to stay consistent and committed to getting this part of your life handled? That’s just for starters. in 10 years. aCTInG on your plan Okay you have your plan. These questions should aid you in coming up with a solid vision of who you want to be and what steps you need to take in order to accomplish that. Once you’ve figured out what you want. now what?! Anything on paper is just writing unless you put it to work. what do you really want to accomplish? You’re obviously investing a lot of your time and effort into learning how to be successful with women. I know it’s a good feeling to have so much information that your brain begins to swell. What’s in it for you in the long run? Like. the next step is to stick to your plan no matter what happens until you start to see results. weekly. where do you see yourself? What kind of person will you be by then? What kind of girl/girls will be with you? What’s your lifestyle going to be? What’s the difference between who you are now and who you want to be? • How long do you think it will take you to accomplish your overall goal? Have you set daily. it’s potential power.• Realistically speaking.

What steps are needed in order to accomplish your plan? How long is it going to take and what does it require of me? Make sure to always stick to that plan. Or I can look for someone qualified to help me out. every single week” or “I want to have a smoking hot girlfriend that’s half my age. I want to have the ability to date three new girls that I meet in the mall. I shouldn’t commit the same mistake again.4 sTeps To InCrease The effeCTIveness of Goal seTTInG Know exactly what you want to accomplish.”  . I should get my skill set to that level.” Or “If I want a hot girlfriend I should be more experienced with hot women. I’ll make sure that they can give me personalized and individualized attention. I’m going to look for resources out there that will solve the problem for me. and schedule a date with her at the end. I’ll be able to hold a conversation with a girl for 30 minutes. Make sure you use this information as a guideline and makes sure you’re on the right track. For example: “In order for me to be able to date three new girls a week. Get all the right information that you need in order to get this part of your life handled. 1. After getting advice. I’ll make sure to implement the things I learned right away. I need to interact with seven new girls three times a week for six months. After six months. Devise a plan on how you’re going to accomplish your goal. For example: “I was able to talk to several girls today. Put the book down and start working on it. If you haven’t done this by now. It was fun but I just can’t seem to get her to open up to me. then don’t continue reading.” 2. For example: “In six months. I’ll try to go on as many dates as I can so I can get experience under my belt. I’m also going to work on the different aspects of my life so that I become relationship material. I should always be pushing the interaction as far as it can go every time. I will surround myself with the kind of women I’d like to date and learn how to be comfortable in their presence. and has a kick ass personality”.

 .3. find the strong and weak points.. So I need to review all my interactions and see where I’m screwing things up. This is the only way to keep progressing. then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part of the interaction. I suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book. I’ve identified a total of 8 Essential Day Game Factors that must be addressed if you want to maximize your success rate! You must first understand all of the factors and how they affect your ability to meet. I got five numbers and out of those numbers. starting from your core.. Did I build enough emotional connection with her? Did I convey my personality well enough? Am I giving up easily without following up? If so how can I improve my skill? I should try calling her more often…” This is a very simple structure you can use in order to assess your progress. Review all your results. and date the woman of your choice. connect. You should be able to analyze yourself and construct positive criticism. three girls called me back. This month I got eight numbers but none of them called me back. The 8 Essential Day Factors are structured in a way that helps build you up. then make the necessary adjustments. In order to efficiently improve your skills. Here’s a QUICK PEEK at what’s coming up. You see. InTroduCTIon To The 8 essenTIal dayGaMe faCTors I’m about to provide you with the most comprehensive information ever available on how use the 8 Essential Day Game Factors to dramatically increase your success with women. The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive foundation for daytime pick-up. This is an essential skill to develop. For example: “Last month.

I’ll only be throwing stuff at you that I know you’d need.FACTOR : INNER STRENGTH We’ll start to build you up from the very core of your personality. I’ll show you where most guys fail and how you can avoid most of the pitfalls out there. A lot of guys don’t know the proper way of communicating with attractive women. I’m confident that by the end of this book. I’ll discuss inner strength in depth and take you step by step so that you can develop a solid foundation . I’ll go over the key concepts of identity building and how to effectively communicate who you are as a person. They lose a woman’s initial interest due to their lack of communication or ineffective communication. why they can’t keep a woman in their life? It’s because they don’t develop the ability to convey their identity. you’ll have a basic understanding of what inner strength is and how you can use it to gain an unfair advantage over other guys. I’ll show you exactly how to communicate with women. FACTOR : IDENTITY Do you know why most guys fail to keep a woman interested in them? Or even worse. I’ll teach you the same principles that I only teach in specialized 1 on 1 VIP seminars. FACTOR : LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM VALUE This chapter is guaranteed to raise a few eyebrows out there. Don’t worry. FACTOR : COMMUNICATION Communication skills separate the beginners from the pros. I’ll explain to you the importance of long term and short term value and how it affects all your interactions.  .

he must first master the art of making her invest in the interaction. Look no further! In this chapter. FACTOR : LEADING & LOGISTICS If you haven’t learned yet. I’ll show you specifically how to get the girl from the mall to your bedroom! FACTOR : INVESTMENT In order for anyone to be successful with women. This chapter talks about the things you must do and avoid. FACTOR : COMFORT AND TRUST Most guys just don’t know how to build comfort and trust with the women they meet. I’ve compiled the most comprehensive approach to increase control over the interaction and decreasing the number of women flaking on you. let me be the first to tell you… Logistics is one thing that you do not have full control over.FACTOR : EMOTIONAL CONNECTION Emotional Connection is what I like to call “The Heart of Day Game”. I’ll give you a couple of tips on how you can maximize the effectiveness of the interaction by utilizing our logistic planning method. This is my favorite part of every interaction and you’re about to find out why! I go over specific time-tested tactics that I’ve used to establish a long lasting emotional bond that gets her to dream about you even after you’re gone! This is a very effective tool that increases the chances of you going on a date with her! I’ll go over the proper way to build an emotional connection and the opportune moment for you to start engaging her in this type of interaction. In this chapter. I’ve decided to just go all out and reveal four major investment categories.  .

. A lot of successful guys. I hadn’t seen him in years because he was stationed in Iraq. I knew there would be a lot of people who’d be negative about the experience. Failure just wasn’t an option for me. There’s something about him that makes him complete as a person. This is the one thing that fuels them day in and day out. Until this one day came. and be the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period with my head held up high. I’ve tried to put my finger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to figure out what it was. My friend and I were just chatting about life.”  .. Most people probably hated being there. be negative all the time. “the lines”. I used to think to myself. and end up to be a better person? I chose the latter. things would have been so much easier for me…” So save yourself a lot of time and read and understand this section first before you go onto the next one. I know. It’s the driving force behind all their successes.” I really thought I would never figure it out. I had that choice. It’s that bright light at the end of the tunnel. I just accepted it. I had two choices: should I go through all of this hardship. I don’t blame you at all. I mean. what were you thinking of?” He replied: “All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person. I was the same as you when I first started out. So to make a long story short I asked him “It takes a lot of guts to do what you did. I always wondered how he was able to do it. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were stationed in Iraq. I admired this guy for his strength and courage. we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style. You want to know what happened several years later? I sat down and told myself “If only I just build up myself first.Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS faCTor 1: Inner sTrenGTh I know that most of you just want to learn what to say. in other words. have one thing in common. I just knew that I had it in me to succeed beyond a shadow of a doubt. cherish every moment of my journey. “What does this guy have that I don’t.

Let’s take a good look at magazines for a second. Contrary to popular belief. There are a lot of factors that have molded us to be the person we are today.I suddenly had one of those “Light bulb popping up in your head” moments. The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow. This is true for both men and women alike. not well built. we’ve been programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women. Let’s take on the subject of appearance. You can still get laid even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine. These beliefs have been integrated into our being. Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning… For the most part. Let’s start out with media and advertising. and desirable. they always hit me hard over the head. Examples of such factors are FRIENDS FAMILY SCHOOL SYSTEM SOCIETY MEDIA CULTURE ENVIRONMENT WOOOOWW! That’s a lot of factors influencing us. Not only that. power. they set the standard of what is cool. You’ve Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don’t Even Know It! We all walk through this world with our beliefs. or fame. These moments don’t come to me that often but whenever they do. probably since we were little kids. What we believe in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives. attractive.  . or not tall. Sad to say. we live in a society that’s driven by money. You can get a girl even if you’re not rich. You can make a beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race! All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute. appearance isn’t everything.

tall. Anyone armed with the techniques and philosophies I’ll discuss in this book can attract the kind of woman that’s usually reserved for the good looking. and…” To make the long story short. The truth is… YOU DON’T Yeah being rich.Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I’m sure you all know the answer to this one: Celebrities Attractive and fit people Rich people And everything else I forgot to mention Am I the only one that sees what’s going on here? Where can you find the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of a magazine. famous helps but it’s not the only way. He’s rich. Your belief becomes who you are. that guy has the hottest girl I’ve ever seen. cool.  . Your words become your actions. both the man and woman in this example end up concluding “In order to be desirable. and rich! IT’S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE! Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality? Your thoughts become your words. tall. famous. be this. I need to buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…” Same thing for a guy “Oh. famous… He even has the fastest car around. he has this sick ass watch. The average girl would think “That’s the girl that everyone in my school thinks is hot! She’s skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here). and up to date I need to have this. and join this…” And whoever said advertising wasn’t effective? What actually happened was that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in order to be cool. where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial features modified to intimidate almost anyone.

I want you to go over this chapter again and again. you too can be successful with women. It makes me sad to see all the guys out there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. 0 .What if I told you that everything that you believe in. because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs. Ever since then I began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions. I’ll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I’ve found to be very useful in my journey. Here’s how this works. BELIEVE. For the next 30 days. This is where everyone should start regardless of their goal. These have been very useful for me and hopefully will be for you. my whole world changed. Don’t stop reading until you start practicing and believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons. I’m just sharing with you everything that’s worked for me and the thousands of guys I’ve trained after I discovered everything I’m about to share with you. the faster you’ll get to your destination. After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you. that would be too idealistic of me. back to my story. BELIEVE! I’ve learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. Change will not occur overnight. I will also provide you with exercises so your belief is reinforced with real world results. only if you really really believed in it. I adopted bits and pieces of his philosophy in life. so you can move through the world naturally attracting people in your life? Before I hear any objections. If only I could snap them out of their trance… but then again. and relationships that I’ve had. struggles. And that’s when it occurred to me that… YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE. What if you can reprogram your entire self. becomes who you are? Would you believe me? You better. you’re not going to be someone you’re not. You’re just going to be a better version of yourself. literally before my very own eyes. You have to live up to your full potential. but the sooner you start believing. Alright. and went on a journey to seek the truth.

how does that change the way you act toward them? Try it out. then it will be valuable to others. I’m sure there’s a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just loved you. I want you to remember the times when you made several people feel good about themselves. I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to others. all of a sudden. imagine that you’re about to give them a million bucks in the next five minutes. next time before you talk to someone. Starting now. people were hanging off every word you said. Every situation is different. TRY THIS OUT I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were indeed valuable to other people. If you believe that everything you say or do is valuable. Got that memory? How does it make you feel? Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn’t it? That’s how you should feel before talking to anyone.  . but I’ve approached girls in the past and they’ve shot me down more times than I can think of… Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn’t mean you should stop eating right? Every girl is different. The time when. The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself. I don’t know what to say” speech playing in your head? Let me ask you this.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS Have you ever had the feeling that you’re not worthy to even talk to someone? Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that damn “Why should she even talk to me? I’m not her type… and besides. how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven’t even approached her yet? Okay. You’re doing them a favor by talking to them. Try this out.

You have permission to be the best that you can be. wherever you want. Don’t be afraid to spark tension. Always voice out your opinions. • Make your own decision and take your own stand. executed it. Do you think he ever asked permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off? Nope. Always say what’s on your mind.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : TAKE WHAT’S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS! There’s one thing that you will realize later on… You can do anything you want. if you don’t agree with someone simply say “I disagree” and leave it at that. You have permission to go after the things you want in life. whenever you want. Don’t ask anyone for permission just do it. You do not need permission to dress in a certain way. And you have permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says. Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life: • It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. by the time you got to college. You already have it in you. Well. Don’t wait for others to tell you what to do. You can do them yourself. Once again. Don’t look for others to make decisions for you. he just had a plan. Everything is yours. we’ve been programmed by society to look up to others for “permission” to do something we want to do. It’s about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in. and never looked back. And you can get away with it. Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission every single time you went for a trip to the rest room. You do not need anyone’s approval before you do something. just go ahead and sit down. you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn’t you? Another example is the very famous Bill Gates.  . So what do you want to do? What’s stopping you? You are your own boss. Don’t be afraid to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise. I want you to live life like you own the world. Next time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot. You have permission to change your beliefs.

 . and don’t bow down to someone just because you perceive them as being better than you. background. If it’s reasonable and you’re up for it then say “yes”. When you’re at a party and someone asks: “Who wants such and such drinks” Don’t hesitate to raise your hand first and say “Over here”. TRY THIS OUT Let’s start out with simple exercises. One motto you can use is “I’m not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to impress me”.• Learn how to say “No”. Be proud. It’s hard to get used to saying “no” but you have to give it a shot. and someone gets there the same time you did. Don’t be ashamed of your past. Just try saying it. don’t hesitate to just smile and take the spot first. • I’m not trying to impress you. It’s not that bad. You wouldn’t want to be known as the “yes” man. Don’t ever change just because someone else wants you to. The next time you’re about to line up. or status. stand tall. You’ll notice that people will begin to respect you more because you’re upfront. This boils down to being who you are despite what other people think. If it will compromise you or for some reason you just don’t feel comfortable with it then say “no”. Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time about it just smile and say “Thank you”.

So what exactly is your identity? Continue reading because this whole chapter is dedicated to the subject of identity. Your job is to convey your identity all throughout an interaction. all of these play an important role in establishing your identity. They are trying to form a picture of who you are as a person. I don’t really know. I wanted to be that guy in the spotlight that made people jump to the beat of his melody. every single person you meet will wonder who you are.faCTor 2: IdenTITy Do you know what people think of the first time they meet you? Do you know the first thing that pops up in a woman’s head the moment you approach her? Do you know what she will think about the minute she gets home after meeting you? “Who in the world is this guy?” So let me throw the question at you… Who Are You? Trust me. The clothes you wear. They ask you questions for a purpose.Mark Sanborne So What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? When I was seven years old I wanted to be a rock star. Or maybe it was what everybody wanted at that time. It All Started When You Were A Kid “There are two great moments in a person’s life: the moment they were born and the moment they realize why they were born. when I’d just jump off the bed with a broomstick trying to mimic Slash from Guns n Roses. Maybe I wanted to be a rock star because I’d be famous worldwide.” . It seemed just like yesterday.  . the stories you tell. Why did I choose that as a kid? Beats me. and the way you present yourself to others. I wanted to be that guy that rocked people’s world with his guitar. Maybe because it looked cool on television.

we just need a balance of both. we tend to stop feeling and just start thinking. As a result of growing up. We were all created unique and special. I thought I would never be an artist because of what everybody said to me… “Being a musician won’t get you anywhere… It’s useless. the product was already finished. Then out of nowhere someone started playing my song on the radio. then this is it. We become better versions of ourselves. If there’s one thing I want you to accomplish after you finish reading this book. you’re better of just having a 9-5 job where you can make a constant stream of income” Unfortunately. Success is in already inside all of us. It really came from the heart but at such an early age. You’ll need some time to work on this. I was easily influenced by my parents.The truth is. That’s when it struck me. I never really thought about it until three weeks ago when I was in a car with a bunch of friends. I want you to pull out a piece of paper and jot down some notes. It means that every single time that Michelangelo worked on chipping away pieces of his sculpture. This is a very important section in this book. So let me ask you this: What did you want to be when you were seven years old? How to Discover Who You Are I’m not going to keep you waiting any longer. Michelangelo. I didn’t stray away from it. I believe that the person we want to be is already inside of us. Now that I look back. once said “The Sculpture is already in the stone” and I never forgot that. he was already done before he started. and teachers. Here are several ways to discover who you are. when I was a kid. I realize that each and everyone of us had dreams when we were little. peers.  . It just put the pieces of the puzzle together for me. I had no other choice but to listen to what everyone said. I’m an artist! I’m a musician! I really did achieve what I wanted when I was a kid. Becoming a musician was a dream. We were born to experience life and with that experience we grow and we learn. Not that thinking it’s a bad thing. all he had to do was to chip away all the unnecessary stuff. One of my favorite sculptors. Yes.

It always feels nice to remind yourself who you are. and the things they believe in. No one can see what you write. This leaves women with a blank picture on their head of who you are as a person. Sky is the limit folks. I want you to post it somewhere you can see it everyday.. relationship. Don’t force yourself to finish all these exercises in a day. No one will judge what you write. Be proud of who you are. What makes you smile? What are the things you look forward to in the day? What’s your reward after a long day’s work? • Write Down Some of Your Main Theories. you’ll discover what you’re passionate about. When you’re finished writing. and traveling. are talented. So how is this useful in social interactions? Simple. • List 25 Things That Make You Happy. think back.• What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? Come on. the things their passionate about. It will reaffirm in your mind that you. I only want you to write down three. I want you to write down everything. It can be a big or small goal. It can be related to fitness. Write it all down. It’s always good to be mysterious but you should also find a way to convey your identity all through out the interaction. Don’t be afraid to let everyone see. • Make a List of Everything You Want to Become. and Philosophies in Life. and write it down. Beliefs. Some exercises will take time to finish. But please try to restrain yourself. • Make a List of 15 Goals For Next Year. dating. Most men end interactions without really conveying their identity. health. business. What are the things that you value in life? What are the important things? What do you stand by? What do you fight for? • What are Your Three Biggest Accomplishments? By listing them. You could probably never stop listing reasons here. Read it as often as you want for 30 days straight.. • What are the Three Things You Like About Yourself. indeed.  . Embrace it with both arms.

Remember. Invite your friends along and have a blast. Discovering who you are and the things that make you tick is something you should work on regardless of your goals in life. Bring her into your world.So. Do this at least every two weeks. You need to provide value. art. music. It puts you into a positive light but it’s still not enough to get you into any kind of relationship. and anything your heart fancies. I want you to do an activity you enjoy doing but haven’t done in a long time. If you’re enthusiastic about it then it becomes interesting to her. TRY THIS OUT This weekend. Give her a taste of what it’s like to be in your shoes for a minute. try something new. what do you do when you run out of things to say? An effective strategy is to just talk about something you’re really passionate about. If you run out of things to do. travel. Discuss your perspectives on life. It provides them with a window to your being and this makes you interesting. Having this knowledge of yourself is so important especially when you’re interacting with people.  . talk about the things that are interesting to you.

So why should she give you the time of day? What is in it for her? I hate to phrase it this way but at the end of the day. Anyway. women usually pick the guys that can provide the most value to their life. and a salesman pops up out of nowhere and asks one of the girls I’m with “Would you like to go out on a date with me?”. communication. Value is broken down in to the categories: short and long term value  . If these girls got hit on twice when they were with me. How Women Decide If You’re A Contestant Most women have several choices of men from which to pick. and took off. After all he had balls of steel for doing that. appearance. In this society. personality. Let me start out by giving you a glimpse of what it’s like to be an attractive woman. then I wonder what happens when I’m not even present. waved. you must first understand them. lifestyle. it boils down to one question Are you an asset or a liability? It sounds so ridiculous but it’s true. Just last week. It’s no secret that women get hit on all the time. I was walking in the mall with two girls. Then I suddenly realized something. Value is determined by a lot of things such as social status. We smiled. and all the others I’m about to discuss. I hear that you want to the secrets to dating women of particular quality and beauty during the daytime… In order to learn how to communicate with women. we weren’t mean to the poor guy or anything.faCTor 3: lonG TerM and shorT TerM value So. it was hard to understand him with his accent. I think that’s what he said.

she’s busy reading something. That’s the power of short term value. in my experience. Almost like a drug. in fact you don’t have to be smart at all to pull this off. People tend to gravitate toward people that make them feel good. There’s a big chance that somewhere in the world.Short Term Value & Ways You Can Build It Up! Short term value is determined by the experience you give women the first time you meet them. then BAM. The fact that you’re educated. You want to be able to laugh together. • Laugh. Let’s say you see a pretty woman as you walk into a coffee shop. you’ll instantly be magnetic to women. Do you have what it takes to get her to want to slam her book down and just talk to you? It’s not impossible. You will get far with humor. So the key is to be unique in that given environment. Communication is a tool you can use to your advantage but that’s in another chapter. then you’re already ahead of the game. It’s the moment when we shut the whole world off for a second and connect with ourselves. Intelligence is another tool you can use to captivate a woman’s mind. Laughter is a good feeling. It doesn’t specifically mean that you have come up with something super original. Laughter serves two purposes: Builds attraction within a girl and creates an unspoken bond between the both of you. Laugh. If you can share your ideas with her passionately. comfort. stop. Once you find a way to provide these emotions. If she perceives you as being more valuable than what she’s currently doing. just thinking about that moment…. etc. excitement. All you need are a few interesting topics in which you’re quite familiar. you’ve got the ability to hold someone’s attention and  . Some ways of doing this are the way you groom and present yourself. Your job is to provide positive emotions like fun. How did it make you feel? See my point. • Always provide positive emotions. They’ll call you and even pester you to hang out with them. • Let your inner teacher shine. This is done by conveying a rich and textured personality. then she will go out of her way just to talk to you. You don’t have to be as smart as Albert Einstein. • Develop your own signature presence . Do you remember the last time you shared a laugh with someone? Now. happiness. You’ll notice that women want to be around you more often. Laugh with them… If you have the skill to make women laugh. It happens most of the time. It’s addictive. Now let’s go into some examples of how you can cultivate short term value. someone’s doing exactly what you’re doing. Become unique. There’s one problem though.

as my friend Rish would say. Cultured and Worldly. • Classy. Your job as a man is to lead the interaction. Women love romance. and enthusiastic. Don’t be afraid to take a stand and follow it up with an action. the possibilities are endless. It’s also an advantage if you’ve done some traveling. teach everyone something. Always have an opinion. and a handshake. Show ‘em what you got! • You are the leader. and Enthusiastic. traditions. “You’re so F****** money and you don’t even know it man”. Don’t believe me? Did you know that romance novels account for majority of the sales in bookstores? And that’s why women just love a guy that can give them the romantic fantasy. If you can be a substitute for a romantic novel then. Never say “I don’t know”. Lead the interaction. Women are drawn to guys that are happy. If you want her number then just ask for it. trust me”. Always make it a point to be a decision maker. 0 . language.interest. and a plan. then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Teach her a couple of things about your culture. then it will be very hard for women not to notice you. Just remember. For example. Women constantly test for this. Lead the conversation. Classy defines someone who has high standard of personal behavior. Take her by the hand and make it easy for her. Joyful. Happy. • Romantic. Are your outfits coordinated well? Does your belt match your shoes? Do you understand poetry and the different works of art? Do you know the best restaurants in your city? Do you understand the world of fashion? Do you know a couple of classic movies? If you’re equipped with this. I know it’s easier said then done. Wouldn’t you? • Decisive. This can be conveyed with your attitude and the right assertiveness. If you expect her to lead and even make the first move. when she says “Where are we going?” say “We’re going to grab some ice cream. a few fun games you probably learned as a kid. Let’s go”. This is usually learned through your family and the people you’re surrounded by. You can go on with this. share your knowledge with the world. Always lead and reassure her that she’s safe with you. Instead of saying “Do you want to come?” say “Let’s go” instead. These positive emotions bring value to their lives. joyful. a trick. They want a man who knows what he wants. If she says “I’m not sure about this” say “You’re gonna love it. If you step into that role she will allow you to play the role. decision.

A renaissance man is considered a man at the centre of the universe. Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something in life. Lean more toward the energy that they give off. As hard as it sounds. Pick up a book every two weeks and read it. • Emotional Connection. From experience. That’s why you want to give her the best option so she can make an educated decision. Do something adventurous. limitless in his capacities for development. but it’s sort of like a gut feeling. Boredom is the enemy. They smell this quality a mile away. continue the relationship. Women crave men who are ambitious. And don’t forget to make it an interesting book. Sounds like a sales pitch right? Right. YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELF! Here are the features that you can add on to increase your long term value • Become a renaissance man. Make it a routine to continuously be learning. Stay tuned! • Dare to Dream.  . You have to walk a little bit to get through the door and make sure that you stay in it. There are a lot of ways ambition can be conveyed. The most obvious one is the way one talks about life. It’s time to rediscover and redefine yourself. I think this is one major factor for women who are looking for a commitment. Now it’s time to cultivate your long term value. or exciting and live to talk about it. Do something new every single month. Remember. I can always tell the people who are ambitious from the ones that aren’t. Coming up in the next couple of chapters. or go on a date with you when you’re not there! These are the times when she probably evaluates you as a package and sees if you’re worth it. The only difference is that you’re not selling an actual product. these are the things that go on behind closed doors. Short term value opens the door to her life. Make your life an open book.LONG TERM VALUE & WAYS YOU CAN BUILD IT UP So you’ve learned how to demonstrate short term value. a girl decides if she wants to see you again. Here’s a short description I found on the internet. It’s hard to explain over in text. Your long term value is responsible for keeping a girl hooked on you. dangerous. The whole courting process is very similar to sales.

• Financially self-sufficient. All I’m trying to say is that women screen the men to see if they are relationship material. now how do you respond to it? Do you get all offended and convincing her that you’re a cool guy deep down inside? Or do you just accept it with a smile.  . and move on to the next topic? • Keep ‘em Guessing. and handsome”. This is similar to being confident. Do you listen to her when she opens up to you? Do you act as a protector and make sure she’s always taken care of? Do you steer her around corners when you guys are walking around? Do you make her feel comfortable at times when she’s not? • Assertive. They also like men that know exactly how to press their buttons and provide satisfaction. This is conveyed with the way you speak and carry yourself. Women like men that can give them a wonderful experience. Don’t you wonder what women are trying to find out when they ask “So. I’m not saying that all women are gold diggers. • Tenderness and Sensitivity. say “thank you”. How do you move through the world? Are you afraid to take up space in the world? Or are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you let bad criticisms get to you? Or do you accept them confidently? A simple test would be a woman giving you a hard time about something you either wear or do. tall. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard that phrase from women. what do you do for a living?” They’re trying to get a glimpse of how much money you earn. You need to be able to support yourself and show potential for becoming financially stable one day. It’s not good to be too unpredictable either. It’s not a prerequisite for her to date you but it plays a huge role if you want to have a smooth long term relationship. It’s fun. Women are sexual beings just like we are. • Self-assuredness. It’s good to create a contrast in your personality. Do you assert your wishes on others? Do you make sure that you’ve got everything under control? Do you bargain your way into getting something you really want? Do you take a stand a support it fully? • Sex God. Firm and Strong. This can be demonstrated by the way you treat her. Being predictable takes the excitement out of a relationship or interaction. They get all excited when you do this. I hate to admit it but money is a deciding factor in the dating game. “I want a guy who is rich. At times be romantic and shower her with attention and the next day treat her like one of your buddies. They enjoy sex as much as we do. Unpredictability is the spice of life. Sex releases endorphins and it relaxes the body. It is no secret that women love men that are great in bed.

 . it’s useless. Remember. you should have a killer understanding of inner foundation. TRY THIS OUT Read through this chapter again. I want you to take a good look at yourself and your life. big goal concepts. if you’ve been doing everything right. you can have the best line or script in the world but if you can’t present it well. If you’re below 3 in one of the qualities I outlined here. then take a week to focus on this specific quality. You at least need to be between 3-5 in all ranges in order to be successful with women. and a couple of helpful tips. By now. That’s the reason why communicating effectively is a topic I spend several hours teaching at the workshops. Now go through each quality I mentioned in this chapter and rate yourself from 1-5 (1 being the lowest and 5 the highest).These are some of the essential components to building long term value. When you’re done.

Average Guy is innocently looking for clothes to buy. He’s smoking hot. Whether you’re working on presenting an idea to other people. you need to be able to communicate effectively. Minutes pass by. She sees this average looking guy. So what was the component that determined success and failure in each interaction?  . Hot Stuff. Plain Jane starts to slowly face away from Mr. I’m not going to sugar coat it. he wants her. I have to rush back home because I left the light on my boyfriend’s room. he notices something moving from his side. nice hair. or instructing a cab driver where you want to go. probably not. he walks toward her and starts talking. describing a movie you watched to your friends.Mr. He started out as a stranger and left like her lover. She sees this guy. Plain Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. Hot Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. I didn’t even notice the time. Ms. And then. Deep down. She’s enjoying the moment. She’s excited but she’s not going to give it all away because of that. He seems to carry himself well and has a good sense of style. she got him all excited in less than a second… Contestant # 2. You must develop strong and effective communication skills in order to get what you want in life.Ms. tata!” Scenario 2: Ms. but it’s a key ingredient my friend. Average Guy General Scenario: Mr. I almost forgot. After three minutes of boring conversation and ineffective communication. Actually. a body to die for. Contestant # 1. Hot Stuff makes his way to talk to her. Average Guy’s hormones go wild. that was fast. She heads over to the table to sit down. Mr. Hours pass by. Next thing you know. He looks over and notices big boobs. Let me give you an example. there’s more to it than that.faCTor 4: effeCTIve CoMMunICaTIon Your communication skills will either make or break you in your quest for success in all areas of your life. He starts getting excited or nervous and he knows why. Two minutes later. That’s all it is. In that moment. It was nice meeting you though. Mr. and a Mona Lisa smile. That’s the secret to success beyond your wildest dream. Wow. Plain or Hot Jane Scenario 1: Ms. She stands up and leaves the coffee shop with him. she deploys her killer line: “Oh.

Now the next time you go out. Does the barista ask you any questions afterward? Good. and your values in life.. When you know how to communicate well you can get . • Women to feel exactly any emotion that you want them to feel allowing you to control and predict the outcome of your interactions. Just think about it. it’s a really cool exercise. One of the most common question I hear is “What do you say to her to start the conversation?”  . make sure your order is so clear that you won’t be barraged with questions after your order. Then hand out your cash or card.Effective communication. I’m in the mood for a caramel macchiato. The Communication Equation Individual + Effective Method of Presentation + Powerful Content of Presentation =Effective Communication TRY THIS OUT Go out to a coffee shop one of these days and order your favorite drink. • What you want. it’s useless. No one else will find out all these positive things about you. Remember what she says. Presence is Everything I’ll share something with you.. Just try it out for fun. You are what you communicate. decaf. You can have 99 good qualities about you but unless you know how to effectively communicate them.. to go please. your beliefs. For example: “Hmmmmmm.. and how you want it • Your message across clearly for anyone to understand • Recognized for your ability to comm-YOU-nicate who you are. with no whip cream. Most guys I’ve met always ask me for the techniques I use to start conversations with women. when you want it. you can live the most interesting life in the world. • More dates and maintain relationships easily.

Do you slow down your pace when you’re emphasizing a point? Do you use pauses to amp up the tension and intrigue? Do you speak loud and clear for people to hear? Do you speak from your diaphragm or nasal? Do you eat your words? Are you relaxed when you speak? • Body Language. They categorize you based on how you stand up. Are you comfortable with the way you stand. joy. rather than being all serious and mysterious. Smiling makes women feel comfortable. when I say a lot. how relaxed you are. • Facial expression. I found that saying to be true. Having said that. Practice using a variety of facial expressions when you tell people stories. fear. Your facial expressions can communicate messages of their own. It makes a big difference. Along the way. or walk? Are you relaxed and calm during most times? Do you lean back when you talk to her? Do you move unnecessarily during the conversation? Your non-verbal communication is the window to who you are. It worked because of the way I presented it. Holding eye contact builds trust and comfort. here are six helpful tips to increase the power of your presence: • Learn how to smile. disgust. • Communicate with your eyes. sadness. I guess the saying “The eyes are the windows to the soul” does have meaning. And believe me. There have been several studies shown that women prefer men that smile while initiating a conversation. Did you know that there is a way to use eye contact to increase the effectiveness of your communication? It’s very important to hold eye contact at certain points in the interaction. It eases women up at times when they’re nervous. and surprise. Facial expressions are used to convey emotions like anger.  . Women are masters when it comes to reading body language.I’ve experimented with a lot of conversation starters in public places. How stylish are you? What kind of fashion statement are you making? What can people tell about you by the way you dress up? Does your style leave a good or bad impression on others? Do you command attention? • It’s not what you say but how you say it. • Fashion. I mean a lot. sit. and how you carry yourself. It really does. It’s all about how you present yourself. How’s your vocal projection and delivery. This helps to get your message across more effectively. I noticed that some techniques worked better than the others (more about techniques in the last chapter) but there was always one thing common that made my approach work. Have you ever heard the saying “People buy you first before anything else”. A genuine smile can take you a long way.

and slowly get closer at specific points of the interaction.  . just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. Experiment with it. don’t move your hands around too much when you talk. I feel comfortable when my hands are out of my pockets. and leaning against the wall. Next time you’re in an interaction. will provide women with enough information to categorize you based on the impression you just gave them” Have you ever thought about the things you convey about yourself based on your body language? Did you know that women can tell if you’re confident and cool or nervous and inexperienced just by the observing the way you walk. So here’s to a good first impression. Man starts to smile nervously. Thou shall relax and lean back. I’ve discovered that when you assume a relaxed position. Thou shall not shake or move a lot in the presence of an attractive woman. then she will feel very uncomfortable. you slowly start to feel more relaxed. 2. Thou shall not have thy hands inside the front pockets. If you stay to close to her. That includes doing things like slouching. I’ve had success with starting off at about 3-5 feet away. Men tend to easily get intimidated with women that are way above their league. If you’re too far from her. Man starts to make unnecessary movement because of the extra energy he feels. It’s really funny to watch. right from the bat. The  Commandments of Effective Body Language 1. even if you’re nervous. and the way you move through this world on a daily basis. If you’re nervous all throughout the interaction. 4. then it won’t feel like it’s a conversation. At low points step away a little bit. At the same time. When woman gets close. Never have your hand inside your front pockets when you initiate a conversation with anyone unless it’s below freezing and you don’t have any gloves. talk and carry yourself? I think that body language is the biggest giveaway when it comes to revealing who you are and how you feel. It usually goes like this: Man sees attractive woman. Try mixing it up. Man gets very jittery.Body Language Tips for Day Game “Your body language. the way you walk. placing your feet up on chairs. For some reason. At high and fun points take a step closer or move your chair closer. 3. Thou shall not stand or sit too close or too far from her. chances are she’ll be nervous too. man tends to change his behaviors and act way cooler then he really is.

I’d stutter. Not good. Thou shall walk and move slow. Have you ever been in a situation gone bad? You probably didn’t notice at that time but everything about you changed. and eventually make a shameful exit. I’ve learned that if you keep your composure and act as if nothing happened then you end up maintaining control of the situation.Do whatever makes you feel better. and moved slow. become jittery. They’re shoulders become tense and they act all stiff to the point that they make themselves nervous. 6. They just exert more effort and time into looking good. Thou shall not stand up like a soldier. Everything they did was almost too smooth. 8. The way you stood up probably changed. It shows people that you were emotionally affected by it. Have you ever been guilty of standing up too straight while you’re talking to a woman? Similar to how you would stand and act if you’re talking to an authority figure? Most guys take interactions with women too seriously. the more positive responses I got from women. For some reason. They walked. If you’re guilty of this. Your voice tone probably changed. 7. I used to be that way every time I thought I got rejected by women. For example. Mirroring her body language is a technique used to increase rapport and comfort levels. I modeled this behavior after guys that were naturals when it came to dealing with women. Thou shall keep thy composure at all times. 5. I used to lay down flat on the floor and take deep breaths. They’re not some sort of super human goddesses from outer space you know? They do the same things you do. They stand up so erect that it’s almost too funny to watch. it helped me relax more. talked. relax. The exact same thing I did every time I experienced a mild confrontation. when I’m calling up a girl for the first time.  . Everything changed. Thou shall mirror her body language. They took their time almost like they owned time. And the more I started acting that way. Women are human beings too.

. Slow and confident movements. At the same time I know my boundaries and I won’t be taken advantage of.. Be comfortable. I’m the sweetest and coolest person you’ll ever meet. I talk about my life experiences and my view on things because I just want to share my life with other people. I bring fun and excitement to everyone I meet.. Here’s my view of the world: “I am a man.TRY THIS OUT Lean back. Hands out of the pockets. that’s a different story..... Don’t be too stiff.. Inhale. Don’t tense your shoulders up. Those one-way friendships where people just call you when they need something from you..... Relax. Give Before You Take A lot of people are used to taking things from the world and from people... It happens so often that it’s become normal. But once you betray my trust... I move through the world with something to offer to everyone. I am a man and I have something to offer the world…” That’s how I view the world.. Relax.. I give without really expecting anything in return. It’s sad and I see it happen every day. Be comfortable. Your job is to not be one of those guys. It’s also the reason why I can give a woman a compliment without seeming like I just want to get in her pants. Relax. Take a deep breath.. My presences makes people feel better... People that just ask favors all the time..  ... I’ll take care of you and make you feel like you’re part of my family. Be comfortable.. Feet spread apart. And make sure not to fall asleep. It makes me happy.. People that just keep asking question after question without really contributing toward the conversation... I offer positive and fun emotions. Exhale. I just like to give.... I’ve been guilty of this as well. That’s the reason why women instantly open up to me when I initiate a conversation with them....

And you’ll soon realize that it opens women up to your ideas and messages as well. People sense this quality.That’s the reason why I am who I am right now. then do you know what makes you stick in her mind? Endlessly? 0 . TRY THIS OUT Effective communication will open doors for you in this life. I am focused more on giving to people rather than taking anything from them. So if effective communication opens doors for you. It’s rare. You should learn to cultivate it.

Somewhere along the road. In order to be successful with women. He rarely has control of the things that are going on in his life. frat boys. How to effectively build an emotional connection.faCTor 5: eMoTIonal ConneCTIon Now we’re getting to my favorite part of the book. I’m about to tell you why. She hopes that one day. Let me explain. He’s actually much rarer than a really hot girl that has it all together. This guy is usually submissive in a relationship. At the same time. in the long run. This always keeps her on her toes. she’ll be able to make him change. bikers. That’s off the wall. Men are usually too masculine or too feminine. They usually fall under the extremes. Women wish that these guys would just stop for a second and actually take time to show her how much he appreciates her. even if you treat me bad”. I also happen to be the only guy. Now let’s talk about the guy with a feminine profile. Let me tell you a little bit more about me. I grew up with four little sisters. It’s hard to find guys that are just right in the middle. A man who is masculine and knows how to communicate with women. Women like men that can act like men. He’s more sensitive than most guys and actually shows his sensitive side. it’s done in little quantities but never enough for her. women crave the feminine side in men.  . So why are women attracted to guys that act like jerks? Women are attracted because they don’t acknowledge her as some sort of higher being than them. Growing up. If it does. you need to cultivate both your masculine and feminine side. He is rare in this society. Almost to the point of “I’ll do anything for you. gang members. Guys like these usually worship the women they are with. and I had to work on this aspect later on. I’d like to call this the heart of day game. women lose respect for this type of guy. It rarely happens though. And that’s because they can’t live up to their role of being a man. The ratio of girls to guys in my family is about 14:1. That’s 14 girls for every 1 guy. Certain profiles are assholes. I never really had a strong male influence in my life. Women are attracted to the two profiles but there’s a flaw that exists in both.

I was very fortunate to be surrounded by women early on in my life.Women look for men that are strong and at the same time gentle. I learned how to build a long lasting emotional connection. I learned how to communicate with them effectively. I unconsciously learned how to be comfortable around women and vice versa. If you want proof that the above statement is true then I double dare you to show it to ANY of your female friends. Someone who can make her experience a variety of emotions and at the same time give her a chance to do the same.  . I learned what they really wanted in a guy. Someone who treats her like a woman and the same time puts her at her place when there’s a need for it. the things they want. not just what they said they wanted. If nothing else. Ideally. I understood what made them feel comfortable. Someone who sees them for who they truly are and at the same time treats them as an equal. Someone who takes the bull by the horns and at the same time cares if she’s comfortable. it will be another fun experience for you. Understanding Women In order to become successful with women. they also have a physical side. women dream of guys that have cultivated both masculine and feminine sides to them. Women have two sides to them… A logical side and an emotional side Oh I forgot. but that’s not until later. Someone who has firm beliefs and opinions and at the same time is open minded. back to my story. Her logical side makes all the decisions but there’s a much stronger side that can completely override it… it’s her emotional side. and how their minds works. Come on. It taught me things that I never knew I knew. you first have to understand how they operate. I became familiar with the way a woman’s mind worked. Why they do the things they do and why they act the way they act. Looking back. Do it. But guys like that are just hard to find. Anyway. And most of all.

They enjoy experiencing emotions and they communicate with it. That’s because there’s emotion involved in it.Women want you to believe that her logical side is in control but in reality. the perfect guy would come along. She’s been exposed to movies about love and destiny. There’s one thing I want you to know before I give you all the techniques and tactics to meet. Growing up. shhh it’s a secret. That’s the same reason I believe that “If you can captivate the mind. Every Woman Has a Fantasy Let’s rewind. and keep women… And that’s the fact that. A place that’s been buried deep down inside that’s probably never been forgotten. They are filled with emotions. it’s the other way around.. And it all began when she was a little girl. A guy that will come along and push all her buttons making her cherish  . this is the natural progression of all my successful interactions. That’s why most women read romance novels and watch soap operas. date. That’s probably the same reason why make up sex is better than regular sex. Women are emotional creatures. I’m going to take you through a journey that’s about to open your eyes to the world of women. dreams. and not long after that. There are tons of emotions that take place prior to it. and fantasies. This just encouraged her to believe that one day. the body will too…” Looking back at my experiences. Drama is also something that certain women might be addicted to. It’s a place full of hopes. she was probably exposed to all these romantic Hollywood Disney movies.. I’m going to give you a sneak peek at a place within women that they don’t want you to know. the heart will follow. And now I’ll reveal to you the Equation for Getting Any Woman You Desire! Logical Connection + Emotional Connection + Sexual Connection + Proper place and time = The Perfect Seduction. A guy that would sweep her off her feet and appreciate her for who she truly is.

just like what happens when kids find out that Santa Claus isn’t real. Maybe a relationship gone wrong or just a really traumatizing experience. Some women forget about this side of themselves usually because they get really hurt from a certain experience. A guy that knows what to do and how to do it. She learns and begins to grow. But at that moment. but it kept her busy during that period of time. It’s because they’ve been hurt before. And Spiritual Level + Appreciation + Comfort with Presence + Commonality and familiarity + Shared Emotions = Long Lasting Emotional Connection  . Core. A guy that will take her on a memorable experience. This causes them to toss away that dream. it satisfies her. This is at the deep core of every woman. Then she grows up and begins to realize that not everything’s perfect. These women constantly wait for their prince charming every single day. These women are what we call the “Hopeless Romantics”. Everyone starts out as a hopeless romantic or they develop it later on in life. Deep. Maybe it’s not exactly what she wanted. They do it because it works.. This is when they just start to settle for anything else out there.. Some women actually ended up holding on to that dream. or available guys that probably can’t give them what they need. They’ve probably had a rough past. They go after the rich.the experience even more. Most of them just end up being disappointed. Anyways. The Hidden Formula For Creating An Emotional Connection Man Opens up + Woman Opens Up + They Connect on Surface. Not everything turns out to be the way you expect it to be. hot. Chances are they probably get into relationships hoping that someone can fit that role. and go for more superficial things. That causes them to protect themselves by acting “bitchy”. This explains why women may act bitchy at times. and famous.

Whether you’re telling a story or just explaining your current mood. Wait for another 3-5 seconds before you interject.  . So the next time a woman starts to open up to you. 6. you also want to encourage her to share a secret with you. Shut up. After all. it will give you a better picture of how you can effectively seduce her. 2. Especially if you know exactly how to tell her how you feel. it shows her that you’re just a human being. As an exercise. you can almost see it. 3. You can see her face either light up or the other way around. Share a deep experience. You’re vulnerable as well. Relate with her. Most guys just relate with her on a superficial level. Practice being social. Don’t interrupt her when she begins to open up. By telling her a secret. The emotion in this scenario will. Everything you do. Tell her something that nobody knows about you. It makes you look smarter. Of course. Sharing a deep experience will encourage her to do the same. You must tell her in a way that she can understand. will set up the stage on how it’s going to be. and the things you value in life. Open up to her. This makes her feel super special. you just build an unspoken bond between the two of you. You’re setting the standard here.Crash Course: 8 Killer Strategies in Order to Build an Emotional Connection 1. don’t talk. Everything she says is gold! Later on. and then give your answer. It’s an important skill to be able to describe an emotion so effectively that she begins to feel it. and vice versa. it takes two to tango. Tell her how you feel. early on in the interaction. You have to know how to relate with her. just keep quiet and listen. she actually gives you the winning cards that you can use on her. It adds depth to your personality. once again. don’t just open up to her. Once you do a good job at describing the emotion. Lead with your personality. Open up to everyone you meet. It’s important to emphasize and describe exactly how you feel. this will help a lot in building a connection. Always be leading. build an unspoken bond. beliefs. When she pauses. pause for a bit. How do you expect her to open up to you if you don’t do the same? One way to help her open up to you is to do it first. It solidifies whatever connection that’s present. Same thing when women ask you questions. Just learn how to keep on talking and sharing your experiences. Most men focus on logical stuff. Once in awhile I like to add “I can’t believe I’m telling you this… I don’t even tell this to the people I’m close with…” This little piece gets the message across. 5. 4. It’s always better to relate on the deeper topics. At the same time. That’s why it’s important to become comfortable with sharing your life experiences with other people. She’ll feel like she knows you better. That’s right. It’s what I call the “Go First Principle”. You automatically become special once she’s shared this with you.

Now.. More about this on the last section. You’ll notice a big difference in your interactions. It comes across as if you’re trying too hard to be similar with her. For example. Instead of telling her “That’s so cool. I like Pearl Jam too” I’d rather play my Pearl Jam CD when she rides in my car.  . Are you aware of the value of building an emotional connection now? Do you know that there are two things that you need to add to the equation in order to build the ultimate bond? That brings me to my next topic. let’s say she talks about how much she just loves to dance. me too” whenever the opportunity arises. If you’re good at connecting with women. ask yourself if you were implementing the concepts covered in this section. TRY THIS OUT Play back the last conversation you had. Kill the quick me too. I’ll start to talk about it indirectly. Another example: Let’s say she tells me that her favorite band is Pearl Jam. if I’m also into dancing. 8. then later on. in your head. Pacing and Complimenting.. I’ve noticed that most men are eager to say “Yeah.7. If not. I’ll just let her talk. What I’ve found to be very effective is to hold the “Me too” for 10 minutes or so and later in the conversation. I’ll just casually slip in a story about how I won a dancing contest or something like that. even let the subject drift off. then you’re ahead of most guys out there. or let her discover it on top of my CD player. make a conscious effort to actually implement them the next time you’re out.

Let me share with you a quick story on how I discovered this key element. it’s a date right on the spot. she must at least trust you a little bit. Who says you need to wait a couple of days before you take her out? Taking her on an instant date will dramatically increase the chances of her picking up your calls and going out with you later on. the drinks. looking for clothes. During the day time. her peer group and the competition. You can be anyone dangerous and she wouldn’t even find out.  . So what factors do you have to address when you’re planning to meet women in public places? COMFORT AND TRUST In order for them to call you back.faCTor 6: CoMforT & TrusT There are a lot of differences between learning how to meet women in bars and club as opposed to public places. So you’ll have to equip yourself with a unique style. With the different crimes out there. or even answer your call. INSTANT DATE That’s right. She’s probably by herself. So when you walk up to women in this setting the first thing they think about is “Is this guy cool enough for me to talk to? There are so many guys. women just need to be extra careful nowadays. And do you remember what your parents told you about strangers? Don’t talk to strangers. it’s a whole other story. it’s a social context. Well.. here are the facts. and some serious entertainment skills. She’s a woman and you’re a man. why should I talk to him”. she must be comfortable with you. In order for her to go anywhere with you. Whenever someone talks to her she instantly considers them a stranger. loading up on gas. or shopping for groceries. strangers can be bad. In the bars and clubs you have to deal with the music. That’s why it’s so important to take her on an. When you’re in a bar or club. a loud booming voice.. show up on a date.

It was to start a conversation and stay in for three minutes. I still couldn’t believe it though. In my mind. considering it was my first time trying to meet girl at malls. To cut the long story short. to get our blood to circulate throughout our bodies…” Then while we were walking. had a slim figure. I hit the five minute mark. I slowly stopped her from walking and we ended up chatting for a bit. “Hey. My heart skipped a beat for a second. she lived like five minutes away from the mall by the ocean. Then she pulls off her killer line “Hey. I would have been very happy if I got to hold a conversation for three minutes. we ended up talking about her place. It was on.  . I looked her up and down. I ended up kissing her. In that moment. after a bit of conversation she said. I remember my goal for that day. She kept on leading me and I followed. my legs are tired. I complied. She was in a business outfit and had some shopping bags with her. And the rest I would say. “Hey. let’s sit over there”. Apparently. this was the day that changed my life. shortly after getting inside her car. I left my cigarettes in the car. she was the one who took the bull by the horns. Three minutes passed by. only if you promise to keep it to yourself. I was completely clueless at that time. but now that I look back. Fifteen minutes passed by and she said. and a cute semi angelic/naughty face. she starts fixing her bra in front of me as I was talking. And then all of a sudden. I’m really thirsty. I noticed this tall brunette girl. Looking back at that interaction.A few years ago. Let’s go to Starbucks and get something to drink. come with me”.” Another 20 minutes passed by and she said “Let’s go for a walk. I was doing pretty well. Anyways. I’ll probably tell you what happened. Are you ready for this? While I was chatting with my buddies. She was about three inches taller than me. I keep kicking myself in the foot. Little did I know. I went out with my buddies to go learn how to meet women in malls. is history… If we ever meet one of these days.

When you first meet her. • It separates you from all the other guys. • Gives you more time to get to know her better. When she takes the chance and goes to coffee with you. you can tag along. I’m going to grab a drink real quick and since you’re fun. that’s how her mind processes it.  . Them”. With a little bit of tweaking I’ve used something similar and have experienced unbelievable results with it. take her on an instant date. It’s like going out on your first date right there and then. When you get her on an instant date. They say things like “We should hang out sometime” and “Yeah. she puts herself in a position where something bad can happen to her. It keeps you moving forward. That means. Your primary goal when you start talking to a woman. When you’re at a high point in the interaction (Example: she’s laughing or there’s a good vibe) just say: “I’m really thirsty. regardless of any technique you use. It gives you more time. When you go on an instant date you become a potential partner. Forget the concept of getting her number for now. • Helps you get through conversational barriers. Me” to “Us vs. At least try to. It’s really powerful. you significantly increases the chances of her calling you back and going out with you. Somehow it creates a new environment for the both of you therefore making it easier to talk about other things. I stole my whole script from her. • You keep the interaction moving forward. You’re not like that. It helps you get through conversational stalls. is to create an “Our World” vibe. you should give me your number”. That bond is unique for every girl. having a shared bond between the two of you. You’re still a complete stranger. you officially are operating on a different level. It creates a shift in the atmosphere. Most guys just go for her number. • Chance for you to show that she’s safe with you. TRY THIS OUT The next time you’re in a conversation for more than 10 minutes. At least. You’ll play on a different level. If you play your cards right. let’s go”. you’re a STRANGER in her eyes. • Shift from “You vs. • Decreases the chances of flaking later on. So it’s your opportunity to prove to her that you can be trusted and that she’s safe with you.Of course. Helps you reach your goals faster. Let me give you the benefits of going on an instant date • You get to hit two birds with one stone. More time means getting to know her better and vice versa.

Probably you’ve passed the test with flying colors and you even have a lot of inside jokes and secrets. so let’s say you’ve done a great job at interacting with her. What’s the next move? You’re supposed to be in tune with the environment because it will help you figure out the best logistical approach you can use to escalate the interaction further. 0 .Ok.

and me. Know your location well. What if I told you that… She would have gone home with you only if you were prepared?! Won’t that piss you off? Sure did piss me off. With that in mind. You can also string along and take her on multiple instant dates. Have a plan before you go out. Always have a pen and paper with you. That’s an advanced topic though. a blanket. here are 0 Golden Tips To Help You Master Your Logistics 1. Bring protection. Your place will say a lot about you. Not just give her number or take her number because it limits what you can do. Make sure you have a clean place. 3. just in case. It was the painful truth. The BEST experience in my life involved a girl. Is your place classy or trashy? Does your place convey what you’re passion about? What does it say about you? Do you have clean sheets or dirty ones? Do you have dirty clothes all over the floor? Does your place smell good? 6. Don’t ever sabotage your success by not being prepared. you want to exchange contact information with her. Enough said. A nice little fold up sleeping bag that fits two people in it will do. Women will judge you based on how clean your place is and how creative you are with it. 4. Remember. Have some pillows and blankets at the back of your car. Have a pen and paper with you. Pick five places in your mall that you will take her on an instant date. You’ll never know where you’d end up going. Know exactly what to do before you even go out. 5. when I discovered that. And this is true especially for the beginners. a guitar. How will you take her on an instant date? What will you say to get her number? How do you get her back to your car? How do you get her back to your place? 2.faCTor 7: loGIsTICs Do you know where you’re going? A lot of guys don’t go out prepared. a beach.  .

I’m in a hurry. After we get some ice cream for five minutes. Almost as if she’s expected to follow you. When you say “Let’s go” start to walk in the direction you want to go. Talk a little more. It’s what separates the guys that are successful with women. 10. always be prepared for contingencies. If you’re dropping her off at her house. It’s your job to lead the interaction. Stay in there. Women will sometimes refuse to do what you want them to do. Assume first. Be prepared for contingencies. It’s better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. stop for a second. you might say something to turn me off and I’d be running for my life” or something to that effect. it all boils down to being prepared. Always be leading. you can go on with your shopping… and besides. Again. then give it a shot! 9. Don’t be fazed by it and don’t walk away. Tell her where you want to go. Don’t give up at the first sign of resistance. This last piece of the puzzle is probably the most significant topic in this whole book. it might only take three minutes… who knows. Next time you feel like walking a way. When she says “Uhmmm.7. This will all make sense to you sooner or later in your journey. I need to do my shopping” say “That’s cool. The point is.  . Get to know her and spend a little more time with her then try again. Always assume that she’s up for it. Instead of saying “Can we…” say “Let’s go…” This little trick might make all the difference in your interactions. Don’t ask just lead. with the guys that aren’t. 8. stay an extra minute or two. don’t wait for her to ask.

The more they invest in you. it becomes a lot easier.  .faCTor 8: InvesTMenT Do you know how to make someone want something? How do you make someone value something? Simple. dreams. This stuff is very powerful. It makes things so much easier for the both of you. future and share your view in life as well. You’ll start to realize that you can actually just relax and appreciate her company. Another way to get her invested in you is to be physical with her. The best way to persuade a woman to do something is to make her want to do it. make them work for it. She gets more and more invested in you every time she opens up. Here’s a list of the different types of investment a woman makes and how to get the most out of each and every one. Sex is the biggest investment. is to be a part of her life. and get her to be part of yours too. etc. Physical Investment. Time Investment. values. Talk about her passions. sex opens up all the lines of communication. This goes back to building a solid emotional connection. Use it wisely. hopes. the higher the chance of you getting what you want out of it. Once you’re passed that level. Emotional Investment.) the more she gets invested in you. hanging out. It’s smooth sailing from there. so use this stuff carefully. Social Investment. In my experience. I don’t advocate playing with women’s feelings. How much time does she spend with you? Do you see each other often? Do you spend some time talking with her on the phone? Does she spend a lot of time winning you over because you have standards? The more time a woman spends with you (Talking on the phone. Have you met her friends? Do they like and approve of you? Has she met your friends? Do you go out to social activities often? Do you have any mutual friends? They key to getting her to invest in you more. Do you remember the last time you worked hard for something? How did it feel in the end? How satisfied were you when you accomplished it? This is the same emotion that women feel if they’ve worked hard for you.

regardless of where I am. Yes. She’s not even going to give me the time of day.” Here’s the truth… Practicing techniques. And most of the time. I enjoy talking to people. rAcking up dAteS. Since then I’ve been more relaxed and comfortable meeting women. and think I’m weird. Before the workshop. Here are the things that you should not think about: “Wow she’s so hot. lines. I have nothing special about me. I used to think that women wouldn’t want to talk to me. Come on. My whole view changed and I think that it had to do with the way I viewed things. And besides I’d have to try hard to entertain her  . I’ll be sharing with you the proper mindset that you should have before you go out there. You heard me right. it’s what makes or breaks you. And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndseT for MeeTInG WoMen I just got off the phone with a student I had last weekend. Yes you would get results instantly! But that’s not the real challenge. something clicked inside of me. Mental barriers are very strong and. After the weekend. She’ll ignore me. I felt like I wasn’t worthy to talk to them. and all the tactics to meet women is easy. I’m not even qualified to talk to her. You’re your own worst enemy. in my experience. laugh at me.Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS. that’s your own self. she’s way out of my league. I don’t want to talk to her. Everyone else will see that I am talking to her and they will think that I’m a loser. I don’t get as nervous as I used to be. Here’s what he told me: “Right now. The hardest part is going against everything that is preventing you from achieving success.

It’s impossible…” I’ve heard that objection more times than I can count. I am a man of purpose. If she rejects me. I take pride in being me. Every time I talk to women. The first step to being successful with women is to look at things in a positive way. Your job is to give the ticket away to anyone… But here’s the catch. You will never run out of women to approach. or playing in the sand.and be really slick and smooth. I just can’t be myself and get her to like me. My own values and passions define me. that person doesn’t know what a lottery ticket is. I make them happy. I live life to the fullest without apologizing for anything I do. Here’s how you should think and feel about meeting women… Ok. I seriously doubt it. Any woman will be fortunate to get to know me. I’m everything and more that a woman can ever ask for. They’re completely clueless. I walk through this world as if I own it. Now you’ve got to ask yourself. The best part about it is that women are everywhere. I am who I am. either way I’ll still be happy. I don’t seek approval from anyone. You can see them crossing the street. Women are fortunate that I give them the chance to get to know me. It’s a like a foreign concept for them. I am doing them a favor. then she doesn’t know what she’s missing. I live my life for me…” Where To MeeT WoMen There are dozens of places during the day time to meet women. where do I want to meet women?  . shopping for clothes. So how does this apply to approaching women? Here’s how you should think… “I am a man of purpose. People’s reactions toward me don’t define me. Here’s more. you can take me or leave me. imagine that you possess a winning combination to a lottery ticket. Looking at things in a positive perspective will get you far. The one ticket that will probably get you set for life. you just have a couple of minutes to convince them to even hear you out.

take advantage of that. imitate them or slightly be more animated/energized then they are. you must be aware and in tune with its energy level. then join a yoga class. TRY THIS OUT Go to five places this week (coffee shops. beaches. Now. bookstores. be In Tune WITh The enerGy level In order to be successful in approaching in various public places. let’s talk a bit about specialization… If you want girls that are into health and fitness then go to the nearest gym. coffee shops. streets. General places to meet women are malls. Violating energy levels puts social pressure on the woman you’re talking too. How loud do they speak? Do they command respect in an interaction or not? When you discover this. If you want smart girls then hit up the library.  . supermarket. parks. college campuses. When you’re approaching a woman in a library. and match it. then that’s a different story. If you want spiritual girls. Did you know that the ratio of women to men in yoga classes is like 15:1? Well. So the key is to be aware of the social energy in the place that you’re in. So to avoid unnecessary complications. and pretty much everywhere. etc.In order to figure that out. you need to figure out what type of women you want to meet. If you’re approaching a woman on the street then you can get away with speaking a little bit louder. just be in tune with the social energy level of the location.) and observe how people communicate. And she might not be used to handling it.

So after I get her attention. no matter where I was. Let me give you some examples. I would slowly walk in her pathway so she would be forced to come to a complete stop. I suddenly feel the ball of energy inside of me. make myself comfortable. I needed something that I could use anytime.Crash Course In sTarTInG ConversaTIon WITh WoMen Let me make something clear… There are dozens of ways to initiate a conversation with women. and then deliver my conversational opener. If she’s walking to her car. I make sure to grab one and place it right next to her. They all work… I’ve tried them all. If she’s walking the opposite direction. It’s basic law of physics: An object in motion will stay in motion unless an outside force causes it to stop. say something situational. What’s the fastest and most efficient way of initiating conversation with women? I was looking for something that cut right through the bullshit. If she’s sitting down I make sure to sit down as well. After a little bit of tweaking. Here’s how it works. The first thing I do is get her full and undivided attention. But here’s the question. I found the perfect opener for daytime approaches. my heart pumps faster. There are no possible excuses in my mind. I want to meet her and I will meet her. Tension begins to fill up my body. If you don’t command her full attention then she won’t process your verbal communication effectively. If there’s no chair beside her. and so forth…. Confidence begins to radiate through every part of my body. ask their opinion. she will stop. I act like she dropped something on the ground. Whenever I see a girl I’m attracted to. You can tell jokes. This is a very important step in my overall structure and let me tell you why. I run after her and tell her to stop. I say something like:  . If you pull this off correctly. and I slowly make my way towards her.

It makes her more comfortable. It conveys that you’re intuitive and socially intelligent by nature. Now let me break down the opener and explain to you why and how it works. I continue with “I’m a complete stranger and I know this is really random but… I was just passing by… and I saw you standing there… I just wanted to tell you that you are… Really… Really… Beautiful. It shows her that you’re sensitive to her needs and that you understand her concerns. The only reason why other men can’t pull this off is because they’re not coming from a place of power. and I relax from that point forward I get to know her more for who she is.“Hey… (pause) I begin to smile as my eyes are locked on her eyes. we shake hands. honest. Step : Tell Her the Reason Why You Are Attracted to Her Honesty is the best policy. only build your credibility in her eyes. Tell me about yourself” She smiles. By addressing potential objections you demonstrate social awareness. Women love guys that know what’s going on without a woman having to tell him. When you use this approach. you instantly demonstrate that you’re honest and sincere. breaKInG doWn The opener Step : Pace her ongoing reality Pacing is an essential skill that you should master. I use this to overcome any objection that might pop up into her head. It’s like an unspoken bond.  . Every time you say something that she agrees with. Gives her a chance to agree with you. Saying things that she can affirm as true. I found that being upfront. Not because you want her to feel obliged to be nice to you. and sincere is the way women like to be approached (CAVEAT: If you do it right). When I say things like “I know this is totally random…I’m a complete stranger” it actually serves several purposes. Sets up the proper foundation for the interaction right from the beginning. she gives you a silent nod. Tell her you like her because you want her to know.

When combined with the proper non-verbal communication and delivery. everything you say begins to be categorized in “The Potential Partner” context. • Gets her to subconsciously accept you as a potential partner. Creates the feeling of attraction. Shaking her hand is very important. This approach is so powerful that it creates attraction within seconds. you can say “I like that. Gets right to the point. Even boring rapport questions will work after the opener. That’s because she’s processing the whole interaction differently. After she says anything that might impress you. It makes it official that you two are in a social interaction. • Gives you a chance to introduce yourself. I’m (insert your name here)”. As soon as she starts answering your question.You tell people what you think about them. this approach can be very deadly. It skips through most of the games and takes you were you want to be… and that’s building an emotional connection. It also… • Gets her committed to the interaction. Step : Give Her a Chance to Talk About Herself You want to get her involved in the interaction as soon as possible. everything you say will be in the “I’m getting to know you before we date” context. what’s your story?” “Who are you?” “Where are you from?” Letting her talk about herself gives her the chance to impress you. After the opener. Since you created so much attraction.  . This is done by saying stuff like “Tell me about yourself?” “I just wanted to know if there’s more to you than meets the eye. she slowly becomes committed to the interaction. This is a very powerful frame from which to come.

She becomes extremely flattered. Go on now. Third Scenario: She gives you an objection. which re-engages her back in the conversation. She smiles. She’s just being polite and sticks around for a bit to see what you have to say. Second Scenario: She kind of likes it. She’s not really enthusiastic about it. what do you do for fun? * As you can see. First Scenario: She loves it. Here are some examples of how you can handle certain situations. Indifference by far is the most powerful way to overcome this objection. So what do you like to do for fun? *I’m not even acknowledging her objection. I also tell her to walk away which is reverse psychology and then I act like it never happened by asking her a question. 0 . depending on how well you execute your opener. and of course she wants to be perceived as classy so she will stay for a bit. The Boyfriend Objection Guy: Opener Girl: I’m sorry. then just walk away. Talk Girl: Talks and walks away Guy: (smiles) Oh come on now. I also get to express my personality and my positive traits. Runaway girl. Talk.dealInG WITh ConTInGenCIes One of three things will happen. I set up an expectation for her. tries to walk away. She wants to get to know you. But if I’m making you uncomfortable in anyway. I have a boyfriend. I absolutely love the third scenario because it’s challenging for me. She Walks Away While You’re Talking To Her Guy: Talk. Runaway girl (I sing playfully) Anyways. or doesn’t give you the time of day. I tell her she’s way too classy to walk away. Guy: Awesome. you’re way too classy to be walking away when someone is talking to you.

you must come across from a place of power and positivism. doesn’t look at you. Come on.  . I’m not one of those guys so don’t treat me like one of them. Guy: No worries. I know this is not who you really are. If you approach with the “I just want to get into your pants” mentality. Guy: Why are you acting like this? Why can’t you just be yourself. This is just a protection shield. Now I want to share with you the Gift Shift theory. When you experience that situation. If you’re not going to be real. I’m almost sure. GIfT shIfT Theory In order for this approach to work.She’s Rude Or Doesn’t Acknowledge Your Presence Guy: Talk. Then you will begin to wonder what you’re doing wrong. In order for this approach to work you need to switch the way you see things. I don’t know where you’re from but where I’m from. There are a lot of creepy guys out there that try to get something from you all the time. So what do you do for fun? * See how I called her out on how she was behaving? It demonstrates that I am a man who demands respect in an interaction. You will get rejected by women left and right. Sorry I was being rude. Have you ever talked to someone before and felt like they just wanted something from you? Was it a gut feeling? How often were you right? I bet you were pretty accurate at it. people are real. I’m Oliver. This stuff is very powerful. I know you’re a cool person deep down inside. The way you think and feel affects the way you interact with people. Girl: I’m Michelle. I was just having a bad day. I’m just going to walk away (I act as if I’m about to leave). or something to that effect. Grungey10: I understand. then it will not work for you. look around you. Talk Girl: Says something rude like “Why are you talking to me”. So let’s give this a shot one more time. I want you to remember this section and read it over and over again. Talk.

away from the world they are in right now. I want you to do this. I know. Your job is to give them an unforgettable experience. they would fall for you? Ask yourself that question over and over again.It’s simple. She’s seen you in movies.  . How would you act if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that if only women knew you. Am I conveying who I am in an interesting way? Is she getting to know me or am I just talking out of my ass? TRY THIS OUT Next time you go out to meet women. I feel happy. You have the upper hand and not the other way around. I get results because I have something positive to offer. Your job is to provide women with positive emotions. Whenever I talk to people. you are. I feel happy knowing that I’m about to make this person’s day. You’re the guy she talks about with her best friends. Knowing this information how does this change the way you’ll view your future interactions? Remember. it sounds sappy but it’s amazingly effective. I know. She will only find out that it’s you after she’s gotten to know you. Yes. You can do it too. She’s been dreaming about you. Your job is to take them on an emotional journey with you. There’s a catch though. I’ve worked on myself to the point where I just am naturally attractive and interesting to women. Take five minutes and imagine that you’re someone she’s been waiting for all her life. She’s read about you in books. you’re giving that gift to her. you are a gift. You are a gift. That means you have to barrel through her persona.

The pInG ponG MeTaphor
In my opinion, conversations with women are very similar to playing ping pong or table tennis. The ball just keeps going back and forth across the table. One person hits the ball then the other person hits it back. It’s an ongoing cycle. That’s how conversations should be. Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Someone usually carries the conversational burden more than the other person does. Eventually the conversational ratio should be as close to 50/50, girl talks as much as guy does, but it takes skill to be able to do that. You need to be interesting and interested. I’ll say it two more times because it’s very important. You need to be interesting and interested. You need to be interesting and interested. Making sense so far? Were you ever in a conversation with someone who talked way too much? It’s like you were watching television because you couldn’t contribute to the conversation at all. On the flipside, were you ever in a conversation with someone who just kept asking question after question without really contributing anything at all? Well you need the balance of both. You need to lead the interaction and at the same time, get women to follow your lead. You need to help them invest in the interaction. Not everyone’s socially savvy. Sometimes, you need to make it easy for them to contribute to the interaction. This book help you cultivate the skills you need to be both interesting and interested. 

Go fIrsT prInCIple
“You must become the change you wish to see”- Gandhi In other words, if you think change is needed in a situation, think about changing yourself first before changing everything around you. I want you to look back on all the conversations you had with women that you liked. Here are some questions for you. Were you… Both comfortable, relaxed and at ease? Exchanging fun stories from your lives? Sharing secrets and vulnerabilities with each other? Speaking formally or like friends do? Able to build familiarity and substance in the interaction? Here’s my main point. If you want her to do something, you should do it first. If you want her to start opening up to you, you must open up to her first. It’s your job as a man to lead the interaction. You should lead and expect her to follow. TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation instead of asking a question, make a statement. Instead of saying “Where are you from?” tell them a story about where you’re from. Instead of saying “How are you” say “I’m feeling so happy today, you have no idea why”. See how people respond to you. 

poWer TalK
What you say and how you say it is critical when you’re interacting with someone. A couple of years ago, I remember watching a comedy show. This guy walked on the stage and started making jokes. There was forced laughter here and there but that’s about it. I ended up just looking at my watch impatiently thinking to myself “What time is this show going to end?!” Couple of months later, I watched another comedy show. A couple of minutes into the show, my stomach started to hurt from laughing, tears started falling from my eyes, he got me. I don’t remember laughing so hard in my entire life. The jokes weren’t extremely funny, it was his personality. This is true for everyone out there. Whether you’re a comedian, a salesman, a student, or a friend, people will respond to you based on how you present yourself. Here are some tips to empower yourself. • Avoid hesitation when you talk. Be firm with what you want. For example, instead of saying “Uhm, I was thinking if, uhm, we could go out sometime” say something like “Hey, I’m going shopping this Thursday, It’s going to be a blast, you should tag along”. Don’t flinch. Don’t be nervous. Say it like you would if you’re talking to your 11 year old cousin or something. • Power of ambiguity. Keeping a woman on her toes keeps things challenging in an interaction. Every other guy jumps at the opportunity to hang out with her again. Instead of giving all your cards away try using words like “maybe. We’ll see, I’ll get back to you on that one”. An example would be “Hey, you seem fun, if we’re both available this weekend, then maybe we’ll hang out”. • Avoid over politeness. Being overly polite communicates subordinate status. When you’re communicating with women, you shouldn’t treat them as if they’re a goddess from Venus. If you treat them like royalty, they will act like royalty. Treat them like you would treat your buddy. Don’t be overly polite. 

What is my goal? I want to convey who I am as a person. Well. When I do. I want her to remember me when she wakes up the next day. Then we discuss each other’s passions in life and connect on a deeper level. I want to know what makes her tick. Evolution has hardwired into us the tendency to bond with those who are familiar and wary of those who are unfamiliar.WhaT To do afTer InITIaTInG The ConversaTIon A lot of guys don’t know what to do after they’ve initiated the conversation. So I start out by getting to know her on the surface level. What was unfamiliar was more often dangerous and threatening. Let me go over my structure on connection building. What was familiar was generally safe and approachable. over and over again. Then I try to build familiarity by connecting on a lot of different topics. I want mutual appreciation. to make it really simple. I don’t need to know her whole life story. you MusT CreaTe a ConneCTIon “It all started with our ancestors. I genuinely appreciate her and I am very successful at it because I believe that all women have something beautiful inside of them. I relate to her on the surface then I go a little deep and find out the things that make her tick. I just want to touch base and build both familiarity and substance with her. I make her feel special for the person that she is. I do it multiple times. My goal is to build familiarity and substance all throughout the interaction. I relate to it and appreciate her for it.Psychology 101  . my next goal is to get to know her on multiple levels. it’s a combination of two things CAPTIVATE & CONNECT Captivate her with your personality by building a connection. After I’ve captivated a woman with my presence. I want to make a mega solid impression so that she won’t stop rambling about me with her best friend the moment our conversation ends. I want to find out what makes her special.” .

This is what separates you from every other guy that’s tried to meet her. So let’s break down what usually happens  . There’s a time to be cocky and funny and avoid a question that’s thrown your way but should you keep on avoiding it? No. your main goal is to get to the point in the interaction where you both can just be yourselves. She’s trying to figure out if you have more going for you than your initial impression. When she asks you a question. That’s the secret to a successful daytime interaction. Building an emotional connection is the heart of daytime pick-up. You need to be in that place where both your guards are down and you can just connect on all levels. and let her open herself up to you as well. It’s my favorite part of the interaction. She’s hooked She becomes so interested that she starts to ask you questions to find out who you are. He’s cool and interesting. The problem is most people don’t know how to convey who they are. There’s a time when you should answer it. then you create an emotional connection. No matter what system you use. she’s trying to figure out who you are as a person. If you allow this process to happen. Imagine how you would feel in this kind of scenario: A girl has been talking to a cool guy for quite awhile.I don’t care what anyone else out there thinks but if you can open your mouth and talk. It’s where the magic happens. She wants to find out if you’re real and if you have any depth to you. Here’s a system you can use to build an emotional connection: Step 1: Build Familiarity Step 2: Build Substance Step 3: Appreciate Her as a person Step 4: Incorporate A Romantic Spin hoW To ansWer lIGhT rapporT QuesTIons A lot of people I’ve met still don’t know how to convey their personality in their day to day interactions with people. you can build a connection with anyone you meet.

appreciating and relating with life experiences. When she gets home. being vulnerable with each other. give it a few days and that attraction will probably fade away. and building a strong emotional connection. Ideal Scenario: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: So where you from? Guy: Oh… You wouldn’t want to know… It’s extremely cold there… Girl: Where? Guy: I live in the North Pole… It’s so fun swimming with the penguins everyday… It makes me so happy Girl: Ugh… shut up!!! No really where you from? Guy: I actually moved here from LA two months ago. Why? It’s because you’ve only created short term attraction.45 minutes later -----------Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: Oh. She was ready to build an emotional connection but you threw the opportunity away. She ends up giving up and going home knowing nothing about you. ---------. Real and long lasting attraction comes from building commonalities. She may have been attracted to you at first but it won’t last for a very long time. Things are so different back where I’m from.Scenario 1: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: whoa! We’re getting a little ahead of ourselves here. Everything is fast paced back in LA. ( I talk about LA for a  . we’ll get to that in a minute… anyway…. I’ve read ton of stories as a kid (insert something cocky or avoid the question asked) Conclusion: She wanted to get to know you better.

while then compare it to Tucson) Things are very simple out here. • It sets the stage for building an emotional connection. • She knows right off the bat that you’re a good communicator. It makes her comfortable and easier to open herself up to you. So remember: Never ever give boring answers to simple questions such as Where are you from? What do you do? What’s going on? Tips on how to do that 1. Like the other day. ask yourself What makes my place different from where I am right now? What’s so unique about my place? What are the fun things to do there? What do I love most about my place? How does it make me feel? What would you recommend for her to do in your city? 2. We were driving through empty green fields and… (insert semi deep and meaningful story here) Conclusion: • You stand out from all the other guys because you differentiate yourself from them. • It gives her a window of opportunity to see how you view the world and the type of person you are. how you ever met someone cool that could just talk about anything under the sun?  .) Where are you from? When you get this question. You actually demonstrate a lot of personality by being comfortable sharing your thoughts with her • You lead the conversation. I was on my way to a ranch and it was really interesting. You’re not answering her question in a boring way. It actually gives me time to think about everything going on in life and see the bigger picture. Now.) What do you do? What are you really passionate about? What makes you tick? How did it start out? What happened then? What’s so special about what you do and how does it make you feel? Have you ever met someone that just talked about the same thing over and over again? It gets very boring after awhile.

you have around 130 words. this is what familiarity is all about. elephant is just one word. Don’t tell me you don’t have any experience with at least one of the topics I listed above. you’ll never run out of things to say ever again. Cartoons Movies Big Zoo Water That’s all Alright. 13. Alright. Now. Ok. If you had a story about guns. she’d have one too. 10. If you had a story about your pet hamster. give me 10 things that you can associate with the world elephant? Take your time. It’s called the association game. 4. Animals Grey Tusk Ivory Africa Jungle Lion King 8. do the exercise. Once you’ve mastered this. If you did the exercise. Give me 10 things that come to your mind with each word above. 12. 9. Here’s the beauty of it. Done? Here’s are the things that came to me when I heard the word elephant: 1. then you’ll never run out of things to say again! 0 . 2. 6. 3. Think some more. 7. 11. let me teach you a helpful exercise here. it’s included here for a reason. 5. Come on. Now that’s 130 things you could potentially talk about. You need to connect on multiple topics. she’d have one too. what’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word elephant? Actually. she’d have one about her spider.Like if you had a story about your grandfather. A sentence has how many words? Do you see where I’m going here? If you master the art of conversational vibes. let’s go one step further.

 . It also makes you stand out since it’s something that only close friends do. Most of the things women tell you. Use it. Another skill you should focus on is active listening. Building substance solidifies the connection between you. pick a word out. You see. Here are some topics you can explore to build familiarity: -Goals and aspirations -Passions -Ideal vacation -Relationships -Friends -Youth and childhood -Love -Art and Photography -Traveling -Favorite films and music -Concerts and theatres -Family . once you’ve barreled through their persona.Fitness -Animals buIldInG subsTanCe: aCTIve lIsTenInG. just pick out one word and riff on it for a minute or two. and leadInG WITh your passIons You now know how to build familiarity. Do this until your jaw is numb from speaking too much. fIndInG her Core value.Hobbies . This tool is very powerful. learning how to build familiarity is an essential skill to have. think back to the previous topic. and riff on it. Next time there’s an awkward pause in the conversation.TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation with a woman. Take advantage of it. are gold. Women will feel like they have a lot of things in common with you. Building substance takes the interaction to a whole other level. Let’s get you acquainted with building substance.

But what if you guys don’t like the same artist? Does that mean both of you have nothing in common? No. to whoever you’re talking to what they have said to you. Once again this shows her that you understand her and that you’re paying attention to her. You need to find out what is the underlying motivator that drives her to do the things she loves to do. You should rephrase what she just told you and. For example a guy asks: “Who’s your favorite artist? Oh Mariah Carey.Active listening is a habit. as well as the foundation of effective communication. You have something in common with her. . Finding Her Core Value And Building A Quick Connection A lot of guys try to connect with women on the surface area. Doing this affirms your understanding and builds dialogue. you should be able to repeat back. Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to. . Always ask her what she means. Don’t answer right away. Just learn how to listen to her completely without butting in. and how it makes her feel. You see. me too. • Ask questions. Don’t always be eager to fill in the silence when there’s an awkward pause. Here are the benefits of active listening: . Once you find these underlying motivators. feed it back to her. Doing this will strengthen your understanding of the situation • Summarize what she tells you.Ensures understanding of the subject matter. pause for three seconds before answering something. you should relate to them. your job is to find out what makes her tick.  .Expresses understanding of her feelings A couple of basic pointers for active listening: • Rephrase and feedback. That’s great if you guys like the same artist. in your own words. • Shut up and listen to her.Demonstrates interest in her as a person. we’re so similar”. It will improve your conversation skills tenfold. and that’s her core value. As an active listener. in your own words.

You learned that you shouldn’t touch it again. Was there ever a time you got burned by something? Maybe you touched a hot stove or candle. Whenever they do something right they get rewarded. opening up to you. For example: You should reward her for giving you a compliment. Women gravitate toward positive emotions and move away from the negative ones. On the other hand.  .Relate to those underlying motivators. Whatever it was. whenever they do something wrong. This encourages her to do it more often. If you don’t set your standards early on they will step all over you. they get punished. I want you to rewind and remember your childhood. early in the interaction. and laughing at your jokes. Women will test you. After you relate with her you should appreciate her for who she is. You should punish her for disrespecting you. Another example would be a parent disciplining their kids. to see where your boundaries are. But before I explain it. you need to reward her for opening up to you. you just instinctively jerked your hand back. So how do we use this to our advantage? It’s actually very simple. let me give you an example of social learning theory and conditioning at work. Later on. It’s more powerful than relating to her on the surface level. They will test you to see how you will respond. they’ll be conditioned to do things that would lead to them being rewarded. and being rude to you. and you probably learned something afterward. You should take time to think about what behaviors you will reward And which ones you’ll punish. Social Learning Theory And The Power Of Conditioning Social learning theory states that we learn social behavior by observing and imitating others and by being rewarded or punished. This applies to women and dating as well. Yes. not complying with your request.

If ever they do. “Tell me and I may remember. Here’s how you do it. It’s one of the most powerful tools in building an emotional connection.  . Here’s what I call the life story tactic. comfort. and safety. I won’t get into detail on this topic but I’d like to share with you a very effective technique to build an emotional connection. I suck her into my world. The word regression means moving backwards.leadInG WITh your passIons A lot of the so-called “pick-up artist” I’ve met are curious as to how I can captivate a woman by just being myself.” Remember that you always have to involve her in the interaction. Here’s my dirty little secret… I talk about the things I’m passionate about. Having passion is very attractive to women. Involve me and I will carry them forever. I tell her the things I love to do and why I love to them. It also builds trust. What is it you would do for free if you never had to make money again? Emotional Connection Accelerator There are a lot of different ways to accelerate the process of building an emotional connection and my favorite one is regression. Before I do let me share this quote with you. Here’s a question to help you figure out what you’re really passionate about in life. they don’t convey it in a way that’s interesting to women. Leading with your passion separates you from every other guy that’s tried to hit on her. Not a lot of guys talk about the things that make them tick. Being passionate about your passions (as funny as it sounds) is even more attractive to women. Show me and I will remember.

meeting you” then she will walk away.  . It can be fun. middle. She should know your rules on dating and relationships. she’s being rude. and you can call her on it. right now. How do you turn this into a system? Alright. This is an advanced technique I use to quickly convey the things I’m passionate about thirty seconds into the conversation. The end includes your present experience and your future plans. On the other hand if she says “I have to go” and you ignore the thread and talk about something else. or sad. Now. The middle includes your high school and college experience. She should know the things you love and your pet peeves as well. • Identity Interleaving. The beginning includes your childhood and middle school experience. I want you to come up with at least two to three stories for each phase of you life. a Couple of effeCTIve ConversaTIonal Tools Here are several topics I’ll discuss briefly. The key is to exchange stories and go from childhood to future plans. She should have an idea of who you are and what you’re about early in the interaction. She should know what your standards are. This can take somewhere between ten minutes to sometimes even the whole day. If she walks away. • Standard Interleaving. adventurous. • Conversational Plowing. Tools you can use later down the road when you’ve mastered the basics. she will not leave. This technique is very powerful and it solidifies the emotional connection instantly. mischievous. Trust me on this one. and future. end. You can do this directly or through storytelling.Your life right now is separated into beginning. As long as you keep talking she will stand there in front of you. Mix it up. You should always move the conversation forward. you can start by asking her about her childhood or talking about yours. The more emotions the better. If a girl says “I have to go” and you say “nice.

talking about fate and destiny. go light again. etc). People usually don’t just go up to people and start telling stories. Always include a romantic spin after building an emotional connection. Telling a story builds comfort and trust because you’re opening up to somebody you don’t know. demands respect. This is a brilliant way to ease into deeper topics. then this time go a little deeper than you were before. ambitious. It’s a tool I use once in awhile. Tell her that you’re sad you met with no mutual friends to introduce you to each other. then go deeper. • Romantic spin. Builds comfort and trust. eye contact. Well if you’re one of them then you’re on your way to becoming successful.• Cold reading. etc. romantic. kissing her. On Storytelling Storytelling is very powerful if done right. or just used to talking people’s ears off. Whatever objections she may have make sure to use them first. of course. When you tell a story you communicate on both levels. Say this after a high point in the interaction. Try searching that on Google or something. This helps intensify the emotional connection that you’ve built. trustworthy. vocal tonality and projection. They listen to what you say and how you say it. protector of the ones you love. This always steers the interaction toward the right path. and your non verbal communication to see if you’re communicating all the right things like being comfortable in your own skin. you need to check your body language. then make her laugh a little bit. then go a little deep. adventurous. Why? It’s because learning how to express yourself is the first step in getting good at meeting women. Well some do and they’re either super social. Cold reading helps captivate her and builds familiarity instantly. • Preempting objections. confident. Some examples would be taking her on an instant date.g.  . Next. Here’s an example of fractionating: Talk about something light. A good resource for cold read is the Forer’s effect. story tellers. especially at times when the woman I’m talking to is hard to crack or if I’m in a hurry and I want to build a quick connection. • Fractionating. humorous. Constantly ask yourself this: What am I trying to communicate? Am I getting my message across? You want to demonstrate good qualities about yourself with the stories you tell people (e. and that’s why you can’t hang out anymore. and.

On the other hand. It can still suck. Probably the most important part of telling a story is your vocal projection and your delivery.So let’s get to the important part How do you make a good story? Here are some terms that are important in storytelling and I’ll discuss only a couple of them Opening line. character development. the presentation can still bomb. you can give a guy who’s good at telling stories a very boring and ridiculously horrible story line and he can turn it in to something very interesting. Give him the best script created by the best minds in the world and when performance day comes. engaging the senses. Let’s take for example a comedian and an actor. if it’s suspense then use a lot of pausing) • Am I pausing at the right times? • Am I using a wide range of facial expressions?  . sequencing of events. What’s the difference between these two guys? The way they present it and he way they deliver. and emotional projection. Every time you’re telling a story I want you to ask yourself these questions • Am I passionate about what I’m talking about? • Am I enthusiastic? • Am I paying attention to everyone that’s listening? • Am I relaxed and comfortable? • Is my voice loud enough? • Am I talking slow and clear? • Am I projecting the emotion I need to project through my voice? (If you’re telling a scary story sound scared.

You want to engage all her senses. it gets bruised easily. 1. Speaking of names.) Describe what you were doing at that time. Now stop laughing at my baby name. as much as possible when you’re telling a story. Grungey10: Lisa. I’m Lisa. “all of a sudden”. Bookstore girl: Oliver. smell. 3.)* Then ask her* Does that ever happen to you? (throwing the ball back at her) You want to talk about emotions because you want to communicate on her level. I get that every time there’s a family get together. Men usually communicate with logic while women value emotions more. interesting name.) The climax of your story. 5. and “surprisingly”. You want her to be able to relate to you. a light bulb just popped up in my head. Well can you believe that my name was supposed to be Amanda? Bookstore girl: Amanda?! (laughs) Grungey10: Yes. the funniest/craziest/most embarrassing/ wildest thing just happened to me yesterday/today/couple minutes ago. “out of nowhere”.. etc. Amanda. (pause) 2. what you could see. feel.So here’s a quick formula for a spontaneous story. I’m Oliver. Grungey10: Exactly.) OMG.. here’s a ConversaTIon I had In The pasT Grungey10: Hey. 4. “then out of the blue”. Did your parents ever tell you about embarrassing stories when you were kid? Bookstore girl: Yeah. It’s something they can relate too.. Nice meeting you.) Then slowly insert stuff like “and then I realized”. hear. Bookstore girl: (laughs)  . who you were with.) How did it make you feel? What lessons did you learn? 6.

. Anyways.. What happened next? Grungey10: All right... Bookstore girl: (Continues giggling) <Now I’m going to throw the ball back at her so she can invest more in the interaction> So what were you like as a kid? Was there anything your parents gave you a hard time about? Bookstore girl: Hmmmm. she went to the doctor and she had this machine.  . it’s on the tip of my tongue. the one that detects the gender. welcome to the family!” Bookstore girl: (Eyes get wide) Really?! That’s the funniest thing I’ve ever heard. I remember him teasing me a lot about being a tomboy back in middle school. all right. the doctor’s like “Ma’am.. which I do not find very funny. Not so much my parents but my grandfather and I had a really strong bond when I was growing up.. we don’t see anything moving down there. Get this. Hello. this is not a laughing matter... Say hello to mommy. we’re getting there.. Grungey10: My mom got so excited that she started decorating one whole room in the house. I was born and the doctor hands me over to my mom wrapped in a white towel.. and even a pink welcome banner hanging from the wall saying “Princess Amanda... thank you very much. Hello. So the room was all pink! It had pink stuff toys. Every time a friend comes over to the house. You know what I’m talking about right? Bookstore girl: You mean a sonogram? Grungey10: There you go! Good girl (briefly touches her shoulder).Grungey10: Anyways. just for me. uhm. Bookstore girl: (laughs hysterically) Grungey10: No.” Then she slowly unfolds the towel and then all of a sudden. when my mom was 6 months pregnant... after the sonogram.. I don’t think you understand. your first born will be a girl”. my mom always whips out the album with me dressed in a pink room all dressed in pink. Bookstore girl: OMG (laughs) Grungey10: I know! Isn’t it funny? So what actually ended up happening was. it’s my beautiful little princess Amanda. pink crib. Look at you. apparently. Badoink!!! A moving “thing” down there?! She was devastated! I never heard the end of it. My mom holds me with tears in her eyes saying “Wow.... she actually decked the whole room out with a “My little princess” theme in mind. The moment of truth. Hello... So here it comes..

I could start building more familiarity by talking about my sisters. where would you live? Bookstore girl: I’d live in Africa. I can also build more substance by exploring what made her change but I chose to explore the subject of traveling. You’ll notice that women have a lot more to say when they don’t get interrupted. I can pick any topic and start rolling with it.> Bookstore girl: (smiles as she recalls) Back then I was a boy hater. You see. how does it make you feel? 0 .> Grungey10: Boy hater? I better watch out for you now. Bookstore girl: Oh shut it (hits me in the arm). What do you accomplish when you’ve made a difference in the world? Let’s say you’re in Africa and you get to educate the kids there. I’ve always wanted to make a difference in the world. and at the end of the day. for a year. At the same time. you see improvements in their lives. I was also a very competitive kid. <I’m going to build more substance now> Grungey10: I find it really interesting that you love helping people out. I went through that whole phase. < She gave me multiple topics to choose from. try pausing for three seconds after she finishes her sentence. That was back then. I might not even be safe here (smiles). I love going to a new place and learn everything about the culture there. before responding to her. < I have a choice.> buIldInG faMIlIarITy & subsTanCe Grungey10: If you could live in any city in the world. As an exercise. If you have sisters then you’d know what I’m talking about. I’ve changed a lot since then. It’s fulfilling for me.Grungey10: (nods head but keeps quiet) <It’s very powerful to pause and not be eager to fill in the silence in a conversation. Grungey10: Why would you live in Africa? Is it because you want to help out? Or do you just want to explore the place? Bookstore girl: I guess a little bit of both.

a day.Bookstore girl: It makes me feel like I’m on top of the world. You see a lot of people are imprisoned by their day to day activities. or sometimes weeks to put a song together and it pays off bigtime. This is when the magic begins. songwriting is very much like painting.. I solidify the attraction by giving here a sincere compliment. Grungey10. They see things from a different perspective. Grungey10: You know what. Not a lot of people understand what it takes to do what we do. There must be a catch here. It’s something that I got into back when I was still seven. let me tell you something. Grungey10: What are you passionate about? Bookstore girl: Well. Grungey10: Bookstore girl. You see. I get the exact same feeling of satisfaction every time I finish writing a song. Artists are very creative. I guess satisfaction would be a better way to phrase it. In the process they lose in touch with who they are and what they’re all about. I totally understand what you mean. Bookstore girl.> Bookstore girl: Yeah. It’s a rare thing. I better leave before I start to fall in love with you. It’s the best job I’ve ever had. playback the song I just made. It’s something I’m really passionate about. At the end of the day. It’s a stress reliever for me and at the same time I get to express myself through my work. < I’m going to start flirting and appreciating her> Grungey10: Wait a minute here.. We both put are minds and hearts into our work. I just relax on my bed. You see them working with the “work”  . Bookstore girl: That’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever told me in the longest time (blushes). A lot of people have forgotten the meaning of what it is to be passionate about something. You’re kidding right? I just have the biggest thing for artistic people. It may take me an hour. Only a few people actually live their lives to the fullest and at the same time. They usually just live their lives with one thing in mind. do the things they’re passionate about in life. and feel good about myself. You love traveling and you’re an artist too?! This is way too perfect. I love painting. <After creating familiarity and substance. They go to work or school and they change to fit the environment they’re in. and that’s usually making a living or going to school. and for the most part they’re real. I don’t think enough people appreciate you for that. A lot of people might think it’s easy for us.

Girls give their numbers to guys for various reasons. Some give their number away because it boosts their ego. Do not answer”. I suggest staying for an extra five or ten minutes before you leave. Don’t be afraid to test new things out. I realized something very important. In their minds. It’s actually something that I’ve been working on for awhile now. • Don’t leave after you get her number. Some give their number away because it’s fake.face on. One  . When you leave right after you get her phone number. it makes it seem that was all you were after. No matter how smooth you pull it off. You always want to leave on a positive note. they still have control of the interaction. Some give their number away to get rid of the guy. If I’ll see the girl again then I won’t even get her number. Some give their number away with no intention of ever answering your call. I’d like to share with you some of the things I learned. Normally. they instantly know what’s going on. I’ve noticed that most guys make their exit after they get a woman’s number. I found that timing is very important when it comes to getting a woman’s number. Coffeeshop girl: I know exactly what you’re talking about. Women give their phone numbers for a variety of reasons. Some give their number away and save your number as “Weird & Creepy Guy. Getting a number doesn’t really guarantee success. This may take somewhere between 10 minutes to two hours. I’d highly advise everyone to try it for even a week. Then they go home and hit the sack. it doesn’t even guarantee that you’ll get to see her again. Numbers mean nothing if you haven’t done your job well. But before I even get into that. Well I go through my day-to-day activities with the biggest smile on my face because I get to be myself the whole day. When you get a woman’s number. I’d like to actually get to know the girl first before I even get her number. <Conversational cycle continues> The arT of GeTTInG phone nuMbers & seTTInG up daTes After hundreds of interactions. It’s the same routine over and over again. It’s the best thing ever. As a matter of fact. • You can return her number to her every time she does something to turn you off.

I discovered that pacing would.”  . And some girls will simply just lose your numbers. because not all girls will call you up. Some of the lines I’ve used are “Let’s exchange contact information” “Give me your number” “I really had fun talking to you. girl refuses. It’s better to exchange numbers than to just give her your number. Whenever they give me an excuse such as “Sorry. At the same time it demonstrates that you have standards. any line will work. Some girls just never call guys up. When you give her your number. When you reach that point in the interaction. I found that it’s very effective to display more interest in her. • Don’t try to bargain if she doesn’t give her number. Some girls might like you but forget to call you. make you laugh. You job is to get her to want to give her number to you. That’s my cue to see where I am in the interaction. • Tell her you want her number but don’t get it. then guy tried to bargain. At this point she will either ask for my number or giggle. • Simple yet effective lines. Pacing can be used to address future objections. It’s a really neat way of communicating “I could care less if I get your number or not”. Guess what that does? It drastically decreases the chance of anything happening by 50%! Why. It’s not going anywhere. If she still gives some excuse I say “Don’t get a big head now. I have a boyfriend” I usually just stare at her all confused and say “Yeah… and?”. would be useful after getting her number.little trick you can do is to give her back her number every time she says something you don’t like. Any line will work if you say it at the right time. She’ll probably flake on you anyway even if she gave you her number. At times when she tries to impress you. I usually say something like “Wow. Some girls will throw your number away. I so have to hang out with you…” then I just continue talking about something else. So it’s best always best to exchange number because it gives both of you the chance to call each other up. once again. you’re really skilled at using the phone to your advantage. • It’s better to exchange numbers. you leave it all up to her to make the move and give you a call back. at the peak of an interaction. how can we continue this conversation?” • Objection blaster. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times. you like classical art? That’s so cool. Guy ask for girls number. If she doesn’t want to give you her number than just let it go. but since there appears to be an issue with it. It’s a downward spiral that leaves you lower than you were before. Not unless. but unfortunately I have to get going. I’m just going to leave now. • Pacing to avoid flaking. I just thought you were an interesting person and that you’d make a cool buddy. or after an emotion filled moment.

They all work. It really depends on the situation. then you owe me vanilla flavored ice cream on a cone…” You can go anywhere with this technique. make sure to end the conversation on a high note” It doesn’t get better than this. My suggestion would be to try everything until you find the one that works best for you. It will really communicate that you have more important things to do. Tell her what time you’ll call her and how to respond to you over the phone. You’ll come off way cooler. Just act like it’s normal. my friends and I love to bowl at Golden Pins. It usually goes something like this “You know what. 80’s music. believe me I’ve tried. This technique has worked well for me. If you don’t have any. Listen. It’s not everyday that I meet someone that I can just be real with. Stuff like “Ok. When you do answer I expect a really cool joke from you. Then make it a point to be the first one to hang up or pretend that someone else is on the other line. It’s good to set up some rules right from the beginning. Go call her! And if she doesn’t pick up then call up two more times” “You should call her the day after you get her number. It’s fun”. Have you ever gone cosmic bowling?! It’s the most fun thing in the world. • Finalize your plans before you leave. It will communicate that you have a life and that you are not needy” “You should call her on the same day so that she gets comfortable talking to you. I really hate playing phone tag. but wait a minute. I’ll call you just once… and leave a message once. and on top of that you get to bowl. “You should call her after a week or two. What more can you ask for? We do this every Wednesday. you’re pretty cool. Here’s a couple “You should wait at least three days before you call her. If all else fails. you should come join us.• Tell her exactly how it’s going to be. I prefer to make plans before leaving the interaction. They have these huge crystal disco lights. That’s it. How long should you wait before you call? This sounds familiar doesn’t it? There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to the best time to call.  . trust me. you’re not some weird psychotic girl right? Cool. every Wednesday. After you talk to her. make sure to let her know you’ll be calling in the next couple of days” You must be wondering which strategy works best.

I used in the past. Give it a shot for two weeks then switch.Here is a simple strategy. The others eventually responded after my follow up routine. Aggressive Method Call the numbers up the day you get them You can call the next day and the day after to follow up Call at unpredictable hours of the day Varying time limit on each call Ask her out later on For some reason this method worked best on cold approaches. I would say two out of every four girls answered on the first call. What do I mean by solid? I’ve spent an average of about 45 minutes to 2 hours with them. and emotional connection that’s been built all throughout the interaction. Let me ask you this… What’s your strategy? Let me suggest this… Try everything out. Occasionally. Let’s say I’ve collected around 12 solid numbers in two weeks. See which ones work best for you.  . there’s that one girl that never picks up her phone. in order to find out which strategy worked best. That includes multiple dates within that day. There’s no rush to call her up soon because you’ll see her over and over again. Traditional Method Call her after three days Space your calls out and have at least three to four days in between them Ask her out on the first or second call This method works best on girls within your social circle. That’s pretty good considering the fact that I’ve only got so much free time on my hands.

8 TIps for an unforGeTTable fIrsT daTe
The tips I’m about to share with you are priceless. It took me years to figure some of them out. Most guys don’t know what to do on a first date. Don’t be generic. “Would you like to go to dinner and a movie with me sometime?” I don’t want to hear that coming out of your mouth anytime soon. OK? That’s what every other guy does! The last thing you want is to be like everyone else. There are lots of other things to do besides that. Save that idea for a later date. Something you’re passionate about. Are you passionate about sports? Singing? Shooting guns? Surfing? Art? Rollerblading? Anything at all? Bring her in to your world. Do the things you’re passionate about with her, on a first date. The best part about is that you can teach her how to do these things, if she doesn’t know how. Accessible- You don’t want to take her to the mountains located two hours from you. You want somewhere near and accessible. Fun & Exciting. Some of the best dates I’ve had were in amusement parks. It’s fun. It’s exciting. It provides the both of you with the same experience you can bond on. Plus, the emotions you experience will bring the two of you closer to each other. Unpredictable. Don’t tell her where you’re going. Tell her it’s a surprise. Get back to your place early on. Find an excuse to get back to your place early on. Your goal is to make her feel comfortable and to get that step out of the way. I do this by saying “These shoes are killing me, I just need a second…” drive to your house and say “Alright, I’ll give you a quick tour, we can only stay for five minutes cause we’re running on a schedule”. I go in the house, change my shoes, and rush her out of the house after giving her the tour. I don’t crowd her space. I don’t go for the kiss. I just relax and really just give her a tour of the house. This serves two purposes. Makes her trust me more and gets her comfortable in my house. Go to the supermarket. Take her with you to do groceries. Two techniques you can use. You can pick up a cookbook and have her pick up ingredients with you so she can help you cook. Another thing I like to do is to get some ice cream. Unfortunately I have to get it back to the house before it melts. AHA! Either way, you end up going back to your house or hers. 

Ideas For Second Dates Theme parks The beach Picnics Shooting range Cooking classes Sporting events Grocery shopping Flying kites in the park Comedy clubs Dance lessons Art galleries Rollerblading Go cart Wine tasting Wall climbing

on CreaTInG a sexual vIbe
Creating a sexual vibe gets her ready for the kiss. You must learn how to project sexuality. Sexuality can be projected by the way you talk, look at her, touch her, and the way you present yourself. It’s mostly non-verbal communication. This is the next level you need to master. Here are some of the ways you can project a sexual vibe. The way you look at her. Look at her in that sexual “You know what’s about to happen” kind of way. You can do stuff like staring at her eyes while biting your lower lip then looking back at your eyes. You need to be able to turn on your bedroom eyes and sexual smile in a snap of a finger. The way you talk to her. Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Lower the volume of your speech. Try speaking like you’re saying something really profound. Whisper in her ear at some point in the interaction. The way you touch her. Hold her hand at key points in the interaction. It’s important to have some kind of body contact. Begin to face her directly. Place your hand in her inner leg and gently stroke it. Knees or feet touching each other. Stroke her hair while looking at her lips. Incorporating Pausing. Pause in between words to create a sexual and intriguing vibe. 

I Can’t Believe I’m Sharing This With You I came up with a strategy to project sexuality quickly. As a matter of fact, I only teach this in my Day Game University Boot Camp. So let me ask you just one favor. Please don’t teach this method to anyone. Ok, maybe a friend or two, but no more than that. Deal? Good, now that we got that out of the way. Here’s what I call the Airplane Method I want you to think about the two hottest women in the world. It can be an actress, model, friend, or make believe women. Don’t continue reading unless you have your two hottest women. Now, imagine that you’re in a private jet plane. You own the plane. It’s yours. You’re relaxing and leaning back with your feet stretched comfortably. Your pants are down and one of the hottest girls is sucking your penis while the other one is sucking your balls. Now how do you feel? I really want you to put yourself in this situation so you know what I’m talking about. Now let’s say someone calls you over the phone. How will you talk to them? Would it be fast? Or all slow and sexual? Here’s how I learned this technique. A couple of years ago, I met my good friend Asian playboy, who specializes in picking up women in bars and clubs. When this guy spoke, he just had this seductive and sexual presence and for the longest time I couldn’t figure out how he did it. Until one day, I thought to myself, what could this guy be thinking? I mean he gets laid a lot, and he’s good at what he does. What’s his secret? Then it suddenly occurred to me. AHA! He must be thinking about being in an airplane with two hot women going down on him. That’s probably what it is! There’s no other explanation I can think of! Thus, the airplane method was born. Props to Asian playboy. TRY THIS OUT Next time, before you go for the kiss, you should try the airplane method and talk all sexual for 5-10 minutes. This builds the stage up for the kiss. 

If she’s walking. If she’s walking away from me. and you know that it’s time. and connection as I need before I try to escalate things further. that it’s going to be a sexual relationship. It’s something you’ll learn to do. Nothing else matters. Here’s a sample progression I’ve used in the past. Put her hair behind her ear and lightly stroke the side of her face. then that’s your cue to go for a kiss. if you play your cards right. I approach the girl I want right away. It’s just you and her that exist. • Three second rule.3 and if she’s still lookg at you. quite a number of times. It’s almost too obvious to meet. you’ll start to get a feel of EXACTLY when you should go for it. The best part about this approach is that you don’t need words. After you get into that situation. In that moment. I built as much comfort. • You don’t need words.When & hoW To KIss her Kissing on the first day sets the stage. You should kiss her before the day ends. First. Slowly move in for the kill. Here are some important pointers that will be helpful for you.2. • Explore her eyes. • Nothing else exists. investment. while you slowly tilt your head. You usually feel butterflies in your stomach. don’t look away. Nobody else. Women are eager for the kiss as much as you are. I make her stop to talk to me. Mall. froM Coffee shop. • Put her hair behind her ears. There’s a window of opportunity that opens up sometime in the interaction. Do you know that moment when you run out of words to say and your eyes are locked on hers? Next time that happens. I make sure she hears me running towards  . Start looking deeply at her eyes. let the whole world just fade away. superMarKeT To The bedrooM: The naTural proGressIon There’s a natural progression of how I like to do things. early on. I want you to ccount 1.

play arcade. After all this. Sometimes I even take them on an instant movie date where we sneak out in the middle of the movie and go watch another movie. We talk more. After I establish some kind of connection. Someone you can just talk to about anything and everything. we go back to my place to prepare dinner. I usually talk about deeper topics when I’m sitting down. I almost forgot. and then set up another date with her. The perfect time to lean back. I discovered that if you make fun of uncomfortable situations. If she’s inside her car. Let’s go…” she usually complies. relax and discuss deep topics is when you’re sitting down. then it becomes comfortable. I ask her to sit down with me. You’re not going to be one of those awesome girls that I meet and never see again. 0 . I pull out my phone. It varies. All these crazy things you’d do when you were young. At other times. call it a day. punch the number 9-1-1 in and say “Look at this number. and then I stop her and make her turn around to talk to me. Before entering the door to my house. with no mutual friends to introduce us to each other. after we buy groceries. I just kiss her. It’s pretty rare to meet someone you can just be real with. I’d prefer to see how far I can take it. I do stuff like walk around the mall with her. If at anytime you even slightly try to grab my ass… it’s over. I’m going to sit down over there. I’m dialing this number. After I’ve established enough investment on her part. I’m sorry we met like this. Tell you what.” We go some place to eat. I’m hungry. You get the point. I knock on the window and start talking to her. I know it’s going to be hard for you. I say “Oh. I will not tolerate disrespect and sexual harassment especially from women. After eating I make it a point to do other things. This usually demonstrates that I’m fearless and exciting. like couples do. getting ready to leave. Sometimes. and shop for clothes. I usually say something like “My legs are dying. but just try hard to resist the urge ok? I’m not that easy” It’s a little funny piece that takes the tension out of the scenario. We prepare dinner together. it’s grocery day today” and then we head out to the supermarkets.her. Let’s go grab something to eat. Get to know each other a little bit and begin to open up. I say something like “I’m really glad I met you. So.

Here’s the key piece of the puzzle. she usually ends up doing just that. At this point my back is turned toward her and I start to do fake snores. I pump up her emotions by saying things like “I know what you’re thinking. see you tomorrow”.  . Then I learned that if you just leaned back.. it should be a done deal. I just unleash the beast and take full control of the situation. When she reaches her boiling point and all the clothes are off. and I need to stop before it gets really far”. she’s way too invested and aroused to even pull back. Then later on in the night. but I’m feeling so good. I treat her the same way I would treat my buddy. and give her space to chase. After that’s done. Just minutes after it gets really hot and heavy. I always pull away first and give her an excuse why we should stop. I don’t put out that easily. before she even has a chance to do so. increase her desire. I hate to put you down but. I pull away and pretend to sleep. I used to try to seduce her and touch her as much as I could the moment she walked through the door. I pull of childish behavior like initiating pillow and water fights. All I am is a big piece of tease”.From here on I just build as much tension as I can. From this point. I jump right into my bed and I tell her “Goodnight. We eventually start kissing and rolling over the bed. In that moment. From here we start to cuddle. I act as if everything is normal. she’s usually not sure whether I like her or not. At the same time. At this point. I do this a couple of times till clothes start to come off. I’m off to bed. For you.. I play the frame that “I’m a good boy.

physical. You need to become a master of all four stages Stage 1: Becoming Social and Expressing your personality Stage 2: Learning how to make her invest in the interaction (emotional. Who you will become depends on the things you do today. going on an instant date.” Where are you in your life right now? What are your goals? Long term and short term? Create a plan Don’t give up until you see results Who you are is the product of the past.Words of WIsdoM There are four stages you will go through in your journey to get this part of your life handled. you will probably wind up somewhere else. social) Stage 3: Learning how to handle logistics (getting her number. second dates.  . (phone game. and managing relationships)  Tips On How to be Happy Be optimistic and outgoing (positivism) Have close friendships and meaningful relationships (Build your social circle) Work or leisure that engage your skills (fun time) Have something to believe in (foundation) Sleep well and exercise (taking care of yourself) Having a high self esteem (healthy relationship with self) “ If you don’t know where you are going. time. getting her back to your house) Stage 4: Beyond the pick-up.

Balance Is Key In order to achieve happiness and live up to your full potential. you must become congruent with the three main aspects in your life: Be good at what you do Enjoy what it is you do Feel a sense of fulfillment while you do it  .

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