Daytime Pick-Up Revealed

The Art of Meeting, Connecting and Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls, College Campuses, and Anywhere Under the Sun!
2006 All Rights Reserved 

IntroductIon A Word on consIstency GettInG the Most FroM thIs MAnuAl WArnInG!

Table of ConTenTs

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Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle 8 WhAt Is dAy GAMe? 8 An eye opener on cold ApproAchInG 9 WelcoMe to WoMen’s everydAy reAlIty 10 creAtInG A vIsIon 11 ActInG on your plAn 12 4 steps to IncreAse the eFFectIveness oF GoAl settInG 13 IntroductIon to the 8 essentIAl dAyGAMe FActors 14 Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS FActor 1: Inner strenGth FActor 2: IdentIty FActor 3: lonG terM And short terM vAlue FActor 4: eFFectIve coMMunIcAtIon FActor 5: eMotIonAl connectIon FActor 6: coMFort & trust FActor 7: loGIstIcs FActor 8: InvestMent Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS, rAcking up dAteS, And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndset For MeetInG WoMen Where to Meet WoMen Be In tune WIth the enerGy level crAsh course In stArtInG conversAtIon WIth WoMen BreAKInG doWn the opener deAlInG WIth contInGencIes GIFt shIFt theory the pInG ponG MetAphor 

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Go FIrst prIncIple poWer tAlK WhAt to do AFter InItIAtInG the conversAtIon you Must creAte A connectIon hoW to AnsWer lIGht rApport QuestIons BuIldInG suBstAnce: ActIve lIstenInG, FIndInG her core vAlue, And leAdInG WIth your pAssIons leAdInG WIth your pAssIons A couple oF eFFectIve conversAtIonAl tools here’s A conversAtIon I hAd In the pAst BuIldInG FAMIlIArIty & suBstAnce the Art oF GettInG phone nuMBers & settInG up dAtes 8 tIps For An unForGettABle FIrst dAte on creAtInG A sexuAl vIBe When & hoW to KIss her FroM coFFee shop, MAll, superMArKet to the BedrooM: the nAturAl proGressIon Words oF WIsdoM WrAppInG It All up

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would understand. I’ve compressed it all into this book. Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you’ve absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book. What you’re about to read is a product of years of trial and error. beaches. by choice. I’ve piled up all the useful information that I’ve discovered in my pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups. there were no resources on meeting women outside of the “bars and clubs” context. I came up with over 2. videos. regardless of age and experience. books. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part of my life handled. In the process. I don’t want you to take a year to see results. with the right combination of passion. I want you to succeed now. even my 8-year-old cousin. After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls.InTroduCTIon First of all.  . can benefit from this manual. I just needed to know how to operate in the field. I’ve developed a step by step system that will allow anyone. streets.000 pages filled with discoveries. So I came up with a manual that anyone. and trial and error. hanging out with guys that were good with women. You’ve taken the first step toward improving yourself. theories. I want to congratulate you. coffee shops. I really had no other option. It was a long and painful process but. Anyone. Back then. I had to learn how pick up women from scratch. I learned the natural [**hard?**] way. it can be overwhelming. I learned from my past failures. It didn’t stop me though. dedication. quite frankly. 2. Over the years. at that time. There were no gurus. and perseverance to become successful with women. Worst of all. or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up.000 pages? Yes. I know there’s a lot of information out there and. and college campuses. and tactics on meeting women during the daytime.

Now. There are many ways to achieve your goal. I want you to sit back. You must find the determination. It doesn’t work that way. You can have the best techniques. consistently. You’ll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn. and choose wisely. would you be willing to experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to achieve the lifestyle of your dreams . passion. then when will you? Treat this like going to college to get a degree. they each followed their pre-determined plan. but you will never reach it unless you consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other. and you will not be figuring out this part of your life forever . You’re about to begin your journey.There’s a catch though… You have to want it. First of all. but without consistency. relax. Over the past three years. You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in this area of your life. Eventhough they were from different walks of life and trained differently. a Word on ConsIsTenCy Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency. there was always one common denominator. Day in day out. and drive within yourself to see this through. You won’t be in college forever. This manual is my helping hand to all those guys who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day. this book isn’t some magic pill that will solve all your problems overnight. I promise you won’t regret it. and keep an open mind. I’ve talked to hundreds of people who have successfully transformed their dating lifestyle.  . So now. the best system.or will you continue to be an “average Joe” for 70 more years? Which path will you take? It’s time to make a decision. and the best coach out there. make a stand. If you don’t get this part of your life handled right now. without fail. and without excuses. it’s all worthless.only a few months! This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself.

and integrate the information you learn. I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won’t be enough. Treat this book as a reference or encyclopedia. Come back and read the individual section from time to time. The more you practice. reading. Keep practicing. I want to know what you think. Read.com Let’s Rock n Roll!  . so be prepared. You need to practice several times a week. GeTTInG The MosT froM ThIs Manual There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. ever be satisfied with just learning this stuff.I want you to approach this as you. You need to go out there and practice the things you learn. if you want to become competent. comments. you will need in the future. Some of them will be helpful to your current situation. absorb. I’ll constantly be throwing new concepts at you. the better you become. You need the right information and the ability to put that information into practice. would when you’re trying to develop a skill. It’s a repetitive process that will propel you toward success. practice it! Don’t go jump right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you learn here. and using it until you have it all down! Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas. complaints. It’s similar to learning a sport. You can drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect. Read through it once or twice and absorb whatever you can. Most of them. Don’t ever. or just a simple “Hi” note if you will.

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Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle In this section. they roam around malls. outside of bars and clubs. ”What Did You Do About It? Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by? If you didn’t do anything. beaches. build an emotional connection. It’s not luck. relax. and believe me. I’ve met a couple of men that can pull it off. Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday? Women of all types of beauty are not hard to find. and coffee shops every single day. I have yet to meet someone who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that catches his eye. Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands. they are rare. then day game just might be the answer. it’s a skill set. get them on dates. and how I’ve used this information to solidify my game and make myself more successful with women. I’ll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before the approach. Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman. and have the possibility of starting a relationship with them. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day? If you answered yes to any one of those. What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me.  . The best thing about it is that YOU could potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how. shop. supermarkets. have fun and a whole list of other reasons. as most may think. The question is. then that’s normal. WhaT Is day GaMe? Have you ever experienced seeing “your type” of girl walk down the street? Most likely you have. I’m sure you wanted to accomplish something.

I’ve had a history of being a salesman. Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What happened?  . I learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must. I didn’t even know their name. the one thing that’s similar with salespeople and guys that are successful with women. more often than not. If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the customer. let’s get back to my story… After failing to produce results in my job. It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a chance to get to know the customer. is their ability to communicate with people. they’d just continue walking.What if I told you that it’s possible to approach these beautiful strangers and have something positive result from almost all of your interactions? Would you think I’m nuts? an eye opener on Cold approaChInG Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger. Communication is key in everything that we do. do you want to sign up for our service today?” yada yada yada. trying to get people to buy our products. Heck. I’d always be shouting “Hey sir. If you think about it. and that’s when I learned something… If my initial approach was unique. and it did make sense. Now. I’ve spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth in the middle of a mall. Occasionally. What does sales have to do with being successful with girls? Everything. Several years ago. then there would be no need for salespeople. then people usually gave me a bit of their time. I tried and experimented with a lot of different techniques. I should know. But. I’ll talk more about this in the upcoming chapters. people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had to say.

depending on your mood. It’s probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because it opens the door for escalating the conversation. why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were you interested in getting to know them as a person? Chances are it was out of politeness.You probably heard them open with a familiar line like: “Hey what’s going on?” “Nice weather…” “It’s a pretty long line. What does that mean? You’ve got to approach her in a way that she’s not accustomed. isn’t it” Chances are you reply with some sort of answer. Then the conversation comes to an end and you either say “Nice talking to you” or just simply turn around and carry on with your business. The first thing you need to do is find a way to bypass her social filters. Your goal is to get her into a state of mind where she’s susceptible to be led.. There are a lot of whackos out there. Looking back. How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off? I’m sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers that you say when you get the same question. It’s not their fault and I certainly don’t blame them for being rude sometimes. WelCoMe To WoMen’s everyday realITy Women get approached or hit on all the time. 0 . Make or Break Moment The first couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or break moment. They’ve developed tolerance to men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction. If you can relate to this scenario then..

Goal setting is very important for various reasons. will be focused on perfecting the first few minutes of the interaction. A lot of your time. Women will usually. there are no second chances if you mess it up. It motivates you and keeps you on track. you should have one. You have to set a goal for yourself. Have a pen and paper ready. it doesn’t mean you get to go in and do whatever you want. Most women will give you somewhere between three seconds and three minutes to captivate their interest. I’m going to go with the assumption that everyone’s time is special. Just because someone opens the door. then by the end of this section. But don’t expect them to be all over you after you’ve initiated the conversation. It’s always a good feeling knowing you’re working toward something that will benefit you in the long run. So I want you to take sometime to answer these questions. They have no goals set for themselves. If it’s something you really want then you WILL achieve it. If you have a vision of what you want your life to be then that is your incentive to work harder. when you first start out. That’s just setting yourself up for failure. if you’ve got your whole presence and communication skills down. CreaTInG a vIsIon Do you know where you’re heading? If you don’t then you might want to start brainstorming. If you want to be successful with women. Most of the people you meet out there will have a very short attention span. You’ll find it very useful on your journey.  . Don’t skip this part. If you don’t have one. A lot of people out there are like chickens running around with their heads cut off. We all have things to do and people to see. That’s your window of opportunity. It gives you an overall direction so you know where you’re going. It will be your first road block to success.It’s like going to someone’s house and pushing the doorbell. open the door for you a little bit. there’s one thing you need to do first.

now what?! Anything on paper is just writing unless you put it to work. One piece of advice though: Information isn’t power.  . what do you really want to accomplish? You’re obviously investing a lot of your time and effort into learning how to be successful with women. These questions should aid you in coming up with a solid vision of who you want to be and what steps you need to take in order to accomplish that. weekly. where do you see yourself? What kind of person will you be by then? What kind of girl/girls will be with you? What’s your lifestyle going to be? What’s the difference between who you are now and who you want to be? • How long do you think it will take you to accomplish your overall goal? Have you set daily. in 10 years. aCTInG on your plan Okay you have your plan.• Realistically speaking. it’s potential power. the next step is to stick to your plan no matter what happens until you start to see results. Once you’ve figured out what you want. What’s in it for you in the long run? Like. and monthly goals to ensure that you’re constantly improving you skill set? How much time and effort do you need to put into this? What strategies do you have in order to stay consistent and committed to getting this part of your life handled? That’s just for starters. I know it’s a good feeling to have so much information that your brain begins to swell.

”  .4 sTeps To InCrease The effeCTIveness of Goal seTTInG Know exactly what you want to accomplish. For example: “In six months. I’ll try to go on as many dates as I can so I can get experience under my belt. Get all the right information that you need in order to get this part of your life handled.” 2. I’m also going to work on the different aspects of my life so that I become relationship material. I should get my skill set to that level. 1. I shouldn’t commit the same mistake again. and schedule a date with her at the end. For example: “I was able to talk to several girls today. It was fun but I just can’t seem to get her to open up to me. I’ll make sure that they can give me personalized and individualized attention. After getting advice. I want to have the ability to date three new girls that I meet in the mall. What steps are needed in order to accomplish your plan? How long is it going to take and what does it require of me? Make sure to always stick to that plan. I should always be pushing the interaction as far as it can go every time. I’ll make sure to implement the things I learned right away. then don’t continue reading. Devise a plan on how you’re going to accomplish your goal. Make sure you use this information as a guideline and makes sure you’re on the right track. I’ll be able to hold a conversation with a girl for 30 minutes. I need to interact with seven new girls three times a week for six months. If you haven’t done this by now. I will surround myself with the kind of women I’d like to date and learn how to be comfortable in their presence. Or I can look for someone qualified to help me out. For example: “In order for me to be able to date three new girls a week. Put the book down and start working on it. and has a kick ass personality”.” Or “If I want a hot girlfriend I should be more experienced with hot women. I’m going to look for resources out there that will solve the problem for me. every single week” or “I want to have a smoking hot girlfriend that’s half my age. After six months.

and date the woman of your choice.  . I suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book. Here’s a QUICK PEEK at what’s coming up. You see. Review all your results. You should be able to analyze yourself and construct positive criticism. For example: “Last month. So I need to review all my interactions and see where I’m screwing things up. three girls called me back. The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive foundation for daytime pick-up. I got five numbers and out of those numbers. This is the only way to keep progressing. find the strong and weak points.. InTroduCTIon To The 8 essenTIal dayGaMe faCTors I’m about to provide you with the most comprehensive information ever available on how use the 8 Essential Day Game Factors to dramatically increase your success with women. then make the necessary adjustments. starting from your core. Did I build enough emotional connection with her? Did I convey my personality well enough? Am I giving up easily without following up? If so how can I improve my skill? I should try calling her more often…” This is a very simple structure you can use in order to assess your progress. This is an essential skill to develop. This month I got eight numbers but none of them called me back.. connect.3. The 8 Essential Day Factors are structured in a way that helps build you up. I’ve identified a total of 8 Essential Day Game Factors that must be addressed if you want to maximize your success rate! You must first understand all of the factors and how they affect your ability to meet. then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part of the interaction. In order to efficiently improve your skills.

why they can’t keep a woman in their life? It’s because they don’t develop the ability to convey their identity. FACTOR : LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM VALUE This chapter is guaranteed to raise a few eyebrows out there. I’ll discuss inner strength in depth and take you step by step so that you can develop a solid foundation . They lose a woman’s initial interest due to their lack of communication or ineffective communication.FACTOR : INNER STRENGTH We’ll start to build you up from the very core of your personality. FACTOR : IDENTITY Do you know why most guys fail to keep a woman interested in them? Or even worse. FACTOR : COMMUNICATION Communication skills separate the beginners from the pros. I’ll teach you the same principles that I only teach in specialized 1 on 1 VIP seminars. I’ll go over the key concepts of identity building and how to effectively communicate who you are as a person. I’ll explain to you the importance of long term and short term value and how it affects all your interactions. you’ll have a basic understanding of what inner strength is and how you can use it to gain an unfair advantage over other guys. A lot of guys don’t know the proper way of communicating with attractive women. I’m confident that by the end of this book. I’ll show you exactly how to communicate with women. I’ll only be throwing stuff at you that I know you’d need. I’ll show you where most guys fail and how you can avoid most of the pitfalls out there.  . Don’t worry.

 . let me be the first to tell you… Logistics is one thing that you do not have full control over. I’ve decided to just go all out and reveal four major investment categories. This is my favorite part of every interaction and you’re about to find out why! I go over specific time-tested tactics that I’ve used to establish a long lasting emotional bond that gets her to dream about you even after you’re gone! This is a very effective tool that increases the chances of you going on a date with her! I’ll go over the proper way to build an emotional connection and the opportune moment for you to start engaging her in this type of interaction. I’ll give you a couple of tips on how you can maximize the effectiveness of the interaction by utilizing our logistic planning method. In this chapter. FACTOR : LEADING & LOGISTICS If you haven’t learned yet. I’ll show you specifically how to get the girl from the mall to your bedroom! FACTOR : INVESTMENT In order for anyone to be successful with women. FACTOR : COMFORT AND TRUST Most guys just don’t know how to build comfort and trust with the women they meet. This chapter talks about the things you must do and avoid. Look no further! In this chapter. he must first master the art of making her invest in the interaction.FACTOR : EMOTIONAL CONNECTION Emotional Connection is what I like to call “The Heart of Day Game”. I’ve compiled the most comprehensive approach to increase control over the interaction and decreasing the number of women flaking on you.

what were you thinking of?” He replied: “All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person. I was the same as you when I first started out. cherish every moment of my journey. Most people probably hated being there. Failure just wasn’t an option for me. in other words. I admired this guy for his strength and courage. I don’t blame you at all. A lot of successful guys. You want to know what happened several years later? I sat down and told myself “If only I just build up myself first. have one thing in common.”  . This is the one thing that fuels them day in and day out. I hadn’t seen him in years because he was stationed in Iraq. I had two choices: should I go through all of this hardship.. things would have been so much easier for me…” So save yourself a lot of time and read and understand this section first before you go onto the next one. I just accepted it. I’ve tried to put my finger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to figure out what it was. “What does this guy have that I don’t. I had that choice. I mean.. and be the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period with my head held up high. So to make a long story short I asked him “It takes a lot of guts to do what you did. I know. I knew there would be a lot of people who’d be negative about the experience. Until this one day came. There’s something about him that makes him complete as a person. It’s that bright light at the end of the tunnel. and end up to be a better person? I chose the latter. “the lines”. I just knew that I had it in me to succeed beyond a shadow of a doubt. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were stationed in Iraq. I used to think to myself. My friend and I were just chatting about life. I always wondered how he was able to do it.” I really thought I would never figure it out. It’s the driving force behind all their successes. be negative all the time. we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style.Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS faCTor 1: Inner sTrenGTh I know that most of you just want to learn what to say.

 . power. appearance isn’t everything. Let’s take a good look at magazines for a second. Sad to say. What we believe in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives. and desirable. we live in a society that’s driven by money.I suddenly had one of those “Light bulb popping up in your head” moments. we’ve been programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women. Examples of such factors are FRIENDS FAMILY SCHOOL SYSTEM SOCIETY MEDIA CULTURE ENVIRONMENT WOOOOWW! That’s a lot of factors influencing us. Let’s take on the subject of appearance. Not only that. You can make a beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race! All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute. they set the standard of what is cool. You’ve Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don’t Even Know It! We all walk through this world with our beliefs. or fame. Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning… For the most part. You can get a girl even if you’re not rich. These moments don’t come to me that often but whenever they do. Contrary to popular belief. The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow. These beliefs have been integrated into our being. probably since we were little kids. There are a lot of factors that have molded us to be the person we are today. attractive. This is true for both men and women alike. they always hit me hard over the head. You can still get laid even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine. Let’s start out with media and advertising. or not tall. not well built.

famous… He even has the fastest car around. The average girl would think “That’s the girl that everyone in my school thinks is hot! She’s skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here). I need to buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…” Same thing for a guy “Oh. he has this sick ass watch. He’s rich. cool.Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I’m sure you all know the answer to this one: Celebrities Attractive and fit people Rich people And everything else I forgot to mention Am I the only one that sees what’s going on here? Where can you find the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of a magazine. famous helps but it’s not the only way. both the man and woman in this example end up concluding “In order to be desirable. famous. tall. and join this…” And whoever said advertising wasn’t effective? What actually happened was that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in order to be cool. The truth is… YOU DON’T Yeah being rich. where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial features modified to intimidate almost anyone. Anyone armed with the techniques and philosophies I’ll discuss in this book can attract the kind of woman that’s usually reserved for the good looking.  . and…” To make the long story short. tall. be this. Your belief becomes who you are. that guy has the hottest girl I’ve ever seen. and rich! IT’S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE! Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality? Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. and up to date I need to have this.

literally before my very own eyes. Alright. This is where everyone should start regardless of their goal. 0 . Ever since then I began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions. because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs. and went on a journey to seek the truth. you too can be successful with women. You have to live up to your full potential. so you can move through the world naturally attracting people in your life? Before I hear any objections. BELIEVE. Change will not occur overnight. What if you can reprogram your entire self. If only I could snap them out of their trance… but then again. back to my story. I’ll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I’ve found to be very useful in my journey. the faster you’ll get to your destination. And that’s when it occurred to me that… YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE. BELIEVE! I’ve learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. becomes who you are? Would you believe me? You better. my whole world changed. It makes me sad to see all the guys out there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. struggles. that would be too idealistic of me.What if I told you that everything that you believe in. I’m just sharing with you everything that’s worked for me and the thousands of guys I’ve trained after I discovered everything I’m about to share with you. Here’s how this works. You’re just going to be a better version of yourself. Don’t stop reading until you start practicing and believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons. but the sooner you start believing. I want you to go over this chapter again and again. I will also provide you with exercises so your belief is reinforced with real world results. I adopted bits and pieces of his philosophy in life. and relationships that I’ve had. After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you. you’re not going to be someone you’re not. For the next 30 days. These have been very useful for me and hopefully will be for you. only if you really really believed in it.

TRY THIS OUT I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were indeed valuable to other people. Starting now. Got that memory? How does it make you feel? Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn’t it? That’s how you should feel before talking to anyone. I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to others. You’re doing them a favor by talking to them. I want you to remember the times when you made several people feel good about themselves. how does that change the way you act toward them? Try it out. The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself. but I’ve approached girls in the past and they’ve shot me down more times than I can think of… Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn’t mean you should stop eating right? Every girl is different. then it will be valuable to others. Every situation is different. imagine that you’re about to give them a million bucks in the next five minutes. If you believe that everything you say or do is valuable. people were hanging off every word you said.  . I’m sure there’s a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just loved you. The time when.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS Have you ever had the feeling that you’re not worthy to even talk to someone? Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that damn “Why should she even talk to me? I’m not her type… and besides. Try this out. next time before you talk to someone. I don’t know what to say” speech playing in your head? Let me ask you this. how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven’t even approached her yet? Okay. all of a sudden.

It’s about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in. executed it. You do not need permission to dress in a certain way. whenever you want. Don’t look for others to make decisions for you. Once again.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : TAKE WHAT’S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS! There’s one thing that you will realize later on… You can do anything you want. we’ve been programmed by society to look up to others for “permission” to do something we want to do. You have permission to go after the things you want in life.  . Always voice out your opinions. Next time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot. You have permission to change your beliefs. You already have it in you. by the time you got to college. Everything is yours. Don’t be afraid to spark tension. And you have permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says. You have permission to be the best that you can be. and never looked back. Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission every single time you went for a trip to the rest room. Always say what’s on your mind. wherever you want. You do not need anyone’s approval before you do something. I want you to live life like you own the world. • Make your own decision and take your own stand. Don’t be afraid to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise. Do you think he ever asked permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off? Nope. you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn’t you? Another example is the very famous Bill Gates. And you can get away with it. just go ahead and sit down. if you don’t agree with someone simply say “I disagree” and leave it at that. So what do you want to do? What’s stopping you? You are your own boss. You can do them yourself. Well. he just had a plan. Don’t wait for others to tell you what to do. Don’t ask anyone for permission just do it. Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life: • It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission.

and don’t bow down to someone just because you perceive them as being better than you.  . or status. Don’t be ashamed of your past. Just try saying it. If it will compromise you or for some reason you just don’t feel comfortable with it then say “no”. You’ll notice that people will begin to respect you more because you’re upfront. and someone gets there the same time you did. • I’m not trying to impress you. You wouldn’t want to be known as the “yes” man.• Learn how to say “No”. When you’re at a party and someone asks: “Who wants such and such drinks” Don’t hesitate to raise your hand first and say “Over here”. don’t hesitate to just smile and take the spot first. Don’t ever change just because someone else wants you to. One motto you can use is “I’m not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to impress me”. This boils down to being who you are despite what other people think. If it’s reasonable and you’re up for it then say “yes”. It’s not that bad. It’s hard to get used to saying “no” but you have to give it a shot. Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time about it just smile and say “Thank you”. stand tall. Be proud. TRY THIS OUT Let’s start out with simple exercises. The next time you’re about to line up. background.

I wanted to be that guy that rocked people’s world with his guitar.” . Maybe because it looked cool on television. The clothes you wear.  . every single person you meet will wonder who you are. I wanted to be that guy in the spotlight that made people jump to the beat of his melody. all of these play an important role in establishing your identity. They are trying to form a picture of who you are as a person. I don’t really know. Maybe I wanted to be a rock star because I’d be famous worldwide. Why did I choose that as a kid? Beats me. the stories you tell. It All Started When You Were A Kid “There are two great moments in a person’s life: the moment they were born and the moment they realize why they were born.faCTor 2: IdenTITy Do you know what people think of the first time they meet you? Do you know the first thing that pops up in a woman’s head the moment you approach her? Do you know what she will think about the minute she gets home after meeting you? “Who in the world is this guy?” So let me throw the question at you… Who Are You? Trust me. when I’d just jump off the bed with a broomstick trying to mimic Slash from Guns n Roses. Your job is to convey your identity all throughout an interaction. So what exactly is your identity? Continue reading because this whole chapter is dedicated to the subject of identity. It seemed just like yesterday. and the way you present yourself to others. Or maybe it was what everybody wanted at that time.Mark Sanborne So What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? When I was seven years old I wanted to be a rock star. They ask you questions for a purpose.

I realize that each and everyone of us had dreams when we were little. So let me ask you this: What did you want to be when you were seven years old? How to Discover Who You Are I’m not going to keep you waiting any longer. Becoming a musician was a dream. It means that every single time that Michelangelo worked on chipping away pieces of his sculpture. I never really thought about it until three weeks ago when I was in a car with a bunch of friends. he was already done before he started. I didn’t stray away from it. We were all created unique and special.The truth is. If there’s one thing I want you to accomplish after you finish reading this book. Then out of nowhere someone started playing my song on the radio. Now that I look back. all he had to do was to chip away all the unnecessary stuff. peers. the product was already finished.  . Yes. I’m an artist! I’m a musician! I really did achieve what I wanted when I was a kid. We become better versions of ourselves. One of my favorite sculptors. You’ll need some time to work on this. We were born to experience life and with that experience we grow and we learn. I was easily influenced by my parents. That’s when it struck me. I had no other choice but to listen to what everyone said. Michelangelo. As a result of growing up. Not that thinking it’s a bad thing. and teachers. we tend to stop feeling and just start thinking. Here are several ways to discover who you are. once said “The Sculpture is already in the stone” and I never forgot that. you’re better of just having a 9-5 job where you can make a constant stream of income” Unfortunately. I believe that the person we want to be is already inside of us. we just need a balance of both. It really came from the heart but at such an early age. This is a very important section in this book. then this is it. It just put the pieces of the puzzle together for me. I thought I would never be an artist because of what everybody said to me… “Being a musician won’t get you anywhere… It’s useless. when I was a kid. I want you to pull out a piece of paper and jot down some notes. Success is in already inside all of us.

Write it all down. When you’re finished writing. • Make a List of Everything You Want to Become. Be proud of who you are. Beliefs. What makes you smile? What are the things you look forward to in the day? What’s your reward after a long day’s work? • Write Down Some of Your Main Theories. It can be a big or small goal. No one will judge what you write. Embrace it with both arms.• What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? Come on. and traveling. health. Don’t be afraid to let everyone see.. • List 25 Things That Make You Happy. It will reaffirm in your mind that you. dating. you’ll discover what you’re passionate about. think back. So how is this useful in social interactions? Simple. and write it down. This leaves women with a blank picture on their head of who you are as a person. the things their passionate about. Some exercises will take time to finish. Don’t force yourself to finish all these exercises in a day. No one can see what you write. Sky is the limit folks. Read it as often as you want for 30 days straight. relationship. What are the things that you value in life? What are the important things? What do you stand by? What do you fight for? • What are Your Three Biggest Accomplishments? By listing them. I want you to post it somewhere you can see it everyday. It’s always good to be mysterious but you should also find a way to convey your identity all through out the interaction. business. It always feels nice to remind yourself who you are.  . It can be related to fitness.. I only want you to write down three. I want you to write down everything. • What are the Three Things You Like About Yourself. and Philosophies in Life. But please try to restrain yourself. indeed. Most men end interactions without really conveying their identity. • Make a List of 15 Goals For Next Year. are talented. and the things they believe in. You could probably never stop listing reasons here.

travel. and anything your heart fancies. It provides them with a window to your being and this makes you interesting. art. TRY THIS OUT This weekend. You need to provide value.So. Bring her into your world. It puts you into a positive light but it’s still not enough to get you into any kind of relationship. Having this knowledge of yourself is so important especially when you’re interacting with people. talk about the things that are interesting to you. try something new. what do you do when you run out of things to say? An effective strategy is to just talk about something you’re really passionate about. Remember. music. Discuss your perspectives on life. Do this at least every two weeks. I want you to do an activity you enjoy doing but haven’t done in a long time. If you’re enthusiastic about it then it becomes interesting to her.  . Discovering who you are and the things that make you tick is something you should work on regardless of your goals in life. Invite your friends along and have a blast. Give her a taste of what it’s like to be in your shoes for a minute. If you run out of things to do.

we weren’t mean to the poor guy or anything. then I wonder what happens when I’m not even present. In this society. I think that’s what he said. After all he had balls of steel for doing that. How Women Decide If You’re A Contestant Most women have several choices of men from which to pick. and took off. you must first understand them. If these girls got hit on twice when they were with me. Anyway. I hear that you want to the secrets to dating women of particular quality and beauty during the daytime… In order to learn how to communicate with women. waved. I was walking in the mall with two girls. lifestyle. It’s no secret that women get hit on all the time. So why should she give you the time of day? What is in it for her? I hate to phrase it this way but at the end of the day. appearance. Let me start out by giving you a glimpse of what it’s like to be an attractive woman. We smiled. women usually pick the guys that can provide the most value to their life. Just last week.faCTor 3: lonG TerM and shorT TerM value So. Then I suddenly realized something. and all the others I’m about to discuss. and a salesman pops up out of nowhere and asks one of the girls I’m with “Would you like to go out on a date with me?”. it boils down to one question Are you an asset or a liability? It sounds so ridiculous but it’s true. communication. it was hard to understand him with his accent. Value is determined by a lot of things such as social status. Value is broken down in to the categories: short and long term value  . personality.

Once you find a way to provide these emotions. It’s the moment when we shut the whole world off for a second and connect with ourselves. Become unique. The fact that you’re educated. People tend to gravitate toward people that make them feel good. How did it make you feel? See my point. There’s one problem though. then you’re already ahead of the game. excitement. Now let’s go into some examples of how you can cultivate short term value. in fact you don’t have to be smart at all to pull this off. just thinking about that moment…. stop. You want to be able to laugh together. It doesn’t specifically mean that you have come up with something super original. Intelligence is another tool you can use to captivate a woman’s mind. someone’s doing exactly what you’re doing. Laughter serves two purposes: Builds attraction within a girl and creates an unspoken bond between the both of you. in my experience. Some ways of doing this are the way you groom and present yourself. • Develop your own signature presence . • Let your inner teacher shine. Let’s say you see a pretty woman as you walk into a coffee shop. You don’t have to be as smart as Albert Einstein. You will get far with humor. etc. comfort. then BAM. If you can share your ideas with her passionately. There’s a big chance that somewhere in the world. • Always provide positive emotions. you’ll instantly be magnetic to women. So the key is to be unique in that given environment. Do you remember the last time you shared a laugh with someone? Now. They’ll call you and even pester you to hang out with them. happiness. You’ll notice that women want to be around you more often. It happens most of the time. It’s addictive. she’s busy reading something. you’ve got the ability to hold someone’s attention and  . Do you have what it takes to get her to want to slam her book down and just talk to you? It’s not impossible. That’s the power of short term value. Your job is to provide positive emotions like fun. Communication is a tool you can use to your advantage but that’s in another chapter. This is done by conveying a rich and textured personality. All you need are a few interesting topics in which you’re quite familiar. If she perceives you as being more valuable than what she’s currently doing.Short Term Value & Ways You Can Build It Up! Short term value is determined by the experience you give women the first time you meet them. Laugh. then she will go out of her way just to talk to you. Laugh with them… If you have the skill to make women laugh. Almost like a drug. Laughter is a good feeling. • Laugh.

• Romantic. If she says “I’m not sure about this” say “You’re gonna love it. Never say “I don’t know”. Cultured and Worldly. This is usually learned through your family and the people you’re surrounded by. share your knowledge with the world. Don’t be afraid to take a stand and follow it up with an action. language.interest. Lead the interaction. • Classy. Always lead and reassure her that she’s safe with you. decision. Always have an opinion. Don’t believe me? Did you know that romance novels account for majority of the sales in bookstores? And that’s why women just love a guy that can give them the romantic fantasy. Happy. and enthusiastic. These positive emotions bring value to their lives. Your job as a man is to lead the interaction. Teach her a couple of things about your culture. “You’re so F****** money and you don’t even know it man”. If you can be a substitute for a romantic novel then. Take her by the hand and make it easy for her. If you step into that role she will allow you to play the role. and a handshake. Women love romance. I know it’s easier said then done. joyful. trust me”. If you want her number then just ask for it. as my friend Rish would say. Let’s go”. For example. Wouldn’t you? • Decisive. You can go on with this. Always make it a point to be a decision maker. Women are drawn to guys that are happy. and Enthusiastic. Lead the conversation. 0 . Are your outfits coordinated well? Does your belt match your shoes? Do you understand poetry and the different works of art? Do you know the best restaurants in your city? Do you understand the world of fashion? Do you know a couple of classic movies? If you’re equipped with this. If you expect her to lead and even make the first move. then it will be very hard for women not to notice you. Classy defines someone who has high standard of personal behavior. traditions. It’s also an advantage if you’ve done some traveling. Instead of saying “Do you want to come?” say “Let’s go” instead. teach everyone something. This can be conveyed with your attitude and the right assertiveness. Joyful. They want a man who knows what he wants. and a plan. then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Women constantly test for this. Just remember. when she says “Where are we going?” say “We’re going to grab some ice cream. a trick. Show ‘em what you got! • You are the leader. a few fun games you probably learned as a kid. the possibilities are endless.

Do something new every single month. Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something in life. • Emotional Connection. Coming up in the next couple of chapters. You have to walk a little bit to get through the door and make sure that you stay in it. I can always tell the people who are ambitious from the ones that aren’t. or exciting and live to talk about it. YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELF! Here are the features that you can add on to increase your long term value • Become a renaissance man. or go on a date with you when you’re not there! These are the times when she probably evaluates you as a package and sees if you’re worth it. Women crave men who are ambitious.  . And don’t forget to make it an interesting book. Make your life an open book. It’s time to rediscover and redefine yourself. Sounds like a sales pitch right? Right. Your long term value is responsible for keeping a girl hooked on you. a girl decides if she wants to see you again. Remember. Now it’s time to cultivate your long term value. Pick up a book every two weeks and read it. A renaissance man is considered a man at the centre of the universe. dangerous. Stay tuned! • Dare to Dream. these are the things that go on behind closed doors. continue the relationship.LONG TERM VALUE & WAYS YOU CAN BUILD IT UP So you’ve learned how to demonstrate short term value. Make it a routine to continuously be learning. There are a lot of ways ambition can be conveyed. Do something adventurous. As hard as it sounds. From experience. The most obvious one is the way one talks about life. That’s why you want to give her the best option so she can make an educated decision. Lean more toward the energy that they give off. limitless in his capacities for development. It’s hard to explain over in text. They smell this quality a mile away. I think this is one major factor for women who are looking for a commitment. Here’s a short description I found on the internet. but it’s sort of like a gut feeling. Short term value opens the door to her life. The only difference is that you’re not selling an actual product. Boredom is the enemy. The whole courting process is very similar to sales.

I’m not saying that all women are gold diggers. Being predictable takes the excitement out of a relationship or interaction. This is conveyed with the way you speak and carry yourself. Do you listen to her when she opens up to you? Do you act as a protector and make sure she’s always taken care of? Do you steer her around corners when you guys are walking around? Do you make her feel comfortable at times when she’s not? • Assertive. All I’m trying to say is that women screen the men to see if they are relationship material. Don’t you wonder what women are trying to find out when they ask “So. • Tenderness and Sensitivity. what do you do for a living?” They’re trying to get a glimpse of how much money you earn. This is similar to being confident. They also like men that know exactly how to press their buttons and provide satisfaction. now how do you respond to it? Do you get all offended and convincing her that you’re a cool guy deep down inside? Or do you just accept it with a smile. They enjoy sex as much as we do. You need to be able to support yourself and show potential for becoming financially stable one day. It is no secret that women love men that are great in bed. and move on to the next topic? • Keep ‘em Guessing. say “thank you”. It’s not good to be too unpredictable either. At times be romantic and shower her with attention and the next day treat her like one of your buddies. Do you assert your wishes on others? Do you make sure that you’ve got everything under control? Do you bargain your way into getting something you really want? Do you take a stand a support it fully? • Sex God. It’s not a prerequisite for her to date you but it plays a huge role if you want to have a smooth long term relationship. Firm and Strong. and handsome”. They get all excited when you do this. It’s fun. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard that phrase from women. Women are sexual beings just like we are. • Self-assuredness. I hate to admit it but money is a deciding factor in the dating game.  . How do you move through the world? Are you afraid to take up space in the world? Or are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you let bad criticisms get to you? Or do you accept them confidently? A simple test would be a woman giving you a hard time about something you either wear or do. It’s good to create a contrast in your personality. Sex releases endorphins and it relaxes the body. Women like men that can give them a wonderful experience. This can be demonstrated by the way you treat her. tall. “I want a guy who is rich. Unpredictability is the spice of life.• Financially self-sufficient.

if you’ve been doing everything right.These are some of the essential components to building long term value. you should have a killer understanding of inner foundation. When you’re done. then take a week to focus on this specific quality. and a couple of helpful tips. By now. You at least need to be between 3-5 in all ranges in order to be successful with women.  . That’s the reason why communicating effectively is a topic I spend several hours teaching at the workshops. I want you to take a good look at yourself and your life. Remember. it’s useless. Now go through each quality I mentioned in this chapter and rate yourself from 1-5 (1 being the lowest and 5 the highest). big goal concepts. TRY THIS OUT Read through this chapter again. If you’re below 3 in one of the qualities I outlined here. you can have the best line or script in the world but if you can’t present it well.

He looks over and notices big boobs. I’m not going to sugar coat it. describing a movie you watched to your friends. She sees this average looking guy.Mr.Ms. And then. Ms. Average Guy’s hormones go wild. Mr. Mr. After three minutes of boring conversation and ineffective communication. Deep down. Hours pass by. Two minutes later. Average Guy General Scenario: Mr. Plain Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. Next thing you know. Plain or Hot Jane Scenario 1: Ms. I have to rush back home because I left the light on my boyfriend’s room. He seems to carry himself well and has a good sense of style. there’s more to it than that. she deploys her killer line: “Oh. He started out as a stranger and left like her lover. tata!” Scenario 2: Ms. Actually. Let me give you an example. Hot Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. but it’s a key ingredient my friend. Wow. You must develop strong and effective communication skills in order to get what you want in life. She stands up and leaves the coffee shop with him. Whether you’re working on presenting an idea to other people. you need to be able to communicate effectively. She sees this guy. and a Mona Lisa smile. nice hair. that was fast. he walks toward her and starts talking. That’s all it is. I almost forgot. That’s the secret to success beyond your wildest dream. Hot Stuff makes his way to talk to her. She heads over to the table to sit down. he notices something moving from his side.faCTor 4: effeCTIve CoMMunICaTIon Your communication skills will either make or break you in your quest for success in all areas of your life. It was nice meeting you though. probably not. a body to die for. Plain Jane starts to slowly face away from Mr. In that moment. So what was the component that determined success and failure in each interaction?  . Minutes pass by. or instructing a cab driver where you want to go. He’s smoking hot. Contestant # 1. She’s enjoying the moment. I didn’t even notice the time. Average Guy is innocently looking for clothes to buy. She’s excited but she’s not going to give it all away because of that. she got him all excited in less than a second… Contestant # 2. He starts getting excited or nervous and he knows why. Hot Stuff. he wants her.

. • Women to feel exactly any emotion that you want them to feel allowing you to control and predict the outcome of your interactions. One of the most common question I hear is “What do you say to her to start the conversation?”  . decaf. Now the next time you go out. and how you want it • Your message across clearly for anyone to understand • Recognized for your ability to comm-YOU-nicate who you are.. The Communication Equation Individual + Effective Method of Presentation + Powerful Content of Presentation =Effective Communication TRY THIS OUT Go out to a coffee shop one of these days and order your favorite drink. you can live the most interesting life in the world. • More dates and maintain relationships easily. For example: “Hmmmmmm.. it’s useless. make sure your order is so clear that you won’t be barraged with questions after your order.. to go please. and your values in life. Presence is Everything I’ll share something with you.Effective communication. You can have 99 good qualities about you but unless you know how to effectively communicate them. When you know how to communicate well you can get . Just think about it. Remember what she says. You are what you communicate. • What you want. No one else will find out all these positive things about you. Does the barista ask you any questions afterward? Good. Then hand out your cash or card. your beliefs. it’s a really cool exercise. Just try it out for fun. Most guys I’ve met always ask me for the techniques I use to start conversations with women. I’m in the mood for a caramel macchiato. when you want it. with no whip cream.

Having said that. • Communicate with your eyes. And believe me. It’s all about how you present yourself. I noticed that some techniques worked better than the others (more about techniques in the last chapter) but there was always one thing common that made my approach work. when I say a lot. • Facial expression. Practice using a variety of facial expressions when you tell people stories. It worked because of the way I presented it. Do you slow down your pace when you’re emphasizing a point? Do you use pauses to amp up the tension and intrigue? Do you speak loud and clear for people to hear? Do you speak from your diaphragm or nasal? Do you eat your words? Are you relaxed when you speak? • Body Language. or walk? Are you relaxed and calm during most times? Do you lean back when you talk to her? Do you move unnecessarily during the conversation? Your non-verbal communication is the window to who you are. There have been several studies shown that women prefer men that smile while initiating a conversation. A genuine smile can take you a long way. Have you ever heard the saying “People buy you first before anything else”. • Fashion. Holding eye contact builds trust and comfort. joy. It really does. I found that saying to be true. It eases women up at times when they’re nervous. I guess the saying “The eyes are the windows to the soul” does have meaning.  . How’s your vocal projection and delivery. Did you know that there is a way to use eye contact to increase the effectiveness of your communication? It’s very important to hold eye contact at certain points in the interaction. and surprise. sit. rather than being all serious and mysterious. Are you comfortable with the way you stand. how relaxed you are. Facial expressions are used to convey emotions like anger.I’ve experimented with a lot of conversation starters in public places. Women are masters when it comes to reading body language. Your facial expressions can communicate messages of their own. This helps to get your message across more effectively. It makes a big difference. I mean a lot. and how you carry yourself. fear. sadness. How stylish are you? What kind of fashion statement are you making? What can people tell about you by the way you dress up? Does your style leave a good or bad impression on others? Do you command attention? • It’s not what you say but how you say it. here are six helpful tips to increase the power of your presence: • Learn how to smile. Along the way. They categorize you based on how you stand up. disgust. Smiling makes women feel comfortable.

At high and fun points take a step closer or move your chair closer. It usually goes like this: Man sees attractive woman. talk and carry yourself? I think that body language is the biggest giveaway when it comes to revealing who you are and how you feel. the way you walk. 2. Never have your hand inside your front pockets when you initiate a conversation with anyone unless it’s below freezing and you don’t have any gloves. just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. Thou shall relax and lean back. If you stay to close to her. I’ve had success with starting off at about 3-5 feet away. At low points step away a little bit. don’t move your hands around too much when you talk. It’s really funny to watch. then it won’t feel like it’s a conversation. right from the bat. Try mixing it up. will provide women with enough information to categorize you based on the impression you just gave them” Have you ever thought about the things you convey about yourself based on your body language? Did you know that women can tell if you’re confident and cool or nervous and inexperienced just by the observing the way you walk. then she will feel very uncomfortable. even if you’re nervous. Experiment with it. Man gets very jittery. and slowly get closer at specific points of the interaction. you slowly start to feel more relaxed. When woman gets close. chances are she’ll be nervous too. Men tend to easily get intimidated with women that are way above their league. The  Commandments of Effective Body Language 1. Thou shall not stand or sit too close or too far from her. and leaning against the wall.  . Man starts to smile nervously. placing your feet up on chairs. At the same time. 4. and the way you move through this world on a daily basis.Body Language Tips for Day Game “Your body language. If you’re too far from her. For some reason. 3. Thou shall not shake or move a lot in the presence of an attractive woman. So here’s to a good first impression. Man starts to make unnecessary movement because of the extra energy he feels. man tends to change his behaviors and act way cooler then he really is. I feel comfortable when my hands are out of my pockets. That includes doing things like slouching. If you’re nervous all throughout the interaction. Thou shall not have thy hands inside the front pockets. I’ve discovered that when you assume a relaxed position. Next time you’re in an interaction.

Do whatever makes you feel better. it helped me relax more. 6. Thou shall mirror her body language. Everything they did was almost too smooth. I used to be that way every time I thought I got rejected by women. The exact same thing I did every time I experienced a mild confrontation. 5. talked. Not good. It shows people that you were emotionally affected by it. For some reason. I used to lay down flat on the floor and take deep breaths. They stand up so erect that it’s almost too funny to watch. when I’m calling up a girl for the first time. I’d stutter. And the more I started acting that way. They took their time almost like they owned time. Have you ever been guilty of standing up too straight while you’re talking to a woman? Similar to how you would stand and act if you’re talking to an authority figure? Most guys take interactions with women too seriously. Mirroring her body language is a technique used to increase rapport and comfort levels. and eventually make a shameful exit. Everything changed. the more positive responses I got from women. They’re shoulders become tense and they act all stiff to the point that they make themselves nervous. Your voice tone probably changed. Women are human beings too. They walked. Thou shall not stand up like a soldier. If you’re guilty of this. I’ve learned that if you keep your composure and act as if nothing happened then you end up maintaining control of the situation. The way you stood up probably changed. For example. I modeled this behavior after guys that were naturals when it came to dealing with women. Have you ever been in a situation gone bad? You probably didn’t notice at that time but everything about you changed.  . and moved slow. They just exert more effort and time into looking good. 7. They’re not some sort of super human goddesses from outer space you know? They do the same things you do. Thou shall walk and move slow. 8. become jittery. Thou shall keep thy composure at all times. relax.

. It happens so often that it’s become normal. Relax. Be comfortable.. I’m the sweetest and coolest person you’ll ever meet. People that just keep asking question after question without really contributing toward the conversation..... People that just ask favors all the time. Those one-way friendships where people just call you when they need something from you. At the same time I know my boundaries and I won’t be taken advantage of... My presences makes people feel better. Don’t tense your shoulders up.. I offer positive and fun emotions... It’s sad and I see it happen every day.  . I move through the world with something to offer to everyone. But once you betray my trust.. Here’s my view of the world: “I am a man. Slow and confident movements. Be comfortable. I talk about my life experiences and my view on things because I just want to share my life with other people.... Take a deep breath.. Your job is to not be one of those guys. It’s also the reason why I can give a woman a compliment without seeming like I just want to get in her pants. Relax. that’s a different story. I bring fun and excitement to everyone I meet. Be comfortable.... Feet spread apart.. I just like to give. Hands out of the pockets. It makes me happy.TRY THIS OUT Lean back. Give Before You Take A lot of people are used to taking things from the world and from people... Inhale.. Don’t be too stiff. Exhale..... I am a man and I have something to offer the world…” That’s how I view the world. I’ll take care of you and make you feel like you’re part of my family... Relax.. I’ve been guilty of this as well.. I give without really expecting anything in return... That’s the reason why women instantly open up to me when I initiate a conversation with them. And make sure not to fall asleep..

I am focused more on giving to people rather than taking anything from them. TRY THIS OUT Effective communication will open doors for you in this life. then do you know what makes you stick in her mind? Endlessly? 0 . You should learn to cultivate it. So if effective communication opens doors for you. People sense this quality.That’s the reason why I am who I am right now. And you’ll soon realize that it opens women up to your ideas and messages as well. It’s rare.

I also happen to be the only guy. Certain profiles are assholes. Let me tell you a little bit more about me. At the same time. women lose respect for this type of guy. In order to be successful with women. frat boys. Now let’s talk about the guy with a feminine profile. I never really had a strong male influence in my life. How to effectively build an emotional connection. and I had to work on this aspect later on. And that’s because they can’t live up to their role of being a man. He rarely has control of the things that are going on in his life. women crave the feminine side in men. It’s hard to find guys that are just right in the middle. This guy is usually submissive in a relationship. Men are usually too masculine or too feminine. He’s more sensitive than most guys and actually shows his sensitive side.  . That’s off the wall. Women like men that can act like men. He is rare in this society. bikers. It rarely happens though. I’m about to tell you why. Somewhere along the road. He’s actually much rarer than a really hot girl that has it all together. Women are attracted to the two profiles but there’s a flaw that exists in both.faCTor 5: eMoTIonal ConneCTIon Now we’re getting to my favorite part of the book. even if you treat me bad”. So why are women attracted to guys that act like jerks? Women are attracted because they don’t acknowledge her as some sort of higher being than them. I grew up with four little sisters. The ratio of girls to guys in my family is about 14:1. If it does. Women wish that these guys would just stop for a second and actually take time to show her how much he appreciates her. A man who is masculine and knows how to communicate with women. gang members. I’d like to call this the heart of day game. They usually fall under the extremes. Almost to the point of “I’ll do anything for you. Let me explain. in the long run. Growing up. That’s 14 girls for every 1 guy. She hopes that one day. she’ll be able to make him change. it’s done in little quantities but never enough for her. you need to cultivate both your masculine and feminine side. This always keeps her on her toes. Guys like these usually worship the women they are with.

Someone who treats her like a woman and the same time puts her at her place when there’s a need for it. back to my story. If you want proof that the above statement is true then I double dare you to show it to ANY of your female friends. Someone who takes the bull by the horns and at the same time cares if she’s comfortable.Women look for men that are strong and at the same time gentle. I understood what made them feel comfortable. Come on. Why they do the things they do and why they act the way they act. Someone who sees them for who they truly are and at the same time treats them as an equal. Someone who has firm beliefs and opinions and at the same time is open minded. I unconsciously learned how to be comfortable around women and vice versa. And most of all. But guys like that are just hard to find. it will be another fun experience for you. they also have a physical side. Anyway. I learned how to communicate with them effectively. I became familiar with the way a woman’s mind worked. Women have two sides to them… A logical side and an emotional side Oh I forgot. It taught me things that I never knew I knew. Understanding Women In order to become successful with women. not just what they said they wanted. Looking back. Someone who can make her experience a variety of emotions and at the same time give her a chance to do the same. Her logical side makes all the decisions but there’s a much stronger side that can completely override it… it’s her emotional side. Do it. but that’s not until later. I was very fortunate to be surrounded by women early on in my life. If nothing else. the things they want. women dream of guys that have cultivated both masculine and feminine sides to them. Ideally. you first have to understand how they operate. I learned what they really wanted in a guy. and how their minds works.  . I learned how to build a long lasting emotional connection.

That’s because there’s emotion involved in it. A place that’s been buried deep down inside that’s probably never been forgotten.. she was probably exposed to all these romantic Hollywood Disney movies. That’s probably the same reason why make up sex is better than regular sex. They enjoy experiencing emotions and they communicate with it. Growing up..Women want you to believe that her logical side is in control but in reality. I’m going to take you through a journey that’s about to open your eyes to the world of women. And now I’ll reveal to you the Equation for Getting Any Woman You Desire! Logical Connection + Emotional Connection + Sexual Connection + Proper place and time = The Perfect Seduction. this is the natural progression of all my successful interactions. This just encouraged her to believe that one day. it’s the other way around. date. and not long after that. Women are emotional creatures. A guy that would sweep her off her feet and appreciate her for who she truly is. dreams. They are filled with emotions. the perfect guy would come along. That’s the same reason I believe that “If you can captivate the mind. and fantasies. And it all began when she was a little girl. It’s a place full of hopes. and keep women… And that’s the fact that. She’s been exposed to movies about love and destiny. the body will too…” Looking back at my experiences. shhh it’s a secret. Every Woman Has a Fantasy Let’s rewind. That’s why most women read romance novels and watch soap operas. the heart will follow. A guy that will come along and push all her buttons making her cherish  . I’m going to give you a sneak peek at a place within women that they don’t want you to know. There’s one thing I want you to know before I give you all the techniques and tactics to meet. Drama is also something that certain women might be addicted to. There are tons of emotions that take place prior to it.

This is at the deep core of every woman. They go after the rich. Most of them just end up being disappointed. A guy that knows what to do and how to do it.the experience even more. Core. Everyone starts out as a hopeless romantic or they develop it later on in life. just like what happens when kids find out that Santa Claus isn’t real. it satisfies her. Anyways. Maybe it’s not exactly what she wanted. but it kept her busy during that period of time. They do it because it works. and go for more superficial things.. Maybe a relationship gone wrong or just a really traumatizing experience. It’s because they’ve been hurt before. These women are what we call the “Hopeless Romantics”. Some women forget about this side of themselves usually because they get really hurt from a certain experience. That causes them to protect themselves by acting “bitchy”. The Hidden Formula For Creating An Emotional Connection Man Opens up + Woman Opens Up + They Connect on Surface. and famous. And Spiritual Level + Appreciation + Comfort with Presence + Commonality and familiarity + Shared Emotions = Long Lasting Emotional Connection  . A guy that will take her on a memorable experience. This is when they just start to settle for anything else out there. But at that moment. Chances are they probably get into relationships hoping that someone can fit that role. hot. Some women actually ended up holding on to that dream. These women constantly wait for their prince charming every single day. She learns and begins to grow. Deep. This causes them to toss away that dream. Then she grows up and begins to realize that not everything’s perfect. Not everything turns out to be the way you expect it to be. They’ve probably had a rough past. This explains why women may act bitchy at times.. or available guys that probably can’t give them what they need.

Open up to her. Open up to everyone you meet. At the same time. and vice versa. Of course. you can almost see it. Once in awhile I like to add “I can’t believe I’m telling you this… I don’t even tell this to the people I’m close with…” This little piece gets the message across. will set up the stage on how it’s going to be. Lead with your personality. You can see her face either light up or the other way around. Wait for another 3-5 seconds before you interject. It solidifies whatever connection that’s present. It makes you look smarter. once again. 2. build an unspoken bond. beliefs. That’s right. 4. just keep quiet and listen. It’s an important skill to be able to describe an emotion so effectively that she begins to feel it. don’t just open up to her. early on in the interaction. It’s always better to relate on the deeper topics. It’s important to emphasize and describe exactly how you feel. Share a deep experience. and the things you value in life. Tell her something that nobody knows about you. You must tell her in a way that she can understand. Just learn how to keep on talking and sharing your experiences. Especially if you know exactly how to tell her how you feel. 3. The emotion in this scenario will. she actually gives you the winning cards that you can use on her. it takes two to tango. don’t talk. it shows her that you’re just a human being. Same thing when women ask you questions. You automatically become special once she’s shared this with you. She’ll feel like she knows you better. It adds depth to your personality. Everything she says is gold! Later on. Once you do a good job at describing the emotion.  . You’re setting the standard here. Shut up. Sharing a deep experience will encourage her to do the same. this will help a lot in building a connection. pause for a bit. Always be leading. and then give your answer. 6. By telling her a secret.Crash Course: 8 Killer Strategies in Order to Build an Emotional Connection 1. As an exercise. You have to know how to relate with her. When she pauses. This makes her feel super special. you just build an unspoken bond between the two of you. That’s why it’s important to become comfortable with sharing your life experiences with other people. Relate with her. Most men focus on logical stuff. So the next time a woman starts to open up to you. Most guys just relate with her on a superficial level. It’s what I call the “Go First Principle”. it will give you a better picture of how you can effectively seduce her. Practice being social. you also want to encourage her to share a secret with you. After all. Everything you do. Don’t interrupt her when she begins to open up. How do you expect her to open up to you if you don’t do the same? One way to help her open up to you is to do it first. Whether you’re telling a story or just explaining your current mood. You’re vulnerable as well. Tell her how you feel. 5.

.7. 8. It comes across as if you’re trying too hard to be similar with her. I’ve noticed that most men are eager to say “Yeah. Are you aware of the value of building an emotional connection now? Do you know that there are two things that you need to add to the equation in order to build the ultimate bond? That brings me to my next topic. Kill the quick me too. even let the subject drift off. Instead of telling her “That’s so cool. in your head. Now. then later on. then you’re ahead of most guys out there. I’ll start to talk about it indirectly. What I’ve found to be very effective is to hold the “Me too” for 10 minutes or so and later in the conversation. if I’m also into dancing. make a conscious effort to actually implement them the next time you’re out. me too” whenever the opportunity arises. I’ll just let her talk. I’ll just casually slip in a story about how I won a dancing contest or something like that. You’ll notice a big difference in your interactions. ask yourself if you were implementing the concepts covered in this section.. TRY THIS OUT Play back the last conversation you had. If you’re good at connecting with women. Another example: Let’s say she tells me that her favorite band is Pearl Jam. For example. Pacing and Complimenting.  . If not. let’s say she talks about how much she just loves to dance. I like Pearl Jam too” I’d rather play my Pearl Jam CD when she rides in my car. More about this on the last section. or let her discover it on top of my CD player.

In order for her to go anywhere with you. here are the facts. INSTANT DATE That’s right. When you’re in a bar or club.. her peer group and the competition. loading up on gas. In the bars and clubs you have to deal with the music. With the different crimes out there. it’s a whole other story. So you’ll have to equip yourself with a unique style. And do you remember what your parents told you about strangers? Don’t talk to strangers. strangers can be bad. Whenever someone talks to her she instantly considers them a stranger.. it’s a date right on the spot. During the day time. it’s a social context. That’s why it’s so important to take her on an. She’s a woman and you’re a man. or shopping for groceries. or even answer your call. she must be comfortable with you. and some serious entertainment skills. show up on a date. a loud booming voice. So when you walk up to women in this setting the first thing they think about is “Is this guy cool enough for me to talk to? There are so many guys. women just need to be extra careful nowadays. Well. she must at least trust you a little bit. Who says you need to wait a couple of days before you take her out? Taking her on an instant date will dramatically increase the chances of her picking up your calls and going out with you later on. Let me share with you a quick story on how I discovered this key element. You can be anyone dangerous and she wouldn’t even find out. So what factors do you have to address when you’re planning to meet women in public places? COMFORT AND TRUST In order for them to call you back. looking for clothes.  . She’s probably by herself. why should I talk to him”. the drinks.faCTor 6: CoMforT & TrusT There are a lot of differences between learning how to meet women in bars and club as opposed to public places.

shortly after getting inside her car. she starts fixing her bra in front of me as I was talking. I hit the five minute mark. only if you promise to keep it to yourself. I’m really thirsty. after a bit of conversation she said. Little did I know. had a slim figure. I complied. I still couldn’t believe it though. It was to start a conversation and stay in for three minutes. Apparently. I slowly stopped her from walking and we ended up chatting for a bit.” Another 20 minutes passed by and she said “Let’s go for a walk. I’ll probably tell you what happened. my legs are tired. My heart skipped a beat for a second. Three minutes passed by. she was the one who took the bull by the horns. She was about three inches taller than me. And the rest I would say. I was doing pretty well. I was completely clueless at that time. “Hey. is history… If we ever meet one of these days. considering it was my first time trying to meet girl at malls. she lived like five minutes away from the mall by the ocean.  . And then all of a sudden. In my mind. To cut the long story short. I looked her up and down. Then she pulls off her killer line “Hey. but now that I look back. I left my cigarettes in the car. I went out with my buddies to go learn how to meet women in malls. Let’s go to Starbucks and get something to drink. In that moment. and a cute semi angelic/naughty face. It was on. Anyways. “Hey.A few years ago. I keep kicking myself in the foot. Are you ready for this? While I was chatting with my buddies. come with me”. She was in a business outfit and had some shopping bags with her. I noticed this tall brunette girl. I would have been very happy if I got to hold a conversation for three minutes. She kept on leading me and I followed. Looking back at that interaction. to get our blood to circulate throughout our bodies…” Then while we were walking. this was the day that changed my life. let’s sit over there”. Fifteen minutes passed by and she said. I remember my goal for that day. I ended up kissing her. we ended up talking about her place.

You’re still a complete stranger. that’s how her mind processes it. let’s go”. • It separates you from all the other guys. I stole my whole script from her. Your primary goal when you start talking to a woman. she puts herself in a position where something bad can happen to her. you’re a STRANGER in her eyes. More time means getting to know her better and vice versa. They say things like “We should hang out sometime” and “Yeah. TRY THIS OUT The next time you’re in a conversation for more than 10 minutes. When you get her on an instant date. With a little bit of tweaking I’ve used something similar and have experienced unbelievable results with it. At least try to. At least. If you play your cards right. you officially are operating on a different level. Me” to “Us vs. take her on an instant date. • Gives you more time to get to know her better. It helps you get through conversational stalls. • Shift from “You vs. You’ll play on a different level.  . You’re not like that. Most guys just go for her number. Let me give you the benefits of going on an instant date • You get to hit two birds with one stone.Of course. I’m going to grab a drink real quick and since you’re fun. • Chance for you to show that she’s safe with you. Helps you reach your goals faster. • Helps you get through conversational barriers. you should give me your number”. It’s really powerful. When she takes the chance and goes to coffee with you. having a shared bond between the two of you. So it’s your opportunity to prove to her that you can be trusted and that she’s safe with you. It keeps you moving forward. is to create an “Our World” vibe. Forget the concept of getting her number for now. That bond is unique for every girl. When you’re at a high point in the interaction (Example: she’s laughing or there’s a good vibe) just say: “I’m really thirsty. Somehow it creates a new environment for the both of you therefore making it easier to talk about other things. regardless of any technique you use. When you first meet her. It gives you more time. It’s like going out on your first date right there and then. • You keep the interaction moving forward. you significantly increases the chances of her calling you back and going out with you. you can tag along. • Decreases the chances of flaking later on. Them”. It creates a shift in the atmosphere. When you go on an instant date you become a potential partner. That means.

so let’s say you’ve done a great job at interacting with her. 0 .Ok. Probably you’ve passed the test with flying colors and you even have a lot of inside jokes and secrets. What’s the next move? You’re supposed to be in tune with the environment because it will help you figure out the best logistical approach you can use to escalate the interaction further.

Always have a pen and paper with you. 4. when I discovered that. Not just give her number or take her number because it limits what you can do. Have a pen and paper with you. Enough said. Have a plan before you go out. With that in mind. Women will judge you based on how clean your place is and how creative you are with it. a guitar. It was the painful truth. 3. 5. The BEST experience in my life involved a girl. Your place will say a lot about you. and me. Remember. Have some pillows and blankets at the back of your car. a blanket.  . just in case. Pick five places in your mall that you will take her on an instant date. How will you take her on an instant date? What will you say to get her number? How do you get her back to your car? How do you get her back to your place? 2. That’s an advanced topic though. Don’t ever sabotage your success by not being prepared. Know your location well. You’ll never know where you’d end up going. And this is true especially for the beginners. Know exactly what to do before you even go out. here are 0 Golden Tips To Help You Master Your Logistics 1. Bring protection. Make sure you have a clean place. You can also string along and take her on multiple instant dates. a beach.faCTor 7: loGIsTICs Do you know where you’re going? A lot of guys don’t go out prepared. Is your place classy or trashy? Does your place convey what you’re passion about? What does it say about you? Do you have clean sheets or dirty ones? Do you have dirty clothes all over the floor? Does your place smell good? 6. A nice little fold up sleeping bag that fits two people in it will do. What if I told you that… She would have gone home with you only if you were prepared?! Won’t that piss you off? Sure did piss me off. you want to exchange contact information with her.

Instead of saying “Can we…” say “Let’s go…” This little trick might make all the difference in your interactions. stop for a second. you can go on with your shopping… and besides. don’t wait for her to ask. Women will sometimes refuse to do what you want them to do. Tell her where you want to go. Don’t give up at the first sign of resistance. It’s your job to lead the interaction. The point is. Be prepared for contingencies. This last piece of the puzzle is probably the most significant topic in this whole book. Get to know her and spend a little more time with her then try again. I’m in a hurry. Stay in there. Don’t ask just lead.7. It’s what separates the guys that are successful with women. If you’re dropping her off at her house. Next time you feel like walking a way. 8. always be prepared for contingencies. it all boils down to being prepared. This will all make sense to you sooner or later in your journey. it might only take three minutes… who knows.  . I need to do my shopping” say “That’s cool. After we get some ice cream for five minutes. Don’t be fazed by it and don’t walk away. then give it a shot! 9. Assume first. When you say “Let’s go” start to walk in the direction you want to go. Almost as if she’s expected to follow you. 10. Again. stay an extra minute or two. you might say something to turn me off and I’d be running for my life” or something to that effect. Always assume that she’s up for it. Always be leading. with the guys that aren’t. When she says “Uhmmm. Talk a little more. It’s better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission.

 . the higher the chance of you getting what you want out of it. This stuff is very powerful. Sex is the biggest investment. hanging out. Once you’re passed that level. Time Investment. You’ll start to realize that you can actually just relax and appreciate her company. Physical Investment. It makes things so much easier for the both of you. Social Investment. sex opens up all the lines of communication. Have you met her friends? Do they like and approve of you? Has she met your friends? Do you go out to social activities often? Do you have any mutual friends? They key to getting her to invest in you more. In my experience. I don’t advocate playing with women’s feelings. etc. The best way to persuade a woman to do something is to make her want to do it. is to be a part of her life.faCTor 8: InvesTMenT Do you know how to make someone want something? How do you make someone value something? Simple. Do you remember the last time you worked hard for something? How did it feel in the end? How satisfied were you when you accomplished it? This is the same emotion that women feel if they’ve worked hard for you. dreams. Emotional Investment. She gets more and more invested in you every time she opens up. The more they invest in you. future and share your view in life as well. make them work for it. and get her to be part of yours too. This goes back to building a solid emotional connection. it becomes a lot easier. hopes. so use this stuff carefully. Here’s a list of the different types of investment a woman makes and how to get the most out of each and every one.) the more she gets invested in you. Another way to get her invested in you is to be physical with her. Talk about her passions. values. How much time does she spend with you? Do you see each other often? Do you spend some time talking with her on the phone? Does she spend a lot of time winning you over because you have standards? The more time a woman spends with you (Talking on the phone. It’s smooth sailing from there. Use it wisely.

I’m not even qualified to talk to her. And most of the time. She’ll ignore me. and think I’m weird. laugh at me. it’s what makes or breaks you. I felt like I wasn’t worthy to talk to them. she’s way out of my league. lines. I’ll be sharing with you the proper mindset that you should have before you go out there. Yes you would get results instantly! But that’s not the real challenge. that’s your own self. My whole view changed and I think that it had to do with the way I viewed things. Mental barriers are very strong and. You’re your own worst enemy. I have nothing special about me. Yes. Before the workshop. regardless of where I am. Everyone else will see that I am talking to her and they will think that I’m a loser. The hardest part is going against everything that is preventing you from achieving success. She’s not even going to give me the time of day. Here’s what he told me: “Right now. Come on. Here are the things that you should not think about: “Wow she’s so hot. and all the tactics to meet women is easy. After the weekend. I don’t want to talk to her. I enjoy talking to people. Since then I’ve been more relaxed and comfortable meeting women. And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndseT for MeeTInG WoMen I just got off the phone with a student I had last weekend. something clicked inside of me. I don’t get as nervous as I used to be.” Here’s the truth… Practicing techniques. And besides I’d have to try hard to entertain her  . I used to think that women wouldn’t want to talk to me. You heard me right. in my experience. rAcking up dAteS.Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS.

you just have a couple of minutes to convince them to even hear you out. I live my life for me…” Where To MeeT WoMen There are dozens of places during the day time to meet women. The best part about it is that women are everywhere. I just can’t be myself and get her to like me. Women are fortunate that I give them the chance to get to know me. It’s a like a foreign concept for them. I am a man of purpose. I live life to the fullest without apologizing for anything I do. They’re completely clueless. The first step to being successful with women is to look at things in a positive way. I make them happy.and be really slick and smooth. I don’t seek approval from anyone. The one ticket that will probably get you set for life. Looking at things in a positive perspective will get you far. I take pride in being me. It’s impossible…” I’ve heard that objection more times than I can count. So how does this apply to approaching women? Here’s how you should think… “I am a man of purpose. where do I want to meet women?  . you can take me or leave me. Your job is to give the ticket away to anyone… But here’s the catch. then she doesn’t know what she’s missing. shopping for clothes. I seriously doubt it. I walk through this world as if I own it. Here’s more. imagine that you possess a winning combination to a lottery ticket. I’m everything and more that a woman can ever ask for. You can see them crossing the street. Every time I talk to women. Here’s how you should think and feel about meeting women… Ok. or playing in the sand. My own values and passions define me. that person doesn’t know what a lottery ticket is. People’s reactions toward me don’t define me. Any woman will be fortunate to get to know me. If she rejects me. I am who I am. Now you’ve got to ask yourself. You will never run out of women to approach. either way I’ll still be happy. I am doing them a favor.

General places to meet women are malls. then that’s a different story. So the key is to be aware of the social energy in the place that you’re in. If you want smart girls then hit up the library. Violating energy levels puts social pressure on the woman you’re talking too.) and observe how people communicate. Now. let’s talk a bit about specialization… If you want girls that are into health and fitness then go to the nearest gym. And she might not be used to handling it. parks. supermarket. beaches. etc. then join a yoga class. be In Tune WITh The enerGy level In order to be successful in approaching in various public places. How loud do they speak? Do they command respect in an interaction or not? When you discover this. college campuses. and pretty much everywhere. Did you know that the ratio of women to men in yoga classes is like 15:1? Well. coffee shops. take advantage of that. When you’re approaching a woman in a library. streets. TRY THIS OUT Go to five places this week (coffee shops.In order to figure that out. bookstores. you need to figure out what type of women you want to meet. and match it.  . imitate them or slightly be more animated/energized then they are. So to avoid unnecessary complications. If you want spiritual girls. just be in tune with the social energy level of the location. you must be aware and in tune with its energy level. If you’re approaching a woman on the street then you can get away with speaking a little bit louder.

If she’s walking to her car. Tension begins to fill up my body. You can tell jokes. I found the perfect opener for daytime approaches.Crash Course In sTarTInG ConversaTIon WITh WoMen Let me make something clear… There are dozens of ways to initiate a conversation with women. So after I get her attention. If she’s sitting down I make sure to sit down as well. I run after her and tell her to stop. If there’s no chair beside her. and so forth…. my heart pumps faster. I want to meet her and I will meet her. say something situational. If you pull this off correctly. If you don’t command her full attention then she won’t process your verbal communication effectively. But here’s the question. What’s the fastest and most efficient way of initiating conversation with women? I was looking for something that cut right through the bullshit. I act like she dropped something on the ground. I needed something that I could use anytime. The first thing I do is get her full and undivided attention. make myself comfortable. and then deliver my conversational opener. There are no possible excuses in my mind. Let me give you some examples. Confidence begins to radiate through every part of my body. I would slowly walk in her pathway so she would be forced to come to a complete stop. Here’s how it works. It’s basic law of physics: An object in motion will stay in motion unless an outside force causes it to stop. Whenever I see a girl I’m attracted to. I suddenly feel the ball of energy inside of me. ask their opinion. and I slowly make my way towards her. I say something like:  . If she’s walking the opposite direction. she will stop. no matter where I was. After a little bit of tweaking. This is a very important step in my overall structure and let me tell you why. They all work… I’ve tried them all. I make sure to grab one and place it right next to her.

honest.  . Women love guys that know what’s going on without a woman having to tell him. Now let me break down the opener and explain to you why and how it works. Not because you want her to feel obliged to be nice to you. It conveys that you’re intuitive and socially intelligent by nature. Tell her you like her because you want her to know. By addressing potential objections you demonstrate social awareness. Tell me about yourself” She smiles. Sets up the proper foundation for the interaction right from the beginning. I found that being upfront. It makes her more comfortable.“Hey… (pause) I begin to smile as my eyes are locked on her eyes. and sincere is the way women like to be approached (CAVEAT: If you do it right). Every time you say something that she agrees with. I use this to overcome any objection that might pop up into her head. Gives her a chance to agree with you. you instantly demonstrate that you’re honest and sincere. only build your credibility in her eyes. It’s like an unspoken bond. Saying things that she can affirm as true. and I relax from that point forward I get to know her more for who she is. When you use this approach. I continue with “I’m a complete stranger and I know this is really random but… I was just passing by… and I saw you standing there… I just wanted to tell you that you are… Really… Really… Beautiful. The only reason why other men can’t pull this off is because they’re not coming from a place of power. she gives you a silent nod. It shows her that you’re sensitive to her needs and that you understand her concerns. When I say things like “I know this is totally random…I’m a complete stranger” it actually serves several purposes. breaKInG doWn The opener Step : Pace her ongoing reality Pacing is an essential skill that you should master. Step : Tell Her the Reason Why You Are Attracted to Her Honesty is the best policy. we shake hands.

• Gets her to subconsciously accept you as a potential partner. When combined with the proper non-verbal communication and delivery. I’m (insert your name here)”. It makes it official that you two are in a social interaction. It also… • Gets her committed to the interaction. • Gives you a chance to introduce yourself. everything you say begins to be categorized in “The Potential Partner” context. It skips through most of the games and takes you were you want to be… and that’s building an emotional connection. Since you created so much attraction. That’s because she’s processing the whole interaction differently. you can say “I like that. This is done by saying stuff like “Tell me about yourself?” “I just wanted to know if there’s more to you than meets the eye. As soon as she starts answering your question. everything you say will be in the “I’m getting to know you before we date” context. Even boring rapport questions will work after the opener. Gets right to the point. Step : Give Her a Chance to Talk About Herself You want to get her involved in the interaction as soon as possible. After the opener.You tell people what you think about them. this approach can be very deadly. This is a very powerful frame from which to come. Shaking her hand is very important. she slowly becomes committed to the interaction. Creates the feeling of attraction. After she says anything that might impress you. This approach is so powerful that it creates attraction within seconds. what’s your story?” “Who are you?” “Where are you from?” Letting her talk about herself gives her the chance to impress you.  .

Talk Girl: Talks and walks away Guy: (smiles) Oh come on now. She smiles. I set up an expectation for her. But if I’m making you uncomfortable in anyway. I also tell her to walk away which is reverse psychology and then I act like it never happened by asking her a question. then just walk away. Guy: Awesome. 0 . I also get to express my personality and my positive traits. Go on now. I have a boyfriend. She becomes extremely flattered. First Scenario: She loves it. and of course she wants to be perceived as classy so she will stay for a bit. Indifference by far is the most powerful way to overcome this objection. tries to walk away. She wants to get to know you. Talk. what do you do for fun? * As you can see. you’re way too classy to be walking away when someone is talking to you. depending on how well you execute your opener. Runaway girl (I sing playfully) Anyways. I absolutely love the third scenario because it’s challenging for me. So what do you like to do for fun? *I’m not even acknowledging her objection. She Walks Away While You’re Talking To Her Guy: Talk. Third Scenario: She gives you an objection. She’s not really enthusiastic about it. which re-engages her back in the conversation. Here are some examples of how you can handle certain situations.dealInG WITh ConTInGenCIes One of three things will happen. Runaway girl. She’s just being polite and sticks around for a bit to see what you have to say. Second Scenario: She kind of likes it. I tell her she’s way too classy to walk away. or doesn’t give you the time of day. The Boyfriend Objection Guy: Opener Girl: I’m sorry.

doesn’t look at you. I know this is not who you really are. This is just a protection shield. then it will not work for you. So let’s give this a shot one more time. So what do you do for fun? * See how I called her out on how she was behaving? It demonstrates that I am a man who demands respect in an interaction. Come on. Girl: I’m Michelle. You will get rejected by women left and right. I know you’re a cool person deep down inside. Grungey10: I understand. When you experience that situation. Now I want to share with you the Gift Shift theory. I’m just going to walk away (I act as if I’m about to leave). I was just having a bad day. GIfT shIfT Theory In order for this approach to work. Sorry I was being rude. or something to that effect. people are real. Have you ever talked to someone before and felt like they just wanted something from you? Was it a gut feeling? How often were you right? I bet you were pretty accurate at it. There are a lot of creepy guys out there that try to get something from you all the time. This stuff is very powerful. Guy: No worries. I don’t know where you’re from but where I’m from.  . I’m Oliver. In order for this approach to work you need to switch the way you see things. I’m not one of those guys so don’t treat me like one of them.She’s Rude Or Doesn’t Acknowledge Your Presence Guy: Talk. If you approach with the “I just want to get into your pants” mentality. I’m almost sure. Talk Girl: Says something rude like “Why are you talking to me”. If you’re not going to be real. Talk. you must come across from a place of power and positivism. I want you to remember this section and read it over and over again. Guy: Why are you acting like this? Why can’t you just be yourself. Then you will begin to wonder what you’re doing wrong. look around you. The way you think and feel affects the way you interact with people.

Knowing this information how does this change the way you’ll view your future interactions? Remember. How would you act if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that if only women knew you. away from the world they are in right now. That means you have to barrel through her persona. I get results because I have something positive to offer. I’ve worked on myself to the point where I just am naturally attractive and interesting to women. Yes. Am I conveying who I am in an interesting way? Is she getting to know me or am I just talking out of my ass? TRY THIS OUT Next time you go out to meet women. Your job is to give them an unforgettable experience. You have the upper hand and not the other way around.  . Take five minutes and imagine that you’re someone she’s been waiting for all her life. You are a gift. There’s a catch though.It’s simple. Whenever I talk to people. it sounds sappy but it’s amazingly effective. She will only find out that it’s you after she’s gotten to know you. You can do it too. Your job is to provide women with positive emotions. She’s read about you in books. You’re the guy she talks about with her best friends. they would fall for you? Ask yourself that question over and over again. Your job is to take them on an emotional journey with you. She’s seen you in movies. I feel happy knowing that I’m about to make this person’s day. She’s been dreaming about you. you are a gift. I want you to do this. you are. you’re giving that gift to her. I know. I know. I feel happy.

The pInG ponG MeTaphor
In my opinion, conversations with women are very similar to playing ping pong or table tennis. The ball just keeps going back and forth across the table. One person hits the ball then the other person hits it back. It’s an ongoing cycle. That’s how conversations should be. Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Someone usually carries the conversational burden more than the other person does. Eventually the conversational ratio should be as close to 50/50, girl talks as much as guy does, but it takes skill to be able to do that. You need to be interesting and interested. I’ll say it two more times because it’s very important. You need to be interesting and interested. You need to be interesting and interested. Making sense so far? Were you ever in a conversation with someone who talked way too much? It’s like you were watching television because you couldn’t contribute to the conversation at all. On the flipside, were you ever in a conversation with someone who just kept asking question after question without really contributing anything at all? Well you need the balance of both. You need to lead the interaction and at the same time, get women to follow your lead. You need to help them invest in the interaction. Not everyone’s socially savvy. Sometimes, you need to make it easy for them to contribute to the interaction. This book help you cultivate the skills you need to be both interesting and interested. 

Go fIrsT prInCIple
“You must become the change you wish to see”- Gandhi In other words, if you think change is needed in a situation, think about changing yourself first before changing everything around you. I want you to look back on all the conversations you had with women that you liked. Here are some questions for you. Were you… Both comfortable, relaxed and at ease? Exchanging fun stories from your lives? Sharing secrets and vulnerabilities with each other? Speaking formally or like friends do? Able to build familiarity and substance in the interaction? Here’s my main point. If you want her to do something, you should do it first. If you want her to start opening up to you, you must open up to her first. It’s your job as a man to lead the interaction. You should lead and expect her to follow. TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation instead of asking a question, make a statement. Instead of saying “Where are you from?” tell them a story about where you’re from. Instead of saying “How are you” say “I’m feeling so happy today, you have no idea why”. See how people respond to you. 

poWer TalK
What you say and how you say it is critical when you’re interacting with someone. A couple of years ago, I remember watching a comedy show. This guy walked on the stage and started making jokes. There was forced laughter here and there but that’s about it. I ended up just looking at my watch impatiently thinking to myself “What time is this show going to end?!” Couple of months later, I watched another comedy show. A couple of minutes into the show, my stomach started to hurt from laughing, tears started falling from my eyes, he got me. I don’t remember laughing so hard in my entire life. The jokes weren’t extremely funny, it was his personality. This is true for everyone out there. Whether you’re a comedian, a salesman, a student, or a friend, people will respond to you based on how you present yourself. Here are some tips to empower yourself. • Avoid hesitation when you talk. Be firm with what you want. For example, instead of saying “Uhm, I was thinking if, uhm, we could go out sometime” say something like “Hey, I’m going shopping this Thursday, It’s going to be a blast, you should tag along”. Don’t flinch. Don’t be nervous. Say it like you would if you’re talking to your 11 year old cousin or something. • Power of ambiguity. Keeping a woman on her toes keeps things challenging in an interaction. Every other guy jumps at the opportunity to hang out with her again. Instead of giving all your cards away try using words like “maybe. We’ll see, I’ll get back to you on that one”. An example would be “Hey, you seem fun, if we’re both available this weekend, then maybe we’ll hang out”. • Avoid over politeness. Being overly polite communicates subordinate status. When you’re communicating with women, you shouldn’t treat them as if they’re a goddess from Venus. If you treat them like royalty, they will act like royalty. Treat them like you would treat your buddy. Don’t be overly polite. 

When I do. Evolution has hardwired into us the tendency to bond with those who are familiar and wary of those who are unfamiliar. I don’t need to know her whole life story. to make it really simple. I relate to her on the surface then I go a little deep and find out the things that make her tick. I want to make a mega solid impression so that she won’t stop rambling about me with her best friend the moment our conversation ends. I want to know what makes her tick. I just want to touch base and build both familiarity and substance with her.” . my next goal is to get to know her on multiple levels. Let me go over my structure on connection building. I want her to remember me when she wakes up the next day. I relate to it and appreciate her for it. I do it multiple times. After I’ve captivated a woman with my presence. Well. you MusT CreaTe a ConneCTIon “It all started with our ancestors. it’s a combination of two things CAPTIVATE & CONNECT Captivate her with your personality by building a connection. What is my goal? I want to convey who I am as a person. What was familiar was generally safe and approachable. I genuinely appreciate her and I am very successful at it because I believe that all women have something beautiful inside of them. I make her feel special for the person that she is. I want to find out what makes her special. So I start out by getting to know her on the surface level. Then we discuss each other’s passions in life and connect on a deeper level.WhaT To do afTer InITIaTInG The ConversaTIon A lot of guys don’t know what to do after they’ve initiated the conversation. My goal is to build familiarity and substance all throughout the interaction. What was unfamiliar was more often dangerous and threatening.Psychology 101  . Then I try to build familiarity by connecting on a lot of different topics. I want mutual appreciation. over and over again.

Building an emotional connection is the heart of daytime pick-up. This is what separates you from every other guy that’s tried to meet her. There’s a time to be cocky and funny and avoid a question that’s thrown your way but should you keep on avoiding it? No. So let’s break down what usually happens  . then you create an emotional connection. No matter what system you use. There’s a time when you should answer it. you can build a connection with anyone you meet. It’s where the magic happens. That’s the secret to a successful daytime interaction. You need to be in that place where both your guards are down and you can just connect on all levels. your main goal is to get to the point in the interaction where you both can just be yourselves. and let her open herself up to you as well. The problem is most people don’t know how to convey who they are. Imagine how you would feel in this kind of scenario: A girl has been talking to a cool guy for quite awhile. He’s cool and interesting. she’s trying to figure out who you are as a person. She’s hooked She becomes so interested that she starts to ask you questions to find out who you are. When she asks you a question. It’s my favorite part of the interaction. She’s trying to figure out if you have more going for you than your initial impression. She wants to find out if you’re real and if you have any depth to you. If you allow this process to happen.I don’t care what anyone else out there thinks but if you can open your mouth and talk. Here’s a system you can use to build an emotional connection: Step 1: Build Familiarity Step 2: Build Substance Step 3: Appreciate Her as a person Step 4: Incorporate A Romantic Spin hoW To ansWer lIGhT rapporT QuesTIons A lot of people I’ve met still don’t know how to convey their personality in their day to day interactions with people.

---------. I’ve read ton of stories as a kid (insert something cocky or avoid the question asked) Conclusion: She wanted to get to know you better. She may have been attracted to you at first but it won’t last for a very long time. She ends up giving up and going home knowing nothing about you. Everything is fast paced back in LA. Real and long lasting attraction comes from building commonalities. She was ready to build an emotional connection but you threw the opportunity away. being vulnerable with each other.Scenario 1: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: whoa! We’re getting a little ahead of ourselves here. give it a few days and that attraction will probably fade away. appreciating and relating with life experiences. Why? It’s because you’ve only created short term attraction. Ideal Scenario: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: So where you from? Guy: Oh… You wouldn’t want to know… It’s extremely cold there… Girl: Where? Guy: I live in the North Pole… It’s so fun swimming with the penguins everyday… It makes me so happy Girl: Ugh… shut up!!! No really where you from? Guy: I actually moved here from LA two months ago. we’ll get to that in a minute… anyway…. Things are so different back where I’m from. ( I talk about LA for a  .45 minutes later -----------Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: Oh. When she gets home. and building a strong emotional connection.

Like the other day. Now. how you ever met someone cool that could just talk about anything under the sun?  . • It sets the stage for building an emotional connection.while then compare it to Tucson) Things are very simple out here.) What do you do? What are you really passionate about? What makes you tick? How did it start out? What happened then? What’s so special about what you do and how does it make you feel? Have you ever met someone that just talked about the same thing over and over again? It gets very boring after awhile. • She knows right off the bat that you’re a good communicator. It actually gives me time to think about everything going on in life and see the bigger picture. ask yourself What makes my place different from where I am right now? What’s so unique about my place? What are the fun things to do there? What do I love most about my place? How does it make me feel? What would you recommend for her to do in your city? 2. So remember: Never ever give boring answers to simple questions such as Where are you from? What do you do? What’s going on? Tips on how to do that 1. You actually demonstrate a lot of personality by being comfortable sharing your thoughts with her • You lead the conversation. It makes her comfortable and easier to open herself up to you. I was on my way to a ranch and it was really interesting. • It gives her a window of opportunity to see how you view the world and the type of person you are.) Where are you from? When you get this question. You’re not answering her question in a boring way. We were driving through empty green fields and… (insert semi deep and meaningful story here) Conclusion: • You stand out from all the other guys because you differentiate yourself from them.

7. If you had a story about your pet hamster. 6. 2. let me teach you a helpful exercise here. You need to connect on multiple topics. she’d have one too. 10. Give me 10 things that come to your mind with each word above. Done? Here’s are the things that came to me when I heard the word elephant: 1. do the exercise. this is what familiarity is all about. Don’t tell me you don’t have any experience with at least one of the topics I listed above. If you had a story about guns. she’d have one too. Once you’ve mastered this. Cartoons Movies Big Zoo Water That’s all Alright. Now. 11. 9. Animals Grey Tusk Ivory Africa Jungle Lion King 8. you’ll never run out of things to say ever again. 3. Here’s the beauty of it. then you’ll never run out of things to say again! 0 . If you did the exercise.Like if you had a story about your grandfather. Ok. it’s included here for a reason. you have around 130 words. Come on. 12. Now that’s 130 things you could potentially talk about. elephant is just one word. 4. Alright. It’s called the association game. 13. 5. Think some more. let’s go one step further. she’d have one about her spider. A sentence has how many words? Do you see where I’m going here? If you master the art of conversational vibes. give me 10 things that you can associate with the world elephant? Take your time. what’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word elephant? Actually.

TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation with a woman. are gold. think back to the previous topic.  . just pick out one word and riff on it for a minute or two. Building substance takes the interaction to a whole other level. Building substance solidifies the connection between you. once you’ve barreled through their persona. Let’s get you acquainted with building substance. Most of the things women tell you. Take advantage of it. This tool is very powerful. You see. learning how to build familiarity is an essential skill to have. and leadInG WITh your passIons You now know how to build familiarity.Fitness -Animals buIldInG subsTanCe: aCTIve lIsTenInG. Next time there’s an awkward pause in the conversation. and riff on it.Hobbies . Here are some topics you can explore to build familiarity: -Goals and aspirations -Passions -Ideal vacation -Relationships -Friends -Youth and childhood -Love -Art and Photography -Traveling -Favorite films and music -Concerts and theatres -Family . fIndInG her Core value. Do this until your jaw is numb from speaking too much. Another skill you should focus on is active listening. It also makes you stand out since it’s something that only close friends do. Women will feel like they have a lot of things in common with you. pick a word out. Use it.

in your own words. feed it back to her. You should rephrase what she just told you and.Expresses understanding of her feelings A couple of basic pointers for active listening: • Rephrase and feedback. Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to. For example a guy asks: “Who’s your favorite artist? Oh Mariah Carey.  . You need to find out what is the underlying motivator that drives her to do the things she loves to do. Doing this affirms your understanding and builds dialogue. and how it makes her feel. • Ask questions. Finding Her Core Value And Building A Quick Connection A lot of guys try to connect with women on the surface area. we’re so similar”.Active listening is a habit. Don’t always be eager to fill in the silence when there’s an awkward pause. But what if you guys don’t like the same artist? Does that mean both of you have nothing in common? No. That’s great if you guys like the same artist. Always ask her what she means. Here are the benefits of active listening: . Doing this will strengthen your understanding of the situation • Summarize what she tells you. your job is to find out what makes her tick. in your own words. you should be able to repeat back.Ensures understanding of the subject matter. . to whoever you’re talking to what they have said to you. It will improve your conversation skills tenfold. Don’t answer right away. Once you find these underlying motivators. • Shut up and listen to her. You see. You have something in common with her. and that’s her core value. Once again this shows her that you understand her and that you’re paying attention to her. . you should relate to them. As an active listener.Demonstrates interest in her as a person. pause for three seconds before answering something. as well as the foundation of effective communication. Just learn how to listen to her completely without butting in. me too.

This encourages her to do it more often. they’ll be conditioned to do things that would lead to them being rewarded. Was there ever a time you got burned by something? Maybe you touched a hot stove or candle. You should punish her for disrespecting you. You learned that you shouldn’t touch it again. This applies to women and dating as well. You should take time to think about what behaviors you will reward And which ones you’ll punish. opening up to you.Relate to those underlying motivators. they get punished. For example: You should reward her for giving you a compliment. not complying with your request. you need to reward her for opening up to you. But before I explain it. So how do we use this to our advantage? It’s actually very simple. whenever they do something wrong. Women will test you. It’s more powerful than relating to her on the surface level.  . and you probably learned something afterward. let me give you an example of social learning theory and conditioning at work. Women gravitate toward positive emotions and move away from the negative ones. Another example would be a parent disciplining their kids. Whatever it was. If you don’t set your standards early on they will step all over you. Later on. you just instinctively jerked your hand back. On the other hand. Whenever they do something right they get rewarded. I want you to rewind and remember your childhood. to see where your boundaries are. and laughing at your jokes. Social Learning Theory And The Power Of Conditioning Social learning theory states that we learn social behavior by observing and imitating others and by being rewarded or punished. Yes. They will test you to see how you will respond. early in the interaction. After you relate with her you should appreciate her for who she is. and being rude to you.

 . Before I do let me share this quote with you. Show me and I will remember.leadInG WITh your passIons A lot of the so-called “pick-up artist” I’ve met are curious as to how I can captivate a woman by just being myself. “Tell me and I may remember. If ever they do. Here’s my dirty little secret… I talk about the things I’m passionate about. comfort. Having passion is very attractive to women. Leading with your passion separates you from every other guy that’s tried to hit on her.” Remember that you always have to involve her in the interaction. The word regression means moving backwards. and safety. I suck her into my world. they don’t convey it in a way that’s interesting to women. What is it you would do for free if you never had to make money again? Emotional Connection Accelerator There are a lot of different ways to accelerate the process of building an emotional connection and my favorite one is regression. It also builds trust. Involve me and I will carry them forever. Here’s a question to help you figure out what you’re really passionate about in life. I won’t get into detail on this topic but I’d like to share with you a very effective technique to build an emotional connection. Here’s how you do it. Not a lot of guys talk about the things that make them tick. Being passionate about your passions (as funny as it sounds) is even more attractive to women. It’s one of the most powerful tools in building an emotional connection. Here’s what I call the life story tactic. I tell her the things I love to do and why I love to them.

Your life right now is separated into beginning. This technique is very powerful and it solidifies the emotional connection instantly. If a girl says “I have to go” and you say “nice. right now. The more emotions the better. Trust me on this one. She should know what your standards are. She should know the things you love and your pet peeves as well. middle. Tools you can use later down the road when you’ve mastered the basics. • Identity Interleaving. The end includes your present experience and your future plans. This can take somewhere between ten minutes to sometimes even the whole day. You can do this directly or through storytelling. adventurous. • Conversational Plowing. she will not leave. The beginning includes your childhood and middle school experience. a Couple of effeCTIve ConversaTIonal Tools Here are several topics I’ll discuss briefly. end. How do you turn this into a system? Alright. she’s being rude. you can start by asking her about her childhood or talking about yours. She should have an idea of who you are and what you’re about early in the interaction. The middle includes your high school and college experience. I want you to come up with at least two to three stories for each phase of you life. As long as you keep talking she will stand there in front of you. She should know your rules on dating and relationships. The key is to exchange stories and go from childhood to future plans. or sad. This is an advanced technique I use to quickly convey the things I’m passionate about thirty seconds into the conversation. You should always move the conversation forward. Mix it up. It can be fun. meeting you” then she will walk away. If she walks away. and you can call her on it. mischievous.  . On the other hand if she says “I have to go” and you ignore the thread and talk about something else. Now. • Standard Interleaving. and future.

or just used to talking people’s ears off. then go a little deep. Next. Say this after a high point in the interaction. Cold reading helps captivate her and builds familiarity instantly. protector of the ones you love. then go deeper. story tellers. romantic. Whatever objections she may have make sure to use them first. eye contact. Telling a story builds comfort and trust because you’re opening up to somebody you don’t know. then this time go a little deeper than you were before. A good resource for cold read is the Forer’s effect. ambitious. People usually don’t just go up to people and start telling stories. of course. • Preempting objections. • Romantic spin. Well if you’re one of them then you’re on your way to becoming successful. talking about fate and destiny. and your non verbal communication to see if you’re communicating all the right things like being comfortable in your own skin. This helps intensify the emotional connection that you’ve built. They listen to what you say and how you say it. you need to check your body language. This always steers the interaction toward the right path. demands respect. trustworthy. etc). confident. etc. This is a brilliant way to ease into deeper topics. Tell her that you’re sad you met with no mutual friends to introduce you to each other. adventurous. When you tell a story you communicate on both levels.g. On Storytelling Storytelling is very powerful if done right. Why? It’s because learning how to express yourself is the first step in getting good at meeting women. Some examples would be taking her on an instant date. humorous. Builds comfort and trust. and that’s why you can’t hang out anymore.• Cold reading. and. especially at times when the woman I’m talking to is hard to crack or if I’m in a hurry and I want to build a quick connection. Always include a romantic spin after building an emotional connection. Constantly ask yourself this: What am I trying to communicate? Am I getting my message across? You want to demonstrate good qualities about yourself with the stories you tell people (e. kissing her. Well some do and they’re either super social. It’s a tool I use once in awhile. vocal tonality and projection.  . • Fractionating. go light again. then make her laugh a little bit. Try searching that on Google or something. Here’s an example of fractionating: Talk about something light.

character development. and emotional projection. you can give a guy who’s good at telling stories a very boring and ridiculously horrible story line and he can turn it in to something very interesting. engaging the senses. Every time you’re telling a story I want you to ask yourself these questions • Am I passionate about what I’m talking about? • Am I enthusiastic? • Am I paying attention to everyone that’s listening? • Am I relaxed and comfortable? • Is my voice loud enough? • Am I talking slow and clear? • Am I projecting the emotion I need to project through my voice? (If you’re telling a scary story sound scared. Probably the most important part of telling a story is your vocal projection and your delivery. sequencing of events. What’s the difference between these two guys? The way they present it and he way they deliver. Let’s take for example a comedian and an actor.So let’s get to the important part How do you make a good story? Here are some terms that are important in storytelling and I’ll discuss only a couple of them Opening line. the presentation can still bomb. It can still suck. Give him the best script created by the best minds in the world and when performance day comes. if it’s suspense then use a lot of pausing) • Am I pausing at the right times? • Am I using a wide range of facial expressions?  . On the other hand.

4. who you were with. Grungey10: Lisa.. Bookstore girl: Oliver.)* Then ask her* Does that ever happen to you? (throwing the ball back at her) You want to talk about emotions because you want to communicate on her level. 3. “then out of the blue”. 5. (pause) 2. and “surprisingly”. You want her to be able to relate to you. 1. here’s a ConversaTIon I had In The pasT Grungey10: Hey.So here’s a quick formula for a spontaneous story.. Now stop laughing at my baby name. what you could see. etc. smell. feel.) How did it make you feel? What lessons did you learn? 6. Did your parents ever tell you about embarrassing stories when you were kid? Bookstore girl: Yeah. hear. Men usually communicate with logic while women value emotions more.) Describe what you were doing at that time. It’s something they can relate too. as much as possible when you’re telling a story. a light bulb just popped up in my head.) Then slowly insert stuff like “and then I realized”. “all of a sudden”. “out of nowhere”.) OMG. Nice meeting you. I’m Oliver. Bookstore girl: (laughs)  . interesting name. I’m Lisa. I get that every time there’s a family get together. You want to engage all her senses. Amanda..) The climax of your story. Grungey10: Exactly. Well can you believe that my name was supposed to be Amanda? Bookstore girl: Amanda?! (laughs) Grungey10: Yes. the funniest/craziest/most embarrassing/ wildest thing just happened to me yesterday/today/couple minutes ago. it gets bruised easily. Speaking of names.

Say hello to mommy. she went to the doctor and she had this machine.. the one that detects the gender. Hello. Not so much my parents but my grandfather and I had a really strong bond when I was growing up... pink crib. all right. we’re getting there. welcome to the family!” Bookstore girl: (Eyes get wide) Really?! That’s the funniest thing I’ve ever heard. and even a pink welcome banner hanging from the wall saying “Princess Amanda... Every time a friend comes over to the house. uhm. it’s on the tip of my tongue..” Then she slowly unfolds the towel and then all of a sudden. Badoink!!! A moving “thing” down there?! She was devastated! I never heard the end of it. The moment of truth. I don’t think you understand. Bookstore girl: (Continues giggling) <Now I’m going to throw the ball back at her so she can invest more in the interaction> So what were you like as a kid? Was there anything your parents gave you a hard time about? Bookstore girl: Hmmmm. You know what I’m talking about right? Bookstore girl: You mean a sonogram? Grungey10: There you go! Good girl (briefly touches her shoulder)... Bookstore girl: (laughs hysterically) Grungey10: No. I was born and the doctor hands me over to my mom wrapped in a white towel. the doctor’s like “Ma’am. Bookstore girl: OMG (laughs) Grungey10: I know! Isn’t it funny? So what actually ended up happening was... I remember him teasing me a lot about being a tomboy back in middle school. it’s my beautiful little princess Amanda.. your first born will be a girl”. Anyways. which I do not find very funny. after the sonogram. just for me. Grungey10: My mom got so excited that she started decorating one whole room in the house. Look at you.Grungey10: Anyways. this is not a laughing matter.  ...... So the room was all pink! It had pink stuff toys. we don’t see anything moving down there. Get this. when my mom was 6 months pregnant... Hello. thank you very much.. So here it comes. What happened next? Grungey10: All right. my mom always whips out the album with me dressed in a pink room all dressed in pink. apparently... Hello. My mom holds me with tears in her eyes saying “Wow. she actually decked the whole room out with a “My little princess” theme in mind.

That was back then.> Bookstore girl: (smiles as she recalls) Back then I was a boy hater. < I have a choice. I could start building more familiarity by talking about my sisters. where would you live? Bookstore girl: I’d live in Africa.Grungey10: (nods head but keeps quiet) <It’s very powerful to pause and not be eager to fill in the silence in a conversation. I love going to a new place and learn everything about the culture there. Grungey10: Why would you live in Africa? Is it because you want to help out? Or do you just want to explore the place? Bookstore girl: I guess a little bit of both. As an exercise. I might not even be safe here (smiles). I’ve changed a lot since then. You’ll notice that women have a lot more to say when they don’t get interrupted. you see improvements in their lives. I’ve always wanted to make a difference in the world. how does it make you feel? 0 . What do you accomplish when you’ve made a difference in the world? Let’s say you’re in Africa and you get to educate the kids there. If you have sisters then you’d know what I’m talking about. <I’m going to build more substance now> Grungey10: I find it really interesting that you love helping people out. before responding to her. It’s fulfilling for me. < She gave me multiple topics to choose from. for a year.> Grungey10: Boy hater? I better watch out for you now. I can also build more substance by exploring what made her change but I chose to explore the subject of traveling.> buIldInG faMIlIarITy & subsTanCe Grungey10: If you could live in any city in the world. Bookstore girl: Oh shut it (hits me in the arm). You see. try pausing for three seconds after she finishes her sentence. and at the end of the day. I was also a very competitive kid. I can pick any topic and start rolling with it. I went through that whole phase. At the same time.

They usually just live their lives with one thing in mind. I just relax on my bed. I better leave before I start to fall in love with you. songwriting is very much like painting. Bookstore girl. It’s something that I got into back when I was still seven. It’s the best job I’ve ever had. playback the song I just made. Only a few people actually live their lives to the fullest and at the same time. At the end of the day. It’s a rare thing. This is when the magic begins. Grungey10.. <After creating familiarity and substance. Bookstore girl: That’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever told me in the longest time (blushes). I totally understand what you mean. let me tell you something. It may take me an hour. do the things they’re passionate about in life. There must be a catch here.. You love traveling and you’re an artist too?! This is way too perfect. Grungey10: What are you passionate about? Bookstore girl: Well. I love painting. A lot of people might think it’s easy for us. You see a lot of people are imprisoned by their day to day activities. They go to work or school and they change to fit the environment they’re in. In the process they lose in touch with who they are and what they’re all about. Not a lot of people understand what it takes to do what we do. You see. Grungey10: You know what. A lot of people have forgotten the meaning of what it is to be passionate about something.Bookstore girl: It makes me feel like I’m on top of the world. and feel good about myself. You’re kidding right? I just have the biggest thing for artistic people. I don’t think enough people appreciate you for that. < I’m going to start flirting and appreciating her> Grungey10: Wait a minute here. It’s something I’m really passionate about. I solidify the attraction by giving here a sincere compliment. I guess satisfaction would be a better way to phrase it. It’s a stress reliever for me and at the same time I get to express myself through my work. We both put are minds and hearts into our work. You see them working with the “work”  . and that’s usually making a living or going to school. Artists are very creative. Grungey10: Bookstore girl. a day. They see things from a different perspective. and for the most part they’re real. or sometimes weeks to put a song together and it pays off bigtime. I get the exact same feeling of satisfaction every time I finish writing a song.> Bookstore girl: Yeah.

I realized something very important. Some give their number away and save your number as “Weird & Creepy Guy.face on. I suggest staying for an extra five or ten minutes before you leave. No matter how smooth you pull it off. This may take somewhere between 10 minutes to two hours. Some give their number away because it boosts their ego. they instantly know what’s going on. You always want to leave on a positive note. <Conversational cycle continues> The arT of GeTTInG phone nuMbers & seTTInG up daTes After hundreds of interactions. I’d highly advise everyone to try it for even a week. As a matter of fact. Don’t be afraid to test new things out. It’s the best thing ever. it makes it seem that was all you were after. If I’ll see the girl again then I won’t even get her number. • You can return her number to her every time she does something to turn you off. Some give their number away with no intention of ever answering your call. I’ve noticed that most guys make their exit after they get a woman’s number. it doesn’t even guarantee that you’ll get to see her again. One  . Numbers mean nothing if you haven’t done your job well. Women give their phone numbers for a variety of reasons. Normally. Some give their number away because it’s fake. • Don’t leave after you get her number. Do not answer”. Some give their number away to get rid of the guy. Then they go home and hit the sack. they still have control of the interaction. In their minds. Well I go through my day-to-day activities with the biggest smile on my face because I get to be myself the whole day. When you leave right after you get her phone number. I found that timing is very important when it comes to getting a woman’s number. But before I even get into that. Girls give their numbers to guys for various reasons. I’d like to actually get to know the girl first before I even get her number. It’s the same routine over and over again. Getting a number doesn’t really guarantee success. When you get a woman’s number. I’d like to share with you some of the things I learned. Coffeeshop girl: I know exactly what you’re talking about. It’s actually something that I’ve been working on for awhile now.

You job is to get her to want to give her number to you. Any line will work if you say it at the right time. • Don’t try to bargain if she doesn’t give her number. When you give her your number. how can we continue this conversation?” • Objection blaster. or after an emotion filled moment. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times. I usually say something like “Wow. would be useful after getting her number. And some girls will simply just lose your numbers. Pacing can be used to address future objections. I so have to hang out with you…” then I just continue talking about something else. then guy tried to bargain. It’s a really neat way of communicating “I could care less if I get your number or not”. Not unless. At this point she will either ask for my number or giggle. any line will work. It’s a downward spiral that leaves you lower than you were before. Some of the lines I’ve used are “Let’s exchange contact information” “Give me your number” “I really had fun talking to you. I discovered that pacing would. It’s better to exchange numbers than to just give her your number. That’s my cue to see where I am in the interaction. Some girls will throw your number away.little trick you can do is to give her back her number every time she says something you don’t like. once again. at the peak of an interaction. It’s not going anywhere. Some girls might like you but forget to call you. you leave it all up to her to make the move and give you a call back. I found that it’s very effective to display more interest in her.”  . When you reach that point in the interaction. because not all girls will call you up. At the same time it demonstrates that you have standards. girl refuses. but since there appears to be an issue with it. • Pacing to avoid flaking. I just thought you were an interesting person and that you’d make a cool buddy. you’re really skilled at using the phone to your advantage. She’ll probably flake on you anyway even if she gave you her number. • It’s better to exchange numbers. make you laugh. • Simple yet effective lines. Whenever they give me an excuse such as “Sorry. Guy ask for girls number. you like classical art? That’s so cool. If she doesn’t want to give you her number than just let it go. but unfortunately I have to get going. If she still gives some excuse I say “Don’t get a big head now. At times when she tries to impress you. Some girls just never call guys up. • Tell her you want her number but don’t get it. I have a boyfriend” I usually just stare at her all confused and say “Yeah… and?”. So it’s best always best to exchange number because it gives both of you the chance to call each other up. I’m just going to leave now. Guess what that does? It drastically decreases the chance of anything happening by 50%! Why.

You’ll come off way cooler. It’s not everyday that I meet someone that I can just be real with. I prefer to make plans before leaving the interaction. If you don’t have any. It usually goes something like this “You know what. It’s fun”. When you do answer I expect a really cool joke from you. I really hate playing phone tag. They have these huge crystal disco lights. My suggestion would be to try everything until you find the one that works best for you. you’re pretty cool. It will really communicate that you have more important things to do. believe me I’ve tried. Here’s a couple “You should wait at least three days before you call her. Listen.• Tell her exactly how it’s going to be. and on top of that you get to bowl. • Finalize your plans before you leave. trust me.  . They all work. Have you ever gone cosmic bowling?! It’s the most fun thing in the world. After you talk to her. make sure to end the conversation on a high note” It doesn’t get better than this. It will communicate that you have a life and that you are not needy” “You should call her on the same day so that she gets comfortable talking to you. What more can you ask for? We do this every Wednesday. That’s it. my friends and I love to bowl at Golden Pins. but wait a minute. then you owe me vanilla flavored ice cream on a cone…” You can go anywhere with this technique. Tell her what time you’ll call her and how to respond to you over the phone. Stuff like “Ok. you should come join us. It’s good to set up some rules right from the beginning. Just act like it’s normal. you’re not some weird psychotic girl right? Cool. If all else fails. It really depends on the situation. “You should call her after a week or two. Then make it a point to be the first one to hang up or pretend that someone else is on the other line. 80’s music. I’ll call you just once… and leave a message once. make sure to let her know you’ll be calling in the next couple of days” You must be wondering which strategy works best. Go call her! And if she doesn’t pick up then call up two more times” “You should call her the day after you get her number. How long should you wait before you call? This sounds familiar doesn’t it? There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to the best time to call. This technique has worked well for me. every Wednesday.

That’s pretty good considering the fact that I’ve only got so much free time on my hands. The others eventually responded after my follow up routine. Give it a shot for two weeks then switch. I used in the past. there’s that one girl that never picks up her phone. Traditional Method Call her after three days Space your calls out and have at least three to four days in between them Ask her out on the first or second call This method works best on girls within your social circle. in order to find out which strategy worked best. I would say two out of every four girls answered on the first call. Let me ask you this… What’s your strategy? Let me suggest this… Try everything out. Aggressive Method Call the numbers up the day you get them You can call the next day and the day after to follow up Call at unpredictable hours of the day Varying time limit on each call Ask her out later on For some reason this method worked best on cold approaches. Let’s say I’ve collected around 12 solid numbers in two weeks. What do I mean by solid? I’ve spent an average of about 45 minutes to 2 hours with them. and emotional connection that’s been built all throughout the interaction.  . That includes multiple dates within that day. See which ones work best for you.Here is a simple strategy. Occasionally. There’s no rush to call her up soon because you’ll see her over and over again.

8 TIps for an unforGeTTable fIrsT daTe
The tips I’m about to share with you are priceless. It took me years to figure some of them out. Most guys don’t know what to do on a first date. Don’t be generic. “Would you like to go to dinner and a movie with me sometime?” I don’t want to hear that coming out of your mouth anytime soon. OK? That’s what every other guy does! The last thing you want is to be like everyone else. There are lots of other things to do besides that. Save that idea for a later date. Something you’re passionate about. Are you passionate about sports? Singing? Shooting guns? Surfing? Art? Rollerblading? Anything at all? Bring her in to your world. Do the things you’re passionate about with her, on a first date. The best part about is that you can teach her how to do these things, if she doesn’t know how. Accessible- You don’t want to take her to the mountains located two hours from you. You want somewhere near and accessible. Fun & Exciting. Some of the best dates I’ve had were in amusement parks. It’s fun. It’s exciting. It provides the both of you with the same experience you can bond on. Plus, the emotions you experience will bring the two of you closer to each other. Unpredictable. Don’t tell her where you’re going. Tell her it’s a surprise. Get back to your place early on. Find an excuse to get back to your place early on. Your goal is to make her feel comfortable and to get that step out of the way. I do this by saying “These shoes are killing me, I just need a second…” drive to your house and say “Alright, I’ll give you a quick tour, we can only stay for five minutes cause we’re running on a schedule”. I go in the house, change my shoes, and rush her out of the house after giving her the tour. I don’t crowd her space. I don’t go for the kiss. I just relax and really just give her a tour of the house. This serves two purposes. Makes her trust me more and gets her comfortable in my house. Go to the supermarket. Take her with you to do groceries. Two techniques you can use. You can pick up a cookbook and have her pick up ingredients with you so she can help you cook. Another thing I like to do is to get some ice cream. Unfortunately I have to get it back to the house before it melts. AHA! Either way, you end up going back to your house or hers. 

Ideas For Second Dates Theme parks The beach Picnics Shooting range Cooking classes Sporting events Grocery shopping Flying kites in the park Comedy clubs Dance lessons Art galleries Rollerblading Go cart Wine tasting Wall climbing

on CreaTInG a sexual vIbe
Creating a sexual vibe gets her ready for the kiss. You must learn how to project sexuality. Sexuality can be projected by the way you talk, look at her, touch her, and the way you present yourself. It’s mostly non-verbal communication. This is the next level you need to master. Here are some of the ways you can project a sexual vibe. The way you look at her. Look at her in that sexual “You know what’s about to happen” kind of way. You can do stuff like staring at her eyes while biting your lower lip then looking back at your eyes. You need to be able to turn on your bedroom eyes and sexual smile in a snap of a finger. The way you talk to her. Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Lower the volume of your speech. Try speaking like you’re saying something really profound. Whisper in her ear at some point in the interaction. The way you touch her. Hold her hand at key points in the interaction. It’s important to have some kind of body contact. Begin to face her directly. Place your hand in her inner leg and gently stroke it. Knees or feet touching each other. Stroke her hair while looking at her lips. Incorporating Pausing. Pause in between words to create a sexual and intriguing vibe. 

I Can’t Believe I’m Sharing This With You I came up with a strategy to project sexuality quickly. As a matter of fact, I only teach this in my Day Game University Boot Camp. So let me ask you just one favor. Please don’t teach this method to anyone. Ok, maybe a friend or two, but no more than that. Deal? Good, now that we got that out of the way. Here’s what I call the Airplane Method I want you to think about the two hottest women in the world. It can be an actress, model, friend, or make believe women. Don’t continue reading unless you have your two hottest women. Now, imagine that you’re in a private jet plane. You own the plane. It’s yours. You’re relaxing and leaning back with your feet stretched comfortably. Your pants are down and one of the hottest girls is sucking your penis while the other one is sucking your balls. Now how do you feel? I really want you to put yourself in this situation so you know what I’m talking about. Now let’s say someone calls you over the phone. How will you talk to them? Would it be fast? Or all slow and sexual? Here’s how I learned this technique. A couple of years ago, I met my good friend Asian playboy, who specializes in picking up women in bars and clubs. When this guy spoke, he just had this seductive and sexual presence and for the longest time I couldn’t figure out how he did it. Until one day, I thought to myself, what could this guy be thinking? I mean he gets laid a lot, and he’s good at what he does. What’s his secret? Then it suddenly occurred to me. AHA! He must be thinking about being in an airplane with two hot women going down on him. That’s probably what it is! There’s no other explanation I can think of! Thus, the airplane method was born. Props to Asian playboy. TRY THIS OUT Next time, before you go for the kiss, you should try the airplane method and talk all sexual for 5-10 minutes. This builds the stage up for the kiss. 

It’s almost too obvious to meet. I approach the girl I want right away. I make sure she hears me running towards  . and connection as I need before I try to escalate things further. Slowly move in for the kill. You should kiss her before the day ends. Nobody else. Put her hair behind her ear and lightly stroke the side of her face. early on. • You don’t need words. I want you to ccount 1. If she’s walking away from me.When & hoW To KIss her Kissing on the first day sets the stage. Here’s a sample progression I’ve used in the past. • Three second rule. I make her stop to talk to me. that it’s going to be a sexual relationship. investment. The best part about this approach is that you don’t need words. while you slowly tilt your head. Here are some important pointers that will be helpful for you. In that moment. • Explore her eyes.3 and if she’s still lookg at you. let the whole world just fade away. You usually feel butterflies in your stomach. If she’s walking. Start looking deeply at her eyes. I built as much comfort. There’s a window of opportunity that opens up sometime in the interaction. you’ll start to get a feel of EXACTLY when you should go for it. It’s something you’ll learn to do. First. Nothing else matters. After you get into that situation. It’s just you and her that exist. Mall. if you play your cards right. and you know that it’s time. froM Coffee shop. Women are eager for the kiss as much as you are. Do you know that moment when you run out of words to say and your eyes are locked on hers? Next time that happens. • Put her hair behind her ears. then that’s your cue to go for a kiss. • Nothing else exists. superMarKeT To The bedrooM: The naTural proGressIon There’s a natural progression of how I like to do things. quite a number of times.2. don’t look away.

I usually say something like “My legs are dying. it’s grocery day today” and then we head out to the supermarkets. and then I stop her and make her turn around to talk to me. I’m dialing this number. Before entering the door to my house. The perfect time to lean back. I just kiss her. relax and discuss deep topics is when you’re sitting down. You get the point. then it becomes comfortable. It varies. I’d prefer to see how far I can take it. After I’ve established enough investment on her part. At other times. All these crazy things you’d do when you were young. I almost forgot. We prepare dinner together.her. like couples do. but just try hard to resist the urge ok? I’m not that easy” It’s a little funny piece that takes the tension out of the scenario. After I establish some kind of connection. We talk more. I will not tolerate disrespect and sexual harassment especially from women. after we buy groceries. I’m hungry. I’m sorry we met like this. If she’s inside her car. I knock on the window and start talking to her. we go back to my place to prepare dinner. I say something like “I’m really glad I met you. getting ready to leave. play arcade. If at anytime you even slightly try to grab my ass… it’s over. So.” We go some place to eat. Let’s go grab something to eat. with no mutual friends to introduce us to each other. and shop for clothes. call it a day. After all this. I know it’s going to be hard for you. I do stuff like walk around the mall with her. Tell you what. 0 . I say “Oh. I’m going to sit down over there. Sometimes. Get to know each other a little bit and begin to open up. I pull out my phone. Someone you can just talk to about anything and everything. Let’s go…” she usually complies. It’s pretty rare to meet someone you can just be real with. Sometimes I even take them on an instant movie date where we sneak out in the middle of the movie and go watch another movie. I ask her to sit down with me. punch the number 9-1-1 in and say “Look at this number. This usually demonstrates that I’m fearless and exciting. After eating I make it a point to do other things. I discovered that if you make fun of uncomfortable situations. I usually talk about deeper topics when I’m sitting down. You’re not going to be one of those awesome girls that I meet and never see again. and then set up another date with her.

I just unleash the beast and take full control of the situation.. she’s way too invested and aroused to even pull back. but I’m feeling so good.  . it should be a done deal. Just minutes after it gets really hot and heavy. before she even has a chance to do so. I hate to put you down but. All I am is a big piece of tease”. Then I learned that if you just leaned back. Here’s the key piece of the puzzle. and I need to stop before it gets really far”. she’s usually not sure whether I like her or not. At this point my back is turned toward her and I start to do fake snores. I pump up her emotions by saying things like “I know what you’re thinking. At this point. I play the frame that “I’m a good boy.From here on I just build as much tension as I can. At the same time.. I jump right into my bed and I tell her “Goodnight. I don’t put out that easily. From this point. I pull of childish behavior like initiating pillow and water fights. I treat her the same way I would treat my buddy. We eventually start kissing and rolling over the bed. I do this a couple of times till clothes start to come off. Then later on in the night. For you. I used to try to seduce her and touch her as much as I could the moment she walked through the door. she usually ends up doing just that. and give her space to chase. increase her desire. When she reaches her boiling point and all the clothes are off. I’m off to bed. I always pull away first and give her an excuse why we should stop. From here we start to cuddle. I act as if everything is normal. In that moment. I pull away and pretend to sleep. see you tomorrow”. After that’s done.

going on an instant date. physical.  . social) Stage 3: Learning how to handle logistics (getting her number. you will probably wind up somewhere else. second dates.” Where are you in your life right now? What are your goals? Long term and short term? Create a plan Don’t give up until you see results Who you are is the product of the past. (phone game. time. getting her back to your house) Stage 4: Beyond the pick-up. Who you will become depends on the things you do today. and managing relationships)  Tips On How to be Happy Be optimistic and outgoing (positivism) Have close friendships and meaningful relationships (Build your social circle) Work or leisure that engage your skills (fun time) Have something to believe in (foundation) Sleep well and exercise (taking care of yourself) Having a high self esteem (healthy relationship with self) “ If you don’t know where you are going. You need to become a master of all four stages Stage 1: Becoming Social and Expressing your personality Stage 2: Learning how to make her invest in the interaction (emotional.Words of WIsdoM There are four stages you will go through in your journey to get this part of your life handled.

you must become congruent with the three main aspects in your life: Be good at what you do Enjoy what it is you do Feel a sense of fulfillment while you do it  .Balance Is Key In order to achieve happiness and live up to your full potential.

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