Daytime Pick-Up Revealed

The Art of Meeting, Connecting and Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls, College Campuses, and Anywhere Under the Sun!
2006 All Rights Reserved 

IntroductIon A Word on consIstency GettInG the Most FroM thIs MAnuAl WArnInG!

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Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle 8 WhAt Is dAy GAMe? 8 An eye opener on cold ApproAchInG 9 WelcoMe to WoMen’s everydAy reAlIty 10 creAtInG A vIsIon 11 ActInG on your plAn 12 4 steps to IncreAse the eFFectIveness oF GoAl settInG 13 IntroductIon to the 8 essentIAl dAyGAMe FActors 14 Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS FActor 1: Inner strenGth FActor 2: IdentIty FActor 3: lonG terM And short terM vAlue FActor 4: eFFectIve coMMunIcAtIon FActor 5: eMotIonAl connectIon FActor 6: coMFort & trust FActor 7: loGIstIcs FActor 8: InvestMent Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS, rAcking up dAteS, And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndset For MeetInG WoMen Where to Meet WoMen Be In tune WIth the enerGy level crAsh course In stArtInG conversAtIon WIth WoMen BreAKInG doWn the opener deAlInG WIth contInGencIes GIFt shIFt theory the pInG ponG MetAphor 

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hanging out with guys that were good with women.  . streets. It didn’t stop me though. I really had no other option. or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up. Over the years. 2. Worst of all. I learned the natural [**hard?**] way. I’ve developed a step by step system that will allow anyone. I don’t want you to take a year to see results. What you’re about to read is a product of years of trial and error.000 pages? Yes. There were no gurus. theories. beaches. I want to congratulate you. It was a long and painful process but. regardless of age and experience. I came up with over 2. by choice.InTroduCTIon First of all. quite frankly. I know there’s a lot of information out there and. Back then. and tactics on meeting women during the daytime. can benefit from this manual. After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls. with the right combination of passion. there were no resources on meeting women outside of the “bars and clubs” context. would understand. and perseverance to become successful with women. coffee shops. You’ve taken the first step toward improving yourself. and trial and error. even my 8-year-old cousin. and college campuses. I’ve piled up all the useful information that I’ve discovered in my pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups. I learned from my past failures. dedication. In the process. Anyone. I had to learn how pick up women from scratch. at that time. So I came up with a manual that anyone.000 pages filled with discoveries. videos. it can be overwhelming. I’ve compressed it all into this book. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part of my life handled. books. I just needed to know how to operate in the field. Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you’ve absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book. I want you to succeed now.

and the best coach out there.There’s a catch though… You have to want it. passion. a Word on ConsIsTenCy Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency. make a stand. Now. You’re about to begin your journey. You won’t be in college forever. and you will not be figuring out this part of your life forever .  . You can have the best techniques. this book isn’t some magic pill that will solve all your problems overnight. without fail. and without excuses. they each followed their pre-determined plan. relax.or will you continue to be an “average Joe” for 70 more years? Which path will you take? It’s time to make a decision. I want you to sit back. and drive within yourself to see this through. You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in this area of your life. it’s all worthless. I’ve talked to hundreds of people who have successfully transformed their dating lifestyle. would you be willing to experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to achieve the lifestyle of your dreams . there was always one common denominator. First of all. Eventhough they were from different walks of life and trained differently. and choose wisely. consistently. It doesn’t work that way. the best system. If you don’t get this part of your life handled right now. Over the past three years. but without consistency. You must find the determination. There are many ways to achieve your goal. So now. Day in day out. This manual is my helping hand to all those guys who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day. but you will never reach it unless you consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other. and keep an open mind. I promise you won’t regret it. then when will you? Treat this like going to college to get a degree. You’ll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn.only a few months! This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself.

You can drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect. It’s similar to learning a sport. so be prepared. reading. the better you become. absorb. Read through it once or twice and absorb whatever you can. Keep practicing. I want to know what you think. Most of them. you will need in the future. You need to go out there and practice the things you learn. and integrate the information you learn. The more you practice. Read. It’s a repetitive process that will propel you toward success. You need to practice several times a week. I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won’t be enough. if you want to become competent. and using it until you have it all down! Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas. ever be satisfied with just learning this stuff. or just a simple “Hi” note if you will. comments. practice it! Don’t go jump right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you learn here. Don’t Let’s Rock n Roll!  . GeTTInG The MosT froM ThIs Manual There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. complaints. I’ll constantly be throwing new concepts at you.I want you to approach this as you. Come back and read the individual section from time to time. You need the right information and the ability to put that information into practice. would when you’re trying to develop a skill. Treat this book as a reference or encyclopedia. Some of them will be helpful to your current situation.

nor Captivate to Connect..  . Count on it. you agree to the following: You understand that the information contained on this page and in this book is an opinion.” I expect you to abide by these rules.. and none of this book is to be considered legal or personal advice. Neither www. All Rights Reserved.WarnInG! This book is copyright 2007. LLC assume any liability for the information contained herein. I will have my attorney contact you and make you regret what you did. with all rights reserved. You are responsible for your own behavior. steal. or create derivative works from this book in whole or in part. you agreed to the statement on the bottom of the homepage of my website that stated: “©2007. It is illegal to copy. When you purchased this book. If you try to copy. distribution. or to contribute to the copying. or creating of derivative works of this book. or distribute all or any part of my book or this web page without permission. By purchasing this book. let’s learn how to be successful with women during the daytime.daytimepickup. I regularly and actively have my team search the internet for people who violate my copyrights.captivatetoconnect. and it should be used for personal entertainment purposes only. distribute. com. Now that we’re finished with the warning.

it’s a skill set. as most may think. Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman. ”What Did You Do About It? Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by? If you didn’t do anything. The best thing about it is that YOU could potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how. build an emotional connection. relax.  . I’m sure you wanted to accomplish something. beaches. supermarkets. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day? If you answered yes to any one of those. get them on dates. then that’s normal. shop. I’ll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before the approach.Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle In this section. and believe me. they roam around malls. have fun and a whole list of other reasons. The question is. outside of bars and clubs. and have the possibility of starting a relationship with them. Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday? Women of all types of beauty are not hard to find. I’ve met a couple of men that can pull it off. I have yet to meet someone who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that catches his eye. and how I’ve used this information to solidify my game and make myself more successful with women. Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands. and coffee shops every single day. they are rare. What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me. It’s not luck. WhaT Is day GaMe? Have you ever experienced seeing “your type” of girl walk down the street? Most likely you have. then day game just might be the answer.

people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had to say. Now. Heck. If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the customer. I’ve spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth in the middle of a mall. more often than not. then people usually gave me a bit of their time. Several years ago. I tried and experimented with a lot of different techniques. I didn’t even know their name. But. If you think about it. Occasionally. they’d just continue walking. I learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must. the one thing that’s similar with salespeople and guys that are successful with women. then there would be no need for salespeople. I’d always be shouting “Hey sir. I’ll talk more about this in the upcoming chapters. trying to get people to buy our products. It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a chance to get to know the customer. do you want to sign up for our service today?” yada yada yada. I’ve had a history of being a salesman. Communication is key in everything that we do. and it did make sense. let’s get back to my story… After failing to produce results in my job. is their ability to communicate with people. and that’s when I learned something… If my initial approach was unique. Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What happened?  . What does sales have to do with being successful with girls? Everything. I should know.What if I told you that it’s possible to approach these beautiful strangers and have something positive result from almost all of your interactions? Would you think I’m nuts? an eye opener on Cold approaChInG Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger.

If you can relate to this scenario then. Make or Break Moment The first couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or break moment. It’s probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because it opens the door for escalating the conversation. There are a lot of whackos out there. WelCoMe To WoMen’s everyday realITy Women get approached or hit on all the time. It’s not their fault and I certainly don’t blame them for being rude sometimes. why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were you interested in getting to know them as a person? Chances are it was out of politeness. Looking back. They’ve developed tolerance to men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction.You probably heard them open with a familiar line like: “Hey what’s going on?” “Nice weather…” “It’s a pretty long line. 0 . What does that mean? You’ve got to approach her in a way that she’s not accustomed. isn’t it” Chances are you reply with some sort of answer. depending on your mood. How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off? I’m sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers that you say when you get the same question... The first thing you need to do is find a way to bypass her social filters. Then the conversation comes to an end and you either say “Nice talking to you” or just simply turn around and carry on with your business. Your goal is to get her into a state of mind where she’s susceptible to be led.

Have a pen and paper ready. Don’t skip this part.It’s like going to someone’s house and pushing the doorbell. If you want to be successful with women. It motivates you and keeps you on track. If you don’t have one. Just because someone opens the door. when you first start out. Most women will give you somewhere between three seconds and three minutes to captivate their interest. You have to set a goal for yourself.  . We all have things to do and people to see. if you’ve got your whole presence and communication skills down. I’m going to go with the assumption that everyone’s time is special. there’s one thing you need to do first. That’s your window of opportunity. open the door for you a little bit. You’ll find it very useful on your journey. If you have a vision of what you want your life to be then that is your incentive to work harder. It gives you an overall direction so you know where you’re going. it doesn’t mean you get to go in and do whatever you want. If it’s something you really want then you WILL achieve it. you should have one. Women will usually. there are no second chances if you mess it up. It will be your first road block to success. CreaTInG a vIsIon Do you know where you’re heading? If you don’t then you might want to start brainstorming. A lot of people out there are like chickens running around with their heads cut off. will be focused on perfecting the first few minutes of the interaction. So I want you to take sometime to answer these questions. then by the end of this section. Goal setting is very important for various reasons. That’s just setting yourself up for failure. Most of the people you meet out there will have a very short attention span. It’s always a good feeling knowing you’re working toward something that will benefit you in the long run. But don’t expect them to be all over you after you’ve initiated the conversation. A lot of your time. They have no goals set for themselves.

I know it’s a good feeling to have so much information that your brain begins to swell. weekly. in 10 years. Once you’ve figured out what you want.  . One piece of advice though: Information isn’t power. aCTInG on your plan Okay you have your plan.• Realistically speaking. What’s in it for you in the long run? Like. it’s potential power. where do you see yourself? What kind of person will you be by then? What kind of girl/girls will be with you? What’s your lifestyle going to be? What’s the difference between who you are now and who you want to be? • How long do you think it will take you to accomplish your overall goal? Have you set daily. These questions should aid you in coming up with a solid vision of who you want to be and what steps you need to take in order to accomplish that. the next step is to stick to your plan no matter what happens until you start to see results. and monthly goals to ensure that you’re constantly improving you skill set? How much time and effort do you need to put into this? What strategies do you have in order to stay consistent and committed to getting this part of your life handled? That’s just for starters. what do you really want to accomplish? You’re obviously investing a lot of your time and effort into learning how to be successful with women. now what?! Anything on paper is just writing unless you put it to work.

Put the book down and start working on it. For example: “In order for me to be able to date three new girls a week. I’m also going to work on the different aspects of my life so that I become relationship material. Get all the right information that you need in order to get this part of your life handled.” 2. I shouldn’t commit the same mistake again. I’ll make sure to implement the things I learned right away. I’m going to look for resources out there that will solve the problem for me. Or I can look for someone qualified to help me out. After getting advice. I need to interact with seven new girls three times a week for six months. and schedule a date with her at the end. I’ll make sure that they can give me personalized and individualized attention.4 sTeps To InCrease The effeCTIveness of Goal seTTInG Know exactly what you want to accomplish. then don’t continue reading. For example: “I was able to talk to several girls today. It was fun but I just can’t seem to get her to open up to me.” Or “If I want a hot girlfriend I should be more experienced with hot women. For example: “In six months. Devise a plan on how you’re going to accomplish your goal. I should get my skill set to that level. and has a kick ass personality”. What steps are needed in order to accomplish your plan? How long is it going to take and what does it require of me? Make sure to always stick to that plan. Make sure you use this information as a guideline and makes sure you’re on the right track. I’ll be able to hold a conversation with a girl for 30 minutes. every single week” or “I want to have a smoking hot girlfriend that’s half my age. After six months.”  . 1. I want to have the ability to date three new girls that I meet in the mall. If you haven’t done this by now. I should always be pushing the interaction as far as it can go every time. I’ll try to go on as many dates as I can so I can get experience under my belt. I will surround myself with the kind of women I’d like to date and learn how to be comfortable in their presence.

starting from your core. I suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book. find the strong and weak points. For example: “Last month. In order to efficiently improve your skills. You should be able to analyze yourself and construct positive criticism. Did I build enough emotional connection with her? Did I convey my personality well enough? Am I giving up easily without following up? If so how can I improve my skill? I should try calling her more often…” This is a very simple structure you can use in order to assess your progress. InTroduCTIon To The 8 essenTIal dayGaMe faCTors I’m about to provide you with the most comprehensive information ever available on how use the 8 Essential Day Game Factors to dramatically increase your success with women..  . You see. The 8 Essential Day Factors are structured in a way that helps build you up. This is an essential skill to develop. I’ve identified a total of 8 Essential Day Game Factors that must be addressed if you want to maximize your success rate! You must first understand all of the factors and how they affect your ability to meet. I got five numbers and out of those numbers. This month I got eight numbers but none of them called me back.. The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive foundation for daytime pick-up. then make the necessary adjustments. three girls called me back. connect. and date the woman of your choice. So I need to review all my interactions and see where I’m screwing things up.3. This is the only way to keep progressing. Review all your results. Here’s a QUICK PEEK at what’s coming up. then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part of the interaction.

I’ll explain to you the importance of long term and short term value and how it affects all your interactions. I’ll only be throwing stuff at you that I know you’d need. They lose a woman’s initial interest due to their lack of communication or ineffective communication. I’ll show you exactly how to communicate with women. I’ll discuss inner strength in depth and take you step by step so that you can develop a solid foundation . I’ll show you where most guys fail and how you can avoid most of the pitfalls out there. you’ll have a basic understanding of what inner strength is and how you can use it to gain an unfair advantage over other guys.  . FACTOR : COMMUNICATION Communication skills separate the beginners from the pros. FACTOR : LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM VALUE This chapter is guaranteed to raise a few eyebrows out there.FACTOR : INNER STRENGTH We’ll start to build you up from the very core of your personality. FACTOR : IDENTITY Do you know why most guys fail to keep a woman interested in them? Or even worse. I’ll teach you the same principles that I only teach in specialized 1 on 1 VIP seminars. why they can’t keep a woman in their life? It’s because they don’t develop the ability to convey their identity. A lot of guys don’t know the proper way of communicating with attractive women. Don’t worry. I’m confident that by the end of this book. I’ll go over the key concepts of identity building and how to effectively communicate who you are as a person.

I’ve compiled the most comprehensive approach to increase control over the interaction and decreasing the number of women flaking on you. Look no further! In this chapter. let me be the first to tell you… Logistics is one thing that you do not have full control over. he must first master the art of making her invest in the interaction. In this chapter. This chapter talks about the things you must do and avoid. FACTOR : COMFORT AND TRUST Most guys just don’t know how to build comfort and trust with the women they meet. I’ll give you a couple of tips on how you can maximize the effectiveness of the interaction by utilizing our logistic planning method. This is my favorite part of every interaction and you’re about to find out why! I go over specific time-tested tactics that I’ve used to establish a long lasting emotional bond that gets her to dream about you even after you’re gone! This is a very effective tool that increases the chances of you going on a date with her! I’ll go over the proper way to build an emotional connection and the opportune moment for you to start engaging her in this type of interaction. FACTOR : LEADING & LOGISTICS If you haven’t learned yet. I’ll show you specifically how to get the girl from the mall to your bedroom! FACTOR : INVESTMENT In order for anyone to be successful with women.  . I’ve decided to just go all out and reveal four major investment categories.FACTOR : EMOTIONAL CONNECTION Emotional Connection is what I like to call “The Heart of Day Game”.

A lot of successful guys. I don’t blame you at all. My friend and I were just chatting about life. I was the same as you when I first started out. I used to think to myself. I know. Until this one day came.Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS faCTor 1: Inner sTrenGTh I know that most of you just want to learn what to say. I always wondered how he was able to do it. cherish every moment of my journey. I knew there would be a lot of people who’d be negative about the experience. we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style. and end up to be a better person? I chose the latter. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were stationed in Iraq. I’ve tried to put my finger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to figure out what it was. There’s something about him that makes him complete as a person. This is the one thing that fuels them day in and day out. have one thing in common. I mean. I had that choice. Most people probably hated being there. I hadn’t seen him in years because he was stationed in Iraq.” I really thought I would never figure it out.”  . It’s the driving force behind all their successes. It’s that bright light at the end of the tunnel.. things would have been so much easier for me…” So save yourself a lot of time and read and understand this section first before you go onto the next one. what were you thinking of?” He replied: “All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person.. “the lines”. I had two choices: should I go through all of this hardship. Failure just wasn’t an option for me. So to make a long story short I asked him “It takes a lot of guts to do what you did. be negative all the time. “What does this guy have that I don’t. I just knew that I had it in me to succeed beyond a shadow of a doubt. I admired this guy for his strength and courage. I just accepted it. You want to know what happened several years later? I sat down and told myself “If only I just build up myself first. and be the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period with my head held up high. in other words.

These beliefs have been integrated into our being. You can make a beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race! All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute. The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow. Contrary to popular belief. they always hit me hard over the head. Let’s take a good look at magazines for a second.I suddenly had one of those “Light bulb popping up in your head” moments. There are a lot of factors that have molded us to be the person we are today. or not tall. Not only that. Let’s start out with media and advertising. appearance isn’t everything. attractive. they set the standard of what is cool. These moments don’t come to me that often but whenever they do. You can still get laid even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine.  . we live in a society that’s driven by money. Sad to say. What we believe in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives. You’ve Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don’t Even Know It! We all walk through this world with our beliefs. Examples of such factors are FRIENDS FAMILY SCHOOL SYSTEM SOCIETY MEDIA CULTURE ENVIRONMENT WOOOOWW! That’s a lot of factors influencing us. and desirable. or fame. probably since we were little kids. not well built. power. You can get a girl even if you’re not rich. Let’s take on the subject of appearance. we’ve been programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women. Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning… For the most part. This is true for both men and women alike.

that guy has the hottest girl I’ve ever seen. he has this sick ass watch. He’s rich. Your words become your actions. tall. both the man and woman in this example end up concluding “In order to be desirable.  . famous helps but it’s not the only way. famous… He even has the fastest car around. Your belief becomes who you are. and rich! IT’S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE! Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality? Your thoughts become your words. The truth is… YOU DON’T Yeah being rich. and join this…” And whoever said advertising wasn’t effective? What actually happened was that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in order to be cool. and up to date I need to have this. where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial features modified to intimidate almost anyone. tall. famous. I need to buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…” Same thing for a guy “Oh. cool. Anyone armed with the techniques and philosophies I’ll discuss in this book can attract the kind of woman that’s usually reserved for the good looking. The average girl would think “That’s the girl that everyone in my school thinks is hot! She’s skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here). and…” To make the long story short. be this.Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I’m sure you all know the answer to this one: Celebrities Attractive and fit people Rich people And everything else I forgot to mention Am I the only one that sees what’s going on here? Where can you find the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of a magazine.

the faster you’ll get to your destination. literally before my very own eyes. I adopted bits and pieces of his philosophy in life. I want you to go over this chapter again and again. You have to live up to your full potential. so you can move through the world naturally attracting people in your life? Before I hear any objections. I’m just sharing with you everything that’s worked for me and the thousands of guys I’ve trained after I discovered everything I’m about to share with you. It makes me sad to see all the guys out there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. that would be too idealistic of me. Change will not occur overnight. And that’s when it occurred to me that… YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE. becomes who you are? Would you believe me? You better. Here’s how this works. you too can be successful with women. You’re just going to be a better version of yourself. These have been very useful for me and hopefully will be for you. Alright. and relationships that I’ve had. and went on a journey to seek the truth. my whole world changed. I’ll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I’ve found to be very useful in my journey. Ever since then I began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions. back to my story. 0 . because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs. but the sooner you start believing. BELIEVE! I’ve learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. This is where everyone should start regardless of their goal. Don’t stop reading until you start practicing and believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons.What if I told you that everything that you believe in. struggles. If only I could snap them out of their trance… but then again. What if you can reprogram your entire self. After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you. BELIEVE. For the next 30 days. only if you really really believed in it. I will also provide you with exercises so your belief is reinforced with real world results. you’re not going to be someone you’re not.

I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to others. people were hanging off every word you said. but I’ve approached girls in the past and they’ve shot me down more times than I can think of… Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn’t mean you should stop eating right? Every girl is different. how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven’t even approached her yet? Okay. Got that memory? How does it make you feel? Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn’t it? That’s how you should feel before talking to anyone. Every situation is different. I don’t know what to say” speech playing in your head? Let me ask you this. The time when. I’m sure there’s a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just loved you. You’re doing them a favor by talking to them. Starting now.  . Try this out. I want you to remember the times when you made several people feel good about themselves. how does that change the way you act toward them? Try it out. next time before you talk to someone. TRY THIS OUT I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were indeed valuable to other people. then it will be valuable to others. If you believe that everything you say or do is valuable. all of a sudden. The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself. imagine that you’re about to give them a million bucks in the next five minutes.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS Have you ever had the feeling that you’re not worthy to even talk to someone? Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that damn “Why should she even talk to me? I’m not her type… and besides.

• Make your own decision and take your own stand. Don’t be afraid to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise. You do not need permission to dress in a certain way. Don’t look for others to make decisions for you. Next time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot. You can do them yourself. Always say what’s on your mind. you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn’t you? Another example is the very famous Bill Gates. And you have permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says. Don’t ask anyone for permission just do it. Everything is yours. Don’t be afraid to spark tension. he just had a plan. and never looked back. Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission every single time you went for a trip to the rest room. we’ve been programmed by society to look up to others for “permission” to do something we want to do. Once again. I want you to live life like you own the world. by the time you got to college. Well. So what do you want to do? What’s stopping you? You are your own boss.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : TAKE WHAT’S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS! There’s one thing that you will realize later on… You can do anything you want. You have permission to go after the things you want in life. Do you think he ever asked permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off? Nope. whenever you want. executed it.  . You have permission to be the best that you can be. You have permission to change your beliefs. It’s about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in. if you don’t agree with someone simply say “I disagree” and leave it at that. Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life: • It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. just go ahead and sit down. You already have it in you. Always voice out your opinions. wherever you want. And you can get away with it. You do not need anyone’s approval before you do something. Don’t wait for others to tell you what to do.

Don’t be ashamed of your past.• Learn how to say “No”.  . If it’s reasonable and you’re up for it then say “yes”. You’ll notice that people will begin to respect you more because you’re upfront. Don’t ever change just because someone else wants you to. It’s not that bad. Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time about it just smile and say “Thank you”. and don’t bow down to someone just because you perceive them as being better than you. stand tall. background. This boils down to being who you are despite what other people think. and someone gets there the same time you did. • I’m not trying to impress you. or status. TRY THIS OUT Let’s start out with simple exercises. It’s hard to get used to saying “no” but you have to give it a shot. The next time you’re about to line up. don’t hesitate to just smile and take the spot first. Be proud. When you’re at a party and someone asks: “Who wants such and such drinks” Don’t hesitate to raise your hand first and say “Over here”. You wouldn’t want to be known as the “yes” man. Just try saying it. One motto you can use is “I’m not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to impress me”. If it will compromise you or for some reason you just don’t feel comfortable with it then say “no”.

I wanted to be that guy in the spotlight that made people jump to the beat of his melody. Your job is to convey your identity all throughout an interaction. They ask you questions for a purpose. the stories you tell.  . I wanted to be that guy that rocked people’s world with his guitar.Mark Sanborne So What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? When I was seven years old I wanted to be a rock star. when I’d just jump off the bed with a broomstick trying to mimic Slash from Guns n Roses.faCTor 2: IdenTITy Do you know what people think of the first time they meet you? Do you know the first thing that pops up in a woman’s head the moment you approach her? Do you know what she will think about the minute she gets home after meeting you? “Who in the world is this guy?” So let me throw the question at you… Who Are You? Trust me. I don’t really know.” . every single person you meet will wonder who you are. They are trying to form a picture of who you are as a person. Maybe I wanted to be a rock star because I’d be famous worldwide. It All Started When You Were A Kid “There are two great moments in a person’s life: the moment they were born and the moment they realize why they were born. Why did I choose that as a kid? Beats me. Maybe because it looked cool on television. Or maybe it was what everybody wanted at that time. and the way you present yourself to others. So what exactly is your identity? Continue reading because this whole chapter is dedicated to the subject of identity. It seemed just like yesterday. all of these play an important role in establishing your identity. The clothes you wear.

I never really thought about it until three weeks ago when I was in a car with a bunch of friends. Success is in already inside all of us. Then out of nowhere someone started playing my song on the radio. It just put the pieces of the puzzle together for me. If there’s one thing I want you to accomplish after you finish reading this book. This is a very important section in this book. I didn’t stray away from it. It really came from the heart but at such an early age. I’m an artist! I’m a musician! I really did achieve what I wanted when I was a kid. you’re better of just having a 9-5 job where you can make a constant stream of income” Unfortunately. We were born to experience life and with that experience we grow and we learn. the product was already finished. once said “The Sculpture is already in the stone” and I never forgot that. peers. I want you to pull out a piece of paper and jot down some notes. when I was a kid. It means that every single time that Michelangelo worked on chipping away pieces of his sculpture. One of my favorite sculptors. That’s when it struck me. Yes. he was already done before he started. Not that thinking it’s a bad thing. then this is it.  .The truth is. we tend to stop feeling and just start thinking. Here are several ways to discover who you are. We were all created unique and special. all he had to do was to chip away all the unnecessary stuff. I was easily influenced by my parents. We become better versions of ourselves. As a result of growing up. I realize that each and everyone of us had dreams when we were little. Now that I look back. I had no other choice but to listen to what everyone said. I thought I would never be an artist because of what everybody said to me… “Being a musician won’t get you anywhere… It’s useless. and teachers. we just need a balance of both. Becoming a musician was a dream. So let me ask you this: What did you want to be when you were seven years old? How to Discover Who You Are I’m not going to keep you waiting any longer. You’ll need some time to work on this. Michelangelo. I believe that the person we want to be is already inside of us.

• Make a List of 15 Goals For Next Year. think back.• What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? Come on. • List 25 Things That Make You Happy. • What are the Three Things You Like About Yourself. Write it all down. Most men end interactions without really conveying their identity.  . Sky is the limit folks. It will reaffirm in your mind that you. dating. It always feels nice to remind yourself who you are. I want you to write down everything. Don’t force yourself to finish all these exercises in a day. and Philosophies in Life.. Some exercises will take time to finish. You could probably never stop listing reasons here. • Make a List of Everything You Want to Become. and traveling. Read it as often as you want for 30 days straight. you’ll discover what you’re passionate about. Embrace it with both arms. Be proud of who you are. No one will judge what you write. It can be related to fitness. indeed. Don’t be afraid to let everyone see. and the things they believe in. business. Beliefs. are talented. It can be a big or small goal. the things their passionate about. What are the things that you value in life? What are the important things? What do you stand by? What do you fight for? • What are Your Three Biggest Accomplishments? By listing them. I only want you to write down three. relationship.. It’s always good to be mysterious but you should also find a way to convey your identity all through out the interaction. and write it down. No one can see what you write. I want you to post it somewhere you can see it everyday. health. This leaves women with a blank picture on their head of who you are as a person. But please try to restrain yourself. What makes you smile? What are the things you look forward to in the day? What’s your reward after a long day’s work? • Write Down Some of Your Main Theories. So how is this useful in social interactions? Simple. When you’re finished writing.

try something new. Give her a taste of what it’s like to be in your shoes for a minute. Discovering who you are and the things that make you tick is something you should work on regardless of your goals in life. It provides them with a window to your being and this makes you interesting. Discuss your perspectives on life.  . and anything your heart fancies. If you run out of things to do. Remember. Bring her into your world. It puts you into a positive light but it’s still not enough to get you into any kind of relationship. Invite your friends along and have a blast. Do this at least every two weeks.So. TRY THIS OUT This weekend. If you’re enthusiastic about it then it becomes interesting to her. I want you to do an activity you enjoy doing but haven’t done in a long time. art. You need to provide value. what do you do when you run out of things to say? An effective strategy is to just talk about something you’re really passionate about. Having this knowledge of yourself is so important especially when you’re interacting with people. travel. talk about the things that are interesting to you. music.

It’s no secret that women get hit on all the time. appearance. We smiled. Then I suddenly realized something. Just last week. I hear that you want to the secrets to dating women of particular quality and beauty during the daytime… In order to learn how to communicate with women.faCTor 3: lonG TerM and shorT TerM value So. you must first understand them. and a salesman pops up out of nowhere and asks one of the girls I’m with “Would you like to go out on a date with me?”. we weren’t mean to the poor guy or anything. After all he had balls of steel for doing that. In this society. Value is broken down in to the categories: short and long term value  . Value is determined by a lot of things such as social status. it boils down to one question Are you an asset or a liability? It sounds so ridiculous but it’s true. I think that’s what he said. How Women Decide If You’re A Contestant Most women have several choices of men from which to pick. So why should she give you the time of day? What is in it for her? I hate to phrase it this way but at the end of the day. communication. then I wonder what happens when I’m not even present. Let me start out by giving you a glimpse of what it’s like to be an attractive woman. Anyway. and took off. and all the others I’m about to discuss. personality. lifestyle. I was walking in the mall with two girls. If these girls got hit on twice when they were with me. it was hard to understand him with his accent. women usually pick the guys that can provide the most value to their life. waved.

You want to be able to laugh together. How did it make you feel? See my point. she’s busy reading something. This is done by conveying a rich and textured personality. You don’t have to be as smart as Albert Einstein. Let’s say you see a pretty woman as you walk into a coffee shop. Your job is to provide positive emotions like fun. It happens most of the time. someone’s doing exactly what you’re doing. Almost like a drug. then she will go out of her way just to talk to you. Once you find a way to provide these emotions. People tend to gravitate toward people that make them feel good. etc. in fact you don’t have to be smart at all to pull this off. Now let’s go into some examples of how you can cultivate short term value. You will get far with humor. Laughter serves two purposes: Builds attraction within a girl and creates an unspoken bond between the both of you. Do you remember the last time you shared a laugh with someone? Now. • Let your inner teacher shine. Laugh with them… If you have the skill to make women laugh. It’s addictive. Do you have what it takes to get her to want to slam her book down and just talk to you? It’s not impossible. If you can share your ideas with her passionately. If she perceives you as being more valuable than what she’s currently doing. Intelligence is another tool you can use to captivate a woman’s mind. So the key is to be unique in that given environment. • Always provide positive emotions. • Laugh.Short Term Value & Ways You Can Build It Up! Short term value is determined by the experience you give women the first time you meet them. then you’re already ahead of the game. That’s the power of short term value. Some ways of doing this are the way you groom and present yourself. It’s the moment when we shut the whole world off for a second and connect with ourselves. happiness. just thinking about that moment…. There’s a big chance that somewhere in the world. excitement. comfort. • Develop your own signature presence . Laugh. They’ll call you and even pester you to hang out with them. There’s one problem though. Become unique. You’ll notice that women want to be around you more often. It doesn’t specifically mean that you have come up with something super original. Laughter is a good feeling. stop. you’ll instantly be magnetic to women. All you need are a few interesting topics in which you’re quite familiar. Communication is a tool you can use to your advantage but that’s in another chapter. in my experience. then BAM. The fact that you’re educated. you’ve got the ability to hold someone’s attention and  .

• Romantic. 0 . Women love romance. For example. These positive emotions bring value to their lives. Happy. “You’re so F****** money and you don’t even know it man”. Don’t be afraid to take a stand and follow it up with an action. It’s also an advantage if you’ve done some traveling. traditions. language. Cultured and Worldly. They want a man who knows what he wants. Always lead and reassure her that she’s safe with you. You can go on with this. then it will be very hard for women not to notice you. Instead of saying “Do you want to come?” say “Let’s go” instead. Just remember. share your knowledge with the world. Classy defines someone who has high standard of personal behavior. joyful. trust me”. This can be conveyed with your attitude and the right assertiveness. If you expect her to lead and even make the first move. If she says “I’m not sure about this” say “You’re gonna love it. Never say “I don’t know”. and a handshake. Wouldn’t you? • Decisive. Teach her a couple of things about your culture. and a plan. the possibilities are endless. Lead the conversation. Lead the interaction.interest. If you want her number then just ask for it. then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. This is usually learned through your family and the people you’re surrounded by. Your job as a man is to lead the interaction. • Classy. Joyful. Always have an opinion. and enthusiastic. teach everyone something. If you step into that role she will allow you to play the role. I know it’s easier said then done. when she says “Where are we going?” say “We’re going to grab some ice cream. a trick. decision. Always make it a point to be a decision maker. Take her by the hand and make it easy for her. as my friend Rish would say. Women are drawn to guys that are happy. Show ‘em what you got! • You are the leader. If you can be a substitute for a romantic novel then. Are your outfits coordinated well? Does your belt match your shoes? Do you understand poetry and the different works of art? Do you know the best restaurants in your city? Do you understand the world of fashion? Do you know a couple of classic movies? If you’re equipped with this. Let’s go”. and Enthusiastic. Don’t believe me? Did you know that romance novels account for majority of the sales in bookstores? And that’s why women just love a guy that can give them the romantic fantasy. a few fun games you probably learned as a kid. Women constantly test for this.

The whole courting process is very similar to sales. That’s why you want to give her the best option so she can make an educated decision. Do something adventurous. It’s time to rediscover and redefine yourself. You have to walk a little bit to get through the door and make sure that you stay in it. Women crave men who are ambitious. these are the things that go on behind closed doors. Pick up a book every two weeks and read it. Make it a routine to continuously be learning. limitless in his capacities for development. YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELF! Here are the features that you can add on to increase your long term value • Become a renaissance man. Stay tuned! • Dare to Dream. Remember. dangerous. Make your life an open book. Do something new every single month. The only difference is that you’re not selling an actual product. And don’t forget to make it an interesting book.LONG TERM VALUE & WAYS YOU CAN BUILD IT UP So you’ve learned how to demonstrate short term value. Sounds like a sales pitch right? Right. continue the relationship. Your long term value is responsible for keeping a girl hooked on you.  . Short term value opens the door to her life. but it’s sort of like a gut feeling. • Emotional Connection. A renaissance man is considered a man at the centre of the universe. It’s hard to explain over in text. The most obvious one is the way one talks about life. From experience. They smell this quality a mile away. a girl decides if she wants to see you again. There are a lot of ways ambition can be conveyed. Now it’s time to cultivate your long term value. I can always tell the people who are ambitious from the ones that aren’t. I think this is one major factor for women who are looking for a commitment. or exciting and live to talk about it. As hard as it sounds. Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something in life. Here’s a short description I found on the internet. Lean more toward the energy that they give off. or go on a date with you when you’re not there! These are the times when she probably evaluates you as a package and sees if you’re worth it. Boredom is the enemy. Coming up in the next couple of chapters.

say “thank you”. You need to be able to support yourself and show potential for becoming financially stable one day. Women like men that can give them a wonderful experience. They get all excited when you do this. All I’m trying to say is that women screen the men to see if they are relationship material. They also like men that know exactly how to press their buttons and provide satisfaction. • Tenderness and Sensitivity. I’m not saying that all women are gold diggers. Being predictable takes the excitement out of a relationship or interaction. Do you listen to her when she opens up to you? Do you act as a protector and make sure she’s always taken care of? Do you steer her around corners when you guys are walking around? Do you make her feel comfortable at times when she’s not? • Assertive. This is conveyed with the way you speak and carry yourself. Unpredictability is the spice of life. Don’t you wonder what women are trying to find out when they ask “So. It’s fun. “I want a guy who is rich. Women are sexual beings just like we are. It’s not a prerequisite for her to date you but it plays a huge role if you want to have a smooth long term relationship. and move on to the next topic? • Keep ‘em Guessing. and handsome”. Firm and Strong. They enjoy sex as much as we do. At times be romantic and shower her with attention and the next day treat her like one of your buddies. How do you move through the world? Are you afraid to take up space in the world? Or are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you let bad criticisms get to you? Or do you accept them confidently? A simple test would be a woman giving you a hard time about something you either wear or do. I hate to admit it but money is a deciding factor in the dating game. This can be demonstrated by the way you treat her. It is no secret that women love men that are great in bed.• Financially self-sufficient. This is similar to being confident. now how do you respond to it? Do you get all offended and convincing her that you’re a cool guy deep down inside? Or do you just accept it with a smile. Sex releases endorphins and it relaxes the body. It’s not good to be too unpredictable either. It’s good to create a contrast in your personality. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard that phrase from women. • Self-assuredness. what do you do for a living?” They’re trying to get a glimpse of how much money you earn. Do you assert your wishes on others? Do you make sure that you’ve got everything under control? Do you bargain your way into getting something you really want? Do you take a stand a support it fully? • Sex God.  . tall.

you should have a killer understanding of inner foundation. and a couple of helpful tips. That’s the reason why communicating effectively is a topic I spend several hours teaching at the workshops. big goal concepts. if you’ve been doing everything right. then take a week to focus on this specific quality. Now go through each quality I mentioned in this chapter and rate yourself from 1-5 (1 being the lowest and 5 the highest).These are some of the essential components to building long term value. If you’re below 3 in one of the qualities I outlined here. it’s useless. Remember. You at least need to be between 3-5 in all ranges in order to be successful with women. I want you to take a good look at yourself and your life. By now. you can have the best line or script in the world but if you can’t present it well. When you’re done. TRY THIS OUT Read through this chapter again.  .

or instructing a cab driver where you want to go. he notices something moving from his side. Hot Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. You must develop strong and effective communication skills in order to get what you want in life. but it’s a key ingredient my friend. I’m not going to sugar coat it. Mr. And then. She sees this average looking guy. Whether you’re working on presenting an idea to other people. describing a movie you watched to your friends. She stands up and leaves the coffee shop with him. you need to be able to communicate effectively.faCTor 4: effeCTIve CoMMunICaTIon Your communication skills will either make or break you in your quest for success in all areas of your life. She’s excited but she’s not going to give it all away because of that. there’s more to it than that. It was nice meeting you though. Average Guy’s hormones go wild. After three minutes of boring conversation and ineffective communication. Mr. he walks toward her and starts talking. Wow. Hours pass by. I have to rush back home because I left the light on my boyfriend’s room. She sees this guy.Mr. Ms. probably not. Plain or Hot Jane Scenario 1: Ms. he wants her. Actually. Two minutes later. Average Guy General Scenario: Mr. Plain Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. tata!” Scenario 2: Ms. She heads over to the table to sit down. Plain Jane starts to slowly face away from Mr. she deploys her killer line: “Oh.Ms. I almost forgot. Next thing you know. So what was the component that determined success and failure in each interaction?  . Let me give you an example. She’s enjoying the moment. He looks over and notices big boobs. That’s all it is. I didn’t even notice the time. Average Guy is innocently looking for clothes to buy. Deep down. nice hair. she got him all excited in less than a second… Contestant # 2. Hot Stuff makes his way to talk to her. He started out as a stranger and left like her lover. In that moment. Minutes pass by. that was fast. Contestant # 1. Hot Stuff. He seems to carry himself well and has a good sense of style. a body to die for. and a Mona Lisa smile. That’s the secret to success beyond your wildest dream. He starts getting excited or nervous and he knows why. He’s smoking hot.

with no whip cream. Presence is Everything I’ll share something with you. and your values in life. Now the next time you go out. Most guys I’ve met always ask me for the techniques I use to start conversations with women. Then hand out your cash or card. • More dates and maintain relationships easily. you can live the most interesting life in the world. The Communication Equation Individual + Effective Method of Presentation + Powerful Content of Presentation =Effective Communication TRY THIS OUT Go out to a coffee shop one of these days and order your favorite drink. Does the barista ask you any questions afterward? Good. and how you want it • Your message across clearly for anyone to understand • Recognized for your ability to comm-YOU-nicate who you are. No one else will find out all these positive things about you. I’m in the mood for a caramel macchiato. Just try it out for fun. • What you want.Effective communication. You can have 99 good qualities about you but unless you know how to effectively communicate them. When you know how to communicate well you can get .. You are what you communicate. For example: “Hmmmmmm. make sure your order is so clear that you won’t be barraged with questions after your order.. One of the most common question I hear is “What do you say to her to start the conversation?”  . Just think about it.. Remember what she says. • Women to feel exactly any emotion that you want them to feel allowing you to control and predict the outcome of your interactions. decaf. it’s useless. when you want it. it’s a really cool exercise.. your beliefs. to go please.

It really does. How stylish are you? What kind of fashion statement are you making? What can people tell about you by the way you dress up? Does your style leave a good or bad impression on others? Do you command attention? • It’s not what you say but how you say it. and surprise. Having said that. Holding eye contact builds trust and comfort. sit. A genuine smile can take you a long way. Did you know that there is a way to use eye contact to increase the effectiveness of your communication? It’s very important to hold eye contact at certain points in the interaction. It eases women up at times when they’re nervous. • Facial expression. Along the way. It worked because of the way I presented it. There have been several studies shown that women prefer men that smile while initiating a conversation. joy. Practice using a variety of facial expressions when you tell people stories. how relaxed you are. How’s your vocal projection and delivery. I noticed that some techniques worked better than the others (more about techniques in the last chapter) but there was always one thing common that made my approach work.  . here are six helpful tips to increase the power of your presence: • Learn how to smile. I mean a lot. Are you comfortable with the way you stand. It makes a big difference.I’ve experimented with a lot of conversation starters in public places. Have you ever heard the saying “People buy you first before anything else”. It’s all about how you present yourself. Your facial expressions can communicate messages of their own. • Communicate with your eyes. Smiling makes women feel comfortable. or walk? Are you relaxed and calm during most times? Do you lean back when you talk to her? Do you move unnecessarily during the conversation? Your non-verbal communication is the window to who you are. disgust. • Fashion. I guess the saying “The eyes are the windows to the soul” does have meaning. Facial expressions are used to convey emotions like anger. when I say a lot. Women are masters when it comes to reading body language. I found that saying to be true. sadness. rather than being all serious and mysterious. Do you slow down your pace when you’re emphasizing a point? Do you use pauses to amp up the tension and intrigue? Do you speak loud and clear for people to hear? Do you speak from your diaphragm or nasal? Do you eat your words? Are you relaxed when you speak? • Body Language. And believe me. fear. They categorize you based on how you stand up. This helps to get your message across more effectively. and how you carry yourself.

The  Commandments of Effective Body Language 1.Body Language Tips for Day Game “Your body language. 2. If you stay to close to her. man tends to change his behaviors and act way cooler then he really is. So here’s to a good first impression. At the same time. Try mixing it up. 4. It usually goes like this: Man sees attractive woman. It’s really funny to watch. Experiment with it. talk and carry yourself? I think that body language is the biggest giveaway when it comes to revealing who you are and how you feel. right from the bat. even if you’re nervous. Next time you’re in an interaction. then it won’t feel like it’s a conversation. When woman gets close. will provide women with enough information to categorize you based on the impression you just gave them” Have you ever thought about the things you convey about yourself based on your body language? Did you know that women can tell if you’re confident and cool or nervous and inexperienced just by the observing the way you walk. don’t move your hands around too much when you talk. Never have your hand inside your front pockets when you initiate a conversation with anyone unless it’s below freezing and you don’t have any gloves. just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. and leaning against the wall. Thou shall relax and lean back. Man starts to make unnecessary movement because of the extra energy he feels. 3. Man starts to smile nervously. Thou shall not have thy hands inside the front pockets. placing your feet up on chairs. then she will feel very uncomfortable. Thou shall not stand or sit too close or too far from her. chances are she’ll be nervous too. and slowly get closer at specific points of the interaction. That includes doing things like slouching.  . the way you walk. you slowly start to feel more relaxed. I’ve discovered that when you assume a relaxed position. At high and fun points take a step closer or move your chair closer. and the way you move through this world on a daily basis. For some reason. I feel comfortable when my hands are out of my pockets. At low points step away a little bit. Thou shall not shake or move a lot in the presence of an attractive woman. If you’re too far from her. Man gets very jittery. I’ve had success with starting off at about 3-5 feet away. Men tend to easily get intimidated with women that are way above their league. If you’re nervous all throughout the interaction.

Everything changed. The way you stood up probably changed. Mirroring her body language is a technique used to increase rapport and comfort levels. The exact same thing I did every time I experienced a mild confrontation. For example. They’re not some sort of super human goddesses from outer space you know? They do the same things you do. Thou shall mirror her body language. the more positive responses I got from women. when I’m calling up a girl for the first time. They walked. 8. and eventually make a shameful exit. 7. Have you ever been guilty of standing up too straight while you’re talking to a woman? Similar to how you would stand and act if you’re talking to an authority figure? Most guys take interactions with women too seriously. I modeled this behavior after guys that were naturals when it came to dealing with women. 6.Do whatever makes you feel better. relax. They took their time almost like they owned time. Thou shall walk and move slow. Your voice tone probably changed. It shows people that you were emotionally affected by it. They just exert more effort and time into looking good.  . For some reason. If you’re guilty of this. And the more I started acting that way. become jittery. Not good. Thou shall not stand up like a soldier. Have you ever been in a situation gone bad? You probably didn’t notice at that time but everything about you changed. I’ve learned that if you keep your composure and act as if nothing happened then you end up maintaining control of the situation. They stand up so erect that it’s almost too funny to watch. I used to lay down flat on the floor and take deep breaths. it helped me relax more. They’re shoulders become tense and they act all stiff to the point that they make themselves nervous. and moved slow. talked. I’d stutter. I used to be that way every time I thought I got rejected by women. 5. Everything they did was almost too smooth. Thou shall keep thy composure at all times. Women are human beings too.

. It makes me happy. Be comfortable. Inhale. People that just ask favors all the time.. I just like to give. Those one-way friendships where people just call you when they need something from you..... Relax.. That’s the reason why women instantly open up to me when I initiate a conversation with them. Here’s my view of the world: “I am a man... I’ve been guilty of this as well... Your job is to not be one of those guys. People that just keep asking question after question without really contributing toward the conversation.... I offer positive and fun emotions.. Don’t be too stiff. Give Before You Take A lot of people are used to taking things from the world and from people. It happens so often that it’s become normal.. And make sure not to fall asleep. Exhale. I move through the world with something to offer to everyone.. Be comfortable. My presences makes people feel better.. I’ll take care of you and make you feel like you’re part of my family.. I’m the sweetest and coolest person you’ll ever meet. Hands out of the pockets.  . Be comfortable. But once you betray my trust. Don’t tense your shoulders up.. Feet spread apart.TRY THIS OUT Lean back.. I talk about my life experiences and my view on things because I just want to share my life with other people.. I am a man and I have something to offer the world…” That’s how I view the world.. I bring fun and excitement to everyone I meet.. Relax.. that’s a different story..... I give without really expecting anything in return... At the same time I know my boundaries and I won’t be taken advantage of. It’s sad and I see it happen every day.. It’s also the reason why I can give a woman a compliment without seeming like I just want to get in her pants. Relax. Take a deep breath.. Slow and confident movements..

I am focused more on giving to people rather than taking anything from them. And you’ll soon realize that it opens women up to your ideas and messages as well. So if effective communication opens doors for you. People sense this quality.That’s the reason why I am who I am right now. TRY THIS OUT Effective communication will open doors for you in this life. You should learn to cultivate it. then do you know what makes you stick in her mind? Endlessly? 0 . It’s rare.

Women like men that can act like men. it’s done in little quantities but never enough for her. you need to cultivate both your masculine and feminine side. A man who is masculine and knows how to communicate with women. That’s 14 girls for every 1 guy. It’s hard to find guys that are just right in the middle. Let me explain. He’s more sensitive than most guys and actually shows his sensitive side. even if you treat me bad”. frat boys. It rarely happens though. The ratio of girls to guys in my family is about 14:1. and I had to work on this aspect later on. in the long run. And that’s because they can’t live up to their role of being a man. I’m about to tell you why. Growing up. Men are usually too masculine or too feminine. I’d like to call this the heart of day game. They usually fall under the extremes. I never really had a strong male influence in my life. Guys like these usually worship the women they are with. bikers. Now let’s talk about the guy with a feminine profile. He rarely has control of the things that are going on in his life. If it does. Let me tell you a little bit more about me. Somewhere along the road. She hopes that one day. This always keeps her on her toes. This guy is usually submissive in a relationship. Women wish that these guys would just stop for a second and actually take time to show her how much he appreciates her. At the same time. Almost to the point of “I’ll do anything for you. So why are women attracted to guys that act like jerks? Women are attracted because they don’t acknowledge her as some sort of higher being than them.faCTor 5: eMoTIonal ConneCTIon Now we’re getting to my favorite part of the book. How to effectively build an emotional connection. That’s off the wall. Certain profiles are assholes. I grew up with four little sisters. women crave the feminine side in men. He’s actually much rarer than a really hot girl that has it all together.  . He is rare in this society. gang members. I also happen to be the only guy. she’ll be able to make him change. In order to be successful with women. women lose respect for this type of guy. Women are attracted to the two profiles but there’s a flaw that exists in both.

I became familiar with the way a woman’s mind worked. Looking back. I was very fortunate to be surrounded by women early on in my life. the things they want. And most of all. not just what they said they wanted. Someone who treats her like a woman and the same time puts her at her place when there’s a need for it. I learned how to build a long lasting emotional connection.  . If nothing else. women dream of guys that have cultivated both masculine and feminine sides to them. But guys like that are just hard to find. Why they do the things they do and why they act the way they act. I understood what made them feel comfortable. it will be another fun experience for you. Understanding Women In order to become successful with women. It taught me things that I never knew I knew. Someone who has firm beliefs and opinions and at the same time is open minded. but that’s not until later. and how their minds works. Do it. Someone who sees them for who they truly are and at the same time treats them as an equal. back to my story. Women have two sides to them… A logical side and an emotional side Oh I forgot. Someone who can make her experience a variety of emotions and at the same time give her a chance to do the same. I unconsciously learned how to be comfortable around women and vice versa. I learned what they really wanted in a guy. Come on.Women look for men that are strong and at the same time gentle. Someone who takes the bull by the horns and at the same time cares if she’s comfortable. I learned how to communicate with them effectively. Her logical side makes all the decisions but there’s a much stronger side that can completely override it… it’s her emotional side. they also have a physical side. If you want proof that the above statement is true then I double dare you to show it to ANY of your female friends. you first have to understand how they operate. Anyway. Ideally.

and not long after that. Women are emotional creatures.. They enjoy experiencing emotions and they communicate with it. A guy that would sweep her off her feet and appreciate her for who she truly is. and fantasies. and keep women… And that’s the fact that. There are tons of emotions that take place prior to it. Growing up. That’s probably the same reason why make up sex is better than regular sex. There’s one thing I want you to know before I give you all the techniques and tactics to meet. shhh it’s a secret. the perfect guy would come along. I’m going to take you through a journey that’s about to open your eyes to the world of women. That’s the same reason I believe that “If you can captivate the mind.Women want you to believe that her logical side is in control but in reality. That’s because there’s emotion involved in it. A guy that will come along and push all her buttons making her cherish  . She’s been exposed to movies about love and destiny. And now I’ll reveal to you the Equation for Getting Any Woman You Desire! Logical Connection + Emotional Connection + Sexual Connection + Proper place and time = The Perfect Seduction. This just encouraged her to believe that one day. I’m going to give you a sneak peek at a place within women that they don’t want you to know. this is the natural progression of all my successful interactions. Every Woman Has a Fantasy Let’s rewind. And it all began when she was a little girl. the heart will follow. dreams. the body will too…” Looking back at my experiences. They are filled with emotions.. That’s why most women read romance novels and watch soap operas. Drama is also something that certain women might be addicted to. A place that’s been buried deep down inside that’s probably never been forgotten. It’s a place full of hopes. she was probably exposed to all these romantic Hollywood Disney movies. date. it’s the other way around.

It’s because they’ve been hurt before. They’ve probably had a rough past. Not everything turns out to be the way you expect it to be.the experience even more. This is when they just start to settle for anything else out there. These women are what we call the “Hopeless Romantics”. A guy that knows what to do and how to do it. Deep. or available guys that probably can’t give them what they need. Core. and famous. Chances are they probably get into relationships hoping that someone can fit that role. This causes them to toss away that dream. This is at the deep core of every woman.. She learns and begins to grow. This explains why women may act bitchy at times. But at that moment. And Spiritual Level + Appreciation + Comfort with Presence + Commonality and familiarity + Shared Emotions = Long Lasting Emotional Connection  . They go after the rich. it satisfies her. Everyone starts out as a hopeless romantic or they develop it later on in life.. Maybe a relationship gone wrong or just a really traumatizing experience. That causes them to protect themselves by acting “bitchy”. These women constantly wait for their prince charming every single day. hot. A guy that will take her on a memorable experience. Some women actually ended up holding on to that dream. The Hidden Formula For Creating An Emotional Connection Man Opens up + Woman Opens Up + They Connect on Surface. Some women forget about this side of themselves usually because they get really hurt from a certain experience. Maybe it’s not exactly what she wanted. They do it because it works. Most of them just end up being disappointed. but it kept her busy during that period of time. just like what happens when kids find out that Santa Claus isn’t real. Anyways. and go for more superficial things. Then she grows up and begins to realize that not everything’s perfect.

pause for a bit. You must tell her in a way that she can understand. beliefs. 5. once again. build an unspoken bond. Practice being social. As an exercise. The emotion in this scenario will. Just learn how to keep on talking and sharing your experiences. Always be leading. You can see her face either light up or the other way around. You’re setting the standard here. Of course. Tell her something that nobody knows about you.  . and vice versa. It’s always better to relate on the deeper topics. It’s what I call the “Go First Principle”. Lead with your personality. and then give your answer. You automatically become special once she’s shared this with you.Crash Course: 8 Killer Strategies in Order to Build an Emotional Connection 1. Same thing when women ask you questions. Wait for another 3-5 seconds before you interject. You have to know how to relate with her. Don’t interrupt her when she begins to open up. You’re vulnerable as well. When she pauses. this will help a lot in building a connection. Open up to everyone you meet. she actually gives you the winning cards that you can use on her. Open up to her. Once you do a good job at describing the emotion. it takes two to tango. This makes her feel super special. just keep quiet and listen. At the same time. 4. Tell her how you feel. By telling her a secret. That’s why it’s important to become comfortable with sharing your life experiences with other people. Everything you do. Share a deep experience. you also want to encourage her to share a secret with you. It’s an important skill to be able to describe an emotion so effectively that she begins to feel it. Sharing a deep experience will encourage her to do the same. Once in awhile I like to add “I can’t believe I’m telling you this… I don’t even tell this to the people I’m close with…” This little piece gets the message across. It solidifies whatever connection that’s present. don’t just open up to her. and the things you value in life. it will give you a better picture of how you can effectively seduce her. will set up the stage on how it’s going to be. Whether you’re telling a story or just explaining your current mood. Most men focus on logical stuff. So the next time a woman starts to open up to you. 3. you just build an unspoken bond between the two of you. It makes you look smarter. Most guys just relate with her on a superficial level. That’s right. She’ll feel like she knows you better. It’s important to emphasize and describe exactly how you feel. It adds depth to your personality. early on in the interaction. 6. 2. you can almost see it. Relate with her. Especially if you know exactly how to tell her how you feel. After all. How do you expect her to open up to you if you don’t do the same? One way to help her open up to you is to do it first. don’t talk. Shut up. Everything she says is gold! Later on. it shows her that you’re just a human being.

 . Now. TRY THIS OUT Play back the last conversation you had. Pacing and Complimenting. I’ve noticed that most men are eager to say “Yeah. then you’re ahead of most guys out there. It comes across as if you’re trying too hard to be similar with her. 8. then later on. You’ll notice a big difference in your interactions. If you’re good at connecting with women. Instead of telling her “That’s so cool. Are you aware of the value of building an emotional connection now? Do you know that there are two things that you need to add to the equation in order to build the ultimate bond? That brings me to my next topic..7.. I’ll start to talk about it indirectly. What I’ve found to be very effective is to hold the “Me too” for 10 minutes or so and later in the conversation. in your head. let’s say she talks about how much she just loves to dance. More about this on the last section. even let the subject drift off. I’ll just let her talk. me too” whenever the opportunity arises. ask yourself if you were implementing the concepts covered in this section. if I’m also into dancing. I like Pearl Jam too” I’d rather play my Pearl Jam CD when she rides in my car. I’ll just casually slip in a story about how I won a dancing contest or something like that. or let her discover it on top of my CD player. For example. Kill the quick me too. Another example: Let’s say she tells me that her favorite band is Pearl Jam. make a conscious effort to actually implement them the next time you’re out. If not.

In the bars and clubs you have to deal with the music. the drinks. With the different crimes out there. why should I talk to him”. strangers can be bad.faCTor 6: CoMforT & TrusT There are a lot of differences between learning how to meet women in bars and club as opposed to public places. Let me share with you a quick story on how I discovered this key element. loading up on gas. or even answer your call. INSTANT DATE That’s right. Well. So you’ll have to equip yourself with a unique style. it’s a social context. That’s why it’s so important to take her on an. During the day time. or shopping for groceries.  . looking for clothes. it’s a date right on the spot. it’s a whole other story. Whenever someone talks to her she instantly considers them a stranger. She’s probably by herself. show up on a date. she must at least trust you a little bit. So what factors do you have to address when you’re planning to meet women in public places? COMFORT AND TRUST In order for them to call you back. her peer group and the competition.. When you’re in a bar or club. And do you remember what your parents told you about strangers? Don’t talk to strangers. and some serious entertainment skills.. You can be anyone dangerous and she wouldn’t even find out. here are the facts. So when you walk up to women in this setting the first thing they think about is “Is this guy cool enough for me to talk to? There are so many guys. a loud booming voice. she must be comfortable with you. Who says you need to wait a couple of days before you take her out? Taking her on an instant date will dramatically increase the chances of her picking up your calls and going out with you later on. women just need to be extra careful nowadays. She’s a woman and you’re a man. In order for her to go anywhere with you.

and a cute semi angelic/naughty face. Three minutes passed by.  . She kept on leading me and I followed. I went out with my buddies to go learn how to meet women in malls. after a bit of conversation she said. “Hey. come with me”. I looked her up and down. is history… If we ever meet one of these days. had a slim figure. Looking back at that interaction. I hit the five minute mark. this was the day that changed my life. I left my cigarettes in the car. In that moment. I complied. Anyways. Then she pulls off her killer line “Hey. my legs are tired. but now that I look back. Fifteen minutes passed by and she said. I still couldn’t believe it though. she lived like five minutes away from the mall by the ocean. let’s sit over there”. I slowly stopped her from walking and we ended up chatting for a bit. And the rest I would say. I remember my goal for that day. It was on. In my mind. Are you ready for this? While I was chatting with my buddies. Let’s go to Starbucks and get something to drink. My heart skipped a beat for a second. she starts fixing her bra in front of me as I was talking. I was doing pretty well. I ended up kissing her. I’m really thirsty.” Another 20 minutes passed by and she said “Let’s go for a walk. I would have been very happy if I got to hold a conversation for three minutes. It was to start a conversation and stay in for three minutes. She was in a business outfit and had some shopping bags with her. to get our blood to circulate throughout our bodies…” Then while we were walking. Little did I know.A few years ago. “Hey. I’ll probably tell you what happened. Apparently. I noticed this tall brunette girl. She was about three inches taller than me. I was completely clueless at that time. we ended up talking about her place. And then all of a sudden. I keep kicking myself in the foot. only if you promise to keep it to yourself. she was the one who took the bull by the horns. To cut the long story short. considering it was my first time trying to meet girl at malls. shortly after getting inside her car.

It’s really powerful. • Decreases the chances of flaking later on. They say things like “We should hang out sometime” and “Yeah. I’m going to grab a drink real quick and since you’re fun. that’s how her mind processes it. I stole my whole script from her. • You keep the interaction moving forward. regardless of any technique you use. take her on an instant date. When you first meet her. That means. is to create an “Our World” vibe. • Helps you get through conversational barriers. When you get her on an instant date. More time means getting to know her better and vice versa. Somehow it creates a new environment for the both of you therefore making it easier to talk about other things. TRY THIS OUT The next time you’re in a conversation for more than 10 minutes. • Shift from “You vs. It gives you more time. you’re a STRANGER in her eyes. Them”. Helps you reach your goals faster.  . you can tag along. You’re still a complete stranger. Forget the concept of getting her number for now. • Chance for you to show that she’s safe with you. she puts herself in a position where something bad can happen to her. With a little bit of tweaking I’ve used something similar and have experienced unbelievable results with it. You’re not like that. When you go on an instant date you become a potential partner.Of course. When you’re at a high point in the interaction (Example: she’s laughing or there’s a good vibe) just say: “I’m really thirsty. If you play your cards right. • It separates you from all the other guys. That bond is unique for every girl. having a shared bond between the two of you. Most guys just go for her number. It keeps you moving forward. Your primary goal when you start talking to a woman. So it’s your opportunity to prove to her that you can be trusted and that she’s safe with you. At least. It’s like going out on your first date right there and then. At least try to. Me” to “Us vs. you significantly increases the chances of her calling you back and going out with you. you officially are operating on a different level. It helps you get through conversational stalls. When she takes the chance and goes to coffee with you. let’s go”. • Gives you more time to get to know her better. You’ll play on a different level. It creates a shift in the atmosphere. Let me give you the benefits of going on an instant date • You get to hit two birds with one stone. you should give me your number”.

What’s the next move? You’re supposed to be in tune with the environment because it will help you figure out the best logistical approach you can use to escalate the interaction further.Ok. so let’s say you’ve done a great job at interacting with her. 0 . Probably you’ve passed the test with flying colors and you even have a lot of inside jokes and secrets.

a beach. Pick five places in your mall that you will take her on an instant date. What if I told you that… She would have gone home with you only if you were prepared?! Won’t that piss you off? Sure did piss me off. Have a pen and paper with you. Is your place classy or trashy? Does your place convey what you’re passion about? What does it say about you? Do you have clean sheets or dirty ones? Do you have dirty clothes all over the floor? Does your place smell good? 6. Don’t ever sabotage your success by not being prepared. when I discovered that. Know your location well. a guitar. here are 0 Golden Tips To Help You Master Your Logistics 1. Not just give her number or take her number because it limits what you can do.faCTor 7: loGIsTICs Do you know where you’re going? A lot of guys don’t go out prepared. Remember. Make sure you have a clean place. you want to exchange contact information with her. The BEST experience in my life involved a girl.  . You can also string along and take her on multiple instant dates. a blanket. Have some pillows and blankets at the back of your car. That’s an advanced topic though. Enough said. It was the painful truth. And this is true especially for the beginners. 4. Always have a pen and paper with you. Your place will say a lot about you. How will you take her on an instant date? What will you say to get her number? How do you get her back to your car? How do you get her back to your place? 2. 5. 3. Know exactly what to do before you even go out. Women will judge you based on how clean your place is and how creative you are with it. Bring protection. and me. just in case. A nice little fold up sleeping bag that fits two people in it will do. You’ll never know where you’d end up going. With that in mind. Have a plan before you go out.

7. Always assume that she’s up for it. Don’t ask just lead. then give it a shot! 9. you might say something to turn me off and I’d be running for my life” or something to that effect. When you say “Let’s go” start to walk in the direction you want to go. It’s your job to lead the interaction. Get to know her and spend a little more time with her then try again. Talk a little more. I’m in a hurry. Almost as if she’s expected to follow you. it might only take three minutes… who knows. Don’t give up at the first sign of resistance. you can go on with your shopping… and besides.  . 8. The point is. Be prepared for contingencies. it all boils down to being prepared. don’t wait for her to ask. This will all make sense to you sooner or later in your journey. I need to do my shopping” say “That’s cool. stop for a second. with the guys that aren’t. 10. Instead of saying “Can we…” say “Let’s go…” This little trick might make all the difference in your interactions. It’s what separates the guys that are successful with women. Stay in there. Always be leading. Women will sometimes refuse to do what you want them to do. stay an extra minute or two. Again. always be prepared for contingencies. Assume first. Next time you feel like walking a way. Tell her where you want to go. Don’t be fazed by it and don’t walk away. This last piece of the puzzle is probably the most significant topic in this whole book. It’s better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. If you’re dropping her off at her house. When she says “Uhmmm. After we get some ice cream for five minutes.

In my experience. is to be a part of her life. I don’t advocate playing with women’s feelings. Sex is the biggest investment. Use it wisely. You’ll start to realize that you can actually just relax and appreciate her company. and get her to be part of yours too. Emotional Investment. make them work for it.faCTor 8: InvesTMenT Do you know how to make someone want something? How do you make someone value something? Simple. it becomes a lot easier. Once you’re passed that level. She gets more and more invested in you every time she opens up. sex opens up all the lines of communication. Do you remember the last time you worked hard for something? How did it feel in the end? How satisfied were you when you accomplished it? This is the same emotion that women feel if they’ve worked hard for you. It makes things so much easier for the both of you. Talk about her passions. so use this stuff carefully. Another way to get her invested in you is to be physical with her. How much time does she spend with you? Do you see each other often? Do you spend some time talking with her on the phone? Does she spend a lot of time winning you over because you have standards? The more time a woman spends with you (Talking on the phone. This stuff is very powerful. The more they invest in you. Physical Investment.) the more she gets invested in you. Here’s a list of the different types of investment a woman makes and how to get the most out of each and every one. hopes. Social Investment. hanging out. Time Investment. dreams. etc. The best way to persuade a woman to do something is to make her want to do it. the higher the chance of you getting what you want out of it. future and share your view in life as well. It’s smooth sailing from there. values. This goes back to building a solid emotional connection.  . Have you met her friends? Do they like and approve of you? Has she met your friends? Do you go out to social activities often? Do you have any mutual friends? They key to getting her to invest in you more.

she’s way out of my league. Yes you would get results instantly! But that’s not the real challenge. I used to think that women wouldn’t want to talk to me. The hardest part is going against everything that is preventing you from achieving success. in my experience. I felt like I wasn’t worthy to talk to them. regardless of where I am. I have nothing special about me. Since then I’ve been more relaxed and comfortable meeting women. My whole view changed and I think that it had to do with the way I viewed things. I enjoy talking to people. and think I’m weird. Before the workshop. After the weekend. and all the tactics to meet women is easy. I don’t want to talk to her. You heard me right. She’ll ignore me. laugh at me. You’re your own worst enemy. something clicked inside of me. it’s what makes or breaks you. I don’t get as nervous as I used to be. I’ll be sharing with you the proper mindset that you should have before you go out there. And besides I’d have to try hard to entertain her  . I’m not even qualified to talk to her. Come on. Mental barriers are very strong and.Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS. that’s your own self. Yes. Everyone else will see that I am talking to her and they will think that I’m a loser. Here’s what he told me: “Right now. She’s not even going to give me the time of day. Here are the things that you should not think about: “Wow she’s so hot.” Here’s the truth… Practicing techniques. lines. And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndseT for MeeTInG WoMen I just got off the phone with a student I had last weekend. rAcking up dAteS. And most of the time.

either way I’ll still be happy. I am who I am. The first step to being successful with women is to look at things in a positive way. then she doesn’t know what she’s missing. If she rejects me. Now you’ve got to ask yourself. I live my life for me…” Where To MeeT WoMen There are dozens of places during the day time to meet women. I am doing them a favor. The one ticket that will probably get you set for life. I don’t seek approval from anyone. Looking at things in a positive perspective will get you far. or playing in the sand. I’m everything and more that a woman can ever ask for. It’s a like a foreign concept for them. I take pride in being me.and be really slick and smooth. I make them happy. imagine that you possess a winning combination to a lottery ticket. They’re completely clueless. You will never run out of women to approach. The best part about it is that women are everywhere. that person doesn’t know what a lottery ticket is. My own values and passions define me. Every time I talk to women. shopping for clothes. I walk through this world as if I own it. I live life to the fullest without apologizing for anything I do. Women are fortunate that I give them the chance to get to know me. I seriously doubt it. So how does this apply to approaching women? Here’s how you should think… “I am a man of purpose. where do I want to meet women?  . You can see them crossing the street. I am a man of purpose. you just have a couple of minutes to convince them to even hear you out. you can take me or leave me. Here’s how you should think and feel about meeting women… Ok. People’s reactions toward me don’t define me. I just can’t be myself and get her to like me. Here’s more. It’s impossible…” I’ve heard that objection more times than I can count. Your job is to give the ticket away to anyone… But here’s the catch. Any woman will be fortunate to get to know me.

streets. coffee shops. then that’s a different story. And she might not be used to handling it. General places to meet women are malls. and match it. you must be aware and in tune with its energy level. and pretty much everywhere. TRY THIS OUT Go to five places this week (coffee shops. If you want spiritual girls. bookstores. just be in tune with the social energy level of the location. parks. So to avoid unnecessary complications. So the key is to be aware of the social energy in the place that you’re in. etc.) and observe how people communicate. Violating energy levels puts social pressure on the woman you’re talking too. be In Tune WITh The enerGy level In order to be successful in approaching in various public places.  . If you want smart girls then hit up the library.In order to figure that out. beaches. When you’re approaching a woman in a library. then join a yoga class. imitate them or slightly be more animated/energized then they are. college campuses. take advantage of that. supermarket. How loud do they speak? Do they command respect in an interaction or not? When you discover this. you need to figure out what type of women you want to meet. let’s talk a bit about specialization… If you want girls that are into health and fitness then go to the nearest gym. Did you know that the ratio of women to men in yoga classes is like 15:1? Well. Now. If you’re approaching a woman on the street then you can get away with speaking a little bit louder.

Tension begins to fill up my body. I say something like:  . This is a very important step in my overall structure and let me tell you why. If you pull this off correctly. There are no possible excuses in my mind. I act like she dropped something on the ground. Confidence begins to radiate through every part of my body. Here’s how it works. my heart pumps faster. I suddenly feel the ball of energy inside of me. If she’s walking the opposite direction. and then deliver my conversational opener. If you don’t command her full attention then she won’t process your verbal communication effectively. They all work… I’ve tried them all. What’s the fastest and most efficient way of initiating conversation with women? I was looking for something that cut right through the bullshit. I needed something that I could use anytime. I make sure to grab one and place it right next to her. say something situational. It’s basic law of physics: An object in motion will stay in motion unless an outside force causes it to stop. I want to meet her and I will meet her. I run after her and tell her to stop. and I slowly make my way towards her. she will stop. The first thing I do is get her full and undivided attention. ask their opinion.Crash Course In sTarTInG ConversaTIon WITh WoMen Let me make something clear… There are dozens of ways to initiate a conversation with women. and so forth…. You can tell jokes. But here’s the question. make myself comfortable. If she’s sitting down I make sure to sit down as well. Whenever I see a girl I’m attracted to. I found the perfect opener for daytime approaches. So after I get her attention. After a little bit of tweaking. If there’s no chair beside her. Let me give you some examples. I would slowly walk in her pathway so she would be forced to come to a complete stop. If she’s walking to her car. no matter where I was.

Step : Tell Her the Reason Why You Are Attracted to Her Honesty is the best policy. breaKInG doWn The opener Step : Pace her ongoing reality Pacing is an essential skill that you should master.  . I found that being upfront. I use this to overcome any objection that might pop up into her head. Tell me about yourself” She smiles. It makes her more comfortable. I continue with “I’m a complete stranger and I know this is really random but… I was just passing by… and I saw you standing there… I just wanted to tell you that you are… Really… Really… Beautiful. we shake hands. By addressing potential objections you demonstrate social awareness. It conveys that you’re intuitive and socially intelligent by nature. When I say things like “I know this is totally random…I’m a complete stranger” it actually serves several purposes. you instantly demonstrate that you’re honest and sincere. Women love guys that know what’s going on without a woman having to tell him. It shows her that you’re sensitive to her needs and that you understand her concerns. It’s like an unspoken bond. Every time you say something that she agrees with. she gives you a silent nod. Gives her a chance to agree with you. honest. Tell her you like her because you want her to know. Saying things that she can affirm as true. and I relax from that point forward I get to know her more for who she is. only build your credibility in her eyes.“Hey… (pause) I begin to smile as my eyes are locked on her eyes. and sincere is the way women like to be approached (CAVEAT: If you do it right). Sets up the proper foundation for the interaction right from the beginning. Now let me break down the opener and explain to you why and how it works. Not because you want her to feel obliged to be nice to you. When you use this approach. The only reason why other men can’t pull this off is because they’re not coming from a place of power.

Since you created so much attraction. After the opener. everything you say begins to be categorized in “The Potential Partner” context. Step : Give Her a Chance to Talk About Herself You want to get her involved in the interaction as soon as possible. As soon as she starts answering your question. It makes it official that you two are in a social interaction. Shaking her hand is very important.  . everything you say will be in the “I’m getting to know you before we date” context. That’s because she’s processing the whole interaction differently. This is a very powerful frame from which to come. • Gives you a chance to introduce yourself. she slowly becomes committed to the interaction. Creates the feeling of attraction. After she says anything that might impress you. this approach can be very deadly. • Gets her to subconsciously accept you as a potential partner. When combined with the proper non-verbal communication and delivery. It skips through most of the games and takes you were you want to be… and that’s building an emotional connection. I’m (insert your name here)”. Even boring rapport questions will work after the opener. This approach is so powerful that it creates attraction within seconds. It also… • Gets her committed to the interaction. Gets right to the point. you can say “I like that. what’s your story?” “Who are you?” “Where are you from?” Letting her talk about herself gives her the chance to impress you.You tell people what you think about them. This is done by saying stuff like “Tell me about yourself?” “I just wanted to know if there’s more to you than meets the eye.

tries to walk away. So what do you like to do for fun? *I’m not even acknowledging her objection. But if I’m making you uncomfortable in anyway. and of course she wants to be perceived as classy so she will stay for a bit. Talk. She becomes extremely flattered. She Walks Away While You’re Talking To Her Guy: Talk. Guy: Awesome. She’s just being polite and sticks around for a bit to see what you have to say. depending on how well you execute your opener. I absolutely love the third scenario because it’s challenging for me. Go on now. First Scenario: She loves it. what do you do for fun? * As you can see. Runaway girl (I sing playfully) Anyways. 0 . She wants to get to know you.dealInG WITh ConTInGenCIes One of three things will happen. which re-engages her back in the conversation. then just walk away. Third Scenario: She gives you an objection. She smiles. Here are some examples of how you can handle certain situations. Runaway girl. Second Scenario: She kind of likes it. I have a boyfriend. I set up an expectation for her. I also get to express my personality and my positive traits. The Boyfriend Objection Guy: Opener Girl: I’m sorry. She’s not really enthusiastic about it. I also tell her to walk away which is reverse psychology and then I act like it never happened by asking her a question. you’re way too classy to be walking away when someone is talking to you. Talk Girl: Talks and walks away Guy: (smiles) Oh come on now. Indifference by far is the most powerful way to overcome this objection. or doesn’t give you the time of day. I tell her she’s way too classy to walk away.

Sorry I was being rude. I know this is not who you really are. people are real. I was just having a bad day. I know you’re a cool person deep down inside. I’m Oliver. So what do you do for fun? * See how I called her out on how she was behaving? It demonstrates that I am a man who demands respect in an interaction. I don’t know where you’re from but where I’m from. Talk. Grungey10: I understand. you must come across from a place of power and positivism. There are a lot of creepy guys out there that try to get something from you all the time. or something to that effect. GIfT shIfT Theory In order for this approach to work. I’m not one of those guys so don’t treat me like one of them. then it will not work for you. This is just a protection shield. Have you ever talked to someone before and felt like they just wanted something from you? Was it a gut feeling? How often were you right? I bet you were pretty accurate at it. look around you. I’m just going to walk away (I act as if I’m about to leave). Then you will begin to wonder what you’re doing wrong. If you approach with the “I just want to get into your pants” mentality. You will get rejected by women left and right. Come on. doesn’t look at you. Guy: Why are you acting like this? Why can’t you just be yourself.  . The way you think and feel affects the way you interact with people. Talk Girl: Says something rude like “Why are you talking to me”. I’m almost sure. If you’re not going to be real. This stuff is very powerful. Guy: No worries. Now I want to share with you the Gift Shift theory. In order for this approach to work you need to switch the way you see things. I want you to remember this section and read it over and over again. So let’s give this a shot one more time.She’s Rude Or Doesn’t Acknowledge Your Presence Guy: Talk. When you experience that situation. Girl: I’m Michelle.

You are a gift. Knowing this information how does this change the way you’ll view your future interactions? Remember. Take five minutes and imagine that you’re someone she’s been waiting for all her life. I know. She will only find out that it’s you after she’s gotten to know you. You’re the guy she talks about with her best friends. I feel happy knowing that I’m about to make this person’s day. That means you have to barrel through her persona.  . I’ve worked on myself to the point where I just am naturally attractive and interesting to women. I get results because I have something positive to offer. you are. Your job is to take them on an emotional journey with you. Am I conveying who I am in an interesting way? Is she getting to know me or am I just talking out of my ass? TRY THIS OUT Next time you go out to meet women. away from the world they are in right now. She’s read about you in books. You have the upper hand and not the other way around. I know. I want you to do this. you’re giving that gift to her. How would you act if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that if only women knew you. Whenever I talk to people. You can do it too. There’s a catch though. She’s seen you in movies. Your job is to give them an unforgettable experience. you are a gift.It’s simple. She’s been dreaming about you. it sounds sappy but it’s amazingly effective. they would fall for you? Ask yourself that question over and over again. Your job is to provide women with positive emotions. I feel happy. Yes.

The pInG ponG MeTaphor
In my opinion, conversations with women are very similar to playing ping pong or table tennis. The ball just keeps going back and forth across the table. One person hits the ball then the other person hits it back. It’s an ongoing cycle. That’s how conversations should be. Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Someone usually carries the conversational burden more than the other person does. Eventually the conversational ratio should be as close to 50/50, girl talks as much as guy does, but it takes skill to be able to do that. You need to be interesting and interested. I’ll say it two more times because it’s very important. You need to be interesting and interested. You need to be interesting and interested. Making sense so far? Were you ever in a conversation with someone who talked way too much? It’s like you were watching television because you couldn’t contribute to the conversation at all. On the flipside, were you ever in a conversation with someone who just kept asking question after question without really contributing anything at all? Well you need the balance of both. You need to lead the interaction and at the same time, get women to follow your lead. You need to help them invest in the interaction. Not everyone’s socially savvy. Sometimes, you need to make it easy for them to contribute to the interaction. This book help you cultivate the skills you need to be both interesting and interested. 

Go fIrsT prInCIple
“You must become the change you wish to see”- Gandhi In other words, if you think change is needed in a situation, think about changing yourself first before changing everything around you. I want you to look back on all the conversations you had with women that you liked. Here are some questions for you. Were you… Both comfortable, relaxed and at ease? Exchanging fun stories from your lives? Sharing secrets and vulnerabilities with each other? Speaking formally or like friends do? Able to build familiarity and substance in the interaction? Here’s my main point. If you want her to do something, you should do it first. If you want her to start opening up to you, you must open up to her first. It’s your job as a man to lead the interaction. You should lead and expect her to follow. TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation instead of asking a question, make a statement. Instead of saying “Where are you from?” tell them a story about where you’re from. Instead of saying “How are you” say “I’m feeling so happy today, you have no idea why”. See how people respond to you. 

poWer TalK
What you say and how you say it is critical when you’re interacting with someone. A couple of years ago, I remember watching a comedy show. This guy walked on the stage and started making jokes. There was forced laughter here and there but that’s about it. I ended up just looking at my watch impatiently thinking to myself “What time is this show going to end?!” Couple of months later, I watched another comedy show. A couple of minutes into the show, my stomach started to hurt from laughing, tears started falling from my eyes, he got me. I don’t remember laughing so hard in my entire life. The jokes weren’t extremely funny, it was his personality. This is true for everyone out there. Whether you’re a comedian, a salesman, a student, or a friend, people will respond to you based on how you present yourself. Here are some tips to empower yourself. • Avoid hesitation when you talk. Be firm with what you want. For example, instead of saying “Uhm, I was thinking if, uhm, we could go out sometime” say something like “Hey, I’m going shopping this Thursday, It’s going to be a blast, you should tag along”. Don’t flinch. Don’t be nervous. Say it like you would if you’re talking to your 11 year old cousin or something. • Power of ambiguity. Keeping a woman on her toes keeps things challenging in an interaction. Every other guy jumps at the opportunity to hang out with her again. Instead of giving all your cards away try using words like “maybe. We’ll see, I’ll get back to you on that one”. An example would be “Hey, you seem fun, if we’re both available this weekend, then maybe we’ll hang out”. • Avoid over politeness. Being overly polite communicates subordinate status. When you’re communicating with women, you shouldn’t treat them as if they’re a goddess from Venus. If you treat them like royalty, they will act like royalty. Treat them like you would treat your buddy. Don’t be overly polite. 

I make her feel special for the person that she is. Well. I genuinely appreciate her and I am very successful at it because I believe that all women have something beautiful inside of them. it’s a combination of two things CAPTIVATE & CONNECT Captivate her with your personality by building a connection. my next goal is to get to know her on multiple levels. What was familiar was generally safe and approachable. After I’ve captivated a woman with my presence. My goal is to build familiarity and substance all throughout the interaction. I relate to it and appreciate her for it. I want her to remember me when she wakes up the next day. Evolution has hardwired into us the tendency to bond with those who are familiar and wary of those who are unfamiliar. to make it really simple. When I do. I want to know what makes her tick.WhaT To do afTer InITIaTInG The ConversaTIon A lot of guys don’t know what to do after they’ve initiated the conversation. Then we discuss each other’s passions in life and connect on a deeper level.Psychology 101  . I relate to her on the surface then I go a little deep and find out the things that make her tick. I don’t need to know her whole life story. Then I try to build familiarity by connecting on a lot of different topics. I want to find out what makes her special. I do it multiple times. I want to make a mega solid impression so that she won’t stop rambling about me with her best friend the moment our conversation ends. I want mutual appreciation. What was unfamiliar was more often dangerous and threatening.” . So I start out by getting to know her on the surface level. over and over again. you MusT CreaTe a ConneCTIon “It all started with our ancestors. I just want to touch base and build both familiarity and substance with her. What is my goal? I want to convey who I am as a person. Let me go over my structure on connection building.

He’s cool and interesting. she’s trying to figure out who you are as a person. Here’s a system you can use to build an emotional connection: Step 1: Build Familiarity Step 2: Build Substance Step 3: Appreciate Her as a person Step 4: Incorporate A Romantic Spin hoW To ansWer lIGhT rapporT QuesTIons A lot of people I’ve met still don’t know how to convey their personality in their day to day interactions with people. you can build a connection with anyone you meet. No matter what system you use. So let’s break down what usually happens  . There’s a time when you should answer it.I don’t care what anyone else out there thinks but if you can open your mouth and talk. It’s where the magic happens. She wants to find out if you’re real and if you have any depth to you. She’s hooked She becomes so interested that she starts to ask you questions to find out who you are. There’s a time to be cocky and funny and avoid a question that’s thrown your way but should you keep on avoiding it? No. This is what separates you from every other guy that’s tried to meet her. That’s the secret to a successful daytime interaction. She’s trying to figure out if you have more going for you than your initial impression. It’s my favorite part of the interaction. Building an emotional connection is the heart of daytime pick-up. and let her open herself up to you as well. then you create an emotional connection. If you allow this process to happen. Imagine how you would feel in this kind of scenario: A girl has been talking to a cool guy for quite awhile. The problem is most people don’t know how to convey who they are. your main goal is to get to the point in the interaction where you both can just be yourselves. You need to be in that place where both your guards are down and you can just connect on all levels. When she asks you a question.

and building a strong emotional connection.Scenario 1: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: whoa! We’re getting a little ahead of ourselves here. ---------. She may have been attracted to you at first but it won’t last for a very long time. I’ve read ton of stories as a kid (insert something cocky or avoid the question asked) Conclusion: She wanted to get to know you better. being vulnerable with each other. Ideal Scenario: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: So where you from? Guy: Oh… You wouldn’t want to know… It’s extremely cold there… Girl: Where? Guy: I live in the North Pole… It’s so fun swimming with the penguins everyday… It makes me so happy Girl: Ugh… shut up!!! No really where you from? Guy: I actually moved here from LA two months ago. When she gets home. Why? It’s because you’ve only created short term attraction. appreciating and relating with life experiences. ( I talk about LA for a  . She was ready to build an emotional connection but you threw the opportunity away. give it a few days and that attraction will probably fade away. we’ll get to that in a minute… anyway…. Everything is fast paced back in LA. Things are so different back where I’m from.45 minutes later -----------Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: Oh. Real and long lasting attraction comes from building commonalities. She ends up giving up and going home knowing nothing about you.

Like the other day. ask yourself What makes my place different from where I am right now? What’s so unique about my place? What are the fun things to do there? What do I love most about my place? How does it make me feel? What would you recommend for her to do in your city? 2. • It sets the stage for building an emotional connection. You’re not answering her question in a boring way. We were driving through empty green fields and… (insert semi deep and meaningful story here) Conclusion: • You stand out from all the other guys because you differentiate yourself from them. how you ever met someone cool that could just talk about anything under the sun?  . You actually demonstrate a lot of personality by being comfortable sharing your thoughts with her • You lead the conversation. It makes her comfortable and easier to open herself up to you. • It gives her a window of opportunity to see how you view the world and the type of person you are.while then compare it to Tucson) Things are very simple out here. Now. • She knows right off the bat that you’re a good communicator.) Where are you from? When you get this question.) What do you do? What are you really passionate about? What makes you tick? How did it start out? What happened then? What’s so special about what you do and how does it make you feel? Have you ever met someone that just talked about the same thing over and over again? It gets very boring after awhile. I was on my way to a ranch and it was really interesting. It actually gives me time to think about everything going on in life and see the bigger picture. So remember: Never ever give boring answers to simple questions such as Where are you from? What do you do? What’s going on? Tips on how to do that 1.

you’ll never run out of things to say ever again. she’d have one about her spider. If you had a story about guns. Cartoons Movies Big Zoo Water That’s all Alright. If you had a story about your pet hamster. Alright. Once you’ve mastered this. it’s included here for a reason. what’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word elephant? Actually. she’d have one too. Animals Grey Tusk Ivory Africa Jungle Lion King 8. Ok. elephant is just one word. 12. 9. 3. Give me 10 things that come to your mind with each word above. this is what familiarity is all about. Think some more. 4. do the exercise. 10. 2. 7. Here’s the beauty of it. 5. she’d have one too. let’s go one step further. Now that’s 130 things you could potentially talk about. then you’ll never run out of things to say again! 0 . 13. It’s called the association game. 11. If you did the exercise. Don’t tell me you don’t have any experience with at least one of the topics I listed above. Done? Here’s are the things that came to me when I heard the word elephant: 1. let me teach you a helpful exercise here.Like if you had a story about your grandfather. Come on. you have around 130 words. Now. You need to connect on multiple topics. 6. give me 10 things that you can associate with the world elephant? Take your time. A sentence has how many words? Do you see where I’m going here? If you master the art of conversational vibes.

Next time there’s an awkward pause in the conversation. Take advantage of it. Building substance takes the interaction to a whole other level. Building substance solidifies the connection between you. This tool is very powerful. pick a word out. and leadInG WITh your passIons You now know how to build familiarity. Women will feel like they have a lot of things in common with you. Do this until your jaw is numb from speaking too much.TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation with a woman. think back to the previous topic. Use it. It also makes you stand out since it’s something that only close friends do. once you’ve barreled through their persona. Another skill you should focus on is active listening.  . and riff on it.Fitness -Animals buIldInG subsTanCe: aCTIve lIsTenInG. fIndInG her Core value. You see.Hobbies . Most of the things women tell you. are gold. learning how to build familiarity is an essential skill to have. Here are some topics you can explore to build familiarity: -Goals and aspirations -Passions -Ideal vacation -Relationships -Friends -Youth and childhood -Love -Art and Photography -Traveling -Favorite films and music -Concerts and theatres -Family . Let’s get you acquainted with building substance. just pick out one word and riff on it for a minute or two.

Demonstrates interest in her as a person. For example a guy asks: “Who’s your favorite artist? Oh Mariah Carey. Just learn how to listen to her completely without butting in.Expresses understanding of her feelings A couple of basic pointers for active listening: • Rephrase and feedback.Active listening is a habit. feed it back to her. Doing this affirms your understanding and builds dialogue. You have something in common with her. Once you find these underlying motivators. in your own words. to whoever you’re talking to what they have said to you. you should be able to repeat back. But what if you guys don’t like the same artist? Does that mean both of you have nothing in common? No. your job is to find out what makes her tick.  .Ensures understanding of the subject matter. as well as the foundation of effective communication. Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to. • Shut up and listen to her. That’s great if you guys like the same artist. . Always ask her what she means. Don’t answer right away. you should relate to them. and that’s her core value. You see. It will improve your conversation skills tenfold. and how it makes her feel. You need to find out what is the underlying motivator that drives her to do the things she loves to do. me too. Once again this shows her that you understand her and that you’re paying attention to her. Don’t always be eager to fill in the silence when there’s an awkward pause. Finding Her Core Value And Building A Quick Connection A lot of guys try to connect with women on the surface area. we’re so similar”. Doing this will strengthen your understanding of the situation • Summarize what she tells you. You should rephrase what she just told you and. pause for three seconds before answering something. Here are the benefits of active listening: . . As an active listener. in your own words. • Ask questions.

Another example would be a parent disciplining their kids. let me give you an example of social learning theory and conditioning at work. This encourages her to do it more often. They will test you to see how you will respond. opening up to you. and laughing at your jokes. whenever they do something wrong. Women will test you. they get punished. On the other hand. It’s more powerful than relating to her on the surface level. you need to reward her for opening up to you. you just instinctively jerked your hand back. not complying with your request. Social Learning Theory And The Power Of Conditioning Social learning theory states that we learn social behavior by observing and imitating others and by being rewarded or punished. You learned that you shouldn’t touch it again. This applies to women and dating as well. Later on. If you don’t set your standards early on they will step all over you. For example: You should reward her for giving you a compliment. You should punish her for disrespecting you. and you probably learned something afterward. So how do we use this to our advantage? It’s actually very simple.  . Whenever they do something right they get rewarded. But before I explain it. Whatever it was. they’ll be conditioned to do things that would lead to them being rewarded. to see where your boundaries are. You should take time to think about what behaviors you will reward And which ones you’ll punish. and being rude to you. Women gravitate toward positive emotions and move away from the negative ones. early in the interaction. Was there ever a time you got burned by something? Maybe you touched a hot stove or candle. Yes.Relate to those underlying motivators. I want you to rewind and remember your childhood. After you relate with her you should appreciate her for who she is.

It’s one of the most powerful tools in building an emotional connection.  . Involve me and I will carry them forever. What is it you would do for free if you never had to make money again? Emotional Connection Accelerator There are a lot of different ways to accelerate the process of building an emotional connection and my favorite one is regression. Here’s how you do it. I suck her into my world. Having passion is very attractive to women. Here’s a question to help you figure out what you’re really passionate about in life. “Tell me and I may remember. and safety. Before I do let me share this quote with you. I tell her the things I love to do and why I love to them. they don’t convey it in a way that’s interesting to women. Here’s what I call the life story tactic. comfort. Leading with your passion separates you from every other guy that’s tried to hit on her. Not a lot of guys talk about the things that make them tick. It also builds trust. Show me and I will remember.” Remember that you always have to involve her in the interaction. If ever they do. The word regression means moving backwards. Here’s my dirty little secret… I talk about the things I’m passionate about. I won’t get into detail on this topic but I’d like to share with you a very effective technique to build an emotional connection.leadInG WITh your passIons A lot of the so-called “pick-up artist” I’ve met are curious as to how I can captivate a woman by just being myself. Being passionate about your passions (as funny as it sounds) is even more attractive to women.

Trust me on this one. She should know what your standards are. As long as you keep talking she will stand there in front of you. The more emotions the better. You should always move the conversation forward. adventurous. If she walks away. Tools you can use later down the road when you’ve mastered the basics. The beginning includes your childhood and middle school experience. This can take somewhere between ten minutes to sometimes even the whole day. she will not leave. The middle includes your high school and college experience. If a girl says “I have to go” and you say “nice. you can start by asking her about her childhood or talking about yours. meeting you” then she will walk away. Now. She should have an idea of who you are and what you’re about early in the interaction. • Conversational Plowing. She should know the things you love and your pet peeves as well. The end includes your present experience and your future plans. Mix it up. and future. a Couple of effeCTIve ConversaTIonal Tools Here are several topics I’ll discuss briefly. • Standard Interleaving.  . This technique is very powerful and it solidifies the emotional connection instantly. she’s being rude. You can do this directly or through storytelling. mischievous. middle. I want you to come up with at least two to three stories for each phase of you life. • Identity Interleaving. right now. end. She should know your rules on dating and relationships. or sad. How do you turn this into a system? Alright. On the other hand if she says “I have to go” and you ignore the thread and talk about something else. This is an advanced technique I use to quickly convey the things I’m passionate about thirty seconds into the conversation.Your life right now is separated into beginning. and you can call her on it. The key is to exchange stories and go from childhood to future plans. It can be fun.

especially at times when the woman I’m talking to is hard to crack or if I’m in a hurry and I want to build a quick connection. • Preempting objections. etc). etc. This always steers the interaction toward the right path. On Storytelling Storytelling is very powerful if done right. It’s a tool I use once in awhile. adventurous. kissing her. of course. then this time go a little deeper than you were before.g. demands respect. Next. Some examples would be taking her on an instant date. Tell her that you’re sad you met with no mutual friends to introduce you to each other. go light again. Here’s an example of fractionating: Talk about something light. and that’s why you can’t hang out anymore. romantic. story tellers. you need to check your body language. vocal tonality and projection. Always include a romantic spin after building an emotional connection. confident. and. eye contact. or just used to talking people’s ears off. People usually don’t just go up to people and start telling stories. Builds comfort and trust.  . Telling a story builds comfort and trust because you’re opening up to somebody you don’t know. Constantly ask yourself this: What am I trying to communicate? Am I getting my message across? You want to demonstrate good qualities about yourself with the stories you tell people (e. and your non verbal communication to see if you’re communicating all the right things like being comfortable in your own skin. then make her laugh a little bit. then go deeper. • Fractionating. Cold reading helps captivate her and builds familiarity instantly. humorous. When you tell a story you communicate on both levels.• Cold reading. This helps intensify the emotional connection that you’ve built. ambitious. They listen to what you say and how you say it. Try searching that on Google or something. • Romantic spin. trustworthy. protector of the ones you love. talking about fate and destiny. Say this after a high point in the interaction. A good resource for cold read is the Forer’s effect. This is a brilliant way to ease into deeper topics. Why? It’s because learning how to express yourself is the first step in getting good at meeting women. then go a little deep. Well if you’re one of them then you’re on your way to becoming successful. Whatever objections she may have make sure to use them first. Well some do and they’re either super social.

On the other hand. character development. Let’s take for example a comedian and an actor. you can give a guy who’s good at telling stories a very boring and ridiculously horrible story line and he can turn it in to something very interesting. Every time you’re telling a story I want you to ask yourself these questions • Am I passionate about what I’m talking about? • Am I enthusiastic? • Am I paying attention to everyone that’s listening? • Am I relaxed and comfortable? • Is my voice loud enough? • Am I talking slow and clear? • Am I projecting the emotion I need to project through my voice? (If you’re telling a scary story sound scared. Probably the most important part of telling a story is your vocal projection and your delivery. sequencing of events. and emotional projection. the presentation can still bomb. Give him the best script created by the best minds in the world and when performance day comes. engaging the senses. What’s the difference between these two guys? The way they present it and he way they deliver.So let’s get to the important part How do you make a good story? Here are some terms that are important in storytelling and I’ll discuss only a couple of them Opening line. It can still suck. if it’s suspense then use a lot of pausing) • Am I pausing at the right times? • Am I using a wide range of facial expressions?  .

Men usually communicate with logic while women value emotions more. You want her to be able to relate to you. Did your parents ever tell you about embarrassing stories when you were kid? Bookstore girl: Yeah. interesting name. Grungey10: Lisa. “out of nowhere”. as much as possible when you’re telling a story. Bookstore girl: Oliver. Amanda. 5. who you were with.So here’s a quick formula for a spontaneous story. “then out of the blue”. it gets bruised easily. Well can you believe that my name was supposed to be Amanda? Bookstore girl: Amanda?! (laughs) Grungey10: Yes.) How did it make you feel? What lessons did you learn? 6.. 4. I’m Oliver. here’s a ConversaTIon I had In The pasT Grungey10: Hey. what you could see. Bookstore girl: (laughs)  .) Then slowly insert stuff like “and then I realized”. It’s something they can relate too. I’m Lisa.. 1. a light bulb just popped up in my head. Now stop laughing at my baby name. smell. Speaking of names. hear. I get that every time there’s a family get together.) Describe what you were doing at that time.)* Then ask her* Does that ever happen to you? (throwing the ball back at her) You want to talk about emotions because you want to communicate on her level. Nice meeting you. (pause) 2. 3. and “surprisingly”..) The climax of your story. You want to engage all her senses. Grungey10: Exactly. etc. the funniest/craziest/most embarrassing/ wildest thing just happened to me yesterday/today/couple minutes ago.) OMG. “all of a sudden”. feel.

all right.. my mom always whips out the album with me dressed in a pink room all dressed in pink. apparently. thank you very much. when my mom was 6 months pregnant. Bookstore girl: (laughs hysterically) Grungey10: No. Bookstore girl: (Continues giggling) <Now I’m going to throw the ball back at her so she can invest more in the interaction> So what were you like as a kid? Was there anything your parents gave you a hard time about? Bookstore girl: Hmmmm. Anyways..Grungey10: Anyways..  . after the sonogram. Bookstore girl: OMG (laughs) Grungey10: I know! Isn’t it funny? So what actually ended up happening was. it’s on the tip of my tongue. the doctor’s like “Ma’am. we’re getting there. welcome to the family!” Bookstore girl: (Eyes get wide) Really?! That’s the funniest thing I’ve ever heard.... she actually decked the whole room out with a “My little princess” theme in mind.” Then she slowly unfolds the towel and then all of a sudden. Hello. What happened next? Grungey10: All right.. The moment of truth. we don’t see anything moving down there.. I remember him teasing me a lot about being a tomboy back in middle school.. Hello. just for me.. Look at you. So here it comes. it’s my beautiful little princess Amanda. Grungey10: My mom got so excited that she started decorating one whole room in the house..... the one that detects the gender. Say hello to mommy.. Every time a friend comes over to the house. Not so much my parents but my grandfather and I had a really strong bond when I was growing up. You know what I’m talking about right? Bookstore girl: You mean a sonogram? Grungey10: There you go! Good girl (briefly touches her shoulder). which I do not find very funny. and even a pink welcome banner hanging from the wall saying “Princess Amanda. So the room was all pink! It had pink stuff toys. pink crib. My mom holds me with tears in her eyes saying “Wow. this is not a laughing matter.. she went to the doctor and she had this machine. Get this.. uhm... I don’t think you understand. I was born and the doctor hands me over to my mom wrapped in a white towel. Badoink!!! A moving “thing” down there?! She was devastated! I never heard the end of it.. Hello. your first born will be a girl”..

I went through that whole phase. That was back then. Grungey10: Why would you live in Africa? Is it because you want to help out? Or do you just want to explore the place? Bookstore girl: I guess a little bit of both. I could start building more familiarity by talking about my sisters. I’ve changed a lot since then. for a year. and at the end of the day. where would you live? Bookstore girl: I’d live in Africa.> buIldInG faMIlIarITy & subsTanCe Grungey10: If you could live in any city in the world. I was also a very competitive kid. you see improvements in their lives. how does it make you feel? 0 . I’ve always wanted to make a difference in the world.> Bookstore girl: (smiles as she recalls) Back then I was a boy hater. What do you accomplish when you’ve made a difference in the world? Let’s say you’re in Africa and you get to educate the kids there. You see. I can pick any topic and start rolling with it. < I have a choice. I can also build more substance by exploring what made her change but I chose to explore the subject of traveling.> Grungey10: Boy hater? I better watch out for you now. < She gave me multiple topics to choose from. <I’m going to build more substance now> Grungey10: I find it really interesting that you love helping people out.Grungey10: (nods head but keeps quiet) <It’s very powerful to pause and not be eager to fill in the silence in a conversation. Bookstore girl: Oh shut it (hits me in the arm). before responding to her. try pausing for three seconds after she finishes her sentence. You’ll notice that women have a lot more to say when they don’t get interrupted. I might not even be safe here (smiles). If you have sisters then you’d know what I’m talking about. As an exercise. It’s fulfilling for me. At the same time. I love going to a new place and learn everything about the culture there.

Bookstore girl: That’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever told me in the longest time (blushes). It may take me an hour. Grungey10: Bookstore girl. I don’t think enough people appreciate you for that. You’re kidding right? I just have the biggest thing for artistic people. I totally understand what you mean. It’s a rare thing. Bookstore girl. songwriting is very much like painting. It’s a stress reliever for me and at the same time I get to express myself through my work. You see them working with the “work”  . I just relax on my bed. do the things they’re passionate about in life. This is when the magic begins. and that’s usually making a living or going to school. In the process they lose in touch with who they are and what they’re all about. and feel good about myself. Grungey10. They see things from a different perspective. It’s the best job I’ve ever had. We both put are minds and hearts into our work. It’s something I’m really passionate about. playback the song I just made.> Bookstore girl: Yeah. They go to work or school and they change to fit the environment they’re in. < I’m going to start flirting and appreciating her> Grungey10: Wait a minute here.. Grungey10: What are you passionate about? Bookstore girl: Well. A lot of people might think it’s easy for us. I love painting. You love traveling and you’re an artist too?! This is way too perfect. You see a lot of people are imprisoned by their day to day activities. They usually just live their lives with one thing in mind. I solidify the attraction by giving here a sincere compliment. Artists are very creative. <After creating familiarity and substance.Bookstore girl: It makes me feel like I’m on top of the world. or sometimes weeks to put a song together and it pays off bigtime. I get the exact same feeling of satisfaction every time I finish writing a song. Not a lot of people understand what it takes to do what we do. I better leave before I start to fall in love with you. There must be a catch here. It’s something that I got into back when I was still seven. let me tell you something.. I guess satisfaction would be a better way to phrase it. A lot of people have forgotten the meaning of what it is to be passionate about something. At the end of the day. Grungey10: You know what. a day. and for the most part they’re real. You see. Only a few people actually live their lives to the fullest and at the same time.

I found that timing is very important when it comes to getting a woman’s number. You always want to leave on a positive note. I’d highly advise everyone to try it for even a week. It’s actually something that I’ve been working on for awhile now. Some give their number away to get rid of the guy. I’d like to actually get to know the girl first before I even get her number. Then they go home and hit the sack. When you leave right after you get her phone number. it doesn’t even guarantee that you’ll get to see her again. It’s the same routine over and over again. It’s the best thing ever. Girls give their numbers to guys for various reasons. • Don’t leave after you get her number.face on. they still have control of the interaction. Some give their number away because it boosts their ego. One  . <Conversational cycle continues> The arT of GeTTInG phone nuMbers & seTTInG up daTes After hundreds of interactions. Well I go through my day-to-day activities with the biggest smile on my face because I get to be myself the whole day. Normally. No matter how smooth you pull it off. This may take somewhere between 10 minutes to two hours. Do not answer”. Some give their number away because it’s fake. I’ve noticed that most guys make their exit after they get a woman’s number. I realized something very important. If I’ll see the girl again then I won’t even get her number. I’d like to share with you some of the things I learned. In their minds. Women give their phone numbers for a variety of reasons. Coffeeshop girl: I know exactly what you’re talking about. it makes it seem that was all you were after. When you get a woman’s number. As a matter of fact. I suggest staying for an extra five or ten minutes before you leave. Some give their number away with no intention of ever answering your call. • You can return her number to her every time she does something to turn you off. Getting a number doesn’t really guarantee success. Some give their number away and save your number as “Weird & Creepy Guy. they instantly know what’s going on. But before I even get into that. Don’t be afraid to test new things out. Numbers mean nothing if you haven’t done your job well.

You job is to get her to want to give her number to you. Whenever they give me an excuse such as “Sorry. Pacing can be used to address future objections. It’s a downward spiral that leaves you lower than you were before. you like classical art? That’s so cool. once again. Some of the lines I’ve used are “Let’s exchange contact information” “Give me your number” “I really had fun talking to you. And some girls will simply just lose your numbers. • Don’t try to bargain if she doesn’t give her number. Some girls might like you but forget to call you. but unfortunately I have to get going. would be useful after getting her number. Not unless. She’ll probably flake on you anyway even if she gave you her number. I found that it’s very effective to display more interest in her. but since there appears to be an issue with it. It’s not going anywhere. That’s my cue to see where I am in the interaction. At this point she will either ask for my number or giggle. If she doesn’t want to give you her number than just let it go. Guess what that does? It drastically decreases the chance of anything happening by 50%! Why. I just thought you were an interesting person and that you’d make a cool buddy.little trick you can do is to give her back her number every time she says something you don’t like. At the same time it demonstrates that you have standards. I usually say something like “Wow. At times when she tries to impress you. I so have to hang out with you…” then I just continue talking about something else. So it’s best always best to exchange number because it gives both of you the chance to call each other up. It’s a really neat way of communicating “I could care less if I get your number or not”. I’m just going to leave now. you leave it all up to her to make the move and give you a call back. you’re really skilled at using the phone to your advantage. When you reach that point in the interaction. or after an emotion filled moment. When you give her your number. any line will work. Some girls will throw your number away. because not all girls will call you up. • Pacing to avoid flaking. • Simple yet effective lines. It’s better to exchange numbers than to just give her your number. girl refuses. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times. If she still gives some excuse I say “Don’t get a big head now. • It’s better to exchange numbers. at the peak of an interaction. Some girls just never call guys up. I discovered that pacing would.”  . • Tell her you want her number but don’t get it. how can we continue this conversation?” • Objection blaster. I have a boyfriend” I usually just stare at her all confused and say “Yeah… and?”. Guy ask for girls number. then guy tried to bargain. make you laugh. Any line will work if you say it at the right time.

Just act like it’s normal. It’s good to set up some rules right from the beginning. If you don’t have any. make sure to end the conversation on a high note” It doesn’t get better than this. What more can you ask for? We do this every Wednesday. my friends and I love to bowl at Golden Pins.• Tell her exactly how it’s going to be. trust me. Tell her what time you’ll call her and how to respond to you over the phone. It will really communicate that you have more important things to do. They all work. Have you ever gone cosmic bowling?! It’s the most fun thing in the world. How long should you wait before you call? This sounds familiar doesn’t it? There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to the best time to call.  . make sure to let her know you’ll be calling in the next couple of days” You must be wondering which strategy works best. you’re not some weird psychotic girl right? Cool. but wait a minute. It will communicate that you have a life and that you are not needy” “You should call her on the same day so that she gets comfortable talking to you. you should come join us. you’re pretty cool. It’s fun”. every Wednesday. then you owe me vanilla flavored ice cream on a cone…” You can go anywhere with this technique. This technique has worked well for me. It’s not everyday that I meet someone that I can just be real with. That’s it. If all else fails. Listen. Then make it a point to be the first one to hang up or pretend that someone else is on the other line. Here’s a couple “You should wait at least three days before you call her. I’ll call you just once… and leave a message once. Stuff like “Ok. You’ll come off way cooler. and on top of that you get to bowl. 80’s music. I prefer to make plans before leaving the interaction. believe me I’ve tried. When you do answer I expect a really cool joke from you. Go call her! And if she doesn’t pick up then call up two more times” “You should call her the day after you get her number. It really depends on the situation. “You should call her after a week or two. They have these huge crystal disco lights. I really hate playing phone tag. • Finalize your plans before you leave. It usually goes something like this “You know what. After you talk to her. My suggestion would be to try everything until you find the one that works best for you.

Let’s say I’ve collected around 12 solid numbers in two weeks. and emotional connection that’s been built all throughout the interaction. Give it a shot for two weeks then switch. there’s that one girl that never picks up her phone. in order to find out which strategy worked best. See which ones work best for you. What do I mean by solid? I’ve spent an average of about 45 minutes to 2 hours with them. I would say two out of every four girls answered on the first call. Occasionally. Let me ask you this… What’s your strategy? Let me suggest this… Try everything out.Here is a simple strategy. That includes multiple dates within that day. That’s pretty good considering the fact that I’ve only got so much free time on my hands. The others eventually responded after my follow up routine. Traditional Method Call her after three days Space your calls out and have at least three to four days in between them Ask her out on the first or second call This method works best on girls within your social circle. Aggressive Method Call the numbers up the day you get them You can call the next day and the day after to follow up Call at unpredictable hours of the day Varying time limit on each call Ask her out later on For some reason this method worked best on cold approaches.  . There’s no rush to call her up soon because you’ll see her over and over again. I used in the past.

8 TIps for an unforGeTTable fIrsT daTe
The tips I’m about to share with you are priceless. It took me years to figure some of them out. Most guys don’t know what to do on a first date. Don’t be generic. “Would you like to go to dinner and a movie with me sometime?” I don’t want to hear that coming out of your mouth anytime soon. OK? That’s what every other guy does! The last thing you want is to be like everyone else. There are lots of other things to do besides that. Save that idea for a later date. Something you’re passionate about. Are you passionate about sports? Singing? Shooting guns? Surfing? Art? Rollerblading? Anything at all? Bring her in to your world. Do the things you’re passionate about with her, on a first date. The best part about is that you can teach her how to do these things, if she doesn’t know how. Accessible- You don’t want to take her to the mountains located two hours from you. You want somewhere near and accessible. Fun & Exciting. Some of the best dates I’ve had were in amusement parks. It’s fun. It’s exciting. It provides the both of you with the same experience you can bond on. Plus, the emotions you experience will bring the two of you closer to each other. Unpredictable. Don’t tell her where you’re going. Tell her it’s a surprise. Get back to your place early on. Find an excuse to get back to your place early on. Your goal is to make her feel comfortable and to get that step out of the way. I do this by saying “These shoes are killing me, I just need a second…” drive to your house and say “Alright, I’ll give you a quick tour, we can only stay for five minutes cause we’re running on a schedule”. I go in the house, change my shoes, and rush her out of the house after giving her the tour. I don’t crowd her space. I don’t go for the kiss. I just relax and really just give her a tour of the house. This serves two purposes. Makes her trust me more and gets her comfortable in my house. Go to the supermarket. Take her with you to do groceries. Two techniques you can use. You can pick up a cookbook and have her pick up ingredients with you so she can help you cook. Another thing I like to do is to get some ice cream. Unfortunately I have to get it back to the house before it melts. AHA! Either way, you end up going back to your house or hers. 

Ideas For Second Dates Theme parks The beach Picnics Shooting range Cooking classes Sporting events Grocery shopping Flying kites in the park Comedy clubs Dance lessons Art galleries Rollerblading Go cart Wine tasting Wall climbing

on CreaTInG a sexual vIbe
Creating a sexual vibe gets her ready for the kiss. You must learn how to project sexuality. Sexuality can be projected by the way you talk, look at her, touch her, and the way you present yourself. It’s mostly non-verbal communication. This is the next level you need to master. Here are some of the ways you can project a sexual vibe. The way you look at her. Look at her in that sexual “You know what’s about to happen” kind of way. You can do stuff like staring at her eyes while biting your lower lip then looking back at your eyes. You need to be able to turn on your bedroom eyes and sexual smile in a snap of a finger. The way you talk to her. Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Lower the volume of your speech. Try speaking like you’re saying something really profound. Whisper in her ear at some point in the interaction. The way you touch her. Hold her hand at key points in the interaction. It’s important to have some kind of body contact. Begin to face her directly. Place your hand in her inner leg and gently stroke it. Knees or feet touching each other. Stroke her hair while looking at her lips. Incorporating Pausing. Pause in between words to create a sexual and intriguing vibe. 

I Can’t Believe I’m Sharing This With You I came up with a strategy to project sexuality quickly. As a matter of fact, I only teach this in my Day Game University Boot Camp. So let me ask you just one favor. Please don’t teach this method to anyone. Ok, maybe a friend or two, but no more than that. Deal? Good, now that we got that out of the way. Here’s what I call the Airplane Method I want you to think about the two hottest women in the world. It can be an actress, model, friend, or make believe women. Don’t continue reading unless you have your two hottest women. Now, imagine that you’re in a private jet plane. You own the plane. It’s yours. You’re relaxing and leaning back with your feet stretched comfortably. Your pants are down and one of the hottest girls is sucking your penis while the other one is sucking your balls. Now how do you feel? I really want you to put yourself in this situation so you know what I’m talking about. Now let’s say someone calls you over the phone. How will you talk to them? Would it be fast? Or all slow and sexual? Here’s how I learned this technique. A couple of years ago, I met my good friend Asian playboy, who specializes in picking up women in bars and clubs. When this guy spoke, he just had this seductive and sexual presence and for the longest time I couldn’t figure out how he did it. Until one day, I thought to myself, what could this guy be thinking? I mean he gets laid a lot, and he’s good at what he does. What’s his secret? Then it suddenly occurred to me. AHA! He must be thinking about being in an airplane with two hot women going down on him. That’s probably what it is! There’s no other explanation I can think of! Thus, the airplane method was born. Props to Asian playboy. TRY THIS OUT Next time, before you go for the kiss, you should try the airplane method and talk all sexual for 5-10 minutes. This builds the stage up for the kiss. 

I approach the girl I want right away. froM Coffee shop. If she’s walking away from me. Do you know that moment when you run out of words to say and your eyes are locked on hers? Next time that happens. superMarKeT To The bedrooM: The naTural proGressIon There’s a natural progression of how I like to do things. • Nothing else exists. Women are eager for the kiss as much as you are. let the whole world just fade away. The best part about this approach is that you don’t need words. It’s almost too obvious to meet. and you know that it’s time. You usually feel butterflies in your stomach. and connection as I need before I try to escalate things further. you’ll start to get a feel of EXACTLY when you should go for it. Here are some important pointers that will be helpful for you. Slowly move in for the kill. If she’s walking. Nobody else. don’t look away. • Explore her eyes. It’s just you and her that exist. After you get into that situation. There’s a window of opportunity that opens up sometime in the interaction. Nothing else matters. quite a number of times. early on. Here’s a sample progression I’ve used in the past.2.3 and if she’s still lookg at you. • You don’t need words. Start looking deeply at her eyes. Mall. if you play your cards right. while you slowly tilt your head. I make her stop to talk to me. It’s something you’ll learn to do. I built as much comfort. I make sure she hears me running towards  . You should kiss her before the day ends. In that moment. then that’s your cue to go for a kiss. I want you to ccount 1. • Put her hair behind her ears. Put her hair behind her ear and lightly stroke the side of her face. • Three second rule. that it’s going to be a sexual relationship.When & hoW To KIss her Kissing on the first day sets the stage. investment. First.

relax and discuss deep topics is when you’re sitting down. I usually talk about deeper topics when I’m sitting down. it’s grocery day today” and then we head out to the supermarkets. I’m dialing this number. I’d prefer to see how far I can take it. and then I stop her and make her turn around to talk to me. Before entering the door to my house. After I establish some kind of connection. I ask her to sit down with me. Let’s go grab something to eat. Let’s go…” she usually complies. We talk more. I know it’s going to be hard for you. punch the number 9-1-1 in and say “Look at this number. we go back to my place to prepare dinner. I pull out my phone. All these crazy things you’d do when you were young. I usually say something like “My legs are dying. I’m going to sit down over there. Sometimes I even take them on an instant movie date where we sneak out in the middle of the movie and go watch another movie. call it a day. If she’s inside her car. 0 . I do stuff like walk around the mall with her. I say something like “I’m really glad I met you. like couples do. play arcade. Get to know each other a little bit and begin to open up. and then set up another date with her. Tell you what. I will not tolerate disrespect and sexual harassment especially from women. It varies. I knock on the window and start talking to her. but just try hard to resist the urge ok? I’m not that easy” It’s a little funny piece that takes the tension out of the scenario. The perfect time to lean back. This usually demonstrates that I’m fearless and exciting. with no mutual friends to introduce us to each other. At other times. If at anytime you even slightly try to grab my ass… it’s over. after we buy groceries.” We go some place to eat. Sometimes. You get the point. We prepare dinner together. You’re not going to be one of those awesome girls that I meet and never see again. I just kiss her. I say “Oh. I’m sorry we met like this. I’m hungry. It’s pretty rare to meet someone you can just be real with. After I’ve established enough investment on her part.her. getting ready to leave. So. Someone you can just talk to about anything and everything. I almost forgot. then it becomes comfortable. and shop for clothes. After all this. After eating I make it a point to do other things. I discovered that if you make fun of uncomfortable situations.

I hate to put you down but. We eventually start kissing and rolling over the bed.  . In that moment. and give her space to chase. I treat her the same way I would treat my buddy. I play the frame that “I’m a good boy. but I’m feeling so good. she’s way too invested and aroused to even pull back. I act as if everything is normal. I jump right into my bed and I tell her “Goodnight. she usually ends up doing just that.From here on I just build as much tension as I can. before she even has a chance to do so. I always pull away first and give her an excuse why we should stop. From here we start to cuddle. increase her desire. Here’s the key piece of the puzzle. I pump up her emotions by saying things like “I know what you’re thinking. From this point.. At the same time. I don’t put out that easily. and I need to stop before it gets really far”. see you tomorrow”. I do this a couple of times till clothes start to come off. it should be a done deal. Then I learned that if you just leaned back.. For you. I’m off to bed. I pull away and pretend to sleep. All I am is a big piece of tease”. After that’s done. At this point my back is turned toward her and I start to do fake snores. she’s usually not sure whether I like her or not. I pull of childish behavior like initiating pillow and water fights. When she reaches her boiling point and all the clothes are off. Just minutes after it gets really hot and heavy. I just unleash the beast and take full control of the situation. Then later on in the night. At this point. I used to try to seduce her and touch her as much as I could the moment she walked through the door.

second dates. getting her back to your house) Stage 4: Beyond the pick-up. social) Stage 3: Learning how to handle logistics (getting her number.Words of WIsdoM There are four stages you will go through in your journey to get this part of your life handled. going on an instant date. you will probably wind up somewhere else.” Where are you in your life right now? What are your goals? Long term and short term? Create a plan Don’t give up until you see results Who you are is the product of the past. (phone game. physical. and managing relationships)  Tips On How to be Happy Be optimistic and outgoing (positivism) Have close friendships and meaningful relationships (Build your social circle) Work or leisure that engage your skills (fun time) Have something to believe in (foundation) Sleep well and exercise (taking care of yourself) Having a high self esteem (healthy relationship with self) “ If you don’t know where you are going.  . You need to become a master of all four stages Stage 1: Becoming Social and Expressing your personality Stage 2: Learning how to make her invest in the interaction (emotional. Who you will become depends on the things you do today. time.

Balance Is Key In order to achieve happiness and live up to your full potential. you must become congruent with the three main aspects in your life: Be good at what you do Enjoy what it is you do Feel a sense of fulfillment while you do it  .

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