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22906440 Daytime Pick Up Revealed

22906440 Daytime Pick Up Revealed

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Daytime Pick-Up Revealed

The Art of Meeting, Connecting and Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls, College Campuses, and Anywhere Under the Sun!
2006 All Rights Reserved 

IntroductIon A Word on consIstency GettInG the Most FroM thIs MAnuAl WArnInG!

Table of ConTenTs

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Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle 8 WhAt Is dAy GAMe? 8 An eye opener on cold ApproAchInG 9 WelcoMe to WoMen’s everydAy reAlIty 10 creAtInG A vIsIon 11 ActInG on your plAn 12 4 steps to IncreAse the eFFectIveness oF GoAl settInG 13 IntroductIon to the 8 essentIAl dAyGAMe FActors 14 Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS FActor 1: Inner strenGth FActor 2: IdentIty FActor 3: lonG terM And short terM vAlue FActor 4: eFFectIve coMMunIcAtIon FActor 5: eMotIonAl connectIon FActor 6: coMFort & trust FActor 7: loGIstIcs FActor 8: InvestMent Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS, rAcking up dAteS, And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndset For MeetInG WoMen Where to Meet WoMen Be In tune WIth the enerGy level crAsh course In stArtInG conversAtIon WIth WoMen BreAKInG doWn the opener deAlInG WIth contInGencIes GIFt shIFt theory the pInG ponG MetAphor 

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Go FIrst prIncIple poWer tAlK WhAt to do AFter InItIAtInG the conversAtIon you Must creAte A connectIon hoW to AnsWer lIGht rApport QuestIons BuIldInG suBstAnce: ActIve lIstenInG, FIndInG her core vAlue, And leAdInG WIth your pAssIons leAdInG WIth your pAssIons A couple oF eFFectIve conversAtIonAl tools here’s A conversAtIon I hAd In the pAst BuIldInG FAMIlIArIty & suBstAnce the Art oF GettInG phone nuMBers & settInG up dAtes 8 tIps For An unForGettABle FIrst dAte on creAtInG A sexuAl vIBe When & hoW to KIss her FroM coFFee shop, MAll, superMArKet to the BedrooM: the nAturAl proGressIon Words oF WIsdoM WrAppInG It All up

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2. So I came up with a manual that anyone. or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up. there were no resources on meeting women outside of the “bars and clubs” context. Over the years. There were no gurus. I’ve developed a step by step system that will allow anyone. quite frankly. I had to learn how pick up women from scratch. hanging out with guys that were good with women. at that time. and tactics on meeting women during the daytime. and perseverance to become successful with women. regardless of age and experience. I want you to succeed now. would understand. What you’re about to read is a product of years of trial and error. I really had no other option.000 pages? Yes. and college campuses. streets. I’ve compressed it all into this book. can benefit from this manual. I just needed to know how to operate in the field. I learned the natural [**hard?**] way.000 pages filled with discoveries. I’ve piled up all the useful information that I’ve discovered in my pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups. I came up with over 2.InTroduCTIon First of all. coffee shops. In the process. books. it can be overwhelming. Back then. Anyone. I don’t want you to take a year to see results. It didn’t stop me though.  . and trial and error. I know there’s a lot of information out there and. dedication. Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you’ve absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book. Worst of all. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part of my life handled. I learned from my past failures. videos. theories. by choice. After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls. with the right combination of passion. I want to congratulate you. beaches. It was a long and painful process but. even my 8-year-old cousin. You’ve taken the first step toward improving yourself.

Day in day out. You can have the best techniques. and drive within yourself to see this through. and you will not be figuring out this part of your life forever . and the best coach out there.or will you continue to be an “average Joe” for 70 more years? Which path will you take? It’s time to make a decision. You must find the determination. without fail.  . passion. Now. First of all. So now. and choose wisely. this book isn’t some magic pill that will solve all your problems overnight. If you don’t get this part of your life handled right now. There are many ways to achieve your goal. I’ve talked to hundreds of people who have successfully transformed their dating lifestyle.only a few months! This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself. I promise you won’t regret it. You won’t be in college forever. You’ll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn. Eventhough they were from different walks of life and trained differently. would you be willing to experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to achieve the lifestyle of your dreams . consistently. It doesn’t work that way. I want you to sit back. then when will you? Treat this like going to college to get a degree. it’s all worthless. Over the past three years. there was always one common denominator. make a stand. the best system. but you will never reach it unless you consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other. a Word on ConsIsTenCy Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency. and without excuses. You’re about to begin your journey. and keep an open mind. relax. but without consistency. This manual is my helping hand to all those guys who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day.There’s a catch though… You have to want it. You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in this area of your life. they each followed their pre-determined plan.

practice it! Don’t go jump right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you learn here. would when you’re trying to develop a skill. I want to know what you think. comments. You need the right information and the ability to put that information into practice. Keep practicing.I want you to approach this as you. if you want to become competent. and using it until you have it all down! Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas. so be prepared. GeTTInG The MosT froM ThIs Manual There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. you will need in the future. It’s a repetitive process that will propel you toward success. ever be satisfied with just learning this stuff. or just a simple “Hi” note if you will. It’s similar to learning a sport. The more you practice. You need to go out there and practice the things you learn. I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won’t be enough. Come back and read the individual section from time to time. You need to practice several times a week. Some of them will be helpful to your current situation. the better you become. complaints. reading. Read. and integrate the information you learn. You can drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect. Don’t ever. Read through it once or twice and absorb whatever you can. Treat this book as a reference or encyclopedia. I’ll constantly be throwing new concepts at you. Most of them. absorb.com Let’s Rock n Roll!  .

daytimepickup. distribute. you agreed to the statement on the bottom of the homepage of my website that stated: “©2007. and it should be used for personal entertainment purposes only.  .WarnInG! This book is copyright 2007. You are responsible for your own behavior.. www. steal. distribution. Now that we’re finished with the warning. I will have my attorney contact you and make you regret what you did. It is illegal to copy. let’s learn how to be successful with women during the daytime. If you try to copy.captivatetoconnect. Count on it.com. nor Captivate to Connect. When you purchased this book.. All Rights Reserved. I regularly and actively have my team search the internet for people who violate my copyrights. By purchasing this book. with all rights reserved. com.” I expect you to abide by these rules. or to contribute to the copying. or creating of derivative works of this book. or create derivative works from this book in whole or in part. or distribute all or any part of my book or this web page without permission. LLC assume any liability for the information contained herein. Neither www. and none of this book is to be considered legal or personal advice. you agree to the following: You understand that the information contained on this page and in this book is an opinion.

and believe me. then day game just might be the answer. I’m sure you wanted to accomplish something. I’ll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before the approach. Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands. they roam around malls. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day? If you answered yes to any one of those. beaches. ”What Did You Do About It? Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by? If you didn’t do anything.  . I have yet to meet someone who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that catches his eye. outside of bars and clubs. and have the possibility of starting a relationship with them. The best thing about it is that YOU could potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how. get them on dates. it’s a skill set. build an emotional connection. supermarkets. Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman. and how I’ve used this information to solidify my game and make myself more successful with women. It’s not luck. WhaT Is day GaMe? Have you ever experienced seeing “your type” of girl walk down the street? Most likely you have. they are rare. and coffee shops every single day. have fun and a whole list of other reasons.Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle In this section. relax. What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me. then that’s normal. The question is. as most may think. Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday? Women of all types of beauty are not hard to find. shop. I’ve met a couple of men that can pull it off.

I tried and experimented with a lot of different techniques. more often than not. and that’s when I learned something… If my initial approach was unique. I didn’t even know their name. I should know. let’s get back to my story… After failing to produce results in my job. they’d just continue walking. trying to get people to buy our products. people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had to say. I’ve had a history of being a salesman. and it did make sense. is their ability to communicate with people. But. If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the customer. It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a chance to get to know the customer.What if I told you that it’s possible to approach these beautiful strangers and have something positive result from almost all of your interactions? Would you think I’m nuts? an eye opener on Cold approaChInG Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger. Communication is key in everything that we do. I’ve spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth in the middle of a mall. then there would be no need for salespeople. Heck. What does sales have to do with being successful with girls? Everything. I learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must. Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What happened?  . then people usually gave me a bit of their time. Several years ago. do you want to sign up for our service today?” yada yada yada. Now. the one thing that’s similar with salespeople and guys that are successful with women. I’ll talk more about this in the upcoming chapters. Occasionally. If you think about it. I’d always be shouting “Hey sir.

If you can relate to this scenario then. It’s not their fault and I certainly don’t blame them for being rude sometimes. Make or Break Moment The first couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or break moment. The first thing you need to do is find a way to bypass her social filters. WelCoMe To WoMen’s everyday realITy Women get approached or hit on all the time. Looking back. isn’t it” Chances are you reply with some sort of answer. Then the conversation comes to an end and you either say “Nice talking to you” or just simply turn around and carry on with your business. why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were you interested in getting to know them as a person? Chances are it was out of politeness. What does that mean? You’ve got to approach her in a way that she’s not accustomed. They’ve developed tolerance to men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction. Your goal is to get her into a state of mind where she’s susceptible to be led. depending on your mood. 0 .. There are a lot of whackos out there..You probably heard them open with a familiar line like: “Hey what’s going on?” “Nice weather…” “It’s a pretty long line. How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off? I’m sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers that you say when you get the same question. It’s probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because it opens the door for escalating the conversation.

will be focused on perfecting the first few minutes of the interaction. you should have one. Don’t skip this part. open the door for you a little bit. You’ll find it very useful on your journey. if you’ve got your whole presence and communication skills down. CreaTInG a vIsIon Do you know where you’re heading? If you don’t then you might want to start brainstorming. there are no second chances if you mess it up. Most of the people you meet out there will have a very short attention span. We all have things to do and people to see. That’s just setting yourself up for failure. If you have a vision of what you want your life to be then that is your incentive to work harder. But don’t expect them to be all over you after you’ve initiated the conversation. If you don’t have one.It’s like going to someone’s house and pushing the doorbell. I’m going to go with the assumption that everyone’s time is special. So I want you to take sometime to answer these questions.  . If it’s something you really want then you WILL achieve it. Most women will give you somewhere between three seconds and three minutes to captivate their interest. A lot of your time. If you want to be successful with women. there’s one thing you need to do first. A lot of people out there are like chickens running around with their heads cut off. Just because someone opens the door. it doesn’t mean you get to go in and do whatever you want. They have no goals set for themselves. That’s your window of opportunity. when you first start out. Have a pen and paper ready. It gives you an overall direction so you know where you’re going. You have to set a goal for yourself. Goal setting is very important for various reasons. It motivates you and keeps you on track. then by the end of this section. It will be your first road block to success. Women will usually. It’s always a good feeling knowing you’re working toward something that will benefit you in the long run.

in 10 years. what do you really want to accomplish? You’re obviously investing a lot of your time and effort into learning how to be successful with women. Once you’ve figured out what you want. it’s potential power. aCTInG on your plan Okay you have your plan. weekly. These questions should aid you in coming up with a solid vision of who you want to be and what steps you need to take in order to accomplish that. I know it’s a good feeling to have so much information that your brain begins to swell. where do you see yourself? What kind of person will you be by then? What kind of girl/girls will be with you? What’s your lifestyle going to be? What’s the difference between who you are now and who you want to be? • How long do you think it will take you to accomplish your overall goal? Have you set daily. One piece of advice though: Information isn’t power. and monthly goals to ensure that you’re constantly improving you skill set? How much time and effort do you need to put into this? What strategies do you have in order to stay consistent and committed to getting this part of your life handled? That’s just for starters. now what?! Anything on paper is just writing unless you put it to work.  . What’s in it for you in the long run? Like.• Realistically speaking. the next step is to stick to your plan no matter what happens until you start to see results.

I want to have the ability to date three new girls that I meet in the mall. For example: “I was able to talk to several girls today. I’ll try to go on as many dates as I can so I can get experience under my belt. 1. Get all the right information that you need in order to get this part of your life handled. For example: “In order for me to be able to date three new girls a week. I will surround myself with the kind of women I’d like to date and learn how to be comfortable in their presence.” Or “If I want a hot girlfriend I should be more experienced with hot women. What steps are needed in order to accomplish your plan? How long is it going to take and what does it require of me? Make sure to always stick to that plan. I need to interact with seven new girls three times a week for six months. If you haven’t done this by now. and has a kick ass personality”. I’ll be able to hold a conversation with a girl for 30 minutes.”  . I’ll make sure that they can give me personalized and individualized attention. Make sure you use this information as a guideline and makes sure you’re on the right track.4 sTeps To InCrease The effeCTIveness of Goal seTTInG Know exactly what you want to accomplish. After six months. Or I can look for someone qualified to help me out. After getting advice. I should always be pushing the interaction as far as it can go every time. I’m going to look for resources out there that will solve the problem for me. every single week” or “I want to have a smoking hot girlfriend that’s half my age. Put the book down and start working on it. For example: “In six months. then don’t continue reading. I should get my skill set to that level. I’m also going to work on the different aspects of my life so that I become relationship material. and schedule a date with her at the end. It was fun but I just can’t seem to get her to open up to me. Devise a plan on how you’re going to accomplish your goal. I shouldn’t commit the same mistake again. I’ll make sure to implement the things I learned right away.” 2.

and date the woman of your choice. three girls called me back. I got five numbers and out of those numbers. I suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book. This is an essential skill to develop. Did I build enough emotional connection with her? Did I convey my personality well enough? Am I giving up easily without following up? If so how can I improve my skill? I should try calling her more often…” This is a very simple structure you can use in order to assess your progress. Review all your results. This is the only way to keep progressing. The 8 Essential Day Factors are structured in a way that helps build you up. InTroduCTIon To The 8 essenTIal dayGaMe faCTors I’m about to provide you with the most comprehensive information ever available on how use the 8 Essential Day Game Factors to dramatically increase your success with women. This month I got eight numbers but none of them called me back. connect. then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part of the interaction. The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive foundation for daytime pick-up..3. For example: “Last month. starting from your core.  . then make the necessary adjustments. Here’s a QUICK PEEK at what’s coming up. You see. In order to efficiently improve your skills. I’ve identified a total of 8 Essential Day Game Factors that must be addressed if you want to maximize your success rate! You must first understand all of the factors and how they affect your ability to meet. You should be able to analyze yourself and construct positive criticism. find the strong and weak points. So I need to review all my interactions and see where I’m screwing things up..

FACTOR : IDENTITY Do you know why most guys fail to keep a woman interested in them? Or even worse. I’m confident that by the end of this book. I’ll teach you the same principles that I only teach in specialized 1 on 1 VIP seminars. A lot of guys don’t know the proper way of communicating with attractive women.  . I’ll only be throwing stuff at you that I know you’d need. you’ll have a basic understanding of what inner strength is and how you can use it to gain an unfair advantage over other guys. I’ll go over the key concepts of identity building and how to effectively communicate who you are as a person. FACTOR : LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM VALUE This chapter is guaranteed to raise a few eyebrows out there.FACTOR : INNER STRENGTH We’ll start to build you up from the very core of your personality. FACTOR : COMMUNICATION Communication skills separate the beginners from the pros. I’ll show you where most guys fail and how you can avoid most of the pitfalls out there. I’ll discuss inner strength in depth and take you step by step so that you can develop a solid foundation . why they can’t keep a woman in their life? It’s because they don’t develop the ability to convey their identity. I’ll show you exactly how to communicate with women. Don’t worry. I’ll explain to you the importance of long term and short term value and how it affects all your interactions. They lose a woman’s initial interest due to their lack of communication or ineffective communication.

FACTOR : EMOTIONAL CONNECTION Emotional Connection is what I like to call “The Heart of Day Game”. I’ll give you a couple of tips on how you can maximize the effectiveness of the interaction by utilizing our logistic planning method. In this chapter. I’ll show you specifically how to get the girl from the mall to your bedroom! FACTOR : INVESTMENT In order for anyone to be successful with women. FACTOR : COMFORT AND TRUST Most guys just don’t know how to build comfort and trust with the women they meet. he must first master the art of making her invest in the interaction. This is my favorite part of every interaction and you’re about to find out why! I go over specific time-tested tactics that I’ve used to establish a long lasting emotional bond that gets her to dream about you even after you’re gone! This is a very effective tool that increases the chances of you going on a date with her! I’ll go over the proper way to build an emotional connection and the opportune moment for you to start engaging her in this type of interaction. Look no further! In this chapter. This chapter talks about the things you must do and avoid. FACTOR : LEADING & LOGISTICS If you haven’t learned yet. I’ve compiled the most comprehensive approach to increase control over the interaction and decreasing the number of women flaking on you. let me be the first to tell you… Logistics is one thing that you do not have full control over. I’ve decided to just go all out and reveal four major investment categories.  .

cherish every moment of my journey.. You want to know what happened several years later? I sat down and told myself “If only I just build up myself first. I admired this guy for his strength and courage. I used to think to myself. I mean. This is the one thing that fuels them day in and day out. I had two choices: should I go through all of this hardship. I just accepted it.Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS faCTor 1: Inner sTrenGTh I know that most of you just want to learn what to say. what were you thinking of?” He replied: “All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person. I was the same as you when I first started out. My friend and I were just chatting about life. I had that choice. A lot of successful guys.” I really thought I would never figure it out. It’s the driving force behind all their successes. and end up to be a better person? I chose the latter. I know.. Failure just wasn’t an option for me. I don’t blame you at all. and be the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period with my head held up high. Until this one day came. I just knew that I had it in me to succeed beyond a shadow of a doubt.”  . So to make a long story short I asked him “It takes a lot of guts to do what you did. There’s something about him that makes him complete as a person. I always wondered how he was able to do it. Most people probably hated being there. we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style. I’ve tried to put my finger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to figure out what it was. “What does this guy have that I don’t. things would have been so much easier for me…” So save yourself a lot of time and read and understand this section first before you go onto the next one. have one thing in common. I hadn’t seen him in years because he was stationed in Iraq. “the lines”. I knew there would be a lot of people who’d be negative about the experience. in other words. It’s that bright light at the end of the tunnel. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were stationed in Iraq. be negative all the time.

What we believe in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives. they always hit me hard over the head. not well built. Not only that. probably since we were little kids. appearance isn’t everything.  . The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow. Sad to say. and desirable. or not tall. power. These moments don’t come to me that often but whenever they do. Examples of such factors are FRIENDS FAMILY SCHOOL SYSTEM SOCIETY MEDIA CULTURE ENVIRONMENT WOOOOWW! That’s a lot of factors influencing us. You can still get laid even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine. we live in a society that’s driven by money. Let’s take a good look at magazines for a second. we’ve been programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women. they set the standard of what is cool. You can get a girl even if you’re not rich. This is true for both men and women alike. Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning… For the most part. Contrary to popular belief. There are a lot of factors that have molded us to be the person we are today. attractive. Let’s start out with media and advertising. or fame. These beliefs have been integrated into our being. Let’s take on the subject of appearance.I suddenly had one of those “Light bulb popping up in your head” moments. You can make a beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race! All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute. You’ve Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don’t Even Know It! We all walk through this world with our beliefs.

Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I’m sure you all know the answer to this one: Celebrities Attractive and fit people Rich people And everything else I forgot to mention Am I the only one that sees what’s going on here? Where can you find the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of a magazine. where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial features modified to intimidate almost anyone.  . He’s rich. The truth is… YOU DON’T Yeah being rich. tall. famous… He even has the fastest car around. and rich! IT’S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE! Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality? Your thoughts become your words. and…” To make the long story short. that guy has the hottest girl I’ve ever seen. and up to date I need to have this. be this. Your belief becomes who you are. famous. famous helps but it’s not the only way. tall. both the man and woman in this example end up concluding “In order to be desirable. cool. I need to buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…” Same thing for a guy “Oh. he has this sick ass watch. Anyone armed with the techniques and philosophies I’ll discuss in this book can attract the kind of woman that’s usually reserved for the good looking. The average girl would think “That’s the girl that everyone in my school thinks is hot! She’s skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here). and join this…” And whoever said advertising wasn’t effective? What actually happened was that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in order to be cool. Your words become your actions.

BELIEVE! I’ve learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. You have to live up to your full potential. What if you can reprogram your entire self. only if you really really believed in it. and relationships that I’ve had. literally before my very own eyes. It makes me sad to see all the guys out there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you. I’ll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I’ve found to be very useful in my journey. For the next 30 days. I want you to go over this chapter again and again. I adopted bits and pieces of his philosophy in life. Here’s how this works. Don’t stop reading until you start practicing and believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons. you’re not going to be someone you’re not. This is where everyone should start regardless of their goal. but the sooner you start believing. And that’s when it occurred to me that… YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE. You’re just going to be a better version of yourself. because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs. Change will not occur overnight. so you can move through the world naturally attracting people in your life? Before I hear any objections. struggles. becomes who you are? Would you believe me? You better. These have been very useful for me and hopefully will be for you. Alright. If only I could snap them out of their trance… but then again.What if I told you that everything that you believe in. BELIEVE. 0 . the faster you’ll get to your destination. that would be too idealistic of me. my whole world changed. and went on a journey to seek the truth. I will also provide you with exercises so your belief is reinforced with real world results. Ever since then I began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions. back to my story. I’m just sharing with you everything that’s worked for me and the thousands of guys I’ve trained after I discovered everything I’m about to share with you. you too can be successful with women.

INNER STRENGTH LESSON : MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS Have you ever had the feeling that you’re not worthy to even talk to someone? Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that damn “Why should she even talk to me? I’m not her type… and besides. imagine that you’re about to give them a million bucks in the next five minutes.  . I don’t know what to say” speech playing in your head? Let me ask you this. but I’ve approached girls in the past and they’ve shot me down more times than I can think of… Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn’t mean you should stop eating right? Every girl is different. Try this out. all of a sudden. I’m sure there’s a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just loved you. Starting now. TRY THIS OUT I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were indeed valuable to other people. I want you to remember the times when you made several people feel good about themselves. how does that change the way you act toward them? Try it out. You’re doing them a favor by talking to them. Got that memory? How does it make you feel? Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn’t it? That’s how you should feel before talking to anyone. how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven’t even approached her yet? Okay. I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to others. Every situation is different. people were hanging off every word you said. next time before you talk to someone. The time when. The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself. then it will be valuable to others. If you believe that everything you say or do is valuable.

and never looked back. You have permission to go after the things you want in life. And you have permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says. And you can get away with it. • Make your own decision and take your own stand. Don’t be afraid to spark tension. we’ve been programmed by society to look up to others for “permission” to do something we want to do. Don’t ask anyone for permission just do it. You can do them yourself. Do you think he ever asked permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off? Nope. Once again.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : TAKE WHAT’S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS! There’s one thing that you will realize later on… You can do anything you want. You do not need permission to dress in a certain way.  . So what do you want to do? What’s stopping you? You are your own boss. It’s about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in. You have permission to be the best that you can be. Always say what’s on your mind. executed it. You do not need anyone’s approval before you do something. Next time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot. You have permission to change your beliefs. Well. Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission every single time you went for a trip to the rest room. Always voice out your opinions. Don’t be afraid to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise. Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life: • It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. whenever you want. if you don’t agree with someone simply say “I disagree” and leave it at that. just go ahead and sit down. Don’t wait for others to tell you what to do. I want you to live life like you own the world. he just had a plan. You already have it in you. Don’t look for others to make decisions for you. you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn’t you? Another example is the very famous Bill Gates. Everything is yours. wherever you want. by the time you got to college.

or status. and don’t bow down to someone just because you perceive them as being better than you. Be proud. You wouldn’t want to be known as the “yes” man.• Learn how to say “No”. don’t hesitate to just smile and take the spot first. Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time about it just smile and say “Thank you”. This boils down to being who you are despite what other people think. It’s hard to get used to saying “no” but you have to give it a shot. When you’re at a party and someone asks: “Who wants such and such drinks” Don’t hesitate to raise your hand first and say “Over here”. • I’m not trying to impress you. It’s not that bad. If it will compromise you or for some reason you just don’t feel comfortable with it then say “no”. Just try saying it. stand tall. TRY THIS OUT Let’s start out with simple exercises. Don’t ever change just because someone else wants you to. and someone gets there the same time you did. If it’s reasonable and you’re up for it then say “yes”. One motto you can use is “I’m not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to impress me”. background. Don’t be ashamed of your past. The next time you’re about to line up. You’ll notice that people will begin to respect you more because you’re upfront.  .

when I’d just jump off the bed with a broomstick trying to mimic Slash from Guns n Roses. So what exactly is your identity? Continue reading because this whole chapter is dedicated to the subject of identity. Your job is to convey your identity all throughout an interaction. all of these play an important role in establishing your identity. They are trying to form a picture of who you are as a person. It seemed just like yesterday. Maybe because it looked cool on television. Or maybe it was what everybody wanted at that time. and the way you present yourself to others.faCTor 2: IdenTITy Do you know what people think of the first time they meet you? Do you know the first thing that pops up in a woman’s head the moment you approach her? Do you know what she will think about the minute she gets home after meeting you? “Who in the world is this guy?” So let me throw the question at you… Who Are You? Trust me. I don’t really know. I wanted to be that guy in the spotlight that made people jump to the beat of his melody. The clothes you wear. It All Started When You Were A Kid “There are two great moments in a person’s life: the moment they were born and the moment they realize why they were born. They ask you questions for a purpose. I wanted to be that guy that rocked people’s world with his guitar.Mark Sanborne So What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? When I was seven years old I wanted to be a rock star.” .  . the stories you tell. every single person you meet will wonder who you are. Why did I choose that as a kid? Beats me. Maybe I wanted to be a rock star because I’d be famous worldwide.

peers. As a result of growing up. you’re better of just having a 9-5 job where you can make a constant stream of income” Unfortunately. I didn’t stray away from it. I’m an artist! I’m a musician! I really did achieve what I wanted when I was a kid. Success is in already inside all of us. we tend to stop feeling and just start thinking. One of my favorite sculptors. Then out of nowhere someone started playing my song on the radio. Now that I look back. we just need a balance of both. I realize that each and everyone of us had dreams when we were little. It really came from the heart but at such an early age. then this is it. If there’s one thing I want you to accomplish after you finish reading this book. when I was a kid. I believe that the person we want to be is already inside of us. I had no other choice but to listen to what everyone said. We become better versions of ourselves. Michelangelo. all he had to do was to chip away all the unnecessary stuff. I thought I would never be an artist because of what everybody said to me… “Being a musician won’t get you anywhere… It’s useless. I want you to pull out a piece of paper and jot down some notes. So let me ask you this: What did you want to be when you were seven years old? How to Discover Who You Are I’m not going to keep you waiting any longer.The truth is.  . once said “The Sculpture is already in the stone” and I never forgot that. This is a very important section in this book. he was already done before he started. It means that every single time that Michelangelo worked on chipping away pieces of his sculpture. We were born to experience life and with that experience we grow and we learn. I never really thought about it until three weeks ago when I was in a car with a bunch of friends. Yes. Here are several ways to discover who you are. It just put the pieces of the puzzle together for me. Not that thinking it’s a bad thing. and teachers. the product was already finished. We were all created unique and special. I was easily influenced by my parents. That’s when it struck me. You’ll need some time to work on this. Becoming a musician was a dream.

Write it all down. are talented. and Philosophies in Life. It’s always good to be mysterious but you should also find a way to convey your identity all through out the interaction. But please try to restrain yourself. • List 25 Things That Make You Happy. relationship. and write it down. dating. No one will judge what you write. So how is this useful in social interactions? Simple. What makes you smile? What are the things you look forward to in the day? What’s your reward after a long day’s work? • Write Down Some of Your Main Theories.  . This leaves women with a blank picture on their head of who you are as a person. Be proud of who you are. Read it as often as you want for 30 days straight. It can be a big or small goal. you’ll discover what you’re passionate about. business. and traveling.• What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? Come on. health. You could probably never stop listing reasons here. Embrace it with both arms.. I want you to post it somewhere you can see it everyday. Beliefs. Don’t force yourself to finish all these exercises in a day. It can be related to fitness. Sky is the limit folks. the things their passionate about. Most men end interactions without really conveying their identity. What are the things that you value in life? What are the important things? What do you stand by? What do you fight for? • What are Your Three Biggest Accomplishments? By listing them. • What are the Three Things You Like About Yourself. It always feels nice to remind yourself who you are. and the things they believe in. Some exercises will take time to finish. No one can see what you write. I only want you to write down three. It will reaffirm in your mind that you. I want you to write down everything.. think back. indeed. • Make a List of 15 Goals For Next Year. • Make a List of Everything You Want to Become. When you’re finished writing. Don’t be afraid to let everyone see.

Discovering who you are and the things that make you tick is something you should work on regardless of your goals in life.So. and anything your heart fancies. Invite your friends along and have a blast. Do this at least every two weeks. art. travel. TRY THIS OUT This weekend. what do you do when you run out of things to say? An effective strategy is to just talk about something you’re really passionate about. You need to provide value. It puts you into a positive light but it’s still not enough to get you into any kind of relationship. Bring her into your world. Remember. Having this knowledge of yourself is so important especially when you’re interacting with people. I want you to do an activity you enjoy doing but haven’t done in a long time. Give her a taste of what it’s like to be in your shoes for a minute. If you run out of things to do. try something new. If you’re enthusiastic about it then it becomes interesting to her. It provides them with a window to your being and this makes you interesting.  . talk about the things that are interesting to you. music. Discuss your perspectives on life.

We smiled. Value is determined by a lot of things such as social status. I hear that you want to the secrets to dating women of particular quality and beauty during the daytime… In order to learn how to communicate with women. After all he had balls of steel for doing that. Value is broken down in to the categories: short and long term value  . In this society. appearance. communication. So why should she give you the time of day? What is in it for her? I hate to phrase it this way but at the end of the day. and a salesman pops up out of nowhere and asks one of the girls I’m with “Would you like to go out on a date with me?”. Anyway. you must first understand them. it was hard to understand him with his accent. lifestyle. we weren’t mean to the poor guy or anything. personality. I was walking in the mall with two girls. then I wonder what happens when I’m not even present. and all the others I’m about to discuss. it boils down to one question Are you an asset or a liability? It sounds so ridiculous but it’s true. It’s no secret that women get hit on all the time. and took off. Then I suddenly realized something. Just last week. women usually pick the guys that can provide the most value to their life. I think that’s what he said. How Women Decide If You’re A Contestant Most women have several choices of men from which to pick.faCTor 3: lonG TerM and shorT TerM value So. waved. If these girls got hit on twice when they were with me. Let me start out by giving you a glimpse of what it’s like to be an attractive woman.

Do you have what it takes to get her to want to slam her book down and just talk to you? It’s not impossible. you’ll instantly be magnetic to women. Laughter serves two purposes: Builds attraction within a girl and creates an unspoken bond between the both of you. So the key is to be unique in that given environment. You’ll notice that women want to be around you more often. The fact that you’re educated. in fact you don’t have to be smart at all to pull this off. just thinking about that moment…. It doesn’t specifically mean that you have come up with something super original. Let’s say you see a pretty woman as you walk into a coffee shop. Laugh. then BAM. • Let your inner teacher shine. It happens most of the time. If she perceives you as being more valuable than what she’s currently doing. All you need are a few interesting topics in which you’re quite familiar. you’ve got the ability to hold someone’s attention and  . someone’s doing exactly what you’re doing. Some ways of doing this are the way you groom and present yourself. • Develop your own signature presence . You will get far with humor. Laugh with them… If you have the skill to make women laugh. You want to be able to laugh together. then you’re already ahead of the game. • Always provide positive emotions. • Laugh. Your job is to provide positive emotions like fun. stop. in my experience. If you can share your ideas with her passionately. happiness. comfort. How did it make you feel? See my point. It’s the moment when we shut the whole world off for a second and connect with ourselves. then she will go out of her way just to talk to you. Become unique. Almost like a drug. Do you remember the last time you shared a laugh with someone? Now. There’s a big chance that somewhere in the world. etc. Intelligence is another tool you can use to captivate a woman’s mind. Communication is a tool you can use to your advantage but that’s in another chapter. You don’t have to be as smart as Albert Einstein. she’s busy reading something. It’s addictive. Now let’s go into some examples of how you can cultivate short term value. That’s the power of short term value. They’ll call you and even pester you to hang out with them. Laughter is a good feeling. excitement. People tend to gravitate toward people that make them feel good. Once you find a way to provide these emotions. There’s one problem though.Short Term Value & Ways You Can Build It Up! Short term value is determined by the experience you give women the first time you meet them. This is done by conveying a rich and textured personality.

If she says “I’m not sure about this” say “You’re gonna love it. Always make it a point to be a decision maker. Don’t believe me? Did you know that romance novels account for majority of the sales in bookstores? And that’s why women just love a guy that can give them the romantic fantasy. then it will be very hard for women not to notice you. Teach her a couple of things about your culture. trust me”. If you expect her to lead and even make the first move. Women constantly test for this. when she says “Where are we going?” say “We’re going to grab some ice cream. Cultured and Worldly. joyful. and a plan. Are your outfits coordinated well? Does your belt match your shoes? Do you understand poetry and the different works of art? Do you know the best restaurants in your city? Do you understand the world of fashion? Do you know a couple of classic movies? If you’re equipped with this. a few fun games you probably learned as a kid. share your knowledge with the world.interest. Lead the conversation. decision. Just remember. I know it’s easier said then done. Lead the interaction. These positive emotions bring value to their lives. This is usually learned through your family and the people you’re surrounded by. Always lead and reassure her that she’s safe with you. as my friend Rish would say. Classy defines someone who has high standard of personal behavior. then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Show ‘em what you got! • You are the leader. • Classy. Don’t be afraid to take a stand and follow it up with an action. language. and Enthusiastic. Let’s go”. Never say “I don’t know”. Happy. It’s also an advantage if you’ve done some traveling. 0 . Instead of saying “Do you want to come?” say “Let’s go” instead. If you want her number then just ask for it. Joyful. Always have an opinion. • Romantic. If you step into that role she will allow you to play the role. For example. This can be conveyed with your attitude and the right assertiveness. Take her by the hand and make it easy for her. Women love romance. a trick. and enthusiastic. “You’re so F****** money and you don’t even know it man”. Women are drawn to guys that are happy. traditions. If you can be a substitute for a romantic novel then. the possibilities are endless. and a handshake. They want a man who knows what he wants. Your job as a man is to lead the interaction. You can go on with this. Wouldn’t you? • Decisive. teach everyone something.

Boredom is the enemy. Make your life an open book. It’s hard to explain over in text. or exciting and live to talk about it. Short term value opens the door to her life. And don’t forget to make it an interesting book. Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something in life. Your long term value is responsible for keeping a girl hooked on you. Lean more toward the energy that they give off. or go on a date with you when you’re not there! These are the times when she probably evaluates you as a package and sees if you’re worth it. dangerous. The only difference is that you’re not selling an actual product. From experience.LONG TERM VALUE & WAYS YOU CAN BUILD IT UP So you’ve learned how to demonstrate short term value.  . Make it a routine to continuously be learning. Pick up a book every two weeks and read it. Coming up in the next couple of chapters. A renaissance man is considered a man at the centre of the universe. The most obvious one is the way one talks about life. Do something new every single month. The whole courting process is very similar to sales. Now it’s time to cultivate your long term value. Women crave men who are ambitious. I can always tell the people who are ambitious from the ones that aren’t. YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELF! Here are the features that you can add on to increase your long term value • Become a renaissance man. That’s why you want to give her the best option so she can make an educated decision. • Emotional Connection. Stay tuned! • Dare to Dream. a girl decides if she wants to see you again. limitless in his capacities for development. these are the things that go on behind closed doors. Sounds like a sales pitch right? Right. I think this is one major factor for women who are looking for a commitment. Remember. It’s time to rediscover and redefine yourself. They smell this quality a mile away. You have to walk a little bit to get through the door and make sure that you stay in it. Do something adventurous. but it’s sort of like a gut feeling. Here’s a short description I found on the internet. There are a lot of ways ambition can be conveyed. continue the relationship. As hard as it sounds.

tall. Women are sexual beings just like we are. Firm and Strong. • Tenderness and Sensitivity. This is similar to being confident. All I’m trying to say is that women screen the men to see if they are relationship material. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard that phrase from women.  . This can be demonstrated by the way you treat her. How do you move through the world? Are you afraid to take up space in the world? Or are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you let bad criticisms get to you? Or do you accept them confidently? A simple test would be a woman giving you a hard time about something you either wear or do. Unpredictability is the spice of life. Don’t you wonder what women are trying to find out when they ask “So. It’s not good to be too unpredictable either. and handsome”. It is no secret that women love men that are great in bed. what do you do for a living?” They’re trying to get a glimpse of how much money you earn.• Financially self-sufficient. They get all excited when you do this. It’s not a prerequisite for her to date you but it plays a huge role if you want to have a smooth long term relationship. say “thank you”. You need to be able to support yourself and show potential for becoming financially stable one day. It’s good to create a contrast in your personality. and move on to the next topic? • Keep ‘em Guessing. now how do you respond to it? Do you get all offended and convincing her that you’re a cool guy deep down inside? Or do you just accept it with a smile. Women like men that can give them a wonderful experience. I hate to admit it but money is a deciding factor in the dating game. “I want a guy who is rich. I’m not saying that all women are gold diggers. This is conveyed with the way you speak and carry yourself. Do you assert your wishes on others? Do you make sure that you’ve got everything under control? Do you bargain your way into getting something you really want? Do you take a stand a support it fully? • Sex God. • Self-assuredness. Being predictable takes the excitement out of a relationship or interaction. They also like men that know exactly how to press their buttons and provide satisfaction. At times be romantic and shower her with attention and the next day treat her like one of your buddies. Sex releases endorphins and it relaxes the body. They enjoy sex as much as we do. Do you listen to her when she opens up to you? Do you act as a protector and make sure she’s always taken care of? Do you steer her around corners when you guys are walking around? Do you make her feel comfortable at times when she’s not? • Assertive. It’s fun.

Remember. big goal concepts. and a couple of helpful tips. You at least need to be between 3-5 in all ranges in order to be successful with women. it’s useless. If you’re below 3 in one of the qualities I outlined here. you should have a killer understanding of inner foundation. you can have the best line or script in the world but if you can’t present it well. if you’ve been doing everything right. I want you to take a good look at yourself and your life. When you’re done.  . then take a week to focus on this specific quality. That’s the reason why communicating effectively is a topic I spend several hours teaching at the workshops. By now. Now go through each quality I mentioned in this chapter and rate yourself from 1-5 (1 being the lowest and 5 the highest). TRY THIS OUT Read through this chapter again.These are some of the essential components to building long term value.

So what was the component that determined success and failure in each interaction?  . She sees this average looking guy. Hours pass by. there’s more to it than that. Deep down. Hot Stuff makes his way to talk to her. Two minutes later. and a Mona Lisa smile. That’s all it is. Wow. That’s the secret to success beyond your wildest dream. She’s enjoying the moment. I have to rush back home because I left the light on my boyfriend’s room. I’m not going to sugar coat it. He started out as a stranger and left like her lover.Ms. It was nice meeting you though. Average Guy General Scenario: Mr. Plain Jane starts to slowly face away from Mr.faCTor 4: effeCTIve CoMMunICaTIon Your communication skills will either make or break you in your quest for success in all areas of your life. Whether you’re working on presenting an idea to other people. Plain Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. She heads over to the table to sit down. Hot Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. that was fast. I almost forgot. describing a movie you watched to your friends.Mr. he walks toward her and starts talking. but it’s a key ingredient my friend. Contestant # 1. Plain or Hot Jane Scenario 1: Ms. Let me give you an example. And then. He looks over and notices big boobs. Actually. He starts getting excited or nervous and he knows why. She stands up and leaves the coffee shop with him. probably not. Hot Stuff. nice hair. tata!” Scenario 2: Ms. Minutes pass by. You must develop strong and effective communication skills in order to get what you want in life. she got him all excited in less than a second… Contestant # 2. She sees this guy. He seems to carry himself well and has a good sense of style. she deploys her killer line: “Oh. He’s smoking hot. you need to be able to communicate effectively. he wants her. Average Guy is innocently looking for clothes to buy. Ms. or instructing a cab driver where you want to go. She’s excited but she’s not going to give it all away because of that. a body to die for. he notices something moving from his side. Next thing you know. Mr. After three minutes of boring conversation and ineffective communication. In that moment. Mr. Average Guy’s hormones go wild. I didn’t even notice the time.

Most guys I’ve met always ask me for the techniques I use to start conversations with women.. when you want it. make sure your order is so clear that you won’t be barraged with questions after your order. you can live the most interesting life in the world. Presence is Everything I’ll share something with you. When you know how to communicate well you can get . it’s a really cool exercise. No one else will find out all these positive things about you. it’s useless. your beliefs.Effective communication. to go please. • Women to feel exactly any emotion that you want them to feel allowing you to control and predict the outcome of your interactions. • More dates and maintain relationships easily. Then hand out your cash or card.. The Communication Equation Individual + Effective Method of Presentation + Powerful Content of Presentation =Effective Communication TRY THIS OUT Go out to a coffee shop one of these days and order your favorite drink. You are what you communicate.. You can have 99 good qualities about you but unless you know how to effectively communicate them. Does the barista ask you any questions afterward? Good. and how you want it • Your message across clearly for anyone to understand • Recognized for your ability to comm-YOU-nicate who you are. Just think about it. Now the next time you go out. Just try it out for fun.. I’m in the mood for a caramel macchiato. • What you want. and your values in life. For example: “Hmmmmmm. One of the most common question I hear is “What do you say to her to start the conversation?”  . Remember what she says. decaf. with no whip cream.

or walk? Are you relaxed and calm during most times? Do you lean back when you talk to her? Do you move unnecessarily during the conversation? Your non-verbal communication is the window to who you are. Women are masters when it comes to reading body language. disgust. Practice using a variety of facial expressions when you tell people stories. Holding eye contact builds trust and comfort. sadness. It’s all about how you present yourself. how relaxed you are. A genuine smile can take you a long way. It really does. • Facial expression. and how you carry yourself. fear. It makes a big difference. There have been several studies shown that women prefer men that smile while initiating a conversation. and surprise. How stylish are you? What kind of fashion statement are you making? What can people tell about you by the way you dress up? Does your style leave a good or bad impression on others? Do you command attention? • It’s not what you say but how you say it. I noticed that some techniques worked better than the others (more about techniques in the last chapter) but there was always one thing common that made my approach work. Smiling makes women feel comfortable. sit. Did you know that there is a way to use eye contact to increase the effectiveness of your communication? It’s very important to hold eye contact at certain points in the interaction. here are six helpful tips to increase the power of your presence: • Learn how to smile. Along the way. It worked because of the way I presented it. • Communicate with your eyes. Facial expressions are used to convey emotions like anger. when I say a lot. I guess the saying “The eyes are the windows to the soul” does have meaning. Your facial expressions can communicate messages of their own. It eases women up at times when they’re nervous. • Fashion. Are you comfortable with the way you stand. And believe me. This helps to get your message across more effectively. Having said that. Do you slow down your pace when you’re emphasizing a point? Do you use pauses to amp up the tension and intrigue? Do you speak loud and clear for people to hear? Do you speak from your diaphragm or nasal? Do you eat your words? Are you relaxed when you speak? • Body Language. They categorize you based on how you stand up. I mean a lot. How’s your vocal projection and delivery. Have you ever heard the saying “People buy you first before anything else”. joy.I’ve experimented with a lot of conversation starters in public places. rather than being all serious and mysterious. I found that saying to be true.  .

If you’re nervous all throughout the interaction.  . It usually goes like this: Man sees attractive woman. placing your feet up on chairs. Man gets very jittery. So here’s to a good first impression. 4. For some reason. Men tend to easily get intimidated with women that are way above their league.Body Language Tips for Day Game “Your body language. Thou shall relax and lean back. talk and carry yourself? I think that body language is the biggest giveaway when it comes to revealing who you are and how you feel. and the way you move through this world on a daily basis. don’t move your hands around too much when you talk. then she will feel very uncomfortable. Thou shall not stand or sit too close or too far from her. I’ve had success with starting off at about 3-5 feet away. Try mixing it up. It’s really funny to watch. At the same time. will provide women with enough information to categorize you based on the impression you just gave them” Have you ever thought about the things you convey about yourself based on your body language? Did you know that women can tell if you’re confident and cool or nervous and inexperienced just by the observing the way you walk. you slowly start to feel more relaxed. chances are she’ll be nervous too. At low points step away a little bit. and slowly get closer at specific points of the interaction. even if you’re nervous. right from the bat. then it won’t feel like it’s a conversation. Thou shall not shake or move a lot in the presence of an attractive woman. Experiment with it. I feel comfortable when my hands are out of my pockets. just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. If you’re too far from her. The  Commandments of Effective Body Language 1. 3. When woman gets close. At high and fun points take a step closer or move your chair closer. That includes doing things like slouching. and leaning against the wall. I’ve discovered that when you assume a relaxed position. man tends to change his behaviors and act way cooler then he really is. If you stay to close to her. Never have your hand inside your front pockets when you initiate a conversation with anyone unless it’s below freezing and you don’t have any gloves. 2. Next time you’re in an interaction. the way you walk. Thou shall not have thy hands inside the front pockets. Man starts to smile nervously. Man starts to make unnecessary movement because of the extra energy he feels.

They just exert more effort and time into looking good. Have you ever been guilty of standing up too straight while you’re talking to a woman? Similar to how you would stand and act if you’re talking to an authority figure? Most guys take interactions with women too seriously. Everything changed. They’re not some sort of super human goddesses from outer space you know? They do the same things you do. I modeled this behavior after guys that were naturals when it came to dealing with women. Everything they did was almost too smooth. The way you stood up probably changed. For some reason. For example. Thou shall keep thy composure at all times. Have you ever been in a situation gone bad? You probably didn’t notice at that time but everything about you changed. become jittery. Thou shall not stand up like a soldier. 6. talked. They walked. I’d stutter. 7. The exact same thing I did every time I experienced a mild confrontation. relax. Not good. They took their time almost like they owned time. it helped me relax more. Mirroring her body language is a technique used to increase rapport and comfort levels. Your voice tone probably changed. I used to lay down flat on the floor and take deep breaths. If you’re guilty of this. It shows people that you were emotionally affected by it. and eventually make a shameful exit. Thou shall walk and move slow. Thou shall mirror her body language.Do whatever makes you feel better. when I’m calling up a girl for the first time. And the more I started acting that way. 8. the more positive responses I got from women. Women are human beings too. I used to be that way every time I thought I got rejected by women. They’re shoulders become tense and they act all stiff to the point that they make themselves nervous. and moved slow.  . I’ve learned that if you keep your composure and act as if nothing happened then you end up maintaining control of the situation. They stand up so erect that it’s almost too funny to watch. 5.

.. Be comfortable. Feet spread apart. It’s also the reason why I can give a woman a compliment without seeming like I just want to get in her pants. Inhale. It happens so often that it’s become normal... Take a deep breath. It makes me happy. Exhale. I move through the world with something to offer to everyone... I talk about my life experiences and my view on things because I just want to share my life with other people.. Relax. that’s a different story...TRY THIS OUT Lean back. Slow and confident movements. Don’t tense your shoulders up.. Those one-way friendships where people just call you when they need something from you. People that just keep asking question after question without really contributing toward the conversation. People that just ask favors all the time.... Don’t be too stiff. I bring fun and excitement to everyone I meet. Here’s my view of the world: “I am a man... Relax. I give without really expecting anything in return... Be comfortable...... Relax.. I offer positive and fun emotions. I’ll take care of you and make you feel like you’re part of my family... I’ve been guilty of this as well.. It’s sad and I see it happen every day..... I’m the sweetest and coolest person you’ll ever meet. Your job is to not be one of those guys.... And make sure not to fall asleep. My presences makes people feel better. I am a man and I have something to offer the world…” That’s how I view the world. Hands out of the pockets.  . Be comfortable. I just like to give. Give Before You Take A lot of people are used to taking things from the world and from people. At the same time I know my boundaries and I won’t be taken advantage of. That’s the reason why women instantly open up to me when I initiate a conversation with them. But once you betray my trust..

People sense this quality. You should learn to cultivate it. It’s rare.That’s the reason why I am who I am right now. TRY THIS OUT Effective communication will open doors for you in this life. So if effective communication opens doors for you. then do you know what makes you stick in her mind? Endlessly? 0 . And you’ll soon realize that it opens women up to your ideas and messages as well. I am focused more on giving to people rather than taking anything from them.

faCTor 5: eMoTIonal ConneCTIon Now we’re getting to my favorite part of the book. Women are attracted to the two profiles but there’s a flaw that exists in both. How to effectively build an emotional connection. Let me tell you a little bit more about me. women lose respect for this type of guy. And that’s because they can’t live up to their role of being a man. frat boys. I never really had a strong male influence in my life. That’s off the wall. Now let’s talk about the guy with a feminine profile. He’s actually much rarer than a really hot girl that has it all together. I grew up with four little sisters. you need to cultivate both your masculine and feminine side. At the same time. He is rare in this society. it’s done in little quantities but never enough for her. Somewhere along the road. This always keeps her on her toes. He rarely has control of the things that are going on in his life. Certain profiles are assholes. That’s 14 girls for every 1 guy. and I had to work on this aspect later on.  . In order to be successful with women. It rarely happens though. Growing up. Women wish that these guys would just stop for a second and actually take time to show her how much he appreciates her. gang members. Almost to the point of “I’ll do anything for you. bikers. They usually fall under the extremes. He’s more sensitive than most guys and actually shows his sensitive side. I’m about to tell you why. If it does. she’ll be able to make him change. Women like men that can act like men. The ratio of girls to guys in my family is about 14:1. She hopes that one day. So why are women attracted to guys that act like jerks? Women are attracted because they don’t acknowledge her as some sort of higher being than them. women crave the feminine side in men. This guy is usually submissive in a relationship. A man who is masculine and knows how to communicate with women. in the long run. Let me explain. Guys like these usually worship the women they are with. It’s hard to find guys that are just right in the middle. even if you treat me bad”. Men are usually too masculine or too feminine. I’d like to call this the heart of day game. I also happen to be the only guy.

Someone who takes the bull by the horns and at the same time cares if she’s comfortable. women dream of guys that have cultivated both masculine and feminine sides to them. you first have to understand how they operate. I became familiar with the way a woman’s mind worked. Her logical side makes all the decisions but there’s a much stronger side that can completely override it… it’s her emotional side. If nothing else. Someone who can make her experience a variety of emotions and at the same time give her a chance to do the same. Someone who treats her like a woman and the same time puts her at her place when there’s a need for it. Ideally. Understanding Women In order to become successful with women. Women have two sides to them… A logical side and an emotional side Oh I forgot.Women look for men that are strong and at the same time gentle. I unconsciously learned how to be comfortable around women and vice versa. Do it. they also have a physical side. Someone who has firm beliefs and opinions and at the same time is open minded. the things they want. I learned how to build a long lasting emotional connection. but that’s not until later. and how their minds works. And most of all. Why they do the things they do and why they act the way they act.  . Anyway. I understood what made them feel comfortable. Looking back. not just what they said they wanted. back to my story. Someone who sees them for who they truly are and at the same time treats them as an equal. it will be another fun experience for you. I was very fortunate to be surrounded by women early on in my life. But guys like that are just hard to find. I learned what they really wanted in a guy. Come on. I learned how to communicate with them effectively. If you want proof that the above statement is true then I double dare you to show it to ANY of your female friends. It taught me things that I never knew I knew.

And now I’ll reveal to you the Equation for Getting Any Woman You Desire! Logical Connection + Emotional Connection + Sexual Connection + Proper place and time = The Perfect Seduction. That’s why most women read romance novels and watch soap operas. They enjoy experiencing emotions and they communicate with it. she was probably exposed to all these romantic Hollywood Disney movies. It’s a place full of hopes. I’m going to give you a sneak peek at a place within women that they don’t want you to know. That’s probably the same reason why make up sex is better than regular sex. Every Woman Has a Fantasy Let’s rewind.Women want you to believe that her logical side is in control but in reality. shhh it’s a secret. I’m going to take you through a journey that’s about to open your eyes to the world of women. and fantasies. A guy that would sweep her off her feet and appreciate her for who she truly is. and keep women… And that’s the fact that. There’s one thing I want you to know before I give you all the techniques and tactics to meet. date.. the perfect guy would come along. and not long after that. This just encouraged her to believe that one day. A place that’s been buried deep down inside that’s probably never been forgotten. dreams. And it all began when she was a little girl. Growing up. A guy that will come along and push all her buttons making her cherish  .. That’s the same reason I believe that “If you can captivate the mind. the body will too…” Looking back at my experiences. the heart will follow. Women are emotional creatures. She’s been exposed to movies about love and destiny. Drama is also something that certain women might be addicted to. That’s because there’s emotion involved in it. it’s the other way around. this is the natural progression of all my successful interactions. They are filled with emotions. There are tons of emotions that take place prior to it.

A guy that will take her on a memorable experience. Everyone starts out as a hopeless romantic or they develop it later on in life. That causes them to protect themselves by acting “bitchy”. They go after the rich. Core. She learns and begins to grow. Deep. Anyways.the experience even more.. They do it because it works. But at that moment. Some women actually ended up holding on to that dream. They’ve probably had a rough past. It’s because they’ve been hurt before. Chances are they probably get into relationships hoping that someone can fit that role. and go for more superficial things. Some women forget about this side of themselves usually because they get really hurt from a certain experience. Most of them just end up being disappointed. and famous. just like what happens when kids find out that Santa Claus isn’t real. This is at the deep core of every woman. or available guys that probably can’t give them what they need. These women constantly wait for their prince charming every single day. And Spiritual Level + Appreciation + Comfort with Presence + Commonality and familiarity + Shared Emotions = Long Lasting Emotional Connection  . This causes them to toss away that dream. but it kept her busy during that period of time. Not everything turns out to be the way you expect it to be. This is when they just start to settle for anything else out there. Maybe a relationship gone wrong or just a really traumatizing experience. This explains why women may act bitchy at times. The Hidden Formula For Creating An Emotional Connection Man Opens up + Woman Opens Up + They Connect on Surface. A guy that knows what to do and how to do it. it satisfies her.. hot. Then she grows up and begins to realize that not everything’s perfect. Maybe it’s not exactly what she wanted. These women are what we call the “Hopeless Romantics”.

At the same time. just keep quiet and listen. beliefs. Share a deep experience. Of course. You’re setting the standard here. When she pauses. It adds depth to your personality. you can almost see it. it takes two to tango. build an unspoken bond. 4. Shut up. Same thing when women ask you questions. Everything she says is gold! Later on. Tell her something that nobody knows about you. and the things you value in life. You have to know how to relate with her. Especially if you know exactly how to tell her how you feel. 6. It’s always better to relate on the deeper topics. it will give you a better picture of how you can effectively seduce her. Don’t interrupt her when she begins to open up. will set up the stage on how it’s going to be. You must tell her in a way that she can understand. Open up to her. early on in the interaction. As an exercise. pause for a bit. Wait for another 3-5 seconds before you interject. 3. don’t talk. The emotion in this scenario will. That’s why it’s important to become comfortable with sharing your life experiences with other people.  . Whether you’re telling a story or just explaining your current mood. it shows her that you’re just a human being. you just build an unspoken bond between the two of you. How do you expect her to open up to you if you don’t do the same? One way to help her open up to you is to do it first. Tell her how you feel. By telling her a secret. It’s what I call the “Go First Principle”. Relate with her. you also want to encourage her to share a secret with you. Practice being social. she actually gives you the winning cards that you can use on her. Always be leading. This makes her feel super special. It’s important to emphasize and describe exactly how you feel. Just learn how to keep on talking and sharing your experiences. After all. You’re vulnerable as well. That’s right. It solidifies whatever connection that’s present. once again. So the next time a woman starts to open up to you. Most guys just relate with her on a superficial level. Lead with your personality. Once in awhile I like to add “I can’t believe I’m telling you this… I don’t even tell this to the people I’m close with…” This little piece gets the message across. Everything you do. Open up to everyone you meet. Most men focus on logical stuff. and then give your answer.Crash Course: 8 Killer Strategies in Order to Build an Emotional Connection 1. Once you do a good job at describing the emotion. 5. It makes you look smarter. this will help a lot in building a connection. She’ll feel like she knows you better. You automatically become special once she’s shared this with you. Sharing a deep experience will encourage her to do the same. You can see her face either light up or the other way around. don’t just open up to her. and vice versa. It’s an important skill to be able to describe an emotion so effectively that she begins to feel it. 2.

Now. I’ll start to talk about it indirectly. then you’re ahead of most guys out there. make a conscious effort to actually implement them the next time you’re out. I like Pearl Jam too” I’d rather play my Pearl Jam CD when she rides in my car. TRY THIS OUT Play back the last conversation you had. If you’re good at connecting with women. me too” whenever the opportunity arises. I’ve noticed that most men are eager to say “Yeah. Instead of telling her “That’s so cool. Are you aware of the value of building an emotional connection now? Do you know that there are two things that you need to add to the equation in order to build the ultimate bond? That brings me to my next topic. let’s say she talks about how much she just loves to dance. even let the subject drift off.. Another example: Let’s say she tells me that her favorite band is Pearl Jam. then later on. in your head. For example. I’ll just let her talk. or let her discover it on top of my CD player. ask yourself if you were implementing the concepts covered in this section. I’ll just casually slip in a story about how I won a dancing contest or something like that. More about this on the last section. Kill the quick me too. You’ll notice a big difference in your interactions. It comes across as if you’re trying too hard to be similar with her. If not.7.  . 8. What I’ve found to be very effective is to hold the “Me too” for 10 minutes or so and later in the conversation. if I’m also into dancing. Pacing and Complimenting..

Who says you need to wait a couple of days before you take her out? Taking her on an instant date will dramatically increase the chances of her picking up your calls and going out with you later on. she must be comfortable with you. In order for her to go anywhere with you. In the bars and clubs you have to deal with the music.. During the day time. it’s a social context. strangers can be bad. Well. a loud booming voice. here are the facts. So when you walk up to women in this setting the first thing they think about is “Is this guy cool enough for me to talk to? There are so many guys. or even answer your call. her peer group and the competition.. she must at least trust you a little bit. Let me share with you a quick story on how I discovered this key element. When you’re in a bar or club. women just need to be extra careful nowadays. She’s probably by herself. She’s a woman and you’re a man. So you’ll have to equip yourself with a unique style.faCTor 6: CoMforT & TrusT There are a lot of differences between learning how to meet women in bars and club as opposed to public places. Whenever someone talks to her she instantly considers them a stranger. it’s a date right on the spot. So what factors do you have to address when you’re planning to meet women in public places? COMFORT AND TRUST In order for them to call you back. why should I talk to him”. And do you remember what your parents told you about strangers? Don’t talk to strangers. and some serious entertainment skills. looking for clothes. the drinks. That’s why it’s so important to take her on an. INSTANT DATE That’s right. loading up on gas. it’s a whole other story.  . or shopping for groceries. show up on a date. You can be anyone dangerous and she wouldn’t even find out. With the different crimes out there.

Let’s go to Starbucks and get something to drink.” Another 20 minutes passed by and she said “Let’s go for a walk. after a bit of conversation she said. And the rest I would say. I looked her up and down. Apparently. is history… If we ever meet one of these days. but now that I look back. I hit the five minute mark. I ended up kissing her. let’s sit over there”. shortly after getting inside her car. and a cute semi angelic/naughty face. In my mind. I would have been very happy if I got to hold a conversation for three minutes. Fifteen minutes passed by and she said. “Hey. She was in a business outfit and had some shopping bags with her. she lived like five minutes away from the mall by the ocean. She was about three inches taller than me. she starts fixing her bra in front of me as I was talking. I went out with my buddies to go learn how to meet women in malls. she was the one who took the bull by the horns. Looking back at that interaction. my legs are tired. Anyways. I complied. Then she pulls off her killer line “Hey. Three minutes passed by.  . It was to start a conversation and stay in for three minutes. I keep kicking myself in the foot. I remember my goal for that day. come with me”.A few years ago. considering it was my first time trying to meet girl at malls. I left my cigarettes in the car. we ended up talking about her place. to get our blood to circulate throughout our bodies…” Then while we were walking. Little did I know. I’m really thirsty. My heart skipped a beat for a second. I’ll probably tell you what happened. She kept on leading me and I followed. In that moment. had a slim figure. I slowly stopped her from walking and we ended up chatting for a bit. I noticed this tall brunette girl. this was the day that changed my life. I was completely clueless at that time. It was on. I still couldn’t believe it though. “Hey. I was doing pretty well. only if you promise to keep it to yourself. To cut the long story short. And then all of a sudden. Are you ready for this? While I was chatting with my buddies.

When you go on an instant date you become a potential partner. It’s really powerful. Somehow it creates a new environment for the both of you therefore making it easier to talk about other things. Helps you reach your goals faster. you’re a STRANGER in her eyes. you significantly increases the chances of her calling you back and going out with you. • Chance for you to show that she’s safe with you. When you get her on an instant date. It keeps you moving forward. • Helps you get through conversational barriers. Forget the concept of getting her number for now. having a shared bond between the two of you. When she takes the chance and goes to coffee with you. Them”. • You keep the interaction moving forward. So it’s your opportunity to prove to her that you can be trusted and that she’s safe with you. that’s how her mind processes it. At least.  . If you play your cards right. When you first meet her. You’re still a complete stranger. • Decreases the chances of flaking later on. is to create an “Our World” vibe. I’m going to grab a drink real quick and since you’re fun. That means. • It separates you from all the other guys. take her on an instant date. you officially are operating on a different level. TRY THIS OUT The next time you’re in a conversation for more than 10 minutes.Of course. You’ll play on a different level. Let me give you the benefits of going on an instant date • You get to hit two birds with one stone. With a little bit of tweaking I’ve used something similar and have experienced unbelievable results with it. • Shift from “You vs. you should give me your number”. That bond is unique for every girl. When you’re at a high point in the interaction (Example: she’s laughing or there’s a good vibe) just say: “I’m really thirsty. It’s like going out on your first date right there and then. It helps you get through conversational stalls. They say things like “We should hang out sometime” and “Yeah. It creates a shift in the atmosphere. regardless of any technique you use. More time means getting to know her better and vice versa. Most guys just go for her number. You’re not like that. Me” to “Us vs. let’s go”. • Gives you more time to get to know her better. I stole my whole script from her. she puts herself in a position where something bad can happen to her. It gives you more time. At least try to. Your primary goal when you start talking to a woman. you can tag along.

0 . so let’s say you’ve done a great job at interacting with her. Probably you’ve passed the test with flying colors and you even have a lot of inside jokes and secrets. What’s the next move? You’re supposed to be in tune with the environment because it will help you figure out the best logistical approach you can use to escalate the interaction further.Ok.

Have a pen and paper with you. Women will judge you based on how clean your place is and how creative you are with it. a beach. That’s an advanced topic though. you want to exchange contact information with her. The BEST experience in my life involved a girl. A nice little fold up sleeping bag that fits two people in it will do. 4. a blanket. Have some pillows and blankets at the back of your car. With that in mind. Know exactly what to do before you even go out.  . What if I told you that… She would have gone home with you only if you were prepared?! Won’t that piss you off? Sure did piss me off. Have a plan before you go out. Bring protection. 5. 3.faCTor 7: loGIsTICs Do you know where you’re going? A lot of guys don’t go out prepared. Pick five places in your mall that you will take her on an instant date. Always have a pen and paper with you. Your place will say a lot about you. Don’t ever sabotage your success by not being prepared. Is your place classy or trashy? Does your place convey what you’re passion about? What does it say about you? Do you have clean sheets or dirty ones? Do you have dirty clothes all over the floor? Does your place smell good? 6. How will you take her on an instant date? What will you say to get her number? How do you get her back to your car? How do you get her back to your place? 2. Know your location well. Remember. Make sure you have a clean place. And this is true especially for the beginners. and me. Not just give her number or take her number because it limits what you can do. You can also string along and take her on multiple instant dates. here are 0 Golden Tips To Help You Master Your Logistics 1. You’ll never know where you’d end up going. a guitar. when I discovered that. It was the painful truth. Enough said. just in case.

Instead of saying “Can we…” say “Let’s go…” This little trick might make all the difference in your interactions. Next time you feel like walking a way. with the guys that aren’t. When she says “Uhmmm. you might say something to turn me off and I’d be running for my life” or something to that effect. it might only take three minutes… who knows. Don’t be fazed by it and don’t walk away. It’s better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. Almost as if she’s expected to follow you. It’s your job to lead the interaction. always be prepared for contingencies. then give it a shot! 9. Always be leading. When you say “Let’s go” start to walk in the direction you want to go. This will all make sense to you sooner or later in your journey. This last piece of the puzzle is probably the most significant topic in this whole book.7. Women will sometimes refuse to do what you want them to do. It’s what separates the guys that are successful with women. Be prepared for contingencies. I’m in a hurry. stay an extra minute or two. After we get some ice cream for five minutes. don’t wait for her to ask. I need to do my shopping” say “That’s cool.  . stop for a second. If you’re dropping her off at her house. 10. 8. Assume first. Stay in there. The point is. you can go on with your shopping… and besides. it all boils down to being prepared. Don’t give up at the first sign of resistance. Get to know her and spend a little more time with her then try again. Talk a little more. Tell her where you want to go. Again. Don’t ask just lead. Always assume that she’s up for it.

and get her to be part of yours too. It’s smooth sailing from there. Here’s a list of the different types of investment a woman makes and how to get the most out of each and every one. dreams. etc. This goes back to building a solid emotional connection. Physical Investment.  . Another way to get her invested in you is to be physical with her.) the more she gets invested in you. The best way to persuade a woman to do something is to make her want to do it. future and share your view in life as well. Emotional Investment. You’ll start to realize that you can actually just relax and appreciate her company. It makes things so much easier for the both of you. This stuff is very powerful. How much time does she spend with you? Do you see each other often? Do you spend some time talking with her on the phone? Does she spend a lot of time winning you over because you have standards? The more time a woman spends with you (Talking on the phone. Do you remember the last time you worked hard for something? How did it feel in the end? How satisfied were you when you accomplished it? This is the same emotion that women feel if they’ve worked hard for you. the higher the chance of you getting what you want out of it. Have you met her friends? Do they like and approve of you? Has she met your friends? Do you go out to social activities often? Do you have any mutual friends? They key to getting her to invest in you more. make them work for it. In my experience. Use it wisely. Once you’re passed that level.faCTor 8: InvesTMenT Do you know how to make someone want something? How do you make someone value something? Simple. so use this stuff carefully. Social Investment. I don’t advocate playing with women’s feelings. hanging out. She gets more and more invested in you every time she opens up. The more they invest in you. Sex is the biggest investment. Time Investment. values. Talk about her passions. is to be a part of her life. sex opens up all the lines of communication. it becomes a lot easier. hopes.

I don’t want to talk to her. She’ll ignore me. rAcking up dAteS. I’m not even qualified to talk to her. You’re your own worst enemy. I have nothing special about me. something clicked inside of me. And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndseT for MeeTInG WoMen I just got off the phone with a student I had last weekend. And most of the time. I enjoy talking to people. Yes you would get results instantly! But that’s not the real challenge. in my experience. I’ll be sharing with you the proper mindset that you should have before you go out there. I felt like I wasn’t worthy to talk to them. She’s not even going to give me the time of day. Since then I’ve been more relaxed and comfortable meeting women. she’s way out of my league. it’s what makes or breaks you. Before the workshop. The hardest part is going against everything that is preventing you from achieving success. I don’t get as nervous as I used to be. Here’s what he told me: “Right now.Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS. My whole view changed and I think that it had to do with the way I viewed things. Yes. After the weekend. and all the tactics to meet women is easy. and think I’m weird. Mental barriers are very strong and. laugh at me. regardless of where I am. Come on. You heard me right. that’s your own self. Everyone else will see that I am talking to her and they will think that I’m a loser. And besides I’d have to try hard to entertain her  .” Here’s the truth… Practicing techniques. Here are the things that you should not think about: “Wow she’s so hot. lines. I used to think that women wouldn’t want to talk to me.

The best part about it is that women are everywhere. I am a man of purpose. Looking at things in a positive perspective will get you far. imagine that you possess a winning combination to a lottery ticket. where do I want to meet women?  . then she doesn’t know what she’s missing. I am doing them a favor. I just can’t be myself and get her to like me. Any woman will be fortunate to get to know me. Every time I talk to women. Here’s more. I live life to the fullest without apologizing for anything I do. It’s impossible…” I’ve heard that objection more times than I can count. either way I’ll still be happy. You can see them crossing the street. The one ticket that will probably get you set for life. It’s a like a foreign concept for them. that person doesn’t know what a lottery ticket is. I don’t seek approval from anyone. I walk through this world as if I own it. If she rejects me. you just have a couple of minutes to convince them to even hear you out. Women are fortunate that I give them the chance to get to know me. I take pride in being me. I am who I am. I’m everything and more that a woman can ever ask for. You will never run out of women to approach. My own values and passions define me. you can take me or leave me. I make them happy. They’re completely clueless. So how does this apply to approaching women? Here’s how you should think… “I am a man of purpose. Here’s how you should think and feel about meeting women… Ok. I live my life for me…” Where To MeeT WoMen There are dozens of places during the day time to meet women. Your job is to give the ticket away to anyone… But here’s the catch.and be really slick and smooth. shopping for clothes. People’s reactions toward me don’t define me. I seriously doubt it. Now you’ve got to ask yourself. or playing in the sand. The first step to being successful with women is to look at things in a positive way.

If you’re approaching a woman on the street then you can get away with speaking a little bit louder.  . take advantage of that. you need to figure out what type of women you want to meet. just be in tune with the social energy level of the location. When you’re approaching a woman in a library.In order to figure that out. Did you know that the ratio of women to men in yoga classes is like 15:1? Well. supermarket. parks. TRY THIS OUT Go to five places this week (coffee shops. So to avoid unnecessary complications. So the key is to be aware of the social energy in the place that you’re in. Violating energy levels puts social pressure on the woman you’re talking too. streets. If you want smart girls then hit up the library. college campuses. beaches. then that’s a different story. you must be aware and in tune with its energy level. be In Tune WITh The enerGy level In order to be successful in approaching in various public places. and match it. coffee shops.) and observe how people communicate. bookstores. let’s talk a bit about specialization… If you want girls that are into health and fitness then go to the nearest gym. And she might not be used to handling it. etc. General places to meet women are malls. Now. How loud do they speak? Do they command respect in an interaction or not? When you discover this. then join a yoga class. imitate them or slightly be more animated/energized then they are. If you want spiritual girls. and pretty much everywhere.

If there’s no chair beside her. If you don’t command her full attention then she won’t process your verbal communication effectively. and I slowly make my way towards her. If you pull this off correctly. If she’s sitting down I make sure to sit down as well. I act like she dropped something on the ground. say something situational. So after I get her attention. and then deliver my conversational opener. If she’s walking the opposite direction. Tension begins to fill up my body. Here’s how it works. If she’s walking to her car. You can tell jokes. make myself comfortable. ask their opinion.Crash Course In sTarTInG ConversaTIon WITh WoMen Let me make something clear… There are dozens of ways to initiate a conversation with women. They all work… I’ve tried them all. There are no possible excuses in my mind. What’s the fastest and most efficient way of initiating conversation with women? I was looking for something that cut right through the bullshit. But here’s the question. I make sure to grab one and place it right next to her. my heart pumps faster. I found the perfect opener for daytime approaches. I say something like:  . I run after her and tell her to stop. After a little bit of tweaking. This is a very important step in my overall structure and let me tell you why. Let me give you some examples. I suddenly feel the ball of energy inside of me. no matter where I was. I would slowly walk in her pathway so she would be forced to come to a complete stop. and so forth…. The first thing I do is get her full and undivided attention. she will stop. It’s basic law of physics: An object in motion will stay in motion unless an outside force causes it to stop. Whenever I see a girl I’m attracted to. I needed something that I could use anytime. Confidence begins to radiate through every part of my body. I want to meet her and I will meet her.

I continue with “I’m a complete stranger and I know this is really random but… I was just passing by… and I saw you standing there… I just wanted to tell you that you are… Really… Really… Beautiful. we shake hands. Tell me about yourself” She smiles. Gives her a chance to agree with you. It’s like an unspoken bond.“Hey… (pause) I begin to smile as my eyes are locked on her eyes. It conveys that you’re intuitive and socially intelligent by nature. When I say things like “I know this is totally random…I’m a complete stranger” it actually serves several purposes. only build your credibility in her eyes. honest. Every time you say something that she agrees with. Step : Tell Her the Reason Why You Are Attracted to Her Honesty is the best policy. she gives you a silent nod. When you use this approach. and I relax from that point forward I get to know her more for who she is. Saying things that she can affirm as true. and sincere is the way women like to be approached (CAVEAT: If you do it right). I found that being upfront. breaKInG doWn The opener Step : Pace her ongoing reality Pacing is an essential skill that you should master. Sets up the proper foundation for the interaction right from the beginning.  . The only reason why other men can’t pull this off is because they’re not coming from a place of power. I use this to overcome any objection that might pop up into her head. By addressing potential objections you demonstrate social awareness. Tell her you like her because you want her to know. you instantly demonstrate that you’re honest and sincere. Not because you want her to feel obliged to be nice to you. It shows her that you’re sensitive to her needs and that you understand her concerns. Now let me break down the opener and explain to you why and how it works. It makes her more comfortable. Women love guys that know what’s going on without a woman having to tell him.

everything you say begins to be categorized in “The Potential Partner” context.You tell people what you think about them. Gets right to the point. Step : Give Her a Chance to Talk About Herself You want to get her involved in the interaction as soon as possible. When combined with the proper non-verbal communication and delivery. It makes it official that you two are in a social interaction. Creates the feeling of attraction. I’m (insert your name here)”. • Gives you a chance to introduce yourself. This approach is so powerful that it creates attraction within seconds. everything you say will be in the “I’m getting to know you before we date” context. what’s your story?” “Who are you?” “Where are you from?” Letting her talk about herself gives her the chance to impress you. After she says anything that might impress you. This is a very powerful frame from which to come. this approach can be very deadly.  . Even boring rapport questions will work after the opener. This is done by saying stuff like “Tell me about yourself?” “I just wanted to know if there’s more to you than meets the eye. It skips through most of the games and takes you were you want to be… and that’s building an emotional connection. That’s because she’s processing the whole interaction differently. you can say “I like that. After the opener. It also… • Gets her committed to the interaction. Since you created so much attraction. As soon as she starts answering your question. • Gets her to subconsciously accept you as a potential partner. Shaking her hand is very important. she slowly becomes committed to the interaction.

I also tell her to walk away which is reverse psychology and then I act like it never happened by asking her a question. Talk. She wants to get to know you. which re-engages her back in the conversation. Guy: Awesome. Indifference by far is the most powerful way to overcome this objection. She’s not really enthusiastic about it. Runaway girl. I absolutely love the third scenario because it’s challenging for me. depending on how well you execute your opener. Here are some examples of how you can handle certain situations. She’s just being polite and sticks around for a bit to see what you have to say. or doesn’t give you the time of day. tries to walk away. She becomes extremely flattered. I set up an expectation for her. I have a boyfriend.dealInG WITh ConTInGenCIes One of three things will happen. The Boyfriend Objection Guy: Opener Girl: I’m sorry. 0 . then just walk away. Talk Girl: Talks and walks away Guy: (smiles) Oh come on now. So what do you like to do for fun? *I’m not even acknowledging her objection. Second Scenario: She kind of likes it. She Walks Away While You’re Talking To Her Guy: Talk. Go on now. But if I’m making you uncomfortable in anyway. Runaway girl (I sing playfully) Anyways. Third Scenario: She gives you an objection. you’re way too classy to be walking away when someone is talking to you. and of course she wants to be perceived as classy so she will stay for a bit. I tell her she’s way too classy to walk away. what do you do for fun? * As you can see. First Scenario: She loves it. I also get to express my personality and my positive traits. She smiles.

or something to that effect. I’m not one of those guys so don’t treat me like one of them. If you approach with the “I just want to get into your pants” mentality. I want you to remember this section and read it over and over again. In order for this approach to work you need to switch the way you see things.  . When you experience that situation. This is just a protection shield. I know you’re a cool person deep down inside. I was just having a bad day. doesn’t look at you. So let’s give this a shot one more time. I’m Oliver. Guy: No worries. This stuff is very powerful. Girl: I’m Michelle. GIfT shIfT Theory In order for this approach to work. The way you think and feel affects the way you interact with people. Come on. Sorry I was being rude. you must come across from a place of power and positivism. If you’re not going to be real. Grungey10: I understand. people are real. Talk.She’s Rude Or Doesn’t Acknowledge Your Presence Guy: Talk. then it will not work for you. I don’t know where you’re from but where I’m from. Guy: Why are you acting like this? Why can’t you just be yourself. I’m almost sure. Now I want to share with you the Gift Shift theory. look around you. Talk Girl: Says something rude like “Why are you talking to me”. Have you ever talked to someone before and felt like they just wanted something from you? Was it a gut feeling? How often were you right? I bet you were pretty accurate at it. I’m just going to walk away (I act as if I’m about to leave). I know this is not who you really are. You will get rejected by women left and right. Then you will begin to wonder what you’re doing wrong. So what do you do for fun? * See how I called her out on how she was behaving? It demonstrates that I am a man who demands respect in an interaction. There are a lot of creepy guys out there that try to get something from you all the time.

I’ve worked on myself to the point where I just am naturally attractive and interesting to women. She’s seen you in movies. She’s been dreaming about you. you are. it sounds sappy but it’s amazingly effective. I know. Your job is to take them on an emotional journey with you. I get results because I have something positive to offer. How would you act if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that if only women knew you. Whenever I talk to people. away from the world they are in right now. She’s read about you in books. You are a gift. Yes. I know. Your job is to provide women with positive emotions. Knowing this information how does this change the way you’ll view your future interactions? Remember. Take five minutes and imagine that you’re someone she’s been waiting for all her life. Am I conveying who I am in an interesting way? Is she getting to know me or am I just talking out of my ass? TRY THIS OUT Next time you go out to meet women. That means you have to barrel through her persona. You can do it too. you’re giving that gift to her. they would fall for you? Ask yourself that question over and over again.  . Your job is to give them an unforgettable experience. I want you to do this. You have the upper hand and not the other way around. I feel happy knowing that I’m about to make this person’s day. you are a gift. There’s a catch though.It’s simple. She will only find out that it’s you after she’s gotten to know you. I feel happy. You’re the guy she talks about with her best friends.

The pInG ponG MeTaphor
In my opinion, conversations with women are very similar to playing ping pong or table tennis. The ball just keeps going back and forth across the table. One person hits the ball then the other person hits it back. It’s an ongoing cycle. That’s how conversations should be. Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Someone usually carries the conversational burden more than the other person does. Eventually the conversational ratio should be as close to 50/50, girl talks as much as guy does, but it takes skill to be able to do that. You need to be interesting and interested. I’ll say it two more times because it’s very important. You need to be interesting and interested. You need to be interesting and interested. Making sense so far? Were you ever in a conversation with someone who talked way too much? It’s like you were watching television because you couldn’t contribute to the conversation at all. On the flipside, were you ever in a conversation with someone who just kept asking question after question without really contributing anything at all? Well you need the balance of both. You need to lead the interaction and at the same time, get women to follow your lead. You need to help them invest in the interaction. Not everyone’s socially savvy. Sometimes, you need to make it easy for them to contribute to the interaction. This book help you cultivate the skills you need to be both interesting and interested. 

Go fIrsT prInCIple
“You must become the change you wish to see”- Gandhi In other words, if you think change is needed in a situation, think about changing yourself first before changing everything around you. I want you to look back on all the conversations you had with women that you liked. Here are some questions for you. Were you… Both comfortable, relaxed and at ease? Exchanging fun stories from your lives? Sharing secrets and vulnerabilities with each other? Speaking formally or like friends do? Able to build familiarity and substance in the interaction? Here’s my main point. If you want her to do something, you should do it first. If you want her to start opening up to you, you must open up to her first. It’s your job as a man to lead the interaction. You should lead and expect her to follow. TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation instead of asking a question, make a statement. Instead of saying “Where are you from?” tell them a story about where you’re from. Instead of saying “How are you” say “I’m feeling so happy today, you have no idea why”. See how people respond to you. 

poWer TalK
What you say and how you say it is critical when you’re interacting with someone. A couple of years ago, I remember watching a comedy show. This guy walked on the stage and started making jokes. There was forced laughter here and there but that’s about it. I ended up just looking at my watch impatiently thinking to myself “What time is this show going to end?!” Couple of months later, I watched another comedy show. A couple of minutes into the show, my stomach started to hurt from laughing, tears started falling from my eyes, he got me. I don’t remember laughing so hard in my entire life. The jokes weren’t extremely funny, it was his personality. This is true for everyone out there. Whether you’re a comedian, a salesman, a student, or a friend, people will respond to you based on how you present yourself. Here are some tips to empower yourself. • Avoid hesitation when you talk. Be firm with what you want. For example, instead of saying “Uhm, I was thinking if, uhm, we could go out sometime” say something like “Hey, I’m going shopping this Thursday, It’s going to be a blast, you should tag along”. Don’t flinch. Don’t be nervous. Say it like you would if you’re talking to your 11 year old cousin or something. • Power of ambiguity. Keeping a woman on her toes keeps things challenging in an interaction. Every other guy jumps at the opportunity to hang out with her again. Instead of giving all your cards away try using words like “maybe. We’ll see, I’ll get back to you on that one”. An example would be “Hey, you seem fun, if we’re both available this weekend, then maybe we’ll hang out”. • Avoid over politeness. Being overly polite communicates subordinate status. When you’re communicating with women, you shouldn’t treat them as if they’re a goddess from Venus. If you treat them like royalty, they will act like royalty. Treat them like you would treat your buddy. Don’t be overly polite. 

I don’t need to know her whole life story. Evolution has hardwired into us the tendency to bond with those who are familiar and wary of those who are unfamiliar. my next goal is to get to know her on multiple levels. My goal is to build familiarity and substance all throughout the interaction. I genuinely appreciate her and I am very successful at it because I believe that all women have something beautiful inside of them. I want to find out what makes her special. Well. Let me go over my structure on connection building. I do it multiple times. I want to know what makes her tick. I just want to touch base and build both familiarity and substance with her. I want her to remember me when she wakes up the next day. I relate to her on the surface then I go a little deep and find out the things that make her tick. to make it really simple. over and over again. I want to make a mega solid impression so that she won’t stop rambling about me with her best friend the moment our conversation ends.” .Psychology 101  . What is my goal? I want to convey who I am as a person. Then I try to build familiarity by connecting on a lot of different topics. I relate to it and appreciate her for it. So I start out by getting to know her on the surface level. After I’ve captivated a woman with my presence. What was familiar was generally safe and approachable. Then we discuss each other’s passions in life and connect on a deeper level. I make her feel special for the person that she is. you MusT CreaTe a ConneCTIon “It all started with our ancestors. I want mutual appreciation.WhaT To do afTer InITIaTInG The ConversaTIon A lot of guys don’t know what to do after they’ve initiated the conversation. When I do. it’s a combination of two things CAPTIVATE & CONNECT Captivate her with your personality by building a connection. What was unfamiliar was more often dangerous and threatening.

then you create an emotional connection. This is what separates you from every other guy that’s tried to meet her. she’s trying to figure out who you are as a person. There’s a time to be cocky and funny and avoid a question that’s thrown your way but should you keep on avoiding it? No. It’s where the magic happens. He’s cool and interesting. and let her open herself up to you as well. She wants to find out if you’re real and if you have any depth to you. If you allow this process to happen. Here’s a system you can use to build an emotional connection: Step 1: Build Familiarity Step 2: Build Substance Step 3: Appreciate Her as a person Step 4: Incorporate A Romantic Spin hoW To ansWer lIGhT rapporT QuesTIons A lot of people I’ve met still don’t know how to convey their personality in their day to day interactions with people. So let’s break down what usually happens  . you can build a connection with anyone you meet. The problem is most people don’t know how to convey who they are. your main goal is to get to the point in the interaction where you both can just be yourselves. That’s the secret to a successful daytime interaction. She’s trying to figure out if you have more going for you than your initial impression. It’s my favorite part of the interaction. Building an emotional connection is the heart of daytime pick-up. She’s hooked She becomes so interested that she starts to ask you questions to find out who you are. No matter what system you use. When she asks you a question. Imagine how you would feel in this kind of scenario: A girl has been talking to a cool guy for quite awhile.I don’t care what anyone else out there thinks but if you can open your mouth and talk. There’s a time when you should answer it. You need to be in that place where both your guards are down and you can just connect on all levels.

---------. She was ready to build an emotional connection but you threw the opportunity away. Why? It’s because you’ve only created short term attraction. ( I talk about LA for a  . I’ve read ton of stories as a kid (insert something cocky or avoid the question asked) Conclusion: She wanted to get to know you better. appreciating and relating with life experiences. we’ll get to that in a minute… anyway…. When she gets home. Real and long lasting attraction comes from building commonalities. Things are so different back where I’m from. She may have been attracted to you at first but it won’t last for a very long time.Scenario 1: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: whoa! We’re getting a little ahead of ourselves here. She ends up giving up and going home knowing nothing about you.45 minutes later -----------Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: Oh. Everything is fast paced back in LA. Ideal Scenario: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: So where you from? Guy: Oh… You wouldn’t want to know… It’s extremely cold there… Girl: Where? Guy: I live in the North Pole… It’s so fun swimming with the penguins everyday… It makes me so happy Girl: Ugh… shut up!!! No really where you from? Guy: I actually moved here from LA two months ago. being vulnerable with each other. give it a few days and that attraction will probably fade away. and building a strong emotional connection.

So remember: Never ever give boring answers to simple questions such as Where are you from? What do you do? What’s going on? Tips on how to do that 1. • She knows right off the bat that you’re a good communicator.) Where are you from? When you get this question. ask yourself What makes my place different from where I am right now? What’s so unique about my place? What are the fun things to do there? What do I love most about my place? How does it make me feel? What would you recommend for her to do in your city? 2. how you ever met someone cool that could just talk about anything under the sun?  . We were driving through empty green fields and… (insert semi deep and meaningful story here) Conclusion: • You stand out from all the other guys because you differentiate yourself from them. • It sets the stage for building an emotional connection. You’re not answering her question in a boring way.while then compare it to Tucson) Things are very simple out here. It makes her comfortable and easier to open herself up to you. • It gives her a window of opportunity to see how you view the world and the type of person you are. Like the other day. You actually demonstrate a lot of personality by being comfortable sharing your thoughts with her • You lead the conversation. I was on my way to a ranch and it was really interesting. Now. It actually gives me time to think about everything going on in life and see the bigger picture.) What do you do? What are you really passionate about? What makes you tick? How did it start out? What happened then? What’s so special about what you do and how does it make you feel? Have you ever met someone that just talked about the same thing over and over again? It gets very boring after awhile.

Done? Here’s are the things that came to me when I heard the word elephant: 1. Here’s the beauty of it. 4. Now. she’d have one about her spider. Now that’s 130 things you could potentially talk about.Like if you had a story about your grandfather. 9. 11. It’s called the association game. 7. 13. 2. A sentence has how many words? Do you see where I’m going here? If you master the art of conversational vibes. If you did the exercise. If you had a story about guns. If you had a story about your pet hamster. elephant is just one word. 10. let’s go one step further. Ok. Alright. let me teach you a helpful exercise here. give me 10 things that you can associate with the world elephant? Take your time. Come on. then you’ll never run out of things to say again! 0 . Think some more. Once you’ve mastered this. this is what familiarity is all about. you have around 130 words. Cartoons Movies Big Zoo Water That’s all Alright. 12. 6. what’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word elephant? Actually. 5. do the exercise. she’d have one too. Don’t tell me you don’t have any experience with at least one of the topics I listed above. you’ll never run out of things to say ever again. Give me 10 things that come to your mind with each word above. it’s included here for a reason. she’d have one too. You need to connect on multiple topics. Animals Grey Tusk Ivory Africa Jungle Lion King 8. 3.

TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation with a woman. Building substance takes the interaction to a whole other level. think back to the previous topic. and leadInG WITh your passIons You now know how to build familiarity. It also makes you stand out since it’s something that only close friends do. This tool is very powerful. Another skill you should focus on is active listening. Building substance solidifies the connection between you. pick a word out. You see. and riff on it. just pick out one word and riff on it for a minute or two. Use it.Hobbies . learning how to build familiarity is an essential skill to have. Here are some topics you can explore to build familiarity: -Goals and aspirations -Passions -Ideal vacation -Relationships -Friends -Youth and childhood -Love -Art and Photography -Traveling -Favorite films and music -Concerts and theatres -Family .Fitness -Animals buIldInG subsTanCe: aCTIve lIsTenInG. are gold. Next time there’s an awkward pause in the conversation. Take advantage of it.  . Women will feel like they have a lot of things in common with you. once you’ve barreled through their persona. fIndInG her Core value. Most of the things women tell you. Do this until your jaw is numb from speaking too much. Let’s get you acquainted with building substance.

your job is to find out what makes her tick. For example a guy asks: “Who’s your favorite artist? Oh Mariah Carey. You have something in common with her. Don’t answer right away. You see. Once again this shows her that you understand her and that you’re paying attention to her. in your own words. • Shut up and listen to her. Once you find these underlying motivators. Doing this will strengthen your understanding of the situation • Summarize what she tells you.Demonstrates interest in her as a person.Ensures understanding of the subject matter. But what if you guys don’t like the same artist? Does that mean both of you have nothing in common? No. It will improve your conversation skills tenfold. That’s great if you guys like the same artist. to whoever you’re talking to what they have said to you. Always ask her what she means.  . Don’t always be eager to fill in the silence when there’s an awkward pause. You need to find out what is the underlying motivator that drives her to do the things she loves to do. • Ask questions. Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to. . Here are the benefits of active listening: . feed it back to her. As an active listener. Finding Her Core Value And Building A Quick Connection A lot of guys try to connect with women on the surface area. Doing this affirms your understanding and builds dialogue. you should be able to repeat back. and that’s her core value. and how it makes her feel. we’re so similar”. Just learn how to listen to her completely without butting in. You should rephrase what she just told you and. as well as the foundation of effective communication. me too. .Expresses understanding of her feelings A couple of basic pointers for active listening: • Rephrase and feedback. in your own words. you should relate to them.Active listening is a habit. pause for three seconds before answering something.

You should take time to think about what behaviors you will reward And which ones you’ll punish. I want you to rewind and remember your childhood. This applies to women and dating as well. opening up to you. early in the interaction. let me give you an example of social learning theory and conditioning at work. Social Learning Theory And The Power Of Conditioning Social learning theory states that we learn social behavior by observing and imitating others and by being rewarded or punished. they get punished. Was there ever a time you got burned by something? Maybe you touched a hot stove or candle. you just instinctively jerked your hand back. not complying with your request. Later on. They will test you to see how you will respond. This encourages her to do it more often. Whatever it was. whenever they do something wrong. you need to reward her for opening up to you. After you relate with her you should appreciate her for who she is.Relate to those underlying motivators. So how do we use this to our advantage? It’s actually very simple. Women will test you. On the other hand. and laughing at your jokes. Another example would be a parent disciplining their kids. they’ll be conditioned to do things that would lead to them being rewarded.  . and being rude to you. and you probably learned something afterward. For example: You should reward her for giving you a compliment. But before I explain it. Women gravitate toward positive emotions and move away from the negative ones. Whenever they do something right they get rewarded. You learned that you shouldn’t touch it again. to see where your boundaries are. Yes. It’s more powerful than relating to her on the surface level. You should punish her for disrespecting you. If you don’t set your standards early on they will step all over you.

leadInG WITh your passIons A lot of the so-called “pick-up artist” I’ve met are curious as to how I can captivate a woman by just being myself. Here’s my dirty little secret… I talk about the things I’m passionate about. comfort. Show me and I will remember. Having passion is very attractive to women. Here’s how you do it. If ever they do. Before I do let me share this quote with you. What is it you would do for free if you never had to make money again? Emotional Connection Accelerator There are a lot of different ways to accelerate the process of building an emotional connection and my favorite one is regression. I won’t get into detail on this topic but I’d like to share with you a very effective technique to build an emotional connection. Here’s what I call the life story tactic. they don’t convey it in a way that’s interesting to women.  . Not a lot of guys talk about the things that make them tick. Involve me and I will carry them forever. Being passionate about your passions (as funny as it sounds) is even more attractive to women. I tell her the things I love to do and why I love to them. It also builds trust. Leading with your passion separates you from every other guy that’s tried to hit on her. “Tell me and I may remember. and safety. Here’s a question to help you figure out what you’re really passionate about in life. It’s one of the most powerful tools in building an emotional connection. The word regression means moving backwards.” Remember that you always have to involve her in the interaction. I suck her into my world.

If a girl says “I have to go” and you say “nice. This technique is very powerful and it solidifies the emotional connection instantly. Trust me on this one. On the other hand if she says “I have to go” and you ignore the thread and talk about something else. and future. The key is to exchange stories and go from childhood to future plans. she will not leave. The more emotions the better. and you can call her on it. right now. end. • Conversational Plowing. She should know the things you love and your pet peeves as well. The middle includes your high school and college experience. or sad. you can start by asking her about her childhood or talking about yours. If she walks away.  . She should know your rules on dating and relationships. This can take somewhere between ten minutes to sometimes even the whole day. The beginning includes your childhood and middle school experience. I want you to come up with at least two to three stories for each phase of you life. Tools you can use later down the road when you’ve mastered the basics. It can be fun.Your life right now is separated into beginning. she’s being rude. • Standard Interleaving. • Identity Interleaving. She should know what your standards are. You can do this directly or through storytelling. a Couple of effeCTIve ConversaTIonal Tools Here are several topics I’ll discuss briefly. The end includes your present experience and your future plans. She should have an idea of who you are and what you’re about early in the interaction. How do you turn this into a system? Alright. meeting you” then she will walk away. mischievous. As long as you keep talking she will stand there in front of you. middle. Now. adventurous. Mix it up. You should always move the conversation forward. This is an advanced technique I use to quickly convey the things I’m passionate about thirty seconds into the conversation.

then go deeper. or just used to talking people’s ears off.g. go light again. demands respect. A good resource for cold read is the Forer’s effect. trustworthy. confident. etc). Whatever objections she may have make sure to use them first. especially at times when the woman I’m talking to is hard to crack or if I’m in a hurry and I want to build a quick connection. ambitious. Builds comfort and trust.  . vocal tonality and projection. Tell her that you’re sad you met with no mutual friends to introduce you to each other. protector of the ones you love. Cold reading helps captivate her and builds familiarity instantly. and that’s why you can’t hang out anymore. you need to check your body language. Try searching that on Google or something. This always steers the interaction toward the right path. Say this after a high point in the interaction. adventurous. then this time go a little deeper than you were before. of course. Constantly ask yourself this: What am I trying to communicate? Am I getting my message across? You want to demonstrate good qualities about yourself with the stories you tell people (e. humorous. and your non verbal communication to see if you’re communicating all the right things like being comfortable in your own skin. Well if you’re one of them then you’re on your way to becoming successful. When you tell a story you communicate on both levels. People usually don’t just go up to people and start telling stories. This is a brilliant way to ease into deeper topics. Telling a story builds comfort and trust because you’re opening up to somebody you don’t know. eye contact. Next. kissing her. and. • Preempting objections. romantic. etc. Always include a romantic spin after building an emotional connection. then make her laugh a little bit. story tellers. On Storytelling Storytelling is very powerful if done right. Here’s an example of fractionating: Talk about something light. Some examples would be taking her on an instant date. Well some do and they’re either super social. This helps intensify the emotional connection that you’ve built. It’s a tool I use once in awhile. • Fractionating. They listen to what you say and how you say it. then go a little deep. Why? It’s because learning how to express yourself is the first step in getting good at meeting women.• Cold reading. talking about fate and destiny. • Romantic spin.

Give him the best script created by the best minds in the world and when performance day comes. What’s the difference between these two guys? The way they present it and he way they deliver. On the other hand. character development. and emotional projection. Every time you’re telling a story I want you to ask yourself these questions • Am I passionate about what I’m talking about? • Am I enthusiastic? • Am I paying attention to everyone that’s listening? • Am I relaxed and comfortable? • Is my voice loud enough? • Am I talking slow and clear? • Am I projecting the emotion I need to project through my voice? (If you’re telling a scary story sound scared. It can still suck. the presentation can still bomb.So let’s get to the important part How do you make a good story? Here are some terms that are important in storytelling and I’ll discuss only a couple of them Opening line. Let’s take for example a comedian and an actor. you can give a guy who’s good at telling stories a very boring and ridiculously horrible story line and he can turn it in to something very interesting. Probably the most important part of telling a story is your vocal projection and your delivery. engaging the senses. sequencing of events. if it’s suspense then use a lot of pausing) • Am I pausing at the right times? • Am I using a wide range of facial expressions?  .

It’s something they can relate too. Bookstore girl: (laughs)  . (pause) 2. I get that every time there’s a family get together... who you were with. “then out of the blue”. a light bulb just popped up in my head. 3. Well can you believe that my name was supposed to be Amanda? Bookstore girl: Amanda?! (laughs) Grungey10: Yes. it gets bruised easily.So here’s a quick formula for a spontaneous story. 1. Grungey10: Exactly. Nice meeting you.) The climax of your story. I’m Oliver. You want her to be able to relate to you. hear. Did your parents ever tell you about embarrassing stories when you were kid? Bookstore girl: Yeah. feel. “out of nowhere”. here’s a ConversaTIon I had In The pasT Grungey10: Hey.. what you could see. Bookstore girl: Oliver. and “surprisingly”.) How did it make you feel? What lessons did you learn? 6. smell. Now stop laughing at my baby name. interesting name.) Describe what you were doing at that time. You want to engage all her senses. I’m Lisa.)* Then ask her* Does that ever happen to you? (throwing the ball back at her) You want to talk about emotions because you want to communicate on her level. Amanda.) Then slowly insert stuff like “and then I realized”. as much as possible when you’re telling a story. the funniest/craziest/most embarrassing/ wildest thing just happened to me yesterday/today/couple minutes ago. 5. “all of a sudden”. Men usually communicate with logic while women value emotions more. etc. 4. Grungey10: Lisa.) OMG. Speaking of names.

The moment of truth. Hello.” Then she slowly unfolds the towel and then all of a sudden.Grungey10: Anyways... it’s my beautiful little princess Amanda.. Bookstore girl: (laughs hysterically) Grungey10: No. Say hello to mommy. thank you very much.. your first born will be a girl”.... she actually decked the whole room out with a “My little princess” theme in mind. Look at you.  .. Every time a friend comes over to the house.. Hello.. when my mom was 6 months pregnant. Hello. we’re getting there.. So here it comes.. Grungey10: My mom got so excited that she started decorating one whole room in the house. welcome to the family!” Bookstore girl: (Eyes get wide) Really?! That’s the funniest thing I’ve ever heard. You know what I’m talking about right? Bookstore girl: You mean a sonogram? Grungey10: There you go! Good girl (briefly touches her shoulder). Bookstore girl: (Continues giggling) <Now I’m going to throw the ball back at her so she can invest more in the interaction> So what were you like as a kid? Was there anything your parents gave you a hard time about? Bookstore girl: Hmmmm. I remember him teasing me a lot about being a tomboy back in middle school. it’s on the tip of my tongue. after the sonogram. apparently. Badoink!!! A moving “thing” down there?! She was devastated! I never heard the end of it.. Bookstore girl: OMG (laughs) Grungey10: I know! Isn’t it funny? So what actually ended up happening was. Anyways. Get this.. she went to the doctor and she had this machine. all right.. we don’t see anything moving down there. So the room was all pink! It had pink stuff toys... this is not a laughing matter. and even a pink welcome banner hanging from the wall saying “Princess Amanda.. uhm. which I do not find very funny. pink crib. I don’t think you understand. my mom always whips out the album with me dressed in a pink room all dressed in pink. My mom holds me with tears in her eyes saying “Wow.. Not so much my parents but my grandfather and I had a really strong bond when I was growing up. the doctor’s like “Ma’am.. just for me.. I was born and the doctor hands me over to my mom wrapped in a white towel. What happened next? Grungey10: All right. the one that detects the gender.

try pausing for three seconds after she finishes her sentence. < She gave me multiple topics to choose from. I love going to a new place and learn everything about the culture there. I might not even be safe here (smiles). What do you accomplish when you’ve made a difference in the world? Let’s say you’re in Africa and you get to educate the kids there. I’ve changed a lot since then. I’ve always wanted to make a difference in the world. It’s fulfilling for me.> Bookstore girl: (smiles as she recalls) Back then I was a boy hater. I can pick any topic and start rolling with it. I can also build more substance by exploring what made her change but I chose to explore the subject of traveling. you see improvements in their lives. That was back then. If you have sisters then you’d know what I’m talking about. for a year. how does it make you feel? 0 . I was also a very competitive kid. < I have a choice. before responding to her. Bookstore girl: Oh shut it (hits me in the arm). At the same time. You’ll notice that women have a lot more to say when they don’t get interrupted.Grungey10: (nods head but keeps quiet) <It’s very powerful to pause and not be eager to fill in the silence in a conversation. <I’m going to build more substance now> Grungey10: I find it really interesting that you love helping people out. and at the end of the day. You see. Grungey10: Why would you live in Africa? Is it because you want to help out? Or do you just want to explore the place? Bookstore girl: I guess a little bit of both. As an exercise.> Grungey10: Boy hater? I better watch out for you now.> buIldInG faMIlIarITy & subsTanCe Grungey10: If you could live in any city in the world. I could start building more familiarity by talking about my sisters. I went through that whole phase. where would you live? Bookstore girl: I’d live in Africa.

Only a few people actually live their lives to the fullest and at the same time. Bookstore girl. I just relax on my bed.Bookstore girl: It makes me feel like I’m on top of the world. At the end of the day.. You see. They go to work or school and they change to fit the environment they’re in.> Bookstore girl: Yeah. We both put are minds and hearts into our work. It’s a stress reliever for me and at the same time I get to express myself through my work. and feel good about myself. They see things from a different perspective. I don’t think enough people appreciate you for that. A lot of people have forgotten the meaning of what it is to be passionate about something. playback the song I just made. Artists are very creative. Grungey10: What are you passionate about? Bookstore girl: Well. A lot of people might think it’s easy for us. and for the most part they’re real. It’s something I’m really passionate about. and that’s usually making a living or going to school. I guess satisfaction would be a better way to phrase it. Not a lot of people understand what it takes to do what we do. I love painting. You see them working with the “work”  . It’s something that I got into back when I was still seven. There must be a catch here. Bookstore girl: That’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever told me in the longest time (blushes). do the things they’re passionate about in life. Grungey10. You’re kidding right? I just have the biggest thing for artistic people. It may take me an hour. In the process they lose in touch with who they are and what they’re all about. This is when the magic begins. songwriting is very much like painting. I get the exact same feeling of satisfaction every time I finish writing a song. < I’m going to start flirting and appreciating her> Grungey10: Wait a minute here. They usually just live their lives with one thing in mind. You see a lot of people are imprisoned by their day to day activities. I solidify the attraction by giving here a sincere compliment. <After creating familiarity and substance. I better leave before I start to fall in love with you. or sometimes weeks to put a song together and it pays off bigtime.. Grungey10: Bookstore girl. Grungey10: You know what. You love traveling and you’re an artist too?! This is way too perfect. a day. It’s a rare thing. let me tell you something. It’s the best job I’ve ever had. I totally understand what you mean.

I’d like to actually get to know the girl first before I even get her number. they instantly know what’s going on. Some give their number away and save your number as “Weird & Creepy Guy. Getting a number doesn’t really guarantee success. Do not answer”. Some give their number away because it boosts their ego. One  . In their minds. Some give their number away with no intention of ever answering your call. Numbers mean nothing if you haven’t done your job well. You always want to leave on a positive note. Some give their number away to get rid of the guy. it makes it seem that was all you were after. When you leave right after you get her phone number. Coffeeshop girl: I know exactly what you’re talking about. Well I go through my day-to-day activities with the biggest smile on my face because I get to be myself the whole day. No matter how smooth you pull it off. Don’t be afraid to test new things out.face on. Then they go home and hit the sack. But before I even get into that. Normally. it doesn’t even guarantee that you’ll get to see her again. This may take somewhere between 10 minutes to two hours. • Don’t leave after you get her number. Some give their number away because it’s fake. If I’ll see the girl again then I won’t even get her number. Women give their phone numbers for a variety of reasons. Girls give their numbers to guys for various reasons. I realized something very important. <Conversational cycle continues> The arT of GeTTInG phone nuMbers & seTTInG up daTes After hundreds of interactions. I’ve noticed that most guys make their exit after they get a woman’s number. I suggest staying for an extra five or ten minutes before you leave. It’s the best thing ever. I’d highly advise everyone to try it for even a week. I found that timing is very important when it comes to getting a woman’s number. they still have control of the interaction. It’s the same routine over and over again. • You can return her number to her every time she does something to turn you off. When you get a woman’s number. I’d like to share with you some of the things I learned. It’s actually something that I’ve been working on for awhile now. As a matter of fact.

but unfortunately I have to get going. You job is to get her to want to give her number to you. how can we continue this conversation?” • Objection blaster. If she still gives some excuse I say “Don’t get a big head now. Some girls will throw your number away. I discovered that pacing would. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times. or after an emotion filled moment. I found that it’s very effective to display more interest in her. girl refuses. Any line will work if you say it at the right time. She’ll probably flake on you anyway even if she gave you her number. Some girls might like you but forget to call you. Pacing can be used to address future objections. • It’s better to exchange numbers. • Pacing to avoid flaking. That’s my cue to see where I am in the interaction.”  . At times when she tries to impress you.little trick you can do is to give her back her number every time she says something you don’t like. At this point she will either ask for my number or giggle. Some of the lines I’ve used are “Let’s exchange contact information” “Give me your number” “I really had fun talking to you. then guy tried to bargain. If she doesn’t want to give you her number than just let it go. At the same time it demonstrates that you have standards. because not all girls will call you up. It’s a really neat way of communicating “I could care less if I get your number or not”. I usually say something like “Wow. It’s better to exchange numbers than to just give her your number. I so have to hang out with you…” then I just continue talking about something else. you like classical art? That’s so cool. I’m just going to leave now. make you laugh. I have a boyfriend” I usually just stare at her all confused and say “Yeah… and?”. would be useful after getting her number. you’re really skilled at using the phone to your advantage. When you reach that point in the interaction. Guess what that does? It drastically decreases the chance of anything happening by 50%! Why. When you give her your number. And some girls will simply just lose your numbers. • Don’t try to bargain if she doesn’t give her number. but since there appears to be an issue with it. It’s not going anywhere. any line will work. Whenever they give me an excuse such as “Sorry. once again. you leave it all up to her to make the move and give you a call back. • Simple yet effective lines. at the peak of an interaction. I just thought you were an interesting person and that you’d make a cool buddy. So it’s best always best to exchange number because it gives both of you the chance to call each other up. Not unless. Guy ask for girls number. It’s a downward spiral that leaves you lower than you were before. • Tell her you want her number but don’t get it. Some girls just never call guys up.

I’ll call you just once… and leave a message once.  . and on top of that you get to bowl. If you don’t have any. Here’s a couple “You should wait at least three days before you call her. It’s not everyday that I meet someone that I can just be real with. Have you ever gone cosmic bowling?! It’s the most fun thing in the world. It will really communicate that you have more important things to do. It really depends on the situation. I prefer to make plans before leaving the interaction. you’re pretty cool. Stuff like “Ok. my friends and I love to bowl at Golden Pins. Then make it a point to be the first one to hang up or pretend that someone else is on the other line. That’s it. Go call her! And if she doesn’t pick up then call up two more times” “You should call her the day after you get her number. but wait a minute. This technique has worked well for me. How long should you wait before you call? This sounds familiar doesn’t it? There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to the best time to call. It will communicate that you have a life and that you are not needy” “You should call her on the same day so that she gets comfortable talking to you. • Finalize your plans before you leave.• Tell her exactly how it’s going to be. make sure to end the conversation on a high note” It doesn’t get better than this. It usually goes something like this “You know what. After you talk to her. They all work. What more can you ask for? We do this every Wednesday. Just act like it’s normal. trust me. They have these huge crystal disco lights. I really hate playing phone tag. make sure to let her know you’ll be calling in the next couple of days” You must be wondering which strategy works best. you’re not some weird psychotic girl right? Cool. It’s good to set up some rules right from the beginning. Listen. If all else fails. “You should call her after a week or two. You’ll come off way cooler. 80’s music. you should come join us. When you do answer I expect a really cool joke from you. My suggestion would be to try everything until you find the one that works best for you. Tell her what time you’ll call her and how to respond to you over the phone. every Wednesday. It’s fun”. then you owe me vanilla flavored ice cream on a cone…” You can go anywhere with this technique. believe me I’ve tried.

I used in the past. in order to find out which strategy worked best. Let me ask you this… What’s your strategy? Let me suggest this… Try everything out. Let’s say I’ve collected around 12 solid numbers in two weeks. and emotional connection that’s been built all throughout the interaction. The others eventually responded after my follow up routine.Here is a simple strategy. there’s that one girl that never picks up her phone. What do I mean by solid? I’ve spent an average of about 45 minutes to 2 hours with them. Occasionally. There’s no rush to call her up soon because you’ll see her over and over again. Aggressive Method Call the numbers up the day you get them You can call the next day and the day after to follow up Call at unpredictable hours of the day Varying time limit on each call Ask her out later on For some reason this method worked best on cold approaches.  . That’s pretty good considering the fact that I’ve only got so much free time on my hands. Give it a shot for two weeks then switch. Traditional Method Call her after three days Space your calls out and have at least three to four days in between them Ask her out on the first or second call This method works best on girls within your social circle. See which ones work best for you. I would say two out of every four girls answered on the first call. That includes multiple dates within that day.

8 TIps for an unforGeTTable fIrsT daTe
The tips I’m about to share with you are priceless. It took me years to figure some of them out. Most guys don’t know what to do on a first date. Don’t be generic. “Would you like to go to dinner and a movie with me sometime?” I don’t want to hear that coming out of your mouth anytime soon. OK? That’s what every other guy does! The last thing you want is to be like everyone else. There are lots of other things to do besides that. Save that idea for a later date. Something you’re passionate about. Are you passionate about sports? Singing? Shooting guns? Surfing? Art? Rollerblading? Anything at all? Bring her in to your world. Do the things you’re passionate about with her, on a first date. The best part about is that you can teach her how to do these things, if she doesn’t know how. Accessible- You don’t want to take her to the mountains located two hours from you. You want somewhere near and accessible. Fun & Exciting. Some of the best dates I’ve had were in amusement parks. It’s fun. It’s exciting. It provides the both of you with the same experience you can bond on. Plus, the emotions you experience will bring the two of you closer to each other. Unpredictable. Don’t tell her where you’re going. Tell her it’s a surprise. Get back to your place early on. Find an excuse to get back to your place early on. Your goal is to make her feel comfortable and to get that step out of the way. I do this by saying “These shoes are killing me, I just need a second…” drive to your house and say “Alright, I’ll give you a quick tour, we can only stay for five minutes cause we’re running on a schedule”. I go in the house, change my shoes, and rush her out of the house after giving her the tour. I don’t crowd her space. I don’t go for the kiss. I just relax and really just give her a tour of the house. This serves two purposes. Makes her trust me more and gets her comfortable in my house. Go to the supermarket. Take her with you to do groceries. Two techniques you can use. You can pick up a cookbook and have her pick up ingredients with you so she can help you cook. Another thing I like to do is to get some ice cream. Unfortunately I have to get it back to the house before it melts. AHA! Either way, you end up going back to your house or hers. 

Ideas For Second Dates Theme parks The beach Picnics Shooting range Cooking classes Sporting events Grocery shopping Flying kites in the park Comedy clubs Dance lessons Art galleries Rollerblading Go cart Wine tasting Wall climbing

on CreaTInG a sexual vIbe
Creating a sexual vibe gets her ready for the kiss. You must learn how to project sexuality. Sexuality can be projected by the way you talk, look at her, touch her, and the way you present yourself. It’s mostly non-verbal communication. This is the next level you need to master. Here are some of the ways you can project a sexual vibe. The way you look at her. Look at her in that sexual “You know what’s about to happen” kind of way. You can do stuff like staring at her eyes while biting your lower lip then looking back at your eyes. You need to be able to turn on your bedroom eyes and sexual smile in a snap of a finger. The way you talk to her. Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Lower the volume of your speech. Try speaking like you’re saying something really profound. Whisper in her ear at some point in the interaction. The way you touch her. Hold her hand at key points in the interaction. It’s important to have some kind of body contact. Begin to face her directly. Place your hand in her inner leg and gently stroke it. Knees or feet touching each other. Stroke her hair while looking at her lips. Incorporating Pausing. Pause in between words to create a sexual and intriguing vibe. 

I Can’t Believe I’m Sharing This With You I came up with a strategy to project sexuality quickly. As a matter of fact, I only teach this in my Day Game University Boot Camp. So let me ask you just one favor. Please don’t teach this method to anyone. Ok, maybe a friend or two, but no more than that. Deal? Good, now that we got that out of the way. Here’s what I call the Airplane Method I want you to think about the two hottest women in the world. It can be an actress, model, friend, or make believe women. Don’t continue reading unless you have your two hottest women. Now, imagine that you’re in a private jet plane. You own the plane. It’s yours. You’re relaxing and leaning back with your feet stretched comfortably. Your pants are down and one of the hottest girls is sucking your penis while the other one is sucking your balls. Now how do you feel? I really want you to put yourself in this situation so you know what I’m talking about. Now let’s say someone calls you over the phone. How will you talk to them? Would it be fast? Or all slow and sexual? Here’s how I learned this technique. A couple of years ago, I met my good friend Asian playboy, who specializes in picking up women in bars and clubs. When this guy spoke, he just had this seductive and sexual presence and for the longest time I couldn’t figure out how he did it. Until one day, I thought to myself, what could this guy be thinking? I mean he gets laid a lot, and he’s good at what he does. What’s his secret? Then it suddenly occurred to me. AHA! He must be thinking about being in an airplane with two hot women going down on him. That’s probably what it is! There’s no other explanation I can think of! Thus, the airplane method was born. Props to Asian playboy. TRY THIS OUT Next time, before you go for the kiss, you should try the airplane method and talk all sexual for 5-10 minutes. This builds the stage up for the kiss. 

You should kiss her before the day ends. and you know that it’s time. Here are some important pointers that will be helpful for you. Do you know that moment when you run out of words to say and your eyes are locked on hers? Next time that happens. let the whole world just fade away. First. • Nothing else exists. don’t look away. quite a number of times. I make her stop to talk to me. that it’s going to be a sexual relationship. If she’s walking. Mall. then that’s your cue to go for a kiss. • You don’t need words. Slowly move in for the kill.When & hoW To KIss her Kissing on the first day sets the stage. I approach the girl I want right away. Here’s a sample progression I’ve used in the past. It’s just you and her that exist. • Put her hair behind her ears. If she’s walking away from me. There’s a window of opportunity that opens up sometime in the interaction. In that moment. if you play your cards right. Put her hair behind her ear and lightly stroke the side of her face.3 and if she’s still lookg at you. and connection as I need before I try to escalate things further. • Three second rule. • Explore her eyes. investment.2. You usually feel butterflies in your stomach. froM Coffee shop. I built as much comfort. I make sure she hears me running towards  . Start looking deeply at her eyes. It’s something you’ll learn to do. while you slowly tilt your head. After you get into that situation. early on. Nobody else. Women are eager for the kiss as much as you are. It’s almost too obvious to meet. Nothing else matters. The best part about this approach is that you don’t need words. you’ll start to get a feel of EXACTLY when you should go for it. I want you to ccount 1. superMarKeT To The bedrooM: The naTural proGressIon There’s a natural progression of how I like to do things.

If she’s inside her car. I knock on the window and start talking to her.” We go some place to eat. then it becomes comfortable. I know it’s going to be hard for you. relax and discuss deep topics is when you’re sitting down. Sometimes I even take them on an instant movie date where we sneak out in the middle of the movie and go watch another movie. I ask her to sit down with me. 0 . like couples do. Sometimes. I say “Oh. This usually demonstrates that I’m fearless and exciting. getting ready to leave. After I’ve established enough investment on her part. I almost forgot. Someone you can just talk to about anything and everything. We prepare dinner together. Tell you what. Get to know each other a little bit and begin to open up. I discovered that if you make fun of uncomfortable situations. I just kiss her. I’m hungry. and then I stop her and make her turn around to talk to me. You get the point. After eating I make it a point to do other things. I usually say something like “My legs are dying. Let’s go…” she usually complies.her. I do stuff like walk around the mall with her. You’re not going to be one of those awesome girls that I meet and never see again. I’m dialing this number. Let’s go grab something to eat. I usually talk about deeper topics when I’m sitting down. after we buy groceries. punch the number 9-1-1 in and say “Look at this number. I will not tolerate disrespect and sexual harassment especially from women. play arcade. I’m sorry we met like this. I’d prefer to see how far I can take it. we go back to my place to prepare dinner. It varies. If at anytime you even slightly try to grab my ass… it’s over. We talk more. call it a day. The perfect time to lean back. It’s pretty rare to meet someone you can just be real with. After I establish some kind of connection. it’s grocery day today” and then we head out to the supermarkets. I’m going to sit down over there. and then set up another date with her. All these crazy things you’d do when you were young. and shop for clothes. After all this. Before entering the door to my house. but just try hard to resist the urge ok? I’m not that easy” It’s a little funny piece that takes the tension out of the scenario. I say something like “I’m really glad I met you. with no mutual friends to introduce us to each other. At other times. So. I pull out my phone.

she’s way too invested and aroused to even pull back. I just unleash the beast and take full control of the situation. Then later on in the night. she usually ends up doing just that. I act as if everything is normal. she’s usually not sure whether I like her or not. From here we start to cuddle. I do this a couple of times till clothes start to come off. I used to try to seduce her and touch her as much as I could the moment she walked through the door. see you tomorrow”.  . From this point. I jump right into my bed and I tell her “Goodnight.. I’m off to bed. Then I learned that if you just leaned back. After that’s done. I pump up her emotions by saying things like “I know what you’re thinking.. I hate to put you down but. increase her desire. I don’t put out that easily. Just minutes after it gets really hot and heavy. it should be a done deal. I pull of childish behavior like initiating pillow and water fights. and give her space to chase.From here on I just build as much tension as I can. At this point. before she even has a chance to do so. All I am is a big piece of tease”. I treat her the same way I would treat my buddy. At this point my back is turned toward her and I start to do fake snores. I always pull away first and give her an excuse why we should stop. When she reaches her boiling point and all the clothes are off. I pull away and pretend to sleep. but I’m feeling so good. I play the frame that “I’m a good boy. At the same time. We eventually start kissing and rolling over the bed. For you. In that moment. Here’s the key piece of the puzzle. and I need to stop before it gets really far”.

social) Stage 3: Learning how to handle logistics (getting her number. Who you will become depends on the things you do today. getting her back to your house) Stage 4: Beyond the pick-up. You need to become a master of all four stages Stage 1: Becoming Social and Expressing your personality Stage 2: Learning how to make her invest in the interaction (emotional. going on an instant date. physical. time. you will probably wind up somewhere else. second dates.Words of WIsdoM There are four stages you will go through in your journey to get this part of your life handled.” Where are you in your life right now? What are your goals? Long term and short term? Create a plan Don’t give up until you see results Who you are is the product of the past.  . and managing relationships)  Tips On How to be Happy Be optimistic and outgoing (positivism) Have close friendships and meaningful relationships (Build your social circle) Work or leisure that engage your skills (fun time) Have something to believe in (foundation) Sleep well and exercise (taking care of yourself) Having a high self esteem (healthy relationship with self) “ If you don’t know where you are going. (phone game.

Balance Is Key In order to achieve happiness and live up to your full potential. you must become congruent with the three main aspects in your life: Be good at what you do Enjoy what it is you do Feel a sense of fulfillment while you do it  .

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