Daytime Pick-Up Revealed

The Art of Meeting, Connecting and Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls, College Campuses, and Anywhere Under the Sun!
2006 All Rights Reserved 

IntroductIon A Word on consIstency GettInG the Most FroM thIs MAnuAl WArnInG!

Table of ConTenTs

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Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle 8 WhAt Is dAy GAMe? 8 An eye opener on cold ApproAchInG 9 WelcoMe to WoMen’s everydAy reAlIty 10 creAtInG A vIsIon 11 ActInG on your plAn 12 4 steps to IncreAse the eFFectIveness oF GoAl settInG 13 IntroductIon to the 8 essentIAl dAyGAMe FActors 14 Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS FActor 1: Inner strenGth FActor 2: IdentIty FActor 3: lonG terM And short terM vAlue FActor 4: eFFectIve coMMunIcAtIon FActor 5: eMotIonAl connectIon FActor 6: coMFort & trust FActor 7: loGIstIcs FActor 8: InvestMent Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS, rAcking up dAteS, And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndset For MeetInG WoMen Where to Meet WoMen Be In tune WIth the enerGy level crAsh course In stArtInG conversAtIon WIth WoMen BreAKInG doWn the opener deAlInG WIth contInGencIes GIFt shIFt theory the pInG ponG MetAphor 

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hanging out with guys that were good with women. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part of my life handled. at that time. I learned from my past failures.000 pages? Yes. There were no gurus. Worst of all. books. Over the years. It was a long and painful process but.  . and perseverance to become successful with women. and trial and error. and college campuses. I know there’s a lot of information out there and. beaches. What you’re about to read is a product of years of trial and error. I’ve developed a step by step system that will allow anyone. After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls. by choice. coffee shops. with the right combination of passion. In the process. I just needed to know how to operate in the field. videos. regardless of age and experience. So I came up with a manual that anyone. Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you’ve absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book. I don’t want you to take a year to see results. dedication. Anyone. I came up with over 2. quite frankly. streets. You’ve taken the first step toward improving yourself. or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up.000 pages filled with discoveries. I’ve piled up all the useful information that I’ve discovered in my pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups. I really had no other option. can benefit from this manual. I want to congratulate you. I want you to succeed now. I learned the natural [**hard?**] way.InTroduCTIon First of all. It didn’t stop me though. and tactics on meeting women during the daytime. I had to learn how pick up women from scratch. even my 8-year-old cousin. Back then. 2. it can be overwhelming. there were no resources on meeting women outside of the “bars and clubs” context. theories. I’ve compressed it all into this book. would understand.

the best system. You won’t be in college forever. Day in day out. You can have the best techniques. make a stand. So now.There’s a catch though… You have to want it. You’re about to begin your journey. would you be willing to experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to achieve the lifestyle of your dreams . This manual is my helping hand to all those guys who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day.only a few months! This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself. without fail. There are many ways to achieve your goal. You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in this area of your life. Over the past three years. but without consistency. If you don’t get this part of your life handled right now. passion. Now. and without excuses. and choose wisely. it’s all worthless. I promise you won’t regret it. this book isn’t some magic pill that will solve all your problems overnight. First of all. You’ll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn. and drive within yourself to see this through. relax. Eventhough they were from different walks of life and trained differently. and keep an open mind. It doesn’t work that way. a Word on ConsIsTenCy Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency. You must find the determination. and the best coach out there. I’ve talked to hundreds of people who have successfully transformed their dating lifestyle. they each followed their pre-determined plan.or will you continue to be an “average Joe” for 70 more years? Which path will you take? It’s time to make a decision. then when will you? Treat this like going to college to get a degree. and you will not be figuring out this part of your life forever . there was always one common denominator. I want you to sit back.  . consistently. but you will never reach it unless you consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other.

The more you practice. Most of them. I’ll constantly be throwing new concepts at you. Some of them will be helpful to your current situation. I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won’t be enough. complaints. Come back and read the individual section from time to time. You need the right information and the ability to put that information into practice.I want you to approach this as you. Read. I want to know what you think. GeTTInG The MosT froM ThIs Manual There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. You need to practice several times a week. would when you’re trying to develop a skill. if you want to become competent. and using it until you have it all down! Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas. reading. You can drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect. so be prepared. It’s similar to learning a sport. you will need in the future. Treat this book as a reference or encyclopedia. It’s a repetitive process that will propel you toward success. or just a simple “Hi” note if you Let’s Rock n Roll!  . and integrate the information you learn. ever be satisfied with just learning this stuff. Read through it once or twice and absorb whatever you can. the better you become. comments. absorb. Don’t ever. You need to go out there and practice the things you learn. Keep practicing. practice it! Don’t go jump right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you learn here.

and none of this book is to be considered legal or personal advice. LLC assume any liability for the information contained herein. distribution. Now that we’re finished with the warning.” I expect you to abide by these rules. www. I regularly and actively have my team search the internet for people who violate my copyrights. let’s learn how to be successful with women during the daytime.  . with all rights reserved.. Count on it. I will have my attorney contact you and make you regret what you did. you agree to the following: You understand that the information contained on this page and in this book is an opinion.WarnInG! This book is copyright 2007. distribute. steal. It is illegal to copy.daytimepickup. you agreed to the statement on the bottom of the homepage of my website that stated: “©2007. By purchasing this If you try to copy. and it should be used for personal entertainment purposes only. nor Captivate to Connect. You are responsible for your own behavior.. or to contribute to the copying. or create derivative works from this book in whole or in part. All Rights Reserved. or creating of derivative works of this book.captivatetoconnect. or distribute all or any part of my book or this web page without permission. Neither www. When you purchased this book. com.

The best thing about it is that YOU could potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how. It’s not luck. I’m sure you wanted to accomplish something. I have yet to meet someone who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that catches his eye. I’ll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before the approach. build an emotional connection. then day game just might be the answer. outside of bars and clubs. and have the possibility of starting a relationship with them. supermarkets. WhaT Is day GaMe? Have you ever experienced seeing “your type” of girl walk down the street? Most likely you have. What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me. ”What Did You Do About It? Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by? If you didn’t do anything. as most may think. I’ve met a couple of men that can pull it off. it’s a skill set. and how I’ve used this information to solidify my game and make myself more successful with women. they roam around malls. shop. then that’s normal. and coffee shops every single day. they are rare. relax. beaches. and believe me. Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands. The question is. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day? If you answered yes to any one of those. Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday? Women of all types of beauty are not hard to find. have fun and a whole list of other reasons.  . get them on dates.Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle In this section. Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman.

What does sales have to do with being successful with girls? Everything. Several years ago. I learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must. Communication is key in everything that we do. the one thing that’s similar with salespeople and guys that are successful with women. Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What happened?  . then there would be no need for salespeople. trying to get people to buy our products. let’s get back to my story… After failing to produce results in my job. and that’s when I learned something… If my initial approach was unique. Heck. more often than not. If you think about it. is their ability to communicate with people. then people usually gave me a bit of their time. It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a chance to get to know the customer. I’ve had a history of being a salesman. and it did make sense. I’ve spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth in the middle of a mall.What if I told you that it’s possible to approach these beautiful strangers and have something positive result from almost all of your interactions? Would you think I’m nuts? an eye opener on Cold approaChInG Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger. Occasionally. Now. do you want to sign up for our service today?” yada yada yada. If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the customer. I’ll talk more about this in the upcoming chapters. I tried and experimented with a lot of different techniques. I’d always be shouting “Hey sir. I should know. But. they’d just continue walking. I didn’t even know their name. people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had to say.

depending on your mood. If you can relate to this scenario then. How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off? I’m sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers that you say when you get the same question. The first thing you need to do is find a way to bypass her social filters. There are a lot of whackos out there. Make or Break Moment The first couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or break moment. 0 . Your goal is to get her into a state of mind where she’s susceptible to be led. They’ve developed tolerance to men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction. Looking back. What does that mean? You’ve got to approach her in a way that she’s not accustomed. It’s probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because it opens the door for escalating the conversation. It’s not their fault and I certainly don’t blame them for being rude sometimes. why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were you interested in getting to know them as a person? Chances are it was out of politeness... isn’t it” Chances are you reply with some sort of answer.You probably heard them open with a familiar line like: “Hey what’s going on?” “Nice weather…” “It’s a pretty long line. WelCoMe To WoMen’s everyday realITy Women get approached or hit on all the time. Then the conversation comes to an end and you either say “Nice talking to you” or just simply turn around and carry on with your business.

will be focused on perfecting the first few minutes of the interaction. That’s your window of opportunity. It will be your first road block to success. Women will usually. open the door for you a little bit. if you’ve got your whole presence and communication skills down. Don’t skip this part.It’s like going to someone’s house and pushing the doorbell. there are no second chances if you mess it up. If it’s something you really want then you WILL achieve it. it doesn’t mean you get to go in and do whatever you want. We all have things to do and people to see. If you have a vision of what you want your life to be then that is your incentive to work harder. If you don’t have one. you should have one. A lot of your time. Have a pen and paper ready. It gives you an overall direction so you know where you’re going. when you first start out. I’m going to go with the assumption that everyone’s time is special. Most women will give you somewhere between three seconds and three minutes to captivate their interest. A lot of people out there are like chickens running around with their heads cut off. there’s one thing you need to do first. Most of the people you meet out there will have a very short attention span. You’ll find it very useful on your journey. Goal setting is very important for various reasons. CreaTInG a vIsIon Do you know where you’re heading? If you don’t then you might want to start brainstorming. But don’t expect them to be all over you after you’ve initiated the conversation. Just because someone opens the door. You have to set a goal for yourself.  . then by the end of this section. If you want to be successful with women. They have no goals set for themselves. It motivates you and keeps you on track. That’s just setting yourself up for failure. So I want you to take sometime to answer these questions. It’s always a good feeling knowing you’re working toward something that will benefit you in the long run.

where do you see yourself? What kind of person will you be by then? What kind of girl/girls will be with you? What’s your lifestyle going to be? What’s the difference between who you are now and who you want to be? • How long do you think it will take you to accomplish your overall goal? Have you set daily. Once you’ve figured out what you want. weekly. These questions should aid you in coming up with a solid vision of who you want to be and what steps you need to take in order to accomplish that. now what?! Anything on paper is just writing unless you put it to work. in 10 years.  .• Realistically speaking. it’s potential power. aCTInG on your plan Okay you have your plan. What’s in it for you in the long run? Like. the next step is to stick to your plan no matter what happens until you start to see results. I know it’s a good feeling to have so much information that your brain begins to swell. what do you really want to accomplish? You’re obviously investing a lot of your time and effort into learning how to be successful with women. and monthly goals to ensure that you’re constantly improving you skill set? How much time and effort do you need to put into this? What strategies do you have in order to stay consistent and committed to getting this part of your life handled? That’s just for starters. One piece of advice though: Information isn’t power.

I want to have the ability to date three new girls that I meet in the mall. I shouldn’t commit the same mistake again.”  . I’m also going to work on the different aspects of my life so that I become relationship material. I should always be pushing the interaction as far as it can go every time. Put the book down and start working on it.” 2. I need to interact with seven new girls three times a week for six months. After six months. I’ll be able to hold a conversation with a girl for 30 minutes. I should get my skill set to that level. every single week” or “I want to have a smoking hot girlfriend that’s half my age. What steps are needed in order to accomplish your plan? How long is it going to take and what does it require of me? Make sure to always stick to that plan. Get all the right information that you need in order to get this part of your life handled. I’m going to look for resources out there that will solve the problem for me. For example: “In order for me to be able to date three new girls a week. It was fun but I just can’t seem to get her to open up to me. For example: “In six months. Make sure you use this information as a guideline and makes sure you’re on the right track. I will surround myself with the kind of women I’d like to date and learn how to be comfortable in their presence. For example: “I was able to talk to several girls today. I’ll try to go on as many dates as I can so I can get experience under my belt. If you haven’t done this by now. I’ll make sure that they can give me personalized and individualized attention. Or I can look for someone qualified to help me out. and schedule a date with her at the end. then don’t continue reading. I’ll make sure to implement the things I learned right away.” Or “If I want a hot girlfriend I should be more experienced with hot women. Devise a plan on how you’re going to accomplish your goal.4 sTeps To InCrease The effeCTIveness of Goal seTTInG Know exactly what you want to accomplish. 1. After getting advice. and has a kick ass personality”.

I suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book. So I need to review all my interactions and see where I’m screwing things up. I’ve identified a total of 8 Essential Day Game Factors that must be addressed if you want to maximize your success rate! You must first understand all of the factors and how they affect your ability to meet. You should be able to analyze yourself and construct positive criticism. This is the only way to keep progressing. find the strong and weak points. The 8 Essential Day Factors are structured in a way that helps build you up. You see. starting from your core. InTroduCTIon To The 8 essenTIal dayGaMe faCTors I’m about to provide you with the most comprehensive information ever available on how use the 8 Essential Day Game Factors to dramatically increase your success with women.  .3. Did I build enough emotional connection with her? Did I convey my personality well enough? Am I giving up easily without following up? If so how can I improve my skill? I should try calling her more often…” This is a very simple structure you can use in order to assess your progress. Review all your results. then make the necessary adjustments.. This month I got eight numbers but none of them called me back. This is an essential skill to develop. and date the woman of your choice. three girls called me back. The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive foundation for daytime pick-up. then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part of the interaction. Here’s a QUICK PEEK at what’s coming up. I got five numbers and out of those numbers. For example: “Last month.. connect. In order to efficiently improve your skills.

I’ll go over the key concepts of identity building and how to effectively communicate who you are as a person. I’ll show you where most guys fail and how you can avoid most of the pitfalls out there. I’ll explain to you the importance of long term and short term value and how it affects all your interactions. I’ll discuss inner strength in depth and take you step by step so that you can develop a solid foundation . FACTOR : IDENTITY Do you know why most guys fail to keep a woman interested in them? Or even worse. FACTOR : COMMUNICATION Communication skills separate the beginners from the pros.  .FACTOR : INNER STRENGTH We’ll start to build you up from the very core of your personality. why they can’t keep a woman in their life? It’s because they don’t develop the ability to convey their identity. I’m confident that by the end of this book. I’ll teach you the same principles that I only teach in specialized 1 on 1 VIP seminars. I’ll show you exactly how to communicate with women. Don’t worry. FACTOR : LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM VALUE This chapter is guaranteed to raise a few eyebrows out there. A lot of guys don’t know the proper way of communicating with attractive women. They lose a woman’s initial interest due to their lack of communication or ineffective communication. you’ll have a basic understanding of what inner strength is and how you can use it to gain an unfair advantage over other guys. I’ll only be throwing stuff at you that I know you’d need.

I’ve compiled the most comprehensive approach to increase control over the interaction and decreasing the number of women flaking on you.  . I’ll show you specifically how to get the girl from the mall to your bedroom! FACTOR : INVESTMENT In order for anyone to be successful with women. In this chapter. I’ll give you a couple of tips on how you can maximize the effectiveness of the interaction by utilizing our logistic planning method. I’ve decided to just go all out and reveal four major investment categories. This chapter talks about the things you must do and avoid.FACTOR : EMOTIONAL CONNECTION Emotional Connection is what I like to call “The Heart of Day Game”. FACTOR : LEADING & LOGISTICS If you haven’t learned yet. let me be the first to tell you… Logistics is one thing that you do not have full control over. FACTOR : COMFORT AND TRUST Most guys just don’t know how to build comfort and trust with the women they meet. he must first master the art of making her invest in the interaction. Look no further! In this chapter. This is my favorite part of every interaction and you’re about to find out why! I go over specific time-tested tactics that I’ve used to establish a long lasting emotional bond that gets her to dream about you even after you’re gone! This is a very effective tool that increases the chances of you going on a date with her! I’ll go over the proper way to build an emotional connection and the opportune moment for you to start engaging her in this type of interaction.

I hadn’t seen him in years because he was stationed in Iraq.Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS faCTor 1: Inner sTrenGTh I know that most of you just want to learn what to say. I was the same as you when I first started out.. I had that choice. things would have been so much easier for me…” So save yourself a lot of time and read and understand this section first before you go onto the next one. I just knew that I had it in me to succeed beyond a shadow of a doubt. in other words. My friend and I were just chatting about life. Until this one day came. I mean. I admired this guy for his strength and courage. A lot of successful guys. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were stationed in Iraq. and be the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period with my head held up high. and end up to be a better person? I chose the latter. I just accepted it. I don’t blame you at all. “the lines”. I used to think to myself. “What does this guy have that I don’t. have one thing in common. I had two choices: should I go through all of this hardship.”  .. we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style. cherish every moment of my journey. I always wondered how he was able to do it. This is the one thing that fuels them day in and day out. what were you thinking of?” He replied: “All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person. Most people probably hated being there. You want to know what happened several years later? I sat down and told myself “If only I just build up myself first. Failure just wasn’t an option for me. I knew there would be a lot of people who’d be negative about the experience. So to make a long story short I asked him “It takes a lot of guts to do what you did.” I really thought I would never figure it out. It’s that bright light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve tried to put my finger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to figure out what it was. I know. There’s something about him that makes him complete as a person. It’s the driving force behind all their successes. be negative all the time.

appearance isn’t everything. or not tall. Sad to say. not well built. You can make a beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race! All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute. Examples of such factors are FRIENDS FAMILY SCHOOL SYSTEM SOCIETY MEDIA CULTURE ENVIRONMENT WOOOOWW! That’s a lot of factors influencing us. This is true for both men and women alike. probably since we were little kids. or fame. we’ve been programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women. There are a lot of factors that have molded us to be the person we are today.  . These moments don’t come to me that often but whenever they do. Not only that. These beliefs have been integrated into our being. Let’s take on the subject of appearance. You can get a girl even if you’re not rich. we live in a society that’s driven by money. they set the standard of what is cool. power. The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow. Let’s start out with media and advertising. You’ve Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don’t Even Know It! We all walk through this world with our beliefs. What we believe in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives. and desirable.I suddenly had one of those “Light bulb popping up in your head” moments. Contrary to popular belief. attractive. You can still get laid even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine. Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning… For the most part. they always hit me hard over the head. Let’s take a good look at magazines for a second.

famous.  . I need to buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…” Same thing for a guy “Oh. both the man and woman in this example end up concluding “In order to be desirable. Your words become your actions. that guy has the hottest girl I’ve ever seen.Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I’m sure you all know the answer to this one: Celebrities Attractive and fit people Rich people And everything else I forgot to mention Am I the only one that sees what’s going on here? Where can you find the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of a magazine. he has this sick ass watch. famous… He even has the fastest car around. where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial features modified to intimidate almost anyone. Your belief becomes who you are. tall. be this. and up to date I need to have this. and…” To make the long story short. The truth is… YOU DON’T Yeah being rich. and join this…” And whoever said advertising wasn’t effective? What actually happened was that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in order to be cool. tall. Anyone armed with the techniques and philosophies I’ll discuss in this book can attract the kind of woman that’s usually reserved for the good looking. He’s rich. and rich! IT’S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE! Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality? Your thoughts become your words. The average girl would think “That’s the girl that everyone in my school thinks is hot! She’s skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here). famous helps but it’s not the only way. cool.

Ever since then I began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions. This is where everyone should start regardless of their goal. and went on a journey to seek the truth. 0 .What if I told you that everything that you believe in. Here’s how this works. but the sooner you start believing. Change will not occur overnight. What if you can reprogram your entire self. you too can be successful with women. You have to live up to your full potential. Alright. I want you to go over this chapter again and again. I adopted bits and pieces of his philosophy in life. BELIEVE! I’ve learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. For the next 30 days. I’m just sharing with you everything that’s worked for me and the thousands of guys I’ve trained after I discovered everything I’m about to share with you. and relationships that I’ve had. It makes me sad to see all the guys out there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. you’re not going to be someone you’re not. back to my story. that would be too idealistic of me. These have been very useful for me and hopefully will be for you. struggles. becomes who you are? Would you believe me? You better. literally before my very own eyes. I will also provide you with exercises so your belief is reinforced with real world results. If only I could snap them out of their trance… but then again. because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs. After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you. BELIEVE. the faster you’ll get to your destination. I’ll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I’ve found to be very useful in my journey. only if you really really believed in it. And that’s when it occurred to me that… YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE. so you can move through the world naturally attracting people in your life? Before I hear any objections. Don’t stop reading until you start practicing and believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons. my whole world changed. You’re just going to be a better version of yourself.

 . people were hanging off every word you said. Got that memory? How does it make you feel? Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn’t it? That’s how you should feel before talking to anyone. If you believe that everything you say or do is valuable. next time before you talk to someone. but I’ve approached girls in the past and they’ve shot me down more times than I can think of… Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn’t mean you should stop eating right? Every girl is different. Try this out. The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself. imagine that you’re about to give them a million bucks in the next five minutes. You’re doing them a favor by talking to them. how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven’t even approached her yet? Okay. I don’t know what to say” speech playing in your head? Let me ask you this. TRY THIS OUT I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were indeed valuable to other people. I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to others. Starting now. Every situation is different. I want you to remember the times when you made several people feel good about themselves. all of a sudden. The time when.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS Have you ever had the feeling that you’re not worthy to even talk to someone? Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that damn “Why should she even talk to me? I’m not her type… and besides. I’m sure there’s a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just loved you. how does that change the way you act toward them? Try it out. then it will be valuable to others.

Don’t ask anyone for permission just do it. You do not need anyone’s approval before you do something. And you can get away with it. Don’t be afraid to spark tension. Everything is yours. Don’t be afraid to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : TAKE WHAT’S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS! There’s one thing that you will realize later on… You can do anything you want. Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission every single time you went for a trip to the rest room. Do you think he ever asked permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off? Nope. Next time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot. you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn’t you? Another example is the very famous Bill Gates. by the time you got to college. he just had a plan. whenever you want. You already have it in you. • Make your own decision and take your own stand. It’s about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in. And you have permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says. Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life: • It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. You have permission to change your beliefs. and never looked back. Don’t look for others to make decisions for you. just go ahead and sit down. Always say what’s on your mind. You have permission to go after the things you want in life. You have permission to be the best that you can be. Once again. if you don’t agree with someone simply say “I disagree” and leave it at that. So what do you want to do? What’s stopping you? You are your own boss.  . You can do them yourself. we’ve been programmed by society to look up to others for “permission” to do something we want to do. Well. executed it. Always voice out your opinions. wherever you want. I want you to live life like you own the world. Don’t wait for others to tell you what to do. You do not need permission to dress in a certain way.

When you’re at a party and someone asks: “Who wants such and such drinks” Don’t hesitate to raise your hand first and say “Over here”. One motto you can use is “I’m not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to impress me”. If it will compromise you or for some reason you just don’t feel comfortable with it then say “no”. You wouldn’t want to be known as the “yes” man. and someone gets there the same time you did. don’t hesitate to just smile and take the spot first. It’s hard to get used to saying “no” but you have to give it a shot. Don’t be ashamed of your past. Just try saying it. This boils down to being who you are despite what other people think. If it’s reasonable and you’re up for it then say “yes”. It’s not that bad.• Learn how to say “No”. TRY THIS OUT Let’s start out with simple exercises. Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time about it just smile and say “Thank you”. Be proud. Don’t ever change just because someone else wants you to. • I’m not trying to impress you.  . The next time you’re about to line up. background. or status. You’ll notice that people will begin to respect you more because you’re upfront. stand tall. and don’t bow down to someone just because you perceive them as being better than you.

I don’t really know. Maybe I wanted to be a rock star because I’d be famous worldwide. Why did I choose that as a kid? Beats me. Your job is to convey your identity all throughout an interaction.Mark Sanborne So What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? When I was seven years old I wanted to be a rock star. the stories you tell. I wanted to be that guy that rocked people’s world with his guitar. They are trying to form a picture of who you are as a person.  . every single person you meet will wonder who you are. They ask you questions for a purpose.faCTor 2: IdenTITy Do you know what people think of the first time they meet you? Do you know the first thing that pops up in a woman’s head the moment you approach her? Do you know what she will think about the minute she gets home after meeting you? “Who in the world is this guy?” So let me throw the question at you… Who Are You? Trust me. when I’d just jump off the bed with a broomstick trying to mimic Slash from Guns n Roses. all of these play an important role in establishing your identity. Or maybe it was what everybody wanted at that time.” . Maybe because it looked cool on television. It seemed just like yesterday. The clothes you wear. It All Started When You Were A Kid “There are two great moments in a person’s life: the moment they were born and the moment they realize why they were born. and the way you present yourself to others. I wanted to be that guy in the spotlight that made people jump to the beat of his melody. So what exactly is your identity? Continue reading because this whole chapter is dedicated to the subject of identity.

Not that thinking it’s a bad thing. As a result of growing up.  . I believe that the person we want to be is already inside of us. We become better versions of ourselves. he was already done before he started. Here are several ways to discover who you are. Michelangelo. Then out of nowhere someone started playing my song on the radio. We were all created unique and special. I thought I would never be an artist because of what everybody said to me… “Being a musician won’t get you anywhere… It’s useless. We were born to experience life and with that experience we grow and we learn. Yes. once said “The Sculpture is already in the stone” and I never forgot that. It really came from the heart but at such an early age. So let me ask you this: What did you want to be when you were seven years old? How to Discover Who You Are I’m not going to keep you waiting any longer. the product was already finished. we just need a balance of both. you’re better of just having a 9-5 job where you can make a constant stream of income” Unfortunately. I never really thought about it until three weeks ago when I was in a car with a bunch of friends. I didn’t stray away from it. That’s when it struck me. I had no other choice but to listen to what everyone said.The truth is. Becoming a musician was a dream. when I was a kid. This is a very important section in this book. I want you to pull out a piece of paper and jot down some notes. I’m an artist! I’m a musician! I really did achieve what I wanted when I was a kid. It just put the pieces of the puzzle together for me. peers. we tend to stop feeling and just start thinking. all he had to do was to chip away all the unnecessary stuff. If there’s one thing I want you to accomplish after you finish reading this book. then this is it. I was easily influenced by my parents. Success is in already inside all of us. It means that every single time that Michelangelo worked on chipping away pieces of his sculpture. and teachers. Now that I look back. I realize that each and everyone of us had dreams when we were little. You’ll need some time to work on this. One of my favorite sculptors.

So how is this useful in social interactions? Simple. I only want you to write down three. Don’t force yourself to finish all these exercises in a day. Some exercises will take time to finish. Most men end interactions without really conveying their identity. What makes you smile? What are the things you look forward to in the day? What’s your reward after a long day’s work? • Write Down Some of Your Main Theories. • List 25 Things That Make You Happy. the things their passionate about. indeed. What are the things that you value in life? What are the important things? What do you stand by? What do you fight for? • What are Your Three Biggest Accomplishments? By listing them. Don’t be afraid to let everyone see. think back. It can be related to fitness. • Make a List of Everything You Want to Become. and the things they believe in. Be proud of who you are. Beliefs.• What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? Come on. No one can see what you write. are talented. you’ll discover what you’re passionate about. I want you to write down everything. It will reaffirm in your mind that you. You could probably never stop listing reasons here. Sky is the limit folks. and traveling. health.  . business. • What are the Three Things You Like About Yourself. When you’re finished writing.. This leaves women with a blank picture on their head of who you are as a person. It can be a big or small goal. Write it all down. and write it down.. I want you to post it somewhere you can see it everyday. No one will judge what you write. It’s always good to be mysterious but you should also find a way to convey your identity all through out the interaction. Embrace it with both arms. dating. • Make a List of 15 Goals For Next Year. But please try to restrain yourself. Read it as often as you want for 30 days straight. and Philosophies in Life. relationship. It always feels nice to remind yourself who you are.

If you’re enthusiastic about it then it becomes interesting to her. music. Having this knowledge of yourself is so important especially when you’re interacting with people. Do this at least every two weeks.  . Discovering who you are and the things that make you tick is something you should work on regardless of your goals in life. Discuss your perspectives on life. Invite your friends along and have a blast. TRY THIS OUT This weekend. try something new. Remember. If you run out of things to do. It provides them with a window to your being and this makes you interesting. I want you to do an activity you enjoy doing but haven’t done in a long time. Give her a taste of what it’s like to be in your shoes for a minute. Bring her into your world. talk about the things that are interesting to you.So. and anything your heart fancies. what do you do when you run out of things to say? An effective strategy is to just talk about something you’re really passionate about. travel. art. You need to provide value. It puts you into a positive light but it’s still not enough to get you into any kind of relationship.

women usually pick the guys that can provide the most value to their life. then I wonder what happens when I’m not even present. I was walking in the mall with two girls. it was hard to understand him with his accent. we weren’t mean to the poor guy or anything. So why should she give you the time of day? What is in it for her? I hate to phrase it this way but at the end of the day. How Women Decide If You’re A Contestant Most women have several choices of men from which to pick. We smiled. Let me start out by giving you a glimpse of what it’s like to be an attractive woman. personality. It’s no secret that women get hit on all the time. lifestyle. and all the others I’m about to discuss. and a salesman pops up out of nowhere and asks one of the girls I’m with “Would you like to go out on a date with me?”. Anyway. Just last week. Then I suddenly realized something. communication. waved. If these girls got hit on twice when they were with me. Value is determined by a lot of things such as social status.faCTor 3: lonG TerM and shorT TerM value So. and took off. After all he had balls of steel for doing that. Value is broken down in to the categories: short and long term value  . I hear that you want to the secrets to dating women of particular quality and beauty during the daytime… In order to learn how to communicate with women. In this society. you must first understand them. appearance. I think that’s what he said. it boils down to one question Are you an asset or a liability? It sounds so ridiculous but it’s true.

So the key is to be unique in that given environment. • Develop your own signature presence . • Laugh. If you can share your ideas with her passionately. stop. You don’t have to be as smart as Albert Einstein. Laughter is a good feeling. in my experience. You’ll notice that women want to be around you more often. just thinking about that moment…. etc. People tend to gravitate toward people that make them feel good. Laugh with them… If you have the skill to make women laugh. Almost like a drug. That’s the power of short term value.Short Term Value & Ways You Can Build It Up! Short term value is determined by the experience you give women the first time you meet them. It doesn’t specifically mean that you have come up with something super original. It’s the moment when we shut the whole world off for a second and connect with ourselves. Laugh. Some ways of doing this are the way you groom and present yourself. then she will go out of her way just to talk to you. It happens most of the time. you’ve got the ability to hold someone’s attention and  . You will get far with humor. Do you remember the last time you shared a laugh with someone? Now. • Always provide positive emotions. It’s addictive. happiness. Now let’s go into some examples of how you can cultivate short term value. All you need are a few interesting topics in which you’re quite familiar. There’s a big chance that somewhere in the world. she’s busy reading something. How did it make you feel? See my point. Once you find a way to provide these emotions. Let’s say you see a pretty woman as you walk into a coffee shop. Intelligence is another tool you can use to captivate a woman’s mind. excitement. Your job is to provide positive emotions like fun. You want to be able to laugh together. This is done by conveying a rich and textured personality. then you’re already ahead of the game. • Let your inner teacher shine. comfort. in fact you don’t have to be smart at all to pull this off. Become unique. Laughter serves two purposes: Builds attraction within a girl and creates an unspoken bond between the both of you. Do you have what it takes to get her to want to slam her book down and just talk to you? It’s not impossible. If she perceives you as being more valuable than what she’s currently doing. someone’s doing exactly what you’re doing. Communication is a tool you can use to your advantage but that’s in another chapter. then BAM. They’ll call you and even pester you to hang out with them. There’s one problem though. you’ll instantly be magnetic to women. The fact that you’re educated.

traditions. Never say “I don’t know”. Wouldn’t you? • Decisive. Your job as a man is to lead the interaction. and enthusiastic. Women constantly test for this. Show ‘em what you got! • You are the leader. Women are drawn to guys that are happy. If she says “I’m not sure about this” say “You’re gonna love it. then it will be very hard for women not to notice you. trust me”. Instead of saying “Do you want to come?” say “Let’s go” instead. joyful. language. Cultured and Worldly. Don’t be afraid to take a stand and follow it up with an action.interest. Lead the conversation. If you can be a substitute for a romantic novel then. teach everyone something. Happy. and Enthusiastic. Women love romance. Always make it a point to be a decision maker. This can be conveyed with your attitude and the right assertiveness. If you expect her to lead and even make the first move. • Classy. Take her by the hand and make it easy for her. 0 . a trick. Don’t believe me? Did you know that romance novels account for majority of the sales in bookstores? And that’s why women just love a guy that can give them the romantic fantasy. share your knowledge with the world. It’s also an advantage if you’ve done some traveling. Always lead and reassure her that she’s safe with you. You can go on with this. and a plan. Joyful. They want a man who knows what he wants. Teach her a couple of things about your culture. This is usually learned through your family and the people you’re surrounded by. and a handshake. If you want her number then just ask for it. decision. Classy defines someone who has high standard of personal behavior. Lead the interaction. Always have an opinion. For example. • Romantic. when she says “Where are we going?” say “We’re going to grab some ice cream. a few fun games you probably learned as a kid. Let’s go”. as my friend Rish would say. the possibilities are endless. Just remember. then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. “You’re so F****** money and you don’t even know it man”. Are your outfits coordinated well? Does your belt match your shoes? Do you understand poetry and the different works of art? Do you know the best restaurants in your city? Do you understand the world of fashion? Do you know a couple of classic movies? If you’re equipped with this. If you step into that role she will allow you to play the role. I know it’s easier said then done. These positive emotions bring value to their lives.

• Emotional Connection. They smell this quality a mile away. Boredom is the enemy. The whole courting process is very similar to sales. There are a lot of ways ambition can be conveyed. Here’s a short description I found on the internet. Do something adventurous. Lean more toward the energy that they give off. but it’s sort of like a gut feeling.  . Short term value opens the door to her life. Stay tuned! • Dare to Dream. YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELF! Here are the features that you can add on to increase your long term value • Become a renaissance man. dangerous. I can always tell the people who are ambitious from the ones that aren’t.LONG TERM VALUE & WAYS YOU CAN BUILD IT UP So you’ve learned how to demonstrate short term value. Make it a routine to continuously be learning. a girl decides if she wants to see you again. As hard as it sounds. or go on a date with you when you’re not there! These are the times when she probably evaluates you as a package and sees if you’re worth it. It’s time to rediscover and redefine yourself. limitless in his capacities for development. A renaissance man is considered a man at the centre of the universe. Pick up a book every two weeks and read it. or exciting and live to talk about it. Do something new every single month. Your long term value is responsible for keeping a girl hooked on you. You have to walk a little bit to get through the door and make sure that you stay in it. The only difference is that you’re not selling an actual product. I think this is one major factor for women who are looking for a commitment. these are the things that go on behind closed doors. Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something in life. It’s hard to explain over in text. Now it’s time to cultivate your long term value. And don’t forget to make it an interesting book. That’s why you want to give her the best option so she can make an educated decision. Remember. Women crave men who are ambitious. Make your life an open book. Sounds like a sales pitch right? Right. From experience. continue the relationship. The most obvious one is the way one talks about life. Coming up in the next couple of chapters.

Sex releases endorphins and it relaxes the body. It is no secret that women love men that are great in bed. They get all excited when you do this. It’s good to create a contrast in your personality. This is similar to being confident. • Tenderness and Sensitivity. Being predictable takes the excitement out of a relationship or interaction. This is conveyed with the way you speak and carry yourself. Women like men that can give them a wonderful experience. Women are sexual beings just like we are. Unpredictability is the spice of life.• Financially self-sufficient. Do you listen to her when she opens up to you? Do you act as a protector and make sure she’s always taken care of? Do you steer her around corners when you guys are walking around? Do you make her feel comfortable at times when she’s not? • Assertive.  . Do you assert your wishes on others? Do you make sure that you’ve got everything under control? Do you bargain your way into getting something you really want? Do you take a stand a support it fully? • Sex God. It’s not good to be too unpredictable either. and handsome”. You need to be able to support yourself and show potential for becoming financially stable one day. • Self-assuredness. “I want a guy who is rich. I hate to admit it but money is a deciding factor in the dating game. Firm and Strong. They enjoy sex as much as we do. what do you do for a living?” They’re trying to get a glimpse of how much money you earn. It’s fun. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard that phrase from women. Don’t you wonder what women are trying to find out when they ask “So. tall. I’m not saying that all women are gold diggers. They also like men that know exactly how to press their buttons and provide satisfaction. and move on to the next topic? • Keep ‘em Guessing. At times be romantic and shower her with attention and the next day treat her like one of your buddies. This can be demonstrated by the way you treat her. How do you move through the world? Are you afraid to take up space in the world? Or are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you let bad criticisms get to you? Or do you accept them confidently? A simple test would be a woman giving you a hard time about something you either wear or do. say “thank you”. It’s not a prerequisite for her to date you but it plays a huge role if you want to have a smooth long term relationship. now how do you respond to it? Do you get all offended and convincing her that you’re a cool guy deep down inside? Or do you just accept it with a smile. All I’m trying to say is that women screen the men to see if they are relationship material.

These are some of the essential components to building long term value. You at least need to be between 3-5 in all ranges in order to be successful with women. you should have a killer understanding of inner foundation. big goal concepts. If you’re below 3 in one of the qualities I outlined here. That’s the reason why communicating effectively is a topic I spend several hours teaching at the workshops. it’s useless. and a couple of helpful tips. TRY THIS OUT Read through this chapter again. Remember.  . you can have the best line or script in the world but if you can’t present it well. if you’ve been doing everything right. By now. Now go through each quality I mentioned in this chapter and rate yourself from 1-5 (1 being the lowest and 5 the highest). then take a week to focus on this specific quality. When you’re done. I want you to take a good look at yourself and your life.

you need to be able to communicate effectively. I almost forgot. Average Guy is innocently looking for clothes to buy. she deploys her killer line: “Oh. He seems to carry himself well and has a good sense of style. he notices something moving from his side. She sees this average looking guy. nice hair. That’s all it is. tata!” Scenario 2: Ms. She sees this guy. describing a movie you watched to your friends. After three minutes of boring conversation and ineffective communication. Hot Stuff makes his way to talk to her. Actually. Hot Stuff. Minutes pass by. Plain Jane starts to slowly face away from Mr.Ms. Average Guy’s hormones go wild. It was nice meeting you though.Mr. She stands up and leaves the coffee shop with him. And then. I have to rush back home because I left the light on my boyfriend’s room. She heads over to the table to sit down. In that moment. I didn’t even notice the time.faCTor 4: effeCTIve CoMMunICaTIon Your communication skills will either make or break you in your quest for success in all areas of your life. She’s enjoying the moment. Hours pass by. probably not. he wants her. He looks over and notices big boobs. a body to die for. You must develop strong and effective communication skills in order to get what you want in life. Plain or Hot Jane Scenario 1: Ms. Plain Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. That’s the secret to success beyond your wildest dream. Contestant # 1. Mr. there’s more to it than that. she got him all excited in less than a second… Contestant # 2. he walks toward her and starts talking. that was fast. Wow. and a Mona Lisa smile. He started out as a stranger and left like her lover. Average Guy General Scenario: Mr. Let me give you an example. but it’s a key ingredient my friend. Deep down. So what was the component that determined success and failure in each interaction?  . I’m not going to sugar coat it. Whether you’re working on presenting an idea to other people. Mr. He’s smoking hot. He starts getting excited or nervous and he knows why. or instructing a cab driver where you want to go. Hot Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. She’s excited but she’s not going to give it all away because of that. Ms. Two minutes later. Next thing you know.

when you want it. • Women to feel exactly any emotion that you want them to feel allowing you to control and predict the outcome of your interactions. The Communication Equation Individual + Effective Method of Presentation + Powerful Content of Presentation =Effective Communication TRY THIS OUT Go out to a coffee shop one of these days and order your favorite drink. your beliefs. Presence is Everything I’ll share something with you. make sure your order is so clear that you won’t be barraged with questions after your order. you can live the most interesting life in the world.. • More dates and maintain relationships easily. it’s a really cool exercise. with no whip cream. it’s useless. Just think about it. and how you want it • Your message across clearly for anyone to understand • Recognized for your ability to comm-YOU-nicate who you are. One of the most common question I hear is “What do you say to her to start the conversation?”  . Most guys I’ve met always ask me for the techniques I use to start conversations with women. decaf. For example: “Hmmmmmm. Remember what she says. When you know how to communicate well you can get . to go please. • What you want. Just try it out for fun. I’m in the mood for a caramel macchiato... You can have 99 good qualities about you but unless you know how to effectively communicate them. You are what you communicate. and your values in life. Now the next time you go out.Effective communication. No one else will find out all these positive things about you. Does the barista ask you any questions afterward? Good. Then hand out your cash or card..

I guess the saying “The eyes are the windows to the soul” does have meaning. Having said that. It’s all about how you present yourself. Women are masters when it comes to reading body language.  . This helps to get your message across more effectively. They categorize you based on how you stand up. How stylish are you? What kind of fashion statement are you making? What can people tell about you by the way you dress up? Does your style leave a good or bad impression on others? Do you command attention? • It’s not what you say but how you say it. Facial expressions are used to convey emotions like anger. A genuine smile can take you a long way. And believe me. I noticed that some techniques worked better than the others (more about techniques in the last chapter) but there was always one thing common that made my approach work. Have you ever heard the saying “People buy you first before anything else”. Your facial expressions can communicate messages of their own. when I say a lot. It makes a big difference. joy. It really does. I found that saying to be true. sadness. Did you know that there is a way to use eye contact to increase the effectiveness of your communication? It’s very important to hold eye contact at certain points in the interaction. or walk? Are you relaxed and calm during most times? Do you lean back when you talk to her? Do you move unnecessarily during the conversation? Your non-verbal communication is the window to who you are. I mean a lot.I’ve experimented with a lot of conversation starters in public places. fear. Holding eye contact builds trust and comfort. It worked because of the way I presented it. how relaxed you are. How’s your vocal projection and delivery. It eases women up at times when they’re nervous. rather than being all serious and mysterious. and how you carry yourself. • Fashion. Smiling makes women feel comfortable. • Facial expression. Are you comfortable with the way you stand. There have been several studies shown that women prefer men that smile while initiating a conversation. and surprise. Along the way. Practice using a variety of facial expressions when you tell people stories. sit. disgust. here are six helpful tips to increase the power of your presence: • Learn how to smile. Do you slow down your pace when you’re emphasizing a point? Do you use pauses to amp up the tension and intrigue? Do you speak loud and clear for people to hear? Do you speak from your diaphragm or nasal? Do you eat your words? Are you relaxed when you speak? • Body Language. • Communicate with your eyes.

The  Commandments of Effective Body Language 1. I feel comfortable when my hands are out of my pockets. Thou shall not shake or move a lot in the presence of an attractive woman. and the way you move through this world on a daily basis. don’t move your hands around too much when you talk. Thou shall not have thy hands inside the front pockets. even if you’re nervous. right from the bat. chances are she’ll be nervous too. then it won’t feel like it’s a conversation. If you’re too far from her. just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. then she will feel very uncomfortable. placing your feet up on chairs. I’ve discovered that when you assume a relaxed position. and slowly get closer at specific points of the interaction. Man starts to smile nervously. Man starts to make unnecessary movement because of the extra energy he feels. For some reason. talk and carry yourself? I think that body language is the biggest giveaway when it comes to revealing who you are and how you feel. Never have your hand inside your front pockets when you initiate a conversation with anyone unless it’s below freezing and you don’t have any gloves. When woman gets close. It’s really funny to watch. 2. Try mixing it up. So here’s to a good first impression. At high and fun points take a step closer or move your chair closer. and leaning against the wall. If you’re nervous all throughout the interaction. At low points step away a little bit. Man gets very jittery. 4. you slowly start to feel more relaxed. At the same time. If you stay to close to her.  . It usually goes like this: Man sees attractive woman. the way you walk.Body Language Tips for Day Game “Your body language. will provide women with enough information to categorize you based on the impression you just gave them” Have you ever thought about the things you convey about yourself based on your body language? Did you know that women can tell if you’re confident and cool or nervous and inexperienced just by the observing the way you walk. Thou shall relax and lean back. Next time you’re in an interaction. Men tend to easily get intimidated with women that are way above their league. That includes doing things like slouching. man tends to change his behaviors and act way cooler then he really is. I’ve had success with starting off at about 3-5 feet away. Thou shall not stand or sit too close or too far from her. Experiment with it. 3.

Thou shall keep thy composure at all times. For example. 5. Everything changed. For some reason. and moved slow. become jittery. I used to be that way every time I thought I got rejected by women. They took their time almost like they owned time. 7. I used to lay down flat on the floor and take deep breaths. They’re shoulders become tense and they act all stiff to the point that they make themselves nervous. Thou shall walk and move slow. It shows people that you were emotionally affected by it. Mirroring her body language is a technique used to increase rapport and comfort levels. 6. the more positive responses I got from women. I modeled this behavior after guys that were naturals when it came to dealing with women. Women are human beings too. Everything they did was almost too smooth. They walked. Thou shall mirror her body language. 8. when I’m calling up a girl for the first time. I’d stutter. I’ve learned that if you keep your composure and act as if nothing happened then you end up maintaining control of the situation. If you’re guilty of this. Not good. it helped me relax more. They stand up so erect that it’s almost too funny to watch. They just exert more effort and time into looking good.Do whatever makes you feel better. The exact same thing I did every time I experienced a mild confrontation. They’re not some sort of super human goddesses from outer space you know? They do the same things you do. Thou shall not stand up like a soldier. And the more I started acting that way. Have you ever been in a situation gone bad? You probably didn’t notice at that time but everything about you changed. relax. talked.  . Your voice tone probably changed. Have you ever been guilty of standing up too straight while you’re talking to a woman? Similar to how you would stand and act if you’re talking to an authority figure? Most guys take interactions with women too seriously. and eventually make a shameful exit. The way you stood up probably changed.

.. Give Before You Take A lot of people are used to taking things from the world and from people.  . Relax. Be comfortable. I am a man and I have something to offer the world…” That’s how I view the world....... It makes me happy.. That’s the reason why women instantly open up to me when I initiate a conversation with them.. Be comfortable... I offer positive and fun emotions. Those one-way friendships where people just call you when they need something from you. Feet spread apart... I’ll take care of you and make you feel like you’re part of my family. It happens so often that it’s become normal. I move through the world with something to offer to everyone. Inhale. People that just ask favors all the time.TRY THIS OUT Lean back. People that just keep asking question after question without really contributing toward the conversation.. Relax... Hands out of the pockets. It’s sad and I see it happen every day. Here’s my view of the world: “I am a man. I bring fun and excitement to everyone I meet. that’s a different story. Slow and confident movements.. My presences makes people feel better.. But once you betray my trust. I just like to give.... Take a deep breath. Exhale. I’ve been guilty of this as well. Don’t tense your shoulders up.. Your job is to not be one of those guys.. Be comfortable... Don’t be too stiff.. At the same time I know my boundaries and I won’t be taken advantage of... And make sure not to fall asleep. It’s also the reason why I can give a woman a compliment without seeming like I just want to get in her pants.. I’m the sweetest and coolest person you’ll ever meet. I talk about my life experiences and my view on things because I just want to share my life with other people. I give without really expecting anything in return... Relax...

It’s rare. then do you know what makes you stick in her mind? Endlessly? 0 . People sense this quality. TRY THIS OUT Effective communication will open doors for you in this life. I am focused more on giving to people rather than taking anything from them. And you’ll soon realize that it opens women up to your ideas and messages as well. You should learn to cultivate it.That’s the reason why I am who I am right now. So if effective communication opens doors for you.

That’s 14 girls for every 1 guy. Women like men that can act like men. He is rare in this society. At the same time. I never really had a strong male influence in my life. And that’s because they can’t live up to their role of being a man. Men are usually too masculine or too feminine. Growing up. That’s off the wall. even if you treat me bad”. it’s done in little quantities but never enough for her. women crave the feminine side in men. How to effectively build an emotional connection. Certain profiles are assholes. Somewhere along the road. I’m about to tell you why. In order to be successful with women. A man who is masculine and knows how to communicate with women. she’ll be able to make him change. I grew up with four little sisters. The ratio of girls to guys in my family is about 14:1. So why are women attracted to guys that act like jerks? Women are attracted because they don’t acknowledge her as some sort of higher being than them. He’s actually much rarer than a really hot girl that has it all together. It’s hard to find guys that are just right in the middle. She hopes that one day. frat boys. Guys like these usually worship the women they are with. It rarely happens though. They usually fall under the extremes. Women are attracted to the two profiles but there’s a flaw that exists in both. He rarely has control of the things that are going on in his life. Let me tell you a little bit more about me.faCTor 5: eMoTIonal ConneCTIon Now we’re getting to my favorite part of the book. Women wish that these guys would just stop for a second and actually take time to show her how much he appreciates her.  . If it does. Almost to the point of “I’ll do anything for you. I’d like to call this the heart of day game. and I had to work on this aspect later on. women lose respect for this type of guy. I also happen to be the only guy. This guy is usually submissive in a relationship. Let me explain. bikers. He’s more sensitive than most guys and actually shows his sensitive side. This always keeps her on her toes. you need to cultivate both your masculine and feminine side. in the long run. gang members. Now let’s talk about the guy with a feminine profile.

But guys like that are just hard to find. And most of all. I learned how to build a long lasting emotional connection. I became familiar with the way a woman’s mind worked. Someone who takes the bull by the horns and at the same time cares if she’s comfortable. you first have to understand how they operate. the things they want. back to my story. women dream of guys that have cultivated both masculine and feminine sides to them. Women have two sides to them… A logical side and an emotional side Oh I forgot. I understood what made them feel comfortable. Someone who has firm beliefs and opinions and at the same time is open minded. Her logical side makes all the decisions but there’s a much stronger side that can completely override it… it’s her emotional side. Someone who sees them for who they truly are and at the same time treats them as an equal. If you want proof that the above statement is true then I double dare you to show it to ANY of your female friends. it will be another fun experience for you. Looking back. and how their minds works. Someone who treats her like a woman and the same time puts her at her place when there’s a need for it. It taught me things that I never knew I knew. I learned how to communicate with them effectively. but that’s not until later.  . Ideally. I unconsciously learned how to be comfortable around women and vice versa. Come on. If nothing else. I was very fortunate to be surrounded by women early on in my life. Understanding Women In order to become successful with women. Why they do the things they do and why they act the way they act. Anyway. I learned what they really wanted in a guy. not just what they said they wanted. Do it. Someone who can make her experience a variety of emotions and at the same time give her a chance to do the same.Women look for men that are strong and at the same time gentle. they also have a physical side.

They enjoy experiencing emotions and they communicate with it. She’s been exposed to movies about love and destiny. That’s because there’s emotion involved in it. There’s one thing I want you to know before I give you all the techniques and tactics to meet. she was probably exposed to all these romantic Hollywood Disney movies. It’s a place full of hopes. and keep women… And that’s the fact that.Women want you to believe that her logical side is in control but in reality. shhh it’s a secret. it’s the other way around. A place that’s been buried deep down inside that’s probably never been forgotten. and not long after that. And now I’ll reveal to you the Equation for Getting Any Woman You Desire! Logical Connection + Emotional Connection + Sexual Connection + Proper place and time = The Perfect Seduction. Women are emotional creatures. the body will too…” Looking back at my experiences. A guy that will come along and push all her buttons making her cherish  . and fantasies. Every Woman Has a Fantasy Let’s rewind. And it all began when she was a little girl. I’m going to give you a sneak peek at a place within women that they don’t want you to know. this is the natural progression of all my successful interactions. That’s the same reason I believe that “If you can captivate the mind.. There are tons of emotions that take place prior to it. date. I’m going to take you through a journey that’s about to open your eyes to the world of women. Drama is also something that certain women might be addicted to. dreams. That’s why most women read romance novels and watch soap operas. This just encouraged her to believe that one day. Growing up. the perfect guy would come along.. A guy that would sweep her off her feet and appreciate her for who she truly is. They are filled with emotions. the heart will follow. That’s probably the same reason why make up sex is better than regular sex.

Most of them just end up being disappointed. Anyways. Everyone starts out as a hopeless romantic or they develop it later on in life. The Hidden Formula For Creating An Emotional Connection Man Opens up + Woman Opens Up + They Connect on Surface. They go after the rich. A guy that knows what to do and how to do it. it satisfies her. Core.. They’ve probably had a rough past. Then she grows up and begins to realize that not everything’s perfect. and famous. It’s because they’ve been hurt before. or available guys that probably can’t give them what they need. Deep. Maybe a relationship gone wrong or just a really traumatizing experience. And Spiritual Level + Appreciation + Comfort with Presence + Commonality and familiarity + Shared Emotions = Long Lasting Emotional Connection  . just like what happens when kids find out that Santa Claus isn’t real. Not everything turns out to be the way you expect it to be. They do it because it works. but it kept her busy during that period of time. and go for more superficial things.the experience even more. Chances are they probably get into relationships hoping that someone can fit that role. This causes them to toss away that dream. That causes them to protect themselves by acting “bitchy”. This explains why women may act bitchy at times. These women constantly wait for their prince charming every single day. A guy that will take her on a memorable experience.. Some women actually ended up holding on to that dream. But at that moment. This is at the deep core of every woman. Maybe it’s not exactly what she wanted. hot. Some women forget about this side of themselves usually because they get really hurt from a certain experience. She learns and begins to grow. This is when they just start to settle for anything else out there. These women are what we call the “Hopeless Romantics”.

you also want to encourage her to share a secret with you. will set up the stage on how it’s going to be.  . That’s right. Same thing when women ask you questions. Once you do a good job at describing the emotion. It’s important to emphasize and describe exactly how you feel. This makes her feel super special. That’s why it’s important to become comfortable with sharing your life experiences with other people. she actually gives you the winning cards that you can use on her. it takes two to tango. Shut up. it will give you a better picture of how you can effectively seduce her. just keep quiet and listen. 5. don’t just open up to her. By telling her a secret. this will help a lot in building a connection. When she pauses. It’s what I call the “Go First Principle”. Of course. So the next time a woman starts to open up to you. Once in awhile I like to add “I can’t believe I’m telling you this… I don’t even tell this to the people I’m close with…” This little piece gets the message across. 6. At the same time. Everything she says is gold! Later on. Lead with your personality. and the things you value in life. Sharing a deep experience will encourage her to do the same. You must tell her in a way that she can understand. early on in the interaction. once again. How do you expect her to open up to you if you don’t do the same? One way to help her open up to you is to do it first. You’re vulnerable as well. 2. 4. Practice being social. It makes you look smarter. Wait for another 3-5 seconds before you interject. You can see her face either light up or the other way around. Don’t interrupt her when she begins to open up. Tell her something that nobody knows about you. As an exercise. Share a deep experience. and vice versa. pause for a bit. don’t talk. Open up to her. You automatically become special once she’s shared this with you. It solidifies whatever connection that’s present. Tell her how you feel. Relate with her. and then give your answer. build an unspoken bond. It’s an important skill to be able to describe an emotion so effectively that she begins to feel it. You’re setting the standard here. The emotion in this scenario will. Most men focus on logical stuff. Most guys just relate with her on a superficial level. Always be leading. you can almost see it. beliefs. She’ll feel like she knows you better. you just build an unspoken bond between the two of you. You have to know how to relate with her. Especially if you know exactly how to tell her how you feel. It’s always better to relate on the deeper topics. It adds depth to your personality. Just learn how to keep on talking and sharing your experiences. Whether you’re telling a story or just explaining your current mood. it shows her that you’re just a human being. After all. 3. Everything you do.Crash Course: 8 Killer Strategies in Order to Build an Emotional Connection 1. Open up to everyone you meet.

Kill the quick me too. I’ll just let her talk. make a conscious effort to actually implement them the next time you’re out. If not. ask yourself if you were implementing the concepts covered in this section. Pacing and Complimenting. me too” whenever the opportunity arises..7. if I’m also into dancing. TRY THIS OUT Play back the last conversation you had. You’ll notice a big difference in your interactions. For example. even let the subject drift off. Now. I like Pearl Jam too” I’d rather play my Pearl Jam CD when she rides in my car. I’ve noticed that most men are eager to say “Yeah. More about this on the last section. I’ll just casually slip in a story about how I won a dancing contest or something like that. 8. I’ll start to talk about it indirectly.. Are you aware of the value of building an emotional connection now? Do you know that there are two things that you need to add to the equation in order to build the ultimate bond? That brings me to my next topic. in your head. or let her discover it on top of my CD player. let’s say she talks about how much she just loves to dance.  . It comes across as if you’re trying too hard to be similar with her. then later on. then you’re ahead of most guys out there. What I’ve found to be very effective is to hold the “Me too” for 10 minutes or so and later in the conversation. Instead of telling her “That’s so cool. Another example: Let’s say she tells me that her favorite band is Pearl Jam. If you’re good at connecting with women.

 . So you’ll have to equip yourself with a unique style. So what factors do you have to address when you’re planning to meet women in public places? COMFORT AND TRUST In order for them to call you back. strangers can be bad. she must at least trust you a little bit. it’s a social context. That’s why it’s so important to take her on an. or even answer your call. During the day time. it’s a date right on the spot. loading up on gas. her peer group and the competition. the drinks. So when you walk up to women in this setting the first thing they think about is “Is this guy cool enough for me to talk to? There are so many guys. Well. Who says you need to wait a couple of days before you take her out? Taking her on an instant date will dramatically increase the chances of her picking up your calls and going out with you later on. INSTANT DATE That’s right. she must be comfortable with you. it’s a whole other story. You can be anyone dangerous and she wouldn’t even find out. here are the facts.. why should I talk to him”. She’s probably by herself. and some serious entertainment skills. In the bars and clubs you have to deal with the music. or shopping for groceries. In order for her to go anywhere with you. women just need to be extra careful nowadays. When you’re in a bar or club. Whenever someone talks to her she instantly considers them a stranger. show up on a date. looking for clothes. Let me share with you a quick story on how I discovered this key element.. a loud booming voice. With the different crimes out there.faCTor 6: CoMforT & TrusT There are a lot of differences between learning how to meet women in bars and club as opposed to public places. She’s a woman and you’re a man. And do you remember what your parents told you about strangers? Don’t talk to strangers.

She was in a business outfit and had some shopping bags with her. My heart skipped a beat for a second. She was about three inches taller than me. And the rest I would say. let’s sit over there”. Anyways. In my mind. I slowly stopped her from walking and we ended up chatting for a bit. “Hey. To cut the long story short. after a bit of conversation she said. this was the day that changed my life. I keep kicking myself in the foot. I’m really thirsty. I ended up kissing her. I’ll probably tell you what happened. I complied. she starts fixing her bra in front of me as I was talking. Fifteen minutes passed by and she said.  . Let’s go to Starbucks and get something to drink.” Another 20 minutes passed by and she said “Let’s go for a walk. but now that I look back. She kept on leading me and I followed. Apparently. Then she pulls off her killer line “Hey. “Hey. she lived like five minutes away from the mall by the ocean. Little did I know. I went out with my buddies to go learn how to meet women in malls. It was on. come with me”. to get our blood to circulate throughout our bodies…” Then while we were walking. I was completely clueless at that time. she was the one who took the bull by the horns. I remember my goal for that day. I still couldn’t believe it though. Are you ready for this? While I was chatting with my buddies. Three minutes passed by. I was doing pretty well. considering it was my first time trying to meet girl at malls. In that moment. had a slim figure. And then all of a sudden. Looking back at that interaction. I noticed this tall brunette girl. shortly after getting inside her car.A few years ago. It was to start a conversation and stay in for three minutes. I would have been very happy if I got to hold a conversation for three minutes. I left my cigarettes in the car. only if you promise to keep it to yourself. my legs are tired. and a cute semi angelic/naughty face. is history… If we ever meet one of these days. I looked her up and down. I hit the five minute mark. we ended up talking about her place.

You’re still a complete stranger. Me” to “Us vs. Most guys just go for her number. When you first meet her. you should give me your number”. It creates a shift in the atmosphere. having a shared bond between the two of you. • Gives you more time to get to know her better. is to create an “Our World” vibe. I stole my whole script from her. Somehow it creates a new environment for the both of you therefore making it easier to talk about other things. • Chance for you to show that she’s safe with you. you can tag along. • You keep the interaction moving forward. It’s really powerful. That means. So it’s your opportunity to prove to her that you can be trusted and that she’s safe with you. you significantly increases the chances of her calling you back and going out with you. They say things like “We should hang out sometime” and “Yeah. • Helps you get through conversational barriers. It gives you more time. she puts herself in a position where something bad can happen to her. • It separates you from all the other guys. When you’re at a high point in the interaction (Example: she’s laughing or there’s a good vibe) just say: “I’m really thirsty. TRY THIS OUT The next time you’re in a conversation for more than 10 minutes. you’re a STRANGER in her eyes. that’s how her mind processes it.  . At least. I’m going to grab a drink real quick and since you’re fun.Of course. It’s like going out on your first date right there and then. That bond is unique for every girl. With a little bit of tweaking I’ve used something similar and have experienced unbelievable results with it. Let me give you the benefits of going on an instant date • You get to hit two birds with one stone. When you go on an instant date you become a potential partner. let’s go”. Your primary goal when you start talking to a woman. When she takes the chance and goes to coffee with you. More time means getting to know her better and vice versa. You’ll play on a different level. Helps you reach your goals faster. Them”. Forget the concept of getting her number for now. It helps you get through conversational stalls. You’re not like that. It keeps you moving forward. When you get her on an instant date. At least try to. If you play your cards right. • Shift from “You vs. regardless of any technique you use. take her on an instant date. you officially are operating on a different level. • Decreases the chances of flaking later on.

Ok. What’s the next move? You’re supposed to be in tune with the environment because it will help you figure out the best logistical approach you can use to escalate the interaction further. so let’s say you’ve done a great job at interacting with her. 0 . Probably you’ve passed the test with flying colors and you even have a lot of inside jokes and secrets.

Bring protection. a guitar. Enough said. you want to exchange contact information with her. Know exactly what to do before you even go out. Not just give her number or take her number because it limits what you can do. 4. How will you take her on an instant date? What will you say to get her number? How do you get her back to your car? How do you get her back to your place? 2. just in case. You can also string along and take her on multiple instant dates. And this is true especially for the beginners.faCTor 7: loGIsTICs Do you know where you’re going? A lot of guys don’t go out prepared. and me. Always have a pen and paper with you. a beach. With that in mind. Know your location well. 5. when I discovered that. Make sure you have a clean place. 3.  . a blanket. Don’t ever sabotage your success by not being prepared. Women will judge you based on how clean your place is and how creative you are with it. Have a pen and paper with you. It was the painful truth. Have a plan before you go out. here are 0 Golden Tips To Help You Master Your Logistics 1. What if I told you that… She would have gone home with you only if you were prepared?! Won’t that piss you off? Sure did piss me off. You’ll never know where you’d end up going. Your place will say a lot about you. Remember. A nice little fold up sleeping bag that fits two people in it will do. Have some pillows and blankets at the back of your car. Is your place classy or trashy? Does your place convey what you’re passion about? What does it say about you? Do you have clean sheets or dirty ones? Do you have dirty clothes all over the floor? Does your place smell good? 6. The BEST experience in my life involved a girl. That’s an advanced topic though. Pick five places in your mall that you will take her on an instant date.

stop for a second. Assume first.7. you can go on with your shopping… and besides. When you say “Let’s go” start to walk in the direction you want to go. Always be leading. it all boils down to being prepared. with the guys that aren’t. Instead of saying “Can we…” say “Let’s go…” This little trick might make all the difference in your interactions. Next time you feel like walking a way. Get to know her and spend a little more time with her then try again. The point is.  . I need to do my shopping” say “That’s cool. Don’t give up at the first sign of resistance. stay an extra minute or two. 8. 10. Again. don’t wait for her to ask. Be prepared for contingencies. Always assume that she’s up for it. It’s your job to lead the interaction. When she says “Uhmmm. After we get some ice cream for five minutes. If you’re dropping her off at her house. This will all make sense to you sooner or later in your journey. It’s what separates the guys that are successful with women. you might say something to turn me off and I’d be running for my life” or something to that effect. Stay in there. then give it a shot! 9. It’s better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. it might only take three minutes… who knows. always be prepared for contingencies. Women will sometimes refuse to do what you want them to do. Don’t ask just lead. Tell her where you want to go. Talk a little more. Almost as if she’s expected to follow you. Don’t be fazed by it and don’t walk away. This last piece of the puzzle is probably the most significant topic in this whole book. I’m in a hurry.

future and share your view in life as well. it becomes a lot easier. and get her to be part of yours too. She gets more and more invested in you every time she opens up.) the more she gets invested in you. etc. Have you met her friends? Do they like and approve of you? Has she met your friends? Do you go out to social activities often? Do you have any mutual friends? They key to getting her to invest in you more. Time Investment. The more they invest in you. I don’t advocate playing with women’s feelings. Sex is the biggest investment. Do you remember the last time you worked hard for something? How did it feel in the end? How satisfied were you when you accomplished it? This is the same emotion that women feel if they’ve worked hard for you.  . How much time does she spend with you? Do you see each other often? Do you spend some time talking with her on the phone? Does she spend a lot of time winning you over because you have standards? The more time a woman spends with you (Talking on the phone. This goes back to building a solid emotional connection. hanging out. Once you’re passed that level. is to be a part of her life. dreams. Here’s a list of the different types of investment a woman makes and how to get the most out of each and every one. The best way to persuade a woman to do something is to make her want to do it. In my experience. It’s smooth sailing from there. Physical Investment. sex opens up all the lines of communication. Use it wisely. This stuff is very powerful. You’ll start to realize that you can actually just relax and appreciate her company. so use this stuff carefully. make them work for it. the higher the chance of you getting what you want out of it.faCTor 8: InvesTMenT Do you know how to make someone want something? How do you make someone value something? Simple. values. hopes. Another way to get her invested in you is to be physical with her. Talk about her passions. Emotional Investment. Social Investment. It makes things so much easier for the both of you.

and think I’m weird. Yes you would get results instantly! But that’s not the real challenge. And besides I’d have to try hard to entertain her  . Yes. Come on. in my experience. My whole view changed and I think that it had to do with the way I viewed things. laugh at me. After the weekend. And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndseT for MeeTInG WoMen I just got off the phone with a student I had last weekend. She’s not even going to give me the time of day. Before the workshop. You’re your own worst enemy.Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS. Mental barriers are very strong and.” Here’s the truth… Practicing techniques. Everyone else will see that I am talking to her and they will think that I’m a loser. I used to think that women wouldn’t want to talk to me. lines. I’ll be sharing with you the proper mindset that you should have before you go out there. she’s way out of my league. And most of the time. rAcking up dAteS. I’m not even qualified to talk to her. regardless of where I am. I don’t get as nervous as I used to be. that’s your own self. and all the tactics to meet women is easy. Since then I’ve been more relaxed and comfortable meeting women. something clicked inside of me. The hardest part is going against everything that is preventing you from achieving success. I enjoy talking to people. Here are the things that you should not think about: “Wow she’s so hot. I felt like I wasn’t worthy to talk to them. I don’t want to talk to her. She’ll ignore me. I have nothing special about me. it’s what makes or breaks you. Here’s what he told me: “Right now. You heard me right.

They’re completely clueless. You will never run out of women to approach. I don’t seek approval from anyone. So how does this apply to approaching women? Here’s how you should think… “I am a man of purpose. Women are fortunate that I give them the chance to get to know me. Any woman will be fortunate to get to know me. shopping for clothes. Your job is to give the ticket away to anyone… But here’s the catch. It’s impossible…” I’ve heard that objection more times than I can count. that person doesn’t know what a lottery ticket is. either way I’ll still be happy. I am a man of purpose. you can take me or leave me. I seriously doubt it. I live life to the fullest without apologizing for anything I do. Looking at things in a positive perspective will get you far. The best part about it is that women are everywhere. I’m everything and more that a woman can ever ask for. you just have a couple of minutes to convince them to even hear you out. Here’s more. If she rejects me. then she doesn’t know what she’s missing. Every time I talk to women. or playing in the sand. where do I want to meet women?  . My own values and passions define me. People’s reactions toward me don’t define me. Now you’ve got to ask yourself. I am who I am. I make them happy. Here’s how you should think and feel about meeting women… Ok. I am doing them a favor. I live my life for me…” Where To MeeT WoMen There are dozens of places during the day time to meet women. You can see them crossing the street. imagine that you possess a winning combination to a lottery ticket.and be really slick and smooth. It’s a like a foreign concept for them. I just can’t be myself and get her to like me. I take pride in being me. I walk through this world as if I own it. The one ticket that will probably get you set for life. The first step to being successful with women is to look at things in a positive way.

beaches. supermarket. And she might not be used to handling it. When you’re approaching a woman in a library.  .In order to figure that out. you must be aware and in tune with its energy level. you need to figure out what type of women you want to meet.) and observe how people communicate. bookstores. then that’s a different story. etc. If you want smart girls then hit up the library. streets. General places to meet women are malls. Did you know that the ratio of women to men in yoga classes is like 15:1? Well. If you’re approaching a woman on the street then you can get away with speaking a little bit louder. How loud do they speak? Do they command respect in an interaction or not? When you discover this. Now. college campuses. coffee shops. take advantage of that. and match it. imitate them or slightly be more animated/energized then they are. then join a yoga class. just be in tune with the social energy level of the location. and pretty much everywhere. parks. let’s talk a bit about specialization… If you want girls that are into health and fitness then go to the nearest gym. So the key is to be aware of the social energy in the place that you’re in. So to avoid unnecessary complications. TRY THIS OUT Go to five places this week (coffee shops. be In Tune WITh The enerGy level In order to be successful in approaching in various public places. If you want spiritual girls. Violating energy levels puts social pressure on the woman you’re talking too.

no matter where I was. This is a very important step in my overall structure and let me tell you why. Let me give you some examples.Crash Course In sTarTInG ConversaTIon WITh WoMen Let me make something clear… There are dozens of ways to initiate a conversation with women. After a little bit of tweaking. I would slowly walk in her pathway so she would be forced to come to a complete stop. my heart pumps faster. ask their opinion. They all work… I’ve tried them all. she will stop. There are no possible excuses in my mind. I make sure to grab one and place it right next to her. and so forth…. I act like she dropped something on the ground. Confidence begins to radiate through every part of my body. So after I get her attention. make myself comfortable. If she’s walking the opposite direction. say something situational. You can tell jokes. and I slowly make my way towards her. I suddenly feel the ball of energy inside of me. I say something like:  . The first thing I do is get her full and undivided attention. I found the perfect opener for daytime approaches. If there’s no chair beside her. I needed something that I could use anytime. and then deliver my conversational opener. If she’s sitting down I make sure to sit down as well. If you pull this off correctly. I want to meet her and I will meet her. Tension begins to fill up my body. But here’s the question. Whenever I see a girl I’m attracted to. If she’s walking to her car. What’s the fastest and most efficient way of initiating conversation with women? I was looking for something that cut right through the bullshit. If you don’t command her full attention then she won’t process your verbal communication effectively. Here’s how it works. It’s basic law of physics: An object in motion will stay in motion unless an outside force causes it to stop. I run after her and tell her to stop.

Women love guys that know what’s going on without a woman having to tell him. When you use this approach.“Hey… (pause) I begin to smile as my eyes are locked on her eyes. Step : Tell Her the Reason Why You Are Attracted to Her Honesty is the best policy. Tell her you like her because you want her to know. only build your credibility in her eyes. and I relax from that point forward I get to know her more for who she is. Sets up the proper foundation for the interaction right from the beginning. Not because you want her to feel obliged to be nice to you. It makes her more comfortable. Every time you say something that she agrees with. It conveys that you’re intuitive and socially intelligent by nature. It shows her that you’re sensitive to her needs and that you understand her concerns. honest. Now let me break down the opener and explain to you why and how it works. she gives you a silent nod. I continue with “I’m a complete stranger and I know this is really random but… I was just passing by… and I saw you standing there… I just wanted to tell you that you are… Really… Really… Beautiful. It’s like an unspoken bond. and sincere is the way women like to be approached (CAVEAT: If you do it right). breaKInG doWn The opener Step : Pace her ongoing reality Pacing is an essential skill that you should master. I use this to overcome any objection that might pop up into her head. I found that being upfront. you instantly demonstrate that you’re honest and sincere. Gives her a chance to agree with you. By addressing potential objections you demonstrate social awareness. When I say things like “I know this is totally random…I’m a complete stranger” it actually serves several purposes.  . The only reason why other men can’t pull this off is because they’re not coming from a place of power. we shake hands. Tell me about yourself” She smiles. Saying things that she can affirm as true.

As soon as she starts answering your question. After the opener. When combined with the proper non-verbal communication and delivery. this approach can be very deadly. This approach is so powerful that it creates attraction within seconds. It also… • Gets her committed to the interaction. what’s your story?” “Who are you?” “Where are you from?” Letting her talk about herself gives her the chance to impress you. Step : Give Her a Chance to Talk About Herself You want to get her involved in the interaction as soon as possible. I’m (insert your name here)”. everything you say will be in the “I’m getting to know you before we date” context. That’s because she’s processing the whole interaction differently. This is a very powerful frame from which to come. Even boring rapport questions will work after the opener. Gets right to the point. • Gets her to subconsciously accept you as a potential partner. After she says anything that might impress you. Since you created so much attraction. This is done by saying stuff like “Tell me about yourself?” “I just wanted to know if there’s more to you than meets the eye. everything you say begins to be categorized in “The Potential Partner” context. It skips through most of the games and takes you were you want to be… and that’s building an emotional connection. Shaking her hand is very important. you can say “I like that. Creates the feeling of attraction.  . she slowly becomes committed to the interaction. • Gives you a chance to introduce yourself.You tell people what you think about them. It makes it official that you two are in a social interaction.

Third Scenario: She gives you an objection. I have a boyfriend. Here are some examples of how you can handle certain situations. I absolutely love the third scenario because it’s challenging for me. But if I’m making you uncomfortable in anyway. She becomes extremely flattered.dealInG WITh ConTInGenCIes One of three things will happen. depending on how well you execute your opener. which re-engages her back in the conversation. Guy: Awesome. Second Scenario: She kind of likes it. I also tell her to walk away which is reverse psychology and then I act like it never happened by asking her a question. I set up an expectation for her. you’re way too classy to be walking away when someone is talking to you. The Boyfriend Objection Guy: Opener Girl: I’m sorry. She’s just being polite and sticks around for a bit to see what you have to say. Runaway girl (I sing playfully) Anyways. She’s not really enthusiastic about it. Talk. 0 . I tell her she’s way too classy to walk away. or doesn’t give you the time of day. Talk Girl: Talks and walks away Guy: (smiles) Oh come on now. She Walks Away While You’re Talking To Her Guy: Talk. First Scenario: She loves it. She wants to get to know you. tries to walk away. Runaway girl. She smiles. then just walk away. I also get to express my personality and my positive traits. Indifference by far is the most powerful way to overcome this objection. and of course she wants to be perceived as classy so she will stay for a bit. Go on now. So what do you like to do for fun? *I’m not even acknowledging her objection. what do you do for fun? * As you can see.

I don’t know where you’re from but where I’m from. If you approach with the “I just want to get into your pants” mentality. look around you. If you’re not going to be real. I was just having a bad day. This stuff is very powerful. Talk.  . I’m Oliver. I know you’re a cool person deep down inside. then it will not work for you. Guy: No worries. people are real. So let’s give this a shot one more time. Grungey10: I understand. GIfT shIfT Theory In order for this approach to work. Girl: I’m Michelle. Come on. In order for this approach to work you need to switch the way you see things. The way you think and feel affects the way you interact with people. I’m just going to walk away (I act as if I’m about to leave). Guy: Why are you acting like this? Why can’t you just be yourself. I’m almost sure. I know this is not who you really are.She’s Rude Or Doesn’t Acknowledge Your Presence Guy: Talk. I’m not one of those guys so don’t treat me like one of them. I want you to remember this section and read it over and over again. doesn’t look at you. Sorry I was being rude. Have you ever talked to someone before and felt like they just wanted something from you? Was it a gut feeling? How often were you right? I bet you were pretty accurate at it. Now I want to share with you the Gift Shift theory. So what do you do for fun? * See how I called her out on how she was behaving? It demonstrates that I am a man who demands respect in an interaction. When you experience that situation. Then you will begin to wonder what you’re doing wrong. you must come across from a place of power and positivism. This is just a protection shield. There are a lot of creepy guys out there that try to get something from you all the time. or something to that effect. You will get rejected by women left and right. Talk Girl: Says something rude like “Why are you talking to me”.

You can do it too. I want you to do this. You’re the guy she talks about with her best friends. you are a gift. Your job is to take them on an emotional journey with you. Take five minutes and imagine that you’re someone she’s been waiting for all her life. Am I conveying who I am in an interesting way? Is she getting to know me or am I just talking out of my ass? TRY THIS OUT Next time you go out to meet women. She will only find out that it’s you after she’s gotten to know you. How would you act if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that if only women knew you. You are a gift. She’s been dreaming about you. Whenever I talk to people.  . Your job is to provide women with positive emotions. I know. I get results because I have something positive to offer. it sounds sappy but it’s amazingly effective. Knowing this information how does this change the way you’ll view your future interactions? Remember. I know. Your job is to give them an unforgettable experience. I feel happy. She’s read about you in books. She’s seen you in movies. away from the world they are in right now. Yes. you are. There’s a catch though. That means you have to barrel through her persona.It’s simple. You have the upper hand and not the other way around. you’re giving that gift to her. they would fall for you? Ask yourself that question over and over again. I’ve worked on myself to the point where I just am naturally attractive and interesting to women. I feel happy knowing that I’m about to make this person’s day.

The pInG ponG MeTaphor
In my opinion, conversations with women are very similar to playing ping pong or table tennis. The ball just keeps going back and forth across the table. One person hits the ball then the other person hits it back. It’s an ongoing cycle. That’s how conversations should be. Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Someone usually carries the conversational burden more than the other person does. Eventually the conversational ratio should be as close to 50/50, girl talks as much as guy does, but it takes skill to be able to do that. You need to be interesting and interested. I’ll say it two more times because it’s very important. You need to be interesting and interested. You need to be interesting and interested. Making sense so far? Were you ever in a conversation with someone who talked way too much? It’s like you were watching television because you couldn’t contribute to the conversation at all. On the flipside, were you ever in a conversation with someone who just kept asking question after question without really contributing anything at all? Well you need the balance of both. You need to lead the interaction and at the same time, get women to follow your lead. You need to help them invest in the interaction. Not everyone’s socially savvy. Sometimes, you need to make it easy for them to contribute to the interaction. This book help you cultivate the skills you need to be both interesting and interested. 

Go fIrsT prInCIple
“You must become the change you wish to see”- Gandhi In other words, if you think change is needed in a situation, think about changing yourself first before changing everything around you. I want you to look back on all the conversations you had with women that you liked. Here are some questions for you. Were you… Both comfortable, relaxed and at ease? Exchanging fun stories from your lives? Sharing secrets and vulnerabilities with each other? Speaking formally or like friends do? Able to build familiarity and substance in the interaction? Here’s my main point. If you want her to do something, you should do it first. If you want her to start opening up to you, you must open up to her first. It’s your job as a man to lead the interaction. You should lead and expect her to follow. TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation instead of asking a question, make a statement. Instead of saying “Where are you from?” tell them a story about where you’re from. Instead of saying “How are you” say “I’m feeling so happy today, you have no idea why”. See how people respond to you. 

poWer TalK
What you say and how you say it is critical when you’re interacting with someone. A couple of years ago, I remember watching a comedy show. This guy walked on the stage and started making jokes. There was forced laughter here and there but that’s about it. I ended up just looking at my watch impatiently thinking to myself “What time is this show going to end?!” Couple of months later, I watched another comedy show. A couple of minutes into the show, my stomach started to hurt from laughing, tears started falling from my eyes, he got me. I don’t remember laughing so hard in my entire life. The jokes weren’t extremely funny, it was his personality. This is true for everyone out there. Whether you’re a comedian, a salesman, a student, or a friend, people will respond to you based on how you present yourself. Here are some tips to empower yourself. • Avoid hesitation when you talk. Be firm with what you want. For example, instead of saying “Uhm, I was thinking if, uhm, we could go out sometime” say something like “Hey, I’m going shopping this Thursday, It’s going to be a blast, you should tag along”. Don’t flinch. Don’t be nervous. Say it like you would if you’re talking to your 11 year old cousin or something. • Power of ambiguity. Keeping a woman on her toes keeps things challenging in an interaction. Every other guy jumps at the opportunity to hang out with her again. Instead of giving all your cards away try using words like “maybe. We’ll see, I’ll get back to you on that one”. An example would be “Hey, you seem fun, if we’re both available this weekend, then maybe we’ll hang out”. • Avoid over politeness. Being overly polite communicates subordinate status. When you’re communicating with women, you shouldn’t treat them as if they’re a goddess from Venus. If you treat them like royalty, they will act like royalty. Treat them like you would treat your buddy. Don’t be overly polite. 

I do it multiple times. What is my goal? I want to convey who I am as a person. I want to make a mega solid impression so that she won’t stop rambling about me with her best friend the moment our conversation ends. Evolution has hardwired into us the tendency to bond with those who are familiar and wary of those who are unfamiliar. I want to find out what makes her special. Let me go over my structure on connection building. I genuinely appreciate her and I am very successful at it because I believe that all women have something beautiful inside of them. Well. I make her feel special for the person that she is. So I start out by getting to know her on the surface level.” . I relate to her on the surface then I go a little deep and find out the things that make her tick. I want to know what makes her tick. After I’ve captivated a woman with my presence. What was unfamiliar was more often dangerous and threatening. you MusT CreaTe a ConneCTIon “It all started with our ancestors. I don’t need to know her whole life story. I want her to remember me when she wakes up the next day.Psychology 101  . Then we discuss each other’s passions in life and connect on a deeper level. I want mutual appreciation. it’s a combination of two things CAPTIVATE & CONNECT Captivate her with your personality by building a connection. over and over again. My goal is to build familiarity and substance all throughout the interaction. my next goal is to get to know her on multiple levels. Then I try to build familiarity by connecting on a lot of different topics. to make it really simple. When I do. I relate to it and appreciate her for it. What was familiar was generally safe and approachable. I just want to touch base and build both familiarity and substance with her.WhaT To do afTer InITIaTInG The ConversaTIon A lot of guys don’t know what to do after they’ve initiated the conversation.

So let’s break down what usually happens  . If you allow this process to happen. That’s the secret to a successful daytime interaction. The problem is most people don’t know how to convey who they are. There’s a time when you should answer it. He’s cool and interesting.I don’t care what anyone else out there thinks but if you can open your mouth and talk. There’s a time to be cocky and funny and avoid a question that’s thrown your way but should you keep on avoiding it? No. your main goal is to get to the point in the interaction where you both can just be yourselves. It’s my favorite part of the interaction. she’s trying to figure out who you are as a person. you can build a connection with anyone you meet. and let her open herself up to you as well. No matter what system you use. When she asks you a question. then you create an emotional connection. She’s trying to figure out if you have more going for you than your initial impression. You need to be in that place where both your guards are down and you can just connect on all levels. It’s where the magic happens. Building an emotional connection is the heart of daytime pick-up. She wants to find out if you’re real and if you have any depth to you. This is what separates you from every other guy that’s tried to meet her. Here’s a system you can use to build an emotional connection: Step 1: Build Familiarity Step 2: Build Substance Step 3: Appreciate Her as a person Step 4: Incorporate A Romantic Spin hoW To ansWer lIGhT rapporT QuesTIons A lot of people I’ve met still don’t know how to convey their personality in their day to day interactions with people. Imagine how you would feel in this kind of scenario: A girl has been talking to a cool guy for quite awhile. She’s hooked She becomes so interested that she starts to ask you questions to find out who you are.

appreciating and relating with life experiences.Scenario 1: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: whoa! We’re getting a little ahead of ourselves here. Why? It’s because you’ve only created short term attraction. Everything is fast paced back in LA. and building a strong emotional connection. I’ve read ton of stories as a kid (insert something cocky or avoid the question asked) Conclusion: She wanted to get to know you better. ---------. we’ll get to that in a minute… anyway…. being vulnerable with each other. When she gets home.45 minutes later -----------Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: Oh. She may have been attracted to you at first but it won’t last for a very long time. Real and long lasting attraction comes from building commonalities. give it a few days and that attraction will probably fade away. She ends up giving up and going home knowing nothing about you. She was ready to build an emotional connection but you threw the opportunity away. Ideal Scenario: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: So where you from? Guy: Oh… You wouldn’t want to know… It’s extremely cold there… Girl: Where? Guy: I live in the North Pole… It’s so fun swimming with the penguins everyday… It makes me so happy Girl: Ugh… shut up!!! No really where you from? Guy: I actually moved here from LA two months ago. Things are so different back where I’m from. ( I talk about LA for a  .

We were driving through empty green fields and… (insert semi deep and meaningful story here) Conclusion: • You stand out from all the other guys because you differentiate yourself from them. • It sets the stage for building an emotional connection. • She knows right off the bat that you’re a good communicator. It makes her comfortable and easier to open herself up to you. Now. You actually demonstrate a lot of personality by being comfortable sharing your thoughts with her • You lead the conversation. Like the other day. how you ever met someone cool that could just talk about anything under the sun?  . It actually gives me time to think about everything going on in life and see the bigger picture. You’re not answering her question in a boring way. ask yourself What makes my place different from where I am right now? What’s so unique about my place? What are the fun things to do there? What do I love most about my place? How does it make me feel? What would you recommend for her to do in your city? 2. I was on my way to a ranch and it was really interesting. So remember: Never ever give boring answers to simple questions such as Where are you from? What do you do? What’s going on? Tips on how to do that 1.) Where are you from? When you get this question.while then compare it to Tucson) Things are very simple out here. • It gives her a window of opportunity to see how you view the world and the type of person you are.) What do you do? What are you really passionate about? What makes you tick? How did it start out? What happened then? What’s so special about what you do and how does it make you feel? Have you ever met someone that just talked about the same thing over and over again? It gets very boring after awhile.

4. what’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word elephant? Actually. 9. 12. It’s called the association game. let me teach you a helpful exercise here. Think some more. 3. 5. give me 10 things that you can associate with the world elephant? Take your time. let’s go one step further. Alright. 10. 13. 11. then you’ll never run out of things to say again! 0 . you have around 130 words. If you had a story about your pet hamster.Like if you had a story about your grandfather. this is what familiarity is all about. Done? Here’s are the things that came to me when I heard the word elephant: 1. she’d have one about her spider. Ok. You need to connect on multiple topics. 2. she’d have one too. Come on. Don’t tell me you don’t have any experience with at least one of the topics I listed above. If you had a story about guns. A sentence has how many words? Do you see where I’m going here? If you master the art of conversational vibes. 7. Now that’s 130 things you could potentially talk about. Give me 10 things that come to your mind with each word above. Cartoons Movies Big Zoo Water That’s all Alright. elephant is just one word. it’s included here for a reason. do the exercise. Once you’ve mastered this. you’ll never run out of things to say ever again. 6. If you did the exercise. Animals Grey Tusk Ivory Africa Jungle Lion King 8. Here’s the beauty of it. she’d have one too. Now.

and leadInG WITh your passIons You now know how to build familiarity. learning how to build familiarity is an essential skill to have. pick a word out. Let’s get you acquainted with building substance. Next time there’s an awkward pause in the conversation. Building substance takes the interaction to a whole other level. You see. It also makes you stand out since it’s something that only close friends do. Most of the things women tell you. think back to the previous topic. once you’ve barreled through their persona. Women will feel like they have a lot of things in common with you. just pick out one word and riff on it for a minute or two. and riff on it. This tool is very powerful.Fitness -Animals buIldInG subsTanCe: aCTIve lIsTenInG. Here are some topics you can explore to build familiarity: -Goals and aspirations -Passions -Ideal vacation -Relationships -Friends -Youth and childhood -Love -Art and Photography -Traveling -Favorite films and music -Concerts and theatres -Family . are gold. Take advantage of it.  .TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation with a woman. Building substance solidifies the connection between you. fIndInG her Core value.Hobbies . Do this until your jaw is numb from speaking too much. Use it. Another skill you should focus on is active listening.

Finding Her Core Value And Building A Quick Connection A lot of guys try to connect with women on the surface area. to whoever you’re talking to what they have said to you. You have something in common with her. You see. you should relate to them. . in your own words. your job is to find out what makes her tick. feed it back to her. For example a guy asks: “Who’s your favorite artist? Oh Mariah Carey. Once again this shows her that you understand her and that you’re paying attention to her. Doing this will strengthen your understanding of the situation • Summarize what she tells you. That’s great if you guys like the same artist. Here are the benefits of active listening: . . But what if you guys don’t like the same artist? Does that mean both of you have nothing in common? No. • Ask questions. you should be able to repeat back. Always ask her what she means. It will improve your conversation skills tenfold.Active listening is a habit. Don’t answer right away.Demonstrates interest in her as a person. pause for three seconds before answering something. in your own words. Just learn how to listen to her completely without butting in. and how it makes her feel. You should rephrase what she just told you and. Doing this affirms your understanding and builds dialogue. and that’s her core value. As an active listener.Ensures understanding of the subject matter. Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to.  . me too. • Shut up and listen to her. Don’t always be eager to fill in the silence when there’s an awkward pause. Once you find these underlying motivators. as well as the foundation of effective communication. we’re so similar”. You need to find out what is the underlying motivator that drives her to do the things she loves to do.Expresses understanding of her feelings A couple of basic pointers for active listening: • Rephrase and feedback.

Women gravitate toward positive emotions and move away from the negative ones. You learned that you shouldn’t touch it again. You should take time to think about what behaviors you will reward And which ones you’ll punish. you need to reward her for opening up to you. But before I explain it. they’ll be conditioned to do things that would lead to them being rewarded. and laughing at your jokes. not complying with your request. Was there ever a time you got burned by something? Maybe you touched a hot stove or candle. let me give you an example of social learning theory and conditioning at work. This applies to women and dating as well. to see where your boundaries are. they get punished. They will test you to see how you will respond. So how do we use this to our advantage? It’s actually very simple. Yes. opening up to you. Women will test you. Whatever it was. I want you to rewind and remember your childhood. Social Learning Theory And The Power Of Conditioning Social learning theory states that we learn social behavior by observing and imitating others and by being rewarded or punished. Another example would be a parent disciplining their kids. For example: You should reward her for giving you a compliment.  . You should punish her for disrespecting you. you just instinctively jerked your hand back. This encourages her to do it more often. Later on. On the other hand. After you relate with her you should appreciate her for who she is. Whenever they do something right they get rewarded. early in the interaction. whenever they do something wrong. If you don’t set your standards early on they will step all over you. and being rude to you.Relate to those underlying motivators. and you probably learned something afterward. It’s more powerful than relating to her on the surface level.

Leading with your passion separates you from every other guy that’s tried to hit on her. It’s one of the most powerful tools in building an emotional connection. I won’t get into detail on this topic but I’d like to share with you a very effective technique to build an emotional connection. Involve me and I will carry them forever.leadInG WITh your passIons A lot of the so-called “pick-up artist” I’ve met are curious as to how I can captivate a woman by just being myself. comfort. Show me and I will remember. Having passion is very attractive to women. Here’s how you do it. Here’s a question to help you figure out what you’re really passionate about in life. The word regression means moving backwards.  . I tell her the things I love to do and why I love to them. Here’s my dirty little secret… I talk about the things I’m passionate about. It also builds trust. and safety. they don’t convey it in a way that’s interesting to women. Before I do let me share this quote with you. Being passionate about your passions (as funny as it sounds) is even more attractive to women. If ever they do. What is it you would do for free if you never had to make money again? Emotional Connection Accelerator There are a lot of different ways to accelerate the process of building an emotional connection and my favorite one is regression. Here’s what I call the life story tactic. Not a lot of guys talk about the things that make them tick.” Remember that you always have to involve her in the interaction. I suck her into my world. “Tell me and I may remember.

If a girl says “I have to go” and you say “nice. right now. This can take somewhere between ten minutes to sometimes even the whole day. Tools you can use later down the road when you’ve mastered the basics. middle. You can do this directly or through storytelling. end. The key is to exchange stories and go from childhood to future plans. • Identity Interleaving. and you can call her on it. she will not leave. or sad. a Couple of effeCTIve ConversaTIonal Tools Here are several topics I’ll discuss briefly. It can be fun. you can start by asking her about her childhood or talking about yours. she’s being rude. mischievous. Mix it up. As long as you keep talking she will stand there in front of you. adventurous. The beginning includes your childhood and middle school experience. You should always move the conversation forward. Trust me on this one. The more emotions the better. Now. • Conversational Plowing. This technique is very powerful and it solidifies the emotional connection instantly. She should have an idea of who you are and what you’re about early in the interaction. She should know the things you love and your pet peeves as well. The end includes your present experience and your future plans. If she walks away. This is an advanced technique I use to quickly convey the things I’m passionate about thirty seconds into the conversation. meeting you” then she will walk away. • Standard Interleaving.  . On the other hand if she says “I have to go” and you ignore the thread and talk about something else.Your life right now is separated into beginning. She should know your rules on dating and relationships. The middle includes your high school and college experience. and future. She should know what your standards are. How do you turn this into a system? Alright. I want you to come up with at least two to three stories for each phase of you life.

Constantly ask yourself this: What am I trying to communicate? Am I getting my message across? You want to demonstrate good qualities about yourself with the stories you tell people (e. kissing her. People usually don’t just go up to people and start telling stories. protector of the ones you love. go light again. Why? It’s because learning how to express yourself is the first step in getting good at meeting women. and. then go a little deep. adventurous. Builds comfort and trust. ambitious. you need to check your body language. then make her laugh a little bit. confident. or just used to talking people’s ears off. Telling a story builds comfort and trust because you’re opening up to somebody you don’t know. Well some do and they’re either super social. This always steers the interaction toward the right path. On Storytelling Storytelling is very powerful if done right. then go deeper. Tell her that you’re sad you met with no mutual friends to introduce you to each other. Always include a romantic spin after building an emotional connection. They listen to what you say and how you say it. • Romantic spin.  . then this time go a little deeper than you were before. Here’s an example of fractionating: Talk about something light. story tellers. Some examples would be taking her on an instant date. and that’s why you can’t hang out anymore. eye contact. romantic. • Fractionating. talking about fate and destiny. When you tell a story you communicate on both levels. etc). It’s a tool I use once in awhile. humorous. of course. etc. This is a brilliant way to ease into deeper topics. demands respect. • Preempting objections. Cold reading helps captivate her and builds familiarity instantly. vocal tonality and projection. especially at times when the woman I’m talking to is hard to crack or if I’m in a hurry and I want to build a quick connection. trustworthy. Try searching that on Google or something.g. and your non verbal communication to see if you’re communicating all the right things like being comfortable in your own skin. Next. Say this after a high point in the interaction. This helps intensify the emotional connection that you’ve built. Well if you’re one of them then you’re on your way to becoming successful. A good resource for cold read is the Forer’s effect.• Cold reading. Whatever objections she may have make sure to use them first.

you can give a guy who’s good at telling stories a very boring and ridiculously horrible story line and he can turn it in to something very interesting. It can still suck. Let’s take for example a comedian and an actor. engaging the senses. the presentation can still bomb. What’s the difference between these two guys? The way they present it and he way they deliver. and emotional projection. Every time you’re telling a story I want you to ask yourself these questions • Am I passionate about what I’m talking about? • Am I enthusiastic? • Am I paying attention to everyone that’s listening? • Am I relaxed and comfortable? • Is my voice loud enough? • Am I talking slow and clear? • Am I projecting the emotion I need to project through my voice? (If you’re telling a scary story sound scared. character development. On the other hand. sequencing of events. Give him the best script created by the best minds in the world and when performance day comes.So let’s get to the important part How do you make a good story? Here are some terms that are important in storytelling and I’ll discuss only a couple of them Opening line. Probably the most important part of telling a story is your vocal projection and your delivery. if it’s suspense then use a lot of pausing) • Am I pausing at the right times? • Am I using a wide range of facial expressions?  .

hear. a light bulb just popped up in my head. etc.) Describe what you were doing at that time.) Then slowly insert stuff like “and then I realized”. as much as possible when you’re telling a story. I’m Oliver.So here’s a quick formula for a spontaneous story. interesting name. Amanda. Men usually communicate with logic while women value emotions more. Did your parents ever tell you about embarrassing stories when you were kid? Bookstore girl: Yeah.) How did it make you feel? What lessons did you learn? 6. and “surprisingly”. You want to engage all her senses. “out of nowhere”. it gets bruised easily. Grungey10: Lisa. Well can you believe that my name was supposed to be Amanda? Bookstore girl: Amanda?! (laughs) Grungey10: Yes. here’s a ConversaTIon I had In The pasT Grungey10: Hey. 5.) The climax of your story. It’s something they can relate too. Speaking of names. I get that every time there’s a family get together. You want her to be able to relate to you. “then out of the blue”. I’m Lisa.)* Then ask her* Does that ever happen to you? (throwing the ball back at her) You want to talk about emotions because you want to communicate on her level. 1. the funniest/craziest/most embarrassing/ wildest thing just happened to me yesterday/today/couple minutes ago. Bookstore girl: (laughs)  . Bookstore girl: Oliver. smell.. Nice meeting you. what you could see. (pause) 2.. who you were with. 3. 4. feel.. Now stop laughing at my baby name.) OMG. Grungey10: Exactly. “all of a sudden”.

.. just for me. Say hello to mommy... we don’t see anything moving down there. apparently. Get this. Every time a friend comes over to the house. she actually decked the whole room out with a “My little princess” theme in mind. Hello. The moment of truth. Anyways.. your first born will be a girl”. my mom always whips out the album with me dressed in a pink room all dressed in pink.. all right. welcome to the family!” Bookstore girl: (Eyes get wide) Really?! That’s the funniest thing I’ve ever heard.. I was born and the doctor hands me over to my mom wrapped in a white towel. the one that detects the gender. Grungey10: My mom got so excited that she started decorating one whole room in the house. after the sonogram. What happened next? Grungey10: All right..  . pink crib.Grungey10: Anyways. Hello. I don’t think you understand. which I do not find very funny. So here it comes. and even a pink welcome banner hanging from the wall saying “Princess Amanda. So the room was all pink! It had pink stuff toys.. we’re getting there. thank you very much. when my mom was 6 months pregnant. You know what I’m talking about right? Bookstore girl: You mean a sonogram? Grungey10: There you go! Good girl (briefly touches her shoulder). Bookstore girl: OMG (laughs) Grungey10: I know! Isn’t it funny? So what actually ended up happening was. uhm. Look at you... it’s my beautiful little princess Amanda... My mom holds me with tears in her eyes saying “Wow. Hello..... Badoink!!! A moving “thing” down there?! She was devastated! I never heard the end of it. she went to the doctor and she had this machine. I remember him teasing me a lot about being a tomboy back in middle school. it’s on the tip of my tongue.. Bookstore girl: (laughs hysterically) Grungey10: No. this is not a laughing matter...” Then she slowly unfolds the towel and then all of a sudden.. Bookstore girl: (Continues giggling) <Now I’m going to throw the ball back at her so she can invest more in the interaction> So what were you like as a kid? Was there anything your parents gave you a hard time about? Bookstore girl: Hmmmm. Not so much my parents but my grandfather and I had a really strong bond when I was growing up. the doctor’s like “Ma’am.

Bookstore girl: Oh shut it (hits me in the arm). I might not even be safe here (smiles).> buIldInG faMIlIarITy & subsTanCe Grungey10: If you could live in any city in the world. Grungey10: Why would you live in Africa? Is it because you want to help out? Or do you just want to explore the place? Bookstore girl: I guess a little bit of both. If you have sisters then you’d know what I’m talking about. before responding to her. You see. try pausing for three seconds after she finishes her sentence. I can pick any topic and start rolling with it. That was back then. where would you live? Bookstore girl: I’d live in Africa.Grungey10: (nods head but keeps quiet) <It’s very powerful to pause and not be eager to fill in the silence in a conversation. I could start building more familiarity by talking about my sisters. how does it make you feel? 0 . I’ve changed a lot since then. You’ll notice that women have a lot more to say when they don’t get interrupted. you see improvements in their lives. I love going to a new place and learn everything about the culture there. and at the end of the day. What do you accomplish when you’ve made a difference in the world? Let’s say you’re in Africa and you get to educate the kids there. At the same time. It’s fulfilling for me. < She gave me multiple topics to choose from. <I’m going to build more substance now> Grungey10: I find it really interesting that you love helping people out.> Bookstore girl: (smiles as she recalls) Back then I was a boy hater. I can also build more substance by exploring what made her change but I chose to explore the subject of traveling. I went through that whole phase. As an exercise. < I have a choice. I was also a very competitive kid. I’ve always wanted to make a difference in the world. for a year.> Grungey10: Boy hater? I better watch out for you now.

You love traveling and you’re an artist too?! This is way too perfect. Grungey10: Bookstore girl. We both put are minds and hearts into our work. < I’m going to start flirting and appreciating her> Grungey10: Wait a minute here. At the end of the day. It’s something I’m really passionate about. I better leave before I start to fall in love with you. I guess satisfaction would be a better way to phrase it.> Bookstore girl: Yeah. It’s a rare thing. playback the song I just made. Not a lot of people understand what it takes to do what we do. You see. do the things they’re passionate about in life. songwriting is very much like painting. There must be a catch here. and for the most part they’re real. They go to work or school and they change to fit the environment they’re in. I just relax on my bed. I totally understand what you mean. let me tell you something. A lot of people have forgotten the meaning of what it is to be passionate about something. Grungey10: You know what. You see a lot of people are imprisoned by their day to day activities.. and feel good about myself. It may take me an hour. a day. Bookstore girl: That’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever told me in the longest time (blushes). and that’s usually making a living or going to school. or sometimes weeks to put a song together and it pays off bigtime. You see them working with the “work”  . Only a few people actually live their lives to the fullest and at the same time. A lot of people might think it’s easy for us. Grungey10: What are you passionate about? Bookstore girl: Well. This is when the magic begins. It’s a stress reliever for me and at the same time I get to express myself through my work. It’s the best job I’ve ever had. In the process they lose in touch with who they are and what they’re all about. Grungey10. I get the exact same feeling of satisfaction every time I finish writing a song. I don’t think enough people appreciate you for that. They see things from a different perspective. Artists are very creative. I solidify the attraction by giving here a sincere compliment. You’re kidding right? I just have the biggest thing for artistic people.. I love painting. They usually just live their lives with one thing in mind.Bookstore girl: It makes me feel like I’m on top of the world. Bookstore girl. It’s something that I got into back when I was still seven. <After creating familiarity and substance.

Normally. I’d highly advise everyone to try it for even a week. Some give their number away and save your number as “Weird & Creepy Guy. Some give their number away to get rid of the guy. Don’t be afraid to test new things out. it makes it seem that was all you were after. Girls give their numbers to guys for various reasons. I realized something very important. Some give their number away because it boosts their ego. Coffeeshop girl: I know exactly what you’re talking about. Well I go through my day-to-day activities with the biggest smile on my face because I get to be myself the whole day. Then they go home and hit the sack. Do not answer”. • Don’t leave after you get her number. Women give their phone numbers for a variety of reasons. it doesn’t even guarantee that you’ll get to see her again. I’ve noticed that most guys make their exit after they get a woman’s number. Some give their number away because it’s fake. Numbers mean nothing if you haven’t done your job well. Getting a number doesn’t really guarantee success. When you get a woman’s number. • You can return her number to her every time she does something to turn you off. <Conversational cycle continues> The arT of GeTTInG phone nuMbers & seTTInG up daTes After hundreds of interactions. But before I even get into that. Some give their number away with no intention of ever answering your call. If I’ll see the girl again then I won’t even get her number. I’d like to share with you some of the things I learned. You always want to leave on a positive note. No matter how smooth you pull it off. When you leave right after you get her phone number. In their minds. I’d like to actually get to know the girl first before I even get her number. It’s actually something that I’ve been working on for awhile now.face on. I found that timing is very important when it comes to getting a woman’s number. I suggest staying for an extra five or ten minutes before you leave. they still have control of the interaction. they instantly know what’s going on. This may take somewhere between 10 minutes to two hours. It’s the same routine over and over again. It’s the best thing ever. As a matter of fact. One  .

but unfortunately I have to get going. then guy tried to bargain. Some of the lines I’ve used are “Let’s exchange contact information” “Give me your number” “I really had fun talking to you. It’s a downward spiral that leaves you lower than you were before. Guess what that does? It drastically decreases the chance of anything happening by 50%! Why. It’s not going anywhere.little trick you can do is to give her back her number every time she says something you don’t like. Some girls might like you but forget to call you. you like classical art? That’s so cool. because not all girls will call you up. It’s a really neat way of communicating “I could care less if I get your number or not”. • Tell her you want her number but don’t get it. would be useful after getting her number. When you reach that point in the interaction. you leave it all up to her to make the move and give you a call back. At times when she tries to impress you. any line will work. • Pacing to avoid flaking. She’ll probably flake on you anyway even if she gave you her number. I so have to hang out with you…” then I just continue talking about something else. • Simple yet effective lines. make you laugh. Guy ask for girls number. • Don’t try to bargain if she doesn’t give her number. At the same time it demonstrates that you have standards. Pacing can be used to address future objections. That’s my cue to see where I am in the interaction. girl refuses. • It’s better to exchange numbers. Whenever they give me an excuse such as “Sorry. Some girls just never call guys up. or after an emotion filled moment. If she doesn’t want to give you her number than just let it go. you’re really skilled at using the phone to your advantage. You job is to get her to want to give her number to you. At this point she will either ask for my number or giggle. If she still gives some excuse I say “Don’t get a big head now. at the peak of an interaction. I discovered that pacing would.”  . So it’s best always best to exchange number because it gives both of you the chance to call each other up. Any line will work if you say it at the right time. When you give her your number. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times. I’m just going to leave now. but since there appears to be an issue with it. I just thought you were an interesting person and that you’d make a cool buddy. I found that it’s very effective to display more interest in her. Some girls will throw your number away. I have a boyfriend” I usually just stare at her all confused and say “Yeah… and?”. once again. It’s better to exchange numbers than to just give her your number. I usually say something like “Wow. how can we continue this conversation?” • Objection blaster. And some girls will simply just lose your numbers. Not unless.

It will really communicate that you have more important things to do. It’s good to set up some rules right from the beginning. They all work. It usually goes something like this “You know what. It will communicate that you have a life and that you are not needy” “You should call her on the same day so that she gets comfortable talking to you. then you owe me vanilla flavored ice cream on a cone…” You can go anywhere with this technique. I prefer to make plans before leaving the interaction. You’ll come off way cooler. When you do answer I expect a really cool joke from you. That’s it. Tell her what time you’ll call her and how to respond to you over the phone. you’re pretty cool. How long should you wait before you call? This sounds familiar doesn’t it? There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to the best time to call. I’ll call you just once… and leave a message once. Then make it a point to be the first one to hang up or pretend that someone else is on the other line. trust me. Just act like it’s normal. It’s fun”. After you talk to her. What more can you ask for? We do this every Wednesday. 80’s music. • Finalize your plans before you leave. If all else fails. every Wednesday. Go call her! And if she doesn’t pick up then call up two more times” “You should call her the day after you get her number. My suggestion would be to try everything until you find the one that works best for you. believe me I’ve tried.• Tell her exactly how it’s going to be. and on top of that you get to bowl. “You should call her after a week or two. you’re not some weird psychotic girl right? Cool. you should come join us. make sure to let her know you’ll be calling in the next couple of days” You must be wondering which strategy works best. my friends and I love to bowl at Golden Pins. It’s not everyday that I meet someone that I can just be real with. Listen. It really depends on the situation. This technique has worked well for me. Have you ever gone cosmic bowling?! It’s the most fun thing in the world.  . I really hate playing phone tag. Stuff like “Ok. Here’s a couple “You should wait at least three days before you call her. If you don’t have any. They have these huge crystal disco lights. but wait a minute. make sure to end the conversation on a high note” It doesn’t get better than this.

there’s that one girl that never picks up her phone. There’s no rush to call her up soon because you’ll see her over and over again. That’s pretty good considering the fact that I’ve only got so much free time on my hands. The others eventually responded after my follow up routine. Let me ask you this… What’s your strategy? Let me suggest this… Try everything out. Traditional Method Call her after three days Space your calls out and have at least three to four days in between them Ask her out on the first or second call This method works best on girls within your social circle. What do I mean by solid? I’ve spent an average of about 45 minutes to 2 hours with them. Let’s say I’ve collected around 12 solid numbers in two weeks. See which ones work best for you.Here is a simple strategy. Give it a shot for two weeks then switch. and emotional connection that’s been built all throughout the interaction. Occasionally.  . I used in the past. Aggressive Method Call the numbers up the day you get them You can call the next day and the day after to follow up Call at unpredictable hours of the day Varying time limit on each call Ask her out later on For some reason this method worked best on cold approaches. That includes multiple dates within that day. in order to find out which strategy worked best. I would say two out of every four girls answered on the first call.

8 TIps for an unforGeTTable fIrsT daTe
The tips I’m about to share with you are priceless. It took me years to figure some of them out. Most guys don’t know what to do on a first date. Don’t be generic. “Would you like to go to dinner and a movie with me sometime?” I don’t want to hear that coming out of your mouth anytime soon. OK? That’s what every other guy does! The last thing you want is to be like everyone else. There are lots of other things to do besides that. Save that idea for a later date. Something you’re passionate about. Are you passionate about sports? Singing? Shooting guns? Surfing? Art? Rollerblading? Anything at all? Bring her in to your world. Do the things you’re passionate about with her, on a first date. The best part about is that you can teach her how to do these things, if she doesn’t know how. Accessible- You don’t want to take her to the mountains located two hours from you. You want somewhere near and accessible. Fun & Exciting. Some of the best dates I’ve had were in amusement parks. It’s fun. It’s exciting. It provides the both of you with the same experience you can bond on. Plus, the emotions you experience will bring the two of you closer to each other. Unpredictable. Don’t tell her where you’re going. Tell her it’s a surprise. Get back to your place early on. Find an excuse to get back to your place early on. Your goal is to make her feel comfortable and to get that step out of the way. I do this by saying “These shoes are killing me, I just need a second…” drive to your house and say “Alright, I’ll give you a quick tour, we can only stay for five minutes cause we’re running on a schedule”. I go in the house, change my shoes, and rush her out of the house after giving her the tour. I don’t crowd her space. I don’t go for the kiss. I just relax and really just give her a tour of the house. This serves two purposes. Makes her trust me more and gets her comfortable in my house. Go to the supermarket. Take her with you to do groceries. Two techniques you can use. You can pick up a cookbook and have her pick up ingredients with you so she can help you cook. Another thing I like to do is to get some ice cream. Unfortunately I have to get it back to the house before it melts. AHA! Either way, you end up going back to your house or hers. 

Ideas For Second Dates Theme parks The beach Picnics Shooting range Cooking classes Sporting events Grocery shopping Flying kites in the park Comedy clubs Dance lessons Art galleries Rollerblading Go cart Wine tasting Wall climbing

on CreaTInG a sexual vIbe
Creating a sexual vibe gets her ready for the kiss. You must learn how to project sexuality. Sexuality can be projected by the way you talk, look at her, touch her, and the way you present yourself. It’s mostly non-verbal communication. This is the next level you need to master. Here are some of the ways you can project a sexual vibe. The way you look at her. Look at her in that sexual “You know what’s about to happen” kind of way. You can do stuff like staring at her eyes while biting your lower lip then looking back at your eyes. You need to be able to turn on your bedroom eyes and sexual smile in a snap of a finger. The way you talk to her. Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Lower the volume of your speech. Try speaking like you’re saying something really profound. Whisper in her ear at some point in the interaction. The way you touch her. Hold her hand at key points in the interaction. It’s important to have some kind of body contact. Begin to face her directly. Place your hand in her inner leg and gently stroke it. Knees or feet touching each other. Stroke her hair while looking at her lips. Incorporating Pausing. Pause in between words to create a sexual and intriguing vibe. 

I Can’t Believe I’m Sharing This With You I came up with a strategy to project sexuality quickly. As a matter of fact, I only teach this in my Day Game University Boot Camp. So let me ask you just one favor. Please don’t teach this method to anyone. Ok, maybe a friend or two, but no more than that. Deal? Good, now that we got that out of the way. Here’s what I call the Airplane Method I want you to think about the two hottest women in the world. It can be an actress, model, friend, or make believe women. Don’t continue reading unless you have your two hottest women. Now, imagine that you’re in a private jet plane. You own the plane. It’s yours. You’re relaxing and leaning back with your feet stretched comfortably. Your pants are down and one of the hottest girls is sucking your penis while the other one is sucking your balls. Now how do you feel? I really want you to put yourself in this situation so you know what I’m talking about. Now let’s say someone calls you over the phone. How will you talk to them? Would it be fast? Or all slow and sexual? Here’s how I learned this technique. A couple of years ago, I met my good friend Asian playboy, who specializes in picking up women in bars and clubs. When this guy spoke, he just had this seductive and sexual presence and for the longest time I couldn’t figure out how he did it. Until one day, I thought to myself, what could this guy be thinking? I mean he gets laid a lot, and he’s good at what he does. What’s his secret? Then it suddenly occurred to me. AHA! He must be thinking about being in an airplane with two hot women going down on him. That’s probably what it is! There’s no other explanation I can think of! Thus, the airplane method was born. Props to Asian playboy. TRY THIS OUT Next time, before you go for the kiss, you should try the airplane method and talk all sexual for 5-10 minutes. This builds the stage up for the kiss. 

I make sure she hears me running towards  . There’s a window of opportunity that opens up sometime in the interaction. It’s something you’ll learn to do. • You don’t need words. You should kiss her before the day ends. then that’s your cue to go for a kiss. Here are some important pointers that will be helpful for you. I built as much comfort. Nobody else. I make her stop to talk to me. First. The best part about this approach is that you don’t need words.When & hoW To KIss her Kissing on the first day sets the stage. • Three second rule. It’s almost too obvious to meet. Do you know that moment when you run out of words to say and your eyes are locked on hers? Next time that happens. Put her hair behind her ear and lightly stroke the side of her face. It’s just you and her that exist. I approach the girl I want right away. you’ll start to get a feel of EXACTLY when you should go for it. I want you to ccount 1. while you slowly tilt your head. • Explore her eyes. If she’s walking. After you get into that situation. Slowly move in for the kill. and you know that it’s time. investment. Nothing else matters. In that moment.3 and if she’s still lookg at you. that it’s going to be a sexual relationship.2. Start looking deeply at her eyes. Women are eager for the kiss as much as you are. Mall. Here’s a sample progression I’ve used in the past. quite a number of times. • Nothing else exists. froM Coffee shop. early on. and connection as I need before I try to escalate things further. You usually feel butterflies in your stomach. • Put her hair behind her ears. if you play your cards right. let the whole world just fade away. don’t look away. If she’s walking away from me. superMarKeT To The bedrooM: The naTural proGressIon There’s a natural progression of how I like to do things.

Sometimes. then it becomes comfortable. All these crazy things you’d do when you were young. I do stuff like walk around the mall with her. getting ready to leave. Before entering the door to my house. You get the point. At other times. I discovered that if you make fun of uncomfortable situations. and shop for clothes. I just kiss her. and then I stop her and make her turn around to talk to me. I will not tolerate disrespect and sexual harassment especially from women. Sometimes I even take them on an instant movie date where we sneak out in the middle of the movie and go watch another movie. Let’s go grab something to eat. Let’s go…” she usually complies. The perfect time to lean back. After I establish some kind of connection. After eating I make it a point to do other things. So. with no mutual friends to introduce us to each other. We prepare dinner together. I ask her to sit down with me. play arcade. Tell you what. and then set up another date with her. I’m going to sit down over there. it’s grocery day today” and then we head out to the supermarkets. This usually demonstrates that I’m fearless and exciting. but just try hard to resist the urge ok? I’m not that easy” It’s a little funny piece that takes the tension out of the scenario. I’m sorry we met like this. After I’ve established enough investment on her part. I almost forgot. I’d prefer to see how far I can take it. It varies. 0 . After all this. Someone you can just talk to about anything and everything. I’m hungry.her. It’s pretty rare to meet someone you can just be real with. I usually say something like “My legs are dying. I say “Oh. after we buy groceries.” We go some place to eat. I’m dialing this number. I know it’s going to be hard for you. I say something like “I’m really glad I met you. relax and discuss deep topics is when you’re sitting down. we go back to my place to prepare dinner. I usually talk about deeper topics when I’m sitting down. punch the number 9-1-1 in and say “Look at this number. If at anytime you even slightly try to grab my ass… it’s over. I knock on the window and start talking to her. We talk more. I pull out my phone. like couples do. You’re not going to be one of those awesome girls that I meet and never see again. Get to know each other a little bit and begin to open up. call it a day. If she’s inside her car.

Just minutes after it gets really hot and heavy. Then I learned that if you just leaned back. I’m off to bed. I jump right into my bed and I tell her “Goodnight. For you. I hate to put you down but. I always pull away first and give her an excuse why we should stop. At the same time. We eventually start kissing and rolling over the bed. At this point. From here we start to cuddle. In that moment. I pump up her emotions by saying things like “I know what you’re thinking. Here’s the key piece of the puzzle. At this point my back is turned toward her and I start to do fake snores. she’s usually not sure whether I like her or not. I pull of childish behavior like initiating pillow and water fights. I do this a couple of times till clothes start to come off. I used to try to seduce her and touch her as much as I could the moment she walked through the door.  . I just unleash the beast and take full control of the situation.From here on I just build as much tension as I can. I pull away and pretend to sleep.. it should be a done deal.. After that’s done. All I am is a big piece of tease”. increase her desire. and I need to stop before it gets really far”. I act as if everything is normal. When she reaches her boiling point and all the clothes are off. I treat her the same way I would treat my buddy. before she even has a chance to do so. she usually ends up doing just that. I don’t put out that easily. but I’m feeling so good. and give her space to chase. Then later on in the night. From this point. she’s way too invested and aroused to even pull back. I play the frame that “I’m a good boy. see you tomorrow”.

second dates. physical. getting her back to your house) Stage 4: Beyond the pick-up.Words of WIsdoM There are four stages you will go through in your journey to get this part of your life handled. time. social) Stage 3: Learning how to handle logistics (getting her number. (phone game. Who you will become depends on the things you do today. and managing relationships)  Tips On How to be Happy Be optimistic and outgoing (positivism) Have close friendships and meaningful relationships (Build your social circle) Work or leisure that engage your skills (fun time) Have something to believe in (foundation) Sleep well and exercise (taking care of yourself) Having a high self esteem (healthy relationship with self) “ If you don’t know where you are going. going on an instant date.  .” Where are you in your life right now? What are your goals? Long term and short term? Create a plan Don’t give up until you see results Who you are is the product of the past. you will probably wind up somewhere else. You need to become a master of all four stages Stage 1: Becoming Social and Expressing your personality Stage 2: Learning how to make her invest in the interaction (emotional.

you must become congruent with the three main aspects in your life: Be good at what you do Enjoy what it is you do Feel a sense of fulfillment while you do it  .Balance Is Key In order to achieve happiness and live up to your full potential.

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