Daytime Pick-Up Revealed

The Art of Meeting, Connecting and Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls, College Campuses, and Anywhere Under the Sun!
2006 All Rights Reserved 

IntroductIon A Word on consIstency GettInG the Most FroM thIs MAnuAl WArnInG!

Table of ConTenTs

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Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle 8 WhAt Is dAy GAMe? 8 An eye opener on cold ApproAchInG 9 WelcoMe to WoMen’s everydAy reAlIty 10 creAtInG A vIsIon 11 ActInG on your plAn 12 4 steps to IncreAse the eFFectIveness oF GoAl settInG 13 IntroductIon to the 8 essentIAl dAyGAMe FActors 14 Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS FActor 1: Inner strenGth FActor 2: IdentIty FActor 3: lonG terM And short terM vAlue FActor 4: eFFectIve coMMunIcAtIon FActor 5: eMotIonAl connectIon FActor 6: coMFort & trust FActor 7: loGIstIcs FActor 8: InvestMent Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS, rAcking up dAteS, And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndset For MeetInG WoMen Where to Meet WoMen Be In tune WIth the enerGy level crAsh course In stArtInG conversAtIon WIth WoMen BreAKInG doWn the opener deAlInG WIth contInGencIes GIFt shIFt theory the pInG ponG MetAphor 

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Go FIrst prIncIple poWer tAlK WhAt to do AFter InItIAtInG the conversAtIon you Must creAte A connectIon hoW to AnsWer lIGht rApport QuestIons BuIldInG suBstAnce: ActIve lIstenInG, FIndInG her core vAlue, And leAdInG WIth your pAssIons leAdInG WIth your pAssIons A couple oF eFFectIve conversAtIonAl tools here’s A conversAtIon I hAd In the pAst BuIldInG FAMIlIArIty & suBstAnce the Art oF GettInG phone nuMBers & settInG up dAtes 8 tIps For An unForGettABle FIrst dAte on creAtInG A sexuAl vIBe When & hoW to KIss her FroM coFFee shop, MAll, superMArKet to the BedrooM: the nAturAl proGressIon Words oF WIsdoM WrAppInG It All up

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theories. I came up with over 2. I had to learn how pick up women from scratch. books. There were no gurus. Anyone. After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls. Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you’ve absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part of my life handled. regardless of age and experience. and trial and error. I’ve compressed it all into this book. I really had no other option. I want to congratulate you.InTroduCTIon First of all. can benefit from this manual. I learned from my past failures. with the right combination of passion. Over the years. It didn’t stop me though. I’ve developed a step by step system that will allow anyone. videos. it can be overwhelming. It was a long and painful process but. streets.  . beaches. and perseverance to become successful with women. hanging out with guys that were good with women. by choice. I know there’s a lot of information out there and.000 pages? Yes. would understand. dedication. coffee shops. I don’t want you to take a year to see results. or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up. I want you to succeed now. quite frankly. 2. What you’re about to read is a product of years of trial and error. I’ve piled up all the useful information that I’ve discovered in my pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups. I just needed to know how to operate in the field.000 pages filled with discoveries. In the process. I learned the natural [**hard?**] way. at that time. and college campuses. there were no resources on meeting women outside of the “bars and clubs” context. and tactics on meeting women during the daytime. Worst of all. You’ve taken the first step toward improving yourself. even my 8-year-old cousin. Back then. So I came up with a manual that anyone.

a Word on ConsIsTenCy Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency.  . and choose wisely. relax. and drive within yourself to see this through.only a few months! This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself. So now. You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in this area of your life. make a stand. without fail. First of all. passion. It doesn’t work that way. but you will never reach it unless you consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other.There’s a catch though… You have to want it. You can have the best techniques. then when will you? Treat this like going to college to get a degree. and keep an open mind. There are many ways to achieve your goal. I promise you won’t regret it. You must find the determination. there was always one common denominator. This manual is my helping hand to all those guys who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day. Day in day out. would you be willing to experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to achieve the lifestyle of your dreams . the best system. consistently. You’ll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn. they each followed their pre-determined plan. If you don’t get this part of your life handled right now. this book isn’t some magic pill that will solve all your problems overnight.or will you continue to be an “average Joe” for 70 more years? Which path will you take? It’s time to make a decision. it’s all worthless. and you will not be figuring out this part of your life forever . but without consistency. You’re about to begin your journey. You won’t be in college forever. Eventhough they were from different walks of life and trained differently. I want you to sit back. and the best coach out there. Now. and without excuses. Over the past three years. I’ve talked to hundreds of people who have successfully transformed their dating lifestyle.

Read.I want you to approach this as you. You can drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect. I want to know what you think. reading. would when you’re trying to develop a skill. The more you practice. comments. You need the right information and the ability to put that information into practice. You need to practice several times a Let’s Rock n Roll!  . You need to go out there and practice the things you learn. and using it until you have it all down! Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas. Some of them will be helpful to your current situation. I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won’t be enough. if you want to become competent. you will need in the future. I’ll constantly be throwing new concepts at you. or just a simple “Hi” note if you will. so be prepared. Keep practicing. practice it! Don’t go jump right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you learn here. Don’t ever. Most of them. absorb. the better you become. complaints. GeTTInG The MosT froM ThIs Manual There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. and integrate the information you learn. It’s a repetitive process that will propel you toward success. Come back and read the individual section from time to time. It’s similar to learning a sport. ever be satisfied with just learning this stuff. Treat this book as a reference or encyclopedia. Read through it once or twice and absorb whatever you can.

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I’ll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before the approach.Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle In this section. beaches. they roam around malls. I have yet to meet someone who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that catches his eye. relax. I’m sure you wanted to accomplish something. It’s not luck. The best thing about it is that YOU could potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how. as most may think. Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands. The question is. then day game just might be the answer. I’ve met a couple of men that can pull it off. shop. then that’s normal. Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman. supermarkets. WhaT Is day GaMe? Have you ever experienced seeing “your type” of girl walk down the street? Most likely you have. get them on dates. have fun and a whole list of other reasons. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day? If you answered yes to any one of those. they are rare. and how I’ve used this information to solidify my game and make myself more successful with women. What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me. ”What Did You Do About It? Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by? If you didn’t do anything. and coffee shops every single day. and have the possibility of starting a relationship with them. outside of bars and clubs. build an emotional connection. it’s a skill set.  . Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday? Women of all types of beauty are not hard to find. and believe me.

let’s get back to my story… After failing to produce results in my job. If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the customer. Heck. What does sales have to do with being successful with girls? Everything. more often than not. I tried and experimented with a lot of different techniques. Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What happened?  . I should know. I’ve had a history of being a salesman. Occasionally. I didn’t even know their name. I’ve spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth in the middle of a mall. and it did make sense. is their ability to communicate with people. then there would be no need for salespeople. they’d just continue walking. and that’s when I learned something… If my initial approach was unique. Communication is key in everything that we do. I’d always be shouting “Hey sir. But. I’ll talk more about this in the upcoming chapters. the one thing that’s similar with salespeople and guys that are successful with women. then people usually gave me a bit of their time. If you think about it. trying to get people to buy our products. do you want to sign up for our service today?” yada yada yada. Several years ago. It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a chance to get to know the customer.What if I told you that it’s possible to approach these beautiful strangers and have something positive result from almost all of your interactions? Would you think I’m nuts? an eye opener on Cold approaChInG Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger. people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had to say. I learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must. Now.

Make or Break Moment The first couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or break moment. How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off? I’m sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers that you say when you get the same question. Then the conversation comes to an end and you either say “Nice talking to you” or just simply turn around and carry on with your business. It’s probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because it opens the door for escalating the conversation. Looking back.. There are a lot of whackos out there. 0 . The first thing you need to do is find a way to bypass her social filters. If you can relate to this scenario then. isn’t it” Chances are you reply with some sort of answer. why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were you interested in getting to know them as a person? Chances are it was out of politeness. Your goal is to get her into a state of mind where she’s susceptible to be led. depending on your mood. It’s not their fault and I certainly don’t blame them for being rude sometimes. WelCoMe To WoMen’s everyday realITy Women get approached or hit on all the time.You probably heard them open with a familiar line like: “Hey what’s going on?” “Nice weather…” “It’s a pretty long line. They’ve developed tolerance to men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction.. What does that mean? You’ve got to approach her in a way that she’s not accustomed.

there’s one thing you need to do first. Most of the people you meet out there will have a very short attention span. Don’t skip this part. CreaTInG a vIsIon Do you know where you’re heading? If you don’t then you might want to start brainstorming. They have no goals set for themselves. It gives you an overall direction so you know where you’re going. But don’t expect them to be all over you after you’ve initiated the conversation. it doesn’t mean you get to go in and do whatever you want. You have to set a goal for yourself. you should have one. will be focused on perfecting the first few minutes of the interaction. If you want to be successful with women. It motivates you and keeps you on track. A lot of your time. So I want you to take sometime to answer these questions.It’s like going to someone’s house and pushing the doorbell. It’s always a good feeling knowing you’re working toward something that will benefit you in the long run. We all have things to do and people to see. Goal setting is very important for various reasons. A lot of people out there are like chickens running around with their heads cut off. That’s your window of opportunity. if you’ve got your whole presence and communication skills down. If it’s something you really want then you WILL achieve it. It will be your first road block to success. I’m going to go with the assumption that everyone’s time is special. If you have a vision of what you want your life to be then that is your incentive to work harder. Have a pen and paper ready. there are no second chances if you mess it up. Most women will give you somewhere between three seconds and three minutes to captivate their interest. Just because someone opens the door. Women will usually. If you don’t have one. then by the end of this section. open the door for you a little bit.  . That’s just setting yourself up for failure. when you first start out. You’ll find it very useful on your journey.

Once you’ve figured out what you want.  . and monthly goals to ensure that you’re constantly improving you skill set? How much time and effort do you need to put into this? What strategies do you have in order to stay consistent and committed to getting this part of your life handled? That’s just for starters. What’s in it for you in the long run? Like. I know it’s a good feeling to have so much information that your brain begins to swell. it’s potential power. One piece of advice though: Information isn’t power. where do you see yourself? What kind of person will you be by then? What kind of girl/girls will be with you? What’s your lifestyle going to be? What’s the difference between who you are now and who you want to be? • How long do you think it will take you to accomplish your overall goal? Have you set daily.• Realistically speaking. weekly. now what?! Anything on paper is just writing unless you put it to work. the next step is to stick to your plan no matter what happens until you start to see results. in 10 years. aCTInG on your plan Okay you have your plan. These questions should aid you in coming up with a solid vision of who you want to be and what steps you need to take in order to accomplish that. what do you really want to accomplish? You’re obviously investing a lot of your time and effort into learning how to be successful with women.

every single week” or “I want to have a smoking hot girlfriend that’s half my age. I should always be pushing the interaction as far as it can go every time. Devise a plan on how you’re going to accomplish your goal. After six months. Make sure you use this information as a guideline and makes sure you’re on the right track.” 2. If you haven’t done this by now. I’ll make sure to implement the things I learned right away.”  . For example: “I was able to talk to several girls today. For example: “In order for me to be able to date three new girls a week.4 sTeps To InCrease The effeCTIveness of Goal seTTInG Know exactly what you want to accomplish. What steps are needed in order to accomplish your plan? How long is it going to take and what does it require of me? Make sure to always stick to that plan. and has a kick ass personality”. I’m also going to work on the different aspects of my life so that I become relationship material. I should get my skill set to that level. Put the book down and start working on it. It was fun but I just can’t seem to get her to open up to me. I’ll try to go on as many dates as I can so I can get experience under my belt. Or I can look for someone qualified to help me out. I want to have the ability to date three new girls that I meet in the mall.” Or “If I want a hot girlfriend I should be more experienced with hot women. and schedule a date with her at the end. I’ll be able to hold a conversation with a girl for 30 minutes. I’ll make sure that they can give me personalized and individualized attention. I will surround myself with the kind of women I’d like to date and learn how to be comfortable in their presence. then don’t continue reading. Get all the right information that you need in order to get this part of your life handled. I shouldn’t commit the same mistake again. I need to interact with seven new girls three times a week for six months. After getting advice. For example: “In six months. I’m going to look for resources out there that will solve the problem for me. 1.

. then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part of the interaction. InTroduCTIon To The 8 essenTIal dayGaMe faCTors I’m about to provide you with the most comprehensive information ever available on how use the 8 Essential Day Game Factors to dramatically increase your success with women. connect. For example: “Last month.. This is an essential skill to develop. This month I got eight numbers but none of them called me back. starting from your core. You should be able to analyze yourself and construct positive criticism. then make the necessary adjustments. In order to efficiently improve your skills. Review all your results. Here’s a QUICK PEEK at what’s coming up. The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive foundation for daytime pick-up. I got five numbers and out of those numbers. and date the woman of your choice. three girls called me back. So I need to review all my interactions and see where I’m screwing things up. Did I build enough emotional connection with her? Did I convey my personality well enough? Am I giving up easily without following up? If so how can I improve my skill? I should try calling her more often…” This is a very simple structure you can use in order to assess your progress.3. I suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book.  . I’ve identified a total of 8 Essential Day Game Factors that must be addressed if you want to maximize your success rate! You must first understand all of the factors and how they affect your ability to meet. The 8 Essential Day Factors are structured in a way that helps build you up. You see. find the strong and weak points. This is the only way to keep progressing.

 . I’ll discuss inner strength in depth and take you step by step so that you can develop a solid foundation . why they can’t keep a woman in their life? It’s because they don’t develop the ability to convey their identity. I’ll show you exactly how to communicate with women. I’ll only be throwing stuff at you that I know you’d need. FACTOR : LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM VALUE This chapter is guaranteed to raise a few eyebrows out there. FACTOR : COMMUNICATION Communication skills separate the beginners from the pros. I’ll teach you the same principles that I only teach in specialized 1 on 1 VIP seminars.FACTOR : INNER STRENGTH We’ll start to build you up from the very core of your personality. I’ll go over the key concepts of identity building and how to effectively communicate who you are as a person. I’ll explain to you the importance of long term and short term value and how it affects all your interactions. I’m confident that by the end of this book. A lot of guys don’t know the proper way of communicating with attractive women. FACTOR : IDENTITY Do you know why most guys fail to keep a woman interested in them? Or even worse. I’ll show you where most guys fail and how you can avoid most of the pitfalls out there. Don’t worry. They lose a woman’s initial interest due to their lack of communication or ineffective communication. you’ll have a basic understanding of what inner strength is and how you can use it to gain an unfair advantage over other guys.

In this chapter. let me be the first to tell you… Logistics is one thing that you do not have full control over. This chapter talks about the things you must do and avoid. I’ve decided to just go all out and reveal four major investment categories. I’ll give you a couple of tips on how you can maximize the effectiveness of the interaction by utilizing our logistic planning method. he must first master the art of making her invest in the interaction. I’ll show you specifically how to get the girl from the mall to your bedroom! FACTOR : INVESTMENT In order for anyone to be successful with women. FACTOR : COMFORT AND TRUST Most guys just don’t know how to build comfort and trust with the women they meet. FACTOR : LEADING & LOGISTICS If you haven’t learned yet.FACTOR : EMOTIONAL CONNECTION Emotional Connection is what I like to call “The Heart of Day Game”. Look no further! In this chapter.  . This is my favorite part of every interaction and you’re about to find out why! I go over specific time-tested tactics that I’ve used to establish a long lasting emotional bond that gets her to dream about you even after you’re gone! This is a very effective tool that increases the chances of you going on a date with her! I’ll go over the proper way to build an emotional connection and the opportune moment for you to start engaging her in this type of interaction. I’ve compiled the most comprehensive approach to increase control over the interaction and decreasing the number of women flaking on you.

” I really thought I would never figure it out. Until this one day came.Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS faCTor 1: Inner sTrenGTh I know that most of you just want to learn what to say. Failure just wasn’t an option for me. So to make a long story short I asked him “It takes a lot of guts to do what you did. It’s the driving force behind all their successes. I always wondered how he was able to do it. My friend and I were just chatting about life. I know. This is the one thing that fuels them day in and day out. and be the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period with my head held up high. have one thing in common. I was the same as you when I first started out. I had two choices: should I go through all of this hardship. I had that choice. “What does this guy have that I don’t. in other words.. we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style. cherish every moment of my journey. I knew there would be a lot of people who’d be negative about the experience. It’s that bright light at the end of the tunnel. A lot of successful guys. I mean. You want to know what happened several years later? I sat down and told myself “If only I just build up myself first. Most people probably hated being there. There’s something about him that makes him complete as a person.”  . I just knew that I had it in me to succeed beyond a shadow of a doubt. “the lines”.. I admired this guy for his strength and courage. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were stationed in Iraq. I’ve tried to put my finger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to figure out what it was. I don’t blame you at all. I used to think to myself. I just accepted it. what were you thinking of?” He replied: “All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person. be negative all the time. and end up to be a better person? I chose the latter. things would have been so much easier for me…” So save yourself a lot of time and read and understand this section first before you go onto the next one. I hadn’t seen him in years because he was stationed in Iraq.

probably since we were little kids. they set the standard of what is cool. we’ve been programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women. There are a lot of factors that have molded us to be the person we are today. You’ve Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don’t Even Know It! We all walk through this world with our beliefs. appearance isn’t everything. Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning… For the most part. Let’s take a good look at magazines for a second.I suddenly had one of those “Light bulb popping up in your head” moments. These moments don’t come to me that often but whenever they do. You can get a girl even if you’re not rich. or fame. The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow.  . What we believe in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives. These beliefs have been integrated into our being. Contrary to popular belief. we live in a society that’s driven by money. You can make a beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race! All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute. attractive. You can still get laid even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine. Sad to say. This is true for both men and women alike. they always hit me hard over the head. or not tall. Let’s start out with media and advertising. Let’s take on the subject of appearance. Not only that. power. not well built. Examples of such factors are FRIENDS FAMILY SCHOOL SYSTEM SOCIETY MEDIA CULTURE ENVIRONMENT WOOOOWW! That’s a lot of factors influencing us. and desirable.

Your belief becomes who you are. both the man and woman in this example end up concluding “In order to be desirable. famous… He even has the fastest car around.  . The truth is… YOU DON’T Yeah being rich. Anyone armed with the techniques and philosophies I’ll discuss in this book can attract the kind of woman that’s usually reserved for the good looking. He’s rich. Your words become your actions.Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I’m sure you all know the answer to this one: Celebrities Attractive and fit people Rich people And everything else I forgot to mention Am I the only one that sees what’s going on here? Where can you find the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of a magazine. and join this…” And whoever said advertising wasn’t effective? What actually happened was that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in order to be cool. cool. famous. and rich! IT’S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE! Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality? Your thoughts become your words. The average girl would think “That’s the girl that everyone in my school thinks is hot! She’s skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here). tall. and up to date I need to have this. that guy has the hottest girl I’ve ever seen. he has this sick ass watch. I need to buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…” Same thing for a guy “Oh. be this. tall. famous helps but it’s not the only way. where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial features modified to intimidate almost anyone. and…” To make the long story short.

BELIEVE! I’ve learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. only if you really really believed in it. you’re not going to be someone you’re not. I will also provide you with exercises so your belief is reinforced with real world results. but the sooner you start believing. that would be too idealistic of me. And that’s when it occurred to me that… YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE. After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you. For the next 30 days. It makes me sad to see all the guys out there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. Don’t stop reading until you start practicing and believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons. Here’s how this works. the faster you’ll get to your destination. Ever since then I began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions. and relationships that I’ve had. This is where everyone should start regardless of their goal. Change will not occur overnight. Alright. because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs. becomes who you are? Would you believe me? You better. These have been very useful for me and hopefully will be for you. I’ll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I’ve found to be very useful in my journey. I’m just sharing with you everything that’s worked for me and the thousands of guys I’ve trained after I discovered everything I’m about to share with you. I adopted bits and pieces of his philosophy in life. and went on a journey to seek the truth. BELIEVE. my whole world changed. What if you can reprogram your entire self.What if I told you that everything that you believe in. You have to live up to your full potential. back to my story. If only I could snap them out of their trance… but then again. so you can move through the world naturally attracting people in your life? Before I hear any objections. I want you to go over this chapter again and again. literally before my very own eyes. 0 . You’re just going to be a better version of yourself. struggles. you too can be successful with women.

I don’t know what to say” speech playing in your head? Let me ask you this.  . Try this out. TRY THIS OUT I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were indeed valuable to other people. then it will be valuable to others. people were hanging off every word you said. Starting now. all of a sudden. The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself. Got that memory? How does it make you feel? Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn’t it? That’s how you should feel before talking to anyone. I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to others. I’m sure there’s a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just loved you. but I’ve approached girls in the past and they’ve shot me down more times than I can think of… Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn’t mean you should stop eating right? Every girl is different. Every situation is different. I want you to remember the times when you made several people feel good about themselves. imagine that you’re about to give them a million bucks in the next five minutes. next time before you talk to someone. You’re doing them a favor by talking to them. how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven’t even approached her yet? Okay. how does that change the way you act toward them? Try it out.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS Have you ever had the feeling that you’re not worthy to even talk to someone? Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that damn “Why should she even talk to me? I’m not her type… and besides. If you believe that everything you say or do is valuable. The time when.

wherever you want.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : TAKE WHAT’S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS! There’s one thing that you will realize later on… You can do anything you want. Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life: • It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn’t you? Another example is the very famous Bill Gates. You have permission to change your beliefs. You have permission to go after the things you want in life. Do you think he ever asked permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off? Nope. You do not need permission to dress in a certain way. Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission every single time you went for a trip to the rest room. Everything is yours.  . executed it. he just had a plan. Always say what’s on your mind. Don’t be afraid to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise. So what do you want to do? What’s stopping you? You are your own boss. It’s about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in. Don’t ask anyone for permission just do it. if you don’t agree with someone simply say “I disagree” and leave it at that. You have permission to be the best that you can be. Don’t look for others to make decisions for you. You do not need anyone’s approval before you do something. whenever you want. You already have it in you. Always voice out your opinions. just go ahead and sit down. Well. And you have permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says. • Make your own decision and take your own stand. Next time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot. You can do them yourself. And you can get away with it. Once again. by the time you got to college. Don’t wait for others to tell you what to do. and never looked back. I want you to live life like you own the world. we’ve been programmed by society to look up to others for “permission” to do something we want to do. Don’t be afraid to spark tension.

If it’s reasonable and you’re up for it then say “yes”. don’t hesitate to just smile and take the spot first. Don’t ever change just because someone else wants you to. When you’re at a party and someone asks: “Who wants such and such drinks” Don’t hesitate to raise your hand first and say “Over here”. The next time you’re about to line up. Just try saying it. It’s not that bad.  . If it will compromise you or for some reason you just don’t feel comfortable with it then say “no”. This boils down to being who you are despite what other people think. background. • I’m not trying to impress you. and someone gets there the same time you did. Be proud. It’s hard to get used to saying “no” but you have to give it a shot. Don’t be ashamed of your past. and don’t bow down to someone just because you perceive them as being better than you. stand tall. You’ll notice that people will begin to respect you more because you’re upfront. Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time about it just smile and say “Thank you”. or status. One motto you can use is “I’m not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to impress me”. You wouldn’t want to be known as the “yes” man.• Learn how to say “No”. TRY THIS OUT Let’s start out with simple exercises.

every single person you meet will wonder who you are. The clothes you wear. They are trying to form a picture of who you are as a person. Why did I choose that as a kid? Beats me.” . Maybe I wanted to be a rock star because I’d be famous worldwide.Mark Sanborne So What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? When I was seven years old I wanted to be a rock star. Maybe because it looked cool on television. and the way you present yourself to others.faCTor 2: IdenTITy Do you know what people think of the first time they meet you? Do you know the first thing that pops up in a woman’s head the moment you approach her? Do you know what she will think about the minute she gets home after meeting you? “Who in the world is this guy?” So let me throw the question at you… Who Are You? Trust me. I wanted to be that guy that rocked people’s world with his guitar. It All Started When You Were A Kid “There are two great moments in a person’s life: the moment they were born and the moment they realize why they were born. I wanted to be that guy in the spotlight that made people jump to the beat of his melody. all of these play an important role in establishing your identity.  . It seemed just like yesterday. I don’t really know. the stories you tell. when I’d just jump off the bed with a broomstick trying to mimic Slash from Guns n Roses. So what exactly is your identity? Continue reading because this whole chapter is dedicated to the subject of identity. Your job is to convey your identity all throughout an interaction. Or maybe it was what everybody wanted at that time. They ask you questions for a purpose.

One of my favorite sculptors. Becoming a musician was a dream. I was easily influenced by my parents. I believe that the person we want to be is already inside of us. Here are several ways to discover who you are. You’ll need some time to work on this. when I was a kid. Then out of nowhere someone started playing my song on the radio. This is a very important section in this book. he was already done before he started. and teachers. you’re better of just having a 9-5 job where you can make a constant stream of income” Unfortunately.The truth is. the product was already finished.  . I realize that each and everyone of us had dreams when we were little. It just put the pieces of the puzzle together for me. peers. So let me ask you this: What did you want to be when you were seven years old? How to Discover Who You Are I’m not going to keep you waiting any longer. It means that every single time that Michelangelo worked on chipping away pieces of his sculpture. we just need a balance of both. It really came from the heart but at such an early age. Yes. I’m an artist! I’m a musician! I really did achieve what I wanted when I was a kid. Michelangelo. I want you to pull out a piece of paper and jot down some notes. Now that I look back. we tend to stop feeling and just start thinking. I didn’t stray away from it. We were born to experience life and with that experience we grow and we learn. Not that thinking it’s a bad thing. We were all created unique and special. I had no other choice but to listen to what everyone said. If there’s one thing I want you to accomplish after you finish reading this book. We become better versions of ourselves. all he had to do was to chip away all the unnecessary stuff. As a result of growing up. That’s when it struck me. I thought I would never be an artist because of what everybody said to me… “Being a musician won’t get you anywhere… It’s useless. then this is it. once said “The Sculpture is already in the stone” and I never forgot that. I never really thought about it until three weeks ago when I was in a car with a bunch of friends. Success is in already inside all of us.

So how is this useful in social interactions? Simple. and the things they believe in. and write it down. But please try to restrain yourself. No one will judge what you write.. Most men end interactions without really conveying their identity. Don’t be afraid to let everyone see. business. It always feels nice to remind yourself who you are. Read it as often as you want for 30 days straight. Don’t force yourself to finish all these exercises in a day. It’s always good to be mysterious but you should also find a way to convey your identity all through out the interaction.• What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? Come on. It will reaffirm in your mind that you. What makes you smile? What are the things you look forward to in the day? What’s your reward after a long day’s work? • Write Down Some of Your Main Theories. No one can see what you write. What are the things that you value in life? What are the important things? What do you stand by? What do you fight for? • What are Your Three Biggest Accomplishments? By listing them. the things their passionate about.  . Sky is the limit folks. Be proud of who you are. think back. • What are the Three Things You Like About Yourself. you’ll discover what you’re passionate about. Write it all down. I only want you to write down three. When you’re finished writing. It can be related to fitness. Some exercises will take time to finish. • Make a List of Everything You Want to Become. indeed. relationship. are talented. dating. • Make a List of 15 Goals For Next Year. Embrace it with both arms. • List 25 Things That Make You Happy. This leaves women with a blank picture on their head of who you are as a person. It can be a big or small goal. health. You could probably never stop listing reasons here. and traveling. I want you to write down everything.. and Philosophies in Life. Beliefs. I want you to post it somewhere you can see it everyday.

So. TRY THIS OUT This weekend. If you run out of things to do. travel. talk about the things that are interesting to you. Invite your friends along and have a blast.  . Discovering who you are and the things that make you tick is something you should work on regardless of your goals in life. I want you to do an activity you enjoy doing but haven’t done in a long time. and anything your heart fancies. try something new. It puts you into a positive light but it’s still not enough to get you into any kind of relationship. You need to provide value. Give her a taste of what it’s like to be in your shoes for a minute. It provides them with a window to your being and this makes you interesting. Discuss your perspectives on life. Do this at least every two weeks. art. what do you do when you run out of things to say? An effective strategy is to just talk about something you’re really passionate about. Remember. Having this knowledge of yourself is so important especially when you’re interacting with people. If you’re enthusiastic about it then it becomes interesting to her. music. Bring her into your world.

women usually pick the guys that can provide the most value to their life. Anyway. Let me start out by giving you a glimpse of what it’s like to be an attractive woman. it was hard to understand him with his accent. lifestyle. It’s no secret that women get hit on all the time. I think that’s what he said. How Women Decide If You’re A Contestant Most women have several choices of men from which to pick. waved. communication. I was walking in the mall with two girls. we weren’t mean to the poor guy or anything. In this society. Value is determined by a lot of things such as social status. I hear that you want to the secrets to dating women of particular quality and beauty during the daytime… In order to learn how to communicate with women. After all he had balls of steel for doing that. and took off.faCTor 3: lonG TerM and shorT TerM value So. So why should she give you the time of day? What is in it for her? I hate to phrase it this way but at the end of the day. Value is broken down in to the categories: short and long term value  . We smiled. Then I suddenly realized something. If these girls got hit on twice when they were with me. appearance. you must first understand them. and a salesman pops up out of nowhere and asks one of the girls I’m with “Would you like to go out on a date with me?”. it boils down to one question Are you an asset or a liability? It sounds so ridiculous but it’s true. then I wonder what happens when I’m not even present. and all the others I’m about to discuss. personality. Just last week.

• Develop your own signature presence . in fact you don’t have to be smart at all to pull this off. in my experience. Do you have what it takes to get her to want to slam her book down and just talk to you? It’s not impossible. So the key is to be unique in that given environment. comfort. If she perceives you as being more valuable than what she’s currently doing. The fact that you’re educated. Laugh. • Always provide positive emotions. etc. then BAM. If you can share your ideas with her passionately. How did it make you feel? See my point. It doesn’t specifically mean that you have come up with something super original. then she will go out of her way just to talk to you.Short Term Value & Ways You Can Build It Up! Short term value is determined by the experience you give women the first time you meet them. Laughter serves two purposes: Builds attraction within a girl and creates an unspoken bond between the both of you. someone’s doing exactly what you’re doing. It’s addictive. Laugh with them… If you have the skill to make women laugh. There’s a big chance that somewhere in the world. • Laugh. you’ve got the ability to hold someone’s attention and  . Communication is a tool you can use to your advantage but that’s in another chapter. Do you remember the last time you shared a laugh with someone? Now. You’ll notice that women want to be around you more often. People tend to gravitate toward people that make them feel good. You want to be able to laugh together. Laughter is a good feeling. • Let your inner teacher shine. It’s the moment when we shut the whole world off for a second and connect with ourselves. Intelligence is another tool you can use to captivate a woman’s mind. excitement. then you’re already ahead of the game. You don’t have to be as smart as Albert Einstein. All you need are a few interesting topics in which you’re quite familiar. Your job is to provide positive emotions like fun. you’ll instantly be magnetic to women. Once you find a way to provide these emotions. There’s one problem though. she’s busy reading something. Some ways of doing this are the way you groom and present yourself. That’s the power of short term value. just thinking about that moment…. Become unique. You will get far with humor. Let’s say you see a pretty woman as you walk into a coffee shop. Now let’s go into some examples of how you can cultivate short term value. They’ll call you and even pester you to hang out with them. stop. Almost like a drug. happiness. This is done by conveying a rich and textured personality. It happens most of the time.

These positive emotions bring value to their lives. Women love romance. You can go on with this. language. traditions. Classy defines someone who has high standard of personal behavior. Instead of saying “Do you want to come?” say “Let’s go” instead. • Romantic. and Enthusiastic. Show ‘em what you got! • You are the leader. then it will be very hard for women not to notice you. Don’t be afraid to take a stand and follow it up with an action. If you expect her to lead and even make the first move. Women constantly test for this. trust me”. 0 . as my friend Rish would say. when she says “Where are we going?” say “We’re going to grab some ice cream. Teach her a couple of things about your culture. Your job as a man is to lead the interaction. Cultured and Worldly. This is usually learned through your family and the people you’re surrounded by. • Classy. Always have an opinion. decision. Never say “I don’t know”. a trick. It’s also an advantage if you’ve done some traveling. a few fun games you probably learned as a kid. For example. I know it’s easier said then done. Happy. Just remember. Always lead and reassure her that she’s safe with you. the possibilities are endless. Joyful. This can be conveyed with your attitude and the right assertiveness. and a plan. share your knowledge with the world. Take her by the hand and make it easy for her. Let’s go”. Are your outfits coordinated well? Does your belt match your shoes? Do you understand poetry and the different works of art? Do you know the best restaurants in your city? Do you understand the world of fashion? Do you know a couple of classic movies? If you’re equipped with this. Always make it a point to be a decision maker. If you want her number then just ask for it. Lead the conversation. If you step into that role she will allow you to play the role. If you can be a substitute for a romantic novel then. and a handshake. They want a man who knows what he wants. Wouldn’t you? • Decisive. and enthusiastic. teach everyone something. If she says “I’m not sure about this” say “You’re gonna love it. Lead the interaction. “You’re so F****** money and you don’t even know it man”. joyful. Don’t believe me? Did you know that romance novels account for majority of the sales in bookstores? And that’s why women just love a guy that can give them the romantic fantasy. Women are drawn to guys that are happy.interest. then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

LONG TERM VALUE & WAYS YOU CAN BUILD IT UP So you’ve learned how to demonstrate short term value. Coming up in the next couple of chapters.  . A renaissance man is considered a man at the centre of the universe. Do something adventurous. It’s hard to explain over in text. You have to walk a little bit to get through the door and make sure that you stay in it. Short term value opens the door to her life. I can always tell the people who are ambitious from the ones that aren’t. The most obvious one is the way one talks about life. Remember. limitless in his capacities for development. And don’t forget to make it an interesting book. Stay tuned! • Dare to Dream. I think this is one major factor for women who are looking for a commitment. Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something in life. • Emotional Connection. It’s time to rediscover and redefine yourself. dangerous. That’s why you want to give her the best option so she can make an educated decision. Boredom is the enemy. or exciting and live to talk about it. They smell this quality a mile away. Pick up a book every two weeks and read it. these are the things that go on behind closed doors. From experience. The only difference is that you’re not selling an actual product. Lean more toward the energy that they give off. continue the relationship. but it’s sort of like a gut feeling. The whole courting process is very similar to sales. Your long term value is responsible for keeping a girl hooked on you. Make your life an open book. As hard as it sounds. or go on a date with you when you’re not there! These are the times when she probably evaluates you as a package and sees if you’re worth it. Here’s a short description I found on the internet. YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELF! Here are the features that you can add on to increase your long term value • Become a renaissance man. Sounds like a sales pitch right? Right. There are a lot of ways ambition can be conveyed. a girl decides if she wants to see you again. Women crave men who are ambitious. Do something new every single month. Now it’s time to cultivate your long term value. Make it a routine to continuously be learning.

They also like men that know exactly how to press their buttons and provide satisfaction. tall. It’s fun. now how do you respond to it? Do you get all offended and convincing her that you’re a cool guy deep down inside? Or do you just accept it with a smile. Women are sexual beings just like we are. All I’m trying to say is that women screen the men to see if they are relationship material. and move on to the next topic? • Keep ‘em Guessing. “I want a guy who is rich. what do you do for a living?” They’re trying to get a glimpse of how much money you earn. Do you assert your wishes on others? Do you make sure that you’ve got everything under control? Do you bargain your way into getting something you really want? Do you take a stand a support it fully? • Sex God. They enjoy sex as much as we do. This can be demonstrated by the way you treat her. This is conveyed with the way you speak and carry yourself. Firm and Strong. At times be romantic and shower her with attention and the next day treat her like one of your buddies. It’s not a prerequisite for her to date you but it plays a huge role if you want to have a smooth long term relationship. • Self-assuredness. Sex releases endorphins and it relaxes the body. Unpredictability is the spice of life. and handsome”. Do you listen to her when she opens up to you? Do you act as a protector and make sure she’s always taken care of? Do you steer her around corners when you guys are walking around? Do you make her feel comfortable at times when she’s not? • Assertive. I’m not saying that all women are gold diggers. How do you move through the world? Are you afraid to take up space in the world? Or are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you let bad criticisms get to you? Or do you accept them confidently? A simple test would be a woman giving you a hard time about something you either wear or do.• Financially self-sufficient. It’s not good to be too unpredictable either. say “thank you”. You need to be able to support yourself and show potential for becoming financially stable one day. They get all excited when you do this. I hate to admit it but money is a deciding factor in the dating game. Women like men that can give them a wonderful experience. • Tenderness and Sensitivity. It is no secret that women love men that are great in bed. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard that phrase from women.  . This is similar to being confident. It’s good to create a contrast in your personality. Being predictable takes the excitement out of a relationship or interaction. Don’t you wonder what women are trying to find out when they ask “So.

TRY THIS OUT Read through this chapter again. You at least need to be between 3-5 in all ranges in order to be successful with women. Now go through each quality I mentioned in this chapter and rate yourself from 1-5 (1 being the lowest and 5 the highest). big goal concepts. That’s the reason why communicating effectively is a topic I spend several hours teaching at the workshops. By now. it’s useless. Remember. and a couple of helpful tips. If you’re below 3 in one of the qualities I outlined here. if you’ve been doing everything right. you should have a killer understanding of inner foundation. you can have the best line or script in the world but if you can’t present it well. then take a week to focus on this specific quality.  . I want you to take a good look at yourself and your life. When you’re done.These are some of the essential components to building long term value.

That’s all it is. Wow. I’m not going to sugar coat it. She sees this guy. Contestant # 1. she deploys her killer line: “Oh. He seems to carry himself well and has a good sense of style. there’s more to it than that. or instructing a cab driver where you want to go. and a Mona Lisa smile. I didn’t even notice the time. Whether you’re working on presenting an idea to other people. He starts getting excited or nervous and he knows why. That’s the secret to success beyond your wildest dream. nice hair.Ms. Hot Stuff makes his way to talk to her. Plain or Hot Jane Scenario 1: Ms. You must develop strong and effective communication skills in order to get what you want in life. She’s excited but she’s not going to give it all away because of that. tata!” Scenario 2: Ms. And then. but it’s a key ingredient my friend. Plain Jane starts to slowly face away from Mr. Average Guy’s hormones go wild. She heads over to the table to sit down. that was fast. She’s enjoying the moment. he wants her. probably not.faCTor 4: effeCTIve CoMMunICaTIon Your communication skills will either make or break you in your quest for success in all areas of your life. She sees this average looking guy. In that moment. Hot Stuff. She stands up and leaves the coffee shop with him. you need to be able to communicate effectively. he walks toward her and starts talking. he notices something moving from his side. It was nice meeting you though. So what was the component that determined success and failure in each interaction?  . Mr. Average Guy is innocently looking for clothes to buy. Ms. He started out as a stranger and left like her lover. Let me give you an example. Minutes pass by. Hours pass by. Two minutes later. a body to die for. Hot Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. Next thing you know. Average Guy General Scenario: Mr. Actually. Mr. I almost forgot. Deep down. He’s smoking hot. Plain Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. describing a movie you watched to your friends. After three minutes of boring conversation and ineffective communication. I have to rush back home because I left the light on my boyfriend’s room. she got him all excited in less than a second… Contestant # 2. He looks over and notices big boobs.Mr.

• More dates and maintain relationships easily. Then hand out your cash or card. Remember what she says. decaf. when you want it. and how you want it • Your message across clearly for anyone to understand • Recognized for your ability to comm-YOU-nicate who you are. Just try it out for fun. The Communication Equation Individual + Effective Method of Presentation + Powerful Content of Presentation =Effective Communication TRY THIS OUT Go out to a coffee shop one of these days and order your favorite drink. make sure your order is so clear that you won’t be barraged with questions after your order. it’s a really cool exercise. • What you want. Presence is Everything I’ll share something with you. Now the next time you go out. Most guys I’ve met always ask me for the techniques I use to start conversations with women.. you can live the most interesting life in the world.. to go please. You are what you communicate. and your values in life. Just think about it. You can have 99 good qualities about you but unless you know how to effectively communicate them.. When you know how to communicate well you can get . Does the barista ask you any questions afterward? Good. • Women to feel exactly any emotion that you want them to feel allowing you to control and predict the outcome of your interactions. it’s useless.Effective communication. No one else will find out all these positive things about you. For example: “Hmmmmmm. I’m in the mood for a caramel macchiato. with no whip cream.. your beliefs. One of the most common question I hear is “What do you say to her to start the conversation?”  .

I noticed that some techniques worked better than the others (more about techniques in the last chapter) but there was always one thing common that made my approach work. It eases women up at times when they’re nervous. It really does. Having said that. Did you know that there is a way to use eye contact to increase the effectiveness of your communication? It’s very important to hold eye contact at certain points in the interaction. • Facial expression. It’s all about how you present yourself. Practice using a variety of facial expressions when you tell people stories. • Communicate with your eyes. sit. and how you carry yourself. Holding eye contact builds trust and comfort. fear. It worked because of the way I presented it. This helps to get your message across more effectively.  . I found that saying to be true. Do you slow down your pace when you’re emphasizing a point? Do you use pauses to amp up the tension and intrigue? Do you speak loud and clear for people to hear? Do you speak from your diaphragm or nasal? Do you eat your words? Are you relaxed when you speak? • Body Language. Women are masters when it comes to reading body language. Have you ever heard the saying “People buy you first before anything else”. Along the way. A genuine smile can take you a long way. joy. It makes a big difference. I mean a lot. There have been several studies shown that women prefer men that smile while initiating a conversation. and surprise. or walk? Are you relaxed and calm during most times? Do you lean back when you talk to her? Do you move unnecessarily during the conversation? Your non-verbal communication is the window to who you are. How’s your vocal projection and delivery. • Fashion. here are six helpful tips to increase the power of your presence: • Learn how to smile. Smiling makes women feel comfortable. how relaxed you are. I guess the saying “The eyes are the windows to the soul” does have meaning. when I say a lot. Your facial expressions can communicate messages of their own. sadness. Are you comfortable with the way you stand. Facial expressions are used to convey emotions like anger.I’ve experimented with a lot of conversation starters in public places. They categorize you based on how you stand up. disgust. rather than being all serious and mysterious. And believe me. How stylish are you? What kind of fashion statement are you making? What can people tell about you by the way you dress up? Does your style leave a good or bad impression on others? Do you command attention? • It’s not what you say but how you say it.

At high and fun points take a step closer or move your chair closer. Man starts to make unnecessary movement because of the extra energy he feels. I’ve had success with starting off at about 3-5 feet away. just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. talk and carry yourself? I think that body language is the biggest giveaway when it comes to revealing who you are and how you feel. Thou shall relax and lean back. even if you’re nervous. Man gets very jittery. That includes doing things like slouching. If you’re too far from her. and slowly get closer at specific points of the interaction. Men tend to easily get intimidated with women that are way above their league. I’ve discovered that when you assume a relaxed position. Next time you’re in an interaction. It usually goes like this: Man sees attractive woman. the way you walk. Thou shall not have thy hands inside the front pockets. Never have your hand inside your front pockets when you initiate a conversation with anyone unless it’s below freezing and you don’t have any gloves. then she will feel very uncomfortable. When woman gets close. If you stay to close to her. I feel comfortable when my hands are out of my pockets. At low points step away a little bit. will provide women with enough information to categorize you based on the impression you just gave them” Have you ever thought about the things you convey about yourself based on your body language? Did you know that women can tell if you’re confident and cool or nervous and inexperienced just by the observing the way you walk. then it won’t feel like it’s a conversation. 4. you slowly start to feel more relaxed.  . For some reason. 2. right from the bat. Man starts to smile nervously. So here’s to a good first impression. 3. The  Commandments of Effective Body Language 1. and the way you move through this world on a daily basis. placing your feet up on chairs. Try mixing it up. Thou shall not shake or move a lot in the presence of an attractive woman. At the same time. If you’re nervous all throughout the interaction. and leaning against the wall. don’t move your hands around too much when you talk. It’s really funny to watch. Thou shall not stand or sit too close or too far from her.Body Language Tips for Day Game “Your body language. chances are she’ll be nervous too. Experiment with it. man tends to change his behaviors and act way cooler then he really is.

Have you ever been guilty of standing up too straight while you’re talking to a woman? Similar to how you would stand and act if you’re talking to an authority figure? Most guys take interactions with women too seriously. Thou shall not stand up like a soldier. Your voice tone probably changed. And the more I started acting that way. 5. They walked. They took their time almost like they owned time. and moved slow. The way you stood up probably changed. For example. Everything they did was almost too smooth. it helped me relax more. Have you ever been in a situation gone bad? You probably didn’t notice at that time but everything about you changed. relax. Thou shall mirror her body language. when I’m calling up a girl for the first time. Women are human beings too. Everything changed. If you’re guilty of this.Do whatever makes you feel better. Not good. I used to be that way every time I thought I got rejected by women. I used to lay down flat on the floor and take deep breaths. the more positive responses I got from women. become jittery. 8. They stand up so erect that it’s almost too funny to watch. I’ve learned that if you keep your composure and act as if nothing happened then you end up maintaining control of the situation. Mirroring her body language is a technique used to increase rapport and comfort levels. The exact same thing I did every time I experienced a mild confrontation. 7. and eventually make a shameful exit.  . It shows people that you were emotionally affected by it. talked. Thou shall walk and move slow. 6. They’re not some sort of super human goddesses from outer space you know? They do the same things you do. For some reason. They’re shoulders become tense and they act all stiff to the point that they make themselves nervous. They just exert more effort and time into looking good. I’d stutter. I modeled this behavior after guys that were naturals when it came to dealing with women. Thou shall keep thy composure at all times.

. Hands out of the pockets. Your job is to not be one of those guys.. I’ve been guilty of this as well. I offer positive and fun emotions. I just like to give. Relax.... It happens so often that it’s become normal..... That’s the reason why women instantly open up to me when I initiate a conversation with them. My presences makes people feel better. Slow and confident movements. Take a deep breath. But once you betray my trust.. I move through the world with something to offer to everyone.. Those one-way friendships where people just call you when they need something from you. I am a man and I have something to offer the world…” That’s how I view the world. Relax. Be comfortable. Give Before You Take A lot of people are used to taking things from the world and from people. It makes me happy. Don’t be too stiff.TRY THIS OUT Lean back.... People that just ask favors all the time... And make sure not to fall asleep.. People that just keep asking question after question without really contributing toward the conversation. Don’t tense your shoulders up.  .. Exhale... I talk about my life experiences and my view on things because I just want to share my life with other people... Feet spread apart..... It’s also the reason why I can give a woman a compliment without seeming like I just want to get in her pants.. Here’s my view of the world: “I am a man. It’s sad and I see it happen every day. I’ll take care of you and make you feel like you’re part of my family.. I’m the sweetest and coolest person you’ll ever meet. Inhale.. that’s a different story.. I bring fun and excitement to everyone I meet. I give without really expecting anything in return. Be comfortable. At the same time I know my boundaries and I won’t be taken advantage of. Be comfortable. Relax.....

then do you know what makes you stick in her mind? Endlessly? 0 . It’s rare. And you’ll soon realize that it opens women up to your ideas and messages as well. So if effective communication opens doors for you. TRY THIS OUT Effective communication will open doors for you in this life.That’s the reason why I am who I am right now. I am focused more on giving to people rather than taking anything from them. You should learn to cultivate it. People sense this quality.

In order to be successful with women. she’ll be able to make him change. He rarely has control of the things that are going on in his life. I’d like to call this the heart of day game. They usually fall under the extremes. Women like men that can act like men. This guy is usually submissive in a relationship. That’s 14 girls for every 1 guy. you need to cultivate both your masculine and feminine side. Let me explain. He’s actually much rarer than a really hot girl that has it all together. It rarely happens though. A man who is masculine and knows how to communicate with women. even if you treat me bad”. Let me tell you a little bit more about me. Women wish that these guys would just stop for a second and actually take time to show her how much he appreciates her. women crave the feminine side in men. Certain profiles are assholes. I also happen to be the only guy. At the same time. and I had to work on this aspect later on. How to effectively build an emotional connection. The ratio of girls to guys in my family is about 14:1. in the long run. gang members. Now let’s talk about the guy with a feminine profile. Women are attracted to the two profiles but there’s a flaw that exists in both. It’s hard to find guys that are just right in the middle. He’s more sensitive than most guys and actually shows his sensitive side. And that’s because they can’t live up to their role of being a man. She hopes that one day.  . I’m about to tell you why. bikers. Men are usually too masculine or too feminine. I grew up with four little sisters. Guys like these usually worship the women they are with. women lose respect for this type of guy. it’s done in little quantities but never enough for her. So why are women attracted to guys that act like jerks? Women are attracted because they don’t acknowledge her as some sort of higher being than them. This always keeps her on her toes. If it does. I never really had a strong male influence in my life.faCTor 5: eMoTIonal ConneCTIon Now we’re getting to my favorite part of the book. Somewhere along the road. Growing up. That’s off the wall. frat boys. He is rare in this society. Almost to the point of “I’ll do anything for you.

Someone who has firm beliefs and opinions and at the same time is open minded. it will be another fun experience for you. I unconsciously learned how to be comfortable around women and vice versa. Someone who sees them for who they truly are and at the same time treats them as an equal.Women look for men that are strong and at the same time gentle. I learned how to communicate with them effectively. If nothing else. but that’s not until later. Ideally. But guys like that are just hard to find. you first have to understand how they operate. not just what they said they wanted. Understanding Women In order to become successful with women. and how their minds works. I learned what they really wanted in a guy. I understood what made them feel comfortable. Anyway. If you want proof that the above statement is true then I double dare you to show it to ANY of your female friends. I learned how to build a long lasting emotional connection. Women have two sides to them… A logical side and an emotional side Oh I forgot. Looking back. It taught me things that I never knew I knew. women dream of guys that have cultivated both masculine and feminine sides to them. I became familiar with the way a woman’s mind worked. Do it. Come on. back to my story. And most of all. Why they do the things they do and why they act the way they act. Someone who treats her like a woman and the same time puts her at her place when there’s a need for it. the things they want. Someone who takes the bull by the horns and at the same time cares if she’s comfortable. Her logical side makes all the decisions but there’s a much stronger side that can completely override it… it’s her emotional side. they also have a physical side. I was very fortunate to be surrounded by women early on in my life. Someone who can make her experience a variety of emotions and at the same time give her a chance to do the same.  .

she was probably exposed to all these romantic Hollywood Disney movies. this is the natural progression of all my successful interactions. the perfect guy would come along. This just encouraged her to believe that one day. She’s been exposed to movies about love and destiny. There are tons of emotions that take place prior to it. date. They are filled with emotions. the heart will follow. They enjoy experiencing emotions and they communicate with it. it’s the other way around. and not long after that. shhh it’s a secret. And now I’ll reveal to you the Equation for Getting Any Woman You Desire! Logical Connection + Emotional Connection + Sexual Connection + Proper place and time = The Perfect Seduction. That’s probably the same reason why make up sex is better than regular sex. I’m going to take you through a journey that’s about to open your eyes to the world of women. Drama is also something that certain women might be addicted to. A place that’s been buried deep down inside that’s probably never been forgotten.. And it all began when she was a little girl. Women are emotional creatures. the body will too…” Looking back at my experiences. That’s because there’s emotion involved in it.Women want you to believe that her logical side is in control but in reality. That’s the same reason I believe that “If you can captivate the mind.. A guy that would sweep her off her feet and appreciate her for who she truly is. It’s a place full of hopes. There’s one thing I want you to know before I give you all the techniques and tactics to meet. A guy that will come along and push all her buttons making her cherish  . Growing up. dreams. and keep women… And that’s the fact that. I’m going to give you a sneak peek at a place within women that they don’t want you to know. That’s why most women read romance novels and watch soap operas. Every Woman Has a Fantasy Let’s rewind. and fantasies.

They’ve probably had a rough past. and go for more superficial things. They do it because it works. Anyways. This causes them to toss away that dream. The Hidden Formula For Creating An Emotional Connection Man Opens up + Woman Opens Up + They Connect on Surface. Deep. Then she grows up and begins to realize that not everything’s perfect. This explains why women may act bitchy at times. and famous. just like what happens when kids find out that Santa Claus isn’t real. A guy that will take her on a memorable experience. But at that moment. it satisfies her.the experience even more. Some women forget about this side of themselves usually because they get really hurt from a certain experience. but it kept her busy during that period of time. These women are what we call the “Hopeless Romantics”. She learns and begins to grow. Chances are they probably get into relationships hoping that someone can fit that role. That causes them to protect themselves by acting “bitchy”. Not everything turns out to be the way you expect it to be. And Spiritual Level + Appreciation + Comfort with Presence + Commonality and familiarity + Shared Emotions = Long Lasting Emotional Connection  . It’s because they’ve been hurt before. These women constantly wait for their prince charming every single day. Most of them just end up being disappointed. Core. They go after the rich. This is when they just start to settle for anything else out there. or available guys that probably can’t give them what they need. Maybe it’s not exactly what she wanted.. hot. Maybe a relationship gone wrong or just a really traumatizing experience. A guy that knows what to do and how to do it. Some women actually ended up holding on to that dream. This is at the deep core of every woman.. Everyone starts out as a hopeless romantic or they develop it later on in life.

and the things you value in life. Everything you do. Wait for another 3-5 seconds before you interject. It solidifies whatever connection that’s present. 5. this will help a lot in building a connection. you just build an unspoken bond between the two of you. will set up the stage on how it’s going to be. 3. she actually gives you the winning cards that you can use on her.Crash Course: 8 Killer Strategies in Order to Build an Emotional Connection 1. Practice being social. It’s what I call the “Go First Principle”. just keep quiet and listen. Share a deep experience. don’t talk. Open up to her. It’s important to emphasize and describe exactly how you feel. That’s right. Always be leading. The emotion in this scenario will. you also want to encourage her to share a secret with you. it shows her that you’re just a human being. Especially if you know exactly how to tell her how you feel. After all. So the next time a woman starts to open up to you. and then give your answer. Lead with your personality. You’re vulnerable as well. At the same time. 2. beliefs. You have to know how to relate with her. You can see her face either light up or the other way around. You must tell her in a way that she can understand. As an exercise. don’t just open up to her. It’s an important skill to be able to describe an emotion so effectively that she begins to feel it. How do you expect her to open up to you if you don’t do the same? One way to help her open up to you is to do it first. It’s always better to relate on the deeper topics. Same thing when women ask you questions. Of course. You automatically become special once she’s shared this with you. Shut up. it will give you a better picture of how you can effectively seduce her. Open up to everyone you meet. Tell her how you feel. build an unspoken bond. When she pauses. 4. It makes you look smarter. Once you do a good job at describing the emotion. once again. 6. Sharing a deep experience will encourage her to do the same. Relate with her. Whether you’re telling a story or just explaining your current mood. early on in the interaction. Most guys just relate with her on a superficial level. Most men focus on logical stuff.  . This makes her feel super special. and vice versa. Everything she says is gold! Later on. That’s why it’s important to become comfortable with sharing your life experiences with other people. She’ll feel like she knows you better. pause for a bit. It adds depth to your personality. Just learn how to keep on talking and sharing your experiences. Tell her something that nobody knows about you. you can almost see it. Don’t interrupt her when she begins to open up. By telling her a secret. it takes two to tango. You’re setting the standard here. Once in awhile I like to add “I can’t believe I’m telling you this… I don’t even tell this to the people I’m close with…” This little piece gets the message across.

It comes across as if you’re trying too hard to be similar with her. I like Pearl Jam too” I’d rather play my Pearl Jam CD when she rides in my car. I’ll just casually slip in a story about how I won a dancing contest or something like that. I’ll just let her talk. me too” whenever the opportunity arises. I’ve noticed that most men are eager to say “Yeah. Pacing and Complimenting. even let the subject drift off. or let her discover it on top of my CD player.. What I’ve found to be very effective is to hold the “Me too” for 10 minutes or so and later in the conversation. in your head. TRY THIS OUT Play back the last conversation you had. Now.. Another example: Let’s say she tells me that her favorite band is Pearl Jam. let’s say she talks about how much she just loves to dance. For example. 8. You’ll notice a big difference in your interactions. if I’m also into dancing.  . Instead of telling her “That’s so cool. If not. make a conscious effort to actually implement them the next time you’re out. I’ll start to talk about it indirectly. ask yourself if you were implementing the concepts covered in this section. More about this on the last section. Kill the quick me too.7. Are you aware of the value of building an emotional connection now? Do you know that there are two things that you need to add to the equation in order to build the ultimate bond? That brings me to my next topic. then later on. then you’re ahead of most guys out there. If you’re good at connecting with women.

She’s a woman and you’re a man. here are the facts. why should I talk to him”. You can be anyone dangerous and she wouldn’t even find out. With the different crimes out there. During the day time. show up on a date. And do you remember what your parents told you about strangers? Don’t talk to strangers. loading up on gas. her peer group and the competition. looking for clothes. it’s a date right on the spot... In the bars and clubs you have to deal with the music.faCTor 6: CoMforT & TrusT There are a lot of differences between learning how to meet women in bars and club as opposed to public places. Let me share with you a quick story on how I discovered this key element. or even answer your call. In order for her to go anywhere with you. she must be comfortable with you. or shopping for groceries. So what factors do you have to address when you’re planning to meet women in public places? COMFORT AND TRUST In order for them to call you back. That’s why it’s so important to take her on an. Whenever someone talks to her she instantly considers them a stranger. When you’re in a bar or club. Who says you need to wait a couple of days before you take her out? Taking her on an instant date will dramatically increase the chances of her picking up your calls and going out with you later on. So you’ll have to equip yourself with a unique style. strangers can be bad. Well. a loud booming voice. So when you walk up to women in this setting the first thing they think about is “Is this guy cool enough for me to talk to? There are so many guys. it’s a social context. INSTANT DATE That’s right. it’s a whole other story. and some serious entertainment skills. she must at least trust you a little bit. the drinks.  . women just need to be extra careful nowadays. She’s probably by herself.

A few years ago. this was the day that changed my life. She kept on leading me and I followed. my legs are tired. I looked her up and down. “Hey. It was on. I ended up kissing her. Apparently. Are you ready for this? While I was chatting with my buddies. I complied. she lived like five minutes away from the mall by the ocean. Three minutes passed by. I still couldn’t believe it though. “Hey. I keep kicking myself in the foot. It was to start a conversation and stay in for three minutes. is history… If we ever meet one of these days. I remember my goal for that day. I’ll probably tell you what happened. Then she pulls off her killer line “Hey. I hit the five minute mark. to get our blood to circulate throughout our bodies…” Then while we were walking. To cut the long story short. after a bit of conversation she said.” Another 20 minutes passed by and she said “Let’s go for a walk. she starts fixing her bra in front of me as I was talking. I was completely clueless at that time. And the rest I would say. I left my cigarettes in the car.  . Fifteen minutes passed by and she said. Let’s go to Starbucks and get something to drink. shortly after getting inside her car. Little did I know. and a cute semi angelic/naughty face. I’m really thirsty. I was doing pretty well. My heart skipped a beat for a second. I noticed this tall brunette girl. I would have been very happy if I got to hold a conversation for three minutes. Looking back at that interaction. only if you promise to keep it to yourself. I slowly stopped her from walking and we ended up chatting for a bit. In that moment. had a slim figure. In my mind. I went out with my buddies to go learn how to meet women in malls. we ended up talking about her place. And then all of a sudden. She was about three inches taller than me. come with me”. but now that I look back. considering it was my first time trying to meet girl at malls. Anyways. let’s sit over there”. she was the one who took the bull by the horns. She was in a business outfit and had some shopping bags with her.

You’re not like that. you officially are operating on a different level. Somehow it creates a new environment for the both of you therefore making it easier to talk about other things. You’re still a complete stranger. let’s go”. • Chance for you to show that she’s safe with you. • It separates you from all the other guys. you can tag along. It keeps you moving forward. At least try to. If you play your cards right. Your primary goal when you start talking to a woman. More time means getting to know her better and vice versa. I’m going to grab a drink real quick and since you’re fun. When she takes the chance and goes to coffee with you. That means. It helps you get through conversational stalls. you should give me your number”. that’s how her mind processes it. • Shift from “You vs. With a little bit of tweaking I’ve used something similar and have experienced unbelievable results with it. You’ll play on a different level. When you’re at a high point in the interaction (Example: she’s laughing or there’s a good vibe) just say: “I’m really thirsty. They say things like “We should hang out sometime” and “Yeah. I stole my whole script from her. Most guys just go for her number. It creates a shift in the atmosphere. Me” to “Us vs. So it’s your opportunity to prove to her that you can be trusted and that she’s safe with you. • You keep the interaction moving forward. • Gives you more time to get to know her better. It’s really powerful. Helps you reach your goals faster. When you first meet her. Let me give you the benefits of going on an instant date • You get to hit two birds with one stone. That bond is unique for every girl.Of course. • Decreases the chances of flaking later on. It gives you more time. you’re a STRANGER in her eyes. she puts herself in a position where something bad can happen to her.  . TRY THIS OUT The next time you’re in a conversation for more than 10 minutes. is to create an “Our World” vibe. • Helps you get through conversational barriers. When you get her on an instant date. When you go on an instant date you become a potential partner. take her on an instant date. Forget the concept of getting her number for now. It’s like going out on your first date right there and then. having a shared bond between the two of you. Them”. you significantly increases the chances of her calling you back and going out with you. At least. regardless of any technique you use.

Ok. Probably you’ve passed the test with flying colors and you even have a lot of inside jokes and secrets. 0 . What’s the next move? You’re supposed to be in tune with the environment because it will help you figure out the best logistical approach you can use to escalate the interaction further. so let’s say you’ve done a great job at interacting with her.

You’ll never know where you’d end up going. Is your place classy or trashy? Does your place convey what you’re passion about? What does it say about you? Do you have clean sheets or dirty ones? Do you have dirty clothes all over the floor? Does your place smell good? 6. 5. Have a plan before you go out. With that in mind. Pick five places in your mall that you will take her on an instant date. Enough said. when I discovered that. Don’t ever sabotage your success by not being prepared. Your place will say a lot about you. Bring protection. just in case. Women will judge you based on how clean your place is and how creative you are with it. You can also string along and take her on multiple instant dates. And this is true especially for the beginners. 4. That’s an advanced topic though. Have some pillows and blankets at the back of your car. Always have a pen and paper with you. a beach. How will you take her on an instant date? What will you say to get her number? How do you get her back to your car? How do you get her back to your place? 2. a blanket. here are 0 Golden Tips To Help You Master Your Logistics 1. The BEST experience in my life involved a girl.faCTor 7: loGIsTICs Do you know where you’re going? A lot of guys don’t go out prepared. Know exactly what to do before you even go out. and me. Have a pen and paper with you. 3.  . Know your location well. you want to exchange contact information with her. Remember. a guitar. A nice little fold up sleeping bag that fits two people in it will do. Make sure you have a clean place. What if I told you that… She would have gone home with you only if you were prepared?! Won’t that piss you off? Sure did piss me off. It was the painful truth. Not just give her number or take her number because it limits what you can do.

you might say something to turn me off and I’d be running for my life” or something to that effect. It’s better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. with the guys that aren’t. This will all make sense to you sooner or later in your journey. you can go on with your shopping… and besides.7. The point is. Again. Next time you feel like walking a way. 10. This last piece of the puzzle is probably the most significant topic in this whole book. It’s your job to lead the interaction. Always assume that she’s up for it. Stay in there. After we get some ice cream for five minutes. it might only take three minutes… who knows. Don’t give up at the first sign of resistance. Get to know her and spend a little more time with her then try again. Always be leading. I need to do my shopping” say “That’s cool. Don’t ask just lead.  . Be prepared for contingencies. Tell her where you want to go. If you’re dropping her off at her house. Women will sometimes refuse to do what you want them to do. It’s what separates the guys that are successful with women. Almost as if she’s expected to follow you. I’m in a hurry. When you say “Let’s go” start to walk in the direction you want to go. then give it a shot! 9. stay an extra minute or two. Assume first. Instead of saying “Can we…” say “Let’s go…” This little trick might make all the difference in your interactions. don’t wait for her to ask. always be prepared for contingencies. stop for a second. Talk a little more. it all boils down to being prepared. Don’t be fazed by it and don’t walk away. 8. When she says “Uhmmm.

This stuff is very powerful. Another way to get her invested in you is to be physical with her. She gets more and more invested in you every time she opens up.faCTor 8: InvesTMenT Do you know how to make someone want something? How do you make someone value something? Simple. the higher the chance of you getting what you want out of it. Social Investment. values. It’s smooth sailing from there. Once you’re passed that level. etc. Time Investment. Use it wisely.) the more she gets invested in you.  . Do you remember the last time you worked hard for something? How did it feel in the end? How satisfied were you when you accomplished it? This is the same emotion that women feel if they’ve worked hard for you. The more they invest in you. dreams. Here’s a list of the different types of investment a woman makes and how to get the most out of each and every one. In my experience. I don’t advocate playing with women’s feelings. Sex is the biggest investment. You’ll start to realize that you can actually just relax and appreciate her company. is to be a part of her life. hopes. Emotional Investment. It makes things so much easier for the both of you. Physical Investment. future and share your view in life as well. so use this stuff carefully. and get her to be part of yours too. Have you met her friends? Do they like and approve of you? Has she met your friends? Do you go out to social activities often? Do you have any mutual friends? They key to getting her to invest in you more. hanging out. sex opens up all the lines of communication. Talk about her passions. How much time does she spend with you? Do you see each other often? Do you spend some time talking with her on the phone? Does she spend a lot of time winning you over because you have standards? The more time a woman spends with you (Talking on the phone. make them work for it. The best way to persuade a woman to do something is to make her want to do it. This goes back to building a solid emotional connection. it becomes a lot easier.

laugh at me. The hardest part is going against everything that is preventing you from achieving success. And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndseT for MeeTInG WoMen I just got off the phone with a student I had last weekend. Here are the things that you should not think about: “Wow she’s so hot.Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS. I enjoy talking to people. and all the tactics to meet women is easy. Here’s what he told me: “Right now. she’s way out of my league. I don’t get as nervous as I used to be. I’ll be sharing with you the proper mindset that you should have before you go out there. I felt like I wasn’t worthy to talk to them. Before the workshop. rAcking up dAteS. it’s what makes or breaks you. in my experience. I don’t want to talk to her. and think I’m weird. that’s your own self. She’ll ignore me. Come on. I have nothing special about me. You’re your own worst enemy. Since then I’ve been more relaxed and comfortable meeting women. Yes you would get results instantly! But that’s not the real challenge. My whole view changed and I think that it had to do with the way I viewed things. Yes. Everyone else will see that I am talking to her and they will think that I’m a loser. And most of the time. I’m not even qualified to talk to her. And besides I’d have to try hard to entertain her  . something clicked inside of me. You heard me right. lines. After the weekend.” Here’s the truth… Practicing techniques. She’s not even going to give me the time of day. regardless of where I am. I used to think that women wouldn’t want to talk to me. Mental barriers are very strong and.

imagine that you possess a winning combination to a lottery ticket. Looking at things in a positive perspective will get you far. The best part about it is that women are everywhere. I live life to the fullest without apologizing for anything I do. Any woman will be fortunate to get to know me. where do I want to meet women?  .and be really slick and smooth. you just have a couple of minutes to convince them to even hear you out. Now you’ve got to ask yourself. either way I’ll still be happy. It’s a like a foreign concept for them. I am who I am. I walk through this world as if I own it. I take pride in being me. It’s impossible…” I’ve heard that objection more times than I can count. They’re completely clueless. My own values and passions define me. Here’s how you should think and feel about meeting women… Ok. Here’s more. The one ticket that will probably get you set for life. The first step to being successful with women is to look at things in a positive way. If she rejects me. So how does this apply to approaching women? Here’s how you should think… “I am a man of purpose. You can see them crossing the street. I just can’t be myself and get her to like me. I seriously doubt it. You will never run out of women to approach. People’s reactions toward me don’t define me. I am doing them a favor. you can take me or leave me. I don’t seek approval from anyone. Your job is to give the ticket away to anyone… But here’s the catch. that person doesn’t know what a lottery ticket is. Every time I talk to women. then she doesn’t know what she’s missing. I’m everything and more that a woman can ever ask for. Women are fortunate that I give them the chance to get to know me. shopping for clothes. or playing in the sand. I am a man of purpose. I live my life for me…” Where To MeeT WoMen There are dozens of places during the day time to meet women. I make them happy.

take advantage of that. just be in tune with the social energy level of the location. Now. you need to figure out what type of women you want to meet. college campuses. And she might not be used to handling it. If you want spiritual girls.) and observe how people communicate. etc. When you’re approaching a woman in a library. imitate them or slightly be more animated/energized then they are. So to avoid unnecessary complications. Did you know that the ratio of women to men in yoga classes is like 15:1? Well. How loud do they speak? Do they command respect in an interaction or not? When you discover this. beaches. If you want smart girls then hit up the library. and pretty much everywhere. supermarket. Violating energy levels puts social pressure on the woman you’re talking too. bookstores. be In Tune WITh The enerGy level In order to be successful in approaching in various public places. coffee shops.  . and match it. So the key is to be aware of the social energy in the place that you’re in. parks. then that’s a different story. streets. let’s talk a bit about specialization… If you want girls that are into health and fitness then go to the nearest gym. you must be aware and in tune with its energy level.In order to figure that out. TRY THIS OUT Go to five places this week (coffee shops. then join a yoga class. General places to meet women are malls. If you’re approaching a woman on the street then you can get away with speaking a little bit louder.

and I slowly make my way towards her. I run after her and tell her to stop. If she’s sitting down I make sure to sit down as well. What’s the fastest and most efficient way of initiating conversation with women? I was looking for something that cut right through the bullshit. my heart pumps faster. Whenever I see a girl I’m attracted to. The first thing I do is get her full and undivided attention.Crash Course In sTarTInG ConversaTIon WITh WoMen Let me make something clear… There are dozens of ways to initiate a conversation with women. and then deliver my conversational opener. After a little bit of tweaking. ask their opinion. Let me give you some examples. You can tell jokes. If she’s walking the opposite direction. I suddenly feel the ball of energy inside of me. make myself comfortable. This is a very important step in my overall structure and let me tell you why. There are no possible excuses in my mind. It’s basic law of physics: An object in motion will stay in motion unless an outside force causes it to stop. I needed something that I could use anytime. I want to meet her and I will meet her. and so forth…. say something situational. Here’s how it works. I act like she dropped something on the ground. I found the perfect opener for daytime approaches. They all work… I’ve tried them all. she will stop. I would slowly walk in her pathway so she would be forced to come to a complete stop. So after I get her attention. But here’s the question. If she’s walking to her car. If you don’t command her full attention then she won’t process your verbal communication effectively. I make sure to grab one and place it right next to her. I say something like:  . no matter where I was. Confidence begins to radiate through every part of my body. Tension begins to fill up my body. If you pull this off correctly. If there’s no chair beside her.

I continue with “I’m a complete stranger and I know this is really random but… I was just passing by… and I saw you standing there… I just wanted to tell you that you are… Really… Really… Beautiful. It conveys that you’re intuitive and socially intelligent by nature. Every time you say something that she agrees with. It shows her that you’re sensitive to her needs and that you understand her concerns.“Hey… (pause) I begin to smile as my eyes are locked on her eyes. Now let me break down the opener and explain to you why and how it works. By addressing potential objections you demonstrate social awareness. It’s like an unspoken bond. only build your credibility in her eyes. she gives you a silent nod. I use this to overcome any objection that might pop up into her head. breaKInG doWn The opener Step : Pace her ongoing reality Pacing is an essential skill that you should master. Tell me about yourself” She smiles. Tell her you like her because you want her to know. we shake hands. When you use this approach. Women love guys that know what’s going on without a woman having to tell him.  . Sets up the proper foundation for the interaction right from the beginning. I found that being upfront. honest. Saying things that she can affirm as true. and I relax from that point forward I get to know her more for who she is. Step : Tell Her the Reason Why You Are Attracted to Her Honesty is the best policy. It makes her more comfortable. Not because you want her to feel obliged to be nice to you. you instantly demonstrate that you’re honest and sincere. When I say things like “I know this is totally random…I’m a complete stranger” it actually serves several purposes. and sincere is the way women like to be approached (CAVEAT: If you do it right). The only reason why other men can’t pull this off is because they’re not coming from a place of power. Gives her a chance to agree with you.

It skips through most of the games and takes you were you want to be… and that’s building an emotional connection. This is a very powerful frame from which to come. Gets right to the point. When combined with the proper non-verbal communication and delivery. Shaking her hand is very important. what’s your story?” “Who are you?” “Where are you from?” Letting her talk about herself gives her the chance to impress you. I’m (insert your name here)”. • Gives you a chance to introduce yourself. After the opener. Even boring rapport questions will work after the opener.You tell people what you think about them.  . everything you say will be in the “I’m getting to know you before we date” context. • Gets her to subconsciously accept you as a potential partner. Creates the feeling of attraction. It also… • Gets her committed to the interaction. That’s because she’s processing the whole interaction differently. It makes it official that you two are in a social interaction. This is done by saying stuff like “Tell me about yourself?” “I just wanted to know if there’s more to you than meets the eye. you can say “I like that. As soon as she starts answering your question. everything you say begins to be categorized in “The Potential Partner” context. she slowly becomes committed to the interaction. Step : Give Her a Chance to Talk About Herself You want to get her involved in the interaction as soon as possible. After she says anything that might impress you. this approach can be very deadly. Since you created so much attraction. This approach is so powerful that it creates attraction within seconds.

She’s not really enthusiastic about it. Talk. The Boyfriend Objection Guy: Opener Girl: I’m sorry. She wants to get to know you. First Scenario: She loves it. I absolutely love the third scenario because it’s challenging for me. tries to walk away. Runaway girl (I sing playfully) Anyways. Go on now. Runaway girl. Talk Girl: Talks and walks away Guy: (smiles) Oh come on now. you’re way too classy to be walking away when someone is talking to you. which re-engages her back in the conversation. I also get to express my personality and my positive traits. what do you do for fun? * As you can see. Third Scenario: She gives you an objection. She smiles. So what do you like to do for fun? *I’m not even acknowledging her objection. 0 . then just walk away. But if I’m making you uncomfortable in anyway. I tell her she’s way too classy to walk away.dealInG WITh ConTInGenCIes One of three things will happen. I have a boyfriend. I also tell her to walk away which is reverse psychology and then I act like it never happened by asking her a question. She Walks Away While You’re Talking To Her Guy: Talk. She’s just being polite and sticks around for a bit to see what you have to say. Indifference by far is the most powerful way to overcome this objection. I set up an expectation for her. depending on how well you execute your opener. and of course she wants to be perceived as classy so she will stay for a bit. Guy: Awesome. She becomes extremely flattered. or doesn’t give you the time of day. Here are some examples of how you can handle certain situations. Second Scenario: She kind of likes it.

There are a lot of creepy guys out there that try to get something from you all the time. Guy: No worries. I’m just going to walk away (I act as if I’m about to leave). I know you’re a cool person deep down inside. Have you ever talked to someone before and felt like they just wanted something from you? Was it a gut feeling? How often were you right? I bet you were pretty accurate at it. Guy: Why are you acting like this? Why can’t you just be yourself. Girl: I’m Michelle. Then you will begin to wonder what you’re doing wrong. I’m not one of those guys so don’t treat me like one of them. If you approach with the “I just want to get into your pants” mentality. you must come across from a place of power and positivism. The way you think and feel affects the way you interact with people. Sorry I was being rude. So what do you do for fun? * See how I called her out on how she was behaving? It demonstrates that I am a man who demands respect in an interaction. Talk Girl: Says something rude like “Why are you talking to me”. When you experience that situation.She’s Rude Or Doesn’t Acknowledge Your Presence Guy: Talk. I want you to remember this section and read it over and over again. If you’re not going to be real. So let’s give this a shot one more time. I’m Oliver. or something to that effect. You will get rejected by women left and right. people are real. GIfT shIfT Theory In order for this approach to work. I know this is not who you really are. Come on. I don’t know where you’re from but where I’m from.  . doesn’t look at you. Grungey10: I understand. I’m almost sure. I was just having a bad day. In order for this approach to work you need to switch the way you see things. Now I want to share with you the Gift Shift theory. This is just a protection shield. then it will not work for you. Talk. This stuff is very powerful. look around you.

Knowing this information how does this change the way you’ll view your future interactions? Remember. There’s a catch though. you’re giving that gift to her. You can do it too. I feel happy knowing that I’m about to make this person’s day. it sounds sappy but it’s amazingly effective. you are a gift. She will only find out that it’s you after she’s gotten to know you. That means you have to barrel through her persona. Take five minutes and imagine that you’re someone she’s been waiting for all her life. Your job is to give them an unforgettable experience. You are a gift. I want you to do this. I know. Your job is to provide women with positive emotions. She’s seen you in movies. You have the upper hand and not the other way around. you are. How would you act if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that if only women knew you. Your job is to take them on an emotional journey with you.  . I feel happy. I’ve worked on myself to the point where I just am naturally attractive and interesting to women. I get results because I have something positive to offer.It’s simple. Yes. I know. they would fall for you? Ask yourself that question over and over again. Whenever I talk to people. She’s read about you in books. Am I conveying who I am in an interesting way? Is she getting to know me or am I just talking out of my ass? TRY THIS OUT Next time you go out to meet women. You’re the guy she talks about with her best friends. away from the world they are in right now. She’s been dreaming about you.

The pInG ponG MeTaphor
In my opinion, conversations with women are very similar to playing ping pong or table tennis. The ball just keeps going back and forth across the table. One person hits the ball then the other person hits it back. It’s an ongoing cycle. That’s how conversations should be. Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Someone usually carries the conversational burden more than the other person does. Eventually the conversational ratio should be as close to 50/50, girl talks as much as guy does, but it takes skill to be able to do that. You need to be interesting and interested. I’ll say it two more times because it’s very important. You need to be interesting and interested. You need to be interesting and interested. Making sense so far? Were you ever in a conversation with someone who talked way too much? It’s like you were watching television because you couldn’t contribute to the conversation at all. On the flipside, were you ever in a conversation with someone who just kept asking question after question without really contributing anything at all? Well you need the balance of both. You need to lead the interaction and at the same time, get women to follow your lead. You need to help them invest in the interaction. Not everyone’s socially savvy. Sometimes, you need to make it easy for them to contribute to the interaction. This book help you cultivate the skills you need to be both interesting and interested. 

Go fIrsT prInCIple
“You must become the change you wish to see”- Gandhi In other words, if you think change is needed in a situation, think about changing yourself first before changing everything around you. I want you to look back on all the conversations you had with women that you liked. Here are some questions for you. Were you… Both comfortable, relaxed and at ease? Exchanging fun stories from your lives? Sharing secrets and vulnerabilities with each other? Speaking formally or like friends do? Able to build familiarity and substance in the interaction? Here’s my main point. If you want her to do something, you should do it first. If you want her to start opening up to you, you must open up to her first. It’s your job as a man to lead the interaction. You should lead and expect her to follow. TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation instead of asking a question, make a statement. Instead of saying “Where are you from?” tell them a story about where you’re from. Instead of saying “How are you” say “I’m feeling so happy today, you have no idea why”. See how people respond to you. 

poWer TalK
What you say and how you say it is critical when you’re interacting with someone. A couple of years ago, I remember watching a comedy show. This guy walked on the stage and started making jokes. There was forced laughter here and there but that’s about it. I ended up just looking at my watch impatiently thinking to myself “What time is this show going to end?!” Couple of months later, I watched another comedy show. A couple of minutes into the show, my stomach started to hurt from laughing, tears started falling from my eyes, he got me. I don’t remember laughing so hard in my entire life. The jokes weren’t extremely funny, it was his personality. This is true for everyone out there. Whether you’re a comedian, a salesman, a student, or a friend, people will respond to you based on how you present yourself. Here are some tips to empower yourself. • Avoid hesitation when you talk. Be firm with what you want. For example, instead of saying “Uhm, I was thinking if, uhm, we could go out sometime” say something like “Hey, I’m going shopping this Thursday, It’s going to be a blast, you should tag along”. Don’t flinch. Don’t be nervous. Say it like you would if you’re talking to your 11 year old cousin or something. • Power of ambiguity. Keeping a woman on her toes keeps things challenging in an interaction. Every other guy jumps at the opportunity to hang out with her again. Instead of giving all your cards away try using words like “maybe. We’ll see, I’ll get back to you on that one”. An example would be “Hey, you seem fun, if we’re both available this weekend, then maybe we’ll hang out”. • Avoid over politeness. Being overly polite communicates subordinate status. When you’re communicating with women, you shouldn’t treat them as if they’re a goddess from Venus. If you treat them like royalty, they will act like royalty. Treat them like you would treat your buddy. Don’t be overly polite. 

Then we discuss each other’s passions in life and connect on a deeper level. Let me go over my structure on connection building. you MusT CreaTe a ConneCTIon “It all started with our ancestors. What was unfamiliar was more often dangerous and threatening. I make her feel special for the person that she is. So I start out by getting to know her on the surface level. I want her to remember me when she wakes up the next day. What is my goal? I want to convey who I am as a person. I relate to it and appreciate her for it. What was familiar was generally safe and approachable. I want to know what makes her tick.WhaT To do afTer InITIaTInG The ConversaTIon A lot of guys don’t know what to do after they’ve initiated the conversation.” . Then I try to build familiarity by connecting on a lot of different topics.Psychology 101  . Well. I genuinely appreciate her and I am very successful at it because I believe that all women have something beautiful inside of them. After I’ve captivated a woman with my presence. it’s a combination of two things CAPTIVATE & CONNECT Captivate her with your personality by building a connection. my next goal is to get to know her on multiple levels. I do it multiple times. I relate to her on the surface then I go a little deep and find out the things that make her tick. I just want to touch base and build both familiarity and substance with her. Evolution has hardwired into us the tendency to bond with those who are familiar and wary of those who are unfamiliar. over and over again. I don’t need to know her whole life story. to make it really simple. I want to make a mega solid impression so that she won’t stop rambling about me with her best friend the moment our conversation ends. I want to find out what makes her special. My goal is to build familiarity and substance all throughout the interaction. When I do. I want mutual appreciation.

Here’s a system you can use to build an emotional connection: Step 1: Build Familiarity Step 2: Build Substance Step 3: Appreciate Her as a person Step 4: Incorporate A Romantic Spin hoW To ansWer lIGhT rapporT QuesTIons A lot of people I’ve met still don’t know how to convey their personality in their day to day interactions with people. That’s the secret to a successful daytime interaction. She’s hooked She becomes so interested that she starts to ask you questions to find out who you are. There’s a time to be cocky and funny and avoid a question that’s thrown your way but should you keep on avoiding it? No. When she asks you a question. It’s my favorite part of the interaction. This is what separates you from every other guy that’s tried to meet her. It’s where the magic happens. you can build a connection with anyone you meet. There’s a time when you should answer it. He’s cool and interesting. So let’s break down what usually happens  . Imagine how you would feel in this kind of scenario: A girl has been talking to a cool guy for quite awhile. No matter what system you use. You need to be in that place where both your guards are down and you can just connect on all levels. She’s trying to figure out if you have more going for you than your initial impression. she’s trying to figure out who you are as a person. your main goal is to get to the point in the interaction where you both can just be yourselves. The problem is most people don’t know how to convey who they are. If you allow this process to happen. then you create an emotional connection.I don’t care what anyone else out there thinks but if you can open your mouth and talk. and let her open herself up to you as well. Building an emotional connection is the heart of daytime pick-up. She wants to find out if you’re real and if you have any depth to you.

She ends up giving up and going home knowing nothing about you. give it a few days and that attraction will probably fade away. Why? It’s because you’ve only created short term attraction. I’ve read ton of stories as a kid (insert something cocky or avoid the question asked) Conclusion: She wanted to get to know you better.Scenario 1: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: whoa! We’re getting a little ahead of ourselves here. we’ll get to that in a minute… anyway….45 minutes later -----------Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: Oh. When she gets home. appreciating and relating with life experiences. and building a strong emotional connection. Real and long lasting attraction comes from building commonalities. ---------. being vulnerable with each other. Everything is fast paced back in LA. ( I talk about LA for a  . Ideal Scenario: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: So where you from? Guy: Oh… You wouldn’t want to know… It’s extremely cold there… Girl: Where? Guy: I live in the North Pole… It’s so fun swimming with the penguins everyday… It makes me so happy Girl: Ugh… shut up!!! No really where you from? Guy: I actually moved here from LA two months ago. She was ready to build an emotional connection but you threw the opportunity away. She may have been attracted to you at first but it won’t last for a very long time. Things are so different back where I’m from.

We were driving through empty green fields and… (insert semi deep and meaningful story here) Conclusion: • You stand out from all the other guys because you differentiate yourself from them. Like the other day.while then compare it to Tucson) Things are very simple out here. Now. • She knows right off the bat that you’re a good communicator. You’re not answering her question in a boring way. It actually gives me time to think about everything going on in life and see the bigger picture. ask yourself What makes my place different from where I am right now? What’s so unique about my place? What are the fun things to do there? What do I love most about my place? How does it make me feel? What would you recommend for her to do in your city? 2. I was on my way to a ranch and it was really interesting. • It sets the stage for building an emotional connection. So remember: Never ever give boring answers to simple questions such as Where are you from? What do you do? What’s going on? Tips on how to do that 1. It makes her comfortable and easier to open herself up to you. You actually demonstrate a lot of personality by being comfortable sharing your thoughts with her • You lead the conversation. how you ever met someone cool that could just talk about anything under the sun?  .) What do you do? What are you really passionate about? What makes you tick? How did it start out? What happened then? What’s so special about what you do and how does it make you feel? Have you ever met someone that just talked about the same thing over and over again? It gets very boring after awhile.) Where are you from? When you get this question. • It gives her a window of opportunity to see how you view the world and the type of person you are.

Here’s the beauty of it. If you had a story about guns. If you did the exercise. 2. she’d have one too. it’s included here for a reason. 5. Now that’s 130 things you could potentially talk about. 12. Give me 10 things that come to your mind with each word above. 3. Don’t tell me you don’t have any experience with at least one of the topics I listed above. Think some more. Come on. Animals Grey Tusk Ivory Africa Jungle Lion King 8. It’s called the association game. 11. Now. let me teach you a helpful exercise here. you have around 130 words. Cartoons Movies Big Zoo Water That’s all Alright. what’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word elephant? Actually. Ok. Done? Here’s are the things that came to me when I heard the word elephant: 1. do the exercise. elephant is just one word. A sentence has how many words? Do you see where I’m going here? If you master the art of conversational vibes. she’d have one about her spider. this is what familiarity is all about. you’ll never run out of things to say ever again. 6. You need to connect on multiple topics. If you had a story about your pet hamster. 7. give me 10 things that you can associate with the world elephant? Take your time. then you’ll never run out of things to say again! 0 . 13. 10. 4. Once you’ve mastered this.Like if you had a story about your grandfather. Alright. she’d have one too. 9. let’s go one step further.

fIndInG her Core value. Most of the things women tell you. It also makes you stand out since it’s something that only close friends do.TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation with a woman. Next time there’s an awkward pause in the conversation. Another skill you should focus on is active listening. Do this until your jaw is numb from speaking too much.  . and leadInG WITh your passIons You now know how to build familiarity. You see. just pick out one word and riff on it for a minute or two. Building substance solidifies the connection between you. Take advantage of it. learning how to build familiarity is an essential skill to have. Building substance takes the interaction to a whole other level. Women will feel like they have a lot of things in common with you.Fitness -Animals buIldInG subsTanCe: aCTIve lIsTenInG. Let’s get you acquainted with building substance. Use it. once you’ve barreled through their persona.Hobbies . Here are some topics you can explore to build familiarity: -Goals and aspirations -Passions -Ideal vacation -Relationships -Friends -Youth and childhood -Love -Art and Photography -Traveling -Favorite films and music -Concerts and theatres -Family . think back to the previous topic. are gold. pick a word out. This tool is very powerful. and riff on it.

Expresses understanding of her feelings A couple of basic pointers for active listening: • Rephrase and feedback.  . • Shut up and listen to her. Just learn how to listen to her completely without butting in. and that’s her core value. Here are the benefits of active listening: . Don’t always be eager to fill in the silence when there’s an awkward pause. we’re so similar”. • Ask questions.Active listening is a habit. . Finding Her Core Value And Building A Quick Connection A lot of guys try to connect with women on the surface area. Once again this shows her that you understand her and that you’re paying attention to her. As an active listener. you should relate to them.Ensures understanding of the subject matter. feed it back to her. You have something in common with her. Doing this will strengthen your understanding of the situation • Summarize what she tells you. You should rephrase what she just told you and. me too. your job is to find out what makes her tick. That’s great if you guys like the same artist. Don’t answer right away. and how it makes her feel. you should be able to repeat back. in your own words. Doing this affirms your understanding and builds dialogue. as well as the foundation of effective communication. You see. It will improve your conversation skills tenfold. You need to find out what is the underlying motivator that drives her to do the things she loves to do. Always ask her what she means. to whoever you’re talking to what they have said to you. . Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to. pause for three seconds before answering something. But what if you guys don’t like the same artist? Does that mean both of you have nothing in common? No. in your own words.Demonstrates interest in her as a person. Once you find these underlying motivators. For example a guy asks: “Who’s your favorite artist? Oh Mariah Carey.

Later on. You should take time to think about what behaviors you will reward And which ones you’ll punish.Relate to those underlying motivators. Women gravitate toward positive emotions and move away from the negative ones. On the other hand. But before I explain it. they get punished.  . Social Learning Theory And The Power Of Conditioning Social learning theory states that we learn social behavior by observing and imitating others and by being rewarded or punished. It’s more powerful than relating to her on the surface level. and being rude to you. This applies to women and dating as well. Another example would be a parent disciplining their kids. I want you to rewind and remember your childhood. you need to reward her for opening up to you. and you probably learned something afterward. let me give you an example of social learning theory and conditioning at work. You learned that you shouldn’t touch it again. Was there ever a time you got burned by something? Maybe you touched a hot stove or candle. This encourages her to do it more often. to see where your boundaries are. opening up to you. Whatever it was. You should punish her for disrespecting you. not complying with your request. Women will test you. Whenever they do something right they get rewarded. whenever they do something wrong. and laughing at your jokes. they’ll be conditioned to do things that would lead to them being rewarded. If you don’t set your standards early on they will step all over you. you just instinctively jerked your hand back. After you relate with her you should appreciate her for who she is. For example: You should reward her for giving you a compliment. So how do we use this to our advantage? It’s actually very simple. They will test you to see how you will respond. Yes. early in the interaction.

Being passionate about your passions (as funny as it sounds) is even more attractive to women. Here’s how you do it. The word regression means moving backwards.” Remember that you always have to involve her in the interaction. they don’t convey it in a way that’s interesting to women. It also builds trust. Here’s what I call the life story tactic. Involve me and I will carry them forever. Before I do let me share this quote with you. and safety. What is it you would do for free if you never had to make money again? Emotional Connection Accelerator There are a lot of different ways to accelerate the process of building an emotional connection and my favorite one is regression. Here’s a question to help you figure out what you’re really passionate about in life. Having passion is very attractive to women. I tell her the things I love to do and why I love to them. I won’t get into detail on this topic but I’d like to share with you a very effective technique to build an emotional connection. comfort. I suck her into my world. If ever they do.  .leadInG WITh your passIons A lot of the so-called “pick-up artist” I’ve met are curious as to how I can captivate a woman by just being myself. Leading with your passion separates you from every other guy that’s tried to hit on her. Here’s my dirty little secret… I talk about the things I’m passionate about. Not a lot of guys talk about the things that make them tick. It’s one of the most powerful tools in building an emotional connection. Show me and I will remember. “Tell me and I may remember.

Mix it up. you can start by asking her about her childhood or talking about yours. Tools you can use later down the road when you’ve mastered the basics. and future. • Standard Interleaving. • Identity Interleaving. and you can call her on it. The key is to exchange stories and go from childhood to future plans.Your life right now is separated into beginning. she’s being rude. If a girl says “I have to go” and you say “nice. It can be fun. a Couple of effeCTIve ConversaTIonal Tools Here are several topics I’ll discuss briefly. Now. mischievous. As long as you keep talking she will stand there in front of you. end. How do you turn this into a system? Alright. You can do this directly or through storytelling. right now. Trust me on this one. middle. If she walks away. The end includes your present experience and your future plans. or sad. She should know the things you love and your pet peeves as well. The middle includes your high school and college experience. • Conversational Plowing. adventurous.  . The more emotions the better. This technique is very powerful and it solidifies the emotional connection instantly. You should always move the conversation forward. She should have an idea of who you are and what you’re about early in the interaction. The beginning includes your childhood and middle school experience. She should know what your standards are. This is an advanced technique I use to quickly convey the things I’m passionate about thirty seconds into the conversation. She should know your rules on dating and relationships. This can take somewhere between ten minutes to sometimes even the whole day. I want you to come up with at least two to three stories for each phase of you life. meeting you” then she will walk away. she will not leave. On the other hand if she says “I have to go” and you ignore the thread and talk about something else.

 . story tellers. protector of the ones you love. and. adventurous. talking about fate and destiny. • Fractionating. Tell her that you’re sad you met with no mutual friends to introduce you to each other. then this time go a little deeper than you were before. This always steers the interaction toward the right path. Cold reading helps captivate her and builds familiarity instantly. Say this after a high point in the interaction. then go deeper.• Cold reading. Well some do and they’re either super social. • Preempting objections. Try searching that on Google or something. Why? It’s because learning how to express yourself is the first step in getting good at meeting women. and that’s why you can’t hang out anymore. Builds comfort and trust. Always include a romantic spin after building an emotional connection. you need to check your body language. Here’s an example of fractionating: Talk about something light. then go a little deep. and your non verbal communication to see if you’re communicating all the right things like being comfortable in your own skin. confident. go light again. romantic. On Storytelling Storytelling is very powerful if done right. When you tell a story you communicate on both levels. Whatever objections she may have make sure to use them first. This is a brilliant way to ease into deeper topics. ambitious. They listen to what you say and how you say it. eye contact. demands respect. trustworthy. • Romantic spin. Next. or just used to talking people’s ears off. A good resource for cold read is the Forer’s effect. humorous. especially at times when the woman I’m talking to is hard to crack or if I’m in a hurry and I want to build a quick connection. Telling a story builds comfort and trust because you’re opening up to somebody you don’t know. Some examples would be taking her on an instant date. kissing her. Well if you’re one of them then you’re on your way to becoming successful. It’s a tool I use once in awhile. etc. vocal tonality and projection. People usually don’t just go up to people and start telling stories. This helps intensify the emotional connection that you’ve built. of course. then make her laugh a little bit. etc).g. Constantly ask yourself this: What am I trying to communicate? Am I getting my message across? You want to demonstrate good qualities about yourself with the stories you tell people (e.

What’s the difference between these two guys? The way they present it and he way they deliver.So let’s get to the important part How do you make a good story? Here are some terms that are important in storytelling and I’ll discuss only a couple of them Opening line. the presentation can still bomb. Let’s take for example a comedian and an actor. sequencing of events. Give him the best script created by the best minds in the world and when performance day comes. Every time you’re telling a story I want you to ask yourself these questions • Am I passionate about what I’m talking about? • Am I enthusiastic? • Am I paying attention to everyone that’s listening? • Am I relaxed and comfortable? • Is my voice loud enough? • Am I talking slow and clear? • Am I projecting the emotion I need to project through my voice? (If you’re telling a scary story sound scared. On the other hand. and emotional projection. It can still suck. engaging the senses. character development. if it’s suspense then use a lot of pausing) • Am I pausing at the right times? • Am I using a wide range of facial expressions?  . Probably the most important part of telling a story is your vocal projection and your delivery. you can give a guy who’s good at telling stories a very boring and ridiculously horrible story line and he can turn it in to something very interesting.

. who you were with. Well can you believe that my name was supposed to be Amanda? Bookstore girl: Amanda?! (laughs) Grungey10: Yes. Now stop laughing at my baby name. Bookstore girl: Oliver. It’s something they can relate too. Grungey10: Exactly. Nice meeting you.) The climax of your story.) Then slowly insert stuff like “and then I realized”. “all of a sudden”. as much as possible when you’re telling a story. 1.) Describe what you were doing at that time. “then out of the blue”. hear. feel. Did your parents ever tell you about embarrassing stories when you were kid? Bookstore girl: Yeah... (pause) 2. Speaking of names. it gets bruised easily. Grungey10: Lisa. 5. interesting name. Men usually communicate with logic while women value emotions more. the funniest/craziest/most embarrassing/ wildest thing just happened to me yesterday/today/couple minutes ago. here’s a ConversaTIon I had In The pasT Grungey10: Hey.So here’s a quick formula for a spontaneous story. I get that every time there’s a family get together. what you could see. “out of nowhere”. Amanda. smell. 3. Bookstore girl: (laughs)  . You want her to be able to relate to you.)* Then ask her* Does that ever happen to you? (throwing the ball back at her) You want to talk about emotions because you want to communicate on her level. You want to engage all her senses. etc. and “surprisingly”. I’m Oliver.) How did it make you feel? What lessons did you learn? 6.) OMG. I’m Lisa. a light bulb just popped up in my head. 4.

. pink crib.. thank you very much. the doctor’s like “Ma’am. this is not a laughing matter. What happened next? Grungey10: All right. Badoink!!! A moving “thing” down there?! She was devastated! I never heard the end of it.. My mom holds me with tears in her eyes saying “Wow.” Then she slowly unfolds the towel and then all of a sudden.. Grungey10: My mom got so excited that she started decorating one whole room in the house.. Say hello to mommy.. we don’t see anything moving down there... it’s my beautiful little princess Amanda. Get this.. uhm. The moment of truth. Bookstore girl: OMG (laughs) Grungey10: I know! Isn’t it funny? So what actually ended up happening was. it’s on the tip of my tongue. which I do not find very funny. and even a pink welcome banner hanging from the wall saying “Princess Amanda. I don’t think you understand.. Bookstore girl: (Continues giggling) <Now I’m going to throw the ball back at her so she can invest more in the interaction> So what were you like as a kid? Was there anything your parents gave you a hard time about? Bookstore girl: Hmmmm. welcome to the family!” Bookstore girl: (Eyes get wide) Really?! That’s the funniest thing I’ve ever heard. Not so much my parents but my grandfather and I had a really strong bond when I was growing up.. she actually decked the whole room out with a “My little princess” theme in mind. I was born and the doctor hands me over to my mom wrapped in a white towel.. just for me. So here it comes. she went to the doctor and she had this machine. after the sonogram. your first born will be a girl”. my mom always whips out the album with me dressed in a pink room all dressed in pink. the one that detects the gender. Anyways. Hello. Bookstore girl: (laughs hysterically) Grungey10: No.. Every time a friend comes over to the house. Hello. Look at you. when my mom was 6 months pregnant.. all right. apparently. we’re getting there.. So the room was all pink! It had pink stuff toys.  . You know what I’m talking about right? Bookstore girl: You mean a sonogram? Grungey10: There you go! Good girl (briefly touches her shoulder). I remember him teasing me a lot about being a tomboy back in middle school...Grungey10: Anyways.. Hello....

< She gave me multiple topics to choose from. before responding to her. What do you accomplish when you’ve made a difference in the world? Let’s say you’re in Africa and you get to educate the kids there. I might not even be safe here (smiles). You see. That was back then. try pausing for three seconds after she finishes her sentence.> buIldInG faMIlIarITy & subsTanCe Grungey10: If you could live in any city in the world. for a year. < I have a choice. and at the end of the day. If you have sisters then you’d know what I’m talking about. Bookstore girl: Oh shut it (hits me in the arm).> Bookstore girl: (smiles as she recalls) Back then I was a boy hater. I can pick any topic and start rolling with it. <I’m going to build more substance now> Grungey10: I find it really interesting that you love helping people out. I love going to a new place and learn everything about the culture there. I can also build more substance by exploring what made her change but I chose to explore the subject of traveling.> Grungey10: Boy hater? I better watch out for you now. how does it make you feel? 0 . I was also a very competitive kid. I could start building more familiarity by talking about my sisters. I’ve always wanted to make a difference in the world. It’s fulfilling for me. As an exercise. where would you live? Bookstore girl: I’d live in Africa. you see improvements in their lives.Grungey10: (nods head but keeps quiet) <It’s very powerful to pause and not be eager to fill in the silence in a conversation. I’ve changed a lot since then. You’ll notice that women have a lot more to say when they don’t get interrupted. Grungey10: Why would you live in Africa? Is it because you want to help out? Or do you just want to explore the place? Bookstore girl: I guess a little bit of both. At the same time. I went through that whole phase.

You see a lot of people are imprisoned by their day to day activities. I don’t think enough people appreciate you for that. You’re kidding right? I just have the biggest thing for artistic people. In the process they lose in touch with who they are and what they’re all about. let me tell you something. A lot of people might think it’s easy for us. I love painting. Bookstore girl: That’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever told me in the longest time (blushes). Grungey10: You know what. < I’m going to start flirting and appreciating her> Grungey10: Wait a minute here. I get the exact same feeling of satisfaction every time I finish writing a song. A lot of people have forgotten the meaning of what it is to be passionate about something. Grungey10: Bookstore girl. playback the song I just made. They go to work or school and they change to fit the environment they’re in. and feel good about myself.> Bookstore girl: Yeah. They see things from a different perspective. <After creating familiarity and substance. a day. songwriting is very much like painting. There must be a catch here. It’s something that I got into back when I was still seven. Bookstore girl. This is when the magic begins. and that’s usually making a living or going to school.. You see them working with the “work”  . You see. They usually just live their lives with one thing in mind. You love traveling and you’re an artist too?! This is way too perfect. It’s a rare thing. I guess satisfaction would be a better way to phrase it. Not a lot of people understand what it takes to do what we do. Only a few people actually live their lives to the fullest and at the same time. and for the most part they’re real. At the end of the day. I just relax on my bed. I solidify the attraction by giving here a sincere compliment. Grungey10.. do the things they’re passionate about in life. Grungey10: What are you passionate about? Bookstore girl: Well. Artists are very creative. I totally understand what you mean. or sometimes weeks to put a song together and it pays off bigtime. We both put are minds and hearts into our work.Bookstore girl: It makes me feel like I’m on top of the world. It’s the best job I’ve ever had. It may take me an hour. It’s something I’m really passionate about. It’s a stress reliever for me and at the same time I get to express myself through my work. I better leave before I start to fall in love with you.

When you leave right after you get her phone number. It’s the best thing ever. This may take somewhere between 10 minutes to two hours. Don’t be afraid to test new things out. I’d highly advise everyone to try it for even a week. Normally. No matter how smooth you pull it off. Some give their number away because it boosts their ego. If I’ll see the girl again then I won’t even get her number. • Don’t leave after you get her number. Girls give their numbers to guys for various reasons. Some give their number away because it’s fake. But before I even get into that. It’s actually something that I’ve been working on for awhile now. Some give their number away with no intention of ever answering your call. I found that timing is very important when it comes to getting a woman’s number. Then they go home and hit the sack. It’s the same routine over and over again. I’d like to actually get to know the girl first before I even get her number. Women give their phone numbers for a variety of reasons. I realized something very important. Do not answer”. Getting a number doesn’t really guarantee success. it makes it seem that was all you were after. they still have control of the interaction. In their minds. Some give their number away to get rid of the guy. Numbers mean nothing if you haven’t done your job well. I’d like to share with you some of the things I learned. • You can return her number to her every time she does something to turn you off. <Conversational cycle continues> The arT of GeTTInG phone nuMbers & seTTInG up daTes After hundreds of interactions. it doesn’t even guarantee that you’ll get to see her again. One  . As a matter of fact. Well I go through my day-to-day activities with the biggest smile on my face because I get to be myself the whole day.face on. When you get a woman’s number. You always want to leave on a positive note. I’ve noticed that most guys make their exit after they get a woman’s number. I suggest staying for an extra five or ten minutes before you leave. Some give their number away and save your number as “Weird & Creepy Guy. Coffeeshop girl: I know exactly what you’re talking about. they instantly know what’s going on.

I usually say something like “Wow. • Tell her you want her number but don’t get it. you’re really skilled at using the phone to your advantage. because not all girls will call you up. but unfortunately I have to get going. And some girls will simply just lose your numbers. It’s a downward spiral that leaves you lower than you were before. you leave it all up to her to make the move and give you a call back. how can we continue this conversation?” • Objection blaster. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times. I discovered that pacing would. but since there appears to be an issue with it. I just thought you were an interesting person and that you’d make a cool buddy. Any line will work if you say it at the right time. I’m just going to leave now.little trick you can do is to give her back her number every time she says something you don’t like. make you laugh. • Don’t try to bargain if she doesn’t give her number. Some girls might like you but forget to call you. Some girls just never call guys up. It’s not going anywhere. then guy tried to bargain. At this point she will either ask for my number or giggle. once again. or after an emotion filled moment. At the same time it demonstrates that you have standards. Some girls will throw your number away. That’s my cue to see where I am in the interaction. When you give her your number. Not unless. Pacing can be used to address future objections. So it’s best always best to exchange number because it gives both of you the chance to call each other up. any line will work. I found that it’s very effective to display more interest in her.”  . • It’s better to exchange numbers. would be useful after getting her number. • Pacing to avoid flaking. at the peak of an interaction. Some of the lines I’ve used are “Let’s exchange contact information” “Give me your number” “I really had fun talking to you. girl refuses. Guy ask for girls number. When you reach that point in the interaction. you like classical art? That’s so cool. It’s a really neat way of communicating “I could care less if I get your number or not”. You job is to get her to want to give her number to you. She’ll probably flake on you anyway even if she gave you her number. I have a boyfriend” I usually just stare at her all confused and say “Yeah… and?”. Guess what that does? It drastically decreases the chance of anything happening by 50%! Why. Whenever they give me an excuse such as “Sorry. It’s better to exchange numbers than to just give her your number. • Simple yet effective lines. At times when she tries to impress you. If she doesn’t want to give you her number than just let it go. If she still gives some excuse I say “Don’t get a big head now. I so have to hang out with you…” then I just continue talking about something else.

“You should call her after a week or two. If all else fails. I really hate playing phone tag. you’re pretty cool. make sure to let her know you’ll be calling in the next couple of days” You must be wondering which strategy works best. It’s not everyday that I meet someone that I can just be real with. trust me.  . It will communicate that you have a life and that you are not needy” “You should call her on the same day so that she gets comfortable talking to you. Here’s a couple “You should wait at least three days before you call her. 80’s music. They all work. and on top of that you get to bowl. You’ll come off way cooler. Just act like it’s normal. • Finalize your plans before you leave. Tell her what time you’ll call her and how to respond to you over the phone. every Wednesday. This technique has worked well for me. Go call her! And if she doesn’t pick up then call up two more times” “You should call her the day after you get her number. It’s fun”. you’re not some weird psychotic girl right? Cool. I’ll call you just once… and leave a message once. My suggestion would be to try everything until you find the one that works best for you. my friends and I love to bowl at Golden Pins. I prefer to make plans before leaving the interaction. It really depends on the situation. Then make it a point to be the first one to hang up or pretend that someone else is on the other line. It’s good to set up some rules right from the beginning. It usually goes something like this “You know what. then you owe me vanilla flavored ice cream on a cone…” You can go anywhere with this technique. They have these huge crystal disco lights. After you talk to her. What more can you ask for? We do this every Wednesday. believe me I’ve tried. That’s it. If you don’t have any. How long should you wait before you call? This sounds familiar doesn’t it? There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to the best time to call. but wait a minute.• Tell her exactly how it’s going to be. Have you ever gone cosmic bowling?! It’s the most fun thing in the world. make sure to end the conversation on a high note” It doesn’t get better than this. you should come join us. Listen. When you do answer I expect a really cool joke from you. It will really communicate that you have more important things to do. Stuff like “Ok.

I would say two out of every four girls answered on the first call.Here is a simple strategy. in order to find out which strategy worked best. and emotional connection that’s been built all throughout the interaction.  . What do I mean by solid? I’ve spent an average of about 45 minutes to 2 hours with them. Traditional Method Call her after three days Space your calls out and have at least three to four days in between them Ask her out on the first or second call This method works best on girls within your social circle. Aggressive Method Call the numbers up the day you get them You can call the next day and the day after to follow up Call at unpredictable hours of the day Varying time limit on each call Ask her out later on For some reason this method worked best on cold approaches. The others eventually responded after my follow up routine. Give it a shot for two weeks then switch. There’s no rush to call her up soon because you’ll see her over and over again. Let’s say I’ve collected around 12 solid numbers in two weeks. there’s that one girl that never picks up her phone. Occasionally. That’s pretty good considering the fact that I’ve only got so much free time on my hands. See which ones work best for you. I used in the past. Let me ask you this… What’s your strategy? Let me suggest this… Try everything out. That includes multiple dates within that day.

8 TIps for an unforGeTTable fIrsT daTe
The tips I’m about to share with you are priceless. It took me years to figure some of them out. Most guys don’t know what to do on a first date. Don’t be generic. “Would you like to go to dinner and a movie with me sometime?” I don’t want to hear that coming out of your mouth anytime soon. OK? That’s what every other guy does! The last thing you want is to be like everyone else. There are lots of other things to do besides that. Save that idea for a later date. Something you’re passionate about. Are you passionate about sports? Singing? Shooting guns? Surfing? Art? Rollerblading? Anything at all? Bring her in to your world. Do the things you’re passionate about with her, on a first date. The best part about is that you can teach her how to do these things, if she doesn’t know how. Accessible- You don’t want to take her to the mountains located two hours from you. You want somewhere near and accessible. Fun & Exciting. Some of the best dates I’ve had were in amusement parks. It’s fun. It’s exciting. It provides the both of you with the same experience you can bond on. Plus, the emotions you experience will bring the two of you closer to each other. Unpredictable. Don’t tell her where you’re going. Tell her it’s a surprise. Get back to your place early on. Find an excuse to get back to your place early on. Your goal is to make her feel comfortable and to get that step out of the way. I do this by saying “These shoes are killing me, I just need a second…” drive to your house and say “Alright, I’ll give you a quick tour, we can only stay for five minutes cause we’re running on a schedule”. I go in the house, change my shoes, and rush her out of the house after giving her the tour. I don’t crowd her space. I don’t go for the kiss. I just relax and really just give her a tour of the house. This serves two purposes. Makes her trust me more and gets her comfortable in my house. Go to the supermarket. Take her with you to do groceries. Two techniques you can use. You can pick up a cookbook and have her pick up ingredients with you so she can help you cook. Another thing I like to do is to get some ice cream. Unfortunately I have to get it back to the house before it melts. AHA! Either way, you end up going back to your house or hers. 

Ideas For Second Dates Theme parks The beach Picnics Shooting range Cooking classes Sporting events Grocery shopping Flying kites in the park Comedy clubs Dance lessons Art galleries Rollerblading Go cart Wine tasting Wall climbing

on CreaTInG a sexual vIbe
Creating a sexual vibe gets her ready for the kiss. You must learn how to project sexuality. Sexuality can be projected by the way you talk, look at her, touch her, and the way you present yourself. It’s mostly non-verbal communication. This is the next level you need to master. Here are some of the ways you can project a sexual vibe. The way you look at her. Look at her in that sexual “You know what’s about to happen” kind of way. You can do stuff like staring at her eyes while biting your lower lip then looking back at your eyes. You need to be able to turn on your bedroom eyes and sexual smile in a snap of a finger. The way you talk to her. Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Lower the volume of your speech. Try speaking like you’re saying something really profound. Whisper in her ear at some point in the interaction. The way you touch her. Hold her hand at key points in the interaction. It’s important to have some kind of body contact. Begin to face her directly. Place your hand in her inner leg and gently stroke it. Knees or feet touching each other. Stroke her hair while looking at her lips. Incorporating Pausing. Pause in between words to create a sexual and intriguing vibe. 

I Can’t Believe I’m Sharing This With You I came up with a strategy to project sexuality quickly. As a matter of fact, I only teach this in my Day Game University Boot Camp. So let me ask you just one favor. Please don’t teach this method to anyone. Ok, maybe a friend or two, but no more than that. Deal? Good, now that we got that out of the way. Here’s what I call the Airplane Method I want you to think about the two hottest women in the world. It can be an actress, model, friend, or make believe women. Don’t continue reading unless you have your two hottest women. Now, imagine that you’re in a private jet plane. You own the plane. It’s yours. You’re relaxing and leaning back with your feet stretched comfortably. Your pants are down and one of the hottest girls is sucking your penis while the other one is sucking your balls. Now how do you feel? I really want you to put yourself in this situation so you know what I’m talking about. Now let’s say someone calls you over the phone. How will you talk to them? Would it be fast? Or all slow and sexual? Here’s how I learned this technique. A couple of years ago, I met my good friend Asian playboy, who specializes in picking up women in bars and clubs. When this guy spoke, he just had this seductive and sexual presence and for the longest time I couldn’t figure out how he did it. Until one day, I thought to myself, what could this guy be thinking? I mean he gets laid a lot, and he’s good at what he does. What’s his secret? Then it suddenly occurred to me. AHA! He must be thinking about being in an airplane with two hot women going down on him. That’s probably what it is! There’s no other explanation I can think of! Thus, the airplane method was born. Props to Asian playboy. TRY THIS OUT Next time, before you go for the kiss, you should try the airplane method and talk all sexual for 5-10 minutes. This builds the stage up for the kiss. 

that it’s going to be a sexual relationship. Mall. The best part about this approach is that you don’t need words. It’s almost too obvious to meet. investment. Women are eager for the kiss as much as you are. • You don’t need words. Slowly move in for the kill. • Nothing else exists. I want you to ccount 1. Put her hair behind her ear and lightly stroke the side of her face. superMarKeT To The bedrooM: The naTural proGressIon There’s a natural progression of how I like to do things.2.When & hoW To KIss her Kissing on the first day sets the stage. let the whole world just fade away. if you play your cards right. Do you know that moment when you run out of words to say and your eyes are locked on hers? Next time that happens. It’s just you and her that exist.3 and if she’s still lookg at you. then that’s your cue to go for a kiss. If she’s walking. and connection as I need before I try to escalate things further. quite a number of times. while you slowly tilt your head. If she’s walking away from me. Nobody else. • Explore her eyes. You usually feel butterflies in your stomach. early on. You should kiss her before the day ends. I make her stop to talk to me. you’ll start to get a feel of EXACTLY when you should go for it. There’s a window of opportunity that opens up sometime in the interaction. froM Coffee shop. • Put her hair behind her ears. Here’s a sample progression I’ve used in the past. and you know that it’s time. It’s something you’ll learn to do. don’t look away. I approach the girl I want right away. First. Here are some important pointers that will be helpful for you. Nothing else matters. I make sure she hears me running towards  . • Three second rule. Start looking deeply at her eyes. In that moment. I built as much comfort. After you get into that situation.

play arcade. The perfect time to lean back. I usually talk about deeper topics when I’m sitting down. I ask her to sit down with me. it’s grocery day today” and then we head out to the supermarkets. If at anytime you even slightly try to grab my ass… it’s over. Sometimes I even take them on an instant movie date where we sneak out in the middle of the movie and go watch another movie. At other times. and then set up another date with her. punch the number 9-1-1 in and say “Look at this number. I say something like “I’m really glad I met you. Let’s go…” she usually complies. call it a day. with no mutual friends to introduce us to each other. getting ready to leave. after we buy groceries. then it becomes comfortable. If she’s inside her car. All these crazy things you’d do when you were young. So. I pull out my phone. We prepare dinner together. I know it’s going to be hard for you. I just kiss her. I’d prefer to see how far I can take it. After all this. It varies. Get to know each other a little bit and begin to open up. I usually say something like “My legs are dying. and shop for clothes. I’m sorry we met like this. 0 .her. After I establish some kind of connection.” We go some place to eat. and then I stop her and make her turn around to talk to me. I say “Oh. Sometimes. I knock on the window and start talking to her. I’m going to sit down over there. I do stuff like walk around the mall with her. Tell you what. It’s pretty rare to meet someone you can just be real with. but just try hard to resist the urge ok? I’m not that easy” It’s a little funny piece that takes the tension out of the scenario. like couples do. Before entering the door to my house. We talk more. I’m dialing this number. we go back to my place to prepare dinner. I almost forgot. Someone you can just talk to about anything and everything. You’re not going to be one of those awesome girls that I meet and never see again. After eating I make it a point to do other things. I’m hungry. This usually demonstrates that I’m fearless and exciting. After I’ve established enough investment on her part. I discovered that if you make fun of uncomfortable situations. relax and discuss deep topics is when you’re sitting down. I will not tolerate disrespect and sexual harassment especially from women. You get the point. Let’s go grab something to eat.

Then I learned that if you just leaned back. I pull away and pretend to sleep.From here on I just build as much tension as I can. she’s usually not sure whether I like her or not. We eventually start kissing and rolling over the bed. she’s way too invested and aroused to even pull back. All I am is a big piece of tease”. it should be a done deal. I hate to put you down but. Just minutes after it gets really hot and heavy.. I play the frame that “I’m a good boy. I treat her the same way I would treat my buddy. I’m off to bed. increase her desire. see you tomorrow”. Here’s the key piece of the puzzle. After that’s done. For you. I just unleash the beast and take full control of the situation. before she even has a chance to do so. Then later on in the night.. At this point. I pump up her emotions by saying things like “I know what you’re thinking. At the same time.  . and I need to stop before it gets really far”. When she reaches her boiling point and all the clothes are off. I pull of childish behavior like initiating pillow and water fights. she usually ends up doing just that. From here we start to cuddle. I always pull away first and give her an excuse why we should stop. I don’t put out that easily. I act as if everything is normal. I do this a couple of times till clothes start to come off. At this point my back is turned toward her and I start to do fake snores. I used to try to seduce her and touch her as much as I could the moment she walked through the door. I jump right into my bed and I tell her “Goodnight. and give her space to chase. but I’m feeling so good. In that moment. From this point.

time.  . and managing relationships)  Tips On How to be Happy Be optimistic and outgoing (positivism) Have close friendships and meaningful relationships (Build your social circle) Work or leisure that engage your skills (fun time) Have something to believe in (foundation) Sleep well and exercise (taking care of yourself) Having a high self esteem (healthy relationship with self) “ If you don’t know where you are going. physical. Who you will become depends on the things you do today.Words of WIsdoM There are four stages you will go through in your journey to get this part of your life handled. social) Stage 3: Learning how to handle logistics (getting her number. going on an instant date.” Where are you in your life right now? What are your goals? Long term and short term? Create a plan Don’t give up until you see results Who you are is the product of the past. (phone game. You need to become a master of all four stages Stage 1: Becoming Social and Expressing your personality Stage 2: Learning how to make her invest in the interaction (emotional. getting her back to your house) Stage 4: Beyond the pick-up. second dates. you will probably wind up somewhere else.

you must become congruent with the three main aspects in your life: Be good at what you do Enjoy what it is you do Feel a sense of fulfillment while you do it  .Balance Is Key In order to achieve happiness and live up to your full potential.

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