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22906440 Daytime Pick Up Revealed

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Daytime Pick-Up Revealed

The Art of Meeting, Connecting and Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls, College Campuses, and Anywhere Under the Sun!
2006 All Rights Reserved 

IntroductIon A Word on consIstency GettInG the Most FroM thIs MAnuAl WArnInG!

Table of ConTenTs

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Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle 8 WhAt Is dAy GAMe? 8 An eye opener on cold ApproAchInG 9 WelcoMe to WoMen’s everydAy reAlIty 10 creAtInG A vIsIon 11 ActInG on your plAn 12 4 steps to IncreAse the eFFectIveness oF GoAl settInG 13 IntroductIon to the 8 essentIAl dAyGAMe FActors 14 Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS FActor 1: Inner strenGth FActor 2: IdentIty FActor 3: lonG terM And short terM vAlue FActor 4: eFFectIve coMMunIcAtIon FActor 5: eMotIonAl connectIon FActor 6: coMFort & trust FActor 7: loGIstIcs FActor 8: InvestMent Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS, rAcking up dAteS, And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndset For MeetInG WoMen Where to Meet WoMen Be In tune WIth the enerGy level crAsh course In stArtInG conversAtIon WIth WoMen BreAKInG doWn the opener deAlInG WIth contInGencIes GIFt shIFt theory the pInG ponG MetAphor 

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Go FIrst prIncIple poWer tAlK WhAt to do AFter InItIAtInG the conversAtIon you Must creAte A connectIon hoW to AnsWer lIGht rApport QuestIons BuIldInG suBstAnce: ActIve lIstenInG, FIndInG her core vAlue, And leAdInG WIth your pAssIons leAdInG WIth your pAssIons A couple oF eFFectIve conversAtIonAl tools here’s A conversAtIon I hAd In the pAst BuIldInG FAMIlIArIty & suBstAnce the Art oF GettInG phone nuMBers & settInG up dAtes 8 tIps For An unForGettABle FIrst dAte on creAtInG A sexuAl vIBe When & hoW to KIss her FroM coFFee shop, MAll, superMArKet to the BedrooM: the nAturAl proGressIon Words oF WIsdoM WrAppInG It All up

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 . I learned the natural [**hard?**] way. can benefit from this manual. regardless of age and experience. 2. Worst of all. It was a long and painful process but. I really had no other option. theories. beaches. by choice. coffee shops. Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you’ve absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book. I want you to succeed now. I had to learn how pick up women from scratch. I came up with over 2. I don’t want you to take a year to see results. hanging out with guys that were good with women. I’ve piled up all the useful information that I’ve discovered in my pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups. and perseverance to become successful with women. It didn’t stop me though. I know there’s a lot of information out there and.InTroduCTIon First of all. You’ve taken the first step toward improving yourself. I learned from my past failures. videos. books. with the right combination of passion. and college campuses. it can be overwhelming. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part of my life handled. at that time. there were no resources on meeting women outside of the “bars and clubs” context. After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls. and trial and error. Anyone. Back then.000 pages? Yes. dedication. even my 8-year-old cousin. and tactics on meeting women during the daytime. quite frankly. There were no gurus. I want to congratulate you. Over the years. streets. I’ve developed a step by step system that will allow anyone.000 pages filled with discoveries. So I came up with a manual that anyone. I’ve compressed it all into this book. I just needed to know how to operate in the field. In the process. What you’re about to read is a product of years of trial and error. would understand. or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up.

a Word on ConsIsTenCy Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency. You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in this area of your life. would you be willing to experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to achieve the lifestyle of your dreams . they each followed their pre-determined plan. and without excuses. and you will not be figuring out this part of your life forever . If you don’t get this part of your life handled right now. make a stand. You’ll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn. Over the past three years. So now. relax. You’re about to begin your journey. then when will you? Treat this like going to college to get a degree. This manual is my helping hand to all those guys who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day. and the best coach out there. and choose wisely. You can have the best techniques. Day in day out. it’s all worthless. consistently. but you will never reach it unless you consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other. and drive within yourself to see this through. I promise you won’t regret it.  .There’s a catch though… You have to want it. the best system. Eventhough they were from different walks of life and trained differently. but without consistency. Now. You won’t be in college forever. there was always one common denominator. I want you to sit back. passion. First of all. this book isn’t some magic pill that will solve all your problems overnight. I’ve talked to hundreds of people who have successfully transformed their dating lifestyle. without fail.only a few months! This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself. You must find the determination. and keep an open mind.or will you continue to be an “average Joe” for 70 more years? Which path will you take? It’s time to make a decision. It doesn’t work that way. There are many ways to achieve your goal.

reading. would when you’re trying to develop a skill. You can drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect. Read through it once or twice and absorb whatever you can. I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won’t be enough. ever be satisfied with just learning this stuff. I want to know what you think. It’s similar to learning a sport.I want you to approach this as you. Come back and read the individual section from time to time. Keep practicing. I’ll constantly be throwing new concepts at you. you will need in the future. absorb. the better you become. Some of them will be helpful to your current situation. Read. practice it! Don’t go jump right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you learn here. if you want to become competent. so be prepared. You need to go out there and practice the things you learn. complaints. Most of them. and using it until you have it all down! Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas. The more you practice. comments. and integrate the information you learn.com Let’s Rock n Roll!  . Don’t ever. or just a simple “Hi” note if you will. It’s a repetitive process that will propel you toward success. Treat this book as a reference or encyclopedia. You need the right information and the ability to put that information into practice. GeTTInG The MosT froM ThIs Manual There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. You need to practice several times a week.

and none of this book is to be considered legal or personal advice. distribute. let’s learn how to be successful with women during the daytime. I will have my attorney contact you and make you regret what you did. By purchasing this book.  . distribution. you agree to the following: You understand that the information contained on this page and in this book is an opinion. and it should be used for personal entertainment purposes only. When you purchased this book. you agreed to the statement on the bottom of the homepage of my website that stated: “©2007. or distribute all or any part of my book or this web page without permission. www. or create derivative works from this book in whole or in part. If you try to copy. steal.daytimepickup. LLC assume any liability for the information contained herein. nor Captivate to Connect.WarnInG! This book is copyright 2007.. or to contribute to the copying. Now that we’re finished with the warning. Count on it.. Neither www.com. com.” I expect you to abide by these rules. with all rights reserved. I regularly and actively have my team search the internet for people who violate my copyrights.captivatetoconnect. It is illegal to copy. or creating of derivative works of this book. You are responsible for your own behavior. All Rights Reserved.

Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle In this section. I’m sure you wanted to accomplish something. WhaT Is day GaMe? Have you ever experienced seeing “your type” of girl walk down the street? Most likely you have. I’ll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before the approach. What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me. and have the possibility of starting a relationship with them. beaches. get them on dates. as most may think. build an emotional connection. supermarkets. it’s a skill set. It’s not luck.  . and believe me. The question is. I have yet to meet someone who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that catches his eye. Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday? Women of all types of beauty are not hard to find. Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman. and how I’ve used this information to solidify my game and make myself more successful with women. relax. and coffee shops every single day. I’ve met a couple of men that can pull it off. Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands. they are rare. then that’s normal. shop. outside of bars and clubs. then day game just might be the answer. The best thing about it is that YOU could potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day? If you answered yes to any one of those. ”What Did You Do About It? Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by? If you didn’t do anything. have fun and a whole list of other reasons. they roam around malls.

people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had to say. is their ability to communicate with people. I’ve spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth in the middle of a mall. I learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must. and it did make sense. Communication is key in everything that we do. then there would be no need for salespeople. I didn’t even know their name. But. they’d just continue walking. the one thing that’s similar with salespeople and guys that are successful with women. If you think about it. trying to get people to buy our products. What does sales have to do with being successful with girls? Everything. I’d always be shouting “Hey sir.What if I told you that it’s possible to approach these beautiful strangers and have something positive result from almost all of your interactions? Would you think I’m nuts? an eye opener on Cold approaChInG Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger. I tried and experimented with a lot of different techniques. do you want to sign up for our service today?” yada yada yada. and that’s when I learned something… If my initial approach was unique. I’ve had a history of being a salesman. more often than not. It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a chance to get to know the customer. I should know. Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What happened?  . If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the customer. then people usually gave me a bit of their time. I’ll talk more about this in the upcoming chapters. let’s get back to my story… After failing to produce results in my job. Occasionally. Heck. Several years ago. Now.

Your goal is to get her into a state of mind where she’s susceptible to be led. If you can relate to this scenario then. There are a lot of whackos out there. WelCoMe To WoMen’s everyday realITy Women get approached or hit on all the time. It’s probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because it opens the door for escalating the conversation. What does that mean? You’ve got to approach her in a way that she’s not accustomed. why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were you interested in getting to know them as a person? Chances are it was out of politeness. Make or Break Moment The first couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or break moment. How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off? I’m sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers that you say when you get the same question. Looking back.. It’s not their fault and I certainly don’t blame them for being rude sometimes.. 0 . isn’t it” Chances are you reply with some sort of answer. Then the conversation comes to an end and you either say “Nice talking to you” or just simply turn around and carry on with your business. The first thing you need to do is find a way to bypass her social filters. depending on your mood. They’ve developed tolerance to men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction.You probably heard them open with a familiar line like: “Hey what’s going on?” “Nice weather…” “It’s a pretty long line.

That’s just setting yourself up for failure. We all have things to do and people to see.It’s like going to someone’s house and pushing the doorbell. you should have one. You have to set a goal for yourself. That’s your window of opportunity. They have no goals set for themselves. open the door for you a little bit. Have a pen and paper ready. then by the end of this section. when you first start out. Just because someone opens the door. it doesn’t mean you get to go in and do whatever you want. Women will usually. You’ll find it very useful on your journey. Goal setting is very important for various reasons. Most of the people you meet out there will have a very short attention span. A lot of your time. CreaTInG a vIsIon Do you know where you’re heading? If you don’t then you might want to start brainstorming. So I want you to take sometime to answer these questions. Most women will give you somewhere between three seconds and three minutes to captivate their interest. A lot of people out there are like chickens running around with their heads cut off. It will be your first road block to success. I’m going to go with the assumption that everyone’s time is special. But don’t expect them to be all over you after you’ve initiated the conversation. there’s one thing you need to do first. If it’s something you really want then you WILL achieve it. If you have a vision of what you want your life to be then that is your incentive to work harder. If you want to be successful with women. It’s always a good feeling knowing you’re working toward something that will benefit you in the long run. Don’t skip this part. It motivates you and keeps you on track. if you’ve got your whole presence and communication skills down. If you don’t have one. will be focused on perfecting the first few minutes of the interaction.  . It gives you an overall direction so you know where you’re going. there are no second chances if you mess it up.

I know it’s a good feeling to have so much information that your brain begins to swell.  . What’s in it for you in the long run? Like. weekly. One piece of advice though: Information isn’t power. Once you’ve figured out what you want. it’s potential power. and monthly goals to ensure that you’re constantly improving you skill set? How much time and effort do you need to put into this? What strategies do you have in order to stay consistent and committed to getting this part of your life handled? That’s just for starters. now what?! Anything on paper is just writing unless you put it to work. These questions should aid you in coming up with a solid vision of who you want to be and what steps you need to take in order to accomplish that. the next step is to stick to your plan no matter what happens until you start to see results. where do you see yourself? What kind of person will you be by then? What kind of girl/girls will be with you? What’s your lifestyle going to be? What’s the difference between who you are now and who you want to be? • How long do you think it will take you to accomplish your overall goal? Have you set daily. what do you really want to accomplish? You’re obviously investing a lot of your time and effort into learning how to be successful with women.• Realistically speaking. aCTInG on your plan Okay you have your plan. in 10 years.

Get all the right information that you need in order to get this part of your life handled. I want to have the ability to date three new girls that I meet in the mall. After six months. 1. I’ll be able to hold a conversation with a girl for 30 minutes.” 2. and schedule a date with her at the end. For example: “In six months. I need to interact with seven new girls three times a week for six months. I’ll make sure that they can give me personalized and individualized attention. and has a kick ass personality”. I should always be pushing the interaction as far as it can go every time. If you haven’t done this by now. After getting advice.” Or “If I want a hot girlfriend I should be more experienced with hot women.4 sTeps To InCrease The effeCTIveness of Goal seTTInG Know exactly what you want to accomplish. I’m also going to work on the different aspects of my life so that I become relationship material. Put the book down and start working on it. For example: “In order for me to be able to date three new girls a week. Make sure you use this information as a guideline and makes sure you’re on the right track. then don’t continue reading. I’ll try to go on as many dates as I can so I can get experience under my belt. I’ll make sure to implement the things I learned right away. I should get my skill set to that level. I’m going to look for resources out there that will solve the problem for me. Or I can look for someone qualified to help me out. What steps are needed in order to accomplish your plan? How long is it going to take and what does it require of me? Make sure to always stick to that plan. It was fun but I just can’t seem to get her to open up to me. I will surround myself with the kind of women I’d like to date and learn how to be comfortable in their presence. For example: “I was able to talk to several girls today. every single week” or “I want to have a smoking hot girlfriend that’s half my age.”  . Devise a plan on how you’re going to accomplish your goal. I shouldn’t commit the same mistake again.

. The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive foundation for daytime pick-up. three girls called me back. Did I build enough emotional connection with her? Did I convey my personality well enough? Am I giving up easily without following up? If so how can I improve my skill? I should try calling her more often…” This is a very simple structure you can use in order to assess your progress. You see. then make the necessary adjustments. starting from your core. I suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book. InTroduCTIon To The 8 essenTIal dayGaMe faCTors I’m about to provide you with the most comprehensive information ever available on how use the 8 Essential Day Game Factors to dramatically increase your success with women. This is an essential skill to develop. find the strong and weak points. and date the woman of your choice. The 8 Essential Day Factors are structured in a way that helps build you up. connect. You should be able to analyze yourself and construct positive criticism. then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part of the interaction.  . So I need to review all my interactions and see where I’m screwing things up. I got five numbers and out of those numbers. For example: “Last month. Review all your results. I’ve identified a total of 8 Essential Day Game Factors that must be addressed if you want to maximize your success rate! You must first understand all of the factors and how they affect your ability to meet. Here’s a QUICK PEEK at what’s coming up. This is the only way to keep progressing. This month I got eight numbers but none of them called me back.. In order to efficiently improve your skills.3.

I’ll go over the key concepts of identity building and how to effectively communicate who you are as a person. Don’t worry. I’ll show you where most guys fail and how you can avoid most of the pitfalls out there. I’ll teach you the same principles that I only teach in specialized 1 on 1 VIP seminars. I’ll only be throwing stuff at you that I know you’d need. FACTOR : LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM VALUE This chapter is guaranteed to raise a few eyebrows out there.  . I’ll explain to you the importance of long term and short term value and how it affects all your interactions. A lot of guys don’t know the proper way of communicating with attractive women. why they can’t keep a woman in their life? It’s because they don’t develop the ability to convey their identity.FACTOR : INNER STRENGTH We’ll start to build you up from the very core of your personality. I’ll discuss inner strength in depth and take you step by step so that you can develop a solid foundation . FACTOR : IDENTITY Do you know why most guys fail to keep a woman interested in them? Or even worse. They lose a woman’s initial interest due to their lack of communication or ineffective communication. I’ll show you exactly how to communicate with women. FACTOR : COMMUNICATION Communication skills separate the beginners from the pros. I’m confident that by the end of this book. you’ll have a basic understanding of what inner strength is and how you can use it to gain an unfair advantage over other guys.

 . FACTOR : COMFORT AND TRUST Most guys just don’t know how to build comfort and trust with the women they meet. I’ll give you a couple of tips on how you can maximize the effectiveness of the interaction by utilizing our logistic planning method. Look no further! In this chapter. In this chapter. I’ll show you specifically how to get the girl from the mall to your bedroom! FACTOR : INVESTMENT In order for anyone to be successful with women. This chapter talks about the things you must do and avoid. I’ve decided to just go all out and reveal four major investment categories. let me be the first to tell you… Logistics is one thing that you do not have full control over. This is my favorite part of every interaction and you’re about to find out why! I go over specific time-tested tactics that I’ve used to establish a long lasting emotional bond that gets her to dream about you even after you’re gone! This is a very effective tool that increases the chances of you going on a date with her! I’ll go over the proper way to build an emotional connection and the opportune moment for you to start engaging her in this type of interaction. he must first master the art of making her invest in the interaction.FACTOR : EMOTIONAL CONNECTION Emotional Connection is what I like to call “The Heart of Day Game”. FACTOR : LEADING & LOGISTICS If you haven’t learned yet. I’ve compiled the most comprehensive approach to increase control over the interaction and decreasing the number of women flaking on you.

Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS faCTor 1: Inner sTrenGTh I know that most of you just want to learn what to say. My friend and I were just chatting about life. “the lines”. I used to think to myself. I always wondered how he was able to do it. Failure just wasn’t an option for me. I had that choice. I’ve tried to put my finger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to figure out what it was.” I really thought I would never figure it out. You want to know what happened several years later? I sat down and told myself “If only I just build up myself first. I was the same as you when I first started out. Until this one day came. and end up to be a better person? I chose the latter. “What does this guy have that I don’t. what were you thinking of?” He replied: “All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person. have one thing in common. things would have been so much easier for me…” So save yourself a lot of time and read and understand this section first before you go onto the next one. It’s that bright light at the end of the tunnel. I had two choices: should I go through all of this hardship. I don’t blame you at all. A lot of successful guys. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were stationed in Iraq.”  . So to make a long story short I asked him “It takes a lot of guts to do what you did. be negative all the time. in other words. I just accepted it. I knew there would be a lot of people who’d be negative about the experience. I hadn’t seen him in years because he was stationed in Iraq. It’s the driving force behind all their successes. I just knew that I had it in me to succeed beyond a shadow of a doubt. we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style. Most people probably hated being there. I admired this guy for his strength and courage. and be the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period with my head held up high.. I know.. There’s something about him that makes him complete as a person. This is the one thing that fuels them day in and day out. cherish every moment of my journey. I mean.

I suddenly had one of those “Light bulb popping up in your head” moments. not well built. they set the standard of what is cool. or not tall. What we believe in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives. This is true for both men and women alike. Sad to say. There are a lot of factors that have molded us to be the person we are today. Contrary to popular belief. attractive. probably since we were little kids. we live in a society that’s driven by money. The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow. Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning… For the most part.  . Not only that. These beliefs have been integrated into our being. we’ve been programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women. You can get a girl even if you’re not rich. or fame. You’ve Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don’t Even Know It! We all walk through this world with our beliefs. power. and desirable. appearance isn’t everything. These moments don’t come to me that often but whenever they do. they always hit me hard over the head. You can still get laid even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine. Examples of such factors are FRIENDS FAMILY SCHOOL SYSTEM SOCIETY MEDIA CULTURE ENVIRONMENT WOOOOWW! That’s a lot of factors influencing us. Let’s take a good look at magazines for a second. You can make a beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race! All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute. Let’s take on the subject of appearance. Let’s start out with media and advertising.

Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I’m sure you all know the answer to this one: Celebrities Attractive and fit people Rich people And everything else I forgot to mention Am I the only one that sees what’s going on here? Where can you find the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of a magazine. tall. Your words become your actions. Your belief becomes who you are. famous helps but it’s not the only way.  . famous… He even has the fastest car around. and up to date I need to have this. that guy has the hottest girl I’ve ever seen. be this. I need to buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…” Same thing for a guy “Oh. and join this…” And whoever said advertising wasn’t effective? What actually happened was that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in order to be cool. he has this sick ass watch. and rich! IT’S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE! Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality? Your thoughts become your words. The truth is… YOU DON’T Yeah being rich. where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial features modified to intimidate almost anyone. The average girl would think “That’s the girl that everyone in my school thinks is hot! She’s skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here). cool. Anyone armed with the techniques and philosophies I’ll discuss in this book can attract the kind of woman that’s usually reserved for the good looking. and…” To make the long story short. both the man and woman in this example end up concluding “In order to be desirable. famous. He’s rich. tall.

literally before my very own eyes. only if you really really believed in it. Change will not occur overnight. you too can be successful with women. What if you can reprogram your entire self. back to my story. You have to live up to your full potential. struggles. my whole world changed. and went on a journey to seek the truth. It makes me sad to see all the guys out there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. 0 . This is where everyone should start regardless of their goal. I’ll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I’ve found to be very useful in my journey. I want you to go over this chapter again and again. If only I could snap them out of their trance… but then again. And that’s when it occurred to me that… YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE. that would be too idealistic of me. For the next 30 days. becomes who you are? Would you believe me? You better. you’re not going to be someone you’re not. After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you. but the sooner you start believing. Ever since then I began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions. BELIEVE! I’ve learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. Alright. Don’t stop reading until you start practicing and believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons.What if I told you that everything that you believe in. I’m just sharing with you everything that’s worked for me and the thousands of guys I’ve trained after I discovered everything I’m about to share with you. and relationships that I’ve had. I will also provide you with exercises so your belief is reinforced with real world results. so you can move through the world naturally attracting people in your life? Before I hear any objections. because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs. I adopted bits and pieces of his philosophy in life. You’re just going to be a better version of yourself. These have been very useful for me and hopefully will be for you. the faster you’ll get to your destination. Here’s how this works. BELIEVE.

all of a sudden. how does that change the way you act toward them? Try it out.  . TRY THIS OUT I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were indeed valuable to other people. Every situation is different. people were hanging off every word you said. next time before you talk to someone. You’re doing them a favor by talking to them.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS Have you ever had the feeling that you’re not worthy to even talk to someone? Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that damn “Why should she even talk to me? I’m not her type… and besides. Starting now. I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to others. I want you to remember the times when you made several people feel good about themselves. The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself. The time when. Got that memory? How does it make you feel? Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn’t it? That’s how you should feel before talking to anyone. but I’ve approached girls in the past and they’ve shot me down more times than I can think of… Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn’t mean you should stop eating right? Every girl is different. imagine that you’re about to give them a million bucks in the next five minutes. how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven’t even approached her yet? Okay. If you believe that everything you say or do is valuable. I’m sure there’s a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just loved you. Try this out. then it will be valuable to others. I don’t know what to say” speech playing in your head? Let me ask you this.

Next time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot. Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission every single time you went for a trip to the rest room. by the time you got to college.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : TAKE WHAT’S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS! There’s one thing that you will realize later on… You can do anything you want. So what do you want to do? What’s stopping you? You are your own boss. You can do them yourself. Don’t be afraid to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise. Well. executed it. Do you think he ever asked permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off? Nope. Don’t be afraid to spark tension. And you can get away with it. I want you to live life like you own the world. whenever you want. Always voice out your opinions. Everything is yours. Always say what’s on your mind. he just had a plan. Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life: • It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. we’ve been programmed by society to look up to others for “permission” to do something we want to do. and never looked back. You already have it in you. You have permission to go after the things you want in life. Don’t wait for others to tell you what to do. It’s about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in. wherever you want. You do not need anyone’s approval before you do something. Once again. • Make your own decision and take your own stand. Don’t look for others to make decisions for you. just go ahead and sit down. You have permission to be the best that you can be. Don’t ask anyone for permission just do it. And you have permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says.  . You have permission to change your beliefs. you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn’t you? Another example is the very famous Bill Gates. if you don’t agree with someone simply say “I disagree” and leave it at that. You do not need permission to dress in a certain way.

It’s hard to get used to saying “no” but you have to give it a shot. Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time about it just smile and say “Thank you”.  . This boils down to being who you are despite what other people think. You wouldn’t want to be known as the “yes” man. When you’re at a party and someone asks: “Who wants such and such drinks” Don’t hesitate to raise your hand first and say “Over here”. and someone gets there the same time you did. You’ll notice that people will begin to respect you more because you’re upfront.• Learn how to say “No”. and don’t bow down to someone just because you perceive them as being better than you. The next time you’re about to line up. Be proud. TRY THIS OUT Let’s start out with simple exercises. If it will compromise you or for some reason you just don’t feel comfortable with it then say “no”. or status. stand tall. background. Don’t be ashamed of your past. It’s not that bad. • I’m not trying to impress you. Don’t ever change just because someone else wants you to. If it’s reasonable and you’re up for it then say “yes”. One motto you can use is “I’m not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to impress me”. don’t hesitate to just smile and take the spot first. Just try saying it.

Why did I choose that as a kid? Beats me. They are trying to form a picture of who you are as a person. the stories you tell. I wanted to be that guy in the spotlight that made people jump to the beat of his melody. I wanted to be that guy that rocked people’s world with his guitar. and the way you present yourself to others. So what exactly is your identity? Continue reading because this whole chapter is dedicated to the subject of identity. when I’d just jump off the bed with a broomstick trying to mimic Slash from Guns n Roses.faCTor 2: IdenTITy Do you know what people think of the first time they meet you? Do you know the first thing that pops up in a woman’s head the moment you approach her? Do you know what she will think about the minute she gets home after meeting you? “Who in the world is this guy?” So let me throw the question at you… Who Are You? Trust me.” . It seemed just like yesterday. It All Started When You Were A Kid “There are two great moments in a person’s life: the moment they were born and the moment they realize why they were born. I don’t really know.Mark Sanborne So What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? When I was seven years old I wanted to be a rock star. Your job is to convey your identity all throughout an interaction. every single person you meet will wonder who you are. Maybe I wanted to be a rock star because I’d be famous worldwide. Maybe because it looked cool on television.  . Or maybe it was what everybody wanted at that time. all of these play an important role in establishing your identity. The clothes you wear. They ask you questions for a purpose.

Not that thinking it’s a bad thing. I thought I would never be an artist because of what everybody said to me… “Being a musician won’t get you anywhere… It’s useless. once said “The Sculpture is already in the stone” and I never forgot that. I had no other choice but to listen to what everyone said. I never really thought about it until three weeks ago when I was in a car with a bunch of friends. It really came from the heart but at such an early age. the product was already finished. Becoming a musician was a dream. You’ll need some time to work on this. he was already done before he started. I believe that the person we want to be is already inside of us. you’re better of just having a 9-5 job where you can make a constant stream of income” Unfortunately. peers. One of my favorite sculptors. I realize that each and everyone of us had dreams when we were little. As a result of growing up. Yes. It just put the pieces of the puzzle together for me. we just need a balance of both. I want you to pull out a piece of paper and jot down some notes. all he had to do was to chip away all the unnecessary stuff. We were all created unique and special. Then out of nowhere someone started playing my song on the radio. Now that I look back. It means that every single time that Michelangelo worked on chipping away pieces of his sculpture. So let me ask you this: What did you want to be when you were seven years old? How to Discover Who You Are I’m not going to keep you waiting any longer. I was easily influenced by my parents. then this is it. Here are several ways to discover who you are. and teachers. If there’s one thing I want you to accomplish after you finish reading this book. I’m an artist! I’m a musician! I really did achieve what I wanted when I was a kid. That’s when it struck me. We become better versions of ourselves. Michelangelo. This is a very important section in this book.  .The truth is. we tend to stop feeling and just start thinking. I didn’t stray away from it. when I was a kid. We were born to experience life and with that experience we grow and we learn. Success is in already inside all of us.

When you’re finished writing. think back. Don’t force yourself to finish all these exercises in a day.• What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? Come on. the things their passionate about. It can be a big or small goal. I want you to write down everything. You could probably never stop listing reasons here. and the things they believe in. indeed. Beliefs. you’ll discover what you’re passionate about. • What are the Three Things You Like About Yourself. What are the things that you value in life? What are the important things? What do you stand by? What do you fight for? • What are Your Three Biggest Accomplishments? By listing them. dating.. Be proud of who you are.  . • Make a List of Everything You Want to Become. Sky is the limit folks. But please try to restrain yourself. relationship. No one will judge what you write. • Make a List of 15 Goals For Next Year. health. Most men end interactions without really conveying their identity. • List 25 Things That Make You Happy. It always feels nice to remind yourself who you are. Embrace it with both arms. Some exercises will take time to finish. Write it all down. It’s always good to be mysterious but you should also find a way to convey your identity all through out the interaction. and traveling. So how is this useful in social interactions? Simple. are talented. Don’t be afraid to let everyone see. and Philosophies in Life. I want you to post it somewhere you can see it everyday. What makes you smile? What are the things you look forward to in the day? What’s your reward after a long day’s work? • Write Down Some of Your Main Theories. Read it as often as you want for 30 days straight. It can be related to fitness. I only want you to write down three. and write it down. business. No one can see what you write.. This leaves women with a blank picture on their head of who you are as a person. It will reaffirm in your mind that you.

travel. try something new. It provides them with a window to your being and this makes you interesting. Discovering who you are and the things that make you tick is something you should work on regardless of your goals in life. Give her a taste of what it’s like to be in your shoes for a minute. If you run out of things to do. You need to provide value. Do this at least every two weeks. and anything your heart fancies. If you’re enthusiastic about it then it becomes interesting to her. TRY THIS OUT This weekend. It puts you into a positive light but it’s still not enough to get you into any kind of relationship.So.  . I want you to do an activity you enjoy doing but haven’t done in a long time. Remember. what do you do when you run out of things to say? An effective strategy is to just talk about something you’re really passionate about. talk about the things that are interesting to you. Having this knowledge of yourself is so important especially when you’re interacting with people. Invite your friends along and have a blast. music. Bring her into your world. art. Discuss your perspectives on life.

I was walking in the mall with two girls. So why should she give you the time of day? What is in it for her? I hate to phrase it this way but at the end of the day. After all he had balls of steel for doing that.faCTor 3: lonG TerM and shorT TerM value So. it was hard to understand him with his accent. Just last week. appearance. How Women Decide If You’re A Contestant Most women have several choices of men from which to pick. Value is determined by a lot of things such as social status. and all the others I’m about to discuss. Value is broken down in to the categories: short and long term value  . It’s no secret that women get hit on all the time. waved. and a salesman pops up out of nowhere and asks one of the girls I’m with “Would you like to go out on a date with me?”. If these girls got hit on twice when they were with me. We smiled. Let me start out by giving you a glimpse of what it’s like to be an attractive woman. you must first understand them. then I wonder what happens when I’m not even present. communication. women usually pick the guys that can provide the most value to their life. and took off. Anyway. we weren’t mean to the poor guy or anything. Then I suddenly realized something. I hear that you want to the secrets to dating women of particular quality and beauty during the daytime… In order to learn how to communicate with women. lifestyle. In this society. I think that’s what he said. personality. it boils down to one question Are you an asset or a liability? It sounds so ridiculous but it’s true.

You’ll notice that women want to be around you more often. Now let’s go into some examples of how you can cultivate short term value. Almost like a drug. All you need are a few interesting topics in which you’re quite familiar. happiness. Laughter is a good feeling. etc. Let’s say you see a pretty woman as you walk into a coffee shop. just thinking about that moment…. Some ways of doing this are the way you groom and present yourself. That’s the power of short term value. Laughter serves two purposes: Builds attraction within a girl and creates an unspoken bond between the both of you. You will get far with humor. then you’re already ahead of the game. in fact you don’t have to be smart at all to pull this off. • Let your inner teacher shine. in my experience. Become unique. Do you remember the last time you shared a laugh with someone? Now. This is done by conveying a rich and textured personality. It’s the moment when we shut the whole world off for a second and connect with ourselves. Intelligence is another tool you can use to captivate a woman’s mind. you’ve got the ability to hold someone’s attention and  . comfort.Short Term Value & Ways You Can Build It Up! Short term value is determined by the experience you give women the first time you meet them. • Always provide positive emotions. It happens most of the time. Your job is to provide positive emotions like fun. Laugh with them… If you have the skill to make women laugh. There’s one problem though. If you can share your ideas with her passionately. It doesn’t specifically mean that you have come up with something super original. You don’t have to be as smart as Albert Einstein. There’s a big chance that somewhere in the world. People tend to gravitate toward people that make them feel good. You want to be able to laugh together. If she perceives you as being more valuable than what she’s currently doing. They’ll call you and even pester you to hang out with them. How did it make you feel? See my point. • Develop your own signature presence . Do you have what it takes to get her to want to slam her book down and just talk to you? It’s not impossible. The fact that you’re educated. then BAM. So the key is to be unique in that given environment. then she will go out of her way just to talk to you. you’ll instantly be magnetic to women. she’s busy reading something. Laugh. It’s addictive. someone’s doing exactly what you’re doing. stop. Communication is a tool you can use to your advantage but that’s in another chapter. • Laugh. excitement. Once you find a way to provide these emotions.

• Romantic. If you want her number then just ask for it. when she says “Where are we going?” say “We’re going to grab some ice cream. Take her by the hand and make it easy for her. Women constantly test for this. Always have an opinion. Women are drawn to guys that are happy. 0 . Cultured and Worldly. Wouldn’t you? • Decisive. Always lead and reassure her that she’s safe with you. It’s also an advantage if you’ve done some traveling. the possibilities are endless. Never say “I don’t know”. Always make it a point to be a decision maker. If you expect her to lead and even make the first move. as my friend Rish would say. and a handshake. These positive emotions bring value to their lives. Just remember. Instead of saying “Do you want to come?” say “Let’s go” instead. Don’t believe me? Did you know that romance novels account for majority of the sales in bookstores? And that’s why women just love a guy that can give them the romantic fantasy. Teach her a couple of things about your culture.interest. Show ‘em what you got! • You are the leader. “You’re so F****** money and you don’t even know it man”. Are your outfits coordinated well? Does your belt match your shoes? Do you understand poetry and the different works of art? Do you know the best restaurants in your city? Do you understand the world of fashion? Do you know a couple of classic movies? If you’re equipped with this. and a plan. and enthusiastic. joyful. Happy. a few fun games you probably learned as a kid. If she says “I’m not sure about this” say “You’re gonna love it. share your knowledge with the world. trust me”. Lead the interaction. This is usually learned through your family and the people you’re surrounded by. decision. For example. Lead the conversation. traditions. language. a trick. Joyful. • Classy. teach everyone something. Classy defines someone who has high standard of personal behavior. and Enthusiastic. then it will be very hard for women not to notice you. Let’s go”. You can go on with this. Your job as a man is to lead the interaction. Don’t be afraid to take a stand and follow it up with an action. I know it’s easier said then done. If you can be a substitute for a romantic novel then. Women love romance. They want a man who knows what he wants. This can be conveyed with your attitude and the right assertiveness. If you step into that role she will allow you to play the role. then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

Now it’s time to cultivate your long term value. but it’s sort of like a gut feeling.  . Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something in life. continue the relationship. or go on a date with you when you’re not there! These are the times when she probably evaluates you as a package and sees if you’re worth it. As hard as it sounds. The only difference is that you’re not selling an actual product. • Emotional Connection. Boredom is the enemy. The whole courting process is very similar to sales. Make it a routine to continuously be learning. Stay tuned! • Dare to Dream. a girl decides if she wants to see you again. Do something new every single month. I think this is one major factor for women who are looking for a commitment. YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELF! Here are the features that you can add on to increase your long term value • Become a renaissance man. The most obvious one is the way one talks about life. Make your life an open book. Do something adventurous. Coming up in the next couple of chapters.LONG TERM VALUE & WAYS YOU CAN BUILD IT UP So you’ve learned how to demonstrate short term value. There are a lot of ways ambition can be conveyed. dangerous. Women crave men who are ambitious. A renaissance man is considered a man at the centre of the universe. Your long term value is responsible for keeping a girl hooked on you. It’s time to rediscover and redefine yourself. I can always tell the people who are ambitious from the ones that aren’t. It’s hard to explain over in text. Sounds like a sales pitch right? Right. From experience. Pick up a book every two weeks and read it. Remember. Short term value opens the door to her life. or exciting and live to talk about it. limitless in his capacities for development. They smell this quality a mile away. Here’s a short description I found on the internet. And don’t forget to make it an interesting book. Lean more toward the energy that they give off. You have to walk a little bit to get through the door and make sure that you stay in it. these are the things that go on behind closed doors. That’s why you want to give her the best option so she can make an educated decision.

• Financially self-sufficient. • Tenderness and Sensitivity. Firm and Strong. now how do you respond to it? Do you get all offended and convincing her that you’re a cool guy deep down inside? Or do you just accept it with a smile. You need to be able to support yourself and show potential for becoming financially stable one day. Do you assert your wishes on others? Do you make sure that you’ve got everything under control? Do you bargain your way into getting something you really want? Do you take a stand a support it fully? • Sex God.  . Don’t you wonder what women are trying to find out when they ask “So. “I want a guy who is rich. Do you listen to her when she opens up to you? Do you act as a protector and make sure she’s always taken care of? Do you steer her around corners when you guys are walking around? Do you make her feel comfortable at times when she’s not? • Assertive. tall. It’s not a prerequisite for her to date you but it plays a huge role if you want to have a smooth long term relationship. Sex releases endorphins and it relaxes the body. I’m not saying that all women are gold diggers. It’s fun. • Self-assuredness. what do you do for a living?” They’re trying to get a glimpse of how much money you earn. It’s not good to be too unpredictable either. It is no secret that women love men that are great in bed. At times be romantic and shower her with attention and the next day treat her like one of your buddies. How do you move through the world? Are you afraid to take up space in the world? Or are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you let bad criticisms get to you? Or do you accept them confidently? A simple test would be a woman giving you a hard time about something you either wear or do. They also like men that know exactly how to press their buttons and provide satisfaction. This is similar to being confident. This is conveyed with the way you speak and carry yourself. This can be demonstrated by the way you treat her. Women like men that can give them a wonderful experience. Women are sexual beings just like we are. say “thank you”. It’s good to create a contrast in your personality. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard that phrase from women. They enjoy sex as much as we do. Being predictable takes the excitement out of a relationship or interaction. All I’m trying to say is that women screen the men to see if they are relationship material. I hate to admit it but money is a deciding factor in the dating game. and move on to the next topic? • Keep ‘em Guessing. They get all excited when you do this. and handsome”. Unpredictability is the spice of life.

you should have a killer understanding of inner foundation. if you’ve been doing everything right.  . You at least need to be between 3-5 in all ranges in order to be successful with women. and a couple of helpful tips. Remember. Now go through each quality I mentioned in this chapter and rate yourself from 1-5 (1 being the lowest and 5 the highest). TRY THIS OUT Read through this chapter again. That’s the reason why communicating effectively is a topic I spend several hours teaching at the workshops. it’s useless. I want you to take a good look at yourself and your life. When you’re done. you can have the best line or script in the world but if you can’t present it well. By now. then take a week to focus on this specific quality. big goal concepts. If you’re below 3 in one of the qualities I outlined here.These are some of the essential components to building long term value.

He looks over and notices big boobs. He starts getting excited or nervous and he knows why.faCTor 4: effeCTIve CoMMunICaTIon Your communication skills will either make or break you in your quest for success in all areas of your life. Contestant # 1. describing a movie you watched to your friends. Deep down. She sees this average looking guy.Mr. That’s all it is. He’s smoking hot. Plain Jane starts to slowly face away from Mr. Plain Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. He seems to carry himself well and has a good sense of style. I’m not going to sugar coat it. You must develop strong and effective communication skills in order to get what you want in life. a body to die for. I didn’t even notice the time. After three minutes of boring conversation and ineffective communication. And then. In that moment. She’s enjoying the moment. Hours pass by. Wow. he notices something moving from his side. but it’s a key ingredient my friend. he walks toward her and starts talking. Plain or Hot Jane Scenario 1: Ms. Hot Stuff makes his way to talk to her. Average Guy’s hormones go wild. there’s more to it than that. that was fast. Let me give you an example. she got him all excited in less than a second… Contestant # 2. you need to be able to communicate effectively. Average Guy General Scenario: Mr. probably not. Ms. tata!” Scenario 2: Ms. She heads over to the table to sit down. Two minutes later. Next thing you know. I almost forgot. Minutes pass by. nice hair. Hot Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. She’s excited but she’s not going to give it all away because of that. and a Mona Lisa smile. So what was the component that determined success and failure in each interaction?  . She sees this guy. Actually. That’s the secret to success beyond your wildest dream. It was nice meeting you though. he wants her. I have to rush back home because I left the light on my boyfriend’s room. Mr. She stands up and leaves the coffee shop with him.Ms. or instructing a cab driver where you want to go. Mr. He started out as a stranger and left like her lover. Hot Stuff. Whether you’re working on presenting an idea to other people. Average Guy is innocently looking for clothes to buy. she deploys her killer line: “Oh.

Remember what she says. Presence is Everything I’ll share something with you. it’s a really cool exercise. I’m in the mood for a caramel macchiato. No one else will find out all these positive things about you. • Women to feel exactly any emotion that you want them to feel allowing you to control and predict the outcome of your interactions. your beliefs. • What you want. when you want it. You are what you communicate. Just try it out for fun. Most guys I’ve met always ask me for the techniques I use to start conversations with women. Then hand out your cash or card. Does the barista ask you any questions afterward? Good. The Communication Equation Individual + Effective Method of Presentation + Powerful Content of Presentation =Effective Communication TRY THIS OUT Go out to a coffee shop one of these days and order your favorite drink. One of the most common question I hear is “What do you say to her to start the conversation?”  . For example: “Hmmmmmm. and your values in life.Effective communication. • More dates and maintain relationships easily. to go please. Just think about it. you can live the most interesting life in the world. When you know how to communicate well you can get . with no whip cream. it’s useless. and how you want it • Your message across clearly for anyone to understand • Recognized for your ability to comm-YOU-nicate who you are. Now the next time you go out.. You can have 99 good qualities about you but unless you know how to effectively communicate them... make sure your order is so clear that you won’t be barraged with questions after your order.. decaf.

fear. They categorize you based on how you stand up. when I say a lot. sadness. There have been several studies shown that women prefer men that smile while initiating a conversation. Holding eye contact builds trust and comfort. Smiling makes women feel comfortable.  . joy. It worked because of the way I presented it. It’s all about how you present yourself. Facial expressions are used to convey emotions like anger. I mean a lot. I found that saying to be true. • Facial expression. and how you carry yourself. I guess the saying “The eyes are the windows to the soul” does have meaning. Have you ever heard the saying “People buy you first before anything else”. Along the way. or walk? Are you relaxed and calm during most times? Do you lean back when you talk to her? Do you move unnecessarily during the conversation? Your non-verbal communication is the window to who you are. It eases women up at times when they’re nervous. Did you know that there is a way to use eye contact to increase the effectiveness of your communication? It’s very important to hold eye contact at certain points in the interaction. how relaxed you are. It really does. Having said that. Are you comfortable with the way you stand. Women are masters when it comes to reading body language. • Communicate with your eyes. Practice using a variety of facial expressions when you tell people stories. here are six helpful tips to increase the power of your presence: • Learn how to smile. And believe me. sit. I noticed that some techniques worked better than the others (more about techniques in the last chapter) but there was always one thing common that made my approach work. It makes a big difference. How’s your vocal projection and delivery. and surprise. Your facial expressions can communicate messages of their own. How stylish are you? What kind of fashion statement are you making? What can people tell about you by the way you dress up? Does your style leave a good or bad impression on others? Do you command attention? • It’s not what you say but how you say it. • Fashion. rather than being all serious and mysterious. disgust. This helps to get your message across more effectively.I’ve experimented with a lot of conversation starters in public places. A genuine smile can take you a long way. Do you slow down your pace when you’re emphasizing a point? Do you use pauses to amp up the tension and intrigue? Do you speak loud and clear for people to hear? Do you speak from your diaphragm or nasal? Do you eat your words? Are you relaxed when you speak? • Body Language.

then it won’t feel like it’s a conversation. talk and carry yourself? I think that body language is the biggest giveaway when it comes to revealing who you are and how you feel. Experiment with it. At high and fun points take a step closer or move your chair closer. If you’re nervous all throughout the interaction. Next time you’re in an interaction. Men tend to easily get intimidated with women that are way above their league. Thou shall not have thy hands inside the front pockets. 2.Body Language Tips for Day Game “Your body language. the way you walk. The  Commandments of Effective Body Language 1. and slowly get closer at specific points of the interaction. don’t move your hands around too much when you talk. Man starts to make unnecessary movement because of the extra energy he feels. It’s really funny to watch. For some reason. It usually goes like this: Man sees attractive woman. Try mixing it up. Thou shall not stand or sit too close or too far from her.  . If you stay to close to her. I feel comfortable when my hands are out of my pockets. Thou shall relax and lean back. Thou shall not shake or move a lot in the presence of an attractive woman. So here’s to a good first impression. man tends to change his behaviors and act way cooler then he really is. 3. When woman gets close. placing your feet up on chairs. chances are she’ll be nervous too. 4. Never have your hand inside your front pockets when you initiate a conversation with anyone unless it’s below freezing and you don’t have any gloves. then she will feel very uncomfortable. even if you’re nervous. At the same time. That includes doing things like slouching. I’ve had success with starting off at about 3-5 feet away. Man starts to smile nervously. and leaning against the wall. If you’re too far from her. At low points step away a little bit. you slowly start to feel more relaxed. right from the bat. will provide women with enough information to categorize you based on the impression you just gave them” Have you ever thought about the things you convey about yourself based on your body language? Did you know that women can tell if you’re confident and cool or nervous and inexperienced just by the observing the way you walk. and the way you move through this world on a daily basis. just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. I’ve discovered that when you assume a relaxed position. Man gets very jittery.

I’d stutter. For example. Everything changed. They’re shoulders become tense and they act all stiff to the point that they make themselves nervous.  . If you’re guilty of this. Thou shall walk and move slow. 7. I used to lay down flat on the floor and take deep breaths. And the more I started acting that way. Have you ever been in a situation gone bad? You probably didn’t notice at that time but everything about you changed. 6. For some reason. They’re not some sort of super human goddesses from outer space you know? They do the same things you do. Thou shall not stand up like a soldier. Mirroring her body language is a technique used to increase rapport and comfort levels. 5. They stand up so erect that it’s almost too funny to watch. and eventually make a shameful exit. the more positive responses I got from women. 8. They took their time almost like they owned time. The exact same thing I did every time I experienced a mild confrontation. and moved slow. I modeled this behavior after guys that were naturals when it came to dealing with women. it helped me relax more. Everything they did was almost too smooth. They walked. Not good. They just exert more effort and time into looking good. I’ve learned that if you keep your composure and act as if nothing happened then you end up maintaining control of the situation. Thou shall mirror her body language. when I’m calling up a girl for the first time. Thou shall keep thy composure at all times. Have you ever been guilty of standing up too straight while you’re talking to a woman? Similar to how you would stand and act if you’re talking to an authority figure? Most guys take interactions with women too seriously. Your voice tone probably changed. The way you stood up probably changed. Women are human beings too. talked.Do whatever makes you feel better. relax. I used to be that way every time I thought I got rejected by women. It shows people that you were emotionally affected by it. become jittery.

.. I just like to give. I’ve been guilty of this as well. My presences makes people feel better. Don’t be too stiff. It happens so often that it’s become normal. I move through the world with something to offer to everyone.. It’s sad and I see it happen every day.... That’s the reason why women instantly open up to me when I initiate a conversation with them.. I give without really expecting anything in return.. I talk about my life experiences and my view on things because I just want to share my life with other people. I’ll take care of you and make you feel like you’re part of my family. Here’s my view of the world: “I am a man. Those one-way friendships where people just call you when they need something from you. that’s a different story... Hands out of the pockets. It makes me happy.  . Be comfortable. But once you betray my trust.. I offer positive and fun emotions. Be comfortable.. At the same time I know my boundaries and I won’t be taken advantage of. Relax. Inhale.. And make sure not to fall asleep.. It’s also the reason why I can give a woman a compliment without seeming like I just want to get in her pants.. Take a deep breath..TRY THIS OUT Lean back.. Exhale. Give Before You Take A lot of people are used to taking things from the world and from people....... I’m the sweetest and coolest person you’ll ever meet. Slow and confident movements... I bring fun and excitement to everyone I meet.. People that just ask favors all the time.. Don’t tense your shoulders up. I am a man and I have something to offer the world…” That’s how I view the world. Relax. Feet spread apart... Your job is to not be one of those guys. Be comfortable. Relax.. People that just keep asking question after question without really contributing toward the conversation.....

TRY THIS OUT Effective communication will open doors for you in this life. It’s rare. So if effective communication opens doors for you. And you’ll soon realize that it opens women up to your ideas and messages as well. then do you know what makes you stick in her mind? Endlessly? 0 . You should learn to cultivate it. People sense this quality. I am focused more on giving to people rather than taking anything from them.That’s the reason why I am who I am right now.

it’s done in little quantities but never enough for her. And that’s because they can’t live up to their role of being a man. Guys like these usually worship the women they are with. If it does. Women wish that these guys would just stop for a second and actually take time to show her how much he appreciates her. Let me tell you a little bit more about me. This guy is usually submissive in a relationship. women crave the feminine side in men. Women like men that can act like men. He’s more sensitive than most guys and actually shows his sensitive side. Men are usually too masculine or too feminine. you need to cultivate both your masculine and feminine side. frat boys. Growing up. I’m about to tell you why. They usually fall under the extremes. bikers. He rarely has control of the things that are going on in his life. gang members. He’s actually much rarer than a really hot girl that has it all together. Almost to the point of “I’ll do anything for you. in the long run. That’s off the wall. It rarely happens though. How to effectively build an emotional connection.  . It’s hard to find guys that are just right in the middle. This always keeps her on her toes. and I had to work on this aspect later on. Certain profiles are assholes. So why are women attracted to guys that act like jerks? Women are attracted because they don’t acknowledge her as some sort of higher being than them. even if you treat me bad”. I never really had a strong male influence in my life. Somewhere along the road. she’ll be able to make him change. She hopes that one day. Women are attracted to the two profiles but there’s a flaw that exists in both. I grew up with four little sisters. Now let’s talk about the guy with a feminine profile. He is rare in this society. That’s 14 girls for every 1 guy. A man who is masculine and knows how to communicate with women. Let me explain. I’d like to call this the heart of day game. At the same time.faCTor 5: eMoTIonal ConneCTIon Now we’re getting to my favorite part of the book. The ratio of girls to guys in my family is about 14:1. I also happen to be the only guy. women lose respect for this type of guy. In order to be successful with women.

 . I unconsciously learned how to be comfortable around women and vice versa.Women look for men that are strong and at the same time gentle. Understanding Women In order to become successful with women. Someone who treats her like a woman and the same time puts her at her place when there’s a need for it. Ideally. But guys like that are just hard to find. Do it. I understood what made them feel comfortable. Looking back. It taught me things that I never knew I knew. Her logical side makes all the decisions but there’s a much stronger side that can completely override it… it’s her emotional side. I became familiar with the way a woman’s mind worked. but that’s not until later. I was very fortunate to be surrounded by women early on in my life. you first have to understand how they operate. Women have two sides to them… A logical side and an emotional side Oh I forgot. they also have a physical side. If you want proof that the above statement is true then I double dare you to show it to ANY of your female friends. Someone who sees them for who they truly are and at the same time treats them as an equal. Why they do the things they do and why they act the way they act. it will be another fun experience for you. and how their minds works. Anyway. I learned what they really wanted in a guy. Someone who has firm beliefs and opinions and at the same time is open minded. the things they want. Someone who can make her experience a variety of emotions and at the same time give her a chance to do the same. Come on. I learned how to build a long lasting emotional connection. I learned how to communicate with them effectively. not just what they said they wanted. women dream of guys that have cultivated both masculine and feminine sides to them. back to my story. Someone who takes the bull by the horns and at the same time cares if she’s comfortable. And most of all. If nothing else.

There are tons of emotions that take place prior to it. A guy that would sweep her off her feet and appreciate her for who she truly is. They enjoy experiencing emotions and they communicate with it. She’s been exposed to movies about love and destiny. That’s why most women read romance novels and watch soap operas. the heart will follow. she was probably exposed to all these romantic Hollywood Disney movies. That’s the same reason I believe that “If you can captivate the mind. I’m going to take you through a journey that’s about to open your eyes to the world of women.. and keep women… And that’s the fact that. This just encouraged her to believe that one day. A place that’s been buried deep down inside that’s probably never been forgotten. dreams. And now I’ll reveal to you the Equation for Getting Any Woman You Desire! Logical Connection + Emotional Connection + Sexual Connection + Proper place and time = The Perfect Seduction. shhh it’s a secret. That’s probably the same reason why make up sex is better than regular sex. There’s one thing I want you to know before I give you all the techniques and tactics to meet. That’s because there’s emotion involved in it. it’s the other way around. and not long after that. date. the body will too…” Looking back at my experiences. I’m going to give you a sneak peek at a place within women that they don’t want you to know. Growing up. A guy that will come along and push all her buttons making her cherish  . the perfect guy would come along. and fantasies. this is the natural progression of all my successful interactions. It’s a place full of hopes.Women want you to believe that her logical side is in control but in reality. Women are emotional creatures. They are filled with emotions. And it all began when she was a little girl. Drama is also something that certain women might be addicted to.. Every Woman Has a Fantasy Let’s rewind.

These women are what we call the “Hopeless Romantics”. Deep. A guy that will take her on a memorable experience. hot. Anyways. and famous. This is at the deep core of every woman. Maybe it’s not exactly what she wanted. They go after the rich. Everyone starts out as a hopeless romantic or they develop it later on in life. Not everything turns out to be the way you expect it to be. A guy that knows what to do and how to do it. It’s because they’ve been hurt before. it satisfies her. And Spiritual Level + Appreciation + Comfort with Presence + Commonality and familiarity + Shared Emotions = Long Lasting Emotional Connection  . but it kept her busy during that period of time. She learns and begins to grow. Most of them just end up being disappointed. Core.. They do it because it works. Some women actually ended up holding on to that dream. This explains why women may act bitchy at times. Maybe a relationship gone wrong or just a really traumatizing experience. and go for more superficial things. These women constantly wait for their prince charming every single day. Chances are they probably get into relationships hoping that someone can fit that role. This causes them to toss away that dream. just like what happens when kids find out that Santa Claus isn’t real. Some women forget about this side of themselves usually because they get really hurt from a certain experience. That causes them to protect themselves by acting “bitchy”.. They’ve probably had a rough past. or available guys that probably can’t give them what they need. But at that moment.the experience even more. Then she grows up and begins to realize that not everything’s perfect. The Hidden Formula For Creating An Emotional Connection Man Opens up + Woman Opens Up + They Connect on Surface. This is when they just start to settle for anything else out there.

you can almost see it. Once in awhile I like to add “I can’t believe I’m telling you this… I don’t even tell this to the people I’m close with…” This little piece gets the message across. Just learn how to keep on talking and sharing your experiences. When she pauses. Relate with her. That’s why it’s important to become comfortable with sharing your life experiences with other people. 5. and the things you value in life. Always be leading. At the same time. Of course. By telling her a secret. don’t just open up to her. You can see her face either light up or the other way around. It makes you look smarter. You have to know how to relate with her. As an exercise. you just build an unspoken bond between the two of you. Wait for another 3-5 seconds before you interject. don’t talk. You’re setting the standard here. you also want to encourage her to share a secret with you. and then give your answer. she actually gives you the winning cards that you can use on her. How do you expect her to open up to you if you don’t do the same? One way to help her open up to you is to do it first.  . early on in the interaction. You’re vulnerable as well. build an unspoken bond. Sharing a deep experience will encourage her to do the same. Lead with your personality. It’s important to emphasize and describe exactly how you feel. it shows her that you’re just a human being. You must tell her in a way that she can understand. once again. 3. Whether you’re telling a story or just explaining your current mood. It’s an important skill to be able to describe an emotion so effectively that she begins to feel it. Share a deep experience. 4. just keep quiet and listen. will set up the stage on how it’s going to be. That’s right. Tell her something that nobody knows about you.Crash Course: 8 Killer Strategies in Order to Build an Emotional Connection 1. It adds depth to your personality. Everything you do. The emotion in this scenario will. Most guys just relate with her on a superficial level. it takes two to tango. 6. Open up to her. After all. it will give you a better picture of how you can effectively seduce her. Once you do a good job at describing the emotion. She’ll feel like she knows you better. and vice versa. Everything she says is gold! Later on. It solidifies whatever connection that’s present. Tell her how you feel. This makes her feel super special. It’s always better to relate on the deeper topics. this will help a lot in building a connection. 2. Most men focus on logical stuff. pause for a bit. So the next time a woman starts to open up to you. Shut up. It’s what I call the “Go First Principle”. beliefs. You automatically become special once she’s shared this with you. Open up to everyone you meet. Especially if you know exactly how to tell her how you feel. Same thing when women ask you questions. Don’t interrupt her when she begins to open up. Practice being social.

then you’re ahead of most guys out there. I’ll just let her talk. What I’ve found to be very effective is to hold the “Me too” for 10 minutes or so and later in the conversation. let’s say she talks about how much she just loves to dance. Pacing and Complimenting. in your head. Instead of telling her “That’s so cool. me too” whenever the opportunity arises. More about this on the last section. Now. if I’m also into dancing.. make a conscious effort to actually implement them the next time you’re out.. I’ve noticed that most men are eager to say “Yeah. then later on. ask yourself if you were implementing the concepts covered in this section. I’ll start to talk about it indirectly. It comes across as if you’re trying too hard to be similar with her. You’ll notice a big difference in your interactions. Another example: Let’s say she tells me that her favorite band is Pearl Jam. or let her discover it on top of my CD player.  .7. I like Pearl Jam too” I’d rather play my Pearl Jam CD when she rides in my car. Are you aware of the value of building an emotional connection now? Do you know that there are two things that you need to add to the equation in order to build the ultimate bond? That brings me to my next topic. I’ll just casually slip in a story about how I won a dancing contest or something like that. 8. If you’re good at connecting with women. Kill the quick me too. TRY THIS OUT Play back the last conversation you had. If not. even let the subject drift off. For example.

a loud booming voice. So when you walk up to women in this setting the first thing they think about is “Is this guy cool enough for me to talk to? There are so many guys. With the different crimes out there. here are the facts. She’s probably by herself. looking for clothes. Let me share with you a quick story on how I discovered this key element. loading up on gas. And do you remember what your parents told you about strangers? Don’t talk to strangers. Whenever someone talks to her she instantly considers them a stranger. her peer group and the competition. it’s a social context. That’s why it’s so important to take her on an. or shopping for groceries. INSTANT DATE That’s right. it’s a date right on the spot. and some serious entertainment skills. show up on a date. Well. You can be anyone dangerous and she wouldn’t even find out.faCTor 6: CoMforT & TrusT There are a lot of differences between learning how to meet women in bars and club as opposed to public places.. the drinks. she must be comfortable with you. why should I talk to him”. When you’re in a bar or club. She’s a woman and you’re a man.  . So you’ll have to equip yourself with a unique style. In order for her to go anywhere with you. Who says you need to wait a couple of days before you take her out? Taking her on an instant date will dramatically increase the chances of her picking up your calls and going out with you later on. or even answer your call. During the day time. she must at least trust you a little bit. strangers can be bad. So what factors do you have to address when you’re planning to meet women in public places? COMFORT AND TRUST In order for them to call you back. In the bars and clubs you have to deal with the music.. women just need to be extra careful nowadays. it’s a whole other story.

after a bit of conversation she said. I went out with my buddies to go learn how to meet women in malls. she was the one who took the bull by the horns. shortly after getting inside her car. “Hey. I’m really thirsty. my legs are tired. I complied.” Another 20 minutes passed by and she said “Let’s go for a walk. Are you ready for this? While I was chatting with my buddies. she lived like five minutes away from the mall by the ocean. “Hey. In that moment. is history… If we ever meet one of these days. I hit the five minute mark. I noticed this tall brunette girl. I left my cigarettes in the car. I would have been very happy if I got to hold a conversation for three minutes. I was completely clueless at that time.A few years ago. It was to start a conversation and stay in for three minutes. let’s sit over there”. had a slim figure. And the rest I would say. I ended up kissing her. She was in a business outfit and had some shopping bags with her. And then all of a sudden. Apparently.  . She was about three inches taller than me. Anyways. and a cute semi angelic/naughty face. In my mind. we ended up talking about her place. Three minutes passed by. come with me”. this was the day that changed my life. It was on. Then she pulls off her killer line “Hey. To cut the long story short. Fifteen minutes passed by and she said. I’ll probably tell you what happened. I was doing pretty well. I still couldn’t believe it though. but now that I look back. Let’s go to Starbucks and get something to drink. only if you promise to keep it to yourself. I remember my goal for that day. My heart skipped a beat for a second. I slowly stopped her from walking and we ended up chatting for a bit. considering it was my first time trying to meet girl at malls. I keep kicking myself in the foot. She kept on leading me and I followed. Looking back at that interaction. I looked her up and down. she starts fixing her bra in front of me as I was talking. Little did I know. to get our blood to circulate throughout our bodies…” Then while we were walking.

It creates a shift in the atmosphere. regardless of any technique you use. you’re a STRANGER in her eyes. It’s really powerful. • Shift from “You vs. Me” to “Us vs. let’s go”. • Decreases the chances of flaking later on. having a shared bond between the two of you. That bond is unique for every girl. When you first meet her. I stole my whole script from her. • Gives you more time to get to know her better. When you go on an instant date you become a potential partner.Of course. she puts herself in a position where something bad can happen to her. It helps you get through conversational stalls. At least. that’s how her mind processes it. TRY THIS OUT The next time you’re in a conversation for more than 10 minutes. Helps you reach your goals faster. you significantly increases the chances of her calling you back and going out with you. is to create an “Our World” vibe. I’m going to grab a drink real quick and since you’re fun. you can tag along. It gives you more time. They say things like “We should hang out sometime” and “Yeah. Somehow it creates a new environment for the both of you therefore making it easier to talk about other things. You’re still a complete stranger. • You keep the interaction moving forward. you officially are operating on a different level. It’s like going out on your first date right there and then. • Helps you get through conversational barriers. • Chance for you to show that she’s safe with you. At least try to. you should give me your number”. Them”. So it’s your opportunity to prove to her that you can be trusted and that she’s safe with you. Forget the concept of getting her number for now. If you play your cards right. • It separates you from all the other guys. You’ll play on a different level. It keeps you moving forward. Most guys just go for her number.  . With a little bit of tweaking I’ve used something similar and have experienced unbelievable results with it. You’re not like that. More time means getting to know her better and vice versa. When you’re at a high point in the interaction (Example: she’s laughing or there’s a good vibe) just say: “I’m really thirsty. When you get her on an instant date. Your primary goal when you start talking to a woman. Let me give you the benefits of going on an instant date • You get to hit two birds with one stone. take her on an instant date. That means. When she takes the chance and goes to coffee with you.

Ok. Probably you’ve passed the test with flying colors and you even have a lot of inside jokes and secrets. 0 . What’s the next move? You’re supposed to be in tune with the environment because it will help you figure out the best logistical approach you can use to escalate the interaction further. so let’s say you’ve done a great job at interacting with her.

What if I told you that… She would have gone home with you only if you were prepared?! Won’t that piss you off? Sure did piss me off. here are 0 Golden Tips To Help You Master Your Logistics 1. Your place will say a lot about you. Know your location well. Make sure you have a clean place. With that in mind. Have some pillows and blankets at the back of your car. and me. a guitar. Remember. You’ll never know where you’d end up going. just in case. Know exactly what to do before you even go out. It was the painful truth. Bring protection. when I discovered that. Enough said.faCTor 7: loGIsTICs Do you know where you’re going? A lot of guys don’t go out prepared. 3. a blanket. Is your place classy or trashy? Does your place convey what you’re passion about? What does it say about you? Do you have clean sheets or dirty ones? Do you have dirty clothes all over the floor? Does your place smell good? 6. The BEST experience in my life involved a girl. Don’t ever sabotage your success by not being prepared. 5. Pick five places in your mall that you will take her on an instant date.  . A nice little fold up sleeping bag that fits two people in it will do. You can also string along and take her on multiple instant dates. a beach. Have a pen and paper with you. That’s an advanced topic though. How will you take her on an instant date? What will you say to get her number? How do you get her back to your car? How do you get her back to your place? 2. 4. Not just give her number or take her number because it limits what you can do. Always have a pen and paper with you. Have a plan before you go out. you want to exchange contact information with her. And this is true especially for the beginners. Women will judge you based on how clean your place is and how creative you are with it.

Don’t give up at the first sign of resistance. When she says “Uhmmm. Almost as if she’s expected to follow you. It’s better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. you might say something to turn me off and I’d be running for my life” or something to that effect. stay an extra minute or two. then give it a shot! 9. Instead of saying “Can we…” say “Let’s go…” This little trick might make all the difference in your interactions. When you say “Let’s go” start to walk in the direction you want to go. This last piece of the puzzle is probably the most significant topic in this whole book. it all boils down to being prepared. Don’t ask just lead. with the guys that aren’t. don’t wait for her to ask. Next time you feel like walking a way. Stay in there. it might only take three minutes… who knows. The point is. 10. Women will sometimes refuse to do what you want them to do.7. It’s your job to lead the interaction. Get to know her and spend a little more time with her then try again. Assume first. Talk a little more. I’m in a hurry. always be prepared for contingencies. After we get some ice cream for five minutes.  . you can go on with your shopping… and besides. This will all make sense to you sooner or later in your journey. Always assume that she’s up for it. If you’re dropping her off at her house. Always be leading. Be prepared for contingencies. I need to do my shopping” say “That’s cool. Don’t be fazed by it and don’t walk away. It’s what separates the guys that are successful with women. 8. stop for a second. Tell her where you want to go. Again.

it becomes a lot easier. Once you’re passed that level. How much time does she spend with you? Do you see each other often? Do you spend some time talking with her on the phone? Does she spend a lot of time winning you over because you have standards? The more time a woman spends with you (Talking on the phone. Use it wisely. Another way to get her invested in you is to be physical with her. It makes things so much easier for the both of you. Talk about her passions. hanging out. She gets more and more invested in you every time she opens up. This stuff is very powerful.) the more she gets invested in you. In my experience. hopes. Physical Investment. and get her to be part of yours too. I don’t advocate playing with women’s feelings. Do you remember the last time you worked hard for something? How did it feel in the end? How satisfied were you when you accomplished it? This is the same emotion that women feel if they’ve worked hard for you. Social Investment. Here’s a list of the different types of investment a woman makes and how to get the most out of each and every one. future and share your view in life as well. is to be a part of her life.faCTor 8: InvesTMenT Do you know how to make someone want something? How do you make someone value something? Simple. You’ll start to realize that you can actually just relax and appreciate her company. dreams. The more they invest in you. Emotional Investment. sex opens up all the lines of communication. Sex is the biggest investment. It’s smooth sailing from there. make them work for it. Have you met her friends? Do they like and approve of you? Has she met your friends? Do you go out to social activities often? Do you have any mutual friends? They key to getting her to invest in you more. Time Investment.  . the higher the chance of you getting what you want out of it. etc. so use this stuff carefully. values. The best way to persuade a woman to do something is to make her want to do it. This goes back to building a solid emotional connection.

rAcking up dAteS. Yes. Here’s what he told me: “Right now. Before the workshop. You’re your own worst enemy.Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS. she’s way out of my league. I don’t get as nervous as I used to be. in my experience. Everyone else will see that I am talking to her and they will think that I’m a loser. I’ll be sharing with you the proper mindset that you should have before you go out there. something clicked inside of me. lines. Yes you would get results instantly! But that’s not the real challenge. After the weekend. She’ll ignore me. laugh at me. it’s what makes or breaks you. and all the tactics to meet women is easy. regardless of where I am. I felt like I wasn’t worthy to talk to them. She’s not even going to give me the time of day. I’m not even qualified to talk to her. and think I’m weird. I don’t want to talk to her. My whole view changed and I think that it had to do with the way I viewed things.” Here’s the truth… Practicing techniques. Mental barriers are very strong and. that’s your own self. And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndseT for MeeTInG WoMen I just got off the phone with a student I had last weekend. The hardest part is going against everything that is preventing you from achieving success. And most of the time. Since then I’ve been more relaxed and comfortable meeting women. I used to think that women wouldn’t want to talk to me. Here are the things that you should not think about: “Wow she’s so hot. You heard me right. And besides I’d have to try hard to entertain her  . Come on. I enjoy talking to people. I have nothing special about me.

I take pride in being me. you just have a couple of minutes to convince them to even hear you out. I am a man of purpose. It’s impossible…” I’ve heard that objection more times than I can count. You can see them crossing the street. or playing in the sand. My own values and passions define me. Every time I talk to women. I am who I am. The first step to being successful with women is to look at things in a positive way. shopping for clothes. Here’s how you should think and feel about meeting women… Ok. Looking at things in a positive perspective will get you far. The best part about it is that women are everywhere. I just can’t be myself and get her to like me. then she doesn’t know what she’s missing. I am doing them a favor. I’m everything and more that a woman can ever ask for. You will never run out of women to approach. where do I want to meet women?  . Here’s more. I make them happy. either way I’ll still be happy. you can take me or leave me. It’s a like a foreign concept for them. They’re completely clueless. If she rejects me.and be really slick and smooth. I live life to the fullest without apologizing for anything I do. imagine that you possess a winning combination to a lottery ticket. I don’t seek approval from anyone. I walk through this world as if I own it. Your job is to give the ticket away to anyone… But here’s the catch. People’s reactions toward me don’t define me. I live my life for me…” Where To MeeT WoMen There are dozens of places during the day time to meet women. I seriously doubt it. The one ticket that will probably get you set for life. So how does this apply to approaching women? Here’s how you should think… “I am a man of purpose. that person doesn’t know what a lottery ticket is. Any woman will be fortunate to get to know me. Women are fortunate that I give them the chance to get to know me. Now you’ve got to ask yourself.

supermarket. just be in tune with the social energy level of the location. bookstores. If you’re approaching a woman on the street then you can get away with speaking a little bit louder. etc. imitate them or slightly be more animated/energized then they are.  . parks. So the key is to be aware of the social energy in the place that you’re in. General places to meet women are malls. If you want spiritual girls. And she might not be used to handling it.In order to figure that out. streets. TRY THIS OUT Go to five places this week (coffee shops. So to avoid unnecessary complications. coffee shops. then that’s a different story. be In Tune WITh The enerGy level In order to be successful in approaching in various public places. and pretty much everywhere. If you want smart girls then hit up the library. Violating energy levels puts social pressure on the woman you’re talking too. you need to figure out what type of women you want to meet. Now. beaches. How loud do they speak? Do they command respect in an interaction or not? When you discover this. When you’re approaching a woman in a library. take advantage of that. you must be aware and in tune with its energy level. let’s talk a bit about specialization… If you want girls that are into health and fitness then go to the nearest gym. Did you know that the ratio of women to men in yoga classes is like 15:1? Well. and match it. college campuses.) and observe how people communicate. then join a yoga class.

If she’s walking to her car. Whenever I see a girl I’m attracted to. ask their opinion. she will stop. If you don’t command her full attention then she won’t process your verbal communication effectively. I want to meet her and I will meet her. I make sure to grab one and place it right next to her. The first thing I do is get her full and undivided attention. I suddenly feel the ball of energy inside of me. and so forth…. If she’s sitting down I make sure to sit down as well. So after I get her attention.Crash Course In sTarTInG ConversaTIon WITh WoMen Let me make something clear… There are dozens of ways to initiate a conversation with women. make myself comfortable. Let me give you some examples. You can tell jokes. and I slowly make my way towards her. I would slowly walk in her pathway so she would be forced to come to a complete stop. This is a very important step in my overall structure and let me tell you why. I say something like:  . If there’s no chair beside her. say something situational. After a little bit of tweaking. I found the perfect opener for daytime approaches. Tension begins to fill up my body. my heart pumps faster. I run after her and tell her to stop. Confidence begins to radiate through every part of my body. If she’s walking the opposite direction. It’s basic law of physics: An object in motion will stay in motion unless an outside force causes it to stop. There are no possible excuses in my mind. What’s the fastest and most efficient way of initiating conversation with women? I was looking for something that cut right through the bullshit. I needed something that I could use anytime. no matter where I was. They all work… I’ve tried them all. Here’s how it works. If you pull this off correctly. I act like she dropped something on the ground. and then deliver my conversational opener. But here’s the question.

she gives you a silent nod. When I say things like “I know this is totally random…I’m a complete stranger” it actually serves several purposes. Tell her you like her because you want her to know. honest.  . I continue with “I’m a complete stranger and I know this is really random but… I was just passing by… and I saw you standing there… I just wanted to tell you that you are… Really… Really… Beautiful. I use this to overcome any objection that might pop up into her head. Step : Tell Her the Reason Why You Are Attracted to Her Honesty is the best policy. Not because you want her to feel obliged to be nice to you. Women love guys that know what’s going on without a woman having to tell him. and sincere is the way women like to be approached (CAVEAT: If you do it right).“Hey… (pause) I begin to smile as my eyes are locked on her eyes. I found that being upfront. Sets up the proper foundation for the interaction right from the beginning. we shake hands. breaKInG doWn The opener Step : Pace her ongoing reality Pacing is an essential skill that you should master. Saying things that she can affirm as true. and I relax from that point forward I get to know her more for who she is. you instantly demonstrate that you’re honest and sincere. It shows her that you’re sensitive to her needs and that you understand her concerns. It makes her more comfortable. By addressing potential objections you demonstrate social awareness. Now let me break down the opener and explain to you why and how it works. When you use this approach. Gives her a chance to agree with you. Tell me about yourself” She smiles. It’s like an unspoken bond. only build your credibility in her eyes. It conveys that you’re intuitive and socially intelligent by nature. Every time you say something that she agrees with. The only reason why other men can’t pull this off is because they’re not coming from a place of power.

• Gives you a chance to introduce yourself. Even boring rapport questions will work after the opener. As soon as she starts answering your question. After she says anything that might impress you. Creates the feeling of attraction. Gets right to the point. It makes it official that you two are in a social interaction. I’m (insert your name here)”. It also… • Gets her committed to the interaction. When combined with the proper non-verbal communication and delivery. everything you say begins to be categorized in “The Potential Partner” context.  . this approach can be very deadly. what’s your story?” “Who are you?” “Where are you from?” Letting her talk about herself gives her the chance to impress you. This is a very powerful frame from which to come. everything you say will be in the “I’m getting to know you before we date” context. That’s because she’s processing the whole interaction differently.You tell people what you think about them. • Gets her to subconsciously accept you as a potential partner. you can say “I like that. This approach is so powerful that it creates attraction within seconds. Since you created so much attraction. Step : Give Her a Chance to Talk About Herself You want to get her involved in the interaction as soon as possible. Shaking her hand is very important. This is done by saying stuff like “Tell me about yourself?” “I just wanted to know if there’s more to you than meets the eye. It skips through most of the games and takes you were you want to be… and that’s building an emotional connection. she slowly becomes committed to the interaction. After the opener.

She smiles. which re-engages her back in the conversation. Indifference by far is the most powerful way to overcome this objection. Runaway girl (I sing playfully) Anyways.dealInG WITh ConTInGenCIes One of three things will happen. Second Scenario: She kind of likes it. what do you do for fun? * As you can see. depending on how well you execute your opener. 0 . First Scenario: She loves it. Talk Girl: Talks and walks away Guy: (smiles) Oh come on now. I also get to express my personality and my positive traits. She Walks Away While You’re Talking To Her Guy: Talk. and of course she wants to be perceived as classy so she will stay for a bit. She’s just being polite and sticks around for a bit to see what you have to say. But if I’m making you uncomfortable in anyway. then just walk away. I absolutely love the third scenario because it’s challenging for me. or doesn’t give you the time of day. Go on now. She wants to get to know you. Here are some examples of how you can handle certain situations. She’s not really enthusiastic about it. Guy: Awesome. So what do you like to do for fun? *I’m not even acknowledging her objection. Runaway girl. tries to walk away. Talk. I also tell her to walk away which is reverse psychology and then I act like it never happened by asking her a question. The Boyfriend Objection Guy: Opener Girl: I’m sorry. She becomes extremely flattered. I have a boyfriend. I tell her she’s way too classy to walk away. you’re way too classy to be walking away when someone is talking to you. Third Scenario: She gives you an objection. I set up an expectation for her.

I want you to remember this section and read it over and over again. I’m not one of those guys so don’t treat me like one of them. When you experience that situation. Guy: Why are you acting like this? Why can’t you just be yourself. Then you will begin to wonder what you’re doing wrong. This is just a protection shield. Now I want to share with you the Gift Shift theory. There are a lot of creepy guys out there that try to get something from you all the time.  . Guy: No worries. If you’re not going to be real. Talk Girl: Says something rude like “Why are you talking to me”. I’m almost sure. doesn’t look at you.She’s Rude Or Doesn’t Acknowledge Your Presence Guy: Talk. If you approach with the “I just want to get into your pants” mentality. This stuff is very powerful. So what do you do for fun? * See how I called her out on how she was behaving? It demonstrates that I am a man who demands respect in an interaction. The way you think and feel affects the way you interact with people. I was just having a bad day. look around you. or something to that effect. people are real. Grungey10: I understand. Sorry I was being rude. GIfT shIfT Theory In order for this approach to work. then it will not work for you. I know this is not who you really are. I’m just going to walk away (I act as if I’m about to leave). I don’t know where you’re from but where I’m from. Girl: I’m Michelle. You will get rejected by women left and right. Talk. Have you ever talked to someone before and felt like they just wanted something from you? Was it a gut feeling? How often were you right? I bet you were pretty accurate at it. In order for this approach to work you need to switch the way you see things. I’m Oliver. I know you’re a cool person deep down inside. you must come across from a place of power and positivism. So let’s give this a shot one more time. Come on.

you are. Your job is to give them an unforgettable experience. That means you have to barrel through her persona. Am I conveying who I am in an interesting way? Is she getting to know me or am I just talking out of my ass? TRY THIS OUT Next time you go out to meet women. you are a gift. There’s a catch though. I know. Take five minutes and imagine that you’re someone she’s been waiting for all her life. I’ve worked on myself to the point where I just am naturally attractive and interesting to women. I feel happy knowing that I’m about to make this person’s day. I feel happy. Your job is to take them on an emotional journey with you. away from the world they are in right now. it sounds sappy but it’s amazingly effective.  . She will only find out that it’s you after she’s gotten to know you. Yes. She’s read about you in books. I get results because I have something positive to offer. Your job is to provide women with positive emotions. She’s seen you in movies. You have the upper hand and not the other way around. you’re giving that gift to her. You’re the guy she talks about with her best friends. You can do it too. Whenever I talk to people. You are a gift. Knowing this information how does this change the way you’ll view your future interactions? Remember. She’s been dreaming about you.It’s simple. I want you to do this. they would fall for you? Ask yourself that question over and over again. I know. How would you act if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that if only women knew you.

The pInG ponG MeTaphor
In my opinion, conversations with women are very similar to playing ping pong or table tennis. The ball just keeps going back and forth across the table. One person hits the ball then the other person hits it back. It’s an ongoing cycle. That’s how conversations should be. Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Someone usually carries the conversational burden more than the other person does. Eventually the conversational ratio should be as close to 50/50, girl talks as much as guy does, but it takes skill to be able to do that. You need to be interesting and interested. I’ll say it two more times because it’s very important. You need to be interesting and interested. You need to be interesting and interested. Making sense so far? Were you ever in a conversation with someone who talked way too much? It’s like you were watching television because you couldn’t contribute to the conversation at all. On the flipside, were you ever in a conversation with someone who just kept asking question after question without really contributing anything at all? Well you need the balance of both. You need to lead the interaction and at the same time, get women to follow your lead. You need to help them invest in the interaction. Not everyone’s socially savvy. Sometimes, you need to make it easy for them to contribute to the interaction. This book help you cultivate the skills you need to be both interesting and interested. 

Go fIrsT prInCIple
“You must become the change you wish to see”- Gandhi In other words, if you think change is needed in a situation, think about changing yourself first before changing everything around you. I want you to look back on all the conversations you had with women that you liked. Here are some questions for you. Were you… Both comfortable, relaxed and at ease? Exchanging fun stories from your lives? Sharing secrets and vulnerabilities with each other? Speaking formally or like friends do? Able to build familiarity and substance in the interaction? Here’s my main point. If you want her to do something, you should do it first. If you want her to start opening up to you, you must open up to her first. It’s your job as a man to lead the interaction. You should lead and expect her to follow. TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation instead of asking a question, make a statement. Instead of saying “Where are you from?” tell them a story about where you’re from. Instead of saying “How are you” say “I’m feeling so happy today, you have no idea why”. See how people respond to you. 

poWer TalK
What you say and how you say it is critical when you’re interacting with someone. A couple of years ago, I remember watching a comedy show. This guy walked on the stage and started making jokes. There was forced laughter here and there but that’s about it. I ended up just looking at my watch impatiently thinking to myself “What time is this show going to end?!” Couple of months later, I watched another comedy show. A couple of minutes into the show, my stomach started to hurt from laughing, tears started falling from my eyes, he got me. I don’t remember laughing so hard in my entire life. The jokes weren’t extremely funny, it was his personality. This is true for everyone out there. Whether you’re a comedian, a salesman, a student, or a friend, people will respond to you based on how you present yourself. Here are some tips to empower yourself. • Avoid hesitation when you talk. Be firm with what you want. For example, instead of saying “Uhm, I was thinking if, uhm, we could go out sometime” say something like “Hey, I’m going shopping this Thursday, It’s going to be a blast, you should tag along”. Don’t flinch. Don’t be nervous. Say it like you would if you’re talking to your 11 year old cousin or something. • Power of ambiguity. Keeping a woman on her toes keeps things challenging in an interaction. Every other guy jumps at the opportunity to hang out with her again. Instead of giving all your cards away try using words like “maybe. We’ll see, I’ll get back to you on that one”. An example would be “Hey, you seem fun, if we’re both available this weekend, then maybe we’ll hang out”. • Avoid over politeness. Being overly polite communicates subordinate status. When you’re communicating with women, you shouldn’t treat them as if they’re a goddess from Venus. If you treat them like royalty, they will act like royalty. Treat them like you would treat your buddy. Don’t be overly polite. 

you MusT CreaTe a ConneCTIon “It all started with our ancestors. over and over again. My goal is to build familiarity and substance all throughout the interaction. I make her feel special for the person that she is. I want her to remember me when she wakes up the next day. When I do. I just want to touch base and build both familiarity and substance with her. Let me go over my structure on connection building. I don’t need to know her whole life story.Psychology 101  .WhaT To do afTer InITIaTInG The ConversaTIon A lot of guys don’t know what to do after they’ve initiated the conversation. it’s a combination of two things CAPTIVATE & CONNECT Captivate her with your personality by building a connection. I want to make a mega solid impression so that she won’t stop rambling about me with her best friend the moment our conversation ends. What was familiar was generally safe and approachable. After I’ve captivated a woman with my presence. I do it multiple times. I relate to her on the surface then I go a little deep and find out the things that make her tick. my next goal is to get to know her on multiple levels. I want to find out what makes her special. I want mutual appreciation. Then I try to build familiarity by connecting on a lot of different topics. Then we discuss each other’s passions in life and connect on a deeper level. I want to know what makes her tick. I relate to it and appreciate her for it.” . Well. I genuinely appreciate her and I am very successful at it because I believe that all women have something beautiful inside of them. What was unfamiliar was more often dangerous and threatening. What is my goal? I want to convey who I am as a person. to make it really simple. Evolution has hardwired into us the tendency to bond with those who are familiar and wary of those who are unfamiliar. So I start out by getting to know her on the surface level.

It’s my favorite part of the interaction. There’s a time when you should answer it. This is what separates you from every other guy that’s tried to meet her. She wants to find out if you’re real and if you have any depth to you. He’s cool and interesting. There’s a time to be cocky and funny and avoid a question that’s thrown your way but should you keep on avoiding it? No. It’s where the magic happens. Here’s a system you can use to build an emotional connection: Step 1: Build Familiarity Step 2: Build Substance Step 3: Appreciate Her as a person Step 4: Incorporate A Romantic Spin hoW To ansWer lIGhT rapporT QuesTIons A lot of people I’ve met still don’t know how to convey their personality in their day to day interactions with people. When she asks you a question. Building an emotional connection is the heart of daytime pick-up. Imagine how you would feel in this kind of scenario: A girl has been talking to a cool guy for quite awhile. You need to be in that place where both your guards are down and you can just connect on all levels. She’s hooked She becomes so interested that she starts to ask you questions to find out who you are. If you allow this process to happen. That’s the secret to a successful daytime interaction. and let her open herself up to you as well. you can build a connection with anyone you meet. she’s trying to figure out who you are as a person. then you create an emotional connection. No matter what system you use. So let’s break down what usually happens  . She’s trying to figure out if you have more going for you than your initial impression. your main goal is to get to the point in the interaction where you both can just be yourselves.I don’t care what anyone else out there thinks but if you can open your mouth and talk. The problem is most people don’t know how to convey who they are.

---------.Scenario 1: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: whoa! We’re getting a little ahead of ourselves here. we’ll get to that in a minute… anyway…. I’ve read ton of stories as a kid (insert something cocky or avoid the question asked) Conclusion: She wanted to get to know you better. being vulnerable with each other. Everything is fast paced back in LA. She was ready to build an emotional connection but you threw the opportunity away. give it a few days and that attraction will probably fade away. appreciating and relating with life experiences. Ideal Scenario: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: So where you from? Guy: Oh… You wouldn’t want to know… It’s extremely cold there… Girl: Where? Guy: I live in the North Pole… It’s so fun swimming with the penguins everyday… It makes me so happy Girl: Ugh… shut up!!! No really where you from? Guy: I actually moved here from LA two months ago.45 minutes later -----------Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: Oh. She may have been attracted to you at first but it won’t last for a very long time. Why? It’s because you’ve only created short term attraction. Real and long lasting attraction comes from building commonalities. and building a strong emotional connection. Things are so different back where I’m from. ( I talk about LA for a  . She ends up giving up and going home knowing nothing about you. When she gets home.

) What do you do? What are you really passionate about? What makes you tick? How did it start out? What happened then? What’s so special about what you do and how does it make you feel? Have you ever met someone that just talked about the same thing over and over again? It gets very boring after awhile. So remember: Never ever give boring answers to simple questions such as Where are you from? What do you do? What’s going on? Tips on how to do that 1. You actually demonstrate a lot of personality by being comfortable sharing your thoughts with her • You lead the conversation. Now. I was on my way to a ranch and it was really interesting. • It sets the stage for building an emotional connection. Like the other day. You’re not answering her question in a boring way. It makes her comfortable and easier to open herself up to you. It actually gives me time to think about everything going on in life and see the bigger picture. ask yourself What makes my place different from where I am right now? What’s so unique about my place? What are the fun things to do there? What do I love most about my place? How does it make me feel? What would you recommend for her to do in your city? 2.while then compare it to Tucson) Things are very simple out here. • It gives her a window of opportunity to see how you view the world and the type of person you are. We were driving through empty green fields and… (insert semi deep and meaningful story here) Conclusion: • You stand out from all the other guys because you differentiate yourself from them. • She knows right off the bat that you’re a good communicator. how you ever met someone cool that could just talk about anything under the sun?  .) Where are you from? When you get this question.

If you did the exercise. Done? Here’s are the things that came to me when I heard the word elephant: 1. you have around 130 words. 11. you’ll never run out of things to say ever again. let’s go one step further. 2. A sentence has how many words? Do you see where I’m going here? If you master the art of conversational vibes. Don’t tell me you don’t have any experience with at least one of the topics I listed above. do the exercise. Now.Like if you had a story about your grandfather. elephant is just one word. Alright. Give me 10 things that come to your mind with each word above. this is what familiarity is all about. If you had a story about your pet hamster. You need to connect on multiple topics. Animals Grey Tusk Ivory Africa Jungle Lion King 8. Think some more. she’d have one too. It’s called the association game. give me 10 things that you can associate with the world elephant? Take your time. she’d have one about her spider. 9. Ok. let me teach you a helpful exercise here. If you had a story about guns. 3. 5. 4. Come on. 6. what’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word elephant? Actually. it’s included here for a reason. 7. Cartoons Movies Big Zoo Water That’s all Alright. 13. 12. Here’s the beauty of it. then you’ll never run out of things to say again! 0 . 10. Now that’s 130 things you could potentially talk about. Once you’ve mastered this. she’d have one too.

learning how to build familiarity is an essential skill to have.  . and leadInG WITh your passIons You now know how to build familiarity. Building substance takes the interaction to a whole other level.Hobbies . This tool is very powerful. Next time there’s an awkward pause in the conversation. Another skill you should focus on is active listening. think back to the previous topic. and riff on it. fIndInG her Core value. Do this until your jaw is numb from speaking too much.Fitness -Animals buIldInG subsTanCe: aCTIve lIsTenInG. just pick out one word and riff on it for a minute or two. It also makes you stand out since it’s something that only close friends do. pick a word out. are gold.TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation with a woman. Here are some topics you can explore to build familiarity: -Goals and aspirations -Passions -Ideal vacation -Relationships -Friends -Youth and childhood -Love -Art and Photography -Traveling -Favorite films and music -Concerts and theatres -Family . You see. Building substance solidifies the connection between you. Let’s get you acquainted with building substance. once you’ve barreled through their persona. Take advantage of it. Use it. Most of the things women tell you. Women will feel like they have a lot of things in common with you.

Once again this shows her that you understand her and that you’re paying attention to her. me too. Here are the benefits of active listening: . Just learn how to listen to her completely without butting in. in your own words. in your own words. . Doing this affirms your understanding and builds dialogue. But what if you guys don’t like the same artist? Does that mean both of you have nothing in common? No. You have something in common with her. You see. to whoever you’re talking to what they have said to you.Active listening is a habit. we’re so similar”. Once you find these underlying motivators.  . you should be able to repeat back. You need to find out what is the underlying motivator that drives her to do the things she loves to do.Demonstrates interest in her as a person. Always ask her what she means. Don’t answer right away. Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to. As an active listener. That’s great if you guys like the same artist. It will improve your conversation skills tenfold. . your job is to find out what makes her tick. • Ask questions. you should relate to them. • Shut up and listen to her.Expresses understanding of her feelings A couple of basic pointers for active listening: • Rephrase and feedback. and how it makes her feel. pause for three seconds before answering something. Doing this will strengthen your understanding of the situation • Summarize what she tells you. as well as the foundation of effective communication. You should rephrase what she just told you and. Finding Her Core Value And Building A Quick Connection A lot of guys try to connect with women on the surface area. and that’s her core value. For example a guy asks: “Who’s your favorite artist? Oh Mariah Carey. Don’t always be eager to fill in the silence when there’s an awkward pause. feed it back to her.Ensures understanding of the subject matter.

they’ll be conditioned to do things that would lead to them being rewarded. Later on. and being rude to you. You should take time to think about what behaviors you will reward And which ones you’ll punish.Relate to those underlying motivators. On the other hand. not complying with your request. Was there ever a time you got burned by something? Maybe you touched a hot stove or candle. and laughing at your jokes. to see where your boundaries are. They will test you to see how you will respond. For example: You should reward her for giving you a compliment. After you relate with her you should appreciate her for who she is. Another example would be a parent disciplining their kids. they get punished. It’s more powerful than relating to her on the surface level. and you probably learned something afterward. Whenever they do something right they get rewarded. early in the interaction. let me give you an example of social learning theory and conditioning at work. This applies to women and dating as well. This encourages her to do it more often. But before I explain it. opening up to you. Whatever it was. Yes. If you don’t set your standards early on they will step all over you. Women will test you. you just instinctively jerked your hand back. Women gravitate toward positive emotions and move away from the negative ones.  . So how do we use this to our advantage? It’s actually very simple. you need to reward her for opening up to you. Social Learning Theory And The Power Of Conditioning Social learning theory states that we learn social behavior by observing and imitating others and by being rewarded or punished. You should punish her for disrespecting you. You learned that you shouldn’t touch it again. I want you to rewind and remember your childhood. whenever they do something wrong.

Leading with your passion separates you from every other guy that’s tried to hit on her.  . I won’t get into detail on this topic but I’d like to share with you a very effective technique to build an emotional connection. I suck her into my world. Here’s a question to help you figure out what you’re really passionate about in life. It’s one of the most powerful tools in building an emotional connection. “Tell me and I may remember. Here’s my dirty little secret… I talk about the things I’m passionate about. What is it you would do for free if you never had to make money again? Emotional Connection Accelerator There are a lot of different ways to accelerate the process of building an emotional connection and my favorite one is regression. If ever they do. I tell her the things I love to do and why I love to them.” Remember that you always have to involve her in the interaction. Being passionate about your passions (as funny as it sounds) is even more attractive to women.leadInG WITh your passIons A lot of the so-called “pick-up artist” I’ve met are curious as to how I can captivate a woman by just being myself. and safety. The word regression means moving backwards. comfort. Here’s how you do it. Involve me and I will carry them forever. Not a lot of guys talk about the things that make them tick. Show me and I will remember. Having passion is very attractive to women. Before I do let me share this quote with you. Here’s what I call the life story tactic. It also builds trust. they don’t convey it in a way that’s interesting to women.

How do you turn this into a system? Alright. The end includes your present experience and your future plans. She should know what your standards are. • Conversational Plowing. She should know your rules on dating and relationships.Your life right now is separated into beginning. meeting you” then she will walk away. middle. right now. or sad. • Standard Interleaving. and you can call her on it. This is an advanced technique I use to quickly convey the things I’m passionate about thirty seconds into the conversation. You should always move the conversation forward. As long as you keep talking she will stand there in front of you. On the other hand if she says “I have to go” and you ignore the thread and talk about something else. and future. The beginning includes your childhood and middle school experience. • Identity Interleaving.  . Mix it up. a Couple of effeCTIve ConversaTIonal Tools Here are several topics I’ll discuss briefly. If a girl says “I have to go” and you say “nice. The more emotions the better. She should know the things you love and your pet peeves as well. mischievous. The middle includes your high school and college experience. she will not leave. It can be fun. This can take somewhere between ten minutes to sometimes even the whole day. Trust me on this one. This technique is very powerful and it solidifies the emotional connection instantly. end. If she walks away. adventurous. She should have an idea of who you are and what you’re about early in the interaction. you can start by asking her about her childhood or talking about yours. The key is to exchange stories and go from childhood to future plans. she’s being rude. Tools you can use later down the road when you’ve mastered the basics. Now. I want you to come up with at least two to three stories for each phase of you life. You can do this directly or through storytelling.

and your non verbal communication to see if you’re communicating all the right things like being comfortable in your own skin.• Cold reading. Here’s an example of fractionating: Talk about something light. Whatever objections she may have make sure to use them first. Say this after a high point in the interaction. demands respect. humorous. Next. especially at times when the woman I’m talking to is hard to crack or if I’m in a hurry and I want to build a quick connection. Cold reading helps captivate her and builds familiarity instantly. Telling a story builds comfort and trust because you’re opening up to somebody you don’t know. • Preempting objections. go light again.g. or just used to talking people’s ears off. protector of the ones you love. etc. Builds comfort and trust. then this time go a little deeper than you were before. This helps intensify the emotional connection that you’ve built. story tellers. ambitious. Some examples would be taking her on an instant date. It’s a tool I use once in awhile. then make her laugh a little bit. Constantly ask yourself this: What am I trying to communicate? Am I getting my message across? You want to demonstrate good qualities about yourself with the stories you tell people (e.  . adventurous. then go deeper. People usually don’t just go up to people and start telling stories. This always steers the interaction toward the right path. vocal tonality and projection. This is a brilliant way to ease into deeper topics. trustworthy. Well if you’re one of them then you’re on your way to becoming successful. kissing her. • Romantic spin. etc). A good resource for cold read is the Forer’s effect. and that’s why you can’t hang out anymore. Tell her that you’re sad you met with no mutual friends to introduce you to each other. confident. Well some do and they’re either super social. When you tell a story you communicate on both levels. of course. • Fractionating. you need to check your body language. Why? It’s because learning how to express yourself is the first step in getting good at meeting women. and. Try searching that on Google or something. Always include a romantic spin after building an emotional connection. then go a little deep. On Storytelling Storytelling is very powerful if done right. They listen to what you say and how you say it. romantic. talking about fate and destiny. eye contact.

sequencing of events. engaging the senses. It can still suck. Give him the best script created by the best minds in the world and when performance day comes. What’s the difference between these two guys? The way they present it and he way they deliver. Probably the most important part of telling a story is your vocal projection and your delivery. if it’s suspense then use a lot of pausing) • Am I pausing at the right times? • Am I using a wide range of facial expressions?  . On the other hand. Let’s take for example a comedian and an actor. Every time you’re telling a story I want you to ask yourself these questions • Am I passionate about what I’m talking about? • Am I enthusiastic? • Am I paying attention to everyone that’s listening? • Am I relaxed and comfortable? • Is my voice loud enough? • Am I talking slow and clear? • Am I projecting the emotion I need to project through my voice? (If you’re telling a scary story sound scared. and emotional projection.So let’s get to the important part How do you make a good story? Here are some terms that are important in storytelling and I’ll discuss only a couple of them Opening line. character development. you can give a guy who’s good at telling stories a very boring and ridiculously horrible story line and he can turn it in to something very interesting. the presentation can still bomb.

Speaking of names. Men usually communicate with logic while women value emotions more. You want her to be able to relate to you. and “surprisingly”. who you were with. Grungey10: Exactly.) The climax of your story. feel. hear.) Describe what you were doing at that time.) Then slowly insert stuff like “and then I realized”. the funniest/craziest/most embarrassing/ wildest thing just happened to me yesterday/today/couple minutes ago. I’m Lisa. Nice meeting you. here’s a ConversaTIon I had In The pasT Grungey10: Hey. Bookstore girl: (laughs)  . I get that every time there’s a family get together. a light bulb just popped up in my head... Amanda. interesting name. Now stop laughing at my baby name. 4. etc. I’m Oliver. You want to engage all her senses. “then out of the blue”. Did your parents ever tell you about embarrassing stories when you were kid? Bookstore girl: Yeah..So here’s a quick formula for a spontaneous story. 3. it gets bruised easily. Grungey10: Lisa. 5.) How did it make you feel? What lessons did you learn? 6.) OMG. Well can you believe that my name was supposed to be Amanda? Bookstore girl: Amanda?! (laughs) Grungey10: Yes. smell. (pause) 2. 1. It’s something they can relate too. “out of nowhere”. as much as possible when you’re telling a story. what you could see. “all of a sudden”.)* Then ask her* Does that ever happen to you? (throwing the ball back at her) You want to talk about emotions because you want to communicate on her level. Bookstore girl: Oliver.

. Badoink!!! A moving “thing” down there?! She was devastated! I never heard the end of it. the doctor’s like “Ma’am. Look at you. Every time a friend comes over to the house. I don’t think you understand.. My mom holds me with tears in her eyes saying “Wow.. it’s my beautiful little princess Amanda. So here it comes... which I do not find very funny.  . pink crib. Bookstore girl: (Continues giggling) <Now I’m going to throw the ball back at her so she can invest more in the interaction> So what were you like as a kid? Was there anything your parents gave you a hard time about? Bookstore girl: Hmmmm. apparently. we don’t see anything moving down there. Hello. Bookstore girl: OMG (laughs) Grungey10: I know! Isn’t it funny? So what actually ended up happening was. and even a pink welcome banner hanging from the wall saying “Princess Amanda. uhm. we’re getting there.” Then she slowly unfolds the towel and then all of a sudden. The moment of truth. when my mom was 6 months pregnant. Hello. she actually decked the whole room out with a “My little princess” theme in mind. I remember him teasing me a lot about being a tomboy back in middle school... Anyways. Say hello to mommy.. your first born will be a girl”. I was born and the doctor hands me over to my mom wrapped in a white towel..Grungey10: Anyways. welcome to the family!” Bookstore girl: (Eyes get wide) Really?! That’s the funniest thing I’ve ever heard.. What happened next? Grungey10: All right... So the room was all pink! It had pink stuff toys.... Bookstore girl: (laughs hysterically) Grungey10: No.. the one that detects the gender. after the sonogram... Get this. You know what I’m talking about right? Bookstore girl: You mean a sonogram? Grungey10: There you go! Good girl (briefly touches her shoulder). thank you very much. Grungey10: My mom got so excited that she started decorating one whole room in the house... Hello. all right. it’s on the tip of my tongue. my mom always whips out the album with me dressed in a pink room all dressed in pink. just for me. she went to the doctor and she had this machine. Not so much my parents but my grandfather and I had a really strong bond when I was growing up. this is not a laughing matter..

I went through that whole phase.> Grungey10: Boy hater? I better watch out for you now. I can also build more substance by exploring what made her change but I chose to explore the subject of traveling. I’ve changed a lot since then. I’ve always wanted to make a difference in the world. try pausing for three seconds after she finishes her sentence. Bookstore girl: Oh shut it (hits me in the arm). I was also a very competitive kid. What do you accomplish when you’ve made a difference in the world? Let’s say you’re in Africa and you get to educate the kids there. before responding to her. you see improvements in their lives. I could start building more familiarity by talking about my sisters. That was back then. <I’m going to build more substance now> Grungey10: I find it really interesting that you love helping people out. I can pick any topic and start rolling with it. It’s fulfilling for me.> buIldInG faMIlIarITy & subsTanCe Grungey10: If you could live in any city in the world. You see. Grungey10: Why would you live in Africa? Is it because you want to help out? Or do you just want to explore the place? Bookstore girl: I guess a little bit of both. If you have sisters then you’d know what I’m talking about. < She gave me multiple topics to choose from. At the same time. I love going to a new place and learn everything about the culture there. where would you live? Bookstore girl: I’d live in Africa. and at the end of the day. for a year. As an exercise. < I have a choice.Grungey10: (nods head but keeps quiet) <It’s very powerful to pause and not be eager to fill in the silence in a conversation. You’ll notice that women have a lot more to say when they don’t get interrupted. I might not even be safe here (smiles). how does it make you feel? 0 .> Bookstore girl: (smiles as she recalls) Back then I was a boy hater.

There must be a catch here. It’s a rare thing.Bookstore girl: It makes me feel like I’m on top of the world. <After creating familiarity and substance. Artists are very creative. Grungey10: Bookstore girl. Only a few people actually live their lives to the fullest and at the same time. At the end of the day. playback the song I just made. A lot of people have forgotten the meaning of what it is to be passionate about something. This is when the magic begins. and feel good about myself. Grungey10: What are you passionate about? Bookstore girl: Well. Grungey10: You know what.. I totally understand what you mean. It’s something that I got into back when I was still seven. It’s a stress reliever for me and at the same time I get to express myself through my work. Not a lot of people understand what it takes to do what we do. and for the most part they’re real. I solidify the attraction by giving here a sincere compliment. Bookstore girl. I better leave before I start to fall in love with you. Bookstore girl: That’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever told me in the longest time (blushes). In the process they lose in touch with who they are and what they’re all about. You love traveling and you’re an artist too?! This is way too perfect. a day. You see a lot of people are imprisoned by their day to day activities. I just relax on my bed.. do the things they’re passionate about in life. A lot of people might think it’s easy for us. songwriting is very much like painting. let me tell you something. You see them working with the “work”  .> Bookstore girl: Yeah. They go to work or school and they change to fit the environment they’re in. I love painting. < I’m going to start flirting and appreciating her> Grungey10: Wait a minute here. Grungey10. I guess satisfaction would be a better way to phrase it. or sometimes weeks to put a song together and it pays off bigtime. I get the exact same feeling of satisfaction every time I finish writing a song. It’s something I’m really passionate about. They see things from a different perspective. and that’s usually making a living or going to school. You’re kidding right? I just have the biggest thing for artistic people. They usually just live their lives with one thing in mind. It’s the best job I’ve ever had. We both put are minds and hearts into our work. I don’t think enough people appreciate you for that. It may take me an hour. You see.

Well I go through my day-to-day activities with the biggest smile on my face because I get to be myself the whole day. Numbers mean nothing if you haven’t done your job well. Some give their number away with no intention of ever answering your call. I’d highly advise everyone to try it for even a week.face on. You always want to leave on a positive note. But before I even get into that. I’d like to share with you some of the things I learned. I’ve noticed that most guys make their exit after they get a woman’s number. <Conversational cycle continues> The arT of GeTTInG phone nuMbers & seTTInG up daTes After hundreds of interactions. It’s the best thing ever. • Don’t leave after you get her number. In their minds. Normally. When you leave right after you get her phone number. Then they go home and hit the sack. Do not answer”. I’d like to actually get to know the girl first before I even get her number. Some give their number away and save your number as “Weird & Creepy Guy. I suggest staying for an extra five or ten minutes before you leave. Some give their number away because it boosts their ego. Getting a number doesn’t really guarantee success. One  . This may take somewhere between 10 minutes to two hours. Don’t be afraid to test new things out. I realized something very important. It’s actually something that I’ve been working on for awhile now. they instantly know what’s going on. When you get a woman’s number. I found that timing is very important when it comes to getting a woman’s number. If I’ll see the girl again then I won’t even get her number. Coffeeshop girl: I know exactly what you’re talking about. As a matter of fact. Some give their number away to get rid of the guy. it makes it seem that was all you were after. • You can return her number to her every time she does something to turn you off. No matter how smooth you pull it off. it doesn’t even guarantee that you’ll get to see her again. Some give their number away because it’s fake. It’s the same routine over and over again. they still have control of the interaction. Women give their phone numbers for a variety of reasons. Girls give their numbers to guys for various reasons.

you’re really skilled at using the phone to your advantage. It’s a really neat way of communicating “I could care less if I get your number or not”. When you give her your number. would be useful after getting her number. I so have to hang out with you…” then I just continue talking about something else. how can we continue this conversation?” • Objection blaster. I usually say something like “Wow. You job is to get her to want to give her number to you. then guy tried to bargain. girl refuses. At this point she will either ask for my number or giggle. At times when she tries to impress you. make you laugh. but since there appears to be an issue with it. Pacing can be used to address future objections. Whenever they give me an excuse such as “Sorry. Some of the lines I’ve used are “Let’s exchange contact information” “Give me your number” “I really had fun talking to you.”  . once again. Any line will work if you say it at the right time. Guy ask for girls number. • Tell her you want her number but don’t get it. at the peak of an interaction. I discovered that pacing would. If she still gives some excuse I say “Don’t get a big head now. I just thought you were an interesting person and that you’d make a cool buddy. I’m just going to leave now. Not unless. because not all girls will call you up. Guess what that does? It drastically decreases the chance of anything happening by 50%! Why. I have a boyfriend” I usually just stare at her all confused and say “Yeah… and?”. or after an emotion filled moment.little trick you can do is to give her back her number every time she says something you don’t like. It’s better to exchange numbers than to just give her your number. • Simple yet effective lines. That’s my cue to see where I am in the interaction. It’s a downward spiral that leaves you lower than you were before. but unfortunately I have to get going. When you reach that point in the interaction. At the same time it demonstrates that you have standards. you like classical art? That’s so cool. Some girls might like you but forget to call you. Some girls will throw your number away. It’s not going anywhere. • Pacing to avoid flaking. She’ll probably flake on you anyway even if she gave you her number. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times. So it’s best always best to exchange number because it gives both of you the chance to call each other up. • Don’t try to bargain if she doesn’t give her number. any line will work. • It’s better to exchange numbers. Some girls just never call guys up. And some girls will simply just lose your numbers. I found that it’s very effective to display more interest in her. you leave it all up to her to make the move and give you a call back. If she doesn’t want to give you her number than just let it go.

If all else fails. Listen. It’s not everyday that I meet someone that I can just be real with. then you owe me vanilla flavored ice cream on a cone…” You can go anywhere with this technique. believe me I’ve tried. 80’s music. and on top of that you get to bowl. I’ll call you just once… and leave a message once. make sure to end the conversation on a high note” It doesn’t get better than this. This technique has worked well for me. It’s good to set up some rules right from the beginning. You’ll come off way cooler. It’s fun”. make sure to let her know you’ll be calling in the next couple of days” You must be wondering which strategy works best. “You should call her after a week or two. It usually goes something like this “You know what. Tell her what time you’ll call her and how to respond to you over the phone. I really hate playing phone tag. you’re pretty cool. It really depends on the situation. my friends and I love to bowl at Golden Pins. It will communicate that you have a life and that you are not needy” “You should call her on the same day so that she gets comfortable talking to you. How long should you wait before you call? This sounds familiar doesn’t it? There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to the best time to call. My suggestion would be to try everything until you find the one that works best for you. Go call her! And if she doesn’t pick up then call up two more times” “You should call her the day after you get her number. Then make it a point to be the first one to hang up or pretend that someone else is on the other line. every Wednesday. I prefer to make plans before leaving the interaction. They have these huge crystal disco lights. What more can you ask for? We do this every Wednesday. It will really communicate that you have more important things to do. Stuff like “Ok. you should come join us. you’re not some weird psychotic girl right? Cool. They all work. When you do answer I expect a really cool joke from you. If you don’t have any. Just act like it’s normal.  .• Tell her exactly how it’s going to be. Here’s a couple “You should wait at least three days before you call her. That’s it. but wait a minute. • Finalize your plans before you leave. After you talk to her. trust me. Have you ever gone cosmic bowling?! It’s the most fun thing in the world.

What do I mean by solid? I’ve spent an average of about 45 minutes to 2 hours with them. Traditional Method Call her after three days Space your calls out and have at least three to four days in between them Ask her out on the first or second call This method works best on girls within your social circle. Aggressive Method Call the numbers up the day you get them You can call the next day and the day after to follow up Call at unpredictable hours of the day Varying time limit on each call Ask her out later on For some reason this method worked best on cold approaches. and emotional connection that’s been built all throughout the interaction. there’s that one girl that never picks up her phone.  . Give it a shot for two weeks then switch. I would say two out of every four girls answered on the first call. Let me ask you this… What’s your strategy? Let me suggest this… Try everything out. There’s no rush to call her up soon because you’ll see her over and over again. That’s pretty good considering the fact that I’ve only got so much free time on my hands.Here is a simple strategy. That includes multiple dates within that day. in order to find out which strategy worked best. Let’s say I’ve collected around 12 solid numbers in two weeks. See which ones work best for you. The others eventually responded after my follow up routine. I used in the past. Occasionally.

8 TIps for an unforGeTTable fIrsT daTe
The tips I’m about to share with you are priceless. It took me years to figure some of them out. Most guys don’t know what to do on a first date. Don’t be generic. “Would you like to go to dinner and a movie with me sometime?” I don’t want to hear that coming out of your mouth anytime soon. OK? That’s what every other guy does! The last thing you want is to be like everyone else. There are lots of other things to do besides that. Save that idea for a later date. Something you’re passionate about. Are you passionate about sports? Singing? Shooting guns? Surfing? Art? Rollerblading? Anything at all? Bring her in to your world. Do the things you’re passionate about with her, on a first date. The best part about is that you can teach her how to do these things, if she doesn’t know how. Accessible- You don’t want to take her to the mountains located two hours from you. You want somewhere near and accessible. Fun & Exciting. Some of the best dates I’ve had were in amusement parks. It’s fun. It’s exciting. It provides the both of you with the same experience you can bond on. Plus, the emotions you experience will bring the two of you closer to each other. Unpredictable. Don’t tell her where you’re going. Tell her it’s a surprise. Get back to your place early on. Find an excuse to get back to your place early on. Your goal is to make her feel comfortable and to get that step out of the way. I do this by saying “These shoes are killing me, I just need a second…” drive to your house and say “Alright, I’ll give you a quick tour, we can only stay for five minutes cause we’re running on a schedule”. I go in the house, change my shoes, and rush her out of the house after giving her the tour. I don’t crowd her space. I don’t go for the kiss. I just relax and really just give her a tour of the house. This serves two purposes. Makes her trust me more and gets her comfortable in my house. Go to the supermarket. Take her with you to do groceries. Two techniques you can use. You can pick up a cookbook and have her pick up ingredients with you so she can help you cook. Another thing I like to do is to get some ice cream. Unfortunately I have to get it back to the house before it melts. AHA! Either way, you end up going back to your house or hers. 

Ideas For Second Dates Theme parks The beach Picnics Shooting range Cooking classes Sporting events Grocery shopping Flying kites in the park Comedy clubs Dance lessons Art galleries Rollerblading Go cart Wine tasting Wall climbing

on CreaTInG a sexual vIbe
Creating a sexual vibe gets her ready for the kiss. You must learn how to project sexuality. Sexuality can be projected by the way you talk, look at her, touch her, and the way you present yourself. It’s mostly non-verbal communication. This is the next level you need to master. Here are some of the ways you can project a sexual vibe. The way you look at her. Look at her in that sexual “You know what’s about to happen” kind of way. You can do stuff like staring at her eyes while biting your lower lip then looking back at your eyes. You need to be able to turn on your bedroom eyes and sexual smile in a snap of a finger. The way you talk to her. Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Lower the volume of your speech. Try speaking like you’re saying something really profound. Whisper in her ear at some point in the interaction. The way you touch her. Hold her hand at key points in the interaction. It’s important to have some kind of body contact. Begin to face her directly. Place your hand in her inner leg and gently stroke it. Knees or feet touching each other. Stroke her hair while looking at her lips. Incorporating Pausing. Pause in between words to create a sexual and intriguing vibe. 

I Can’t Believe I’m Sharing This With You I came up with a strategy to project sexuality quickly. As a matter of fact, I only teach this in my Day Game University Boot Camp. So let me ask you just one favor. Please don’t teach this method to anyone. Ok, maybe a friend or two, but no more than that. Deal? Good, now that we got that out of the way. Here’s what I call the Airplane Method I want you to think about the two hottest women in the world. It can be an actress, model, friend, or make believe women. Don’t continue reading unless you have your two hottest women. Now, imagine that you’re in a private jet plane. You own the plane. It’s yours. You’re relaxing and leaning back with your feet stretched comfortably. Your pants are down and one of the hottest girls is sucking your penis while the other one is sucking your balls. Now how do you feel? I really want you to put yourself in this situation so you know what I’m talking about. Now let’s say someone calls you over the phone. How will you talk to them? Would it be fast? Or all slow and sexual? Here’s how I learned this technique. A couple of years ago, I met my good friend Asian playboy, who specializes in picking up women in bars and clubs. When this guy spoke, he just had this seductive and sexual presence and for the longest time I couldn’t figure out how he did it. Until one day, I thought to myself, what could this guy be thinking? I mean he gets laid a lot, and he’s good at what he does. What’s his secret? Then it suddenly occurred to me. AHA! He must be thinking about being in an airplane with two hot women going down on him. That’s probably what it is! There’s no other explanation I can think of! Thus, the airplane method was born. Props to Asian playboy. TRY THIS OUT Next time, before you go for the kiss, you should try the airplane method and talk all sexual for 5-10 minutes. This builds the stage up for the kiss. 

don’t look away. Women are eager for the kiss as much as you are. Nobody else. Mall. If she’s walking away from me. In that moment. investment. Do you know that moment when you run out of words to say and your eyes are locked on hers? Next time that happens. that it’s going to be a sexual relationship. • Put her hair behind her ears. After you get into that situation.3 and if she’s still lookg at you. while you slowly tilt your head. Put her hair behind her ear and lightly stroke the side of her face. If she’s walking. • Explore her eyes. superMarKeT To The bedrooM: The naTural proGressIon There’s a natural progression of how I like to do things. quite a number of times. You usually feel butterflies in your stomach. • Nothing else exists. Here’s a sample progression I’ve used in the past. Start looking deeply at her eyes. you’ll start to get a feel of EXACTLY when you should go for it. • Three second rule. It’s almost too obvious to meet. There’s a window of opportunity that opens up sometime in the interaction. froM Coffee shop.2. if you play your cards right. and you know that it’s time. I want you to ccount 1. Slowly move in for the kill.When & hoW To KIss her Kissing on the first day sets the stage. I built as much comfort. I make sure she hears me running towards  . You should kiss her before the day ends. early on. then that’s your cue to go for a kiss. • You don’t need words. and connection as I need before I try to escalate things further. I make her stop to talk to me. I approach the girl I want right away. The best part about this approach is that you don’t need words. Nothing else matters. Here are some important pointers that will be helpful for you. let the whole world just fade away. First. It’s something you’ll learn to do. It’s just you and her that exist.

After I establish some kind of connection. I will not tolerate disrespect and sexual harassment especially from women. Let’s go grab something to eat. If she’s inside her car. relax and discuss deep topics is when you’re sitting down. it’s grocery day today” and then we head out to the supermarkets. We prepare dinner together. I’m sorry we met like this. we go back to my place to prepare dinner. 0 . and then set up another date with her. I usually say something like “My legs are dying. You get the point. After eating I make it a point to do other things. Tell you what. but just try hard to resist the urge ok? I’m not that easy” It’s a little funny piece that takes the tension out of the scenario. then it becomes comfortable.” We go some place to eat. I’m going to sit down over there. and then I stop her and make her turn around to talk to me. Before entering the door to my house. I pull out my phone. play arcade. Sometimes I even take them on an instant movie date where we sneak out in the middle of the movie and go watch another movie. with no mutual friends to introduce us to each other. We talk more. I do stuff like walk around the mall with her. I ask her to sit down with me. I usually talk about deeper topics when I’m sitting down. This usually demonstrates that I’m fearless and exciting. All these crazy things you’d do when you were young. After all this. I know it’s going to be hard for you. I say “Oh. and shop for clothes. If at anytime you even slightly try to grab my ass… it’s over. I discovered that if you make fun of uncomfortable situations. The perfect time to lean back. I’m dialing this number. I’d prefer to see how far I can take it. I’m hungry. So. It varies. like couples do. punch the number 9-1-1 in and say “Look at this number. You’re not going to be one of those awesome girls that I meet and never see again. After I’ve established enough investment on her part. It’s pretty rare to meet someone you can just be real with. after we buy groceries. At other times. Someone you can just talk to about anything and everything.her. Let’s go…” she usually complies. I just kiss her. Get to know each other a little bit and begin to open up. Sometimes. I almost forgot. getting ready to leave. call it a day. I say something like “I’m really glad I met you. I knock on the window and start talking to her.

I just unleash the beast and take full control of the situation. I pull away and pretend to sleep. Then later on in the night. After that’s done. I hate to put you down but. At this point. I pump up her emotions by saying things like “I know what you’re thinking. We eventually start kissing and rolling over the bed. I used to try to seduce her and touch her as much as I could the moment she walked through the door. I act as if everything is normal. When she reaches her boiling point and all the clothes are off. she’s way too invested and aroused to even pull back. but I’m feeling so good.. I play the frame that “I’m a good boy.From here on I just build as much tension as I can. From here we start to cuddle. before she even has a chance to do so. In that moment. For you. Just minutes after it gets really hot and heavy. I’m off to bed.. and give her space to chase. she’s usually not sure whether I like her or not. From this point. All I am is a big piece of tease”. she usually ends up doing just that. I don’t put out that easily. I always pull away first and give her an excuse why we should stop. and I need to stop before it gets really far”. it should be a done deal. increase her desire. Then I learned that if you just leaned back. Here’s the key piece of the puzzle. I pull of childish behavior like initiating pillow and water fights. I treat her the same way I would treat my buddy. I do this a couple of times till clothes start to come off.  . see you tomorrow”. I jump right into my bed and I tell her “Goodnight. At this point my back is turned toward her and I start to do fake snores. At the same time.

getting her back to your house) Stage 4: Beyond the pick-up. time.Words of WIsdoM There are four stages you will go through in your journey to get this part of your life handled. Who you will become depends on the things you do today.” Where are you in your life right now? What are your goals? Long term and short term? Create a plan Don’t give up until you see results Who you are is the product of the past. social) Stage 3: Learning how to handle logistics (getting her number. going on an instant date. second dates. and managing relationships)  Tips On How to be Happy Be optimistic and outgoing (positivism) Have close friendships and meaningful relationships (Build your social circle) Work or leisure that engage your skills (fun time) Have something to believe in (foundation) Sleep well and exercise (taking care of yourself) Having a high self esteem (healthy relationship with self) “ If you don’t know where you are going. you will probably wind up somewhere else. physical. (phone game. You need to become a master of all four stages Stage 1: Becoming Social and Expressing your personality Stage 2: Learning how to make her invest in the interaction (emotional.  .

you must become congruent with the three main aspects in your life: Be good at what you do Enjoy what it is you do Feel a sense of fulfillment while you do it  .Balance Is Key In order to achieve happiness and live up to your full potential.

I’ve given you all the fundamental tools that you need to get started meeting. and appreciated the material. captivating. I’ve only met people who make failing choices.com Love & Respect Your Friend Oliver T. The ball is in your court now. Let me know if this material is of any help to you. understood.  . I believe Life is about choices and then you die. It’s now up to you to get good. the good and the bad.. For those of you who have read.. or you simply just want drop by and say HI. I consider the eight dating factors described on these pages to be fundamental to understanding daytime pick-up. Bring it on.html Now I want to hear what you think.. Once again. stories. I want to congratulate you on a very smart purchase.. two thumbs up to you. and connecting with women in daytime locations. you can always take advantage of my coaching services. To find out more go to www. You have something in common with every successful man has ever walked on this planet and that is choice. Now get out and do it! No excuses! If you need the extra push to go from theory to practice. I want your feedback. So stay tuned . I hope that this has been helpful in giving you a picture of what day game is and how to master it.. So if you have any questions. and it’s your shot. then feel free to drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect. In the future. I’ve never met a loser.WrappInG IT all up “I’ve never met a failure. I will be talking about the specifics of each of these fundamental principles.com/bootcamp. I’ve only met people who make losing choices” People say: Life’s a bitch and then you die..captivatetoconnect.

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