Daytime Pick-Up Revealed

The Art of Meeting, Connecting and Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls, College Campuses, and Anywhere Under the Sun!
2006 All Rights Reserved 

IntroductIon A Word on consIstency GettInG the Most FroM thIs MAnuAl WArnInG!

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Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle 8 WhAt Is dAy GAMe? 8 An eye opener on cold ApproAchInG 9 WelcoMe to WoMen’s everydAy reAlIty 10 creAtInG A vIsIon 11 ActInG on your plAn 12 4 steps to IncreAse the eFFectIveness oF GoAl settInG 13 IntroductIon to the 8 essentIAl dAyGAMe FActors 14 Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS FActor 1: Inner strenGth FActor 2: IdentIty FActor 3: lonG terM And short terM vAlue FActor 4: eFFectIve coMMunIcAtIon FActor 5: eMotIonAl connectIon FActor 6: coMFort & trust FActor 7: loGIstIcs FActor 8: InvestMent Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS, rAcking up dAteS, And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndset For MeetInG WoMen Where to Meet WoMen Be In tune WIth the enerGy level crAsh course In stArtInG conversAtIon WIth WoMen BreAKInG doWn the opener deAlInG WIth contInGencIes GIFt shIFt theory the pInG ponG MetAphor 

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and tactics on meeting women during the daytime. with the right combination of passion. quite frankly. or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up. So I came up with a manual that anyone. and perseverance to become successful with women. regardless of age and experience. streets. Worst of all. I learned the natural [**hard?**] way. there were no resources on meeting women outside of the “bars and clubs” context. Over the years. After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls. by choice.  . dedication. it can be overwhelming. at that time. I don’t want you to take a year to see results. I want to congratulate you. hanging out with guys that were good with women. beaches. There were no gurus. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part of my life handled. and trial and error. In the process. books. I learned from my past failures. I’ve piled up all the useful information that I’ve discovered in my pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups. I’ve compressed it all into this book. theories. Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you’ve absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book. and college campuses. I know there’s a lot of information out there and. I just needed to know how to operate in the field. coffee shops. even my 8-year-old cousin. I had to learn how pick up women from scratch. Anyone.InTroduCTIon First of all. I really had no other option.000 pages filled with discoveries. I want you to succeed now.000 pages? Yes. I came up with over 2. would understand. What you’re about to read is a product of years of trial and error. Back then. You’ve taken the first step toward improving yourself. I’ve developed a step by step system that will allow anyone. 2. It was a long and painful process but. videos. can benefit from this manual. It didn’t stop me though.

it’s all worthless. the best system. and the best coach out there. but you will never reach it unless you consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other. This manual is my helping hand to all those guys who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day.There’s a catch though… You have to want it. You can have the best techniques. I promise you won’t regret it. then when will you? Treat this like going to college to get a degree. You’re about to begin your journey. Now. First of all. and you will not be figuring out this part of your life forever . passion. a Word on ConsIsTenCy Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency. It doesn’t work that way.only a few months! This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself. consistently. relax. Over the past three years. So now. Day in day out. and choose wisely. You’ll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn. and drive within yourself to see this through. would you be willing to experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to achieve the lifestyle of your dreams . make a stand. If you don’t get this part of your life handled right now. Eventhough they were from different walks of life and trained differently.or will you continue to be an “average Joe” for 70 more years? Which path will you take? It’s time to make a decision. You must find the determination. and keep an open mind. There are many ways to achieve your goal. there was always one common denominator. I want you to sit back.  . but without consistency. without fail. this book isn’t some magic pill that will solve all your problems overnight. You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in this area of your life. I’ve talked to hundreds of people who have successfully transformed their dating lifestyle. they each followed their pre-determined plan. You won’t be in college forever. and without excuses.

you will need in the future. You can drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect. so be prepared. I’ll constantly be throwing new concepts at you. It’s similar to learning a sport. Read through it once or twice and absorb whatever you can. the better you become. Read. and integrate the information you learn. absorb. It’s a repetitive process that will propel you toward success. Keep practicing. Don’t ever. I want to know what you think. You need to go out there and practice the things you learn. would when you’re trying to develop a skill. GeTTInG The MosT froM ThIs Manual There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. You need the right information and the ability to put that information into practice. and using it until you have it all down! Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas. Most of them. Some of them will be helpful to your current situation. ever be satisfied with just learning this stuff. Come back and read the individual section from time to time.I want you to approach this as you. if you want to become competent. comments. or just a simple “Hi” note if you will. practice it! Don’t go jump right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you learn here. reading. I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won’t be enough. complaints. Treat this book as a reference or Let’s Rock n Roll!  . You need to practice several times a week. The more you practice.

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It’s not luck. then day game just might be the answer. beaches. outside of bars and clubs. as most may think. What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me. build an emotional connection. and coffee shops every single day. Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands. supermarkets.  . I’ll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before the approach. it’s a skill set. then that’s normal. ”What Did You Do About It? Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by? If you didn’t do anything. and believe me. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day? If you answered yes to any one of those. Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday? Women of all types of beauty are not hard to find. The best thing about it is that YOU could potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how. I have yet to meet someone who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that catches his eye. have fun and a whole list of other reasons. I’m sure you wanted to accomplish something. and how I’ve used this information to solidify my game and make myself more successful with women. shop. I’ve met a couple of men that can pull it off. get them on dates. WhaT Is day GaMe? Have you ever experienced seeing “your type” of girl walk down the street? Most likely you have. The question is.Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle In this section. they are rare. and have the possibility of starting a relationship with them. Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman. they roam around malls. relax.

people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had to say. they’d just continue walking. I tried and experimented with a lot of different techniques. the one thing that’s similar with salespeople and guys that are successful with women. then there would be no need for salespeople. I should know. is their ability to communicate with people. Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What happened?  . It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a chance to get to know the customer. Several years ago. Heck. more often than not. I learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must. let’s get back to my story… After failing to produce results in my job. If you think about it. I’ll talk more about this in the upcoming chapters. do you want to sign up for our service today?” yada yada yada. and it did make sense. I didn’t even know their name. Occasionally. I’ve spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth in the middle of a mall. If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the customer. But. What does sales have to do with being successful with girls? Everything. I’d always be shouting “Hey sir. Now. trying to get people to buy our products. and that’s when I learned something… If my initial approach was unique. then people usually gave me a bit of their time. Communication is key in everything that we do. I’ve had a history of being a salesman.What if I told you that it’s possible to approach these beautiful strangers and have something positive result from almost all of your interactions? Would you think I’m nuts? an eye opener on Cold approaChInG Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger.

It’s probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because it opens the door for escalating the conversation. isn’t it” Chances are you reply with some sort of answer.. Make or Break Moment The first couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or break moment. They’ve developed tolerance to men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction. Then the conversation comes to an end and you either say “Nice talking to you” or just simply turn around and carry on with your business. WelCoMe To WoMen’s everyday realITy Women get approached or hit on all the time. 0 . If you can relate to this scenario then. It’s not their fault and I certainly don’t blame them for being rude sometimes. There are a lot of whackos out there.. How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off? I’m sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers that you say when you get the same question. Looking back.You probably heard them open with a familiar line like: “Hey what’s going on?” “Nice weather…” “It’s a pretty long line. What does that mean? You’ve got to approach her in a way that she’s not accustomed. depending on your mood. why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were you interested in getting to know them as a person? Chances are it was out of politeness. The first thing you need to do is find a way to bypass her social filters. Your goal is to get her into a state of mind where she’s susceptible to be led.

We all have things to do and people to see. You’ll find it very useful on your journey. You have to set a goal for yourself. It’s always a good feeling knowing you’re working toward something that will benefit you in the long run. Don’t skip this part. Have a pen and paper ready. it doesn’t mean you get to go in and do whatever you want. It gives you an overall direction so you know where you’re going. when you first start out. Women will usually. Just because someone opens the door. If you want to be successful with women. They have no goals set for themselves. if you’ve got your whole presence and communication skills down. But don’t expect them to be all over you after you’ve initiated the conversation. then by the end of this section. It will be your first road block to success. Most of the people you meet out there will have a very short attention span. That’s just setting yourself up for failure. open the door for you a little bit. A lot of your time. It motivates you and keeps you on track. CreaTInG a vIsIon Do you know where you’re heading? If you don’t then you might want to start brainstorming. If you have a vision of what you want your life to be then that is your incentive to work harder. you should have one. A lot of people out there are like chickens running around with their heads cut off. there’s one thing you need to do first. That’s your window of opportunity. Most women will give you somewhere between three seconds and three minutes to captivate their interest. there are no second chances if you mess it up.  . If it’s something you really want then you WILL achieve it. So I want you to take sometime to answer these questions. Goal setting is very important for various reasons. I’m going to go with the assumption that everyone’s time is special.It’s like going to someone’s house and pushing the doorbell. will be focused on perfecting the first few minutes of the interaction. If you don’t have one.

the next step is to stick to your plan no matter what happens until you start to see results. it’s potential power. weekly. aCTInG on your plan Okay you have your plan.  . What’s in it for you in the long run? Like. where do you see yourself? What kind of person will you be by then? What kind of girl/girls will be with you? What’s your lifestyle going to be? What’s the difference between who you are now and who you want to be? • How long do you think it will take you to accomplish your overall goal? Have you set daily. in 10 years. what do you really want to accomplish? You’re obviously investing a lot of your time and effort into learning how to be successful with women. One piece of advice though: Information isn’t power. and monthly goals to ensure that you’re constantly improving you skill set? How much time and effort do you need to put into this? What strategies do you have in order to stay consistent and committed to getting this part of your life handled? That’s just for starters. I know it’s a good feeling to have so much information that your brain begins to swell. now what?! Anything on paper is just writing unless you put it to work. These questions should aid you in coming up with a solid vision of who you want to be and what steps you need to take in order to accomplish that. Once you’ve figured out what you want.• Realistically speaking.

For example: “In order for me to be able to date three new girls a week. I will surround myself with the kind of women I’d like to date and learn how to be comfortable in their presence. I’ll make sure that they can give me personalized and individualized attention. For example: “In six months. I want to have the ability to date three new girls that I meet in the mall. every single week” or “I want to have a smoking hot girlfriend that’s half my age. For example: “I was able to talk to several girls today. After getting advice. Get all the right information that you need in order to get this part of your life handled. Put the book down and start working on it. I’ll be able to hold a conversation with a girl for 30 minutes. I’ll make sure to implement the things I learned right away. Devise a plan on how you’re going to accomplish your goal. Or I can look for someone qualified to help me out. If you haven’t done this by now.” 2. then don’t continue reading. I’m also going to work on the different aspects of my life so that I become relationship material. I’m going to look for resources out there that will solve the problem for me.” Or “If I want a hot girlfriend I should be more experienced with hot women.”  . I need to interact with seven new girls three times a week for six months. and schedule a date with her at the end. I shouldn’t commit the same mistake again. I should always be pushing the interaction as far as it can go every time. What steps are needed in order to accomplish your plan? How long is it going to take and what does it require of me? Make sure to always stick to that plan. and has a kick ass personality”. I should get my skill set to that level. Make sure you use this information as a guideline and makes sure you’re on the right track. After six months. It was fun but I just can’t seem to get her to open up to me.4 sTeps To InCrease The effeCTIveness of Goal seTTInG Know exactly what you want to accomplish. I’ll try to go on as many dates as I can so I can get experience under my belt. 1.

Here’s a QUICK PEEK at what’s coming up. Did I build enough emotional connection with her? Did I convey my personality well enough? Am I giving up easily without following up? If so how can I improve my skill? I should try calling her more often…” This is a very simple structure you can use in order to assess your progress. In order to efficiently improve your skills.  . You see. starting from your core. The 8 Essential Day Factors are structured in a way that helps build you up. You should be able to analyze yourself and construct positive criticism.. I suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book. The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive foundation for daytime pick-up. For example: “Last month. then make the necessary adjustments. I got five numbers and out of those numbers. find the strong and weak points.. This is the only way to keep progressing.3. So I need to review all my interactions and see where I’m screwing things up. Review all your results. I’ve identified a total of 8 Essential Day Game Factors that must be addressed if you want to maximize your success rate! You must first understand all of the factors and how they affect your ability to meet. This month I got eight numbers but none of them called me back. and date the woman of your choice. then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part of the interaction. InTroduCTIon To The 8 essenTIal dayGaMe faCTors I’m about to provide you with the most comprehensive information ever available on how use the 8 Essential Day Game Factors to dramatically increase your success with women. connect. This is an essential skill to develop. three girls called me back.

FACTOR : IDENTITY Do you know why most guys fail to keep a woman interested in them? Or even worse. I’ll only be throwing stuff at you that I know you’d need. I’ll go over the key concepts of identity building and how to effectively communicate who you are as a person. They lose a woman’s initial interest due to their lack of communication or ineffective communication.FACTOR : INNER STRENGTH We’ll start to build you up from the very core of your personality. I’ll discuss inner strength in depth and take you step by step so that you can develop a solid foundation .  . Don’t worry. I’ll show you exactly how to communicate with women. FACTOR : COMMUNICATION Communication skills separate the beginners from the pros. you’ll have a basic understanding of what inner strength is and how you can use it to gain an unfair advantage over other guys. FACTOR : LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM VALUE This chapter is guaranteed to raise a few eyebrows out there. I’ll teach you the same principles that I only teach in specialized 1 on 1 VIP seminars. I’ll explain to you the importance of long term and short term value and how it affects all your interactions. A lot of guys don’t know the proper way of communicating with attractive women. why they can’t keep a woman in their life? It’s because they don’t develop the ability to convey their identity. I’ll show you where most guys fail and how you can avoid most of the pitfalls out there. I’m confident that by the end of this book.

I’ve decided to just go all out and reveal four major investment categories. he must first master the art of making her invest in the interaction. let me be the first to tell you… Logistics is one thing that you do not have full control over. I’ll give you a couple of tips on how you can maximize the effectiveness of the interaction by utilizing our logistic planning method. Look no further! In this chapter. This is my favorite part of every interaction and you’re about to find out why! I go over specific time-tested tactics that I’ve used to establish a long lasting emotional bond that gets her to dream about you even after you’re gone! This is a very effective tool that increases the chances of you going on a date with her! I’ll go over the proper way to build an emotional connection and the opportune moment for you to start engaging her in this type of interaction.FACTOR : EMOTIONAL CONNECTION Emotional Connection is what I like to call “The Heart of Day Game”. I’ve compiled the most comprehensive approach to increase control over the interaction and decreasing the number of women flaking on you. FACTOR : LEADING & LOGISTICS If you haven’t learned yet. This chapter talks about the things you must do and avoid.  . In this chapter. I’ll show you specifically how to get the girl from the mall to your bedroom! FACTOR : INVESTMENT In order for anyone to be successful with women. FACTOR : COMFORT AND TRUST Most guys just don’t know how to build comfort and trust with the women they meet.

I hadn’t seen him in years because he was stationed in Iraq. I’ve tried to put my finger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to figure out what it was. and end up to be a better person? I chose the latter. I don’t blame you at all. It’s the driving force behind all their successes. So to make a long story short I asked him “It takes a lot of guts to do what you did. Failure just wasn’t an option for me. and be the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period with my head held up high. things would have been so much easier for me…” So save yourself a lot of time and read and understand this section first before you go onto the next one.. I mean. cherish every moment of my journey. This is the one thing that fuels them day in and day out. I knew there would be a lot of people who’d be negative about the experience.” I really thought I would never figure it out.. “the lines”. “What does this guy have that I don’t. I had two choices: should I go through all of this hardship. I admired this guy for his strength and courage. There’s something about him that makes him complete as a person. I was the same as you when I first started out. A lot of successful guys. we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were stationed in Iraq. You want to know what happened several years later? I sat down and told myself “If only I just build up myself first. in other words. I just knew that I had it in me to succeed beyond a shadow of a doubt. Until this one day came. I just accepted it. be negative all the time. My friend and I were just chatting about life.”  .Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS faCTor 1: Inner sTrenGTh I know that most of you just want to learn what to say. have one thing in common. I used to think to myself. I had that choice. I always wondered how he was able to do it. I know. Most people probably hated being there. It’s that bright light at the end of the tunnel. what were you thinking of?” He replied: “All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person.

we’ve been programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women. or not tall. The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow. You can make a beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race! All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute. There are a lot of factors that have molded us to be the person we are today.I suddenly had one of those “Light bulb popping up in your head” moments. Let’s take a good look at magazines for a second. power. Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning… For the most part. These beliefs have been integrated into our being. Sad to say. attractive. You’ve Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don’t Even Know It! We all walk through this world with our beliefs.  . Let’s start out with media and advertising. they always hit me hard over the head. This is true for both men and women alike. appearance isn’t everything. These moments don’t come to me that often but whenever they do. You can still get laid even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine. Not only that. or fame. What we believe in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives. not well built. and desirable. Contrary to popular belief. they set the standard of what is cool. Let’s take on the subject of appearance. You can get a girl even if you’re not rich. probably since we were little kids. we live in a society that’s driven by money. Examples of such factors are FRIENDS FAMILY SCHOOL SYSTEM SOCIETY MEDIA CULTURE ENVIRONMENT WOOOOWW! That’s a lot of factors influencing us.

be this. The average girl would think “That’s the girl that everyone in my school thinks is hot! She’s skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here). tall. and up to date I need to have this. The truth is… YOU DON’T Yeah being rich. that guy has the hottest girl I’ve ever seen. where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial features modified to intimidate almost anyone. famous. tall. both the man and woman in this example end up concluding “In order to be desirable. cool.  . Your belief becomes who you are. Your words become your actions. and rich! IT’S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE! Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality? Your thoughts become your words. and join this…” And whoever said advertising wasn’t effective? What actually happened was that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in order to be cool.Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I’m sure you all know the answer to this one: Celebrities Attractive and fit people Rich people And everything else I forgot to mention Am I the only one that sees what’s going on here? Where can you find the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of a magazine. I need to buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…” Same thing for a guy “Oh. Anyone armed with the techniques and philosophies I’ll discuss in this book can attract the kind of woman that’s usually reserved for the good looking. and…” To make the long story short. famous helps but it’s not the only way. he has this sick ass watch. He’s rich. famous… He even has the fastest car around.

I will also provide you with exercises so your belief is reinforced with real world results. Ever since then I began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions. and went on a journey to seek the truth. back to my story. so you can move through the world naturally attracting people in your life? Before I hear any objections. What if you can reprogram your entire self. becomes who you are? Would you believe me? You better. Alright. and relationships that I’ve had. Here’s how this works.What if I told you that everything that you believe in. Change will not occur overnight. You’re just going to be a better version of yourself. my whole world changed. BELIEVE! I’ve learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. struggles. that would be too idealistic of me. BELIEVE. literally before my very own eyes. the faster you’ll get to your destination. I adopted bits and pieces of his philosophy in life. but the sooner you start believing. These have been very useful for me and hopefully will be for you. You have to live up to your full potential. For the next 30 days. 0 . After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you. because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs. This is where everyone should start regardless of their goal. you too can be successful with women. I’ll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I’ve found to be very useful in my journey. only if you really really believed in it. It makes me sad to see all the guys out there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. you’re not going to be someone you’re not. I’m just sharing with you everything that’s worked for me and the thousands of guys I’ve trained after I discovered everything I’m about to share with you. Don’t stop reading until you start practicing and believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons. I want you to go over this chapter again and again. If only I could snap them out of their trance… but then again. And that’s when it occurred to me that… YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE.

I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to others. Every situation is different. Starting now. You’re doing them a favor by talking to them. The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself. all of a sudden. I don’t know what to say” speech playing in your head? Let me ask you this. then it will be valuable to others.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS Have you ever had the feeling that you’re not worthy to even talk to someone? Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that damn “Why should she even talk to me? I’m not her type… and besides. imagine that you’re about to give them a million bucks in the next five minutes. I want you to remember the times when you made several people feel good about themselves. people were hanging off every word you said. TRY THIS OUT I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were indeed valuable to other people.  . Got that memory? How does it make you feel? Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn’t it? That’s how you should feel before talking to anyone. The time when. Try this out. but I’ve approached girls in the past and they’ve shot me down more times than I can think of… Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn’t mean you should stop eating right? Every girl is different. I’m sure there’s a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just loved you. next time before you talk to someone. how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven’t even approached her yet? Okay. how does that change the way you act toward them? Try it out. If you believe that everything you say or do is valuable.

Don’t be afraid to spark tension.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : TAKE WHAT’S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS! There’s one thing that you will realize later on… You can do anything you want.  . I want you to live life like you own the world. Always say what’s on your mind. Don’t look for others to make decisions for you. You do not need anyone’s approval before you do something. Do you think he ever asked permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off? Nope. • Make your own decision and take your own stand. Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission every single time you went for a trip to the rest room. You do not need permission to dress in a certain way. So what do you want to do? What’s stopping you? You are your own boss. You can do them yourself. executed it. if you don’t agree with someone simply say “I disagree” and leave it at that. wherever you want. Don’t ask anyone for permission just do it. You already have it in you. You have permission to be the best that you can be. whenever you want. You have permission to change your beliefs. It’s about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in. just go ahead and sit down. Well. we’ve been programmed by society to look up to others for “permission” to do something we want to do. Once again. by the time you got to college. and never looked back. Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life: • It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. Don’t wait for others to tell you what to do. Don’t be afraid to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise. And you can get away with it. And you have permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says. You have permission to go after the things you want in life. he just had a plan. you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn’t you? Another example is the very famous Bill Gates. Next time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot. Always voice out your opinions. Everything is yours.

background. It’s not that bad. or status. If it will compromise you or for some reason you just don’t feel comfortable with it then say “no”. and someone gets there the same time you did. If it’s reasonable and you’re up for it then say “yes”. It’s hard to get used to saying “no” but you have to give it a shot. Don’t be ashamed of your past. This boils down to being who you are despite what other people think. • I’m not trying to impress you. and don’t bow down to someone just because you perceive them as being better than you. Be proud. Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time about it just smile and say “Thank you”. You wouldn’t want to be known as the “yes” man. don’t hesitate to just smile and take the spot first. One motto you can use is “I’m not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to impress me”. When you’re at a party and someone asks: “Who wants such and such drinks” Don’t hesitate to raise your hand first and say “Over here”.  . stand tall. Just try saying it.• Learn how to say “No”. The next time you’re about to line up. Don’t ever change just because someone else wants you to. You’ll notice that people will begin to respect you more because you’re upfront. TRY THIS OUT Let’s start out with simple exercises.

It All Started When You Were A Kid “There are two great moments in a person’s life: the moment they were born and the moment they realize why they were born.” . every single person you meet will wonder who you are. Why did I choose that as a kid? Beats me. I wanted to be that guy that rocked people’s world with his guitar. Or maybe it was what everybody wanted at that time. They ask you questions for a purpose. They are trying to form a picture of who you are as a person. I wanted to be that guy in the spotlight that made people jump to the beat of his melody. It seemed just like yesterday. and the way you present yourself to others. all of these play an important role in establishing your identity.Mark Sanborne So What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? When I was seven years old I wanted to be a rock star. Maybe because it looked cool on television. I don’t really know. when I’d just jump off the bed with a broomstick trying to mimic Slash from Guns n Roses. So what exactly is your identity? Continue reading because this whole chapter is dedicated to the subject of identity.faCTor 2: IdenTITy Do you know what people think of the first time they meet you? Do you know the first thing that pops up in a woman’s head the moment you approach her? Do you know what she will think about the minute she gets home after meeting you? “Who in the world is this guy?” So let me throw the question at you… Who Are You? Trust me. The clothes you wear. Maybe I wanted to be a rock star because I’d be famous worldwide.  . Your job is to convey your identity all throughout an interaction. the stories you tell.

Becoming a musician was a dream. I believe that the person we want to be is already inside of us.The truth is. We were all created unique and special. you’re better of just having a 9-5 job where you can make a constant stream of income” Unfortunately. all he had to do was to chip away all the unnecessary stuff. then this is it. We were born to experience life and with that experience we grow and we learn. and teachers. It means that every single time that Michelangelo worked on chipping away pieces of his sculpture. I thought I would never be an artist because of what everybody said to me… “Being a musician won’t get you anywhere… It’s useless. Here are several ways to discover who you are. As a result of growing up. I’m an artist! I’m a musician! I really did achieve what I wanted when I was a kid. So let me ask you this: What did you want to be when you were seven years old? How to Discover Who You Are I’m not going to keep you waiting any longer. I want you to pull out a piece of paper and jot down some notes. If there’s one thing I want you to accomplish after you finish reading this book. Michelangelo. We become better versions of ourselves. we tend to stop feeling and just start thinking.  . I realize that each and everyone of us had dreams when we were little. once said “The Sculpture is already in the stone” and I never forgot that. I never really thought about it until three weeks ago when I was in a car with a bunch of friends. when I was a kid. This is a very important section in this book. he was already done before he started. One of my favorite sculptors. peers. I didn’t stray away from it. I was easily influenced by my parents. the product was already finished. Yes. You’ll need some time to work on this. I had no other choice but to listen to what everyone said. It just put the pieces of the puzzle together for me. That’s when it struck me. Success is in already inside all of us. It really came from the heart but at such an early age. Now that I look back. we just need a balance of both. Not that thinking it’s a bad thing. Then out of nowhere someone started playing my song on the radio.

But please try to restrain yourself. dating. Most men end interactions without really conveying their identity. Write it all down. business. are talented. Sky is the limit folks. It always feels nice to remind yourself who you are. • List 25 Things That Make You Happy. It can be a big or small goal. Embrace it with both arms. Beliefs. It can be related to fitness.• What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? Come on. Don’t force yourself to finish all these exercises in a day. health. I want you to write down everything.  . Don’t be afraid to let everyone see. What are the things that you value in life? What are the important things? What do you stand by? What do you fight for? • What are Your Three Biggest Accomplishments? By listing them. and Philosophies in Life. Some exercises will take time to finish. indeed. You could probably never stop listing reasons here. I only want you to write down three. relationship. you’ll discover what you’re passionate about. Read it as often as you want for 30 days straight. I want you to post it somewhere you can see it everyday. So how is this useful in social interactions? Simple. No one can see what you write. Be proud of who you are. It’s always good to be mysterious but you should also find a way to convey your identity all through out the interaction. think back. It will reaffirm in your mind that you. This leaves women with a blank picture on their head of who you are as a person... • What are the Three Things You Like About Yourself. No one will judge what you write. and the things they believe in. and write it down. the things their passionate about. When you’re finished writing. and traveling. • Make a List of Everything You Want to Become. What makes you smile? What are the things you look forward to in the day? What’s your reward after a long day’s work? • Write Down Some of Your Main Theories. • Make a List of 15 Goals For Next Year.

travel. Discuss your perspectives on life. Invite your friends along and have a blast. If you’re enthusiastic about it then it becomes interesting to her. and anything your heart fancies. I want you to do an activity you enjoy doing but haven’t done in a long time. If you run out of things to do. You need to provide value. what do you do when you run out of things to say? An effective strategy is to just talk about something you’re really passionate about. Give her a taste of what it’s like to be in your shoes for a minute.  . It puts you into a positive light but it’s still not enough to get you into any kind of relationship. Discovering who you are and the things that make you tick is something you should work on regardless of your goals in life. music. TRY THIS OUT This weekend. art. Having this knowledge of yourself is so important especially when you’re interacting with people.So. Bring her into your world. It provides them with a window to your being and this makes you interesting. Remember. talk about the things that are interesting to you. Do this at least every two weeks. try something new.

then I wonder what happens when I’m not even present. Then I suddenly realized something. and a salesman pops up out of nowhere and asks one of the girls I’m with “Would you like to go out on a date with me?”. So why should she give you the time of day? What is in it for her? I hate to phrase it this way but at the end of the day. you must first understand them. We smiled. and all the others I’m about to discuss. Value is determined by a lot of things such as social status. appearance. In this society. it was hard to understand him with his accent.faCTor 3: lonG TerM and shorT TerM value So. lifestyle. It’s no secret that women get hit on all the time. I was walking in the mall with two girls. women usually pick the guys that can provide the most value to their life. Let me start out by giving you a glimpse of what it’s like to be an attractive woman. and took off. we weren’t mean to the poor guy or anything. communication. Anyway. I hear that you want to the secrets to dating women of particular quality and beauty during the daytime… In order to learn how to communicate with women. After all he had balls of steel for doing that. it boils down to one question Are you an asset or a liability? It sounds so ridiculous but it’s true. Value is broken down in to the categories: short and long term value  . waved. personality. Just last week. If these girls got hit on twice when they were with me. I think that’s what he said. How Women Decide If You’re A Contestant Most women have several choices of men from which to pick.

People tend to gravitate toward people that make them feel good. in my experience. Laughter serves two purposes: Builds attraction within a girl and creates an unspoken bond between the both of you. It’s addictive. • Laugh. They’ll call you and even pester you to hang out with them. You’ll notice that women want to be around you more often. someone’s doing exactly what you’re doing. you’ve got the ability to hold someone’s attention and  . You will get far with humor. Laugh. Laughter is a good feeling. Communication is a tool you can use to your advantage but that’s in another chapter. That’s the power of short term value. All you need are a few interesting topics in which you’re quite familiar. Intelligence is another tool you can use to captivate a woman’s mind. then you’re already ahead of the game. happiness. It’s the moment when we shut the whole world off for a second and connect with ourselves. If you can share your ideas with her passionately. Now let’s go into some examples of how you can cultivate short term value. The fact that you’re educated. Do you have what it takes to get her to want to slam her book down and just talk to you? It’s not impossible. Almost like a drug. comfort. Your job is to provide positive emotions like fun. It doesn’t specifically mean that you have come up with something super original. If she perceives you as being more valuable than what she’s currently doing. in fact you don’t have to be smart at all to pull this off. then she will go out of her way just to talk to you. she’s busy reading something. • Always provide positive emotions. stop. Laugh with them… If you have the skill to make women laugh. Become unique. Once you find a way to provide these emotions. You don’t have to be as smart as Albert Einstein. you’ll instantly be magnetic to women. There’s one problem though. This is done by conveying a rich and textured personality. then BAM. So the key is to be unique in that given environment. Do you remember the last time you shared a laugh with someone? Now. How did it make you feel? See my point. Let’s say you see a pretty woman as you walk into a coffee shop. etc. There’s a big chance that somewhere in the world. excitement. • Let your inner teacher shine. It happens most of the time. You want to be able to laugh together. Some ways of doing this are the way you groom and present yourself. just thinking about that moment…. • Develop your own signature presence .Short Term Value & Ways You Can Build It Up! Short term value is determined by the experience you give women the first time you meet them.

interest. Joyful. and enthusiastic. as my friend Rish would say. then it will be very hard for women not to notice you. Always have an opinion. • Romantic. Women are drawn to guys that are happy. This can be conveyed with your attitude and the right assertiveness. Don’t be afraid to take a stand and follow it up with an action. Show ‘em what you got! • You are the leader. Women constantly test for this. a trick. Let’s go”. and Enthusiastic. These positive emotions bring value to their lives. If you step into that role she will allow you to play the role. They want a man who knows what he wants. Women love romance. Are your outfits coordinated well? Does your belt match your shoes? Do you understand poetry and the different works of art? Do you know the best restaurants in your city? Do you understand the world of fashion? Do you know a couple of classic movies? If you’re equipped with this. joyful. when she says “Where are we going?” say “We’re going to grab some ice cream. Happy. If you can be a substitute for a romantic novel then. I know it’s easier said then done. and a plan. share your knowledge with the world. • Classy. Never say “I don’t know”. Teach her a couple of things about your culture. then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. This is usually learned through your family and the people you’re surrounded by. If you want her number then just ask for it. Don’t believe me? Did you know that romance novels account for majority of the sales in bookstores? And that’s why women just love a guy that can give them the romantic fantasy. Just remember. It’s also an advantage if you’ve done some traveling. Lead the conversation. Instead of saying “Do you want to come?” say “Let’s go” instead. Classy defines someone who has high standard of personal behavior. Cultured and Worldly. a few fun games you probably learned as a kid. “You’re so F****** money and you don’t even know it man”. teach everyone something. Wouldn’t you? • Decisive. 0 . Lead the interaction. Your job as a man is to lead the interaction. You can go on with this. For example. the possibilities are endless. Always lead and reassure her that she’s safe with you. Take her by the hand and make it easy for her. language. If she says “I’m not sure about this” say “You’re gonna love it. If you expect her to lead and even make the first move. trust me”. traditions. and a handshake. decision. Always make it a point to be a decision maker.

I think this is one major factor for women who are looking for a commitment. The most obvious one is the way one talks about life. The whole courting process is very similar to sales. And don’t forget to make it an interesting book. Women crave men who are ambitious. Your long term value is responsible for keeping a girl hooked on you. dangerous. That’s why you want to give her the best option so she can make an educated decision. or exciting and live to talk about it. A renaissance man is considered a man at the centre of the universe. these are the things that go on behind closed doors. From experience. The only difference is that you’re not selling an actual product. It’s time to rediscover and redefine yourself. but it’s sort of like a gut feeling. It’s hard to explain over in text. Short term value opens the door to her life. There are a lot of ways ambition can be conveyed. Here’s a short description I found on the internet.  . Now it’s time to cultivate your long term value. As hard as it sounds. Remember. limitless in his capacities for development. Lean more toward the energy that they give off. Make your life an open book. YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELF! Here are the features that you can add on to increase your long term value • Become a renaissance man. continue the relationship. Do something adventurous. Coming up in the next couple of chapters.LONG TERM VALUE & WAYS YOU CAN BUILD IT UP So you’ve learned how to demonstrate short term value. You have to walk a little bit to get through the door and make sure that you stay in it. Make it a routine to continuously be learning. They smell this quality a mile away. a girl decides if she wants to see you again. Pick up a book every two weeks and read it. Do something new every single month. Stay tuned! • Dare to Dream. Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something in life. I can always tell the people who are ambitious from the ones that aren’t. Sounds like a sales pitch right? Right. • Emotional Connection. Boredom is the enemy. or go on a date with you when you’re not there! These are the times when she probably evaluates you as a package and sees if you’re worth it.

I’m not saying that all women are gold diggers. say “thank you”. now how do you respond to it? Do you get all offended and convincing her that you’re a cool guy deep down inside? Or do you just accept it with a smile.  . They also like men that know exactly how to press their buttons and provide satisfaction. and move on to the next topic? • Keep ‘em Guessing. It is no secret that women love men that are great in bed. what do you do for a living?” They’re trying to get a glimpse of how much money you earn. It’s fun. “I want a guy who is rich. It’s good to create a contrast in your personality. This can be demonstrated by the way you treat her. This is similar to being confident. and handsome”. • Tenderness and Sensitivity. tall. This is conveyed with the way you speak and carry yourself. Sex releases endorphins and it relaxes the body. Do you assert your wishes on others? Do you make sure that you’ve got everything under control? Do you bargain your way into getting something you really want? Do you take a stand a support it fully? • Sex God. • Self-assuredness.• Financially self-sufficient. Firm and Strong. How do you move through the world? Are you afraid to take up space in the world? Or are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you let bad criticisms get to you? Or do you accept them confidently? A simple test would be a woman giving you a hard time about something you either wear or do. Being predictable takes the excitement out of a relationship or interaction. It’s not a prerequisite for her to date you but it plays a huge role if you want to have a smooth long term relationship. It’s not good to be too unpredictable either. You need to be able to support yourself and show potential for becoming financially stable one day. At times be romantic and shower her with attention and the next day treat her like one of your buddies. Women are sexual beings just like we are. Women like men that can give them a wonderful experience. They get all excited when you do this. Do you listen to her when she opens up to you? Do you act as a protector and make sure she’s always taken care of? Do you steer her around corners when you guys are walking around? Do you make her feel comfortable at times when she’s not? • Assertive. All I’m trying to say is that women screen the men to see if they are relationship material. I hate to admit it but money is a deciding factor in the dating game. Unpredictability is the spice of life. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard that phrase from women. They enjoy sex as much as we do. Don’t you wonder what women are trying to find out when they ask “So.

These are some of the essential components to building long term value. big goal concepts. If you’re below 3 in one of the qualities I outlined here. By now. then take a week to focus on this specific quality. it’s useless. I want you to take a good look at yourself and your life. You at least need to be between 3-5 in all ranges in order to be successful with women. and a couple of helpful tips. Remember. That’s the reason why communicating effectively is a topic I spend several hours teaching at the workshops. you can have the best line or script in the world but if you can’t present it well. When you’re done. if you’ve been doing everything right.  . Now go through each quality I mentioned in this chapter and rate yourself from 1-5 (1 being the lowest and 5 the highest). TRY THIS OUT Read through this chapter again. you should have a killer understanding of inner foundation.

Hot Stuff. he walks toward her and starts talking. Whether you’re working on presenting an idea to other people. Ms. Actually. That’s the secret to success beyond your wildest dream. she deploys her killer line: “Oh. He looks over and notices big boobs. It was nice meeting you though. I have to rush back home because I left the light on my boyfriend’s room.Ms. Let me give you an example. Contestant # 1. nice hair. Plain or Hot Jane Scenario 1: Ms. I almost forgot. Hours pass by. And then. She heads over to the table to sit down. Plain Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. So what was the component that determined success and failure in each interaction?  .faCTor 4: effeCTIve CoMMunICaTIon Your communication skills will either make or break you in your quest for success in all areas of your life.Mr. Average Guy is innocently looking for clothes to buy. She sees this guy. he notices something moving from his side. she got him all excited in less than a second… Contestant # 2. a body to die for. Two minutes later. he wants her. That’s all it is. there’s more to it than that. tata!” Scenario 2: Ms. Average Guy General Scenario: Mr. She stands up and leaves the coffee shop with him. I didn’t even notice the time. probably not. Deep down. or instructing a cab driver where you want to go. After three minutes of boring conversation and ineffective communication. you need to be able to communicate effectively. He starts getting excited or nervous and he knows why. Wow. but it’s a key ingredient my friend. She sees this average looking guy. I’m not going to sugar coat it. Plain Jane starts to slowly face away from Mr. and a Mona Lisa smile. He started out as a stranger and left like her lover. He’s smoking hot. Average Guy’s hormones go wild. Mr. He seems to carry himself well and has a good sense of style. Minutes pass by. She’s enjoying the moment. Hot Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. describing a movie you watched to your friends. In that moment. You must develop strong and effective communication skills in order to get what you want in life. She’s excited but she’s not going to give it all away because of that. Hot Stuff makes his way to talk to her. Mr. Next thing you know. that was fast.

When you know how to communicate well you can get . Most guys I’ve met always ask me for the techniques I use to start conversations with women. it’s useless. when you want it. you can live the most interesting life in the world.Effective communication. and your values in life. You are what you communicate. No one else will find out all these positive things about you. your beliefs. Now the next time you go out. Remember what she says. You can have 99 good qualities about you but unless you know how to effectively communicate them. Does the barista ask you any questions afterward? Good. it’s a really cool exercise. One of the most common question I hear is “What do you say to her to start the conversation?”  . I’m in the mood for a caramel macchiato. decaf. make sure your order is so clear that you won’t be barraged with questions after your order. For example: “Hmmmmmm. • More dates and maintain relationships easily. • Women to feel exactly any emotion that you want them to feel allowing you to control and predict the outcome of your interactions.. Just try it out for fun. • What you want. and how you want it • Your message across clearly for anyone to understand • Recognized for your ability to comm-YOU-nicate who you are. Then hand out your cash or card. with no whip cream.. Just think about it. The Communication Equation Individual + Effective Method of Presentation + Powerful Content of Presentation =Effective Communication TRY THIS OUT Go out to a coffee shop one of these days and order your favorite drink. to go please... Presence is Everything I’ll share something with you.

and how you carry yourself. disgust. Have you ever heard the saying “People buy you first before anything else”. here are six helpful tips to increase the power of your presence: • Learn how to smile. Women are masters when it comes to reading body language. Along the way. sit. Facial expressions are used to convey emotions like anger. Having said that. • Communicate with your eyes. Are you comfortable with the way you stand. It’s all about how you present yourself. Practice using a variety of facial expressions when you tell people stories. A genuine smile can take you a long way. rather than being all serious and mysterious. It worked because of the way I presented it. This helps to get your message across more effectively. Your facial expressions can communicate messages of their own. How stylish are you? What kind of fashion statement are you making? What can people tell about you by the way you dress up? Does your style leave a good or bad impression on others? Do you command attention? • It’s not what you say but how you say it. I guess the saying “The eyes are the windows to the soul” does have meaning. I found that saying to be true.  . fear. And believe me. joy. • Facial expression. How’s your vocal projection and delivery. • Fashion. and surprise. Smiling makes women feel comfortable. Did you know that there is a way to use eye contact to increase the effectiveness of your communication? It’s very important to hold eye contact at certain points in the interaction. or walk? Are you relaxed and calm during most times? Do you lean back when you talk to her? Do you move unnecessarily during the conversation? Your non-verbal communication is the window to who you are. how relaxed you are. sadness. It eases women up at times when they’re nervous. Holding eye contact builds trust and comfort. when I say a lot. I noticed that some techniques worked better than the others (more about techniques in the last chapter) but there was always one thing common that made my approach work. It makes a big difference. It really does. Do you slow down your pace when you’re emphasizing a point? Do you use pauses to amp up the tension and intrigue? Do you speak loud and clear for people to hear? Do you speak from your diaphragm or nasal? Do you eat your words? Are you relaxed when you speak? • Body Language. They categorize you based on how you stand up. There have been several studies shown that women prefer men that smile while initiating a conversation.I’ve experimented with a lot of conversation starters in public places. I mean a lot.

Try mixing it up. and leaning against the wall. Thou shall not stand or sit too close or too far from her. Never have your hand inside your front pockets when you initiate a conversation with anyone unless it’s below freezing and you don’t have any gloves. man tends to change his behaviors and act way cooler then he really is. then it won’t feel like it’s a conversation. 2. It usually goes like this: Man sees attractive woman. will provide women with enough information to categorize you based on the impression you just gave them” Have you ever thought about the things you convey about yourself based on your body language? Did you know that women can tell if you’re confident and cool or nervous and inexperienced just by the observing the way you walk. It’s really funny to watch. Thou shall relax and lean back. If you’re too far from her. When woman gets close. Men tend to easily get intimidated with women that are way above their league. Next time you’re in an interaction. That includes doing things like slouching. For some reason. At low points step away a little bit. At high and fun points take a step closer or move your chair closer. So here’s to a good first impression. and slowly get closer at specific points of the interaction. the way you walk. I’ve had success with starting off at about 3-5 feet away. Experiment with it. 3.  . Thou shall not have thy hands inside the front pockets.Body Language Tips for Day Game “Your body language. At the same time. Man starts to make unnecessary movement because of the extra energy he feels. If you’re nervous all throughout the interaction. then she will feel very uncomfortable. placing your feet up on chairs. you slowly start to feel more relaxed. 4. even if you’re nervous. Man gets very jittery. chances are she’ll be nervous too. and the way you move through this world on a daily basis. I feel comfortable when my hands are out of my pockets. talk and carry yourself? I think that body language is the biggest giveaway when it comes to revealing who you are and how you feel. I’ve discovered that when you assume a relaxed position. don’t move your hands around too much when you talk. Thou shall not shake or move a lot in the presence of an attractive woman. Man starts to smile nervously. just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. If you stay to close to her. The  Commandments of Effective Body Language 1. right from the bat.

Do whatever makes you feel better. I modeled this behavior after guys that were naturals when it came to dealing with women. Thou shall walk and move slow. the more positive responses I got from women. Women are human beings too. 5. I’d stutter. The way you stood up probably changed. talked. become jittery. Thou shall keep thy composure at all times. For example. Everything they did was almost too smooth. I used to lay down flat on the floor and take deep breaths. Mirroring her body language is a technique used to increase rapport and comfort levels. They stand up so erect that it’s almost too funny to watch. They’re not some sort of super human goddesses from outer space you know? They do the same things you do. relax. I used to be that way every time I thought I got rejected by women.  . and eventually make a shameful exit. and moved slow. They walked. 6. And the more I started acting that way. Thou shall not stand up like a soldier. They just exert more effort and time into looking good. They took their time almost like they owned time. when I’m calling up a girl for the first time. Your voice tone probably changed. Everything changed. They’re shoulders become tense and they act all stiff to the point that they make themselves nervous. 8. If you’re guilty of this. Not good. Have you ever been guilty of standing up too straight while you’re talking to a woman? Similar to how you would stand and act if you’re talking to an authority figure? Most guys take interactions with women too seriously. Have you ever been in a situation gone bad? You probably didn’t notice at that time but everything about you changed. The exact same thing I did every time I experienced a mild confrontation. It shows people that you were emotionally affected by it. it helped me relax more. 7. For some reason. I’ve learned that if you keep your composure and act as if nothing happened then you end up maintaining control of the situation. Thou shall mirror her body language.

. I am a man and I have something to offer the world…” That’s how I view the world. I talk about my life experiences and my view on things because I just want to share my life with other people..  . I just like to give.. Give Before You Take A lot of people are used to taking things from the world and from people. Take a deep breath.... Here’s my view of the world: “I am a man. Be comfortable.. Relax... That’s the reason why women instantly open up to me when I initiate a conversation with them. I bring fun and excitement to everyone I meet. Relax.. Don’t tense your shoulders up. Your job is to not be one of those guys.. Inhale.. But once you betray my trust. I give without really expecting anything in return. I’ll take care of you and make you feel like you’re part of my family. People that just ask favors all the time.TRY THIS OUT Lean back. Don’t be too stiff.. My presences makes people feel better.. Feet spread apart. Be comfortable.... And make sure not to fall asleep. Slow and confident movements.. I’ve been guilty of this as well. Be comfortable.. I offer positive and fun emotions... Those one-way friendships where people just call you when they need something from you.. that’s a different story. It’s sad and I see it happen every day..... I move through the world with something to offer to everyone. It happens so often that it’s become normal. It’s also the reason why I can give a woman a compliment without seeming like I just want to get in her pants. It makes me happy... Exhale. At the same time I know my boundaries and I won’t be taken advantage of. Hands out of the pockets.... Relax... I’m the sweetest and coolest person you’ll ever meet.. People that just keep asking question after question without really contributing toward the conversation.

You should learn to cultivate it. I am focused more on giving to people rather than taking anything from them. So if effective communication opens doors for you.That’s the reason why I am who I am right now. It’s rare. And you’ll soon realize that it opens women up to your ideas and messages as well. then do you know what makes you stick in her mind? Endlessly? 0 . People sense this quality. TRY THIS OUT Effective communication will open doors for you in this life.

 . Almost to the point of “I’ll do anything for you. He is rare in this society. This always keeps her on her toes. I also happen to be the only guy. The ratio of girls to guys in my family is about 14:1. He’s more sensitive than most guys and actually shows his sensitive side. So why are women attracted to guys that act like jerks? Women are attracted because they don’t acknowledge her as some sort of higher being than them. Guys like these usually worship the women they are with. He’s actually much rarer than a really hot girl that has it all together. you need to cultivate both your masculine and feminine side. gang members. It’s hard to find guys that are just right in the middle. A man who is masculine and knows how to communicate with women. women crave the feminine side in men. frat boys. bikers. She hopes that one day. Now let’s talk about the guy with a feminine profile. Growing up. How to effectively build an emotional connection. and I had to work on this aspect later on. At the same time. Certain profiles are assholes. Men are usually too masculine or too feminine. Somewhere along the road. That’s 14 girls for every 1 guy. Let me explain. I’d like to call this the heart of day game. in the long run. even if you treat me bad”. That’s off the wall. women lose respect for this type of guy. This guy is usually submissive in a relationship. it’s done in little quantities but never enough for her. I’m about to tell you why. Women are attracted to the two profiles but there’s a flaw that exists in both. Women like men that can act like men. she’ll be able to make him change. Women wish that these guys would just stop for a second and actually take time to show her how much he appreciates her. I grew up with four little sisters. It rarely happens though.faCTor 5: eMoTIonal ConneCTIon Now we’re getting to my favorite part of the book. They usually fall under the extremes. If it does. Let me tell you a little bit more about me. He rarely has control of the things that are going on in his life. And that’s because they can’t live up to their role of being a man. In order to be successful with women. I never really had a strong male influence in my life.

I learned how to build a long lasting emotional connection.  . Women have two sides to them… A logical side and an emotional side Oh I forgot. it will be another fun experience for you. women dream of guys that have cultivated both masculine and feminine sides to them. If you want proof that the above statement is true then I double dare you to show it to ANY of your female friends. Why they do the things they do and why they act the way they act. Someone who takes the bull by the horns and at the same time cares if she’s comfortable. Do it. I was very fortunate to be surrounded by women early on in my life. and how their minds works. If nothing else. the things they want. And most of all. you first have to understand how they operate. Someone who sees them for who they truly are and at the same time treats them as an equal. Come on. I learned what they really wanted in a guy. Someone who has firm beliefs and opinions and at the same time is open minded. Her logical side makes all the decisions but there’s a much stronger side that can completely override it… it’s her emotional side. I became familiar with the way a woman’s mind worked. Ideally. not just what they said they wanted. It taught me things that I never knew I knew. Someone who can make her experience a variety of emotions and at the same time give her a chance to do the same. Someone who treats her like a woman and the same time puts her at her place when there’s a need for it. But guys like that are just hard to find. Anyway. Understanding Women In order to become successful with women.Women look for men that are strong and at the same time gentle. Looking back. I understood what made them feel comfortable. they also have a physical side. back to my story. I learned how to communicate with them effectively. I unconsciously learned how to be comfortable around women and vice versa. but that’s not until later.

Women want you to believe that her logical side is in control but in reality. the perfect guy would come along. Every Woman Has a Fantasy Let’s rewind. date. It’s a place full of hopes. And it all began when she was a little girl. she was probably exposed to all these romantic Hollywood Disney movies. A guy that will come along and push all her buttons making her cherish  . This just encouraged her to believe that one day. Drama is also something that certain women might be addicted to. There’s one thing I want you to know before I give you all the techniques and tactics to meet. That’s the same reason I believe that “If you can captivate the mind. and not long after that. this is the natural progression of all my successful interactions. and keep women… And that’s the fact that. That’s probably the same reason why make up sex is better than regular sex. And now I’ll reveal to you the Equation for Getting Any Woman You Desire! Logical Connection + Emotional Connection + Sexual Connection + Proper place and time = The Perfect Seduction. dreams.. and fantasies. A guy that would sweep her off her feet and appreciate her for who she truly is. A place that’s been buried deep down inside that’s probably never been forgotten. the heart will follow. That’s because there’s emotion involved in it. That’s why most women read romance novels and watch soap operas. it’s the other way around. They are filled with emotions. She’s been exposed to movies about love and destiny. shhh it’s a secret. the body will too…” Looking back at my experiences. I’m going to give you a sneak peek at a place within women that they don’t want you to know. There are tons of emotions that take place prior to it. Growing up.. Women are emotional creatures. I’m going to take you through a journey that’s about to open your eyes to the world of women. They enjoy experiencing emotions and they communicate with it.

This explains why women may act bitchy at times. And Spiritual Level + Appreciation + Comfort with Presence + Commonality and familiarity + Shared Emotions = Long Lasting Emotional Connection  .the experience even more. They’ve probably had a rough past. That causes them to protect themselves by acting “bitchy”. Some women forget about this side of themselves usually because they get really hurt from a certain experience. This causes them to toss away that dream. But at that moment. It’s because they’ve been hurt before. but it kept her busy during that period of time. Some women actually ended up holding on to that dream. hot. They go after the rich. Maybe a relationship gone wrong or just a really traumatizing experience. it satisfies her. Deep. A guy that knows what to do and how to do it. and famous. This is at the deep core of every woman. These women constantly wait for their prince charming every single day. They do it because it works. Not everything turns out to be the way you expect it to be. This is when they just start to settle for anything else out there. Everyone starts out as a hopeless romantic or they develop it later on in life. or available guys that probably can’t give them what they need. A guy that will take her on a memorable experience. Anyways. Maybe it’s not exactly what she wanted. Core. She learns and begins to grow. These women are what we call the “Hopeless Romantics”. Then she grows up and begins to realize that not everything’s perfect. just like what happens when kids find out that Santa Claus isn’t real. Most of them just end up being disappointed. Chances are they probably get into relationships hoping that someone can fit that role... and go for more superficial things. The Hidden Formula For Creating An Emotional Connection Man Opens up + Woman Opens Up + They Connect on Surface.

5. it takes two to tango. Just learn how to keep on talking and sharing your experiences. Sharing a deep experience will encourage her to do the same. It’s what I call the “Go First Principle”. Tell her something that nobody knows about you. Open up to everyone you meet. and then give your answer. Relate with her. You must tell her in a way that she can understand. 2. she actually gives you the winning cards that you can use on her. don’t talk. This makes her feel super special. It’s an important skill to be able to describe an emotion so effectively that she begins to feel it. Once in awhile I like to add “I can’t believe I’m telling you this… I don’t even tell this to the people I’m close with…” This little piece gets the message across. and the things you value in life. It makes you look smarter. That’s why it’s important to become comfortable with sharing your life experiences with other people. Same thing when women ask you questions.  . You can see her face either light up or the other way around. Most guys just relate with her on a superficial level. 4. Once you do a good job at describing the emotion. As an exercise. The emotion in this scenario will. Whether you’re telling a story or just explaining your current mood. It’s always better to relate on the deeper topics. You automatically become special once she’s shared this with you. Shut up. Tell her how you feel. So the next time a woman starts to open up to you. and vice versa. Lead with your personality. you just build an unspoken bond between the two of you. Of course. 6. Share a deep experience. early on in the interaction. It’s important to emphasize and describe exactly how you feel. Open up to her. At the same time. just keep quiet and listen. Everything you do. You’re vulnerable as well. She’ll feel like she knows you better. Everything she says is gold! Later on. Most men focus on logical stuff. Especially if you know exactly how to tell her how you feel. 3. By telling her a secret. Practice being social. build an unspoken bond. That’s right. it will give you a better picture of how you can effectively seduce her. You have to know how to relate with her. this will help a lot in building a connection. pause for a bit. you can almost see it. beliefs. When she pauses. it shows her that you’re just a human being. once again. Always be leading. It solidifies whatever connection that’s present. don’t just open up to her. will set up the stage on how it’s going to be. Wait for another 3-5 seconds before you interject. After all. you also want to encourage her to share a secret with you.Crash Course: 8 Killer Strategies in Order to Build an Emotional Connection 1. How do you expect her to open up to you if you don’t do the same? One way to help her open up to you is to do it first. You’re setting the standard here. It adds depth to your personality. Don’t interrupt her when she begins to open up.

If you’re good at connecting with women. More about this on the last section. then you’re ahead of most guys out there. in your head. Kill the quick me too. It comes across as if you’re trying too hard to be similar with her. Now. What I’ve found to be very effective is to hold the “Me too” for 10 minutes or so and later in the conversation. Another example: Let’s say she tells me that her favorite band is Pearl Jam. I’ll just let her talk. Instead of telling her “That’s so cool. let’s say she talks about how much she just loves to dance.. make a conscious effort to actually implement them the next time you’re out. Are you aware of the value of building an emotional connection now? Do you know that there are two things that you need to add to the equation in order to build the ultimate bond? That brings me to my next topic. If not. You’ll notice a big difference in your interactions. TRY THIS OUT Play back the last conversation you had. For example. ask yourself if you were implementing the concepts covered in this section. if I’m also into dancing. then later on. me too” whenever the opportunity arises. I’ll just casually slip in a story about how I won a dancing contest or something like that.  . or let her discover it on top of my CD player. I’ll start to talk about it indirectly. 8. even let the subject drift off.7. Pacing and Complimenting. I like Pearl Jam too” I’d rather play my Pearl Jam CD when she rides in my car.. I’ve noticed that most men are eager to say “Yeah.

In order for her to go anywhere with you. she must be comfortable with you... the drinks.faCTor 6: CoMforT & TrusT There are a lot of differences between learning how to meet women in bars and club as opposed to public places. or even answer your call. her peer group and the competition. In the bars and clubs you have to deal with the music.  . So what factors do you have to address when you’re planning to meet women in public places? COMFORT AND TRUST In order for them to call you back. or shopping for groceries. looking for clothes. it’s a social context. So when you walk up to women in this setting the first thing they think about is “Is this guy cool enough for me to talk to? There are so many guys. You can be anyone dangerous and she wouldn’t even find out. So you’ll have to equip yourself with a unique style. why should I talk to him”. and some serious entertainment skills. And do you remember what your parents told you about strangers? Don’t talk to strangers. she must at least trust you a little bit. That’s why it’s so important to take her on an. INSTANT DATE That’s right. it’s a whole other story. strangers can be bad. Who says you need to wait a couple of days before you take her out? Taking her on an instant date will dramatically increase the chances of her picking up your calls and going out with you later on. loading up on gas. Let me share with you a quick story on how I discovered this key element. During the day time. With the different crimes out there. it’s a date right on the spot. show up on a date. She’s a woman and you’re a man. Well. women just need to be extra careful nowadays. When you’re in a bar or club. a loud booming voice. Whenever someone talks to her she instantly considers them a stranger. She’s probably by herself. here are the facts.

she starts fixing her bra in front of me as I was talking.  . let’s sit over there”. Then she pulls off her killer line “Hey. I slowly stopped her from walking and we ended up chatting for a bit. she was the one who took the bull by the horns. She was about three inches taller than me. I ended up kissing her. “Hey. I left my cigarettes in the car.” Another 20 minutes passed by and she said “Let’s go for a walk. I noticed this tall brunette girl. And the rest I would say. I remember my goal for that day. “Hey. I complied. after a bit of conversation she said. come with me”. Little did I know. is history… If we ever meet one of these days. Anyways. I still couldn’t believe it though. In my mind. To cut the long story short. Looking back at that interaction. to get our blood to circulate throughout our bodies…” Then while we were walking. had a slim figure. considering it was my first time trying to meet girl at malls. she lived like five minutes away from the mall by the ocean. I went out with my buddies to go learn how to meet women in malls. It was on. I hit the five minute mark. I keep kicking myself in the foot. In that moment. Are you ready for this? While I was chatting with my buddies. Three minutes passed by. I’ll probably tell you what happened. I’m really thirsty. Apparently. we ended up talking about her place. Let’s go to Starbucks and get something to drink. this was the day that changed my life. and a cute semi angelic/naughty face. shortly after getting inside her car. only if you promise to keep it to yourself. but now that I look back. She kept on leading me and I followed. I looked her up and down.A few years ago. She was in a business outfit and had some shopping bags with her. My heart skipped a beat for a second. It was to start a conversation and stay in for three minutes. my legs are tired. And then all of a sudden. I was completely clueless at that time. I would have been very happy if I got to hold a conversation for three minutes. I was doing pretty well. Fifteen minutes passed by and she said.

That means. At least. • It separates you from all the other guys. More time means getting to know her better and vice versa. When she takes the chance and goes to coffee with you. Me” to “Us vs. let’s go”. Helps you reach your goals faster.  . that’s how her mind processes it. So it’s your opportunity to prove to her that you can be trusted and that she’s safe with you. she puts herself in a position where something bad can happen to her. At least try to. Somehow it creates a new environment for the both of you therefore making it easier to talk about other things. regardless of any technique you use. you significantly increases the chances of her calling you back and going out with you. having a shared bond between the two of you. take her on an instant date. You’ll play on a different level.Of course. You’re not like that. • Chance for you to show that she’s safe with you. It keeps you moving forward. If you play your cards right. • Shift from “You vs. It gives you more time. Most guys just go for her number. • Decreases the chances of flaking later on. I stole my whole script from her. TRY THIS OUT The next time you’re in a conversation for more than 10 minutes. you can tag along. When you’re at a high point in the interaction (Example: she’s laughing or there’s a good vibe) just say: “I’m really thirsty. When you go on an instant date you become a potential partner. It’s like going out on your first date right there and then. It’s really powerful. You’re still a complete stranger. Your primary goal when you start talking to a woman. With a little bit of tweaking I’ve used something similar and have experienced unbelievable results with it. Forget the concept of getting her number for now. you should give me your number”. When you first meet her. Let me give you the benefits of going on an instant date • You get to hit two birds with one stone. you’re a STRANGER in her eyes. • Gives you more time to get to know her better. is to create an “Our World” vibe. It helps you get through conversational stalls. It creates a shift in the atmosphere. When you get her on an instant date. • Helps you get through conversational barriers. I’m going to grab a drink real quick and since you’re fun. you officially are operating on a different level. Them”. • You keep the interaction moving forward. That bond is unique for every girl. They say things like “We should hang out sometime” and “Yeah.

0 . so let’s say you’ve done a great job at interacting with her.Ok. What’s the next move? You’re supposed to be in tune with the environment because it will help you figure out the best logistical approach you can use to escalate the interaction further. Probably you’ve passed the test with flying colors and you even have a lot of inside jokes and secrets.

Have some pillows and blankets at the back of your car. a blanket. Have a pen and paper with you. Is your place classy or trashy? Does your place convey what you’re passion about? What does it say about you? Do you have clean sheets or dirty ones? Do you have dirty clothes all over the floor? Does your place smell good? 6. It was the painful truth.  . 4. Make sure you have a clean place. 5. Bring protection. Always have a pen and paper with you. Women will judge you based on how clean your place is and how creative you are with it. a beach. With that in mind. The BEST experience in my life involved a girl. How will you take her on an instant date? What will you say to get her number? How do you get her back to your car? How do you get her back to your place? 2. just in case. a guitar. Don’t ever sabotage your success by not being prepared.faCTor 7: loGIsTICs Do you know where you’re going? A lot of guys don’t go out prepared. and me. You’ll never know where you’d end up going. here are 0 Golden Tips To Help You Master Your Logistics 1. 3. Your place will say a lot about you. And this is true especially for the beginners. That’s an advanced topic though. Not just give her number or take her number because it limits what you can do. A nice little fold up sleeping bag that fits two people in it will do. when I discovered that. Have a plan before you go out. Know your location well. What if I told you that… She would have gone home with you only if you were prepared?! Won’t that piss you off? Sure did piss me off. Enough said. you want to exchange contact information with her. Remember. You can also string along and take her on multiple instant dates. Know exactly what to do before you even go out. Pick five places in your mall that you will take her on an instant date.

with the guys that aren’t. When you say “Let’s go” start to walk in the direction you want to go. I’m in a hurry. Women will sometimes refuse to do what you want them to do. you might say something to turn me off and I’d be running for my life” or something to that effect. Assume first. stay an extra minute or two. you can go on with your shopping… and besides.7. When she says “Uhmmm. Again. It’s your job to lead the interaction. Almost as if she’s expected to follow you. This will all make sense to you sooner or later in your journey. If you’re dropping her off at her house. Tell her where you want to go. 8. It’s what separates the guys that are successful with women. Be prepared for contingencies. Don’t give up at the first sign of resistance. The point is. stop for a second. I need to do my shopping” say “That’s cool. Next time you feel like walking a way. This last piece of the puzzle is probably the most significant topic in this whole book. 10. Always assume that she’s up for it. it might only take three minutes… who knows. always be prepared for contingencies. Always be leading. don’t wait for her to ask. then give it a shot! 9. Get to know her and spend a little more time with her then try again. It’s better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. Don’t ask just lead. Talk a little more. it all boils down to being prepared. Stay in there. After we get some ice cream for five minutes. Don’t be fazed by it and don’t walk away. Instead of saying “Can we…” say “Let’s go…” This little trick might make all the difference in your interactions.  .

You’ll start to realize that you can actually just relax and appreciate her company.  . Social Investment. It’s smooth sailing from there. I don’t advocate playing with women’s feelings. etc. Here’s a list of the different types of investment a woman makes and how to get the most out of each and every one. The best way to persuade a woman to do something is to make her want to do it. make them work for it. The more they invest in you. She gets more and more invested in you every time she opens up. Physical Investment.faCTor 8: InvesTMenT Do you know how to make someone want something? How do you make someone value something? Simple. Time Investment. hopes. How much time does she spend with you? Do you see each other often? Do you spend some time talking with her on the phone? Does she spend a lot of time winning you over because you have standards? The more time a woman spends with you (Talking on the phone. Sex is the biggest investment. It makes things so much easier for the both of you. Once you’re passed that level. Talk about her passions. the higher the chance of you getting what you want out of it. so use this stuff carefully. Do you remember the last time you worked hard for something? How did it feel in the end? How satisfied were you when you accomplished it? This is the same emotion that women feel if they’ve worked hard for you. Emotional Investment. Have you met her friends? Do they like and approve of you? Has she met your friends? Do you go out to social activities often? Do you have any mutual friends? They key to getting her to invest in you more. dreams. In my experience. This goes back to building a solid emotional connection.) the more she gets invested in you. future and share your view in life as well. hanging out. values. Use it wisely. Another way to get her invested in you is to be physical with her. is to be a part of her life. This stuff is very powerful. and get her to be part of yours too. sex opens up all the lines of communication. it becomes a lot easier.

You heard me right. lines. She’s not even going to give me the time of day. And most of the time.” Here’s the truth… Practicing techniques. I’ll be sharing with you the proper mindset that you should have before you go out there. Yes. laugh at me.Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS. After the weekend. regardless of where I am. rAcking up dAteS. Since then I’ve been more relaxed and comfortable meeting women. I felt like I wasn’t worthy to talk to them. And besides I’d have to try hard to entertain her  . I don’t get as nervous as I used to be. I used to think that women wouldn’t want to talk to me. You’re your own worst enemy. and all the tactics to meet women is easy. My whole view changed and I think that it had to do with the way I viewed things. I have nothing special about me. and think I’m weird. And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndseT for MeeTInG WoMen I just got off the phone with a student I had last weekend. in my experience. I don’t want to talk to her. The hardest part is going against everything that is preventing you from achieving success. that’s your own self. Here’s what he told me: “Right now. I enjoy talking to people. it’s what makes or breaks you. Everyone else will see that I am talking to her and they will think that I’m a loser. she’s way out of my league. something clicked inside of me. I’m not even qualified to talk to her. Yes you would get results instantly! But that’s not the real challenge. Come on. She’ll ignore me. Here are the things that you should not think about: “Wow she’s so hot. Before the workshop. Mental barriers are very strong and.

I take pride in being me.and be really slick and smooth. The best part about it is that women are everywhere. Every time I talk to women. Here’s more. I’m everything and more that a woman can ever ask for. They’re completely clueless. I don’t seek approval from anyone. Looking at things in a positive perspective will get you far. I am a man of purpose. where do I want to meet women?  . I live life to the fullest without apologizing for anything I do. I walk through this world as if I own it. shopping for clothes. then she doesn’t know what she’s missing. I live my life for me…” Where To MeeT WoMen There are dozens of places during the day time to meet women. It’s a like a foreign concept for them. My own values and passions define me. You will never run out of women to approach. Women are fortunate that I give them the chance to get to know me. imagine that you possess a winning combination to a lottery ticket. So how does this apply to approaching women? Here’s how you should think… “I am a man of purpose. I am who I am. that person doesn’t know what a lottery ticket is. You can see them crossing the street. People’s reactions toward me don’t define me. I am doing them a favor. Your job is to give the ticket away to anyone… But here’s the catch. I just can’t be myself and get her to like me. I make them happy. I seriously doubt it. The first step to being successful with women is to look at things in a positive way. Here’s how you should think and feel about meeting women… Ok. you just have a couple of minutes to convince them to even hear you out. either way I’ll still be happy. If she rejects me. The one ticket that will probably get you set for life. Now you’ve got to ask yourself. or playing in the sand. you can take me or leave me. It’s impossible…” I’ve heard that objection more times than I can count. Any woman will be fortunate to get to know me.

Did you know that the ratio of women to men in yoga classes is like 15:1? Well. supermarket. imitate them or slightly be more animated/energized then they are. parks.In order to figure that out. When you’re approaching a woman in a library. General places to meet women are malls. just be in tune with the social energy level of the location. If you want spiritual girls. and pretty much everywhere. etc. then that’s a different story. So the key is to be aware of the social energy in the place that you’re in. How loud do they speak? Do they command respect in an interaction or not? When you discover this. take advantage of that. coffee shops. you need to figure out what type of women you want to meet. TRY THIS OUT Go to five places this week (coffee shops.  . you must be aware and in tune with its energy level. be In Tune WITh The enerGy level In order to be successful in approaching in various public places. college campuses. And she might not be used to handling it. bookstores. and match it. Now.) and observe how people communicate. let’s talk a bit about specialization… If you want girls that are into health and fitness then go to the nearest gym. So to avoid unnecessary complications. If you want smart girls then hit up the library. streets. then join a yoga class. beaches. If you’re approaching a woman on the street then you can get away with speaking a little bit louder. Violating energy levels puts social pressure on the woman you’re talking too.

Let me give you some examples. and so forth…. They all work… I’ve tried them all. ask their opinion. I found the perfect opener for daytime approaches. no matter where I was. There are no possible excuses in my mind. But here’s the question. So after I get her attention. Confidence begins to radiate through every part of my body. After a little bit of tweaking. If she’s walking to her car. If there’s no chair beside her. What’s the fastest and most efficient way of initiating conversation with women? I was looking for something that cut right through the bullshit. If she’s walking the opposite direction. It’s basic law of physics: An object in motion will stay in motion unless an outside force causes it to stop. Whenever I see a girl I’m attracted to. I would slowly walk in her pathway so she would be forced to come to a complete stop. This is a very important step in my overall structure and let me tell you why. You can tell jokes. If you don’t command her full attention then she won’t process your verbal communication effectively. Tension begins to fill up my body. she will stop. If you pull this off correctly. Here’s how it works. I act like she dropped something on the ground. I make sure to grab one and place it right next to her. I want to meet her and I will meet her. my heart pumps faster.Crash Course In sTarTInG ConversaTIon WITh WoMen Let me make something clear… There are dozens of ways to initiate a conversation with women. I run after her and tell her to stop. I needed something that I could use anytime. I say something like:  . If she’s sitting down I make sure to sit down as well. I suddenly feel the ball of energy inside of me. say something situational. and I slowly make my way towards her. and then deliver my conversational opener. The first thing I do is get her full and undivided attention. make myself comfortable.

When you use this approach. It conveys that you’re intuitive and socially intelligent by nature. Sets up the proper foundation for the interaction right from the beginning.  . Every time you say something that she agrees with. It shows her that you’re sensitive to her needs and that you understand her concerns. It makes her more comfortable. Step : Tell Her the Reason Why You Are Attracted to Her Honesty is the best policy. The only reason why other men can’t pull this off is because they’re not coming from a place of power. breaKInG doWn The opener Step : Pace her ongoing reality Pacing is an essential skill that you should master. she gives you a silent nod. I found that being upfront. When I say things like “I know this is totally random…I’m a complete stranger” it actually serves several purposes. By addressing potential objections you demonstrate social awareness. and sincere is the way women like to be approached (CAVEAT: If you do it right). you instantly demonstrate that you’re honest and sincere. Now let me break down the opener and explain to you why and how it works. Gives her a chance to agree with you. Women love guys that know what’s going on without a woman having to tell him. Tell her you like her because you want her to know. Not because you want her to feel obliged to be nice to you. honest. we shake hands. and I relax from that point forward I get to know her more for who she is. I continue with “I’m a complete stranger and I know this is really random but… I was just passing by… and I saw you standing there… I just wanted to tell you that you are… Really… Really… Beautiful. I use this to overcome any objection that might pop up into her head.“Hey… (pause) I begin to smile as my eyes are locked on her eyes. only build your credibility in her eyes. It’s like an unspoken bond. Tell me about yourself” She smiles. Saying things that she can affirm as true.

When combined with the proper non-verbal communication and delivery. It makes it official that you two are in a social interaction. Shaking her hand is very important.  . Gets right to the point. That’s because she’s processing the whole interaction differently. everything you say begins to be categorized in “The Potential Partner” context. you can say “I like that. Step : Give Her a Chance to Talk About Herself You want to get her involved in the interaction as soon as possible. This is a very powerful frame from which to come.You tell people what you think about them. Even boring rapport questions will work after the opener. • Gets her to subconsciously accept you as a potential partner. After she says anything that might impress you. this approach can be very deadly. • Gives you a chance to introduce yourself. As soon as she starts answering your question. This is done by saying stuff like “Tell me about yourself?” “I just wanted to know if there’s more to you than meets the eye. It also… • Gets her committed to the interaction. It skips through most of the games and takes you were you want to be… and that’s building an emotional connection. This approach is so powerful that it creates attraction within seconds. she slowly becomes committed to the interaction. Creates the feeling of attraction. everything you say will be in the “I’m getting to know you before we date” context. what’s your story?” “Who are you?” “Where are you from?” Letting her talk about herself gives her the chance to impress you. After the opener. I’m (insert your name here)”. Since you created so much attraction.

tries to walk away. Runaway girl. Indifference by far is the most powerful way to overcome this objection. 0 . Talk Girl: Talks and walks away Guy: (smiles) Oh come on now. what do you do for fun? * As you can see. She smiles. So what do you like to do for fun? *I’m not even acknowledging her objection. Guy: Awesome. Runaway girl (I sing playfully) Anyways. She wants to get to know you. But if I’m making you uncomfortable in anyway. She’s just being polite and sticks around for a bit to see what you have to say. Here are some examples of how you can handle certain situations. I have a boyfriend. Talk. First Scenario: She loves it. She becomes extremely flattered. which re-engages her back in the conversation. and of course she wants to be perceived as classy so she will stay for a bit. She Walks Away While You’re Talking To Her Guy: Talk. I absolutely love the third scenario because it’s challenging for me. I tell her she’s way too classy to walk away. The Boyfriend Objection Guy: Opener Girl: I’m sorry. you’re way too classy to be walking away when someone is talking to you. I also tell her to walk away which is reverse psychology and then I act like it never happened by asking her a question. She’s not really enthusiastic about it. I also get to express my personality and my positive traits. I set up an expectation for her. Third Scenario: She gives you an objection. Go on now.dealInG WITh ConTInGenCIes One of three things will happen. or doesn’t give you the time of day. depending on how well you execute your opener. Second Scenario: She kind of likes it. then just walk away.

If you approach with the “I just want to get into your pants” mentality. or something to that effect. Girl: I’m Michelle. Talk Girl: Says something rude like “Why are you talking to me”. you must come across from a place of power and positivism. Talk. I was just having a bad day. look around you. In order for this approach to work you need to switch the way you see things.  .She’s Rude Or Doesn’t Acknowledge Your Presence Guy: Talk. I don’t know where you’re from but where I’m from. people are real. then it will not work for you. I’m Oliver. Sorry I was being rude. The way you think and feel affects the way you interact with people. I know this is not who you really are. There are a lot of creepy guys out there that try to get something from you all the time. I’m just going to walk away (I act as if I’m about to leave). Now I want to share with you the Gift Shift theory. Come on. You will get rejected by women left and right. Have you ever talked to someone before and felt like they just wanted something from you? Was it a gut feeling? How often were you right? I bet you were pretty accurate at it. I want you to remember this section and read it over and over again. GIfT shIfT Theory In order for this approach to work. Guy: No worries. If you’re not going to be real. When you experience that situation. Guy: Why are you acting like this? Why can’t you just be yourself. I’m not one of those guys so don’t treat me like one of them. doesn’t look at you. Then you will begin to wonder what you’re doing wrong. I know you’re a cool person deep down inside. This stuff is very powerful. Grungey10: I understand. So what do you do for fun? * See how I called her out on how she was behaving? It demonstrates that I am a man who demands respect in an interaction. I’m almost sure. This is just a protection shield. So let’s give this a shot one more time.

You can do it too. Knowing this information how does this change the way you’ll view your future interactions? Remember. Your job is to take them on an emotional journey with you. I’ve worked on myself to the point where I just am naturally attractive and interesting to women. You are a gift. She’s seen you in movies. Your job is to provide women with positive emotions. they would fall for you? Ask yourself that question over and over again. I know. I get results because I have something positive to offer. you are. Your job is to give them an unforgettable experience. She’s been dreaming about you. it sounds sappy but it’s amazingly effective. How would you act if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that if only women knew you. I feel happy knowing that I’m about to make this person’s day. That means you have to barrel through her persona. Yes. You’re the guy she talks about with her best friends. Take five minutes and imagine that you’re someone she’s been waiting for all her life. She will only find out that it’s you after she’s gotten to know you. you’re giving that gift to her. I want you to do this. She’s read about you in books.It’s simple. I know. I feel happy. You have the upper hand and not the other way around. you are a gift.  . There’s a catch though. away from the world they are in right now. Am I conveying who I am in an interesting way? Is she getting to know me or am I just talking out of my ass? TRY THIS OUT Next time you go out to meet women. Whenever I talk to people.

The pInG ponG MeTaphor
In my opinion, conversations with women are very similar to playing ping pong or table tennis. The ball just keeps going back and forth across the table. One person hits the ball then the other person hits it back. It’s an ongoing cycle. That’s how conversations should be. Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Someone usually carries the conversational burden more than the other person does. Eventually the conversational ratio should be as close to 50/50, girl talks as much as guy does, but it takes skill to be able to do that. You need to be interesting and interested. I’ll say it two more times because it’s very important. You need to be interesting and interested. You need to be interesting and interested. Making sense so far? Were you ever in a conversation with someone who talked way too much? It’s like you were watching television because you couldn’t contribute to the conversation at all. On the flipside, were you ever in a conversation with someone who just kept asking question after question without really contributing anything at all? Well you need the balance of both. You need to lead the interaction and at the same time, get women to follow your lead. You need to help them invest in the interaction. Not everyone’s socially savvy. Sometimes, you need to make it easy for them to contribute to the interaction. This book help you cultivate the skills you need to be both interesting and interested. 

Go fIrsT prInCIple
“You must become the change you wish to see”- Gandhi In other words, if you think change is needed in a situation, think about changing yourself first before changing everything around you. I want you to look back on all the conversations you had with women that you liked. Here are some questions for you. Were you… Both comfortable, relaxed and at ease? Exchanging fun stories from your lives? Sharing secrets and vulnerabilities with each other? Speaking formally or like friends do? Able to build familiarity and substance in the interaction? Here’s my main point. If you want her to do something, you should do it first. If you want her to start opening up to you, you must open up to her first. It’s your job as a man to lead the interaction. You should lead and expect her to follow. TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation instead of asking a question, make a statement. Instead of saying “Where are you from?” tell them a story about where you’re from. Instead of saying “How are you” say “I’m feeling so happy today, you have no idea why”. See how people respond to you. 

poWer TalK
What you say and how you say it is critical when you’re interacting with someone. A couple of years ago, I remember watching a comedy show. This guy walked on the stage and started making jokes. There was forced laughter here and there but that’s about it. I ended up just looking at my watch impatiently thinking to myself “What time is this show going to end?!” Couple of months later, I watched another comedy show. A couple of minutes into the show, my stomach started to hurt from laughing, tears started falling from my eyes, he got me. I don’t remember laughing so hard in my entire life. The jokes weren’t extremely funny, it was his personality. This is true for everyone out there. Whether you’re a comedian, a salesman, a student, or a friend, people will respond to you based on how you present yourself. Here are some tips to empower yourself. • Avoid hesitation when you talk. Be firm with what you want. For example, instead of saying “Uhm, I was thinking if, uhm, we could go out sometime” say something like “Hey, I’m going shopping this Thursday, It’s going to be a blast, you should tag along”. Don’t flinch. Don’t be nervous. Say it like you would if you’re talking to your 11 year old cousin or something. • Power of ambiguity. Keeping a woman on her toes keeps things challenging in an interaction. Every other guy jumps at the opportunity to hang out with her again. Instead of giving all your cards away try using words like “maybe. We’ll see, I’ll get back to you on that one”. An example would be “Hey, you seem fun, if we’re both available this weekend, then maybe we’ll hang out”. • Avoid over politeness. Being overly polite communicates subordinate status. When you’re communicating with women, you shouldn’t treat them as if they’re a goddess from Venus. If you treat them like royalty, they will act like royalty. Treat them like you would treat your buddy. Don’t be overly polite. 

over and over again. I want to find out what makes her special. My goal is to build familiarity and substance all throughout the interaction. I want to make a mega solid impression so that she won’t stop rambling about me with her best friend the moment our conversation ends. I relate to it and appreciate her for it. Well. So I start out by getting to know her on the surface level.” . What was familiar was generally safe and approachable. you MusT CreaTe a ConneCTIon “It all started with our ancestors. Then I try to build familiarity by connecting on a lot of different topics.WhaT To do afTer InITIaTInG The ConversaTIon A lot of guys don’t know what to do after they’ve initiated the conversation. I want her to remember me when she wakes up the next day. Then we discuss each other’s passions in life and connect on a deeper level. What is my goal? I want to convey who I am as a person. What was unfamiliar was more often dangerous and threatening. I want mutual appreciation. Evolution has hardwired into us the tendency to bond with those who are familiar and wary of those who are unfamiliar. After I’ve captivated a woman with my presence. I genuinely appreciate her and I am very successful at it because I believe that all women have something beautiful inside of them. I do it multiple times. my next goal is to get to know her on multiple levels. When I do. I make her feel special for the person that she is. I relate to her on the surface then I go a little deep and find out the things that make her tick.Psychology 101  . Let me go over my structure on connection building. I don’t need to know her whole life story. I want to know what makes her tick. I just want to touch base and build both familiarity and substance with her. it’s a combination of two things CAPTIVATE & CONNECT Captivate her with your personality by building a connection. to make it really simple.

There’s a time when you should answer it. She’s hooked She becomes so interested that she starts to ask you questions to find out who you are. So let’s break down what usually happens  . It’s where the magic happens. There’s a time to be cocky and funny and avoid a question that’s thrown your way but should you keep on avoiding it? No. she’s trying to figure out who you are as a person. She wants to find out if you’re real and if you have any depth to you. If you allow this process to happen. This is what separates you from every other guy that’s tried to meet her. She’s trying to figure out if you have more going for you than your initial impression. You need to be in that place where both your guards are down and you can just connect on all levels. Here’s a system you can use to build an emotional connection: Step 1: Build Familiarity Step 2: Build Substance Step 3: Appreciate Her as a person Step 4: Incorporate A Romantic Spin hoW To ansWer lIGhT rapporT QuesTIons A lot of people I’ve met still don’t know how to convey their personality in their day to day interactions with people. No matter what system you use. It’s my favorite part of the interaction. then you create an emotional connection.I don’t care what anyone else out there thinks but if you can open your mouth and talk. Imagine how you would feel in this kind of scenario: A girl has been talking to a cool guy for quite awhile. your main goal is to get to the point in the interaction where you both can just be yourselves. Building an emotional connection is the heart of daytime pick-up. When she asks you a question. He’s cool and interesting. you can build a connection with anyone you meet. That’s the secret to a successful daytime interaction. and let her open herself up to you as well. The problem is most people don’t know how to convey who they are.

Everything is fast paced back in LA. and building a strong emotional connection. I’ve read ton of stories as a kid (insert something cocky or avoid the question asked) Conclusion: She wanted to get to know you better. Things are so different back where I’m from. Real and long lasting attraction comes from building commonalities. When she gets home. give it a few days and that attraction will probably fade away. ( I talk about LA for a  . She may have been attracted to you at first but it won’t last for a very long time.45 minutes later -----------Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: Oh. Why? It’s because you’ve only created short term attraction. She ends up giving up and going home knowing nothing about you. we’ll get to that in a minute… anyway…. Ideal Scenario: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: So where you from? Guy: Oh… You wouldn’t want to know… It’s extremely cold there… Girl: Where? Guy: I live in the North Pole… It’s so fun swimming with the penguins everyday… It makes me so happy Girl: Ugh… shut up!!! No really where you from? Guy: I actually moved here from LA two months ago. appreciating and relating with life experiences. being vulnerable with each other. ---------. She was ready to build an emotional connection but you threw the opportunity away.Scenario 1: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: whoa! We’re getting a little ahead of ourselves here.

Like the other day. You actually demonstrate a lot of personality by being comfortable sharing your thoughts with her • You lead the conversation. We were driving through empty green fields and… (insert semi deep and meaningful story here) Conclusion: • You stand out from all the other guys because you differentiate yourself from them.) Where are you from? When you get this question.) What do you do? What are you really passionate about? What makes you tick? How did it start out? What happened then? What’s so special about what you do and how does it make you feel? Have you ever met someone that just talked about the same thing over and over again? It gets very boring after awhile. I was on my way to a ranch and it was really interesting. You’re not answering her question in a boring way. So remember: Never ever give boring answers to simple questions such as Where are you from? What do you do? What’s going on? Tips on how to do that 1. • It gives her a window of opportunity to see how you view the world and the type of person you are. It actually gives me time to think about everything going on in life and see the bigger picture. It makes her comfortable and easier to open herself up to you. ask yourself What makes my place different from where I am right now? What’s so unique about my place? What are the fun things to do there? What do I love most about my place? How does it make me feel? What would you recommend for her to do in your city? 2. • She knows right off the bat that you’re a good communicator. Now.while then compare it to Tucson) Things are very simple out here. how you ever met someone cool that could just talk about anything under the sun?  . • It sets the stage for building an emotional connection.

Alright. Don’t tell me you don’t have any experience with at least one of the topics I listed above. Now that’s 130 things you could potentially talk about. If you had a story about your pet hamster. 12. do the exercise. 2. what’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word elephant? Actually. Give me 10 things that come to your mind with each word above. Once you’ve mastered this. It’s called the association game. A sentence has how many words? Do you see where I’m going here? If you master the art of conversational vibes. 13. you’ll never run out of things to say ever again. 4. Think some more. Animals Grey Tusk Ivory Africa Jungle Lion King 8. Come on. If you had a story about guns. elephant is just one word. Now. this is what familiarity is all about. Here’s the beauty of it. If you did the exercise. then you’ll never run out of things to say again! 0 .Like if you had a story about your grandfather. she’d have one about her spider. let me teach you a helpful exercise here. Cartoons Movies Big Zoo Water That’s all Alright. 10. she’d have one too. 6. 5. You need to connect on multiple topics. 9. you have around 130 words. give me 10 things that you can associate with the world elephant? Take your time. Done? Here’s are the things that came to me when I heard the word elephant: 1. she’d have one too. 11. it’s included here for a reason. let’s go one step further. 3. Ok. 7.

Do this until your jaw is numb from speaking too much.Hobbies . You see. learning how to build familiarity is an essential skill to have. Use it. This tool is very powerful. Building substance solidifies the connection between you. just pick out one word and riff on it for a minute or two. Here are some topics you can explore to build familiarity: -Goals and aspirations -Passions -Ideal vacation -Relationships -Friends -Youth and childhood -Love -Art and Photography -Traveling -Favorite films and music -Concerts and theatres -Family . think back to the previous topic. It also makes you stand out since it’s something that only close friends do. Next time there’s an awkward pause in the conversation. and leadInG WITh your passIons You now know how to build familiarity.TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation with a woman. and riff on it. Most of the things women tell you. Building substance takes the interaction to a whole other level. are gold. fIndInG her Core value. pick a word out. Women will feel like they have a lot of things in common with you. Another skill you should focus on is active listening. once you’ve barreled through their persona. Take advantage of it.  .Fitness -Animals buIldInG subsTanCe: aCTIve lIsTenInG. Let’s get you acquainted with building substance.

Active listening is a habit. • Shut up and listen to her.Expresses understanding of her feelings A couple of basic pointers for active listening: • Rephrase and feedback. to whoever you’re talking to what they have said to you. Always ask her what she means. Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to. You have something in common with her. in your own words. Here are the benefits of active listening: . feed it back to her. It will improve your conversation skills tenfold. . you should be able to repeat back. your job is to find out what makes her tick. That’s great if you guys like the same artist. as well as the foundation of effective communication. Don’t answer right away.Demonstrates interest in her as a person. me too. • Ask questions. and that’s her core value. . You need to find out what is the underlying motivator that drives her to do the things she loves to do. Once you find these underlying motivators. we’re so similar”.Ensures understanding of the subject matter. in your own words.  . Finding Her Core Value And Building A Quick Connection A lot of guys try to connect with women on the surface area. Doing this will strengthen your understanding of the situation • Summarize what she tells you. Don’t always be eager to fill in the silence when there’s an awkward pause. pause for three seconds before answering something. For example a guy asks: “Who’s your favorite artist? Oh Mariah Carey. and how it makes her feel. As an active listener. You see. you should relate to them. Just learn how to listen to her completely without butting in. Once again this shows her that you understand her and that you’re paying attention to her. But what if you guys don’t like the same artist? Does that mean both of you have nothing in common? No. You should rephrase what she just told you and. Doing this affirms your understanding and builds dialogue.

But before I explain it. and you probably learned something afterward. Women gravitate toward positive emotions and move away from the negative ones.  . After you relate with her you should appreciate her for who she is. you need to reward her for opening up to you. and being rude to you. Women will test you. I want you to rewind and remember your childhood. They will test you to see how you will respond. You should take time to think about what behaviors you will reward And which ones you’ll punish. It’s more powerful than relating to her on the surface level. If you don’t set your standards early on they will step all over you. You should punish her for disrespecting you. For example: You should reward her for giving you a compliment. you just instinctively jerked your hand back. and laughing at your jokes. Was there ever a time you got burned by something? Maybe you touched a hot stove or candle. So how do we use this to our advantage? It’s actually very simple. to see where your boundaries are. opening up to you. Whenever they do something right they get rewarded. Social Learning Theory And The Power Of Conditioning Social learning theory states that we learn social behavior by observing and imitating others and by being rewarded or punished. Yes. let me give you an example of social learning theory and conditioning at work.Relate to those underlying motivators. On the other hand. Whatever it was. early in the interaction. You learned that you shouldn’t touch it again. they’ll be conditioned to do things that would lead to them being rewarded. whenever they do something wrong. This applies to women and dating as well. Later on. they get punished. not complying with your request. Another example would be a parent disciplining their kids. This encourages her to do it more often.

leadInG WITh your passIons A lot of the so-called “pick-up artist” I’ve met are curious as to how I can captivate a woman by just being myself. What is it you would do for free if you never had to make money again? Emotional Connection Accelerator There are a lot of different ways to accelerate the process of building an emotional connection and my favorite one is regression.  . Being passionate about your passions (as funny as it sounds) is even more attractive to women. Having passion is very attractive to women. I tell her the things I love to do and why I love to them. they don’t convey it in a way that’s interesting to women. Show me and I will remember. The word regression means moving backwards. It also builds trust. It’s one of the most powerful tools in building an emotional connection. I suck her into my world. I won’t get into detail on this topic but I’d like to share with you a very effective technique to build an emotional connection. Leading with your passion separates you from every other guy that’s tried to hit on her. Here’s how you do it. Here’s my dirty little secret… I talk about the things I’m passionate about. comfort. Before I do let me share this quote with you. Not a lot of guys talk about the things that make them tick.” Remember that you always have to involve her in the interaction. “Tell me and I may remember. and safety. If ever they do. Here’s what I call the life story tactic. Involve me and I will carry them forever. Here’s a question to help you figure out what you’re really passionate about in life.

she will not leave. Tools you can use later down the road when you’ve mastered the basics. a Couple of effeCTIve ConversaTIonal Tools Here are several topics I’ll discuss briefly. She should know what your standards are. She should have an idea of who you are and what you’re about early in the interaction. meeting you” then she will walk away. This can take somewhere between ten minutes to sometimes even the whole day. If a girl says “I have to go” and you say “nice. middle. and you can call her on it. She should know the things you love and your pet peeves as well. As long as you keep talking she will stand there in front of you. • Identity Interleaving. end. You can do this directly or through storytelling. How do you turn this into a system? Alright. The more emotions the better. adventurous. The middle includes your high school and college experience. She should know your rules on dating and relationships. The key is to exchange stories and go from childhood to future plans. Mix it up. mischievous. right now. I want you to come up with at least two to three stories for each phase of you life.Your life right now is separated into beginning. If she walks away. On the other hand if she says “I have to go” and you ignore the thread and talk about something else. you can start by asking her about her childhood or talking about yours. • Conversational Plowing. Trust me on this one. This technique is very powerful and it solidifies the emotional connection instantly.  . Now. and future. The end includes your present experience and your future plans. You should always move the conversation forward. This is an advanced technique I use to quickly convey the things I’m passionate about thirty seconds into the conversation. The beginning includes your childhood and middle school experience. • Standard Interleaving. she’s being rude. It can be fun. or sad.

Here’s an example of fractionating: Talk about something light. Tell her that you’re sad you met with no mutual friends to introduce you to each other. talking about fate and destiny. Cold reading helps captivate her and builds familiarity instantly. People usually don’t just go up to people and start telling stories. Some examples would be taking her on an instant date. Builds comfort and trust. then make her laugh a little bit. then go a little deep. Always include a romantic spin after building an emotional connection. Well some do and they’re either super social. you need to check your body language. • Fractionating. • Preempting objections.  . go light again. or just used to talking people’s ears off. story tellers. etc. humorous. This always steers the interaction toward the right path. Next. Well if you’re one of them then you’re on your way to becoming successful. eye contact. confident. Whatever objections she may have make sure to use them first. Say this after a high point in the interaction. and. kissing her. They listen to what you say and how you say it.g. demands respect. Try searching that on Google or something. ambitious. When you tell a story you communicate on both levels. trustworthy. • Romantic spin. On Storytelling Storytelling is very powerful if done right. of course. Constantly ask yourself this: What am I trying to communicate? Am I getting my message across? You want to demonstrate good qualities about yourself with the stories you tell people (e. etc). Telling a story builds comfort and trust because you’re opening up to somebody you don’t know. then this time go a little deeper than you were before. especially at times when the woman I’m talking to is hard to crack or if I’m in a hurry and I want to build a quick connection. A good resource for cold read is the Forer’s effect. vocal tonality and projection. then go deeper. adventurous. protector of the ones you love.• Cold reading. and your non verbal communication to see if you’re communicating all the right things like being comfortable in your own skin. This is a brilliant way to ease into deeper topics. Why? It’s because learning how to express yourself is the first step in getting good at meeting women. It’s a tool I use once in awhile. This helps intensify the emotional connection that you’ve built. romantic. and that’s why you can’t hang out anymore.

So let’s get to the important part How do you make a good story? Here are some terms that are important in storytelling and I’ll discuss only a couple of them Opening line. you can give a guy who’s good at telling stories a very boring and ridiculously horrible story line and he can turn it in to something very interesting. sequencing of events. Give him the best script created by the best minds in the world and when performance day comes. Probably the most important part of telling a story is your vocal projection and your delivery. Every time you’re telling a story I want you to ask yourself these questions • Am I passionate about what I’m talking about? • Am I enthusiastic? • Am I paying attention to everyone that’s listening? • Am I relaxed and comfortable? • Is my voice loud enough? • Am I talking slow and clear? • Am I projecting the emotion I need to project through my voice? (If you’re telling a scary story sound scared. and emotional projection. if it’s suspense then use a lot of pausing) • Am I pausing at the right times? • Am I using a wide range of facial expressions?  . What’s the difference between these two guys? The way they present it and he way they deliver. Let’s take for example a comedian and an actor. the presentation can still bomb. character development. On the other hand. It can still suck. engaging the senses.

the funniest/craziest/most embarrassing/ wildest thing just happened to me yesterday/today/couple minutes ago. here’s a ConversaTIon I had In The pasT Grungey10: Hey. 5..)* Then ask her* Does that ever happen to you? (throwing the ball back at her) You want to talk about emotions because you want to communicate on her level.) The climax of your story. 4. Nice meeting you. what you could see. it gets bruised easily. a light bulb just popped up in my head. feel.) Then slowly insert stuff like “and then I realized”. Now stop laughing at my baby name.) Describe what you were doing at that time.) How did it make you feel? What lessons did you learn? 6. I’m Oliver. (pause) 2. who you were with. Bookstore girl: (laughs)  . You want her to be able to relate to you.So here’s a quick formula for a spontaneous story. 1.. etc. “all of a sudden”. and “surprisingly”. “out of nowhere”. I’m Lisa. 3. I get that every time there’s a family get together. hear. Amanda. Speaking of names. Grungey10: Exactly. smell.) OMG. “then out of the blue”. as much as possible when you’re telling a story.. Grungey10: Lisa. Men usually communicate with logic while women value emotions more. Did your parents ever tell you about embarrassing stories when you were kid? Bookstore girl: Yeah. Well can you believe that my name was supposed to be Amanda? Bookstore girl: Amanda?! (laughs) Grungey10: Yes. It’s something they can relate too. Bookstore girl: Oliver. interesting name. You want to engage all her senses.

Not so much my parents but my grandfather and I had a really strong bond when I was growing up. and even a pink welcome banner hanging from the wall saying “Princess Amanda. all right. My mom holds me with tears in her eyes saying “Wow. Bookstore girl: OMG (laughs) Grungey10: I know! Isn’t it funny? So what actually ended up happening was.” Then she slowly unfolds the towel and then all of a sudden. it’s my beautiful little princess Amanda. So here it comes. Every time a friend comes over to the house..... this is not a laughing matter.. Hello..... we’re getting there. Get this. she went to the doctor and she had this machine. the one that detects the gender. thank you very much.. welcome to the family!” Bookstore girl: (Eyes get wide) Really?! That’s the funniest thing I’ve ever heard. Look at you. Hello. after the sonogram. Say hello to mommy. it’s on the tip of my tongue.. the doctor’s like “Ma’am. So the room was all pink! It had pink stuff toys.. I was born and the doctor hands me over to my mom wrapped in a white towel. Grungey10: My mom got so excited that she started decorating one whole room in the house. apparently... when my mom was 6 months pregnant. your first born will be a girl”. we don’t see anything moving down there. uhm. pink crib. I remember him teasing me a lot about being a tomboy back in middle school. You know what I’m talking about right? Bookstore girl: You mean a sonogram? Grungey10: There you go! Good girl (briefly touches her shoulder). Hello.. What happened next? Grungey10: All right. which I do not find very funny. she actually decked the whole room out with a “My little princess” theme in mind.. Badoink!!! A moving “thing” down there?! She was devastated! I never heard the end of it.  .. just for me. Bookstore girl: (laughs hysterically) Grungey10: No. I don’t think you understand..Grungey10: Anyways.. The moment of truth. Bookstore girl: (Continues giggling) <Now I’m going to throw the ball back at her so she can invest more in the interaction> So what were you like as a kid? Was there anything your parents gave you a hard time about? Bookstore girl: Hmmmm. Anyways... my mom always whips out the album with me dressed in a pink room all dressed in pink.

I can also build more substance by exploring what made her change but I chose to explore the subject of traveling. At the same time.Grungey10: (nods head but keeps quiet) <It’s very powerful to pause and not be eager to fill in the silence in a conversation. I can pick any topic and start rolling with it. I might not even be safe here (smiles). You’ll notice that women have a lot more to say when they don’t get interrupted. Grungey10: Why would you live in Africa? Is it because you want to help out? Or do you just want to explore the place? Bookstore girl: I guess a little bit of both. That was back then. before responding to her. You see. If you have sisters then you’d know what I’m talking about. What do you accomplish when you’ve made a difference in the world? Let’s say you’re in Africa and you get to educate the kids there. how does it make you feel? 0 . Bookstore girl: Oh shut it (hits me in the arm). you see improvements in their lives. < She gave me multiple topics to choose from. where would you live? Bookstore girl: I’d live in Africa. I was also a very competitive kid. <I’m going to build more substance now> Grungey10: I find it really interesting that you love helping people out. I’ve changed a lot since then. < I have a choice. I went through that whole phase. and at the end of the day. It’s fulfilling for me. As an exercise. I’ve always wanted to make a difference in the world. for a year.> buIldInG faMIlIarITy & subsTanCe Grungey10: If you could live in any city in the world. I could start building more familiarity by talking about my sisters. I love going to a new place and learn everything about the culture there.> Bookstore girl: (smiles as she recalls) Back then I was a boy hater. try pausing for three seconds after she finishes her sentence.> Grungey10: Boy hater? I better watch out for you now.

Grungey10: Bookstore girl. Only a few people actually live their lives to the fullest and at the same time. We both put are minds and hearts into our work. I love painting. They go to work or school and they change to fit the environment they’re in. You see a lot of people are imprisoned by their day to day activities. I solidify the attraction by giving here a sincere compliment. and for the most part they’re real.> Bookstore girl: Yeah. Grungey10: What are you passionate about? Bookstore girl: Well. and that’s usually making a living or going to school. It may take me an hour. < I’m going to start flirting and appreciating her> Grungey10: Wait a minute here. It’s something I’m really passionate about. This is when the magic begins. You love traveling and you’re an artist too?! This is way too perfect. It’s a rare thing. I get the exact same feeling of satisfaction every time I finish writing a song. A lot of people might think it’s easy for us. do the things they’re passionate about in life. Artists are very creative. You’re kidding right? I just have the biggest thing for artistic people. You see them working with the “work”  . playback the song I just made. At the end of the day. a day. I better leave before I start to fall in love with you. Not a lot of people understand what it takes to do what we do. It’s something that I got into back when I was still seven. It’s a stress reliever for me and at the same time I get to express myself through my work. In the process they lose in touch with who they are and what they’re all about. There must be a catch here.. <After creating familiarity and substance. I guess satisfaction would be a better way to phrase it. I totally understand what you mean. let me tell you something. Bookstore girl: That’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever told me in the longest time (blushes). You see. and feel good about myself. songwriting is very much like painting. Grungey10: You know what. They see things from a different perspective.Bookstore girl: It makes me feel like I’m on top of the world. It’s the best job I’ve ever had. A lot of people have forgotten the meaning of what it is to be passionate about something. I just relax on my bed. Grungey10. I don’t think enough people appreciate you for that. They usually just live their lives with one thing in mind.. or sometimes weeks to put a song together and it pays off bigtime. Bookstore girl.

it doesn’t even guarantee that you’ll get to see her again. I found that timing is very important when it comes to getting a woman’s number. • Don’t leave after you get her number. Some give their number away because it’s fake. In their minds. But before I even get into that. Some give their number away to get rid of the guy.face on. It’s the same routine over and over again. <Conversational cycle continues> The arT of GeTTInG phone nuMbers & seTTInG up daTes After hundreds of interactions. Women give their phone numbers for a variety of reasons. I realized something very important. they instantly know what’s going on. Coffeeshop girl: I know exactly what you’re talking about. • You can return her number to her every time she does something to turn you off. Some give their number away with no intention of ever answering your call. If I’ll see the girl again then I won’t even get her number. Do not answer”. As a matter of fact. It’s the best thing ever. No matter how smooth you pull it off. When you leave right after you get her phone number. Getting a number doesn’t really guarantee success. I’d like to actually get to know the girl first before I even get her number. This may take somewhere between 10 minutes to two hours. Some give their number away and save your number as “Weird & Creepy Guy. It’s actually something that I’ve been working on for awhile now. When you get a woman’s number. Some give their number away because it boosts their ego. Numbers mean nothing if you haven’t done your job well. One  . I’d highly advise everyone to try it for even a week. Then they go home and hit the sack. I’ve noticed that most guys make their exit after they get a woman’s number. it makes it seem that was all you were after. I suggest staying for an extra five or ten minutes before you leave. Girls give their numbers to guys for various reasons. Normally. they still have control of the interaction. I’d like to share with you some of the things I learned. Well I go through my day-to-day activities with the biggest smile on my face because I get to be myself the whole day. You always want to leave on a positive note. Don’t be afraid to test new things out.

• It’s better to exchange numbers. make you laugh. It’s better to exchange numbers than to just give her your number. how can we continue this conversation?” • Objection blaster. When you give her your number. then guy tried to bargain. I have a boyfriend” I usually just stare at her all confused and say “Yeah… and?”. I usually say something like “Wow. Any line will work if you say it at the right time. Pacing can be used to address future objections.”  .little trick you can do is to give her back her number every time she says something you don’t like. Not unless. Some girls will throw your number away. or after an emotion filled moment. It’s a really neat way of communicating “I could care less if I get your number or not”. If she still gives some excuse I say “Don’t get a big head now. • Don’t try to bargain if she doesn’t give her number. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times. At this point she will either ask for my number or giggle. girl refuses. I discovered that pacing would. Some girls might like you but forget to call you. If she doesn’t want to give you her number than just let it go. • Tell her you want her number but don’t get it. • Pacing to avoid flaking. That’s my cue to see where I am in the interaction. you leave it all up to her to make the move and give you a call back. I so have to hang out with you…” then I just continue talking about something else. At times when she tries to impress you. I found that it’s very effective to display more interest in her. I’m just going to leave now. I just thought you were an interesting person and that you’d make a cool buddy. would be useful after getting her number. you’re really skilled at using the phone to your advantage. It’s a downward spiral that leaves you lower than you were before. Some of the lines I’ve used are “Let’s exchange contact information” “Give me your number” “I really had fun talking to you. She’ll probably flake on you anyway even if she gave you her number. but since there appears to be an issue with it. It’s not going anywhere. any line will work. Whenever they give me an excuse such as “Sorry. You job is to get her to want to give her number to you. you like classical art? That’s so cool. but unfortunately I have to get going. once again. When you reach that point in the interaction. And some girls will simply just lose your numbers. Some girls just never call guys up. • Simple yet effective lines. Guess what that does? It drastically decreases the chance of anything happening by 50%! Why. because not all girls will call you up. At the same time it demonstrates that you have standards. at the peak of an interaction. So it’s best always best to exchange number because it gives both of you the chance to call each other up. Guy ask for girls number.

• Finalize your plans before you leave. This technique has worked well for me. “You should call her after a week or two. It’s not everyday that I meet someone that I can just be real with. you should come join us. you’re not some weird psychotic girl right? Cool. Here’s a couple “You should wait at least three days before you call her. I prefer to make plans before leaving the interaction. If you don’t have any. That’s it.• Tell her exactly how it’s going to be. It usually goes something like this “You know what. It will really communicate that you have more important things to do. Stuff like “Ok. I’ll call you just once… and leave a message once.  . When you do answer I expect a really cool joke from you. After you talk to her. Tell her what time you’ll call her and how to respond to you over the phone. Have you ever gone cosmic bowling?! It’s the most fun thing in the world. It’s good to set up some rules right from the beginning. It will communicate that you have a life and that you are not needy” “You should call her on the same day so that she gets comfortable talking to you. What more can you ask for? We do this every Wednesday. then you owe me vanilla flavored ice cream on a cone…” You can go anywhere with this technique. believe me I’ve tried. If all else fails. make sure to end the conversation on a high note” It doesn’t get better than this. It’s fun”. Listen. but wait a minute. I really hate playing phone tag. My suggestion would be to try everything until you find the one that works best for you. They have these huge crystal disco lights. trust me. They all work. You’ll come off way cooler. It really depends on the situation. Just act like it’s normal. How long should you wait before you call? This sounds familiar doesn’t it? There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to the best time to call. you’re pretty cool. every Wednesday. my friends and I love to bowl at Golden Pins. Go call her! And if she doesn’t pick up then call up two more times” “You should call her the day after you get her number. and on top of that you get to bowl. make sure to let her know you’ll be calling in the next couple of days” You must be wondering which strategy works best. 80’s music. Then make it a point to be the first one to hang up or pretend that someone else is on the other line.

 . I used in the past. Traditional Method Call her after three days Space your calls out and have at least three to four days in between them Ask her out on the first or second call This method works best on girls within your social circle.Here is a simple strategy. I would say two out of every four girls answered on the first call. Aggressive Method Call the numbers up the day you get them You can call the next day and the day after to follow up Call at unpredictable hours of the day Varying time limit on each call Ask her out later on For some reason this method worked best on cold approaches. Let me ask you this… What’s your strategy? Let me suggest this… Try everything out. The others eventually responded after my follow up routine. there’s that one girl that never picks up her phone. Let’s say I’ve collected around 12 solid numbers in two weeks. in order to find out which strategy worked best. That includes multiple dates within that day. Occasionally. There’s no rush to call her up soon because you’ll see her over and over again. See which ones work best for you. and emotional connection that’s been built all throughout the interaction. What do I mean by solid? I’ve spent an average of about 45 minutes to 2 hours with them. That’s pretty good considering the fact that I’ve only got so much free time on my hands. Give it a shot for two weeks then switch.

8 TIps for an unforGeTTable fIrsT daTe
The tips I’m about to share with you are priceless. It took me years to figure some of them out. Most guys don’t know what to do on a first date. Don’t be generic. “Would you like to go to dinner and a movie with me sometime?” I don’t want to hear that coming out of your mouth anytime soon. OK? That’s what every other guy does! The last thing you want is to be like everyone else. There are lots of other things to do besides that. Save that idea for a later date. Something you’re passionate about. Are you passionate about sports? Singing? Shooting guns? Surfing? Art? Rollerblading? Anything at all? Bring her in to your world. Do the things you’re passionate about with her, on a first date. The best part about is that you can teach her how to do these things, if she doesn’t know how. Accessible- You don’t want to take her to the mountains located two hours from you. You want somewhere near and accessible. Fun & Exciting. Some of the best dates I’ve had were in amusement parks. It’s fun. It’s exciting. It provides the both of you with the same experience you can bond on. Plus, the emotions you experience will bring the two of you closer to each other. Unpredictable. Don’t tell her where you’re going. Tell her it’s a surprise. Get back to your place early on. Find an excuse to get back to your place early on. Your goal is to make her feel comfortable and to get that step out of the way. I do this by saying “These shoes are killing me, I just need a second…” drive to your house and say “Alright, I’ll give you a quick tour, we can only stay for five minutes cause we’re running on a schedule”. I go in the house, change my shoes, and rush her out of the house after giving her the tour. I don’t crowd her space. I don’t go for the kiss. I just relax and really just give her a tour of the house. This serves two purposes. Makes her trust me more and gets her comfortable in my house. Go to the supermarket. Take her with you to do groceries. Two techniques you can use. You can pick up a cookbook and have her pick up ingredients with you so she can help you cook. Another thing I like to do is to get some ice cream. Unfortunately I have to get it back to the house before it melts. AHA! Either way, you end up going back to your house or hers. 

Ideas For Second Dates Theme parks The beach Picnics Shooting range Cooking classes Sporting events Grocery shopping Flying kites in the park Comedy clubs Dance lessons Art galleries Rollerblading Go cart Wine tasting Wall climbing

on CreaTInG a sexual vIbe
Creating a sexual vibe gets her ready for the kiss. You must learn how to project sexuality. Sexuality can be projected by the way you talk, look at her, touch her, and the way you present yourself. It’s mostly non-verbal communication. This is the next level you need to master. Here are some of the ways you can project a sexual vibe. The way you look at her. Look at her in that sexual “You know what’s about to happen” kind of way. You can do stuff like staring at her eyes while biting your lower lip then looking back at your eyes. You need to be able to turn on your bedroom eyes and sexual smile in a snap of a finger. The way you talk to her. Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Lower the volume of your speech. Try speaking like you’re saying something really profound. Whisper in her ear at some point in the interaction. The way you touch her. Hold her hand at key points in the interaction. It’s important to have some kind of body contact. Begin to face her directly. Place your hand in her inner leg and gently stroke it. Knees or feet touching each other. Stroke her hair while looking at her lips. Incorporating Pausing. Pause in between words to create a sexual and intriguing vibe. 

I Can’t Believe I’m Sharing This With You I came up with a strategy to project sexuality quickly. As a matter of fact, I only teach this in my Day Game University Boot Camp. So let me ask you just one favor. Please don’t teach this method to anyone. Ok, maybe a friend or two, but no more than that. Deal? Good, now that we got that out of the way. Here’s what I call the Airplane Method I want you to think about the two hottest women in the world. It can be an actress, model, friend, or make believe women. Don’t continue reading unless you have your two hottest women. Now, imagine that you’re in a private jet plane. You own the plane. It’s yours. You’re relaxing and leaning back with your feet stretched comfortably. Your pants are down and one of the hottest girls is sucking your penis while the other one is sucking your balls. Now how do you feel? I really want you to put yourself in this situation so you know what I’m talking about. Now let’s say someone calls you over the phone. How will you talk to them? Would it be fast? Or all slow and sexual? Here’s how I learned this technique. A couple of years ago, I met my good friend Asian playboy, who specializes in picking up women in bars and clubs. When this guy spoke, he just had this seductive and sexual presence and for the longest time I couldn’t figure out how he did it. Until one day, I thought to myself, what could this guy be thinking? I mean he gets laid a lot, and he’s good at what he does. What’s his secret? Then it suddenly occurred to me. AHA! He must be thinking about being in an airplane with two hot women going down on him. That’s probably what it is! There’s no other explanation I can think of! Thus, the airplane method was born. Props to Asian playboy. TRY THIS OUT Next time, before you go for the kiss, you should try the airplane method and talk all sexual for 5-10 minutes. This builds the stage up for the kiss. 

Put her hair behind her ear and lightly stroke the side of her face. and you know that it’s time. You usually feel butterflies in your stomach. and connection as I need before I try to escalate things further. I make sure she hears me running towards  . If she’s walking. First. • You don’t need words. I make her stop to talk to me. It’s almost too obvious to meet. Here are some important pointers that will be helpful for you. The best part about this approach is that you don’t need words. • Nothing else exists. • Put her hair behind her ears. then that’s your cue to go for a kiss. Nobody else. It’s just you and her that exist. Mall. superMarKeT To The bedrooM: The naTural proGressIon There’s a natural progression of how I like to do things. • Three second rule. early on.3 and if she’s still lookg at you. Slowly move in for the kill. Nothing else matters. if you play your cards right. • Explore her eyes. froM Coffee shop. Here’s a sample progression I’ve used in the past. I built as much comfort.When & hoW To KIss her Kissing on the first day sets the stage. I approach the girl I want right away. After you get into that situation. I want you to ccount 1. It’s something you’ll learn to do. that it’s going to be a sexual relationship. Start looking deeply at her eyes. Do you know that moment when you run out of words to say and your eyes are locked on hers? Next time that happens. quite a number of times. There’s a window of opportunity that opens up sometime in the interaction. investment. You should kiss her before the day ends. In that moment. don’t look away. Women are eager for the kiss as much as you are. let the whole world just fade away. If she’s walking away from me. you’ll start to get a feel of EXACTLY when you should go for it.2. while you slowly tilt your head.

If at anytime you even slightly try to grab my ass… it’s over. After all this. After eating I make it a point to do other things.” We go some place to eat. Let’s go…” she usually complies. You’re not going to be one of those awesome girls that I meet and never see again. You get the point. Sometimes I even take them on an instant movie date where we sneak out in the middle of the movie and go watch another movie. This usually demonstrates that I’m fearless and exciting. I say “Oh. Before entering the door to my house. I will not tolerate disrespect and sexual harassment especially from women.her. I knock on the window and start talking to her. like couples do. I usually say something like “My legs are dying. I’m sorry we met like this. I’m going to sit down over there. it’s grocery day today” and then we head out to the supermarkets. Sometimes. play arcade. So. I discovered that if you make fun of uncomfortable situations. I just kiss her. If she’s inside her car. relax and discuss deep topics is when you’re sitting down. Tell you what. The perfect time to lean back. I almost forgot. Let’s go grab something to eat. and shop for clothes. After I establish some kind of connection. It’s pretty rare to meet someone you can just be real with. then it becomes comfortable. I’m dialing this number. punch the number 9-1-1 in and say “Look at this number. It varies. I’d prefer to see how far I can take it. 0 . getting ready to leave. I’m hungry. with no mutual friends to introduce us to each other. I say something like “I’m really glad I met you. Get to know each other a little bit and begin to open up. After I’ve established enough investment on her part. At other times. I usually talk about deeper topics when I’m sitting down. Someone you can just talk to about anything and everything. We talk more. All these crazy things you’d do when you were young. and then set up another date with her. and then I stop her and make her turn around to talk to me. I ask her to sit down with me. but just try hard to resist the urge ok? I’m not that easy” It’s a little funny piece that takes the tension out of the scenario. I pull out my phone. We prepare dinner together. we go back to my place to prepare dinner. I do stuff like walk around the mall with her. I know it’s going to be hard for you. call it a day. after we buy groceries.

I’m off to bed. Just minutes after it gets really hot and heavy. I pump up her emotions by saying things like “I know what you’re thinking. before she even has a chance to do so. At this point. I always pull away first and give her an excuse why we should stop. Then I learned that if you just leaned back. For you. see you tomorrow”. We eventually start kissing and rolling over the bed. I used to try to seduce her and touch her as much as I could the moment she walked through the door. I pull of childish behavior like initiating pillow and water fights. and I need to stop before it gets really far”. I jump right into my bed and I tell her “Goodnight. At this point my back is turned toward her and I start to do fake snores.  . she’s usually not sure whether I like her or not. I hate to put you down but. In that moment. and give her space to chase.From here on I just build as much tension as I can. Here’s the key piece of the puzzle. I treat her the same way I would treat my buddy. increase her desire. I act as if everything is normal. All I am is a big piece of tease”.. she usually ends up doing just that. but I’m feeling so good. I just unleash the beast and take full control of the situation. From here we start to cuddle. she’s way too invested and aroused to even pull back. I pull away and pretend to sleep.. I don’t put out that easily. After that’s done. Then later on in the night. it should be a done deal. I do this a couple of times till clothes start to come off. From this point. When she reaches her boiling point and all the clothes are off. At the same time. I play the frame that “I’m a good boy.

” Where are you in your life right now? What are your goals? Long term and short term? Create a plan Don’t give up until you see results Who you are is the product of the past. and managing relationships)  Tips On How to be Happy Be optimistic and outgoing (positivism) Have close friendships and meaningful relationships (Build your social circle) Work or leisure that engage your skills (fun time) Have something to believe in (foundation) Sleep well and exercise (taking care of yourself) Having a high self esteem (healthy relationship with self) “ If you don’t know where you are going.  . second dates. Who you will become depends on the things you do today. (phone game. You need to become a master of all four stages Stage 1: Becoming Social and Expressing your personality Stage 2: Learning how to make her invest in the interaction (emotional. social) Stage 3: Learning how to handle logistics (getting her number. getting her back to your house) Stage 4: Beyond the pick-up. physical. going on an instant date.Words of WIsdoM There are four stages you will go through in your journey to get this part of your life handled. you will probably wind up somewhere else. time.

you must become congruent with the three main aspects in your life: Be good at what you do Enjoy what it is you do Feel a sense of fulfillment while you do it  .Balance Is Key In order to achieve happiness and live up to your full potential.

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