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CAPTIVATE
TO CONNECT HOW TO MEET MORE WOMEN IN 21 DAYS

Written By Oliver Turner

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About Oliver Turner

Oliver Turner is considered one of the top experts in meeting
women in coffee shops, bookstores, supermarkets and normal

everyday places.

I used Oliver’s During the past four years, Oliver has transformed thousands of
techniques and I shy, introverted, and inexperienced men into confident, powerful,
got a date, right on
and charming gentlemen.
the spot… in less
than 10 minutes!
Today, these men continue to meet and date high quality women
-Alex, California and live the dating lifestyle that they’ve always dreamed about.

Here’s what Carlos Xuma, author of the dating black book and the
seduction method, has to say about Oliver:

“If Oliver can't show you exactly how to attract more

women, increase your social skills, and improve your
life, then nobody can. Listening to Oliver's presentation
has been an amazing experience for me.”

Here’s what Asian Playboy, founder of A,B,C’s of attraction and one

of the top dating coaches for minorities, has to say about Oliver:

“His game is tailored specifically for meeting women

during the daytime and I am definitely impressed
with his ability to both attract and form deep
connections with women. I may in fact be stealing one
of his cold reading techniques and start implementing
it as part of my overall structure. That’s how good his
stuff is.”

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Oliver is also the founder of the prestigious, live training, and
“Hands On” boot camp called Day Game University (An invitation
only live training event where Oliver shows men how to meet and
attract women step by step… and in the real world!)

Master The Environment To Meet More Women

Have you ever noticed a difference with the way women respond to
you when you try to meet them at bars and clubs as opposed to
coffee shops and malls?

There are lot Of course, you might have.

of factors you The environment a woman is in will determine the approach you
need to need so you can meet her.

address when Women are more social during the nighttime. They know men will

meeting approach them all throughout the night.

women in They spend hours and hours styling up and making themselves look
good. I call this the "Make Up Moment". It happens before they
bars and head out to a public gathering.
clubs After an hour or two of prepping up, they hit the clubs in groups
because it’s safer for them. You will rarely see a woman go out by
herself. Therefore, when you get to the club you'll be interacting in
an environment with music, alcohol, and competition.

Its tough stuff and a lot of work.

On top of that, since women are placed in an environment they are

hit on a lot, they put up a shield.

So if you see someone that you would like to meet, you need to:

Differentiate yourself from the competition

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Talk over the loud music
Win over her friends
Barrel through her club persona so you can get to know the
real her

Women want Following me so far?

you to So in order to get the girl in bars or club, you have to address all the
factors mentioned above.
approach
Now, if you place the same woman in a coffee shop, mall, or beach,
them during the social dynamics changes.
the daytime
That's because:

You don't need to talk over the loud music

She's probably by herself so you don't need to win over her
friends
She's not being approached by a million men so you don't
have any competition
She's less likely to have a protection shield because you are
catching her off guard.

It's a very different scenario.

Here is the beauty of it.

Women will be more receptive to your approach because it fulfills

one of their fantasies.

All their lives, they have read books or watched movies about
"confident guy meets girl while she was reading a book in the park
and then they magically hit it off".

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They have been waiting for that moment. There was a time in her
past when she went to sleep at night hoping that this confident and
charming man would just walk into her life and sweep her off her
feet.

This is where you come in.

You need a different approach. I'm not talking about the "yeah it
kind of works" approach. I am talking about an efficient and
powerful approach that works every single time you try it out.

You need to I’ll tell you a little bit more in a minute but first let me ask you a

make her feel question.

comfortable What makes up a successful daytime interaction? What are the

factors you must address in order to get the woman you want?
and safe
around you What Are The Factors That Need To Be
first Addressed?

Comfort and Trust…

Women need to feel comfortable and safe around you first before
anything else.

Why is that?

You are coming in as a STRANGER. Ever since we were kids, our

parents told us repeatedly "Don't talk to strangers, its bad". They
told us that for a reason.

You see it is a dangerous world out there. She doesn't know you
from a hole in a wall. You can be a stalker, psycho, rapist, killer,
loser, or all of the above. She has to be safe. She has to trust you
first.

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Trust is the KEY to all successful interactions.

Remember that.

If she cannot trust you, then she will not want to be alone with you.

She has to know that you will not try anything funny when you are
alone with her. Once again, she needs to trust you first.

You might be thinking to yourself "Why do I need to go through all

of this? Can't I just do what I normally do when I'm introduced to

If you someone?"

captivate her Well that's the point. You start of as a stranger. Nobody is
introducing you to her. You are going up there and creating a social
she’ll talk to interaction by yourself. You will not be playing by the normal rules.
you and if Therefore, you need to build comfort and trust before she starts to
you create warm up to you.

chemistry You see women quickly need to know if you are someone, she can

with her she’ll trust. If there is no trust, then you will find it very hard to escalate
the interaction further.
remember
Your goal is to captivate her with your presence, create chemistry,
you and if time permits… take her on a spontaneous date right on the
spot.

I love taking women on dates right away because it accomplishes

many things on many different levels.

Once you’ve mastered the psychology behind meeting women

during the daytime, you need to start…

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Building a strong foundation

Believe it or not, the process of becoming successful with women is

similar to building bridges and buildings.

Why is that?

They both need the proper foundation or else it will not work out.

That is why engineers and specialists that work on buildings and

If you want a bridges spend thousands of hours figuring out the proper structure
quality in order for their product to be stable and safe.

woman in In other words, they build the right foundation early on to ensure
your life then that things turn out the way they planned it to be.

you need to
Now that is smart.
have a strong
foundation You see, when I first started out meeting women during the
daytime, I just wanted to learn all the techniques.
first
It worked for a while, but there was something still missing.

I didn't have the proper foundation that I needed.

I was getting results left and right but they never did last for a long
time. Women were usually amazed by my personality and then,
somewhere down the road, I’d lose it.

Why?

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Because I focused too much on the techniques rather than working
on myself.

I learned that you need a balance of both.

Now that I've figured it out, I don't want you to make the same
mistake I did. That's why I'm going to help you build a strong and
unshakeable foundation. It is never too early or too late to work on
that.

If you don’t
If you don’t have the proper foundation, everything will collapse
have the and fall apart later on.
proper
You see, there is a specific equation for everything. If you want to
foundation, food to taste a certain way, you need a certain set of ingredients.
everything
will fall apart If you want your guitar to sound a little bit "jazzy", you need to use
the right guitar effects.
later on
If you want long lasting success with women then you need to build
the proper “inner” foundation.

There are dozens of ways to do this but here are…

The 2 Most Important Things You Should Do First To

Build A Strong And Unshakeable Foundation

The glass is half full not half empty. When it comes to women
and dating there’s three words that I want you to remember.

Perception is reality. Whatever you choose to believe will happen. If

you think women will like you… they will. If you think you can’t

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approach women then you really can’t. If you think a woman won’t
give you her number, then she won’t.

I know it’s hard to believe but it happens all the time. Look back
and remember the time when you lead a group. Maybe you were
teaching/telling them something that you were passionate about. It
might have been the time when you were talking to someone about
something you really loved doing.

Either way, at that moment, you are confident because you are in

You are who your element. In addition, because you’re confident, people will
listen to what you have to say.
you believe
Let me share a little secret with you. What’s the difference between
yourself to be a guy that can approach women without fear and nervousness and
the guy that’s just overwhelmed with anxiety?

Answer: What they’re thinking about and where they’re coming

from.

The guy that’s confident knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that

women will love him. All he has to do is walk up and start talking.
He also knows that it’s not such a big deal to meet women
everywhere he goes. It’s just the way it is.

On the other hand, the guy that’s nervous thinks about all the
reasons why women will reject him. He thinks about all the worst
scenarios possible and dwells on them. He comes up with reasons
why he shouldn’t talk to women.

He becomes his own enemy.

Here’s what’s fascinating though. When you meet women for the
first time, they don’t know who you are. They can’t read your mind.

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They don’t know if you’ve dated a lot of women before or if you
haven’t dated anyone at all.

You can act like you’re confident and they will believe it. Or you can
act like you’re inexperienced and they will believe it too.

Your thoughts shape your actions. Your actions shape your

behavior. Women will judge you based on your behavior.

So the bottom line is you need to change some of your beliefs about
women and about yourself.
Women judge
Beliefs that just drag you down and make you fail even before you
men based on start.

their Eliminating Limiting Beliefs

behavior and First step: you have to figure out what negative belief you want to
confidence get rid of.

Here’s some examples:

“I can’t talk to her because she doesn’t go for guys like me”

“I’m not confident enough”

“If I get rejected people will find out about it and laugh at me”

These negative beliefs are very common. I should know, these

examples are from my own life.

Second step: after you identify the beliefs you want to get rid of, I
want you to start rethinking.

Question your belief. Are you absolutely sure that your belief is
true? If so, how do you know that it’s true? Is there anyone out
there that is living proof that your belief isn’t true?

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Third step: Gauge your reaction. How do you react whenever you
believe that thought? What emotions do you feel? Anxiety?
Nervousness? Tension?

Men fail with Fourth step: For a second, just imagine the possibilities. Who would
you be without that thought? What would your life be? How many
women women would you start meeting if you got rid of that thought.

because they I just gave you four steps to becoming self-aware and that is a big
don’t know step to eliminating negative beliefs.

what to do, Really.

how to do it, You cannot change your beliefs overnight. However, you can

and when to definitely change yourself over time. I’ll talk more about eliminating
limiting beliefs in a future newsletter.
do it
Anyways, after you become aware, the next step is to…

Learn how to give and walk away.

There are two types of people in this world: Givers and Takers.

Which one are you?

Before you answer that, I’d like to share with you the definition of
each word.

Givers enjoy bringing value to people’s lives. They are a cause in the
world and not an effect. Everything they touch turns into gold.
People are happy to be around them and are ADDICTED to their
presence. They don’t focus on “What they can take” from other
people. Instead, they always ask themselves “What can I do to make
this person’s life better?”

On the other hand, takers are the complete opposite. They are like
parasites. They suck the life out of anyone they can. Things always

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have to benefit them. They always want to have the better end of the
deal. If you’ve been living long enough, I’m sure you’ve encountered
some takers in your life.

Or you’ve probably been one too…

That’s not a problem. Here’s what you should do.

The most Step 1: Become Aware Of Your Habits

charismatic What are you currently doing to take value from other people? Do

people in the you just call people up when you need a favor from them? Or do you
make sure to keep in touch and just call to see how they are?
world have
Step 2: Giving Value On A Daily Basis
one thing in
What’s something you can do on a daily basis to give value to the
common: people that you meet? Will you teach them something fascinating
They like to about themselves? Will you tell them a joke or a secret that not a lot
of people know? Will you give them a compliment on what they’re
give and
wearing?
bring value to
Step 3: Give Value To People In Your Life Right Now.
people’s lives
How can you give value to the people in your life right now? Will
you start treating people better? Will you be friendlier and more
social to the people in your life? Will you stop and take awhile to
acknowledge them for all the things they’ve done for you? For being
an amazing friend? Companion? Teacher?

Step 4: Have An Action Plan

What actual steps will you take to apply what you have learned?

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Reading vs. Implementing

Have you ever been stuck inside your own mind before? It does
happen to many people, you know. So let me point you to the right
direction before you fall into this fatal trap that most people are
stuck at.

Let me explain this by painting a picture for you. Let's say You
discover that you want to get this part of your life handled.

The most You probably think to yourself: "That's it, I want to learn how to be

successful more successful with women, I'm going to get my hands on every
single learning material out there".
people in the
Ok, at this point, you're still on the right track. Now listen closely
world are because here's when it becomes a little bit tricky.
speed After deciding that you need to get this part of your life handled,
implementers you start going through as much learning material as you possibly
can. Then, when faced with the option to go out and actually
implement what you have learned, you think to yourself "I'm still
not prepared, I need to read more".

This becomes a pattern and before you know it, you have spent
YEARS getting good only in your head.

But that's not your goal right? If it were then you would not need
my help at all. All you have to do is pick up a book and read it.

After all, information is power right? Once you know and master
each stage and contingency in social interactions, you can start
going out there and actually start practicing what you've learned...

Well, if things worked out that way then every person out there
would be successful with women right now. Unfortunately, getting

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this part of your life handled, like everything else in life, takes some
time and effort. You need to make it happen for yourself.

In this game, you need to understand that you need to maintain a

certain balance of how you do things in order to achieve your goal of
getting good at meeting women in the shortest amount of time
possible. In addition, that brings me to my next point.

The most overlooked secret to success with women is

20% Information & 80% Practice

Gather
This is a simple concept. First, you need to devote a certain number
information of hours per week learning how to become successful with women. I

then test it, suggest spending at least 2 hours, on minimum, going out there
and practicing in field. This will not go on forever, you just need to
try it out, do it until you get to a point where you are satisfied with what you
implement it can do.

and put your Twenty percent of your time should be spent

knowledge reading/listening/watching material that will help you out. Then

80% of your time should be spent going out there and practicing
into practice what you've learned.

It does not get simpler than that. There is no easy way out. There
are no short cuts. I am laying the truth out here in simple text for
you to understand.

You must go out there and practice no matter how hard it may
seem.

Meeting women is a learnable and practical skill. It is very similar

to learning how to drive, perform a surgery, play basketball, and
solve math problems.

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If you haven't done something before then you shouldn't expect to
pick up a book and just magically become efficient at it right away.

You need to practice...

You need to practice...

You need to practice...

Stop reading this right now. Go out there and make it happen. It
can be as simple as just walking around saying "hi" to 3 people.

What you say If you cannot even say "hi" and be friendly with people then how

isn’t as can you expect to be good with women?

important as See my point? Baby steps first my friend.

how you say it Baby steps first...

3 Non Verbal Components of Daytime Pick-up

Are you familiar with the terms verbal and non-verbal

communication? Alright, let me give you a quick refresher.

Verbal communication sends messages, to other people, in the form

of words. On the other hand, non-verbal communication sends
messages through gesture, body language, facial expression, eye
contact, clothing, hairstyle, speech intonation, and emotional
projection.

In other words, non-verbal communication occurs through any

sensory channel. That is the reason why non-verbal communication
is more powerful than verbal communication.

Oh, and before I forget, let me quickly get you acquainted with
some topics:

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**Physical touching- This is a very important component in all
social interactions. It serves multiple purposes such as dominance,
physical connection, and effectiveness of verbal messages. Physical
touching should start early on in the interaction. There are several
different methods of touching that you should be familiar with.
More on this topic in the upcoming newsletters.

**Personal space- There is an appropriate distance you should

have when you are first talking to someone new. This does not
mean you have to stay at that distance the whole time. You should
Information strategically be able to maneuver your body language and

Is not power, positioning so she becomes comfortable with you sharing space
with her.
its potential
**Energy- There is a vibe you project the moment you begin a
Power social interaction. You must be aware of the different stages in the
interaction and the vibe you have to give off at each stage.

My Rude Awakening

When I first started out learning how to meet women, I

experimented with various ways of initiating conversations.I
remember doing things like:

- Asking them various situational questions

- Making statements and jokes

- Showing them something interesting and cool

…and it worked. I captured their attention, got them to talk to me,

and I booked my weekends with different dates.

Life was good...

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Then one day I realized, “Why do I keep doing gimmicks just to
meet women?”

It was somewhat silly.

I felt like I was being unreal with them. Don’t get me wrong,
meeting a lot of women was fun.

Pick up lines, routines, and crutches do work.

They work so well that it is scary and frankly, I would have been set

If you for life (with women) if I just continued using them.

challenge However, I’m not that type of person.

yourself I constantly shoot for improving myself, evolving as a person and

taking things to the next level.
constantly
So I went out and experimented with being myself. I wanted to see
then you’ll If women would like me for me, and not who I projected myself to
better you be.

best every It was probably the hardest thing I have ever done in my life.

single time Harder then sky diving, going up on stage in front of hundreds of
people, and getting my tooth pulled out.

But like every other challenge that I accepted into my life, it was
worth it.

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The Story Of How I Discovered Arguably The Best
Way To Start Conversations With Women

I still remember the day it happened.

I was in the gym working out my scrawny upper body in hopes of

packing a little bit of mass.

An hour into my workout, I already had a clear picture of what I had

to do in order to get the results I wanted. It is something I was
always scared to do in the past. However, this time, things were
Sometimes different.
the things
I looked around and I see her.
that you
She's the PERFECT girl.
thought
Everyone in the gym was staring at her. All eyes were on her as she
would never gracefully walked from machine to machine. There were other
work actually women in there but she was in a very different league.

works better Guys started talking to her. I had a choice, and I was not about to

than what back out.

you thought I slowly walk towards her.

would work Calm...

Relaxed...

Cool...

I touch her shoulder and turn her towards me. I smile, look deeply
into her eyes and say...

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"Hey, I know that this might seem a little bit random (pause) but I
noticed you while I was working out. I just had to say (pause) You
are very beautiful. I had to come meet you. I'm Oliver"

Long story short, she ended up talking to me for 20 minutes. The

guy left right away. I didn't have to entertain her for 5-10 minutes, I
got to where I wanted to be in less than 30 seconds

What followed after the opener?

Basic questions like:

In this time
"Where are you from?"
and age, one
"What do you do for fun?"
of the best
"Do you like to travel?"
ways to stand
Nothing fancy. Just plain getting to know her. And the best thing
out is be about it is that...
genuine and
It worked like magic.
be REAL
I was surprised because I thought that it would never work. All my
life, I’ve been taught that I couldn’t go for women that are super
hot. They were usually reserved for the elite men in the world.

And when I finally did learn how to interact with them, I was using
some techniques to make her like me.

So this experiment really opened up my eyes to what was possible. I

was myself. I played no games. I was transparent and real and she
liked me.

Oh yeah, let me warn you though. This approach is not for everyone
It’s not the only way and the BEST way to approach women. There
are hundreds of ways to you can approach women.

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This just happens to work for me almost all the time.

A lot of guys may not be comfortable with approaching women and

just giving a very direct compliment, and that’s okay.

Rome wasn’t built in one day and you certainly can’t eat a whole
elephant in one sitting.

You do it gradually.

If this is something, you cannot do yet then do not worry. I will help

Success you build yourself up to that point.

doesn’t I’ll be there every step of the way, but only if you let me

happen Tips For Starting Conversations With Women

overnight but After you say "Hey" take the time to lean back, relax, smile,

it can happen and slowly deliver your opener.

Use many pauses to build tension and anticipation.
over days… if If she’s facing away, touch her shoulder comfortably and
you know naturally to get her attention. Do not look at where your hand

what you’re is when you touch her.

Do not look down while you're talking.
doing Do not move a lot while delivering your opener. Be still and let
her be the one who loses composure.
Do not be afraid to move the conversation forward.

These tips will get you started on the right track. If you’re human,
chances are, you’ll feel a great deal of anxiety before you approach
women.

Do not worry, it’s normal and there’s a way around it.

Here’s How To Abolish Approach Anxiety

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Let me ask you a question.

Have you ever been paralyzed by fear just right before you talk to an
attractive woman?

The kind of fear that's so powerful that it prevents you from saying
something, anything, to get an interaction started?

Don't worry, you are not alone.

Every single person I know, that is human, feels the exact same
You are going thing you do.
to feel the
I know how frustrating it can be.
fear but you
Imagine seeing a very attractive woman in Starbucks. She is sitting
have to do it
down flipping through the pages of some magazine. Your heart
anyways pumps faster and faster. You end up losing track of everything
around you.

Then all of a sudden, something clicks deep inside of you. You are
compelled to talk to the beautiful woman in the cafe... You know
you want to go talk to her but...

You Just Can't Seem To Bring Yourself To Do It,

No Matter How Hard You Try

Sound familiar?

If you've ever been in this situation before, then read on because

today, we address the second most popular question from our
readers: how to deal with approach anxiety?

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Approach anxiety is an interesting beast in many ways.

Technically, it is the least difficult thing in meeting women: all you

have to do is walk up to someone and begin a conversation.

You just need to get yourself in front of a woman and say “Hi!” and
you’re in the game. (In fact, one of the tricks I teach guys to
overcome approach anxiety is called the 3-step technique: when
you see a girl, take 3 steps toward her… and keep going! See, how

Control the easy is that.)

beast that Well it is probably the most powerful technique I have used to get
controls you rid of approach anxiety.

You see...

It Doesn't Matter If You're As Thin As A Toothpick

Or As Buff As A Wrestler…

Approach anxiety will be the biggest roadblock to your dating

success!

Psychologically, though, approach anxiety can overpower even the

toughest guys out there.

The reason of course is that it is so closely tied up with inner game

issues like: self-esteem, breaking free of societal programming…
and all the deep fundamental stuff that makes meeting women truly
an “elevated” art form.

So, If you can address and overcome your approach anxiety, then
it’s fair to say that you will have truly evolved as a human being,

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even more so than if say you improved your tennis swing or even
made a million bucks.

So let’s get right down to business.

If You Want To Conquer Approach Anxiety

You Must...

If you can Understand approach anxiety.

understand The first thing to understand is that approach anxiety is normal.

your problem
It’s supposed to be there, or else guys would be scoring left and
then you can right, and we wouldn’t even be here.

come up with
So don’t ever beat yourself up for feeling approach anxiety. It is just
solutions that like feeling bad for having only two legs and not being able to fly.
will solve
I truly believe that every problem that falls on our lap is a GIFT.
your problem
The reason is simple, we become aware of the problem and we can
quickly work towards eliminating that problem.

The right way to look at it is that it’s a problem with a solution, and
just like solving any other problem, we need to use our brains, and
arm ourselves with the right tools.

Second, understand the situations in which you feel the most

approach anxiety, and the situations in which you don’t feel as
much. Then, to get the ball rolling, try recreating the scenarios
where you don’t feel as much anxiety.

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For example, maybe you think that opening by asking for directions
is easier to swallow than complimenting a girl right off the bat.

Good, then go do it. Eventually you will become comfortable

enough to try giving women a sincere compliment.

Simple. No excuses.

The point is to do something, anything, to solve the problem, rather

than sit there and marvel at how difficult it is. By merely taking
Women want action, you end up opening up all kinds of vistas for yourself, and

you to the solution will often surface with a momentum of its own.

succeed at On the flip side, the more stagnant you remain

meeting them The more stagnant you become.

and picking
Third, it will help to keep the correct frame in mind, even though
them up you may not yet feel it in your core 100%.

The Shift In Thinking That Will Shift Your Results

The correct frame of mind you should have, when approaching

women, is that you are doing this world a favor by developing
yourself into a real man. One who doesn’t let societal B.S. rule him
like it does every other guy out there.

You may think that, since you’re only a beginner, that you could not
possibly adopt such a frame of mind. But, you may be surprised to
know that there are probably more frustrated girls out there than
frustrated guys, and that just by approaching one of these girls,
even with bad technique, you are most likely brightening up her
day.

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In other words, just the fact that you’re reading this letter, and
wanting to improve yourself, sets you apart from all the frustrated
men out there who are ashamed or afraid to admit what they really
want.

This means you have every right to enter an interaction feeling like
a giver rather than a taker.

So, does approach anxiety ever go away completely? Probably not.

The only But that’s not the point.
thing you
The point is to get off your couch and go do something.
should fear is
fear itself Advanced Strategies For Dealing With Approach
Anxiety

I've been getting dozens of e-mails a day with the same question.

"Oliver, What are other ways to get over approach anxiety?"

Since approach anxiety is a problem for many guys, today I will

share with you another Approach Anxiety-buster I have developed
over the years.

First off, why do we feel approach anxiety? I know that at least for
me, when I first started, I definitely had a fear of the unknown.

Since I did not know what to say, how to act, whether she would like
me, etc., I always felt like I would be plunging down a dark abyss
every time before an approach.

Many times, that feeling got to me, and it prevented me from

approaching women or even going out.

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The surprising thing is, even after I did quite a few approaches, and
experienced positive reactions from the VAST majority of the
women I approached (the usual case when you have the guts to
open your mouth and just say something), I STILL felt massive
approach anxiety.

How could this be? Wasn't it supposed to just go away, or at least

diminish steadily, the more positive feedback I got?

I finally realized that what I was afraid of was NOT how the

Knowing WOMEN would react to me, but rather of ME not knowing what to
do next.
what to do
The fear that you have no control, and are at the mercy of a more
will powerful force than you, is enough to overpower most guys, even
dramatically the most handsome, the richest, and those with the best education.

increase your This prevents such guys from approaching, even though most

chances of women would die to have a chance to talk to them.

being For the longest time, I didn't know how to deal with this. Until I
read a book about Donald Trump and several other successful
successful people.
with women What I learned was something so simple. Yet I never really thought
of using it before.

So after testing this new idea for a couple of weeks, which I

recommend you do, I developed a new tool to take back control in
an interaction. It's called…

Pre Arranging Your Success

Here's how it goes.

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Before going out of the house to approach women, you should have
these things prepared.

Your Venue- Where would you go to meet women during the

daytime?

I personally love going to coffee shops and bookstores to meet

women. I tend to find women that are educated and classy in these
places.

I encourage you to have some standards. Do not just go for any hot
If you know woman that you see. Know exactly what you are looking for and be

what you are prepared when you find her.

looking for Her Number- How do you plan to get her number?

then you will Next time you are talking to a woman, don’t just get her number
because she’s hot. Make sure that she actually fits in your
have a better standards.
chance
If she does, tell her that you enjoy her company and you’d love to
finding it see her again for coffee or a fun activity.

It’s that simple.

Your Instant Date- Where do you take her when you instantly
“hit it off”?

Let’s say you meet a fantastic woman that’s ubberly cute and funny,
what do you do next? Just get her number?

Nope, take her on a date right there.

Tell her that you’re hungry and you’re craving for some dessert.
Then allow her to come join you because it’s going to be fun.

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Your Second Date Fun Activity-What do you have planned for
your second date with her? How will you tell her?

I recommend that you already have a plan for a killer second date
even before you leave the house. You really should.

This will help you become more confident because you’re prepared .

What I have found is that most guys go into an interaction and just
Having a sort of "wing" it to see what happens.

plan By knowing exactly what you are going to do, you increase your

increases chances of getting it.

your The point is, by asking for these things every time, YOU are in
control of how the interaction is going to play out.
confidence
and lessens THIS ADVANCED TIP WILL DECREASE your approach anxiety.

the chances of I repeat: KNOWING WHAT TO DO WILL DECREASE YOUR

APPROACH ANXIETY. So stop jumping into a black hole every
failing time you approach - you will only develop ulcers and cancer from
repeating that repeatedly.

Know how you are going to end it, and nothing can overpower you.

I guarantee you, if you start pre-arranging your success, the results

will be better than you expect.

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Where to Go From Here

Congratulations! You are now well on your way to becoming more
successful with women and dating.

You have the tools to become more confident, banish approach

anxiety, and better your best!

You alone will decide how quickly you will take action to put these
powerful strategies in place for your dating life

I want you to read this report several times to really let the material
sink in.

After reading this, go out and follow the action plan at the end of
this free report.

Here are some resources that will triple your success with women
and help you live the dating lifestyle you have always dreamed
about…FAST!

Step 1: Read the dating tips that I send you twice a week. It’s jam
packed with dozens of tested tips and strategies for meeting women
during the daytime.

I’ll only be sending you actionable tips that you can use to meet
women instantly.

Step 2: Watch the “Quick Start” videos I have up on you tube. I

reveal some of my very best techniques FREE! Watch them now
before I decide to take them down.

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Remember to share these videos and this report with your friends
but NEVER your competition. Please do me a favor and leave some
comments on the videos. Give me your honest feedback on it and if
you like it, don’t forget to rate it. It helps me help you.

Click these links to watch the you tube videos:

Pick-Up Lines That Work

How To Create Chemistry With Women

Step 3: Once you’re comfortable talking to women then you need

to learn how to create killer chemistry and score a date with her.

You see, it took me over four years of trial and error to come up
with a bulletproof system for building a strong foundation, meeting
women, and getting dates.

Now, I would like to show you how to get good with women without
all the guesswork, rejection, and frustration.

That’s why I’ve boiled down all of my BEST techniques and

strategies into a home study program called Daytime Dating
Secrets.

In this program, I break down four key elements that will help you
meet more women and get more dates. (The foundation, Starting
Conversation, Creating Chemistry, and Getting Dates)

Click the link below for more information on this program:

Daytime Dating Secrets

Step 4: If you want to learn how to attract women and get dates, in
less than 3 days, then I highly recommend applying for the Day
Game University Boot camp.

This is a live training event where highly qualified instructors take

you out in the real world and show you how to meet and attract
women up close, and step-by-step.

Unfortunately, this is an “application only” training program.

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Every month, we set aside one week to train six men in the art of
meeting women during the daytime.

Since 2004, we have carefully selected and trained over 400 men
from all over the world. All of them started out shy, introverted,
and inexperience and left confident, socially savvy, and successful
with women.

If you’d like to apply for this live training program please send an e-
mail to:

Kevinc@captivatetoconnect.com or

Info@captivatetoconnect.com

You can also watch dozens of video success stories from the Day
Game University Boot camp Alumni’s here:

Video Success Stories

I hope you learned a lot.

I have full confidence in you. I wish you the best of luck with
women and dating. Good luck and I hope our paths cross again.

Your Friend,

Oliver Turner

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Action Plan – “Take Aways”

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How to Meet More Women in 21 Days- The 3- week action plan

Guidelines:
- Go out every single day for 21 days straight and do not miss a day.

- If you miss one day, you start from scratch again.

- The exercises build up on each other. So follow them.

- Pick something you absolutely love doing every day. Then do not do it until you
finish doing your daily exercise.

- After you do your exercise, just relax. Do not read any dating material. Just have
fun and relax.

- Go out for at least 30 minutes every single day

- Go to malls, supermarkets, coffee shops, and anywhere with a lot of people.

Week 1: Becoming Social

- Go out and say hi to at least 3 people per day

- Don’t forget to smile and hold eye contact

- It can be a guy or a girl. You’re just being social

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- Go home and have fun afterwards

Week 2: Hired Guns

- Go to the mall and talk to 5 people that are working

- Ask them any question: “What’s a good place to eat here?”, “What shirt looks best
on me?”, “What time is it?” then leave afterwards.

- Don’t forget to smile and speak slowly

Week 3: Giving Compliments

- Give compliments to at least three people every day

- You can compliment them on their shoes, dress, hair, style or energy. Here’s the
formula: “Hey, I just noticed that you have a really good style. I just came here to
tell you that”. Then you can walk away.

- Say it slow, smile, and don’t forget to relax. Don’t forget to RELAX. Don’t forget
to RELAX.

Week 4: Stay For a Minute

- Approach 3 women per day using any opener you want

- Make the interaction last for at least 1 minute

- Introduce yourself and just ask her 1 or 2 questions about herself such as:
“What’s your nationality?”, “Where are you from?”, “What do you love doing for
fun?”.

- After one minute, tell her that it was a pleasure meeting her.

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