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Is Fake Really Better

Is Fake Really Better


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What does the rapid increase in breast augmentation say about all of us?
What does the rapid increase in breast augmentation say about all of us?

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Is Fake Really Better?

June 2, 2011 By Tom Matlack 21 Comments

"Eternal Idol" by Rodin, Fogg Museum of Art


What does the rapid increase in breast augmentation say about all of us?
A few weeks ago we ran into a relative who had been going through a difficult patch in her life. What I saw made my heart sink. Our relative had gotten breast augmentation surgery since the last time I had seen her. For whatever reason it just smacked me in the face because I had thought she was such an attractive woman—she carried herself with the kind of grace that makes a person look even more beautiful, not less, with age. So it really upset me that she had felt the need to change herself and, in my view, look less real and frankly to my eye less attractive. This set my mind off: What the hell is going on in our country that women think they need fake breasts to be okay with their bodies? What does that say about women? What does that say about men? And what is going on with gender when fake is so much more adored than something real?

♦◊♦ While some experiments with breast augmentation date back to the 19th century, the first widespread use was during the 1940s, when Japanese prostitutes began to have their breasts injected with substances such as paraffin in the hope that American servicemen stationed there after the war would favor them with larger breasts. Fast-forward to today. Over 300,000 women and teenage girls underwent surgery last year to have their breasts enlarged with silicone or saline implants, and more than 80,000 more had reconstruction after being treated for cancer. According to Diana Zuckerman, president of the National Research Center for Women & Families, the number of cosmetic implants has tripled over the last decade. And 40,000 with implants underwent removal last year.

"Fire & Ice" by Pablo Solomon

♦◊♦ The CEO of a chain of strip clubs told me that 90 percent of his dancers have breast enhancements. But, he said, “It is more about the stripper building her self-confidence and feeling good about herself, and less about the demand from the customer. Usually if the girl is unhappy with the size or shape of her breasts, she will opt to have implant surgery to be better able to compete with the other entertainers in the industry to make more money.” I asked him about the women who get what appear to be particularly grotesque large implants and the motivation behind that. “Feature entertainers are performers who have established themselves in the industry by appearing in adult magazines and films, therefore receiving credits. They are paid to travel to gentlemen’s clubs to perform as a headline entertainer on stage. Since they really need to stand out from the ‘house dancers,’ they usually opt to go larger than normal.” ♦◊♦ I asked a bunch of guys what they thought about breast implants in order to get a random sampling of what men really think. John is a 46-year-old business owner who has lived in Las Vegas for 21 years, and a self-admitted “breast snob.” He has watched the dramatic increase of breast implants in Vegas and, from talking to other guys, believes he is in the minority—but he is a strong proponent of natural breasts. “To me it’s all about the

way real breasts look, move, and especially how they feel,” he told me. “I mean, with my girl on top, real boobs swaying and bouncing, life is good! While fakes may look great to fill out clothing, they just don’t look right naked.” Of the guys I talked to, in fact, a majority asserted that they found natural breasts more attractive than breasts that had been surgically augmented. Men who spent a lot of time in strip clubs or watching porn more often admitted to liking enhanced breasts. Like a 26-year-old acquaintance in New York said of fake breasts, “They look better, feel better, and you can have more fun with ‘em!” His theory, beyond just finding the larger, artificially enhanced breasts sexy, is that a woman who has surgery actually has more confidence in herself, opinions be damned. In his mind, breast enhancement shows a woman cares about her appearance. Dave, 52 and from St. Louis, has spent plenty of time in strip clubs. He disagrees; he has always looked for women with natural breasts. “Even if they were petite,” he tells me, “I sought their attention and gave them mine over some gal with big, hard, stretched-out fake tits. Those are the worst. Why did I go? I love looking at women and enjoyed receiving their attention. The feeling of a naked or near-naked woman in your lap is never a bad thing in my book. My taste in porn is the same as in a club—I am consistent. I hate bad, big boob jobs. I also do not get

turned on by big, hanging, natural udders.” Then there are men like Bob in Buffalo, New York, whose wife has one real breast; the other was taken in a mastectomy due to breast cancer. His wife’s breasts were small, and in order to get the unaffected breast to match the breast that was removed she would have had to have enhanced both breasts. The surgery sounded so grueling to them that she opted not to have it. “I think it’s very sad that so many women are getting breast implants,” Bob told me. “Regardless of what people think, it is a horrible surgery. I think most women are mistaken in their belief that it makes them more attractive and it saddens me that they are wasting their time, money, and risking their health for something that I don’t think is true.” ♦◊♦ Jenna T. is a 25-year-old senior account executive at a public relations firm. She has always had a tall and lean body type which, she told me, “is wonderful, but I unfortunately was not blessed with breasts, so I have always felt disproportional and self-conscious about having nothing there.” After extensive consultation with her mom, who she calls her best friend, and her sister-in-law, Jenna decided to have sub-glandular silicone breast augmentation last month. “I am unbelievably happy. I feel more confident, and finally fit into my clothes,” she reported afterwards.

Jenna spoke eloquently about how important it is to feel good in your own skin and how she thinks that if there is anything holding you back from being confident and happy, there’s nothing wrong with changing it—with or without plastic surgery. She admitted that some male perceptions of the perfect female body include big boobs, but she maintains that she got her surgery for herself and only herself. “I certainly do not believe in the ‘perfect body,’ nor do I think it’s necessary for women to get a breast augmentation solely for attention; however, if it is something that will make you a happier person inside and out, I don’t think women or men should be judgmental about it.” ♦◊♦ Pablo Solomon is a 63-year-old sculptor of some note who has been studying women’s bodies now for four decades, in his studio just north of Austin, Texas. He is internationally known for his drawings and sculptures of dancers, many of whom are nude. “I prefer available,” he jokes when I ask him about his preference in breasts. But he goes on to tell me that he is finding it harder and harder to find women with real breasts who do figure work, which is his strong preference. “As an artist,” he says, “I look for models who exhibit a variety of looks. Some of my favorite models have small breasts. The look that I want is for the model to

be fit and balanced with that something special, which is often hard to define.” Pablo has been married to the same woman for 35 years, a model and then account executive for Diane Von Furstenberg, Revlon, and Ralph Lauren. She did a lot of swimwear and lingerie modeling and had always had “great legs, an hourglass figure and perfect butt” according to Pablo. Her breasts are real. She not only has hired many models as an executive but also has always gotten the models for Pablo. “She will tell you that even the women who are born absolutely beautiful often have poor self-images. I have had art models who were virtually perfect but ruined their balance by over doing the breast size,” Pablo says. Pablo does commissions for elite clientele, often men with mistresses. Almost all of these women have fake breasts. One major big shot for whom Pablo created sculptures sent all his mistresses to the same plastic surgeon to be molded into identical clones, with outrageous breasts for their slim figures. This always makes him sad. “To me,” he says, “attractiveness stems from the woman being fit, with poise, good posture, a balanced look and yes—a fun personality.”


"Nude Figure Study" by Pablo Solomon ♦◊♦ Grace Gold, 28, author of a book titled The Boob Job Bible, is a journalist covering the beauty industry. Jene’ Luciani, 33, is a well-known style correspondent and author of The Bra Book. Both have had breast augmentation. They are both experts in female beauty and style in general but have faced the issue of breast surgery in their own lives for different reasons. Grace was a competitive figure skater throughout her childhood and teenage years. She had a strong sense of self and healthy relationships with boyfriends, but from a young age she was inspired by the glamour and femininity of old Hollywood. “I’ve always surrounded myself with images of beauties from that

golden era, from Marilyn Monroe to Jane Russell to Sophia Loren,” she told me. Even though she felt like there was nothing wrong with her 34B cup, she dreamed of something different for ten years before she had 310 cc of volume added when she was 25. “I said to myself, ‘You only have one life to live. Why not just do it?’” Jene’ always had a “dirty little secret” she hid below her shirt. As a teen she developed tubular breast syndrome, “something that you don’t often hear about but that’s quite common in women,” she told me. “One of my breasts was over a cup size smaller than the other and took on a cone-like shape.” This medical issue caused Jene’ to be insecure and have profound body image problems. Finally, when she was 21 and working full-time for NBC News, she decided to have surgery to lift one breast and insert saline implants into both. “I don’t think I could have lived my entire life feeling the way I did as a teen—I always felt like a mutant because of the way my breasts were. It was liberating to ‘fix’ them,” she says now. Jene’ used to be embarrassed to show her breasts to boys, but with a bit of science she is more comfortable now. She ignores the snide remarks she would hear made by men who didn’t understand the emotional duress that caused her to go ahead with

the surgery. “Women as sexual beings,” she says, “feel a lot of pressure to have perfect bodies and perfect breasts. This unattainable idea of perfection is dangerous, especially to young girls.” Grace agrees. “Living in this society, aren’t we all influenced by male perceptions of female beauty? Look at ads, movies, magazines, television, performers, etc.,” she says. “Women are exceedingly presented through the male viewpoint. Even in women’s magazines, you’ll see sexed-up ads and photos that could easily slip right into a men’s magazine like GQ or Maxim. So I definitely think the male perception of female beauty pervades every visual aspect of American society. But with that said, I never had any trouble dating with a small cup, and I don’t even think it’s a significant factor that men take into consideration when feeling attracted to a woman. I didn’t get a boob job to get more dates; I did it to feel the glamour and sense of femininity that I had come to associate with a full cup.” ♦◊♦ In all of this I had to re-evaluate my preconceived notions of breast implants as the source of evil on Planet Earth. I do find the acceleration of the procedures alarming and get pretty sick to my stomach when I see more and more women with plastic surgery that, at least to my eyes, is grotesque. My view on the aggregate level has not changed that much. Kind of like with the prevalence of porn in our

country, I still firmly believe that we should all take the obsession with fake over real when it comes to gender relations as a red flag. It shows that we aren’t really willing or able to deal with each other directly— unfiltered, middle-aged body to middle-aged body. We would prefer the fantasy, whether on the Web or in the breast (or, when it comes to strippers, both at the same time). But when it comes to each individual woman’s decision as to what to do with her own body, my judgments really have no bearing whatsoever. Who the hell am I to pass judgment on Jenna the 25-yearold PR executive, or anyone else for that matter? In the end, I think what scared me the most when I saw our relative and her new breasts was the impact of seeing so many women getting augmentation might have on my daughter, my sister, my wife and the other women who I hold dear. But having thought about it more, I now realize that a woman’s body is her own. No man can tell her what to do with it. Not even her father or her husband or her brother.


"The Prayer" by Pablo Solomon

About Tom Matlack Tom Matlack is the co-founder of The Good Men Project. He has a 17-year-old daughter and 15- and 6-year-old sons. His wife, Elena, is the love of his life. Comments


Huh? says:

June 2, 2011 at 5:16 am 5 2

Men overwhelmingly prefer natural breasts. Men

don’t bear any responsibility for the plastic surgery that women chose to have done because guess what? Women are adults, just like men. Reply


Amber says:

June 2, 2011 at 9:53 am 0 2

I’m completely against augmentation, but whether fake or natural, both men and women need to learn how to accept women as they are. I’m not bothered by men who have preferences, but men who press natural breasts on women are just as bad as men who press women to get augmentations. I also notice that men who say they prefer natural breasts prefer it for selfish reasons: they’re bouncy, soft, blah, blah, blah. They don’t prefer them for any reasons that have to do with women’s comfort. Reply

Go to says:


June 2, 2011 at 2:28 pm 2 0

Amber, you just have a low opinion of men and an over inflated opinion of women. If they prefer natural, they are bad, if they for some reason prefer fake they are bad, if they prefer natural because they feel and look better, they are bad. And in your book whats acceptable is men basing their preferences on what evers more comfortable for women, but in reality, I think you would find men with no minds of their own and like or don’t like things based on whats best for you pretty creepy and unattractive, For someone who claims to be a humanist and not a feminist, you come out with some very feministy things. Reply


Margaret says:

June 2, 2011 at 7:20 am 0 0


How about http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2 011/06/perverse-incentives/8489/ Reply


TheBlended says:

June 2, 2011 at 9:55 am 0 0

Thank you for this balanced article…I truly enjoyed reading it. Not everyone was born into the “ideal” body, but it’s what you make of it, right? I’ve met the kind of girls that have implants who sort of wear them like a badge and it seems to be the ruling force in their lives, and then I’ve met women who you wouldn’t know have implants because they didn’t get them for anyone else but themselves. I think that’s the difference in the way I feel about it. One side of the story makes me a little sick while the other side of the story makes me respectful of their very personal choice. Reply



Daddy Files says:

June 2, 2011 at 10:04 am 2 0

I love natural breasts. Fake boobs are terrible. But my wife has always wanted breast augmentation surgery, and very well may get it someday. I’m against it because I think she looks perfect the way she is, but if she wants to do it then ultimately I’ll accept it and I’d never forbid her to do something just because I didn’t like it. But I don’t think men bear any responsibility for the increase of fake boobs. These are adult women with their own thoughts and opinions. They’re doing it, not men. I think you can easily subtract men from this whole equation. Reply


Danny says:

June 2, 2011 at 10:59 am 2 0

Daddy Files: But I don’t think men bear any responsibility for the increase of fake boobs. These are adult women with their own thoughts and opinions. They’re doing it, not men. I think you can easily subtract men from this whole equation. Agreed. Trying to hold men responsible for that would be like trying to hold women responsible for the advent of penis elargement junk emails. Personally I don’t care much about the size of a person’s breasts in and of themselves. Although I admit that I do notice their size in relation to the other parts of the person’s body but even then its not like its a deal breaker. Its a preference not a requirement. Reply


Clark Kent says:

June 2, 2011 at 11:03 am 4 2

When the hell will women have to take full responsibility for the choices they make? Seems like every article on this site perpetuates this idea that the “evils of patriarchy”, and the “Male Gaze”, and male this and that etc. are the very least equally

responsible for decisions that women make. You would think from reading this site that women had absolutely no agency whatsoever. Are women THAT insecure and easily influenced by male opinions? Are men THAT overbearing and hell bent on controlling every aspect of female existence? Hell no! Bottom line women who get augmentation for whatever reason CHOSE to do so. THAT person and ONLY THAT person opted to go under the knife. Also, where is this notion coming from that the majority of men like large or enhanced breast? Maybe, just maybe a large portion of the 300,000 women who opted to get augmentation last year thought THEMSELVES that bigger/augmented breast were better under their own volition. Reply


Tom Matlack says:

June 2, 2011 at 11:23 am I am just going to dip my toe in here because Clark and other are making broad, untrue statements about

the site and what we are trying to do. I personally have a pretty strong bias against breast augmentation as a phenomenon not only because fake over real isn’t something I find aesthetically pleasing in pretty much anything, but because as a father of a 17 year-old girl and wife of a 46 year-old women I am sensitive to the pressure the women in my life are under as they walk around a world that is dominated by porn, swimming pools populated by augmented breasts, and the like. I wrote the piece because I saw a women I care a lot about who got plastic surgery I really think out of a kind of despair that made her look, in my personal view, worse not better. It made me really sad. That’s why I decided to write the piece. What I found in doing the research is that like so many other things when it comes to gender there is no easy overall conclusion to be made about augmentation. And frankly in the end, yes, these are adult women making decisions about their own bodies for better or worse. But I don’t think this discussion somehow leaves men completely innocent nor do I think it is intended to highlight the evils of patriarchy. It was intended to present the issue in as balanced a way, from as many perspectives as I possibly could, to promote a thoughtful discussion. Reply



Clark Kent says:

June 2, 2011 at 12:34 pm 3 0

I’m basing this response on this ^^^ particular response you’ve posted. If you and I and (I believe the majority) of the American male population find natural breast more aesthetically pleasing, where then is this pressure coming from for women to opt for augmentation? Also where is this obsession coming from? And, why is that obsession being insinuated as male-centric? Also, from your statement: “I wrote the piece because I saw a women I care a lot about who got plastic surgery I really think out of a kind of despair that made her look, in my personal view, worse not better. It made me really sad. That’s why I decided to write the piece.” Do you believe women (or the majority of) who do augment do so because of some sort of esteem/insecurity issue? Why isn’t as much credence given to the idea that women themselves choose to augment because THEY find it more attractive? No one would dare blame women for the “male enhancement” craze of the last decade or so. The

vast majority of people would agree that it is due to male insecurities and not pressure from women saying bigger is better. Why can’t that same argument or logic be applied to breast augmentation? I think that’s where many people’s (or at least my) frustration comes from this article. Reply

Tom Matlack says:

June 2, 2011 at 1:49 pm “Do you believe women (or the majority of) who do augment do so because of some sort of esteem/insecurity issue? Why isn’t as much credence given to the idea that women themselves choose to augment because THEY find it more attractive?” Read the piece. I don’t think the women who got augmentation would say they did it because of insecurity in general. Many would say men had nothing to do with it. But what I came to having talked to a bunch of women who had implants and a bunch of guys who have all kinds of proclivities, and frequent strip clubs and porn and those who don’t,


etc…is that you really can’t generalize. Just like I wouldn’t want to speak for all men on what it means to be good I really can’t say why all women, or even most women, get breast augmentation. All I said was taken as a whole the trend is troubling to me personally as I would like to believe that natural beauty is better than something that is artificial. That’s why I chose to use art for the piece because artists in general try to get at what is the essence of the human form, not some crazy cartoon character version. I also do think that the prevalence of porn and acceleration of breast augmentation are related. There has been quite a bit of research done which indicates that men who watch porn regularly, in general, become inclined towards cartoon style artificial breasts. Not everyone but more than the average population. Believe me I am not man bashing here. I am just trying to lay out there that breast augmentation is happening, it has a variety of reasons, and has real consequences, and its worth talking about. Reply

Clark Kent says:

June 2, 2011 at 2:38 pm




Well I definitely appreciate the fact that you take time out to participate in discussions in the commenting section. Whether or not we agree on a certain issue it is refreshing that you make yourself available in such a way. Reply Daddy Files says:

June 2, 2011 at 2:56 pm 0 2

Tom: I’m curious about the porn angle. Why are we so quick to blame adult movies for society’s ills? What about actresses with boob jobs in mainstream movies? Or how about the fact that going under the knife for elective surgery is thought of as commonplace now? I think those things have much more to do with the prevalence of plastic surgery than porn. And if I am gawking at fake tits in porn, it’s probably not because I’m attracted to them. To the contrary, I’m probably flabbergasted at how huge, hard and nasty they look and I’m viewing it like a carnival sideshow. And lastly, I truly believe women are out to impress other women far more than they’re out to impress

men. Just my two cents. Reply

Tom Matlack says:

June 2, 2011 at 8:02 pm I do think women are out to impress each other but have actually talked to a lot on this topic and pretty consistently breasts are not something that goes into that category. Breasts are a guy thing is what I have been told by women who have had augmentation and those that haven’t. Take that for what its worth but that is what my unscientific sample would say. On porn I am actually talking about quite a bit of research done around the topic that draws the correlation. Unscientifically, of course, you can just go on the fact that 90% of women in strip clubs have breast augmentation and they are doing it purely as an economic decision, to maximize how much money men will spend on them. You and I might not like the look, but guys going to a strip club certainly do or the women wouldn’t be doing it. Reply



Amber says:

June 2, 2011 at 11:25 am 2 1

I will readily admit men are not at all at fault for this. It’s mostly women who pressure each other to have enhanced breasts. I have never once heard of a man pressuring his wife or girlfriend or whatever to have enhanced breasts. In fact, on an episode of True Life, the women who wanted breast implants did so because either their mothers or their friends were pressuring them. Their boyfriends were just fine with the way they are and tried to discourage them from doing so, but they kept claiming it’s a confidence thing–or even a bullying thing. Confidence doesn’t come from such artificial remedies as breast implants. Confidence comes from within and is the ability to accept yourself. I mean, I try not to judge women who choose to get breast implants, but it’s very hard to not get upset at some of the reasons they posit because there is no true rationality behind their reasons. Sure, their choices don’t effect me, but they only feed into this perfect body situation and serve as another example of the supposed female plight.




Go to says:

June 2, 2011 at 2:34 pm 0 2

Tom Matlock Are you serious, you don’t like the fact that men don’t share collective responsibility and guilt for womens vanity and their decisions to get breast enhancements? You are more than welcome to languish in the feminist constructed, oppressive prison of collective male guilt, but don’t expect the rest of us to join you. Let me know when you get out, and I’ll buy you a pint. Reply


Erin says:

June 2, 2011 at 4:58 pm 1 2

Instead of being so quick to respond defensively to something that apparently is a big issue for women, perhaps a better way to look at this issue is to take a step back and as a man, not blame women for their choices or automatically make the connection that women are blaming men for their choices. I’d be more encouraged to hear from men: “women do face a lot of pressure and I can understand why they do or don’t get breast implants.” Instead of some of the defensive this-is-all-women’s-fault-and-women’s-ownissue-to-deal-with attitude that doesn’t really help men and women bridge body image gaps. I’m small chested but my mom is quite busty. It never bothered me until I started learning more about the types of media that interested men, the types of women that were represented in that media and the comments that I heard in general from male friends and boyfriends about my own chest size and other girls. I am NOT blaming men. I am responsible for my own self confidence. But men comment on breast size. Breasts matter to men. This isn’t a secular issue. Men have an impact here. There is a big focus on breast size for women then there is for penis size in men. Because quite simply, breasts are everywhere in media and commercials on a level that male penis size doesn’t reach. And honestly, from my perspective, men send such double messages here. You can’t say you like the way fake breasts look but not feel and think that’s


suppose to make women feel good or be less confused. So we are only suppose to look like the fantasy but feel like the real thing. That’s an impossible standard to meet. As a woman, it often seems like you’re suppose to possess the super human confidence to not worry about the way your body looks, or not buy into the images that the media sends about your body; but it’s okay for the men in your life to buy into the exact images you try to fight against. And I don’t think that’s fair. I am never going to get breast implants, my size fits who I am. But I will be damned that I’m told that I’m suppose to be so uber confident to not let these images affect me while men continually buy into them by staring, purchasing, commenting or paying money to see them. This needs to be a joint effort. If you are a man that likes real breasts, saying things like fake breasts look good but real ones feel good doesn’t help the case for real breasts. If you are a man that likes real breasts, spending money on strippers with fake ones because it’s something new, doesn’t help the case for real breasts. Women might get breast implants to make themselves more confident. But that’s only because they previously bought into an idea that their bodies aren’t good enough as they are. I don’t believe that any woman gets breast implants just for themselves. They get them because they believe their bodies are not appropriate the way they are. That they are aren’t proportionate. But what is proportionate? How has

that idea of changed through the years and why? Look at women in old paintings and most of us would probably think they aren’t proportionate. And yet, they were painted because they were thought to be beautiful. Our ideas of what “proportionate” is today is the real question. But of course, women naturally play a huge part too. (However, this shouldn’t be used as an excuse for men to obliterate any responsibility for the messages they send about what they like in women’s bodies.) I remember my one girlfriend being upset with a friend of hers that got breast implants. This same girlfriend had a baby a year ago and was talking about how she might get her breasts lifted after she was done having kids. I was a little flabbergasted with her at first because she was critical of her friend that got breast implants. And she was only critical of that friend because she knew that the desire for the implants was born out of insecurity and she felt sorry for her friend. And I know that her desire to fix her breasts after having kids is born out of her insecurity as well. We all know what men like. We all know what men pay attention to. Women want men to like them, to still be attracted to them. And if men show they are attracted to a certain body type, women will strive to be that body type. Women live in a world that reminds them everyday how much they lack. Then they go home to their partners who more then likely, are


downloading images of other girls with or without implants. Women can’t get away from the message about their bodies. I am not asking men to take the blame for this. I am just asking that men try to understand where women are coming from here. Penis size isn’t as nearly represented in media like boobs are. But women have a resonsibility to themselves to learn real body confidence. Then women need to reject ideals about what makes them women, that bigger breasts make them more womanly and men need to reject mediums that support the most shallow parts about women and send false ideas about what a real woman’s body is. Until that happens, a lot of men are going to see their daughters and wives struggle with the way their bodies look. Reply


Makenzie says:

June 2, 2011 at 6:32 pm 1 0

AMEN. Thank you for such a thoughtful response. Reply



Go To says:

June 2, 2011 at 6:11 pm 0 1

I’m sorry Erin But the crusade by privileged american feminists to get men to believe that grown women should be pampered , molly coddled and fathered by men as a group is totally and utterly unreasonable. You’d just like to “get men” to think this, understand that, take responsibility for you, to control men and manipulate them into the role of your father and protector and whipping boy. If women have a problem with the media, stop worshiping it, celebrities and taking your cues from it, disconnect. If you have a problem with beauty standards, stop competing with each other and driving them up. If you have a problem with vanity, fall out of love with your own reflections. Date within your league instead of using fakery to aim above it. The first step for feminists in this regard, is to stop blaming men and “patriarchy” for their neurosis and weaknesses and every other little thing, because


otherwise its impossible to conceptualize talking responsibility for yourselves. Paternal men, like some of the ones writing for this mag. are responsible too, for encouraging and enabling it. You’ve got to chose between equality or being children, you cant expect to be treated like children and expect equality, its one or the other. Reply


Makenzie says:

June 2, 2011 at 6:28 pm 1 0

1) Just as the size of a man’s penis or muscles can make him feel more/less masculine, so the size of a woman’s breasts make her feel more or less feminine. I have always been very small on top, and it makes me feel less womanly. Working for a plastic surgery review site, I have come across many women who say the same thing. Having full breasts is one thing that has always made women different from men, so it seems only natural that we feel a desire to enhance that distinction.


2) Regardless of who started it (men or women), a woman’s breasts have long been put on display. Even in historical clothing, corsets and dresses were designed to push ‘em up and out. For whatever reason, breasts are a focal point in our culture, and probably always will be. Why should a woman feel bad for wanting to enhance her focal point? 3) Regarding the “natural” vs “fake” debate. The problem with asking men this question, is that many men associate fake boobs with what they see in porn and Hollywood. The reality is, a lot of women opt for small (C or less) implants that the naked eye wouldn’t notice if done by an expert surgeon. Of course one might prefer a natural looking B-cup to say, Holly Madison’s rocks. But the more important question is would you prefer a barely-there, all natural AA, or a slightly enhanced C that still had the slope and curve of natural breasts? The latter is entirely achievable with a good doc. I do think it’s odd when women choose implants that are too large for their body, ala Pam Anderson. But just as women prefer bigger penises (it’s not a deciding factor, but she’s lying if she says it’s not a plus), so do most men prefer breasts that are full and present. A too large penis uncomfortable, as too big of breasts could be awkward and get in the way. It’s not about porn star knockers, but just having *something.* I’ve never had anything but compliments on my breasts-that-disappear-in-a-bikini,


but I can’t imagine any of my exes being upset if they were suddenly a little larger. These features are what set our sexes apart, so why wouldn’t we be genetically inclined to look for someone who has the most to offer? Watch one episode of “Life” or “Planet Earth” and it’s clear that many animals choose mates in similar ways. Reply


Henry Vandenburgh says:

June 2, 2011 at 7:40 pm 1 0

Natural is more beautiful. Surgery is okay by me if it is to repair a problem. I had a friend in college with mismatched boob sizes, and I thought she looked great. (We went to a college with a lot of nude sunbathing. We weren’t lovers.) Reply


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