Diane (50) and Manu (50) have been married for 27 years.

They're happily married and have 3 children who are working. The list goes on, but young people today are in no hurry to get married. Career comes first to most young people today and since live-in relationships are no longer taboo in several societies, marriage takes a back seat. Youngsters instead dedicate all their energy to build a career for themselves and the thought of raising a family is last on their mind. In an unofficial release, corroborated by legal experts handling divorce cases the percentages of divorces for those who marry young are 3 to 4 percent as opposed to 20 to 25 percent of those fighting divorces after late marriages. Most people in urban set-ups today find their life partners only once they are in their 30s, or even later. By this time many are set in their ways and if the whole deal of a successful marriage is compromise, they are not willing to make it. Specialists are convinced, that when a family is started early (age 18 to 25), it has much better influence on the psychological health of the married couple much more than a late marriage does. According to an online respondent to the debate over early marriages, "Marriage is like building a house. You start from the foundation and work your way up. If you are young, you get to grow together. Together, in the same direction as opposed to already having a 'direction' and having to get lucky to find someone that going the same way you are." According to marriage counselor Sheila P, "People get set in their ways as they grow older. Unpleasant relationships that may have eroded trust and respect, which is very important for a successful marriage, also contribute to marital problems. The later the marriage, the more baggage one brings into it." On the other hand, when a couple marry young, they seem to benefit a great deal. Experts feel that living together helps them become more independent and get better sense of responsibility. Work and studies, surely, help as well. Newlyweds, in contrast to their peers, seem to be in better shape and withstand emotional stress better. Psychologists also feel that live-in relationships may not offer the same solidity to the relationship 'since one window is always kept open and commitment is not 100 percent'. Counsellor Prem M, says, "The right age for a man or woman to marry in today's world of 'opportunity' is 21 or 22. This is the age when there's still some magic about being in a committed relationship. It's an age where young people still believe in promises and if an environment of trust and mutual respect is a given, the marriage is bound to last. At a time when society is in the process of breaking down institutions, children brought up on the insecurites of a single parent cry out for restoration of the institution called marriage.
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Children who grow up with both parents are more secure and can handle stress better.

In a US-based study where scientists studied over 8,000 young families over a period of time it was concluded that early marriages also help improve parent-child relationships, children in such families develop earlier and have higher intellect. In addition, medics also believe, that children born in such families have correctly formed norms of behaviour, and that they are also more protected from depression. "The case is not very different in urban Indian cities too," says counselor Jason S. "It is a also proven medical fact that the best years for a woman to bear children is between 18 and 25. It is but obvious that children frome younger parents will have better physical well being resulting in better emotional health; this in turn ensures proper socialization and could also contribute to a better schooling experience," he says. Conversely, psychologists believe, that late marriages have a bad influence on the health of the partners and their future children as well.
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What type of marriage is preferable?

Early or late? Early marriages are preferable than late marriages if you can handle the minimum livelihood expenses though you are not rich. . It has many advantages like. You have a support with you permanently. This support can help in mutual progress of two partners. Your parents might also be satisfied that you are independent. You can have your children at young age so that you can look after them well through their career and up growth as you have age below 50 by the time of their marriage and settlement. Since the chances of mishaps are many, it is better to get married quickly and have your siblings for your family sustenance. It also gives a feeling of settled in life and plan further goals and purposes in life. Staying together requires some good level of adjustment at mental, physical and social planes so early marriage can provide more time for couple to understand each other and once done can help you enjoy family life even better for long. You can also have sufficient sexual satisfaction from your partner and you may not need to go for adultery and also keep away from sexually transmitted diseases (STD). Requirements for early marriage: Get into some earning mode at an early age preferably by 22yrs.

Have sufficient level of social relations and friends. Because this helps you manage family and career related issues and take proper decisions. Attain proper maturity by formal and informal education. It gains you respect from people around . Have pleasant physical build up by regular exercises and proper diet regulation.

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Some of them feel late marriage is better in order to complete higher education as they believe that marriage creates disturbances. Some delay marriage as they wait for their elder brothers or sisters to get married. Some of them dont think of marriage as they feel it is the responsibility of their parents. Even some feel marriage is not prerequisite for better life. So they might not think of it. Very few delay it due to their aversion for opposite sex :-). Advantages : You maintain your freedom of life without compromise to your spouse. Your expenses are kept at minimum and can take more time for settlement. The chances of becoming addict to something like drinks or frustration are rare (as you can see in cases where couple has no options to divorce and so are resort to addictions etc :-)). Disadvantages: You may need to compromise your sexual life and may resort to masturbation or adultery etc. This poses chances of STD, improper health (as sex is believed to contribute to health). You may lose valuable age suitable to conceive, carry and beget children. Health experts believe that age of below 30 years and above 18 years is the best suitable for the purpose of conception, pregnancy and delivery. Chances of mishaps are frequent these days so its advisable not to delay marriage so as to avoid chances familial lineage discontinuance. These are just the thoughts and not intended to impose anyone else. Thanks......