"We grow great by dreams. All big men are dreamers.

They see things in the soft haze of a spring day or in the red fire of a long winter's evening. Some of us let these great dreams die, but others nourish and protect them; nurse them through bad days till they bring them to the sunshine and light which comes always to those who sincerely hope that their dreams will come true."

Growth means change and change involves risk, stepping from the known to unknown

Wishes and hopes are nothing until you take the first step towards making them something!

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Holi in Mathura is celebrated in spring during the Indian month of Falgun. It is celebrated with plenty of colors.

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PREFACE
Only as high as I reach can I grow, Only as far as I seek can I go, Only as deep as I look can I see, Only as much as I dream can I be

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Dare to Dream program is a Vardhnam initiative, focused and designed to question , test, push and challenge, ones persona in order to face and manage todays cut- throat competitive environment. Dare to Dream aims at pushing you to go that extra mile and motivates you to believe in yourself by following the philosophy try-try till you succeed in realising your dream. It boldly outlines that the success of a dream is sheer perseverance. We come across many people from different walks of life that possess immense knowledge or talent, but how many of them are successful?... These people are never able to capitalise on their potential and thus accomplish their dreams primarily due to negative attitude in life, making excuses and never taking responsibility of their actions. Through Dare to Dream series we try to reinforce the popular belief that we all know but seldom put to practice Impossible is Nothing. This book is an attempt to help you relate and appreciate the fact that All great journeys start with a dream because in order to be all we can be, we must dream of being more Wishes and Hopes are nothing until you take the first step towards making them something. The following pages which you are about to read are focused on behavioural aspects of personality as well as Soft Skills which are basic ingredients towards success. In our endeavour of making this program a success and the reader take hold of the fact that setting dreams and goals requires active and creative thinking, discipline and an investment of an individual time, talent and ability because the future belongs to those who believe in their dreams. Everyone deserves a life of no regrets; however the choice of making that decision lies in no one but us. Our motivation to put these compilations together was to make you believe that within an individual lies the strength to meet lifes challenges for there is no end to the amount of things one can accomplish in one life span. Within this anthology the subjects being purposefully considered are Positive Attitude in life, laws of goal setting, where a goal needs to be rational i.e. in relation to your abilities, capacity, capabilities, potential, strengths and measured weaknesses, challenges of working in a team and aspects of a winning team, Presentation Skills which covered various facets from stage usage to construction of presentation, body language, eye contact, etc., Communication Styles & Spoken English, etc. A section on Know Yourself is particularly put together with the help of usage of Non-Verbal Personality Test which gives an insight about your individual traits, strength and some highlights towards ones chosen area of improvement. Most of the young community today aspire to taste success at an early stage, to enable such individuals we have enclosed basics tips to handle Group Discussion & Interview Skills. The design of this book is on the premise that success is a process which requires a complete series of action, changes and phases to produce success coupled with right attitude and skills for achieving the desired results being dreamt in life.

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A dream is based on your reality, your strengths and your weaknesses... If your dream was above the ground then just make the foundations to make it concrete, a reality. I'm here aren't I? - I said to myself. I swam the race of my life. I wasn't placed anywhere, but just to be here was my dream. People often thought that I couldn't do it and I wouldn't do it. So when I got here, the best feeling I had was when I figured out that "I was good enough, not only because I made the qualifying time but mainly because I never gave up; I gave my dream a shot. An aim, a dream, a focus; never think you have set your goals too high. You will just have the bigger challenge of achieving it.

The Kid Always Chosen Last By Lisa Miller Fields

Pudgy and shy, Ben Saunders was the last kid in his class picked for any sports team. Football, hockey, tennis, cricket anything with a round ball, I was useless, he says now with a laugh. But back then he was the object of jokes and ridicule in school gym classes in Englands rural Devon County. It was a mountain bike he received for his 15th birthday that changed him. At first the teen went biking alone in a nearby forest. Then he began to pedal along with a runner friend. Gradually, Saunders set his mind on building up his body, increasing his speed, strength and endurance. At age 18, he ran his first marathon. The following year, he met John Ridgway, who became famous in the 1960s for rowing an open boat across the Atlantic Ocean. Saunders was hired as an instructor at Ridgways School of Adventure in Scotland, where he learned about the older mans cold water exploits. Intrigued, Saunders read all he could about Arctic explorers and North Pole expeditions, then decided that this would be his future. Treks to the Pole arent the usual holidays for British country boys, and those who didnt dismiss his dream as fantasy probably doubted he had what it takes. John Ridgway was one of the few people who didnt say, Youre completely nuts, Saunders says. In 2001, after becoming a proficient skier, Saunders embarked on his first long-distance expedition toward the North Pole. It took incredible stamina. He suffered frostbite, had a close encounter with a polar bear and pushed his body to the limit, hauling his supply-laden sledge up and over jagged ice ridges. Saunders has since become the youngest person to ski solo to the North Pole, and hes skied more of the Arctic by himself than any other Briton. His old playmates would not believe the transformation. This October, Saunders, 27, heads south to trek from the coast of Antarctica to the South Pole and back, an 1,800-mile journey that has never been completed on skis.

All great journeys start with a dream

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We all have dreams. Usually while were asleep. Such dreams could be more hurtful than helpful. For example, imagine dreaming youre eating shredded wheat, only to wake up and find half the mattress gone! Well, Im not talking about that type of dream. Rather, Im thinking about ones vision, aspiration, or fervent hope for the future. Our dream is the song of our soul. Life without one is reduced to a hollow existence. But life with a dream is filled with meaning and purpose.

Besides being the drummer and chief lyricist for the rock band "Rush," Neil Peart is also an author and philosopher. Look at how beautifully he expresses the relationship between life and a dream: "Life is just a candle and a dream must give it flame." Richard M. DeVos, the founder of Amway Corp., also writes about the flame of hope: "No life is more tragic than that of the individual who nurses a dream, an ambition, always wishing and hoping, but never giving it a chance to happen. He nurses the flickering dream, but never lets it break out into flame."

"If you want your life to change, you have to change. If you keep doing the same things, in the same way, you will get the same results, and youll have the same life that you have now."

Neil Peart & Richard M. DeVos, recognized that life is a journey. To get from where they were to where they wanted to be, they followed their dream. What distinguishes them from those who stand on the sidelines is their understanding that the only limitations we face are those of our own creation, or those we allow others to place in our mind. Once we follow our dream, our life changes; we are transformed. For as baseball pitcher Satchel Paige (1906 ~ 1982) said, "Ain't no man can avoid being average, but there ain't no man got to be common." No, we dont have to be common, we can change all that by following our dream.

Most of us have a dream, aspiration, or hearts desire. But the trouble is most of us have the on/off switch of our dream set to OFF. Whenever we say, "I cant," we set the switch to OFF. Whenever we believe we can, we set the switch to ON. Simple, isnt it? Just because I believe I can do something doesnt mean there wont be any problems. But once I believe I can do it, I will seek solutions for every problem I stumble on. And since it is a law of life that we find what we look for, if I look for solutions, I will find them.

To achieve all that is possible, we must attempt the impossible. To be all we can be, we must dream of being more. To reach our dream, we must reach out to others. John C. Maxwell

Any worthy dream is a dream worthy of accomplishing. Once I realize I can do it, the next step is to make a commitment. As soon as we make a commitment, great power is released. What seemingly were insurmountable hurdles are now reduced to obstacles of laughable insignificance. But we wont reach this stage until we decide to stop talking and start acting. Unless we commit ourselves, selfdoubt will ferment and block our way.

Our dreams dont have to be grand to be great. We dont have to become the worlds greatest pianist, an Olympic medal winner, or an internationally acclaimed superstar. An aunt of mine sold gloves in a department store for most of her life. Her dream was to be the friendliest and most helpful salesperson around. Year after year, the same customers would return and deliberately seek her out. She brightened everyones day and touched the lives of thousands. Was her dream any less significant than that of a prominent person? Of course not. We all have the power to follow a dream that will make a difference to us and those we meet.

What do we say to those who are in impossible circumstances

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What do we say to those who are in impossible circumstances, locked behind prison bars? They may be stripped of their dignity and freedom, but they are not stripped of power. They can still dream. Yes, they have made mistakes, but starting from today, they can make the world a better place by making themselves better people. It is not an impossible dream, and it is a great dream, one worthy of following.

Before our dreams can come true, dont we have to dream? Isnt there a good reason for dreaming? After all, how can we travel any further than our dream? How can we become any greater than our dream? Author of "As a Man Thinketh," James Allen (1864 ~ 1912) expressed the same idea, "Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil.

Another law of life is we are never given a dream unless we have the power to realize it. But that doesnt mean we dont have to work at it. So, although we want to dream, we dont want to oversleep. When we dream during our sleep, our mind both creates and experiences the dream. Similarly, when awake, we create our dream, and if we follow it, we will experience it. In other words, if we create and follow our dream, it will create us. No dreamer is too small; no dream is too big, so hold on to your dream. Poet Langston Hughes (1902 ~ 1967) tells why, "Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken winged bird that cannot fly." Even the cartoon character Jiminy Cricket has some good advice to offer, "When your heart is in your dream, no request is too extreme." So, what are you waiting for?

Follow your dream!

There is inside you all of the potential to be whatever you want to be, all of the energy to do whatever you want to do. Imagine yourself as you would like to be, doing what you want to do, and each day, take one step towards your dream. And though at times it may seem too difficult to continue, hold on to your dream. One morning you will awake to find that you are the person you dreamed of, doing what you wanted to do, simply because you had the courage to believe in your potential and to hold on to your dream.
~ Donna Levine ~

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You Can Be Whatever You Want To Be!

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Setting dreams and goals requires active and creative thinking. It also requires discipline and an investment of your time, talent and ability. But, the results and rewards will be well worth your efforts. Goals have an incredible track record of ensuring success . According to Zig Ziglar, UCLA conducted a study on goal setting that focused on people who attended the Peter Lowe Success Seminars. Everyone from psychiatrists and college professors to truck drivers and high school students attended. Those with a written goals program earned an average of $7,401 a month. Those without a goals program earned an average of $3,397 a month. The study also found that those with goals were happier, healthier and got along better with family members. Another famous study, conducted at Harvard, examined the impact of goal setting. Researchers surveyed the members of one of Harvards graduating classes and asked the graduates if they had clear goals for their future and a plan to accomplish them. Only 3 % of the graduates had written goals with specific plans to achieve them. Ten years later, researchers interviewed the same class members and found that the 3 percent whod had clear written goals were worth ten times as much as the other 97 percent of the graduates combined. Imagine the impact a proven dream-building and goal-setting program like the one outlined in this book could have on your life, your family, your business and your finances!

I dont care how much power, brilliance or energy you have, if you dont harness it and focus it on a specific target, and hold it there youre never going to accomplish as much as your ability warrants. ~Zig Ziglar

The future belongs to those who believe in their dreams.

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In India, Doctors are meant to be rich. Dr Ravindra Koelhe, MD had all the qualifications to be rich and live a luxurious life but he chose the other way.

After studies, most Doctors head towards places, where they can earn but Dr. Ravindra Koelhe went to a Tribal Region to serve people and not to earn. He runs a clinic in Melghat of Maharasthra since last 24 years and charges only Rs. 2 for the first visit and Rs. 1 for the second visit from Tribal patients. Ruskin Bond once wrote If you want to serve mankind, go and work among the poorest and most neglected.

We can not count how many actually understood and followed what Bond said, but yes Dr. Ravindra Koelhe is one of those selfless souls who understood each and every word that Bond wrote.

Within You Is The Strength To Meet Life's Challenges!

You are stronger than you think, remember to stand tall. Every challenge in your life helps you to grow. Every problem you encounter strengthens your mind and your soul. Every trouble you overcome increases your understanding of life. When all your troubles weigh heavily on your shoulders, remember that beneath the burden you can stand tall, because you are never given more than you can handle... and you are stronger than you think. ~ Lisa Wroble ~

How You See Yourself

Self Image:

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Would it surprise you to know that a definition of self concept - how you see yourself, will determine the results and outcomes you derive from your goals? Your definition of self concept - how you see yourself, directly correlate with your ability to maintain a positive frame of mind. It is this positive state that will help you to adequately manage and overcome any life storms you experience. But first, you must learn how to nurture this positive state. Self-concept or self-identity is the sum total of a being's knowledge and understanding of his or her self. The self-concept is different from self-consciousness, which is an awareness or preoccupation with one's self. Components of the self-concept include physical, psychological, and social attributes, which can be influenced by the individual's attitudes, habits, beliefs and ideas. These components and attributes can not be condensed to the general concepts of self-image and the self-esteem. Pedagogical aims YOU enter college as a unique individual, consisted of genes, environment, and a certain spark within yourself. An increased awareness of how special that unique spark really makes him/her helps YOU retain that quality. Our goal as facilitators is not to produce cookie-cutter professional adults but to nourish each student's individual soul. As an ancient Chinese proverb says: I hear and I forget "The people and circumstances around me do not MAKE me what I am, they REVEAL who I am" I see and I remember I doand I understand.

Discover Your Own Charisma TRAITS

Accurate Affectionate Communicative Perseverance Methodical Straight Forward
I am what is mine. Personality is the original personal property.

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PROFESSION
Accountant Kindergarten Teacher Journalist Business Executive / Lawyer Computer Program / Doctor Business Managers / Police Nursing / Counselors Engineers / Athletes Sales Representative / Artists Entrepreneur Scientists / Professors Psychologist / Photographers

Organized & Giving Action Oriented Spontaneous Self Confident Analytical Rational Thinkers

Creative Thinkers Mathematician / Technical Writer Idealistic Clergy / Teacher

Whether youre an introvert or extrovert, you can change your personality traits if you really want to. It may be healthier, however, to just accept who you are and honor the personality you have. If youre introverted and prefer to spend your time alone reading or writing, then do it!!! If youre extroverted and crave the spotlight then party away!!!

Your personality traits arent set in stone, but you shouldnt attempt to change them unless they disrupt your life or make others unhappy.

Personality Traits

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SCALE Achievement

SCALE Impulsivity Nurturance Order Play Sentience Social Recognition Succorance Understanding Infrequency

Nonverbal Personality Questionnaire

Affiliation Aggression Autonomy Dominance Endurance Exhibition Thrill - Seeking

Personality Traits Defining Trait Adjectives (Scale)

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striving, aspiring, self-improving, driving, competitive

Achievement
neighborly, warm, amicable, cooperative, friendly

Affiliation
argumentative, pushy, threatening, blunt, retaliative

Aggression

Personality Traits Defining Trait Adjectives (Scale)

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unmanageable, free, rebellious, individualistic

Autonomy
commanding, persuasive, forceful, authoritative, supervising

Dominance
determined, relentless, sturdy, tireless, energetic

Endurance

Personality Traits Defining Trait Adjectives (Scale)

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entertaining, unusual, spellbinding, flashy, dramatic, showy

Exhibition

courageous, fearless, daring, risk-taker

Thrill-Seeking

hasty, rash, reckless, impatient, excitable, irrepressible

Impulsivity

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encouraging, helpful, protective, comforting, supporting, assisting

Nurturance

neat, tidy, systematic, disciplined, prompt, consistent, clean, methodical

Order
playful, jovial, fun-loving, pleasure-seeking

Play

Personality Traits Defining Trait Adjectives (Scale)

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observant, aware, notices environment, sensitive, responsive

Sentience

approval seeking, self centered, seeks respectability, socially proper

Social Recognition

trusting, appealing for help, seeks support, confiding, craves affection

Succorance

Personality Traits Defining Trait Adjectives (Scale)

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inquiring, curious, analytical, reflective, rational

Understanding Infrequency
Nature abhors a vacuum. Leave things unsaid and people will speculate to fill the gap. Rumours abound and gain credibility, sometimes of a higher order than the truth. When there is bad news to give, give it. When there is uncertainty be definite about what the uncertainty is. Be clear about when the uncertainty is expected to end. Be clear, as soon as you can about the criteria being used to determine how the uncertainty will end and what the alternative consequences will be for groups of individuals. The corollary of incompleteness is always someone else, less informed, completing the communication at a time and in a manner which makes life worse.

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There is no end to the amount of things You can accomplish!

DARE TO DREAM The Lady Behind... The Success

Anita Roddick was a woman of a different breed. After all, who would have that kind of magnanimity to send her husband off to a 2 year expedition while slogging on a new business and taking care of 2 young kids? Born to an Italian couple who had migrated to England, Anita started working at a very young age at her parents cafe in Littlehampton. She would work through the weekends at the cafe and then cramping in one of the rooms with both her parents and grandparents, while the other rooms in their house were rented out. Having come from an immigrant background, it was no wonder Anita could relate very well with foreigners in her town. When she was 10, she started to take a interest in human rights after reading a book about the Holocaust. Perhaps it was the same affinity that won her a teaching scholarship to be on kibbutz in Israel, exposing her to the world outside England. It was nevertheless a short stint as young Anita was later sacked for allegedly taking part in a prank. Although it tainted her teaching career, the issue saw her taking up a bohemian lifestyle, traveling around Israel on a shoestring and then living in Paris and Switzerland for a few months. All that while, she was supporting herself through short term teaching assignments. She eventually decided that there was more to life than that and left teaching for good, traveling to various countries such as Tahiti, New Caledonia, Australia, Madagascar and South Africa. Her expatriation from South Africa for patronizing a jazz club on black night culminated a years of travel and made her so broke and homesick that she finally decided to call it quits. After she returned to England, she met Gordon Roddick, a young writer and poet who was a regular at her parents cafe turned bar. They got married and had 2 daughters in short span 2 years. To support the young family, Gordon went into a few business ventures and when his first picture framing shop went bust, he later worked with Anita to operate 2 businesses simultaneously : a boardinghouse and a restaurant. Both were not without struggles, too. The boardinghouse was a convert from an original bed & breakfast idea. And the restaurant only prospered after they changed the initial gourmet health food menu to a grill & fry mix of steaks, hamburgers and fries. The next 3 years saw the Roddicks waking up in the wee hours to run the boardinghouse and tend the restaurant until 1am the next day. Though the restaurant was very popular in the town, the income which was only enough to cover the operating costs, came at the expense of quality time with their 2 daughters. Taking into consideration those factors and Gordons growing desire to pursue his childhood dream (of riding horseback 5,300 miles from Buenos Aires to New York), the Roddicks sold their businesses and searched for another alternative that would support the family when Gordon was away but allow Anita to work regular hours so that she could take care of the children in the evenings. All It Takes Is An Idea & Some Creativity. Anita eventually had an idea. She decided to set up a shop selling environmental-friendly cosmetics that used natural ingredients. Though it was a good concept, she had a hard time convincing the bank because of her rock star like image. It was only when Gordon forced her to revisit the bank wearing a power suit with a well written business plan before her loan request was approved. Anitas ability to inject creativity into her limitations was unquestionably her recipe for success. With the money, she set up the first The Body Shop outlet in artsy Brighton in 1976 and began with 15 products, 5 different sizes for each. She later admitted that the different sizes stemmed from the need to stack up the store shelves so that it wouldnt look so empty. Ingenious, isnt it? Even when she didnt have funds to purchase enough of those inexpensive bottles (similar to the ones used by hospitals for urine samples), she was creative enough to bank on the go green movement and started the refill-the-used-bottles concept. Not only was the concept well received by the environmental enthusiasts, it struck a chord with the thrifty crowd. Her creativity was also extended to the interior design and publicity of The Body Shop outlet. Who would have expected that the signature dark green colour used on the walls, which came to symbolize the companys recycling and sustainability efforts, was a bid to hide the shops unsightly water marks? And who would have known that a lawsuit threat by 2 nearby funeral parlors for using the brand name The Body Shop would turn out to be a no cost newspaper publicity campaign? In fact, the free publicity was so sensational that she made 130 on the grand opening day, way exceeding Gordons target of 300 a week. When Gordon came home, not only was he excited that Anita had opened a second outlet in another town nearby, he also worked with her subsequently to develop The Body Shop into a franchise, using whatever additional funds they generated into product research. That business model allowed them to open at least 2 stores each month by 1982. 2 years later, the group was publicly listed. Today, The Body Shop can be found in more than 50 countries with over 2,000 outlets. The product range has increased to 600 different types. The heroine behind this brand was also roped in to setup a college business degree course and knighted with the title DBE (Dame Commander of the Order of the British Empire). Isnt this amazing? What Did I Learn From This Story? That everyone deserves a life of no regrets! The choice of making that decision lies in no one but yourself.

The Laws of Goal Setting

A goal is a goal only when there is E M OTIO NAL COM M ITME NT to (otherwise it is a task).

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A goal needs to be RATIONAL also, i.e. in relation to your abilities, capacity, capabilities, potential, strengths and considered weaknesses. Enterprising people always take the difficulties into consideration. Enterprising people are focused. Enterprising people take their own (and others) past experiences into consideration (not be limited, but be informed by it.) Enterprising people always stretch themselves (like a Rubber Band). Enterprising people always take Moderate Risks. RISK = HOPE OF SUCCESS + FEAR OF FAILURE Enterprising people are Persevering. Enterprising people have Stiff Self-Set standards.

No One can predict to what heights you can soar, even you will not know until you spread your wings.

Committing to your Goals

Have you ever set a goal and not achieved it?

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Most people have. In fact, its quite common for people to get stuck in an endless cycle of setting goals and then quitting them shortly after wards and accomplishing nothing at all. Why do people do this? One of the biggest reasons is a lack of commitment to their goal. Without commitment a goal will gradually shrink in importance, and the temptation to quit will seem much more attractive, especially when obstacles cause setbacks and delays. On the other hand, if you make a serious commitment and then continually remind yourself of it, youll be much more likely to persevere and achieve the goal. Heres how to commit to your goals: First and foremost, you have to make sure that every goal you set is of importance to you. This can be tricky because we so often fool ourselves into thinking we want one thing when we want something entirely different. Take some time with this part of the process, and be sure that you get to the heart of what you really want. Why do you want it? What will it do for you? What positive things will it bring to your life? How will it help you? How will it make you feel when its accomplished? Write all of this down and keep it handy so you can refer to it as often as necessary if you feel your commitment beginning to slip. Also ask yourself if your goal is worth the effort and sacrifice that will be needed to achieve it. If you can honestly answer yes, you are on the way! Think about what will happen if you dont follow through. Would nothing much happen if you dont achieve your goal? If not, then you need to raise the stakes! You have to make your goal the most important thing in the world, and if you dont do it, youll deal with negative consequences. Even if you have to indulge in a bit of make believe in order to do this, do it. For example, play up the fact that youll lose respect for yourself if you dont follow through; or you might agree to give up something you love if you dont make it happen. Then, each and every day, renew your commitment. Its easy to be committed when your goal is new and your motivation is high, but you need to be able to STAY committed no matter what! Each day when you awaken, read through the goal you wrote down on the first day, and stress again how vitally important it is to you. Promise yourself that youre going to do as much as you can to work on your goal that day, and every day until you achieve it. When it comes right down to it, no one can achieve your goals for you. If you want to achieve them, youll have to find the determination necessary to keep going. Inactivity and procrastination are usually nothing more than bad habits.

What is Success?

Looking back at those turbulent times in my life, I learned that success is a process in which a person must go through and complete a series of actions, changes and phases to produce success and the results wanted in life.

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It reminds me of a story about a man who one day found a cocoon for a butterfly in a park. The man noticed a small opening appeared in the cocoon, so he sat down and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through the little hole. Then the butterfly seemed to stop making progress. It appeared as if it had gone as far as it could and could go no further. At that point, the man decided to help the poor butterfly. So he took out a pocket-knife that also had a small pair of scissors attached and he snipped the remaining bit of the cocoon. Afterwards, the butterfly emerged easily. But something was strange. The butterfly had a swollen body and shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected at any moment for the wings to enlarge and expand to be able to support its swollen body, which should contract in time, but neither happened.

"I bargained with Life for a penny, Only to learn, dismayed, That any wage I had asked of Life, Life would have paid."

In fact, that poor butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and deformed wings. It was never able to fly. What the man had done, in his kindness and haste and did not understand, was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the small opening of the cocoon was part of its success process. It was part of the process of forcing fluid from its body into its wings so that it would only be ready to fly once it had first struggled and achieved freedom from the cocoon on its own.

If you went through all your life without struggling, without obstacles, without being uncomfortable it would cripple you. Not only that, you could never fly and you would not be as strong as you are now. So it's critical that you embrace, endure and complete what you started the day you decided to pursue your goals, passion and dreams, your success process!

The Road to Success is not Straight There is a curve called Failure, A loop called Confusion Speed bumps called Friends Red lights called Enemies Caution lights called family. You will have flats called jobs. But, if you have a space called Determination, An engine called Perseverance Insurance called Faith, A driver called God You will make it to place called SUCCESS.

First Ingredient of Success DESIRE

Do you know what you want?

A gentleman once visited a temple under construction where he saw a sculptor making an idol of God. Suddenly he noticed a similar idol lying nearby. Surprised, he asked the sculptor, "Do you need two statues of the same idol?" "No," said the sculptor without looking up, "We need only one, but the first one got damaged at the last stage." The gentleman examined the idol and found no apparent damage.. "Where is the damage?" he asked. "There is a scratch on the nose of the idol." said the sculptor, still busy with his work. "Where are you going to install the idol?" The sculptor replied that it would be installed on a pillar twenty feet high. "If the idol is that far, who is going to know that there is a scratch on the nose?" the gentleman asked. The sculptor stopped his work, looked up at the gentleman, smiled and said, "I know it and God knows it!" MORAL OF THE STORY The desire to excel should be exclusive of the fact whether someone appreciate it or not. Excellence is a drive from inside, not outside. Excel at a task todaynot necessarily for someone else to notice but for your own satisfaction. The motivation to succeed comes from the burning desire to achieve a purpose. A burning desire is the starting point of all accomplishment. Just like a small fire cannot give much heat, a weak desire cannot produce great results.

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DESIRE Is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope , not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything. ---Napoleon Hill

Your desire is the planting of your seed. Your desire for success must be so strong within you, that its the very breath of your life. It must be your first thought when you wake in the morning, and your last thought when you go to bed at night.

Second Step to Success COMMITMENT

There are some things that you start case you are 100% committed to finishing. If you have mixed up a batch of cement to plaster your wall, you know that you must finish the job, and finish the cement before it hardens because you cannot put the cement away until later. You must finish the job. You are 100% committed to finishing the job. Think about the difference if you have a report to do, but no particular deadline, as opposed to if the Company President calls to ask you for the report. In the second case you suddenly become committed to finishing that report in a timely fashion. You put all your energy into it, and finish it properly and as soon as possible. You do not allow yourself to be distracted and you keep the goal in mind constantly. You are in essence 100% committed to finishing that report on time.

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and you know that you must finish and there is no other option. In this

Theres a difference between interest and commitment. When youre interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When youre committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.

Third Pillar of Success RESPONSIBILITY

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They drill through life .waiting for things to happen rather than making them happen.

Accepting responsibilities involves taking risks and being accountable which is sometimes uncomfortable.

Most people would rather slay in their comfort zone and live passive lives without accepting responsibilities.

Fourth ladder of Success HARD WORK

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Average person puts only 25% of his/her energy and ability into his work. The world takes off its hat to those who put in more than 50% of their capacity, and stands on its head for those few and far between souls who devote 100% - Andrew Carneige

Excellence is not something that you run into by accident. It takes a lot of preparation and character. Everyone likes to win but how many are willing to put in the effort and lime to prepare to win? It takes sacrifice and self-discipline

A Brief History of Hard Work, Adjusted for Risk BY: SETH GODINMarch 31, 2003

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Your great-grandfather knew what it meant to work hard. He hauled hay all day long, making sure that the cows got fed. In Fast Food Nation (Houghton Mifflin, 2001), Eric Schlosser writes about a worker who ruptured his vertebrae, wrecked his hands, burned his lungs, and was eventually hit by a train as part of his 15-year career at a slaughterhouse. Now that's hard work.

The meaning of hard work in a manual economy is clear. Without the leverage of machines and organizations, working hard meant producing more. Producing more, of course, was the best way to feed your family. Those days are long gone. Most of us don't use our bodies as a replacement for a machine -- unless we're paying for the privilege and getting a workout at the gym. These days, 35% of the American workforce sits at a desk. Yes, we sit there a lot of hours, but the only heavy lifting that we're likely to do is restricted to putting a new water bottle on the cooler. So do you still think that you work hard? You could argue, "Hey, I work weekends and pull all-nighters. I start early and stay late. I'm always on, always connected with a BlackBerry. The FedEx guy knows which hotel to visit when I'm on vacation." Sorry. Even if you're a workaholic, you're not working very hard at all. Sure, you're working long, but "long" and "hard" are now two different things. In the old days, we could measure how much grain someone harvested or how many pieces of steel he made. Hard work meant more work. But the past doesn't lead to the future. The future is not about time at all. The future is about work that's really and truly hard, not time-consuming. It's about the kind of work that requires us to push ourselves, not just punch the clock. Hard work is where our job security, our financial profit, and our future joy lie. It's hard work to make difficult emotional decisions, such as quitting a job and setting out on your own. It's hard work to invent a new system, service, or process that's remarkable. It's hard work to tell your boss that he's being intellectually and emotionally lazy. It's easier to stand by and watch the company fade into oblivion. It's hard work to tell senior management to abandon something that it has been doing for a long time in favor of a new and apparently risky alternative. It's hard work to make good decisions with less than all of the data. Today, working hard is about taking apparent risk. Not a crazy risk like betting the entire company on an untested product. No, an apparent risk: something that the competition (and your coworkers) believe is unsafe but that you realize is far more conservative than sticking with the status quo. Richard Branson doesnt work more hours than you do. Nether does Steve Ballmer or Carly Fiorina. Robyn Waters, the woman who revolutionized what Target sells- - and helped the company trounce Kmart - - probably worked fewer hours than you do in an average week. None of the people who are racking up amazing success stories and creating cool stuff are doing it just by working more hours than you are. And I hate to say it, but they're not smarter than you either. They're succeeding by doing hard work. As the economy plods along, many of us are choosing to take the easy way out. Were going back to the future, to a definition of work that embraces the grindstone. Some people (a precious few, so far) are realizing that this temporary recession is the best opportunity that theyve ever had. Theyre working harder than ever - - mentally - - and taking all sorts of emotional and personal risks that are bound to pay off. Hard work is about training yourself to leap over this barrier, tunnel under the barrier, drive through the other barrier. And, after youve done that, to do it again the next day.

The big insight: The riskier your (smart) coworkers hard work appears to be, the safer it really is. Its the people having difficult conversations, inventing remarkable products, and pushing the envelope (and, perhaps, still going home at 5:00PM) who are building a recession - proof future for themselves. So tomorrow, when you go to work, really sweet. Your time is worth the effort.

Fifth Path to Success PERSEVERANCE

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Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after the other
"Perseverance allows you to get back on track when you hit a detour."
Perseverance is the ability to keep going in the face of continuous challenges. It is the ability to disregard distractions and to stay focused. You may have to take detours to get to your end goal. But, as long as you persevere and realize that the detour is simply another alternative path in the direction of your goal, you will continue to move forward. Those who see a detour as a reason to quit, lack perseverance. You will always face challenges as you work towards your goals. Your ability to persevere will determine your ultimate success! It takes effort and belief to persevere and stay dedicated to accomplish your goal. When you find yourself doubting whether the effort is worth it, visualize how you will feel and what you will have once your goal is completed. Perseverance means commitment & determination. It is a commitment to finish what you start..

Nothing will take the place of perseverance Talent will not : Nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent . Genius will not : Unrewarded Genius is a proverb. Education will not: The world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.
--Calvin Coolidge

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When we are exhausted, quitting, looks good. But winners endure. Ask a winning athlete. He endures pain and finishes what he started. Lots of failures have begun well but have not concluded anything.

Perseverance comes from purpose. Life without purpose is drifting. A person who has no purpose will never persevere and never be fulfilled

Sixth Avenue to Success TEAM WORK

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"All winning teams are goal-oriented.

Teams like these win consistently because everyone connected with them concentrates on specific objectives.

The way a team plays as a whole determines its success. You may have the greatest bunch of individual stars in the world, but if they dont play together, the club wont be worth a dime.

They go about their business with blinders on; nothing will distract them from achieving their aims. "

Team Work Importance of Team

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Working on teams can be rewarding, but at times it can be difficult and downright frustrating. If there are poor communicators on your team, you may often feel left in the dark, confused or misunderstood.

To create a successful team, effective communication methods are necessary for both team members and leaders. Even though some people understand their communication skills need improving, many aren't certain how to improve them.

Team Work Characteristics of an Effective Team Player

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Team Work Tuckmans model

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STAGES IN THE LIFE OF TEAM

Forming Storming Norming Performing Adjourning

Team Work - Flight of Geese

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Try to Become Like GEESE

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Great teamwork begins with an R

Teams form around a single common purpose. Teamwork occurs within a team only when there is respect. Great teams evolve around self respect and respect for each other. In retrospect, all great teams reflect on the journey they have made as individuals and how they have learnt to appreciate the skills, knowledge and behavior of their respective team-mates. To create a great team when they are being built rather than in retrospect, individual team members must firstly have self respect. Self esteem is not enough. Self esteem requires a positive evaluation of us against some standard, often another person. Self respect requires no such comparison. It merely requires that we like ourselves for what we are, good and bad.

When we have self respect we have little need to win as an individual in a team and are more likely to play our role to the best of our ability, with humility and with good humour. When we have self respect, we have a vastly improved capability to respect others. Not having to be better than someone else, but having due respect of our abilities, enables us to maintain and improve relationships even through conflict. It allows us to welcome differences of opinion as a means of getting the best solution rather than avoiding them as a precursor to unpleasant conflict.

Team members who have self respect and respect others can operate with clarity by being honest without the expectation of an emotional response.

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Presenting Skills

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Have your presentation skills ever let you down in the past?
Have you ever avoided giving a presentation at work? Might you be more successful at work if you were a better and more effective presenter?

The good news is that Effective Presentation Skills can be developed by almost anyone with the right training. But what are Effective Presentation Skills? And how do you develop them?
Just be yourself?
Great presenters often look as if they are naturals and relaxed when presenting. So does that mean you just need to relax and be yourself the next time you are getting ready to present at work? Or can this often be somewhat misguided advice? The reality is that most people are already just being themselves when they present. And the sad fact for some, (especially those that have not had any training) is that they are also so far outside of their comfort zones they appear to their audience as unnatural as a duck out of water! So unless youre already a good communicator think first about developing your presentation skills rather than just trying to relax and be yourself. You can develop the skills to present effectively And with the right training and coaching, you really can develop the skills and confidence needed to deliver an effective presentation. By building on what already works well with your personality; developing new skills and an increased confidence; and of course, removing the bad old natural habits that messed up your presentations in the past, you can be well on your way to looking like a natural when you present. And as a result, start to realize your potential and present effectively.

Group Discussion Tips & Techniques

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Lets discuss some few relevant points which one should remember while appearing for a GD.
One needs to know what one's objective in the group is---- to be noticed by the panel and to contribute meaningfully in an attempt to help the group reach the right consensus. 1) The first thing is that the panel should notice you. Merely making a meaningful contribution and helping the group arrive at a consensus is not enough. You must ensure that the group hears you. If the group hears you, so will the evaluator. You need to be assertive. It depends on you how you steer the group in the right direction, once it gets stuck to something. This gives you the chance to showcase your leadership skills. Most importantly, you have to make your chances. Many group discussion participants often complain that they did not get a chance to speak. The fact is that in no group discussion will you get a chance to speak. There is nothing more unacceptable in a GD than keeping one's mouth shut or just murmuring things which are inaudible.

When you put across a new idea convincingly, such that it is discussed at length by the group, it can only be positive. - XYZ

2) The second most essential thing is that your contribution to the group should be meaningful. For that you need to have a good knowledge base. You should be able to think logically and hence put forth you ideas cohesively. The quality of what you said is more valuable than the quantity. It doesnt help if you shout at the top of your voice and speak at great length, what matters most is what you speak and how it creates an impact on the group as well as the evaluators. 3) The last most important thing is that you must be clearly seen to be attempting to build a consensus. This shows your ability to work in a team, your ability to adjust yourself in new surroundings and help others in your team to reach a definite conclusion amidst difference of opinions. After all this is what all Group Discussions aim at: To be able to discuss and arrive at a consensus.

Group Discussion Tips & Techniques

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To be able to meet the previous requirements during a Group Discussion, one should keep in mind the following basic mantras:
a) Be Yourself. Be as natural as possible and dont try to be someone you are not. b) Take time to organize your thoughts. Dont suddenly jump to any conclusion. Think before you speak so that you dont speak anything irrelevant to the topic being discussed. c) Dont make the mistake of looking at the panel while you are speaking. You are in a Group Discussion and you are expected to discuss among group members, so always look at your group members while you are speaking. d) Seek clarifications if you have any doubts regarding the subject, before the discussion commences.

e) Your body language says a lot about you - your gestures and mannerisms are more likely to reflect your attitude than what you say. f) Never try to show your dominance. Be assertive, speak yourself and let others speak as well. g) Dont lose your cool if anyone says anything you object to. The key is to stay objective: Don't take the discussion personally. h) Show your leadership skills. Motivate the other members of the team to speak. Be receptive to others' opinions and do not be abrasive or aggressive. i) Remember, opening the discussion is not the only way of gaining attention and recognition. If you do not give valuable insights during the discussion, all your efforts of initiating the discussion will be in vain.

An idea or a perspective which opens new horizons for discussion on the Group Discussion topic is always highly appreciated. - xyz

Dont be disheartened if you did not do well in your First Group Discussion. Instead try to learn from your past mistakes. Remember, Practice makes man perfect!!!!!

Interviews

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Some have no idea what to do for a living, they think by going on a job interview theyll magically figure it out , if you are not sure, that message comes out loud and clear in the Interview

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INTERVIEWS.
Although it is fundamental to getting any job, the interview is still an experience most professionals dread. The tears of losing face, drying up and ultimately failing to get the job Lead to Nervousness and Low Confidence
Interview, Don't clamor for an interview. Instead search for the INNER VIEW.

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Interviews Employers want people who can:

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Solve problems Work as a team member Show initiative Meet tight deadlines Deliver on promises Stay committed to continuous learning Follow protocols where necessary Put customers first Handle change Keep positive and enthusiastic even when the going gets rough Stay flexible

There are some people who leave impressions not so lasting as the imprint of an oar upon the water.

Interviewee Skills

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Always

Research the company with a focus on customers and competition Research can be done on the internet, by reading annual reports, and by talking with credible people in the industry Provide examples of when you have successfully worked in team environments Demonstrate creativity and responsibility

Beware

Having an I attitude Being too casual with the Interviewer.

Crash & Burn

Displaying bad manners. Being Dishonest. Demeaning your institute Professors.

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DAMINI AGARWAL
A qualified & seasoned HR professional with more than 14 years of experience in designing, implementing HR processes which aligns with key business process enhancing productivity. She is a passionate trainer and her training facilitation workshops go towards addressing the core issues related to any organization that leads in building in-house managerial competency which will encompass in acquainting the individuals with Leadership programs, Managing Team Issues, Effective communication, social etiquette, initiative management, personal effectiveness, global work ethics etc. With a proven research methodology and using psycho assessment tools I am committed to make individuals realize their strengths to exploit the innermost core of their being. She has an exceptional ability to connect with youth and in understanding there needs. She acts like a support system in helping them overcome there insecurities and guiding them towards there goal. Reach me: damini@vardhnamconsulting.com

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BERNARD A EKOH
A result oriented Training Consultant in the communication and Soft skills Training Practice at Vardhnam Consulting. He has over 10 years of corporate experience of which eight years have been in training and two years in Sales and Business Development. He has facilitated Training Programs in Soft skills, Business writing skills, Business Communication skills, Corporate Etiquettes, Presentation skills, as well as in Accent (American & Global), Customer Service, Culture (USA, UK, Australia, Singapore). He has also facilitated behavioral programs like The Art of Initiative & Unleash Your Potential. He has been involved in identifying training needs and conducting dipstick studies which leads to designing, conducting, delivering customized training solutions. He has hands on experience in facilitating and deciding the best suited mode of conducting training sessions be it on -the-job training, out-location or instructor led training (ILT) using experiential learning methodologies. He has given talks on entrepreneurship & effective communication in forums such as management institutes & engineering colleges. Reach me: bernard@vardhnamconsulting.com

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KAILASH MANZKHOLA
A person with wide & diverse exposure in the fields of Industrial Cleaning Industry, Consumer Durables, Pre School, Management Colleges. He has been training in the areas of Industrial Sales & Marketing, Retail channel nurturing & expansion, Developing Franchisee Network, Exposure to Direct Sales & Institutional Sales, Brand promotion through ATL & BTL activities, Sales training, and Personality Development initiatives in various colleges. Some of his achievements are development of complete concept & product for water vending machine at Eureka Forbes Ltd. Initiation & implemented of Eureka Forbes Voltas Marketing tie-up. Launched Indias First e- book for Adobe India. PWI Initiated & created Hardware Sanitary ware channel for water purifiers. Conceived & implemented strategy for BBIPL first time ever for selling water filter using water mapping strategy. Reach me: kailash@vardhnamconsulting.com

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Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.

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