Good manners Introduction

Manners are little rules that help us all act with respect toward one another. If you are unsure what to do in a particular situation, remember that manners strive to make everyone around you feel comfortable, and take action based on this thought. In brief, Manners are the stitches that hold the fabric of society together. "Good Manners" display respect, care, and consideration. Everyone has a basic right to help another and feel positive about themselves and others around them. It's common sense that people prefer a reasonable amount of respect. If you nurture plants, animals, or other humans, not only will they grow and bloom - but you will as well. Outside of material goods - the basic things we all really own are ourselves and our actions. A Public Agenda survey found that "79% of people say that lack of respect and courtesy should be regarded as a serious national problem, while 62% say that witnessing rude and disrespectful behavior bothers them a lot." Nevertheless, 41% admit to being part of the bad manners problem.

Advices
-Think things out before speaking, especially if you are poor at finding the right words. Don't start sentences with awkward words in between. Practice speaking to a mirror, it works! It increases confidence in speaking, and it sounds much clearer; -Choose your words wisely and don't rush to comment on things you don't know much about. Being a good listener is better than speaking. You don't need to have an opinion on everything. -Don't speak loudly. You will quickly lose respect if you do, as this is seen as overbearing and rude. It can also make others angry and upset before you even establish a relationship with them. They will think of you as a 'big mouth'! If you naturally speak loudly, practice turning your volume down. -Speak with respect to and of others by avoiding negative or insulting remarks. Avoid expressions or theoretical examples implying disrespect, degradation or that invite people to imagine offensive scenarios, like "What's up your butt?" or "How would you feel if someone..." followed by a description of violent or degrading acts. You may not intend this as offensive, but it is. General rule: if you don't want someone to speak about you that way, then don't speak this way to others.

-Greet others appropriately . anything making you appear respectful.

Show interest in others by asking questions about them. Don't steal their spotlight by just talking about yourself. Don't come off as selfish. Continually talking of yourself is boring and others will find you arrogant.

-Pay attention to how you carry yourself. Have some class, which is the same as manners. Don't slouch; have a neat appearance; shake hands firmly; be and smell clean; hold your head

high and don't wear those "trying to be cool" looks at the wrong time; it gives the impression of arrogance and immaturity.

Don't put others down, belittle them or spread gossip. Never criticize someone in an attempt to demean or to elevate yourself. If you wouldn't like it done to you, then don't do it! Be complimentary and positive, for example, avoid criticizing an article someone has written. Their grammar and spelling may not be as good as yours but they tried. Having an opinion is fine, but being insulting reflects bad manners. Never tell secrets, especially those about your close friends. If someone is gossiping or belittling another, show you understand in a neutral way (a small nod to show you comprehend ). Don't interrupt or cut off others, unless they are insulting or swearing, etc. Give others respect and try letting them finish. Practice being a listener!

-Try to speak to others as you would like to be spoken to and treated. -Practice good driving manners. Obey all traffic laws dutifully.

Some people feel that being "mannered" is "fake" or unauthentic. Instead, realize that manners are normal and healthy social conventions that make interactions easier and more pleasant. Not every interaction is an opportunity to correct others or set them straight. Start your day off by smiling and feeling positive. Treat everyone you come across with respect. That way their day may be a good one; and maybe they'll pass that smile and positive attitude along to someone else. Smiles are contagious. Greet your co-workers when you arrive. Say goodbye when you leave.
-One of the easiest ways to appear good mannered is to be silent and only talk when you have something important to say. This adds weight to your words.

Good manners begin at home

-Start showing your manners with your parents. They'll be overjoyed that their children are speaking to them with respect, for respect shows that you have good manners. -Speak highly of your parents and show respect for them. It's a shame to insult those who brought you into this world or raised you. -Always respect all elders, and listen to them and learn. They have been around, and can teach you plenty.

The majority of a persons basic training about manners comes from the home. Where it may go from there is entirely up to environment, experiences, and education which can all affect manners in a positive or negative way.
-children who have attentive parents learn from their parents all kinds of behaviors. Everything from good table manners-which count, by the way-to how to be a good husband or wife. Children take their example from their parents even when they don't realize they are doing it. Raise children you

like because, if you don't like them, nobody else will, and you're going to have to spend the rest of your life with them."

To set the stage for success, establish an early, easy rapport with your children, make family time a priority, and gather together at mealtimes and in-between times, all the while modeling good manners and acceptable standards of behavior. Include these reminders: 1. Never forget to say "Excuse me" whenever it's called for. 2. Say "please" when making requests or asking a favor. 3. Always show gratitude by saying "thank you." 4. Accept others' opinions graciously, agreeing to disagree if need be. 5. Never make disparaging comments regarding race, religion, or lifestyle. 6. Refrain from interrupting when someone is speaking. 7. Promptly return what you borrow and in the same condition as when it was lent. 8. Don't be pushy. 9. Pick up after yourself. 10. Always leave a place better than when you happened upon it. 11. Behave so that people are glad when you arrive, not when you leave. 12. Always lend a helping hand-and offer before being asked. 13. Exercise patience. 14. Share whenever possible and think of others, not just yourself. 15. Open doors for others. 16. Greet friends at the door and walk them to it when they're leaving.

Good manners in work

It is important that you make a good impression at work. , your boss and co-workers are more likely to give you more responsibility which can lead to promotions and friendships

1. Use Proper Office Etiquette

Using good manners will help you make a good impression with your co-workers. Office etiquette includes everything from the proper way to use email to knowing when, where, and how to use your cell phone while at work.

2. Face Up to Your Mistakes

When you make a mistake at work, which everyone inevitably does at some point, face up to it. Don't ignore your error or place the blame on others. Take responsibility and come up with a solution to fix your mistake.

5. Know What Topics to Avoid Discussing

Avoiding inappropriate topics may not help you make a good impression at work but it will keep you from making a bad one. Subjects that do not make for good workplace conversation include politics, religion, and health problems and other personal issues.

. Avoid Offending Your Co-Workers

Make a good impression or avoid making a bad one by not doing things that offend your co-workers. Always show respect towards your co-workers. The last thing a boss wants brought to his attention are the uncivil actions of one of his employees

Conclusion
Having manners is like the Golden Rule of social behaviour. -Good manners will never go out of style, so practice having good manners. It can only help you in the long run.

Good manners are always something to have handy in the back pocket when needed. Basic good manners show respect, solid upbringing, and common sense.

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