WINNIPEG FREE PRESS

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 10, 1972

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Plumbers9 Wives Now

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A group of wives of plumbing journeymen and apprentices is forming what may be a unique women's auxiliary in Canada. The organizing women's auxiliary to Local 254 o Manitoba of the United Association of Journeymen and Apprentices of Plumbing and Pipe Fitting Industry may be the first such group in Canada. Such auxiliaries are attached to some locals in the United States. Mrs. Albert Tremorin of St. Vital, provisional president of the Manitoba auxiliary, said in an i n t e r v i e w Thursday the group's first purpose would be to look after "the needs o the wives and children." Mrs. Tremorin said because a number of association members work away from their homes t h e i r funiilies should havesomeone to call on in case of sickness or other emergencies. T h e auxiliary's provisional executive, which held its first meeting Thursday evening, also plans to hold social activities for wives and families of association members. The lirst general meeting of the auxiliary will be held 8:15 p.m. Wednesday at the hall at 34 Iliggins Avenue. The first social event for auxiliary and association members win be a Christmas smorgasbord and dance Dec. 15.

Sunflower, Pumpkin Seeds Dangerous To Young Children

Children who cat small seeds treated since Hallowe'en this as snacks risk inhaling one into year has alarmed hospital staff. She said the increase now is the lungs and possibly developing pneumonia, a Winnipeg doc- probably the result of many children receiving packets of tor warns parents. Dr. Margaret Robson, of the sunflower seeds as Hallowe'en poison control centre at Chil- treats. She believes parents are undren's Hospital of Winnipeg, said pumpkin and sunflower aware of the dangers in these seeds are of particular danger snacks. "Young children under six to small children because the should not eat them at any seeds are small and light. "The child might take a deep time. The problem with them is breath while eating the seeds usually they can't tell the docand one goes down into the tor what they ate and the seed i not detectable on an X-ray." lung." Older children should eat the She said a single seed lodged in a lung can block the smaller seeds only when they are aware of the risk and are in parental air passages, making the child supervision, she said. wheeze and gasp for air. If the child starts choking, If it is not removed promptly, the seed might be dislodged if the seed's presence will inevita- an adult thumps the child on bly cause severe pneumonia, the back. she said in a telephone interHowever, Dr. Robson said, view Thursday. once the seed has entered the Dr. Robson said the seed can lungs this is. no help and the only be removed from the lungs child needs immediate medical by surgery with a local an- attention. aesthetic. Dr. R o b s o n said caution Dr. Eobson said cases of chil- should be taken whenever a dren choking on seeds are nor- child eats any small snacks inmally rare but the four cases cluding peanuts.

Author Vilar... says men oppressed

American Male Called Fearful

LONDON (AP) The American male is the most oppressed man in the Western world, says the author of a book that also argues men arc really slaves and women their exploiters. Esther Vilar, author of The Manipulated Man, also thinks that women are stupid and getting more so every day; that men are brilliant but locked into stultifying jobs; that housework is a pleasure and men are deprived of it and that all of this stems from mothers who condition their children into manipulative and slave roles. The book was originally published in West Germany where it made the best-seller list before it was launched in other countries. In London, novelist Kingsley Amis called it "total twaddle" and one reviewer wrote "to know her is to hate her." But others praised the book as the best argument yet against women's lib. Miss Vilar actually wrote the book in New York almost two years ago during a five-month visit. Basically her theory is that the male is brilliant and capable of doing great things with his freedom but his intelligent thoughts frighten him. He seeks the security of the enslaved and marries. "In no other country do mothers so pitilessly train the male infant to perform," Miss Vilar says. "No other society exists where the male sexual drive is exploited for money so unscrupulously." Girls, though born intelligent, Miss Vilar says, are taught they don't have to think because men are going to work for them. Their goal is to find a man to do this. Miss Vilar, 37, was born in Argentina of German parents who were divorced when she was three years old. After graduating from medical school she practised for one year, then studied psychology and sociology and became a \ales representative for a pharmaceutical company so she could support her writing career. In 19G1, she married Klaus Wagn, a German writer. They were divorced two years later after the birth of a son, Marlin, now nine. Miss Vilar says her former husband is still the most important man in her life. When she is away publicizing her books, he lives in her home to care for their son.

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I ' m so embarrassed! My mother let me help with my sister's going-away party (because she has work in a distant city) but my father ruined the whole thing. He has a terrible temper and he got real mad when, some boys crashed the party and made a lot of noise with their motorcycles. He is prejudiced against teen-agers anyway, and he threatened to come home (from a neighbor's across the road) with a whip and straighten them out. It was all my mother could do to stop him. The party had been going so well, too. But we had to break up before midnight. All the kids were so nice about it and left without a fuss. Next day we really got ; blast and I got grounded (I'm just 15 and he can boss me) with the added warning never to go to another party. Mother did not want to oppose Dad because he might start drinking again, and he is trying to stop. SUBJECT TO TYRANT DEAR SUBJECT: Sorry. Fathers with terrible tempers shouldn't happen to a dog. But did you know thai such madness is just that a bit of unbalance? The drinking is another sign that he hasn'l got everything under control. As for the impossible prohibition on your ever attending another party how could he make that one stick? Time will change things. If there is a branch o Al-Anon and Alateen in your area, atten dance at their group sessions could help you understand am cope. And if he is serious abou w a n t i n g to quit, Alcoholics Anonymous could well be o great help to him. It w a s really the nois; crashers who ruined things wasn't it? They must have known there were no adults a home. How about that? * * * DEAR DORIS: When a bride sends out ac knowledgements for gifts at bridal shower, whose signature

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parents and perhaps to incidents Uiat occurred in your I'm 25 and unmarried, and childhood. I I've become worried about myIn many cases, the promiscuself of late because I feel I'm ous man never broke his childtotally hung-up on sex. I can't hood relationship with his mothreally think of much else and I er and the promiscuous woman wonder if I'm a nymphomaniac. never broke her ties with her I've no desire to settle down father. Promiscuity may be the with any one partner. I can get effort of: a woman to find a momentarily turned on by a lot truly loving father. She may of men I know even though I continuously seek this perfect might not like them much as father substitute and no man mnian beings. I guess I'm can live up to her highly rowhat might be labelled promis- manticized image. Dorthi Dunsmore ... producing TV programs "simple" cuous. The trouble is my atWhen a man has never given traction never lasts and after up the image of his mother, or sex I'm always bored. P.K. a woman that of her father, a severe conflict will result when he or she tries to form mature DEAR P.K.: relations with the opposite sex. appears? I have been'told that Compulsive sex can be an adThe reason your attraction diction and, not unlike other ad- doesn't last is that it is based when acknowledging wedding dictions, it is often used to on tlie wrong tiling. Ideally, sex gifts, both bride's and groom's mask one's real feelings. It can should come out o a close relanames appear, whereas with shower gifts Uie bride's name Dorthi Dunsmore is out to de- of the programs have featured: break into the field can use it, be a cover to hide behind, to tionship based on admiration, appears. a public service seminar; Vir- or those who have strong feel- avoid facing reality that might understanding, mutual interests mystify television. UNCERTAIN and love! If you omit love, As program supervisor for ginia Satir, a visiting professor ings about one issue or another. prove unpleasant. Sex can become little more you're short-changing yourself. the newly-created community on the faculty of medicine at It can enable people to fulfill DEAR UNCERTAIN: Sexual gratification is not a Thank you notes for both programming channel of Win- the University of Manitoba; their purposes, to explain their than a habit, and when this happens, sex rarely is fulfilling. mechanism for working out pershower and wedding gifts are nipeg Videon Limited, her job Call For Action, a project of a point of view. Anyone "hung-up" on such a sonal problems. You will be "It can be used to help the c o r r e c t l y signed with the is to convince the public it's local radio station. "simple" to produce their own The channel incorporates a community learn about itself. It habit is missing a great deal of much happier in the future if jride's name only. TV programs. * * * " t h e a t r e concept," which w i l l mirror the needs and pleasure. As long as a man or you seek professional help now woman takes this easy way out, and face your real self, and Confidential to K.C.: Your hus"My big concern is making means that some of the pro- wishes of the community." band is fighting a losing battle sure people realize it (com- grams are repeated. Many people have shown in- using sex as one might use your real problems, instead of morning exercises, that person escaping into sex. which will end in complete de- munity programming) isn't a "If someone misses a pro- terest in the community pro-is feat if he loses his health. And difficult thing to do," Mrs. gram one day, it means they gramming, she said. So far she tilenot apt to get at the root of real problems. he is on his way to doing just Dunsmore said in an interview. can probably catch it another has contacted people in the eduRebekah Lodge Tea that. Not to mention the way he Some women use sex to reasVideon has set aside Channel time." cational field, service clubs, reis short-changing his family. 9 for community programming. Mrs. Dunsmore said about V/2 b'gious groups, special-interest sure themselves o their femiBaking, sewing and novelties Besides, he is assisting an Facilities, which may be used groups, government agencies ninity, to remind themselves will be on sale at a tea and baimmature individual in continu- free of charge by the public, in- hours of broadcasting time each and ethnic organizations. that they have power over men. zaar of Confidence Rebekah ing to be irresponsible. Some- clude a studio, two color cam- day have been shown on the "It is to get or- They feel worthless and try to Lodge 2 to 4:30 p.m. Saturday how he must be shown that he eras and a telecine. The tele- channel, from Monday to Fri- g a n i ztaking 'awhile Dunsmore overcome their sense of inade- at Transcona Memorial United e d , ' Mrs. cannot carry on in this unfair cine is a camera used in con- day. A recent cross-Canada surquacy through sex addiction. A Church, 209 Yale Avenue West, way, and that the other partner junction with a projector which vey conducted by the Canadian added, "but they have all kinds woman robs herself when she Transcona. of ideas." may have to see ruin staring enables the showing of films or radio and television commission uses sex not to express love but (CRTC) revealed most cities Private citizens have also ex- to make herself feel desirable him in the face before he pulls slides. have a weekly average of 5V4 desires up his socks. Technical staff is on hand, hours of community program- pressedrevolvingto produce pro- as a woman. She should feel grams around certain f e m i n i n e without having to If you had given me the but Mrs. Dunsmore noted six ming, she said. issues. means of a private reply, I volunteers, wishing experience prove it by using sex as a decould have gone into consider- in the field, are learning to use L o c a l involvement in this Mrs. Dunsmore said she be- vice. type of community program- lieved she was chosen for the ably more detail, and you the equipment. I don't like the word nymphowould have heard from me "We want to make sure that ming offers an "alternative" to job "because I 'm a community maniac, and I would advise you person. not to become anxious about more quickly. anyone who is able to make regular TV programming. All TMHSISTOI "W e don't have to have "I'm an ordinary, evcry-day whether or not you are mania use of our facilities realizes they are available and that shows with, mass-appeal be- housewife who became involved cal about sex. You are right, Clandeboye Dinner they are welcome to use them," cause we're not in competition with the idea of community however, to begin now to anawith regular TV. Regular shows programming, although I'm by lyze why you have difficulty she said. forming enduring, meaningful Clandeboye U n i t e d Church Videon received its licence are glossy, but they aren't no means a technical expert. local, generally speaking." ore on display. "Maybe they thought people relationships and why you seem will serve a turkey dinner noon for regular programming on could relate to me because of to use sex as a tool, separating to 3:30 p.m. Saturday in theChannel. 9 last month. Broad- She believes community pro- or it from tenderness and love. community hall at Clandeboye, casts from Oct. 17 to 28 high- gramming "will help to develop this. "The emphasis isn't on pro- Your awareness shows that you Man. Charge will be $1.75 for lighted various aspects of the the community." "It can become a show-place duction expertise, but rather on may have already taken the adults or $1 for children 12 Oct. 30 federal election. talent. People who people using the community first step in facing your real Community programming for years and under; pre-schoolers problem. started Oct. 30. To date, some want exposure or experience to programming." 787 McPhillips St. will be admitted free. I suggest you seek some professional help because your OWN MOM. - (K. Till 9 P.M. problems may be related to SAT. nu < P.M. Why use all those expen- zle is never in the way and rooms have to be reserved your f e e l i n g s about your and in some instances there sive m a s c a r a removers never noticeable to visitors. Jay W. is a charge for renting them. when you can use baby oil? And, of course, the last Just pour a little on a facial stop is the watermelon or tissue or on a hall of cotton DEAR HELOISE: More uses for old sheets, homemade ice cream! and gently wipe off all that especially the good parts left The wonderful thing about goo. Presto not a trace of "swimaways" is that they the black stuff left. Besides, over: Three strips will make a are not too hard on any of it also beats getting soap in pair of drapes with valance, our mothers and eventually your eyes. as is, or tint to match the DEAR HELOISE: . all us kids get to meet them. Keep the oil near where or bands February 12th - March 5th , 1973 Y o u - v e become such a This seems to make our you put on your makeup to to trim. have it US S good friend of ours that you Another strip will make a I do some... And 28 lovely names times when I'm: i a hurry. Deluxe Hotels you know about something bath, kitchen, or bedroom. SUSAN followed. Wasn't that nice? we have discovered and I have also made small One full week I only wish that we lived * * * others might enjoy. a p r o n s (decorated with in Jerusalem We have p r o g r e s s i v e near you so that we could be DEAR HELOISE: rickrack or scraps from the Visit Tel Aviv, i n c l u d e d . Sounds like a "swim-away" parties. Lots of retired persons, sewing basket) and even Haifa, Eilat, like myself, enjoy doing jig dresser scarfs for the chilThey're patterned after the swimming good time. The Galilee, HELOISE progressive dinner parties saw puzzles but hate to have dren's room. Sliar-EI-Sheik, * * * them lying around on top of our families have, only we I have made table-cloths Massada and More. a table or taking up space for my drop-leaf table. meet poolside and swim be- DEAR HELOISE: > Special Dinner For a change from candles somewhere, so I thought tween each course at various F o u r strips sewed towith George Jesscl on a child's birthday cake, others might like my way: gether, I found to be nice pools of our friends. and dignitaries A jig saw puzzle takes up a over the bed blankets before Talk about something new try putting the face of a 1 And tots More. lot of space and one cannot placing the spread on. It that has been started . . . clock on the cake with icing. Have the hands pointed to always complete it in one keeps the blankets cleaner Wowccl! the child's age. This is a sitting. I remove the blotter and when using white lightWe each bring our food to the assigned apartment, cat, nice variation and the chil- pad from my desk and begin weight spreads over dark the puzzle. When necessary blankets, the blankets do not swim, and then on to the dren will like it. And so will you. to leave the puzzle, I gently show through. next course and pool. We MRS. ALLEN replace the pad over the In fact, when one begins serve the food in the kitchen puzzle until the next opportu- using leftover good parts and clean up our mess after* * * DEAR HELOISE: nity to work on it. from sheets, there seems to wards. Here's a way that is a 1 also have the advantage be more uses for them, than Some a p a r t m e n t units SIE YOUR TRAVEL AGENT cinch to remove eye make- of the desk lamp in the eve- there are old sheets. have recreation rooms that ning. The uncompleted puzGREAT GRANDMA we can use. Usually these up!

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