How to get people to like you 1 - Associate yourself to pleasant events.

Be there when something good is happe ning to someone. 2 - Physical presence. Make yourself seen and felt, instead of hiding and being mysterious and scarce. 4 - Be pleasant. Complain less and bring out the good side of things instead of being negative about everything. Have a positive attitude! Miserable people can only keep a conversation going with other miserable people. 5 - Rapport. Make yourself seem alike the other person. Mimic their actions, the ir speech patterns and a positive subconscious connection will be made. 6 - Let him do a simple favor for you. It's better than always being the one who does things for others. People like to help, so give them the opportunity, and they will feel good about it, and associate your image to that. And if you succe ed in what you're trying to accomplish, they will even show off how they helped you accomplish it. 7 - Be human. Do something embarrassing and funny. Don't take yourself too serio usly, and don't be a show-off, or try to be perfect. Laugh at yourself. How to get people to find you irresistible 1 - Get people to like you :) 2 - Engage in an activity where emotional arousal is high. Arousal and excitemen t gets unconsciously translated to sexual attraction, and you being there at the right time, will be attributed to it and seem irresistible. 3 - Appear young. Walk youthfully. Be flexible. Improve your posture. 4 - Gaze into someone's eyes. Looking into the eyes, not the face, engages passi on. 5 - People with a lowered self-esteem are more susceptible to attraction. This i s the rebound effect, in which guys who hit on emotionally-hurt girls have more advantage than normally. How to detect if someone is trying to take advantage of you Conundrum. Introduce a piece of evidence, and see how your suspect acts around i t. Introduce a made-up fact and see how the person responds. The liar will hesit ate while trying to answer. And when he does, he will probably answer wrongly. How to take control of any situation and get people to act Most people want to help. Helping feels good for anyone. Bring out that good in people, and change their attitude in your favor. Change their world and you chan ge their response. 1 - Narrow someone's options, before you present them. With too many choices, pe ople feel lost, and choose poorly, or don't act at all. Give few choices and mak e people feel empowered with decision. 2 - Give people a deadline. It's human nature to wait until conditions are bette r before acting. A deadline is a way of narrowing decision making, in which if y ou don't act now, you may miss a great opportunity and regret it later. People f eel fear of missed opportunities, so make it look like they will soon miss this opportunity, or already have, but can still fulfill it with an alternative you a re offering. People respond to what is scarce. Diamonds, oil, gold are scarce, t herefore, valuable. 3 - The law of inertia. Get the person moving and he will likely to continue to follow through. Give the person a small incentive, just to get him in motion, an d then ask for what you wanted in the first place.

4 - The law of expectation. People will do what you expect them to do. Use your actions confidently to spark actions. Make actions seem simple. In our minds, we tend to break up processes that we don't like, and make them seem complicated; as opposed to processes that we like, we make them seem simple and with fewer st eps to accomplish. 5 - Offer any small additional benefit for taking action now. And it almost does n't matter what it is. Getting people to follow through on promises 1 - Let him know that he's the type of person who follows through. People feel c ompelled to keep their promises, to respect this consistency. Make it clear that he has helped before, or value the fact that he has committed to help out. Turn a vague offer into a firm commitment: 1.1 - Get him to say it. Say things like "Seriously? Do you want to help me with this?". This helps to bring out a firm response. 1.2 - Get him to commit to a timeframe of how long he will take to complete the task. "Great! How long do you think it will take?" 1.3 - Give the sense of obligation. By him helping out, you will in some way alt er what you were going to do. He needs to see that jumping out of it will distur b your agenda. 1.4 - Let him know how important his help is. What are the consequences of not h elping. 1.5 - Make him envision himself helping out. "So, what will you do first?", "How will you solve this?" Being an effective leader 1 - People accomplish leadership once their followers have identified themselves with their leader. The interests of the followers must be the same as the leade r. 2 - Leadership requires humility. A leader is not better than anyone. He is only more willing to lead, and to do what is necessary. --== SIMPLICITY ==-3 - Never confuse passion with authority. Don't be over-emotional. 4 - Never yell or raise your voice to anybody. 5 - Be respectful of everyone. Show people how great they are, not how great you are. Have charisma. Make your daily life easier 1 - Learn how to get people to forgive you for your mistakes. Excuses based on o utside factors are more effective than those based on inside factors, which you have control over, and could have controlled. Make it seem you planned for succe ss, and planned for obstacles, but what happened was beyond what you expected. If there is no excuse: 1.1 - Take responsibility for your actions. Don't shift the blame. 1.2 - Apologize for your behavior. 1.3 - Be sincere. If you don't mean it, don't say it 1.4 - Remorse and punishment. You're ready to face the consequences. This will s how her she still has power. "I know what I did was wrong". 1.5 - Make it clear this will not happen again. Assure that this won't be unpred ictable. 1.6 - Answer WHY you did what you did. Explain you actions not trying to defend them. ROOT THEM IN FEAR. Everyone understands fear and FORGIVES IT.

1.7 - Make it clear that you gained nothing with what you did. RESTORE BALANCE. 2 - Bearing bad news. Change the way you deliver the message. Avoid harsh langua ge by using euphemism. Dilute the shock to the mind with time. Be calm while bea ring the news, and the person will seek to mimic your mood. Give the news in sma ll increments, and interpolate with positive comments. 3 - Turn rude and obnoxious person into your friend. When someone acts rudely, i t's because: (1)She thinks you dislikes you, (2)she feels threatened by you, (3) she's like this to everyone, (4)you gave her a reason to dislike you. 3.1 - Make sure the problem isn't yours. A person with a positive self-image wil l cause others to treat them as so. Don't have a negative self-esteem. 3.2 - Expect that people will treat you how you want. 3.3 - Make sure that it's not your attitude or false beliefs that are causing th e rift. 3.4 - Tell someone else that you like them, and they will truly feel appreciated , when they know it from a third-party. 3.5 - When you talk to this person, DON'T talk about yourself. Talk about other people, and about the person herself. --== People don't like you based on how they feel about you, but how you make th em feel about themselves. ==-4 - How to stop verbal abuse. Try things like "You seem to be having a rough day ". Use "you", instead of "I". Keep the ball on his court. It's HIS problem. Keep it there, and don't try to take part-ownership of it. Ask him about the problem s, and let him try to figure them out and explain to you, instead of getting you rself involved in trying to solve them. If this abusive behavior is an ongoing pattern, you need to call his attention t o his behavior and that it's not acceptable. He does this to feel empowered. You can just respond "you're right, i'm sorry". Or, become more upset than him. If you beat yourself up, he won't continue kicking. 5 - Give the harshest criticism without hurting. The ego is the part that gets i njured. We become hurt and lash out. The ego is very fragile. Timing is everything. Discuss while removed from the environment. This way it re duces his ego attachment to the situation. Make it feel like it's no big deal, b ut it's still an observation. 5.1 - Without making a big deal about it, let him know you're saying this becaus e you care. 5.2 - Always criticize in private. 5.3 - Preface your criticism with a compliment. "This looks amazing, and will wo rk really well for x. Perhaps just this little adjustment should make it even be tter, what do you think?" 5.4 - Criticize the act, instead of the person. WRONG: "You're annoying when you ..." RIGHT: "You're great, but on those rare times that it happens..." 5.5 - Don't insinuate that he's doing it on purpose 5.6 - Share some of the responsibility, if possible. It's you and him against th is thing, not you against him doing the thing. 5.7 - Offer the solution. If you don't have a suggestion, don't even bring it up . 5.8 - Criticism is most affective when you say he's not alone. This way he takes it less personally. 6 - Handling any dangerous situation. 6.1 - Sexual assaults: 6.1.1 - Initiate some interest in the situation. Don't resist initially. He will become less aggressive because he doesn't have to. When he relaxes his guard, y ou move. Let him see a big broad SMILE. It will work and he will eventually rela

x. 6.1.2 - Try to calm your attacker. Speak confidently and assuredly. 6.1.3 - Turn off the attacker. Vomit, piss, tell him you have aids. 6.1.4 - Defend yourself. Eyes, groin, nose, throat. 6.2 - Physical assault: 6.2.1 - Let it go. Walk away. Better to leave with your ego scratched than your face. 6.2.2 - Become more upset than him. If you beat yourself up, he won't continue k icking. 6.2.3 - Make it seem you're nuts. Do what he doesn't expect. He's no longer in c ontrol, and doesn't feel powerful. 6.2.4 - Defend yourself. Eyes, groin, nose, throat.