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Collaborative conflict resolution
Content of a Conflict Conflict Resolution Conflict Resolution Tools
Homework / Exercises
Jane Kim and Patrick McClain Ahmad Misra & Walt Davis
Nick Krym
05-25-07
Content of a Conflict
Conflicts are a natural part of organizational life, some conflicts could be productive or constructive
Have positive effect on organization Difference in opinions, approaches Conflict of organizational interests or role conflicts Have negative effect on the organization and thus require resolution Personal Organizational All disputants have goals that they cannot achieve on their own Disputants have to communicate, interact, keep relationships in order to achieve their goals Each disputant expects from the opponent(s) behavior directed to achievement of this disputant's goals Opponent does not know what behavior is expected from her or him, and behaves according to her or his own goals This behavior is at variance with expected one A discrepancy between expected and real opponent's behavior causes bad fillings to the opponent that result in conflict
Nick Krym
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Stress
Personality mismatch Dry a conflict between Thinking parties Wet a conflict between Feeling parties Soggy a conflict between Feeler and Thinker Denial or ignoring the conflict Lack of professionalism Lack of conflict resolution skills
Nick Krym
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Conflict Resolution
Conflict resolution often requires getting involved parties to
Understand positions or reasoning of each each other Making concessions moving towards each other Finding a compromise or accepting an opposite view Recognize the existence of the conflict Gather information
Disputant's vision of opponent's behavior that led to the conflict Expected opponent's behavior Disputant's goal, intent, interests that could be achieved through expected opponent's behavior Obstacle that prevents disputant to achieve this goal on her or his own This information should be collected from all disputants; however, in some cases, when some disputant for some reason cannot be asked, her or his point of view might be "reconstructed".
Identify reasons for the conflict Solve the problem of the conflict / Reconcile the differences / Negotiate a compromise solution Seek Win-Win solution Drive for consensus Follow up till full closure
Nick Krym
05-25-07
Remember
Taboos
Nick Krym
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Janes Personality
Clues?
Patricks Temperament
Clues?
Patricks Personality
Clues?
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Traps
More interested in understanding a concept rather applying that concept in a useful way. May have little interest in the other peoples thoughts or feelings. May have a tendency to ignore details which are necessary for implementing their ideas. Easily become bored when dealing with mundane routine May find themselves frequently misunderstood and in these cases tend to blame others. Have no patience with inefficiency and confusion May dismiss others input too quickly and to become generally arrogant and elitist. Are not likely to not give much praise or positive support as others may need or desire. When under great deal of stress, may become obsessed with mindless repetitive, sensate activities, such as overdrinking. They may also tend to become absorbed with minutia and details that they would not normally consider important to their overall goal. Weve got a very complicated problem here We need a completely original approach. Whats you opinion? What are the long-range implications of ? With all due respect
Tips
Communicate in writing and give them adequate time to reflect / digest. Give the preview of all new facts ahead of meeting for a discussion. Portray yourself as competent. Place high value on strategy and overall ideas / impact. Do not expect lavish praise for a job well done. Do not finish their sentences. Hear them out, let them go through the delivery of their message in the way they organize it. Appeal and relay on logic. Do not use personal appeals. Always get back to big picture or how the topic at hand fits in the big picture.
Tricks
Nick Krym
05-25-07
Traps
Tend to have their own strong belief in whats right and whats wrong, and will doggedly stick to their principles. The Rules of the Establishment may hold little value to them. Can be hurtful to others without being aware of it, as they generally do not know and may not care about the effect their words have on others. They typically make things up as they go along, rather than following a plan. Dislike abstract theory without practical application They are impatient with theory, and see little use for it in their quest to get things done. Like initiating things but not necessarily following them through to completion, and might leave those tasks to others. Do not typically trust their instincts, and are suspicious of other peoples intuition as well. I am game if you are. The skys the limit. What have you got to lose? You only go around once. Lets party!
Tips
Engage the in the process; be prepared for challenging and good-naturedly confrontational give-and-take. Lighten up. Make the conversation fun. Dont misinterpret their style as lack of interest or support. Base your reasoning and arguments on pragmatic outcome you desire. Emphasize practical benefits. Avoid emotion based appeals. KISS. Present ideas in straightforward way. Use plenty of examples, sensory words and action verbs. Give them options to consider, opportunity to change the the plan and out clauses. Appeal to their willingness to take calculated risks.
Tricks
Nick Krym
05-25-07
Tips on the message delivery (especially important for the Negative Feedback)
Do not beat around the bush; that is, get to the point and be clear and precise in delivering your message. Be assertive and clear, avoid giving mixed or disguised messages. Give the feedback in a factual and nonjudgmental manner by stating observable fact / event not interpretations. Direct message at Employee Performance not at employee. (Attendance / Work Itself & Tasks / Job-Related Behaviors) Genuinely show that you care
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05-25-07
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Tips on the message delivery (especially important for the Negative Feedback)
Do not beat around the bush; that is, get to the point and be clear and precise in delivering your message. Be assertive and clear, avoid giving mixed or disguised messages. Give the feedback in a factual and nonjudgmental manner by stating observable fact / event not interpretations. Direct message at Employee Performance not at employee. (Attendance / Work Itself & Tasks / Job-Related Behaviors) Genuinely show that you care
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Ahmads Personality
Clues?
Walts Temperament
Clues?
Walts Personality
Clues?
Who did you select for the transition task? Describe your reasons for selection. Delegate the task to the selected candidate.
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Traps
More interested in understanding a concept rather applying that concept in a useful way. May have little interest in the other peoples thoughts or feelings. May have a tendency to ignore details which are necessary for implementing their ideas. Easily become bored when dealing with mundane routine May find themselves frequently misunderstood and in these cases tend to blame others. Have no patience with inefficiency and confusion May dismiss others input too quickly and to become generally arrogant and elitist. Are not likely to not give much praise or positive support as others may need or desire. When under great deal of stress, may become obsessed with mindless repetitive, sensate activities, such as overdrinking. They may also tend to become absorbed with minutia and details that they would not normally consider important to their overall goal. Weve got a very complicated problem here We need a completely original approach. Whats you opinion? What are the long-range implications of ? With all due respect
Tips
Communicate in writing and give them adequate time to reflect / digest. Give the preview of all new facts ahead of meeting for a discussion. Portray yourself as competent. Place high value on strategy and overall ideas / impact. Do not expect lavish praise for a job well done. Do not finish their sentences. Hear them out, let them go through the delivery of their message in the way they organize it. Appeal and relay on logic. Do not use personal appeals. Always get back to big picture or how the topic at hand fits in the big picture.
Tricks
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05-25-07
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Traps
Tend to believe that things should be done only according to procedures and plans. May resist putting energy into things which dont make sense to them, or for which they cant see a practical application. Dislike change, unless they are shown it's benefit in a concrete way Have strong opinions about the way things should be done. May become overly obsessed with structure, and insist on doing everything by the book. May have a difficult time saying no when they are given more work than they can reasonably handle. Often works long hours, and may be unwittingly taken advantage of. May have difficulty understanding a theory or idea which is different from their own perspective. Dislike abstract theory, unless they see the practical application. Not naturally in-tune with other people's feelings Have a tendency to take other peoples efforts for granted. Under stress, may fall into catastrophe mode, where they see nothing but all of the possibilities of what could go wrong. They may berate themselves for things which they should have done differently, or duties which they failed to perform. May lose their ability to see things calmly and reasonably, and depress themselves with their visions of doom. Heres what worked before. I have supporting documentation. If it aint broke, dont fix it. Lets take it step-by-step. Anything worth doing is worth doing right.
Tips
Tricks
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Identify reasons for the conflict Solve the problem of the conflict / Reconcile the differences / Negotiate a compromise solution Seek Win-Win solution Drive for consensus Follow up till full closure
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Jane (INTJ)
Patrick and Scott are incompetent slobs who only have commissions and parties on their minds. The should not be allowed to the customers on their own. They went unprepared and thus could not do a simplest thing. They are so disorganized that most likely they did not have the environment set up in the first place.
Patrick (ESTP)
Jane has zero people skills and rubs everyone the wrong way She is so full of herself when in reality she is just a developer with no knowledge of customer needs She overcomplicates everything and it takes PhD to get through her release notes She has no clue on how unpredictable and challenging the sales calls could be Give us something that we can use Dont teach me how to go about my business just provide darn service
Learn the darn application Configure the system appropriately and before the sales calls, test it Stop bugging us on every little occasion, try it out before calling Give us advance notice before customer visits
Disputant's goal, intent, interests that could be achieved through expected opponent's behavior.
Dont want to be interrupted i have work to do Dont want to hear baseless accusations
Obstacle that prevents disputant to achieve this goal on her or his own.
I am the point person for Sorento I am the only person who they always call on when they get in troubles
The stuff is so complex we cant even install it And with every new improvement it gets more complicated
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Solve the problem of the conflict / Reconcile the differences / Negotiate a compromise solution
For each of the reasons decide whether you solve the problem, reconcile the difference, or negotiate a compromise Define action and method of approach Seek Win-Win solution Drive for consensus Make a record
Follow up till full closure Reason for conflict Solve / Reconcile / Negotiate R N Win-Win Action Follow Up 11/27 12/03
Y Y
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