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One of the oldest & most popular American myth about divorce is, Don't stay together just for the sake of the children." "If divorce is better for you, it will be better for your kids. Since 30 years, Americans are using this idea to justify their increasing recourse for taking divorce, ignoring the tragic cost of their kids emotions. However according to the experts these kind of justifications are just illusion and the idea of increasing divorce ,solely depends upon wishful thinking of adults as individual happiness has became the new standard at which the marriage is judged now a days. One of the biggest troubling picture which is encountered due to increasing divorce rate with growing population is the disastrous effects on children over time. By almost every measure children in divorced families fared worse :emotional problems, early sexual experimenting, dropping out of school, delinquency, teen pregnancy, drug use, occupationally aimless, unable to sustain relationship with someone of the opposite sex ,eroding sense of identity, ability to trust someone & commit themselves. Now a days, even India is not untouched by the haunting spector of divorce due to increasing inclination towards individualism & inner world of self importance. Recent research shows that Couples in the 25-35 age group accounted for 70 per cent of the cases, and 85 per cent of them were filed in the first three years of marriage. This is linked to the fact that most of the case has complain of attitudinal problems while filing for divorce. So our main concentration while dealing with the divorce cases should wheather such kind of decision is taken due to cruelity , dessertion, harshness of the spouse or due to the fact that traditionally men are not ready to change their BREAD-WINNERS KIND OF AN ATTITUDE & they are not enough comfortable with the women who is more successful then them. The first condition is day by day becoming too rare as both men & women are well educated, self esteemed & career oriented people. But if the second condition is the main reason of increasing non compatibility, loneliness , boredom, physical & emotional unsatisfaction between the couples then this must be checked as because if things go wrong at a company, sure people lose moneybut if upbringing fails the result can be disturbed and unhealthy people! Or even worse. So, should the women must go back to their traditional agricultural economic gender role ? Will that would solve the issue & if yes, then are we taking a right justified decision on the women part. According to me & other experts the answer is NO, as because its taken hundreds of years for women to reach here & they have aspired to reach here because the traditional womans work has never got them the respect they deserved. Even the secondary fact is that modern industrial society needs the full hearted contribution of such aspirant women. So, the only way which is left to maintain a relation, to decrease the divorce decisions & to save our upbringing is that all the dads has to give equal contribution in parenting , in nurturing their kids so that women must also get some more space to do other important works. And for women the advice is that they should respect their men if they are earning less or are less successful as because both of them has to understand that for a stable long term relation ship and for an efficient cultured up bringing money, ego & success matters has to be kept in lower prioritiese in comparision to love & care. Nilopher Khan
system is prevailing. Many people strived hard for the eradication of this system in earlier independent days as a result dowry prohibition act was enacted in 1961. Indian society and culture promotes and maintains his it, though it has been outlawed, by not letting authorities know about arrangements of money or any such exchanges. Love marriage comes with greater expectations between partners, as they feel that they have mutual understanding and that they know each other inside out by the time marriage arrives. But when the situation changes after marriage, that is, when the expectations are not reached, there arrives the thought to get divorced. Expectations play a key role here. Divorce rates are high in love or western cultured marriages than arranged marriages. This may be because, social pressures to not to get divorce are more in arranged marriages. There may be many reasons to get divorced one of the important one is abusive behavior of spouse. In earlier days, women used to depend on men for their basic needs but now women are more independent and are not ready to accept any kind of ill behavior of their spouse. People are selfish and are too lazy to work on their relationships. Its all about them and what they want, they dont care about their significant other while relationships are about give and take, compromise, understanding and team work. Western culture of dating, love marriages, agreements made for a shorter time relationship are definitely showing their impact on present generation. This is the main reason for the advancement of divorce rates in India. In India when traditions are followed divorce rate is very less. Western cultures impact increased the rate of divorces in India. Divorce rates can be reduced by changing the thinking of people by bringing them out from the impact of western culture. Relationships can be maintained only with a feel to keep them, At least with a feel not to end them for silly reasons. Divorce rates reduce only when people understand this. Sundeep Shukla
Dating has become a hobby these days. Teenage couples sitting together in restaurants or coffee shops, is a common scene today. In addition, live-in relationships have now become a way of life, especially in the metropolitan cities. The government has also accorded them legal sanction by making those women who are in a live-in relationship eligible for protection under the purview of the Protection of Women against Domestic Violence Act, 2005. However, there were difficulties in identifying those under live-in relationship and the Supreme Court, in a recent judgement, in 2010 defined and specified certain conditions to declare a relationship as a live-in. These conditions have been a topic of heated debate in the recent past. Although judicial remedy is available, the social protection and support by relatives which helps prevention of a breakup in the case of traditional marriages, is totally missing in the case of a live-in relationship. Any change initially starts on a positive note and westernization also did so. Before the nineteenth century, our society was ridden with many superstitions such as sati, child marriage, untouchability and many others of the same ilk. The reformers used western education as a tool in the process of eradication of these evil practices. Westernization was also promoted as a result of foreign rule in the country and grew at a steady pace in our society. Today, in an age of globalization, westernization has increased manifold and has engulfed the society in its various aspects, from the way of dressing to the way of living and has brought along all its attendant ills. Therefore, it is essential, on the one hand, to keep up the sanctity of our traditional culture and on the other hand, to take up only the good aspects of western culture. Couples have to treat their profession and family at par. Maintaining such a balance, though easier said than done, if kept up, would definitely go a long way in preventing divorces and thus would help in keeping the fabric of the family intact. Dr.Purvaja Mahadevan
school drop-outs,addition to bad habits etc.Its not necessarily to be complacent but better not to magnify the problems. Marriage should be an epitome of love,commitment and support.So both the partners should act sensible and support and understand each other.Its better to iron out the wrinkles before taking the extreme step. Haritha Chaganti
front of society. This leads to a happier home environment for children instead of having to see their parents bickering and fighting every day. On the dark side, the increasing number of divorces due to frivolous reason tears apart the innocent childhood of a kid who does not realize why his mom and dad want to live separately. Here too the culture plays a significant part. Western parents generally tend to have a more hands off approach to their kids. This leads them to believe in the kids ability to cope up with whatever situations might crop up. Eastern cultures, on the other hand, tend to be more protective when it comes to kids. This is one reason why divorce is often a last resort. To summarize, we can see that countries with a western culture does indeed have higher divorce rates. However, it is not actively endorsed. It is more of a by product of the rise of individualism, women rights and so on. The same phenomenon can be witnessed in the urban centers of India where divorce rates are increasing with spread of urbanization. Dinu Nair