Fear of the outside world has always been a part of adolescent's life. Agoraphobia resulted in him staying in-doors for much of his early life. He then went on to teach at seminars and open his own gym. Now he trains with some of the world's top self-defence associations.
Fear of the outside world has always been a part of adolescent's life. Agoraphobia resulted in him staying in-doors for much of his early life. He then went on to teach at seminars and open his own gym. Now he trains with some of the world's top self-defence associations.
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Fear of the outside world has always been a part of adolescent's life. Agoraphobia resulted in him staying in-doors for much of his early life. He then went on to teach at seminars and open his own gym. Now he trains with some of the world's top self-defence associations.
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had plenty to be afraid of. This has ranged from my school-days when I was bullied, threatened with knives, spat at and beaten up, to later on in life when fear was brought on by the thought of - and taking part in - tough martial art gradings, full- contact sparring with professional boxers, hard training courses and grappling with European champions. Fear! For me, the kind of fear I had as an adolescent, manifested itself in later life as an anxiety disorder known as agoraphobia; resulting in me staying in-doors for much of my early life and shrinking my comfort zone to the four waIIs and arden oI my Louse. However, aILer some years, and plenty of research and help, I was eventually able to conquer the fear I had of the outside world and embark upon my martial arts journey! And in time I then went on to teach at seminars and opened my own gym, and applied for membership as an instructor with possibly one of the most prestigious self-defence associations in the world, with some of the worlds top InsLrucLors, LLIns LLaL wouId mosL deBnILeIy not have happened to me had I not overcome my initial fear of being out there in the open Ior everyone Lo see! EuL LLen LLe Iear oI being out there changed other fears; fear that the association wouldnt accept me as an instructor, and then feeling of fear that if they did I would have then to prove that I could instruct, travel and train with some of the best instructors in the world. There is always fear! Throughout life, fear manifests itself in many ways and in many situations and circumstances, but in order to survive and move on, fear must be conquered. I remember the fear I once had when dealing with and defeating a drug dealer and his company of friends, after a dispute lasting over two years. The drug dealings were his - not mine - and my dispute against this man was unconnected to his drug activities; threats were made to me and my family by him, and yet his threats were overcome by me. Face-offs were instigated by him and his gang, yet by controlling my fear, not showing fear, and by instilling fear in him and his gang, those same face-offs were won by me. I do not wish to sound clever about this, as it was certainly a very scary time for me but, wILL reaL dIIBcuILy aL BrsL, I was sIowIy abIe to disguise my own weaknesses and fears - of which there were many - until things eventually came to a head and a full-scale sLowdown became InevILabIe. 0ne evenIn they came mob-handed to my house; to the tune of seven to my two - my two being me and my wIIe. My Iear was aL an aII LIme LIL, and all my training in controlling it was ready Lo Ieave me! EuL I couIdn'L aIIord Lo IeL LLIs Lappen, LLIs was MY Louse wILL Lwo young children inside! So I stood my ground and in return was much more aggressive and much more threatening to them and it was quickly apparent that not one of them Lad wLaL IL Look Lo be BrsL. TLeIr saIeLyIn numbers pLIIosopLy backBred wLen LLey a) realised that they couldnt rely on each other, and b) they could see that I wasnt bothered about them (although, in reality, nothing was further from the truth!) and when none of them met my challenge, they went away with their tails between their legs. TLe ouLcome oI LLIs conBIcL was LLaL LLe dealer and his gang fell out with each other and separated. The main dealer tried to face up to me on his own... which caused him to swiftly move to the other side of the country, leaving no forwarding address! Fear! This show-down was never won by not feeling Iear everyone IeeIs Iear! EuL LLe sooner Iear is accepted and recognised, the easier it is to start learning how to control and overcome it. The message of this story is not to try to impress anyone with my bravado; there was noL one day wLen I dIdn'L wanL LLe conBIcL Lo end and there was not one day when I didnt wake up scared. The message is to show that if you can be strong and can control and hide your Iear, unavoIdabIe conBIcL Is oILen won. Face-to-face situations can be resolved by controlling fear, taking the initiative, letting opponents know that any threats would be met equally, and by not allowing adversaries to gain the upper hand. It is always best to avoid confrontation, of course, but if avoidance isnt an option, deal with it quickly and move on with your life, drawing from the experience. The purpose of this regular column in Robin EarraLL's TouL TaIk Is Lo demonsLraLe LLaL with a healthy respect for fear, and by not allowing it to dominate you and your life, and linked with the correct hard training, confrontation can often be won - maybe not always easily, but won nevertheless. The situations that you create to better yourself will always create feelings of fear. You will tell yourself you are not good enough, or you dont have the skills or experience, or you are jusL noL ready! EuL you are wron, if you are willing to try, to dare to step that bit further, to work that extra hour, to train that bit harder and generally put yourself out there, then the rewards are yours. All the time, every time! And even just by trying and daring to be better, you have already passed more of lifes tests than most people will ever bother taking. And the results of me conquering my own fears have lead me to being a 5th Dan black belt and owning my own full-time gym and dojo where I teach people every single day on how to defend themselves, compete, spar, wrestle, but most of all how to over-ride their own fears. I have taught men, women, cLIIdren, poIIce oIBcers, proIessIonaI boxers, wrestlers, doormen and security personnel and have made some great friends. And II I can do IL... anyone can. EuL I sLIII IeeI fear... every time! S Imon MorreII spenL mosL oI LIs IIIe suffering in a dark cave of anxiety. As a child and into his early adulthood, he was the victim of bullies which escalated into unprovoked violent assaults. This led to Simon developing full blown agoraphobia, panic attacks and a nervous breakdown. Scared of his own shadow, Simon turned to the martial arts and karate for some solace, and it was here he found his path in life. He became a very successIuI marLIaI arLIsL and LIs quaIIBcaLIons IncIude beIn a SLL Dan bIack beIL, a quaIIBed wresLIIn coacL (EAWA), a FeIsLered BenIor BeIIFroLecLIon InsLrucLor wILL TLe ErILIsL CombaL AssocIaLIon and a naLIonaI compeLILor. He Las attended and successfully completed training in close protection, surveillance and close quarLer combaL, and Is LLe CLIeI InsLrucLor aL EILL EorLress. He Is aIso a member oI TLe 0IobaI NeLwork oI FroIessIonaI FeaIILy Eased EILLIn InsLrucLors and In BepLember 2018, Le Lakes LIs LesL Ior 6LL Dan under AIBe LewIs, one oI LLe worId's mosL Iamous martial artists that has ever graced the semi- contact mats. Simon is also the author of Erom EuIIIed To EIack EeIL and An Everyday WarrIor. EoLL books are based on LIs IIIe story and are currently being made into a IeaLure BIm. AII LIs books are avaIIabIe dIrecL from his website: ___[QUWVUWZZMTTKWU Conquering Your Fears A regular column by 5th Dan martial artist Simon Morrell on overcoming and conquering the fear inside you, and achieving what you previously thought of as impossible. By Simon Morrell Simon Morrell Simon Morrell BprIn 2018 \W]OP\ITSUIOIbQVM 41 40 \W]OP\ITSUIOIbQVM BprIn 2018