Healing Broken Memories -

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Here you are going to learn practical steps to receive healing.

It may not seem worthwhile to follow some steps but please give
yourself the chance to be made new and enjoy happiness.

First you need to know that the Healer is the Holy Spirit.
In order to receive His ministry you need to reconnect with Him.
There is an obstacle in between you and Him: your sin. “Behold, the
LORD'S hand is not shortened, that it cannot save; nor His ear heavy,
that it cannot hear. But your iniquities have separated you from your
God; and your sins have hidden His face from you, so that He will not
hear.” Isaiah 59:1-2 So confess your sins before God for he had
promised: “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us
our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.“ 1John 1:9

Now is time to ask the Holy Spirit who knows your past to point the
incident which is the root of your problem. Do not make it a human
effort in that direction but wait for Him. He will give you a flash back
during this time about a past event. If you try to remember yourself
taking your life event by event you may find some incidents but not all
of them that may be the ones responsible for your situation. Also it may
be cases where you have been exposed to the same abusive, unloving
behavior for your entire childhood. Even so there must be a point in
your life history when you have realize that you are actually abused,
unloved, and unaccepted. That’s the event to which the Holy Spirit will
direct your mind. So just let the Holy Spirit work this out for you and
point the incident that has affected you. Once you receive that, try hard
to remember each detail of it. Everything you can recall is very
important. For there will be a moment when you will need to build a
word picture of that event to create a duplicate of the image the mind
keeps in memory.
 Next step is to accept the truth reveled by the Spirit of Truth. You may
or may not been aware about that situation or about the involvement of
that person hurting you. Just accept it. In its effort to balance you
emotionally. The mind may have built a cover for that painful memory
with a note attached: “access denied”. That explain why you were not
aware about that event in your life history.

Now is time to deal with that situation and the painful emotions
associated with it.
First request a Healing Prayer from your spiritual counselor. Is
important to accept that the matter is too important and too sensitive
to consider yourself able to deal with. You need God’s involvement. The
seven steps of this prayer are pictured previously.

Then you need to write a letter to the offender. Express yourself in it:
your feeling during the time of incident and the feeling now; your
resentment and anger. Be very open and rich in little details. At the end
of the letter write your decision to forgive. Do not try to diminish their
fault in order to match your ability to forgive but through the
mechanism next described; increase your ability to forgive at the level
of their fault.

Do not hurry in forgiving. First you need to deal with your emotion. So
read that letter at least twice a day out loud in private. Never show that
letter to your offender. When you read the letter you will experience
overwhelming feelings and your emotions will be visible. Allow yourself
to express them. Be happy about this. Read that letter until there are no
emotions associated with the reading of it. At that point, forgive that
person. Now you are able to forgive indeed. Because the memory image
of that event is no longer associated with your emotions, you will be
able to soon forget that event. Now you can even make a step forward
and offer intercessory prayer for blessing for your offender.

The entire process should not take more than three months. However
the process of feeling with your heart that you have forgiven your
offender and every time you talk about him/her you will not experience
resentment or lack of peace, will probably take longer.
 Learning new patterns in life

First you need to learn to use all the sources of positive polarization in
order to remain in a positive attitude about yourself. Build your
confidence in God and your self esteem will increase. Be aware that
every relationship implies a risk and a price. However the risk and price
of not having a relationship is bigger than the price of having one. Be
ready to assume the risk. Finally act in faith. Since you have resolved
the past you have no problem in your interaction with people or in your
behavior. Be courageous. Accept that you need to learn new patterns in
life and do it.
Sources of Positive Polarizations:

• Fellowship with God

• Being safe and secure
• A sense of worth
• A desire to be unique and special
• To be important
• To be loved and love
• To be enjoyed and enjoy
• To find life fulfillment and meaning
• I feel good about myself because God loves me as I am.
• I need only God’s approval to feel good about myself
• I am loved and appreciated by God even when I fail
• God will help me overcome, help me change; and give me hope

Sources of Negative Polarizations:

• Idolatry
• Money
• Personal performance
• Approval
• Position determines importance
• Sexual activity
• Godless pleasure
• Career advancement
 • I must meet certain conditions and standards to feel good
about myself
• I must be approved by certain persons to feel good about
myself
• The failures are unworthy of love and appreciation
• I am what I am, I cannot change, I am hopeless

Why people fall back into the old pattern of behavior?

It may be observed that even after someone have received healing for
their broken memory they may from time to time fall back in old
behavioral pattern. Why does that happen? Did the healing not take
place? Will it disappear eventually?

1. First be aware about the fact that during your emotional disease you
have behaved in a certain manner. Through repetition that became a
habit of dysfunctional behavior. So you are now healed but still with an
active habit that needs to be removed. There is no emotional damage
anymore that feeds your bad behavior, just your habit. If you pay
attention to yourself for 40-60 days and reject to act out of habit, then
soon you will be totally free.

2. Secondly be aware about the possibility of demonic assault.

Ephesians 6:10-18 and 2:6. Satan will try to give you the impression
that you are not healed yet. Do not pay attention to him. Yes he will
bring circumstances in which usually causes your bad behavior to
prevail. But now there is no reason to react to that situation. Choose to
be proactive. You are free to act as you want. There is no more
dysfunctional behavior. It is just you; a healthy and new you! You are
now separated from your past. You have a new and vibrant relationship
with your God. You have God dwelling in you and helping you every day
to maintain the new you!

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