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“We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for
maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.”
—Virginia Satir, family therapist
When you were a child, and you were hurt, lonely, anxious, or scared, what did
you do?
If you ever did any of these, you know how important hugs are to your emotional
wellbeing.
The fact that children crave hugs should be no surprise. For the first nine months
of our existence, we’re in a snug place, surrounded by warm fluid. We hear our
mother’s heartbeat; her movement and the sounds of her daily activities soothe
us.
After birth, a baby uses touch before any of the other senses. Baby cries, and
when someone comes to pick up him or her, Baby feels safe. Because of the
design of our brains, all higher animals (humans, mammals, and birds) have an
instinct for emotional and social bonding, a natural tendency to nurture their
children. (Not so with reptiles, fish, and amphibians: lizard parents are as likely to
eat their children as to simply ignore them.)
Infants deprived of love, physical contact, and nurturing often suffer irreversible
mental and emotional damage—even death. People caring for infants in NICUs
know this. Whereas babies born prematurely or with other health problems
traditionally have been considered too fragile to touch, studies are being done to
examine the healing effects of touch, handling, and even massage on these
babies.
Back in the 1950s, many American pediatricians advised parents to let their
babies “cry it out”; in other words, not to respond to the baby’s needs. The
unfortunate result was many children growing up insecure and distrustful of a
world that does not respond to their needs. The taboo against touch was broken
in the 1960s and ‘70s by the hippie-culture “love-ins”; some therapists began to
accept the practice of touch and then use it in “encounter groups.”
Hugging is free, can be enjoyed by anyone, and has no negative side effects.
Hugging truly can be called a miracle drug.
Hugging helps to develop kids’ self-esteem and overall wellbeing. It makes them
feel better about themselves and their environment; makes them more
affectionate and communicative; relieves loneliness, frustration, anxiety, and
other negative emotions; and opens the door to feelings that children may need
to share, reducing the likelihood of acting-out behavior.
Children who aren’t regularly hugged by their parents usually grow up to have
difficulty bonding with other people. Child experts have begun to use hugging
and other types of touch therapy to treat abused children.
Hugging is therapeutic for not only children, but adults as well. It fulfills the deep
physical and emotional need for touch that all humans have.
One study showed that pet ownership improves the survival of heart patients.
How? Pets love to be hugged, and we love to hug them. The cuddling of pets has
Hugging also has social benefits. People who hug other people are less likely to
do nervous self-touching, like touching their hands and hair and biting their nails.
Research has even found that hugging stimulates brain cells. “According to
intelligence researcher Jay Gordon, MD, co-author of Brighter Baby, new studies
show that children who get some sustained form of touching, such as a long hug
every day, are smarter. ‘The more physical contact a little one gets, the more the
brain cells are stimulated, creating stronger, faster brain synapses and boosting
IQ.’” (Jenn Hollowell, eHow Editor, in “What Is Hug Day?”)
Types of hugs
There are several types of hugs; the situation and the relationship between the
huggers determine which type is used.
• The A-frame hug. The huggers touch only from the shoulders up; brief; used
where formality is called for.
• The full-body hug. The two huggers stand facing each other, wrapping arms
around each other’s shoulders and waists, heads together; firm, yet gentle;
can be shared by good friends, relatives, or lovers.
• The side (or one-arm) hug. Standing side by side, one hugger (usually the
taller one) puts his or her arm around the other hugger’s shoulder, while the
second hugger puts his or her arm around the other’s waist; more casual, or
used between people who aren’t comfortable with a full hug.
• The cheek hug. This is a tender, gentle hug; can be experienced comfortably
sitting down, standing up, or with one hugger sitting and the other standing; a
tasteful way to greet someone who is seated.
• The “guy” hug (or “shug”—a combination of “shake” and “hug”). The two guys
shake, and with hands still clasped, lean in for a hug with the free arm; the
goal is to create a barrier between the two huggers so as not to appear too
intimate.
• The bear hug. This is like the full-body hug, but much more forceful; used
between people of either gender or mixed gender who are completely
comfortable with the full-body hug and are relatively sturdy; not advised for
• The hug from behind. It’s just like it sounds; usually reserved for people in a
romantic relationship.
There are endless variations on the above types of hugs, of course, with the
relationship between the huggers and their level of comfort with hugging being
the determining factors.
• Hugging is still more acceptable between women than between men, yet it’s
becoming more acceptable between men.
• African American men are more likely to hug other African American men
than to hug white men.
• Most people aren’t comfortable with hugging someone upon first meeting
(unless it’s a long-lost relative), but hugging goodbye at the conclusion of the
first meeting is more acceptable.
National Hug Day was created by the Rev. Kevin Zaborney of Michigan and first
celebrated Jan. 21, 1986. Its purpose is to teach people about the benefits of
hugging; it is observed not only in the United States, but also Canada, Russia,
China, and some other countries. Events in schools, nursing homes, hospitals,
and libraries have been held to recognize National Hug Day.
This heartwarming story is from “Have You Hugged Anyone Lately?” by Parveen
Chopra.
“Some years ago he created the Hugger Kit. It contains 30 little red embroidered
hearts. Shapiro would take out his kit, go around to people and offer them a little
red heart in exchange for a hug. Soon, he became a minor celebrity for
spreading his message of unconditional love.
“But Shapiro was queasy when invited to a home for the terminally ill, severely
retarded and quadriplegic. Accompanied by a team of doctors and nurses, he
went about his routine of hugging and handing out little red hearts till they
reached a ward with the worst cases. The last person, named Leonard, whom
Shapiro had to hug, was drooling on his big white bib; ‘There’s no way we can
get across to this person,’ Shapiro thought.
“But finally he leaned down and gave Leonard a hug. This is what followed, in the
author’s words:
“Shapiro will never forget what she said: ‘This is the first time in 23 years we’ve
ever seen Leonard smile.’
“It only takes a hug, a heartfelt and warm embrace, to change the lives of others.
Try it, it works.”
Hug quotes
Consider printing some of these and placing them around your home and
workplace to remind yourself of the importance of hugging. You’ll also be
spreading the message to others who see them.
A hug is a great gift—one size fits all, and it’s easy to exchange.
~Author Unknown
You can’t wrap love in a box, but you can wrap a person in a hug.
~Author Unknown
Sometimes it’s better to put love into hugs than to put it into words.
~Author Unknown
A hug delights and warms and charms, that must be why God gave us arms.
~Author Unknown
I love hugging. I wish I was an octopus, so I could hug ten people at a time.
~Drew Barrymore
Never wait until tomorrow to hug someone you could hug today, because when
you give one, you get one right back your way.
~Author Unknown
Hugging has no unpleasant side effects and is all natural. There are no batteries
to replace, it’s inflation-proof and non-fattening with no monthly payments. It’s
non-taxable, non-polluting, and is, of course, fully refundable.
~Author Unknown
If you’re angry at a loved one, hug that person. And mean it. You may not want to
hug—which is all the more reason to do so. It’s hard to stay angry when
someone shows they love you, and that’s precisely what happens when we hug
each other.
~Walter Anderson, The Confidence Course, 1997
Feel free to print, reprint, copy, share, and pass around this Free Report,
A Hug: the Miracle Drug
Sources
Burke, Taniesha. “The wonderful effects of hugging our children.” December 29,
2008.
http://www.authorsden.com/visit/viewArticle.asp?id=44784
Trunk, Penelope. “Try to give hugs to more people at work.” February 17, 2009.
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/02/17/try-to-give-hugs-to-more-people-at-
work
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Lisa is a writer, copywriter, and Internet marketer. She is the author of hundreds
of articles on marketing, as well as other subjects such as health and pet care;
several short stories, essays, and e-books; and a novel, Touching the Brilliance
of Sunrise.
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and historical preservation.
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