Patricia Anne H.

Mendoza 3D-Pharmacy The Temptation of Intrinsic, Inherent and Unconditional Love SUMMARY

Aug 16, 2013

As one grows old, he becomes aware of the differences that every person possesses and as a result he sees himself different from everyone. He questions himself, Who am I? and this becomes more important than materials things he once wanted. Most teenagers will feel unwanted, alone and misunderstood. As a reaction, to be understood, he will seek comfort from fellow teenagers, finding equality by having the same interests but its very seldom for one to find a group that will take him for all he is. Loneliness will still remain if he will not achieve the equality he wants, and even if he may be surrounded by friends. To overcome this, some people will drink or take drugs. It becomes a sort of temporary escape from reality. Another is to keep oneself busy, a way of diverting ones attention from oneself but could not fill the emptiness. In the end, he still has to face the sorrow of being alone. It is only in love that unites everyone overcomes loneliness, and still remain who we are. Loving encounter is when one finds or is found by a person that will end his/her loneliness. This also requires an appeal that can be a sign of invitation. One needs to have a heart for him to break away from self-preoccupation to see this invitation. Beautiful qualities can only give rise to enamoredness. Love tends to stops if these beautiful qualities will stop being attractive. Love is feeling the depth a person, and the desire to be only for him. You can also liberate yourself if the other person is being himself. The other person can give meaning to ones life. The other persons appeal is an invitation that she accepts and shares his freedom. Love means that you are willing for him to have happiness. To love is to labor for it and to care for his

total well-being. The other person is your extension. You would do anything to the person you love, while also satisfying your own needs. There should be balance and acceptance and requires a lot of waiting. Love is offering yourself to him and not dominating. Theres also sacrifice, its not like what others think that when you sacrifice, you lose yourself. Love is loving the other person and by loving him, you love yourself as well. Love should be authentic. Love of self can only be obtained if other people love you, then you learn how to love too. In love, theres a process of give and take. The primary motive is about the you that is not seen by eyes, but with the heart. What happens to unreciprocated love? There is a possibility that you may be rejected by the person you confessed to, and this rejection can also be a test to how authentic your love is for the other person. If you still persist despite the pain that love is truly selfless and is unmotivated by the desire to be loved in return. Rejection is very painful, and sometimes it takes time to move on, nevertheless, it could be a chance for someone to repair and develop himself. REFLECTION And at the same time, I also came to the full understanding that Tohno would never look at me. Although he is very kind but He has always has been looking at something far beyond, far higher than me. I could never give him that which he desires. Even so, Im sure that even when tomorrow comes, or the day after, or thereafter, I will still be helplessly in love with him. - Kanae; 5 Centimeters per Second Unrequited love, in the case of the quote I cited, she realized that whatever she would do, its meaningless because the guy she love was in love with somebody else. And even if that may be case, she will still be helplessly in love with him. As I relate it to my life, I fell in love with one of my friend right now, it was very painful. I did not even have the chance to confess to him. I experienced anguish because of him. For a while, I lost myself because of him, I neglected

everything and became a shell of my former self. And in the end, I decided to stand in the background and just be a friend. I learned a lot of things after a year; I became stronger in the end. I realized that theres more to life than love and pain. Sometimes you will just be contented on what you have right now even if thats not what you truly want. This love that eventually seeped in to your whole being is maybe enough to make you happy even if its unreciprocated. Patience or waiting for him is not so bad and maybe its the best to express that you truly love him. Unrequited love cant be avoided; sometimes people love other people and will still be broken after doing everything they could. What the first article said was kind of not true for my case, after falling in love that was when I experienced loneliness. For me, love makes us vulnerable. It opens us up and leaves us unguarded, and those people who we love will mess up our insides, our hearts, and we cant do anything about it but to just endure the pain. Love does not see with eyes, love sees by using the heart. Its true that if you only love a person because, for example, he can sing, he can write or because he is handsome. What if these qualities ceased? Would that mean you love him less? You love a person not because of the qualities that makes him attractive; you love him because he is him. You feel this inexplicable feeling in your gut, deep within your bones, deep within your soul even. And when someone asks you why? You may answer but you know deep within yourself that it is not the real reason why you love; you just FEEL that you love him. Its really inevitable; when /you love someone you will everything in your power for him to be happy, because seeing him happy is your own happiness. When you love someone, you may also change a part of yourself, because you become one. You realize your mistakes, you change for the better, and loneliness can also be overcome if your love is reciprocated. In conclusion, love is an emotion that changes us for the better or even for the worse. It makes us who we are then and who we are in the now.