A Crash Course In Seduction:

The Inner Circle's Guide

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A Crash Course In Seduction: Table of Contents
Preface ...............................................................................................................................................
Introduction .......................................................................................................................................
The Journey (short story) ....................................................................................................................
The Trophy .........................................................................................................................................
The Right Mindset ...............................................................................................................................
The ad oy Theory ...........................................................................................................................
Jer!s " #ice $uys .............................................................................................................................
Alpha Male Status ..............................................................................................................................
%o& To e The Alpha Male ...............................................................................................................
My Philosophy: 'ude(s Alpha Manifesto ..........................................................................................
Confidence: igger Than Seduction ..................................................................................................
The Confidence $raph .......................................................................................................................
)ear *f Re+ection ...............................................................................................................................
The ,-er.'ecepti-e /ouni-erse ........................................................................................................
The 0 T(s Re+ection Chart ..................................................................................................................
Pedestaling ........................................................................................................................................
The )riends 1one ...............................................................................................................................
Appearance asics: 2oo!ing $ood ....................................................................................................
)e3ale ody 2anguage .....................................................................................................................
Spea!ing: Mind State4 Tone4 'eli-ery " More .................................................................................
'iction ...............................................................................................................................................
Inner $a3e 5s6 *uter $a3e ............................................................................................................
The 7 Main *b+ecti-es ......................................................................................................................
#atural $a3e 5s6 Routines ................................................................................................................
eginning $a3e4 Mid $a3e " ,nd $a3e ....................................................................................
)oundation for Success: Approach asics ....................................................................................
The Approach $enie ..........................................................................................................................
*pening Routines .................................................................................................................................
'yna3ite $roup 'yna3ics ..................................................................................................................
$et %er Attention by 8sing a Prop ......................................................................................................
)alse Ti3e Constraints ........................................................................................................................
9ino ......................................................................................................................................................
#eg %its ...............................................................................................................................................
Indicators of Interest ...........................................................................................................................
Indicators of 'isinterest ......................................................................................................................
Shit Tests .............................................................................................................................................
The Secrets to ridge the $ap .............................................................................................................
Coc!y " )unny ....................................................................................................................................
Teasing State3ents .............................................................................................................................
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Part II : *uter $a3e
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Making Her Jealous ........................................................................................................................
The Push/Pull Phenomena ............................................................................................................
Creating Suspense & Tension ........................................................................................................
How to Close the Deal ....................................................................................................................
Phone Numbers: Good Intentions, Bad Idea ..............................................................................
Phone Conversation Basics .............................................................................................................
Over-Gaming ....................................................................................................................................
Finding the Balance .........................................................................................................................
Social Value, Social Proof & Social Circles ....................................................................................
High Value, High Results .................................................................................................................
Wingman Game ...............................................................................................................................
Pivots & Pawns ................................................................................................................................
Imaginary Point Systems ....................................................................................................................
Sea of Fish: Best Places to Meet Women ......................................................................................
Meeting Woman Online: The Basics .............................................................................................
Preparation .......................................................................................................................................
First Date Basics ..............................................................................................................................
Shaking Off The Dust: Starting Over .............................................................................................
Understanding Women ..................................................................................................................
Types of Men and Women ..............................................................................................................
The 5-5-8 PUA Ranking System ....................................................................................................
The Destination (short story) ..........................................................................................................
Congratulations! You're Finished ....................................................................................................
Seduction Terminology .......................................................................................................................
The Inner Circle .................................................................................................................................
"The Future is Bright, the Future is Now." - Orlandomac
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Part III ~ Post-Game & Advanced Material
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A Crash Course In Seduction: Preface
About This Book:
We have tried very hard to make this crash course as simple and understandable as possible,
while still containin all of the vital information necessary to brin you up to our level of
knowlede! This uide is a reat tool for creatin a foundation for success with women!
"ur ultimate oal was to create a basic uide to attractin women that any man can pick up
and bein readin reardless of how new he may be to all of this #seduction stuff#! If you feel
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time you are confused and can not rasp the concept that we are tryin to teach you$ please
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Also$ durin the course of this uide you will notice that we make use of terminoloy that may
be new to you! If you do not understand the meanin of a term or phrase used in this book$
simply flip to the lossary of seduction terms in the back to use as a reference!
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Introduction: To Evolve
A Driving Force
Do you believe in fate? Do you believe that a driving, external force has been guiding your
every action since birth, ultimately leading you towards an already decided conclusion?
I dont, but it would be nice if it was all that sim!le"
I believe in will!ower, drive, determination and love" These characteristics are the bac#bone
of the human s!irit and the main ingredients that se!arate us from every other living
organism that we have yet to encounter" $hile all of these things may not be as mystifying as
a theory such as fate, they are all things that we as individuals have the !ower to control, and
learning to use them to your advantage is the secret to controlling your own life"
I also believe that every man on this !lanet, whether he is young, old, fat, s#inny, bald, tall or
short, holds the #ey to his own destiny, and that the se%uence of doors to which he chooses to
use that #ey will be the chisel that scul!ts his character and legacy"
Des!ite all of this, neither your nor my o!inion or !erce!tion of the world around us holds
much merit in the greater scheme of things" This is because there is a ma&or !layer in this
game we call life that is so !owerful, so unchallenged, that it literally re'arranges everything it
touches" Tiny s!ec#s on this earth such as you and I have little, if any control over this force"
(elieve it or not, those that are affected by this !henomenon are the same ones who are
res!onsible for )fli!!ing the switch) and turning it on due to the way in which they interact
with their environment" *nce this ha!!ens and the !rocess is set into motion the !oint of no
return has been breached" The end result can be either good or bad, and sometimes a mixture
of both, but these conse%uences and+or blessings are never felt by those who initiate them"
Instead they are brought u!on their offs!ring, hundreds of thousands of years later"
Im tal#ing about one of the most !otent and mysterious marvels that we have yet to discover
,and understand- in our universe" It is not a !hysical being or a thing, it is a !rocess"""
""" a !rocess that is commonly referred to as Evolution"
.hange Is /ecessary
Evolution literally determines the survival of entire s!ecies,
not only individuals, which needless to say ma#es this a force
that is to not be ta#en lightly, as well as !roves it to be far
su!erior to the conce!t of fate"
All beings must either ada!t over time to the ever'changing
world around them or run the ris# of eventually being filtered
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out of existence for not being fit enough to evolve"
To evolve is to survive" To survive is to evolve"
In this fashion everything must evolve, not only !eo!le, animals and other living things, but
societies and ideas as well" The seduction community is most certainly loc#ed into this !hase
of ongoing change, and a new breed of !ic# u! artists ,01As- have risen to the challenge of
securing the survival of our underground society throughout this !rolonged !eriod of
transition and change" They call themselves The Inner .ircle ,TI.-, and I am a !roud member
of this budding organi2ation"
The Inner .ircle
$e are young, refined, vibrant and full of brand new ideas and conce!ts" TI. members are
constantly see#ing new adventurous ,sometimes even !recarious- methods of attracting and
seducing women by !racticing current techni%ues and altering them slightly in order to get a
different set of results" Through this !ractice we have been successful in im!roving many of
the s#ills that are commonly being used in the seductive arts, and have also stumbled u!on a
wide array of new methods that were !reviously non'existent within the community"
Although many of the core members of TI. have been students of seduction for many years,
we are far from being stuc# in our ways and have devoted ourselves to the !ursuit of
ex!anding our #nowledge and the !erfection of this art form that we love" $e are fully aware
of the changes ha!!ening in our world and understand that a change within ourselves, as well
as our tactics will also be necessary" $e must ada!t and evolve"
$hy?
$omen are %uic#ly catching on to our current methods of !ic#ing them u!, they are evolving
to counter the fact that 01As have been turning the tables in our favor" $hat was once easy is
becoming increasingly harder, and what was once exclusive to our community is %uic#ly
becoming common #nowledge to many" Also, due to ever increasing media ex!osure that
certain gurus in the community have been attracting, some women are even becoming aware
of the secret society of 01As that u! until recently were only lur#ing in the shadows"
"Did she just say "kino"?" - Paragon
Ex!osed3
4es my brothers, we are in the !rocess of being ex!osed" The flawless methods of today are
%uic#ly becoming yesterdays outdated news" This could easily be viewed as a hindrance, and
by many it is, but we at The Inner .ircle believe it to be a blessing" It is an o!!ortunity for us
to im!rove, and it comes !ac#aged along with the motivation that we need to ada!t to these
modern times" Its no secret that this fast'!aced world that we live in is changing more ra!idly
than it ever has before, so in order to #ee! our heads above water and our game ahead of the
rest, we must in turn begin to change"
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The Inner .ircle is where these changes have been triggered, and now that the wheels of
evolution have been !ut into motion they can not be reversed" TI. has banded together not to
s!ecifically determine what these changes will be, but rather to recogni2e them, inter!ret
them, refine them, give them a name and then share them with the rest of the community
through the movement #nown only as The 0aragon 0ro&ect" This gives all of us the
o!!ortunity to grow together instead of branching off in different directions as the seduction
community has been #nown to do in the !ast" *ur ultimate goal is to ma#e steady !rogress as
a whole and challenge every out'dated !ic# u! techni%ue along the way, while continually
develo!ing new methods of our own that are tailored to re!lace the old"
This boo# and those that follow will be a chronicle of our !rogress thus far and an accurate
model of the results of our ex!loits in the modern dating world" The 0aragon 0ro&ect is an
ever'changing wor# in !rogress and future editions will be released as our #nowledge ex!ands
and our techni%ues evolve" TI. will also be constantly changing, as our doors are always o!en
to those willing to dedicate themselves to the !ro&ect and !rove that they have what it ta#es to
become a master of seduction" If you are interested in !artici!ating in The 0aragon 0ro&ect,
you can learn how to a!!ly at our Seduction University forums:
htt!:++www"!aragon!ro&ect"com+forums
A /ew (reed
The Inner .ircle is also very commonly referred to by its alias )The /ew (reed), which at
times seems to suit us even more accurately" This alternative title is a symbol that reflects how
TI. re!resents the future of the underground community of 01As, as well as the fact that we
are loc#ed into an ongoing struggle to #ee! ourselves and our methods behind the scenes"
Additionally, it also seemed fitting for us to !ass on our alias to our first ma&or !ro&ect, our
dual e'boo# set entitled )The /ew (reed)"
Although we are a tightly #nit grou! in which all are viewed as e%uals even though some may
!lay more im!ortant roles than others, through the midst of our organi2ation one name
shines the brightest" It is the name of a man who is so dedicated to our cause that he refuses to
reveal his true identity to those who are not yet members of the dee!est level of TI., in an
attem!t to dis!lay the im!ortance that our wor# must not become available to those outside of
the community"
To those in the community he is #nown only as 0aragon, and by dictionary definition this
name is an exact reflection of his character:
0aragon
!ar5a5gon 6!ar'uh'gon7
8noun
An ideal instance; a perfect embodiment of a concept; model of excellence or perfection of a
kind; one having no eual; a peerless example; a perfect example of a good uality!
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0aragon
Ac#nowledgment of the humble way in which 0aragon !resents himself and shuns the fame
that comes along with the immense #nowledge that he !ossesses on bedding beautiful women
is the first ste! to understanding the man himself"
0aragon is not only a man, he is the ins!iration behind The 0aragon 0ro&ect and is also the
advocate for an idea, a way of life that he believes in so strongly that he has literally become
that idea himself" This boo# ,and all of the 0aragon 0ro&ect editions that follow- is merely an
outsiders !erce!tion and inter!retation of 0aragons mentality &ust as much as it is an
accurate record of his teachings and the teaching of his students" Although 0aragon may not
be one of the founding fathers of this art form that we !ractice, he is a !ioneer and a !rodigy
among the 01As wal#ing the earth, and the TI. movement that he has ins!ired is single'
handedly crafting the future of the seduction community"
The legacy of 0aragon, TI. and our teachings may be written and re'written many times over
the years to come, but for now I welcome you to this first installment" 4ou are about to learn
that there is a lot more to this )seduction stuff) than meets the eye3
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The Journey
"There comes a time in all of our lives when change is not only desired, it is
necessary. In this fashion, we grow." - The Player
The record low temperature would have been almost bearable if the unrelenting wind had not
added an icy chill to the thin December air. This leather jacket isn't keeping me warm at all,
but at least look good! "le# $ughes thought to himself while he shivered and noticed the
bouncer letting another group of flat%out gorgeous women bypass the line and enter the night
club. "s the door opened he could hear the voices of people having a good time over the now
very clear music, which helped him to remove the thought of running to the shelter of his '&'
$onda "ccord from his mind. t will be worth the wait, know it! was the thought that
allowed his willpower to overpower his need for warmth.
(ou see, "le# had a plan, and from a purely logical sense it seemed to be a winning one.
Tonight is going to be the all%important turning point in his life that he has waited so patiently
for since his barely average looking e#%girlfriend left him for another, better suited man just
shy of si# months previous. )n that ego shattering afternoon when he was unfortunate
enough to accidentally discover her kissing a tall stranger in the hallway of their poorly
maintained apartment comple# his heart e#ploded. $e loved her, even though he always knew
that deep down he could do much better because he was a very good looking man. $e even
considered himself lucky to have her because of his unimpressive track record with women in
the past, and the truth was that every time he successfully got a woman it seemed to be out of
sheer luck. *ven though his pleasing appearance enticed women to approach him on almost a
daily basis, something always seemed to go wrong before he could close the deal. "s "le#'s
mind began to wander, his past failures that have been haunting him for years started to show
their ugly face yet again. +hat am doing,! he thought, shouldn't be thinking about her, or
any negative thoughts for that matter, not tonight.!
$e soon got his wish.
The hollow, metallic sound of the entrance door slamming shut snapped "le# back into
reality, which sent him straight back into a mind state that would not permit him to focus on
anything, save the free,ing cold. $e could no longer hear anyone inside and the music coming
from within was now reduced to the repetitive hum of the bass as if he were listening to it
from under water. t must be nice to know important people! was the only thought he could
muster when he began to reali,e that the line had not moved for what seemed like an eternity.
$e had only taken two steps forward since he arrived, and that was only because the
overweight, middle aged man and his accomplice with the annoying voice that were previously
in front of him had decided to leave. $owever, this was not enough to break "le#'s spirit. $e
had been religiously visiting numerous clubs on Thursday, -riday and .aturday nights for
months, each time hoping that he could land a woman that was his e/ual both physically and
mentally. Tonight was his night, he was fully prepared to handle any challenge and finally
willing to put his overpowering fear of rejection behind him once and for all. f this newfound
sense of drive and determination to succeed was not enough to turn the tables in his favor, he
had something else going for him as well. $e looked great, and the still present smell of the
leather on his brand new jacket even seemed to compliment the high end cologne that he was
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wearing. *verything was perfect, but he was still outside.
"ll "le# wanted was a chance to land a beautiful woman, and he thought that if he had one it
would change the entire course of his life for the better. 0otivation was his tool, and he had
that indeed. $owever "le# $ughes had one major flaw in his plan that he perceived as being
bulletproof1 $e was one of the millions of men who have been under the false impression that
women choose men based on physical appearances alone. That myth, being the backbone of
his methods, had doomed him to fail every night for the past si# months, and so it would be
the same this night. Despite the truth, "le# continued on his journey.
"fter forty five minutes in the blistering cold, standing on the sidewalk in the downtown area,
it began to rain. *ach raindrop was so unbelievably cold that "le#'s already numb body
seemed to regain some sort of feeling because of it.
Editor's Note: ust !idding, his luc! wasn't that "ad. #et's rewind to what really ha$$ened...
"fter forty five minutes in the blistering cold, standing on the sidewalk in the downtown area,
"le# had finally made his way to the front of the line. $e didn't know how he felt at the
moment, either it was &23 e#citement and 423 relief, or &23 relief and 423 e#citement, but
he didn't care. The only thing that mattered now was that he was finally getting in, and
judging by the caliber of the women that he had observed entering the venue during his
torturous wait, there would be many opportunities awaiting him inside. The bouncer
proceeded to give him the usual pat%down that the 56 guests were privileged enough to avoid
being embarrassed by, and upon determining that he had nothing dangerous concealed, the
giant of a man motioned for "le# to head towards the cashier. "le# then paid the remarkably
stunning girl behind the register, and noticed her flash him an unnecessary, seductive smile
while handing him his change.
7eing full of temporary confidence, "le# saw this as his first opportunity of the night and had
no intentions of letting it pass him by. $as anyone ever told you that you have gorgeous eyes?!
he said in the most suave tone that he could manage. (es, all of the time. Thanks anyways! she
replied as her facial e#pressions /uickly changed to that of someone who is being annoyed.
.he then pretended to focus her attention on the ne#t customer in line even though the
bouncer had not even checked him yet. t was an obvious attempt to avoid any further
conversation with "le#. The instant pain of being rejected began to creep in, and it was a
feeling that "le# knew all too well. 8nder normal circumstances "le# would have perceived
this as a sign of things to come and would have immediately began to retreat with his tail
between his legs, ashamed and depressed. $owever tonight was $. night, and no cashier
with a perfect body and pretty smile was going to ruin it for him.
"fter taking a moment to recollect himself, "le# swallowed his pride and opened the door.
Through the smoky atmosphere of the club, which was only lit by the flickering of strobe lights
in various colors, he could see a silhouette of bodies moving in union to the pumping music
that he now reali,ed was much louder than he had anticipated. "le# was awed by the fact that
the women appeared to outnumber the men. *verywhere he looked there were hot women in
se#y attire. $e had hit the jackpot, and it was worth the wait. "le# first headed over towards
the nearest bar to grab himself a Jack 9 :oke, which was his drink of choice. Drink in hand he
then proceeded to scan the room for potential targets, being very careful in his observations
because he thought that by choosing a woman who appeared to be alone he could ma#imi,e
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his chances of getting at least a phone number or two.
+ithin minutes "le# laid his eyes upon a brunette whom at first glance appeared to be very
open to advances and seemed to be alone. 6hysically this girl was flawless1 perched upon her
si# inch heels were long slender legs that lead up to a perfectly shaped ass gripped tightly by a
brown mini skirt. $er chest was averaged si,ed and fit nicely inside a blouse that revealed
enough cleavage to be se#y but not enough to give off the impression that she is displaying it
purposely. $er face was that of a model, she had near flawless bone structure, alluring eyes of
a rare green hue, beautifully shaped lips and hair that was wavy dark brown accented by a
particular shine that was hard to miss. This woman was the type that any sane man would
take for his wife.
"le# approached her.
Three hours later...
"fter being hastily dismissed by the brunette bombshell and a multitude of other women that
"le# had attempted to approach afterward, he began to slip back into the depression that he
has become all too familiar with. ;ow sitting in the darkest corner of the club, inhaling shot
after shot hoping that it will provide a temporary relief of the pain that he is feeling, "le#
began to curse himself for getting his hopes up. $ow could have been so stupid, mean
really believed that tonight would be different! he said silently to himself, give up, 'll just
leave the rest of my life for fate to decide.!
0eanwhile, "le# has been observing a group of guys in the 56 area for the past hour. They've
been laughing, popping bottles of champagne, inviting various groups of women up to their
table then swapping them out for another group of girls after telephone numbers have been
e#changed, have had the most beautiful women in the club sitting in their laps grinding on
them, and to top if off each of the men have kissed multiple women. These guys seem to have
it all figured out.
"le# hates them.
n "le#'s mind it just does not make logical sense. 0ost of those guys aren't as good looking as
him, so why do they have their pick of the litter while he only has a half empty bottle of rum
and the knowledge that he has yet another night to add to the list of those he would like to
forget< t's simply not fair, and "le# can't even stand to watch them any longer, he is disgusted
by the fact that those guys appear as if they live the high life regularly while he can not even
manage to have one single night of success. $e puts back one final shot and begins making his
way toward the e#it.
)n his way out of the club, "le#'s curiosity gets the better of him, he simply couldn't leave
until he found out e#actly what those guys have that he doesn't. +hat makes them so special<
-earing any more added rejection, "le# decided to ask the only person who would most likely
respond positively to his /uestions, if not for any reason other than the fact that "le# is a
paying customer and the man would be obligated to humor him. The bartender.
"le# approaches the bar, and half way there he begins to have second thoughts and stops
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himself. +hat if he thinks that 'm strange for asking about those guys< would if were
him! he thinks to himself. $owever, his need to know how that group of men are so
unbelievably successful with women overpowers all of his fears.
"le# cautiously steps up to the bar and asks Those guys up there really know how to party, do
you know them<! .ensing the hesitation in "le#'s voice, the bartender replies in a snobbish
tone "ll know is that they come in here about once a month and every time it's the same
thing. +omen, bubbly and their usual 56 table!. "le# could have guessed that, and it is not
the answer that he was looking for. Do you know who they are< "re they rich or something<!
"le# asked. don't know, all care about is that they tip well. think they all work together
on a web site or something! replied the bartender, then he added do know that they don't
pay for their 56 status, the owner's daughter has the hots for that one up there in the red
shirt, she always puts them on the list herself.! .till not satisfied, "le# comes to the conclusion
that the bartender isn't going to tell him what he wants to hear. 6lus he can tell that the
bartender is annoyed after being diverted from his work because his vocal tone is becoming
reminiscent of the way in which women typically talk towards "le# when they want him to
kick rocks.
"s "le# turns to walk towards the e#it even more depressed than before, he suddenly feels a
firm finger tapping him on his right shoulder. $e turns around to see the bartender holding
out a black business card with a glossy finish. "le# says +hat's this, let me guess you're going
to play a joke on me< t's supposed to be a hot woman's number, right<! +ith an unsurprised
look on his face, the bartender replies (ou wanted to know about those guys, didn't you< Just
take it. *very time they are in here find some of these cards near their table while we are
cleaning up, maybe it'll help answer your /uestions.! .till thinking it's nothing more than
some sort of cruel joke, "le# swipes the card out of the bartender's hand and leaves the club.
"le# had forgotten how cold it was, and now with the ever present knowledge of his night
being a total failure the harsh wind seemed to be even more amplified. During the walk
through the parking lot towards his car "le# took a /uick glance at the business card that the
bartender had given him. 6rinted on the front of it in a classy, yet professional font read the
words The 6aragon 6roject! and below that http1==www.paragonproject.com !. 8pon
flipping the card over to view the reverse side, half e#pecting to see a fake telephone number
below a woman's name, "le# was surprised to find only three letter's printed in a large, bold
font, T:!. This card was mysterious indeed, and raised even more /uestions in "le#'s mind.
+hat is this 6aragon 6roject< +hat does T: stand for<
$e was determined to find out.
The very moment that "le# arrived home at his lonely apartment, he immediately sat down in
front of his computer and visited the web site address that was printed on the front of the
card. +ithin minutes "le# was plunged into a vast new world that he never knew e#isted, a
world in which every man has e/ual ability to develop the skills needed to seduce and date the
woman of their dreams, regardless of their past failures, looks, money or popularity.
This new world that "le# had discovered felt alive, fresh and real. t felt like a new beginning,
and it was.
ronically, that night actually +". the night when "le#'s life took a turn for the better. t was
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that night when he began an all new journey that ultimately led to him living the type of
lifestyle that he always wanted and deserved.
$e began by reading this very book that you are reading right now.
This fictional tale of %le& is an e&am$le of the many sad stories that the mem"ers of The
Paragon Pro'ect hear daily. (ost men have trou"le with the o$$osite se& and as a result
allow themselves to settle for less than they deserve. )e are glad that you chose to address
this issue in your life and have this *rash *ourse in hand.
)hen you are ready, we will introduce you to The New +reed.
,our change starts Now-

By the way... Alex didn't drink and drive, he ended up calling a cab :)


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Part I
Inner Game
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The Trophy
Introduction to an Icon
Do you want to be a man who inspires others and demands attention?
To be a man who exudes excitement wherever he goes, and creates an
atmosphere of pleasure?
If so, this is the essential behavioral skill set you will have to
demonstrate to create the reaction you want.
The Realiation
!ocus on giving women what they want" #omen want a Trophy.
$%& are The Trophy"
The 'trength
(ust like your favorite sports team that weathers a tough season, and battles against all odds
to elevate its game, we must do the same. (ust like the team that had such Intense )onfidence
and could not be stopped as they took what was destined, we must push forward and earn
what we deserve. $ou too can be crowned champion and raise the Trophy above your head in
celebration as *#e are the )hampion+, rings in your ears, kissing the Trophy, as it shines for
all to see.
$our team is that of your ,ody, -ind and 'pirit. $our crowning glory is when you care for all
three, they will then unite and a revolution begins. This revolution will have others lineup to
be a part of your destiny. #hen you shine up that Trophy for all to see, they will want to be
close to it, they will want to touch it, everyone wants to be with a champion.
If you want to attain massive growth, it starts internally, then busts out of the seams, until it
flows freely so that others are overwhelmed by it. #e as adults tend to use our imagination
only to magnify negatives .how the world has gone bad, and everything is corrupted and evil/,
but you have a choice to use that imagination to empower you to a world that is positive. $ou
are the gatekeeper, and it is your responsibility to focus your energy in a productive and
positive way.
The ,eauty
There is a positive gift in every challenge that you face, and it will help you to achieve. 0arness
this power, like a running back .football/ looking for a hole in the line, bounce off of it, keep
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your legs pumping forward, find the hole and drive through it. $ou only stop when the game
is over and they are lowering you into your coffin. &ntil then you have records to break,
victories to gain, and to be celebrated for your vision that made the Trophy and your success
possible.
#e all have gifts and it is through their use, that you will gain the strut that demands
attention. I don1t care what 2ob you1re in now or what your current situation is. It is not where
you are from or where you are at, but where you are going that makes you The Trophy. $ou
will choose your direction, the height you attain, and the success you achieve.
The )are
In Ice 0ockey they have a full time attendant that travels with the 'tanley )up. #herever it
goes, he is there to protect it, to shine it, to take pride in it, and assure its safety.
$ou are that attendant, and you have to care for your future success. 3ot everyone is worthy of
holding the Trophy4 you will have to be selective and refuse most. If it wasn1t such a prie, it
would be of no value to anyone so you must be The )hallenge. 5veryone can look at the
Trophy but few can hold it and drink from it in celebration .Demonstration of 0igher 6alue
and 'tatus/.
'o understand this as I say it now, reward your ,ody for its hard work, feed your -ind for its
positive focus, and unleash your 'pirit for the energy it will give you. The love you have for
this 0oly Trinity will allow you to focus on attaining everything you can be, and will have
them fighting for a chance to be united with The Trophy.
#omen want The Trophy. They will do everything in their power to get it, hold it, love it, so
that they can be crowned )hampion. They are constantly competing for the best Trophy, the
shiniest Trophy, and if you don1t shine up your prie they will lose interest in your Trophy.
7s the attendant, you want the best female to win, you want her to celebrate, and sip from
your )up.
'he is the selector of which Trophy she will chase, but you as the attendant, are the one who
controls the lineup and allows her to raise the Trophy in victory, if she is the champion.
-ost guys don1t see themselves as the prie, and their success with women is reminiscent of a
roller coaster. #hen they are on .up/, all women love them, when they don1t have it, they have
none .down/. 'ome men even value themselves so low that they think no woman will ever
want them.
The Rock 'tar
Imagine yourself as a Rock 'tar. Do you think they take the scraps that other men do not want
or do they take the cream of the crop? $ou might say that they are famous, but that isn1t
exactly true. I toured with a small rock band in my youth, and my success with women was
due to my hesitancy at 2umping for the first one that came along. This elevated my value as I
wasn1t too eager, the lineup formed, and the competition began. It took many years before I
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actually learned what had made me successful in the early days.
The Test
The Trophy mentality is the keystone to success in life, and you won1t be taken seriously
without it. 8eople appreciate things of high value, and it is your 2ob to maintain that high
valuation. #omen will test your value, they have many suitors so they want to pick the best.
They use their power to full effect, and will say things that no man would ever dare say to you.
The fact is you love it, because women act like a Trophy, you love it so much that you shine
them up further, and put them high up on that pedestal.
#omen don1t want to be up on a pedestal, they want a man they can look up to. 'o if you want
to be with her, and spare her from a miserable existence with one of those abusive 2erks, you
have to show her how shiny you really are.
The 6alue
'o how can you show your value?
!irst you can start by not acting shy and nervous around women. This will only make her
nervous as she doesn1t know if you1re an axe wielding maniac or 2ust a plain old moron.
0ow would you act, if you were her Rock'tar? 7ct as if she is your kid sister or her bratty
friend. 3ow I know you love your kid sister, and respect her, but because you are much more
experienced than her, you won1t agree with everything she says. $ou will be matter of fact at
times, and you won1t let her have her way all the time .especially if she throws a tantrum/, but
because she is older now, you treat her like a lady. This is the way you treat women, with
respect when she shows it to you .mirror her actions/.
3ow I1m not saying you should berate ladies like some of those sibling rivalries I hear about.
$our kid sister is emotional so you don1t want to offend her too much, it is more of an all
knowing look, with the attitude, the cocky laugh and smile that borders on arrogance.
The Truth
7 Trophy doesn1t prove anything, he 2ust is the proof.
0is time is valuable, he has things to say that are on his mind and will pause along the way
because he owns the floor. 0e talks in a calm way, is not rushed although you hear the
excitement in his voice, and he remains calm even under outside pressure.
0e understands the more time he gives her, the more value she gains and the higher her
pedestal gets.
,eing the Trophy, your high status affords you the luxury of teasing her with your words .you
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feel comfortable with your value to say it/. It is how you test them to see if they are worthy.
$ou do not fall for her games and tests, but instead you use The %pposite to Turn the Tables
on her. If she asks what 2ob you do, or any other 9uestion in that vein to test your value, you
never answer with your resume. If you1re a #elder you can say, I play with fire for a living,
and you?
There are many ways to describe what you do without giving away your allure and mystery,
besides you are The Trophy it is her that has to impress you. 'o if she is a 8ersonal Trainer
you could say, Really youre a Personal Trainer, do you just train dogs or do you do cats
too? How Personal do you get with the dogs, do you potty train the too? $ou can play on
words to your hearts content, 2ust remember that you are the Trophy and not her entertainer.
0ave fun with it and laugh. Think !un, 3ot %utcome"
'o it1s time to break out of your old habits, change is the only constant in life. 7 Testosterone
Rock 'tar knows this, he only keeps the habits and beliefs that help him, he constantly is re:
evaluating what he deserves. 'o if you are used to going to certain places to meet women and
it is not working for you, change the places you go to. If a certain characteristic that you have
been role modeling doesn1t appeal to you, stop it"
#omen will test your value as a Trophy. They will ask you a lot of 9uestions to reinforce their
own value and you will start to hear and see it, but always remember that you are the Trophy.
'o when she says, !re you trying to pic" e up? $ou can answer with, #oure cute, $ut I
need ore $efore I will accept your telephone nu$er% $ou 2ust accomplished a few
wonderful things4 you said that you are the Trophy, and you used the %pposite on her, subtly
saying no to her phone number. This is the power to lead with The %pposite, this is what The
)hallenge is all about, and reflects that you are something special.
It is important to recognie when she is trying to feed her self esteem by challenging you to
chase in a conversation. 'he does this to see your value. It can be as simple as her mentioning
9ualities she looks for in a man or anything that will establish that she has high value and
expectations.
-ost men make the mistake of trying to tell her they have those 9ualities, thereby chasing and
devaluing themselves in the process. &se The %pposite, point to the ugly guy in the corner and
tell her, #ou have a lot in coon with hi, and that I will introduce you two and you guys
will a"e a suita$le atch, then laugh. #omen will often try and lead you. 7s a Rock'tar it
is you that has to lead, by Turning the Tables on her %pposite fashion.
The Temptation
#omen with high valuations of themselves will be bold. They know what men want, so they
will tease you with it. )onfident slow composure in combination with the %pposite will gain
you the result you want. I had an attractive lady recently start talking about how she had been
with another woman .threesome/. 0er expectation was probably for me to value her higher
and chase her. I did The %pposite. I told her that I had been there done that, but that the
women don1t like to share their toys. $ou can never share a good man. ,y saying no, and
maintaining your Trophy status, women will challenge you in a fun way.
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7s the Trophy, you will understand that you can use the way she behaves to illustrate that she
can1t handle you, or that she is not worthy. If she says sorry for something tell her, *It1s 2ust
not going to work out between us+ and that you want a divorce. 'ay this after you 2ust met her
or to the waitress who 2ust started serving your table and forgot something. 'he will
undoubtedly get a shocked look on her face, and you have 2ust raised your status.
The Trophy -entality
;. $ou are The Trophy
<. 'he wants you
=. 'he needs you to want her
>. 'he has to prove she is worth it
This mindset should set the stage for every encounter you have. 7ny attempt by a lady to
deviate from this course should be met with a tease and some sort of %pposite to correct the
situation.

If she says, !re you trying to get in y pants? 7 response of, &y pants are uch nicer,
and who says I sharing, is a great way to regain control.
The 8assion
Think !un, 3ot %utcome"
$ou are The Trophy mentality"
0ere is the 8layer -ission 'tatement4
The 8layer -ission 'tatement
The most important thing you can remember is to stay cool at all times.
The only person you have to impress is the one wearing your own shoes.
?ive life on your terms and go out to entertain yourself.
The others will see how good of a time you are having and will 2oin you.
Repeat until you see it in your mind@s eye.
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The Right Mindset
Introduction
While you are playing the dating game, one of the most important factors that plays a part in
your success is the current mindset that you are in. Most AFC men, when they make a moe,
are in the mindset that their appearance and how good they look will !e the deciding factor in
whether they get the kiss, the date or the lay. In "uite a few instances this mindset will een
stop an AFC from making an approach in the first place, thus giing them #ero chance of
getting anything out of the women at all.
The AFC Mindset
$ets first take a look at the thoughts that go through an Aerage Frustrated Chump%s mind
!efore he considers making an approach. In reality, chances are that there is nothing wrong
with the AFC%s appearance. &e is most likely an aerage looking guy, not 'rad (itt, !ut not
daffy duck either. &oweer he is still an AFC, which means he has #ero game.
"What if she doesn't think I'm good looking enough?"
"She's hot enough to get any guy, why would she want me?"
"I might run out of things to say, or even worse say something stupid."
"What if she rejects me in front of everyone? I'll e emarrassed."
"She proaly already has a oyfriend that is etter than me."
"What if she doesn't even take me seriously?"
These are )ust some of the things running through his mind. &e is in the mindset that he is
not good enough for her, therefore giing the women total control and putting her on a
pedestal !efore he has een had a conersation with her and really determined if she een
deseres any sort of praise at all* +he could !e the dum!est woman on earth for all he knows,
!ut yet he%s still so caught up on her ,!eauty, that he sees her as a goddess.
This is "uite o!iously not the proper way to approach -or contemplate approaching. women.
The (/A Mindset
0ow lets take a "uick look at the (ick /p Artist and the totally different mindset that he has
chosen to adopt. &e iews the world as !eing his own personal playground for seduction, and
understands that een though he may ,fall off, and get hurt occasionally, he only needs to get
!ack up for the fun to !egin again. The (/A truly !eliees that he%s the man and that )ust
a!out any woman would !e lucky to !e in his company. &e neer puts a women up on a
pedestal and he always remains in control of his relationships and social endeaors.
When he approaches a woman, he doesn%t intend on giing her any special treatment, he is
simply doing what he is doing and initing the chick along for the ride.
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&e could !e the ugliest man in the world, !ut looking at life from his type of mindset will
always get a women interested in him more than the AFC, een if the AFC is good looking.
I%m an AFC, &elp*
If you !eliee that you are an AFC, it%s time to change your mindset and get yourself some real
confidence and game. First off, looks don%t matter ery much at all. If you hae good looks
then it is a nice !onus, !ut if you don%t the sky isn%t falling, looks aren%t eerything. Any !eliefs
that you hae a!out looks !eing the deciding factor in whether you get laid or not need to !e
taken out of your head right now. Those are false !eliefs that are promoted !y maga#ines,
music ideos, moies and reality T1 shows that ironically are actually the furthest thing from
real on T1 these days, like the ,Real World, show on MT1.
2ame is all that matters. 2ame a woman right and she will !e eating out of your hands.
3ou need to !e the man in control. 3ou need to !e the man deciding who does what, where
they do it and how they do. If you want to !e ,the man,, then take charge and act like it. 3ou
should feel like any woman is lucky to !e in your presence haing a conersation with you,
and if they don%t !ehae properly you will remoe that priilege. Whether it !e the local 45
year old shopkeeper up the road or the ne6t !iggest supermodel, whoeer you are talking to
should feel like they are lucky that you are spending time with them*
After all, you%re ,the man".
3ou need to !e the person perched on top of the pedestal with women fighting for your
attention and affection, not the other way around.
Adopting the mindset of a (/A is the first step to !ecoming one.
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The Bad Boy Theory
FACT : Women are attracted to "Bad Boys"
Bad to the Bone
If you've watched any movie about a serial killer being on death row, you know that they
receive thousands of letters from lonely women claiming that they are in love with them, even
though they've never even met. Take Ted Bundy for example. This guy was a killer who
targeted women, but he was also a very effective seducer. Even after he was exposed as a
murderer and rapist he was still very attractive to women.
This is a very extreme example and by ! "E#$ am I telling you that by committing
horrible acts you will be more successful with women. I only use this example to show you %ust
how far the Bad Boy image can go, and even when there is clear and present danger to their
lives, women are willing to risk it because of the alluring magnetism that a bad boy
appears to possess. Bad boys are attractive to women for many reasons, and one of them is the
fact that they are an obvious threat.
They are a threat to women because they can make them do things and feel ways that they
normally would not.
They are a threat to other men because they are serious competition.
They are a threat to marriages because they will seduce a married woman and ruin an
otherwise happy home.
&omen are drawn to men that are threatening in this type of manner because it displays
power and confidence, as well as a sense of danger and excitement. The average bad boy
always seems to know exactly what he wants and is accustomed to getting it. &omen find this
almost so attractive that they can not control themselves.
Bad Boys 'reate Emotions
(ike I said earlier) bad boys are attractive for many reasons. !ne reason that stands out above
all others is how they can make a woman feel a wider array of emotions than the average man.
These emotions tend to conflict with one another, putting women in an emotional state of
uncertainty which makes them feel more *alive.+
Bad boys can make a woman feel any combination of these emotions at the same time)
,ear, Tension, Excitement, 'uriosity, $ecurity, (ove, $urprise, 'aution, -esire, #ttraction,
#we, $uspense, .ulnerability... and many others.
&hen women are forced to feel this many emotions at the same time they are never sure if
they actually hate it or love it. #ll they know for certain is that they don't want it to stop. This
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creates a very high amount of attraction because the bad boy is the source of these feelings
and being around him will guarantee that the woman will continue to en%oy these mixed
feelings that she is embracing.
It is for this same reason that women are so drawn to soap operas and reality T. shows. They
can relate to the emotional roller coaster that the characters go through, all while wishing that
their own lives were %ust as exciting and unpredictable. -ating a bad boy puts them in a
situation where they feel as if they will experience that type of lifestyle, so when one comes
along they %ump at the opportunity to get involved with him. To women this is viewed as an
*escape* from the boring repetitiveness of their current lives.
$o /ou &ant to Be Bad0
Becoming a bad boy re1uires that you master a combination of different skills and to describe
them all here would be futile since each and every one of them has been granted their own
section in this manual. Instead I will simply list what will help you gain the bad boy image and
why, then you can refer to the corresponding section in the book for details)
2roper body language 3 /our body language and how you carry yourself is important because
it is one of the only ways for you to display your bad self to women instantly and non3verbally.
/our physical appearance 3 4ow you dress, shave, and comb your hair is very important in
order to pro%ect yourself as a bad boy. This is the only other immediate way to show women
that you are this type of man.
5sing negs 3 egging women is a great way to come across as a bad boy, and it is one of the
most effective verbal ways of doing so. &hen you neg a woman she will immediately think
that you could care less about what she thinks, which is a tell3tale sign of being a bad boy.
2assing shit tests 3 ice guys always fail when they are tested by a woman, so by passing their
tests you will automatically gain the bad boy label. 2assing shit tests is something that you
should learn regardless of whether you are going for the bad boy image or not.
'ocky 6 funny 3 ' 6 , is also a good way to show that you have the bad boy mentality.
4owever, when you are trying to display yourself as a bad boy by using ' 6 , you should use
much more cocky than funny. Being too humorous will generally make you appear to be non3
threatening. To be a bad boy you need to retain the 7danger element.+
8ino 3 It is very hard to be viewed as a bad boy without the use of kino. Bad boys typically
have no problem touching women and most will go out of their way to do so. I recommend
that you use kino very heavily when trying to act like one.
2edestaling 3 Bad boys never put a woman on a pedestal) ever9 /ou should completely remove
any pedestaling tendencies that you have from your personality, because if you do not you will
ruin your entire image over this one small technicality.
'onfidence building 3 It's no secret that bad boys omit a great deal of confidence, which is
plain as day to anyone that they are near. If your confidence levels are currently low you
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should work on boosting them before trying to become a bad boy.
2ush 6 pull 3 Bad boys are notorious for their ability to push women away and having the
women only wanting to come back for more. This is why you should spend some time and
energy on mastering the 2ush : 2ull techni1ue.
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Jerks & Nice Guys
The Extremes
There are two polar extremes in the dating world: the nice guy and the jerk. One isn't etter
than the other and oth are de!initely wrong. "hile each o! these personality types do ha#e
$O%E positi#e traits, and & will discuss this alance thoroughly in the 'aragon 'roject ('')
ad#anced materials* here & will discuss what is wrong with the two.
The Nice Guy
The nice guy is the type o! guy who thinks what happens in mo#ies and !airy tale stories is
right* same as with how %om told him to e a gentleman and romantic. + typical nice guy
ne#er upsets a girl* always pays !or a date and ne#er calls a girl on her actions. ,e is romantic*
spills his emotions and is not e#en close to a challenge. Girls interested in a nice guy* which
will ine#italy e !or a short amount o! time* can o!ten expect !lowers* letters and tons o!
attention. The nice guy con!orms to the girl ecause she isn't a girl to him at all- she is a
goddess.
The Nice Guy's Tragic .law
$o where does this sweet romantic guy !ail* making this personality trait a heartreaking path
to disaster/ The nice guy !ails to e a challenge. 0ecause o! that* all his e!!orts are wasted in
the end* which is aw!ul ecause the nice guy tries so hard. Girls 1uickly get tired o! 2owning2
their man and playing the dominant role. 3hallenge does not occur* interest decreases* and
the nice guy is le!t with a stake eing dri#en through his heart. This is o!ten the worst scenario
to see* ecause the nice guy is le!t roken a!ter so much e!!ort* time* care and money. ,e was
also o!ten pedestaling her so he is e#en !urther crushed.
The Jerk
The jerk is portrayed as the jock who happens to e a ully. &n the mo#ies he always has the
hot girl* ut ends up losing her to the nice guy- in reality neither is true. The jerk doesn't get
the hot girl and she sure as hell doesn't run to the nice guy. $igns o! the jerk are an arrogant
hotshot* a guy who can't keep his mouth shut* and a guy who is constantly putting others
down. Other guys try to e!riend him to look cool* ut they too think he is nothing ut an ass.
The Jerk's Tragic .law
Jerks are too o#erpowering and too emotionally straining on the girl. "hile there may e
initial attraction due to his con!idence and indi!!erence* all attraction is lost when the girl is
constantly neglected and #ery little interest is returned in her. The girl may !ind his alpha
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male eha#ior appealing* ut there is no way she can put up with how the jerk treats her.
"hile the jerk deser#es what he gets* in the end the girls and the guys hate him.
,ow $hould Guys +ct/
+ alance is needed to a#oid the two polar personalities. Only the alance will create the
per!ect e1uation o! interest and challenge. .urther details on this alance and how to achie#e
it can e !ound in a '' writeup.
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Alpha Male Status
There are several things that you should do before striving to become the Alpha Male. The
Alpha Male is generally characterized as being the leader of his pack and winning over a lot of
the girls with little effort. He doesn't care what people say because at the end of the day he's
getting his. The people that are on his side far outweigh the people who aren't but most
importantly! the Alpha Male is cool.
"ool# $hat's that#
%ood &uestion. The answer is that cool is really all you need to
have the social life you want and desire. Half of cool is defined
by society and the other half is defined by you. 'et me give
some e(amples of the first half!
Being in a sweet rock band that does a lot of shows -> Cool!
Always raising your hand in class or kissing the boss' ass -> Not cool!
Standing up, o!ing a lot "ust to tell a short funny story -> Not cool!
#a!ing a rela$ed %&t is what it is% attitude -> Cool!
Anie -> Not cool!
'antasy(sci-fi !ideo gaes and trading cards -> Not cool!
#anging out with your girlfriend way ore than with your guy friends -> Not cool!
Always wearing the latest clothing and being )in style* -> Cool!
%ranted there a lot more things that aren't cool than things that are cool.
The second half of being cool is being comfortable with yourself. This half kind of overrides
the first half. )f you like your video games and story telling style it'd be bad to cover it up for
the sake of being cool. The uncool things are *ust things that cool people do not flaunt and put
out in the open for all to see. )f you love something that is considered uncool it's alright to still
indulge yourself from time to time but this is best done discreetly.
+or e(ample! ) love physics. ) really pay attention in class and ) know everything. ,et unlike
-erson . in my class ) don't care if everyone knows that or not. $hat does it mean to me# He
raises his hand all the time he answers and he's usually right. $ho gives a shit# /ow when
the teacher calls on me while )'m *ust doing my thing ) have the right answer. )'m never
wrong and ) make people think 01amn he's smart A/1 cool20
Another! ) have a friend who plays $orld of $arcraft for hours. )t's not the thing he'd start a
conversation with but if he was hanging out with his friends he wouldn't be ashamed to talk
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about how much he loves his /ight 3lf hunter etc. He's a pretty cool guy and he gets his fair
share of the girls. However his success would be e(tremely less if he were to constantly talk
about playing his video game when engaged in a conversation with a woman it's not cool.
Stand up comedians definitely move around a lot to tell their funny stories. However ) bet
when 1ave "hapelle is meeting some new people or hanging out with his friends he's not
running stand4up routines. That would *ust be unlike 1ave. ,ou know why#
5ecause 1ave "hapelle is cool.
As you can see these cool people wouldn't make their default Myspace pictures a picture of a
1ragonball46 character *ust because they are comfortable with themselves because that *ust is
not cool. )t's good to be yourself but only when it won't affect you in a negative way.
$hat 1oes That Have to 1o with )t#
"ool people are unaffected by things. They are themselves down to the core. 7ust because
someone likes anime doesn't mean that an anime character is by any means an accurate
representation of them. "ool people do not change with the weather.
%irl! Stick, you're such a "erk!
Stick! #ey, it is what it is! +,urning to nearby friend- .hat's up/ .hat's going on tonight/
)'m not saying that being a *erk is cool but it sure as hell is cool that ) said 0)t is what it is20
,ou see overacting8overreacting are some of the least cool things that a person could possibly
do. )f )'m going to tell someone a story about how funny the guidance counselor looks when
she walks ) can get some good laughs and be rated as funny and cool. However if ) overdo
my acting ) might *ust look ridiculous. %et it#
Say you're in someone's office and the window is open. The wind shuts the window and you're
startled and you almost fall off your chair and scream. ,ou look at the other person in the
office and they're completely chill like it happens all the time. $ho's cooler#
,ou guessed it. The guy that didn't give a shit.
The truth is that cool people and Alpha Males don't have to do much. Trying to individualize
yourself too much will very likely make you blend in with everyone else who is trying to do the
same thing. )f you take it even further you'll end up like the uncool startled man in the office.
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How To Be The Alpha Male That She Desires!
Can I Find One Thing That Will Make Women Want Me?
The answer is !S!
What "o# are a$o#t to learn is the most $asi% wa" to get a women to &all in lo'e with "o#( seek
"o#( and WA)T O*! I& "o#+re tired o& $eing le&t o#t while the ,erks and ri%h g#"s are landing
all o& the women( and "o# are read" &or a %hange( then pa" attention- In this se%tion "o# will
learn what "o# need to know in order to $e%ome an Alpha Male( the t"pe o& man that e'er"
woman stri'es &or- Women who do not end #p with an alpha male are the women who settle
&or less( and the" will alwa"s $e wishing the" had the looks or intelligen%e to get a $etter man-
Be the $etter man . get all o& the women-
The First( TH! A/0HA
In astronom"( it is the $rightest star in a %onstellation- Alpha is the &irst letter o& the 1reek
alpha$et- In %ommon parlan%e( alpha means to $e the &irst- !'en in religion whether it $e
0agan or Christianit" the 1od was o&ten %alled the Alpha( as $eing the $eginning- With %ertain
animals in nat#re( the leader o& the pa%k is %alled the Alpha( generall" in dominant animals
like Wol'es( 1orillas and /ions- We( as h#mans( are nat#rall" dominant as well( and while o#r
so%ial hierar%h" is m#%h more ad'an%ed than that o& animals in the wild( the $asi% prin%ipals
remain s"non"mo#s and we ha'e Alpha Males as well-
The /eader o& the 0a%k
Alpha Males are the g#"s who seem to $e leading the pa%k-
The" are the h#nters2 the e'er3relia$le males to whom the
other men are s#$missi'e to o#t o& either &ear or respe%t- The
Alpha male tends to $e take %harge in nat#re and is o&ten a
'er" %apa$le leader- In nat#re its king is the /ion- The Alpha
lion is in %harge o& his territor" and will prote%t his area with
his li&e- He gets all o& the &emales that li'e within the territor"(
and $eta lions will &ind themsel'es in a &ight &or their li&e i&
the" are %a#ght ha'ing se4 with one o& his lionesses- It takes o'er 5 h"enas to take down one
Alpha lion- He is in %harge and is dominant o'er his spe%ies and his entire en'ironment-
Some men are lions-
Wh" Do Women /ike Alpha Males?
Women not onl" like alpha males( the" desire and want them! The" ha'e this inner dri'e that
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attra%ts them to Alpha Males $e%a#se o& the power that the alpha seems to possess- His nat#re
o& taking immediate %harge o& an" sit#ation makes him irresisti$le- He is s#perior to all the
other reg#lar 6$eta7 males( $e%a#se when he leads( the" &ollow- All women want a man that
the" %an depend on to ha'e the a$ilit" to prote%t them in a sit#ation that demands it2 not some
wimp" man who &ollows her e'er"where( kissing her $#tt- Women lo'e alphas $e%a#se the"
are %on&ident in themsel'es- The" ha'e high so%ial stat#s and high sel& esteem- The alpha is
not a&&e%ted $" what others think o& him- He is alwa"s %ool and %olle%ti'e- The alpha male+s
high sel& esteem makes him s#re that he %an get the $est girl in e'er" $ar or %l#$ that he goes
to2 he literall" e4pe%ts women to want him- Th#s when an alpha shows #p( women tend to
magneti8e towards him-
The Alpha Male 0ro&ile
)ame9 Take Charge
Born9 To Win
At Work9 I'm %on&ident and get things done( I'm
the leader and others &ollow me. I'm admired
by &emale %o3works $e%a#se I am in %ommand-
At 0la"9 I'm in demand( I know how to make a
dull moment &#n. I'm not $oring( rather o#tgoing
and approa%ha$le. I'm not a&raid to tr" things.
Aro#nd others9 I'm respe%ted and so%ial. I live
in the present( am &#n to $e aro#nd. Beta males
often feel in&erior to me, yet still &ollow my lead.
Women want to $e aro#nd me-
Bod" /ang#age9 I keep my head#p( not h#n%hed
over. I walk %on&identl"( looks people in the e"es(
mo'e slowl"( and never get ner'o#s. My 'oi%e is
confident, smooth, and has a deep tone-
Dress9 I dress to impress( demand respe%t( smell good and am highly st"lish-
When with Women9 I'm not a&raid o& an" woman. I'm 'er" s#re of myself aro#nd women( not
&i%kle. I am sed#%ti'e and desired-
0ersonalit"9 I'm not the ;ni%e g#"; $#t also not a ;,erk; or a p#sh"( testosterone3dri'en
meat3head. I'm not a $eta wimp either- I'm a well ro#nded( dri'en indi'id#al-
Attit#de
Being the alpha male is all a$o#t attit#de and pro,e%ting the image that "o# are &#n to $e with
and the woman sho#ld want to $e with "o#- Being the alpha male is sel& perpet#ating- The
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more "o# $elie'e "o# are the alpha male( the more "o# will $e%ome the alpha male and other
people( espe%iall" women will $egin to noti%e-
Start TODA!
:e3train "o#r mind to present "o#rsel& as a dominant and power&#l man- That+s when women
will start to per%ei'e "o# as $eing worth" o& their attention-
Start toda" and $e%ome the alpha male that is inside o& "o#!
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Hey guys sit back and relax, I'm about to get metaphysical on your asses...
My Philosophy: Dudes Alpha Manifesto
I am an Alpha Male.
I am not an AFC and I am not a jerk. I am not a natural. I have learned. I have recently
discovered the error of my AFC ays. I have done hat I once thou!ht impossi"le. I have
"ecome Alpha.
AFCs
I do not look don on AFCs# rather I hope for the day hen they ill find the error of their
ays and dedicate to chan!e. $oever# I ill not actively try to convince them to do so% I
"elieve that they have to make the initial decision to chan!e this area of their life themselves
and to undertake their on path to success. &therise they ill not have the fortitude to
follo throu!h ith the lifestyle chan!es that must "e made in order to correct their ays. I
vie AFCism as a condition imposed "y society% mono!amous relationships provide sta"ility.
I do not "elieve it is natural. It is indoctrination hich "e!ins at preschool and continues
throu!h our daily lives% from our parents to television to movies to ma!a'ines to "ooks.
&n the other hand# henever I see a couple alkin! don the street ho are o"viously madly
in love# I do not pity or envy them. (ather I feel happy that to people have "een a"le to make
such a deep connection. )uch a connection is very rare# unless you kno here to look.
*erks
*erks are AFCs ho have deduced from trial and error that you have to treat +em mean to keep
+em keen. I feel nothin! "ut disdain for *erks and Assholes ho treat omen like shit and try
to mark their territory as a do! ould# puffin! out their chests and actin! a!!ressively ithout
provocation. ,y doin! so they are demonstratin! lo value and insecurity# and are tryin! to
ruin everyone elses !ood time "ecause deep don they kno they cannot attract omen ith
their personality alone.
As a player# it is not my jo" to treat omen "adly. I make them feel anted# and happy# and
!ive them pleasure. I have no need to feel jealous hen a oman flirts ith a jerk or an AFC#
"ecause I kno he has nohere near as much !ame as I do. I do not fear a omans test - I
look forard to and enjoy them. I travel throu!h this orld spreadin! as much happiness as
possi"le to the !reatest num"er of people% this I "elieve is the most satisfyin! type of life to
live. I do not "elieve it is immoral to date multiple omen. $oever# I "elieve that you must
"e .P F(&/0 ith them. Most of the time# they ill "e alri!ht ith it as lon! as you D&/0
1I2 0& 0$2M. 0here is no need to deceive. I do not corrupt. I do not steal 3unless it is a chick
ho is stuck ith a jerk4.
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)uccess
0he overall simplicity of the system# once you understand it# truly ama'es me# hile the
comple5ity of why it orks e6ually ama'es me. 0he confidence "arrier# once shattered# is a
complete joke. I cannot "elieve the num"er of si!nals hich omen are constantly !ivin! out
in order to try and attract men. I "elieve "ody lan!ua!e is 0$2 728 I/9(2DI2/0 to success
ith omen. I am a firm "eliever in natural !ame% !ood inner !ame means !ood outer !ame. I
am not selfish. I am an egoist 30here is an important difference% don:t "elieve the dictionary:s
definition4. I "elieve that the first love is self love# then family# then friends. At the same time#
I "elieve that charity to the needy is e5tremely virtuous.
0he Community
&ther Alphas are not to "e feared or envied. 0hey are to "e criti6ued. 0hey are to "e studied#
in order to "ecome a more learned person. ;e are all in the same clu"# and e must all pull
to!ether.
I am an Alpha Male.
I am not an AFC and I am not a jerk. I am not a natural. I have learned.
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Confidence: Bigger Than Seduction
Confidence is defined as the belief in one's self or one's abilities. Strong confidence leads to
success in all aspects of life, not just seduction. Because of that, it is worth discussing the
general applications and then specifying confidence in relation to the seduction world.
General Benefits
Being confident is viewed highly by all huan beings, not just feales. Confidence earns
respect in school, the wor!place, and faily life. " confident an does not have to worry
about being nervous and is not held bac! by doubt. The world's ost faous leaders have
had such treendous ipacts because they followed through with their decisions and
believed in their actions. Confidence is one of the !ey ingredients in becoing successful.
Seduction Benefits
Girls are attracted to "lpha #ales and being confident happens to be a huge personality
characteristic found in the "lpha #ale. Girls view a confident guy as the initiator, the leader
and an all around guy who is sure of his presence. $hen a confident an approaches a hot
girl as if he already !nows it will result in a positive outcoe, that girl doesn't stand a chance
to reject hi.
%eveloping Confidence
Confidence is a indset. &ou can't buy it, you can't steal it. 't ust be achieved entally
through baby steps. (irst, you ust iediately stop viewing yourself as inferior. 't is alright
to adit that you aren't confident at the oent, but you ust also reali)e that this will soon
change because you will #"*+ it change. +ven if you aren't too sure if it is possible, you ust
be willing to try and iprove.
,othing will ever happen unless you a!e it happen.
-nce the ind has been opened to this new state of thin!ing, sall increents should be used
to increase confidence. Create a chec!list of what a confident person does and loo!s li!e.
'nclude all details and e.aples. Ta!e one e.aple and achieve it each wee!. 'f a confident
person stands up straight, you stand up straight. "ll you have to do in one wee! is get used to
standing up straight. 'f a confident person tal!s without hesitation, then start tal!ing into the
irror without hesitation then ove on to friends and then on to girls. 't ay be a long
process, but you will eventually have chec!ed off each ite on your list.
But wait a second... 'f you have attained each detail of confidence that was on your list and
that is the epitoe of being confident, then aren't you now confident/
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&es, you are. "lso the fact that you achieved your goal by ac0uiring each of the traits that you
desired over tie is a display of how the ,+$ &-1 acts. &ou finished what you started,
because you believed in yourself. Confidence is nothing ore than having a great belief in
yourself.
Slow 2rogress
Before you !now it, 3+"4 confidence will have been achieved. $hile it ta!es baby steps and
you have to learn to crawl before you wal! 5stand confidently before you approach a girl
confidently6, once confidence has been achieved, all aspects of your life will iprove.
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The Confidence Graph
An Alpha Male trademark: The Alpha Male has an overall high, stable confidence level.
Let's say on a scale from one to ten the Alpha Male is always relatively at an eight in
confidence level no matter what happens.
The Beta Male will have an unstable confidence level which changes regularly depending on
what he is going trough at that time happy events will ma!e it go higher while sad ones will
bring it bac! down lower again. Thus it changes regularly.
"or e#ample if the Beta li!es a girl$ he will over analy%e anything that she says or does she
smiles at him$ his confidence level goes to a nine. The ne#t day she doesn&t call him bac!$ his
confidence level will drop down to a four.
True Alphas don&t let small factors li!e this have any influence on their confidence levels. 'ust
because an Alpha Male has the ability to control his confidence level and not allow it to be
affected by women$ his confidence level will fluctuate due to non(women related events.
)owever$ in most cases his confidence will only increase at times$ going above his normally
high average and then eventually leveling bac! out again.
This mindset e#plains the principles of *being tested+ by a girl ,she'll see if you can !eep your
cool under pressure and maintain a stable confidence level$ with or without her li!ing you-
and *over analy%ing+ ,trying to find a sign that she li!es you$ etc-.
To be an Alpha you must have this stable confidence$ at first you might have to fa!e it but in
the long run this mindset will settle in your system and you will have the real high and stable
confidence level that is needed to be viewed as an Alpha Male by others.
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Fear of Rejection
Rejection is Illogically Powerful
How scared would you be if you were forced into a boxing ring against a heavyweight
champion? Fear would be creeping through your body and taking over your mind !very
bone in your body is about to be broken so what do you do as he comes charging at you? "ou
run for your life
#ost of us will never be placed in that situation$ but all of us will be placed in a social setting
where we must approach girls in hopes of getting some %o if broken bones and pain conjure
up the fear that we would feel in the ring$ why are we so afraid of walking up and talking to an
attractive girl? It is very unlikely approaching a girl will result in any physical pain$ let alone a
broken bone$ so what is the worst that could happen? &he fear of rejection is felt by everyone
before a girl is approached$ but the successful con'uer that fear (fter all$ how can we be as
afraid of an attractive girl as we are afraid of a boxer?
Pretty illogical$ isn)t it?
&aking (dvantage of Illogical Fear
&he best weapon in fighting the fear of rejection is the fact that it is so I**+,I-(* &he fear is
being created as a mental byproduct of imaginary outcomes ,aining control and power over
these mental processes allows you to take control over the fear of rejection .arious
techni'ues and tools can aid this process$ as discussed at a more advanced level$ but the
biggest part of it is understanding how silly and stupid the fear of rejection really is
/hen debating whether to approach a girl$ guys foresee the girl being cold$ mean and
downright rude 0efore you give in to that fear$ how many times in your life has a girl been
extremely rude to you and how does that compare to the times girls have been sociable and
nice? (s long as your approach doesn)t involve something extremely creepy or socially wrong$
it is virtually impossible to continually get treated poorly
It)s all in your head
Part of overcoming the illogical nature is weighing the positives and negatives (t the worst
you get turned away and you feel kind of bad$ but doesn)t the best case scenario far outweigh
that? If you have strong game$ or hell$ if you)re just downright lucky$ in a few hours that girl
could be on top of you I would take even the slightest chance of a hot girl being on me$ in
exchange for possible minor rejections
1ust &hink (bout It
+ther dating gurus tell you to just do it 1ust tell yourself to go and do it 1ust count to three
seconds and do it 2on)t stop walking and don)t think$ just go /hat they don)t reali3e is how
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implausible that is if you experience a strong fear of rejection (fter all$ since this fear is more
powerful than a boxer charging at you$ it would be like telling a man to just do it and jump
into a ring with #ike &yson and get demolished
(ll I am asking you to do is think about it 1ust think about the illogical reasons I have laid
out &hink about the outcomes and the rewards &hink about how silly$ yet true the boxing
and approaching women comparison is &hat is the first step and half the battle For the other
half$ there are the advanced &I- techni'ues that you will learn when you are ready to become
a part of 4&he 5ew 0reed6
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The Ever-Deceptive Youniverse
Yes, I know How To Spell
To mankind as a whole, the spelling of the word universe makes perfect sense. However, from
the perspective of each person individuall, the spelling Youniverse seems to !e more fitting.
"h#
Simpl !ecause each person on earth, regardless of
how hum!le the ma !e, literall IS the center of the
universe as the see it. This is !ecause each and ever
one of our own realities !egin with us and e$pand
outward from our point of view, we are the center of
everthing as we see it. This is wh when we think of
things such as how large the world actuall is or how
man other people are on the planet, it makes us feel
small and insignificant !ecause we are accustomed to
!eing the center of our own small ouniverse, and
anthing that proves that to !e a false idea seems
strange and foreign to us.
This is what I like to call the %Youniverse Effect&.
Internal 'om!ustion
"hen a man is too enveloped in his own ouniverse, negative thoughts can creep into his
mind, producing an undesira!le effect which can ultimatel lower his level of confidence as
well as slowl diminish his inner game. If ou allow it to, the ouniverse effect will literall
destro our game ! eating it awa from the inside out. (or e$ample)
You've just gotten a fresh hair cut and are wearing a new outfit with some clean shoes to
match, you really feel and look like a million bucks. You go out expecting to have women
giving you looks left and right, but for some reason they still don't seem to notice you very
often regardless of the extra effort on your part.
This does *+T necessaril mean that ou are unattractive and that ou will never !e
appealing to women regardless of the effort that ou put in, !ut that is e$actl what ever man
that this has happened to was pro!a!l thinking to himself. In realit, nine out of ten times
these situations are nothing more than the ouniverse effect clouding our ,udgment, making
ou over-think things and then leading ou to !elieve a false idea. "omen ! nature are even
more inclined than men are to su!mit to the ouniverse effect, so them not looking at ou
regardless of how %fl& ou look is tpicall nothing more than a result of them !eing too !us
tending to their own ouniverse to notice what is going on in the world around them.
Simpl put) The are too !us worring a!out who is looking at THE- to !e looking at Y+..
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This is where those who trul understand how this entire process works can rise a!ove the
rest !ecause their knowledge will aid them in deflecting an negative thoughts that the ma
have a result of the ouniverse effect. / !eing aware of the wa that this force determines
how others act towards ou, ou will not alwas !e placing the !lame on ourself when ou
should not !e.
0nother aspect of our game that can !e severel altered ! the ouniverse effect is the wa in
which ou take re,ection. 0lwas remem!er this)
Nobody really cares or notices if you get rejected or if you make a small mistake that could
potentially be embarrassing. Everyone is much too busy being preoccupied with the goings
on in their own youniverse and will typically pay little mind to you unless you've already
stepped into their own reality or vice versa. You are only the center of your own world, not
everyone else's, making the chance of them noticing a mistake that you make slim to none.
It1s ironic how the phrase %*o!od cares& suddenl sounds like a good thing, huh#
If ou can !e one of the few men who can understand all of this and think outside of the !o$,
ou can then set ourself free from the shackles that !ind those who get too caught up in their
own ouniverse to reali2e that !elieving ourself to !e the center of everthing will do nothing
more than hold ou !ack. .nderstanding the fact that everone else is not focused on ou is a
ma,or leap forward in our development of a sturd foundation of inner game.
*o Ego Involved
+ne common misconception in our societ is that people who !elieve that the world revolves
around themselves generall have a!normall large egos. This is wrong, !ecause everone on
earth is affected ! the ouniverse effect to some degree, and we know that not all of them
have overinflated egos. This is important to remem!er !ecause even though !ecoming too
intertwined within our ouniverse can negativel affect our game, it is still essential to
certain other aspects of life, this is wh everone has it. (or e$ample, !elieving that ou are
the center of all things is a great survival skill as it keeps ou focused on our own !asic needs
and also reaching our goals in life.
"ithout the ouniverse effect, am!ition could not e$ist.
To 0void 'onfusion
If taken literall, this advice ma seem to contradict the alpha male mentalit that the 3aragon
3ro,ect heavil promotes. You are supposed to make everone that ou meet think ou are
special and that the world does revolve around our inflated, cock head, right#
'orrect, and this teaching is not meant to make ou want to change an of that. Instead, this
description of the ouniverse effect is designed to help ou reali2e within ourself that ou
reall aren1t the most important person on earth, !ecause thinking that ou are will do
nothing more than halter our success. You don1t have to show this to anone else or displa it
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to the world in an wa, the onl thing ou need to do in order to fight the ouniverse effect is
to understand how it works within our own mind, and not let it affect ou in a negative wa.
This is after all, an inner game theor.
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The 4 T's Rejection Chart
Cutting your rejections in half!
Rejected Again
Are you tired of being rejected?
You're out there in the field putting in a fair effort by asking out women but for some reason
you just keep getting cold signals or end up meeting women who are simply not interested!
You ha"e no choice but to ask yourself #$s it me? Am $ doing something wrong?#
%hat gi"es?
This can be really stressful for men especially when you are just starting out and ha"e finally
gotten your confidence le"els high enough to actually approach women! Rejection and the fear
of it are the number one culprits as to why some men simply gi"e up and decide they will
instead wait for lo"e to find them! &o what can be done about this?
'irst off before you go out there and approach women asking for their number a date or a
cup of coffee you need to look at the issue of rejection from a logical standpoint and
understand e(actly why it happens! )nce you'"e done that you can learn how you can
minimi*e your chances of it happening to you! Rejection is part of the game that we call lo"e!
%e need to know it identify it and work around it as well as keep on mo"ing forward if faced
with it and proceed on with our li"es unaffected!
To help us all gain a higher knowledge of why we get rejected $'"e broken initial rejection
down into 4 elements based on a sur"ey $ did personally! $ call it the 4 T's Rejection Chart!
Your +ercentage of Rejections %ill ,ecrease
You can eliminate a lot of rejection if you know The 4 T's and what to look for! -ost rejections
occur simply because the man did not take the time to obser"e the situation or interpret the
signal that the woman was gi"ing out! $f you don't know what signals to look for your success
rate on asking for dates will likely be about . in ./ simply because there is no way to
understand the signals if you ha"e no clue what they are!
$f you can clearly identify the 4 T's then your rate of success will increase! You can also a"oid
much of your rejections by using this knowledge to assess the situation and determine if an
approach would be the right thing to do! 0y knowing and understanding the 4 T's your
percentage rate of rejection should get cut cut in half! 'or e(ample you can go from 1/23/4
rejection down to 4/2454 rejection with ease!
)n the ne(t page you will see a chart that you can use to "isuali*e all of this and get a better
understanding of the sheer numbers in"ol"ed in rejection! This chart should also be a
testament to the fact that rejection is simply a part of the game that we all need to deal with!
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The 4 T's
Time or Timing
This is the biggest reason why men face rejection! $f you are rejected by a women for a reason
that falls into this category don't sweat it! This is because it is her problem not yours! &he
may ha"e had a bad day been fired been dumped got into an argument with a friend or
family member is not interested in a relationship is gay is just a bitch has +-& or all sorts of
others issues! 6o matter what the reason was the fact remains the same7
The timing was just not there!
$f you can sense that she is ha"ing a bad day or ha"e heard she is not interested in a
relationship at that time it's just best not to e"en pursue! The timing is just not right!
You can get hints from her body language that will tell you whether or not that moment is a
time that she will be open to a stranger approaching her! Are her arms crossed? ,oes she ha"e
a dull look on her face? $s she mo"ing around swiftly or fidgeting? There are many signs that
can tell you if your approach will be well2timed or not but the general rule is7 $f she does not
already look comfortable and happy forget about it!
Taken
This tends to be another big factor! The lady may e"en flirt with you and lead you on 8uite a
bit but she is already in a relationship with another man or has her eye on someone else! $f a
women is in the taken category she will tend to reject your ad"ances if not at first then she
will once you attempt to escalate the situation! Again if rejected don't take this personally!
&omeone else just beat you to her! +erhaps you will ha"e another chance with her later on
when she becomes a"ailable!
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Talking
&he seems warm! $n this category the women is generally a"ailable and ready for a lo"er or
relationship! The best things to do to the talking types are instantly show 'indicators of
interest' $)$ and then mo"e to a 'statement of interest' &)$! 9et a date set up! :ery rare will
you get rejected by a talker!
Totally $nterested
These are the girls who are not in a relationship are looking and wanting lo"e or se( or maybe
e"en a ;TR! &he will make it clear to you her interest and your odds of rejection here are
e(tremely slim!
The )dds %ill Come -ore into Your 'a"or
6ow that you know and understand the 4T's you can eliminate up to 5/4 of your rejections
simply because you can now obser"e the women that you are going to approach and make an
educated decision as to whether it would be in your best interest to approach them or not! You
can also feel better now when you do get rejected because you understand that it is not really
your fault and there are many other factors that determine if your initial approach will be a
success!
-ost of all rejections come from the first two T's Taken and Timing! $f a women falls into
one of those categories you are near guaranteed to be rejected! Thus to a"oid rejection for
those reasons should be much easier for you now and your o"erall rejections will decrease! $f
it appears as if she has a 0' mo"e on! $f she is in a grumpy mood go to the ne(t girl instead!
$f she is wearing a #9ay +ride %orld %ide# T2shirt odds are she is not interested in what
you'"e got in your pants anyway so forget it!
0y remembering the 4 T's when you're out there asking women out it will lower your odds of
rejection substantially and also make you feel much more comfortable with the entire concept
of being rejected so you can stay on top of your game e"en after being shot down!
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Pedestaling
The average man's downfall...
So the Story Begins
Imagine for a moment that you are an aspiring basketball player with dreams of one day
making it big and getting drafted into the NBA...
The letter comes through your door, "Congratulations and welcome to the Chicago Bulls.
ou !ump for !oy, you"re in# All that hard work on the basketball court has been worth it,
you"$e finally earned a contract with the basketball team you ha$e supported since you were
!ust a boy wearing your %ordan !ersey#
Nothing could top this feeling.
So you step out on the court for your home court debut in front of &',''' screaming fans,
who are waiting to watch in ama(ement as you show off your skills and take the crown as the
hottest new rookie in the NBA. ou oblige and score )& points, thus solidifying yourself as a
man that can *li$e up to the hype+ and deli$er as promised.
Afterward you head home to watch Sports ,enter, and of course you are the main man on the
bo-. our game winning ./pointer is being shown o$er and o$er again. ou are on top of the
world and nothing can beat how you are feeling at this moment.
ou're a star, you did it#
0ather than 1uit for the night and get your well/deser$ed rest, you !ust can"t seem to lea$e the
basketball alone. ou put on your kicks, grab your ball and head outside to practice some
more, thinking of how you can come up with the ne-t big trick that will ama(e the crowd.
ou don"t warm up properly beforehand because at this moment you feel almost in$incible.
Besides, you"re one of the best basketball players in the NBA now, you don"t need to warm up
like the *normal guys+ do. As a result, you end up tearing your right ligament by landing
incorrectly while doing a simple layup. 2ith you on the court the Bulls would ha$e won the
title, but they don"t because you were in!ured and missed the rest of the season.
34 5AI6, 7A89 3:90. 2as that e-tra hassle on the court really worth it;
I Thought This 2as About 2omen
2hat does this ha$e to do with the game and picking up women in particular; 2ell let me re/
write this story, dating style...
ou get the te-t message through to your mobile phone, "Great, see you Saturday. ou !ump
for !oy, you"$e done it. ou"$e !ust bagged a date with the hottest woman you"$e e$er laid eyes
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on# All that time practicing your game and working the field was worth it, and if you play your
cards right Saturday night, you will get laid#
ou step out of the house, looking like a million bucks and smell like a million bucks to match.
our game is top notch.
The date goes well and she is ob$iously into you, right now you are the man she has always
dreamed of. ou take her back to your house and things go far, $ery far, and you hit that dime
like there is no tomorrow. She lea$es the ne-t morning thinking that she has found the perfect
man. ou take a shower remembering the night before, and you can"t stop thinking about her.
ou ha$e only been gone from her for about < minutes. To you it seems like < hours so you
decide to send her a te-t message telling her how much fun you had the night before. She
doesn"t reply. It plays on your mind so you te-t again.
No reply.
6ater on and still no sign of her. Negati$e thoughts begin to run through your mind, so you
call her up and lea$e a =300IB69, N99> message on her answering machine.
our phone beeps, you check it. The te-t says "Thanks for a great night, ut ! don't think we
should see each other again. ! "ust need some s#ace right now, ! need to e free."
9$erything around you crashes down. "$hat did ! do wrong%" you think to yourself. ou te-t
back, asking for another chance, telling her she"s a perfect women, e$en saying you 63:9 her#
To you, this is the stuff she wants to hear.
To her, you"$e !ust become a creep who has no game at all.
34 5AI6. 7A89 3:90. 2as that e-tra hassle on the phone really worth it;
See the resemblance now; 0ather than 1uit while you were ahead, you !ust had to push the
buck T33 far and screwed up. 2ell done idiot#
2hat is This; 2hy >id I >o It; =ow >o I Sol$e It;
This term is for this relationship/ruining beha$ior is commonly
known as Pedestaling. Pedestaling is the downfall of many guys in
the game, and most players ha$e all been there at one stage in their
li$es. =owe$er, we learn from this e-perience, warn the other guys
and mo$e on to 8A?9 S409 IT N9:90 =APP9NS A7AIN.
2hen you Pedestal, you put the girl you are seeing up on a Pedestal.
ou think that she is the most beautiful girl you ha$e e$er seen, you
think that she is a princess and you focus on her and only her. ou
can"t be without ha$ing her in contact with you at all times someway
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or somehow and by doing this you lose your game, your balls, but most importantly of all...
ou lose =90.
2hen you first pick her up you ha$e the player mentality. ou are the pri(e, S=9 has to work
for 34. 2hich is how it should be. =owe$er as things progress, the roles are re$ersed@ she
becomes the pri(e and 34 end up fighting for her affection.
This is not good.
So how do you sol$e this; 2ell, first when you are with her remember to always keep the
game flowing, find her bad points and focus on those so she doesn"t seem as beautiful
anymore. Another more effecti$e way, one which a true player uses is to ha$e more than one
woman around him. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so don"t stick to !ust one. Playing the
field is not a bad thing, and it"s not socially wrong at all if you ha$en"t committed to !ust one.
2hen you ha$e more than one woman around you are not focusing all your attention on her
and therefore you are much less likely to pedestal.
ou won"t ha$e the time to gi$e her all of your lo$e and affection because you"ll be too busy
spreading it around @A ou"ll also ha$e something else to fall back on if things go bad.
The general rule to follow here is@ If you currently ha$e no woman that you call your
*girlfriend+, then you are allowed to date as many women at a time as you want. Belie$e it or
not, single men who do this get the best of both worlds@ They ha$e more fun while they are
single because they date many women, and they ha$e better relationships because when the
time comes to choose a girlfriend they ha$e many options and can select a woman that they
are $ery compatible with.
9arn the right to be selecti$e, then use it. Better yet, abuse it.
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The Friends Zone
A Bermuda Triangle of Love
Introduction
One of the most common themes of men that come to the seduction community looking for
help is that they always wonder why the one girl they talk to all the time, console, and who
they always treat so nicely only considers them as a good friend and nothing more. Despite
doing eerything that their mothers hae taught them to, this girl only thinks of them as a
friend.
Does this sound familiar!
In the dating lies of many men, pro"a"ly yourself included, you hae seen a woman say to a
man, You are a great friend, and I dont want to ruin the good friendship that we have.
This o"iously means that the intimate feelings that you feel for her are not mutual. #y now
you$re pro"a"ly screaming, Wh! What did I do so wrong! I was the perfe"t gu# Don$t
worry, read on my wayward son%
Does This &ome 'ith ( )*+!
I$m sure that you$re asking the ,uestion- $ow do I %now if Im in the friend &one! There are
signs of this, so you don$t need the latest )armin deice to determine your place in a woman.s
mind. +ome of these signs are- if there are no IOIs, if she neer engages in kino with you, if
she neer talks in a se/ual manner with you or if she denies you something such as a kiss, se/
or een a date. The most o"ious is her calling you a friend and her doing friendly things
rather than intimate things with you.
0ucky 1ou
If this description fits you to a T, and you e/pect me to tell you some magic thing to say
that will make her stop thinking of you as a friend and want you romantically, then it is not
your lucky day. This is one of the most important things that you will hear when it comes to
women, so make sure you get this down pat- Let this girl go..
This is also a ma2or pedestaling issue and goes hand3in3hand with approaching the interaction
the wrong way, "ut we will touch on all of that later. 'hat you hae done with this girl is
hands3down the "iggest mistake that men today make when it comes to women4 you hae
fallen into the 0et$s 5ust #e Friends Zone, or 05#F Zone for short. If you total your car, it is
much "etter to "uy a new car instead of spending much money on repairing one that won$t
work well again anyway, and "eing a "etter drier is also a must to aoid the same thing
happening again. The same principals hold true with the 05#F Zone.
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#efore we get into how it works and how to aoid it, you must first understand that when you
hae entered this 6one with a girl, you are no longer the high alue male that would not "e
concerned with one woman out of three "illion. Instead, focus on finding one or more who are
ten times "etter than her, and once you stop pedestaling, you will reali6e that it is much easier
to do than you think it is. That is what a true alpha male of high alue does and is the "est
possi"le thing to do in this situation.
7oweer, this isn$t what you wanted to hear, is it! 'ell, if you insist on gaming that girl een
after my warning, read along.
'hy &an$t 'e 89OT: #e Friends!
'hen a girl says that she wants to 2ust "e friends, that translates to- You havent "reated
an attra"tion. I dont want an intimate relationship with ou, 'ut I dont want to hurt ou
and "ould use another pet, so( lets 'e friends# in girl lingo, which is mainly emotional.
#asically, if she says this, you hae "een giing her too much attention and you are "eing way
too nice to her. 1ou.e neer teased her, you were too close to her and you simply didn$t create
any attraction; 'hen I say you were too close, you were pro"a"ly "ugging her a"out
eerything she was doing. 1ou were "eing creepy and wanting to know too much way too fast,
and you were discarded from the potential loer "in and sent into the dreaded friends 6one.
<oing (way From The Friends Zone
There are arious ways to moe away, howeer the simplest and most effectie method is
aoiding contact.
1es, to aoid contact; 'hen I say this I mean that you shouldn$t gie her your attention for
awhile and get "usy with your social life that doesn.t inole her. +he isn$t your life, so don$t
make it that way; )o out to hae fun and don$t worry a"out what happens while you$re out
liing your own life. It.s her fault that she is missing out on all of the fun, not yours.
( good friend of mine and great mentor always says, Thin% fun, not out"ome# If you 2ust do
that instead of always o"sessing oer her and making her your life 8in the process, "ecoming
her friend$: then you will create that necessary space of dou"t in her mind. If someone was all
oer you, chatting you up eery day and then they suddenly "ecome non3e/istent, would you
want to know why!
Of course you would.
)uess what! )irls are no different. 1ou should talk to other girls, hae fun, and when you do
see and interact with her again, "e a totally different person. #ecome the tease, neg her on
how she has lost her style since you last saw her or how she can still improe her figure. Don$t
"e a suck3up and a pushoer, and in turn you 'I00 get results.
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7istory 0oop
I$m sure you hae all heard the saying 7istory is doomed to repeat itself unless learned
from. If you$re not a history "uff, don$t worry. (ll you hae to do is know why these girls
think of you as nothing more than a friend, then proceed to correct that pro"lem. The first
thing you need to understand is that women desire a high alue (lpha <ale. The main reason
why men fall into the friends 6one is ery simple- the man does not act in an (lpha manner.
7ere are the most common e/amples of that-
= #eing too easy 3 )irls like a challenge, and playing cat3and3mouse along with "eing the
high3alue male is necessary to create attraction and aoid the friends 6one. 'omen want
what they can$t hae, and the opposite holds true as well.
= )iing her too much attention 3 'hen it comes to creating attraction, you need to show that
you are of high3alue and that you hae a life%or at least make her think that. 1ou are the
male of the relationship, she should "e concerned a"out you4 you shouldn$t "e leeching onto
her all of the time.
= 9ot creating attraction 3 This includes "eing a wuss3man. 'hen you don$t do things such as
playful teasing, kino, creating romantic i"es and instead are too nice all of the time, you will
neer create any attraction.. #uying her constant gifts and giing her fake compliments falls
under this category as well.
= #eing her pro"lem3"oy 3 'hen men hae long talks with women, especially a"out their
pro"lems, they think that this will "ring them closer to that woman. This is true, you will
"ecome her "est3friend and she will "ring all of her pro"lems to you. The pro"lem, you ask!
That she will "e crying to you a"out the alpha3male she is sleeping with. )irls don$t wake up
one day and magically hae feelings for their "est3friends, it 2ust doesn.t >?>@ happen.
Forget a"out eerything you.e watched in the moies. The nice guy will neer get the girl at
the end "ecause the girl will neer hae an epiphany and finally reali6es that he was the right
one for her. This does not happen in the real world, so "anish that crap from your mind
immediately and neer allow it to creep "ack in. In the real world it.s een "etter to treat a
woman like she is worthless than it is to treat her like a princess, this is an e/treme e/ample of
course, "ut it is still the truth. Finding a middle road "etween nice guy and 2erk is ideal.
7ow to (oid the 05#F Zone and &onclusion
1ou now know that the 05#F Zone irtually spells disaster when you enter it, and although
there are ways to get out of it they re,uire much time and effort. >en then the odds of success
are monumentally lower than simply starting oer with a new girl.
<oral of the story! Don$t get anywhere near it;
0uckily for you, it is terri"ly simple to aoid the 05#F Zone. It doesn$t mean you hae to "e a
total prick to her, or anything close to that. It doesn$t mean a"using her and treating her "adly
either, as those will get you into serious trou"le in all sorts of ways. It simply includes "eing
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the alpha male and creating enough attraction that you will "e iewed as a potential se/ual
partner instead of a friend. Ase all of the techni,ues and knowledge you hae learned thus far
and this will "e an easy goal to achiee.
Don$t "e her man3serant, don$t "e her tissue, don$t "uy her things like you would a spoiled
child. (ll of that will only make it appear as if you are trying to "uy her affection, a low3alue
techni,ue. If you want to "uy her something, make it creatie and personali6ed and do it ery
rarely "ecause you '(9T to, not "ecause you are trying to impress her. +how her that you
hae a life and that it doesn$t reole around her- it reoles around 1OA. <ake yourself the
o"2ect "eing chased, not the o"2ect chasing. If you do all of this successfully, the 05#F 6one
will neer "e an issue in your interactions with women in the future.
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Appearance Basics: Looking Good
Introduction
I am about to reveal a secret that magazines, commercials, and your lady friends will never tell
you: eactly what you can do to improve yourself visually!
"roof:
I, 'Youngcasual' personally went from a 5.1 to a stunning Stud of a 8.7 in less than a week
according to !11 women's "otes to my #efore and after photos on hotornot.com$
#hile reading some of the other books available on the market or browsing some of the
message boards in the seduction community, you will most likely have heard the phrase
$looks don%t matter$ a multitude of times! &ell, if you%re ugly, that is probably what made you
buy the product or visit that web site in the first place'
(ow I don%t want to be the guy to piss on your bonfire, but looks )* matter, and anyone who
tells you differently is only after your money! &owever, the good news is that +*, have total
control over how you conduct yourself and +*, can control the ma-ority of what you look like
through continuous self improvement!
)on%t misinterpret this! Looks matter very little compared to other aspects of a player%s game,
but they still matter! And every bit that matters is still worth improving so that is why the
issue must be addressed!
Let%s .ort *urselves *ut
If your physical appearance is something that you need to sort out and improve, I%m sure
you%ve been in a situation like this: +ou%re hanging out at the bar in a club and watching a
naturally good looking guy pick up the dimes, all while thinking to yourself $I%ll never be able
to do that because I%m ugly!$ &ave you ever thought #&+ he%s good looking and #&+ you
aren%t/ If you have, then you most likely came to the conclusion that he was simply blessed at
birth with better genes than you and as a result has a more striking physical appearance,
correct/ +ou could be right, but in most cases that is only part of the answer!
I%ll tell you eactly why an attractive man is that way!!!
&e takes "0I)1 in his appearance! &e spends time and effort choosing the right clothes, he
keeps himself healthy and in shape! &e keeps his hair, nails, teeth, and everything else in
control! *n the other hand, we have you! )irty and ripped shirt, scruffy unwashed and
uncombed hair, pot belly! +ou may identify yourself with other reasons, but do you see where
I%m coming from/ If you cut, washed and combed your hair, ate right and eercised, made
sure your clothes fitted properly and kept everything related to your appearance in check at all
times, you too would look good! It%s more about looking your best than it is about looking
good naturally! .omeone who is naturally good looking wouldn%t be attractive at all if they
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didn%t put in the effort to keep their image at top notch!
.ure, you could go out right now looking ugly and pull a girl, because game is all that matters,
but why would you want to/ +ou would never be able to get a girl that is maimizing your
potential unless you look your best! 2rue players keep themselves looking good, and it gives
them etra confidence which guarantees them that they will be able to perform to the best of
their ability!
2hings to )o!!!
(et time you%re in a club, check out the guys that are getting all of the women! #hat is their
hair like/ &ow are they dressed/ #hen you watch movies and 23, what type of hair style do
the actors have/ #hat are they wearing/ Buy some magazines, check out their hair! #hat are
the current hot styles/ &ell, if you have any girls who are your friends, get them to help you
achieve a new look that will increase your se appeal! #omen L*31 to dress up guys, and
they do a great -ob at it because they will pick out stuff for you that they would be attracted to!
(o one knows anything more about fashion than a good looking women! 2hey are usually
always in touch with what is in style at the moment!
Although you do want to dress similar to the guys with a fashion sense, you will also want to
be uni4ue and add something original to spice up your outfits!
+our hair is also an important thing! I5 you don%t already constantly get compliments on your
hair then it%s time for a change! Get down to your local hairdressers and have a look through
some of the books! Look for a style you think you would like and have a chat with your barber
to see what he recommends you go for! If it%s a female hairdresser that is even better! 2hey
have a knack for these things!
+ou will need to consult an epert about this, as you want a style that will look good on you
and match your head shape 6 you don%t want to end up looking like a peanut! If you have a
s4uare shaped head then you should consider a short cut with a messy look 7Brad "itt8 or a
long cut that is brushed back away from your face 72om 9ruise in :I ;8! If your head is long,
oval, or rectangle then you%d look best with a very short cut such as a fade 71minem8 or a
long<medium cut styled so some of your hair falls towards your face! If you%re sporting a
triangle shaped head, then you%d look good with a short<medium cut 7=ustin 2imberlake8! If
your head is pear shaped then you should consider a medium length cut that adds bulk to the
top of your head to visually even it out!
1veryone is different, and there are many other factors to consider when choosing which hair
style will best compliment your features! 2hese are -ust a few good basic guidelines to follow
and get you started! 9onsulting with a professional will always be your best bet because they
will be able to make the best choice when looking at you!
2o )o%s > (ot 2o )o%s
+ou will want to make sure that your clothes match! If you look like a human rainbow then
you are going to look like a bit of a freak! :ake sure the colors all complement each other in
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one way or another!
+ou will also need to make sure that your clothes are clean and ironed! 2he worst thing you
can do is to leave the house wearing dirty, disgusting, filthy, stained, creased and wrinkled
clothes! If a chick sees that, she is going to think that you have no sense of pride and no
respect in yourself, and if you can%t even keep your own appearance in control, how the hell
are you going to control anything in your relationship! +ou may only be after se, but girls
think way beyond that' 2hey will not have se with you if they deem you as having no
relationship potential!
Believe it or not, the shoes are the most important thing in your outfit! +ou need to make sure
you have a nice 9L1A( pair of kicks and keep them in the most impeccable condition
possible, ALL 2&1 2I:1! 2rust me on this!
?eep them free from scratches and dirt, and it might be a good idea to have more than one
pair! If you currently don%t have a pair of shoes that looks new or nearly new, I suggest you
head to the mall and grab yourself a new pair immediately!
If you are a little overweight, then it won%t be the worst thing you can do in your life to shed a
few pounds! If not only for the benefits of your appearance, then for your overall health in
general! Get down the gym, do some cardio training, lift some weights, and start eating some
food with nutritional value! If you want information about losing weight or gaining muscle
then it isn%t hard to find the material! #e have a great section on our forums with a few in6
the6know people that would be glad to help and train you personally!
If you%re one of our readers who happens to be drinking from the fountain of youth and you
have acne, then have a word with your doctor about getting some pills to clear it up, because
the stuff on the shelves in the supermarket usually won%t do the trick of ridding it! +ou will
waste a lot of money buying normal acne products, when all you need to do is see a
professional and get a good prescription product that is perfect for you!
Believe it or not, women notice all of the small stuff, so one thing you need to make sure of is
that you have sorted out your fingernails! 9hicks hate a guy with dirty fingernails so keep
them clean, and avoid biting them! If you do have a nail biting habit then get down to your
pharmacist and get something put on them that will help you break this habit 6 it works
wonders and will benefit your overall appearance!
#ell that%s all folks! 0emember, if you don%t have the good looks, then you 9A( still attract
women, -ust not the kind you could with the added bonus of looking your best! @uite a bit of
your appearance is self controlled 6 your hair, weight, style and hygiene! .o get off your ass
and sort yourself out! Give the girls the whole package 6 the game and the looks!
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Female Body Language
No doubt many of you can look back on your AFC days
and see times where a girl would do something weird
around you and you couldnt understand why. You
should now know that many ways that women display
interest in men are different than the ways that men
display interest in women and that they are easily
identifiable to the trained eye.
As men we are not especially good at picking up on subtle signals. !ur original "ob was to go
out hunting to gather the food and to fight off the #abre$tooth Cats. %omen on the other
hand play a much more social role in any society. &hey care for the children so they ha'e to
be able to know what emotional state a child is in in order to best care for them. #ince children
do not begin to speak clearly until they are ( or ) years old caring for children at a younger
age relies hea'ily upon identifying a child*s emotional state through its body language. !n top
of this women must be able to deduce whether other members of the society are de'ious or
not in order to ensure that her children are not left in the company of someone who would do
them harm. &hus women are naturally better at picking up on subtle threads of information
in social interactions.
Female Attraction
%hen a women sees a man that she is interested in she cannot "ust go up to him and tell him
that she is interested. &here are se'eral reasons for this+
,-. #he does not want to e/pose herself to a potential mate if she doesn*t know if you are the
type of man who will stick around and care for her after she gets pregnant ,this is why good
looks in men are not as important for women as it is 'ice 'ersa..
,0. #he does not want to be percei'ed as being easy by the rest of the community. &his lowers
her social 'alue among her friends and means that she is more likely to carry disease.
,(. #he wants a man who is confident and takes the initiati'e+ the prime 1ualities of an Alpha
2ale. #he also needs to know that her man will protect her in situations that demand it.
3irls display interest to men in non$'erbal ways. &hese are known as 4ndicators of 4nterest
,4!4s.. %hat 4 am going to focus on is the 4!4s which girls gi'e out often subconsciously
when they notice a man to whom they are attracted. %hilst girls will do it when you flirt with
them they will also do it when they first see you and they like what they see. &hey telegraph
their interest with subtlety5 they pro'ide the key to unlock the door if you will.
6nderstand that they want you to take the initiati'e+ its their first test.
4f you ha'ent got the balls to engage them in con'ersation they will relegate you to their list of
betas5 in other words they will reali7e that you are AFC and will lose interest. 8ery rarely will
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women try to pick you up o'ertly and the ones that do are going to be of a 'illage bicycle
mentality understand9 Not necessarily the best bike in the shop either...
After reading many articles on this topic and my e/perience in$field 4 will try to consolidate
some of the important points in this section regarding this preliminary stage of the human
mating dance.
Back in my AFC days 4 had some semi$good body language so it would happen to me
occasionally. As my game has been ad'ancing 4 ha'e begun to notice many non'erbal signs
which women gi'e out and men "ust dont seem to notice. &here is such a wealth of
information out there which will tell you more about a person than e'en they themsel'es
know girls and guys alike. !nce you can recogni7e these non$'erbal cues it will boost your
confidence because it is as if the girl is coming up to you and saying :4m into you.; 4t makes
the approach that much easier. <ust go out one day and watch all the people you see you will
be ama7ed=
Basic #ignals
&hese are some signals 4 ha'e noticed many of them relate to a woman being ner'ous in your
presence+
,-. >laying with her hair. You will see it e'erywhere and 4 mean ?8?@Y%A?@?. 4ts
endemic. %hen they do this women are basically saying :4 want to be noticed.;
,0. #wi'eling her head like in one of those shampoo commercials.
,(. >laying with her pen ,clicking it incessantly. or wringing her hands.
,). &apping her feet or drumming her fingers.
,B. Crossing her legs but in con"unction with other 4!4s.
,C. Looking at you then turning away 1uickly5 eyes darting all o'er the place when you look at
her.
,D. &alking 1uickly and nonstop5 saying nonsensical things.
,E. Laughing loudly at something that isn*t 'ery funny.
,F. 2o'ing her body in an e/aggerated fashion.
,-G. &ugging down on her shirtHblouseHdress in order to show you how thin she is ,a
byproduct of modern society*s obsession with thin women..
,--. Last but not least kinoing you. #ometimes a more confident woman will come up to you
to ask for something and touch you on the arm or where'er. 4f this happens ?#CALA&?= #he
is ob'iously comfortable enough in your presence to touch you. &his usually happens only if
you ha'e displayed high social 'alue before you ha'e met her.
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#he makes some of these signals because she is ner'ous some because she is "ealous and
some because she wants to get your attention.
&here are many more but you ha'e to really get out there and e/perience them it cannot be
learned by rote alone and neither can your reaction. 4t can also depend hea'ily upon the
conte/t. #he may be ner'ous about something else so you need to try and figure out if she is
ner'ous because of you.
Aas a woman e'er sat down ne/t to you for no reason played with her hair and maybe te/ted
someone on her phone then gotten up in a huff and left after only a few minutes9 2ost likely
she was waiting for you to hit on her my friend and you didnt e'en know itI
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Speaking: Mind State, Tone, Delivery and More
Preparation & Mind State
Remember that EVERYOE !eel" at lea"t a little nervo#" $hen "peaking to "omeone to $hom
they are attra%ted& Thi" i" nat#ral and it i" a good thing& 'eing nervo#" "ho$" that yo# %are
abo#t doing $ell and al$ay" #ltimately g#ide" yo#r game in a po"itive $ay i! yo# do not allo$
it to "top yo# !rom initiating %onta%t&
The be"t $ay to get over nervo#"ne"" $hen "peaking to a $oman i" to remind yo#r"el! that
"he $ant" yo# to "#%%eed and that "he $ant" yo# to be intere"ting and "ed#%tive& (! "he didn)t,
then "he $o#ldn)t even be $a"ting her time on a %onver"ation $ith yo# at all& *ith that in
mind, rela+ and take a deep breath, then vi"#ali,e yo#r"el! "peaking "#%%e""!#lly and
e+e%#ting yo#r material a" $ell a" an a%tor $ith a pre-planned "%ript&
(! yo# %an vi"#ali,e yo#r"el! a" a $inner, then yo# $ill be%ome one&
.nother method !or over%oming nervo#"ne"" $hen "peaking i" to pretend a" i! yo# a%t#ally
are a%ting& P#t it in yo#r mind $hile yo# are o#t at the %l#b that yo# are on 'road$ay
a#ditioning !or a ne$ #p%oming play& *hen doing thi", a degree o! nervo#"ne"" i" a%%eptable
and nat#ral - a" long a" it doe"n)t take over and de"troy yo#r ability to %ontrol the te%hni/#e"
that yo# $ill be #"ing& Thi" $ill help yo# "peak in a more %on!ident manner&
Vo%al Tone & 'reathing
It's not so much what you say,
as the manner in which you say it;
It's not so much the language you use,
as the tone in which you convey it.
(t i" important that the !ir"t !e$ $ord" that a $oman hear" %ome o#t o! yo#r mo#th "o#nd
impre""ive, deep and %on!ident& (! yo# $ant to "#%%eed at making the"e !ir"t $ord" "o#nd a"
good a" yo#r voi%e $ill allo$, a great $ay to do thi" i" by h#mming& (! yo# h#m $ith yo#r
mo#th "h#t be!ore yo# begin r#nning yo#r opener, and %ontin#e h#mming right #p #ntil the
!ir"t $ord %ome" o#t o! yo#r mo#th, yo# $ill "o#nd a" good a" po""ible& Don)t h#m lo#dly "o
everyone %an hear yo#, b#t do "o at a lo$ vol#me that only yo# %an hear yo#r"el!& Thi" $ork"
be%a#"e by h#mming yo# are !or%ing yo#r vo%al %hord" to a%%e"" their deepe"t level" $ithin
their range, and i! yo# h#m right #p #ntil yo# begin talking yo#r body $ill nat#rally %ontin#e
to "tay $ithin that lo$ range $hen yo# begin "peaking& 0#mming i" all done !rom yo#r g#t, go
ahead and try h#mming $ith yo#r mo#th "h#t right no$, !ir"t try to h#m !rom yo#r g#t and
then !rom yo#r throat& oti%e ho$ it !eel" m#%h more nat#ral $hen yo# do it !rom yo#r g#t1
That i" $hy thi" $ork" "o $ell, and yo# %an even h#m /#i%kly d#ring yo#r pa#"e" 2e+plained
later3 to g#arantee that yo# are %ontin#ally maintaining yo#r deep, impre""ive vo%al tone&
Yo# $on)t need to h#m be!ore yo# "peak !or the re"t o! yo#r li!e in order to maintain yo#r
deepe"t vo%al tone inde!initely& 4ike mo"t thing" in li!e, yo#r body $ill event#ally gro$
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a%%#"tomed to "peaking in thi" manner and yo# $ill begin to "imply a%%e"" yo#r deeper range
"#b%on"%io#"ly and nat#rally, $ith no h#mming involved&
'reath %ontrol i" al"o important i! yo# $ant to have a %on"tant deep vo%al tone& *hen yo# are
"peaking !rom yo#r g#t and maintaining a deep tone yo# $ill #"e #p yo#r air "#pply more
rapidly than $hen yo# "peak !rom yo#r throat& Thi" i" $hy many men nat#rally "peak #"ing
higher pit%hed ver"ion" o! their voi%e, "imply be%a#"e yo# %an "peak longer thi" $ay $itho#t
r#nning o#t o! breath& Speaking high pit%h i" nat#rally a better %hoi%e in theory b#t $omen
don)t re"pond $ell to it& Speaking "lo$ly and pa#"ing help" thi" pro%e"" along be%a#"e yo# $ill
have many more opport#nitie" to take breath", b#t $hat i" the mo"t important i" to take "lo$,
deep breath"& Taking deep breath" help" to keep yo#r heart rate lo$er, making it ea"ier to
"peak "lo$er, and "peaking "lo$ help" give yo# time to take more breath"& (t)" like a big %y%le
o! improvement in $hi%h ea%h te%hni/#e %ompliment" the other&
.nother good hint abo#t vo%al tone i" to remember that the voi%e yo# hear in"ide o! yo#r head
$hen yo# "peak o#t lo#d i" m#%h deeper than $hat other people a%t#ally hear& Yo#r head
it"el! i" the %a#"e o! thi" be%a#"e it allo$" yo# to hear "#per-lo$ !re/#en%ie" that never make it
o#t o! yo#r mo#th !or other" to hear& 5eep thi" in mind $hen training yo#r voi%e to "o#nd
ho$ yo# $ant, i! yo# $ant it to "o#nd deep to other" yo# "ho#ld make it "o#nd VERY deep to
yo#r"el!&
Delivery (" the 5ey
Speak very %learly, %on!idently and per"#a"ively& (t i" al"o very important to "ho$ proper
emotion $hen needed& 6or e+ample, i! yo# are telling a !#n "tory, it i" a good idea to appear
e+%ited $hile telling it& (! yo# are telling a "ob "tory, yo# "ho#ld al$ay" "ho$ gen#ine emotion
$hile telling it&
Sho$ing emotion thi" $ay $ill al$ay" make yo#r $ord" "eem tr#e, even i! they aren)t&
Speak lo#d and "lo$& Speaking too rapidly i" a "ign o! nervo#"ne"" and $ill make yo# %ome o!!
a" an .67, and "peaking too "o!tly $ill do "o al"o& *hile yo# are training yo#r"el! to "peak
$ith de%ent vol#me and "peed, yo# $ill need to !ind a balan%e that yo# are %om!ortable $ith&
Thi" i" be%a#"e even tho#gh yo# "ho#ld al$ay" "peak "lo$ and lo#d, yo# do not $ant to take it
too !ar and damage her ear dr#m" or "peak "o "lo$ the "he $ill lo"e intere"t&
.l$ay" maintain eye %onta%t $hile "peaking to a $oman& (t i" alright to glan%e a$ay every-"o-
o!ten, b#t yo# "ho#ld be %on"i"tently maintaining eye %onta%t ro#ghly 89: o! the time& *hen
yo# are "peaking to a gro#p o! $omen, yo# %an ea"ily #"e eye %onta%t to make ea%h o! them
!eel involved even i! yo# are never "peaking dire%tly to them individ#ally& The "imple !a%t that
yo# are making eye %onta%t $ith ea%h o! them $ill allo$ yo# to !o%#" the entirety o! yo#r
/#e"tion";%omment" on tho"e $hom yo# $ant $itho#t making the other girl" bored&
Pa#"ing i" al"o very important& (t allo$" tho"e that yo# are "peaking to, a" $ell a" yo#r"el!, a
"mall amo#nt o! time to think and re!le%t on $hat yo#)ve <#"t "aid& (n e""en%e, pa#"ing let"
everything ="oak in= properly& Yo# "ho#ld .4*.YS pa#"e dire%tly a!ter making an important
point to empha"i,e it, and al"o <#"t a!ter making a <oke to allo$ her eno#gh time to rea%t& The
amo#nt o! time that yo# "ho#ld pa#"e !or varie" depending on the "it#ation, and on%e yo#)ve
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ma"tered the pa#"e yo# $ill be able to =!eel= the %orre%t timing and $ill "imply begin talking
again !rom habit& >ntil yo# get #"ed to pa#"ing, a good $ay to pra%ti%e yo#r pa#"e timing i" to
"ay the $ord =pa#"e= in"ide yo#r head ea%h time that yo# "top "peaking and then immediately
a!ter "aying it to yo#r"el! begin "peaking o#t lo#d again&
on-Verbal 7omm#ni%ation
Other$i"e kno$n a" body lang#age&
'ody lang#age play" a ma<or role $hile yo# are "peaking to a $oman& Yo# need to maintain a
proper balan%e bet$een "tanding "till and !idgeting by #"ing appropriate !a%ial e+pre""ion"
and hand ge"t#re"& .l$ay" point to thing" $hen yo# talk abo#t them and to#%h $omen $hen
yo# $ant to "tre"" a point 2kino bon#"3, and above all el"e yo# m#"t al$ay" appear to be
%om!ortable in yo#r o$n "kin and maintain good po"t#re&
( $ant to note a !e$ thing" here that %an apply to "peaking not only to $omen, b#t "peaking in
general&
(n a "ale" environment, the be"t "ale" people "eem to in"tin%tively kno$ $hen to %lo"e a "ale to
get the order& The be"t manager" al$ay" "eem to have !eeling" or vibe" abo#t ho$ they "ho#ld
handle "omebody in any given "it#ation& They "eem more per%eptive& The be"t %ard player"
are not <#"t ?l#%ky@, they are pro!e""ional" $ho kno$ e+a%tly ho$ ea%h hand "ho#ld be played
in any given "it#ation& They kno$ $hen to keep betting and in"tin%tively "eem to kno$ $hen
to rai"e the bet, or thro$ their %ard" in and !old&
*hat do all o! the above %hara%ter" have in %ommon1 They are all better at $hat they do
be%a#"e they have the ability to re%ogni,e and interpret the body lang#age o! tho"e $ith $hom
they are "peaking to& Ma"tering many "kill" re/#ire" that yo# !ir"t ma"ter the art o! body
lang#age along the $ay, and pi%king #p $omen i" no e+%eption to thi" r#le& The type o! people
that tend to rea%h the top o! their parti%#lar vo%ation or !ield "eem to have the #n%anny ability
to "ay the right thing" at the right time& TheyAre able to rea%t po"itively to people be%a#"e
theyAve developed the "kill o! being able to read the non-verbal "ignal" o! body lang#age&
One o! the bigge"t problem" $ith many "ale" people i" that they donAt kno$ $hen to keep their
mo#th "h#t, and a lot o! player" "eem to !all into thi" %ategory a" $ell& Thi" happen" be%a#"e
they have "pent "o m#%h time !o%#"ing on per!e%ting their verbal "kill", they have not properly
developed a%tive li"tening "kill"& Selling i"nAt telling& (tA" a"king /#e"tion" and /#ali!ying
potential $omen to !ind o#t e+a%tly $ho they are "o that yo# %an give her $hat "he $ant", not
$hat "he think" that "he $ant"& >"ing the =val#e o! "ilen%e= and ob"erving the phy"i%al
rea%tion" o! the $omen i" <#"t a" important a" it i" to be able to "ay the right thing", e"pe%ially
$hen yo# kno$ ho$ to rea%t a%%ordingly&
.voiding Problem"
Yo# m#"t train yo#r"el! to be able to re"pond to the $oman)" rea%tion $hen yo# are talking
and adapt yo#r mood and tone on the !ly& (! yo# noti%e her lo"ing intere"t yo# %an regain a
po"ition o! po$er ea"ily by adding a little boo"t o! %onvi%tion to yo#r voi%e&
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5no$ $hat yo#r "trong point" are and #"e them to yo#r advantage& Similarly, kno$ yo#r
$eakne""e" and try to either avoid them or improve #pon them& (! yo# are good at %oming #p
$ith material in the !ield, then yo# "ho#ld never try to #"e pre-planned ro#tine"& (! yo# are not
good at remembering name", then yo# "ho#ld al$ay" immediately brand 2read the branding
"e%tion o! T' !or more in!o3 every girl in the "et& Bet the idea1
EVER apologi,e i! yo# "ay or do "omething "t#pid or embarra""ing& Real player" al$ay" t#rn
their "hort%oming" into "omething po"itive rather than admit to them& 6or a per!e%t e+ample
o! thi" $at%h the movie =Cohn T#%ker M#"t Die= and %he%k o#t ho$ he play" o!! the thong
thing and other #n!ort#nate;embarra""ing thing" that happen to him&
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Diction
Basic Definition:

Diction is the choice of words in speech or writing. Whether to say one word over another.
Words also have denotation and connotation. The denotation of a word is exactly what the
word means. The connotation of a word is what is implied or associated with the word.
Uses
Choosing the right words can make you sound more confident, more persuasive, and more
sexual. It can help you portray whatever you want in a etter way. Conversing with a girl is a
huge part of a player!s game. "ortunately, diction can e improved upon limitlessly so diction
can result in huge improvements to one!s game.
#xamples
$Can we go kiss%$ & 'ounds uncertain and egging.
$Come over here and kiss me.$ & (lpha )ale, confident, and demanding.
$*ow did you do on your test%$ & Doesn!t further one!s game.
$*ow did ya make out on the test%$ & (dds the sexual connotation of hooking up and gets her
thinking sexually.
$Can you +oin me on "riday, I think you!ll have fun.$ & ,eak and egging.
$Come out with me on "riday and see some real fun.$ & -akes the demanding (lpha )ale role
and states that whether she +oins you or not, you are going to have a good time.
Conclusion
#very single thing a player says can e made to have a more positive effect. -he right words
can do anything: increase your social value, create a more powerful tease or neg, show
confidence, or get her thinking aout sex. Because of that it is important to e aware of what
you say and focus on it enough so that great lines simply egin to flow naturally from you.
-his is ac.uired through practice and patience.
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Inner Game Vs. Outer Game
Which came first, the chicken or the egg?
This timeless question may never be answere. The question of Inner Game vs. Outer Game is
the equivalent question in the seuction community. !any "eo"le may argue that one is more
im"ortant than the other, but in actuality, both are require to become truly successful. #ust
as the chicken requires the egg an vice versa, Inner Game an Outer Game work collectively
together to form the basis of an e$"ert %ick&'" (rtist.
When many men begin to learn the art of seuction, they make a common mistake an
immeiately begin looking for the techniques, routines an lines that will instantly make them
a great %'( an get them lai. )ou all "robably know the guys, the ones who look for some
magic line to say to every girl that will make them successful every time. (t one time uring
your life, this may have even been you.
The "roblem with this is that they are lacking one of the two basic "arts of a soli %'(.
*aving the "ro"er combination of the two main areas of seuction is critical to obtaining the
esire results.
The two funamental areas of seuction are known as Inner Game an Outer Game.
It+s What+s on the Insie that ,ounts
It+s something that you+ve always been tol when you were growing u" by your "eers, "arents,
teachers an gran"arents. ,hances are, you+re sick of hearing about it, but guess what- it+s
true. Inner Game is like the founation of a house. It must be soli in orer for builing to
take "lace. If a "erson+s game is built aroun a shaky founation, it is likely to colla"se.
Neglecting to learn Inner Game before Outer Game is a sure fire path to failure and possibly
a very large therapy bill.
What /$actly is It?
(s of now, you are "robably wonering to yourself 0What is Inner Game?1 an 0Why haven+t I
learne about this?1 The reason why the answers are har to fin is because there is really no
one correct answer. Inner Game is an abstract iea, an art that must be "erfecte on an
iniviual basis. /ach "erson has their own style of Inner Game. Inner Game can not be
learne through routines, techniques, conversational skills, flirting ability, or anything of the
sort.
It is sim"ly your internal "rogramming.
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!ain ,ategories of Inner Game
2 )our Internal !inset
2 View of )ourself
2 View of )our %lace in the Worl
2 What )ou 3now )ou 4eserve
2 )our Goals an (mbitions
2 )our ,onfience
2 5elieving 6or the lack of7 That )ou Will 8uccee
2 )our Thought %rocess
2 )our (bility to 9emain ,alm an ,ollecte
Inner game is a combination of all the above areas mentione an all other internal as"ects of
seuction. These things may not seem im"ortant at first glance, but they actually etermine
your success rate on every a""roach. Inner Game really comes own to your internal belief
system, an knowing that you are high value an that you will succee.
If you believe that you will succeed, success will become reality.
(ll of the categories of inner game affect your outer game in ways that the (verage #oe cannot
see. 5eing the esire, attractive al"ha male that all women want is im"ossible without Inner
Game. If you, yourself, oesn:t believe that you are "owerful, ominant an esirable, how
can you e$"ect anyone else believe it?
It+s (ll Insie
In orer to have strong inner game, you must free yourself of the negative thoughts, habits
an "erce"tions that can hol you back. If you have negative feelings, it will show in your boy
language, through your s"eaking an through your actions, causing others to view you in a
negative light.
If you believe that you are, for e$am"le- fat, stu"i, ugly or a loser, you will think that an
your actions will reflect that. ;or one, if you think you+re a loser, that is what you+re going to
act like. Your confidence and beliefs are decided by you and only you! <o one but you can
etermine that you are a loser. The same hols true with being successful- if you believe you
will be successful, it will show in your actions, an you will therefore become successful.
,onfience is the ma=or al"ha male trait, which you know by now is crucial when it comes to
seuction. 4on+t let your min lea you to believe false things an assume ba attitues, as it
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is only a self&fulfilling "ro"hecy.
When you believe that you will succee, women will always "ick u" on that. This sets off their
initial attraction sensor, instantly giving you a hea start when it comes to gaming, an also
creates the best "ossible first im"ressions. On the other han, when you on+t believe you can
succee, women "ick u" on that as well. They can see your boy language, hear it in your
uncertain an a""roval&seeking voice. When they notice this, you are thrown out as a "ossible
caniate for a relationshi", or sometimes even for a continue conversation. Women o not
want a man who thinks that he is low value. They will woner how ba you really must be if
you can+t even believe in yourself.
)ou+re the !irror
)ou are the mirror. <o, you o not literally reflect light. Instea, your outer game is a irect
reflection of your Inner Game. If you o not have soli Inner Game, the things that your Outer
Game consists of will never work. This is why as"iring %'(s shoul not concentrate on lines
an routines when they are new to seuction. These will o them no goo, as they require the
right tonality, boy language, an minset in orer to convey true al"ha male aura an
confience.
Once you have your Inner Game successfully own, it is then time to move to outer game.
>et+s Go Outsie
Outer Game is =ust as im"ortant as Inner Game? if you o not have any Outer Game, being the
most confient man in the worl will not automatically make you successful with women.
Outer Game oes not inclue elements "reviously mentione in Inner Game? rather, it is a
ifferent conce"t, although the two are e"enent on each other. Outer game consists of the
things you o to create attraction with the woman, besies e$uing your confience an
minset. Often times, Outer Game inclues emonstrations of al"ha qualities, but that is not
to be confuse with Inner Game.
When you think of a %'(, the things you normally think about involve his Outer Game. Outer
Game is what the rest of the worl sees.
!ain ,ategories of Outer Game
2 O"eners
2 9outines
2 Techniques 6(ny ty"e? can be to create interest, is"lay value, etc.7
2 *anling 8hit Tests
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2 %ush@%ull
2 ,ocky an ;unny
2 ,onversation an Teasing
2 <egs
2 8torytelling
2 5uiling 9a""ort
2 /liciting Values
2 'se of %ro"s
>et It (ll Out.
(ll of the above to"ics are "art of what makes u" what is known as Outer Game. <early
everything you have learne or rea involving "icking u" women falls into the category of
outer game. Outer Game is much more straightforwar than its counter"art. Outer Game is
essentially using everything you have learne to hel" you better convey your Inner Game.
>ike %eanut 5utter an #elly A They Go Together
Inner Game an Outer Game are ifficult to com"are. When looking at the bigger "icture of
seuction, it is unfair to break the two a"art in an attem"t to make a com"arison.
<o matter how you look at it, both are require to work together in harmony. %ossessing one
of the two will get you only halfway, a healthy focus must be irecte towars both as"ects of
becoming a %'(. <eglecting one of these main "arts is like ste""ing u" to the "late without a
bat. Inner Game an Outer Game go han in han, working together in accor to form the
founation of a !aster %ick&'" (rtist.
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Part II
Outer Game
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The 3 Main Objectives
In almost every aspect of life, knowing the objectives is important to attaining success and
getting what you want. man without a good plan is lost, and his results will be the same as if
he was stranded in the desert without a map. t some point he will find civili!ation, but did he
take the fastest route, and how much pain and suffering did he have to endure to get there"
To be successful with women you have to understand what interests them, because only then
can you begin to create your own plan for ac#uiring what you desire. There are 3 Main
Objectives to gaining a lady$s interest. They are%
Objective &% 'onfidence
Objective (% )umor
Objective 3% The 'hallenge
*uys always wonder what women$s tests are, as if I will be handing them some type of +cheat
sheet, that will allow them to not have to deal with any tests at all. The truth is, women will
continuously test you, they are genetically and biologically wired to do so and it$s simply a
static part of the dating game. lmost everything they do is based on these assessments, and
they will continually test you to find out whether you are worthy or not. Once you understand
their tests, you will see them as a fun challenge where you can gain an advantage over the
competition. This process is re#uired and is directly tied into social interactions with women.
There are no cheat sheets or shortcuts that allow you to avoid being tested by a woman.
)owever, we can give you the skills to turn the tables in your favor and come out on top by
being able to deal with their tests easily. -ust reali!e for now that this is all a part of their
biological process and you can not change that.
.omen have to be cautious because once their eggs are fertili!ed they are out of commission
for a long period of time, so they can/t afford to make mistakes or decisions that they will
regret. 0or the most part, this is done subconsciously. In essence, it is the survival of the fittest
influencing their behavior, as well as yours.
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.e, as men, have plentiful amounts of sperm and theoretically could impregnate every
attractive woman on the way to work if we chose to. This e1plains why men get aroused by
every hot body that we see, we are #uite simply genetically predetermined too. .omen don/t
have the same lu1ury, so they must be more selective, hence the natural tests.
To achieve this primal success let$s give you an understanding of each one of these Main
Objectives so you can gain a woman$s interest.
'onfidence
'onfidence is important because it shows that you value yourself highly 2Trophy Mentality3. It
separates you from the majority of men when it comes to attraction and dating. Most men
simply don/t have enough confidence in romance, and they need it more than looks or money
to move up the primal pecking order.
.ith 'onfidence you will have the interest of lots of women. .ithout it you will be left alone
at home to further erode your self esteem.
)umor
)umor is a #uality every man knows that women look for. They hear it everyday% +I want a
man that can make me laugh., 4ecause of this, men go about trying to be a stand5up comic
and wonder why they have fallen into the 0riend Trap. )umor is a state of being. .omen
relate more to what/s behind the humor instead of the actual joke or witty comment being
told. man who has humor is fun and playful6 he isn/t an attention seeking whore.
-ust like in the wild where play fighting between mammals is part of courtship, it pertains to
us humans as well. The most important part to remember about humor is that it/s playful.
This alone makes you fun to be with. If you have trouble identifying this type of playful
humor, just think back to grade school when the boys would chase the girls around trying to
put boogers on them. Of course our adult adaptation of this behavior is much more mature,
but the same basic principals still apply.
7layful humor will have her laughing at everything you say or do and securing her interest.
The 'hallenge
The 'hallenge is the secret ingredient. The 'hallenge is what has females up at all hours of the
night because your confident, humorous, hard to get ass won$t stop running through their
minds.
There is a reason why women are feline in nature. If you have ever taken a good long look at a
cat and tried to figure it out, you would see many similarities in the behavior of women. 'ats,
when you first meet them, will look you over but keep their distance. If you try to get too close,
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they will soon run. The way to make a cat grab your attention, and even demand attention by
sitting on your lap and rubbing itself on you, is to ignore it.
.omen want what they can/t have6 the more you push them away, the more they want you.
I/m sure you can remember countless women that you were not interested in at all, but they
would not leave you alone. This was because you were a 'hallenge to them.
0or practical purposes we can/t just ignore every beautiful lady in hopes that she might come
over, because it would be highly unlikely with all the men approaching her. 7eople, in general,
will always take the easiest option, and the easiest option isn/t to approach you. That/s the
hardest option.
The best way to put this into effect is to grant them your partial attention at first, whether it be
by opening a set completely or simply making one comment, then to take it away and to begin
to ignore them. They will feel the loss of attention and will work to get it back.
4y being a 'hallenge it shows that you are not needy or desperate, and that you are higher in
the primal pecking order than verage -oe. .omen will only fall in love with someone as good
as, or better, than their own personal perception, so being a 8es Man gets you the answer
+9o.,
4eing the 'hallenge isn/t about being mean6 it is about defining your worth. 8ou can do this in
a fun way, which will demand her interest.
7utting It ll Together
9ow that you have a basic understanding, you are probably wondering +)ow do I attain the 3
Main Objectives",
It is real simple. One answer attains all three.
Tease them in a 'ocky and 0unny way.
:et me e1plain%
Tease them and you will e1ude 'onfidence just for saying it.
Tease them in a funny way and you will have )umor and will be fun to be with.
Tease them and you will show her that you are not needy or desperate, and that you will be
her ne1t 'hallenge.
s children in the playground, we naturally played the primal attraction game. If we liked a
girl, we would tease her, make fun of her, pull her hair, and generally do what we were
genetically programmed to do. nd it worked; t some point in our social conditioning we
stopped doing it. It is that playful nature that brought out those prime emotions and what
generates interest in women. <ome men simply never +grew out, of this childish teasing
phase, and those are the men who seem to have a natural way with women.
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I forgot to mention the reason why you should be happy that women are testing you%
It is a buying response.
In other words, she is testing you because she is interested, so be happy knowing that. The
mere fact that she is wasting her time by testing you should let you know that you have a
chance with her. <he is simply putting you through her normal screening process.
Once you start seeing it that way, the whole game will change.
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Natural Game Vs. Routines
When I say natural game, I'm not talking about a natural player. I mean a learned player
who's interactions with women are largely unstructured and improvised. rom what I!ve
studied concerning these two types o" gaming, they seem to be use"ul in di""erent types o"
situations. I!ll try to outline the way I see it#
Natural
$his is a more laid back type o" approach. It is low energy in the sense that you don!t have to
be talking a mile a minute% body language plays an increased role & a simple look, i" done the
right way, can do wonders. 'ilences are more important. R()* naturals +non&learned players,
usually have a partial or near&incomplete understanding o" natural game. 'ocial value is built
up using natural game - there is no need "or routines i" your social value is high enough. .ust
treating people with respect and getting along with everyone, but still making sure they know
who's the )lpha. It is "ar better to use natural game when you are in an environment where
you will see the same woman over and over again and build rapport over many days or weeks,
e.g. in the classroom, the university, work, whatever. I" you try to use routines in these
situations, you run into two problems#
/ou!ll run out o" material very 0uickly, and she might sense that you!re playing her because
other girls in that environment may have told her about your routines when you were gaming
them +assuming you did, i" you didn!t, why not1,.
'imilarly, natural game seems to be more use"ul when you want to take the relationship to
anything beyond a one night stand or a "uck buddy. (2citement and tension is built up over a
longer period o" time rather than in a "ew minutes. I view natural game as being Ends&
oriented and Experience&oriented. Natural game is good where the 34 already has su""icient
attraction to you - no routines are re0uired5 It is better "or singles rather than sets.
Routine
Routine is high&energy, "ast, and e2citing in the short term. It is better "or places like clubs
and bars. It has more to do with what you say and less to do with body language +although
body language still plays a massive role,. /ou have a lot o" competition so you have to 0uickly
make the girl have a positive emotional response in your presence. Routines give the illusion
o" high social value% whether or not you can maintain it past bantering is another matter. I
view Routines as Means&6riented and Academic&oriented. Routines are good where
attraction needs to be created. It is better "or sets rather than singles.
)nother new, yet strong theory about routines is that once you've practiced a certain set o"
routines enough times, it eventually becomes so "amiliar to you that it will "eel like second
nature, thus becoming your natural game. In this "ashion your 7old7 routines will then "all
under the natural category, and the only ones still classi"ied as being routines in your arsenal
will be those that are new to you and still re0uire a great e2pense o" energy on your part.
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In the animal world, certain species o" salamanders will only begin to undergo metamorphosis
and change into their mature adult "orms i" the conditions are utterly per"ect. I" these "lawless
conditions are never achieved they will simply remain underwater in their larvae, tadpole&like
"orm inde"initely. Given that "act, since a routine will only become your natural game once
you've per"ected it's use, it makes sense that this merging and 7trading7 between routines and
natural game is re"erred to as the 7'alamander (""ect7.
Which is 4etter1
Well, i" you want to be able to handle women pro"iciently in 8ust about any scenario, then the
answer is both. In order to become a well&rounded 9:) you will need to give both natural
gaming and routines e0ual amounts o" study and practice, only then will you truly be a master
o" seduction. .ust like inner game and outer game walk hand in hand, the same can be said "or
these two di""erent, yet necessary styles o" gaming.
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Beginning Game, Mid Game, and End Game
The three basic stages of attracting and seducing a woman
The Beginning Game Stage
What is it?
This is the start of your interaction with a girl and typically contains the following elements:
approaching, opening, comfort building, and waling away to mae space for the ne!t stage"
#uring this stage you must be confident and comfortable with your surroundings" #on$t be
too ner%ous nor too happy" &ust be your calm, composed, and playful self"
'pproaching and (pening
Before you approach mae sure that you are in the right frame of mind and are not too drun
or high" Be aware of anything internal that may can affect your game in a negati%e way and
remo%e it before you mae your initial approach" Mae sure you$re confident and ha%e your
game face on"
)et$s do it* #on$t thin about it" &ust do it*
&ust go up to her and say something lie ''Hey, I've only got a second, but I wanted to tell you
that I like the top you're wearing... where have I seen it before?. This simple opener contains
both a neg and a false time constraint and will be effecti%e at opening many sets" +f she has
positi%e body language and replies to it with the proper signals, go with the flow and ha%e fun
by striing up an interesting con%ersation based on something about her that you ha%e
obser%ed"
+n this stage of your game, after the initial approach, you will need to open her up and create
some le%els of comfort" ,ou do this by asing interesting -uestions while using cocy and
funny and negging her in a playful carefree manner if she has a high le%el of self.esteem"
While you are taling to her, M'/E S01E that your body language is spot on and that you use
open gestures to e!press yourself" This will often mae her use open gestures in return which
are +(+s 2indicators of interest3" ,ou will be be using these +(+s to trac your progress and
appraise her potential as a future lo%er"
,ou should also use /ino 2the art of touch3 %ery often during this stage" Touching her
repeatedly in a non.se!ual manner will speed up the process of her warming up to you and
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will help you be successful with a /iss 4lose when that time comes later on"
5umber 6 Email 4lose
'fter striing up an interesting con%ersation, pay close attention to the +(+s that she is gi%ing
you and the ino that she is returning towards you" +s she touching you bac? 7as she
complimented you? +s her body language positi%e and open? 'll of these are +(+s and it is
essential that you are recei%ing them before you attempt any type of close" +f all is going well,
at this time you can suddenly e!cuse yourself 2earlier you laid down the false time constraint3
and as her for her number or email address so you can continue the con%ersation with her at
a later date"
#on$t o%er.thin it or allow yourself to hesitate" &ust say something lie Hey, I've got to get
back to my friends... !o you have a number"email address that I can reach you at?.
+f she says no, &0ST W')/ 'W'," +t$s her loss" +f she says yes, say than you and goodbye"
#on$t start complimenting her 8ust because she ga%e you the number, instead you can e%en hit
her with a last minute neg 9for the road: to gi%e her something to thin about while you are
gone" ,ou want to eep ,(01SE); on 7E1 mind for as long as possible after you lea%e"
'fter getting her number or email, don$t call6e.mail her for a while" Mae her curious about
when you are going to call6mail her" +; you ring prematurely, you will appear to be a needy
and desperate guy with no social life* ,ou don$t want that" + suggest you call about <.= days
after you ha%e approached her and at that time you can set up a date"
Setting 0p the #ate . Being a Man*
'fter a couple of days ha%e passed you can call6email her and set up a date6meeting" Say
something lie Hey I'm going to a dancing class"playing pool this #riday. $ou can tag
along if you think you can handle it. +f she says no, #(5$T beg her or try to e!plain how fun
it will be" +nstead you should tease her a bit It's alright if you're afraid. I understand. Most
women will respond positi%ely to this type of challenge and she will most liely change her
mind" +f she says yes right away, close the deal and put the phone down as -uicly as possible"
(nce you meet up with her, you are then mo%ing up to the ne!t stage" Be proud you ha%e
succeeded this far: the a%erage man usually fails during the first stage*
The Mid Game Stage
This stage is all about the two of you getting to now each other, ha%ing fun, and building
trust" 5otice how you must go through part of the first stage with her again" ,ou M0ST flirt
and tease her in a playful way" Try and touch her 2ino3 in a playful way as well" The initial
9magic: that was happening during your first approach on her has faded away by this point
since there has been a =.> day lapse in time, and it is your 8ob to bring that 9spar: bac as
soon as your second meeting begins"
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The Meet 0p . ,ou$ll meet her in your chosen place, and it is a good idea to mae it
somewhere that promotes a fun atmosphere that she will feel comfortable in" Try and in%ol%e
some of her friends if she is shy" ,ou can always isolate her later on, once her friends ha%e
helped in the comfort building process and she is ready to be with you alone" This also gi%es
you the opportunity to meet e%en more women" 7er friends may be hot and you can spit some
game to them as well, to secure them as your future prospects once you are finished with your
current target"
Building Trust
To gain her trust you must mae sure not to insult her and push her away by being a 8er?
negging her in a playful manner is 5(T the same thing as being an asshole" ,ou must
understand the contrast between these two totally different attitudes"
Secondly, you must begin to build rapport" This can easily be done by showing her that you
agree with her on a few things and ha%e some general interests in common with her" #o not
o%erdo this or you will appear to be needy" Simply agree on a few small points with her, while
maintaining your own strong opinion on e%ery con%ersation topic" @ic a sub8ect that is
genuinely interesting by nature and then try and di%ert it towards how you personally feel
about it" 1emember to maintain your cocy and funny persona" 7umor is an important factor
when you want to hold her attention" 7a%e fun and mae her en8oy being with you and as a
result she will begin to trust you" #on$t be serious about anything or she will see through your
front and will simply belie%e that all you want is se!" That will mae you lose her trust"
'lso, part of building trust and rapport is using ino" By showing her that you are not afraid to
touch her and are %ery comfortable with her will mae her become comfortable with you as
well" Touch her hair, hold her hands, iss her, touch her lower bac, etc"
(nce she trusts you, try to )E'# her" +f she allows you to touch her hair and arms, escalate
the situation and try and iss her" #(5$T tell her that you are going to iss her or attempt to
as her before hand: 8ust tae control and do it" Women want a man who will tae the leading
role in the relationship" +t is always your 8ob to tae it to the ne!t le%el"
)eading 7er to Se!
'fter you ha%e built rapport, comfort, and trust with her you can then attempt to step
e%erything up to a se!ual le%el" Tease her, show her that you really are a challenge, mae her
wor for your appro%al, and show her that you are the leader in the relationship" #+1E4T
her to ha%ing se! with you, but indirectly" ;or e!ample, you should ne%er say I'm horny let's
go back to my place and do the nasty% 5( 5( 5(* She wants it to feel natural and not
forced, as if it wasn$t really planned or meant to happen but 8ust did"
The best way to get her to your house is to ha%e a something that is genuinely interesting there
that you can use as a prop" ;or e!ample, Hey you should really come over to my place to
check out my collection of e&otic fish or !id you know I'm an amateur magician? 'ant to
see me do a trick? #o a basic tric, then say If you think that was cool, you should see what
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I can do with all of my e(uipment at my house.
Get the idea?
The End Game Stage
7opefully after doing this stage, you should be saying mission accomplished and patting
yourself on the bac" This stage is where the deal is closed" +t$s where you will mae lo%e to her
and mae her cra%e you %ia push A pull techni-ues and the use of se!ual tension" +t$s
important that you must not come off as desperate or seeing appro%al and that you ha%e the
type of attitude that allows things to flow naturally, step by step"
Se!
,ou shouldn$t 8ust tae her clothes off and throw her onto your bed the second that she enters
your house" Women need more foreplay and setup than men do when it comes to se!, so
always eep that in mind when you want to 8ump her bones right away" Be patient and
e%erything will come"
,ou can start by playing with her hair or some other type of basic ino, then escalate it by
touching her in more sensual ways and get a bit closer" ,ou can then initiate a mae out
session and begin to iss her passionately for a while"
'fter issing for a while, mo%e down and start smelling her nec, especially the lower nec
near her collar bone" #o this is in a way that will mae her belie%e that you are about to begin
issing her nec" While she is still e!pecting it, S0##E5), ST(@" Tell her that you will be
right bac and lea%e the room" She will anticipate your ne!t mo%e a lot because this will gi%e
her a moment to thin" 'fter going bac in, begin to iss her again and proceed to iss her
nec and her ears" While you are doing this, you can begin to remo%e her clothes, starting
with her upper body" /eep issing her while you are doing this because the good feelings and
stimulation will eep her from stopping you" +f she does as you to stop, listen to her and
ST(@" This only means that you need to turn her on a bit more: don$t get all frustrated" /eep
taing her clothes off S)(W),, bit by bit, until the two of you are naed and in a position
where se! is eminent*
)ast Minute 1esistance
This is when she suddenly tells you to stop, 8ust before you two are about to get it on* The last
thing that you want to do in this situation is to panic, become angry, or act lie a crybaby and
pout"
She stopped you because she does not want to appear to be 9easy: or she thought that you will
ditch her as soon as she gi%es it up, because she wasn$t maing you wor hard enough for it"
#on$t worry" 7ere is how you handle this common problem:
+f she tells you to stop, 8ust do it" 'ct lie it is no big deal and you could care less if you get
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some from her" This will mae her wonder why you are different from most guys who would
try to force her or tal her into it at this point* ,ou need to realiBe that most of the time this is
nothing more than a stupid test" She really wants to ha%e se!, but she doesn$t want you to
now that" By acting as if you don$t care you will be turning the tables on her and she will then
be the one who will initiate the se!ual contact this time" (nce this happens and it is all 7E1
idea, you will face no more resistance"
1eturn Se!
'fter you ha%e already had se! with her, it will be a lot easier now to get her to do it again in
the future" Simply lead her to the bedroom as + showed you earlier, through push6pull, and
turning her on bit by bit" This will build up suspense and se!ual tension, and with the
thoughts of the last time running through her mind, she will be much more open to getting
her eagle on once again" +f you were good in bed the first time around, then your chances of
getting return se! will be much higher of course"
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Foundation for Success: Approach Basics
Introduction
This is where all of it begins; block one, the foundation for game, the first impression that sets
the stage for the rest of your game It all begins with the approach, and you will now learn
about all of the important approach basics that will guide you on the right path to success The
things that will be included in this section are simply the basic guidelines to follow and the
things you can do to be successful This is merely the tip of the iceberg, as e!erything dealing
with approaching women cannot possibly be co!ered in a short introduction Treat this as
your basic outline to follow and you will start off on the right foot
Body "anguage
#ne of the biggest factors that affects how attracti!e a girl !iews you is how you carry yourself:
your body language $ou%re probably thinking, Yeah, but girls prefer good looking guys.
&ow, looks '# &#T matter !ery much in the entire scheme of the game, but they can either
benefit you in the opening stages of your approach or not benefit you I%m not talking about
your natural appearance either A man with below(a!erage looks can easily make himself look
good by either grooming himself well or by ha!ing attracti!e body language Body language
can affect your appearance, gi!e you a positi!e )energy,* and make you a more attracti!e man
as a result Simply by the way you carry yourself, place your body, how you sit, how you stand,
and the manner in which you walk, you can boost your rate of success when approaching
women ten fold This is a wonderful easy way to e+ude alpha confidence and impro!e your
initial appearance and impro!e how girls see you
Basics of ,ood Body "anguage
- .ow you /alk and 0o!e: /alk with a smooth, confident, )swagger* Stand straight up, &#T
hunched o!er, and pull your shoulders back /alk as if you own the world For e+amples, see
Brad 1itt in the mo!ie Fight 2lub
- .ow you Stand: 3eep your hands out of your pockets4 If you put your hands in your pockets
you will look like you are unsure of yourself which demonstrates low !alue and insecurity
'on%t cross your arms either; it gi!es a stand(offish !iew and will make others wary of
engaging in con!ersation with you If you are looking for somewhere to place your hands, put
your thumbs in the belt loop in your 5eans /hen you are standing up against a wall, place
your lower body slightly forward This is standard alpha(posture, and displays a certain bad(
boy confidence that is alluring to women
- Be 2omfortable and Take up Space: Always sit or stand in a position that takes up space and
communicates that you are comfortable 1ut your legs apart, throw your arm around a chair,
anything of this sort will show that you feel comfortable and at place where you are 'on%t be
afraid to claim your fair share of space when with others; make physical contact when in
crowded situations $ou are the alpha, and this demonstrates that you will not let anyone push
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you around or take your space
1rincipals of Approaching
An opener is necessary for all interactions with a woman /hene!er you see the girl that you
want to ha!e the wildest night of steamy se+ with, what do you do6 $ou use an opener on her44
If you ne!er open the girl, you will A"/A$S ha!e a 78 success rate and ne!er get anywhere
with girls &ow we will co!er the parts of opening and approaching that you need to ha!e in
place, and I will demonstrate how essential they are and why they work
Interest
/hen the AF2 male approaches a girl or girls that he has interest in, she will always know
what he is up to, what he wants, and how she is going to get away from this loser This is
because he telegraphed his interest; he made it ob!ious what his intentions are with his
signals and words By doing this, he puts the woman on her guard, and her )bitch shields* go
up As a result, she becomes unrecepti!e to talking to this man since he is like all of the other
annoying losers who hit on her e!ery day This also raises the girl%s social !alue, and gi!es her
more power, which will hurt you later down the road in later interactions with this girl
By now, you should be wondering, How can I avoid this trap like the plague? It%s simple:
instead of showing interest, use the concept of )acti!e disinterest* /hen a guy says
something to a girl like, Hey there hot ass, he is being e+tremely aggressi!e and doing
nothing to conceal his interest for that girl /hen a guy says something to the tune of, Hi,
you look extreely radiant tonight!ay I please buy you a drink, he is coming off like the
biggest AF2 wimp in the uni!erse, but still doing nothing to hide his intentions with that girl
$ou should act the part of Swit9erland and always be neutral when you open 'on%t be too
aggressi!e, and don%t be too wimpy This will gi!e you the most possible options for directing
the interaction whiche!er way you want and will also not put girl:s guard up .owe!er, you
can:t 5ust sit there and be boring $ou must engage the girl in an ambiguous and interesting
way The ideal goal is to ha!e her suspect that you are interested, but ha!e her unable to tell
for sure This will gi!e you the chance to take her o!er the edge, but also lea!es you on her
mind as the )challenge,* the guy who%s different and not drooling o!er her to begin with
#peners
An opener is beginning a con!ersation with a set or single girl that you are going to be
interacting with In this section, I won%t co!er the openers themsel!es Instead I will discuss
four things that make openers as effecti!e as they possibly can be
Intruders
/hen you are going about your daily tra!els and life, you are within your own personal
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bubble Someone can%t 5ust go up to you and start talking with you mid(con!ersation; if they
do, you%d think they are a complete freak That%s because of your personal bubble, and the
same thing holds true when you are approaching women This is where you must use an
intruder, so you can get into that girl%s personal bubble in a way that feels natural
2ommon Intruders
- .ey: There are many ways you can use the intruder ).ey* ).ey* re;uires that the target
interact with you and can be used with either a ).ey there* or something more forceful, such
as, ).<$44* It%s also not as much of a formal greeting as is the intruder ).i*
- $o: The intruder )$o* is a completely informal greeting, and is used for more fun situations
)$o* also works !ery well when you%re opening a group, and can be used forcefully if you wish
- .i: ).i* is much more of a formal greeting than an intruder such as )$o* or ).ey* The
intruder ).i* works best in ;uieter, more formal situations or in a situation where eye contact
has already been made =sing ).i* in a forceful way would be !ery ineffecti!e
- .old it: ).old it* is an e+tremely forceful intruder, and should only be used in a forceful
manner, or it will come off !ery badly It works best when your target is walking or doing
some other acti!ity that you need them to stop doing so you can run your opener
Timing
It is always best to approach as ;uickly as you can after you find your target or targets4 The
main reason for this is that the longer you wait, the more you will want to stay in your comfort
9one and not approach $our mind will start to doubt the decision to approach, and you will
come up with false reasons and e+cuses to stay behind I%!e seen many targets lea!e while guys
were going through this debating stage, and that should ne!er happen If the girl happens to
see you eying her and waiting for an eternity before approaching, she will think that you%re
either strange or 5ust AF2 'on%t gi!e fear time to set in, don%t allow her the chance to lea!e,
and don%t let her witness you being an AF2 loser >ust go4
Tonality
Tonality is something that can easily be o!erlooked while approaching women, but is
something that can also ha!e a great effect, and you control whether that effect is positi!e or
negati!e
Imagine a peaceful song being sung to you by your fa!orite artist &ow, imagine a shrill police
siren going off right ne+t to your throbbing head
/hich one was more pleasant6
Tonality has more of an impact then we are aware of, and when we become aware of it, we can
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then use it to our ad!antage
/omen are more responsi!e to a man with deep tonality, which is how much your !oice
resonates The pitch is pleasing to them, but it is also a sign of se+y confidence $ou do not
ha!e to ha!e a )deep !oice* to ha!e deep tonality In order to achie!e the desired deep
tonality, speak from your diaphragm instead of your throat To see if you are doing this
properly, place your hand flat on your chest, and if you are speaking from your diaphragm,
you can actually feel your chest !ibrate
Another thing to keep in mind with your !oice is !olume, B< "#='4 If you are the most
interesting story(teller in the world, but your audience can%t hear you, it will do you no good
Being loud is another alpha trait that displays the attracti!e confidence you are looking for,
but is also necessary to be heard Speaking softly is a sign of insecurity and also a ma5or
demonstration of lower !alue
Body "anguage 'uring the Approach
&o, you%re not seeing double /e%re back on the e!er(important sub5ect of body language, but
this time it is about how your body language should be during the actual approach
It is always important to be seen as a fun, outgoing, interesting person, but also not con!ey
your interest in them when you are approaching any girl Since we know this, you must now
learn how to con!ey that through your body language
/hen you are walking up to your target or targets, a!oid taking a straight line approach as
most guys do It comes across as !ery aggressi!e, and girls often put their defenses up before
you e!en open your mouth Instead, approach from an angle and also subtly point your
shoulder at your target to a!oid the confrontational dead(on angle This gi!es you a much less
threatening presence
/hile in con!ersation, you want to ha!e your body language tell them that you are cool,
rela+ed, somewhat uninterested, and in control 1ut the ma5ority of your weight on your back
foot, keep your shoulders back, put your chest out a little bit 3eep your feet shoulder(length
apart, and S0I"<4 It%s much easier to reco!er from being too happy than to reco!er from
being a boring AF2 without a pulse
2onclusion
This is an o!er!iew of what you need to know when dealing with the basics of a successful
approach Apply all of these steps, learn why they work in order to make them better, make
more of your own, and you will see your rate of success skyrocket4
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The Approach Genie
Overcoming your emotions and fears about approaching...
My reason for writing this is that I have had a lot of friends get nervous when trying to
approach hot babes, and in most cases their hesitation resulted in them never even
approaching at all.
Always remember: If you approach a woman there is always a chance that you will be
rejected, but if you never approach her at all, your chance of rejection is 100!
Here's how to handle this issue for anyone needing help.
Tae A !reather
!efore approaching, if your heart is pounding away so hard that you can hear it in your head,
it helps to always tae a minute and rela". #ither do some deep breathing e"ercises, thin
about something else for a minute or my personal favorite is to get a friend or someone that
you use as a wingman to tal to you, mae some $oes and $ust get you feeling more confident
and comfortable again.
%arming &p or 'racticing
'racticing is always helpful and you can do this in several ways.
( )ne way to practice is of course, field wor. Going up to random girls in clubs, the mall or
your wor environment *can be school too+ helps tremendously.
( Another way to practice is to loo in the mirror and tal. ,ust tal to yourself in the mirror to
get the approach figured out and to build your confidence up a bit, *to do this you need to
already now when-how you want to approach the girl+ since the approach is one of the
hardest things to master.
The Time Has Arrived
.inally, after all of the practice and preparation, it is finally time to game. Tae one final
moment to prepare your nerves and /#0#1 allow your nerves to overcome you. However,
getting reasonably nervous or e"cited is good because it will step up your game. /ever let it
overcome and control you, instead mae it wor .)1 you.
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The 2onversation
These are some e"amples of how conversations can be started and how they go.
( )ne way to start off is a neg hit, such as "#ey I li$e your purse, but it doesn%t match with
those clothes,& or "#ey I love your shirt, but I'm not really feeling the s$irt.& /o $oe *I now
that rhymed+. An opinion is also good such as "#ey, how does this shirt loo$ on me(&
( ,oes are also a nice way to brea the ice, as long as they don't come across as being a pic
up line. /ever use pic up lines.
( Another way, although I would not recommend this, is the 3irect Approach. The basic
concept behind this is not hiding your intentions and immediately showing her that you want
her. This can be effective but is hard to achieve since most girls will throw up their mental
shields as soon as they learn what your intentions are.
2onclusion
/ow that you now everything and have prepared for the moment, it4s time to approach your
girl. &se whatever approach you have chosen and the timing needs to be on point. After you4re
done with the approach, you then need to let your game instincts ic in, and you4ll have to
fight to get the girls off ya. 5+
Again practicing on the approach is the ey to success. /othing that is worth having happens
overnight.
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Opening Routines
In this section of the book we are going to discuss the best ways of opening women and some
routines that have been tried and tested by TIC members.
The Importance of Opening
The way you conduct yourself when first opening a conversation with a woman is a major part
of your game that you need to master. You need to appear confident and you should always
say something that will get her attention and make her want to continue talking to you.
et!s face it. "eautiful women get approached all of the time. They are sick of cheesy lines# so if
you open the conversation with a pick up line she is going to compare you to every other
O$%R who has tried to talk to her before.
You don!t want that.
You also don!t want to appear needy# insecure or nervous when making your approach
because a woman will spot this from miles away & and they aren!t the traits that attract
women# so she will not want to bother wasting her time talking to you. If she 'O%$ waste her
time talking to you# you!re not going to get very far with her se(ually.
)ppearing Confident
The first thing that you want to do with your target is establish eye contact# and when you
have established eye contact & *O' IT+ *olding the eye contact shows dominance and it
shows that you are a man who knows what he wants and how to get it & which is her. ,omen
love dominant men.
,ait for her to break eye contact and then wait for her to re&establish the eye contact. That!s
your cue# so get over there and open your target+
-ake sure you walk like a confident man. .eep your back straight# chest out# chin up# and
walk over with a rela(ed slow pace.
/ow for the 0uicy $tuff...
$o you know how to act confident and show her that you are the dominant alpha&male before
you!ve even spoken & congratulations# that!s half of the work done# at least now she will
actually consider holding a conversation with you+
"But how do I separate myself from all the other losers who have tried to get into her
pants?"
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,ell for starters# ditch the pick up lines1 they do /OT work. It all depends on where you are
talking to your target# although there are lines that will work in every environment.
Opening might be one of the crucial parts of the game# but it isn!t one of the hardest. )s long
as you show confidence and bring something to the table that is genuinely interesting then
you are on the right road.
I will be the first to tell you now that there is /O magic potion. /ot %2%RY women you
approach will be receptive to your game. $ome will be in a bad mood# some not interested in
meeting someone new# some married or some already in a relationship.
The key to opening is /OT to act like you want to pick her up straight away. You want to
appear to be fun and just up for a conversation. Your indication of interest and further game
spitting comes after you!ve opened her.
%(amples
/ow that I!ve e(plained how to open# lets take a look at some e(amples. These e(amples are
all R%) openers that have been field tested by members of The Inner Circle.
"Excuse me, *touch shoulder* I'm looking for my friends you haven't eaten
them have you!?" *smile*
This opener was ran on a *"3 in a club# so it was designed to bring down the girl!s bitch
shield# which usually in a club is so high it is touching the ceiling.
It is perfect for an ice breaker and gets her laughing.
The shoulder touch when you say e(cuse me gets her comfortable with you# and the smile
after the neg 4because she was se(y and slim# the neg made her paranoid as you are accusing
her of overeating5 shows that you are a fun guy and up for a laugh. "ecause you have got her
comfortable with the kino and the smile# she will most likely go along with it and say that she
has eaten them# which you can continue by using a cocky funny line such as "#h dear, now I
have to settle with you for company" & as used $y %oung&asual
"'ey! (re you stalking me!?" *smirk*
This works in almost any situation1 in a club# in a shop# in a library# in the street# anywhere.
The smirk is important# as it lets the girl know that you are kidding and not some cra6y guy
who is about to plunge a knife into her chest and send her to her death.
$he will either respond with a 7yes7 and go along with it or a 7no7 in which you can use
something like "#h so now you're denying it?" *smile*. & as used $y )op *layer
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"'ey, I like your style, $ut your shoes"
)nother opener that can be used anywhere. This one gets the women curious and makes her
want to answer. ets look at it from the women!s angle1 she spends her time getting ready so
that she can look good and attract men# and the minute someone critici6es her she will want to
know what!s up. $he will ask what you mean# and you can respond using a line such as "+ell
they look fake" *smile*. & as used $y )op *layer
7*ey I like that top# where have I seen it before+87
)nother opener that can be used anywhere on any women. This opener will get the women
interested like the click of a finger# because you have /OTIC%' something about the woman!s
clothes# and we all know how much women love clothes. $he will let you know where you!ve
seen it before# most likely the shop it was purchased from# and you can say something like "#h
now I remem$er, my grandma was wearing it!" *smile*. This is a nice bit of Cocky9funny
that lets the girl know your game for a laugh and also semi&offends them. This usually get a
positive response. & as used $y )op *layer
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Dynamite Group Dynamics
The Fuse
Have you ever been afraid of approaching a woman because she was in a group?
Maybe you were embarrassed, shy or just didn't want to interact with the other peop!e" she
was with because of the added socia! pressure that comes a!ong with the presence of
spectators#
Did you end up waiting around a!! night for the right time when she was a!one, but it never
happened?
$emember the time when you were at the c!ub, and that one chic% was eyeing you, but you just
didn't want to approach because of a!! those peop!e around her?
& %now &'ve been there, and & didn't %now what to do' Through my fai!ures &'ve seen my errors
and mista%es, and now &'d !i%e to discuss the importance of approaching and opening groups
to attain your objectives#
The &mportance
The fear of fai!ure, embarrassment and being ostraci(ed in front of a crowd of peop!e %eeps
most ma!es away from the herd# This means that most guys just don)t appreciate how they
!imit their own chances of meeting hot or nice women just because they don)t approach
groups of peop!e in socia! settings#
First of a!!, because of their socia! status it is rare that you wi!! see H*)s +Hot *abe)s, and other
-ua!ity women outside of a socia! group setting# *y their nature a!one and their va!uab!e
status, separation from the group wou!d pose major ris%s for these rare e.otic !adies# *y
prec!uding them from your night or waiting with others for the brief second that they are
a!one, you diminish your chances with the best of women# /ou a!so have increased the !eve! of
competition for the remaining gir!s, reducing the chances drastica!!y that you wi!! hoo% up
with anybody at a!!#
Remember: In a social setting, women of the highest caliber will always be found in groups!
The importance of understanding group dynamics is imperative in attracting 0uscious 0inda,
1e.y 1usan and or that 2recious 2au!a# &t wi!! a!so reduce the number of 3oc%b!oc%s and
Mother Hens that wou!d have interrupted your romantic p!ans by disarming them#
0et)s ta%e a !oo% at the dynamics of a group and how they function#
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The Dynamics 4 5pproach
Groups of peop!e are !i%e mo!ecu!es# They have a nuc!eus and for a!! intents and purposes,
neutrons and protons# 5ny more than 6 peop!e wi!! begin to sp!inter the group into mu!tip!e
sub groups# 7very person has a ro!e in the group based on a prima! socia! psycho!ogica! basis#
The 8pposite Theory shou!d be emp!oyed since it's the most effective method in approaching
the opposite end of the group and not your Target of &nterest +T8&,# This wou!d be the 9Gs
+9g!y Gir!s, of the group, which inc!udes a!! fug!y women# 5!! ma!es are considered to be part
of the 9Gs, un!ess you !ive in the c!oset#
/ou can open the 9Gs or address the who!e group at this point, but be conscious of your
:inesics as your stance is an &ndicator of &nterest +&8&,, and shou!dn)t be pointing towards
your T8&, or e!se this wi!! give away your intentions#
5n energy !eve! e-ua! to or above your target group)s !eve! is re-uired to ma%e a smooth
entrance into the nuc!eus# This fun e!ectric nature is what wi!! gain you the overa!! acceptance
of the group#
$ea!i(e that by approaching and opening this group, you are interrupting their microcosm and
therefore need to e.cuse yourse!f for barging in, or use a Time 3onstraint +1a!es Techni-ue for
disarming the Time 7-uation,#
&t is as simp!e as saying;
Excuse me folks, I have a uestion for you!" <<= 7.cuse
or
#ey $uys, %uick %uestion&&" <<<= Time 3onstraint
9se your opener to transition and e!evate yourse!f# 9n!i%e your T8& which you shou!d be
teasing, 34F, or negging> you are encouraged to comp!iment and befriend the 9Gs in the
group to gain $apport# 5!though you shou!dn)t f!irt with any of the 9Gs or e!se you wi!! b!oc%
your progress !ater on with the T8& or signa! your re!ease from the c!oset#
&t is important for you to !oc% in your T8& with a persona! object to maintain her presence or
your ignorance of her with the averted :inesics and communication might sp!inter her from
the group#
5 good way to !oc% her in is to get her to ho!d your drin% or hat whi!e you)re te!!ing a story or
e!iciting responses and or bui!ding rapport#
5s you are te!!ing the story or e!iciting responses to your -uestion, your T8& wi!! try to
interject because she is accustomed to receiving attention and you are ignoring her verba!!y
and with your :inesics# 1he wi!! try to gain your attention to regain her socia! status and va!ue
in the group, at this point in time you shou!d tease your T8& to the group# This wi!! raise your
va!ue in the group)s eyes, as they are accustomed to seeing her get a!! the attention, as we!! as
gain attraction in hers; this is The 8pposite#
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'oes she always reuire so much attention! (laugh)" or a simi!ar statement is a!! that is
re-uired#
8nce you have gained rapport and acceptance with the group, it is as simp!e as as%ing #ow
are you all acuainted*" to find out who is with whom and which women are ta%en. This wi!!
a!!ow your T8& to say she is sing!e and b!ow out any c!oset suitor or secret admirer in the
group that wou!d otherwise ha!t your success#
/ou can then turn and a!!ow your T8& to start bui!ding rapport with you# 5s your new friends
wi!! not interfere because you comforted them ear!ier by teasing the T8&, and this shou!d
negate the coc%b!oc% or Mother Hen# 9sua!!y because of the coo! guy? status you have
achieved the group wi!! actua!!y he!p to hoo% you two up#
The 3onc!usion
1ince you bui!t up The 3ha!!enge with your T8&, she wi!! be !oo%ing to regain her coo! gir! wa!%
by impressing you with her va!ue and demonstration of &8&s#
/ou can either eject with her from the group at this point or iso!ate her within the group by
adjusting your :inesics stance to sp!inter and separate her from the rest of the group so that
you can esca!ate or e.tract#
8n the contrary to what most peop!e thin% about groups, instead of more conservative
decisions, groups tend to generate ris%ier so!utions# Group Thin% is a term coined about the
hasty irrationa! decisions groups ma%e when they set their own opinions aside for fear of
upsetting the group# This can be used as !everage to your advantage in c!osing#
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Get Her Attention by Using a Prop!
Have you ever had a hard time "breaking the ice"? You want to approach that hot babe, but
you dont rea!!y have the right words? "m a be!iever in using what " ca!! "props" #or meeting
women$ %hese are done #or getting a conversation going and making her think that youre
interesting$
%he Arsena!
&very man shou!d use props as his secret weapon in seducing women$ 'ti!!, #ew guys know
how to pu!! this o## so " thought "d revea! some methods on how to do these and do them
e##ective!y$ %hese props are going to make you so interesting and e(citing that you wi!! be
wooing her be#ore the night is done$
%he )rong *ind o# Props
+ost men wi!! go about using props the wrong way$ You have to have a correct prop or it can
make a women disinterested in you$ A wrong type o# prop is a business card #or e(amp!e$
Un!ess youre ,i!! Gates, most women wi!! toss the card right into the trash bin$ Another !ame
prop is an overused card trick that everybody has seen be#ore$ +ake sure your prop is origina!
and that you remain very coo! and ca!m$
Props that )-.*!
A!right, now we wi!! get down to business$ Here are various items we can use to our advantage
to seduce that specia! woman$
/$ Anima!s 0 1ats, dogs, or even #ish$ Using anima!s is tremendous$ 1ats and dogs are so
immense!y success#u! as props because they make the dog owner seem responsib!e and
sensitive at the same time$ %his is a one0two punch #or women, creating an image o# a guy that
has two o# the most hard0to0#ind traits in men$ 2ish are e(ce!!ent props because they work we!!
#or invitations$ You can give a women an '-" by having a #ish and tank at your home and
saying something !ike "Hey, you know I love fish. I have a small little aquarium at my home.
Come back with me and check it out." "n essence, women take note that i# you can take good
care o# a pet anima!, you can sure!y take good care o# them$
3$ +ateria! items 0 %his cou!d be a c!assic bike you have or a home bar$ %hese work great #or
invitations$ 'omething uni4ue and intriguing, but make sure what you show is #un$ 5ont
bring her over to check out you new P!asma %6$ %hats not #un$ ,ut what is #un, is a nice home
bar that is stocked with drinks or a coo! /789 mode! bike or even a modern :in;a ,ike in the
garage you can take out and spin her around on$
<$ 'ma!! props 0 " !ike to ca!! these pocket props$ +ore or !ess, something " can pack in the
pocket o# my coat$ %his cou!d be a good !uck charm #or e(amp!e$ Any sma!! intriguing item
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that wi!! sure!y create 4uestions and interest wi!! do$
+ake 'ure to +ake it 2un
"# you remember one thing, remember that props +U'% be engaging and #un$ %he power o#
props !ies in the #act that they are #un and 1-:6&Y that you are a #un guy$ 2ind a #un prop
and not on!y wi!! the !adies en;oy it, but you wi!! too$
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False Time Constraints
This will only take a second, I'm going to tell you about false time constraints real quick...
Hey girl, I've Got to Go...
Remember when you really liked a girl and you would always make the time for her !ou
would wait until she said "Hey let's go home" even if you wanted to leave hours earlier. How
about the time when that one #hi#k was all over you and you did the same ba#k to her !ou
#lung to her all night, then the ne$t day when you #alled her she wouldn't even %i#k u% the
%hone. &hy was this
There are two ty%es of men' (#tive and )oring. (#tive men are always moving, doing
something and are interesting to be around. The boring men *ust sit around until the night is
over, then they go home and rub one out before falling aslee% alone. !ou've seen it, it's
everywhere. I #hallenge you to go visit a lo#al bar or #lub after you read this arti#le and you
will noti#e *ust what I am talking about. !ou'll be able to instantly dro% every man that you see
into either the (#tive or )oring #ategories. &omen don't find boring men to be attra#tive at
all, however they are drawn to the a#tive men. !ou as the man have to a%%ear busy, you have
to a%%ear to always be on the go. It makes you look im%ortant and will wet her a%%etite for
more.
Time is +n ,y -ide
&hen you begin to game a set, before you have an o%%ortunity
to gain so#ial value within the grou%, the grou% will most likely
think of you as being no different than any other (FC. They will
not be very re#e%tive to you entering their grou% and will e$%e#t
you to annoy them and waste their time. This #an not be
#ontrolled be#ause there will always be (FC men a%%roa#hing
women, but it doesn't mean that you #an't #hange their mind
instantly when you o%en them and give them a reason to view
you as being different. (t first they will always view you
negatively, *ust be#ause you are a%%roa#hing them. This is not a
favorable mindset for the set that you.re going be gaming, and it will set you ba#k in their
mind from the beginning. This is where the false time #onstraint #omes into %lay.
&hen you a%%roa#h without a false time #onstraint, they will think the same thing that they
do when every other guy tries and fails' how to get rid of you. -he will either think, How long
is he going to be here? or How can we get rid of him?
In order to be su##essful with the set, you have to remove that mindset from their thoughts,
and give them the thought that you are going to be leaving soon, and it won.t be any %roblem
to allow you in for a #ou%le of se#onds. !our goal here is to get the grou% to feel that you are
*ust about to leave and that you will be no in#onvenien#e. This will free u% their mind and give
you the #han#e to show them that you are worthy of holding a #onversation with them.
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I haven't Got the Time
False Time Constraint / ( statement that dismisses your %rolonged stay in a newly o%ened
set, allowing you to enter freely and without o%%osition.
0$am%les of False Time Constraints'
I hae to get going now, but!
I"e got to meet a few friends in a second, but...
I only hae a second, but let me ask you about!
Hey, I hae to get going soon, but you hae to hear about this!
Hey, I can only stay a second, but if my friend #ae!
These are *ust a few e$am%les of #ommon and sim%le false time #onstraints. They #an be
anything similar as long as it gets the *ob done.
,oving with False Intentions
If using a FTC, always kee% your shoulder orientation %ointing away from the girls that you
are o%ening. Having your body %ointing to the side while turning your head toward the girls,
non1verbally tells them that you are about to leave at any moment, even though that is not
your intention at all.
2ee% the )all Rolling
+n#e you have o%ened your set and a%%lied an initial false time #onstraint, you will be ready
to %rogress with your game. (fter you have demonstrated so#ial value to the set, they will
want your %rolonged #om%any. However, after ra%%ort is established, you #an leave the set
through the use of another false time #onstraint and have the set #hase you.
!our goal is always going to be having your target #hasing after you. There are many ways this
#an be a##om%lished, and the se#ond false time #onstraint #an begin fairly early on in a set. If
you have rea#hed the %oint where the set now wants you to stay, this is where you go ba#k to
your original time #onstraint. )y now, they have be#ome intrigued by you and your
#onversation, so they are more than likely not thinking about your original time #onstraint. Go
ba#k to that #onstraint, and you will have begun the %ro#ess of having your targets #hase after
you to try and kee% you around.
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0$am%les of a -e#ond False Time Constraint
$ell, like I was saying earlier, I hae to go meet some friends in a second!
I really hae to get going now!
I hae to get back to!
(gain, those are *ust some basi# e$am%les of a se#ond false time #onstraint. They #an be
anything and #reativity hel%s. &hen using a se#ond false time #onstraint, be sure to tie it in
with the first one and have them mat#h1u%.
3on14erbal Time Constraints
(fter a time #onstraint has already been used, it is very effe#tive to use body language to your
advantage to #reate the feeling that you will be leaving at any time. ")ody Ro#king,5 or
#onstantly using body language to indi#ate that you are about to leave the set is another way of
showing a time #onstraint. &ork to in#or%orate both verbal and non1verbal time #onstraints
into your game. +n#e %erfe#ted, a #ombination of the two is a deadly way to disarm a new set.
Closing
!ou now know the basi#s of the false time #onstraint, how they work, how to use them, and
how to make your own. ( false time #onstraint is one of the most useful tools to have in the
field, so be sure to use them to your advantage. &hen a tool #an disarm a set and have them
be mu#h more re#e%tive to you, while also having them #hase you at the same time, it is
always a vital tool.
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Kino (Kinesthetics)
The Language of Touch
Have you ever been around an average looking woman that you
were not very attracted to, but when she touched you discreetly
you immediately began to think of her differently, in a sexual
way? That is the ower of kino, and what haened to you was
the release of a otent sex hormone called !xytocin along with
an "xtreme #!# ($#!#) which guaranteed your attraction for
her% &ith that in mind, wouldn't it be nice to be able to
consistently do, to any woman of your choice, exactly what that girl did to you, making them
instantly feel increased sexual attraction towards you with (ust a single touch?
)ou can and here's how%
Kino is the art of touching someone else in any way, from something as simle as a gentle ta
on the arm during conversation to a more sensual touch such as lacing your hand in the
small of a woman's back to guide her through a crowded club% *ome acts of touching are much
more tailored to be used for seduction than others, but in theory all touching can be classified
as kino% #n order to begin using kino to your advantage while attracting women, you first need
to understand what kino will hel you accomlish and which areas of your game will benefit
most from the use of kino, so let's have a look at the erks%
Kino can+ *timulate your target, dislay your confidence and alha status, create a layful
flirting atmoshere and release !xytocin into her system (exlained later)% However, you will
only be able to rea all of these rewards if you integrate kino into your game the right way,
and to do that you need to make kino and your ersonality become intertwined%
#t is very imortant that you begin touching a woman immediately when you first meet her to
begin your kino rogression as soon as ossible% #f you wait a week or even a day or two before
you start to kino a woman it will seem fake and will do nothing more than water down the
overall effect% )ou need to train yourself to become a naturally hysical erson who aears to
be comletely comfortable with touching others% #f it seems like it is second nature to you,
woman will always resond to your kino% ,lso, do not make it seem like you are touching her
urosely, the trick to kino is making it aear as if you haven't given it any thought at all%
&here and how you touch a woman is imortant as well, and you must also take her comfort
levels into account when determining what tye of touch will be roer in the given situation%
)ou should always begin with basic, non-threatening touching such as taing her forearm,
utting your hands on her shoulders, touching her hair and utting your hand on her lower
back% !nce you've been doing that basic kino for a while you can then gauge her comfort levels
and if all seems clear you can escalate to more intimate touching like touching her face,
stomach and legs% Then you should (udge her comfort levels again and attemt to escalate to
the sexual touching of her breasts, ass and inner thighs% ,t this time you can also begin kissing
her lis, neck and ears% This rocess of starting at light kino and then moving on to higher
levels of it in a .ladder. fashion is called kino rogression%
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Kino /rogression
0rom the first time that you touch a woman u until the time that you slee with her, your
hysical contact will go through a series of stages% This rocess is called Kino /rogression, and
during this rocess there are a few ma(or break-through oints that escalate the rogression
to the next level% 0or examle, once you touch a woman non-sexually a few times, you are
oening the doorway to kissing her, then once you kiss her you are allowed to touch her
sexually, and once you touch her sexually you can slee with her% 1y starting your kino off as
close to your initial meeting with a woman as ossible and continuing to escalate the
rogression by urosely taking it to the next level you are minimi2ing the amount of time
that it will take to get her in the sack%
This rocess is also sed u by the constant use of kino, meaning the more that you do it the
faster you will escalate% 0ast escalation of kino through fre3uent use also makes breaking
through to the next level of rogression much easier for you to do% #f you only touch a woman
once or twice non-sexually during an entire date, getting a kiss from her later on will be a .big
deal.% However, if you were to touch her fre3uently at the beginning of the date you could
easily land a kiss in the middle of it, then roceed to touch her sexually during the second half
of the date and escalate your kino to high sexual levels by the time you dro her off and
ossibly slee with her%
,ccelerated kino escalation is very imortant if you are looking for one night stands (!4*)
because it is a owerful method to getting her sexually aroused enough to slee with you as
3uickly as ossible%
!xytocin 5elease
&hen you kino a woman, you get the added bonus of a magical little chemical being released
into her brain% This chemical is a hormone called !xytocin, which is directly related to the
following+ sexual arousal, trust, bonding, fear reduction, anxiety reduction and increased
testosterone levels%
"ach time you touch a woman, regardless of where or how you touch her, this chemical is
released into her brain and then roceeds to trigger the above actions% ,lso, as you continue to
release more !xytocin into her system through kino, she will want to be touched even more%
This haens because the hormone creates an addictive .good feeling. that she will not want
to let go once it has begun% &ithout continuous kino from you, that feeling will steadily fade
away, so as you touch her often she will become oen to more intimate touching% !xytocin is a
very owerful sex hormone and it is the reason why kino is so effective during seduction%
,ll tyes of touching will generate an !xytocin resonse, however sexually arousing touches
release it in larger doses% 5ubbing a woman's niles is notorious as being the touch that
releases the most !xytocin above all the rest%
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Negs (Neg Hits)
They've Heard It All Before
It's no secret that women of a certain quality and beauty now that they have been blessed
with the lifelong gift of a striing a!!earance" They don't #ust thin it$ but actually now it to
be a !roven fact due to them being reassured of its legitimacy a multitude of times over the
course of their lives" It starts at infancy from relatives and even strangers commenting how
cute they are$ then escalates to direct com!liments on their loos during their toddler$ child
and !re%teen !hases" All of this is only building the soon%to%be hottie's ego on a relatively
small subconscious level u! to this !oint$ but once they hit !uberty and start &blooming'
during their teenage years$ all of that begins to change"
It is during this unique !eriod of an attractive woman's life that she really begins to gras! the
conce!t of her own beauty$ as well as the !ower that is grants her" (rown men begin to notice
her as well as the boys in her own age bracet$ and with her breasts beginning to !rotrude
from her chest$ the rest of her body coming into sha!e and her facial features develo!ing to
reflect those of a grown woman that is almost ready to begin mating$ it's hard for us not to
loo" This is how a gorgeous woman's ego is inflated$ and it is a direct result of the advances
and comments from men that they receive during their teenage years u! until they begin to
show the signs of aging"
I don't have accurate statistics on the to!ic$ but if I were to mae an educated guess I would
say that the average beautiful woman receives over )$*** genuine com!liments based on her
!hysical a!!earance each year$ while the average normal woman receives less than +*" That is
a huge difference$ and given the fact that my estimates are most liely at least somewhat close
to the truth$ this should tell you something very im!ortant about com!limenting good looing
women"""
,o N-T do it" In fact$ do the o!!osite"
Brea .ree from the /ies
I bet you didn't see that coming$ but this is the brutal reality of how our modern society has
develo!ed into a com!le0 and confusing charade of contradictory conce!ts when it comes to
our dating and social lives (wow$ that was a lot of 1s)" I now that the idea of !utting down a
woman when attem!ting to woo her almost sounds uncanny$ but I assure you that any
se!ticism you are feeling right now is only because your mind has been !rogrammed into
believing modern myths about the laws of attraction" 2ovies$ boos$ maga3ines and music all
!romote the belief that the &nice guy' always gets the girl in the end by telling her how
beautiful she is$ buying her gifts$ staying on the !hone with her until he falls aslee! and then
standing outside her window with a boom bo0 over his head while singing a love song from
the 4*'s"
5ou'd be better off s!itting loogies and asing her to !ull your finger"
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I'm being serious$ that wasn't even a #oe" 5ou'd literally get much farther with a woman by
doing disgusting things in front of her which !rove that you are not trying to im!ress her than
you would by issing her ass lie every other uninformed loser that she has snubbed out in her
!ast" I'm not saying that is what you should do$ I'm #ust showing you how low com!liments
have gone down on the list of things to do when seducing a hot woman"
It's alright to admit it if you are still under the influence of these false ideas" 6e all were at
some !oint in our lives" The real question is$ are you !re!ared to brea free from the lies7
If so$ allow me to teach you what your dad never did"""
6hy Neg Hits 6or
8eason 9): The &average' factor
;tam! this onto your brain and never remove it: A beautiful woman will see out a man who is
unique in an attractive way$ the ey word being &unique'" If you don't stand out from the
crowd she will not give you the time of day and will sim!ly blow you off faster than she can
roll her eyes" ;he is a goddess and nows it" ;he has no need to fiddle with average men when
she has the !ower to be selective"
6ith that in mind$ try to !ut yourself into the shoes of a gorgeous woman" Based on
everything that I've told you so far$ whom do you thin she !erceives as being an average
man7 Is it a man who follows around behind her lie a !et !oodle constantly com!limenting
her or a man who acts as if he is unaffected by her beauty and charm by !ointing out the only
few flaws that she may feel slightly insecure about7
5ou guessed it< The truth is that when you com!liment a high caliber woman she will
immediately !lace you into the &average' category because you have #ust e0hibited !roof that
you !ossess one of the defining traits of the &average' ty!e of man" =ven if 5-> now that you
are different from the rest and given time could !rove it to her$ you will never get the chance
because you've already dis!layed behavior that she has dealt with thousands of times before$
and it's over" It's not her fault$ attraction is not a choice and it has already been done
automatically by her subconscious" ;he must !ass you through this &filtering system' because
it is her only way to screen would%be suitors" It's nothing !ersonal"
8eason 9?: The &status' factor
In any given social situation there is always a constant e0change of social value ha!!ening at
all times" In a conversation between two !eo!le$ more times than not$ one of the !artici!ating
!arties is giving social value while the other is steadily receiving" -ne side is dominant while
the other is submissive"
6hen you com!liment a woman$ you automatically sub#ect yourself to being on the
submissive end$ which dis!lays yourself as being a low status man" 6omen immediately !ic
u! on this and will either dismiss you or use you to their own advantage$ whether it be for
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tem!orary or long term ego boosts$ sim!ly to toy with you or out of !ure !ity" 8egardless of
their motives$ the end result will never be you slee!ing with her as she will not allow it" -n the
other hand$ if you decide to critique her instead$ you will be !lacing yourself on the dominant
end$ lowering her status instead of your own" This !uts you in control and triggers the correct
attraction switches in her mind that will allow you to !roceed in your quest to become her
lover" They call this the &dating game' for a reason" It's a (A2=" 5ou must learn how to
maintain a strategic !osition by using techniques such as the neg to !lay this game !ro!erly$
otherwise you will lose"
8eason 9@: The &intrigue' factor
Aicture this: 5ou #ust became famous$ such as landing the leading role in the ne0t big action
flic" Aretend that you are the ne0t Tri!le B and will be starring alongside ;amuel /" Cacson
in the third installment in that u!coming trilogy" 6ith your !redecessors being Din ,iesel and
Ice 1ube$ as well as the immense success they shared in the first two movies$ you will
obviously become a very big deal almost overnight"
Now at first how would you feel about the !a!ara33i sna!!ing your !icture everywhere you
go7 5ou'd smile and strie a !ose wouldn't you7 -f course$ because you're not used to that
ty!e of attention and it would be flattering"
Now !icture yourself in the same situation but ten years and twenty movies later" How would
you feel about the !a!ara33i then7 5ou'd want to !unch them in the face for constantly
staling you$ right7 -f course$ because now you have become accustomed to that ty!e of
attention and it has grown re!etitive and annoying"
That is =BA1T/5 how beautiful women feel towards men who a!!roach them$ and it is how
they will feel about you until you !rove them otherwise by hitting them with a neg"
6hen they were younger$ all of the attention and com!liments were flattering to them and
chances are they even looed forward to it and would go out of their way to !lace themselves
into situations where they would be hounded by men" However$ years later after hearing the
same e0act comments thousands of times$ this is no longer the case" 8emember this: 5ou can
N-T ever give a genuinely beautiful woman a com!liment on her a!!earance that she has not
heard before$ it is not !ossible$ they've heard it A// before"
Aretending that you are still the movie star: try to imagine how you would feel if you saw a
!a!ara33i holding his camera but after taing one loo at you he started sna!!ing !ictures of
some &nobody' on the other side of the street instead7 5ou would be intrigued with this
unconventional behavior$ right7 5ou'd most liely want to a!!roach the !a!ara33i to find why
he didn't want to tae your !icture" 6as it your clothes7 5our hair7 There had to be a reason$
and you'd feel drawn to find out what it is" 5ou're the almighty movie star$ !eo!le are
;>AA-;=, to tae your !icture"
2en are su!!osed to com!liment beautiful women" By not doing that and instead doing the
o!!osite with a neg$ you will be creating interest and she will be intrigued with your strange
behavior" ;he will be wondering what is so different about you that would mae you !oint out
her flaws instead of !raising her for her blessings"
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Neg Hits =0!lained .urther
5ou may have noticed that throughout this article I have only
referred to women as &beautiful$ gorgeous$ hot$ etc"'$ and I have
been doing that intentionally" Negs are !articular techniques that
have been designed to wor only on women of high caliber and
social status" They are not effective on below !ar women" >sing
negs on average looing women and those with a low social
standing will result in you a!!earing to be an asshole" This is
because the entire theory of negging has been built around the
fact that the women they are to be used on will only be those
whom are accustomed to being com!limented" 6ith that said$
the basic rule that you should follow is this: never neg a woman
that you would normally rate as below an 4"
Neg hits are either reverse com!liments or normal com!liments followed by a negative
comment" They are also comments that attem!t to embarrass her and directly lower her social
status and can even be !artly non%verbal" .or e0am!le$ you are negging a girl by telling her
that she has something in her teeth after she has eaten and then !ointing to your own teeth to
direct her to where it is"
Negs come in all sha!es and si3es" ,on't thin that you are restricted to using only those given
as e0am!les in this boo" 5ou can create a !re%set list of negs that you will use regularly on
every girl that you s!it game to$ but I recommend only using those for bacu!" The best negs
will always be those that are delivered im!rom!tu in the field and are based on something
8=A/ about the woman that you are delivering them to" Telling a girl something universal
that would wor on anyone such as Those jeans make your thighs look a little big is
effective$ but telling a girl something targeted such as Your hair looks a little orange, you
really should get it dyed by a professional instead of doing it yourself is much more
!owerful$ granted that the thing you are !ointing out is actually there"
The bottom line: Negs based on observation always beat negs based on examples
It is for this very reason that a !articular$ very !o!ular neg in the seduction community does
not wor well: Your nose wiggles a little when you talk This neg is cra! in my o!inion
because not only is it widely used$ but it is not targeted AT A//" If a woman's nose actually
does wiggle when she tals$ then she nows about it$ so by attem!ting to use this on every
woman that you game is a mistae"
>sing this on woman who nows that her nose does not wiggle will mae you achieve nothing
more than looing lie an idiot with bad observation sills"
Neg =0am!les
Below you will find some very basic e0am!les of neg hits that have been !roven to be effective"
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.eel free to use these until you get the hang of !utting negs into action$ but after that I
recommend develo!ing some of your own and also conditioning yourself to come u! with
them immediately in the field based on your observations of the women that you will be using
them on" 8emember: negs based on observation always beat negs based on e0am!les"
EI really lie your hair color$ is that natural7E
E5ou've got something in your hair"E (mae it a ino neg by touching her hair)
EI really lie those shoes" They mae you loo a lot taller"E
E5ou're !retty$ but it's lie you're missing something" I can't tell what it is"""E
E5ou are !retty hot""" for a blond chic (or brunette$ red head$ tall$ short$ thic$ etc")E
EI can tell you're a good !erson" That's good because it's what's on the inside that counts"E
E6ow< 5ou must be wearing heels today"E (6hile looing directly into her eyes)
E5our !erfume smells good$ but it's ind of over!owering""" if you now what I mean"E
EThat shirt loos good on you$ too bad it's not your color"E
E5our eyes are beautiful""" are you wearing contacts7E
The Buc ,oesn't ;to! Here
6e have evolved the traditional neg into a series of much more !owerful techniques based on
the basic !rinci!als laid down by the neg that you have #ust learned about" -nce you've
mastered the use of this classic neg technique and get a co!y of our &The New Breed' boo set$
you will learn all about our much more advanced versions of this"
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Indicators of Interest
Indicators of Interest (IOIs) can best be classified as things a girl does or says that indicate to
you that she is interested in you and is responding positively to your game. To put it in simple
terms: if a girl is feeling you she will give you IOIs to let you know, if she is not feeling you
then you will not receive any IOIs from her.
The vast maority of IOIs that you will get from women will be either non!verbal actions or
indirect statements. " direct statement such as You're sexy, I like you would not be an IOI,
but rather an #OI (#tatement of Interest). #OIs function e$actly like IOIs do, the only
difference being that they are direct and intentional, which makes them even more coveted
than IOIs.
IOIs are what a %&" uses to:
! "ppraise the effectiveness of his game.
! 'etermine which girl in a group to target.
! 'ecide how and when to attempt to close his target.
! (otice if his target)s interest level rises*falls.
! 'etermine when to escalate kino to the ne$t level.
"mong numerous other things.
IOIs are very important because they are like +progress reports, that let you know if you are
doing the right thing or not. -eing able to recogni.e IOIs and interpret them properly can be
the deciding factor that determines your success in a situation in which a man uneducated in
the seductive arts would normally fail.
/ith that said, it would be wise to pay close attention to this section of the manual, this is
important stuff0 There are a few uni1ue types of IOIs that we will be reviewed in this topic.
2et)s begin.
#tep 3: %re!4ame IOIs
%re!4ame IOI (%4IOI) is the term that I use for any IOI received before opening on a set. The
easiest way to invoke these, to test if a chick has any interest before actually talking to you, is
to establish eye contact. /hen you do this, make sure you don)t look away before she does.
/hen she looks away, if she does some kind of nervous maneuver to pretend as if she doesn)t
care: flipping her hair, adusting something that doesn)t need adusting, talking to her friend
then smiling or looking down at the floor, then you have ust been given a %4IOI. Refer to the
Female Body Language section of this guide for a full list of these pre-game indicators
The e$amples listed above are the type of IOIs that you will normally get from a -eta 5emale
who tries to act like she is not interested, but really is. 6uch more blatant IOIs come from
"lpha 5emales, who have no problem laying their game down on you. They might give you a
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smile or say hi before looking away. /hen this happens, that female is dominating what you
have so far of your relationship with her. This is why it)s important to know how to respond to
the different types of IOIs that you will receive from women of varying social standing.
You can ne!er successfully game "elo# par #omen the same #ay that you #ould game high
cali"er #omen $!erage and "elo# a!erage #omen ha!e many insecurities, #hile "eautiful
#omen %#ho kno# it& ha!e huge egos 'hese t#o uni(ue types of #omen think completely
differently and approach situations in #ays that the other ne!er #ould It is "ecause of these
simple facts that you can not game them in the same manner
#tep 7: Opening IOIs
Opening 4ame IOIs are indicators that a woman will give you ust after you have approached
her and even at the very moment you)ve opened her. The main ones are:
3. 8ye contact held
/hen a woman is not interested in a man (whom she knows is interested in her) she will try to
avoid eye contact as much as possible to display her disinterest. If she is holding eye contact
with you, and better yet, if her pupils are dilated, then she likes what she is seeing. 9eep going.
7. %laying*fiddling with her hair while smiling
/omen love their hair, and when they are interested in a man they will try to show it off by
playing with it in hopes that it will draw your attention to the hair. If you)ve ust opened her
and she is looking at you while touching her hair it is a very good sign.
:. 9ino (-asic)
If she participates in basic kino, such as shaking your hand, tapping you on the shoulder or
forearm, touching your clothes or brushing her body against yours purposely, then you are on
the right track. If she responds positively to your kino when you touch her, that is also an IOI.
;. #he opens <O&
If a hot woman comes up to you before you even approach and asks you a meaningless
1uestion, then you)re probably in. Only "lpha!females do this and ones with great shields. In
most cases they will ask you something basic like if you know what time it is or if you have a
light*cigarette. They do this hoping that you will start a conversation with them, so do it.
=. " 5&22 smile
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#ome women smile >&#T to get what they want, so if she gives you a full, genuine smile it
usually means that she is interested in you. If she only gives you a half!assed, fake smile then
that can not be considered as an IOI, as she may ust be being polite.
?. #hit Tests
-elieve it or not, when a woman tests you it is most definitely an IOI. -y hitting you with a
shit test she is udging your potential as a mate, something that she would never do if she was
not interested at all. @owever, remember that you must pass her tests in order to maintain
that interest she has for you, so take the time to read the #hit Tests section of this guide.
#tep :: 6id 4ame IOIs
6id 4ame IOIs tend to vary depending on the particular situation and type of woman that you
are dealing with. 5or e$ample, highly e$troverted women will sometimes be very bold during
the mid game phase, and will not try to hide their feelings or intentions at all. They will give
you direct #OIs and kino you constantly if they are interested. Introverted and shy women, on
the other hand, will still give you IOIs yet they will be much more discreet and harder for you
to identify, and they will also rarely give you a direct #OI. @owever, like I stated earlier the
particular situation can have an effect on this as well, and in a small group or comfortable
setting a shy girl may be in rare form and will be very up front with you as well.
<ou must be very aware and keen to picking up on IOIs at all times, as they will come at you in
disguise more often than not.
'uring mid game, IOIs will more than likely involve similar characteristics to the opening
game IOIs, since each step leads to another step. /hile you are in the middle of your
interaction, if she is getting closer to you -< A@OIA8, that is considered a maor mid game
IOI. The close distance shows she is becoming comfortable with you and is yearning for your
kino, so building trust and comfort is easy now.
If she is laughing at every witty comment that you are saying, then that is a cue for you to keep
advancing. The mid game IOIs are used to build comfort, if she laughs while you tell a oke
then you should involve some kino into the mi$ by taking advantage of this opportunity to
touch her. "ny kino from her, as long as it is not negative or pushy, is an IOI.
#tep ;: Alosing 4ame IOIs
These IOIs are very important because they are what you will use to determine how and when
to attempt a close on your target. Alosing game IOIs tend to be more up front and direct than
the previous types that we have discussed, and should mostly consist of #OIs and BIOIs
(described below). /hen the time comes for you to begin preparing for the close, you should
always be very observant and have an eye open for IOIs, as they will guide you to success.
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If you have used a 5TA and are giving the impression that you are about to leave the set, or are
actually about to leave the venue altogether, she will more than likely give you an BIOI at this
time. If she comes to hug you, give you a kiss on the cheek or tell you something ust before
you are about to leave, she is doing this to let you know that she has interest in pursuing a
relationship further with you. This is the ideal time for you to close her by either getting her
number, a kiss from her or taking her home with you.
/hen you close a woman immediately after she gives you an BIOI, your chance of the close
going down smoothly is very high.
8$treme IOIs (BIOIs)
8$treme IOIs are uni1ue in the fact that they are massive indicators of interest and hold much
more value than your average, garden variety IOI. /hen a woman does or says something that
immediately gives you the impression that you can have her and that she is completely into
you, that is an BIOI. These e$treme IOIs tell you that without a doubt you will be successful.
#ome e$amples of very common BIOIs are: /hen a woman...
! Ce!opens a set that you have removed yourself from by approaching you.
! 4ives you very advanced kino by touching you in a se$ual manner.
! Invites you to give her se$ual kino, )ill you tell me if my "reasts feel real or not*.
! @as her friend approach you because she is introverted and shy.
! 9isses you in any manner on any part of your body.
! Initiates the close herself by asking for your number, kissing you or asking to leave with you.
! "cts very ealous of the other women that you are talking to in the set.
! Isolates you purposely by asking you to move away from her*your friends with her.
! 4ives you a direct #OI statement, such as I like you a lot or You remind me of my +,
There are many other types of BIOIs that you can receive. These are ust a few basic ones that
have been described so that you know what type of things to look for. BIOIs are very hard to
miss in the field, as they are very up front and in your face.
8ditors note: /henever a woman says You remind me of my +, it means that she is trying
to let you know she is interested in you and that you are her type, which is an BIOI.
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Indicators of Disinterest (IODs)
What Are They?
Indicators of Disinterest are both simple and complex signs that will be given to yo by yor
target of interest (TOI) if she is not interested in yo! IODs come in many different forms"
some of which are very hard to identify" while others are so obvios that a blind man cold see
them! These are definitely not good" and if a woman is throwing IODs yor way it means that
yor game is not wor#ing on her!
$any men will simply throw in the towel once they receive an IOD from a woman" thin#ing
that the set is a total failre! %owever" tre &'As nderstand the tre natre of the IOD and
will se them to their advantage and revise their strategy accordingly ntil they start seeing
positive reslts!
(ommon Indicators of Disinterest
%er )ody *angage
+o shold always be aware of a woman,s body langage! A woman,s body displays non-verbal
signs which can" if yo #now how to read them" show yo her tre feelings and intentions!
What a woman,s body tells yo is mch more important than what her moth tells yo"
becase it is mch easier to lie and mislead people with words! Only a small percentage of
people in the world have the ability to flly control their body langage" all others simply
allow their body to be controlled by their sbconscios thoghts rather than their conscios
mind! %ere is an example of these differences.
(onscios mind. +o hold yor breath while nder water!
/bconscios mind. +o ta#e a breath while watching a movie!
When yo are holding yor breath nder water" yo need to consciosly thin# abot not
breathing or else yo will breath in water simply ot of habit and drown! %owever" while yo
are watching a movie" yo need not thin# abot breathing at all" yor sbconscios mind will
handle that for yo! +or sbconscios mind is li#e being on ato-pilot" it will handle yor
basic actions for yo allowing yor mind to focs on other things! )ody langage is almost
totally handled by this ato-piloting fnction of the mind" and that ma#es it a near perfect
gide for determining what a woman,s real feelings towards yo are!
%er body will almost never lie!
If a woman is not interested in yo or is not responding positively to yor game" she will
probably display closed body langage while yo are tal#ing to her! /he will cross her arms"
loo# down" loo# away from yo" trn her bac# on yo" lean bac#wards away from yo" cross
her leg away from yo or simply 0st stic# her nose in the air and ignore yo completely!
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For more info on how body language plays a role in seduction and works with IOIs and
IODs, refer to the full descriptive section of this book on the subject of female body language.
%er 1yes
When a woman is displaying disinterest towards yo" her direct eye contact will be minimal" if
eye contact is there at all! This is becase it,s hman natre to simply not want to loo# at what
we don,t li#e" nless we can benefit from it in some way!
$ost li#ely she will loo# at yo occasionally bt will not #eep direct" face-to-face eye contact
for more than a few seconds at a time! At times women will say a positive comment bt will
not ma#e eye contact with yo when they say it" which is an act of disinterest that can be very
deceiving to the ntrained man! When they are not interested or are deceiving yo" most
women will loo# to the sides or towards the grond instead of ma#ing direct eye contact!
*ittle or 2o 3ino
When a woman is geninely interested in yo" she will display her feelings of attraction
towards yo by toching yo both sexally and playflly! If she has a reserved type of
personality" she may not ta#e it that far initially" bt there will be some light toching done on
her part nonetheless! This displays interest!
When a woman is not interested" she does the opposite and will not toch yo playflly or
sexally" or she won,t toch yo at all for that matter! )e aware of a woman,s #ino toward yo
at all times" and if yo find that yo are not receiving any that means it is time to revise yor
game plan and try something new!
1xcses
4arely will a woman ever dare tell yo directly that she thin#s yo are not good enogh for
her" most women will instead ma#e p lame excses in order to brsh yo off gently! These
excses are /tatements of Disinterest (/ODs)" which follow the same basic principals as
normal IODs except they are done verbally and are more direct! Women will typically ma#e p
excses rather than tell yo the trth becase it is in their natre to attempt to avoid potential
confrontations whenever possible" and they wold prefer to not appear to be a bitch since that
can scare away other men who may approach them!
%ere are some basic examples of excses that yo may hear.
''I'm really busy, I don't have time for a relationship''
''I have a boyfriend (This can be a test sometimes" or can 0st be the trth)
!"orry, I left my cellphone at home!
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#I'm waiting for someone, sorry
#I only date $insert type% guys (Tall" rich" white" blac#" poplar" msclar etc!)
If she,s really feeling ncomfortable she may 0st pll ot her cell phone and begin messaging
or calling someone in an attempt to avoid yo" hoping that yo,ll wal# away! If this happens it
shold be pretty obvios to yo that she is not interested" as it is a hge IOD!
On the %otline
Women will rarely call yo" answer yor messages or answer yor phone calls when they have
no interest in yo! This may sond so obvios that I shold not even need to write it" bt it,s a
fact that $A2+ men will still believe that a woman li#es them even after they #now that she
has been deliberately avoiding their calls!
If she avoids yo prposely in A2+ way" this is a ma0or IOD! In most cases" this is when yo
shold simply forget abot her and move on to the next girl! If yo contine bgging her with
calls yo will rn the ris# of the 5stal#er6 stamp being pt on yor reptation! 2ot good!
If she does pic# p when yo call" bt has very short answers for all of yor 7estions or no
real motivation for conversation" this is also an IOD! %owever" she did pic# p so yo are not
beyond hope! If yo can regain a position of power in the relationship yo can fix this easily!
Warning
/ome women will try and se yo to achieve their own goals! These type of women prely
want to ta#e advantage of yo for yor money or anything else that they can personally benefit
from by misleading yo into thin#ing that they are really digging yo!
To avoid falling into this #ind of trap" always read women,s body langage! Women that have
devios intentions will srely *I1 more than they tell the T4'T%" and their body langage
will give yo a heads p if they are trying to deceive yo! Any signs of negative body langage
shold always throw p a red flag to yo" so be aware and observant at all times!
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Shit Tests
Back to School...
So you've got all the right moves, the sexually alluring body language, a way with words and a
confident posture, but is it all real? ill you choke under pressure? !ct defensive and insecure
when faced with a challenge? !re you the real deal or "ust posing as a mate worthy of a
beautiful woman's affection? Simply put, are you an !lpha male or "ust a Beta in disguise?
Shit tests are a woman's way to find all of this out, and they are
designed to effectively disarm you and catch you off#guard in a
direct attempt to appraise your overall value as a man. They are
women's unspoken way to weed out the true alpha males from
the !$%s. These tests are very serious& 'o not think that learning
about how to pass shit tests is an optional skill( you )**' to
know how to deal with these, because failing "ust one test from a
dime will ultimately lead to you retreating with your tail between
your legs.
This is one ma"or aspect of the dating game in which a knowledgeable +,! can shine brighter
than any man with natural game, even very physically attractive men. -t's true, and this is
because shit tests re.uire real skill to not "ust pass them, but to even recogni/e them at all.
0ou have to know that a woman is testing you in order to break past her ploy and come out a
winner, and -'ll be showing you how to do "ust that in a moment.
!ll is $air in 1ove and ar
hen you approach any high status woman you need to be expecting to be tested by her. They
have the power to be selective and are not afraid to use it, so you should always be prepared to
go through a 2screening process2 before any 3 or 45 will even contemplate warming up to you.
6ot women have developed their own sort of 2game2 "ust like us +,!s have, and their game
serves as a 2filtering system2 that they use to "udge potential mates. They've done this as a
result of being approached thousands of times over their lives and it helps to minimi/e their
efforts and avoid future mistakes. This game that beautiful women possess is very effective
because it can seem unfathomably difficult to understand and overwhelming to the average
man who is uneducated in the seductive arts. Shit tests are one of the core techni.ues that
women use so it is imperative that you understand how to navigate around them.
6ere's a general rule( -f a woman that you open does not attempt to test you within the first 45
minutes of conversation, then you've either had too much to drink or need to get your eyes
checked, because she's not a high caliber woman and is not worth your time or energy. Being
beautiful does not automatically classify a woman as a dime. Sluts will rarely use shit tests
because they have such low standards, because of this they will never be 45s no matter what
they look like.
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!lways remember( Beauty is a very common trait, so don't be so shallow as to only take a
woman's looks into account when choosing your sexual partners. $inding a woman with as
many positive traits as possible as well as beauty should be your goal. !nyone can get a
woman that is a 45 based on looks alone, only men with skill and character can successfully
pull women that are all#around 45s.
8aking the 9rade
Shit tests are designed to throw you off of your game by allowing the woman to control your
thoughts or actions, and if you take them to heart like an !$% then they will succeed in doing
so. 0our "ob as a +,! is to recogni/e it as a test and not let it phase you, then ultimately turn
the tables on her by hitting her with a dose of her own medicine.
The trick to passing shit tests is to retain a playful attitude while also continuing to display
your alpha status. 0ou can accomplish this by responding to the test with either a neg, by
asking her to do something for 07, instead, or by asking her to do something for 07, in
return for you giving in. hen dealing with beautiful women it will help to have this phrase in
your mind at all times(
- '7 )7T do anything for women if they !S: for it and - am getting nothing in return... ever&
:eeping that in the front of your mind and living by it will help you to pass most of the tests
that you will encounter, because 35; of the time a 6B will be attempting to get you to do or
say something that will lower your status and put her in control. hen women use shit tests
they are playing men based on the fact that modern society has shown men that in order to be
a gentleman and get the girl they need to do nice things for her. 6owever, in reality women
are not attracted to gentlemen at all, so they will test you in order to find out if you will
comply and show your 2nice guy2 side.
Shit Test *xamples
Below you will find some examples of very common shit tests that you will face in the field
along with the !$% and +,! responses to each of them. %hances are that most of you have
already encountered all of these in the past as well as many others that are similar in nature,
and these examples will give you a general idea of how they should and should not be handled.
She re"ects a venue change(
0ou # 21et's take a walk over to that other bar, - heard they've got free drinks till midnight.2
6er # 2)o thanks, - want to stay here.2
!$% <esponse # 2!lright, you're right - guess it is better here anyway.2
+,! <esponse # 2-f you're scared to try new things then you can "ust say that, there's no need
to be discreet.2
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She asks you to watch her drink(
6er # "Hey, will you hold my drink for me while I go to the bathroom?"
!$% <esponse # "Sure, I'll make sure nothing happens to it."
+,! <esponse # "Maybe... what's in it for me? or !ine, put it down right there and I'll
wat"h it, but when you get ba"k you're buying me one."
She asks you to hold her purse, "acket, anything(
6er # "#ill you hold my purse for a while?"
!$% <esponse = "$lright, %ust not too long so I don't look gay"
+,! <esponse # "&eah right... but you "an hold my hat for me" >puts hat on her head?. @###
!ny prop will do.
She asks if you are attracted to her(
6er # "'o you think I'm pretty?"
!$% <esponse # "&es, you're gorgeous"
+,! <esponse # "&ou're alright, but beauty is a "ommon thing, what ()S( do you ha*e to
offer that makes you different?"
The above are "ust some basic examples. 0ou should expect tests to be coming your way in a
variety of flavors, but the way in which they should be handled is always the same( )*A*<
give in unless you are getting something of e.ual or greater value in return. !lso remember to
retain a playful, care free attitude when you respond to a shit test. 9oing overboard by being
plain#out rude or mean is taking it too far and will result in you failing the test because it will
be a display of your insecurity, making you appear to be an unfit sexual partner.
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The Secrets to Bridge the Gap
The Seduction Begins
Most PUAs dont appreciate that the most important part of the seduction process is the trust
and rapport phase: without it no seduction will ever occur.
f !ou want to "uild rapport $having alread! gained attraction% a good rule of thum" is to tr!
to avoid "oring topics such as politics& weather& or movies.
As a matter of fact& forget a"out an! predicta"le conversation topics that !ou might have&
"ecause predicta"le is li'e the gnomes of garden decor. Man! might have them& "ut no"od!
wants to see them or hear of them.
What is #apport)
t isn*t a +uropean Port where rappers come to spit their dope rh!mes.
,ere is the definition as "rought to !ou "! the Pla!as and Mac' -addies at (e"sters& the
dictionar! Pimps.
. rap.port
Pronunciation: ra/*po$0%r& r0/
1unction: noun
2 : relation characteri3ed "! harmon!& conformit!& accord& or affinit!
4 : confidence of a su"5ect in the operator $as in h!pnotism& ps!chotherap!& or mental testing%
with willingness to cooperate 6the first step in treatment is esta"lishment of a firm rapport 7
8. A. ,. (atts9
Merriam/(e"ster*s -ictionar!& : 4;;4 Merriam/(e"ster& nc.
(here do !ou start)
Begin with this pattern:
STA#T A T<P8 = AS> A ?U+ST<@
/ 1amil!& relationship& pets& childhood& ho""ies& etc.
1@- <UT (,AT S,+ A>+S AB<UT T,AT
/ ,ow long has she "een doing it& what she li'es a"out it& how did she feel a"out it)
T+AA A ST<#B = MA>+ A STAT+M+@T
/ -eep emotional stor!& !our first feelings a"out it& how did !ou react& !our opinions.
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The 8omforta"le Beginning
suggest !ou start "! as'ing a Cuestion that shows !our interest in !our T<. +speciall! if !ou
can relate to her view on relationships& outloo' on life& famil! values $or lac' there of%& her
childhood stories& pets& ho""ies& and other interests she has that are fun. #emem"er that this
isnt a 5o" interview so there is no need to grill her with Cuestions. The 'e! here is to find
Similarities in conversation and Bridge the Gap "etween !ou "oth.
#emem"er that rapport isnt a"out agreeing completel! with !our T<& although this phase
reCuires the D;=4; #ule to attain Similarit!. -uring the #apport Phase& D;E of the time& !ou
will have to agree with !our T< "ut also pic' some minor points to disagree with her on.
Ma'e sure these points are genuine& as women are great readers of sincerit!& and this will
"uild trust.
8hoose #apport
8hoose a topic from the a"ove list such as P+TS and start a conversation& with the emphasis
placed on creating a connection& on a ver! emotional level. Touching stories a"out how !ou
had a pet and then lost it or that !our pet and hers shared Super Powers etc& are the wa! to go.
Mind the Gap
#emem"er one of the wa!s that !ou can gain massive rapport with !our T< is to Mirror and
8ali"rate !our pace to theirs. Some people li'e things at a fast pace& while others are more apt
to ta'e things slowl!. B! 8ali"rating !our Fer"al communication with language& slang& "od!
posture& and gestures !ou will avoid the pitfalls of not attaining Similarit!.
This aspect of Social Proof is ver! prevalent in successful conversations. (hen !ou dont 'eep
up with fast paced people& or if !ou rush the slower paced ones& !ou will fail to gain their Trust
and #apport. +ven on the telephone !ou should Mirror and 8ali"rate !our T<.
+ver! Puss! ,as a Tale
?uestion: I'm sure you like animals. Which is your favorite and what are their Super
Powers?
She responds with love cats& "ut what do !ou mean a"out Super Powers) This is where !ou
Bridge the Gap "! sa!ing all pets accomplish great feats of healing or caring. am sure !our
cat has comforted !ou& or "rought !our spirits up when !ou were down. (hen she sa!s !es&
inCuire to find out what went on& and then "ridge the Gap with !our own comforting or loving
pet stor! a"out !our dog #ufus the #a""le/Rouser who saved !ou from drowning as a "o! and
helped !ou to overcome the traged! of !our Grandfathers passing awa!& or similar emotional
tales from !our past $insert tear 5er'er here or emotional high%.
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Bridge Under 8onstruction
,ere is an eGample of a Tale:
Stor!: Cats are my favorite too !ecause they're very similar to us. I remem!er when I was
"ust a little !oy with curly hair and cute dimples #to allow her to visuali$e and associate with
your youn%er a%e&. I had a male cat white like !eautiful fresh winter snow %uess what I
named him? #'sk (uestions to involve her in the listenin% process&. )f course I called him
S*)W+ #sounds !etter in my lan%ua%e !ut what the hell&. We had a few other cats !ut he
was my favorite. ,e was independent never home and more of a nomad than a cat. I
!elieved he was travelin% the world savin% rain forests and helpin% firefi%hters down from
trees. So one day he vanishes and I didn-t see him for almost a year. .o you know what it is
like to lose somethin% you care a!out? #'sk %eneral (uestions to esta!lish empathy and
common %round. .on-t use specifics while tryin% to /rid%e the 0ap or else it will !e harder
to esta!lish Similarity. +ou are %enerally safe with 1eelin% (uestions&. I !ecame very sad
and despondent then one day he came !ack. ,e was all dirty looked more %ray than white
and had a hu%e wound on his ear. I immediately took him in washed him so he was white
a%ain and cared for him. ,e never tried to leave a%ain. ,e stayed with me and allowed me
to do anythin% !ecause I showed him somethin% that he couldn-t find anywhere else. +ou
had a pet like that ri%ht? #2licit 3esponse& 4hen he started to feel like a real pet my very own
3'5/)6C'4 Super ,ero. 4hat is why I !elieve they are like humans. When hard times
arrive you can always relate to your friends !ecause the %ood ones are always there for
you.
The Tale of the Tape
Bou have managed to associate man! great characteristics with !ourself through this tale.
Su"liminall! !ou have said that !ou are similar& sensitive& appreciate independence& funn!&
and also that !ou provide support with love and care. These are great characteristics to
demonstrate in the process of Bridging the Gap and creating the warmth of Similarit!& and
!ou didnt "rag a"out it. Stor!telling allows !ou the "enefit and perception of implied realit!&
when stated as a matter of fact& it will "e perceived as such "ecause !ou arent "ragging.
,er nterest is Growing
Be wear! of -emonstrations of nterest $-<% during the course of !our conversation. n the
conteGt of rapport& -<s form "rief words or 'inesthetic gestures that allow the person
tal'ing to !ou& 'nowledge that !oure interested& and would li'e to hear more. The! help to
develop rapport at the conscious Fer"al level and are especiall! strong through the
su"conscious 'inesthetic level.
Some eGamples of -<s in the #apport Phase would "e:
Fer"al -<:
+es
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0o on
3eally?
3i%ht
4ell me more
,mmm
)h
'nd
I understand
'h7
'ha
I see
.o tell
*o? #in ama$ement&
.o continue
I feel you
>inesthetic -<:
8au%hin% at "okes
*oddin%
)pen /ody 8an%ua%e
Smilin%
8eanin% forward
2ye %estures
9ino on hi%h points
-uring the #apport Phase !ou should "e 'eeping ta"s on her -<s. (hen !ou are the one
spea'ing& -<s demonstrate and directl! correlate with her interest in !ou& and should "e
considered <s $ndicators of nterest%.
,app! +nding
B! the time !ou finish telling !our stor! she will feel compelled to as' a few Cuestions a"out
!our pet or tell a tale of a similar emotional situation in her past. This Bridges the Gap with
trust& a 'e! o"5ective to esta"lish comfort and rapport. This unconscious feeling of trust !ou
created allows her to tell !ou a stor! of her own.
@ow that !ou have alread! previousl! esta"lished attraction& it is imperative to go -++P into
each topic so that !ou esta"lish su"stance and inspire her to Bridge the Gap herself. Tr! to
tal' a"out positive eGperiences& although sad and emotional tales have their purposes too.
8leared for Ta'eoff
Bou are the pilot and !ou are ta'ing her on an emotional airplane ride. B! attaching emotion&
especiall! positive ones& in !our association to her& !ou have created feelings within her. Most
men fail to ma'e her feel& and that is a womans primal o"5ective in life: to 1++A alive.
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Give her the gift of emotion when she is around !ou and she will feel compelled to ta'e !our
5ourne! further. Also& "eware not to overdo it or !ou will come off as desperate and approval
see'ing. B! this point in time !ou should have alread! learned a"out the importance of
tonalit! in ver"al communication and how to eGpress emotions with !our voice. US+ TH
State !our 8ase
The second tool of esta"lishing rapport is the use of Statements& especiall! with
compliments. #emem"er that we are tr!ing to achieve Similarit! and that attraction has
alread! "een attained.
STAT+M+@T: II like rock music what a!out you? +ou seem like the adventurous party6%irl
to me I like that you must like dance or techno music?
$B! stating !our opinion !ou can also "uild a lot of rapport through the use of 8old #eads. Bou
can accomplish this with an! insightful aspect of her apparent and o"vious personalit! traits
and actions. n this case saw her as a fun personalit!& an adventurous part!/girl& and made
sure to compliment her on it $8ompliment her on "eing sh!& happ!& trust worth!& a leader of
her group& etc.%
She will then agree or disagree with !our assessment through the 8old #ead. She will tell !ou
what music she li'es and if !ou got her personalit! right. Through the compliment !ou have
assured some good will& even if !our 8old #ead was off "ase. This string of Similarit! pearls is
the bridge that !ou are "uilding of common appreciation for each other*s uniCue evolution.
A Similar Stor!
@ow that she has openl! stated her interest& again Bridge the Gap with a Tale of Similarit!.
Stor!: I too used to listen to dance : trance !efore I found my appreciation for rock. )ne
day while I was on vacation with my friends they were all listenin% to rock music and when
I listened to dance they usually made some stupid "okes a!out my choice in music althou%h
peer pressure didn-t chan%e my mind. It was a tale of sorrow. +ou ever have one of those?
#2licit 3esponse& 4hat same summer vacation I fell for a %irl. I was youn% and naive and I
had this feelin%; a hope for a relationship. We had so much fun to%ether !ut when it was
time for us to leave mainly !ecause we lived so far apart in different countries she dumped
me after a day or two. I was crushed. +ou know how those summer loves are in those
surreal climates. ,ave you ever had a summer love? #2licit 3esponse& I was feelin% down
even thou%h I knew it was ridiculous. So I remem!ered this son% my friend was playin%. It
was a!out a fresh start and I started to listen to that son% and I felt really motivated. I had a
feelin% that I could fly all over the world I listened to a few other tracks and I started to love
rock. I-m "ust so %lad it wasn-t the polka. What son% sticks out for you?
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Active +ar Jog
All these tactics serve to show her how similar the two of !ou are and create a "ond "etween
!ou two. (omen are alwa!s loo'ing for that one gu! who understands her and I'nowsK her
"etter than she 'nows herself. Bou can "uild these feelings "! using Similar anchors to the
stories !ou tell. f she tells a cat stor!& give her one of !our own& if she felt sill! in love& eGtol
!our own sill! love adventure. t is important to practice active listening so !ou can "uild b
ridges that "ond !ou two together.
Just "! tal'ing to her and listening to her activel! can gain !ou deep rapport.
Game -eep
There are various tools in the communit! li'e IThe 8u"eK populari3ed "! Anne Gottlie"s
"oo'& ISecrets of the 8u"eK $ http:==en.wi'ipedia.org=wi'i=TheL8u"eL$game% %& that help !ou
to get to 'now a"out her a little more. Also& as we mentioned "efore& 8old #eading is a great
tool $ http:==en.wi'ipedia.org=wi'i=8oldL#eading %. The one reall! recommend is the
Cuestions game. The Cuestions game is where !ou ta'e turns as'ing Cuestions& "ut the! cant
"e the same Cuestion. t is a ver! relia"le method for !ou to get to 'now her without much
resistance due to the fact that !ou !ourself are also answering her Cuestions. So "e prepared to
answer them all as well.
Then !ou can use what she reveals to help open her up and Bridge the Gap to #apport&
8omfort& and Trust. Add this to revealing similar tales of !ourself and !ou will esta"lish a
-eep +motional #apport.
A -eep #apport Method
Bou can gain -eep #apport "! sharing secrets with her& truths that are similar to her desires.
Bou can then tell her what !ou alwa!s li'ed to do with a woman whom !ou reall! feel
connected to. Bou can tal' a"out things that are simple !et romantic in nature. (hen !ou do&
tell her a"out what !ou want from the woman whom !ou are searching for. Ma'e her "elieve
!ou are a romantic gu! at heart who understands her more than an! other man. This "ond is
what ma'es her miss !ou ever! second that she doesnt spend with !ou.
#apport is the power that ma'es !ou Addictive and leads to women reali3ing how much the!
want and need !ou. #apport isnt where !ou show off !our 801 or Teasing or @eg a"ilities& tr!
not to "e funn! eGcept where humor is needed. -ont lie to her and alwa!s 'eep !our word for t
rust leads to comfort& and once !ou are caught in a lie& !ou lose all rapport. This is a wa! to
get true deep rapport and will lead !ou down the path to seduction.
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Cocky & Funny
An Introduction...
Cocky & Funny. It is a phrase heard quite regularly in the seduction community. Also known
as C&F, Cocky and Funny is the art of being cocky in a funny way. C&F was made famous in
the 'ouble !our ating' books by a"id eAngelo and has been a powerful weapon in the
a"erage #$A's arsenal e"er since. %y the end of this article you will know the basics of cocky
and funny and know the best ways to implement this into your game.
&et's %e Funny
It's no secret that most women desire a fun guy who can make them laugh. If you're boring,
uptight, and not ha"ing fun, then a women isn't going to gi"e you the time of day. 'hey seek
out men who will bring more e(citement and )oy to their li"es, not less.
o you e"er watch guys when they talk to women* +a"e you noticed that when a woman is
engaged in con"ersation with a male she is "ery attracted to she will laugh a lot*
,f course you ha"e.
-hen a person smiles or laughs it releases a chemical in the brain which makes them feel
rela(ed and happy . sort of like an anti/depressant without taking any sorts of pills.
-ho would !,$ rather talk with* A fun, outgoing, confident person who makes you feel that
life is worth li"ing, or someone who is depressed, not confident, and boring* I don't e"en need
to answer that.
!ou need to be fresh, e(citing, and outgoing. ,ne of the ways to do this is to make a woman
laugh and to be a funny guy.
0uite a few people are naturally funny nowadays. If you aren't funny howe"er 1this is one of
the situations where you need to be honest and assess yourself2, then I recommend you watch
some comedy programs or some stand up comedy in order to get common humor fully
incorporated into your characteristics.
%ut -hat's -ith the Cocky...
%eing cocky is one of the traits of the alpha/male, but it is much more effecti"e when one is
funny about it. If you walk around being cocky and o"erly confident and not being funny, then
you are going to come off as big headed and this technique will be a waste of your time.
+a"e you e"er listened to a con"ersation between a man and a woman while talking in a group
and thought 3this guy is being a total )erk, why and how is he getting away with it4*3 I'll tell
you why. +e's being cocky, but making a )oke out of it. +e isn't being serious and the women
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are responding brilliantly to it.
It displays that you are the dominant male in the situation and it shows that you are not like
any of the other guys. 'he other a"erage frustrated chumps of the world wouldn't ha"e the
balls to do this sort of stuff as they are too scared of offending women and are too busy buying
gifts, sucking up, and feeding a bunch of compliments that the women ha"e heard 566 times
before.
%eing cocky and funny sets you aside from the other guys.
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Teasing Statements
When you begin to apply the teachings taught to you in this book, you will experience
tremendous success, but you will also encounter a few things that you will only be able to label
as problems. This is when you are running your game with proper negs, C!, and all of the
other techni"ues that you#$e learned. When you are doing this, the girl that you are gaming
will sometimes say certain things such as Youre so mean!, or look at you with a surprised
look on her face as if she can#t belie$e that you %ust said what you did.
!ree&e !rame
This is the critical point in the interaction. Stop for a second and try to put yourself in these
shoes' (ou are gaming this total )*, you+re doing e$erything that you ha$e been taught, and
you+re doing it "uite well. Then, like a slap in the face from reality, she says something along
the lines of Youre such a jerk!
What would you do in this situation,
Well, - know ./0CT1( what you would do. (ou would free&e up, get ner$ous, scared and
shaken, then proceed to go back on all the positi$e game that you had laid.
(ou would apologi&e and turn completely 0!C. 0m - correct,
2o3 2o3 2o3
4f course - am3 -+m also correct in saying that you should 24T do that under any
circumstances. The 0!C male would always assume that the girl is mad at him when she says
something like that, and he thinks that he should always win her appro$al, %ust like his
momma taught him to. Then, he would apologi&e his ass off, and be completely surprised
when the girl re%ects him, and simply assume that it is because he was being a %erk.
0gain, this is where he is completely mistaken3 )er calling you a %erk is not, in fact, a bad
thing3 -t is one of the better -4-s that a target can gi$e you, and it is actually e$en better if she
playfully hits you and laughs5smiles while saying it. This is a sign that you are doing your %ob
correctly. -t says that she is interested in you, flirting with you and recepti$e to your game
6which they always are when done properly7.
Simply put, she is into you3
2o 89Turns3
Where most 0!Cs go wrong is apologi&ing after recei$ing this -4-. They think that it is a bad
thing, they panic and then try to make it better by fixing it the 0!C way. They will suck up to
her, fold like a cheap suit and say something along the lines of, No Im not! I didnt mean it,
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Im sorry or I'm just playing, I'm sorry. !rom there, the con$ersation takes a total stop,
becomes $ery awkward and all playfulness and flirting is completely killed. 0lso, this shows
her that you are not in fact the alpha male that she thought you were: it shows her that you are
an 0!C, and she then loses all of the attraction that she had built for you.
(ou are no longer the fun, exciting, hot challenge that she had been wanting to get in bed with.
(ou then become the latest in a long line of boring losers that she has left in her wake.
The reason why she thinks this way is simple' taking back your words is 0!C beha$ior. 0fter
years and years of being hit on in the same 0!C manner by the same 0!C guys, girls de$elop a
filtering system. -f you display the 0!C beha$ior of being the nice guy that is wanting and
trying to please her, that sends up a big red flag in her mind, and she discards you as a
potential male that she could pursue any sort of relationship with.
(ou should ne$er be trying to please a girl, and not %ust because it is 0!C and detectable from
a mile away. (ou ha$e to know that you are the pri&e, that she wants you $ery badly and would
do anything to get you, that she is one of the many women trying for your attention and
affection, and that she would be lucky to get you. This is the true alpha male attitude, and by
belie$ing this, it will become your reality because girls are attracted to this alpha male state of
mind. They will 2.;.< be attracted to the apologi&ing door9mat 0!C mindset.
=o -t 1ike This
2ow that you know how not to handle situations like that, it is time for you to learn the alpha
male way to handle these situations and use them to your great benefit. (ou now know that
when she says this, it+s not a bad thing at all, and that you shouldn+t apologi&e or do anything
insecure like that. (ou can use your response to get her e$en more into you, and also to get
more kino taking place in the interaction.
What you should do is reply in the alpha male manner, but also be playful with it as to escalate
the kino and flirting between the two of you. 0n example of this would be saying something
like, You know you loe it! or !hats why you cant stay away! or !hat's why you like
me, don't lie! and include a playful hit on the arm.
=on+t *e Stupid3
Something that - ha$e failed to mention is that when she is saying Youre so mean! she
should be saying it in a non9serious tone. She should not be saying it in a serious way and
wanting to pop a cap in you. When you+re gaming a girl you+re supposed to be !1-<T-2>, and
when you use negs the wrong way, like insulting her mother, you+re not going to get her
attracted to you. The critical thing about this is to make sure you are flirting in the right way,
and that she is responding in the right way.
4therwise, you+re going nowhere with that girl.
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Wrap98p
(ou now know that when a girl is teasing you for being playful, it+s a sign that you+re gaming
correctly. (ou know how to respond to it, and you know how to do it the right way. 2ow, your
only %ob is to go out there and separate yourself from all the apologi&ing 0!Cs by taking the
girls that they ruin their chances with and showing them how a real man handles a woman3
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Making Her Jealous
Jealousy is a powerful and familiar emotion. You'd be lying if you were to say that you've
never felt that annoying feeling that occurs when a girl of yours is talking about a guy in a
positive way, or when you were walking hand in hand with her and she randomly mentioned
some other dude. As men, we are competitive in nature, and when a woman gives us even the
slightest hint that she may be attracted to someone else, even if only in a nonse!ual way, it
automatically flips a switch in our mind that hurls us into a competitive mode.
"ne of the main aspects of competition is #ealousy, because if you do not envy your opponent
in some way, you will not value your opponent. $o not value your opponent is to
underestimate him, which can lead you towards an inevitable failure. All of this is alright and
is totally natural, because if you want to keep a woman of high %uality you will need to get
used to #ealousy and the role it plays in competition and you rising to the challenge and
becoming victorious.
However, this article isn't about &' being #ealous, it is about how we can make women #ealous
in order to aid us in achieving our goals. ( only wanted to put the concept of #ealousy into the
front of your mind by making you relate to it, because if you want to be successful at making a
woman #ealous you should be familiar with that feeling yourself.
)ho do you think are the most prone to feeling envious of another person of the same se!,
men or women*
(f you guessed men, you are wrong.
)omen are the most envious creatures on the planet. (f they see another women wearing the
same shirt that they own, they instantly become #ealous even if they aren't wearing that shirt
today. (f they notice another woman has an engagement ring with a rock the si+e of an easter
egg, they will say that it's probably fake. (f they hear a rumor that one of their friends has a
new boyfriend that is a very attractive man, they will call her a slut.
$he list goes on, forever.
)hen women become #ealous of one another, they will become driven to outdo each other.
$his is a proven fact that ( have personally witnessed thousands of times during my studies of
female behavior. )ith this knowledge and the proper application of your energy, you can
utili+e #ealousy in many devious manners in order to help you achieve your goals in seduction.
,et us begin...
-reparation
(t would be wise to note that before you attempt to deliberately make a girl #ealous you must
have already built some rapport, trust and attraction with her. $his is important because by
using #ealousy to your advantage you will be able to amplify these things, which should be
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your goal, but #ealousy can not create these things. $hey need to be in place beforehand.
Note: On some rare occasions jealousy can create interest in you when it did not previously
exist, but like I said, these are rare occurrences and should not be heavily relied on.
(f you attempt to make a girl that you've #ust met #ealous before building any rapport, comfort
or trust, she may simply think that you are slea+y or nothing more than a player.
)hy Make Her Jealous
$o .emonstrate /alue
$he main point of making her #ealous is to make her understand that you are valuable to and
desired by other women, and therefore you will be demonstrating higher value and become
even more attractive to her. 0ven if she notices you talking to another girl whom you are not
even intimate with, she will most likely get #ealous over that interaction.
$o 1reate 2urther Attraction
Making her #ealous is a powerful techni%ue that will have her craving for your attention. )hen
a woman sees that a guy is in high demand they desperately seek control over that man as to
increase their own social status. 'he will see this as being a challenge, which of course women
love. (t will also make her attraction levels for you skyrocket since you have demonstrated
higher value by messing with other girls in a way that wasn't cheating or improper. $he fact
she is chasing after you when you talk to other women shows #ust how much she really likes
you and how far she will go to remain your ob#ect of affection.
As a $est to 'ee (f 'he (s )orth (t
'he will work hard to keep your relationship going as smooth as possible if she is in it for the
long run, if she doesn't get #ealous and instead acts as if she is not bothered at all, then she
wasn't really girlfriend material at all. (f she does get #ealous, it means that she cares about her
relationship with you and she will in turn begin to invest in the relationship and fight for it.
How to Make Her Jealous
$he main thing you have to do is demonstrate higher value 3.H/4, which will make women
begin to chase you. You can easily do this in several ways but one of the most effective is to
talk to your other 5friends6 that are women and semiflirt with them in front of the woman
that you want to make #ealous. $his is the most basic and common way to create #ealousy in a
woman, to learn the most advanced techni%ues for doing this with ama+ing success you can
refer to the #ealousy section in $he 7ew 8reed.
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0!ample9
I invited a girl that was playing some serious hard to get games with me !my target",
along with another girl that I was already good #riends with to hang out with me. I aimed
most o# my compliments to my #riend and negged my target numerous times in order to
demonstrate value. $eeling le#t out, she then proceeded to responded with IOIs since she
wanted me to compliment her as well. %hen I made her even more jealous by o#ten touching
my #riends bum and having her sit on my lap. %he %arget couldn&t handle this and started
shouting at my #riend telling her to keep her hands o## o# me. Obviously, I #ound out that she
really wanted me and was only playing her games in an attempt to #ind out how much I was
into her.
$hings You 1an .o to Make Her Jealous
Above all else, you need to be seen with other women to make her reali+e that she is in for a
challenge and that she is dealing with a man that is demanded by other women.
You can 7"$ make a woman #ealous if she does not view you as being an alpha male.
You can flirt with your women friends and even randomly compliment other women on the
streets or in a club. (n a club you can dance with random women, if she asks why you are
acting like that you can say ''('m #ust having a good time, you can too and ('ll be cool with
that.6 You can flirt with other women in front of her in order to show her that you are in
demand and that if she wants you, she is going to have to fight for that privilege.
.on't take it too far though, no kissing, #ust flirting, kino and playful touching.
(t's simply a matter of demonstrating higher value to see if she is willing to invest into the
relationship, which she will display by becoming #ealous if she wants to keep a hold on you.
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The Push/Pull Phenomena
Derek's Tale
I had a friend named Derek that for 6 months told me that he was going to break up with his
girlfriend, that he was bored with her, she was lousy in bed, and that he couldnt wait to get
his feet on the new fresh green grass !e ne"er got around to it, and then surprisingly one day,
all of a sudden The #pposite happened, and she broke up with him This shifted the whole
dynamic of the situation
Derek hounded me for months afterwards on info of how to seduce and lure her back !e said,
That he had now realized that she was his true love and that he couldnt sleep, or live
without her. !e was losing weight, he looked like a filthy mess, and you could smell him from
across a well "entilated room This was in huge contrast to the calm cool look and demeanor
he had $ust a few weeks pre"ious
Derek %ets Pushed to a &ew 'nderstanding
(o what happened to suddenly change him from day to night)
*hy did he immediately sprout wings on her back and ele"ate her status to that of an angel)
*hen did she transform herself from a *ench to a Princess)
The truth is that, +People want what they cant ha"e,, and that is why he became so obsessed
with her
-artians (uspected.
This wasnt the work of foreign green terrestrials coming to earth, kidnapping both and doing
a mental role re"ersal on them for their "iewing pleasure
It was and is The Push/Pull Phenomena at work to magnetically transform plain, boring, and
normal interactions
This dynamic is used to amplify attraction and to gain emotional interest with your T#I
/Target of Interest0
1our Plane is &ow 2oarding
The Push/Pull Phenomena happens naturally in all relationships and is based on 3 Planes of
45istence which are6 the 7erbal, Physical, and 4motional Planes *e can start off by saying
that if you attempt the Push/Pull techni8ue without ha"ing some form of attraction gained
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The #pposite will happen, and it will speed up your demise
Push/Pull is that magnetic or repellent energy that occurs between what you want 9 dont,
and what someone else wants and doesnt It is the natural force in between both parties in an
e5change and its corresponding natural byproducts which include state, status, and "alue
1ou Pull something that you want and or need, and you Push away anything you dont want
and or need *hen you Desire something you Pull it, when you Despise something you Push
it These are e5tremes: normal interactions are an e5change of wants and needs that "ary with
degree of desire The reason you communicate with anyone at any point is because you
re8uire and need something from them: whether it is (ocial Proof, or e"en a minor thing such
as a 8uarter to use the pay phone, or the last cog in your paramount plan to rule the world
Push/Pull strategy is old news in the business world as well as its adaptation into the dating
realm 2usiness refers to the dynamic of this e8uation and the le"el of its magnetic energy as6
+(upply and Demand, People essentially desire greatly things that are in demand, this dri"es
up the price and the need or want for such said product, culminating in a rare item with an
e5ponential price tag
(ince there is only one of you and the supply is limited you are best ser"ed by making yourself
a rare priceless gem thereby ele"ating your "alue to attain the highest bidder Diamonds for
e5ample ha"e artificially ele"ated "alues because the market controls the supply, so the "alue
is greater, the si;e and cut add further to the rarity and "alue
<emme <atale
*omen for the most part ha"e refined this Push/Pull Phenomena and are natural masters of
its strength and power They understand the laws of supply and demand, and make sure they
cut off your supply, and demand more of you, to e"er be considered <or the most part they do
this naturally but some are highly manipulati"e, I warn you That is why it is paramount that
you ha"e, +The Trophy -entality,, or else you will be on the losing end of this 4motional Tug
of *ar
=nother important point to remember is that %i"ing someone something, for the most part is
Pulling, whether it is "erbally, physically, or emotionally
The %ood, the 2ad, and 1ou're 'gly
&ow Push/Pull techni8ues can be used for the %ood or the 2ad They can be used in &atural
%ame to 2alance, or they can be used as Power Propellants, and or as -anipulati"e
Techni8ues to gain superiority I personally am a proponent of 2alance, and for me it is a
natural two way street that I 2alance to keep my interactions healthy, and fair for all parties
>ets break down the 3 Planes of 45istence for you to better understand
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7erbal Push/Pull
7erbal Push/Pull is common in all interactions It happens so much that you dont e"en notice
it It occurs in e"ery "erbal e5change you ha"e, with e"eryone from your father to your e5otic
lo"er (ometimes you are Pulling and sometimes you are Pushing, depending on your needs
and wants The e5tent of your Pushing and Pulling on certain items depends on your Desire
and its a"ailability, which is what, determines the le"el of difficulty and thus its "alue and cost
7erbal Push/Pull focuses on the language aspect of the interaction It can be used to
compliment /%i"e/Pull0, or to discourage /Take/Push0 I reali;e you are thinking, why is
discouraging someone taking) The truth is that by discouraging, in some way takes away from
that person whether it is self esteem or wasted time or emotion, for e5ample, being mean to
someone is a Take/Push
&ow you can also clearly see The #pposite Theory in practice, to gi"e is to pull, and to take is
to push /The #pposite0, but we dont want to blow out all the transistors in your mind $ust yet
<or all intents and purposes for these basic understandings and approach lets $ust focus in on
some e5amples of common techni8ues others ha"e employed to capitali;e on the Push/Pull
Phenomena
7erbal Push/Pull 45amples
45ample ?@
!ere is a manipulati"e way that I saw a guy using Push/Pull on a friend one night: well call
him -ani as a short name to simplify
-ani6 Hey, I like your hair style. It looks great! /Aompliment %i"e/Pull0
!er6 Thanks, for noticing. /&eutral0
-ani6 There are two other girls with etter hair then you in here, !rd is good. /&eg
Take/Push0
!er6 "hats wrong with #y hair, why aint I nu#er $% /Take/Pull0
-e6 &ecause he would e telegraphing his interest in you if he said you were nu#er $, ut
he is right !rd is pretty good. If you co# it he will give you $' e(tra points. >ol
Things didnt go so well for -ani after that *hy) 2ecause, I highlighted that -=&I was
-=&Ipulati"e, then by agreeing with him making a farce of the scenario, and adding to the
absurdity of it *hen I laughed at the end, it was the Take/Push for all those obser"ant %I
Boes out there I took his status, and pushed him lower
I know what youre thinking, how would -ani ha"e faired if I hadnt Aock blocked him)
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*ell he had my friend magnetically mo"ing with the Phenomena, she needed to bridge the
gap, to again reach homeostasis /no she is not gay, lol0 The reason I inter$ected and used this
e5ample is for you to reali;e that you are on a multi faceted plane If you are manipulati"e like
-ani, and you dont understand the importance of %roup Dynamics, then you will encounter
many Coad 2locks in your interactions so you should be prepared
45ample ?D
!ere is an interaction between a friend named -ike and his T#I6
!er6 I attend )niversity and I a# a soccer player.
-ike6 *oure a soccer player! I love soccer! /%i"e/Pull0 Thats too ad though, I dont date
crazy soccer players. /Take/Push0
!er6 "hy not% /Pull0
-ike6 &ecause they arent good kissers. +,#ile+ /Take/Push0
!er6 I# a great kisser! /%i"e/Pull0
1ou can see where -ike was leading by controlling his Pushes
45ample ?3
!ere is a con"ersation I had with a beautiful young lady6
-e6 "ow that is a real great shirt! It is al#ost as great as #ine. +"ink+ /%i"e/Push0
!er6 *ours is nice ut I still think #ine is etter. /%i"e/Push0
-e6 -aye so ut if we swapped shirts #ine would still e nicer. /Take/Push0
!er6 *ou are .uite full of yourself, arent you% /Take/Push0
-e6 "ell I tried eing full of other people and it didnt work/ esides life is #ore interesting
this way. /%i"e/Pull0
!er6 *our 0unny, I like that in a guy. /%i"e/Pull0
-e6 "ell then what I suggest is you take #y nu#er then invite #e over for a #eal, efore
you lose #e in this crowd. /%i"e/Push0
!er6 (Takes #y ar#) "That sounds like a good idea. /%i"e/Pull0
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=s you can see by the interaction I waited for the %i"e/Pull to occur and then I followed with a
2alanced 7erbal message, a %i"e/Push The whole e5change was also more playful and
healthy because of the humor e8uation Teasing is a great way to 2alance, most times a smile
or a laugh is all that it takes to 2alance a chance encounter
Physical Push/Pull
Personally I belie"e this is where most men go wrong, their Einesthetics are all wrong They
will approach and face their T#I with an open stance: they will bo5 out the rest of the group:
they will physically tug at the girl: they will follow them around like a long lost puppy These
are all strong I#Is /Indicators of Interest0, and women will pick up on it and will Push away
Improper Einesthetics is the 7erbal e8ui"alent of screaming at a lady that you $ust met, that
you lo"e her It will creep her out and not allow her the natural space to chase you &eed I
remind that +women want what they cant ha"e,, this means that they want to chase their
pri;e, their Trophy If you make yourself too a"ailable to her it will be a turnoff
Einesthetics
The study of visual ody language as co##unication. 1inesics is concerned partly with the
conventional #ove#ents and gestures that convey delierate #essages, and also with the
way facial e(pressions, ody #ove#ents, and posture provide patterns of involuntary clues
to the e#otional state of the person oserved, and to the nature of social interaction. It
particularly studies the way winks, eyerow #ove#ents, s#iles, waving, finger gestures,
and other #ove#ents of the face and li#s vary in #eaning.
Arystal Ceference 4ncyclopedia, F Arystal Ceference (ystems >imited DGG6
=s you can see there are many ways you can gi"e away in"oluntary clues if you are not careful
=ctually if used correctly Einesics is a great way to perform the #pposite or to 2alance 7erbal
communication In my last e5ample you saw that I +Turned, to add emphasis and create a
bigger "acuum affect, this takeaway has huge emotional affects
=lso another great way to demonstrate strong Physical Push/Pull is through Physical Aomedy,
this can also be used to great #pposite or 2alancing effects
If you master your Physical Push/Pull with your Einesics, women will be magnetically drawn
to you without e"en uttering a word In one of the following e5amples I will talk about how I
picked up an #riental beauty who spoke no 4nglish through Physical Push/Pull, but first we
will address some basic e5amples
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Physical Push/Pull 45amples
45ample ?@
=n old friend of mine Bohn ne"er used to gi"e full stance attention to a lady until she would
Eino him with a Pull This has a "ery powerful affect and she will chase
45ample ?D
#ne of my fa"orites is to make #pposite 7erbal/Physical Push/Pull statements #pposite
humor has a "ery powerful affect for me, like so6
#rlandomac6 *ou know it is real dangerous to walk in the #iddle of usy intersections. =s
Im half pushing her into oncoming traffic
!er6 Hey, are you trying to push #e into traffic%
#rlandomac6 How could I live without you% Pushing slightly harder
Aombining Einesthetics with #pposite 7erbal communication or "ice "ersa is real powerful
stuff
45ample ?3
=s for the #riental beauty we met at a busy club, I was dancing when I bumped into her -ade
eye contact, then6
-e6 Hi! /Pull0
!er6 (mile, 2o speak 3nglish. /Push0
-e6 Then its a good thing I speak 4hinese! (tuck tongue out /Push0
!er6 5augh /Pull0
-e6 Aontinued Dancing as she mo"ed closer /Pull0, I looked into her eyes smiled then half
turned away /Push0
!er6 (he came around till we were side by side /Pull0/4ditors note6 women prefer side to side
communication, males prefer face to face0, waited then caught my ga;e
-e6 I pretended $okingly like I was trying to get away from her /%i"e/Push0 I hid behind
another person on the dance floor, and peeked back at her /Pull0
!er6 (he laughed coyly, and then came closer /Pull0
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-e6 *e toyed with this ColeHplaying humor for a bit, until she Einod me by grabbing my arm
/I#I0/Pull0 I pushed her away again $okingly /%i"e/Push0, then I pulled her in closer /Pull0,
and ga"e her a shocked look like she was too close, and I wasnt that sort of guy. /Push0
!er6 (he laughed and slid into my personal bubble and got closer /I#I0 /Pull0
-e6 I slid her in front of me and danced with my hands on her waist, pulled her in close /Pull0
and $ust as she was en$oying it, I teased her and pushed her away /Push0
!er6 (he ga"e me a mock sad face, like a tearful clown would /%i"e/Pull0
-e6 I took her by the hand and pulled her back in, this time I gained eye contact held it as she
did and mo"ed in and kissed her I pulled her in tight like those romance no"el men who
whisk them off their feet /Take/Pull0
&eedless to say, she introduced me to her friends, of which some spoke 4nglish, and she slid
her number in my pocket =t the time I didnt reali;e what a problem that would be 60
=s you can see Push/Pull can be "ery playful and fun 1ou can incorporate Teasing, a Aocky
<unny =ttitude, and ColeHplaying into it to add a little spice, besides Teasing, A9<, and &egs
are all Push/Pull Techni8ues
4motional Push/Pull
This is the hardest of the 3 Planes of Push/Pull e5istence to e5plain, because it is emotional It
is that magnetic energy that you feel in an interaction Its importance is that of a guide, it is
meant to help 2alance interactions
!earken back to your =<A days, remember when you met that girl, the one you had to
approach and tell her how beautiful she really was That is 4motional Push/Pull Think of it,
like a scale of balance between two people: too much Pull or too much Push and the scales will
be thrown off balance
4motional Push/Pull should be your 2arometer, allowing you to decipher what is re8uired at
any gi"en moment
It is the answer to those gentlemen who wonder when they should Tease, A9<, or &eg
If you <44> that the interaction has gone off 2alance by you Pulling too much then you can
2alance it with a Push
If you <44> that you are pushing too much then you should 2alance with a Pull
It also works the same for 2alancing the way you <44> she is acting like during your
encounter
'se your 7erbal and Physical Push/Pull tools to 2alance the interaction, or to create an
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imbalance and generate attraction in your T#I
=s you could see from the #riental 2eauty e5ample you can create an emotional roller coaster
that is 8uite addicti"e with repetiti"e Push/Pulls, this unpredictability is se5y and alluring to
women *omen are emotional creatures and if you can master 4motional Push/Pull she will
be enchanted with anything that you do
*e will discuss more =d"anced Techni8ues as part of the Paragon Pro$ect &ew 2reed,
especially on how to combine and generate powerful emotional responses
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Creating Suspense & Tension
Suspense
Suspense is created when you can make a woman anticipate your following actions or words
because they have been built up and hyped in a manner that is enticing to her. During this
period the woman will be extremely engaged: you have created room for her anticipation and
it will drive her cray until she feels satisfied. !t is important to note that in this moment of
suspense" you have a vast amount of power in your hands that can be used to get what you
want from her if utilied properly. She is paying close attention to you and you have her
undivided interest at that moment. #owever" all of this additional power over her will be lost
the moment that you actually do or say the thing that she is anticipating" so learning to remain
in that state for as long as possible $or until you get what you want% is very important.
This is best achieved by a statement" sudden change in attitude or stopping what you&ve been
doing if it is something that she wants you to continue with.
'xample:
(ou are in your bedroom with a woman and have her on your bed. (ou grab her hand and kiss
her for bout )* seconds then you suddenly stop" for no obvious reason.
This will boggle her mind" and immediately her anticipation will kick in since she was loving it
and desires it even more. +rom the period of the sudden change until your next action" you
have created an aura of suspense that will last for that duration of time. #er attraction levels
towards you will increase dramatically during this process because of your display to her that
you can control her sexually" which is a huge turn on for women.
This period of suspense can be used to your advantage in many ways due to the increased
amount of power and control that you have at that time. These advanced techni,ues will be
fully covered in The -ew .reed. #owever" one of the most basic ways to use suspense to
achieve outstanding results is by creating tension as a byproduct of it.
Tension
Tension can be used to amplify the effects of the suspense period by creating an almost
unnerving desire for satisfaction within your target. This is typically accomplished by taking
the suspense up to the next level" to it&s most extreme form by using a statement or action that
will prolong the suspense for an indefinite amount of time. /sing the above example" this
could be easily done by leaving the room after after you&ve stopped kissing her. This would
effectively create a high amount of tension because she would not know when you are going to
return" or what was so important that you had to simply get up and leave 0ust before you were
about to possibly get some ass.
1ne of the best examples of a highly strategic use of tension is the way that T2 shows will
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build up the suspense 0ust before a ma0or turning point or important scene in the series" then
0ust when you think they are about to reveal the secret you&ve been waiting for" they hit you
with a commercial and make you wait 345 additional minutes. This extra waiting period is
where the tension builds up" and waiting for the advertisement to finish drives you nuts6
7hy Should ! 8pply Them9
The suspense:tension combination is great for making women anticipate your actions and
adds to the aura of unpredictability that you should be trying to emit" which is a great asset to
have when it comes to seducing and keeping a hot woman. 8lso" when you have more than
one woman that you are dating at a time" you can use tension and suspense to effectively keep
multiple women craving your attention. /sually this will be done automatically due to the fact
that you will have a limited amount of time to divide between them" and thus they will be
wondering why you do not fre,uently call them or invite them out and will highly anticipate
when you actually do.
8s you can see now" suspense and tension walk hand4in4hand with push and pull techni,ues"
and using them together will benefit your game as a whole.
7hen Do ! 8pply Them9
Timing is ever important as it&s time that dictates the period of suspense itself. Suspense is
best applied when she least expects it" and tension should be added very soon after in order to
heighten the overall effect. ;arely will a woman expect the unexpected" so the time at which
women are most susceptible to this is highly debatable" however it has proven to be very
consistently effective in sexual situations.
7hat&s the 1utcome9
7hen executed in the proper manner and at the right time" this techni,ue can work wonders
for you if you are trying to get a woman to do something that she has been reluctant to do in
the past. !t immediately puts her emotions under your spell" allowing you to re,uest things
that she would normally shy away from. She will be trying to satisfy her curiosity and regain
control of her emotions and will go to great lengths to do so.
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How to Close the Deal
This will arguably be the most important part of your entire interaction with a women, and it
is also the part that requires the most skill. Many average guys know how to approach and
speak to women, which is relatively easy once youve gotten past your fears. However, only
very few can successfully close the deal with consistency and walk away with a hot womans
number or email address, and even less know how to immediately set up a date or take her
home. This is what separates the average men with a basic knowledge of the game from the
full blown !"#s who are the envy of their peers.
$hich would you rather be%
$hether it be the number close &' Close(, the email close &) Close(,
the kiss close &* Close( or the fuck close &+ Close(, you need to
understand the basic principals before you can begin to e,perience a
dramatic increase in your closes going down smoothly.
That is e,actly what we will be going over in this section.
The 'umber-.mail close &Target #lone or in a /roup(
0efore 1ou 'umber-.mail Close
0efore you go after her number, you must *'2$ that there is a potential chance of her
re3ecting you, and that this could happen for many reasons which are not all related to you
personally. +or e,ample, she might have had a bad day, a bad week, something terrible could
have happened, she could have a boyfriend-husband or she might 3ust be a hot lesbian. $ho
knows% 4emember5 Dont take it personally, simply say 'ice meeting you and walk away.
How to 'umber - .mail Close
To close the number-email you obviously need to have already approached the woman you
want and gamed her enough to have some level of interest and attraction. Then after you have
created attraction and DH6 you simply close the deal.
How%
1ou first need the right attitude. This is accomplished by acting as if the number-email isn7t
really that important at all, and that what is important is you having fun. 1ou can accomplish
this through the use of a +TC &false time constraint(, which goes something like this5
''I've got to get back to my friends now, I'm supposed to be showing them a good time. I still
want to talk to you though, do you have a number/email address I can reach you at?
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'ot only does this let her know that you 6#8". yourself &can also be a DH6(, it also conveys
the impression that you are the alpha male in your group of friends because they need you in
order to have a good time. This shows her that you are a guy who has a social life that is more
important to you than she is and you dont need to beg for her number or email.
2ther ideas which have been field tested as well5
This one builds rapport and makes her anticipate you calling her5
''You sound cool, a bit like me smile to show that you are teasing!. "rop your phone
number/email so we can chill some time.''
This one creates instant mystery about why you are interested in her5
''#here is something about you that I like$ I%m not &uite sure what though. 'ive me your
number/email and we will find out some time. You seem fun.''
1ou can come up with your own closing statements for getting the phone number or email
address, but try not to use cheesy lines. #lso, remember that it must demonstrate your value
and not come off as begging, bragging or anything insecure that an #+C would do.
How to *iss Close
0efore 1ou *iss Close
0efore you *9close you must have built attraction, trust and comfort. 1ou and her must either
have something in common or a very strong se,ual attraction. The more she likes you and
craves for your kino and company the better off you will be. :f you have not already built some
comfort and attraction she might feel as if your kiss attempt is being forced or premature,
which is obviously a bad thing;
<ust Do :t;
Don7t hesitate or think about what she is going to say or feel when you go for the kiss. :f you
allow your mind to worry about it, then you will either choke under the pressure and not do it
at all, or end up decreasing your chance of success by displaying insecurity. :nstead, you can
use this trick5
(egin by gently touching her hair, then start to play around with it a bit. If she doesn%t resist
in any way, you can proceed to say something along the lines of )You smell good and lean
in to smell her neck. *fter that, pull back a bit and look her in the eyes, then look down at her
lips. If she shows no sign of resistance, go ahead and kiss her. You don%t have to ask, +ust
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make the kiss as passionate as possible. *fter kissing her give her a light compliment such as
''Your lips are so soft''. *fter the kiss and the small compliment you can use a little push/pull
or neg her a bit to catch her off guard and keep her from losing interest in you.
How to /roup Close
0efore 1ou /roup Close
1ou must know who is the leader of the group, your target and who is likely to cock block you
&like the D"++=(. #lso know that there is a chance of getting re3ected too. The leader of the
group is often the one who talks the most and the loudest. :f you notice a group of >9? girls
walking, the one who is directing them and taking the lead is likely to be the leader.
4emember5 :f there are men in the group then one of them will by default be the leader
because of social hierarchy. Men are naturally the leaders in a group of mi,ed genders.
How to /9Close
2nce you know your target, leader and cock blockers you are required to demonstrate high
value &DH6( to the group as a whole, not only to your target. :f your target believes that some
of her friends within the group do not accept you socially then your chance of failure is greatly
increased. :n simple terms, make sure that everyone in the group either likes you or is
impressed by you in some way.
1ou should always relate-talk to the leader of the group first to set her-his guard down and
get his-her approval. /etting a thumbs up from the leader of the group can assist your success
in closing much more than from any of the other group members, this is because the others
are very likely to @follow the leaderA and go along with his-her decisions.
:f the leader likes you, the group will like you.
1ou can easily get rid of the cock blockers by using a method of distraction that will keep them
busy, and also interested in you. Telling them stories, 3okes and other interesting things works
wonders, it can be anything as long as it shows you are fun guy to have a conversation with
and not wasting their time with stupid compliments and :2:s to the target only. The truth is,
you actually want to spend much more time talking to the people who are '2T your target.
This neglect towards her will help increase her attraction for you.
:ts the @$omen want what they cant haveA thing in action.
The targets friends will now be happy with the way that you involved them into the stories
and didnt ignore them and go right after the target like most losers do. 1ou should take care
of the target last by negging her in +42'T of her friends. =he cant do anything about it
because you are a fun guy who now has social proof and approval from her friends. =ince you
are negging her in a lighthearted and humorous manner she will play along, and as a result
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will become even more attracted to you. =he will then give you :ndicators of :nterest &:2:s(
that will let you know when it is time to escalate the situation to a close. This is your chance to
close her number as usual5 ),ey I'm going back to my friends , drop your number so we can
have some fun sometime.
1ou should then say )#hanks for the fun time to the cock blockers and group leader &if she
wasnt your target( to thank them for being a good audience. This will raise your social proof
further and increase the chance that her friends will tell the target you are a fun guy and that
she should date you &because they want to have more fun hanging out with you themselves(.
How to +uck Close
0efore 1ou +9close
0efore 1ou +9Close you must have already created a high level attraction. :ts obvious that any
quality woman will not 3ust sleep with you right away, so a fair amount of gaming will need to
precede any attempt at +9Closing. 1ou can use push-pull to make her anticipate your ne,t
move, neg her to make her want to win your approval, use points techniques to compliment
your negs, and a wide range of other techniques that will help contribute to your +9Closing
success. 1ou must have also built a foundation of trust and comfort between the two of you so
if you to engage in se, she wont be feeling guilty either afterwards or during the se, act. #lso,
the more work that you do before you attempt to get into her pants the less likely you are to
run into her testing you when you try.
How to +9close
:f you want se,, the best way to get what you want is to act like you dont want it at all. This is
because us humans are naturally attracted to things that we believe we cannot have, and in
turn we do not want what we think we can easily get. =o dont ask her if she wants to fuck,
instead turn her on and use se,ual tension to get you to the goal bit by bit. +9Closing a
beautiful woman is a slow process in most cases, and at times even a good 2'= &one night
stand( will require at least B9> hours of gaming beforehand.
0e patient.
Turning Her 2n
:ts a lot easier than you think, all that you have to do is touch her the right way in the right
spots and she will be steaming. 1ou start off by stroking her hair, women 826. this, keep
stroking her hair and keep kissing her. 1ou should be the 8.#D.4 at all times when it comes
to se,ual contact, you must lead the way and take charge or she will be turned off. #fter
kissing her passionately &mouth( you continue by rubbing and smelling her neck, then kissing
her neck as well.
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1ou then stop for a while. /o get a drink or something, leave her for a bit, because this
increases her anticipation level. 2nce you are back continue by picking up where you left off,
keep smelling her and kissing her. Then you start taking of her clothes bit by bit5 D2'T
4"=H or it will trigger her defenses. 1ou dont want to give her the impression that you want
to get down to business right away, you want to have her thinking that you may not have even
decided if you want to have se, or not. =tart with her top and then her bra, and gently massage
her breasts paying close attention to the nipples. Continue kissing her neck and then move
down to her breasts and begin sucking and gently biting on her nipples. #fter that, unbutton
her pants slowly and slide your hand inside and begin rubbing her clit. #s you are rubbing her
clit you should start stroking it up and down, and with each stroke going further down
towards the opening of her vagina, then gradually inserting one of your fingers inside. *eep
fingering her very softly, then remove her underwear completely.
#t this point she should be fully ready for se,. 4emove all of your clothing and hers as well
and proceed however you see fit. :n some cases the woman may attempt to stop you at this
time, and that is what we like to call...
8ast Minute 4esistance &8M4(
This is when she suddenly tells you to stop 3ust before you are about to get it on with her; The
first thing you D2'T do is to panic and shout at her. This shows you as being desperate and
will turn her off, thus ruining all of the work that youve done up until this point.
8M4 usually comes when you have tried to or have 3ust put your manhood inside of her.
Touching her tits and fingering her pussy might also make her go into last minute resistance,
every woman is different and they have a variety of standards.
4egardless of this fact, the reasons for them stepping into 8M4 are always the same5 =he
stopped you because she didnt want to seem cheap or somehow she thought that you will
simply ditch her and move on after youve gotten your rocks off. =he is trying to make you
work harder for it to prove that it will be worth the effort.
Dont worry, here is how you handle it5
:f she tells you to stop, 3ust do it and walk out of the room. This will make her wonder what is
going on and will catch her completely off guard; 1ou should realiCe most of the time it is 3ust
a stupid test, and by playing along you will pass with flying colors.
$hen you return you can start kissing her all over again, start rubbing her hair again and start
smelling her neck again. #fter turning her on even more she should give it up, keep trying and
if she really doesnt want it then try and tease her a bit more to put her into approval seeking
mode. 'ever try to force yourself on her or you will scare her off and ruin your chances of
banging her in the future, besides for the fact that its 3ust wrong.
#lso, dont beg for her pussy, .6.4;
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Getting Phone Numbers: Good Intentions, Bad Idea
The Classic Getting Her Phone Number Mentality
Times are changing !ating and relationshi"s is all about e#olution, and the Paragon Pro$ect
is about de#elo"ing ne% material better suited &or these changing times Men are biological
machines that ha#e "rogramming that is outdated In com"arison to com"uters, men are still
running on 'indo%s () %hile the rest o& the %orld has already u"graded to *ista
+ 'hat %or,ed at one time may not %or, anymore
+ 'hat %as once ne% has no% become incom"atible %ith modern society
+ 'hat %as once considered noble may no% be annoying
The techni-ues and actions that %ould ha#e surely gotten you the girl ./ years ago %ill only
thrust you into the 0riends 1one in today2s %orld 3i,e many o& these age+old techni-ues,
getting a "hone number is no% not all it has been crac,ed u" to be 4ny old chum" can as, &or
a number, as there is #ery little game in#ol#ed in that "rocess, and most im"ortantly, %omen
e5"ect men do do this 4s,ing &or a %oman2s number is un"redictable and boring
To be uni-ue and stand out &rom the rest, you need to do the une5"ected
Generally %hen as,ing &or a "hone number it sho%s a %oman that you are ta,ing the easy %ay
out, and ta,ing the easy road o&ten brings the %orst results 3et2s ta,e a dee" loo, into "hone
numbers and %hat really ha""ens %hen you do get a "hone number as o""osed to ta,ing an
alternati#e route that is more uni-ue and creati#e
Post"oned
6ne o& the most im"ortant things that I ha#e noticed about getting numbers is that it
"ost"ones something that should ha""en immediately or on that same day7 This is because
%hen you as, &or a %oman2s number, you inad#ertently %ill be gi#ing her either an I6I or
86I 'hen that ha""ens, the girl ,no%s your %ant her and are interested 8he may also be
interested in you at that time, so it is #ery im"ortant that you ta,e ad#antage o& her &eelings
%hile they are strongest and #ery &resh in her mind
'omen ha#e emotional thought "rocesses and %ill al%ays go %ith %hat &eels right at the
moment 4&ter this initial meeting, as time goes on her initial burning &eelings o& attraction
to%ards you %ill begin to gradually cool do%n, so the more do%n time that there is bet%een
your &irst and second meetings %ith her, the lo%er your chances o& ,ee"ing her are
Getting her number %ill al%ays ma,e you go through a considerable amount o& this do%n
time, because once you2#e gotten it you can2t call right a%ay or you %ill dis"lay needy traits
8o ho% does one get around this9 I2ll get to that in a moment
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The 6dds 4re Not *ery Good
'e2#e all "layed those scratch o&& lotto tic,ets Most o& the time you lose but occasionally you
may %in a &ree tic,et or . dollars, i& you2re really luc,y maybe e#en :/ dollars Getting "hone
numbers &rom %omen ha#e nearly the same luc, ratios as those lotto tic,ets The chance o&
getting laid or entering a date or 3T; %ith the %omen %ho ga#e you her "hone number < days
ago at the club is as li,ely as %ining =:/ on a lotto tic,et >ou may get luc,y, but odds are that
you %on2t, and you2ll %ish that you2#e in#ested your time in some other %ay
>ou see, "retty %omen gi#e "hone numbers out all the time sim"ly because it ma,es them &eel
se5y and desired 8he may $ust gi#e you her number so she doesn2t a""ear to be a bitch, or it
may be a "o%er li&t &or her gi#ing out her number, but most o& the time %omen %ill allo% you
to game them and %ill gi#e out their number sim"ly to sho% that they could ha#e you i& they
%anted ;egardless o& ho% good your game is, getting numbers %ill al%ays ha#e stereoty"es
attached to it that are sim"ly out o& your control, %omen ha#e ada"ted to "lay a multitude o&
games %ith men %ho as, &or their numbers 0or a HB?@, gi#ing out her number is nothing
ne%, so i& you as, &or it, she %ill thin, that >6A are nothing ne% either
Numbers are $ust thatB numbers They don2t really mean that much and getting a number is
one thing, but getting se5 or a date &rom that number is something com"letely di&&erent
Numbers are tricky, as they will give men confidence when they get the numbers, only for
that confidence to be shattered when the woman doesn't return the calls or brushes them off.
The !ate and the 86I
4s I stated earlier, by as,ing &or a %oman2s number you %ill be ma,ing it "lain as day that you
are interested in some sort o& relationshi" %ith her It2s -uite clear to her %hat your intentions
are, because men don2t generally as, a %oman &or her number because they %ant to be her
&riend, they as, &or it because they %ant to be in#ol#ed %ith her se5ually 'hen you as, &or
her number you %ill be gi#ing her an ob#ious 86I, regardless o& i& you %anted to or not
In reality, it2s generally im"ossible to a#oid the 86I unless she is the one %ho attem"ts to
escalate the situation instead o& you, so instead o& trying to change that, instead %e2ll &ocus on
remo#ing the "hone number &rom the e-uation
Instead o& as,ing &or her number, try in#iting her on a date %hich %ill occur %ithin the ne5t
.C hours 'hen you do this instead o& getting her number, you %ill not only a""ear to be
original and une5"ected, but your odds &or getting se5 or a relationshi" %ill increase
dramatically as %ell
Men %ho do something di&&erent and creati#e li,e this can only be re&erred to by %omen as
being a breath o& &resh air
Here are some basic e5am"les o& ho% this can be done in a non+threatening %ay:
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>ou: Hey Debbie, you should come with me to check out the Claude Monet aintings in the
!tarbucks Coffee house."
or
>ou: # was at Mickey's bar over there, they have awesome cocktails. $hy don't you come
with me now and try one of those new #sland Drinks."
Notice the trend here, you are indirectly as,ing &or a date and you are setting it u" %ithin .C
hours, and sometimes e#en immediately i& it is at all "ossible >ou are also lea#ing out the
lame DCan I ha#e your "hone number9D cra" that e#ery 40C on earth ,no%s ho% to use
>ou see, %hen you as, &or her number it is an 86I, the same as you as,ing her out to the
Co&&ee House, but by as,ing &or an immediate date you %ill be dramatically reducing the
amount o& do%n time that %ill occur bet%een your &irst and second meeting %ith her
'e %ill be e5"anding your ,no%ledge on closing %ith many &la%less and ad#anced techni-ues
that you2ll learn %hen you read The Ne% Breed In the mean time, ta,e this sim"le ad#ice
and gi#e it a try in the &ield: Go &or the date, not the number
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Part III
Post Game & Advanced
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Phone Conversation Basics
Many AFCs have blown their chances with a hot babe that they has just met, went on a date
with, or made his girlfriend, simply by the way they deal with phone communication.
Chances are, the phone is not used for what you thin it should be used for, and chances are,
you!re using it in completely the wrong way. "n this section you will learn how to use the
phone, some common misconceptions about it, how much to use it for, why you use it, things
#$% to do and everything else that you will need to finally master the dreaded phone game.
%rue Purpose of the Phone
&verything else that " tell you in the rest of this article will all be
geared to accomplishing the true purpose of the phone. 'eady(
)ere it is*
%he true purpose of the phone is to set up a meeting or date, and if
you do tal for a small amount of time, it is to display your
alphaness, confidence, and mae her that much more attracted to
you simply by doing that. +ou can, of course, run your game on the
phone, but it!s not recommended for prolonged periods of time.
,rop "t -ie "t!s )ot
Most AFC!s have completely the wrong idea about the phone and everything related to using
it. .tili/ing the phone in the wrong way can result in you ruining all of the great field wor
that you0ve done.
"t!s time to be set on the right trac*
1 ,o #$% spend hours on the phone. +ou are a male of high status, and you have other things
to do. "f you don!t, you don!t need to project that to her. 2et off the phone after no longer than
ten minutes.
1 ,o #$% sit bac, listen to and 3comfort4 her about her problems, especially about other
guys5 %his is a one6way ticet to the friend /one. +ou!re not ,r. Phil, an emotional tampon or
her AFC best6friend. ,on!t act lie it5 7he won!t gain any attraction for you, despite what you
thin, when you act as a bitch for her problems. +ou!re the alpha, and that!s not what you do.
1 ,o #$% call her a million times a wee for no reason at all. %his is a sure6fire way to get on
her nerves, display that you have no life and mae her lose the attraction she has gained for
you, simply because this is pure AFC behavior.
1 ,o #$% call her on the day you want to tae her out 8unless you are going on an instant date
when you first meet her9. Always give at least two or three days notice as this will lead to much
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better results.
1 ,o #$% leave a million and one messages begging her to hang out with you and saying how
ama/ing she is. %his will only chase her away, and it completely lowers your social value and
gives her all of the power.
1 ,o #$% worry about the 3three days to call rule4. %he true purpose of this rule is to eep
AFCs from calling the instant they get the number and hanging all over her. "f you wait at least
two days, you will be fine. "t doesn!t really matter when you call, as long as it!s not right after
you!ve met her or too long and she!s lost the initial e:citement about you.
1 ,o #$% call a girl much more often if she!s your 3girlfriend4. +ou can call her a couple of
times more each wee than you would a booty call or new girl, but don!t bombard her or you
will end up chasing her away.
1 ,o #$% bug the piss out of a girl when setting up the initial meeting. Call her twice with
caller6id bloc, and a third without. "f she doesn!t answer the third time, leave a non6needy,
funny message.
%al %his ;ay
#ow that "!ve told you what you should avoid at all costs with phone conversations, you!re
probably wondering, So what CAN I do?
)ere are the answers*
1 2ame as you would in person, but not for too long. ,on!t get nervous when you call, treat it
as you would a normal interaction and you will be just fine. "f you are having a problem with
getting nervous just before you call, you can simply pretend as if you are calling one of your
best friends. %his tric is very effective in most cases.
1 7et up a date and then get off the phone5 %his is what the phone should be used for. "t
shouldn!t be used for long tals or as your sole method of game once you meet a chic. 7ave all
of your good game for the date<meeting.
1 A-;A+7 end the conversation first. %his shows that you are in control, not dependent on
her for fun, and that you have things to do.
1 A-;A+7 leave her wanting more. ,on!t linger on the phone, if for nothing but this. ;hen
you end the conversation before it gets dull and boring, she will be thining of you constantly
and wanting more of you.
1 ;hen you end a call, end it in a manner that communicates you have an active social life.
7omething lie 3)ey, "!ve got to go meet some friends at a party. %al to you later.4 will wor
perfectly for this purpose.
1 ;hen you set up a date, don!t go the standard AFC route and 3as,4 instead, %&--. Begin
this by simply asing when she is free= this won!t set off any 3date4 alarms with her, but it is
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the first step in getting the date. ;hen she says the days that she is free, pic the one that suits
you the best, and say the other one won!t wor. %his again shows that you are an in6demand
man, which is great for social proof and value. )ere!s an e:ample* Im busy Friday, but
Saturday is good for me. Theres this great pa!e i" the !ity that you o#e. I pi!$ you up at
%. %his again shows you are an in6demand man, which is great for social proof and value, and
you also tell the location politely which is another alpha trait and it improves the chances of
her accepting it dramatically because you have taen charge and piced the venue.
Conclusion
%here it is5 From now on you should have no problem with the age6old nemesis to man called
the phone. %hese are just the very basic guidelines of phone conversations. "f followed, these
rules will eep you out of all the traps and problems that AFC!s face and also in the process
mae you gain large amounts of value with the girl you!re gaming, and in turn raise her
attraction for you.
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Over Gaming
"You've opened her, talked with her for a while, you're making fun of her, negging her and
teasing her for an hour or so. Then you get her number, meet up with her again and
continue your behavior you're still negging her, teasing and making fun of of her.
You think you are doing the right thing because this is what you've been taught, it's the only
strategy that has worked for you so far. !n the end you fail to shag her and you end up in the
"#$% &one not even knowing what you did wrong."
Guess what happened? You OVER-GAMED her.
Over-gaming was my own persona sti!"ing point #e!ause $ wasn%t aware o& the &a!t that it
even e'isted. You might "now every singe routine( opener and te!hni)ue in the game( #ut i&
you don%t have any sort o& proper stru!ture and #aan!e to it then you wi &ai.
You wi over-game her.
Over-gaming typi!ay o!!urs when you !ontinue to use te!hni)ues a&ter they have aready
served their purpose and have given you resuts. $& you &ai to !hange up your strategy a&ter
you have aready passed one o& the stages o& !ourtship( over-gaming is inevita#e. *or
e'ampe+ you%ve aready re!eived $O$s and ,O$s &rom her as a resut o& your teasing and
negging( #ut instead o& !hanging up your ta!ti!s a&ter re!eiving those indi!ators o& progress
you !ontinue ma"ing &un o& her when you shoud have #egun #uiding trust and rapport.
$t%s time &or a !hange( you have to organi-e your game and the minutes o& every step in your
game stru!ture.
.ime *or a /hange
Every good pi!"up artist has his own stru!ture o& the game. Ea!h having his own &ormua that
is either #ased on his own stye and pre&eren!es or something that he has earned that &its him
we( #ut they a &oow the same genera guideines. *or instan!e+
,tep 0 - Run opener. 1sed to #rea" the i!e.
,tep 2 - .ease( neg and po"e &un. 1sed to #uid attra!tion.
,tep 3 - ,tory .eing and D4V. 1sed to !reate interest.
,tep 5 - 6uid trust and rapport. 1sed to guarantee a smooth !ose.
,tep 7 - /ose her. 8-/ose( *-/ose( 9-/ose( :-/ose( or G-/ose.
.hey have their stories in their heads( they have the opener and te!hni)ues a prepared( then
a it ta"es is the proper e'e!uting in order to drive it a through su!!ess&uy.
6ut how do they "now when to shi&t into their ne't phase? ,impe( i& the opener hoo"s the set
then the girs wi o#viousy #e open to teasing and negging. $& attra!tion is shown through
$O$s( ,O$s and ;$O$s as a resut o& the negs( then even more progress !an #e made. .his is
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how true <1As progress through the di&&erent stages o& gaming( #ut the most important part
o& a o& this is a!tuay moving &orward when the time !omes. $& you do not !ontinue on to the
ne't stage on!e you%ve su!!ess&uy passed the !urrent one( then over-gaming wi o!!ur and
ruin a o& the e&&ort you%ve aready put in.
<oints to Remem#er
- /reate your own &ormua &or pi!"ing up women #ased on what you are earning in this #oo"(
and sti!" to it on!e you &ind the magi! !om#ination that wor"s &or you.
- =earn how to re!ogni-e when to shi&t the phase &rom opener to negs( negs to stories( stories
to rapport( and so on. Aso #e !are&u not to ma"e too mu!h &un o& her #e!ause she% thin" that
you don%t want her. Everything in moderation wor"s mu!h #etter than everything done to the
e'treme. .his means you have to #e!ome more serious and interested in her #ut sti have to
remain apha. 9o A*/ shit pease.
Ready &or More ?
Do you want to "now the more advan!ed te!hni)ues &or how to en!ounter the signs o& Over-
Gaming and how to stop it or what to do when you%ve aready Over-Gamed her and need to
re!over your stan!e?

If you're interested in learning more, than you should check out our flagship book,
"The New Breed". It contains much more in-depth and advanced information on this topic.
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Finding the Balance
An AFC has weak techniques and very little game. Most of their
openers are corny pick up lines and most of the techniques they've
learned have come to them through other AFCs, so they are
worthless. hey can't handle themselves and don't know what
creates attraction. !owever, a player on the other hand, knows
techniques that truly work and is aware of how to get the "all
moving. he differences "etween AFCs and real #$As are plain as
day, "ut what separates the advanced player from the amateur%
Creating attraction, "eing a challenge, and showing interest at the same time is a very fragile
art. For e&ample, "eing cocky and funny must "alance out so you do not appear arrogant. 't is
this "alance that must "e mastered to have true success in one's game.
Cocky and Funny
C ( F should initially start in proportion to how hot and confident the girl is. he more sta"le
the girl is, the more cushion you have to "ring her down "elow your social value. #layers new
to the C ( F often overdo it at first and are often left "eing called arrogant or an asshole.
Masters of it are often called such names, "ut the girl will always say it with a smile or a smirk
"ecause they know that it is effective on them.
Cocky and funny comments, regardless of where the girl stands, should never "e over the top,
rude or totally degrading. hey M$) "e comical, "ut in a way that shows that *+$ are the
man and *+$ are the pri,e.
-eg !its
he rules for negs are similar to that of C ( F, e&cept they should "e used much less. Cocky
and funny can "e an attitude that is always lurking. -egs should "e used at select instances
where they are especially effective and ma.or leveling of social value is necessary. -ew players
a"using the neg is what often gets the complaint of people using the technique and wondering
why girls ignore them or think they are assholes. !ow would you like constantly "eing put
down% *ou wouldn't like the person who is treating you like that, would you% /&actly.
#hone 'nteraction
0ule of thum"1 keep them to an a"solute minimum. 2on't stay on the phone for hours
creating huge stories of how mysterious you are. 2on't talk a"out the wild times you have and
how everyone likes you. 2on't "e cocky and funny for hours over the phone. !ave a goal in
mind such as making plans. Make the plans, tell her you've got to go to a friend's house, and
get off of the phone as soon as possible.
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2ates
'f she is your girlfriend, seeing her a few times a week is .ust fine. 'f you are a new player
trying to game her every day of the week she will lose interest and challenge from seeing you
so much. 'f you don't see her enough, then she won't grow that attached. Furthermore, the
date is not an e&tended session to test and perfect techniques. hose are for field tests and
girls that you are not seeking an intense relationship. Bond with the girl, create memories,
and always end the date "efore she does.
)e&ual 'nteraction
3hen an unseasoned player is a"out to get some, they .ump right ahead and get ready to test
out their se&ual prowess. hat is the "iggest mistake of all. easing and re.ecting touches and
kisses is where the greatest anticipation and se&ual tension is created. he girl will "e so
turned on if you have the power and "alls to do what .456 of the world's men can do. urn
down se&ual pleasure.
Conclusion
Finding the perfect "alance in order to create attraction and interest, while maintaining
challenge is difficult. 't takes practice and analysis. /7/0* player, no matter how
e&perienced, must always analy,e their game for faults and areas of improvement. he more
the proper "alance is developed in all aspects of game, the more success the true player will
achieve.
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Social Value, Social Proof & Social Circles
Social Value
As the name implies, its the value that you currently have in any given social situation. Your
social value is always constantly changing depending upon where you are and who you are
with. For example, if you are at a private party where most of the guests are close friends of
yours, your social value within that venue will be generally high. n the other hand, if you are
at a new club or bar in which most of the people there are strangers to you, your social value
will begin at !ero until you intervene and raise it by interacting with others.
"owever, your reputation can at times precede you and thus have an effect #either negative or
positive$ on your social value in future situations. For instance, if you are nice guy to every hot
woman that you meet, your social value will go down dramatically in the future due to many
women telling their friends about how you are a pushover. %hen, before you &now it your
reputation as a nice guy with no or limited value will begin to increasingly creep up in future
situations in which you would have under normal circumstances started with a clean slate.
%his does wor& both ways however, if women promote you positively via word'of'mouth you
will in turn always begin new situations with a social value (bonus).
%hin& about a certain type of chocolate bar that has been on the shelves for a long period of
time without any customers purchasing it. %he shop&eeper #if he is a good businessman$
obviously has noticed the lac& in sales, and as a result he will either sell it for a minimum price
or *ust not buy it from his suppliers in the future. n the other hand, if it+s a chocolate bar that
everyone li&es #i.e Snic&ers or %wix$ the shop owner is li&ely to buy more of it since it has a
positive, attractive image in society that produces sales. %he first chocolate bar has low value
which will continue to decrease, the second has high value that will continue to rise.
Believe it or not, people also have value and it works very similarly. This value given to
people is called social value.
%he higher amount of social value that you have within your social circle or within your
surroundings #college, university, high school etc.$ the easier it will be for you to successfully
attract women in those situations. ,omen are attracted to men who are &nown for being cool,
desired and well li&ed by others. -t is for this very reason that women find some famous men
to be attractive when they normally wouldn+t even thin& twice about him if he wasn+t famous.
Social .roof
Social value is very important to have, but you can+t simply wal& around stating I have high
social value, so you women should want me, you instead need to be able to bac& it up with
some type of legitimate proof. You can even be used to having a phenomenally high amount of
social value in most situations, but those whom have never met you will not &now it until you
can somehow prove it to them.
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%his is where social proof comes into play.
Social proof is best described as being the (evidence) that you use to prove to others that your
social value is high. %his evidence can come in many forms, it can be a statement, an action,
something indirect, something done by someone else or simply something that others notice
about you through their observations.
Social proof is what you use to build your social value, it is how you raise it.
ne ma*or aspect of social proof is the way in which others within your social circle behave
towards you. -f you are the sole alpha within your group of friends, your wingmen will
typically always treat you with a high amount of respect. ,omen will notice this, and it will
serve as proof to them that your social value is higher than the others around you, ma&ing you
the best candidate for their affection.
Another great way to display social proof is to be surrounded by hot women, or even *ust in
the company of one hot woman. ,hen women see you with other women whom are obviously
attractive, you will be proving to them that your social value is high and that you are a man
who is in demand. -f you are seen constantly surrounded by beautiful women, they really
won+t thin& of you as being a player #some may, but not the type you+ll want to attract
anyway$, instead they will see you as a guy who &nows how to handle women, a guy who
obviously has high value. %hey will see you as a pri!e and a challenge.
%here are also some passive forms of social proof, meaning that there are things that you can
do that will automatically raise you social value as soon as others loo& at you. For instance,
how you express and carry yourself, the manner in which you do things, how you dress and
how others respond to you. ften what you express through your image and subconscious
actions displays your social value and status within your community.
-n studies, women have been much more responsive to the effects of social proof than men
have. %his is because women are much more inclined to go for a man based upon his social
standing than we are to go for a woman based on hers. %his is most li&ely due to the fact that
many men could care less about where a woman stands socially, all that matters to us is if she
is hot or not. .lus beautiful women typically have high social value anyway.
Social /ircles
0asically, your social circle is the people that you &now, interact with and would consider as
either friends, family or ac1uaintances. %he best way to thin& about it is this2 if you were as&ed
to throw a huge party and invite every single person that you &now and everyone that they
&now as well, everyone who would show up would be within your social circle. %he larger that
your social circle is the higher your chances of being labeled as (popular) are, which increases
your ability to display social proof with ease.
Your social circle is made up of two parts2 your inner social circle and your outer social circle.
Your inner social circle is made up of your closest friends, family members, girlfriends, co'
wor&ers and generally anyone else that you interact with almost every day. Your outer social
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circle contains those whom you would call ac1uaintances, friends that aren+t very close, people
you only hang out with on the wee&end, girls that you &now from the club scene, friends of
your friends and *ust about everyone else that you &now on a first name basis.
For example, if you were to suddenly get into an automobile accident and had to be
hospitali!ed2 the people who would visit you in the hospital would be those within your inner
social circle, those who wouldn+t visit but would still hear about what happened and give a shit
would be considered a part of your outer social circle.
Social /ircles have special sets of characteristics and values. ,hen an individual doesnt fit in
with these norms, the individual may be scorned, shunned or humiliated by other members of
the group. 3roups are classified according to various criteria into successive levels of social
structure with socially defined positions.
%he bond between each individual group role is a delicate one.
Your social circle can directly affect your social value in two ways2 by individual comparison
and by group comparison. For example, if you are the highest value person when compared to
the others within your inner social circle, it will be much easier for you to display social proof
and raise your social value in various situations. %hat is the individual comparison. Also, the
overall value of your group when compared to other groups can affect your social value as
well. -f your inner social circle is viewed as being of high value, you will also receive automatic
social proof. %hat is the group comparison. %hese two effects can wor& against you as well,
because if your group is low value and you are viewed as being the lowest value male within
that group, you will not be able to pull any social proof out of that situation.
%his is why in high school the most popular &ids would always have (side&ic&s) following
them around, because by pic&ing up the crumbs left in the popular &id+s wa&e, they would
en*oy the social value bonuses that go along with being associated with the highest value
group in the school.
Fact2 The lowest value person in a high value group generally has more social value than the
highest value person in a low value group.
,ith that said, choose your friends wisely. Sometimes it is better to hang out with a few guys
who are (cooler) than you than it is to have friends whom ma&e you feel superior.
-mportant .oints to 4ote
5 %he perception of similarity in other people activates greater response of action. "ence the
testimonials of ordinary people on infomercials. ,e will determine our actions by the
reactions of others especially when they are similar to ourselves and we can relate to them.
Also, people generally learn more from their peers than from a teacher.
5 %hey say teenagers are rebellious, however it is usually only their parents who they rebel
against. %eenagers are the biggest social conformers when it comes to the behavior of their
own peers6 they dress, wal& and tal& in similar ways their friends do. %heir entire lives are
basically dictated by social proof and value.
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5 First Person Trap2 Nobody ever wants to be the first to *oin a club or be the first in line to
enter one. %hat is why clubs regularly build up the lines outside their clubs, so that it attracts
peoples curiosity that are driving by with the notion of what is going on there. 7specially
when the clubs aren+t full they will still allow the lines to build up, it is nothing more than the
club management using social proof as a mar&eting gimmic&.
5 %he ,erther 7ffect2 8esearch done by 9avid .hillips over a :; year period conclusively
proved that Social .roof was the cause of elevated suicide rates over a two month period after
every subse1uent front page newspaper story of a suicide. n average <= more people
committed suicides after a reported incident, also a profuse number of airplane and auto
crashes can be attributed to copycat suicides. Acting on the strength of Social .roof they
engineer an accident instead of directly &illing themselves. Social .roof is so powerful that if
the published suicide is of a young person then young people will be dying of suicides and
accidents for wee&s following the report. 8esearch indicates that media coverage of violent
acts stimulates further violence. Social .roof is powerful, so ma&e sure it is ta&en advantage
of in a positive way.
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High Value, High Results
The Art Of The Social Circle
Starting Off
Have you ever wanted to raise your social value? Are you considered the nerd or loser, or are
you even considered high rated in the social field but want to make sure to stay at the top?
any people have wanted to do this but don!t have the guts or "ust don!t think it!s possible#
$his is not correct, it!s very possible to raise your social value but it does take a lot of work and
determination#
Raising %our value
After you!ve started talking to a few women on a regular basis, host a big party. Make sure to
invite them, and make sure that it is going to be a good party. They need to find out how
cool you can be# $he first step however is to get them to come, so beforehand you will need to
build rapport, make them want you and make the party seem as if it)s something they will
benefit from by going to# *asically make yourself a fun person to be around while e+panding
your social circle# Once you get a few women interested in you and they begin to really know
you, they!ll start bringing your name up while talking to their friends, which will make your
"ob a lot easier# Once your social circle and value begin to e+pand on their own in this
fashion, it will begin snowballing and will pretty much grow on it)s own# $he only further
intervention re,uired on your end will be to maintain it and keep it -healthy-, which is done
through normal sociali.ing#
/orking %our /ay (p
$he first step is probably one of the hardest, and actually starting to make some higher value
friends will be difficult at first# 0epending on what your current social value is and who is
already in your social circle, you may need to start at the bottom by getting ac,uainted with
some mid1value people in your area, then use them as your -in- to the -in crowd-# $his may
sound more difficult than it actually is, because in reality all you are doing is making new
friends# $he only difference is that instead of blindly making random friends, you will
strategically be making the right friends in order to achieve your goals#
$he Home Stretch
/ell you)re almost there# %ou!ve finally got some cool friends to hang out with, you)re feeling
more confident, more women are becoming interested in you and you now have some options
to choose from# However, you find yourself wondering Are my old friends bringing me
down? $his all depends, and if you used to hang out with dorks, then sorry to say### yes#
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%ou need to get rid of those old friends, because to be honest it)s "ust not fair to let them drag
you back down to their level because they have not chosen to improve themselves like you
have# $he mere fact that you did it means that they could as well if they tried, so if they choose
not to it)s their problem# Hanging out with low value friends will lower your own value if
someone sees you, so unfortunately you may have to part ways with some old buddies#
2f it)s any consolation, you can take comfort in knowing the fact that if you are under 34, the
ma"ority of the friendships that you have right now will not last long anyway# $he concept of
*55 6best friends forever7 may sound appealing to some, but in the real world things rarely, if
ever work out that way#
0o not let your friends bring you down8
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Wingman Game
I've Got You Under My Wing
Before we get down to business, put on your thinking caps for a moment !emember the "ast
time that you went out with a wingman to #pick up some "adies$% If you are "ike most men, the
memory is most "ike"y one you wish you cou"d forget &he concept of wingman game is not a
new one, but few peop"e know how to successfu""y operate with a wingman, resu"ting in most
attempts at gaming as a team being in vain
'aving a wingman can be an inva"uab"e too" in order to he"p
iso"ate targets, create attraction and show socia" va"ue, but a
wing can a"so be a cause of fai"ure if not used correct"y By
integrating the fo""owing ru"es and techni(ues into your own
wingman game, you can avoid the fata" b"unders that other
men have been making for years and sti"" are
If You Want to )"y, You'"" *eed Wings
+hoosing a wingman is the first step to wing game and its importance is often over"ooked
,icking the wrong man, or even woman, can sink your chances of success before you even
begin
- +hoose someone that you can have fun with Whether you know it or not, fun e(uates to
success
- Your wing must be we"" groomed, first impressions are "asting impressions 'I. appearance
can either make Y/U "ook better or worse

- +ommunication is re(uired +hoose a wing that you can share that specia" chemistry and
communication with
- )or a"" practica" purposes, no 0)+s a""owed &he more game your wing has, the better
U"timate"y, wingman game goes both ways, so both p"ayers shou"d get what they want Inside
the ,aragon ,ro1ect, you wi"" find out how to turn a tota" 0)+ into a usefu" wingman
- )ind a smooth ta"ker who can ho"d a conversation +onversation is key If your wing "acks
socia" ski""s then sets wi"" a"ways fee" #dry% and #du""%
- If you choose to wing with a woman, make sure that she is attractive
Breaking 2own the +ommunication Barriers
+ommunication between you and your wing is the basis of wing game In order to be one step
ahead of the game, you need to know what your wingman is doing and what he is p"anning on
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doing ne3t +ommunication can take p"ace in severa" different ways 4erba" cues, as we"" as
non5verba" cues are both effective ways of re"aying information &hese #Wing .igna"s% wi"" be
discussed in great detai" in the ,aragon ,ro1ect
0ny signa" wi"" work, but the idea is to keep them easy to use, easi"y recogni6ab"e and
unmistakab"e to your wing &he best wingmen are constant"y aware of the ne3t move their
partner wi"" make and are ready to react according"y
7ye on the ,ri6e
In wing sets, it is a"most a"ways advisab"e to open the set a"one and have your wingman 1oin
into the set once it has hooked &wo men wa"king into a set often raises the woman's 0nti ."ut
2efense 80.29 and other defenses to "eve"s much higher than norma", not to mention the fact
that two grown men approaching is simp"y threatening to most women &he person who
opens the set has contro" of the set When entering a set opened by your wing, make sure to
identify his target, and *747! stea" your wing's se"ected target 2iscuss with your wingman,
and deve"op a signa" in order to te"egraph to each other the se"ected target &he primary goa"
of a wingman is to he"p the other ,U0 get his target, then that favor wi"" be returned when the
ne3t set is opened
Make sure that you and your wing know which women is the target of interest 8&/I9 &his
must be c"ear and understood /n this one item, go into detai" by describing the &arget to the
"ast detai" )or e3amp"e: "By the bar with the red dress, black hair and nice legs. She has a
cocktail in her hand now and is talking to a blond haired girl to her right." It is very easy for
your wing to miss the correct target which can ruin your entire night if a dispute arises
between the two of you because you think he sto"e your target intentiona""y
Be very c"ear when #ca""ing your shots%
Instant .ocia" ,roof
Your wing is an instant 2emonstration of 'igh 4a"ue 82'49 in any setting 'e is the coo"est
guy around, and that is why you are with him &his attitude is a huge disp"ay of .ocia" ,roof
You are with him, so obvious"y, you have something going for you as we"" You need to disp"ay
this to the set when your wing enters the set by way of the ;0ccomp"ishment Introduction;
You are a team, your goa" is to bui"d one another up to reach new heights When your wing
enters the set, introduce him and bui"d him up with your 0ccomp"ishment Intro
73amp"e 0ccomp"ishment Intro: 0fter opening a set, &he ,"ayer enters into the set
2<aw: Hey, you guys have to meet my friend! This is The layer. He is truly a legend. He
started his own com!any online and everyday he hel!s thousands of followers get laid!"
/bvious"y, you wi"" use your own persona" accomp"ishment introductions when introducing
your wing to a set ,"an your intro beforehand and have it ready to use on any occasion It's
a"so a good idea to have more than one intro memori6ed &his wi"" he"p to keep things fee"ing
interesting for the both of you Boredom can ruin a good time
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&hings to !emember
- Your wing is a"ways right 2on't go against your wing and agree with the target Going
against your wing shows an immediate "ack of "oya"ty
- ,ut a"" se"fish thoughts aside, you are a team so act "ike one
- &he ,U0 who opens the set has first choice in choosing a target
- Bui"d each other up &ogether, you achieve resu"ts
- If you want to f"y, you need wings
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Pivots & Pawns
It's All About Status
By now you should have at least a basic understanding of social
value and how it has a positive affect on your ability to
successfully open and close sets. Women will be much more
inclined to respond positively to you when you have provided
some amount of social proof before you attempt to open them
simply because they will automatically view you as being a high
status male that is worthy of their attention.
When a woman notices a man with another hot woman regardless of what he loo!s li!e her
attraction level toward him will increase. "his process is called Pre#Selection. "hat man has
been pre#selected as a potential mate simply because another high caliber woman has selected
him as a mate.
"his starts a chain reaction.
"his wor!s effectively because of the way that women thin!. $ither consciously or
subconsciously this will run through their minds% "Ok, if she is with him then I will get with
him too because there must be something about him that is worth the effort and she's saved
me the time of finding it out for myself. Another reason why this wor!s is because li!e how
we want a woman that is beautiful women want a man who is in demand.
Supply and &emand
"he theory that women are more attracted to good loo!ing men because of mere physical
appearances is a myth. Women are attracted to better loo!ing men because they are in higher
demand. It is for this same reason that women are attracted to millionaires% they are in
demand. 'ovie and roc! stars are in e(tremely high demand and the same goes for men in
positions of high power. When you really thin! about it the )*+, single trait that is
unanimously shared between all of the types of men that women find irresistibly attractive is
that they are in high demand.
"hen what must be the most attractive thing that a man can have-
'oney- .ame- Power- +oo!s- /onfidence-
*)0 It's demand.
,ou could be bro!e have no friends no power be ugly and have only a droplet of confidence
but if you have a beautiful women on your arm you will have no problem getting others. &o
you thin! women are attracted to 1ugh 1efner because he is rich famous and powerful- "hey
aren't. It's because he is always surrounded by other beautiful women and he is a man that is
in very high demand.
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2tili3ing Pivots and Pawns to your advantage is one of the best ways to display this level of
high status and increase your chances of sets opening by automatically showing that you are a
man who is in demand.
1ow It Wor!s
Any woman that you are seen with in the field who is not one of your targets within the venue
is either a pivot or a pawn. If you bring a hot woman along with you on purpose she is a pawn.
If you begin tal!ing to a woman who you already !now or have gamed in the past and she 4ust
happened to be at the venue then she is a pivot.
Pivots and pawns have their differences but they both serve the same purpose. Pivots are
collected automatically as you begin to regularly go out and sarge in your local area and they
are commonly used in a passive manner but sometimes can be used deliberately if you feel the
need to do so. Pawns are always used purposely and 567 of the time you will bring them out
with you in a direct attempt to automatically display your status and demand.
Pivots
Pivots are much more powerful than pawns because they not only show you are in high
demand but also display you as being a very social guy with a large social circle. $ventually
you will collect so many pivots that you will rarely go to a club or bar without seeing one and
from that point it's only a matter of time before you become 8'r. Popularity8 in your local
area. When a man wal!s into a club and two hot women immediately run up to greet him that
is a very powerful message indeed. It ma!es more women want to meet him and find out why
he is so special thus creating more pivots for him to use in the future. It's a snowball effect.
Pawns
Pawns do not have all of the added bonuses that pivots do but are e9ually effective and will be
necessary until you've established a fairly large pivot base. 2sing pawns is the gateway to
ac9uiring pivots. "hin! of pawns as the small snowball that you ma!e before you begin to roll
it in the snow and pivots as the snow that stic!s to the pawn ma!ing the snowball grow as it
moves. Pawns are women that you bring out with you to a venue to display your status as a
man who is already pre#selected by a woman and they ma!e sets open much easier because
you will be viewed as someone who is in demand and in a non#threatening position. ,ou've
already got girls with you right there in front of them and that sets you apart from the rest of
the dogs running around with their little pin! things out.
:etting and 2sing Pivots and Pawns
In order to get women to the point of being either a pivot or pawn for your future use you will
obviously need to meet and game them as you would normally game any other girl that you
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are interested in for other reasons. 1owever dealing with pivots and pawns is not a give;ta!e
relationship and you should try to e(press as little se(ual interest in them as possible until
you have mastered this techni9ue.
When you've become more proficient at handling your pivots and pawns or 4ust handling
women in general you will be able to treat them however you wish and still reap the rewards
of them playing a pivot;pawn role for you. ,ou can sleep with them but you must ma!e it
clear as day that you are not interested in any sort of relationship with them that surpasses
friendship.
2sing your pivots and pawns is simple and you need not do anything more than bring them
along with you <for pawns= or have them !now you well enough to approach and greet you
when you arrive at a venue where they are <for pivots=.
)nce you are in the presence of potential targets and have your pivot;pawn by your side they
can assist you in opening sets by playing a role similar to that of a wingman or 4ust stay bac!
while you go at it alone. >ust the fact that you have already been seen with them will have a
ma4or impact on your success but if they are intelligent enough to participate in opening with
you and have no problems with you gaming other women in front of them then you can have
them do that as well. ,ou do not need to teach your pivot;pawn any of the seduction
techni9ues that you will be using when opening a set they will simply thin! it is natural and
will most li!ely play along accordingly.
Swapping
If you are going to a new venue which you have never been to before <for instance one in a
different city= and !now the chances that one of your pivots being there is generally remote
you can simply call one of your pivots and turn her into a pawn by as!ing her to tag along.
,ou can also turn one of your pivots into a pawn by initiating a venue change. .or e(ample
you could go to a club and be greeted by one of your pivots then after a bit of conversation
invite her to leave with you and go to a different club. "his will change her status to that of a
pawn because at the new club she will be arriving with you.
Pawns can be turned into pivots as well by not bringing them out with you and allowing them
to show up at the venue by themselves.
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Imaginary Point Systems
If Only You...
There has more than likely been a time during your life when you wanted to punish a woman
for certain behaviors that you didnt like. owever! you didnt know e"actly how to go about it
in a manner that didn#t resort to violence or cruelty! and because of that you $ust kept putting
up with her crap. Then! since you allowed her to treat you that way without offering her any
conse%uences for her actions! she $ust did whatever she wanted to and proceeded to walk all
over you! before re$ecting you like she did all of the other &'(s who tried to pursue her.
This couldve been easily prevented if only you were able to keep her in check by turning the
tables in your favor. )e know of a way to pull this off! and it not only accomplishes the task at
hand! but is a great attraction building techni%ue as well.
(ounting Points
This techni%ue is effective in situations in which a girl does something that is not acceptable
or something that you simply don#t approve of. You will then punish this bad behavior by
deducting points from her based on an imaginary points system that you create. To women!
this all seems like nothing more than a simple flirting game! but you as the P*& will know
that it actually cuts much deeper than that. )hen you e"ecute a points system properly! there
are discreet signals that you will be sending to the woman that will be picked up by her
subconscious mind. )hen this happens! her conscious mind will translate these signal into
feelings that will make her seek your approval and work harder to impress you.
This strategy works very well because women not only need to feel as if they are viewed
positively in the eyes of the men that they are attracted to! but also women always want to be
in control of everything. So when they arent in control and feel as if they are failing to get a
guy! they will increase their efforts and do their best to change the situation into their favor.
The best part is that by doing this point system! you will effectively be labeling yourself as
being a challenge. You will be the trophy! and will be making her work for you.
To give you a better understanding of how this works! here are some e"amples+
,asic Points -"amples
-"ample One
,+ .ives you a playful slap! punch! etc.
You+ You really aren't on top of your game today, you just lost five points.
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-"ample Two
,+ ,urps or some other disgusting shit that she thinks is cute.
You+ That's just nasty, Im taking away ten points.
-"ample Three
,+ You know my e would have held the door for me.
You+ !aha, Im not your e. "ust for that statement, minus fifteen points.
&s you can see! this isnt hard to do at all. /emember to always do this in a playful manner! if
she thinks that youre actually serious about these points! shell think youre an idiot. &lso!
remember to switch up your game while doing this. These basic deductions of points shouldn#t
be the only way in which you use this techni%ue. One of the best ways to add to the effect of
your points system is to keep a value total 0for e"ample 123 or 456. ,y keeping a total! you will
allow yourself to use that total to neg her easily and simply tease her in general.
Its a good idea to start her out at a low value score! that way she will put in an effort to raise
her score. ere are some e"amples of how this can be done+
Total 7eeping -"amples
-"ample One
,+ !ey do you want to hang out tonight#
You+ Yeah right, you're at negative twenty five points. $o way I'm hanging out with you.
-"ample Two
,+ You're a%tually keeping s%ore# 0or a similar statement6
Stick+ "ust for that, I am now. You're at negative thirty&five.
-"ample Three
,+ You just said twenty&five'
You+ (h, well it's thirty&five.
This may seem a little silly now! but here is where it all comes together+ Youre going to set up
rewards for certain point values. The idea behind this is that it is only a matter of time before
she#s going to ask you what the points mean after you start keeping a total value. If she
doesn#t! you should discard this techni%ue! because you failed to remain in control. owever!
if she takes the bait 0she asks you what the points mean6! then here is where the fun begins
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and you can start reaping the rewards of your efforts. 8ore e"amples+
Point /eward -"amples
,+ If I play along, then what do I get for my points# or )hy should I %are if I have
points# or )hat are you keeping s%ore for anyway#
-"ample One
* This is a ni%e opportunity to head things in a more seual dire%tion *
You+ +ets see, I'm not sure, what do I get for mine# or You might -e a-le to redeem some
for a kiss if you're lu%ky. or If you manage to get a lot of points, may-e I'll let you do
whatever you want with me.
-"ample Two
* If you dont de%ide to take things in that dire%tion yet *
You+ )ell at ./ points, I'll give you my num-er. 0t 1/, I'll take you to the movies2diner
3wherever you want to take her4. Then at 5/, you %an %ome over to my house.
-"ample Three
* If you have already esta-lished seual kino and kissing *
You+ !ow a-out at 6/, I'll invite you over for dinner. Then if you're a good girl and get up
to 7/ -efore you leave, I'll let you sneak a peak of my -edroom.
There you have it! a simplified guide to using an imaginary point system to your advantage
when seducing women. ,y using the counting points system! shell be into you! trying to
impress you! and working for you in no time. I believe that youll like the rewards that you can
get from using this techni%ue! $ust make sure that you use this techni%ue simultaneously along
with other techni%ues as well! as it is not designed to be the only strategy that you can offer.
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Sea of Fish: Best Places to Meet Women (And Why)
Here, There, Everyhere!
"t#s tr$e %$ys& 'o$ can meet omen (ractically anyhere thro$%ho$t yo$r daily life, and yo$
don#t even need to %o o$tside of yo$r normal daily ro$tine to find these dimes) The thin% that
most %$ys fail to reali*e is that omen are everyhere, +$st aitin% to ,e a((roached) Even
the an%elic ,ea$ties that tend to intimidate men ill res(ond (ositively if yo$ a((roach them
(ro(erly hile they are ithin their normal, comforta,le environment) Most AF- men %et the
im(ression that yo$ can only find omen at (laces s$ch as ,ars and ni%htcl$,s) This is sim(ly
not tr$e& Men %o thro$%h everyday life (assin% $( n$mero$s o((ort$nities ,eca$se they
either don#t .no here to loo. or have the ron% idea a,o$t findin% the omen)
She#s the Wron% /ne&
Findin% omen is m$ch li.e %oin% to a %rocery store0 yo$#re not %oin% to ,e a,le to find ice
cream in the cereal section, and yo$ on#t ,e a,le to find a Play,oy model at a convent) This is
alays somethin% that yo$ have to remem,er hen yo$ are %oin% to ,e loo.in% for omen,
and also somethin% to .ee( in mind hen yo$ %o to certain (laces loo.in% for a certain ty(e of
%irl) 'o$ sho$ld 1E2E3 %o to a ,ar or cl$, loo.in% for yo$r ne4t %irlfriend)
5ocation, 5ocation, 5ocation
Finally, this is here yo$ are %oin% to learn e4actly here and hy to meet the omen that
yo$ are loo.in% for) These are +$st a fe of the ,est locations to find omen, and is ,y no
means a com(letely incl$sive list, so alays .ee( yo$r eyes (eeled&
6aily Travels
6aily travels are the easiest and most a,$ndant (laces to meet omen) This is ,eca$se
everyone, no matter ho hot they may ,e, has to do certain thin%s each day and also has social
activities that they do) They can ,e thin%s they are re7$ired to do or sim(ly (ersonal interests)
Whatever the sit$ation may ,e, there are (lenty of them o$t there&
Best 6aily Travel Areas:
8 -offee Sho(s
8 -af9#s
8 Boo.stores
8 Malls
8 S(ecialty Stores
8 Sho((in% -enters
8 Errand 5ocations (:rocery Store, 5a$ndromat)
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8 Hotels
8 -lasses (S$ch as 'o%a, 6ance)
8 S(ortin% Events (S(ectator or Partici(ant)
As " stated earlier, these are +$st to %ive yo$ an idea of here to loo. and some of the ,est
locations) " o,vio$sly can#t state every sin%le (lace here yo$ can find omen, ,eca$se that#s
everyhere&
Another ,enefit of meetin% omen d$rin% their daily travels is that they are $s$ally alone)
Most men have a harder time a((roachin% a oman if she is in a %ro$( than if she is alone, so
this ill %ive yo$ an advanta%e) Also, omen ill act differently hen they are alone as
o((osed to ,ein% ith a %ro$( of friends) 'o$ are m$ch more li.ely to %et a (ositive res(onse
if the %irl is alone, ,eca$se her Anti;Sl$t 6efense ill %o $( so that she on#t loo. ,ad in front
of her friends and ,e la,eled as a sl$t) 6$rin% these daily travels, there ill also not ,e as
m$ch coc. ,loc.in% or other omen tryin% to (rotect yo$r tar%et, hich also ma.es the
a((roach and closin% m$ch easier for yo$&
Parties
Parties are also %ood events to meet omen at, and not +$st ,eca$se of s(in the ,ottle and
tr$th or dare& Since yo$#re at the (arty that means that yo$ ere invited0 of co$rse, this means
that yo$ m$st .no (eo(le ithin that social circle) 'o$r social circle is a %reat ay to meet
omen, as they are more rece(tive to (eo(le that their friends already .no) "t also %ives yo$
a foot in the door ith almost everyone at the (arty)
Being a guest at a private party gives you a very non-threatening position.
Another ,enefit of meetin% omen at (arties is the comfort factor for the %irl) At a (arty, the
%irl ill .no some of the (eo(le and feel more in her element, and ill ,e m$ch more illin%
to have a %ood time and act more ild than she o$ld at a (lace s$ch as a ,ar here she only
.nos her %ro$( of friends)
5earnin% Esta,lishments
5earnin% esta,lishments are a (otentially %reat (lace to meet omen) -olle%es, comm$nity
colle%es, schools and any other learnin% esta,lishments are f$ll of yo$n% omen ho are +$st
,e%innin% their +o$rney into life and meetin% %$ys, and are $s$ally sli%htly easier to %ame
,eca$se of that) Most omen ho %o to o(t;in schools s$ch as colle%es are there not only to
learn, ,$t to meet ne (eo(le as ell)
"t#s easiest to meet %irls at a colle%e or other esta,lishment if yo$ are a st$dent at that school)
There, yo$ ill ,e in areas as the li,rary, aro$nd cam($s, the cafeteria, st$dent %ro$(s,
concerts and s$ch very re%$larly) "t also ma.es conversation easier as yo$ ill have a %ood
o(ener that relates to the common school that yo$ share, and yo$ ill have more thin%s to tal.
a,o$t)
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"f yo$#re not attendin% that school, the learnin% esta,lishments are still an o(tion for yo$)
6e(endin% on yo$r a%e, yo$ can either (ass as a st$dent, or say that yo$ %rad$ated from that
school) /f co$rse, as an alternative, yo$ can alays not mention yo$r relation to the school at
all) Most schools, es(ecially lar%e colle%es, have a lar%e amo$nt of o$tside visitors on cam($s
re%$larly, so yo$ on<t ,e vieed as =eird> for ,ein% there hen yo$ are not s$((osed to ,e)
Wor.
The or.(lace can also ,e a %ood (lace to meet omen, since yo$ s(end the ma+ority of yo$r
a.in% life there) Hoever, yo$ m$st %o a,o$t it in the correct manner, $nless yo$ ant to %et
yo$rself fired or into some very a.ard (ermanent sit$ations)
When %oin% a,o$t ($rs$in% relations ith the omen yo$ or. ith, consider ho m$ch yo$
or. ith that oman on a daily ,asis, and if yo$ o$ld ,e comforta,le ith that sit$ation if
thin%s ta.e a t$rn for the orse in yo$r ($rs$its) Also, ,e caref$l if yo$ are %oin% for omen in
a hi%her (osition than yo$, s$ch as yo$r ,oss) 'o$ sho$ld alays ($t yo$r money ,efore the
omen in yo$r life, so never ($t yo$rself in a (osition that co$ld res$lt in yo$ losin% yo$r +o,)
The or.(lace can ,e an easy (lace to meet omen, so hen $sed correctly yo$ ill ,enefit
from it %reatly) 'o$ can start conversations at (laces s$ch as the ater cooler, ,rea. room,
o$tside (if yo$ smo.e), or.;s(onsored (arties (never miss these) or any other (lace yo$
o$ld see that oman in the or.(lace)
Another h$%e ,enefit of the or.(lace is that yo$ can set $( dates ith co;or.ers fairly
easily) /ne of the ,est o(tions is as.in% one of yo$r female co;or.ers to l$nch or dinner after
yo$ ,oth %et off or., as it comes across as a cas$al thin% and doesn#t set off the =date> alarm
inside of her mind)
"nternet
Ah, the %ood old internet& "t has lon% ,een critici*ed ,y many males as a %amin% %ro$nd for
losers and (eo(le ho can#t %et omen s$ccessf$lly in real life)
This is not tr$e at all& The internet sho$ld not ,e yo$r only method of comm$nication ith
omen, as yo$ ill lose cali,ration in yo$r social s.ills and lac. of female contact is o,vio$sly
not a (ositive thin%, ,$t hen $sed as a com(liment to in;(erson meetin%, it can ,e 7$ite
$sef$l) 'o$ can $se it either for (ractice on yo$r %ame, or for act$al meetin% of omen) Either
ay, yo$ ill ,e %ainin% (ositive e4(erience)
The ,est (laces to meet omen on the internet are online datin% sites and (laces s$ch as
mys(ace and face,oo.) Alays as. for a (ict$re, and follo common sense r$les so that yo$
don#t end $( on a date ith a ?@;year old (rison esca(ee named B$,,a)
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-l$,s and Bars
Bars and cl$,s can ,e a %ood (lace to meet omen, ,$t not for the reasons yo$ o$ld
normally s$s(ect) For one, yo$#re not %oin% to meet yo$r f$t$re ife or lon% term %irlfriend at
a ,ar, so they are ,etter served as %ro$nds for (ractice on yo$r %ame, or if yo$ are loo.in% for
a one;ni%ht stand or a ,ooty call)
"n a cl$,, omen ill have their =,itch shields> $( to ma4im$m levels at all times to avoid the
onsla$%ht of AF-s that a((roach them and annoy them all the time at (laces li.e that)
Another set,ac. of cl$,s is that they are lo$d, smo.y, and dar.) 'o$ ill ,e leanin% in all the
time to hear the %irl, and to re(eat thin%s, hich is one of the orst thin%s yo$ can do ith
,ody lan%$a%e, as it dis(lays insec$rity)
The ,enefit to cl$,s is that yo$ ill more than li.ely never see these omen ever a%ain, and
since they are so lo$d and dar., the chances are that the only (eo(le seein% yo$ %et re+ected
are the (eo(le in the set that yo$ %ame) 'o$ can also %ame a lar%e amo$nt of %irls in one (lace
in ,ars and cl$,s, so it serves as an e4cellent =trainin% %ro$nd>)
-oncl$sion
These are +$st a fe of many onderf$l locations of here to meet omen, as there are far too
many to name in this section) "t#s no yo$r +o, to %o o$t there and $se the information that
e have (resented yo$ ith, as ell as find yo$r on ne favorite locations to meet %irls&
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Meeting Women Online: The Basics
In our modern world everything is becoming faster and easier.
Technology allows us to accomplish things in ways that were never
before possible for the generations that preceded us, and dating is
no eception. !eople no longer want to spend hours coo"ing a
single meal when they can #ust pop something into the microwave,
and in turn they don$t want to waste countless amounts of time and
money scouring the dating scene for a mate when they can browse
thousands of profiles in the comfort of their own home for free.
I$m not saying that you should consider replacing normal human
interaction and offline gaming with online dating sites, but rather
telling you that there are M%&' high (uality, beautiful women to be
had #ust a clic" away.
'ou should seriously consider using the internet to meet new women and to compliment your
normal dating life. It won$t cost you a dime if you only use the free services and it can$t hurt to
try. 'ou$ll be surprised what you might find.
)etting Out There
There are many websites out there that you can #oin. In the *+% a very popular one is
Myspace.com. There are ,O%-+ of girls on there. It$s almost considered weird if you meet
someone that doesn$t have a myspace page nowadays. Most say that they only #oined for fun,
but the real reason most women #oin is because they are loo"ing for a guy. It$s #ust li"e when
girls go out to the clubs to .dance., when everyone "nows what they are really there for.
It is their conscious mind ma"ing ecuses for their unconscious mind$s inner desires. 'ou may
or may not have already tried meeting girls online, and if you failed then you need to
understand one simple fact:
It$s not you they are re#ecting.
It is your approach, and all they are doing is giving you feedbac". ,et$s face it, all that they
have to go by on you is a few pictures and a small bio about you that most of them will thin"
you #ust made up anyway. +o how do you correct your mista"es and approach them properly
online and spar" enough interest to get a real meeting or date/
,et$s convince them that you are the one that they want :0
!impin$ 'our !age Out
If you #oin myspace for eample, you need to ma"e your page loo" as good as possible and it
should compliment you as much as possible. -o not leave your page with the default loo" that
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comes standard. That is #ust boring.
)o out and find a trendy pre1made layout, or if you are creative enough and have 2TM, s"ills
you can ma"e your own custom layout. Be sure to match the colors to your s"in tone in your
main default picture as well for best results. To find a pre1made layout, #ust go onto google
and search for 3myspace layouts4. 'ou should be careful which ones you pic" as some of them
have hidden codes that will use your myspace to spam the internet. With that aside, choose
one that you li"e and copy and paste it into your profile.
'ou should also have a girl help you pic" out which pictures that you should "eep in your
profile. They have a better eye than we do, and it$s them that we are trying to attract.
5illing out your about me section TI!: Try not to ma"e it TOO +67IO*+. This is your chance
to shine and really pull her in.
M'+!%86
+tart by browsing your local area by your 9ip code and what ever search preferences that you
li"e. Then #ust scroll down through all the hotties and play the .I$d ,i"e To 5uc" 2er )ame. by
loo"ing at their default pictures in the list of results.
I$d ,i"e to 5uc" 2er )ame
This is a game where you always WI&, &6:67 lose; When searching for the girls that you are
going to message online, O&,' contact the ones that you really want to fuc" or hoo" up with.
That way, either if you end up landing < or <= girls you still get the girl>s0 that you 76%,,'
want to hoo" up with. It$s WI& WI&.
What do you have to lose/ If she doesn$t message bac", then it$s nothing wrong with you. %ll
she has to #udge you is your picture and a few words in your info. +o if you$re not getting good
results, change your style up a bit. Besides, who cares if you get turned down by a few chic"s
online/ 'ou$ve never even met them and most li"ely never will, so it$s no big deal.
5inding a ,ine That Wor"s
+o as you are browsing the girls in your area, start off by finding one line that wor"s for you
and that gets good responses from the girls that you are mass spamming. Then "eep using it
until you$ve messaged everyone in your area.
%n eample of a good line that you could use would be the following:
"Hey Sue, I just decided that we should talk... why?? Because I'm the shit, basically. So
what's up? :o)"
Tip: Ta"e your time, it$s pretty easy to get in over your head. Tal"ing to ?@ girls at once can be
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a headache to "eep up with;
)etting 2er 6mail A %IM
Once you have been tal"ing to the girl for about = to B messages bac" and forth you can then
safely as" her for another means of contacting her. 5or eample, as" for her %IM or M+& so
you can do some live chatting with her.
6ample: "Haha you're u!!y" :) Hey, do you ha#e $I%?? %yspace messa&i!& takes tooo
lo!!&&&&&&. I wa!t somethi!& more, "I!sta!t."
)etting 2er &umber
The name of the game is &OT to be her online friend. The longer that you stay online tal"ing
to her the more that you will become nothing more than her online fantasy and your chance of
getting laid will steadily continue to decrease.
Once you get her comfortable tal"ing to you on %IM, try to get her number while she is at an
emotional high of feeling really good towards you. Once you get her number you can tell her
that you$ll give her a call sometime tomorrow or if you$d li"e, depending on the conversation,
you can call her as soon as you get it. %lso if you are calling her at a later date, try to find a
time that is good for her so that she will be epecting your phone call and will not be busy
when you call.
+he will also be thin"ing about it all day;
6ample:
If you want to call her immediately:

!*%: "'ulie, do you ha#e a cell pho!e? I like to hear people's #oice's whe! I talk to them ()"
Culie: "*eah, me too :) it's +++,-./,++++."
If you want to call her the net day:
!*%: "Hey 'ulie, do you ha#e a cell pho!e? I !eed to &o &et some work do!e. I you'd like I
could &i#e you a call tomorrow. 0hat time is &ood or you hu!? ()"
Culie: "*eah, I'd like that :) it's +++,-./,++++, call me arou!d 1 2)"
2ot or &ot 1 It$s 6asy !ic"ings
If you go to hotornot.com and create and account, then !%' the DE for a monthly
membership, you will soon after see why it is one of the best investments that you could ever
ma"e when it comes to online dating.
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Basically the idea behind it is this: 'ou see everyone$s profile that you want based on your
search results. 'ou can search for all of the hotties in your local area, then pic" those that you
find appealing. 'ou clic" .'6+. to the girls you want to meet, and .&o. to the girls that you do
not want to. If they clic" .'es. to you too, then you already "now she wants to meet you. 'our
half way there because you already "now she$s interested. In order to message your double
matches you need to pay the DE a month for unlimited pimpin$.
Trust me, it$s definitely worth it; !ic"ing up girls off of hotornot.com re(uires minimal effort
and provides outstanding results.
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Preparation
Failing to prepare is preparing to fail
This saying is true in most aspects of life, and when dealing with women this is particularly on
point. It's true that most women think emotionally instead of logically as we men do, but
regardless of that, without fully preparing yourself beforehand, you are indeed preparing to
fail. No bullshit. Let's found out why, shall we?
hy Prepare?
!ou will ha"e to prepare yourself for the challenges that women pose because women set up
tests to put you down, a bit like if you were re#uired to take a "ery hard e$am. If you don't
prepare beforehand for the e$am, then you will most likely fail. The same counts for women, if
you don't prepare for their shit tests and some of the challenges they will set up for you to
encounter, you will not be a challenge to them and as a result will fail in picking them up.
hen !ou %re Not Prepared
&elie"e me when I say that when you don't prepare yourself, you are seriously asking for
trouble. The way you carry yourself says a lot about your personality, as it portrays non'"erbal
clues about you. (rom your body language to the color matching of your clothes. !ou also
need to prepare the way you talk. )peak in the right tone and in the right way.
omen pay attention to e"en the slightest bit of detail.
If your clothes are not ironed, your room not sorted out when women come by and your body
language isn't impressi"e, then my friend you are literally asking women to *+,+-T you.
These are are .ust typical e$amples that I'm listing, you might identify yourself with others but
the same rules still apply.

How are you going to take care of a woman if you can't even take care of yourself? That is
e$actly what a woman will think if these physical aspects of you are not fully handled and
prepared before your interacting with them begins.
Now then, lets get started on the right ways to prepare.
/oti"ate !ourself ' The right /indset0
!ou need to adopt a mindset that can moti"ate you to prepare for the challenges ahead, and in
this case particularly the challenges that women pose. !ou need to constantly moti"ate
yourself through to your original goal, as it is 1+*! easy to become discouraged early on,
especially if you ha"e not yet seen any real results.
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2on't let it get you down0
!ou need to constantly tell yourself that by preparing yourself to the challenges ahead you are
preparing to succeed. !ou need to strengthen your willpower.
+$amples
*ight /indset3 I need to get myself prepared for the way I will handle the comebacks from
women when I neg them.
rong /indset3 I can't handle women's comebacks when I neg them. hey are simply too
clever or catch me off guard.
4"ercoming The -hallenges
%fter preparing for the challenges ahead and adopting the right mindset you need to come up
with self'impro"ing ways that you can handle the problems you are preparing for. Target the
best way you can confront the problem, whether it be preparing your room for women or
simply changing your dressing style to attract woman, you need to prepare my friend. 5eep
going until you succeed in getting the desired results, e"en if that means targeting e"en the
slightest bit of detail.
hen !ou %re 6oing 4ut to /eet omen
/any men know what to do and say to women in order to attract them, yet somehow they
ne"er end up being satisfied with the results that they get.
hy? )imply because they didn't prepare to the fullest for the occasion. !ou should keep all
parts of your body clean from your nails to your hair. I would ad"ice a clean cut, but if you
ha"e an afro or long hair keep it silky and clean too0 &eing keen to obser"ing and analy7ing
e"ery bit of yourself is important, because in many cases the thing holding you back is nothing
more than a small problem that can be fi$ed almost immediately.
hen you go out clubbing for instance, make sure you are smelling good, ha"e had a shower
and that the clothes you are wearing match and are clean. %re they ironed? 2o you feel
comfortable in them? &eing comfortable in the clothes that you are wearing is e"en more
important than the actual clothes themsel"es and how they look on you, because how you feel
in them will ha"e either a positi"e or a negati"e affect on your o"erall game, not .ust your
physical appearance.
In the club be fully P*+P%*+2 for many women to re.ect you, because in clubs women ha"e
their defenses at full alarm and are already accustomed to deflecting men left and right. They
might come up with all sorts of stupid reasons to re.ect you, but it is not your .ob to care, your
.ob is to be prepared for this and not take it personally. ,ust mo"e on to the ne$t girl.
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hen you are successful at opening a woman in the club, don't beg for her attention .ust
because you'"e finally got one to accept your ad"ances. Play it cool as if you do this all of the
time and women are supposed to be recepti"e of you. %lso, be prepared for the likely tests that
she will throw up at this time and prepare what to say in response to these tests.
-ommon /istakes
8ere is a list of the ten most common things that men don't prepare for, and as a result, end
up losing the interest of the women that they are gaming.
93 !our house:room ' /ake it clean, creati"e and most of all (;N. 8a"e interesting things
scattered about or displayed on the wall that will make her like your place and always want to
come back. If she doesn't en.oy herself at your house, she won't want to be there.
<3 !our clothing style ' 2oes it suit you? Is it comfortable? 2oes it ha"e a wide se$ appeal or is
it boring? 2o the colors of your outfits match? 2o you e"en ha"e =outfits> or do you .ust throw
different things together randomly? 2o you always wear the right outfit for an occasion? %sk
yourself all of these #uestions.
?3 The way you handle comebacks ' Prepare refle$ answers, make women )++ that you came
prepared to brush of their little tests and that these tests don't affect you at all.
@3 !our body language ' Is it positi"e and does it ha"e se$ appeal? 2oes it follow the guidelines
of general alpha male body language that you'"e learned in this guide? Is there something
I/P4*T%NT missing? 2o you ha"e e$cellent posture or do you slouch?
A3 hen things don't go as planned ' -ome up with a Plan &, and prepare yourself for it0
B3 %dopt the right mindset ' 2on't be all slea7y, negati"e or depressing. &e confident, creati"e
and most of all be a challenge ' Think fun, not outcome0
C3 2on't always hang around with the same people ' +$pand your social circle, scoop up more
friends and always make sure that you are meeting more women0
D3 /ake sure that you smell and feel good ' 8a"e at least one shower per day if you can.
)howers not only make you smell good and look clean, they also make you feel refreshed and
prepared for what you are about to be doing. )mell good, feel good0
E3 *emember it's all .ust a game ' Nothing less, nothing more.
9F3 If you don't prepare , !ou are indeed preparing to fail.
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First Date Basics
Introduction
For the most part, the first date that you have with a woman is basically what will set the tone
for the rest of the relationship that you will have with her. The first date is where many men
make common mistakes, and these simple errors are what will either make or break you as a
player. Screwing up this early will more than likely land you in the Friends one !F" before
you even get the chance to kiss her for the first time. #oming on too strong without creating
enough comfort and rapport, e$hibiting needy and insecure behavior, being boring or failing
to create e$citing situations and putting her up on a pedestal are all prime e$amples of these
easily avoidable mistakes that the ma%ority of men make during or around the first date.
Show &er &ow Fun 'ou (re
The key to being able to get your date to want to go on a second one with you is to show her a
good time. Show her how fun you are instead of taking her out to eat and then to a traditional
movie. )hich by the way is showing Beta behavior* it is boring and predictable. +ot to
mention you can,t talk as much and interact on a physical level at these settings.
Instead, try taking her somewhere out of the norm. Something that you would do with your
buddies that you en%oy doing, rather than something that is conventional or an obvious
attempt to impress her. For e$ample, you can take her to play miniature golf with you. There
are many opportunities to flirt and land some good kino while on a mini golf course, plus it,s
only about -. to play/ &ere are a few e$amples of things that you can do at a miniature golf
course that you couldn,t do while sitting down for dinner or at a movie theater*
- Try to distract her playfully when she shoots. Joke about how you shoot better than her or
say You putt like a girl, then when she is not looking knock her ball off of the course and
then you can say "See told you so.
- !hen she goes to shoot again, distract her and throw her shot off and act like you didn"t do
anything. f you ha#e good kino escalation with her then you can s$ack her ass when she
shoots to throw her off. %nly atte$pt this if you ha#e already built up so$e nor$al kino
with her, otherwise you can &ust tap her ar$ or so$ething else that will be distracting.
- !hen both of your balls 'your ball and her ball, not your balls( are close to the hole on the
green, hit your ball into hers in order to knock it away fro$ the hole, then playfully say
"%%)S* t was an accident. +ake sure to s$ile when you do this.
- !hen she isn"t looking, or after you"re finished with one hole, take her ball and throw it in
the water on her* %nly do this if you are sure that replace$ent balls will be a#ailable fro$
the $ain building, you don"t want to ruin your entire date*
These e$amples can obviously only be used while playing golf, but the general tease0based
idea behind them can be easily applied to any physical activity that you could possibly do on a
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date with a woman. This stuff works particularly well during dates that are based around you
being able to interact with your woman, so keep that in mind when choosing what kind of date
you are going to take her on.
Think )ith 'our BI1 &ead
Save the %okes about how your head down below is the bigger one. *"
During your date, try not to make getting into her pants your main goal for the night, instead
focus on having some fun. Try to go into the date with a carefree attitude. Taking everything
too seriously is a bad frame of mind to have when dating. Think fun, not outcome.
If things don,t work out, you can always %ust go and find another girl. There are a few
BI22I3+ other women on this planet, you have no need to stress over %ust one of them. 4ust
rela$ and always remember the fact that since she is already out on a date with you, it means
that she,s already interested in you/ 'ou no longer need to impress her, the only thing you
need to worry about now is not messing everything up by taking the date too seriously or
acting like a slea5y dude who only wants to get some ass.
6ake &er Feel Safe
(long with being playful and having a good time you should also invest a bit of your energy
into making her feel safe. )hen you are walking with her on the side walk, walk on the side
that is closest to the road to protect her from traffic. If you are in the road walking, pull her
out of the road when you hear traffic coming. These small barely significant actions will
subconsciously trigger certain switches in her mind that will let her know that you are the type
of guy that can and will defend her if need be. This will also display your traits as an alpha
male because it will show her that you aren,t afraid of danger.
Do +ot Brag
+ever forget this* 'ou can +3T make yourself look better by bragging, ever.
Bragging only succeeds at making you appear to be an insecure and needy beta man. She will
interpret your bragging as an attempt to impress her, and begin viewing you as a low value
man as a result. If you must brag, for e$ample if you need to tell a story about something
ama5ing that you,ve done, do it through the storytelling 3+2' and then let her form her own
opinions about you. For more detailed information on storytelling you can refer to the
corresponding sections within this book.
'ou should have the mindset that you are good enough %ust the way that you are, and you
don,t need to try to impress a woman %ust to show her that you are the man that she is looking
for. 'ou should 7+3) that you are the man, and e$pect her to notice this, end of story.
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(ct 2ike an (lpha,+ot a Beta
)hen you are out on a date with her, you should always play the role of the 8director9 and
take the initiative in all situations, you should always decide what to do and when to do it.
Do not act beta and ask her what she wants to do. 'ou are then giving her the power as well as
displaying to her that you are not a take charge kind of guy. She wants someone who will do
that for her, she wants a real man. 'ou will decide where you will be taking her and will plan
everything out yourself. It is alright to ask for some input, but for the most part you should
make the final decision based on your own %udgment alone. (fter all, you more than likely
asked her out on the date, so all of this will be e$pected of you.
(nother part of being the alpha male is being chivalrous in small ways. 4ust don,t overdo it or
make it seem (F#ish. 3pen the door for her, then balance it out by using a #:F line by teasing
her about how slow she walks, you could even tease her by pretending like you are going to let
the door shut on her. The manner by which you do this is not important, all that matters is
that you have an e;ually potent action to offset your 8nice9 behavior.

1ive her a compliment, but not too many. 4ust one or two, and tell her that she looks great
when you meet up with her. It takes someone with a lot of confidence to give someone a
compliment and actually mean it. If you don,t have a lot of confidence, %ust force yourself to do
it and make it come off somewhat enthusiastic by smiling. <emember that since you are on a
date with her now and the initial attraction has already been laid down, it means that some
compliments are alright to give now, but only in small amounts.
Smiling
)hether you are out sarging, hanging out with your friends, on your first date or %ust going
grocery shopping. )hatever you are doing, always remember to smile/
This is one of the best tools that us players have, and it is arguably one of the easiest to use.
Smiling is so effective because it gives off all the right vibes re;uired to make you convey the
proper image. (mong the many positive things that smiling tells other people about you, the
fact that it shows you are a fun and outgoing person is one of the most important.
=ye #ontact
1ood eye contact is very important on the first date and when you are with her in general.
)hen you talk to her, look her in the eyes and never look down at your feet. Do not ST(<= at
her without looking away at all. That is %ust creepy. Instead try looking away once every >. to
?@ seconds. Try to be the last person to look away, it will show your dominance over her. 'ou
will notice that she may look away fre;uently when you talk to her and she will rarely make
eye contact, but this only means that she believes you are a more secure person than herself,
which is a good thing.
( nice trick that you can use to show her that you are se$ually interested in her is to make eye
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contact with her, then look her up and down slowly. I only recommend doing this once or
twice when you are out on a date. If you overdo it she will get weirded out and think that
you,re a pervert. Balance is the key.
(nother trick that you can use when you are gaming her is to not focus directly on her eyes.
Try to let your eyes defocus and pretend to focus on what is behind her head. Aeople who are
deeply in love look into each other,s eyes like this and she will feel instantly attracted to you
because it produces a sort of 8ga5ing9 effect.
)ith all of this aside, %ust go into the date looking to have a good time. (fter all, the hardest
part is already done, you got her name, number and now you,re on a date with her. The rest is
smooth sailing. 'our success with women will be based mostly on your attitude. Think fun and
not outcome. 1o out and show her how fun you are/
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Shaking Off The Dust: Starting Over After a Breakup
Lets Get it Started, Again...
I know that many men may feel left out being thrust into single life again due to a divorce a
separation a !" break up or whatever# If you are one of these men you may feel completely
overwhelmed and intimidated by the fact that you are now back on the dating scene after
you$ve grown accustomed to having a partner by your side# This is only natural#
%epeat after me &Single' is not a dirty word#
Be Happy )ou$re Single
)ou can be happy *O+ and you don$t need a women to make you happy, The past is the past
and you will never change that whatever heartache you went through or are still dealing with
needs to be put behind you# Take the first step away from your pain then never look back#
)our first goal should be to be happy with the fact that you are single once again#
In my early -.$s it bothered me to go out by myself to movies or restaurants# I felt like people
would notice that I was alone and wonder what was wrong with me since I was by myself
doing an activity that would normally be done with a partner or in a group# (owever after
many years of business travel I am now accustomed to going places by myself and en/oying it#
All the while meeting new women and being confident while I$m at at,
I enjoy the freedom of being able to set my own schedule.
+hen I feel the urge to go to a movie I /ust go, It doesn0t bother me if it0s a Saturday night I
can go to dinner and a movie alone without feeling odd and chances are by the end of the
night I +O*$T even be alone anymore :1
2eople notice when you are single yet still confident and secure# It stands out and makes you
even more attractive as the type of person that they$d want to meet#
The key ingredient is: It must be obvious that you have chosen to be single#
)ou may have noticed that women tend to be more attracted to men who are already in a long
term relationship and if you have then you are totally correct# This is not because they get a
kick out of stealing another woman$s man it is because men who are already in relationships
are generally more confident and secure within themselves because they already have a
woman# They aren$t under any social pressure to impress women and could care less if they go
home alone because they have a woman waiting for them there# This type of attitude is clearly
visible to women and they find it to be irresistible#
If you can learn to have this same level of confidence and security while you are single you
can reap all of the same benefits that a man who is in a relationship gets to en/oy#
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3ive and 3earn
3ife is a learning process# If you$ve spent months or years in a relationship that is now over
don$t feel bad about it# Don$t sit around and weep or drown yourself in a pool of self pity# Take
a hard look at your past relationships and see if you have set a pattern that is not working out
for you# +hat could you do better to improve )O45
The main thing is to improve yourself without dwelling on the past# )ou can$t change what has
already been done but you can change what is to come# +ith that behind us let$s begin:
Take 6harge
%ead as much material as you can on being an Alpha 7ale# If dating is hard for you take it
slow at first there is no need to hurry# Try to get out at least once a week until you are
comfortable with going out alone and seeking out women# +hen you do date meet first for
lunch or coffee instead of a formal dinner date this will alleviate some of the social pressure
that is sure to come about if you are still a bit &rusty'#
!et Out There
+omen are all over the place# 7ake sure you can bring something to the table and are
prepared to seduce women# )ou will know that you are a desirable man when women begin to
notice and want you and at that point you will begin rebuilding the confidence that you had
back before your failed relationship started# !o out where the women are if be the 7all the
gym the laundromat or even the online dating scene# 8ust get out there because no matter
how bad you want it to happen you can$t get a women without being where they are#
*ever 6ompromise
Sometimes it is very hard to know e9actly what you want but at the same time much easier to
identify what you don$t want# This can range from smoking and drinking preferences all the
way to religion politics children education sports and so on# The easiest way to determine
all of this is to get out a notebook and /ot down what you think you are looking for and not
looking for in a partner being as specific as possible# After that you can rank all the items in
order of importance to give yourself a better understanding of what your ideal woman should
be like# This will aid you in your search substantially#
Decide before you meet someone new what you will not compromise on and stick to it,
2ace )ourself
7any men who /ust came out of a serious relationship tend to /ump right into another one as
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soon as the opportunity presents itself# Don$t fall into this trap and get too tied up on /ust one
women right away# Take it easy you have no need to rush things and always remember that
the most important thing is that you en/oy your time being single# There is nothing wrong
with dating more than one women at a time so don0t let any woman force a relationship on
you if that$s not what you want# !et to know others and take time to discover if you like them
and want to spend more time with them# !oing too fast the second time around can lead to
much pain down the road so slow down and take it easy#
Be Selective
It may be e9tremely easy to think that a new woman you$ve /ust met may be &the one'
especially if she is beautiful# (owever beauty is only skin deep and in this day and age
women will rarely show their true colors right away# Think of each new girl as having
potential yet nothing more# )ou$ll end up having much more fun and will ultimately have
more options available to you when the time comes for you to choose a partner#
Always remember that being single is a good thing, It is a new beginning in which you can
reinvent yourself and make substantial improvements if you desire# Take the time to find
yourself because only then can you truly find :the one: for you,
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Understanding Women
If Only I Could Understand Her...
Men often hear women complaining about how they have a hard time understanding why us
men are the way that we are, as if we are some cosmic mystery that is impossible to figure out.
In reality men are actually very basic in nature, we all now that. We have very basic needs!
Money, popularity, pussy and happiness. "othing more, nothing less.
It#s the women who are comple$ and mind boggling, not us.
We often thin!
"Why does she do that?
Why is she all about 'feelings'?
Why is she not responding to me?
She's just fucking crazy!
It is often challenging and frustrating. %o what we are going to do right now is get down to
some of the basics on understanding these beautiful creatures we call WOM&", because once
you can comprehend the differences between our two genders, then you can begin to seduce
women with better success.
'op ( )ifferences
"umber *
+ man says think ,-ogical..
+ women says / feel ,emotional..
'he best e$ample of this is '0. Women love to watch shows lie Oprah, %oap Operas and love
movies because they are emotional and they touch her. %he can relate to them. Men watch
shows with rules, e$citement and very little emotions, lie football because it is logical.
"umber 1
+ man follows his head.
+ women follows her heart.
'his is where men get into trouble when it comes to attracting women. He follows his head
and does things to attract her that is logical. 'hus that is why many men fail, because
attraction 2ust is not logical. Women will try to pic up men through the use of emotions,
writing him love letters and emotional things only to find him losing interest in her.
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"umber 3
Men are general.
Women are detailed. Wanting every little specific detail.
%he will as /!o" "as your day?", and you as a man will say #ood$ "ork "as fine and
that#s it. If you as a women how her day was, she will tell you how 4etty 2ust got her nails re5
done and how Mary and 'om 2ust broe up, e$plaining every small detail along the way.
"umber 6
+ man wors on goals.
+ women wors on relationships.
I don#t care if feminism tells women their main goals in life should be wor and success
related. 7eminism is bullshit, because the need for good love, children and family
relationships will always be what drives every woman on this planet. It is built into their
nature through hundreds of thousands of years of evolution, thus they will spend lots more
time woring on relationships than anything else. Men on the other hand, will wor on goals!
we want promotions, a bigger home, the nicer car, recognition.
"umber 8
Men need little preparation for se$.
Women need time to warm up.
%how a man a 9layboy model and within *8 seconds he is roc hard and ready to handle
business. Women are not lie this, a woman is lie a teapot, it taes time for her to get hot.
'hus in love maing you need to light her fire. Words, isses, soft tal and foreplay is what a
women wants before she will be ready for se$.
"umber :
Men are stimulated by sight.
Women are stimulated with words.
;ust lie the last point, but with more of a focus on the words. Words are very important to a
women. If you say the right words, and in the correct tone with proper body language, you will
be successful at turning women on. 7or many women if a man can sweet tal her via seduction
many will fall prey to his words of charm.
"umber (
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+ man says need to feel good about "hat do%
+ women says need to feel good about "ho "e are%
Men focus on the big picture as where women will focus on the relationship! building and
maing them go, and she wants to feel it<
=ualities Women Want in a Man
'he average women wants a man who is an +lpha with a side of softness. 'he type of man who
is made of both Iron and Cotton. 'he iron part of a man should be that he is confident, goal
oriented, taes charge, is someone she can lean on, independent and will defend her openly.
'he cotton side a women wants is that he has a sense of humor, he is patient, tender, loving,
attentive, responsive, encouraging and good natured.
Women want men who are both Iron and Cotton, not one or the other, but 4O'H<
Understanding a Woman#s "eeds
-ets face it, women are emotional creatures by nature and they face life from an emotional
point of view at almost all times. It doesn#t mae her either right or wrong for being
emotional, it#s simply her nature and can not be changed. >ou as a man must understand and
learn to deal with this if you plan to carry out a relationship with a woman.
'he more important a women feels that she is to her mate, the better her self esteem will be
and the more she will encourage you and build you up. 4y her being emotional it is your 2ob to
lift her self esteem and eliminate her loneliness and boredom. -et her now that you value her
and she will strive her best to be a better person. &veryone wants to be appreciated and no one
wants to be taen for granted, especially a woman.
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Types of Men and Women
The purpose of this section is simple: To identify and label every different type of man and
woman that a PUA could possibly encounter while in the field. This list will serve as a valuable
reference for all TIC members and PP students to use when creatin new techni!ues" as well
as when they encounter these types of people while in the field. This will be an onoin pro#ect
that I would li$e everyone to participate in. %eel free to add any that you feel may be missin"
and please properly describe each that you add.
Types of Women
&ot 'abes (&'s)
Typically *s and +,s that $now they are ood loo$in due to years of bein told so by others.
These irls are usually the leaders within their social circles and can become #ealous very
!uic$ly when a PUA appears to have chosen one of her -lesser- friends over her. .e
techni!ues are much more potent versus &'s than they are to other types of women" as they
$now that they loo$ ood and can handle the social pressure of bein put down multiple times
by a man. Women with less self esteem can not handle as many attac$s on their imae as &'s
can and should be treated accordinly.
/uc$lins
These women are usually 0nd in command to the &'s that they han out with" and while they
can be e!ual to the &'s in terms of loo$s" their more introverted personalities do not permit
them to ac!uire a position of power. /uc$lins relish every opportunity to outdo their &'
friends and are easily persuaded by any PUA who ma$es this happen for them. 1howin a
/uc$lin how she is superior to the &' leader of her social roup is the $ey to amin her
effectively. %or the practicin PUA" /uc$lins can be used as reat Pawns and Pivots.
/U%%s
/esinated Uly %at %riends. These women usually ta alon with better loo$in women to
serve the sole purpose of ma$in the &'s and /uc$lins feel and loo$ even more beautiful
than they already are. In a roup of three women" the /U%% is more than li$ely to be teased by
the other two" and is always tal$ed bad about behind her bac$. /U%%s are constantly strivin
to be accepted and have an onoin need for attention. PUAs who $now how to use the 2obin
&ood can use /U%%s to their advantae in a devious manner. %or information on the 2obin
&ood techni!ue" refer to its section in The .ew 'reed.
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'all &os
These loud" attention cravin women are usually &'s that are very insecure with themselves
even thouh they have been blessed with the ift of beauty. Ironically a lare percentae of
'all &os are only children who have been spoiled by their parents and e3pect the same from
everyone else that they meet. .es wor$ well aainst this type of woman and they can also be
effectively amed by bein inored. 'e very wary when dealin with 'all &os" as once you
ive them a certain amount of attention4ifts4love they will e3pect it to remain at that level for
the duration of your relationship with them.
Ice 5ueens
This type of woman can come in all shapes and si6es and can rane anywhere from &' to
/U%%4U7. Their reason for actin so non8social reatly varies from irl to irl" so there is no
sinle e3planation for why they have rown to be the way they are. 1ome of these women can
be need" others prefer bein complimented" so the only safe way to effectively ame them is
to mirror their attitude and be e!ually cold towards them durin your approach.
1muts
1luts" hoes" hoo$ers. We9ve all $nown a few" and some men have no problem with these
e3hibitionist women actin the way that they do" while others shun them. :3perienced PUAs
tend to steer clear of these loose women" because if you have the ability to pull women of
hiher stature there is no real reason to put yourself at ris$ of catchin an 1T/ from a woman
of such e3perience. 1tay away from them if you value yourself.
Cliners
These annoyin women can be a combination of any of the types on this list" however the
definin characteristic that separates them from the rest is the fact that once you9ve created
enouh attraction with them" they will clin to you li$e super lue. They will enerally say -I
love you- within a wee$ or two" and in their minds will honestly believe that you will say it
bac$. It is recommended that once you et the idea that a woman is a cliner you strap up
your #oin shoes and start haulin ass in the other direction.
Travelers
This can be any type of woman" but the only thin that ma$es them different is the fact that
they are outside of their normal environment and are usually on vacation or visitin someone
far away from their home. When a woman is travelin their normal behavior chanes and they
are much more receptive to an e3perienced PUA9s ame. The tric$ to amin Travelers is to
show them that you are different than what they are used to" as most Travelers are loo$in for
somethin new and e3citin.
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'a &as
These are women that come with baae. They can be sinle moms" women who9ve #ust ot
out of a bad relationship" or women who9ve had a bad upbrinin with parents who were
either alcoholics" dru addicts" divorced" abusive" never home or all of the above. 'a &as
should be avoided whenever possible and should be iven a fair amount of time to wor$ out
their own personal issues before you ever consider beinnin a relationship with them. 'a
&as are ood %'s occasionally" but serve no reater purpose than that.
7old /iers
This type is obvious. They are driven by either ambition" reed or the need to validate
themselves socially throuh the pursuit of material thins. Their favorite color is -shiny- and
they usually dec$ themselves out with enouh #ewelry to set off metal detectors from a bloc$
away. 7old /iers are shallow" but can be very en#oyable as they are usually ood loo$in
and reat in the sac$ because they value hih performance. &owever" +,s that are old diers
will enerally only o for the insanely rich or famous. These women can become ood booty
calls if amed properly" and the tric$ is to always $eep them feelin unsatisfied by showin
them that you have somethin to offer to them but never actually ivin it. 'e careful thouh"
these are the type of women who will steal from you if they are motivated to do so.
Cheaters
These are women who are loc$ed into either a ;T2 or marriae" however their loose morals
permit them to have affairs without any feelins of uilt. Cheaters are reat for <.1 partners
but should not be ranted anythin more than that" because these women are obvious trouble.
=ou should also never pursue a relationship with a cheater even if she is willin to leave her
current partner completely to be with you" because once she have otten used to you she will
turn around and cheat on you as well. =ou can9t turn a hoe into a housewife> Cheaters are the
type of women who will never leave their current man until they9ve already ot a ood rip on
the ne3t one" li$e they are swinin from mon$ey bars.
The Chapel Chic$s
These are women who are obsessed with ettin married. 7enerally when a woman passes ?,
with no $ids and is ready to settle down they will become a Chapel Chic$. These irls have one
oal: find a decent uy and hoo$ him. 1he is desperate to find a &U1'A./. These were
enerally the &'@8+, when they were in their teens and 0,9s. .ow in the middle of their lives"
they are tired of the bar scene and want to settle down. Their main prey is A%C men who have
a ood #ob and loo$ li$e providers. At this point in her life she will wed in no time. If you are
ready to settle down and have the white pic$et fence" then maybe a Chapel Chic$ is riht for
you. Also" a lot of Chapel chic$s tend to be reliious women 0AB years old.
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The 2unner -of the Mouth-
This is a chic$ who tal$s about .<T&I.7. 1he has nothin to say but shallow stuff li$e why
she chose the red shoes at Wal8Mart over the blac$ pair" and she doesn9t shut up. 1he oes on
and tells you about how she could have found the items cheaper elsewhere. These are the
women you #ust want to say -1hut Up- to on a daily basis" but don9t say anythin to them
because you $now that they will then spend the ne3t hour rillin you as to why you aren9t
happy today. These women are e3tremely difficult to please. .othin ma$es them happy and
most of their tal$ is neative. This type of woman can be anythin from a &' to a %U7. If
you9re loo$in for a ;T2 avoid this type" they will drive you nuts>
Types of Men
PUAs
<ther PUAs are really the only immediate competition that you will meet in the field other
than AM<7s (e3plained later)" and these are the only two types that may be a challene to
outdo. If you are e3perienced in the art of seduction than no other man should pose too much
of a threat as you can easily out8ame them if need be. &owever other PUAs $now the same
tactics as you do and a battle between two of them can easily result in a stand still in which
both of you end up focusin more on each other than the woman you are competin over"
resultin in both of you losin. If you encounter another PUA in the field it is recommended
that the two of you come to a mutual understandin and ive each other space" or wor$
toether and ta$e advantae of this opportunity to have an e3perienced winman.
'ulls
This type of uy is anyone who is above A%C level and could pose a possible threat in the field.
'ulls are usually men with either ood loo$s or a certain amount of natural ame" and even
thouh their methods are not as potent as a PUAs" you should still $eep your eye on them as
they can easily pull a woman out from under your nose if you are distracted. This type of man
can easily be disarmed by nein him the same way in which you would a &'" and pointin
out their flaws in front of women enerally brins out a defensive side in them that will
ultimately ma$e them do or say insecure thins that are displays of low value" and you will
end up ettin the irl.
A%Cs
Averae %rustrated Chumps. These men pose minimal competition to you in the field" and the
only time they et laid is mostly throuh luc$. Many A%Cs are afraid to approach a woman
while she is alone or with her friends" so the chances of an A%C approachin a woman and
tryin to ruin your set while you are in the middle of your routine is slim to none. A%Cs have
no idea as to how social mechanics operate and are not educated in the seductive arts. The
vast ma#ority of men on earth are A%C.
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&aters
These men are usually A%Cs that have become so sic$ of seein other men ettin all of the
women while they o home alone that they have dedicated themselves to ma$in other men
fail as well. Misery loves company rihtC These coc$ bloc$in men can be a constant pain in
the ass" but can be easily dealt with throuh the use of some of the PP9s techni!ues that are
desined specifically to remove their annoyin presence.
AM<7s
Alpha Male <ther 7uys. This type of man is commonly confused as bein a PUA because of
his prowess at beddin beautiful women" however this is wron. PUAs are students of the
seductive arts" while AM<7s are simply born with the ability to et any woman that they
want. 'rad Pitt is an AM<7 for e3ample. An AM<7 is the type of uy who was the star
!uarterbac$ of his &ih 1chool or Collee football team and has rown accustomed to havin
a beautiful woman by his side. These men are e3tremely confident and pose #ust as much of a
threat as an e3perienced PUA does" beatin them in a direct competition is always a challene.
Many AM<7s of a certain intellience will naturally develop s$ills and techni!ues similar to
those that PUAs learn in the community" however these s$ills that they possess are basic and
much less refined than ours.
<rbiters
=et another type of A%C" these men are the fuel that powers the &' eo. <rbiters are also
referred to as -nice uys-" and they are the type who will pretend to be best friends with a &'
#ust to be closer to them" all the while secretly pretendin not to be in love with her. The funny
thin is that the &' always $nows this and absolutely loves the constant eo boosts that result
from havin <rbiters around her. When her #er$ '% dumps her" the <rbiter will serve as her
shoulder to cry on and will ma$e her feel pretty aain" if only for her to o out and find
another #er$ to have se3 with while the <rbiter oes home and span$s it to her yearboo$
picture. <rbiters are no threat at all to a PUA" if anythin we should feel bad for them.
The Predictable 7uy
&e tends to be an A%C. Women don9t li$e the Predictable 7uy because they $now e3actly how
he9ll react to everythin. &e follows formulas and never wants to do anythin differently. %or
e3ample" he9d never surprise a woman by spontaneously ta$in her out for the niht" or doin
somethin different. Why he is so unappealinC Women loo$ for a certain amount of
unpredictability in a man" they want a free spirit. This is why some women seem to be drawn
to the notorious -bad boyD. It9s not that they are drawn to his badness e3actly" but rather to his
unpredictability. 'ein predictable" arroant and boorish is a turn off to women.
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The Cheap 'astard
This could be an A%C or an Alpha male. &e invites a woman to dinner and then subtly
suests they should o /utch A;; <% T&: TIM:. &e never splures to buy her small ifts
even when in a ;T2" and he always opts for the cheapest wine" cheapest cafe and cheapest
hotel room. &e ma$es her feel li$e they are on a tiht budet from the very first date. =our
first few dates should always be carefree" the words -savin- and -budet- shouldn9t come up
at all. If she spends the first date picturin a lifetime of penny8pinchin with you" then you9re
out of luc$. What to do if you9re that uy: ;oosen up the purse strins a little when you9re
courtin a woman. =ou don9t need to spend a fortune to ma$e a ood impression" but you do
need to ma$e her feel li$e you9re not a cheap bastard.
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The 5-5-8 PUA Ranking System
The 5-5-8 PUA Ranking System:
How The System Works
The 5-5-8 is a system for ranking you as a pick up artist, an it oes so !y etermining your
!ase socia" staning an status as we"" as your e#perience in the fie"$ %our raw socia" status,
with no fri""s attache is what the system "ooks for$ This means that it wi"" fin your socia"
staning !efore it has !een &!eefe up& !y any isp"ays of 'a"ue or neg techni(ues "ike the
Paragon Pro)ect*s +eech$ ,t*s easy to "ook "ike a mo'ie star in the fie" through the use of the
proper materia", !ut your &regu"ar& status is what rea""y matters here$
Simp"y put, the R-A+ you$
This system has !een esigne to a""ow Paragon Pro)ect stuents the opportunity to
accurate"y assess their current staning as a pick up artist as we"" as track their progress in the
future$ Another ae !onus of using this system is that it he"ps you !reak own your
character into the fi'e ma)or categories that etermine your o'era"" socia" staning$ This
a""ows you to ientify your strong.weak points so you can work on your weaknesses an
uti"i/e your strengths$ 0y using this system honest"y an then trying to impro'e yourse"f !ase
on its resu"ts, you wi"" effecti'e"y !e on the right track to !ecoming a !etter p"ayer an a more
we""-roune ini'iua" as we""$
, nee to stress the fact that you must choose the options that fit you the !est with 1223
honesty$ Think of this system as if it is one of those on"ine persona"ity tests4 if you "ie on the
test, you are on"y ho"ing yourse"f !ack from progressing$
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Using The System
+ooking at the a!o'e chart, you wi"" see 5 co"umns each "a!e"e !y a heaer in ye""ow te#t$
These 5 ye""ow character traits are the 5 eterminants that are use to rank your o'era"" socia"
staning$ To !egin using the system, you must carefu""y re'iew a"" of the 5 stages !e"ow each
eterminant an ecie which one fits you !est right now$ 0e"ow those 5 stages you wi"" a"so
see some e#amp"es of negati'e characteristics an you shou" keep those in min as we""$
Rating %our Socia" Status
After taking a few moments to ref"ect on your recent !eha'ior an how peop"e react to you
an treat you, make your 5 se"ections an then "ook to the points !o# o'er to the "eft$ 5ow you
nee to a up your current tota" !ase on your 5 choices$ 6or e#amp"e, if you chose
&Aff"uent& uner Wea"th you wou" start off with 7 points, then if you chose &Amire& uner
6ame you wou" a 8 points to that, "ea'ing you with 9 so far$ Repeat this process unti" you
are finishe with the Appea" category$
,f you fee" as if you rank negati'e"y in any of the categories, you shou" a 2 to your tota"$
The negati'e e#amp"es gi'en !e"ow each trait are )ust e#amp"es, an your reason for rating
yourse"f "ow cou" !e ifferent from those e#amp"es, yet the resu"t is the same an you shou"
a nothing to your tota" as we""$ A"so note the !"ue !o#es$ ,f you rank yourse"f high"y uner
either :eman or Appea" an you score insie one of the !"ue !o#es you shou" a a !onus
;1 point to your o'era"" tota", !ecause those characteristics are particu"ar"y usefu" for picking
up women an effect your o'era"" success more than the rest$
A"right$ %ou*re one rating your socia" status an now you nee to mo'e on an a some
more points !ase upon your in-fie" e#perience$
Rating %our Pick Up Ski""s
Think !ack to the highest ranking H0 that you ha'e e'er 6 <"ose as a irect resu"t of your
ski""s as a PUA$ This means that you pu""e her without her showing any interest in you an it
was one off of pure ski"" on your part$ This is important= Rate that gir" on the !asic 1-12 sca"e
an then a her rating to your o'era"" tota"$ So if your current tota" is 1> an your hottest gir"
was a 9, your tota" wou" now !e 1?$
5e#t count up the tota" amount of te"ephone num!ers an emai" aresses that you*'e gotten
from women in the fie" uring the "ast se'en ays, then a that num!er to your o'era"" tota"
as we""$ 6or e#amp"e, if you*'e gotten 8 num!ers in the past week an your tota" up unti" now
was 1?, it wou" now !e >7$ The ma#imum amount of points that you can a for this part of
the system is 5, so e'en if you*'e gotten 12 or more num!ers in the past week you can on"y a
;5 points to your tota"$
%ou are now finishe$ 0e"ow you wi"" fin the chart of the 8 "e'e"s of PUAs a"ong with the
points re(uire for each, ha'e a "ook an see where you stan4
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How Accurate ,s This@
,f you were comp"ete"y honest in a"" of your choices you can now compare your tota" to the
chart !e"ow to get a fair"y accurate iea of where you current"y stan in the community$
This wi"" on"y work if you ha'e to" the truth= ,f your num!er interprets you as a a PU+ an
you ha'en*t !een "ai in a month, then you either "ie a!out your staning in some of the 5
categories on the chart or your pick up ski""s in the "ast two (uestions Apro!a!"y !othB$ ,f that
is the case you shou" go !ack, o e'erything o'er, an te"" the truth this time= As state
ear"ier, "ying is a huge A6< trait an oes nothing to he"p you progress$
,f you are positi'e that your choices are as correct as possi!"e then congratu"ations$ %ou ha'e
comp"ete the 5-5-8 ranking system an now know your current rating as a PUA$ 5ow it*s
time to start using some of the Paragon Pro)ect*s inner game !ui"ing techni(ues that wi"" he"p
you !uff away your rough spots an raise your ranking$ %ou can a"so raise your ranking !y
using some sarging games that force you to go out an o more co" approaches, which wi""
resu"t in you getting more num!ers$
Ceep in min that this system is esigne to rank you !ase upon the com!ination of your
!ase socia" 'a"ue an pick up ski""s$ ,f it were !ase so"e"y upon your e#perience an
know"ege of picking up than some of you may ha'e score higher, whi"e others who ha'e "ess
natura" game !ut more socia" staning wou" ha'e score "ower$ The system was create this
way !ecause it incorporates a"" of the ma)or factors that etermine your a!i"ity to pick up
women without focusing on )ust one or two of them$ Rea" e#perts unerstan that !eing a
master of seuction is )ust as much a!out !eing an a!o'e a'erage ini'iua" as it is knowing
your materia" an ha'ing routines in the can$ -'ery aspect of your "ife has either a positi'e or
negati'e effect on your game, whether you* "ike to !e"ie'e it or not$
This system a"so !acks up the theory that you on*t ha'e to !e rich, goo "ooking, physica""y fit
or famous to !e e#treme"y successfu" with women$ 6or e#amp"e you can score a 2 in any one of
the 5 ma)or categories an sti"" rank as a PU+ with a score of 7D or 79$ %ou cou" !e !roke an
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score 2 on Wea"th, or ug"y an score 2 on Appea", or ha'e no friens an score 2 on fame$ ,t
oesn*t matter$ Ereat seucers come in a"" shapes, si/es, !ackgrouns, an !ank accounts$ The
5-5-8 system pro'es that fact$
6ina" 5otes
-'en though some e#perience PUAs that are in their prime may !e a!"e to achie'e PU+
status !ase upon the 5-5-8 system, in orer to &officia""y& !ecome a PU+ they must first
contri!ute something su!stantia" to the PUA community$ Taking what you*'e "earne an
then aing your own spin an sty"e to it, then creating your own materia" an sharing it with
your peers is the efining characteristic of a Pick Up +egen$
,f you want your name to !e remem!ere, it has to !e on something=
+ast"y, it is important to see the connections among the 5 eterminants$ -'ery sing"e one
works han in han as far as picking up women an increasing one*s (ua"ity of "ife$ As a
person impro'es in one area, the other areas wi"" natura""y get !etter$ Wea"th can "ea to
eman an 'ice 'ersa$
The strong connection among the eterminants a"so ser'es to !a"ance out the system$ An A6<
who may !e rich an famous may not !e a!"e to reach the PU+ "e'e", yet he can sti"" score high
!ecause he can easi"y attain it with iscip"ine progress$ 0y !eing rich an famous, an A6<
"ike that can easi"y go to the gym an !ecome fitter an hea"thier$ This can then easi"y "ea to
!etter pickups an so on$ The system natura""y !a"ances out the rankings an he"ps the areas
of impro'ement smooth"y progress$
:on*t think of how you rank on this system as !eing Fset in stoneG$ ,nstea, simp"y 'iew this as
a too" that you can use to etermine your progress an growth as your ski""s e'e"op$
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The Destination
Just be yourself is the worst advice ever. If you have no idea who you really
are yet, then how will you know when you are being him? You will need to find
yourself, and finding yourself is much more about creation than it is about
discovery. You will try things, experiment and then determine who you want to
be, thus creating the person you will become. Besides for life itself, this is the
greatest gift that human beings have been given; the power to mold one's self
and shape our own destiny. Don't be yourself, create yourself. - The Player
Alex Hughes adored the sweet, coconut-laden smell of tanning lotion. To him this was one of
those few special fragrances that would immediately usher in good memories from his past
the instant that it reached his nose. The thought, How cool, right now I'm adding another
positive memory to those that I relate to tanning lotion quickly invaded his mind, and he
couldn't gather the will to hold back the inevitable smile that followed. Either you really are
enjoying this or you're thinking about some other girl, the sexy blond that was straddling him
said in a tone that showed a small hint of jealousy even though she tried to conceal it by being
as playful as possible. The intense tropical sun was positioned just to the left of her head,
making her face hard to make out when Alex first opened his eyes and broke free from his
daydreaming state, returning to the abnormally bright, surreal looking reality that typically
comes just after sunbathing when one's eyes have not yet re-adjusted themselves.
For only a moment, Alex completely forgot who this woman sitting aboard him was, but as her
beautiful face moved over slightly and began to eclipse the sun, it all became instantly clear to
him once again. In an attempt to justify his temporarily confused memory, Alex thought to
himself Well, I guess nobody can honestly blame me for being a little forgetful right now,
these past few weeks have been anything but dull. He took a sip of spring water, which was
his new drink of choice, and upon feeling refreshed, slowly sat up to survey his surroundings.
Hey Izzy, you missed a spot Alex said to his blond companion while pointing to an area near
his left abdomen. You'd better quit slacking, or maybe I really will start daydreaming about
other girls he said with a smile that was so neutral it could have either been taken as an
indicator that he was joking around, or not joking at all. Sorry baby, I was watching you
relaxing and enjoying yourself, I guess I wasn't paying much attention to what I was doing
she responded defensively while quickly applying some lotion to the neglected area to rectify
her mistake. It was painfully obvious that this woman held Alex in very high regard and truly
cared about how he viewed her, as this was not the first time that she's been guilty of striving
for his approval. This behavior was strange considering that she was gorgeous enough to have
just about any man that she laid her stunning eyes on.
Her name was Isabella, a ravishing nurse from San Diego that Alex had met at a rather well
hidden, atmospheric bar on the beach two days previous. Being under the ferocious, near-
equator sun didn't matter much to Isabella, she was fortunate enough to have been born with
skin that was a striking, natural dark tone. This only made her deep, blue eyes appear to be all
the more dazzling. Alex's pale frame on the other hand, desperately needed a tan. Besides for
his creamy exterior, Alex was physically a good looking guy and knew how to augment his
appearance by having an impressive wardrobe. However, the way Alex looked on the outside
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was not the main reason why a bombshell like Izzy was interested in him.
Alex had game. He was far from being a natural, but he had learned.
The ironic thing about all of this is the fact that if you were watching what happened on that
humid Caribbean night when Alex first met Isabella, you would have simply assumed that he
actually did get her because of his looks. This is because it was Izzy that first approached Alex,
not the other way around. This happened not because Alex's looks were uncontrollably
appealing to her, but because of something that he deliberately did to increase the chance that
beautiful women like Izzy would approach him. Alex was using Passive Openers, which were
his favorite out of all of the exclusive Paragon Project techniques that he had learned through
The New Breed. Alex had a huge advantage over the competition, and he knew it.
Upon first speaking with Isabella, Alex immediately used another Paragon Project technique,
Branding. By doing this he generated immediate rapport with her, and has been calling her
Izzy ever since. This strategy (along with a few other tricks) has worked perfectly for Alex up
until this point, but it was all about to backfire and put him into an awkward position that was
was not accustomed to being in. Alex was about to be presented with one of the most
formidable tests that any aspiring PUA will eventually need to face, a test of character. To pass
this test, Alex would need to prove that he has truly become the type of man that he wanted to
be, not just a guy who knows a few tricks for picking up women.
Both Alex and Izzy were on vacation in the Cayman Islands, and given the fact that Alex's
plane would be boarding in less than three hours, he had to figure out a way to let Isabella
know that he was not interested in continuing their relationship any further once this
memorable trip was over. She was a single-serving lover, and he needed to find a way to
communicate this to her while doing minimal damage to her feelings. After all, Izzy was very
enjoyable to be around and Alex had grown quite fond of her, the last thing he wanted to do
was break her heart. Izzy was beautiful, but long-distance relationships just weren't Alex's
style, and besides, even though she was a perfect 10 in the looks department, she honestly just
didn't have much else to offer. She's hot, fun to hang out with and definitely has been the
highlight of my trip, but how long could this last? Plus we live over 1,000 miles apart from
each other! Alex pondered as he watched Izzy's hourglass-shaped body from behind as she
walked down toward the sparkling, cyan colored ocean.
While observing the rolling waves crash around Izzy's gorgeous body, Alex couldn't help but
notice the way she was smiling and enjoying herself. Her smile was one that only comes when
someone is truly happy, the kind of happiness that only engulfs a person that is amidst the
feelings of a brand new love. This saddened Alex, because it was at that moment that he fully
realized the magnitude of what was soon to come. As his mind wandered, Alex began to think
back to how he felt when the relationship with his first true love came to a crashing halt. He
was genuinely devastated during that dark period of his life, and the mere thought of being
the reason for causing Izzy to feel anything even remotely close to those painful emotions
made Alex sick to his stomach.
Izzy was a good girl, the type that would have been faithful to Alex for his entire life if he
would only ask her to. Regardless of this, Alex could not escape the reality of the situation, and
he knew what had to be done. Why does every road that I take seem to lead him to heartache,
if not my own than someone else's? Alex wondered as he debated in his mind the various
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ways in which he could break the news to Izzy. The clock was ticking, time was running out.
Alex knew that the longer he waited the worse things would turn out, so he took a leap of faith.
The white, sunbathed sand was scorching to the touch under Alex's feet as he began walking
towards his inevitable parting discussion with Izzy. His heart was pumping so hard that he
didn't mind the hot sand, and he felt even worse when he realized that Izzy had noticed his
approach and had begun running towards him as if to jump into his arms and proclaim her
undying love for him. You've got to be kidding me Alex thought, Why couldn't I just be the
type of guy who wouldn't care about hurting someone else's feelings? Things would be so
much easier. The bitterness of what was about to happen reached it's climax as Izzy threw her
arms around Alex's neck and began kissing him passionately. Alex couldn't take any more,
this had gone far enough and is already going to do more damage then Alex wanted.
He pulled back gently from Izzy and began to speak.
Alex explained to Izzy that even though he had strong feeling for her, a long distance
relationship just wasn't in the cards for him right now. Upon hearing this, the unmistakable
look of devastation began to flash across Izzy's face, and Alex could no longer bring himself to
look her in the eyes. Alex was ashamed, he felt as if he had done something unforgivable to
Izzy by leading her to believe that they may have a future together, even though he did not do
it intentionally. This is not the type of person that I want to be, I didn't ask for this Alex
though to himself while staring at the ground like the AFC that he used to be, something that
he vowed to never do again. However, at that moment something came over Alex, and he
came to realize that he didn't have to be that bad person. The man that Alex has become is a
strong one, and he had it in him to get through this with style and grace.
I know it sounds like a clich, but I really hope we can remain friends and keep in touch with
each other. Who knows what the future holds for the both of us? I really couldn't bear the
thought of never seeing you again Alex said confidently to Izzy as he began to believe that he
could control this situation now. I don't know what to say, I knew that this had to end, but I
just didn't want to accept it Izzy replied as her eyes began to gloss over. Let's not let this ruin
everything, we should enjoy the rest of the time that we have together Alex voiced in a
soothing tone. Izzy nodded a reply and they began walking towards the hotel entrance. They
proceeded to talk about how much fun they've had and when they could possibly reunite in
the future, then arrived at Izzy's hotel room and made love one last time.
After graciously parting ways with Izzy, Alex reluctantly hopped into a cab and told the driver
to start heading towards Owen Roberts International Airport. Alex wished that he could
somehow preserve this moment in time and remain here with Izzy longer, but at the same
time he knew that the world just didn't work that way. While gazing out the window watching
the charming island scenery pass by, Alex couldn't stop thinking to himself that Izzy may have
been hiding her full emotions from him. He pictured her sitting on the balcony in her room,
her golden blond hair blowing gently in the ocean breeze, looking out at the ocean where they
had spent so much time and wishing that he had stayed. However, these thoughts were
quickly overcome by the realization of how proud he was of himself and the stand-up way in
which he had handled that situation. The old Alex wouldn't have had enough guts to do the
right thing, but the newly created Alex was a true alpha male and got the job done in the best
way possible. Alex couldn't believe that he now had so much control in not only his dating life,
but his entire life in general. Since that glorious day when he began reinvented himself
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through the Paragon Project, he's been promoted twice at work and was also rewarded with
this amazing, two weeks paid vacation that he was now returning from.
It's safe to say that Alex's life is no longer the unpleasant mess that it used to be.
Upon arriving at the airport, Alex hastily checked his baggage, lightly jogged toward his
terminal and got on the plane at the very last minute. That last prolonged lovemaking session
with Izzy almost cost Alex his flight, but to him it was well worth it. Besides, part of him even
wished that he would miss the plane, only to have an excuse to remain on the island for yet
another day. As the jet backed away from the terminal to embark on it's journey back towards
the hustle and bustle of the city that Alex called home, he knew that the point of no return has
passed, and that this tropical experience was over. He found his seat.
Alex never liked flying. The thought of being completely out of control of his own fate in the
rare event that something went wrong was disturbing to him, to say the least. However, Alex
had fully conquered his fear of flying from the guidance provided by the G.E.T. H.E.L.P.
chapter of Perfection Inside, so instead of clinging to his chair as he used to during flights, he
opted for a window seat. As the plane began to accelerate down the runway, Alex allowed his
mind to drift into the sea of memories that he had collected during this unforgettable vacation
that was now coming to a close. This trip was definitely destined to become one of the most
exciting chapters in Alex's life, and he was sad to see it end.
Alex thought about the group of three girls that he met while snorkeling. They were marine
biologists, and surprisingly better looking than you'd expect from women of that type of
profession. The Fish Chicks as Alex called them, were a genuinely interesting trio, and Alex
will always remember the time that he spent with them. Most of all he will cherish the
memory of Julie, which was the only Fish Chick that he had been intimate with. Julie was by
far the most passionate lover that Alex has ever enjoyed.
Before Alex's mind had the chance to go over the erotic details of the remarkable night that he
spent with Julie, a quick jolt of turbulence shook him back into reality, if for just a moment.
The old Alex would have been having a panic attack due to that mild shaking of the plane, but
the new, improved Alex wasn't phased at all. Alex quickly drifted back into deep thought.
As the mammoth airplane continued it's ascent towards the thin air of the stratosphere, Alex
continued to reminisce about his recent adventure, and all of the other memorable characters
that he met along the way. He thought about Earl, the sea-savvy charter boat captain from the
fishing trip, and hoped that Earl would take the advice that Alex had given him on women and
use it to turn his own life around as Alex had done some time ago. Then Alex thought about
Nina the sexy waitress from the hotel restaurant, Goldie the hip bartender at the nightclub,
the twins that he met by the pool, Hannah and Hollie, and numerous other friends and lovers
that he really felt privileged to have shared his time with.
Alex had truly had a book-worthy escapade over the past couple of weeks.
Sorry, my mind was somewhere else. Can you repeat that? Alex said without looking up to
the flight attendant who had just touch him on the shoulder and spoken something that his
daydream prohibited him from fully hearing. I just wanted to know if you needed anything,
sugar came the reply in a seductive female voice with a slight Bahamian accent. Upon hearing
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this, Alex looked up and immediately locked eyes with what most men would call the vision of
a goddess. Being too smart to ask for her name when he knew that she must be wearing a
name tag, Alex allowed his eyes to wander to the engraved, golden tag residing just above her
left breast. What did you have in mind, Anza? Alex responded promptly. Not expecting this
type of reply or the use of her name, Anza seemed startled for a second. However, she quickly
collected herself and said, Well, we have blankets, pillows, hot and cold meals, soft drinks,
and liquor available on the flight.
Alex knew that he had more than enough game to avoid having her treat him like any other
normal passenger, but also knew that her job surely must come with some regulations and
rules of conduct. With that in mind, he quickly devised an impromptu plan. Why don't you
give me some time to think about it, go help everyone else, then when you're not so busy come
talk to me for a bit Alex said with a smile and a wink. Anza smiled back and said I'll see you
in a little while then began helping the person sitting in the seat directly in front of Alex.
After a few minutes had passed, Alex looked up to see where his newfound prospect was. He
noticed that Anza had still not finished catering to each passenger, and was about 8 rows in
front of Alex now. Within seconds, Anza discreetly looked back over her shoulder and locked
eyes with Alex once again. She smiled a real smile, as if to say I'm glad that you're just as
interested as I am.
Alex didn't know it at the time, but his true adventure was just about to begin.
This fictional tale is a continuation of the chronicles of Alex Hughes, and is a testament to
the power and control that each man holds over his own life, whether he knows it or not.
What Alex has accomplished in this story is a combination of great feats, resulting in him
becoming the man that he has always wished to be. While this story remains a work of
fiction designed specifically to get a point across, that does not mean that Alex's goals and
accomplishments are impossible to achieve in the real world. With The New Breed, we
believe that any man can reach similar heights and mold himself into a better person that
has the ability to meet and date women of any caliber.
Now that your reading of this Crash Course is coming to a close, we hope that you will make
the decision to continue learning from us by taking an interest in The New Breed as well.
Each day is just another opportunity to make a change!
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Seduction Terminology
Here is the full list of common seduction terms at the time this book was written. Terms that
were developed by TIC exclusively for the Paragon Proect are shown in red. !any of these
exclusive PP terms may not be relevant to you if you do not yet own "The #ew $reed%&
however once you do purchase T#$ you can use to this list as a full reference.
Seduction Terms:
' Close ( )mail close
*(*(+ ( The *(*(+ ranking system
,-C ( ,verage frustrated chump
,I ( ,pproach invitation
,nchor ( Subconsciously placed gesture& word or touch
,S ( ,uto(selection
,S. ( ,nti(slut defense
$,-C ( $elow ,-C
$,P ( $ecomeaplayer.com
$C ( $ooty call
$rand ( $randing a girl with a nickname
$S ( $itch Shield
C / , ( Cocky and alluring
C / ) ( Circling and eecting
C / - ( Cocky and funny
C$ ( Cock block
CC ( The Crash Course in Seduction
Cherry ( 0efers to the cherry picking techni1ue
Close ( Closing the set
C23 ( The 424 system5s cycle of love
Con Tech ( Confession techni1ue
COPS - The Cycle of Power & Strength
C0 ( Compound6custom routine
.,I ( .ead approach invitation
.H7 ( .isplay high value
.iamond ( 8irl that is a perfect 9:
.ime ( Same as above
.37 ( .isplay low value
.2I ( .emonstration of Interest
.PP2 ( .irect Peacocking Passive 2pener
.T ( .own time
.;-- ( .esignated ugly fat friend
) / ) ( )ect and explain
)C ( )ye contact
)T,0 ( )scape T,0
)7 ( )licting values
- Close ( -uck close
-- ( -lea flicker
-TC ( -alse time constraint
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-PC ( -irst phone call
-0 ( -ield report
-0C ( -orced reverse close
-S ( -ire starter
-T ( -orce techni1ue
-;8 ( -ucking ugly girl
-< ( -riends <one
8- ( 8irlfriend
8S ( 8ab switch
8 Close ( 8roup close
H$ ( Hot babe
H3 ( Heist 3eech
H2 ( Hook opener
H. ( Hose down
HS ( Houdini set
H7 ( High value
I$T; ( I5m better than you& indirect statement
I.7 ( Instant display of value
I!P ( Impromptu techni1ue
I2. ( Indicator of disinterest
I2I ( Indicator of interest
= Close ( =iss close
=ino ( =inesthetics
=# ( =ino neg
3.0 ( 3ong distance relationship
3eech ( S7 draining neg
3>$- ( 3et5s ust be friends
3!0 ( 3ast minute resistance
3T8- ( 3ong term girl friend
3T0 ( 3ong term relationship
37 ( 3ow value
!irrors ( -orce techni1ues to make a girl mimic your feelings6thoughts
!P$ ( !ale pattern blindness
# Close ( #umber close
#eg6neg hit ( negative comment& compliment or gesture
#0-0 ( #ot ready for a relationship
2#S ( 2ne night stand
2rbiter ( ,-C that worships a particular H$
P,4# ( ,ny girl used to help you sarge
Pivot ( H$ used to raise your S7
P$$ ( Players$$
P3 ( , Player
P#0 ( Point of no return
P2 ( Passive 2pener
PP ( The Paragon Proect
P; ( Pick up
P;, ( Pick up artist
P;8 ( Pick up guru
P;3 ( Pick up legend
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P;! ( Pick up master
P;S ( Pick up style
0$ ( 0efer back
0H ( The 0obin Hood
0P ( 0eference point
0T,0 ( 0ecovery T,0
Sarge ( The act of going out purposely to pick up women
S$ ( Social banishment
Set ( A group of people that you interact with in the field
S8 ( Slutty 8irl
SH$ ( Super hot babe
Shit Test ( Test girls give to determine your ,-C or alpha male status
Social proof ( The result of displaying high value
S2. ( Statement of disinterest
S2I ( Statement of interest
Spark ( ,lternative name for fire starter
ST ( Sleeved techni1ue
S7 ( Social value
S4 ( ?our social web
T / , ( Tits and ass
T,0 ( Tuck and roll
TIC ( The Inner Circle
TICC ( The Inner Circle Council
TIC0 ( The Inner Circle 0ecruits
T#$ ( The #ew $reed& the first PP book
T#T ( The #eg Twins
T2I ( Target of Interest
;8 ( ;gly girl
;8C$ ( ;gly girl cock block
7C ( 7enue change
4$,-C ( 4ay below ,-C
4ing ( 4ingman
424 ( The 4heel of 4ooing& 424 system
4S ( 4ing signal
@I2I ( )xtreme indicator of interest
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The Inner Circle
The Player Orlandomac Wispy
GoinPhoenix Dude Big Q
DLaw YoungCasual VoodooChild
Chance Top Player eidson
Bes! Lion Prince o" Persia #!ic$
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