The death of a child is different from other losses. Depression, anger, frustration, hopelessness can all be expected. Don't expect my grief to be finished in six months.
The death of a child is different from other losses. Depression, anger, frustration, hopelessness can all be expected. Don't expect my grief to be finished in six months.
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The death of a child is different from other losses. Depression, anger, frustration, hopelessness can all be expected. Don't expect my grief to be finished in six months.
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>> Helpful Thoughts 1. Don’t be afraid to speak my child’s name. I need to hear his name.
2. If I cry or get emotional when we talk about my child,
please know that it isn’t because you have hurt me. The fact that my child has died has caused my tears. You have allowed me to cry and I thank you. Crying and emotional episodes are healing.
3. Please do not remove pictures and other reminders of
my child from your home. I’m keeping mine.
4. I will have emotional highs and lows, ups and downs. If
I’m having a good day, it doesn’t mean I’ve stopped grieving. If I’m having a bad day, it doesn’t mean I need counseling.
5. I wish others knew that the death of a child is different
from other losses. Please don’t compare it to the loss of a parent, spouse or pet.
6. I need you to be around. Please don’t shy away from
me because I am grieving.
7. I wish others knew that all of the “crazy” grief reactions
I’m having are actually very normal. Depression, anger, frustration, hopelessness and the questioning of values and beliefs can all be expected following the death of a child.
8. Please don’t expect my grief to be finished in six months.
9. I wish you understood the physical reactions to grief. I
may gain or lose weight, become ill or accident-prone, and experience drastic changes to my sleeping patterns.
10. Our child’s birthday, the anniversary of her death, and
holidays may be difficult times for us. Please remind us that you are thinking of our child on these days. If we are quiet and withdrawn, please know that we are thinking about our child and everything will be okay.
11. Please do not offer me alcohol or drugs. The only way I
can handle my grief is to experience it. I have to hurt before I can heal.
12. Please understand that grief changes people. I am not
the same person I was before my child died … and I may never be again. I may have new thoughts, dreams, aspirations, values and beliefs. Please try to get to know the new me. We may become closer than ever.
13. While we appreciate your support and understanding,