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za Highly successful couples know that making the relationship a top priority is vital. They don't allow it to derail. They know the ingredients that are necessary to keep each other content, happy, healthy and satisfied. To put it simply !ny deep relationship to another human "eing re#uires watchfulness and nourishment. $. Successful couples en%oy each other. &t's %ust that simple. They like to "e together, talk together, do things together. 'ormer (eatle )ingo Starr has "een married to his wife (ar"ara for more than three decades. He says the secret to the couple's longevity is this* &'m %ust "lessed that she puts up with me. & love the woman. She loves me. There are less down days than up, and we get on really well. +e spend a lot of time together. That's the deal. ,. Successful couples fight skillfully. &n conflict, "e fair and generous, is wisdom from The Tao. +hen two people live together, they are "ound to have differences of opinion and disagreements. Successful couples fight "ut do it skillfully- in a way that leaves the relationship stronger, not weaker. One techni#ue they employ is their choice of words. 'or e.ample, /niversity of California 0(erkeley1 researchers looked at connected couples and discovered that they tend to use plural pronouns 0 we , us and ours 1 rather than singular pronouns 0 & , me and mine 1. !s a result, they were less likely to feel stressed out after the disagreement than couples who used singular pronouns. /sing 'we language' during a fight helps couples align themselves on the same team, as opposed to "eing adversaries, notes lead author (en%amin Seider. 2. Successful couples seek and offer forgiveness. They may not forgive and forget, "ut they do forgive and let it go. +hen they have done something wrong or hurtful, they offer an apology. +hen they are the wronged party, they accept the gift of an apology. Successful couples travel the pathway toward forgiving, which is outlined "y author Clarissa 3inkola 4stes, who cites these four stages for arrival at complete forgiveness* 55 'orgo* Take a "reak from thinking a"out the person or event for a while. 55 'ore"ear* !"stain from punishing, neither thinking a"out it nor acting on 0the offense1 in small or large ways. 6ive a "it of grace to the situation. 55 'orget* )efuse to dwell- let go and loosen one's hold, particularly on memory. To forget is an active 7 not passive 7 endeavor. 55 'orgive* 8ake a conscious decision to cease to har"or resentment, which includes forgiving a de"t and giving up one's resolve to retaliate. 8ore from 9ourTango* (ah Hum"ug: +hy 6ift56iving &s Crucial To 9our )elationship

;. Successful couples are in for the long haul. There are only two options regarding commitment. 9ou're either in or you're out. There's no such thing as life in "etween, says professional "asket"all coach 3at )iley. Successful couples don't %ust make promises to each other- they commit. !fter a marriage that spans 2< years, a couple named =oris and >im say, +e are happy together "ecause we have lived out our vows 7 for richer, for poorer, for "etter, for worse, in sickness and in health. +hen =oris was in a serious auto accident a few years ago she remem"ers that >im was there all the way. He's an incredi"le hus"and, the most selfless person. He's the only person in the world & know & can count on. ?. Successful couples are positive a"out each other. 8arriage researcher >ohn 6ottman, 3h.=, says happy couples have relationships characterized "y respect, affection and empathy, and they pay close attention to what's happening in each other's lives. 'urthermore, his research reveals that happy and sta"le couples made five positive remarks for every one negative remark when they were discussing conflict. &n contrast, couples headed for divorce offered less than one positive remark for every single negative remark

@. Successful couples learn and grow together. One couple, after "eing married for 2< years, decided they would "oth return to university for master's degrees in li"eral arts. &t took us nearly five years. +e had a great time "eing in class together, studying together, reading together. The program allowed us to e.pand our horizons as we took courses in religion, politics, literature, history, foreign policy. +e even persuaded one professor to let us write a paper together* %oint authorsA 3artners in successful couples play to each other's strengths and interests. &f one partner "ecomes more health conscious, the other %oins. &f one partner takes up a new activity, the other partner "ecomes supportive and involved. The end result is a stronger emotional "ond and a deeper love. B. Successful couples never stop dating. That was one of the secrets of a happy relationship uncovered "y 8atthew (oggs and >ason 8iller. The duo traveled over $,,<<< miles searching and interviewing people they called marriage masters 7 those married ;< years or more. One common element to many marriage masters was their a"ility to keep the romance going. Some set aside one evening a week for a date, others planned romantic getaways periodically, while others still met most afternoons for conversation at a coffee or tea shop. 8ore from 9ourTango* The One )adical )ule That Saved 8y )elationship C. Successful couples "ring each other %oy. &n his "ook, The )eal )ules of Dife* (alancing Dife's Terms with 9our Own, Een =ruck, 3h.=, tells a"out a workshop he gave to his wife as a "irthday gift. She had a "eautiful voice that she rarely used. +hat "etter gift than to unleash the %oy she already possessed. &n the workshop, participants of every age and "ackground were encouraged to van#uish the wagging finger of self5condemnation and sing their hearts out. The workshop high

point was a live concert for family and friends. +ith the e.ception of our children's "irths, & can never recall my wife as having "een so %oyful and happy. F. Successful couples adhere to the @<G;< rule. (oggs and 8iller also discovered that marriage masters have a high level of selflessness. +alter whom they interviewed, told them, &'ll never forget what my mentor told my wife and me "efore we got married ;, years ago. He looked at us and said, '8ost people think marriage is ?<G?<. &t's not. &t's @<G;<. 9ou give @<. 9ou take ;<. !nd that goes for "oth of you. &t was a principle +alter and his wife adhered to faithfully. $<. Successful couples have shared values. +hen asked a"out her successful relationship of ?C years, 4mma age CB, smiled and proudly said, &t is #uite an achievement. &t's important to have the same "asic values. &n other words, if you're a free spender, marry someone who understands that. &f you're frugal, you need to marry someone who understands that "ecause money is one of the stum"ling "locks in marriage. 'ortunately, we had the same values on most things. +e usually had the same goals 7 we "elieved in education- we wanted to "e moral- we wanted to raise children to "e good citizens and to "e responsi"le in terms of finances. 3oet )o"ert (rowning put the secret to successful couples in a nutshell when he wrote, Success in marriage is more than finding the right person* &t is "eing the right person. (y Eatula for more information visit www.fastmagicspells.co.zaGlove5spells.html +itchcraft www.fastmagicspells.co.zaGwitchcraft.html (lack magic www.fastmagicspells.co.zaG"lack5magic.html