EFT® and S-E-X

Alina Frank and Dr. Craig Weinston, DC

What could be more intriguing? A Dartmouth College study

of 16,000 Americans on Money, Sex and Happiness¹
revealed “the more sex, the happier the person.” Given that
most people want happiness, sex and relationship, then
exploring what gets in the way of full sexual expression is
an important topic.

Most, if not all sources of sexual dysfunction, have its roots

in unresolved emotional issues. In this article we will
explore insights and distinctions to assist individuals and
couples to help resolve any bedroom disharmony.

Emotional conflicts may originate from childhood, past or

current relationships. These commonly manifest in
physical conditions such as excessive menstrual bleeding,
infertility, loss of libido, premature ejaculation, frigidity,
addictions, chronic pain, phobias, fibroids, cysts, obesity,
heart conditions, vaginal atrophy, migraines, etc. It has
been gratifying to see these conditions resolve using
something as quick and effective as EFT®.

A key factor in creating or restoring a satisfying sex life is

healing the ability to connect with one’s self and one’s
partner. Generally speaking, both sexes do this quite
differently; most women need to feel “connected” in order
to enjoy sex, while many men say they need sex to feel
connected! Is it any wonder that we are facing what some
experts are calling an epidemic of sexless marriages in
America? This same study revealed that 25% of adults in
the U.S. had no sex in the previous 12 months¹.

Some reasons for many women’s inability to express their

sexual desire include; poor self-image (acquired from
media, past lovers, family of origin, etc), shame, insecurity,
fear of abandonment, stress, time pressures, fear of
pregnancy, lack of feeling safe due to past sexual abuse, or
intimacy issues in a current partnership. Many women end
up choosing, consciously or not, to forgo sex rather than to
deal with these charged issues. Hence, no connection, no
sex, no happy, no marriage and an oft cited U.S. Census
Bureau divorce rate estimate of 50%!

A case in point: I worked with a female client who had lost

all interest in sex with her husband of ten years. Since one
of the tenets of her orthodox religion was to have many
children, I began by having her tap on her feelings of
sadness and inadequacy which dissipated quickly. I asked
her to find what was most fearful about the possibility of
having another child and she immediately answered that
she would be completely overwhelmed. Her husband had
just recently begun his own business and was unavailable
to assist her at home with the four children they had. Once
she confronted those fears, discussed her feelings with her
husband, and healed from past memories of being
unsupported, (EFT® was used throughout the entire
process) her desire for sex immediately returned.

Now “on Mars” we have men, who often find their greatest
connection through sex. Manifestations of emotional
conflicts show up as impotence (20% of U.S. men have
tried Viagra and 20 million men use it worldwide
regularly!), premature ejaculation, prostate issues,
addictions, and performance anxiety. Some men seek the
connection through sex via extramarital or pornographic
sexual encounters. Hence a man’s need to express sexuality
physically may result in an estimated 50-60% extramarital
affair rate² and 10% of adults admitted to having an internet
pornography addiction, 72% of which are males³.

Case study: Richard asked for some understanding

regarding his erectile dysfunction (E.D.) problem. He had
been plagued with this for 10 years and because the side
effects of “the little blue pill” frightened him, he refused to
take it. The underlying issue was Richard’s pattern of
attracting very strong women into his life. When asked
when his E.D. had begun, we found that it had coincided
with the ending of his last marriage. His ex-wife in fact had
been verbally abusive, and as a subconscious barrier to
entering into another potentially dangerous liaison, his
body had made it physically impossible. After one session
Richard was healed. In other words, the gig was up!

Beyond the celluloid erotica and the fantasy world of

romance novels, there lies the possibility of an authentic,
passionate, intimate dance of relationship that allows for
personal history and gender differences. The courage to
accept another’s needs and the willingness to explore each
others emotional barriers to full sexual expression has the
potential to transform mere fornication into sacred
sexuality. Embracing a healthy physical sexual connection,
beyond the fears and emotional baggage, can be a beautiful
pathway to not only increase ones happiness, but is also a
potential path along which the Divine in each other can be
sought.

1. Blanchflower, David G., Oswald, Arnold J., Money, Sex and Happiness: An Empirical Study.
Scandinavian Journal of Economics, July 27, 2004.
2. www.menstuff.org
3. www.Internet-filter-review.com

Alina Frank and Dr. Craig Weinston are the creators of the Path 2 Passion
Course. For more information please visit

http://www.lifemademucheasier.com/163-9.html