Will you forgive just 4 people in your life?

For you to set yourselI Iree and get on with the rest oI your liIe there are Iour
people that you need to Iorgive.
First, Make a habit oI Iorgiving your parents Ior every mistake they ever made in
bringing you up. All parents make mistakes with their children. They do the very
best they can, with what they have; based on their own experience, and their
current situation, but they make mistakes. This is a Iact.
II your parents made a mistake with you, you can say to yourselI, 'I forgive them
completely for everything.` And then let it go. II your parents are still alive, go and
sit down with them and discuss the events and experiences you still Ieel angry or
resentIul about. Tell them, 'For a long time, I was angry and resentful about this,
but I have decided to forgive you unconditionally and let it go.` And then never
bring it up again. It is only when you can Ireely Iorgive your parents, and let go oI
any lingering anger or resentment, that you truly grow up, and become an adult.
Until that point oI Iorgiveness, you are still a child, seeing yourselI as a victim.
You are still trapped in the past. Forgiveness sets you Iree to get on with your liIe.
Open the 1ail Doors
The second person you have to Iorgive is any individual Irom a previous
relationship, especially a romantic relationship, or a bad marriage, that you still
Ieel angry about. Begin by accepting that you were at least 50 responsible Ior
what happened. You got yourselI into the situation and you kept yourselI in it, long
aIter you began to Ieel unhappy. Make a decision today to Iorgive the other person,
no matter what he or she did or said, and just let it go.
Think about who you are, what you want and where you want to go in the Iuture,
and let the past go. 'When you turn toward the sun, the shadows fall behind you.`
It takes two people to keep someone in jail, the prisoner and the jailer. When you
let the 'prisoner out oI the mental jail you have been holding him or her in, you
set yourselI Iree as well.
Issue a Blanket Amnesty
The third person you have to Iorgive is everyone else who has ever hurt you in any
way. Forgive your siblings and people Irom your childhood. Forgive your teachers
and early relationships, your bad bosses and dishonest business partners. Sweep
them all together and issue a 'blanket amnesty. Forgive every person who has
ever caused you any unhappiness in the past. Resolve today to let them go Iorever.
Like dropping a rock into a bottomless pit, open your hand and let those negative
experiences disappear. Don`t talk about them, think about them or review them
ever again. As Iar as you are concerned, they are dead issues.
Let Yourself off the Hook
The Iourth person you have to Iorgive is yourself. It is absolutely amazing how
many people are still sitting in negative judgment on themselves because oI some
wicked, senseless, brainless, Ioolish or cruel thing they did in the past.
The Iact is that your liIe is a continuous process oI growth and evolution. When
you did something in the past that you now disapprove oI, you were a diIIerent
person. You are not the person you are today. You are a new person with greater
wisdom and experience who would never think oI doing what you might have
done when you were younger. Let yourselI oII the hook. Forgive yourselI and let
yourselI go. There is nothing wrong with making a mistake, or hundreds oI
mistakes, as you grow and mature. It is virtually inevitable. But it is ridiculous Ior
you not to Iorgive yourselI Ior those mistakes and get on with the rest oI your liIe.
Set Everyone Free
The wonderIul thing about the habit oI Iorgiveness is that it sets you Iree. It also
sets everyone that you Iorgive Iree as well. Forgiveness is one oI the most upliIting
and liberating habits that you can develop in all human relationships. Your goal is
to reach the point where there is not a single person or event in your liIe toward
which you Ieel any anger or resentment. Whenever you think oI a person that may
have hurt you, you immediately cancel the thought by saying, 'God bless him/her,
I forgive him/her for everything.` And then get your mind busy with what you
want, and start thinking about how the speciIic actions you can take to achieve it.
Get so busy working toward the things that are important to you that you don`t
have time to think or worry about the things that happened in the past that you
cannot change in any case.
Treasure the love you receive above all. It will survive long after your gold
and good health have vanished.`