Foundation & Habits # 1-3

Dr. A.K.Bakthavatsalam
Professor / TP / NITT

Habits # 4-7
Dr. N.Amassai Gounden Dean (ICSR) / NITT

Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit
-Aristotle

Foundation
-Maturity

continuum

-Paradigm

-Conditioning
-Principles -P/PC Balance

-Ethics

The Maturity continuum

7 Sharpen saw

Interdependence
Understand Synergize 5 6 PUBLIC VICTORY Think win-win 4

Independence
1st 3 things 1st

PRIVATE VICTORY 1 2 Be Proactive End in mind

Dependence
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Maturity Continuum
Dependence the paradigm of you Dependent people need others to get what they want Independence the paradigm of I Independent people can get what they want through their own efforts. Interdependence the paradigm of we Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the efforts of others to achieve greater success.
Hare-Tortoise story retold!!

The Power of a Paradigm Shift

What is a paradigm? Paradigm: The way we see, understand and interpret the world; our mental map A paradigm is a frame of reference. A paradigm is like a map in our head. It is like a model

 We assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be. Near-death experiences frequently cause people to experience a paradigm shift. Not all paradigm shifts are instantaneous -- some happen gradually over time.

What is a paradigm shift?

A paradigm shift is a way of looking at something differently. We are stepping outside the box. When we make a paradigm shift we can see, think, feel & behave differently. Example: Ptolemy thought the earth was the center of the universe. Copernicus believed the sun was the center of the universe. (major shift)

Paradigm shift - A siru kathai. Sometime ago, when the ice-creams were not so expensive, a ten year old boy went to an ice cream parlour. While sitting at the table, he asked the waitress How much does a strawberry cost?. 10 Rupees, she replied. The boy took out this money from the pocket and began counting it.

Well how much does a simple ice-cream cost? asked the little boy There were other people waiting to be served, so the waitress began to get a little impatient. 8 Rupees she replied abruptly.

The boy counted his money again and said Please get me a simple ice cream.

The waitress served him the ice cream and his bill. The boy ate his ice-cream, paid his bill and left. When the waitress went to clear the table, she began to cry . for there in the corner of the plate, were 2 Rs.... her tip. The boy took a simple ice-cream instead of strawberry so he could leave a tip for her.

Effects of Conditioning
We see what we are conditioned to see. We are conditioned by our upbringing, environment and experiences.
three one two

Principles

Principles are self-evident natural laws We get superb results when we align our paradigms with principles of effectiveness Principles empower and enable us Principles are not situational, temporary, subjective Are timeless, universal, will work anyway. Like light houses

Effectiveness (P/PC)
Effectiveness is getting superb results today (production) in a way that allows us to get those results over and over again (production capability) PC Maintaining, preserving and enhancing the resources (goose) that produce the desired results P The desired results (golden eggs)

Personality and Character Ethics

Personality Ethic (post WWI)
Personality, public image, attitudes & behaviors, skills and techniques, quick fixes

Character Ethic (pre WWI)

Integrity, humility, fidelity, temperance, courage, justice, patience, industry, simplicity, modesty, the Golden Rule

Knowledge (what to, why to) theoretical

Habits
Internalized principles & patterns of behavior

Knowledge (what to, why to)

Desire (want to)

motivational

Habits
Internalized principles & patterns of behavior

Knowledge (what to, why to)

Skills (how to) practical

Desire (want to)

Habits
Internalized principles & patterns of behavior

Knowledge (what to, why to)

Habits Skills (how to) Desire (want to)

Habits
Internalized principles & patterns of behavior Like gravity strong pull

The Habits of Private Victory

Habit 1: Be Proactive
Habit 2: Begin With the End in Mind

Habit 3: Put First Things First The first three habits move a person from Dependence to Independence

Habit # 1 BE PROACTIVE The habit of Choice

Principle: I am free to choose and I am Responsible for my choices

1. BE PROACTIVE

Responsibility

Response

Ability

Proactive vs. Reactive

PROACTIVE: More than merely taking initiative; means recognizing our responsibility; Life is a product of our values not feelings; Decisions not conditions; Energizing the creative force in us; REACTIVE: Product of moods, feelings, circumstances, conditions, social weather; build their emotional lives around the behavior of others. PROACTIVE does not mean being pushy / aggressive. No one can hurt you without your consent Roosevelt

If we could carry the weather with us.

We could have a good day no matter what comes our way.

Proactive Model
Stimulus

Freedom to Choose

Response

Self Awareness

Independent Will

Imagination

Conscience

Circle of Influence
Things we cant control
circle of
circle of influence

concern

Things we can control or change

Focus on things we can change or influence

Circle of Influence
Things we CANT control or change:
Other people The weather Things you did wrong in the past

Things we CAN control or change:

Your attitude

Your mood
Your reaction to good and bad things that happen How I treat other people

How other people treat me

Homework

 God give me the courage to change the things which can and ought to be changed, the patience to accept the things which cannot be changed and the wisdom to know the difference -Anonymous

Language: Reactive vs Proactive

Theres nothing I can do Thats just the way I am He makes me so mad They wont allow that I have to do that I cant I must If only Lets look for alternatives I can choose a different approach I control my own feelings I can create an effective presentation I will choose an appropriate response I choose I prefer I will

Habit # 2 BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND The habit of Vision

Principle: Mental creation precedes physical creation

Vision

Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind.

The law of the farm: You reap what you sow.

translated sacrifice vision = what you want to see mission = immediate next step(s) Both tend to focus priorities. Specifically write what you want to reap. What do you HOPE for? Write what you are willing to sow. Time? Personal energy? Money? Your friends?
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Habit 2 Begin with end in mind

A starting point in beginning with the end in mind is to develop a personal mission statement, philosophy or credo. It will help you focus on what you want to be. 1) Prioritize sort your tasks. 2) Organize around priorities what is important 3) Discipline yourself to accomplish.

Habit 2: Begin With The End In Mind

Habit 1 says you are the programmer Habit 2 says write the program
Mission Statement: A powerful document that expresses your personal sense of purpose and meaning in life. It acts as a governing constitution by which you evaluate decisions and choose behaviors.

Benefits of a personal mission statement

Clarifies what is important to you Provides focus Helps you design your life instead of having it designed for you Guides your day-to-day decisions Gives you a greater sense of meaning and purpose

Long - Term Organizing

Mission Statement

Roles

Goals

Weekly Organizing

Roles

Goals

Plans

Schedule

Delegate

Mental creation A clear agenda A clear blueprint Extensive research

Individual goal setting

Physical creation Productive meeting Grand library bldg A new product

Paper / project

Personal mission Life of contribution and statement fulfillment Carpenters rule: Measure twice, cut once

 Effective people take time to define the legacy they want to leave in each of their key roles. Their roles represent important relationships and key responsibilities.
(visualizing 80th Birthday celebrations and Tribute Statements)

Habit # 3 PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST habit of integrity and execution

Principle: Effectiveness requires the integrity to act on your priorities

Habit 3: Put First Things First

Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.

Underlying Principle Effectiveness requires balancing important relationships, roles, and activities.
Key Paradigm I will focus on importance instead of urgency. I will fulfill my mission by acting on important goals in my life.

Habit 3: Put First Things First

#1 You are the programmer (Creator) #2 You write the program (mental or first creation, Leadership) #3 You run the program (physical or second creation, Management) The key is not to prioritize your schedule but to schedule your priorities. Leadership: Do the right things Management: Do things right

Habit 3: Put First Things First

What are the first things in your life? First things are those things that you, personally, find most worth doing. They move you in the right direction. They help you achieve the principle-centered purpose expressed in your mission statement.

Habit#3:Put First Things First

Importance An activity is important if you personally find it valuable if it contributes to your mission, values, and high-priority goals. Often not visible; Act Urgency An activity is urgent if you or others feel that it requires immediate attention (ringing phone); Visible; React

The Time Management Matrix

urgent I: necessity (5 - 25) Crises, Pressing important Problems, deadlinedriven projects, mtgs reports III (5-55) Needless interruptions not important unimportant meetings unnecessary reports mails, calls not urgent II: opportunity (65-15) PC activities planning & prevention Recreation Relationship building

IV (25-5) trivia Irrelevant calls time wasters Excessive TV, net

We want Quadrant II > Quadrant I. Quadrant II comes from Quadrants III and IV. If we focus on QI, it keeps growing Often we mistake QIII for QI As QII activities expand, QI shrinks QII is Leadership and QI is Management
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Foundation & Habits # 1-3

Dr. A.K.Bakthavatsalam
Professor / TP / NITT

Habits # 4-7
Dr. N.Amassai Gounden Dean (ICSR) / NITT