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Contents
Acknowledgments
PART
The
Understanding
and
Using
Energy
Psychology
Introduction
Genesis
3
Work
Your \342\200\242 The
of Energy
Development
of Energy
Process
CHAPTER
for Changing
1
Psychology
\342\200\242 A
Step-By-Step
Life
The Missing
Piece to
Your the
Success Solutions
\342\200\242 \342\200\242 How
15 Are
Imbalances Created?
CHAPTER
Energy
Life
Summary
Your
Energy
Energy
Meridian
\342\200\242
Meridians
Points
\342\200\242
23
and
Locating
Reversals CHAPTER
Supplemental
Treatment
\342\200\242
Psychological
Energy
The
Toxins
of Toxic
35
Substances
\342\200\242 Is
Impact
Toxicity
\342\200\242
Summary
CHAPTER
Beliefs
What
That Hold
a Belief?
\342\200\242 Alternative
You Back
Change Approaches
41
an Energy
Is
\342\200\242 Social
Approach
C-APTER
and Your Beliefs \342\200\242 Toward Moving to Changing Beliefs \342\200\242 Summary
Identifying Developing
Summary
Problems
Your
that You
Profile
Want
to
Resolve
49
Personal
\342\200\242
Using
Energy
Psychology
for
Your
Specific
Issues
\342\200\242
PART
II
Energy
Treatments
for Specific
and
Problems
55
C--PTER6
Understanding Psychological
St\\
Reversals
Self-Sabotage
Tvpes
of Self-Sabotage
\342\200\242
Treating
Psychological
Reversals
\342\200\242
Summary
VI
Energy
Tapping
CHAPTER
How
Everyone
Do
Is Scared of Something
Fears
65
Your
Get Started?
\342\200\242
\342\200\242
Identifying
Fears
\342\200\242 Basic
Phobias
and Fears
\342\200\242 Related
Phobias CHAPTER
and Fears 8
Treating
Yourself
in Public
Reading
\342\200\242
Summary
C)vercorriing
Loneliness,
Anger,
and
\342\200\242
85
Rejection
Purring
Releasing Anger
Embarrassed?
the Rage
Jealousy
to Security
\342\200\242
\342\200\242
Why
Be
\342\200\242
Overcoming
Shame
\342\200\242 Loneliness
\342\200\242
Rejection
Erasing
Those
Negative
Feelings
CHAPTER
\342\200\242
Summary
Feeling
The
Good Again
111
\342\200\242 What
Treatment for Depression \342\200\242 Complex \342\200\242 and Anxiety \342\200\242 Losses Depression \342\200\242 Depression Triggered by Anger Depression \342\200\242 Cause Depression \342\200\242 Massive Reversals So Much Quit Thinking Psychological
Summary
Drugging
of America
Causes
Depression?
\342\200\242
Energy
Psychology Treatment
Helps for
to
that
\342\200\242
CHAPTER
10
Rapidly
The
Resolving
Process
123
137
Treatment
Summary
CHAPTER
11
Improving
Managing
Your Sports
Performance
Performance
and Fears
\342\200\242
Anxiety
\342\200\242
Creating
Peak
Performance Thoughts
Treatment
Plan
\342\200\242
for Sports
Sports
in Sports
\342\200\242 Touch
\342\200\242
Self-Sabotaging
and
Breathe
CHAPTER
Specific
12
Developing
Striving
an Effective
Lose
to
Weight
\342\200\242
\342\200\242
Changing
151
Problems
\342\200\242
Mind-Set
Personal
Visualizing
Life
Situations 13
Toning
Your
Body
\342\200\242
Summary
CHAPTER
Eliminating
Gambling
Addictive
Treatment
\342\200\242
169
Comprehensive Commitment
Psychological
Reversals
\342\200\242
Developing
Emotional
Urge
Reduction
Treatments
CHAPTER 14
A Satisfying
Developing
Relationships
Relationship \342\200\242
Beliefs
179
the
Identifying
Sabotaging
Partner
Plunge
\342\200\242 \342\200\242
Relationship
Obsessions
\342\200\242
Summary
CHAPTER
15
Tools
Into
for a
Lifetime
\342\200\242
201
Psychology
the
Mainstream
Energy
and the
Future
\342\200\242
Insight
\342\200\242
Beyond
Tapping
\342\200\242
Feelings
Bibliography
205
Acknowledgments
is an Just as no person
influences.
island,
a book
Sir
Isaac
Newton,
\"If
great discoverer of
seen
of
a truth
in
his own down-to-earth manner,said, is nothing \"There world except the history do not know.\" Therefore you we would liketo acknowledge who contributed to the creation of this work, everyone even those whom we have not met. personally We are deeply indebted to the contributions of Ti, who catalogued Huang meridian theory approximately 4,500 years founder of J. Goodheart, ago; George and Diamondand for their contributions J.Callahan, Roger appliedkinesiology; John in the treatment of emotional problems. to the application of meridian theory We like to thank our family, friends, and colleagues and would for their support
shoulders
acknowledging,
of
I have
further
by
standing
giants.\"
S. Truman, in
upon the
encouragement
David acknowledge
throughout
Justin
and
Lee for
to Finally, thank you Beck and Catharine Sutker, in inducting Matt McKay, editor-in-chief,and Kristin and acquisitions, for contacting us and supporting this project. Special appreciation and for her warmth, acknowledgment go to Jueli Gastwirth, our editor, patience, energetic attention throughout the writing of Energy Tapping.
the writing of this book. We would also like to in Energy Tapping. used helping us createthe diagrams all the talented people at New Publications, Harbinger
Understanding
and
Using
Energy
Psychology
Introduction
Your
body
has
the ability
to heal itself.
\342\200\224Andrew
Weil,
M.D.
Energy
energy
used
technique
needles to stimulate a change in the way you think and feel, energy psychology uses 2 method of two fingers on specificpoints of your Once you simple tapping body. understand this processand the location of the via the meridian points (provided will this with elirninate learn how can or diagrams book), throughout you cope you that you have struggled with for As psychologists who have been rroblems years. trained in numerous and to we have found techniques strategies, energy psychology r<e the most effective and efficient process for creating and change rapid effectively issues. treating emotional and/or psychological
Tapping is a unique bookthat will help you to learn how to use your body's to better manage your life. Although several different names can be system to identify the term we this use is This process, energy healing psychology. is based on the ancient Chinese art of acupuncture, instead of using although
The
\"ir
Genesis
was
of
It has years suddenly disappeared. seen said that incidents such as these led the Chinese the existence of an to discover that communicates information throughout the human body. energy system energetic \303\234BS has been called chi energy system (pronouncedchee),and is also known as life iorce. ki, prana, and life energy.
isms
clear when the of energy first discovered five thousand years in \302\273-ere with knives and bows and a arrows, fought \303\274ers who received minor wounds in just the right
is not it \302\261at
work
China.
began,
At that
ago strange
has it wars
Sol-
phenomenon found
and ailments
that
they
had
suffered
with for
places
the
physical
Energy Tapping
Acupuncture
led to the developmentof is with altered acupuncture, stimulating, body's energy by twelve that are known as meridians. needles, major pathways specific points along Each of the meridians passesthrough a specific organ of the body, such as the lungs, or stomach. The is entire interconnected so that the chi, or life energy, heart, system travels from one meridian to the next, circulating throughout the body. These meridiansinteract with a number of more concentratedenergy fields chakras. called In acupuncture at needles are the selected tonifiinserted into treatments, body cation or stimulation at increase or selected sedation (to points energy), points (to decrease trial and error, acupuncture has been developed and used energy). Through Chinese a wide of illnesses. by physicians to eliminate pain and to treat variety
the
The discoveryof
human
a procedure
by which the
energy
system eventually
Interestingly,
several
countries
now
use acupuncture
as an
alternative
anesthesia
during as
surgery.
alternative health care treatment we think (although people hesitate because The World Health cited 104 conditions that can they don't like needles). Organization be treated disordersand sciatica problems by acupuncture, including gastrointestinal (Burton Goldberg Group 1993).
viable
Increasingly,
acupuncture
Scientific
Research
viewpoint,
Froma
challenge
scientific
one
problem
it
with energy
Trying
of
creating
with
the
concrete
meridian
proof that
points,
psychology is the
that there
to
exists.
can't You see it, but intuitively gravity or energy in general exists. you know that it's there and you can create tests that will its existence. verify that One of the early findings the belief that an energy field or aura support in A surrounds each was conducted the 1970s. researcher at Yale, Harold Saxon person Burr (1972), took measurements of the fields around trees, animals, electromagnetic and human beings.Hecalled these energy fields Life Fields or L-Fields. His work that an the into existent field that serves as a suggests body grows already energy of its a is the form. For even after a section of leaf severed, blueprint physical example, form of the severed section continues Other studies to be detectable. (Burr energy that a baby animal has a detectableenergy that field 1972) have demonstrated an its size as adult. approximates
Richard disease
energy system
for example,
to prove
is an
that
prove
Gerber
(1988),
author
of
Vibrational
Medicine,
may
begin
at the
suggests
migrate
at
that
into
physical
detected
in
the
up in
level
time
the
energy
disturbance
and thus
when
occurring.
This today
is not
so
can
ever
far-fetched
consider
years. some
completely
your
body
every
That parts
ago. And
we
as
example,
get a
the
to the
existence of
energy fields
new liver every six weeks.This all basis of all physical form. The energy
human bodies the fact that is, not one single atom of of our bodies are recycled
\"traduction
field
its
is what
parts
holds the
be created
provides
the
mold
into which
can
anew.
Louis Langman (1972)conducted another that examines the relationship study between energy and disease. Hefound that in a sample of 123 women with malignant 5 had a positiveenergy chargein the cervix, and 118 had a cervical conditions, The numbers were reversed in a sample of women with no negative electrical charge. cancerous conditions. This does not that causes cancer, study prove negative polarity that the cancer itself leads to the negativecharge. because it is possible this However, that an energy difference exists betweenthose who research does demonstrate are with a and those disease. healthy to document Therehave beenseveralattempts the existence of meridian points. is an orthopedic and coRobert Becker who Cross Currents wrote (1990) surgeon He was encouraged to further authored The Body Electric (1985). explore acupuncture when it became of interestin the 1970s after President Nixon's trip to China and journalist Reston's remarkable treatment for postoperativepain and James acupuncture Much of the has works research healing. disproved the theory that acupuncture early That so as a result of a placeboeffect. is, when a person simply believesin a treatment much so that it proves to be effective (Becker and Seldon 1985). examined the that meridian Becker theory acupoints are electrical conductors and that meridians are used to send messagesback and forth from the brain and the and the site to create of conscious injury promote healing perception pain. He an and research He interesting pertinent developed approach. proposedthat the meridians were the electrical conductors that information the site of an injury to the from relay central nervous system. He thought that to block needles served perhaps acupuncture to the brain by short-circuiting the electromagnetic the pain messagefrom getting Becker theorized that current in the meridian. the acupoints functioned similarly to that are positioned booster amplifiers He noted that because the lines. along power electric current of the meridianswould have to be of a very low intensity, the booster close to each other (within inches). This is very amplifierswould have to be placed
the casewith
Maria
the
acupoints.
Reicrunanas,
that
cutter-like device
a biophysicist
could
associate of
Becker's,
be
electrical
location
point
skin
resistance.
of the
as
compared
across subjects
these
studies
information.
to the surrounding skin. Their findings were to strongly suggestthat acupoints and meridians imply that meridian pathways exist and that they
acupoint, then
They
rolled theorized
along the meridians to detect differencesin that if an electrical charge truly at the existed there would be a difference in skin resistance at that
consistent
developed
a pizza-
enough
The
The heart,
Development
development a chiropractor
of Energy
Psychology
of energy
meridian
John Diamond (1985) and of mental experimented with the treatment eliminate on acupoints helped negative
psychiatrist
acupoints
as George Goodbegan in the early 1960s, psychology from Detroit, Michigan, experimented with tapping on various to relieve pain while treating patients holistically. In the 1980s,
psychologist
Roger
Callahan
(1985)
that
each
and
health
problems.
They found
tapping
Energy Tapping
painful memories.
Thought
Callahan,whosesystem
provided and
Field
and
can effectively concepts used in acupuncture can The that change psychological problems. psychological discovery occur in such a simple way is a breakthrough in mental health. It's a radical departure from talk therapy, which dominated psychology in the twentieth century. still believe that the most effective and healthy method of people Many emotional occurs talk therapy, in which new knowledge or is learned change through it new life skills are developed not verbal communication. through Although may seem realistic that tapping on meridianpoints located on your face or hands can that is as fast or changehow you think or feel, we have not found another treatment effective as energy psychology. remain however, people, skeptical until they Many to eliminate one of their own problems. use this method will be explored further, the basis Although the concepts of energy psychology is of the that eliminate issuesby simply flunking about a technique you psychological issue or on while meridian painful memory tapping specific points. Additionally,we a related will examine treatment that helps to eliminateself-sabotaging thoughts and beliefs that often occur after someone has been traumatized or is in the middleof a
These
Gallo (1998) Gary Craig approach energy psychology world learnits procedures.
to
Therapy,
of the power therapies known as is one work. In the 1990s, Fred the majority\" of the clinical (Craig and Fowlie 1995) developed their own accessible
helped
mental health
cliniciansthroughout the
studies
show
that
the same
be
used
to treat
stressful
situation.
Energy
Psychology provides
your
you
with
helping
you own
keys
energy
system.
Step-By-Step
Process
for Changing
Part
Your Life
The
book
is divided
understand
into two
and
parts:
a and
I addresses
the basic
help you
specific
The addictive
utilize
for
the methods
variety emotions
treatment
concludes and
methods
of energy psychology.
concepts required to
Part
II provides
trauma, sabotagingbehaviors,
book behavior,
alsois
It
more complex issues, suchas weight loss, by examining A on relationships. chapter improving your sports performance
that
included.
is
important
attempting
you
to heal the
learned
common
problems
before
issues
consist
of several
must
be treated
that
the basics
you will
behaviors and
skills
healing can occur.Once in are this which book, presented psychology, will help you to eliminateself-sabotaging
before complete
better
manage
Introduction
an methods. Because chapters guide you through specifictreatment to determine will not be experienced energy psychology therapist present help you where treatment sequences your energy imbalances exist, we have developed in (patterns of places to tap) for each of the problems this book. We also pose explored questions that may help you to determine which of your feelings and/or behaviors A brief outline of each chapter follows: are disruptive and need to be treated. 1 further and Chapter explores energy helps you to understandhow psychology of energy different levels affect your behavior. and of locations for each of the meridian Chapter 2 providesfigures diagrams that will for These diagrams also appear be points tapping particular problems. you
Many
of the
in the chapters
that
deal
addressing.
You
will
learn
meridian,
negatively your energy system. It has beenfound that weaken solutions, symptoms your energy. Various examined.
and how to do a simpletreatment sequence. 3 addresses how potential toxins,suchas food,tobacco, or alcohol, Chapter
affect
that
specific
2 which
psychological
challenges we will be
by
each
can
substances
produce
as detoxification,
your
that
are
life.
are
It also longer
habits
will
that are
help
negatively
to change
affecting
you
habits
no
productive.
will
help
you develop
a personalprofile of
the
Chapter 6 revealsways to identify and treat psychological reversals. Reversals in a of self-sabotage in your life. Your energy can be disrupted are the primary cause that in to are causes to act that opposition something you consciously trying way you \"I'm tired of fighting with my mate; to attain. For example, you tell yourself, may we are going to relax.\" Yet, for some after your mate comes home and reason, tonight
vou
begin
to interact,
fight
still
occurs.
It's not
a lack of
willpower;
it is
a reversal in
your
7 addresses
limit
confidence and
your fears
life of heights,
can
lower
self-
your fears
experiences.
explored,
taking,
including
Chapter 8 helpsyou
of
flying,
mtirnidating
Several specific fears and phobias are test animals, public speaking, elevators,
anger,
Chapter
rage,
9
occurs in everyone's life at some time. of a job or a hometo more difficult or being in a severe accident. as losing a loved one, suffering child experiences, such abuse, Painful affect forward with memories moving many people and prevent them from their lives. The ability to learn how to copewith a past event and move on can be to attained and how This chapter focuses on theseissues through energy psychology. treat them. In many cases, a painful with a single can be addressed memory treatment. to eliminate Chapter 11 provides strategies sports anxiety and other selfsabotagingbeliefs that create mental errors during sporting activities.
focuses
depression,
which
Chapter10
includes
trauma,
which
Trauma
everything
from
the loss
Energy
Tapping
the first chapter to deal with the more complex issues. This often related issues loss, which is complex because many lose weight. Although many people have trouble losingweight, sabotage your there It is an energy is a relatively simple solution:diet and exercise. actually imbalance and a most reversal that the obese or overweight likely psychological prevents from In this the that sabotage will beliefs person losing weight. chapter, you identify to on a diet. to in the balance learning your ability stay By energy your meridians, will to a diet of be able have the control to stick to it, and choice, pick you your achievethe elusive goal of having a slimmer, healthier body. addictive behavior, which by itself 13 addresses of selfis a form Chapter also to This avoidance behaviors sabotage. chapter helps you possible you identify and may have. The chapterhas a very strong focus on exploring belief systems reversals. Because addictions are very hard to break and often for a exist psychological treatment methods as well as identifying reason, emphasis is placed on daily
Chapter
12 is
chapter addresses
weight efforts to
replacement
activities
or
behaviors.
on relationships, a complex that has no easy answers. issue an to understand how Energy psychologyprovides approach help people they their the This chose or their own behaviors. sabotage relationships partners they by by information is used to determine which and which must be addressed problems will be most helpful. treatments energy psychology we believe will be future directions in the use of Chapter 15 addresseswhat and concludes energy psychology by summarizing the current uses of this unique tool. It is an approach that can use to help hurdle old problems and with anyone cope new ones. Energy psychology provides the toolsthat to create the allow balance you and controlthat have been missing from your life.
Chapter
14 focuses
Introduction
Frequently
Asked
Questions
In
this
section,
psychology.
we hope
to answer many
of
the
questions
that
you may
have about
energy
Q:
What
types of
issues or
problems
does
two
energy
types
A: Energy
cause
psychologyaddresses
imbalances
specific
of problems:
energy
imbalance
when an
energy
event affects
and psychological
meridian
reversals. The
your
often
life
that
points
energy psychology addresses is psychological onceyou have system is reversed.For example, experienced a that or similar about trauma you encounter or think situations your energy respondsas if it were reexperiencing it. Psychological reversals create or false beliefs, which is why in ways that behave negative people their lives. this may sound strange, it explains do things sabotage Although people why that know will be bad for them. They can't because their they stop themselves, behavior like the right thing to do. Psychological seems alsoprevent the reversals energy in your meridians from balance restored. being
of
that creates consequences of feelings inadequacy. There are a numberof ways to think about your energy a term like balance is used, it means system. When that your energy flows freely through Your and each meridian has the same amount of energy. When one of your body meridians is impactedby a trauma, some of the energy in that meridian may become stimulates the meridian depleted, creating an imbalance.Tapping on the acupoints and increases the energy, which in turn creates most of this book balance. Although addresses specificproblems, it also is possible to stimulate meridians to move to a to deal with life issues in general. higher energy level and increase your ability
type
occurs
The secondtype
when
problem
reversais-, i.e.,
Q- How is an
situation.
energy
your system, your mind may have forgotten particular them. When remembers events, your body you experiencea trauma, for in a normal If the were example, you manner, respond feeling appropriate emotion. you r<eaten and robbed, for instance,tearfulness at the time. The would be natural arise when this trauma creates an energy imbalance that problems, however, perpetuates the fearful The result can that a phobic be experience indefinitely. develop you reaction that limits interact with other people. your lifestyle and the mannerin which you
in
that problem
and vulnerable to
nervous
resulting
imbalance
in your
similar
energy systemleaves
Every
disruption
is caused
you
by a
traumatic
unable
to resolve
embedded
problems.
situation
you encounter
is
and although
10
Energy
Tapping
It takes
to disrupt your
treatment)
energy
system.
Another
it.
is
required
to
balance
For social reasons why energy imbalancesoccurin people. least two there have more than one million divorces been example, generations each year in the United States. Divorce is one example of a type of trauma that can affect you, resultingin feelings is the of anger, a of trust. Another or loss sadness, of As to transient communities. communities continue be more changing dynamics and choose to live in different members the sense of belonging to and cities, family the safety of living in a caring community are undermined. If feel that no one you cares about you, this easily can lead to other problems. It also is possible that energy imbalances can be passed on from one generation to another. Rupert Sheldrake's (1988) research how instinctual information examines is passed on to new generations. As there is no evidence that emotional feelings are one's Sheldrake believes that emotional feelings and learned DNA, passedthrough behaviors can on from one generation to anothervia energy fields. Under be passed this theory, a trauma suffered could be passed on to you in the by your grandmother form of an energy imbalance. This may explain why babies respond to situations with a baby's ability to cope with distinct patterns of behavior. For example, frustrating is very observable within a few months of birth. situations Of course, once children is affected are born, their energy system by their parents and their surrounding will what environment. If any of these situations creates an energy imbalance, it affect someone thinks as well as their senseof self. It could be argued that energy make disruptions at birth lead to certain emotional feelingsand thoughts that you more or likely vulnerable to have certain negative experiences. cause of the energy disruption is not crucialto the actual Although knowing the it can of your as well as your resolving problem, help explain many problems can a and if they are not behavior.Energy have on life disruptions major impact your treated, it is unlikely that the problems will be resolved.
There
are
numerous
for at
Q:
A:
How
can
an
energy
thinking?
a person has a thought, a chemical neuropeptides, the chemical correlatesof thought, become detectable. not only are presentin the brain, but also can be Neuropeptides found throughout the body, includingin the stomach, and liver. Thus, a kidneys, At the same time, an thought has a real embodied,physical presence. field also can be detected when a person has a thought.This is electromagnetic-like the energetic which Roger Callahan presence or manifestation of the thought, (Callahan and Callahan 1996) termed a thought field. emotions are created by a disturbancein the thought field, which can Negative a physical or emotional trauma. The theory is that the disturbance be caused by in turn, affects a specific energy point that, sets off hormonal, physiological, and cognitive events that result in the experienceof a negative chemical, neurological, emotion. The cause disturbances imbalances that can be experiencedas energy It is
well known
reaction
by scientiststhat
and
presence
or
occurs,
depression,
fears,
or
addictive
behaviors.
Introduction
11
correlatemeridian
Q: What
psychological
with
specific
a field, it always corresponds to a thought is why energy psychologists have been able to and develop treatments. problems
is
a psychological
reversal?
happens
clear what
One
behaviors
reversal.
to a
creating a situation that is the you reverse\342\200\224of what would opposite\342\200\224or the term reversal. Hence, prefer. you often are situation-specific, meaning that they only affect specific Most reversals areas of your life,suchas your ability to achieve a particular goal, overcomea phobia, or get along better with another person. If there was an event in your life that created for it's possible that this event created a instance, strong feelings of shame or guilt, which accounts for with similar reversal, why you may not be copingwell partly in your life today. Another situations feature of a psychological reversal is a lack of For example, when you don't accept a part of who you are, what you self-acceptance. or what are there can be a reversalin your The did, doing, you system. energy is an unconscious outcome act of sabotage against your expressed goals. consciously For example, you might be reversedabout That is, you may successful. being \"I don't to have success in my life.\" Or, \"I am not deserve think, unconsciously of having a in is clear successful situation my life.\" The impact of the reversal worthy when you have the potential to be successful in a particular of but part your life, you aren't. reversal creates the feelings and thoughts that sabotage the parts Psychological of your life that do not accept or feel that deserve. you you create reversals situations that we've all experienced. In certain Psychological circumstances you know what you have to do\342\200\224ornot do\342\200\224and yet you are unable to act the way in which you know should. For instance, consider a situation in you which it would a reversal, what be best to avoid saying anything. When have you happens is that you voice words that make a situation even worse. Further, if you don't are to have\342\200\224a deserve\342\200\224or accept yourself and believe that enough you good in your life, you will sabotage it. situation specific For example, a woman who doesn't think she deserves to be marriedwill the wrong man as a potential partner.Although are most other issues pick continually form of self-sabotage.The is a perfect likely also involved, this type of behavior woman to be actively seeking marriage, but really she is only her appears reinforcing is specific, selfbelief that she doesn't deserve to be married. this Although example sabotage can occurand affect any life event that you feel you don't deserve. can ruin years of hard work. Energy behavior Self-sabotaging psychologists that sabotaging beliefs are a primary reasonwhy believe people experience many in their lives even though they have the skilland ability their goals. to achieve difficulty When you have finished readingthis book, you will know how to correctthe reversals that advice to your sabotage your actions. You also may be able to give helpful friends and to your children about how to overcome self-sabotage. Q:How do you correct an energy imbalance?
and
beliefsor sabotaging
low level,your
theory
energy
depletes
your
become end up
negative.
self-
an energy imbalanceusually with an involves working who has been trained in field. The the energy therapist extensively techniques in this rook will teach you how to do this without the assistanceof a trained therapist.
A
The
process
of correcting
12
Energy
Tapping
Typically,
once
about
fear
to think example, if a
asked
the remember
last
time
occurred.
When
is has describedtheir problemto a therapist, the client For become aware of its associated feelings. of to treated, the client would be asked were on a or in a where the similar location problem they balcony
a client
that
about a
difficult
problem or
that
you
focus
your
situation
awareness
that
on a
think
is distressing
than
in touch with the problem). (although may be one way of getting Once you focus your attention on the problem at hand, your body-mind will respond in a small way as if you were actually in that situation. If there are meridian points that need to be treated,you once again bring your that
to visualize it
you
have
to do
other
are
or is nothing magical
You don't even have
doing
is thinking
energy into that problem to problem you are trying treatment energy psychology
or pattern overcome.
thought
Once
Remember
your
techniques
that
the
emotional
problems
field by focusingyour attention on the are for the have done this, you you ready to help overcome obstacles. your you in that you perceive are mere disturbances
are different for each problem,specificmeridian points\342\200\224which treatment stimulated. We use the word \"algorithm\" to mean or on and torso that of to face, hands, sequences patterns places tap your upper address of and have issues. these specific Through years experience testing, patterns found to be effective. After learn been the locations of specific meridian points, you
To treat a
to
energy
system.
be
problem\342\200\224need
you
will
find
it easy
to use the
treatment
sequences
that
are
provided.
Q:
What
is
applied
the
kinesiology
and
how
is
it related
to energy
psychology?
procedures kinesiology, psychology is calledapplied which is an unique method of evaluating bodily functions of manual by means a muscle Most such as the muscle, deltoid, often, testing is done on an isolated testing. to the shoulder area. clients are asked musclein the large, strong During procedure, think about a problem an arm parallel to the floor, thus tensing the while extending
A: One of
used
in energy
kinesiologists
momentary
found
weakening
of the
an
energy
essential
psychological
psychology was developed usingapplied in this book. We have testing required to do the techniques kinesiology, and various of extensive clinical types problems experience have analyzed through in with treatment for examined this book. As issue provided you sequences every in will with on most different meridian will, learn, tapping points you your fingers
Although
on The application of this highly specifiedprocedure pivots of which allows the muscle-weakening phenomenon, energetic aspects to be diagnosed. problem
imbalance.
the
process
of energy
muscle
is not
cases, successfullytreat
each
condition
or problem.
growing number
practice.
of
The
president
is effective come from the in their private these treatments therapists of the Canadian Society of Clinical Lee Pulos (1999), Hypnosis, tools in to be the most and effective among psychology powerful varieties of psychological problems.\"
energy
psychology
who
are using
ntroduction
13
Research
to evaluate a therapeutic technique calledsystematic desensitization, developed by Joseph Wolpe (1958). As the term a SUDis evaluation the subjective implies, person as to the impact of a problem. by When doing the treatment sequencesin this book, you will be asked to think about a and then rate it as to how it affects much For example, if you have a problem you. in an tear of elevators, would elevator and then rate the SUDfrom imagine being you 0 to 10, with 0 indicating no impact or distressing and 10 indicating the feeling of distress. highest level As you will notice in Part II of this book, energy psychology uses a rating scale similar to the SUD to determinethe magnitude of the emotional that problem or challenge you are addressing. In 1995,two researchers at the University of Florida, Figleyand Carbonell, clinical with several power therapies,one of which conducted studies was an energy Power that are those can eliminate The treatments trauma. therapy. therapies rapidly to help patients who suffered from -.vere used disorder. The stress post-traumatic it results found that the was not a effective energy therapy approach, only very
term
on energy
psychology often
SUD
uses Subjective
Units
of Distress
(SUD) to
was
first used
worked
m
the fastest.
radio
talk shows.
people
had an average SUD rating of 8.3; after presented by callers their prescribed by Callahan, average SUD rating was reduced to 2.1. Ten years later, Glenn Leonoff replicated Callahan's radioshow study (Callaran and Callahan 1996). He alsoworkedwith and also had a callers sixty-eight success rate of 97 percent. The average SUD rating was 8.1before the and treatment 1.5 after the treatment. Our experience has shown that a problem that has an SUDrating of 8 to 10 has i very powerful impact on an individual's life. Conversely, a problem that has an SUDrating of one or two, most often is beingwell and managed by the individual life. ras minirnal on their impact
5L\\ty-eight
on
rroblems
callers
that were
treatment
two who treated individuals who called therapists In 1986, Roger Callahan (Callahanand Callahan 1996) treated radio shows and had a 97 percentsuccess rate. On average,
did
the
0\"
Will
you
give an
example of someone
depressed,
who
has
been helped
have
by
energy
psychology?
\\- Our
energy psychology
teenage
resulted
xx
tnrtv
n=r
in many
successes.
year
unmotivated
and
by energy psychology.
of was could
was
work
there she
a newfound
belief that
a smile succeed.
to
and \342\226\240rrrteen
was
tormented
sabotaged
roor
.erser
zrre
by memories
changed
apply
required for her to on her face in less than She not only completed to colleges as well.
she
was
of
the
Her
that
she
perpetually that
bothered by the
direction
event. Shereadily
later went
which
self-image
she
was so
was
no and
view
of herself in
graduate
she
on to complete collegeand
energy
such a posischool
\302\253renrually
became
a licensed
Weight loss
one r\302\253e
is another area in
man
psychotherapist.
LTsrtg
middle-aged
was unable
psychology
and
is effective.
numerous
For examdiets.
feelings
of rejection. After
14
Energy
Tapping
one
session,
his
with his
maintain
motivated to begin his diet.Helearned how to appropriately used the on a to help him issues and treatments basis weight regular
he was
and
deal
diet
quickly
to lose
do energy
this
weight.
treatments
Q:
How
work?
on the type of problem being important question depends as the person who is receivingtreatments. will Some people relief after resolve their problem in one treatment; most will significant experience their first treatment. we recommend two weeks of daily treatments for any In general, Once these also be needed. treatments problem, although periodic follow-up may treatments are take a minute to and can be however, learned, complete they only
addressed
A: The
answer to
as well
done
almost
anywhere.
suchas
basis.
Basically,
if
there
house
your
take more time to successfully eliminate. We consider loss, weight are addictive issues as and interactive relationships, complex problems. They because there can be several reasons are interactive because complex why they exist;they For these situations occur and reoccur ona regular unlike event traumas. basis, single for and can therecan be several reasons someone to be example, overweight, yet they encounter situations that can sabotage them every day. is works The otherfactor that affects how quickly energy psychology treatment with severe or is different. problems, you. Every person People multiple problems, will feel relief quickly, for some long-term problems need to be patient. Although it will take more time and many treatments to help you to better cope with most, If eliminate low levels of and/or your issues. you believe that you have extremely
issues,
it is a single event, i.e., your home is not robbed on a regular memories this event by using the treatment for (see painful it is that can relief from one chapter 10), experiencesignificant very likely you treatment. You then can use follow-up treatments to reinforce your success. in the last interactive are more difficult and are addressed Complex, problems several chaptersof this book. You need to be patient when treating these types of
are two types of problems: those that are based on single events, is robbed, and those that are such as relationship interactive, that it is a traumatic event. has been robbed, you know firsthand
address
as they
and
take
even
longer.
CHAPTER
Energy
Psychology:
The
Missing
Piece
to
Your
Success
Letting
go
of the
or
emotions
that
trap
you,
painful
anger,
is the way
to a
longer and
memories, fears,
healthier
depression,
life. Chopra,
\342\200\224Deepak
M.D.
\"r the
effective,
last decade,
acceptable
the use of
tool
alternative
medicine
has
made enormous
in this
strides as an
various
that
rroblems.
Although
work
the number
helps
of
health
contributors
.^rge,
themselves
the
\342\200\224ost
prominent.
of Deepak Each of
and
meviously may have thought possible.Throughtheir work, peoplenow have a better of how their bodies are impacted toxins that can come from air, zrderstanding by and chemicals. These toxins can to disease increase rood,water, people's vulnerability
the Weil is among Chopra, Caroline Myss, and Andrew these individuals has helped peopleto better understand to recognize that they have more controlover than they their lives
all
three
authors
it
explore
rrsmal
risny
can alter their energy system so, and, by doing if their She that lives. r-jtnge says you spend your energy continually dealing with onto the negative aspects of your and life, you will not have enough energy holding off with other r ward to heal from illnesses, and/or to deal appropriately disease, and Weil have developed distinctive r\302\273?cential Chopra, approaches problems. Myss, r the healing process, although all three of them the importance of letting go stress :* vour negative emotions. In the chapters that follow, we will teach specific you that will help you to do this efficiently and \302\273chruques effectively.
people
energy system,
to understand
is
Caroline
and stress the importanceof life force Myss' (1997) work that especially has
or the
helped
that they
16
Energy Tapping
The
Everything
Essence
you
of Energy
sun,
see\342\200\224the
the
form
of energy.
Whether you
energy
moon,
planet earth,
strong
the
stars\342\200\224is
the
and
are all about energy. Toreadthis page, for example, your mind told your hand to open up the book and turn the pages; next, your eyes send the brain; then, images on the pages to your your brain interprets the images so that understand what are the speed at which this about reading. Now, think you'll you at must and for to read. It the of process again happenagain happens speed you in In it is the of our that allows us to do most lives fact, energy. power energy activities and yet, in many areas, energy remains an untapped resource. Bohin David (1980) says that energy saturates every inch of space Physicist the and that it is energy universe that connects us to each other and throughout else in our world. everything Energy psychologyis about the examinationand will of that life to development techniques help you to manipulate and use your energy better deal with your physical and emotional problems. In allows you to tap into your own energy system fact, and, energy psychology or impediments. it, eliminate the causes of any psychological by balancing problems The results:you feel better about yourself, you are more confident,you are better able to cope with a myriad of emotional are and you stop feeling as if you problems, \"stuck\" in your life.
you
negative
in our
world and
our
simplest
feelings
structure,
it
you are
energy. Thereis
us in
angry or happy, in
continuously
affects
millions of
are energy,
even the
this book
actions requiredfor
Energy
psychology
you
has manipulate
can help
to
to
Your
Because
Energy
we
System
with our
the
Provides
the
Solutions
our
will
all
lives has
help
becomeone of
to understand
of
struggle
dominant
you
that the
the
solutionsto your
perplexing
People developed
they
problems
are
within
most
it
parts of having a
are certain
problem is that
your body's
often
that
you they
exists.
if
or
to believe
if
go
don't
to blame
contributes
themselves.This
their
is not always true. understand why a problem is affecting lowers their makes them self-esteem,
this
problems would
they
feel \"stuck,\"
of
are prone
and
to
confusion
about how
is techniques
the
most
attractive
that
you
in
this
don't need to understand why book teach you the skills that
you
are
for you
to
\"tap\"
your
problems
that
away.
will
of
In
life.
take
having
you
through
to
analyze
process
enable
your
you
problems without
every piece
Missing
Piece
to Your
Success
17
Fears
and Phobias:
Case
Study
to go back inside. a situation that he feels he can't change, energy him confront and deal with his fear. Imaginethat before the party, r-svchology helped Bill thinks about his fear of heights and taps with two several times on his fingers evebrow,under his eye, and under his arm. When Bill gets to the party, he goesout m the balcony and finds that, he is not completely comfortable, he can stay although :<ut on the balcony, in the Bill feels his socialize, and enjoy himself. Later evening, rear starting to return. He uses another and while energy technique psychology his touches the side of his hand, under his eye, under his arm, fear, he discreetly feeing and his collarbone. When he again goes out on the balcony, under he finds that he can walk up to the railingand look down and see people walking on the sidewalk him. The situation that used to paralyze him and forcehim to below eshteen stories r? msideno longeraffects him. Bill still doesn't know why he has a fear of heights, what r>CT does he need to. Instead, he has learned is most how to manage important: res fear. In time, Bill will eliminate his fear of heights This is the world of altogether. on a little face or hands seem energy Although tapping psychology. your may it will the door for to make in life that arrange, open changes your you you may not -.ave thought possible.
The fears and phobias that can to be treated with energy range from simple is For Bill a with a fear He is teacher of heights. successfuland complex. example, in of his life, but he has a fear that It seems most he cannot control. aspects competent if he a it he as has always had this fear. As child he became aware of when couldn't anxious. As a teenager, he felt embarrassed climb high up a tree without getting A-hen he couldn't climb a ladder. He had no idea why he had this fear, and he just learned to adjust to it, staying away from the situations that he knew made him an adult, anxious. As he was again faced with such as the time moments, embarrassing an went to a in he to find that the people he eighteenth-floorapartment party only wanted to socialize with were on the balcony.He had a drink and walked out on the ralcony,but his fear soonhad him feeling paralyzed. He looked for a seat away from the end of the balcony, but oncehe looked over the his fear started to railing, him. There was an uncomfortable feeling and then a fleetingthought about overwhelm
-jmping,
Although
and
soon
he
Bill's
fear
Relationships:
A
affects
Case
all
Study
aspects
the err.orce rate is still extremely in the United States. What's Are high happening? peorelationr^e having difficulty choosing the right person or arethey sabotaging good the aups? There are many ways to createproblem including relationships, ignoring r^tht person or chasing the wrong one. For Ann wants to be in control because she doesn't men. trust example, always chooses to date men who are needy\342\200\224similar 5k to children\342\200\224and who on depend 3er In her relationships, she is the caretaker, most of the decisions. Most making The problem is that her relationships don't irrvrtantly, however, she is in control. she Ann also does all of the work in the relationship, jbk. Although has control, wrench leaves her and frustrated. She like feels feeling angry giving up on men,
how
of your
to
relationships.
resolve
problems,
18
because
Energy
Tapping
it appears
find
that the
to
a man
to
who she
care of
can trust,
past
relationships.
one
who
take
will
learn more
real goaland
her from finding the right man. In future blocks about this concept and how to correctit.
her. Unfortunately,
who are attracted to her and Ann really wants to change. She will share the workload with her, an energy Ann has imbalance that
chapters,
If
you
reflect
for
when
of
time
in
your
life.
How
While
Are
it
Energy
that problems
finding
is true
to problem, do you have the knowledge,skill, or ability the or is it an If do not lack imbalance? help you problem, you energy the knowledge, then most likely the cause of your is skill,or coping ability, problem an energy imbalance and a psychological from reversal that prevents identifying you or implementing appropriate solutions. For example, of people millions with problems such as weight loss, struggle Our society, and too behaviors. addictive and/or poor relationships, depression, in seem life's smallconcernsand about general, many people chronically angry It seems as though issues. after with the same issues. Often, people struggle year year that can't their own problemsor have understand people accepted many they for Some and authors of effective books develop change. self-help strategies experts that a lack of or skill is when knowledge creating the problem.Yet, people imply to develop sincerely try coping skills and implementself-helpstrategies, they frequently find that it doesn't work for them. This of situation is the hallmark of an energytype related issue: you know how to solvethe problems that but for some encounter, you what is needed. reason you can't make yourself do When we examinethe beliefsthat clients share with us, the word can't is important because, we it a lack causes as isn't of knowledge or skill that contend, your we an believe that imbalance in your energy system sabotages Instead, problems. to achieve of moving on with certain goals in your life and/or be capable your ability is balanced, your life after a traumatic event has occurred. Once your energy system and concentration that are however, you will be able to developthe motivation required to accomplishyour goals, and to do so with far less difficulty. If to accept the ideas that support the effectiveness of energy you are struggling are often confronted with skepticism. It psychology, remember that new approaches wasn't that long ago, for instance, that chiropractic care was viewedas a strange medicine. it offers treatment to more than alternative fifteen million however, Today, a it is one of the fastest growing professions in and its services the people year; country; are covered by most insurance plans (Burton Goldberg Group 1993).
If
lives.
is responsible for
you
effective
solutions
to dealing with
have
a chronic
to cope with
Energy
Psychology:
The Missing
Piece to
Your
Success
19
The
is
Chinese
increase
have
Chi,
are
Chi.
If
life to
movement,
then Chi is what makes things move. The ability or decrease this is the basis for healing. energy
How
Your
Energy
personality problems.
Levels
complex
In every
is a
and how
you
constructive and others destructive. For did you ever wonder example, at other about those peoplewho scream drivers when they're on the road?Those can samepeople and deal with a complexsituation clear trust, go to work using and It is how can behave communication, understanding. amazing people differently on the particular on a person's depending problem. Much of this depends
some are
balance\342\200\224or imbalance\342\200\224of
cope with
situation,
of emotions,
energy.
a situation that involves an energy imbalance, your is not level sufficient to and to that are associated resort behaviors energy cope, you with low energy. For example,at the moment when peopleexperience \"road rage,\" at the wheel can their behavior they are hateful, impatient, and very anxious.In fact, and be self-destructive At times, they may even try to punish other drivers. vengeful. Their rage seems to be fueled the that to drive exactly belief should be able by they the way want without which often means as fast as desire, they driving they interference. When another slows them down, it elicits of rage. What is driver feelings is that this most is not that life-view. behavior typical equally strange person's likely That is, once they step out of their car, they can leave that feeling of rage behind and is that you almost immediately behave in a calm and thoughtful manner. The point can behave differently in various situations on your level of energy. depending
When
you
are involved in
Map
of
Hawkins
Consciousness
To better
by
understand this
(1985).
concept,
David
writings
extensive energy
of Callahan
experience.
psychology.
The map
we use the Map of Consciousness developed is a theory and shouldnot be confused with the
(1998),
which
are based
are
on
clinical
understanding
associated
with
are
specific
an experience that severely lowers your energy, you have you lower or level emotions such as shame and/or behaviors, likely energy This can be can that a makes because guilt. confusing, argue negative experience you feel bad and, depending on the experience,they could feel shame. It is clear, anyone when certain come about when you can't change, imbalances however, that energy areas of your life are stagnant, or when emotions such as shame or anger regularly to endure
For example,if
energy levels.
appear
why
in
your
life.
People
people
can also
can
operate at
in one
that
different
be angry
another.
Hawkins believes
and situation and show acceptance few the levels reach people higher
energy
levels
for various
problems. This
inner
of
is
in
strength
consciousness
20
Energy Tapping
it and anger. The map, however,should not be used to make judgments. Rather, a should with to be used as a guide to identify level regard particular your energy It will need to address if you also help you to identify what issues you problem. may are to move to a higher level. What follows is a brief explanation of each energy level, as defined by Hawkins. at which you operate when you Your goal is to determinethe lowest energy level(s) if it is even Remember, attempt to solvea problem. you start at a higher energy level, to the for the lowest levelat which important operate given identify energy you circumstance. For example, you may begin operating in a situation by beingcalmand trustful If level), trying to empower others to solvea problem. (neutrality eventually, frustrated and others for then for this blame the however, particular problem, you get at the guilt level. This information will beused in the situation, you are operating to help you decide which emotions you need to treat to following chapters may
eliminate
and emotions,
at
the
level
of pride
problem.
two questions:
As you
review each
of
the
levels
identified
below,
1. 2.
Can
you
identify
a problem
you wish to
resolve?
that
What
is
your
energy
level when
problem?
Lowest
Energetic
when
Emotional
and
Levels
the four lowest energy levels. Keepin grief represent are at there is these levels, multiple operating usually your energy it issues and problems causing the energeticimbalance. In these circumstances, will and take more time treatments to rebalance generally multiple your system. Shame: life experiences, such as sexualabuse and Early traumatic lead to shame. In our critical society,however, abandonment,can imperfections, physical sexual orientation, and of shame. other unusual behaviors can also lead to feelings that deal with shame create many This is Situations with self-acceptance. problems one reason why shame create a Shame is the most will reversal. likely psychological most destructive often to behaviors. level, leading energy many self-sabotaging Guilt: People whoseenergy has to the level of guilt tend to develop dropped and/or manipulative punishing personalities. They always behave as if they are a victim of life, and blameis one of their Those who have primary weapons. or feel responsible for a traumatic tend to suffer from unconscious guilt situation
Shame,guilt, apathy,
that
mind
psychosomaticdiseases. of where external helplessness energy is sought from are felt to be a burden by at this level often caregivers. People operating energetic those around them, as they are needy and may endlessly discuss their problems. Grief:Often felt during times of sadness and loss, grief is a feeling that who everyone experiences for short amounts of time during their life. However, people for of time within this level extended and grieve periods operate (years) continually
Apathy:
This
is a
state
live a
life
of
regret
and
chronic
depression.
habitual
losers
and
part
of their
lifestyle.
Energy
Psychology:
The Missing
Piece to
Your
Success
21
Middle
Energetic
Emotional
Levels
successful
tend
to
are fear, desire, anger, and pride. It is possible levels for to people lives operating at these levels; the energy level is much higher and have their own exhibit healthier behaviors. These levels, however,
concerns.
Fear:
from danger. As a
jealousy,
As you
can be a healthy
state
emotion,
it
as
can
chronically
personality, Desire:
where Desire alsois the energetic of addictions, level helps to drive the economy. more an becomes than outcome. as one desire is craving important Unfortunately,
or destructive. Anger: Energy at this level can be eitherconstructive Anger can or deal cause people to leave problem situations with them. But, as a lifestyle, anger itself as resentment or revenge. Angry people are irritable and explosive, expresses fall can into and tend to distance peoplefrom them. easily rage, Pride: feel as People positive they reachthe level of pride, as they have attained of in their from some level accomplishment lives. If pride originates exclusively if external forces, the inflated ego is vulnerableto attack. Also, a loss of status however, occurs regarding pride,this energetic can quickly move to shame. This is level what we call a \"healthy which differentfrom is closer to the descriptionof pride,\"
neutrality
however, fear of success. Fear also limits the growth of the because much energy is expended on dealingwith fears. The desire for money or powerdictatesthe lives of many people and
or
continual
of being,
it protects lead to
us
high
stress,
or a
achieved,
another
often
quickly
replaces
it.
that
follows.
Highest
Energetic
where
life.
Emotional
emotional
Levels
to be
levels
than
discussed is the
used
beginning of
decisions
own
level
changein your
and the
courage,
point,
power\342\200\224rather
force\342\200\224is
to
make
and create
At
this
of
level, there
are
empowerment
others
the true
empowerment
includes
to look exciting, challenging, and starts Courage: This is wherethe world At the lower world is seenas or the levels, sad,frightening, stimulating. hopeless, the of to and handle and the Courage frustrating. begins process empowerment cope ability the opportunities of life. Couragebringsout the capacity to face fear or our own and character defects grow in spite of them. At this stage, the world is seen as a complex and Neutrality: place changing without answers or The world no is simple rigid positions. longer viewed as black or white. To be neutral means that not getting one's way is no longer as experienced I I'll or The view is \"If didn't then rather, this, defeating frustrating. get get something else. Life has its ups and downs and I will be okay if I roll with the punches.\" People at level are easy to get along with and not interested in conflict. this who have reached the level of are genuinely Willingness: People willingness a and social and economic success is of have the ability their lives. friendly, part They to overcome inner resistanceand do not have blocks. learning Having let any major of are to look at their own and learn from others. defects willing go pride, they are there is the level, Acceptance: Although higher levels,acceptance according to Hawkins, where there is the realization that the of happiness is within source
neutrality,
willingness,
and
acceptance.
22
Energy
Tapping
oneself.
Love
from
is not
within.
created
discipline
something
Long-term
that
is
given
goals
or taken away by another, but is rather take precedence over short-term goals.Self-
and
mastery
are prominent.
was to introduce you to the developmentof energy this work and chapter you with some examples of how your energy can affect your behavior. As can an see, we believe that most psychologicalproblemsare maintained you by is to balance your imbalance. The key to eliminating these types of problems energy
energy. Energy
with
imbalance
is the
problems
will
in your
be able
life. After
difficulty
dealing
and
utilizing
book, you
to deal with
most of your problems in an efficient and effective of of the emotions is one letting go your negative keys
the energy
treatments in this
CHAPTER
Your
Energy
Meridians
Just
because
Chinese
detect, perceive, or measureforces that are does illness important in managing say not automatically mean that do not exist. they
we
cannot
doctors
\342\200\224Andrew
Weil,
M.D.
There
emotional
are a
that
instances,
number
distress.
method
most
energetic balance in your body and thus relieve we book, portable specifically cover a simple,highly can be used by anyone, in practically any place, at almost any time. In eliminate the energy treatments one to three times will repeating your
of
ways
to obtain
In
this
problem
altogether.
Energy
vour head,
Meridian
major
Points
energy
meridians
in your
from
the
top
of
Meridians
or
are
meridian
the body.
many
described
skin,
of which
in
resistance
relative
to
the
surrounding
environment
skin surface.
enters
treatment
tap on when
acupoints
book.
the body
points,
It is thought that
To provide
that \\our
are head,
in
your face, upper torso, and hands.Starting we will describe the location of each meridian
are
along
the
meridians.
focus on the
the
meridians
We
and
problems that
also provide
when chapter
points
addressed
additional
stimulating
treating
the point
psychological
on that
will
reversals,
which
will be
further
this
and in chapter
are
treatments
that
are
often used in
used
Seventeen meridian
They
6. And, we will explore two with the treatments. conjunction primary in the treatment sequences in this book.
include:
24
Energy Tapping
Diagram
One:
The
Meridian
Points
\342\200\242our Energy
Meridians
25
Eyebrow
Point
meridian nose.
point The
begirvning
of
treatment
either
of
in the
frustration,
and restlessness.
Side of Eye
The
Side
eve at the
frequently
side of
of Eye
either
(SE) energy
eye,
helpful
in
alleviating
meridian point is locatedon the below the end of the eyebrow. directly feelings of rage.
bony
orbit
of the
The
SE is
Under Eye
The
Under
eve below
ahead.
Eye
(UE)
energy
under
meridian point
the
treatment
The
pupil
of
when
the
anxiety,
phobias,
and
cravings.
Under Nose
The _n
Under
Nose
the
crevice
above
for
jruquely helpful
under the nose (UN) energy meridian point is located directly and is the upper lip. The UN is used to treat conditions many It is also used in treating what is referredto as embarrassment. reversal.
ieep-level
Under
psychological
Bottom
Lip
die bottom
n the
ihame.
treatment
Lip (UBL)
problems
lip,
in the
of
depression it is
many
Additionally, Under
meridian energy point is located directly under between the lip and the chin.The UBL is also used and is specifically useful in alleviating of feelings
of
psychological
reversal.
Collarbone
next
collarbone,
finger
in the
the
energy
meridian
point
is located
is easily
sternum or
one
directly under
found by (above the
approximately
located
left
ster-
-jm), sliding
me
finger
down
inch and
inch.
conditions.
UCB.The UCB
in the
used
anxiety
in the
and
treatment of many
insecurity.
areas
Arm
The Under Arm (UA) energy meridian is located on the side of the body, six either armpit. Men can locate this point by raising an arm, placingthe \342\200\224ee hand on the breast nipple, and then sliding the hand directly under the raised
26
Energy
Tapping
arm.
their
the UA is
Sometimes,
either armpit.
of a
used
bra meets
issues
the side of
to treat
nervousness, and
used to
treat
self-esteem
anxiety, as well.
Under
Breast
(UB) where
breast,
feelings
approximately
meridian
cage ends.
point is located directly under either The UBis often useful in treating
of
unhappiness.
Little
Fingernail
meridian energy point is located on the inside tip of the cuticle. The LF is easily finger, where the fingernail joins that is locatedby extending the little finger and touching the side of the fingernail in alleviating feelings of anger. facing the ring finger.The LF is important
The Little
little
Fingernail(LF)
either
(pinkie)
Middle
Fingernail
The Middle Fingernail (MF) energy meridian is located on either middle point to the pointer or index finger. The MF is often useful in fingernail, on the sideclosest treating jealousy and addictive cravings.
Index Fingernail
The finger,
Index
Fingernail
on
the guilt
side
of the
meridian point is locatedon eitherindex closestto the thumb. The IF is useful in the fingernail
(IF) energy
alleviation of
feelings.
Thumbnail
The Thumbnail
side
of the
treating
meridian (T) energy point is located on either thumb, nail nearest the body and from the other fingers. The T is away of intoleranceand feelings arrogance.
on
the
useful
in
Back of Hand
meridian point is locatedon the back of either finger ring finger knuckles, in the direction of the wrist. in the treatment of conditions such as physical pain, depression, and loneliness. BH is also used during two additional treatments that The are covered in this book: the Brain Balancer(BB) and the Eye Roll (ER), both describedlater in
The
Back
of Hand
little
(BH) energy
and
this
chapter.
;^r
Energy Meridians
27
Side of Hand meridian point is locatedon the little finger side at the palm of your hand, finding by looking that crease is closest to the and the die palm fingers, noting where the creasecrosses in of the hand closest to the little This is treatment of the finger. edge point important and in the correction of several sadness reversals. of psychological types
The
Side
of Hand
?f either
(SH) energy
located
Forehead The Forehead (F) energy meridian is located above and between the eyepoint It easily is located by placing a fingerbetween rrows on the forehead. your eyebrows the finger upwards approximatelyoneinch. F point is useful in treatand sliding The of problems, trauma, anxiety, addiction, and depression. including jng a wide variety
Chest
The
Chest
slightly down
runctioning
of
meridian point is located on the chest, and between (CH) energy from the Under Collarbone points.The CH is useful in improving the the immune of other system and a wide variety problems.
Sore
Spot
On the left side of your chest, at the midpoint of your collarbone and down toward your breast, is a tenderspot. it's Sometimes even quite sore, painful. actually is a pressure This and it is referred to spot point or reflex along the lymphatic system, as a neurolymphatic reflex. For simplicity, however, we call it the Sore Spot (SS). It is to affect the energy system. The SSis usedto not a meridian point, although it seems certain of psychological reversals. Instead of tapping treat on this point, it is types with it with rubbed After on the SS, press briskly your fingertips. locating your and in a rub clockwise direction for several seconds. we fingertips quickly Although be a little identify the location of SS in each treatment diagram, its locationmay for each The SS is useful for treating dur\303\250rent massive reversals. person. psychological
Summary
Meridian
of Treatment
Treats
Trauma,
Points
these
Point
emotions
or symptoms
Restlessness
Eyebrow(EB)
Side of
Frustration,
Eye (SE)
Rage
Anxiety,
Embarrassment, Shame .
Nervousness,
Phobias,
Cravings
Reversals
Deep-Level
Psychological
Lip (UBL)
(UCB)
Collarbone
Arm
Anxiety, Insecurity
Anxiety,
Under
(UA)
Nervousness,
Cravings,
Self-Esteem
28
Energy
Tapping
Meridian
Under
Point
Breast
Treats
(UB)
these emotions
or symptoms
Unhappiness
Anger
Jealousy,
Addictive
Cravings
Fingernail (IF)
(T)
Guilt
Intolerance,
Arrogance
Physical
Back of
Side
Forehead
Hand (BH)
(SH)
Loneliness, Depression,
Trauma,
Improve
Pain
of Hand
(F)
Anxiety,
Function
Addiction, Depression
of
Chest (CH)
Sore Spot (SS)
the Immune
System
Psychological
Reversals
Locating
By
and
in
Tapping
the
Meridian
Points
with
participating
location
of the
following exercise, you will become more familiar meridian energy points and how to balanceyour energy:
the
Step
One
Think of
argument
something
had
that
causes
complex
you've
that still
Step
Two
Now, rate
situation
the level
the
of
discomfort
that
(for
example,
old argument).
think
you
thinking
about
the
level
of
distress
Rate
about
you are
of
that
on
\342\200\242 Zero
your
that
you
at
all;
you're
completely
control.
relaxed.
\342\200\242 Two \342\200\242 Four
means means
that that
causes slight discomfort,but you're in are you you can tolerate the distress,
uncomfortable.
that
highly
Eight
that that
\342\200\242 Ten
\342\200\242; jr Energy
Meridians
29
6 (UCB)
10
(MF)
11
(IF)
13 (BH)
12
(T)
Diagram
Two:
A Numerical
Sequence
of the Meridian
Treatment Points
Step
Three
Use
number
one,
each point
2 and follow the numbered sequencebelow.Begirvning diagram find each energy meridian point and tap lightly with two fingertips
five
with
on
times.
30
Energy Tapping
1. Eyebrow (EB)
2. Side of
3. Eye
Eye
(SE)
(UE)
Under
Bottom
Lip (UBL)
Under
Arm
(UA)
8. Under
9.
Breast (UB)
Fingernail
Little
(LF)
10. Middle
11.
Fingernail (MF)
(IF)
(T)
Index
Fingernail
12. Thumbnail
13.
Back
of Hand
Hand
(BH)
(SH)
14. Side of
15. Forehead
(F)
17.
Sore
Spot
(SS)\342\200\224Instead
of
tapping,
rub
this spot.
Step Four
Next, think
discomfort.
about
the
issue
Rate
the
level
than
it was
before you
of your
emotional
factors
need to tap the sequenceoneto threemore little or no change in the way feel, this may be due to a number you will be addressedlaterin this that reversals, psychological switching)
eliminated,
Usually,
it
lower
chapter.
Commonly,
caused a
after doing
difficult
That
to fully
it often
is,
this absence
to doing
to realize that
always
gly,
felt upset
Many
always
people
or
come
almost
no
longer
upsets
them.
a matter
feel
calm
and relaxed,
after
on these
tapping sequence is onemethodthat you can use to become relaxed whenever you it. That is, whenever you are feelingstressed, need for whatever take a 0 to 10 reason, and all then on of these in the stress is numerical until order, rating tap points, the relief lasts for an of time. extended Although entirely gone. Generally, period in treating on all of the seventeen energy meridian points is often effective tapping many
seventeen energy
meridian points.As
:.'
Energy
Meridians
31
In Part liferent problems, the process can becomesomewhat cumbersome. T-x>k (chapters 6 through 14),you will learn how to apply concise treatment \342\200\2243t are to treat various conditions. specifically designed
II of
this
recipes
Psychological
\342\200\242\"\342\226\240-5
Reversals
a psychological
reversed
previously
discussed,
reversal is a
efforts
^\"vrgy
system
that serves
becomes
to sabotage your
disruption in
your
body's
at
getting
whenever there is a psychological reversalpresent, energy psya that any As it is unlikely treatments are not effective. matter of fact, -Tology it is T-erapy will work when you are in a state of psychological reversal. Therefore, to eliminate these blocks. Further details about f-vtremely important psychological that -f. ersals as well as specifictreatment are used for eliminating them sequences
rens.
^-though everyone
at times,
we don't
want,
hap-
Unfortunately,
ire exploredfurther
in
chapter
6.
Supplemental
Treatment
Strategies
own
on their on meridian (tapping points) are often sufficient Irergy treatments are three treatments rreat a given problem.Following, however, supplemental and !_-2mative to tapping on the meridian points. The Brain Balancer(BB) in ZRi are referenced in each of the treatment this book. sequences
to
Roll
and an
Eye
The Brain
The
Balancer
(BB) is
Brain
Balancer
a treatment
that
is
often
used
in combination
with
of the BB is to activate various areas of your points.The purpose rzrpmg on meridian a specific rrarn so that an energy treatment for will be more effective. For problem in each of suchas directhe various behaviors, different rstance, moving your eyes to stimulate -octs. hununing a tune, and counting, tends different areas and functions c the brain. The BB involves on the Back of Hand (BH)meridian on (located tapping point back \342\200\224t of either hand between the knucklesof the little finger and ring finger, mid\302\253 5V between the knuckles and the wrist) while doing the following:
\342\200\242
rolling rolling
your your
eyes eyes
a tune
clockwise
\342\200\242
counterclockwise
\342\200\242
humming counting
\342\200\242
to
five
\342\200\242
hununing
again
The BB
-x\"tme,
^--though
is not
may and
about
a therapeutic
however,
you do
include
it
in
all
of the
treatments
it
seconds to
whether
a
is
try
now.
32
Energy
Tapping
Eye
Roll
Another treatment used throughout this book is the Eye Roll (ER). The purpose of this treatment is to strengthen results the of treatment sequences and to reduce any Brain of stress. The like the also involves on the BH. ER, Balancer, feelings tapping This time, however, as you are tapping, and move steadily your eyes slowly from down at the floor to lookingup toward the (without looking ceiling vertically Like the Brain Balancer, the ER is not always head). moving your necessary, but we routinely include it in the treatment sequences. It only takes a few secondsto do and it feels good. The ER is a helpful, quick stressreducer. it now. Try usually
Switching
Sometimes treatments will not work to alleviate issues due to a psychological or switching. pervasive energy disruption referredto as neurologic disorganization When this condition exists, your energy system is disrupted enough that significantly the treatment sequenceseither will not work at all or will work far too slowly. that Some people experience a chronic degreeof switching requires ongoing in and intensive treatment. In most cases, occurs however, switching directly to specific that are being treated.It alsocanoccur for other relationship problems temporarily such as high levels of stress; to which you are to substances reasons, exposure as foods and chemicals; or improperly executed For exercises. sensitive, such physical fitted shoes or on highly irregular surfaces running with example, improperly
sometimes
can
cause
switching.
Indications
and awkwardness
tendency
that your
with words
difficulties confuse
to
is
when
you
are
trying
results
complicated
Therearea number
than
very slowly
others.
or not at all.
of
can be a and spatial relations.Also, there coordination and concepts, such as saying when \"impossible\" you mean mean As another when \"cold.\" noted, sign of you it is producing to implement a treatment and sequence
include
physical
ways
to treat
One
of the
about
easiest is to do the
two
switching, some
Over-Energy
of
which
are
more exercise.
recipes
Correction
treatment
After
and
minutes,
whether
this
the
do
switched at
You switching influenced their effectiveness. exercise before attempting any treatment sequence,
may
prefer
to
just
in case
you are
time.
Over-Energy
Correction
comfortable
Method:
chair.
1. Sit down in a
2.
3.
at the ankles, left over right. with the palms of your hands facing each Extend your arms in front of you thumbs are pointing down. other. Then, turn your hands over so that your
Cross
your legs
4. Raise your
6.
right
hand
up
your
and over
enfolded
your
the
left,
and
interlock
your
fingers.
hands
mouth,
are now
slightly
your tongue
at the roof of
^i.'
r-ergy
Meridians
33
7. While
your
eyes
closed
for
Alternative to Tapping
Although jEt
we
believe
rrvsically
point,
there
is an
at
that tapping is the most effective way alternative. There may be times when you work or in a public area in which you
an
to stimulate
need don't
to treat feel
a merida prob-
comfortable
alternative,
jertor
\303\244ccne
emotional
pressure.
At the
it. uni then release CTxh the reversal treatment points, r^rrte problem.)\" Again, we do not
an alternative \342\200\242$
and then touch each meridian with point you are treating, it for a few seconds, same time, you take in a deep breath,hold This method is also effective for reversals. As you treating energy
think
recommend
you
can think
about the
you
can touch
each
specificprob-
to yourself,
this
\"I
accept
myself
even
method
feel
method
of treatment
in place
uncomfortable
of tapping, but
tapping
though
in
rubbc.
Summary ~- this of the treatment chapter we have provided an overview points (i.e., acupoints) \303\274*d in Energy a comprehensive treatment that was introduced Tapping. Additionally, in familiar all 3T1 help you to reduce stressand to assist with of the you becoming and that reversals other detailed routines are used treatment acupoints. Psychological the book were introduced, \342\200\224xoughout including the Brain Balancer,the Eye Roll, and the Correction. To stimulate the acupoints,you can use Pitching, Over-Energy sr alternative of Touch and if Breathe are in public technique you (Diepold1999) ireas where you feel uncomfortable tapping. Before into more detail about how going \342\200\242r use a treatments for wide of we will energy psychology array problems, present in the following chapter. r^e important phenomenon of energy toxins
CHAPTER
Energy
Toxins
Aging
is those
accelerated toxins
in your by the accumulation of toxins body will influence your biological clock in the direction
\342\200\224Deepak
...
eliminating
of youth.
M.D.
Chopra.
is continually eavesdrop(1993) believes that our biological system that how and will alter He believes we feelabout ourselves can thoughts. rtr immune systems and make us more to of vulnerable disease. Feelings hopelesscan increase the risk of heart re\302\253*, and cancer, while joy and fulattacks says Chopra, iZment will help to extend our lives. Andrew Weil this theory. In his (1995) supports to health and W eil of to let go their anger and irrroach wellness, encourages people to who that those have made them feel angry. Weil also believes ioress forgiveness that of our bodies' healing system, and the -ealing depends on the efficient operation in our water, air, and food can create emotional and irxms physical problems. If your energy system is in balance, will feel well, achieve your goals, and you \342\200\224.'-ntain On the other hand, if your healthy relationships. body's energy system is It is important other areas of your life will be affected to rsturbed, many negatively. \342\200\224^mtain a balanced energy system. Although painful emotional or physical experiences are the more obvious causes of energetic another disturbance, among energy .rsupter is the foods you eat. find some of the foods that most enticing may be the very Interestingly, you :oes that disrupt energy system so profoundly that your you sabotage your life. That ^ a food that you really enjoy eating may affect your internal thought and process .u.ise you to make unhealthy emotional choices. will be addressed further in (This be irjpter 6.) In short, certain foods and beveragesmay sending you on selfleepak
Chopra
ttt\303\244 on
our
-ar>otagingmissions.
One
of
of
-cme
^notions,
the
to help
you
to
identify
and
your
relationships,
you
and the achievement of your goals. This chapter need to stabilize your body's energy system whenever
can
be interfering with
guard
against
your
also
it
Our bodies'energy
:*\342\200\242 the major
systems
causes
of imbalance
is painful
go out
of balance
experiences
36
Energy
Tappin
treatment
triggers
to restore
tapping
while
on the
negative
eliminated
so
emotions associated with memoriesand othertriggers that distress time. does not return again at any future
cause
balance simply involves on past events and other focusing meridian energy appropriate points.With this method,
are
the
completely
In energy
psychology,
of energy imbalance is heredity. For example,somepeople have anxious or to become This seen in often is tendency depressed. tendency of one family, and not simply because of childhood multiple members distressing experiences. Rather, the tendency for the energy system to become is inherited. unbalanced In this respect, it appears that there are two kinds of heredity: which is genetic, related to genes and chromosomes; and is in which related to disturbances energetic, the energy system. the as there are genes within the chromosomes of cells, Just can contain inherited of the matter, i.e., energy system energetic genes energy system. Note: Even when the causeof an energetic is heredity, in most cases, it disturbance can be treated in book. this successfully by the methods discussed
a
to be
The
Another
Impact
cause
of
of energetic
Toxic
Substances
is energy toxins.This involves
substances that, in form of Toxins come the certain foods, exposure, your energy system. and other such as and to substances, beverages, perfumes cleaning products. Exposure in such as tensionwires and the ions found high electromagnetic pollution, positive fields, seems to disrupt the body's energy electromagnetic system. As you know, each individual is unique. What affects one person may not affect Or the old is man's another. as \"One man's meat another necessarily saying goes, it is to and attention to how the foods Therefore, poison.\" beverages important pay
imbalance
on
alter
that
you
consume
affect
or consuming
being
exposed
or fatigue will
alcohol,
emerge. Substancesthat
disrupt
three
sixty
of
minutes
anxiety,
after
nervousness,
will
Thereare
have
initially
commonly
your energy
related
concerns
to
from being effective, and you may mistakenly work for you. Lastly, the toxin itself can be causing approach the problem, whether it is anxiety, on other emotional depression, any symptoms. to understand, the case abstract, Although intangible concepts are sometimes difficult below further demonstrates how toxins study may impact your energy system.
block
been successfully
especially
toxic, such as
nicotine and
problems
that
that
reemerge
second
concern
treatments
conclude
that
this
Sarah:
Case
Study
in attacks
a car
During
these
in for
on freeways, which began after she was driving accident. Since the accident, Sarah would sometimes experience traffic. while she was driving on a freeway, and especiallyin heavy attacks, she would have to pull over to the side of the road. Sarah came
was
becoming
an increasingly
debilitating
\342\200\242\342\200\242 oxi n s
37
aecciem,
^fci
preventing her
responsibilities.
from
traveling
any
distance
and often
methods,
family
After
Sarah
tried
marine
W\303\250en
driving in
she would with
energy psychology
a freeway
could
easily
attacks
traffic
on
without
feel
that
** .ntpd.
*rTH7toms *sxt\302\243
to actually
drive in traffic,
however, the
and
panic
much
better,
in
It became
discussed
increasingly clear
various
something effective
Sarah's
treatments,
One
as they
favorite
phoof a
.c^edto consume.
particular kind of
We
of
her
foods was
Sarah simply
with
tea.
that
determined
aaergv
svstem.
of
Her assignment
until
aencd
time
Ar\303\247TOximately three
tea were somehow interfering was to eliminatethesesubstances from the accumulated toxins were energy adequately weeks later, the energy treatments provided
the
corn and
Sarah's
her
diet
for a
reduced.
the
panic
while
it
was
possible
an
energetic
disturbance.
Is
There
Toxicity
are
a Problem
symptoms chronic. Some
for You?
that are a result of toxins, but you need only focus on chronic symptoms include constant sneezing, runny blocked \342\226\240xse. mood swings, insomnia, bad breath, blotchy skin, headaches, frequent If you have been experiencing anises, fatigue, anxiety, and chronic achesor pains. for a month or longer,you want to consider the possibilxrf of these symptoms may 1T that a food or inhalant toxin is negatively affecting you.
numerous are
\302\261cee
that
Identifying
Although
Energy
each
Toxins
is unique,
person
and
substances
commonly
cfwn
ic^xDes.
to disrupt
Please
list
below
includes
some of
these subaffect
note:
Refined
Sugar
Coffee
Artificial
Sweetener
Tea
.Alcohol
Wheat
Caffeine
Rice
Corn
Peas
N'icotine
Pepper
Legumes
Eggs
Tomatoes
Shellfish
Eggplant
Herbs
Artificial
Detergents
Fibers
Pesticides
Cosmetics
38
Energy Tapping
Mold
Dust
Aftershave
Gasoline Fumes
Formaldehyde
Toiletries
Perfumes
substanceis energy toxicto you, one of the simplest things As we have noted, there are certain that will altogether. symptoms that to identify is toxic to you. The best way appear shortly after you consumea food these foods is to makemental notes(orbetteryet, written after you eat. You can ones) these substances of emotional and physical the usually by observing patterns identify a effects they create. After food or to be toxic, consuming beverage you suspect you want to ask the following questions: may yourself
to do is avoid
If you
suspect that a
it
did
that
food item
it energize any
other
symptoms
you?
made
you
believe
is not
after
your
pulse
rate increase
an allergen
significantly within
it
thirty
to
has,
one
or more
of the substancesyou
sixty
minutes
may toxic
that
be
or energy toxin.
it ones to which you feel addicted, suchas low reasons, physiological
Although
substances
cravings
should
blood
be noted
sugar;
can
for minerals, such as iron and sodium; hormonal fluctuations from these of the foods and brain; and more.Aside reasons, however, types that are often crave the most that can most those disrupt your beverages you readily energy system. You may also find that these foods are the ones that you consume when you sabotage other goals in your life. put, these foods weaken you and Simply
the need
in the
your
body.
Eliminating
Energy
Toxins
all the
may
fun
and Allergens
foods
aware
consuming
in your
life, but
rather
for
you
to be
determine
that
foods.
it is
For
on\342\200\224rather
completely is a way
eliminate\342\200\224toxic
of life. The
system.
good news is
back
that
body
has
a high-
liver is one of the hardest-working in your body, but it can use organs some assistance. Our recommendation is that if have no additional health you problems (if in doubt, consult your physician), you should detoxify We are your system. not suggesting anything radical. Most health food stores can recommend pills or powdersthat contain the fibers and herbs that are needed to detoxify your system
Your
functioning
detoxification
without you
supplements,
having
to
severely
change
from
then
you
must
increase
at your
protein
to use your diet. If you don't want any the amount of fruit and water you consume, and foods such as red meat. Thereare a number of address
this
topic.
:~ergy
Toxins
39
Foods toxic
and
other substances
An
that cause
toxin
energy
necessarily causean allergic reaction. That is, while allergen equals energy toxin, energy toxin doesnot always equal allergen. An allergen disrupts your immune system, causing An energy vour virus invader. body to react as though the substanceis a dangerous In most instances, however, toxin, on the other hand, disrupts your energy system. noth and of a of toxins are As the amount threshold allergens examples phenomenon: the substance accumulates in your system, it reaches a point where the allergy or This is why many people develop allergies laterin life. This surfaces. energy toxicity is known as the barrel the noted to Doris (1991), effect, concept according Rapp a environmental who has seen connection between physician allergiesand conditions and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. You can think of such as depression
allergic person.
energy
\\
to the
our
body
with
as a
barrel.
An
allergy
does
not occur
until
the
barrel
overflowing
the
allergic
substance.
eat a usually not a problem.If you regularly will overflow and you may develop an allergy to it. One simple approach for detoxifying your system is offered is to drink a lot of water 1995). He believes an effective approach vitamin C and E and, at a different of day, take selenium. time
If you
(your
for
body) is
example,
it is
time,
your Andrew
barrel Weil
by
each
day, take
Summary The main purpose of this chapter can was to make you aware that toxins affect in This the methods this book. treatment work, energy including energy psychology does not mean that you must detoxify your system. If you have any of the noted of toxicity, however, it might be a healthy choice for you to seekadvice symptoms in that about this need to too, mind, topic. Keep you recognize and avoid the foods or that If weaken substancesthat are toxic to consume beverages you continually you. \\ou, they may negatively affect your energy system.
CHAPTER
Beliefs
That
Hold
You
Back
Believe
in
yourself!
in
your
abilities! you
Without
a humble
but happy.
reasonable
confidence
powers
cannot
be successful
Vincent
or
\342\200\224Norman
Peale
in Norman Vincent was one of the to realize that their beliefs can affect their lives. rrst authors everto encourage people was filled with statements such as, \"We Zfcok must to succeed if we are to r\303\257s expect * \302\253oHe readers to closely examine their lives and to believein their ne challenged a difference. make ic\303\273zn to
The
above
more than
thirty-five
years
ago
s Tm\302\253e
best-selling
The Power
of Positive
Thinking
(1996).
Peale
tx
ane,
Peale's ideas were a step away from which said that hard work\342\200\224don't
life,
the
more
on
prevalent,
luck\342\200\224was
traditional beliefs
the
of
count
noerence in your
H-n
and
that
confidence
came from
you
rewarded
that
am
this
by belief
reale \342\226\240sz
iL-\303\274 to
s adage, sustain
planned.
such
x s
others. Instead, Peale said that will set the stage for your work
must first believe in yourself to succeed. Although there is truth in yourself sounds great, it's difof
way
to make
your
life
are not
going well
vou
What
Se^aes
Is
don't
a Belief?
have
to be
true or
complex,
r^zeis can
V2jr\302\253l,
be extremely
fact-based;they
and
are
merely
perceptions.
Amazingly,
of
is one situation. Appearance, for instance, denning your That vour beliefs when meet difwTFT treat them is, someone, operate. you you may based on their Most of us have experienced situations e^rtiy appearance. purely vre^etwo people are behaving exactly the same way, yet our response to each one is
yet operate
with the
precision
surgeon's
behavior
in each
-<z-.
different.
42
Energy Tapping
positive
\"I
jerk.\"
beliefs
own life
One of their goals was talk For to protect example, \"Don't you a that This is belief almost a child. remembers as Someone strangers!\" everyone you trusted told you that it was to talk to or accept ridesfrom dangerous people you did not know. You listened to storiesabout what to children who did talk to happened and were taken never seen in you These stories instilled strangers'.They away again. a belief that strangers who offered you a ride or wanted a to give were you gift You were also told, \"Don't take candy from You dangerous. probably strangers.\" and not advice about whom to responded by trusting strangers taking parents' your trust. As you got older, you learned to modify thesebeliefsand, basedon your experiences and adult that you could trust. approval, you increased the circleof strangers This is an exampleof a complex about human behavior that belief affects you an if a stranger life. For still believe as adult that throughout example,you may your wants to give you a gift, they want something from you in return. As an adult, to be able to it is safe determine when and reasonable for you to talk however, you ought with and/or acceptgifts from people you don't already know.
to createbeliefsthat
An early
is accompanied participate by a conscious or A belief can be global, or negative. \"I will fail at whatever I can park a car in a small space\"; subjective, \"He always acts like affect every aspect of your life. The beliefs you have about your
or
your
parents.
from danger.
Social
Radical
Change
social
and the assassinations of John F. Kennedy,Robert Kennedy, and a altered our beliefs about created sense Jr. King, society's safety of national that can still be felt more than grief thirty years later. Many other events from the within the beliefs of modern 1960s still reverberate The feminist society: movement sought equality for women in the workplace but, in the process,often created and a drug, alienation between the sexes. For the first time, anger marijuana, rivaled alcohol as a mind-altering substance.\"Free love\" dominated college the levels of acceptable sexual behaviors and leaving many campuses, changing people confused about what was morally comfortable.The war in Vietnam divided feeling and older generations, as hundreds of thousands of young men and their younger in a war that had no obvious noblepurpose. These families were traumatized events of the 1960s coincided with a soaring divorce rate and the breakup of millions of a trend that continues to the present day. while those events were families, Further, a dominant It created force. more passive taking place, televisionwas becoming interaction and time less members, among family parents spent learningabout the beliefs their children's behavior. governing Traumas that affect our society as a whole can create significant energy and attack imbalances. This is particularly true when the events divide our country individual much more difficult to attain. Perhaps this is one beliefs, making self-acceptance reason why, in a time of tremendous affluence, many people must struggle harder to be happy, and a we seem of others. as nation, angrierand less respectful why,
trauma
for example,
changes
events that
occurred
in
the 1960s,
of
people
for many
generations. The
associated
Martin
Luther
Se e-s \"not
Hold
You Back
43
Moving
Toward
an
Energy
were
your
Approach
identify and
being
write
ias
been
said
that
if
you
to
life
down
all
of your
see
played
out
before you.
Itxkm
rrerent
psychology
supports
the
position
in
sncoonal
that your
life.
back
and
your goals
authors
Many
self-help
life
books exhort
When
are on
3T overcome it. It's exciting tobelievethat your problem can be resolved; as long as yook is *e it may help you to move in a positive direction, and it believable, reading be enjoyable. But did you really change? For a short time you \342\226\240msr feel new may but in many instances, your old habits of thinking, acp'. feeling, and behaving
can be intriguing, but it can't do the actual work that must be accornThat takes time life or make the process of change your interesting. xsd effort. books are designed to give you knowledge and help Generally, self-help wrc the skills that are required for you to change some aspect of your life. If develop can follow sac through on the suggestions,you will most likely succeed. Too many are give up and don't implement the solutions that pcD\303\247ie. however, provided by Aese secular bibles of our modern age. The reason most individuals don't follow is due to an energy problem or energetic that must first be corimbalance iETCcsh
A book
ffss^rually
you
are reading
about a
problem in your
experiencean
and
how
you
return.
rusned to
change
:KC5Kibefore their
efforts
can
be
successful.
Alternative
Approaches
strategies
Mar.
iK
therapeutic
that
In \302\253r\303\251crive.
fact,
we believe
aes.
\302\273e. gnrTT>g
situation. In effect, this person is helping the you stop A be may continually recreating your originalproblem. good is very supportive and provides you with a lot of positive energy. Over iliAj'tst une the goal of talk therapy is to change the energy aroundyour issue from negative B rosrtive. Additionally, if you talk about your problem, you focus on the issues at *e crux of it. Learning to reframe problemsor think about them fredifferently in a positive direction. The process, however, takes much .\342\226\240esry balances energy and demands a lot more effort than \302\253\342\226\240teer energy requires. psychology of several that can help you to better Following is a brief exploration strategies can be very jhl with your problems. These approaches when effective, especially te-c are used in conjunction with energy psychology. One of the common goals is to 3mc*~ethe beliefs that create self-sabotage. find themselves often unable to People is an behaviors. This imbalance that caused mac self-sabotaging energy commonly by
through that .\342\226\240eracve habits
you
however,energy work is one of the most talk therapy, you are in the presenceof
a difficult
Beliefs Changing are designed to help clients dealwith their can be altered your energy by positively
to
efficient,
a person
problems
other
treat-
avail-
and is
44
Energy
Tapping
is at
beliefs
the source of
and
their
issue
and
can be
self-defeating
behaviors.
strategies or even
approaches
Energy imbalances
taking
also prevent
the
many
time
to
fail.
approaches.
therapeutic
strategies
reversals Psychological As learn how to treat your energy you can be used to help eliminate your less
new from ever implementing them. This is where most self-help commonly leave people unable to use these
people
learn
imbalances,
desirable
traditional
habits.
As you
create
energy
imbalances,
sections,
and
following
assessment,
problem,
imbalances
habits that may change in to utilize the strategiesexplored the and belief behavior visualization, therapy, can treatments correcta Although energy myths. if you don't alter your old habits.
try
to
any of your
Cognitive Therapy
in one of the most popularstrategies\342\200\224especially books\342\200\224that this stated, self-help help you to change your beliefs. Simply maintains that what you think affects how feel and act. This strategy approach you actions. With follows the and logic that the mind controls our feelings cognitive in addition to that event), to a stimulus (an event) and a response reaction therapy, (your
Cognitive
therapy
is currently
can
or self-talk (your interpretation the therapy, your self-talkis creating a belief and subsequent behaviors that prevent you from self-defeating finding solution to The therapeutic strategy is to identify and the internal change problem. your self-talk. This strategy,likemany is much more difficult to accomplish than is others,
component\342\200\224internal
a third intervening
processing
of the
event)\342\200\224is
added.
According
to cognitive
use to help alterold habits. Forexample, that your boss' reaction to most problems is to become let us say in a and and for his the makes target angry prime yell, your position company you in this manner, you respond by withdrawing and feeling behavior. When he behaves would want to know what Ellis (1995) depressed. A cognitive therapist such as Albert this Most believeabout situation. often you your response would be similar to, \"My Ellis believes that it is boss should not (or must not) yell at me for every problem.\" not simply the situation, but rather your irrational beliefs, that block ability to your a not irrational is that should The belief when tell situation change. you yourself that occur when, in fact, it is happening. For example, while you are thinking your a boss must not yell at you, he still does. Ellis says that once you trap yourself with and it to \"must\" or a \"should\" leads such as anxiety thought, negative feelings,
strategies
energy work.Onceyour
are
energy
is balanced,
however,
easier
to implement
and to
you may
find
that
these
depression,
that,
in turn,
prevent you
from
exploring
effective
solutions
to your
problem. That In Ellis'view, irrational belief. the first step is to identify and dispute your the belief reframe is, instead of saying, \"My boss must not yell at me,\" you rationally and say, \"It would for me, or it would be better be nice, if my boss did not yell at me. if he does, once But it is his problem and it does not reflect on me.\" Ellis believesthat it eliminate the irrational to move toward solutions. frees belief, you you that belief The core of Ellis' work is to remove the block, i.e.,the irrational in on that prevents from focuses the idea changing. Cognitive therapy general you problems or perpetuated are created By by a person's interpretation of a situation.
\"e
eh
That
Hold
You
Back
45
recome
irout
ranging
the beliefs,
terribly
you can
It's can
find
most
aspects
of life
effect
unhappy. you
helpful
to become
aware
by
acceptable and,
of
therefore,not
that
the
beliefs
trap you,
negate
some of
their
changing
the way
react
to a
situation.
you
think
Visualization
your beliefsis through visualization.Unless it then e.g., completing a task or being imagine promoted, clearly -. it if a erv that will visualize __situation, happen. Conversely, you negatively - sr>eaks unlikely about volumes internal beliefs and feelings. your self-sabotaging of the most and One interesting studies in the area of visualization sports was and Conference r-esented at the EricksonianApproachesto Hypnosis Psychotherapy - 1986. After tennis players, Swedish psychologist Larsinterviewing professional of their game to determine what Unestahl studied Et_a (1988) videotapes strategies used to serve the ball on a consistent In the interview, he asked them to basis. re. _ :-se their described the position eyes and describe what they did to servewell.Each <- their arm and body and exactly how they tossed the ball into the air to begin the ^r-.e. When the videotapes were examined, the psychologist met with the players At and told them that many times they served just the way had described. \342\200\242ai they rrer times, however, the players' bodies were in different than they positions It's as if were \342\200\224cjsht and aiming. yet, the ball still went to the corner wherethey for the changes that occurred in their serving re: bodies naturally compensated
Another
;u
way
to examine
and affect
can
a situation,
Upon closerinvestigation,
,c=c
where
the ball
was
average cLaver
less
was that the professional players believed that t-T ?f bounds. What happened they hit the ball over the net, so they could and see the ball going visualize .--i_d easily - =r the net. The players who did not perform well were lessconfident about their ar_T\\ to serve and hit the ball over the net, so their minds and bodieswere not * in harmony. rrscng together This doesn't meanthat if you can visualize and see the ball goingover the net h^i into the corner, you will reachthe skill level of a professional player. We are limour natural abilities. What we are talking is reaching peak \342\200\2423SZ however, about, ry To be at your best, you must believe that can do what r*5\303\274r:fmance. you you are tryr? achieve. to As long as you choose realistic and able r^r are goals truly visualize for increase chances success. T\303\256isr vou greatly your Visualization is simple, but it takes some work\342\200\224you must visualize yourself This doesnot mean that and ame-.-tng your goal. you globally think about the simply situation or end point, such as scoring the winning point in a game.Instead, ^\342\226\240snj. each component that is required for you to be successful. a. ^oend time visualizing walk a golf course -rr example, professionalgolfers may while visualizing each is a tool to help you identify a problem twt_\302\243 Visualization and/or improve yourself \". ou is blocking have treated \342\226\240es your underlying belief issues. If anxiety your sucwith relaxation can to visualization s combining strategies help you improve your and more readily overcome problems. arils
the found that the tennis players visualpsychologist was going before they actually hit it. He also found that the confident and often visualizedthe ball goinginto the net or going
46
Energy
Tapping
Belief
and
Behavior
Assessment
(1988)
In the
that
1980s,Stevede Shazier
an
interesting approach That people \"did\" their problems. that in behaviors were their lives. He and/or people used to perpetuatea problem a of the specific beliefs or behaviors that felt that people are often unaware create and focus on instead the problem, problemitself. if Forexample, to lose weight, being overweight is the problem. The you want \"What solution is diet and exercise. The question posed by would Shazier de be,
explored
how
wrote several books on therapeutic change to looking at problems. He wanted to know what he wanted to the beliefs determine is,
beliefs
or behaviors will
understand
easier
it
The better prevent you from succeedingin losingweight?\" what beliefs and/or behaviorscreatehow you \"do\" the problem, the be for you to use energy psychology it. to resolve
you
Teaching
teaching
Approach
understanding
how
you how
create or to
\"do\"
as an example,your goal is to teach them how to recreate your problem. Normally, listen and then solutions are offered someone, you share a problem with they on how have shared after you can solve it. In this situation,however, your you I wish I problem in that your friend says, \"Wow! a great problem. That's detail, imagine had that problem. How do you 'do' it?\" For example, if you are overweight, imagine who or to one of those thin claim that no matter how hard they talking people try how much they eat, they can't gaina pound.You \"But tried would have my say, you At that to gain weight. use approach?\" point, you provide the detailed strategy you Don't forget to include any negative beliefs that you use to diminish your self-esteem, in or behaviors use to situations where you are likely to overeat or put yourself you foods. Once have created will be eat fattening this list of you strategies, you to aware of the use create consciously approach you your problem.
when
Observing
have your
Although
this may
don't
wants
to
know
Using
your
life experiences
Exceptions
Another
helping
are
The goal is to
behaving
strategy of
identify
is looking de Shazier's
exception,
your
an
maintain
when
problem,
to create
in a
or
to your problem. doesn't occur. If are your problem you then there should be a time when you
for
the
exceptions
if too are eating support it. For example, you determine when to on diet. are best able foods, wrong your you stay Who are you with and what are you are hard to Sometimes doing? exceptions exist. Once you identify an exception, recognize, but usually they you need to do more of that behavior. For the teaching approach and exception strategiesto be successful, down must time to write the take the details. you
much of the
Myss
that
hold
Beliefs
That
Hold
You Back
47
the
wound
that
was created
believes
traumatic
events
occurred greatly
that old,
life energy.
Interestinglyenough, Myss
An accept
holding
on to
star
example that he is
is a
fifty
person's
vital
still lives in
In Myss'
years
view,
accepting
who
in, you must consciously accept it and energy. No matter what stage of life you're it. That live doesn't mean the school football star has to be a couch potato; high fully he couldstillexercise and be a competitive athlete. He has to let go of the mind-set, that he is eighteen years old and a football star. Once you consciously however, it is will life the now, acceptyour way you stop wasting your energy and find many to who are. ways enjoy you
you are
is one key
overweight,
to
and a
couch potato.
your
maintaining
healthy
Summary
This chapter
and
explored how
groups:
your
beliefs
contribute
to your
most
that
are bad
habits. Although
you can
your
sabotaging
beliefs
that are
you
the result of
likely
problems.
energy
Beliefs are
reversals,
becauseof
energy
imbalance,
developed
bad habits
this
chapter
psychology, you
can often
the
problems. a problem
without
beliefs
or behaviors
causes,
especially
the better equipped you will be to the and the less likely it is that an energy true of complex problems, such as
direct
energy
at their
imbalance will
where
reoccur. This
beliefs
is
alcoholism,
may
multiple
and
behaviors
following
are at the
source of
the
problem. want
In conjunction
self-help
with using
energy psychology,you
to utilize
the
strategies:
1. Examine
2. Use
beliefs.
3. Determine
you
\"do\"
a problem
4.
Accept
who
you
are
at this time in
your life.
CHAPTERS
Identifying
Problems
That
You
Want
to
Resolve
Insecurity What
is
the
negative
expected.
bothers
are
you
doing
about
what
you?
Shain
\342\200\224Merle
use energy psychology, you need to be clearand about each specific that you want to change in your life. that your entire life Although believing it is too .5 a mess may be a real feeling, and abstract to be affected general by energy Do not worry that there is a specific order in which your rfvchology techniques. .ssuesneedtobe addressed. what is that as you treat one Often happens problem, another is also that situation. problem is revealed that affecting
~j
effectively
rroblem
As you identify in and treat each problem, you will begin to seea change your will some problems Although your outlook on relatedsituations improve. ire very straightforward, such such as a fear of insects,othersaremore complicated,
.ire, and
~> addictive
behaviors.
psychology,
Once you learn the process of energy in a fast and efficient manner. rroblem
you
will be
able to
treat
each
Developing
The
Your
of
Personal
Profile
identify
goal
developing
to
believe is creatingdisruptions
any ongoing
have have
a personal
profile is to
each
situation,
behavior,
or
in
identify
rersonal
profile is not a
themes or chronicproblems have. Your you may onetime list of every issue affecting your life. comprehensive,
found
your
life.
It also
provides a solid
be treated
that
whatever
treated
you
think
of
first
should
successfully
those problems,
50
Energy
Tapping
process.
aware of
feel you
forgotten.
As you
may
are engagedin
apparent.
of
this
process, that
on
problems
that you
become
Review
concern
are listed
your
below and
Do not rely
to your
you
surface
conscious
they
have
on your
memory.
Sometimes
important problems
and
significant.
1. Childhood
that
memories or events any childhood in If life? problems your you you have a memory, but you are not sure how or if it is affecting your present life, list and treat the memory anyway. As we have mentioned, you don't have to remember all will the detailsat once.Memories surface when them. you are ready to treat
feel
be creating
2.
Associated
created
as
a result
Can
any
beliefs
that
memories?
you
were
3. Fears.
your
you
life?
Remember,
public
intimidated,
speaking;
or
or they
on your
that
can be morecomplex,
sports
have
with
such
relationship
least
one
fear
list, as everyone
performance
is
fearful
of something.
4. Controlling
common,
your emotions.Can
you experience
which
you
emotions
yourself
in situations
frustration,
in which you
guilt.
identify
any
uncomfortable,
anger,
yet
often
find
respond
with
or
feel
alone
or
to be
aware include
embarrassment, shame,
there
rejection,
5. Painful events
and
believe or adult behaviors beliefs. affecting your negatively 6. Depression. This is the culmination of many other unresolved feeling usually You can with issues. treat depression energy psychology. To prevent
are relatedto
that you
have experiencedas an
are
painful
adult?
Identify
or
depression from
continually
the
reoccurring,
and
treat
underlying
inability
7. Eating. Your
emotional
achievingyour
to
What
it
is
most
important
to identify
to unresolved
from
problems.
goals
problems.
regarding
or behaviors
are blocking
8.
Addiction
Smoking,
can
use
drugs, and gambling are the most in this book to treat the treatments
success, is
9. Relationships.
any
other
addictions,
such
some
important
a void
to identify
of
as addictions
This is the
listed.
source of
problems
can be relationshipproblems
have
this
book,
as the
to
would like the relationshipsin your and what relationship-specific concerns exist. currently
situation,
you
The goal
here is to
any
your
of the
current
life
previous
relationship
to
what you
actually
be,
re-*ifying
Problems That
You
Want
to Resolve
51
10. Common issues or patterns.Identify that can help to guide you and to
any
patterns
or reoccurring
determine
which
treated.
Using
-iter T\302\243
Energy
the you
your
Psychology for
written
questions
life.
in impact
on
hope
profile
(list)
of
these
problems
have
Treatment
Sequence
Overview
follow,
In the
iidress
chapters
types
that
you
various
of problems.
such
will learn specific treatment sequences that Each simple: Generally, the process is very
-equence
includes
Identify
the following
the
steps:
1. 2. 3.
or a feeling, such as being angry. as a fear of insects, of distress the problem causeson a scale of 0 to 10, with 0 indicating no distress and the most amount of distress. 10 indicating
a problem, Now
rate
amount
Identify
and the
treat
any
self-sabotaging
lookat sequenced in the the indicated order. numbered meridian tap points 4. on a 0 to 10 scale number should rate distress your 2 and 3. your mind). there is no decrease, repeat steps 5. do the Brain Balancer, which is explainedin each
number Again, (a If Next, treatment
Identify
appropriate
and tap those meridian points treatment All the diagram. diagram you have to do is
just
using a
and
pop into
sequence.
6. Repeat
7. Again
distress
needs
sequence. rate distress on a 0 to 10 scale. It should be lower yet. When your your is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9. Sometimes the treatment to be repeated several times before relief is felt from the distressful
the treatment
situation.
8. As long
continue with the treatment as the distresscontinues to decrease, If stalls at any until is no the treatment there distress remaining. sequence a on of this mini-reversal. Treat this the Side indicates point, by tapping
Hand
(SH)
while
saying
this
three times,
problem.\"
\"I
deeply
accept
myself,
even though I
Roll, this
the distress
will
also
be explained
above
The basicstepslisted
\342\200\224ost
are
generally
problems.
^nes to
than \342\200\224ore
completelyeliminate
five
Again,
it is
normal to
the
repeat the
The
have to do to eliminate
sequence
two
to three
problem.
entire
minutes
once you
process,
however, rarely
takes
52
Energy
Tapping
Summary
a profileof your problems and have some you should have developed idea of how they are contributing to the creationof certain in your life. As situations in more unresolved life issues that have been work, you engage energy affecting your will become part of your conscious memory. Eventually, will eliminate the you in and will these have have to with current issues deal impact problems your only life. We must emphasize: Do not avoid the process of identifying a personal profile. Your problems affect you in many ways and areconnected to all aspects of life. your in it is true that a will cases the treatment eliminate Although specific many a profile and working on all of your associated problem, is the best way issues developing
At this point,
for
you
to
achieve
success
CHAPTER
Understanding
Psychological
Reversals
and
Self-Sabotage
We
cannot
Condemnation
change
anything
does
unless we
liberate,
accept it.
not
it oppresses.
Jung
\342\200\224Carl
where specific problems chapter Tapping, begins the treatment section of Energy =re examined and appropriatetreatment The first step in are sequences provided. is to eliminate reversals. The simplest applying energy psychology any psychological definition of a psychological and reversal is that your energy system elicits thoughts r>ehaviors that are the opposite of what about life one would believe normally if you were asked if you want situations. For to be happy, the expectedresponse example, would But experience has proven that when be are psychologically people \"yes.\" to are be miserable. There is a reversed, deep inside (unconsciously) choosing they ronflict between their internal beliefs and what they are trying to achieve. For that deserve to be or instance, perhaps you don't believe perhaps you did you happy that can't in are ashamed of and something you accept yourself. When people are psychologically often sabotage their lives. For reversed, they example,they may try to resolve a problem with someone they love and, in the and needlessly hurtful. Or, if a rrocess, behave in a manner that is destructive is an reversed for person applying psychologically employmentposition for which they are qualified, and act freeze confusedin the interview. up they may it is as not to what Although readily apparent your physically occurswhen is it is that clear when beliefs or behaviors, have reversed, energy sabotaging you act in opposition %ou to what you are consciously to attain. literally trying for a are reason beliefs, Sabotaging major example, probably people stay in abusive why and in also are first abusive the If an abused relationships, partners place. why ix-dividual's underlying beliefs (suchas, \"I am not good enough\") were treated with
This
56
Energy
Tapping
or weak willpower. Oncereversals aretreated, will experience the difference. In you a when correct reversal are theory, reconnectingthe mind you psychological you (beliefs)with the body (energy) so that you can again create positive energy in the will reversed areas of your life. Once this is done,you the stop making previously a decisions and start toward successful wrong moving lifestyle.
reversal
you
techniques provided in this book, they would realizethat they need to leave the abusive situation, and their partners would realizethat they are only angry at 14 for more on relationships.) themselves. (See chapter An blocks you from seeingsolutions reversal even when you have the knowledge, energy or it prevents the solution have the ability. This is a even you from implementing though you It a in core point of energy is reversal psychology. your energy that prevents you it is an from accomplishing and that creates faulty ideas imbalance energy your goal
the
An
energy
blocks the
have
when
prevents
you
you
have
from
the
implementing
ability.
Six
Throughout psychological
Types
this reversals.
of
book,
Self-Sabotage
There
a or behaviors. When an energy treatment doesn't work, is frequently the culprit, and it must be treated. psychological reversal Following is a brief with them, descriptionof these six types of reversals. Once you are familiar you can in relation to a particular problem. assess yourself to determine if you are reversed will that you can be psychologically You find reversedwith one problem and not another. Energy treatments are not effective until are corrected. reversals
sabotaging
we will stress the importanceof identifying are six common types of reversals that
and
treating
are at
the core of
all
beliefs
Massive
where
Reversal
major
of your life, especially in those areas aspects all of the time. everything wrong People who experience this type if a of reversal as want to live miserablelife. appear Although they consciously they that they want a happy life, their behaviors createthe opposite of what believe they seek. People who are massively reversed often reject or pass up potentially good can't focus on them and instead often opportunities. recognize Unfortunately, they the one negative aspect of that opportunity. They are unable to identify situations and peoplethat are good for them and, in the worst cases,they actively seek out chronic have bad negative situations. People who continually relationships, addiction depression, or ongoing problems are usually massively reversed.
Massive reversalsaffect
seems
to go
Deep-Level Reversal
Deep-level
reversal
affects
people
who want
their
problem
is too
their
With
. -derstanding
Psychological Reversalsand
Self-Sabotage
57
a person expresses a sincere desireto dealwith and eliminate is no way at an \"There unconsciouslevel hold the belief that, problem, yet they an I'm a and to over this lack of confidence going get inability to problem.\" Usually, this problem helps perpetuate it. visualize their life without
this
type
of reversal,
their
Specific Reversal
Specific
situations,
reversals,
there
of specific reversals is The central heights) you wish to eliminate. question to eliminate whether you are ready the problem now. Although you might want to get over the problem, you may be blocked on letting it go at the present time. You are to eliminate the problem in its may also be blockedon whether you ready
fear of
reversals are the most common and are usually limited or a fear of public speaking.With such as a fear of heights are no other major issues to address, exceptthe particular
to
specific
particular (e.g.,
problem
entirety.
Criteria-Related
Reversal
who problem.For example, people guilt,but they may unconsciously the issue of what they believe they can be effective.
The fourth type of reversal, criteria-related reversal,alsodeals with specific or This of believe issues beliefs. centers on issues such as whether you type reversal deserve a vou to get over will allow yourself to get over problem or whether you
suffer
from must
severe be
believe
deserve
that they
guilt may want to get over the deserve to feel guilty. In this case, treated before further treatments
Mini-Reversal
A mini-reversal
can occur
after
there
is over
the problem remains and the treatment Most likely, you are not ready to completely let go of the can appear in the form of specific, or criteriaMini-reversals problem. deep-level, related reversals. In these situations, you must of the reversals is determine which from preventing eliminating you completely problem. your
sequence
stops
being
effective.
Recurring
When
Reversal
experience original
you
of
resurgence
reversal.
your
This is not
of distress prior to the treatment. This is a treatment can that make the mistake of thinking recognize you isn't as must start effective. Patience is with reversals, process required recurring you and You must also the entire treatment from the again complete sequence beginning. that reexaminethe possibility of each of and reversal reversal treat type any you believe is blocking your success.
rather a
important
recurrence,often
with
the
level
to
because
58
Energy Tapping
understand the various types of reversals, you will be able to identify that situationsin life. The mind/body sabotage ways you your is concrete. the more the better the results will Therefore, are, very relationship specificyou for psychological is necessary for addictive be. In general,repeatedtreatment reversal for or when the problem has resultedin a very problems, very competitive people, low energy level. If your problem involves or long-term grief, shame, guilt, apathy, in is that will level most low area. This very require you to have your energy likely You must be to treat on a basis for several weeksto patience. willing yourself daily will to eliminatethe problem. While are continue this, however, doing you you
Once you
the
specific
receive
some benefits
from
your
treatment.
Treating
Psychological
Reversals
in the As we have been discussing, to using one of the treatment prior sequences if a as it reversal exists, chapters that follow, you need to determine psychological block will the successful elimination of a problem. When are reversed, the first you doesn't and the fact that you have the problem. This mean step is to accept yourself that you aren't going to change. Beforeyou can however, change, you must accept
yourself with
The
unconscious
your
flaws.
reversal may be
mind,
following
so
questions are
you.
to
determine
which
your
affecting
Many
don't
answer
let yourself
type of
the
likely,
first
completing
the analysis
from
is to
have an energy reversalin a particular area,it will impede your that these beliefs be explored with treatment. each problem you try to that you have different with different problems. eliminate. beliefs associated Once you have completed the for a particular problem, use the analysis that are provided to correct any reversals that are treatments sabotaging your life. Then, treatment that locateand use the for sequence particular problem. If you immediately wait\342\200\224even the treatment for five or ten minutes\342\200\224before using sequence, the reversal in your energy, it the treatment. Once treat the reoccurand block imbalance may you is far less likely that the reversal will reoccur. If there is a delay after you treat a reversal, just treat it again before using the appropriate treatment sequence.
goals. If you It is essential You may find
help you
the
underlying
beliefs
that may
prevent you
achieving
After
you
treat
a reversal,
you
must
immediately
is
go
causing
Determining
Massive
your
Reversal
general over the
a.
Think
about
life in
feel
you
have
been:
understanding
Psychological
Reversals
and Self-Sabotage
59
miserable
b.
c.
Are
two
or
more
major parts
of your
life
negative,
such
as your
work and
relationships?
Have
you
been
chronically
depressed?
or
d. Do e. Are
you?
an
\"addictive
personality\"?
feelings of
shame,
guilt,
apathy,
or long-term
If you
have a
multifaceted.
answered \"yes\" to any one of the questions, this may massive reversal (whole-lifereversal), where aspects many
the
that
fact
that
the problems
of your
life are
you
Treatment
Spot (SS)on the left side of your chest (see diagram 3).Rub that and or saying to yourself three times,\"I deeply profoundly and limitations.\" it Even if you don't believe accept myself with all of my problems the more now, right say it to yourself anyway. In fact, you don't believe it, the more and it is that you do this treatment. You need to repeat this treatment important daily in the following chapters. always before you use any of the treatments is treated, it is common for other reversals that Oncea massive reversal also must be treated to become apparent. It will take many of massive treatments the energy reversals before remains increasingly positive. You feel some will, however, and time it. is that massive relief each treat The concern progressive change you
Find
the Sore
spot
while
thinking
daily treatments
have
also
require
numerous
treatments.
massive
reversal
are
needed
be sure that
In fact,
you
eliminated
this problem.
Determining
Which vou
Deep-Level Reversal
statements
of
the
below accurately
want
to
treat?
I will
problem.
this
problem.
answer
This
was,
\"I
will
continue
be
present.
means
that at a
get over
pride
problem,\" a deep-levelreversal level deep you may believe you are unable to this belief, you must build your sense of change
to have this
and
confidence.
60
Energy
Tapping
UN
Deep-Lev\303\251I
Reversal
UBL
- Criteria
Reversal
Shame-Related
SS or SoreSpot
for
Massive
and
Recurring
Reversals
SH Reversals
Criteria-Related
Specificand
Diagram
Three:
The
Treatment
Points
for Specific
Types of Reversals
jroerstanding
Psychological
Reversals
and Self-Sabotage
61
Treatment
While
you
are
thinking
about a
your
nose
situation where your problem occurs, tap above and \"I three times, (UN), accept myself say
problem.\"
Determining
Which
Specific Reversal
below accurately
of
the
statements
TXi want
to treat:
the
problem
there
are several
to eliminate
you
one of
some
instances,
you
them.
this
\342\200\224ae order
think
r*
r-e
If you
answered,
\"I
am
not
ready ranking
start
to elimithem in
treating
treating
by
it may
be easier
to begin by
Treatment
Think
about
:n the
accept
a problem
or situation
thinking
even though I
where this problem happensand then tap or saying to yourself three times, \"I deeply
Determining
Detenriine
Criteria-Related Reversals
of
which
the
about
the
problem
following
statements
beliefs
1. I deserveto get
I don't
over
this
problem.
deserve
to get over
this problem.
2. I
3. I am
feel
it's
safe
to get
problem.
try
deal
to
with
deal
this problem.
with
I am not
scared to try
this problem.
this problem.
over
this problem.
62
Energy
Tapping
5. I will I will
allow
myself to
problem.
not allow
myself
is
get
over
this
problem.
6. I will
do
what
necessary
is
to get
necessary
to get
Treatments
Select
match
the
belief
questions
above
statements below.While
problem
that you
your
problem
and
about
your
occurs,
tap on the
Side of
Hand
deeply 1.
accept I deserve
myself
even
if\":
to have this
safe to
2. It's not
for get
me
3. I'm
scared
over
4. I will feel deprived if 5. I will not allow myself 6. I will not do what
is
over
get
over
necessary
to get
Psychological
life and that too much rejectionin your personal Imagine you have experienced are a life event. After frustrated or about current social reviewing feeling angry you the belief questions on reversals, you decide that not only are you feeling rejected, but that will this Your believe to have continue reversal). problem (deep-level you you is that although you are experiencing are confused because rejection, reasoning you what are or how to stop it. Not understanding you you don't know why it occurs when is very common doing wrong or how to change a problem you are reversed. To treat a deep-level under nose reversal, your tap above your upper lip directly even if I never this over (UN) and say to yourself three times,\"I accept get myself if I and \"I even never You can the statement problem.\" personalize say, accept myself stop being rejected.\" this like an odd treatment, you must accept sounds situation, i.e., your Although in life. Once have treated can create before rejected, getting change your you you
yourself for
rejection,
for
the
reversal,
about
for sequences you are ready to use the specifictreatment the energy imbalancethat is causing your problem. If you are situations, past sequence you will need to use the treatment
treatment
to ensure
more
confident
.\"O\303\256Tanding
Psychological
Reversals
and Self-Sabotage
63
will
also
people have
and
situations
identified
Once you
vou \342\200\242ff-n,
be able to better handle rejection and to focus in the future. any of the above reversals and treated yourself
that other beliefs
on
for
m Onceagain,
may
be able
identify
to identify
the
may
treat
be blocking
it.
type
of reversal
and
Summary are willing to accept that, to problem in your life unless you can occur in your life withinvolved in creating it. A problem :xr: it being your fault; however, your response to it is key to your ability to cope that *rzh The core of a psychological reversalis that if your energy levels problem. a specific situation low due to problems in your past, your \302\273tome very about energy Oncethat happens, view that rar becomenegative. of or another situation and your If are tout ideaof how to resolve a problem can becomedistorted. reversed, you you vZ. actively sabotagea goalthat you are consciously seeking to achieve. Your behavand beliefs at the time, however, will feel appropriate. That .o-\303\247 is why it is essential treat reversals before a treatment. \342\200\242c any possible you employ specificenergy If an is not effective, a psychologicalreversal is usually the treatment energy and This the main reversals has examined of their chapter types r^-prit. matching treatments. Once you learnhow to treat reversals, you are ready to read the chapters and the corresponding treatment sequences to arcut specificproblems to utilize them. \303\274znunate if are the Remember, reversed, you energy treatments for specific will not be effective. Therefore,always treat for reversals before rroblems yourself other treatment to eliminate ^sng sequences specific problems.
\303\256 x
cannot
seme
CHAPTER
Everyone
Is
Scared
of
Something
There
are
fear
of
really. The original wound from way back when and the our to and giving up having face the pain, so our fear defenses becomes a roadblock that we service and maintain.
two fears
\342\200\224Merle
Shain
\\o
Fear!\"
and
\"Just
Do
It!\" are
two popular
you
accepted \342\200\224only
\342\226\240-. as having
cultural
fears.
r.ock
out
the fear,
get out
aren't supposed to
should
happen.
exemplify
a com-
as phobic
that
doesn't
will
The same is admirable and courageous. firefighter, of flying in an airplane. paralyzed with fear at the thought can easily be handled by most children, which Many situations,suchas flying, life. cause serious ran panic for individuals who are fearlessin most areas of their and phobias: What causes panic in one personhasno effect This is the nature of fears Fears and phobias have little whether a person is weak or n another. to do with are _=cks Instead, courage. they are about energy imbalances.Oncetheseimbalances will be able to better cope with the of fear in your life. reared, presence you A common the that for coping with fears is learning to avoid situations strategy and phofears rreate them and trying to accept this part of you. Unfortunately, your r:as are not overcomeeasily, and their for existing has very little to do with reason their The result is that people tend to feel ashamed that can't overcome ?\302\247ic. they are not most ears, especially if their fears are not socially acceptable. In truth, people their without some form of therapeutic help. fears .roing to learn how to overcome In this chapter, we will help you conquer your fears usingenergy psychology. \342\200\242\342\200\242\342\200\242 e will address or flying, as well as the common phobias, such as a fear of insects intirniears that affect your ability to be successful in sports, at work, and in various
voluntarily
another
person's
life, which
-owever,
may become
;3trng
situations.
66
Energy
Tapping
How
Do
fears
Fears
be exist
Get
to a
Started?
single
natural traumatic
Some
and still
trace
can others
traced as part
incident, defense
others
of our
mechanisms.
a fear,
such as
When imagining monstersin the closet. you noises and the shapes created by
or
incapable
objects
of
because
monster
dangerous
that
detenriining
if you
no
are safe.
how
Isn't it
your
mysterious
primary
that
sense\342\200\224vision\342\200\224is
children
of
who have
never seen a
something
(and
matter
many times
exists?
designed
for
is
accident,
type of
being
have a
a
natural
fear
the unknown,
a safety
device
single
traumatic
incident.
has
is easily
trauma.
a similar
of the
a fear of
someone
driving
or even
been
recreates feelingsthat
reflective
at the
time
initial
Other
fears
are learned
can
and are
commonly
of
societal
beliefs.
For
a fear
of alien
experience
are ashamed
An
often help
about
often,
however,
that
energy-related
subtle
great
phobia
looking
traumatic
at this
suffered a
or
For
avoided
Generations
are
example,
if he
initiation
had a
of
fears is that they can be inherited by way is to imagine that your great-great-greatevent that has been passed on to you as a fall then from the top of a tree and from
problem
of
can help
people
on
the
in the McDougall (1938) conducted one of the longest experiments It lasted more than fifteen and that history suggested years strongly psychology. animals can fears in this manner. So why not people, too? Whether or not develop you believe in subtle energy transference,do keepin mind that it's often impossible to determine the cause of any fear or phobia. No matter what theory you try to employ, true holds for one person doesn't always affect you will find many holes in it. What William
of another.
heights
incident.
which you
Have people
you
ever thought
from
success
assume
incomeor position is
more
may be
achieving
prevent a
fear
of
fear becomes
a
responsibilities.
don't need to understand to problems your them. will eliminate If you simply treat your fears oneat a time, you successfully that to the root of your problem, and eventually eliminate as well. Energy eventuallyget psychology doesn't requireyou to reexamine your life. Instead, it is a simple and rote process that will be effective once you identify the fears in your life.
that
the person may feel that they will be the success as well as the By avoiding vehicle of self-sabotage. the origin of your fears and phobias can be complex,the
behaving
That is,
once a certain
is
psychology, you
\303\274-eryone
Is Scared
of Something
67
Identifying
Identifying
Your
and
Fears
fear is
rear, your
address
1987)
dealing
with
you
deal
with
one
inevitably
to other
must
and
deal
with
as well.
ways
There are a
divides
number of
includes
fears
one
into three
levels:
to identify
and to you, such as aging or dying, as test taking. 2. Level two fears involve your sense of self, and includefears such as rejection or dealing with mtimidating people. 3. The last level is what underlies all fears:the belief that you can't handle the situations in your life.
1. Level
fears
fears
that
require
action, such
that happen
is the core of all fears. Sheuses the phrase, \"I level three Accordingto Jeffers, if someone handle ...\" to examine fears.For instance, is going on a job interview and has a fear of not getting the job, this is translated not getting handle as, \"J can't fear of not being able to handlethe situation dus job.\"Accordingto Jeffers, it is your dut creates we with this position to some your fear sensations. Although agree we an believe that it is extent, ultimately underlying energy disruption that causes and The this rear fearful thoughts. is to help you learn to elirninatethe goal of chapter and the sensations that are associated with your fears. anxiety un
From
may
an
energy
psychology
viewpoint,
and
two
have
criteria-related
reflective
of a
treated before
treatment
massive reversal. The reversals at the root of these as notedpreviously, using the energy treatments.Otherwise,
won't
must
the
be
sequences
be effective.
that simple
You should
as
a brief
example
in your
identify and write down the fears of the fear situation.It canbeas
can
are
as,
as well
that I
can't do
important ?f
and write down all should identify to the overall presence of your complex fear. For old, you may also fear dying, lost opportunities, example, if you have a fear of getting or the reality that certain desired events are not going to happenin your life. With to experience each complex fears, you may be requiredto treat problem individually relief.
goal the
Or, it (something).\"
that
be
a fear that
fears
is complex, you
blocks you
from
an
Fears
fear is
groups
the
following
pages,
these
divided into
of fears
four
groups
and
each
is addressed
to be
to
achieve
results
with energy
four
fear
psychology treatments, it
include:
animals,
of
are radically
different from
is
each other.
as
important
groups
of
1. Basicphobias,i.e.,
2.
insects,
elevators,
public
heights,
speaking,
flying
Related
fears,
i.e., test
taking, fear
success,
meeting
new
people
Everyone
Is Scared
of Something
69
intrusive
thoughts
that
of
falling
or
jumping.
These
sensations
the negative feeling associated is to eliminate heights the negativethoughts will be have this, accomplished you that lesslikely to appear. You can use the same sequence is offered for all phobias and fears.However, in will not treat fear of but will also for heights general, you only the treat sensations fear of or falling such as disturbing jumping you experience, your and your fear of losing control. If you think about each one and rate your feelings, can judge which needs to be treated. you The outcome will be different for each For some people, ongoing person. are needed because the visual stimulus that creates the fear of heights is very treatments the which a to complete,will takes minute treatment, strong. Regardless, only provide relief. If you know that you are going to be in a situation that involves heights, be sure to treat yourself first. beforehand. And, as always, treat yourselffor reversals
The goal
thoughts
this
are
scaring
you.
of treating fear of
Once
with
sensation.
Fear
of Elevators
You must
control?Are
based
clearly identify
afraid
your
fear
of elevators.
an
Is
it
matter
you
of being
in an
on the
that something
your
bad will happen, such The better are at identifying trapped? you
fear,
while riding in
as
of being
out of
fear
Are
the
psychology
with the thoughts and beliefs associated more thoroughly you can resolveit by employing energy
getting
stuck
between
Fear
This elements
of Flying
situation
come
of of
into
fear fear
taking feeling
that fear of flying is the sameas fear of heights, Although some people think they are Most have fear are amazed that do of heights peoplewho they actually quite distinct. not experience that fear when looking out the window of an airplane. This is because the cause of of converging lines of perspective (which is the primary proximity
fearing
to fear of elevators,although a numberof additional treat each possible You should reason for fear, such as the play. your fear of being out of control, fear of flight turbulence, off and landing, stuck in an enclosed area, or any form of catastrophic thinking.
is similar
heights)
is not
present.
Treatment
1.
Think
such
Try
treat for a
your level
of
for Basic Fears a situation that scares you. It should be a single, about event, specific as a bee in your bedroom, being in an enclosed or riding in a car. place, to be as specificas possible. For example, it would be more effective to
Sequence
fear
of
German
of fear on a scaleof
and the
shepherds
0 to
rather
10, with
distress for
0 indicating possibility
no stress.
than for fear of all dogs. Rate 10 representing the highest level
2.
Treat
of reversal
Hand
by tapping repeatedly on the Side of SoreSpot (SS) or saying three times, while thinking
70
Energy
Tapping
3 (UCB)
SS or
for
Sore Spot
and
Massive
Recurring
Reversals
Diagram
Four:
Fear
of Insects,
Flying
Animals,
Treatment
Sequence
for
Basic Phobias
and Fears
bone
Meridian Under
Eye
Location
(UE)
Under
the center
of
Under
Arm (UA)
Six inchesbelow
under
the near
Under Collarbone
(UCB)
One
inch
under
collarbone
armpit throat
Everyone
Is Scared
of Something
71
\"I
3.
hard enoughto feel it. The tapping shouldn't cause any pain. 4. Again, rate your distress on a 0 to 10scale (a number should just pop into the your mind).If there is no decrease, go back to step 2 and cycle through this is probably three sequence again. If there is not a decreaseafter attempts, not an appropriate sequence for or else there is another sabotaging this event, that needs belief (i.e.,reversal) correction. (See step 8.) 5. Next, do the
Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Back of Hand while (BH) rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, a tune, to five, and humming again. then hurruning counting
Repeat
problems and limitations.\" 4 to identify the locations for the meridian Look at the chart and at diagram for Under Eye (UE),UnderArm and Under Collarbone (UCB). (UA), points the feared item (don't get into it so much that you While thinking about at each of experience discomfort times major any during the process), tap five these meridian points. Tap them in the following order: l->2->3. Tap only
with all my
may be helpful
deeply
accept
myself
to
even though I
the SH
am scared of
(name
tap
or rub the
SS while saying,
your
\"I
fear).\"
accept
It also
myself
6.
the
tapping
level
sequence
l->2->3.
When
7. Again,
the
rate your
you
distress
while
is within
repeat
even
the treatment
of distress from 0 to 10.It should be loweryet. the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9. Sometimes you'll
need
to
are
are in the
situation\342\200\224before
from the
distressfulsituation.
is
your complete
fear\342\200\224or
relief
8.
As until
long there
as there
continue
the
with
treatment
Side of
9. When
by
\"I
tapping
deeply
on the little
accept
finger
even
Hand
(SH)
while
some of
saying
this
three times,
problem.\"
myself,
the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further or to complete the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.
it
Although
most
has
been
our
experience
that one
fear-based
nmes over a two- or three-week periodbefore they are completely eliminated. It is also a good idea to treat that you know you are goingto encounter yourself anytime a fear-arousing item or situation. Once you memorizea treatment sequence, you will ^e able to treat for that or if starts to item situation even fear come back. yourself your itself. If, after several The first step is always to attempt to treat the fear/phobia doesn't create the results you desire, then we attempts, the treatment sequence What to examine beliefs: are encourage your your you you telling yourself about rear? Do you believe you can be hurt? Are the worst that can happen you imagining in a fear-based will help you x> vou situation? Having awarenessabout your beliefs to break any habits that are to the helping perpetuate problem. However, it will be
problems,
we have
also found
fears that
to be
treated
several
72
Energy Tapping
much easier to
beliefs your
once fear.
you
have completed
energy treatments on
Treatment
Effectiveness
of
can
It is important to
easily
a treatment.
For most
have
do
this
with
for you to test it. If you have a fear of yourself in a situation where it is comfortable for can an elevator with a friend and ride the elevator elevators, get on example, you or down floor. An to this strategy is airplanes. In this case,you up exception only one can fear and testing the effectiveness of this technique by usingit for another prove that result. Or, you can go to an airport and think about flying while you are take off and land. Once you see the positive resultsof energy treatments, watchingplanes that a technique that can help have your confidence will grow and you'll realize you such as flying. Please note: situations, you in even the most anxiety-provoking Reversalsare common with fears, especially fears that you don't have the opportunity very to experienceregularly. Therefore, treat for a reversal before each always yourself
situations, you
a fear,
treated
place
treatment.
are
specific
phobias
that
approach.
These
include your
turbulence.
complete diagram
You may
from
need to repeatthis
distress.
claustrophobia,
relief 4,
You still
but
you
need
to tap the
for
Treatment
Sequence
listed on use the same treatment points order: points in the following Special Consideration Phobias and Fears
may require a more vigorous treatment to flight fear of spiders, and anxiety related feel three times before you sequence
Meridian Under
Eye
Location
(UE)
Under
of
the center
bone
Under
Collarbone
Arm
(UCB)
2
3
Under
(UA)
Six inches
armpit
Under
Collarbone
(UCB)
4
5
Under
Eye
(UE)
center of
the
eye
on tip
Related
The
Phobias
group
and
Fears
a fear
second
of fears
people.
by
Each of
these situationsinvolves
of how
others.
Everyone
Is Scared
of Something
73
Test Anxiety have a strong impact on your millions of students take They example, entrance such as the Scholastic Graduate Record exams, college Aptitude Test (SAT), Exam(GRE), Law School Admission Test (LSAT), and Medical College Admission Test for specific licenses, are (MCAT). Many people must take exams that required certifications, and, in some cases, employment. complaining Unfortunately, simply an that tests are \"unfair\" won't to have help you. At some point, tests are going on life. Don't allow to impact your anxiety prevent you from doing your best. of these statements about test anxiety apply to you: First, determinewhich 1. You know the material, but when you take the test you freeze.
real
and
life.
a huge
business.Each year,
powerful
2.
You
first
don't
statement
and you
freeze
when
you
take the
test.
The
courses (for the SAT, LSAT, etc.),and you may on your own. You have evidencethat have studied know the material, but when you seems to take the mind blank. is that can answer the The result test, go you your you and easier questions, but you cannotfocusand solvethe moderate difficult questions. This means that anxiety is blockingyou from the test to the best of your ability taking and you should treat yourself for test anxiety. If your text anxiety is caused by the fact that you don't know the material and for the test, you must determine don't what life circumstances and/or you study beliefs cause you to behave in this manner. There are several possible reasons for and you must examine each beforeyou can which one is ascertain behavior, your It is a test to take some when must blocking you. appropriate experience anxiety you for which not and don't have studied know the material. you Our experience indicates that a number of issues can exist that create test in these In the first it be situation, categories. anxiety pure test anxiety, as you know may the material, but start to panic in a test situation.In the othersituation, however, you have been chances for not success sabotaging your may by studying for tests, by or by fearing success. If you find it difficult to study for extended beingimpatient, of time, it to do the be treatment before helpful periods may following sequence
pure
material,you
have
taken
preparation
treating
yourself
for
test
anxiety.
for Impatience When Studying for a Test are going to study for two hours. Tap nose (UN on under Imagine you your \"I I and three can never even times, 5) accept diagram say myself though study for two hours at one time.\" Then, tap the Side of Hand and (SH) or rub the Sore Spot (SS) say I three even with and times, \"I accept though myself get impatient quit.\" studying If this not significantly does reduce your Next, tap five times on your Eyebrow(EB). for in then use the treatment frustration and impatience, chapter 12. impatience for the treatment test complete sequence Lastly, anxiety.
Treatment
1.
Identify
the
example
below
that best
74
Energy
Tapping
a. When
become
so anxious
that you
can't perform to
if
b.
below a
anticipate
failing
at some
level or
you
score
\"If I don't
score 1100 on
Now, think
the
situation
0 to
that creates
a scale of
none.
10, 10
level distress
of
by tapping repeatedly on the Side of SoreSpot (SS) while or saying three times, thinking \"I even I I take tests.\" Or, \"I deeply though freeze when accept deeply myself if I don't even score be accept myself high enough on this test.\"It also may SH to the or rub the SS \"I with all while helpful tap accept myself my saying, It is into problems and limitations.\" always best to try and put the statement your own words. 3. Look at the chart below and at diagram 5 to identify locations for the the 2.
Treat
for
the
possibility
of reversals
Hand
meridian points
Collarbone
for
the
Under
Eye (UE),
(UCB).
While
that you experience any major discomfortduringthe process), at each of these meridianpoints.Tap them in the following
thinking
about
(UA),
and
Under
into
(don't get
it
tap
Tap only hard enoughto feel it. The 4. Again, rate your
your
tapping
shouldn't
a 0 to 10 scale, (a number should just pop into the decrease, go back to step 2 and cycle through this is probably three sequence again. If there is not a decreaseafter attempts, not an appropriate treatment for this event, or else there is another sequence that needs correction. (See step 8.) belief (i.e., reversal) sabotaging
distress
on
mind).
If there
is no
5.
the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Back of Hand do while (BH) rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, then humming a rune, countingto five, and hurnrning again.
Next,
6. Repeat
7.
the tapping sequence l->2->3. rate your level of distress from 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. When Again, the is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step9.Sometimes to distress need you'll the treatment several times fear\342\200\224or while are repeat iinagining you your no longer even while test anxiety you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before your affects your performance.
As as there is a decrease in the level of test with the continue long anxiety, treatment sequence until there is very little or no anxiety remaining. If the stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini reversal. treatment Treatthis by on the little finger Side of Hand (SH) while three times, \"I deeply tapping saying even though I still have some of this problem.\" accept myself,
8.
9. When
the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower or to complete the distress further the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, lookat the floor and slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.
l/eryone
Is Scared of Something
75
3 (UCB)
SS or
for
Sore Spot
and
Massive
Recurring
Reversals
Diagram
Five:
Fear
of Tests, Public
New
People
Treatment
Sequence
Meridian
Under
Location
(UE)
eye
1
2 3
Under
Six One
of
the
eye
of bone
inches inch
throat
76
Energy
Tapping
Public
Although
Speaking
we
and Meeting
New People
new addressed public speaking or meeting As we identical to those used for treating anxiety. a that a of and address each fear success is reversal briefly topic below,remember it blocks you from succeedingand may shouldbe treated as such because be how
have
people, the
formula
and
you
sabotage
yourself.
Public Speaking
in public, you are taking a risk and allowing yourself to be speak in You a the audience. also had the have negative experience past, by may You may fear that this will mind freezing up or feelingyour go blank. or you may be concerned that will not like your speech. You the audience happen again must belief and treat each sabotaging before you begin the treatment identify For on of Hand the Side (SH) while sequence. example, tap saying three times, \"I I not like my speech.\" am the audience will afraid accept deeply myself even though think in use Then about the situation of speaking Next, public and rate your anxiety. with the treatment the test anxiety statements sequence for test anxiety, substituting
When
you
evaluated such as
ones specificto
Meeting
When
your
public
speaking
engagement.
New
are
People
a new
this
You must decide person, you are beingevaluated. or do you Do you want to be liked by the person from a business a favor? a date is different meeting, Although the same. the first step is to identify sabotaging Again, any such as \"I'm not good enough.\" beliefs, Or, \"This never works for me.\" Once you treat any reversals, employ for test anxiety. If you do not the treatment sequence experience any decrease in distress, it may be because you feel mtirnidated when you in a particular setting. In that case, use the treatment sequence for meet new people that in the next section. mtirnidation is outlined you
meeting
encounter.
Intimidating
One
Situations
to yourself when situations to overcome is not being true of situation. This but covers circumstances, they you're many types are essentiallycausedby the same idea: You believe that you can get hurt. It is easy that you have not been true to to feel embarrassed or ashamedwhen believe you are caused unresolved Most these however, old, by yourself. likely, feelings think emotional occur when or wounds. emotional wounds are, are, you you Typically, if to with the resources skills deal even have Later, and/or helpless. developed you similar situations, you react the sameway did when you were traumatized you that It emotional wounds create the is to remember during original experience. important in an energy imbalance that prevents that can these from the most be being you you situations situations. In fact, you most likely are better able to cope with mtimidating than you may believe. A in successfully dealing with mtimidating situations is consideration secondary an unidentified that fear has affected your sense of self, which has, in turn, produced of
the
hardest
in an mtirnidating
./eryoneIs
Scared
of Something
77
an ongoing
situation intimidating
problems
what roadblock in your life. In this case, determine from has prevented You should you achieving.
the
fear
or
treat
any related
that
you
can
identify.
Treatment
As
for Intimidation
you
always,
must
psychology
treatments.
situations.
some examples:
\342\200\242 Someone \342\200\242 Someone \342\200\242 You \342\200\242 Someone \342\200\242 You
using
energy
intirnidating
intimidation
for you?
Here are
give
emotionally or physically. has the ability to provide you with something you a person power over you and respondaccordingly. and is not respectful toward is aggressive you.
power that
want.
believe
about
you cannot
1.
Think
a situation
do I respondto an mtirnidating Do I respond with situation? I am told, or become an active in anger, sit quietly, do what participant I don't want to do. There are that could be scenarios examined, something many but the treatments are the same.This is about you and how you respond to a be mtirnidating situation. Therewill always situations in life, but once you can eliminate fears and the beliefs with associated them, identify your you these roadblocks to a better life.
yourself
is: How
question
to ask
10 scale,with
and
rate
your
indicating
the
highest
2.
Below
are
some
possibility
of a
examples
of mtirnidating
or saving
situations/beliefs.
Side
Treat
for
the
of Hand
one of
times: a. accept
\"I
myself
even
b.
are better than me.\" to achieve/ even if I am not myself when I am trying
if I think
c.
accept accept
myself
d.
e.
get hurt.\" even if I give them (or whoever) power over me.\" myself if I am in not to even succeed (name/ myself good enough
even if I believe
I will
If you can identify any other mtirnidating include them. situations /beliefs, Treat for the possibilityof reversals on the Side of Hand (SH) or by tapping \"I three even times, rubbing the Sore Spot (SS)and saying accept myself to tap the SH though (describe mtirnidating situation).\" It also may be helpful or rub the SSwhile saying, \"I accept myself with all my problems and
limitations.\"
3.
Look meridian
at the
chart below and at diagram 6 to identify the locations for the Nose Under Under (UE), points Eyebrow (EB), Eye
for
the
(UN),
78
Energy
Tapping
3 (UN)
4 (UCB)
SSor SoreSpot
for
Massive
and
Recurring Reversals
I0\\
SH
\\
Diagram
Six:
Intimidating
Situations
Treatment
Sequence for
Intimidation
the
Meridian
Eyebrow
Location
(EB)
1
(UN)
(UCB)
Beginning
of
the
eyebrow
of
near bridge
of nose
Under
Eye
(UE)
Under Nose
Little
2 3
4
5
Under
Above
center
the
upper
lip
and
UnderCollarbone
Finger
One
Inside
inch under
tip
(LF)
e-vone
Is Scared
of Something
79
Under Collarbone
intirnidating
(UCB),and
(don't
Little
Finger
(LF).
While
that
thinking
you
about the
any
situation
major discomfort
Tap
get into it so
much
times
in the following them points. to feelit. shouldn't enough tapping 4. Again, rate your distresson a 0 to 10
experience
at each
of these
cause
(a
any pain.
number
scale
should
cycle
your mind).
sequence
If
there
is no
decrease,
this
belief(i.e.,
5. Next, do the
(BH)
again. If there
is not a decreaseafter
event, needs
just pop
through
into
the
or else
that
correction.
this is
Brain
Balancer
(BB) by
Backof
Hand
then
rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your and hunvming a tune, counting to five, hunvming
while
counterclockwise,
again.
6. Repeat
7.
Again,
your
level of
the
distress
0 to
from
the
distress
even
is
within
repeat
before
the treatment
while the
tion\342\200\224or
problem
several times while you are imagining your mtimidaare in the actual mtimidating situation\342\200\224 you actually is completely resolved.
is very
2 range,
When need
to
8. As
with the continue decrease in the level of mtimidation, the treatment little or no If distress sequence remaining. Treat this on the stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. by tapping \" I little finger Side of Hand while three times, (SH) accept saying deeply Another type of some of this mtimidation.'' myself, even though I still have If you reversal that occurs with mtimidating situations deals with shame. the possibility have been demeaned in a situation, then you should treat for of a reversal. Tap under your bottom lip (UBL) while saying to yourself three \"I even times, deeply accept myself though I feel ashamed.\"
long
as there
until
is a
there
9.
When
the
distress
level
or
is 0
your
to 2, consider doing
the treatment
head
of Hand
the
lookat
Panic
(BH), hold
and
to complete
straight,
floor
then
slowly
raise your
the Eye Roll (ER) to lower effects. To do this, tap on the and, moving only your eyes,
toward
eyes up
the
ceiling.
Attacks
One of the scariestevents in a person'slife is to have a panic attack. As with most fears and phobias,thereis often no rational reason why a particular situation a panic attack sometimes occurs \"out causesa panic attack, or why of the blue.\" Yet it from is all very real for people who suffer attacks and panic they commonly lose control over The have functions. response people duringa panic attack is many physical in a terrifying similar to what people experiencewhen they are situation; it is symbolic of their of The can be and diverse numerous feelings helplessness. symptoms Common on the or the of attack a situation depending type person experiences. of breath, rapid heart rate, disorientation, rapid pacing, symptoms includeshortness
80
of the
and
Energy
Tapping
tightening
of
anxiety\", These
imminent danger. It
chest, a feeling of losing control, inability of or thoughts dying going crazy. are part of your natural survival symptoms
to breathe,
mechanism
intense feelings
for dealing
has beenreferred to as
secrete
the
\"fight-or-flight
mechanism.\"
with At such
adrenaline
to
specific
legs.
The tingling
you
that
blood times
that
incur a
such
is being
drawn away
sensations experienced
from
the
surface
physicalinjury,
are
would
not
arms
is indicative
in line with
energy to
symptoms
readily bleed to
death. Stomachdiscomfort
to array
wide
you
were
to
at
your legsfor
the intention
mechanisms greatly
for fighting,
of
etc.
survival
also
occur.
is that sensations and appears to cause panic attacks anxiety-produced are Those allow your false thoughts interpretedcatastrophically. interpretations out of and to control. it normal for For is thoughts feelings spin example, you to feel at where sensationswhile on curves elevations, strange driving high your especially view of the elevation is panoramically clear. Also, a scary it is not that odd to have at these times, such as the thought of crashing off the bridge. The or falling thought when take notions occurs such can't let problem go of them, and they you seriously, feel out of control, the door is open for a panic start to overwhelm you. Onceyou
During
are exaggerated.
being
erroneously
attack
to occur.
The actual thoughts that cause a panic attack may not be at a conscious level. Sometimes a scary thought occurs, suchas the possibility of losing someone dear to before have had a chance to consciously you, and the thought gets suppressed you
sensations. In turn, you misinterpret the anxiety danger, thus triggering anxiety sensationsas a sign that there is something dangerously wrong with you. This adds in your thought process spinning wildly to the scary thoughts, of out resulting what to a and is referred as attack. control, producing panic are an aspect of panic attacks, do not such Although scary thoughts thoughts have and do not succumbto such thoughts people invariably produce panic. Many to become panic. The key is the energy imbalance, which allows such thoughts
registerit.
as a
However,
your
survival
mechanisms
noticed
it
and
interpreted
it seriously
frightening.
Treatment
for Panic
about
Attacks
when
1.
you had a panic attack. It shouldbe a single, first specific panic attack or the worst one.For memory, maybe your a it be of example, memory feeling frozen and not beingableto move.Try to may be as specific as possible. The goal is to focus on an isolated, event, specific but don't focus on it so much that it could trigger an actual panic attack. Rate level of distress about the panic attack on a scale of 0 to 10, with 10 your the level of distress and 0 indicating no stress. (This representing highest treatment be used to \303\251limina te a panic attack while it is occurring.) may
Think
a situation
2. Treat
Hand
for the
(SH)
possibility of
reversals
or rubbing
by
tapping
repeatedly
on the
Side of
thinking
or saying
three times,
\303\257.eryone
Is Scared
of Something
81
4 (UCB)
SSor SoreSpot
for
Massive
and
Recurring Reversals
Diagram
Seven:
Panic Attacks
Treatment
Sequence
for
Panic
Attacks
Meridian
Location
Eye (UE)
Arm
Under
Under
Eyebrow
(UA)
1 2
3
eye
on tip
of bone
nose
(EB)
of eyebrow
of
near bridge of
throat
Under
Little
Collarbone (UCB)
Finger
(LF)
Inside tip
little
fingernail
on the
side
82
Energy
Tapping
3.
\"I deeply accept myself even though I have this panic be helpful to tap the SH or rub the SS while saying, with all my problems and limitations.\" Now look at the chart and at diagram7 to identify
problem.\"
\"I
deeply
4.
tapping shouldn'tcauseany pain. number should (a Again, rate your distress on a 0 to 10 scale just pop into 2 If there no back to the is decrease, go step and cycle through your mind). If there not a after three this is decrease is probably sequence again. attempts, not an appropriate sequence for or else there is another sabotaging this event, belief (i.e.,reversal) that needs correction. (See step 8.)
Brain
the locations for the Arm (UA) Eyebrow (EB),Under the panic Collarbone and about (UCB), (LF). While thinking attack (don't get into it you experience any major discomfort meridian tap five times at each of these duringthe process), points. Tap them in the following order: l->2->3->4->5. to feel it. The hard enough Tap only
Under
Under
5. Next, do the
Balancer
(BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating then hunvming a tune, counting to five, and
6. Repeat
7.
(BB) by
tapping repeatedly
your
at
the
Back
of Hand
eyes
counterclockwise,
hunvming
again.
the tapping sequence l->2->3->4->5. rate your level of distress from When 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. Again, the distress to is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9.Sometimes need you'll treatment the several timeswhile are repeat irnagining your problem\342\200\224or you even the actual feel complete relief from your panic situation\342\200\224before you
attacks.
8.
As
long
as there
is a
until
distress,
continue
with
the
treatment
sequence
are
rninirnal
feelings
of panic.
If the
treatment stalls
accept
indicates
a mini-reversal.
Side
of Hand
even though
treatment
(SH) while
Treat this by
problem.\"
deeply
panic
Then repeat
sequence.
9.
When Back
lookat
If after
recommendations.
(BH), hold
and
to complete
your
the treatment
head
straight,
the Eye Roll (ER) to lower effects. To do this, tap on the and, moving only your eyes,
toward
floor
then
slowly
raise your
eyes up
the
ceiling.
three attempts, your distresslevelis not lower,therearetwo traumatic First, panic attacks may be based on a previous experience. your in chapter 10 beforethe this is the case, you must use the treatment for trauma treatment for panic will be effective. Second, the alternate clusterof meridian sequence below be treat listed points required to effectively panic problem. may your
If
Alternative
Panic Treatment
7 to
(UCB) Eyebrow (EB),Under Collarbone
Lookat
(UA),
diagram
identify
the
meridians
and
for the
Little
Under
Finger
Arm
Under
Eye (UE)
(LF)-
E.eryone Is Scaredof
Something
83
Use the
same steps
2->l->3->4->5.
order
but
use
the
alternate
sequence
of
Treating
Yourself Once
in
Public
Places
be uncomfortable you may tapping a sequence when you are in have treated the public. you successfully using suggested tapping yourself treatment sequences, you can use the Touch and Breathe (Diepold 1999) technique in chapter 2. Instead of tapping, you can simply discussed touch the meridian briefly to treat eliminate reversals and to When points your feelings of fear. you use this that actually causes the distress, so thereis no technique, you will be in the situation needto rate it. Inhale, \"I touch the Side of Hand (SH), exhale, and say to yourself, even I accept myself though still have (name your problem.)\" Then, inhale deeply and touch under your eye (UE) and exhale, then inhale and touch under your arm collarbone and exhale. iUA) and exhale, and then inhaleand touch underyour (UCB) there is no more distress. You can use this with Repeat this sequenceuntil approach must remember, however, any of the treatment sequencesin this book; your problem treatment initially be treated by using the tapping approach.
In someinstances,
Further
Reading
books you
Although
are created.
successfully
Anxiety
don't
treat
Disorders
them, you
and
go into great detail about how fears and need to understand where your fears from to be in We more recommend information. may
that
phobias come
this
interested
Phobias
designed
Do It
for clinicians, it
by
by Beck
book
is
of the
functions
Fear
and
and
phobias.
A more
general book
is Feelthe
Jeffers
(1987).
Summary
time to treat them and move on with past life. Your have never meant that fears are any less of a person. Rather, fears your you that you have had an energy imbalancethat indicate at prevents you from being your best in certainsituations.Although some have more fears than others, what is people is that them. The more important you identity your fears and treat you grow and the more new fears there will be to hurdle. By learning the treatment develop, in this chapter, however, you now have a new tool that will help you to sequences clear those hurdles. successfully
behaviors
fears
in our
us back.If
you
still
feel embarrassed
CHAPTER
Overcoming
Anger,
Rage,
Guilt,
Shame,
Embarrassment,
Jealousy,
Loneliness,
and
Rejection
and are
that makes peoplefeel alive and that they matter lives. So people often feel a need to renew their charge the anger long after the cause of it has died. It is a protection against ... and for a while makes them feel less vulnerable. helplessness
Anger
is
a passion
in
of their
\342\200\224Merle
Shain
In this chapter we explore the emotionsof anger, with along jealousy, loneliness,and rejection,
embarrassment,
In addition,
we
want
that
can
be used with
treatments
be
used
alone or in
almost any
problem.These
to
eliminate.
All of the treatmentsin this book are only as effective as your willingnessand commitmentto apply them consistently to achieve the results you desire. If read you about a particular treatment and then apply it haphazardly, you won't experience much in the way of results. The treatments If you entirely depend on your dedication. have a tendency to not be diligent, to suspect that you have a you ought psychological reversal that (see chapter 6). As always, it's advisable you test for and correct
psychological
reversal
before
attempting
any treatment
sequence.
86
Energy
Tapping
Releasing
Anger
stories about the These are a to find relief by conversations often upset way a in the situation. a nd chance to humor find some sharing feelings, they give people a For some people, is chronic at work or at home Situations however, anger problem. of evoke their see themselves as these feeling anger. Usually may instantly people victims of their life's events, and their angerisa response totheir feelings of of helplessness. This not mean that all anger is unjustified; there does is no shortage unfortunatesituations is rude or that cause legitimate such behavior as whose anger, people 1999).When people get together
that with
number It's possible that anger is America's a within to be anger significant problem
friends,
situations
one emotion.
the
recent
survey
found
work
setting
they
often share
them
that day.
cruel.
for
interacting
and
with
that
caused
some people,
fight,
however, once
often
anger is
the
are
angered,
the
more
change, the more you reinforce your never works to your advantage).
you spend
making
the situation
you
worse. It is clear
control
this
they
behave or
cannot
if
to use
anger (even
solution
Case
Study
energy Carol
that
was
and who often made cruel remarks about issue was that Mark had a poor sense of and self Helen too much, especially to deal with blamed for drank Carol problems. largely the of Helenwould often exclude these behaviors. their Also, during years marriage, Carol and the children from extended family Even the mention of Helen gatherings.
was
treatments was
Carol's
husband
The
real
immediatelymade Caroldefensive.
Carol's
resentment
toward Mark
possibly
preventing
and also interfering with her marriage, At it the his alcoholproblem. least, very have because would frequent arguments they
reasons Carol found in simply discussing the why a talk lines were met with to these attempts along it was amount of resistance, as would be expected. tremendous Therefore, suggested to Carol that energy treatments might at least help to takethe edge off the emotional for Helen. This way, if Carol absolutely had to be around Helen upset she felt toward some unforeseen Carol reason, she would be better ableto cope. agreed. After Carol through a rather extended energy treatment for this taking problem\342\200\224about minutes\342\200\224her Helen to about response changed rather twenty thoughts in The occurred she felt and resentment; change anger dramatically. layers: Initially after a few rounds of the anger-releasing treatment, she felt a reduced degree of Carol's irritation she felt a dissolved into feelings of sorrow; and irritation; next, finally, sense of relief. After the energy treatment was completed,Carolsaid,\"I guess Helen with this problem, too.\"From then just can't help herself. I wonderif she's struggled Carol it much more found comfortable to be around Helen. In time, their on, solution
was
not
to be
ought to overcome
her anger.Any
overcoming
Anger,
Rage,
Guilt, and
Shame
87
relationship even improved and Carol and Mark events. Carol alsolearnedhow to apply energy
\342\200\242.vith Mark,
were
regularly
invited
treatment
to her
and
their
relationship
improved as well.
relationship issues
to family
Forgiveness
Many understandably person
people harbor
who anger
have about
trauma and other negative events experienced the incidents and those who causedthem.Oncea
has
been
violated,
causes
emotional
blaming
and
associated with
rle
every conscious and even upset. Anger is one of the principal as well as the inability to forgive
even
unconsciousreview of
emotions here, the circumstances,
the
event
peo-
involved,
oneself.
normal to objectto the ideaof forgiving someone who has wronged you. In feel that that what the would be to forgiveness may your equivalent saying this is not what forgiveness is about.When person did.was okay. However, you that what the other persondid was wrong\342\200\224otherforgive someone, you still recognize would make little sense. When vase, forgiveness forgive, you are not condoning you die other person's behavior. The behavior is obviously wrong. For example, you not condone the behavior of a burglar, a rapist, or someone would who severely It to mistreated be of understanding achieve another level however, might you. possible, the When we forgive, there is a cleardistinction the and to forgive between person. and the deed. person Still,someof you will strongly object to forgiveness. You may ask, for instance, now do you forgive someone for violating an atrocity? Or, how do you or committing .ou let go of the anger when anger seemsto be sowarranted? The of forgiving idea ander such circumstancesmay cause you to shudder. There is another way to think
It is
:act, you
about
person who did you _s stuck with the emotional as we all know, And, consequences of remaining angry. isn't a or beneficial situation. reeling angry pleasant Emotions such as anger deprive you of your and emotional, psychological, to rhvsical well-being. Thereis even evidence that chronic can lead cardiovasanger attacks ailar problems, such as heart and stroke (Johnson 1990). Therefore, for all it is best jitents and purposes, to alleviate your anger. One way to accomplish this is the a acts of and be of this. can through releasing letting go; forgiveness part
:o suffer?
someonebecause, \"While
Certainly
forgiveness,
however.
that
he
couldn't
angry
at them,
not the
understand being angry at out Guesswho gets dancing.\" they're are the one who Rather, wrong. you
Treatment
for or even
Anger
sequence
The following
iirrdnishing this
treatment
has
been
of
found
This
to be highly
treatment
effective
in
anger.
addresses
the
anger
of
and
balance.
meridian
is often
out
forgiveness.
When
addition,
When you
experience
this
balancing
are in a state of
meridian
you
88
Energy
Tapping
Treatment
Sequence
for Anger
Meridian
Little
Location
(LF)
(UCB)
finger
1
2
Inside
One
UnderCollarbone
inch
side
^coming
Anger,
Shame
89
1. Think
10,
about
should be a
with
the person (it might be yourself)or a situation single,specificpersonorevent. Rate your level
stress.
10 representing
of
distress
2.
3.
by tapping repeatedly on the Side of SoreSpot (SS) or saying three times, while thinking \"I even I'm accept though deeply myself angry at/about (person'snameor It also to the SH or rub the SS while saying, \"I be event).\" helpful tap may with all and limitations.\" accept myself my problems Look at the chart below and at diagram 8 to identify the locations for the meridian points for Little Finger (LF) and Under Collarbone (UCB).While that you experience about the anger item (don't get into it so much thinking on LF while saying any major discomfortduring the process), tap repeatedly \"I release the following statementthreetimes, of this anger.\" myself (Alternative on your preference, include the following:\"I statements, depending the person, (name forgive place, or circumstance), I know he/she/it couldn't
Treat
for
the
possibility
of reversal
Hand
help
it.\"
Or,
\"There
best that
tapping
is forgiveness
alternative
in my
statement,
heart.\" If
you
are
angry
Tap
Next,
cause
tap on the UCB point five order l->2. Only tap hard pain.
(a
\"I forgive
myself,
times.
meridian
enough should
to feel it.
any no
anger on a 0 to 10scale
is
number
mind).
sequence
If
there
decrease,
belief (i.e.,reversal)
treatment
again. If there
is not a decreaseafter
this
just pop
cycle
through
event,
or else
needs
correction.
attempts, probably there is another sabotaging (See step 8.) Also consider the
this is
for
rage,
which
follows.
Hand
5. Next,
(BH)
while
then
Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Backof rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, and hurnming a tune, counting to five, hurnming again.
do the Brain
6. Repeat
7.
l->2. the tapping sequence rate your level of distress from 0 to Again, the distress is within the 0 to 2 range, go to
repeat the treatment
even several
need to
relief
times
while
while
from the
distressing situation.
you
are in the
actual
anger\342\200\224or
situation\342\200\224before
8.
9.
with the As as there is a decrease in the level of anger, continue long treatment stalls If the sequence until there is very little or no anger remaining. at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treatthis by tapping on the little (SH) while finger Side of Hand saying three times, \"I deeply accept myself, even though I still have some of this problem.\" the When the distress level is 0 to 2, consider doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the the distress further or to complete Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, the lookat the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward ceiling.
90
Energy Tapping
If the
about this
a later
time,
repeat these
will
become
less and
less frequent.
Putting
Rage meridianis
Out
even
is an
more intense
in rage event
involved
involved
a traumatic
people who
were
complextrauma
on
treatment
and
In this situation,peopleactas if they own the road and as if the other is that on it are disobeying their driving rules.The reality most drivers are people driving only vaguely aware of other drivers on the road. Drivers cut each other off or drive what is that the person who is in too slowly without even realizingit. Often happens a rage has a set of expectations about driving, and when thoseexpectations are not that person drive too blames the other driver. It's true that some met, people slowly or are confused about where down. they are going, and they do slow other drivers and if someone hesitates there are also drivers who become honk However, impatient for a fraction but the real of a second once the light turns green. It goesboth ways, issue is that road rage is about taking what other drivers do as a personal affront. It's it has and not personal and, unfortunately, out of hand become gotten dangerous. have shot at other drivers. One man was convictedof murder after he People actually with a tire iron. became enraged over a minor incident and hit another driver In addition to treating rage with the treatment that follows, imagery sequence and visualization are The next time you start to feel a sense of rage, for also helpful. is someone you care emotional example, imagine that the person causing your upset such or a friend. as mother This to break about, up your rage trigger. your may help For many people, road rage and otherforms of rage are a habit. Once you are in certain it triggers the rage response. If you and with situations, consistently it. As dedicationuse the rage treatment, can break and eliminate this up problem you mentioned the operative word here is dedication. The treatment for rage, like many earlier, other treatments,can be used both to prevent situations that typically would trigger rage and to curtail a state of rage.
road rage.
treat the rage with the following can occur in many situations, Rage
by diagram 9). Some peoplewho have and toward the experience chronic rage about the event itself in it. If an event is involved, it is important to use the most for healing focus (see chapter 10) and then to specifically
meridian
anger.
Often,
can
a different be balanced
Eye
(SE) (see
discussed
one
is
Treatment
for Rage
the
1. 2.
Think
about
person
specific
representing Treat
person
the for
or event.
highest
or situation that enrages you. It shouldbe a single, Rate your level of rage between 0 to 10, with 10 level of distress and 0 indicating no stress. of reversal
the
the
Hand (SH) or
possibility
accept It also
times,
name, saying,
rubbing on
by tapping
Spot
repeatedly
on
the
Side
of
Sore
(SS) while
\"I
deeply
event).\" \"I
accept
myself
I'm enraged at/about (person's be to the SH or rub the SS while helpful tap may with all my problems and limitations.\"
myself
thinking
or saying
three
even though
3/ercoming
Anger,
Shame
91
2 (UCB)
SSor SoreSpot
for
Massive
and
Recurring Reversals
Diagram
Nine:
Rage
Location
(SE)
Side
Under
Collarbone
(UCB)
One
of eye
on the
92
Energy
Tapping
3. Look
at the chart and at diagram 9 to identify the locations for the meridian for Side of and Under Collarbone While (SE) (UCB). points Eye thinking it so much about the rage item (don't get into that you experience any major discomfortduring the process), on SE while saying the tap repeatedly \"I release statement three of this rage.\" Then tap on the times, following myself UCB chart five times meridian the (see below). Tap point points in the l->2. hard it. order: to The feel following Tap only enough tapping shouldn't cause
any
pain.
4.
should (a number Again, rate your rage on a 0 to 10scale just pop into your mind). If there is no decrease, go back to step 2 and cycle through the this is probably sequenceagain.If there is not a decrease after three attempts, not an appropriate sequencefor this event, or else there is another sabotaging belief (i.e.,reversal) that needs correction. (See step 8.)
tune,
tapping repeatedly at the Backof Hand clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, to five, and humming again. counting
(BB) by
6.
the
tapping
sequence
distress
l->2.
from
7. Again, rate
the
your level of
is
within
0 to
10. It should
step
be loweryet.
you'll
about you
When
distress
even
the
0 to
several
repeat the
rage\342\200\224or
2 range,
times
go
to
9. Sometimes
need to
your
treatment
while
while
relief from
8.
As until
long there
as
the distressing situation. there is a decrease in the level of rage, is very little or no rage remaining. If
this
you
are in the
actual
you
are
thinking
situation\342\200\224before
feel
complete
continue
the
with
treatment
Side of
9. When
further
by
\"I
tapping
deeply
on the little
accept
finger
even
Hand
(SH)
while
some of
myself,
problem.\"
Eye
is 0 to 2, do the
eyes
Roll
do
(ER) to
this,
Hand
the treatment
effects. To
up toward
head straight,
raise
lower the distress tap on the Back of look at the your eyes,
In
your
the ceiling.
time,
rage
should
return at a later time, repeat thesetreatments. become less and less frequent.
rage
about
Overcoming
Guilt
we feel systemis operating properly, guilt only for violating a closely held value or moral. When we have done something wrong the congruentfeelingis of guilt, that which tells us to pay attention and our behavior for the better. change is not as as is not this. for however, Often, Sometimes, instance, guilt simple guilt
triggered when
or necessary
certain
it
should
be,
for
reasons
that do
such
medications,
as
guilt
or even,
and sometimes it is triggered when it is no longer not warrant guilt feelings.Thereis alsoevidence that some blood pressure medications,can cause a feeling
we're
of
really
very
innocent.
Therefore, if the
Overcoming
Anger,
Rage,
Guilt, and
Shame
93
alleviate
your is
medications,
will
you
not
Although
the treatment
treatment
may want to
follows
consult your
frequently
advantage
feelings
of guilt, and
health
care
that
effective
of others.
feelings, the
Some
make
to as antisocial personalities, sociopaths, or in much of a end because do not have psychopaths. people up prison they Many violate laws the of others without of remorse. and sense conscience; they rights any Our intention is not to produce such tendencies in our readers. Values and morals are and societies need to reinforce appropriate values in their citizens. important, direly To suffer chronic is an entirely different matter and serves no useful however, guilt, a in the Once lessonis learned, purpose. ongoing guilt feelings only get way of
this condition
and, hence,take
you immune
to feelings of
in alleviating guilt
guilt
altogether.
are clinically
referred
of these
healthy
psychological
functioning.
Treatment
for
Guilt
feel
1. Think about the person or situation about which you a single,specificpersonor event. Rate level of your with 10 representing the highest levelof distress and
2. Treat
Hand
\"I for
guilty.
It should
0 to
be
10,
guilt on
a scale of
0 indicating
no stress.
Side
the
possibility
of reversal
by tapping
repeatedly on the
or saying
the
of
thinking
deeply
event).\"
accept 3.
with
SH or rub
(person's name,
SS while
limitations.\"
chart and at diagram 10 to identify the locations for the meridian While for Index and UnderCollarbone (IF) (UCB). thinking Finger points that you experience any major about the guilt item (don't get into it so much on IF while saying the discomfortduring the process), tap repeatedly \"I release statement three times: of this guilt.\" (Alternative following myself
Look
at the
statements,
depending
on
myself,
because
\"I
I didn't
forgive times.
heart.\" Or,
Only
hard
enough
include the following: \"I forgive preference, in my do anything wrong.\" Or, \"There is forgiveness I I'm the best that on the Next, can.\") doing tap myself. in the order l->2. the meridian Tap points following to feel it. The tapping shouldn'tcause pain. any
your
4.
on a 0 to 10 scale(a number should just pop into your the decrease, go back to step 2 and cycle through three this is probably sequence again. If there is not a decreaseafter attempts, for not an appropriate sequence this or else there is another sabotaging event, belief (i.e.,reversal) that needs correction. (See step 8.)
Again,
mind).
there
is
no
5. Next, do the
counterclockwise,
Brain
Balancer
(BB) by
eyes
tapping repeatedly
clockwise,
at
the
Back
of Hand again.
rotating
five,
humming
a tune,
counting to
your
humming
eyes
and
6. Repeat
7.
the tapping sequence'1-\302\2732. rate your level of distress from 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. Again, within the 2 the distress is 0 to range, go to step 9.Sometimes you'll
When
need
to
94
Energy
Tapping
2 (UCB)
SS or
for
Sore Spot
and
Massive
Recurring
Reversals
1 (IF)
Diagram
Ten:
Guilt
Treatment
Meridian Index
Finger
Location
(IF)
1
(UCB)
Inside
tip
of
index
fingernail
on the
throat
side
Under
Collarbone
Overcoming
Anger, Rage,
Guilt,
and
Shame
95
repeat
or
even
from the
the treatment severaltimeswhile you are while you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before
thinking
you
about
feel
your
guilt\342\200\224
distressing situation.
is very
complete
relief
8.
As until
long there
as there
level of
guilt,
If
continue
the
with
remaining.
this
\"I
treatment
Side of
9. When
further
by
tapping
deeply
on the little
accept
finger
even
Hand
(SH)
some of
myself,
problem.\"
2,
is 0 to
do
the Eye
Roll (ER) to
do
Hand
the treatment
effects. To
this,
your
tap
Back of
at the
head straight,
raise
look
your
eyes
up toward the
ceiling.
In
guilt
should
return
at a
this issue
time,
guilt
about
frequent.
From
Jealousy
seems
to
be a
Security
combination of fear, hurt, insecurity,and anger,and Jealousy sometimes can elevate are jealous, to the level of rage. When you you feel that someone is on what is with a is Sustained intruding rightfully yours. jealousy often associated trauma. In such instances, the trauma should and most be targeted treated with the trauma in chapter treatment 10. After the complextreatment, residual complex can be treated with the following therapeutic treatment sequence. jealousy
to
Treatment
for
Jealousy
about Rate
which
stress.
10 representing the
highest level of
your
level
2.
for of reversal by tapping repeatedly Treat on the Side of the possibility Hand (SH) or rubbing the SoreSpot (SS) while thinking or saying three times, \"I or the deeply accept person myself even though I feel jealous about (name It or SSwhile \"I also to SH rub the be the event).\" helpful tap saying, may and limitations.'' with all accept myself my problems
3.
the chart and at diagram 11to identify for Arm Middle Finger(MF), Under points
Look
at
the
locations
(UA),
and
it
on the experience any major discomfortduring the process), tap repeatedly MF while saving the following of this statement three times: \"I release myself in on and Then the UA UCB five times. them the tap Tap following jealousy.\" order: l->2->3.Tap only hard enough to feel it. The tapping shouldn'tcause
any
While (UCB).
thinking
about
your
jealousy
much
that you
pain.
96
Energy Tapping
Diagram
Eleven:
Jealousy
TreatmentSequence
Meridian
for
Jealousy
Location
Middle
Finger (MF)
1
2
3
Inside tip
Six inches
One
of
middle
fingernail
on the
side
inch
throat
Overcoming
Anger,
Shame
97
4.
0 to 10 scale (a number should just pop into decrease, mind). your go back to step 2 and cycle through the If there a after three attempts, this is not decrease is probably sequenceagain. not an appropriate sequencefor this event, or else there is another sabotaging belief(i.e., that needs correction. (See step 8.) reversal) 5. Next, do the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Backof Hand (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotatingyour eyes counterclockwise, then humming a tune, counting to five, and humming again.
Again,
rate
on a
6. Repeat the
7.
When level of distress from 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. to Sometimes need to is within the 0 to 2 range, 9. go step you'll are about the treatment several times while thinking repeat you your feel complete even while you jealousy\342\200\224or you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before relief from the distressing situation. Again,
rate
the
distress
8.
As
long
as
until
there
there
is a
sequence
stalls
at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treat this by \"I little finger Side of Hand three while times, (SH) saying I of this even still some have though problem.\" myself,
9. When
further
is very
with
treatment
the
tapping
on the
accept
is 0 to 2, do the
straight,
to
complete
the treatment
head
and
jealousy
the ceiling. eyes up toward should return at a later time, repeat these treatments. issue will become less and less frequent.
then
slowly
raise your
Roll (ER) to lower the distress Eye effects. To do this, tap on the Back of and, moving only your eyes, lookat the
In
time,
Why
Be
Embarrassed?
is the
you
only animal
\"caught
that
blushes.
Or
needs
are
in the act\"
know you were doing.That is, when you are embarrassed, about others have seen you make a mistake, or they've gotten a glimpseof something Twain's wit and wisdom are that rather While Mark would keep private. you you of embarrassment are based on we believe that most instances profound, \"greatly if embarrassment about your normal human frailties.But even thoughts exaggerated\" has occurred? It's over and is warranted, why blush about something that already and done with. You might as well learn a needed lesson from your embarrassment treatment eliminates then tap the unwanted emotion away. The following sequence
rather
of doing
something that
others didn't
embarrassment.
Treatment
for
about
Embarrassment
1.
feel embarrassed. It the person or situation about which you event. Rate level of a or embarrassment should be single,specificperson your
Think
98
Energy
Tapping
2 (UCB)
SS or
for
Sore Spot
and
Massive
Recurring
Reversals
Diagram
Twelve:
Embarrassment
TreatmentSequence
Meridian
for
Embarrassment
Location
Under
Under
Nose (UN)
Collarbone
1
(UCB)
Above
upper
lip
and
below
the center
of
nose
Overcoming
Anger,
Shame
99
on a scaleof
indicating
0 to
10, with
no stress.
the
10 representing the
of reversal
highest level of
distress
and
2. Treat for
Hand
3.
by tapping repeatedly on the Side of SoreSpot (SS) while or saying three times, thinking \"I I feel embarrassed.\" also be It accept deeply myself even though may \"I helpful to with all my tap the SH or rub the SS while saying, accept myself problems and limitations.\" Look at the chart and at diagram 12to identify the locations for the meridian for Under Nose and Under Collarbone (UN) (UCB).While points thinking
possibility
about
major meridian
your
points.
embarrassment
during Tap
(don't get
the process),
into
discomfort
them
in the
tapping shouldn'tcause
much that you experience any five times on eachof these tap
it so only
hard
enough
to
pain.
embarrassment on a 0 to 10scale should (a number just pop there is no decrease, 2 back to and go step cyclethrough If there the sequenceagain. is not a decrease after three this is attempts, not an for this or else there is another event, probably appropriate sequence that needs correction. (See step 8.) sabotaging belief (i.e.,reversal)
Again,
rate your
into your
mind). If
5. Next, do the
counterclockwise,
Brain
Balancer
(BB) by
your
tapping repeatedly
clockwise,
at
the
Back
of Hand again.
eyes
humming
a tune,
counting to
rotating
five,
your eyes
humming
and
6. Repeat
7.
l->2. the tapping sequence 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. When rate your level of distress from Again, the distress is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9.Sometimes need to you'll the treatment severaltimeswhile are about repeat you thinking your feel embarrassment\342\200\224or even while you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before you relief from the distressfulsituation. complete
with decrease in the level of embarrassment, continue is very little or no embarrassmentremaining. If the this treatment stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treat by Side of Hand while \"I on the little three times, (SH) finger deeply tapping saying even though I still have some of this problem.\" myself, accept
As
8.
long
as
there
is a
the sequence
until
there
9. When
further
is 0 to 2, do the
to
Hand (BH), hold your head straight, floor and then slowly raise your
If embarrassment embarrassment about
complete
the treatment
Roll (ER) to lower the distress Eye effects. To do this, tap on the Back of and, moving only your eyes, look at the
toward
eyes up
the
ceiling.
In
time
frequent.
Overcoming
Shame
from
Shame is different
something
embarrassment
wrong;
when you
experience shame,you
you've
done
there
is something
100
Energy
Tapping
about you, that is, something is wrong at the core of your being. wrong essentially This emotionalstate is also moreprofound than embarrassment. Many deep-seated involve the of shame. psychological problems sharp edge When you experienceprofound it is difficult\342\200\224if not impossible\342\200\224to look shame, in the eyes. The inclination is to hide, to avoid others socializing. Experiencing are of shame can also be a side effect of certain such as some that medications, feelings to regulate blood pressure. If you suspect that this may be the case,please check used with health care provider. Most shame, however, is rootedin experiences from your be childhood. learned to ashamed of it is Somehow, you yourself. Perhaps your to reach back into those formative experiences and eliminate the traumas. necessary can use the treatment to Additionally, you following therapeutic sequences dissipate feelings of shame.
Treatment
for Shame
your
10
1. 2.
Think
about
feelings
of shame.
to 10, with
stress.
Treat
representing
the highest
for
the
Hand
deeply
(SH) or
accept
the SH or rub
limitations.\"
of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of possibility or saying three times, \"I rubbing the Sore Spotwhile thinking It alsomay be helpful to tap myself even though I feel shame.\" with all my problems and the SS while saying, \"I accept myself
3.
Look
at the
for
chart and at
Under
points
thinking
Bottom
about
major discomfortduringthe
meridian
your
the
locations
for the
meridian
five times
on each
only
you experience
of
any
to
these
points.
Tap
them
in the
Again, sequence
rate
hard
enough
number
should
your mind). If
there
is no
decrease,
this
again. If there
is not a decreaseafter
event, needs
go back to
just
pop into
the
through
three
this is
or else
there is another
probably
sabotaging
Hand
that
correction.
(See step
8.)
Brain
Balancer
(BB) by
Backof
6.
7.
(BH) rotating your rotating your eyes clockwise, then humming a tune, counting to five, and hunvrning l->2. Repeat the tapping sequence
Again,
counterclockwise,
again.
rate
your
level of
the
distress
0 to
from
the
distress
is
even
within
repeat
complete
the
relief
treatment
while from
shame\342\200\224or
2 range,
When need
to
are
thinking
you
about
feel
your
situation\342\200\224before
the
situation.
in
8. As long as there is a
sequence
decrease
the
level
of shame,
If
continue
treatment
with
the
until
there is little
or no shameremaining.
the
stalls at
Overcoming Anger,
Rage,
Guilt,
and Shame
101
2 (UCB)
SS or SoreSpot
for
Massive
or
Recurring Reversals
Diagram
Thirteen:
Shame
TreatmentSequence
for
Shame
Meridian
Location
Bottom Lip
1
2
Under One
inch
bottom
lip
in
chin
cleft
near
under
collarbone
throat
102
Energy
Tapping
any
point,
this indicates
of Hand
finger Side
(SH) while
some of
by tapping
deeply
problem.\" Roll (ER) to lower the distress Eye effects. To do this, tap on the Back of and, moving only your eyes, lookat the
toward
is 0 to 2, do the
straight,
to
complete
the treatment
head
and
then
slowly
raise your
less
eyes up
frequent.
the
ceiling.
time,
If shame
about
shame
Loneliness
There is
national
loneliness
little
doubt
that
that
human
36
contact
percent
survey found
(Olds,
to
of all
contact,
Schwartz,
share
loneliness,
in which
lack friends
understand
blaming you differently
emotional
social
loneliness,
your
in which
life. To clearlyaffect
create
you
must
loneliness,
or anyone
to
about
about to do
you
people
live often forces people away from society in which we currently their families and, in part, forcesthem to recreatea sense of to ward off community a For those who of chronic loneliness, however, feeling lonely. experience pattern there probably are multiple issuespresent, such as feelings of depression, shame, and treated Each of these must be before of loneliness can be rejection. your pattern broken. You should also look at how you escape from loneliness. For example, do you use drugs, watch an excessive amount of television, or even read too much? If become aware of your escape mechanisms, which are part of the way you you then can treat them are as well.These mechanisms sabotage yourself, escape you another form of psychological reversals. Lonelinessis not always a response to being in the company alone. Some people feel habitually of others, whereas other lonely
change
The mobile
feel
quite
comfortable
being
alone.
Treatment
Sequence
about
for Loneliness
of loneliness.
10
1.
Think
your stress.
feelings
scale of
indicating
0 to 10, with
possibility\"
representing
the highest
no
2. Treat
Hand
of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of the Sore w hile three times, or saying (SH) Spot (SS) thinking \"I even It I'm also be to tap accept though deeply myself lonely.\" may helpful \"I the SH or rub the SSwhile saying, with all accept myself my problems and
for the
or rubbing
limitations.\"
Overcoming
Anger,
Rage, Guilt,
and
Shame
103
2 (UCB)
SS or
for
Sore Spot
or
Massive
Recurring
Reversals
Diagram
Fourteen:
Loneliness
Treatment Sequencefor
Meridian
Loneliness
Location
1
2
Back
of
hand
between
fingers
One
inch
under
collarbone near
104
Energy
Tapping
3. Look at
the chart and at diagram14to identify the locations for the meridian Hand and Back of Under Collarbone While (BH) (UCB). points thinking about loneliness into it so much that (don't your get you experience any on the BH twenty to fifty times and major discomfortduring the process), tap then tap on the UCB five times. them the in Tap following order l->2. Tap hard to feel it. The shouldn't causeany pain. only enough tapping
for
4.
loneliness on a 0 to 10scale should (a number just pop into is no decrease, back to 2 and the go step cycle through If there is a after three this not decrease sequence again. attempts, probably is not an appropriate sequence for this or else there is another sabotaging event, belief (i.e.,reversal) that needs correction. (See step 8.)
Again,
rate your
your mind). If
there
5. Next, do the
(BH)
then
Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Backof rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, a tune, counting to five, and humming humming again.
Hand
while
6. Repeat
7.
Again,
your
level of
the
distress
0 to
from
the
distress
is
within
repeat
the treatment
while
loneliness\342\200\224or even
relief from
several times while you are thinking you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before
2 range,
When need
to
about
you
your
feel
complete
8.
As
long
as
until
is a
a mini-reversal. Treat this by tapping on the point, this indicates while \"I of Hand three times, (SH) accept finger saying deeply even though I still have some of this problem.\" myself,
stalls
little
sequence
is very
with
treatment
the
at any
Side
9. When
further
is 0 to 2, do the
straight,
to
complete
the treatment
head
effects. To do
moving
toward
Eye
Roll
(ER) to
this,
lower the
tap
distress
Back of
on
the
and,
only your
the
and
then
eyes up
ceiling.
loneliness should return at a later time, repeatthesetreatments. time, symptoms will become less and less frequent. loneliness and their Once you have treated the reversals surrounding your in and it is time to make some behaviors, feelings changes your life. accompanying with That it's time to the behaviors use to loneliness is, healthy, replace you escape more productive ones.If you like to read, for example, attend author events at your will begin to recognize local bookstore and spend a few hours there. In time, you in reading, it will be a interest Because have common other customers. you already is to take a class that teaches a topic in easier to start a conversation.Another option on almost every which you are interested. Therearenumerous classes available is to get out there and meetpeople who have similar interests as you. The subject. goal will social reduce of loneliness Once you do, you life\342\200\224and expand feelings your your considerably.
If the
feelings of
In
recurrence
of loneliness
Overcoming
Anger,
Rage,
Guilt, and
Shame
105
is one of the hardest feelings to accept, even rejection though can feel a You when are to sell rejected product for everyone. you trying or an idea to your boss. Feelings of can also surface when you rejection a date or when you are not askedout ask someone out for dates. of for Regardless when the feeling arises, no onelikesbeing feels it like rejected; you just got slapped it hurts. and The treatment of sequence that follows will help you soothe feelings in If is a hand other issues are at and rejection. rejection pattern your life, however, vou need to figure out what you are doing to help create it.
doubt
that
Treatment
for
Rejection
situation
for
event.
which
Rate
single,specific personor
stress.
you
your
10 representing the
the
highest level of
should be a scale of 0 to
no
and
0 indicating
2.
of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of possibility\" three times, while or saying rubbing the SoreSpot (SS) thinking \"I It alsomay be helpful to accept deeply myself even though I feel rejected.\" with all my problems tap the SH or rub the SS while saying, \"I accept myself
Treat
for
Hand
(SH) or
and
3.
limitations.\"
Look
at the
chart and
While
at
points
Collarbone
for Eyebrow
(UCB).
diagram
15 to
identify
Under
(UE),
about
discomfort
experience any major during tap five times in at each of these meridian them the points. following order: Tap hard to cause l->2->3->4. feel it. The shouldn't Tap enough only tapping any
that you
the process),
pain.
the rejection
it
so much
4.
should rejection on a 0 to 10 scale(a number just pop into is no decrease, the through go back to step 2 and cycle three this probably is sequence again. If there is not a decreaseafter attempts, for this not an appropriate sequence or else there is another sabotaging event, that needs belief (i.e.,reversal) correction. (See step 8.)
Again,
rate your
your mind). If
there
5. Next, do the
Brain
Balancer
(BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating then humming a tune, counting to five, and 6. Repeat the tapping sequence l->2->3->4.
7.
(BB) by
tapping repeatedly
your
at
the
Back
of Hand
eyes
counterclockwise,
humming
again.
Again,
rate
your
level of
the
distress
0 to
from
the
distress
is
within
repeat
the treatment
while
even rejection\342\200\224or
relief from
the distressfulsituation.
there
there
several times while you are thinking you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before
2 range,
When need
to
about
you
your
feel
complete with
8.
As
long
as
until
is a
are
sequence
continue remaining.
the
If the
106
Energy
Tapping
4 (UCB)
SS or
for
Sore Spot
or
Massive
Recurring
Reversals
Diagram
Fifteen
: Rejection
Treatment
Meridian
Sequence
for Rejection
Location
(EB)
Eyebrow
1
2 3
(UCB)
Under
Eye (UE)
Arm
Under
Under
(UA)
Collarbone
near Beginning eyebrow bridge Under the center eye on the tip Six inches armpit One inch under collarbone near
of of under
of nose
of bone
throat
Overcoming
Anger,
Rage, Guilt,
and
Shame
107
9.
a mini-reversal. Treat this by any point, this indicates Side of Hand while three \"I deeply times, (SH) finger saying tapping I have even still some of this accept myself, though problem.\" When the distress level is between0 to 2, do the Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further or to complete the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.
treatment
on
stalls at
little
the
If your feelings of rejection should return at a later these treatments. and of rejection symptoms will less time, recurrence frequent. Once you have treated your feelingsof rejection and any other related problems, are vou to develop your new strategies.This may mean more ready acquiring tactics. The question you are always I doing or new to answer is \"Am knowledge trying In
time,repeat becomeless
problem?\"
Once
you
alternatives
able
to see
new
treat any
to
related
old
your
approach.
Erasing
The
Those
sequences
that,
Negative
in this cases,
you
Feelings
there
treatment
sequence
referred
in
to as
many
quickly
are
is another
treatment
is
feelings. This
treatment
(MET).
The basic
approach is similar to
prior sequences
Midline
which
already
familiar.
Energy
about
Treatment (MET)
problem
1.
Think
the
problem (e.g.,
distress
you want
emotion,
behavior,
on
a scale
of 0
to 10, with
to treat. It should be a single,specific belief, etc.). Rate your level of limiting the highest level of distress 10 representing
2.
Treat
for
Hand
\"I
(SH)
also
with
deeply
may
problems and limitations.\" at the chart and at diagram 3. Look 16 to identify the locations for the meridian for Forehead Under Nose and (F), (UN), Under Bottom (UBL), points Lip Chest (CH). While thinking the problem about (don't get into it so much that at ten times you experience any major discomfort during the process), tap in the following each of these meridian points.Tap them order l->2->3->4. shouldn't cause any pain. Tap only hard enoughto feelit. The tapping 4. Again, rate your problem on a 0 to 10scale number should (a just pop into there 2 If is no back to and decrease, go your mind). step cyclethrough the is a three this is probably If there not decrease after sequence again. attempts, not an appropriate sequence or there is another for this else problem, that belief needs correction. (i.e., reversal) (Seestep 8.) sabotaging
all my
of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the of possibility or rubbing the Sore Spot while or saying three times, thinking even though I have this problem.\"(Be accept myself be helpful to tap the SH or rub the SS while saying, \"I accept myself
the
Side
(SS)
It specific.)
108
Energy
Tapping
2 (UN)
4(CH)
SS or SoreSpot
for
Massive
or
Recurring Reversals
Diagram
Sixteen:
Midline
Energy Treatment
Midline
Meridian
Sequence
Forehead
(F)
One inch
Under
Under
Nose
Bottom
(UN)
Lip
nose
upper lip
and chest
Under
Chest
(UBL)
3
4
Depression
lip your
chin
(CH)
Upper section
Overcoming
and
Shame
109
5. Next,
at the Back of Hand do the Brain Balancer(BB) by tapping repeatedly while (BH) rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating point your eyes a tune, counting to five, then and counterclockwise, humming humming again.
6. Repeat
7.
Again,
your
level of
the several
distress
0 to times
from
0 to
10. It
step
should be
9. Sometimes
thinking
lower yet.
about
When
the
distress
is
within
2 range,
go
to
you'll need to
your feel complete
while
you are
while
relief from
the distressfulsituation.
there
there
actual situation\342\200\224before
you
8.
As
long
as
until
is a
are
sequence
treatment
tapping
accept
a mini-reversal. Treat this by point, this indicates while three on the little finger Side of Hand (SH) times, \"I deeply saying I still have this even some of though problem.\" myself,
stalls at any
continue remaining.
with
the
If the
9. When
further
is 0 to 2, do the
to
Hand (BH), hold your head straight, and then slowly raise your floor
If the
MET
complete
the treatment
Roll (ER) to lower the distress Eye effects. To do this, tap on the Back of and, moving only your eyes, lookat the
distress
In
sequence.
the ceiling. eyes up toward at a later associated with the issue shouldreturn of the become recurrence will lessand time, problem
time, repeat
less
the
likely.
Summary
The treatments in this chapter can be usedaloneor with other treatments described involve of in this book. Traumatic events, for example, often feelings anger, guilt, or with the treatments outlined in chapter 10,if you shame.After treating the trauma in this should continue to experience some negative emotion,the treatments chapter will help you to apply the finishing touches. after treating any problem, such as Also, a panic attack, had the problem feel guilty or angry with yourself for having you may in the first place. This can occurwhen the problem other of your life. If affects areas treat these negative feelings with the treatments described this is the case,you should in if don't treat these secondary negative emotions,over this Remember, chapter. you true when time, they can cause the original problem to return. This is especially with or forgiveness. After successfully treating a problem, you may find it dealing anger had the problem in the first place. To for having helpful to routinely forgive yourself for anger and guilt. do this, follow the treatment sequences
CHAFTiR
Feeling
Good
Again
Although
millions
of Americans
significant
seem to
difference
a \"low mood.\"For the most part, the differenceis determined the of degree by severity and longevity. A low, blue mood for a day, for example, its Life invariably has its of as clinical depression. regardless depth, does not qualify and can An as clinical downs. low mood, however, unrelenting mildly qualify ups at least a for two weeks and includes For if low mood depression. example, persists
might
depressed, there is a
be
believe
that
they
are
clinical
depression
and what
referred
to as
be present depression may symptomssuchas thoselistedbelow,clinical are the is advisable. the professional treatment longer you depressed, Generally is required to resolve the depression.
Symptoms \342\200\242 \342\200\242
and
more
effort
of
clinical concentrating
depression
include:
Difficulty Fatigue
energy,
or anergia
making
Difficulty
decisions asleep
falling
Frequent Early
awakening
\342\200\242 Excessive \342\200\242 Low \342\200\242 Excessive \342\200\242 Loss \342\200\242 \342\200\242 \342\200\242
pleasure
of of
in previously
enjoyable
activities
guilt
thoughts thoughts
112
Energy Tapping
The
There
Drugging
are
of America
a number of options for treating depression.Somephysicians tend to rely on medication, Tofranil, Prozac, Zoloft, antidepressant including Sinequan, heavily in fact, have become so medications, Paxil, Serzone, Remeron, and more.Psychiatric in are that and such demand popular high many physicians may feel compelledto them even when not be to prescribe they may entirely necessary.In addition conventional medications, alternative such as or St. antidepressants, Hypericum perforatum have been to be effective in clinical John's Wort, reported treating depression (Lockie
and Geddes 1995; Linde and Ramirez 1996). Used properly, medication can be a useful
antidepressant
adjunct
depression
can
medication,
or with
do not cure depressionbecause address one of commonly, antidepressants they only its causes\342\200\224a chemical imbalance. As a result, depression frequently returns after is discontinued, medication even when it is discontinued In the majority of gradually. cases where medication is deemed necessary, the best approach is to receive in conjunction treatment with the medication. psychological Be aware:Certain illnesses are known to produce feelingsand physical behaviors similar to depression. For example, an underactive thyroid or anemia, gland, nutritional deficiencies can cause sluggishness and awareness. Before fogged that causes of concluding you are clinically depressed, be certain to examineall possible
how
of
short-term use of
it.
Most
you
are
feeling.
What
A
Causes
of
Depression?
affect depression.
in
number
factors
intricately
aspects
involved
depression,
the
such
amygdala
to
depression,
and norepinephrine),
uninterested,
Certain areas of the brain, for instance, are as those that are instrumental in regulating and there are thalamus). Additionally,
(e.g.,
serotonin
currents
within
excessively.
our
neurotransmitters
that
perhaps
anxious;
This
is the
exercise,
cause of
can
you may
and you
become sluggish,
address.
depression
nutrition,
however,
antidepressant
But
neurotransmitters aerobic
often
be increased
remedies.
Surely,
proper
question,
The
with changes associated themselves. must set the ball by Something proverbial
the brain
and chemical
of
vitamins, full-spectrum light, and certain is what triggers depression in the first
depression
by means other
medication,
including
herbal
place?
don't
happen
it
all
the
in motion, or past
rolling events
sort.
the
down
hill
traumatic
toward
In most
to
the valley
instances,
degree
a
depression. recent
that
some
of
the death
financial
however,
loved
ruin all
if
you
instance,
depressed
can instigate the onsetof depression. For depression must believe that the events occurring are significantly lost a job that you disliked very much, rather than you about it, you might actually feel relief or joy. Conversely,
and involve real or anticipatedlossof some and one, the loss of a job, health problems,
depression is triggered by
are
to result,
negative. feeling when
or feel
fee
.ng
Good
Again
113
the What loss. you have negative, perhaps catastrophicthoughts about about a situation, therefore, greatly affects your depression probability. iThis is the core of cognitive which assumes that what you think therapy, directly into
how
So far, the
you
depression chain of
occurs.
feel.)
causes
looks
something
like this:
1.
3.
loss
event
2. You have
frequent unsettling thoughts about Next, certain instrumental areas of the brain
to
this
event.
that
are involved
in emotion
disturbing
become activated
produce
negative
emotions.
unbalanced
body chemicalsbecome
as
5. Depression results.
Somewhere energy is involved. Energy For operates your system. depressive thoughts to have an impact on certain areas of your brain and neurochemistry, the thoughts need to have within them certain electrical or electromagnetic features. These features, in turn, the brain stimulate is centers and cause the depletion of neurochemicals. real; it (i.e., Energy thought) with interacts in profound ways. your body As an example,vividly into a lemon or a lime. What imagine biting happens? that a Most bitter sensation on their tongue,even people report they experience in reality, there in thought. How does this happen? is no citrus fruit though simply is the lemon or the lime? Your Where about the citrus sends a message to thinking the brain similar to sendingelectricity a which results in a puckering wire, through The same is true for experiences of anger,guilt, jealousy, and even sensation. anxiety,
This
formula,
however,
is incomplete.
nervous
depression.
affect certain depression probability. thinking carry electromagnetic so that the entire depression chain of causes can take place.Then, the charges carries The messages to your senses, throughout your specifically charged thought body. for depression, therefore, might be revised as follows: formula
or chemistry,
isn't simply
the
a matter
four
of the
are
situation, the
and
brain, the
your
thoughts,
although all
important
can greatly
Instead,
must
1.
loss
event
occurs.
about contain
this certain
event. disrupted
energy
characteristics.
4.
features of the
brain
in thoughts
involved
emotion.
5. Neurochemicals
become imbalanced
6.
Of
factors
Depression
results.
course,
indicate
this is
in some
formula
for
There
involved
siblings
that
(Kendler,
Walters,
Truett, et'al.
heredity
twin
depression
1994).
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Energy
Tapping
Energy
Psychology
Helps
your energy
treatments.
to
system is out of
These serve
of
Relieve
When
Depression
feel
energy
you
balanceby
of
depressed,
psychology
the
points in specificways,
energy
depression,
which becomes
is within
negative
the realm
energetic
energy.
features
like
system
that
that
balanced,
and the
as being
audiotape
caused by an
produce
field
It can be returned to balance. to remove the most basiccause on specific energy By tapping of thoughts are removed, your
of
depression
causes
examples
to be
of
how
this
when you play the tape.Stimulating the energy system thus erasing the depression.Followingare some has worked for others.
the music
energy
erased,
field\342\200\224much
the
magnetic
impressions
on an
Depression:
Case
Study
David had been experiencingdepression for than six months. Although more his physician placedhim on an antidepressant he found that it wasn't medication, him much, if at all. He took the BeckDepression test, which (BDI) helping Inventory determined that his level of depression He decided to participate in was severe. he had not done before. psychotherapy, something After the various issues involved in his depression, David was discussing advised to explore energy therapy. In David's first he was reminded that session, in a there are chemical involved and is this although aspects depression, why his
an physicianhad chosento prescribe fundamentally
caused
told
that his
is
week.
with can be relieved certain quite rapidly be in David did not need to techniques. caught an is to take into consideration (This depression-producing thoughts. important In this regard, we emphasized that account with problem.) any psychological the to focus on negative issues causes energy imbalance, affects continuing negatively a and nervous chemical more. imbalance, system, produces in the energy treatment David took this advice to heart as he openly engaged in this In for later less than five minutes, chapter). sequence depression (provided the David's was After treatment depression gone. original sequence, the importance in was the of David not getting and reemphasized, caught up depressive thinking treatment was reviewed so that he could if sequence repeat it, necessary, during the
by our disturbing
antidepressant
medication, an
depression
is
he
was
electrical
or electromagnetic
aspect that
involved
was
It
also
When
vanished.
the took for his session the following week, he again and H e was notable was evident. no longer inventory (BDI), improvement The treatment depressed, although mild depression remained evident. the from the previous week were repeated and residual again depression
David
returned
During his
third
appointment,
the
depression
of
inventory
depression. He said,
again.
At
this
point,
there
was no
evidence
clinical time.
He was
\"It's uncanny!\"
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115
With
discontinued.
the assistance
A
of his
telephone
physician,David'santidepressant
contact six
medication there
was was
follow-up
no
recurrence
of depression. David
The
Jennifer
Death
was
of a
a high
Boyfriend:
school
when he developed a serious condition and respiratory deteriorated and soon became rapidly, eventually dying. Jennifer grieved deeply clinically She missed in her Chris, felt lost without him, and was plagued depressed. images by Her her mind of when he was in his debilitatedcondition, on suffering. physician put a medication. She also saw who her to discuss antidepressant encouraged therapist her grief, to review of the events that transpired during Chris's illness, and to many her him to his focus on illness. Unfortunately, none of this positive memories of prior and, in fact, she becameincreasingly Jennifer depressed. helped Psychiatric
tor more than
nineteen-year-old
Chris
two years
hospitalization
was
considered.
great distress.
Next, of
the past. psychology, Jennifer didn't have to focuson events from objective was to have her briefly tune in to the images that were contributing loss of pleasure, to her depression, including symptoms of sleeplessness, crying, poor at the time as being the highest level possible. Her appetite,etc.Sheratedthe distress was one of Chris lying on the couch suffering as he was visual image having was taken through the highly complextrauma treatment Jennifer (see difficulty breathing. a matter of ten minutes, that image no longer causedher 10) and, within chapter
With
energy
The first
we
focused had
at all. Throughout the treatment she It's but it's weird, good.\" frequently When was Jennifer following week she indicated that she had not felt the treatment. In all, only a few visits were initial depressed for three days after neededto help Jennifer improve her mood tremendously. She found it much easierto she sleptand ate better, and her interest in life and teenageactivities concentrate, in social involved returned. Her full-blown never returned. She became depression In with started consultation our activities with friends and eventually dating again.
Jenniferwas
of her hand between the little finger and ring finger (BH) while continuing to focus she described as being centered \"in my heart.\" on the feelingsof depression, which she was asked to tap under the collarbone As her feelings of depression decreased, a few minutes a few times and then return to tapping on the BH.Within (UCB)
not
depression
on her residual feelings of depression. By this time, the feeling decreased significantly. Jennifer was encouragedto tap on the back
experiencing
any depression
exclaimed,
\"This
treatment
of
Jennifer's
depression,
her physician
tapered her
off
the
antidepressant
medication.
Switching
As previously
alleviate neurologic
depression disorganization
alleviate
due
treatment will not work to mentioned,sometimes sequences to an even more pervasiveenergydisruption referredto as
or
depression
do not
the treatment If you find that switching. or low mood, or if they are inefficient,
sequences
correcting
below
possible
116
Energy Tapping
switching may
switchingand
be just what
you
need.
See chapter
2 for
more information
on
an
exercise
to treat it.
Basic
Treatment
Think
for Depression
your
1.
about
feelings
10
scale of
indicating
0 to 10, with
stress.
of depression.
representing
the highest
on
no
2. Treat
Hand
\"I
for the
possibility of
the SSwhile
reversal on the Side of by tapping repeatedly the Sore Spot (SS) while or thinking saying three times, even though I'm depressed.\" It alsomay be helpful to saying,
\"I accept
myself
with
all
my
problems
at diagram 17 to identify the locations for the meridian and Under Collarbone While (BH) (UCB). thinking about into so that it much (don't get your depression you experience any on BH fifty times or more until major discomfortduring the process), tap you a decrease in depression, and then notice on the UCB five times. Tap tap them in the following order l->2. Tap only hard enough to feel it. The
and
of Hand
tapping
shouldn't
cause
any
pain.
number
(a depressionon a 0 to 10scale
should
your mind). If
there
is no
sequence
belief
again.
If there
just pop
into
attempts,
this is
event,
or else
there is another
probably
reversal) the
that
needs
8.)
sabotaging
5.
Next,
Brain
Balancer
your
(BB) by
tapping repeatedly
rotating
and
eyes
clockwise,
hurrvming
again.
9.Sometimes
to
your
symptoms.
depression\342\200\224before
you
feel
complete
relief from
the depression
8.
with the is a decreasein the level of depression, continue If the treatment is very little or no depressionremaining. stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treatthis by tapping on the while saying three times, \"I deeply little finger Side of Hand (SH) accept even though I still have some of this depression.\" myself,
As
long
as there
until
sequence
there
9. When
further
the depression level is 0 to 2, do the Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress or to complete the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of head Hand (BH), hold your and, moving only your eyes,lookat the straight, the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward ceiling.
^ee
>ng
Good
Again
117
2 (UCB)
SS or SoreSpot
for
Massive
or
Recurring
Reversals
Diagram
Seventeen:
Basic
Depression
Basic
Treatment
Sequence
for Depression
Meridian
Back of
Under
Hand
(BH)
and
ring
throat
fingers
Collarbone (UCB)
118
Energy Tapping
If the
treatments. frequent.
feelings
time, many
of
depression
In For
recurrence people,
return at a later time, repeat these should of depression symptoms will becomelessand less it will be unlikely for depression to recur at all.
Complex
When
Treatment
Basic
for
Sequence
Depression
for depression does not alleviate your In more some this is due to is instances, complex. likely depression another level of psychological that must be corrected before the depression reversal treatment will be effective to tap at (see chapter 6). For example,it may be necessary I the Under Nose(UN), while \"I if never over this accept myself deeply get saying, In reversals also be other it is not instances, (Alternative involved.) depression.\" may a matter of a reversal, but in rather that is more a pervasively your energy system state of disruption, requiring more treatment the points. Essentially, Complex Depression Treatment involves additional treatment points with the Sequence combining
the
Treatment
symptoms,
it is
that the
Basic
Depression
Treatment
about
Sequence.
feelings
10
detailed
description
of this
of
process follows:
depression
1. Think
your
scale from
indicating no stress.
0 to 10, with
of depression.
representing
on
highest
level of
distress and 0
2.
Treat
for
the
Hand
\"I
(SH)
possibility or rubbing
deeply
accept
and limitations.\"
Look
of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of while or saying the Sore Spot (SS) three times, thinking It also myself even though I'm depressed.\" may be helpful to with all my problems the SS while saying, \"I accept myself
at
3.
at the
Bottom
chart and
Lip
points
Finger
Under
for Eyebrow
(LF),
(EB),Side of
(UBL),
diagram
18 to
Eye
identify
Under
(SE),
While
Under
Arm (UA),
Under Collarbone(UCB),Little
the locations for the meridian Eye (UE), Under Nose (UN),
and
it
Index
so five
much
tapping
about Finger (IF). thinking your depression that you experience any major discomfortduring in the times at each of these meridian points. them Tap
4.
the above sequence, identify the location for the meridian While of Hand (BH)and UnderCollarbone (UCB). thinking times or more until you notice a your depression, tap on BH fifty decreasein depression, and then tap on the UCB five times (seeBasic
After
completing
points about
for Back
Depression Treatment
Sequence
chart
above).
needs correction. that (See step 9.) sabotaging belief (i.e.,reversal) 6. Next, do the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Back of Hand (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, then humming a tune, counting to five, and humming again.
into on a 0 to 10 scale (a number should depression just pop 2 there backto and the If is no decrease, mind). your go step cycle through If there not a decrease after three this is is sequence again. attempts, probably not an appropriate sequencefor your depression, or else there is another
He
mg
Good
Again
119
SS or Sore Spot
for
Massive
or
Recurring Reversals
(IF)
Diagram
Eighteen:
Complex
Depression
Complex
Treatment
Sequence
Meridian
Location
Eyebrow (EB)
Side
1
(SE)
Beginning
of
eyebrow
at
bridge
of
Eye
Under Eye
Under
(UE)
(UN)
UnderNose
Bottom
Arm
2 3 4
(UBL) (UCB)
5 6
Side of eye on bony orbit near temple Under the centerof eye on tip of bone Above upper lip and below the centerof
Under Six
near One inch under collarbone
nose
Lip
(UA)
Under
Under
of
chin
Collarbone
7
8
throat
Inside
Index Finger(IF)
Inside
of
index
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Energy
Tapping
7. Repeat
BH->UCB
by
the
of
depression
from 0 to feel
the
need
depression to repeat
several
you
are
thinking
about your
symptoms.
depression\342\200\224before
complete
relief from
the depression
9.
As
with the is a decreasein the level of depression, continue If the no is little or sequence depression remaining. very at any point, this indicates a mini-reversal. Treat this by tapping treatment stalls while three on the little finger Side of Hand times, \"I deeply (SH) saying I have some of this even still accept depression.\" myself, though long
as there
until
there
10. When
distress
Roll (ER) to lower the Eye effects. To do this, tap on the Back the treatment complete of Hand (BH), hold your head and, straight, moving only your eyes, lookat the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.
is 0 to 2, do the
further
If the feelings of depression should happento return treatments.In time,recurrence of symptoms depression
frequent.
For
many
people,
it will
be unlikely
for
the
Depression
Many
Triggered
believe\342\200\224and
by Anger
in
turned event is, someundesirable happened beat yourself an unhealthy dose of depression. up by suffering to chapter to the events that have led to the depression is important. Referring 10, also as traumas and forgive yourself by using the anger you can treat these events and outlined in chapter 8. If the anger at yourself is extreme, the guilt treatments treatment for rage, also in chapter 8, may be needed.
therapists
many
cases
it is
has
true\342\200\224that
inward.\" That
Depression
Often
and Anxiety
and
depression
anxiety
nervousness,and
perhaps
fear
of
of the
feeling and
feel
state
affairs.
depressed
about
in addition
to the depression.Seechapter7
being
are intermixed. Anxiety is a feeling of dread, worst happening. Depression is a down or a de-pressed feel anxiousabout or can often Also, you beingdepressed to treat the anxiety anxious. In such cases, it is important
for
effective
anxiety
reduction
treatments.
Losses
Frequently,
That
significant
Cause
losses
Depression
are involved
important
for you
of the
trauma treatment
in depression. If this is the case, it may it with loss as a trauma and neutralize
10
be
one
sequences. (Seechapter
for
more
information.)
121
Massive
Psychological
commonly
Reversals
involved
Massivereversal is
important
in
to frequently
during
intricate treatment
the period
treatment for
when you
depression
(see chapter
6). Often,
the standard
treatment
it
is
throughout
treating
yourself
for depression.
massive
least
five times
beneficialif
day
at
1.
Briskly
the
Sore Spot
even
\"I deeply
(SS) on the left side of your chest while saying and profoundly accept myself with all my
though
I'm
depressed.\"
times,
limitations,
if
at the Under Nose (UN) while saying or thinking three and profoundly accept myself with all my problems and I never get over this depression.\"
\"I
3. Tap
deeply
at
the
and
if
even
Bottom Lip (UBL) while saying or thinking with all profoundly accept myself problems my don't deserve to get over this depression.\"
Under
three
and
times,
\"I
limitations,
Quit
As
Thinking
there
So Much
many
causeis the depression,although the energetic with is much interrelated your thinking very your and have some \"bad habits over the years. energy you may developed thinking\" Even though you have balancedyour energy, it is advisable to observe the connection between your thoughts and when your feelings. Recognizing you are entertaining that in the What fostered is an thoughts past your depression important step. you need are alternative solutionsso you can readily dismiss such thoughts. For example, if reoccur when you are alonetoo much,then take the must depressive thoughts you time to develop a moreactive after social life. This can be as simple as taking classes in work or learning new hobbiesor skills. This to remain a more will help you in balanced state of mind and energy, aiding the specificenergetic treatments provided
noted,
are
causes of
most
fundamental.
Nonetheless,
this
is important to note that dismissing does not mean depressive thoughts to the to suppress them.When just trying you suppress, you're push thought out of but what are still believe that is true. Instead, thinking your mind, you essentially you to make a need shift in of understanding you your depressive thoughts. That is, you need to recognize that the real causeof the depression is the connection between your and As allow such to thoughts thoughts energy. you evaporate, you will see that they were not the truth at all, but rather were a distorted way of thinking about your life to be true because your energy system was and yourself.The thought only appeared In the is a or an and need essence, illusion, disrupted. depressive thought mirage you about it. Once you are able to see through it, your energy will to become dis-illusioned
be
book. It also
balanced.
122
Energy Tapping
offered
information
about
clinical
and
that
Although
we
have
provided
treatment
proven
disease,
to be
self-help
suggestions
effective in the
is
detailed energy
of
psychologytreatments
related
you
it
have
depression
find
not
to
these
taking
always
alleviate
sufficient. If you
depression,
for
wonderful\342\200\224keep
However,
if
the
treatments
this
have
as an We
for
treatable.
professional
assistance
in approach described
advised against you, you are strongly is eminently help is not available.Depression encourage you to contact a qualified mental health with general and to assist you specifically regard to the energy
this
book.
CHAPTER
10
Resolving
Trauma
and
Painful
Memories
Rapidly
We
must
rid
ourselves today's
to
receive
Banks
Painful
traumatic
memories
events
are the
far too
result
of
and physical health improve. The treatment in this chapter sequences kinds of trauma have had on your life. you to eliminatethe impact various Have you ever wondered about why you consciously remember so little your information is nonetheless stored inside past? Whether you remember or not, all that the not to your you think, feel, and behave. This you, affecting way only applies memories of traumatic but also to those that remember as positive and events, you The neutral. Your conscious mind has a limited capacity for information. storing in of life is stored as memories filed unconscious mind. majority your away your or thinking Current events about a specific time frame in your life may trigger these memories.If a memory pops up in certain situations or at certain times, it probably has meaning to you. You must evaluate the memory and determine event if the you remember had a traumatic on In most the answeris self-evident. cases, impact you. this addresses the treatment of major traumas, Although chapter primarily you don't want to overlookother negativeevents that may have altered and shaped your life. These events,however, are usually not as traumas. They can classified clinically be events that occurred when you were much younger and now, as an adult, you
and
societyand are the cause of many and that psychological problems unhappiness. Many health care professionalsalsobelieve is a major contributing cause of many trauma such as cancer and disorders, physical heart disease. When the attached to the memoriesof these emotions distressing traumas are their negative effects dissipate as well.Forexample, eliminated, relationships
are
experiencing
traumatic
events.
Unfortunately,
common in today's
emotional
will help
124
Energy
Tapping
should be viewed as trivial. At the time that the incident occurred, to you. the not have the resources now available Therefore, coping you event may have left an emotional mark on you. That is, it may have lowered your sense of self or contributed to your not a part of yourself. This is accepting how imbalances and reversals are created. frequently energy It is amazing how a cruelremarkmade an acquaintance or even a stranger by a have effect on One for woman, significant, long-lasting you. example, said that may a remark made by a shoe salesmantwenty continued to affect the way she ago years about felt herself It can be that Of this doesn't mean that all course, today. simple. events that when were have a will negative happened lasting impact on you younger But or if an incident hurt affected the feel about yourself, you. your feelings way you with it's time to treat that memory the techniques covered in this chapter. There is no shortageof major traumas. the death of a child is the Generally, in most traumatic.In 1997, the United States alone, there were 28,000infant deaths and an additional and young adults ages one to twenty-four 46,000 deaths of children Institute for Health Statistics 1997).Additionally,crimevictims are (National and the often Each there are retraumatizes them. millions traumatized, process year judicial of reported crimes involving and assault. there are countless Further, rape, robbery, families traumatized in the by the 20,000 homicides and 30,000 suicides each year United States alone (National Institute for Health Statistics Other traumatic 1997). events include sexualabuse,incest,natural car accidents, and more. If you disasters, were traumatized can the events such as use treatments in this chapter these, you by to put these painful memories to rest. Traumas and lingering painful memories can lead to secondary problems, such an to some traumatic as let go of the event. After psychologically \"unwillingness\" in reversal can set and blockyour ability to see the situation events, psychological from any perspectiveother than a distressing one. For example, if you were to lose a child, you might believe that if you allowed yourself to let go of the pain, it would child. from mean that you didn't careabout however, could be further your Nothing, the truth. No matter what you do, you will care about your child and you will always continue to feel sadness and loss. Onceyour is balanced about the energy system no will continue to overwhelm you or prevent event, however, the memory longer on with your life. from you moving
believe
however,
that they
did
alsocan Beingassaulted
either jeopardize
Again,
provoke for
example,
or
your
safety
wrongdoing. the
these
trauma such
resolving
as assault doesnot
trauma
types
invariably
...\" response. If \"unwillingness-to-let-go-of you might feel that letting go of the trauma be equivalent to absolving the perpetrator of of thoughts not accurate. over a Getting
an
are
set
That
is,
person in the
does
it does not cause you to you gained from the if a specific person assaulted you, you still know to avoid that would future. Also, as far as exoneration is concerned, what's right is right,
helps you
to feel and
any
you up
to be
assaulted again.Although
function
better,
useful
information
is
wrong.
that painful
How
the
the
fact
When you
you currently react to your memory of the event was nothing short of evil in his actions. memories, however, you become stronger and better
perpetrator memory.
as
traumatic
shame,
self-blame,
powerlessness,
and resignation.By
reviewing
the
information
Sesolving
Trauma
and
Painful Memories
Rapidly
125
emotions,
it
impact on your energy level.If you are feeling one of these strong that a psychological reversal has occurred, to possible causing you some area of life.In this will also have to treat the case, sabotage your you secondary with the painful memories, in order to resolve the problem.The problems, along in this chapter treatments will make this task easier.
gauge
the trauma's
is
The Treatment
Traumatic
Process
divided
into three groups: simple trauma, complex and trauma, At resolution of traumatic issues times, highly complex may require the who in assistance of a qualified is trained In many psychotherapist energy therapy. in this will cases, however, self-administering the treatment sequences chapter yield
events
are
trauma.
Self-Treatment
There are some when a traumatic memory will continue to bother instances you even after you have attempted to treat it. In these cases, assume that the simply and then cycle through the appropriate trauma has not been completely treated Be optimistic. with treatment Once the pain associated the has sequence again. memory been completely treated, it should never bother There are in instances you again. or which severe stress toxins causea treated psychological energy thoroughly in treating the traumatic problem to return. This is rare, however, and your persistence memories with the sequences in this chapter will pay off in time.
Treatment
for
feel is
Simple
this
Trauma
chapter,
can involve cruel remarks, embarrassing you holding you back. They times when were or mistakes situations, bullied, you perceived you made in life for A which continue to event isolated often can be treated you punish yourself. single this If there is more than one each with however, sequence. part involved, aspect the event should be treated individually, one at a time. For example, let's say that the and was an argument with a friend and that friend said something then, insulting later in the argument, did something elsethat was hurtful. The argument, i.e., the would two distinct aspects, and each would be treated traumatic involve event, that
simple
traumas
separately.
As always,
not
the
event
first
step
in the
treatment
sequence is to
for
moment when the except the event to get of is twofold: recalling memory the tuned in it can a distress rating, and to make surethat is so that problem memory be successfully treated. Concerning the latter, to simply go through energy in to the event possiblycouldresult in a pleasant treatments without tuning psychology but it would do nothing to resolvea specificproblem. The feeling of relaxation, problem must be brought to your awareness,although it need be only at the subtlest level.
necessary
to
of
the
126
Energy
Tapping
2 (UCB)
SS or
for
Sore Spot
or
Massive
Recurring
Reversals
Diagram
Nineteen:
Simple
Trauma
TreatmentSequence
Meridian
for
Simple
Trauma
Location
Eyebrow (EB)
1
2
Beginningof
One
eyebrow
near
bridge
of nose
throat
Under Collarbone(UCB)
inch
under
collarbone near
Resolving
Trauma
and
Painful
Memories
Rapidly
127
1. Think
about a
Rate
traumatic
or
event.
painful and
memory.
It should
0 to
your
level
of distress
distress
on a
scale of
10, with
0 indicating
no stress.
2. Treat for
Hand
of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of or saying the Sore Spot (SS) while three times, thinking \"I be helpful to tap deeply accept myself even though I'm upset.\"It alsomay the SH or rub the SSwhile saying, \"I accept myself with all my problems and can be specific about the event. limitations.\" You
the
possibility
(SH)
or rubbing
3. Look
points
thinking
at for
the
chart
Eyebrow
and
the
locations
While
for the
vaguely
meridian
about
the
event
in
get into
(UCB).
that
it
so
much
five
times
points.Tap
them
the any
It
shouldn't
cause
following pain.
order l->2.
4. Again,
rate your distress on a 0 to 10 scale number should (a just pop into is no decrease, back to 2 and there the go step through cycle a If there is decrease after three is not this again. sequence attempts, probably or else there is another sabotaging not an appropriatesequence for this event, Consider the Complex Trauma belief (i.e.,reversal) that needs correction. your mind). If
Sequence
(in
this
chapter).
Hand
5. Next,
(BH)
then
Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Backof rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, a tune, counting to five, and humming humming again.
do the Brain
while
6. Repeat
7.
Again,
the
distress
the
0 to
repeat
the
treatment
you
several
feel
2 range,
When need
to
times\342\200\224while
are
trauma\342\200\224before
complete
relief from
minking
about
your
the
8.
As
long
as
until
there
there
is a
sequence at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treatthis three Side of Hand while times, (SH) finger saying even though I'm still upset.\"
is very
with
treatment
stalls myself,
tapping
deeply
on the little
accept
9.
When further
the or
distress to
level
complete
straight,
and,
and
then
Roll (ER) to lower the distress To do this, tap on the Back of moving only your eyes, lookat the
toward
eyes up
treated
the
ceiling.
In most
cases, once a
not
has
return.
If distress
be able
distress will become less and frequent. do not change should be noted that the trauma treatment the sequences the upsetting emotional elements of the memories themselves.Rather, eliminate they will still that treated a trauma, So, when you have successfully memory. you
In
successfully with this sequence, a later time, repeat these return at should
been
time,
less
It
notice
to recallthe event
in
detail,
although
you may
it.
128
Energy Tapping
notice
that
you
can actually
is
recall the
you
event
more
because
are no
has
treatments serve to erase the the track visual or sound tracks.Because belief is attached to the the treatment beliefs about the emotional affect track, generally may your them in a more positive direction. trauma, usually moving In some cases, that while the memory no longer bothers however, people report be them, they are no longer able to recall the memory clearly. The imagemight to you, it is described as vague, unclear, disjointed, fragmented,etc. If this happens the not cause for concern. You might like to repeat the treatment, however, because an the event is not and/or sometimes, difficulty seeing hearing although always, the indication that the trauma has not been thoroughly treated. treatment Repeating to clearly see and hear what happened in a calm,relaxed may result in an ability
psychology
negative
upset,
about what
it possible
for you to
though
look unwaveringly
memory
longer distracted by
at
vividly
than event
you and
the
different
tracks: visual,
emotional
track,
not the
manner.
Complex
Trauma
traumatic in
or terms
following
two
traumas
that
can be
resolved by
help you to
energy
using
psychology.
War
Bill
Trauma:
was
A Case
scars
Study
was decorated with honor for his valor in combat. war: an amputated left leg above the knee, a a whole due to and condition respiratory Agent Orange, alcohol and drug dependence, into his dreams at and often host of traumatic memories that found their night, way hours as He flashbacks about surfaced his well. suffered during waking frequent He also who were blown up in the war and the peoplehe had to kill. soldiers fellow of committing maintained the belief that all is hopeless and that he was guilty he was only defending himself in battles, he nonetheless suffered atrocities. Although guilt,
a Vietnam
vet who
of the
However, he borethe
including
survivor's
Bill had
barely
been in
by
guilt.
psychotherapy
before.
and
He
drug
had
tried
energy
rehabilitation,
group work, emotional and so on. He was any help. On the day
psychology,
in life.
she made
of appointment nervous. H e to in Bill was session, exceptionally expected therapy proceed He did not want to take back the same way that he had previously experienced. trips he would into the painful memories, reliving scenesthat prefer had never occurred in the first place. In fact, he would like to forget about them altogether,although that him
a consultation
the
to
see
if
it
would
be of
initial
was
not
possible
more
at the
relaxed,
Vietnam.
time.
Bill described
He
if they
are in
had
a more
secure mood.After
to haunt
that
continued
him
scene
was
engaged
in hand-to-hand
combat and
Resolving
Trauma and
Painful
Memories
Rapidly
129
When
was
told
some other treatments several times and, within the no longer minutes, the memory of that incident bothered what happened clearly,but he no longer turned white, nor did he shake. he was quite calm. With some bewilderment in his voice, Actually, he stated,\"It doesn't bother me. I can see what happened, but it doesn't bother me!\" After the treatment, Bill no longer felt guilty about the event either. He could seeclearly that he had had no alternative other than to defend himself and his fellow soldiersin the war. Bill was seen many times over the next couple years and at no time did that particular memory bother him again.He has remained calm about it ever since. It should be noted,however, that combat that resolving particular was not sufficient to resolve all of Bill's problems. Treatment of many other memory traumatic memories other and issues was needed. He never experienced nightmares, and distress about that specific memory again. Further, as his emotional flashbacks, he experienced improvement in many treatments progressed, energy psychology other areas of his life as well.
repeated
points.He
course
this
and
Rape
When
Trauma:
Barbara
A Case Study
was
years old, her eighteen-year-old boyfriend raped her devastated well into her early thirties. She had an extensivedrug and and alcohol anxious and, in most respects, lived a notably problem depressive treatment at a number of inpatient and lifestyle. Over the years, shereceived outpatient When she began energy psychologytreatments, she was facilities. psychiatric a regime and of psychiatric medications, including Lithium, Prozac, taking Desyrel. Even so, she was not doingwell. her first energy treatment session, Barbara During discussed her rape incident; it was evident that she was traumatized. She cried in many and, deeply respects, seemed to be reliving the event in memory. Shesaid she was to blame, that she should have that she had never listened that known better, to her mother.As she spoke, it was as though she were that thirteen-year-old girl
thirteen
her.
This trauma
once
to the rape,therewas
that
than
again.
her
psychological
problems
question
of
that
great
the event
The
was a significantly
energy
painful
could necessarily
be tracedback
painful
had set
ten
her on a path
and
painful
misery.
trauma treatment
memory.
memory
minutes
it completely
resolved Barbara's
while
Not
did
Barbara no
about
longer feel
emotions
the
situation
treatment
was
when
was completed,
something
of
\"just
Both
treating
the
this
be treated individually,
Treatment
the after changed dramatically as well.Imrnediately she was ableto tell me with obvious that the rape conviction that happened\" in her past and that she was \"not to blame.\" are examples of a complex trauma. Remember, above situations in the traumatic event should type of trauma, each aspect involved
reviewing
and
herself
one
at
a time.
Sequence
about
1.
Think
the
traumatic
and
your
level
of distress
distress
on a scale from
0 indicating
10,
level of
no stress.
130
Energy
Tapping
(EB)
2(UE)
4 (UCB)
SS or SoreSpot
for
Massive
or
Recurring Reversals
Diagram
Twenty:
Complex
Trauma
Treatment
Sequence
for
Complex
Trauma
Meridian
Location
1
Eyebrow (EB)
Under
Beginning
of eyebrow
the
near bridge
eye
of
nose
Eye
Arm
(UE)
2
3
on tip
of bone
under armpit
under
inch
collarbone
near throat
Resolving
Trauma
and
Painful Memories
Rapidly
131
2.
Treat
Hand
\"I
for the
(SH) accept
possibility
of
reversal
by
tapping
or rubbing
deeply
can be
the Sore Spot (SS) while thinking even I'm though myself upset about
be
repeatedly
what
on the
happened.\"
Side of
You
the
or saying
three times,
helpful
SS while
accept
myself
with
all my
problems and
to tap
the SH or rub
limitations.\"
3. Look at the chart and at diagram 20 to identify the location for the meridian and Under (EB), Under (UA), points for Eyebrow Eye (UE), Under Arm While about the event (don't get into it so much that Collarbone (UCB). thinking you experience any major discomfort during the process), tap five times at each of these meridian points.Tap them in the following order l->2->3->4. cause any pain. shouldn't Tap only hard enoughto feelit. The tapping 4. Again, rate your distress on a 0 to 10 scale number should (a just pop into If there is 2 the no back to and decrease, go your mind). step cyclethrough If there is a not decrease after three this is sequence again. attempts, probably this not an appropriate sequence for or else there is another sabotaging event, belief (i.e.,reversal) that needs As an alternative, consider the correction.
Highly
Complex
Trauma
Sequence
(later
in
this
chapter).
5. Next,
(BH)
do the Brain Balancer(BB) by tapping rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating then humming a tune, counting to five, and
while
repeatedly
your
at the
eyes
Back of
Hand
counterclockwise,
hurrvming
again.
6. Repeat
7.
the tapping sequence l->2->3->4. rate your level of distress from 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. When Again, 0 to 2 range, go to step 9.Sometimes the distress is within the need to you'll the several treatment times\342\200\224while are about repeat thinking your you feel complete trauma\342\200\224before relief from the distressing situation. you
As as there is a decrease in the level of distress, with the continue long If the treatment stalls sequence until there is very little or no stress remaining. at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treat this on the little by tapping (SH) while finger Side of Hand saying three times, \"I deeply accept myself, even though I'm still upset.\" When further
8.
9.
the or
distress to
level
complete
Roll
(ER) to
lower the
tap
distress
Back of
To do this,
the
on
the
straight,
and,
moving
toward
and
then
only your
ceiling.
eyes up
In most
cases, once a
not In
has
been
successfully
treated
return. time,
these
treatments.
Highly
Complex as you
Trauma
One analogy or
dispenser.
As
soon
traumas is that of a cafeteria highly complex tray was remove one tray, another pops into place.If the objective the would continue after to remove one another, trays, you trays, The same line of reasoning had been removed. to many applies
image for
132
Energy
Tapping
psychological
and
emotional
be layered, one on top of another. Arthur Koestler (1967)coinedthe term \"holon\" this concept. A holon to describe is composed indicates a whole that is part of an even greater whole. If a trauma of the and for each element of trauma both holons, instance, encompasses goes many the one that came before it. Consequently, each individual holon, i.e., element beyond the before trauma as a whole can be resolved. of the trauma, needs to be treated Oneexception to this theory is if the trauma being treated is the earliestonein a all of the later ones. In series. Often, resolving the earliest trauma will also alleviate this case, each of the traumas is a holon to the network or seriesof interrelated traumas. One when for example, was physically abused by her father patient, repeatedly she was a child.The first incident she incurred of her trauma was when, at age seven, the wrath of her father after she her baby brother, who physical accidentally dropped cried,but was not seriously injured. She reported that after that particular trauma in which her father was resolved with energy psychology all incidents treatments, abused her no longer caused distress. She expressed the view that perhaps this was because the various events were so similar. Please note: Even though simultaneous collapsing of related traumas frequently a this occur. when does not Therefore, treating disturbing happens, always memory, it is to think about the event sequentially,from to end, treating important beginning each aspect as you go along. In this way, you can be assuredthat the trauma as a treated. whole has been successfully and thoroughly will totally In some cases, the complextrauma treatments eliminate the distress with each associatedwith the painful event, and repeating the treatment component will the not be an untreated of However, problem aspect may continue to necessary. is stir up negativeemotions, it appear as if the treatment is not working.This making and be it is break the trauma events to down into important sequenced prepared why husband suicide shortly after to treat each one.Forexample, one woman's committed an argument with her. Her memory of the event had the following sequential aspects:
aspects.
problems. That
not
is, after
you
treat
one
just
singular
events,
but are
problem,
of
another
many
composed
can even
1. An
embarrassing
ensuing
scene at a party
upon
2.
An
argument
returning
a
home
gun
5. Callingher sisteron
6. Calling
phone
for help
911
arriving
7.
8.
The
police
and
accusing
having
her of
to
Events
related
to the
funeral,
etc.
Each of the scenes in the woman'smemory carried with it specific negative In treating this and then emotions, including embarrassment, fear, anger, panic. had be treated That it was all of these to not enough to trauma, is, aspects thoroughly. treat an aspect that was at a high level of distressand reduceit to a four or five; it had to get down to a 0 (no distress at all). Also, if an important aspect was not
Resolving
Trauma
and
Painful Memories
Rapidly
133
addressed example
at all, illustrates
the patient would continuedto experience The distress. the procedure and benefits of treating complex highly
following
traumas.
The
Debbie
died
Death of a
had been hospital to our initial
child,
Child:
session.
A from
suffering
in the
a couple
days
after
since her
infant
more
talk
than
two as
years well
prior as on
of
The
trauma
death
that of
Harold, her
silence and
on her emotionally
were
couldn't
about the
their
Harold's
he a
did
not care
about what
They
on the
verge
divorce.
Debbie
When
and
arguments
Harold entered
occurred,
because
of
their
withdraw for days, frequently not coming home after work. Their relationshipwas on a downward It was spiral. the trauma the death. Debbie's apparent that neither of them had resolved concerning was was to want to talk about it, whereas Harold'sapproach to leave way of coping
the
frequent
Harold
would often
arguments.
it alone.
Their first energy psychologysession was taken details about their up gathering the was second it however, session, relationship and their problems.During to them that a significant aspect of their difficulties could be explained relationship the fact that they continued to feel distressed about the lossof their infant. Although their child back, energy psychology obviously nothing could be doneto bring relieve the trauma and thus increase the chancesof regaining a healthy treatments could
relationship.
she
They were
energy
thought
about
on the
began
same day.
providing
extreme distress
need to that he felt
treatments,
there
she was
explained
able to think
to cry.
Within
the
event
in a
might
was
still sadness
attached to the
this
dissipated. all
It was of
to Debbie that
memory, the
he
treatment
treatments were being provided, energy psychology he startedto cry. We discussed he did his emotions and he indicated that however, under Debbie had an not realize that there was so much distress the surface. that he did care. With his were again to witness the treatments permission, opportunity
the
be repeated until
At
first
claimed
administeredand he felt
A follow-up
much
better.
shift
in both
Harold
and
their death. there was still Debbie's distress levels regarding infant's Although the death were able sadness of their to child, concerning they finally lay their child to rest.They were now in a better position to deal with their relationship as a whole.
Highly
A
this follows.Generally, have that memories painful aspects many distress than can be resolvedadequately greater complexity in terms of emotional in the previous involved treatment sequences. If there are a number of aspects traumatic event, each aspectshould be treated a time. one at individually, treatment
for highly
complex trauma
treatment
works
with
traumatic
or other
and
by
the
134
Energy
Tapping
4 (UCB)
SS or
for
Sore Spot
or
Massive
Recurring
Reversals
3(UA)
(IF)
Diagram
Twenty-One:
Highly
Complex
Trauma
Treatment
Sequence
for
Highly
Complex Trauma
near
eye
Meridian
Eyebrow
Location
(EB)
1
(UA)
Beginning
of
eyebrow
bridge
on tip
of nose of bone
Under
Eye
Arm
(UE) (UCB)
Under
Under
2 3
4
5
Collarbone
inch under
tip
tip
Index Finger(IF)
Inside
collarbone near throat of little fingernail on the side of index on the outside fingernail
;esolving
Trauma
and
Painful Memories
Rapidly
135
1. Think
level of 2.
Treat
your
level
and
Rate event. It should be a single,specific event. 0 to 10, with 10 representing the highest indicating no stress.
scale of
for
the
possibility
the
of reversal
Sore
three times, or saying Spot (SS) while thinking I'm \"I be even You can about accept upset.\" specific deeply myself though the event. It also may be helpful \"I to tap the SH or rub the SSwhile saying, all with and limitations.\" accept myself my problems
3.
by tapping
repeatedly
on
the
Side
of
Look
at the
(UCB),
chart and
Little
at
diagram
21 to
points
Collarbone
for Eyebrow
identify
(UE),
the
meridian
Under
(UA), Under
thinking
(LF), and
so
the event
about
much
you
during
the
five times
at each of
meridian
The in the following order l->2->3->4->5->4->6->4. Note: times in the sequence. Tap only hard enoughto feelit. The cause any pain.
points.
UCB tapping
Tap them
4. Again, rate your distress on a 0 to 10 scale number should (a just pop into your mind). If there is no decrease, go back to step 2 and cyclethrough the three this is probably If there is not a decrease after attempts, sequence again. this not an appropriate sequence for or else there is another sabotaging event, belief (i.e., reversal) Also there may be an earlier that needs correction.
trauma
that
needs
to be
Balancer
your
addressed.
(BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Back of Hand rotating your eyes counterclockwise, eyes clockwise, and five, humming again.
Again,
your
the
distress
repeat the treatment several times while thinking the distressing you feel complete relief from 8. As
distress from 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. 0 to 2 range, go to step 9.Sometimes you'll
about
When
need
to
your
trauma
before
situation.
level in the of distress, continue with the long as there is a decrease If the treatment stalls sequenceuntil there is very little or no stress remaining. Treat this on the little at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. by tapping (SH) while accept myself, finger Side of Hand saying three times, \"I deeply even though I'm still upset.\" 9. When the distress level is 0 to 2, do the Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress the treatment effects. To do this, further on the Back of or to complete tap Hand (BH),hold your head straight, and, moving only your eyes, lookat the the raise your eyes up toward floor and then ceiling. slowly
has
successfully if distress
been should
these
treatments.
In
time,
distress
will become
136
Energy
Tapping
Summary
This chapter
memories. rage,
Many and
other even
from
originate
Weeding out
and other painful to rapidly resolve traumatic covered in this book, such as phobias,panic,depression, are capable of doing beliefs about who you are and what you that can be effectively treated with these sequences.
the
traumas
of our
and
lives is an
important
step
toward
becoming
psychologically, emotionally,
used
on
widespread
Heimlich
maneuver),
quickly dissolve.
of the example, as the psychologicalequivalent the we in society would experience many of problems that
healthy.
were to be
CHAPTER
11
Improving
Your
Sports
Performance
The
game
of golf
is 90
percent mental.
Nicklaus \342\200\224Jack
of that is, to maintain your ability; to come without hesitationor your ability through This doubt. doesn't mean that you'll win\342\200\224it means that are you giving yourself every opportunity to win. The key to doing this is to eliminate the self-defeating that beliefsand anxiety can cause mistakes and result in you playing at less than your
is
to play
to the
best
natural
of ability or the practice required to to eliminate however, help you any sport. any sabotaging thoughts at your best, especially in crucial and excessive anxiety that prevent you from playing situations.When to improve your sports performance, using energy you psychology in your skill level and mental attitude must factor when evaluating your success. what are trying to accomplish. For Additionally, you must be realisticabout you in a the 90s isn't make the pro tour just by using who shoots to instance, golfer going but that eliminatea can lot of needless mistakes methods, player energy psychology and probably shoot consistently in the 80s. Athletes often lose their mental focus when playing a sport, especiallyif they have that are playing unrealistic or feel expectations they poorly. Energy work can about help you to regain your focus, but you still need realistic expectations your from experience that you normally ability that day. For example,if you know playing hit 70 percent is what of your free throws in basketball,then that you should expect in crucial if are to do situations. That means that even focusedand at your best, you in you becoming angry or losing your focus, you can miss the shot. If the miss results this is a self-defeating behavior. When used is a tool regularly, energy psychology that can be less anxious in crucial situations will help you to improve your game. You
ability.
excel
compensatefor
a lack
It can,
positive
while
you
are playing.
138
Energy
Tapping
Energy
but
psychology
it certainly
will
not
you
improve
to
your
play
natural
athletic
at your
ability,
can
help
consistently
best.
techniques
in
this
situation. play competitive created purely by anxiety.Most likely, you that an athlete is anxious,for example,
If you
is they cannot perform a task that within their ability level. What occurs when a professional basketball player really air ball an from the free throw line misses short putts? If golfer repeatedly it happens often or in crucial situations, anxiety, fear, and beliefs are self-sabotaging
chapter
can easily
be appliedto any
some
mistakes It is
are
occurs.
obvious
when
shoots
or a
probably involved.
Managing
Choking crucial
Performance
the during
Anxiety
to an
inability
and Fears
manage
in times
to
choking, negative
instance,
Although anxiety
this
is
anxiety
the
and fears at
central
usually
cause
of
your
is
to
compensate When
tighten up and can cause you to lose in any athletic event. Once that crucial subtle harder whichis generally or faster, by doing something
feeling.
When
you are too tense, for the keen sense of touch is lost, you may feeling
an
ineffectivesolution.
athletic it is using performance, energy psychology to improve your in crucial situations which have the skill to know that to important identify you you err. and For a has an most better, play yet you regularly example, golfer likely energy can hit the problem if 80 percent of the time that they are on the driving range they ball high and 140 yards with their seven of a pond, iron, but when they are in front they consistently slice the ball or hit it into the water. In this situation, the golfer's belief that they can't hit the ball over the water sabotages their so game; they become anxious in front of the water that it prevents them from completing their normal
swing.
Focus
The
most
difficult
task
that
in many
energy
sports is maintaining
helps
focus.
athletes
significantly. overlap,
have reported
There
energy
focuswith
skills,
such
types of focus: mechanicaland mental. Although they affects the latter. You need to work on your mechanical primarily a qualified instructor or coach. Mechanical considerations includephysical as how you would stand and set up to hit or putt a ball. If you become too
are
psychology
them to
Many
professional
two
work
during
limits
a game, ability
however,
to relax
it
is
difficult
your
your
use energy work to decrease and eliminate your anxiety sabotaging thoughts, you will find it much easier to identify and correct your mechanical skills. For example,
psychology
indirectly
helps the
mechanicalpart
and play at
of
for you
best.
to
your
game.
As you
mproving
Your
Sports
Performance
139
will lead you to feel anxious and putts continually missing short-and medium-length in your game. Once you balance your confidence and lower your no energy will be able detect and real better to resolve however, you performance anxiety, issues that may, in part, be mechanical. must focus because of any one You also have faith in yourself and not lose your same level No athletecan at the particular performance. every day. The goal perform is to stay focused no matter what happens and continue playing to your best ability. will If you lack confidenceor have unrealistic start to focus on your expectations, you hand. and less the task at mistakes or bad breaks focus on put is to Events that are not within your control can also alter the game.The key determine how you respond to a situation that's out of your control. Again, if you will lose focus and about what happened or dwellon bad outcomes, worry you minimize chances success. If use these for work to situations, you energy accept you your will stay focused. Your opponents may encounter similar situations and eventually the lose their focus.You never know, even professional athletes \"fumble so to ball,\" ever mind don't in that it is to at speak. So, give up. Keep impossible perform your best skill level when you become or blame outside situations. or frustrated angry In the treatment we will examine the beliefs that create section that follows, will and and treatment that eliminate self-sabotage provide sabotage sequences any that accompanying anxiety.We will also help you to identify a single treatment point will help to reduce anxiety and keepyou focused while you are playing your sport of
have
choice.
Creating
Peak
always
Performance
a
in
a mistake,
to
Sports
you are less likely to succeed. or work harder. There is a big
become
is Self-acceptance
yourself
This difference
crucial
element
make
trying
of success in
improve
or the situation
mean
between
when you
not
who
sports.
If
you
can't
accept
doesn't
that
you are
players
angry
or blame
they can
Three CommonBeliefs
There
are
three
common
success,
overcompetitiveness,
a fear beliefs that affect your sporting performance: and outside influences.
of
Fear of Success
We're enough to succeed.
think don't you are good you sense athletic but skills, talking your overall your if became a athlete? of who you are. What would change great (at your level) you or treat you differently. about Perhaps by selfPeople might think you differently it a have about certain belief you sabotaging your skill, helps you to maintain as that you don't deserve to win, or that aren't of the situation. yourself, such you worthy
Fear
of
success
centers
around
the fact
that
not
about
140
Energy
Tapping
Overcompetitiveness
are winners never lose the is an outcome, not a process. Thosewho their at best. If focus becomes one or focus that allows them to composure your play must or activity that of beating your opponent, rather than the strategy complete, you Thereis a fine line between being a winner and behavior. you have a self-defeating wanting to win too much,but once you cross it, you are no longer focusedon playing
Winning
at
the
best
of your
ability.
Outside Influences, AKA \"I'm Not Getting Any Breaks\" Here the athlete believes that they aren't lucky or that other athletes are lucky. comes from Although perhaps this may be true to some extent, luck in sports usually to accomplish the athlete not making any crucialmistakesor not trying goals that are beyond their ability level. If an athlete blames their game on outside influences, they the situation. lose focus and become angry or frustrated with Then they may usually a believe that only something special will make the difference and thereforeattempt it's \"turn beliefis that their to low percentage or shot. their get lucky.\" play Perhaps In this case, the athlete has moved away the central from point of all athletic events: to stay focused and execute your role to the best of your ability. can You may be aware of other beliefs that limit your success in sports, and you
easily
make
emotions
include
you
such
them in the
lose
your focus or
unlucky,\"
following treatment
plan. from
Look
as anger,
\"I
frustration,
to
suchas
don't
deserve
and anxiety; or beliefssuch as, \"I can't win,\" \"I don't or \"I'm not good enough.\" While deep-seated beliefs real and limit win\" may sound strange, they are very
prevent you
regaining
or beliefs include
that
many athletes.
when
way
to
ability
to
your
accept
ability
it and
each
of
day.
Treatment
All
Plan
for
Sports
Issues
When are treatments to some degree revolve around self-acceptance. you that the are situation should not or lose trust in thinking happen. angry yourself, you be so concerned You can about the outcome that you lose your focus. This, in turn, On the other hand, once you blocks your ability to reach your peak performance. have if the door to change, opened accept yourself\342\200\224even you do not succeed\342\200\224you focus. to get back on track and regain your enabling yourself the examples in the following treatment focus on golf, the same Although be used can in any athletic or performancesituation. concepts
energy
1.
and that you want to resolve.It must be specific I level achieve.For \ "When become of to example, your ability make during practice.\" Remember to I miss short putts that I easily anxious be specific and not to generalize, such as, \"I stink at golf.\" You can, however, Clearly
define
the
problem
within
current
Improving
Your
Sports
Performance
141
4 (UCB)
SSor SoreSpot
for
Massive
or
Recurring Reversals
Diagram
Twenty-Two:
Sports
Performance
Treatment
Meridian
Sequence
1
2
for
Sports
Performance
Location
(EB)
of Beginning of eyebrow near bridge Under the center of the eye on tip of
Eyebrow
nose
Under
Eye (UE)
Arm
bone
Under
Under
(UA)
Six inches
below armpit
Collarbone
(UCB)
Energy
Tapping
Now rate your nervousnessor level of tension on a scale of 0 to 10, with the highest level of tension and 0 indicating no tension. representing
Identify
such as
statement,
\"I
always
make
the
better
any
performance.Don't
sabotaging be hesitant.
time,
takesa minute.In
of
Side of
\342\200\242 I \342\200\242 I \342\200\242 I
you
and
Hand
need to
(SH)
yourself the
accept accept
sabotagingbelief.Below
be treated regularly.Treat each reversal by tapping on the while or rubbing the Sore Spot (SS) or saying to thinking
are
think beliefs or feelings that affect you be a problem, If you think it could you will come to know whichbeliefs
your
aremost
some
examples:
even though I am too competitivein sports. even though my anger makes me losemy focus. even though I even though I
think
80s.
\342\200\242 I If
accept
I'm
not
good
enough
to shoot in the
accept
you
myself
think
that 6) and problem is a deep-levelreversal (seechapter then under while over nose (UN) you your problem, tap your get even if I can never get over (name the saying three times, \"I accept myself
your
can never
situation)\".
Now
look
at the points
chart and
for Eyebrow
at
diagram
22
meridian
While the situation Under Collarbone(UCB). about thinking five times at each these meridian of tap points. Tap them in the following order l->2->3->4. Tap only hard enoughto feelit. The tapping shouldn't
to identify
(UE),
the locations
Under
for
the
Arm
cause
any pain.
distress
is no
into your
the
or else there is appropriate sequencefor this situation, that needs another sabotagingbelief (i.e.,reversal) correction. (See step 8.) Next, do the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Back of Hand (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, eyes counterclockwise, rotating your
again.
If there
is no decreaseafter
number
should
just pop
though
attempts,
this
is
a tune, counting to
five,
and
humming
again.
the tapping
rate
the
while
sequence l->2->3->4. level of distress from 0 to 10.It should be lower When yet. your 0 to 2 range, go to step 9.Sometimes need is within the to you'll treatment several times while you are imagining fear\342\200\224or your
you
are in the
is a
there
actual
situation\342\200\224before
from the
As
distressfulsituation.
there
until
you
feel
complete with
relief the
long
Treat at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. this by three little finger Side of Hand while times, \"I (SH), saying even though I still have some of this problem.\" myself,
sequence
stalls
decrease in your level of distress, continue is very little or no tension remaining. If the
deeply
treatment
tapping
on the
accept
Performance
143
9. When
the level is 0 to 2. consider the distress doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the or to complete Back of Hand (BH),hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes toward the ceiling.
Note:
Results
sometimes do not
are
happen instantly.
playing
In
fact,
it may
be five
or ten
focused
and
better.
Practice
is
sports,
as well
as a number of
your
usually
a beneficial
other
means of
improving your
of
performance
in
areas.
The more
One
accomplishing
vour diagram
goal,
the
difficulty
greater
your
visualizing.
chances are
visualize
it. (see
achieving
Some people
visualization 22)
have
ability
five
times
process several
any
strategy desired
may
that helps
meridian
to enhance
points
your
timesbefore you
results.
You can
confidenceor pridein your hard work. Imagine, for example, that or to break a score of 90 foot putt to put you ahead in a golf match Now, imagine that you are feeling a little anxious in this situation, but also confident and the ball focused. See yourself putt the ball and watch go into the cup. Smile! each differs in their to knows visualize, Although person ability your mind/body what you are doing and even a vague image be all that is for required you. may
Be sure to is again used as the example in the treatment below. Golf sequence mental match the substitute appropriate phrases and to of sport your choice. images 1. Imagine yourself on the putting green attempting a difficult putt. Now, ball the hole. imagine that the ball, and see your toward you have putted rolling Did it go in? If yes, then continue to pick new situations. If you did not see the ball drop in the hole,then what do you think the problem is? Do you have or are you feeling too anxious? doubts
positive
feelings
that could
be associatedwith
your
such
2.
If rub
you the
did
even
if
the ball roll into the hole, tap or saying Spot (SS) while thinking me from sinking my anxiety prevents
not see
Sore
about
on
the
Side
of Hand
\"I
(SH) or
myself
three
this
times,
putt.\"
accept
3. Again,
meridian
repeat tapping on the following In 22). Now imagine the situation points: again. most instances, you will be able to see the ball roll into the hole. If the putt still doesn't go in, repeat steps 2 and 3. Then tap under your nose (UN) while even if I never sink this putt.\" Next, myself saying three times, \"I accept l-5\302\2732->3->4. In most the tapping sequence: instances, repeat you should now be able to see the ball go in the hole. If not, another type of reversal be may with your success (see chapter 6.) interfering
think
the
l->2->3->4
use this exercise also such as situations, achieving a hit in in first serve tennis, or hitting good
You
can
other
anxiety-provoking
when over
ball
144
Energy
Tapping
Key
Meridian
at
Points
this
that helps you to meridian point key when beliefsor are anxieties blocking success. game your In most instances, when you tap on one of the four meridian points listed below, you will regain significant in a short period of time, assuming that focus are not you reversed. (See chapter 6 for more and self-sabotage.) You should on reversals which experiment to determine meridian points work best for you. point in your
\342\200\242 Under \342\200\242 Under \342\200\242 Under \342\200\242 Under
Game
Eye
(UE) (UCB)
(UA) (UN)
Eliminate
Although
Self-Sabotaging
this
chapter
has
in performance
self-sabotagecan frequently
reoccur
any
sport
is a
provided
for
anxiety,
your
This
means
that reversals
and
If you
over
and
over.
is
very
common
when
you
instances
period of
information on
beliefs sabotaging
reversals
nearing a breakthrough of reversal will most likely require time. The good news is that if you
are
and
reach
your
peak
extended are persistent, you will eliminate those (See chapter 6 for more performance.
numerous
goal.
Therefore,
significantly
reducing
treatments
over an
and
this chapter, people tend to quit when they success with their mental element of sports. A mental but work, and time to develop;it is complex, strong more once you learn to stay focusedfor long periods of time, you will be ableto play at your highest skill level. The good news is that the more clearly you consistently it can identify beliefs the easier is them. or to correct issues, your particular don't
As we
receive
self-sabotage.)
Be aware
middle
of
flashing
thoughts
If
when
have
of your
hitting
game.
the
you
or visualize
thought
ball
or
reversal
a self-sabotaging corrected.
When
you
first,
sense
For the
thinking problem).\"
simply
or If
that you are reversed, there tap on the Side of Hand three times to yourself, \"I accept
are (SH or
)
two
common
rub
effective,
myself
you
of reversals. types the Sore Spot (SS) while even though (name can never eliminate the
while
nose (UN)
thinking
or
myself
even
if I never
Improving
Your Sports
Performance
145
and be ready to play more Then, tap on your key spot to regainfocus at best these After be more relaxed should exercises, consistently your ability. you doing and that should in your game and your be reflected it. to ability improve
Touch
and
treatment
Breathe
be
used
tapping, you are ready to try the Touch and Breathe technique. It is You use the same methods to treat but instead of tapping, very simple: problem, your use mild the while two to on meridian you fingers place pressure specific point in a deep and it. that For i f feel it, breath, holding releasing example, you taking you are too nervousto sink your putt on the golf course or to successfully shoot a free throw, touch the Sideof Hand (SH), while thinking or saying to yourself, \"I accept myself even if I miss this putt (free throw).\" Then touch your key point and, if you feel the while \"I can make this putt (free throw).\" need, touch the Under Nose(UN) thinking,
success
by
tapping
on your
only
Specific
Energy
Sports
can
to deal with many sports-related issues.Following some for basketball, baseball,tennis, and golf. It is best to specific suggestions with start a situation over which you have the most control, for example, free throw in these sports can depend on the ability shootingin basketball,as your performance and skill of your opponents.
psychology
be used
are
your
performance
at the
free throw
psychology to improve your game because your and you know your free throw shooting The to ask yourself is does your anxiety affect free throw? question your percentage. than when Nothing can create more tensionin basketball your free throw will determine the level final outcome of the game. Your can skyrocket or your anxiety beliefs can quickly surface. Other basketball-related situations that respond sabotaging well to energy psychology include when you feel cannot you guard your opponent and when shots that you normally make are not going into the basket.
place
to begin
opponent
does not
using energy
your
affect
performance
1.
Think
about
that
a specific
made
situation
vou
basketball
distress
feel anxious
10
tense. Rate
the highest
you
have
had
your
while
level
playing
of
on
a scale
of 0
to 10, with
level of
distress
2.
beliefs (i.e., reversals) by tapping on Sideof Hand the Sore Spot (SS) while or saying to yourself three (SH) or rubbing thinking such \"I deeply times something as, accept myself, even though I miss free at the end of the game.\" It is bestto phrasethe in your own sentence throws
Treat
for
any
sabotaging
146
Energy
Tapping
words.
accept
It also
myself
with
the
may be helpful to tap the SH or rub the all of my problems and limitations.\"
chart
SS while
saying,
\"I
3. Now
locations
look
at
below
and diagram
While
for the
five
(UA), and
meridian points
at
the
Eyebrow(EB),
Eye
(UE), Under
thinking
about
feeling, tap
following
each
of these
order:
l->2->3->4.
any
shouldn'tcause
Treatment
Tap
meridian points. Tap them in the only hard enough to feel it. The tapping Performance
of eyebrow
the
pain.
Sequence
for Basketball
Meridian
Eyebrow
Location
(EB)
Beginning
nose
near bridge of
eye
Under
Eye
(UE)
2
3
4
on tip
inch
below
near
on a 0 to 10 scale(a number should just pop into decrease, go back to step 2 and cyclethrough the this is probably sequence again.If there is not a decrease after three attempts, not the appropriate sequence for this event, or else there is another belief that needs correction. (Seestep 8.) (i.e. reversal) sabotaging
Again,
rate
your distress
there
your mind). If
is no
5.
Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly do the Brain on the Back on Hand Next, counterclockwise, (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, your eyes rotating then humming a tune, counting to five, and humming again. 6. Repeat the tapping sequence l->2->3->4. of
7. Again,
distress
rate your
is
within
the 0
When
the
need
to repeat
while
fear\342\200\224or even
relief from
the
situation.
8.
As stalls
long as at any
there is a decreasein
there
the
level
of distress,
this
sequence until
little finger
myself, 9. When
distress
Side of
is very
little or
(SH)
no tension remaining. If
by
\"I
treatment
tapping
deeply
on the
accept
Hand
while
even though I
saying
this
three times,
problem.\"
the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll to lower the or to complete the treatment effects.To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH),hold your head and, moving only your eyes, look at straight, the and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the floor ceiling.
further
Repeat
visualization
this treatment
explored
until
you
have
exercises
previously
use
the
you
can
-Tiproving
Your Sports
Performance
147
quickly treat
focused.
your
key
point
using
the Touch
stay
to regain focus, play smart, and perform goal of energy work is to help you the same of your ability that day. The result is that you stop making mistake That at eliminate is, plays repeatedly. you any psychological the same level in every game; you may need to adjust to your game compensate by that team help you on defense. are you passing more requesting your
The
to
the
best
or
and
are not
understand what
and
how to
it.
Baseball
of the game. The components team member is batting. If you have opposing a the batter a home this is such as run, flashing thoughts, strong signalto treat hitting treat vourself and reevaluate what you intend to do. After you any distress, you should be able to visualizeyour pitch to the plate and a successfuloutcome. Because the will be hit. The batter's skill is going to affect the outcome, even good pitches goal, as in basketball,is to play smart and not make crucial mistakes. Energy will psychology help you to achieve this.
In baseball,
each pitcher is under pressure
pitching and
hitting
are
two
dominant
time
an
that
can
be successfully
psychology. hitters
average when no one is on base, but whose batting with players on second or third base. Clearly there are in scoring is more anxiety and pressure when otherplayers positions. Once the and beliefs that are creatingyour situations anxiety, you can you identify specific use the following treatment to address your fears. Then, when you are goingto bat, what you want to do, take a deep breath, let it out, visualize touch your key point,
who
always, have a
defining
a situation
in
is very
important.
great batting
average drops
significantly
situations
for
success.
about a
that
specificsituation
made
0 to
on a
scale of
for
indicating
no distress.
any
that you have had while playing or belief Rate level feel or of distress anxious and/ tense. your you the 10 level of distress and 0 with 10, representing highest
2.
beliefs (i.e., reversals) by tapping on the Side of three the Sore Spot (SS)and while thinking or saying even I times something such as, \"I deeply rarely get accept myself though in with the bases own hits loaded.\" It is best to phrase the sentence your words. It also may be helpful to tap the SH or rub the SS while saying, \"I with all my problems and limitations.\" accept myself
Treat
Hand
(SH)
sabotaging or rubbing
3.
Now locations
Arm
look
at the
for the
and
diagram Eyebrow
22 (on (EB),
the
Under
(UA),
Collarbone
at each
Tap
(UCB). While
thinking
the
situation
or feeling,
following
tap
five
times
of these
only
order:
l-\302\2732-\302\2733-\302\2734. any
shouldn'tcause
meridian points. Tap them in the hard enough to feel it. The tapping
pain.
148
Energy Tapping
Treatment
Meridian
Eyebrow
Location
1
(EB)
Beginning
of
eyebrow
near
bridge on
of
nose
Under
Eye
Arm
(UE)
(UA)
2 3
(UCB)
the
eye
tip
Under
Under
Six inchesbelowarmpit
One
throat
Collarbone
inch
below
the collarbone
near
4.
on a 0 to 10 scale(a number should just pop into decrease, go back to step 2 and cyclethrough the your mind). If there is not a decrease after three this is probably sequence attempts, again. not an appropriate sequence for this or else there is another situation, that needs correction. (See step 8.) belief (i.e. reversal) sabotaging
Again,
rate
your distress
If
there
is no
5.
Next,
do
the
Brain
Balancer
your
then humming a tune, countingto five, 6. Repeat the tapping sequence of l->2->3->4.
7. Again, rate the distress
(BB) by
tapping repeatedly
rotating
and
at
the
Back
on Hand
eyes
clockwise,
humming
repeat
even
the
while
from the
distressfulsituation.
as
until
range, go to step 9. Sometimesyou'll needto times while you are imagining your fear\342\200\224or treatment several feel complete relief you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before you
from
0 to
10. It should
be loweryet.
When
8.
As
long
there
there
is a
9.
at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treat this on the by tapping little finger Side of Hand while three \"I times, (SH) deeply accept saying even though I still have some of this problem.\" myself, When the distress level is 0 to 2, consider to lower doing the Eye Roll (ER) the distress further or to completethe treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH), hold your head straight, and, moving only your eyes, look at the floor and then raise slowly your eyes to the ceiling.
stalls
sequence
is very
with
treatment
the
Tennis
effective in improving your tennis game.When receive a serve or to volley, use the to should your ability you you at the plate same procedure as a baseballplayer The above more (see sequence). you be for you in an actual game. You do prior to the match, the easier it should should treat visualize how you any anxious feelings or doubts and be able to successfully it is your turn ball. When and want to serve and receive the the treatments to play, exercises that you did before the game will allow you moretimeand control. Then, take a deep breath, and point, just before serving or receivingthe ball, touch your key let it out. You should now be focused.
Energy
psychology
can
be quite
want
to enhance
mproving
Your
Sports
Performance
149
Golfing
At
the
beginning
of this
over a long duration. When but hours, you play golf, you are on the course for four vou actually golf for less than thirty minutes. You walk a lot, talk to other players, and ball. You have to do this again and then, you must stop, focus, and hit your again.Onceit is your turn to hit the ball, many elements can negatively affect your The treatment game. sequences in this chapter all apply to the game of golf. are golf-specific however, Following, sequences and suggestions that may help you to
further
game
of
golf is 90
percent mental.\"Onereasonis
chapter, Jack
saying,
\"The
difficulty
of
staying
focused
improve
your
game.
Practice
Range
golf
Situations
in reasonable
on
1. Setup
par
balls
or a
birdie. Now
of
your level
nervousness
imagine a situation
are leastcomfortablefor
make
10
could
nervousness
a scale
of 0 to
and 0
indicating calmness.
10, with
extreme
2.
Treat rubbing
for the
accept
words.)
while
3.
Hand of reversal by tapping the of (SH) or possibility or saying to yourself three times, \"I Spot (SS) while thinking even if I become nervous myself (put the statement in your own It also may be helpful to tap the SH when rub the SS putting.\" with all my problems and limitations.\" myself saying, \"I accept
the
Side
Sore
or
Look
locations
at the
for
chart below
meridian
at
the
and at diagram 22 (on page 141) to identify Arm for Under Under points Eye (UE),
about
the (UA),
and
Under
Collarbone
times
tap
five
situation
them
and/or
in
feeling,
following
hard enoughto
for
points. Tap
feel
the
tapping
shouldn't cause
any pain.
TreatmentSequence
Meridian
Practice
Range
Situations
Location
1
Under
of
the
center
of the
eye on tip
bone
Arm (UA)
Collarbone
2
(UCB)
4.
level of distresson a 0 to 10 scale (a number should just pop is no decrease, go backto step 2 and cycle though If there the sequence this is three attempts, again. If there is not a decreaseafter or else there is probably not an appropriate sequencefor this situation, that another sabotagingbelief (i.e.,reversal) needs correction. (See step 8.)
Again,
rate your
mind.)
into
your
5. Next, do the
(BH)
Brain
Balancer
(BB) by
while
Backof
Hand
eyes
counterclockwise,
counting to
five,
and
humming
again.
150
7. Again, rate the distress
Energy
Tapping
from
0 to
10. It should
Sometimes
repeat
even
the treatment
while
range, go to step 9.
are
situation\342\200\224before
be loweryet.
you'll
When
need
to
are in the
is a
from the
distressfulsituation.
there
until
your complete
fear\342\200\224or
relief
8.
9.
decrease in your level of distress, with the continue is If little or no tension the treatment sequence very remaining. stalls at any point, this indicates a mini-reversal. Treat this by tapping on the while saying three times, \"I deeply little finger Side of Hand (SH), accept even I still have some of this problem.\" myself, though When the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the or to complete Back of Hand (BH),hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, lookat the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.
As
long
there
Practicing
of your
Long
Putts
(more
the than fifteen feet) is a good test to determine balls start feel connection. several until to First, putt strength mind/body you the speed of the green. Then, go to a different do your normal setup, and line up hole, ball. Don't Once beside putt. you have your line, take somepractice swings your your look down. Instead,lookat the pin or the cup and let your arms swing backand forth in a putting motion. What should happen is that as you focus on the cup, your eyes back be shouldsend signals to your brain/body about how hard you should a Once trust Set as feel would for this, you yourself. up you normally putt, and swinging. ball with the should the correct If cannot do then this, putt pace. you you may you the treatment still be too anxiousand needto repeat sequence or treat for reversal.
Summary
have pointed out throughout this chapter, will need to work on your you mechanicalskillsas wellas your mental game. Energy psychology will help you to be when you are playing your sport of choice. As a result, morefocused and confident in will aware the mechanical flaws most become more of likely your game that you need blame As need You should have less outside situations. also to improvement. in an eliminate feel increase beliefsand anxious you may you self-sabotaging feelings, the amount of enjoyment that receive from you playing your sport.
As we
CHAPTER
12
Developing
an
Effective
Weight-Loss
Strategy
his
During
his
that
morning
was
eaten breakfast,
reading
so
a section On the way to the counter, he saw banana, an apple, and a bottle of water. full of cakes and doughnuts, and he proceeded to share his expertise on this subject. He picked out a box of chocolate-covered and said, \"Always get the ones doughnuts with devil's cake inside. They are much tastier than white food the cake.\" Then he said that he had read that one shouldn't combine the fructose from the fruit with foods high in carbohydrates (and fat) such as chocolate He put the fruit doughnuts. a cup of coffee to go with his doughnuts. back and bought that was not what Clearly, he was reading had in mind. the authors of the book
a man was talking to to change his diet. Later, at a store. He saw stopped
friends
he
about
fruit
mentioned
that
and
a sign for
up a
Striving
Have crumble the
to Lose
ever
Weight
decision are
you
made
moment
a decision to go on a diet, and then watched that foods that you love? The foods that you encountered
healthier
and
helpful
If
to your
haven't
you'll
forgotten
as will
soon
begin.
\"I
you
food\342\200\224and
make it
hurt
food cravings,you
seem
find
rational.
You
\"I
as the
have Or,
to cheat \"I'll
sometimes!\"
cravings
of
won't
feel
this!\"
start
how to decreaseyour
this
chapter
Interestingly, some
self-sabotage many
in
areas
authors on
of your
and
diet, nutrition,
are
dealing with the emotional issues that sabotage is often a symptom of another an inability to diet
weight
number of must be on
Oncetheseissues
you
addressed,
to maintain
you
will be
and
able to
into
get
the shape
help
152
are
Energy
Tapping
you aren't alone. The United States represents in the world. In 1998,The National Heart, overweight Lung and Blood Institute (NHLBI1998) reported that 55 percent of all Americans are In the last thirty the percentage or obese. of obese adults has almost years, overweight and of that increase occurred in the 1990s. doubledto 23percent, most To complicate
one
If you
the
trying
to
lose
weight,
of
most
societies
matters
data
further,
people
Itis problem.
because
every
support
at least
one
These overweight at an increasinglyyoung age. lese is an cannot people weight energy-related that the problem is due to a lack of knowledge about dieting, new bookon weight-loss the best-seller list on strategies appears are
becoming
the
reason
year.
a myriad of contradictions health and about a been the United States lifestyles. growth industry, yet that claims to be a very health-conscious The result is diet books, society. magazines, health and diet foods, exercise and health have flooded the market. programs, spas Yet these and all of the media attention loss still have had a about products weight minimal effect the majority on of the population's commitment or ability to lose
American
society
perpetuates
Fast-food
restaurants
have
weight.
higher risk of
types
If you
of
are one
developing
of
the
(NHLBI 1998). The correlation betweenheart disease\342\200\224a is often ignored. It has also been of premature death\342\200\224and obesity in American increase adults' consumption of sugar is related to the rise
cancer
adult
suggested
in the onset
of
diabetes.
between health problems and weight has had little losing their unwanted and unhealthy impact people successfully pounds. Every time our society takes a healthy step forward with more on diet and emphasis to take two steps backward as our consumption of fast food continues exercise, it seems to grow. each Another fact is that most dieters gain even more weight after discouraging able diet attempt. for those who do lose a small are to And, weight, percentage only maintain than the loss for more two For Americans, weight especially years. many it seems that they are forever going on and off diets diet effect) women, (the yo-yo and never succeeding in achieving their goal of substantial loss. weight There are three main reasons can't or lose weight why you keep permanently
However,
on
the correlation
the
weight
off:
1. There
2.
is required.
You
is a physical
insufficient
reason
why
you
can't lose
have
knowledge
about
how to
and
lose
weight.
and sabotages 3. You have an energy-relatedproblemthat triggers cravings an This means that have your attempts to implementany diet program. you and that self-sabotaging energy imbalance possibly due to a prior trauma beliefs undermine your motivation and to diet successfully. ability
Any treatment
combination sequences
including
of the in this
frustration
problems,
more.
above concerns may apply in your individual case.The chapter, however, will focus on correctingenergy-related and food cravings, urge reduction, and impatience,
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153
Physical
Issues
any
It you
weight,
have
health
concerns
suits your individual circumstances. have You may hormonal that necessitate medications or a specialized problems programto lose weight. Energy psychology will help you and treat the to identify help you safely emotional problems that block from successfully you implementing the lifestyle
designing
you
should
definitely
or if you need to lose a significant amount consult a health care professional to assist you
of
in
changes you
Having
Having
desire.
Sufficient
sufficient
Knowledge
as to
knowledge
that researchand information can assist you. There are dozens of diet plans; you can select one or combine parts from several different plans. Once you understand the in dieting, you can design an eatingplan basic strategies that are that involved best fits you. If you don't know how to diet, and even if you that you do, we recommend that as a guide as you develop your review a few diet programs can serve plan. Sugar Busters (Steward, Bethea, Andrews, et al., 1998) identifies that may be fattening, foods even though they are not generally thought Ten of as such. Making the Connection:
Although
most people
and
your
first
priority.
is
a growing
body of
Steps
to a
Better Body
There
and
a Better
water daily.
nutrition
exercise,eating morefiber
dozens
the
Life (Greene
and
that
Winfrey
1999)
offers
an overall
and you
of other
better
books
know,
equipped
you'll be to
it
if
planning
achieve basics,
weight.
With
all the
diet
to change your
you
more
will
a unique eatingplan
you to
your
a plan.
meets
needs.
Your
losing
Mind-Set
weight
Formostpeople,
Americans
can
the
effort,
without
are
bombarded
which can
cheating, you will lose weight. with information about how hard it is to lose weight,
too much
try.
even
be challenging.
However,
if
you
have
a good
plan
Frustration
Impatience
takes
become
it did to gain it, you can longer to lose weight than frustrated with the diet T hereis no evidence to and/or impatient process. fun these The fact it's not as much to or lose is, thoughts feelings. just weight support as it is when you are eating delicious foods and putting on weight. The amount you what will deviated be from your normal food intake to gain weight is exactly a in to it. This mind-set from one direction lose required requires change your in moderation). that to another You may also have forgotten (overeating) (eating you
If you
believe that
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in two weeks. So don't focus on crashdietsand didn't gain all of your weight to try will lose it all in two weeks. In fact, to from fight your body prevent you losing As we all know, however, if 1998). weight by slowing your metabolism down (Jibrin keep you overeating, eventually you'll gain those excess pounds. Think back to all those times that you ate large amounts of fattening foods day it is more after day, engaged in late night eating,or consumed alcohol. Just because it is to take it to on than the that off doesn't fact weight enjoyable put weight change maintenance is still a fair deal. With exercise and a proper change of diet, it is that will lose weight. inevitable you in It is not an event Effective weight-lossprogramsrequirea change lifestyle. that that and then in a return habits created abandon favor of to the old you complete the problem in the first place. Once you view diet and nutrition as a lifestyle process, will change as you learn what foods createproblems for and what is your plan you for that to achieve We recommend and goals. required you your hope you will keep in mind this when you determine your timetableto alter your diet so that you can will lose weight. The timetable not determine how long you have been overweight, but rather can accept that the time it took for you to gain the excessweight. If you is a it will fair minimize the that to frustration deal, losing weight help you happens when you don't lose weight as quickly as you may prefer. Once you develop a plan, with the foods readily available, you will find it easier to maintain your proper
nutrition
program.
and Impatience these commonsense Although tips can help you to plan and better maintain can't deal with the emotional issues that often undermine diet, your they help you to This is true with and frustration your program. especially impatience. Thesetwo cause critical problems in losing weight becausepeoplegive emotions often thinking up, and that their diet isn't working, \"so why If you find that frustration bother?\" will prove impatience are a problem treatment beneficial. for you, then the following
Treatment
Sequence
for
Frustration
as: \"I'm not losingweight as fast as I eating and I still don't lose weight.\" It is and rate about the problem always best to put it in your own words. Think or impatience 10 meaning on scale of 0 to 10, with your level of frustration that you are completely impatient and frustrated to the point of giving up, and 0 meaningthat you experience no impatience and frustration (and you understand that if you stick to your diet, you will lose weight).
a phrase
such
Or,
\"I
have
cut
back
on my
2.
of reversals by tapping repeatedly on the Side of the Sore Spot (SS) while or saying to yourself thinking three times, \"I accept myself even though I'm impatient and frustrated about it is always best to say it in your not losing weight as fast as I want.\" Again, own words. For example, the words \"upset\" or \"distressed\" may be preferred to \"impatient\" or \"frustrated.\" It also may be helpful to tap the SH or \"I accept rub the SS while saying, and myself with all my problems
Treat
for
the
Hand
(SH)
possibility or rubbing
limitations.\"
3.
Look
at the
(UCB),
chart and
and
at
diagram
23 to
points
Collarbone
for Eyebrow
identify
(UE),
the
meridian
Under
thinking
(UA), Under
your
Little
(LF). While
feelings
of
Ze/eloping an
Effective
Weight-Loss
Strategy
155
4 (UCB)
SSor
Recurring
Sore
Spot
for Massive
or
Reversals
Diagram
Twenty-Three:
Frustration
and
Impatience
and
Impatience
Meridian
Eyebrow
Location
(EB)
1
2
Under
Eye
Arm
(UE)
(UA)
Under
Under
of Beginning of eyebrow near bridge Under the center of the eye on tip of Six inches under armpit
nose
bone
Collarbone
(UCB)
4
5
throat
156
frustration
them
Energy
Tapping
impatience
and
is
The UCB
The
twice
cause any pain. 4. Again, rate distress on a 0 to 10 scale(a number should your just pop into If there is back 2 no to and the decrease, mind.) through your go step Cycle If a there is decrease after three this is not sequence again. attempts, probably this not an appropriate sequence for or else there is another situation, belief that needs correction. (See step 8.) (i.e., reversal) sabotaging
tapping
at each about dieting, tap five times of these the following order: l->2->3->4->5->4. Note: in the sequence. Tap only hard enoughto feel it. in
shouldn't
5.
the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping do while (BH) rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating then humming a tune, counting to five, and
Next,
of
Hand
eyes
counterclockwise,
humming
again.
the tapping sequence 1\342\200\224\302\273-2\342\200\224\302\273-3\342\200\224\302\273-4\342\200\224\302\273-5\342\200\224\302\273-4. 7. Again, rate your impatience and frustration 0 to 10. It should be lower from 2 When the distress is within the 0 to yet. range, go to step 9. Sometimes you'll need to repeat the treatment several times while you are imagining your or even while frustration impatience\342\200\224or you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before feel relief the from situation. frustrating you complete a in 8. As long as there is decrease your level of frustration or impatience, with continue the there is very little or no tension treatment sequence until If the treatment stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. remaining. Treat this on the little Side of Hand (SH) while saying three finger by tapping times,\"I deeply accept myself, even though I still have someof this problem.\" 9. When the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further or to complete the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH),hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, the look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward ceiling. this treatment effectively relieves frustration and Although impatience, you must be realistic. If you are easily frustrated, it will be necessary to treat this problem an occasional occurrence. Although you will still regularly beforeit becomes and frustration, this approach will significantly experience moments of impatience reduce this tendency rather feel more patient, during certain situations in which you would such as with your eating plan.
6. Repeat
When
trying
to
lose
weight,
it
is
important
to
consider
reversals.
all
deep-level
Food
Cravings
How
seldom
heard or madethe
is an
to
statement,
\"I
need
to lose
a few
to
pounds.\"Although
hear
admission
give
is people
making
A
and being
committedto statementssuchas,\"I'm
losing weight is
drinking
cutting
you ready
quit
(name
up
food).\"
difficult
part of
on
consuming
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Strategy
157
foods
doesn't
that
are
fattening.
Unfortunately,
are
fattening
available,
crave the
most, usually
that healthy foods cannot be enjoyable as well, and perhaps even more with and need to different foods food recipesas you may experiment you an develop eating plan. An toward successful dieting is to minimize or neutralize step important your the that are best for foods avoided. We're not cravings suggesting that you will no need do to eliminate longer enjoy these foods, but you cravings that can sabotage diet. is The process your actually quite simple.
mean
readily
and
the
good to
very
foods
you.
you
That
so, but
1.
Identify
food
that
you crave,
about
such as beer,potato
desire
chips,
a certain
your
a certain situation.For
for
type of
which
example,
you
imagine
you
are
with
friends
you
wish
to eliminate
cravings.
Alternatively,
have you
the food
of
can
see
this situation,
seriously
about
giving
in to your
a rating
6 means
you
would
give in to
any
your cravings.
beliefs
2.
Identify
sabotaging
Hand
and treat
(name
thinking times,
(name
on the Sideof
\"I
about your
deeply
desire for
(SH)
yourself
food)
for
potential
reversals
by three
the
and, while
or rubbing
the Sore
accept
the food).\" If you don't think can you a \"I deeply under for reversalwhile nose (UN) accept your deep-level saying, I It even if never over food also be helpful to myself get cravings.\" may my \"I with all the SH rub the SS while or tap saying, accept myself my problems
myself
even though I
Spot (SS)think
tapping repeatedly
or
say
and limitations.\"
3. Lookat
points
Little these
for
the
chart
Under
and
Eye
4->3->2->l.
4.
(UCB), Under Arm (UA), and about Finger (LF). While thinking craving, tap five times at each of your meridian points. Tap them in the following order: l->2->3->
Note
the
locations
for the
meridian
that
the
UE,
UCB, and
feel
UA
are
repeated
twice
in the
it. The
tapping
shouldn't
cause any
on a 0 to 10 scale(a number should just pop into 2 back and to decrease, go your mind). step cycle through the is a is probably not decrease after three attempts, this sequenceagain.If there not an appropriate sequence for this situation, or else there is a sabotaging
rate
your
If
craving
there
is no
that
needs
correction.
(See step
8.)
Brain
Balancer
(BB) by
while
then
rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your a tune, counting to five, and hurrvming humming
Backof
Hand
counterclockwise,
again.
6. Repeat
7.
the tapping sequence l-\302\2732-\302\2733-s\302\2734-\302\2733-\302\2732-\302\273l. rate your craving from 0 to 10.It shouldbe lower When the Again, yet. distress is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9. Sometimes you'll need to repeat the treatment several times while you are imagining your craving\342\200\224or even
158
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2 (UCB)
SS or Sore Spot
for
Massive
or
Recurring Reversals
Diagram
Twenty-Four:
Food
Cravings
Treatment
Meridian
Sequence
Location
for
Food
Cravings
Under
Eye
(UE)
Under
Collarbone (UCB)
(UA)
2
3
center of the eye on tip of bone near throat Once inch below collarbone
Under the
Six
Under Arm
Little
inches
below
of
armpit
fingernail
Finger
(LF)
Inside tip
little
on the
side
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an
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Weight-Loss
Strategy
159
you
feel
situation.
complete
relief from
the
8.
9.
As as there is a decrease in your level of cravings, with the continue long treatment sequence until there are very little or no cravings remaining. If the treatment stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treatthis by \"I on the little finger Side of Hand (SH),while three times, tapping saying I even still have this some of deeply accept myself, though problem.\" When the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the or to complete Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.
Alternate
If
you
have
effective, sequence
for
repeat order
\"forbidden\"
for Food Cravings treated was for any potential reversalsand the above sequence the treatment and tap on the meridian points using the alternate
Sequence
of 3->l->2->4->2->l->3.
treatment
not
at least temporarily eliminate your craving however, Realistically, you may need to repeatthis several times basis. treatment the craving is significantly reduced on an ongoing it is treat to Also, to substantiallyalleviate \"addiction,\" your important your craving for the targeted food in a variety of situations. For example, you may tend to eat bars when television. about candy you are bored, feeling tired, or watching Thinking will a each of these situations or contexts while the treatment go long way doing toward effectively alleviating your craving for candy bars. is an important For example, Preparation part of dealing with food cravings. it cut down on want have a snack in the is best to to many people evening.Although it hard to if are reduce find to late-nighteating you going your weight, you may a bowl eliminate the late-night snack. The problemis that although of ice cream is it is also very easy to prepare. Once the starts, craving very fattening, you could have can substitute that would ice creamin your mouth in a matter of minutes. What you taste good to you and keep you on your eating plan? It has to be your own choice. The point is that need to have healthy substitutes to satisfy your cravings. you If you continue to have a problem with the targeted food, read further and work in the that are examined the through problems following personal problems and Once eliminate belief systems sections. you any underlying problems, you will be treatment able to more effectively control your cravings using the sequences
In most
instancesthis
food. before
will
the
provided.
Personal
problems
Problems
have
If feel that any of anger, you rejection, fear, shame, and depression. those problems still exist in your life, they should be treated as part of your weightthese must be loss program. Most psychologistsbelievethat underlying problems an can create and effective resolved before you implement weight-lossprogram.We i t find that as treat easier also emotionalissues, becomes for you to change your you
identified
and
provided
treatments for
such
as
160
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Tapping
environment
if
and
lifestyle.
issue related to being Although we cannot explore every the can most issues examine life, you your likely identify Listed are desired below some goal. achieving your
Sexual
Abuse
Some people
subconscious
abused
as children
level
them less
abused.
If
treatments
have
they
obesity as a shieldthat
not
develop
protects
obesity.
them
At
chapter
10 on
resolving
painful memories
you
by making
obtained
relief
from those
other
early
traumatic
should
stronger
may
issues
in your
shame.
a reversal that
in chapter8.
life, including
The
obesity.You
used to
also
sequence
treat shameis
Rejection
If
you
live
may
in fear
be
of being
problems.
rejectedor if
This
you
have
been
inclined
to withdraw
as watching television. television may Although help you to feel better, and the reducedphysical
only serves
significantly
and
rejected in
yourself
and,
blame
self-esteem
in
doing
sedentary
can
activities,
it
such
cannot
help
to occupy
your time,
lead
activity
are
watching
TV or
are otherwise
better.
gain.
may
your
situations
toward food in an effort to help you and fears of rejection so that feelings you
withdrawing,you
feel
Therefore,
to treat
is to
use the
Midline Energy
encourage
overeating.
Technique
can change your lifestyle and this One approach to alleviating problem in chapter 8. described
prevent
Depression
your
which
situation
may
or an bars to go
are
sabotages
depression
your
also
well.
help
to noticewhen you
include
can
diet plans
event in your life can radically and drink to feel better temporarily,
Because
alter
alcohol
it may
may
There
feelings
situations.
you
If you
don't treat
of anger
depression,
and
it is
as
be
from
social
of your feelings
be many
the symptoms
and
sources of your
employ
depression;chapter9
unlikely
will
treatment.
Shame If you
of
feel ashamed
yourself
of
yourself
for
some
when
reason,
you
making
feel better.
Shame can
be the result of
were
as a means
which
event
over
happened
you
De.eloping
an Effective
Weight-Loss
Strategy
161
resources
to help
around
treatment
food, the
sequence
issue you
yourself. To
feel
may
now
revolve
the
ashamed
must first be
for shame in
chapter 8.
is
no
question
to
help
soothe
a variety
Weight
Loss:
Case
age
Study
thirty-six,
yet overweight.She often became angry and look her best. Her weak spot was weight a craving for sweets. When she went on a diet, she would and then go frustrated get with cream. It on a binge and overeat, usually foods like ice didn't fattening very matter if she was hungry. She would keepeating she ran out of that food or was until that she became tired and would go to sleep. so stuffed A related When she was alone of problem Sally's was her feelingsof loneliness. at night, she was more likely to give in to her cravings. The first for step Sally was to in Treatment described 8 herto use the Midline to copewith her Energy chapter help fears her to feel better about about being rejected in social situations. This allowed
with
herself because
Sally
was attractive
lose
a week
a three-month period. She picked a diet plan that and She drink her breakfast chose to lunch, using a lifestyle. health that she milk and food blended with skim powdered supplement popular had the better were in fruit. she to more for lower Although supplements, pay they and had She until she more nutrients. found some flavor sugar experimented that satisfied her tastes. She chose a peach-vanilla blendedshakein the combinations and in a shake but she mixed such banana-chocolate for also other lunch, fruits, morning as strawberries. This was a great strategy because lunch for historically had Sally been a high fat and calorie disaster for her, often made up of fast foods. It took Sally the entire three months the twenty-five to lose pounds. During the she used the first treatments for frustration and to help her month, impatience energy the deal with not losing weight as quickly as she would have preferred. She used also reduceher desire her treatment for food cravings to for some of favorite fattening she foods. When went off her weight-loss program, she still drank one meala day and then identified new lunch and breakfast meals that were not as fattening.
twenty-five
lose
worked
to read, she decided weight. at her favorite bookstore and coffeeshop in the evenings. Thereshe time the same to meet friends and socialize. time, Sally was working on her goalto
to
of doing
lose
energy treatments
Because
for
her
problems,
Sally
she liked to
was ready
to
spend
was
At
pounds
during
best
for her
162
Energy
Tapping
Whenever
and used
old habits started to return, however,shetreatedherself balanced the appropriate treatments to get her energy
for
being
again.
Belief
Systems
beliefs that
may
could fall
block
change. Thesebeliefs
a feeling that
you
from successfully
into
the
under your nose (UN) while three times, saying I because (state your belief).\" weight Following to lose weight. greatly affect your ability
category
of deep-level
a accept are
reversals if
even
if
making a lifestyle
the
belief
deep-level
reversal,
I never
tap
lose
myself some of
can
I'm
Too Old
some
Thereare
realities\342\200\224such
and exercise.Age, responds your body that is also a state mind. the fact of If however, accept you are growingolder, you simply and let go of struggle that aging has and upset about this reality, you alsowill realize Whatever with to do to lose nothing weight. your situation, once you ability your in achieve are a much better mental state to it, you your goals. accept that being feel more shapely Another age-related issue is a tendency to \"because I'm older.\" Your weight, however, can affect shouldn't matter, your ability members' lives. And, of course, to participate happily in the events of other family are living health affects the quality of your life. Today, many people your always active lives well into their nineties.As a matter of fact, in some communities a large hundred number of healthy live to be more than one people years old.
to diet
as advancing
age\342\200\224that
must
be faced
about your
I'm
When
Too Fat
someone
they
believes
could
visualize how
focus
ever
lifestyle they could have if they lost the excess weight. If you fall into this category, Itis advisable treat both to regularly reversed. you may be massivelyand deep-level the can use the of these reversals (seechapter6).After reversals, treating you visualization exercises in this chapter to realize your thinner, healthier body.
they are \"too fat to lose weight,\" they reach their desired weight. They have
must
usually cannot
a
short-term
give
up,
wonderful
Can't
Change
you
My
can't
Diet
change
Believingthat
Once
this
reversal
is corrected
other
should be
your
reversal. may indicate a deep-level this must be on a done basis), you (sometimes regular in this book to implement and maintain treatments
your diet
new
plan.
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Effective
Weight-Loss
Strategy
163
J Have
No Time
you
always a problem,but there are solutions. The shakes are a quick way to have a fruit referred to in the previous casestudy meal. Once nutritious otherissuesmay you treat the time-related, deep-levelreversal, that care need to be treated as well.For example, about your although appear you appearance, it may have become secondary to you, and this may frustrate you. After to the cause of your overeating, reviewing any emotionalissuesthat may contribute treat each This may have to be doneon a continual as unforeseen one. basis, create reversals, alter your emotional feelings,and make you situations can more regularly to food cravings. If you continueto use the energy however, treatments, susceptible with vou will be able to implement and stay diet. your
problem
Believingthat
with
have
no time
to plan
issues.
Time is
It
If reversalor
Takes
you
Too Much
losing
Effort
the Side of
you
believe
a motivation-related
or saying three times,\"I accept even though I am not motivated to myself the lose weight.\" for frustration By treating the reversaland implementing sequences and food cravings (found earlier in this chapter), should be able to find the you
thinking
have
a deep-level
Hand
(SH)
while
you
believe
reversal. Another
weight. In this
accept
myself
bad
habits
in
situations that you feel contribute to your overeating, try to avoid use the visualizing treatment that follows to help you deal with
reversal to consideris your resistance to the possibility of losing Side Hand while three on of or case, times, \"I (SH) thinking saying tap even though it is not possible for me to stop overeating.\" Situations or can lead Once the life also to chronic overeating. you identify your
those
that
you
can't
treat
yourself
for
a deep-level
situations
problem.
or
Visualizing
Life
Situations
to
You can
are
work-related
use visualization
to minimize
visualize
and become aware of whether certain situations, such as birthdays, problem during will and when children. Visualization events, you're feeding your the sabotage that occurs at those times. In each case, the objectis to
help
you
determine
you
help
a potential
problem
an
situation
and decide
if
you
need
to use
energetic treatments
you're having trouble doingthis, tap on the Eyebrow (EB) meridian points.
times
image.
you?
See yourself at your desired goal weight. If and ten times on the Under Arm (UA) several You may need to repeat this treatment It doesn't have to be a clearvision\342\200\224just an before it works to your satisfaction. How would people respond to Can you visualize yourself at this new weight? What These mental other events could happen? visualizationsshouldfeelgood
with
overall
visualization:
ten
times
164
and
you
Energy
Tapping
help
could
to reinforce
only
suggest
lose weight.We
for
see yourself
If there
then
were
are
use
the treatment
then
details
used
on the
earlier
use
for a massivereversal (seechapter the treatment for frustration and challenges. Once you
the
you
reversed
impatience
chapter).
cause eating
may
and then likely happento you. In each example, visualize yourself in that situation rate your desire or cravings for the foods or beverages. Using the same process, rate on a scale 0 to with 6 that of are about 10, indicating yourself you seriously thinking and 8 or more indicating that will giving in to your desires give in to your you desires. If you feel one of the situations is a particularproblem for you, treat yourself the feeling is eliminated. Here are for food cravings and repeatthe visualization until
review
imagine
situations
that would
most
some
examples:
\342\200\242 You
are
at work
and a
doughnuts,
table going
\342\200\242 You
to waste. What
social club
see
drinks
your sitting
favorite on
the
you
see yourself
friends
doing?
are
at a
and your
having
the
orderinglow-calorie
\342\200\242 You
yourself
rest
at the bar are encouraging you to only one alcoholic beverage and then of the evening?
favorite
large
quantities
of one your
that
foods.
Can
you
see yourself
foods
food?
children
house.
\342\200\242 One with
What do you
ways you
Can
them.
or your
see yourself
fun
but
is to
high-fat,
in
the
of the
have
you
calorie
food as a
aren't
substitute?
see yourself
for
your
children
eat deliciousdesserts
then
eating
a low-
the
that can
efforts
if you
key to
prepared for
may
them. Although
have
sabotage your
problems
that
treating
emotional
is
be
losing weight,you
also
created
many bad
habits
must
eliminated.
Self-Destructive
A
Behavior
and
Weight Loss:
reversal.
Case
Study
Carlos was
He
a classicexample of
was
massive
He had
behaved
well liked, peopleprotected him. a His knees back were and becoming problem.
because
he was
any
His
body,
however,
for
a source
of continual
couldn'tdo
a large
stuffed.
quantity
exercise. of
His doctor
major
hour eating strategy was to go to happy late at He and to eat foods, high-fat night. usually warned him that because he was forty-five years
pain and he
drinks
went
His
to
could
create
health
attack
or
diabetes.
Developing
an
Effective
Weight-Loss
Strategy
165
Carlos
had
is an
beforehe is ready
a car
example of
to
someone
who
almost
change.
Carlos
accident that put him in the hospital for seeus and we taught him the energy treatments that It was an off-and-on the treatment follow process for two months. He would and then go back to drinking excessively. This some results, suggestions, experience the he was We behavior whole and soon sabotaged process overeating again. encouraged him to join support groups to help him to cope with his many problems. The problem was that his massive reversal would keep coming back and creatingthe sabotaging and self-defeating able to convince Carlos to thoughts and behaviors. We were finally treat his massive reversal and to several other treatments food for regularly apply and addictions, cravings, anger. After a few Carlos finally went to and enjoyed an Alcoholics weeks, attending He a new that were of friends not into his old Anonymous meeting. developed group addictive His use continual of the treatmentsand his changein lifestyle. energy him the his diet stick to focus to and to to it. Although helped develop design lifestyle there were somerelapses the was able Carlos to lose almost during following year, The was the that were onehundred to and pounds. key stop drinking drugs his life. To do that, he had to change his social life and some of his friends. Carlos sabotaging will is a goodexample of how one of life lead to changes in other changing part your areas. Energytreatments that are done on a regular basis can help you the to develop and in life. to overcome limitations willpower strength your many
went bankrupt,
has to literally crash and burn lost his longtime and girlfriend, a week. At that time, he came to he needed to balance his system.
Toning
Your
is a
Body
very important
are
your physical activity. your body as part of the process. The good way you look after you lose the excessweight. is that if you tone your body, it will start to regain its shape much faster, and news will even before you get down to your desired look better Too often weight. you an it think that if aren't extensive exercise won't doing program, help. people they it and is true that the calories burn the faster easier it more exercising, Although you is to lose weight, aerobic exercise isn't a substitute a toning for program. To tone your body, you should do exercises for your arms, back, and chestby and do stomach crunchesand leg extensions to firm up the dumbbells, using light and There that discuss buttocks. are books how to abdomen, hips, good many each the The each exercise of is to do for part goal high repetitions properly body. times with If can't do an exercise fifteen without to exercise, hurting yourself. you twenty a dumbbell, then you are using too much If have an other or weight. injury you health concern, always seek the assistanceof a health care professional before
inclined
If you
to lose a lot of weight, you vou may not like the flabby
part
of
the
weight-loss
process,
to reduce
need
to tone
beginning
an
exercise
program.
Two common
problems
As
that
interfere
with
mamtaining
daily
motivation.
far
as time
is concerned, the
minutes you
take
no
done
to do a simpleexercise program,
while you
program we recommend
it
any exercise
program
can
are
having
be
the
following
treatment
yourself
166
Energy
Tapping
Enhancing
Your
a
Motivation
when
1.
Imagine
situation
exercise, even though it will take motivation on a scale of 0 to 10,with unmotivated to do the exercises and 0
you come
just
10
have
no
motivation
to
fifteen minutes.
representing
that
you
exercise.
indicating that
to
of
2. Treat for
Hand
\"I exercise.\"
the
possibility
of reversal
by tapping
little
repeatedly on the
or
thinking
3.
to tap the SH or rub the SS while saying, \"I all with accept myself my problems and limitations.\" the Now look at the chart and at diagram25 to identify locations for the meridians for Under Eye (UE), Under Collarbone (UCB), and Eyebrow (EB). While five times at about thinking your lack of motivation to exercise,tap in the following each of these meridian points.Tap them order: l->2->3->2. Note: The UCB is listed twice. Tap only hard enough to feel it. The tapping
deeply
though I have
shouldn'tcause
4.
any
pain.
should motivation on a 0 to 10 scale(a number just pop into is no decrease, go back to step 2 and cyclethrough the three this is probably If there is not a decrease after sequence again. attempts, not the appropriate sequence this or else there is another for situation, that needs correction. (See step 8.) belief (i.e., reversal) sabotaging
Again,
rate your
your mind). If
there
5.
Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly on the Back of Hand do the Brain while (BH) rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, then humming a tune, counting to five, and again. humming
Next,
6. Repeat
7.
distress
is
even
within
the
0 to
to repeat
motivation\342\200\224or
the treatment
while
of
complete
relief from
as there
until
2 range,
10. It
are
imagining
your
you
lack
feel
situation\342\200\224before
8.
As
long
is an
you
motivation,
continue
treatment
with
stalls
the
any
treatment
to exercise. If
by
\"I
the
at
Side
9. When
of
Hand
(SH)
some of
tapping
deeply
on the little
accept
finger
even
myself,
problem.\"
the level of distress is 0 to 2, consider doing the Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the or to complete Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, the look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward ceiling.
you complete
should
Once
exercise.You
You can
use
will feel much more motivated to time desire lose to exercise. procedure you your any an average or more ambitiousexercise to achieve
.\".-e-eloping
an
Effective
Weight-Loss
Strategy
167
Diagram
Twenty-Five:
Motivation
TreatmentSequence
Meridian
for
Enhancing
Your
Motivation
Location
1
Under
the
center
of the
eye on
tip
of
bone
Collarbone
(EB)
(UCB)
2
3
Once inch below collarbone near throat Beginning of eyebrow near bridge of
nose
168
Energy Tapping
program. Your
four
toning
program
on a
help
times
a week.
do will
Summary
behaviors can destroy the best diet plans by diet. about is preventing Although knowledge dieting you staying emotional issues that must be corrected to help you maintain important, it is the underlying but there is no reason your program. Losing weight is not going to be donefor you, diet exercise believe that are a or an You for to unable to stickto program. you you a sedentary must understand why you are overweight. and too Yes, lifestyle many Is fattening foods in your diet are a problem, but why do you have that lifestyle? have certain beliefs do or situations to or you your appearance really secondary you in that make it secondary? You need to resolve what causes overeating life, and your in is the best way to start is to use the personal 5. loss a chapter Weight profile and interactive which a of treatments to complex problem, energy may require variety balance your system and to help you to change lose If to weight. you your lifestyle rid continue of the using the energy treatments, you will eventually yourself in the tendencies that undermine sabotaging your ability to achieve your goals in life. And, it is that will inevitable lose end, weight. you
Sabotaging
thoughts
or
unhealthy
from
on your
CHAPTER
13
Eliminating
Addictive
Behaviors:
Smoking,
Alcohol,
Drugs,
and
Gambling
that alcohol, drug, and gambling addictions are a major and United States the world. account for untold throughout problem They in terms In of and health, addition, consequences money, happiness. productivity, in the lives of the addicted addiction can wreak havoc loved ones. Although person's as alcohol destructive and drugs, it tobacco addictionis not as psychologically as continues to a health do mostaddictions. problem, represent major is a dependence When Addiction on a mind-altering substance or activity. you with are addicted, you and your body associate or tobacco alcohol, gambling, drugs, the alleviation of anxiety and other uncomfortable emotional states. In essence, A a is the fundamental addiction is dependence \"tranquilizer.\" upon goal of the addiction elimination of uncomfortable feelings. become addicted in the first place? The fact is that many people do people Why addicted use emotion-altering substancesand engagein activities without becoming can them. due causes becomea to to Addiction,however, (as is hereditary problem the case with alcohol as well as substance is when an addictive or addiction) activity the have a with reduction discomfort. Some or of paired people family history that sets them up for the developmentof addiction, due both to genetic and genealogy causes. had with If many have environmental people in your extended family problems this result a that we in Notice to develop addiction. addiction, predisposition may Even if and said predisposition, not inevitability. in your family many people this does not mean that you will become addicted too. were or are addicted, ancestry There's plenty of room for choice. And with energy psychology, there's plenty of
It
is
common
knowledge
in the
room
for hope.
170
Energy
Tapping
that however, you may develop an addiction.Keepin mind, than the simple of addictionis moreinvolved stimulus-response. that the addiction itself is not the obvious up somewhat, it becomes True enter once you are addicted, all sorts of problems primary problem. enough, these the and need be dealt with But most fundamental to too. life, problem is your the way you cope with those original and continuing uncomfortable feelingsof stress, are the result and so forth. To a large extent,these feelings of anxiety, depression, what may be referred to as perturbed which causes a in thought, disruption your For example, body's energy system. you may have the thought that your life is it is true stagnant. To hold this thought in mind without believing that cannot simply cause a disturbancein and of itself. However, if for whatever reasons you believethat the is valid, it may result in a feeling of anxiety or despair. Thosefeelings, of thought can add it even more to your difficulties, possibly making course, significantly that your life will be productive. unlikely Chronic uncomfortable feelings generally do not help you to move your life in a positive direction.Most often, such feelings interfere with your ability to get in touch affect with such as your hope and courage, and resources, your ability to plan your an effective As noted, perturbed thoughts result in a disruption in course of action. that, in turn, causes chemical, neurological,and your body's energy system that further the behavioral challenges from contribute to the problem.Removing disruption these core thoughts that the addiction trigger process is a primary key to recovery. This is where energy psychology techniquescan to overcome help you your addiction.
uncomfortable
a behavioral From involves pairing. perspective, the development of addiction That is, if you are stressed, in and or other bored, uncomfortable, ways depressed, suchas resort an or to to distraction, alcohol, drugs, gambling you emotion-altering alleviate these feelings, you will increasinglyturn to that substance or activity to cope states. This is what is referredto as a stimulus-response bond. The with those emotional be triggered all and stimulus of emotional discomfort, which may internal sorts of by external cuesor triggers, is paired with a substance or activity, which is the response. This response is reinforced because it is accompanied by an alleviation of the
feelings.
In time,
Comprehensive
Although comprehensive
Treatment
treatments
energy treatment
recommend twelve-step programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous, and Gamblers Anonymous. Theseprogramsprovide a Anonymous, the addicted wonderful a fellowship that assists person in many steps to support system, their need for abstinence, making amends for past recovery, includingrecognizing and a to the welfare wrongdoing, developing relapse prevention plan, contributing have a and For those who of on others, focusing spiritual development. sobriety
therapy,
are helpful to recovery, chronicaddictionsrequire a in intensive individual and family Besides involvement approach.
we
highly
Narcotics
difficult
time
with
perhaps
but
seeing
focuses
suchas
there
Alcoholics
Anonymous,
is Secular
many
principles
similar
to the
on scientific
approaches
to overcomingaddiction.
above organizations,
Organizations
Tiinating
Addictive
Behaviors:
Smoking, Alcohol,
Drugs,
and
Gambling
71
It is
scientific
imperative
evidence
that
the
addicted
person
practice
abstinence. There
user
that
extreme alcoholor drug dependence. is considerable In there fact, clinical evidence to the contrary. This also seems to hold true for people who have beenaddicted and even to gambling tobacco. Therefore, we highly recommend that if have had a with seduced not become addiction, you problem you by any claims that it is possible If you start to to occasionally drink, use drugs, gamble,or smoke. in believe that you can occasionally these remember that this is an activities, engage In that and of addiction leads to Alcoholics Narcotics aspect relapse. Anonymous talk about of the addict's \"Slick,\" who is the addictive part Anonymous they Slick is at that can have just one, that into personality. deceiving you very good believing you deserve to drink or no one will that ever and similar other use, know, manipulations. you This is all an aspectof addictive and relapse. It is also consistentwith what thinking refers to as reversal. energy psychology psychological it is crucial for the addicted person to use the personal (see Additionally, profile and treat beliefs and behaviors that may be the sourceof their chapter 5) to identify imbalance. This process, used in combinationwith the reduction energy urge treatments and reversal treatments that will follow, psychological help to break up the
have experienced
be used we provide energy psychology and relatedtechniques that can other therapeutic approaches. Thesetechniques will help you to eliminate addictive urges and support your If you start to have recovery process. that you repeat the treatment that is relapse-relatedthoughts, it is important process
In
a person
can become a
socialdrinker or drug
is no good
once
they
addictive pattern.
this
chapter,
to augment
in this chapter.
Psychological
As
Reversals
throughout to getting
to
we
have
noted
primary
obstacles
reversed,
addictive level even though you know that what are bad a is In when you are reversed, treat for sense, you doing you. you something it were helping you. This type of faulty that is bad as though it is goodor as though draws you back to addictive use even for a after thought process you have abstained time. reversed effective of otherwise period Being psychologically prevents It is important to avoid becoming psychologically reversed treatments if from working. the it are remain achieve to on roadto from addiction. To is this, going you recovery the to treat yourself for reversalson a regular basis. initial important During phase of it is the to correct reversals recovery, important frequently throughout day, even as as once a alarm often an hour. This can easily be prompted wrist to sound setting by whatever means or other every hour, by you might prefer. The importanceof regularly reversal is highlighted by the treating psychological was one who addicted This did not o f woman to medication. experience pain patient have a pain problem,but narcoticswereher drug of choice. After she went through the energy treatment described this woman's below, urges could be reliably in sessions and independently on her own.Unfortunately, had alleviated both this woman her to refuse to use the treatment a psychological reversal that caused time an every
gambling\342\200\224you continue
regardless of the
use
substance or activity\342\200\224smoking,
at an
this book, psychological reversals are frequently over any problem. When are you psychologically
alcohol,
the
drugs,
or
172
Energy
Tapping
urge
occurred.
the
When
urge
she was
reduction
this
asked why
woman
for
she
chose
to take
don't
of
implement
treatment, she
her
said, \"I
state
this
of
use
works!\"Obviously,
preferred
recovery
when
was in a
(the
correct
psychological
she
drugs)
for
treatment).
As she
became aware
to something
the
that could support be psychologically to tendency reversal and then be well on her
most frequently
with
to
recovery.
There
In addition
addicted individuals.
are certain types of reversals that appear to the reversals coveredin chapter 6, the
addiction.
reversals
below
commonly
affect
Deprivation
With
Reversal
are not engaged reversal, deprivation you feel terribly deprived when you is whining. addiction. It's as though your unconscious To treat this reversal, three while or thinking tap on the Side of Hand (SH) or rub the Sore Spot (SS) saying I'll I even feel if over times, \"I deeply accept myself though deprived get my addiction to (name etc.).\" e.g., alcohol, drugs, gambling, your addiction,
in your
Identity Reversal
With
identity
reversal,
the addiction
Hand
has become a
(SH) accept
or rub myself
or
of
a part
thinking
my
times,
\"I
deeply
part of
your
personality.
To
identity.\"
Self-Acceptance
When
doing these
\"I
difficult
they
time
really
statement,
helps being
deeply
themselves. This
to able
accept
myself,\"
because
don't
instill
phrase which
should is an
be used. In
Developing
Some
Emotional
one of
to
Commitment
was highly addicted to nicotine. of Energy Tapping time he would muster up of packs cigarettes daily. Every the he to enable him to habit would of enough disgust quit repulsive smoking, relapse. eventually preceding relapse, all of the reasons for quitting smoking Immediately became after he was again less significant, more foggy, and even forgotten. Only
time
He smoked
ago,
the authors
two
three
for smoking at an addictive level did the originalreasons all \"It Mark ain't too To Twain, again, apparent. paraphrase
quitting
become,
once
hard
to quit smoking;
The
forgot
times.\"
it isn't
that
eventually realized
reasons
easy to remain
he
substance-freewith
any
addiction.
continually
author
the
started
smoking
again because he
at
quitting,
he wrote
\"\"iinating
Addictive
Behaviors:
Smoking,
Alcohol,
Drugs,
and
Gambling
73
the like reasons, which included following: clothing smelling mouth every morning, fear of a heart attack, wasted money, considerabletensionat the end of the day after smoking excessively, being controlled and concerns, tending to plan his day around when cigarettes, complaints family by he can have his next cigarette,and so on.Upon he list carried this quitting smoking, with at all times, realizing that at some point his motivation him fade and would his emotional commitment to not reviewing these reasons would help him reactivate him to be successful.To simply is what smoke.Theemotional commitment allowed consider it to be a fairly good idea to quit or to alleviate any other addiction smoking in life is but have a it is quite one to emotionalcommitment about thing, strong your
down
a list
bad
of his
cigarettes,
taste
in his
another.
In this way, the author was results. His last his resolve to waver. anytime beginning and was than seventeen he has remaineda to more quit smoking attempt years ago, ever since. If energy psychology had been around at that comfortable nonsmoker it would have been a much easier task for him to quit. Now, he uses the energy time, treatments rare when return. for those very periods thoughts and urges to smoke These are in described detail below. techniques
ableto maintain
truly
yields
course
he found
Urge
The
Reduction
reduction
Treatments
described below can be used to treat any addictive and so on. The treatment tobacco, alcohol,drugs,gambling,
urge
treatments
will generally eliminatethe urge,sometimes and for extended sometimes briefly the urge is eliminated and you find that resurrect to periods. Once cannot it, it is time you in your directions life. This is a very focus on developing new and more positive and if you cannot do it on your own, you process, important part of the treatment and support groups. As you use should seek the assistanceof qualified professionals a the the treatment on basis, sequences regular period of time that you remain urge-
urge,
including
urges for
Treatment
If you
are currently
think
10 scale,
Otherwise,
the 10 representing
the level
2.
of
rate it on a 0 to experiencing an addictive urge/craving, level 0 of and highest urge indicating no urge. a situation that tends to trigger urgesfor you and rate about
urge.
of reversal on the Side of by tapping repeatedly the Sore Spot (SS) while three times, or thinking saying even though I have this urge.\"It alsomay be helpful the SS while with all my saying, \"I accept myself
that
Treat
Hand
\"I
for the
(SH)
possibility
deeply
to tap
problems
the SH or rub
and
3. Look at
Little
the chart
(LF).
the
locations
Arm
for the
(UA),
meridian
and
Under
Collarbone
(UCB), Under
While
thinking
them
about the
in
urge, tap
the
following
times
at each
174
Energy
Tapping
2 (UCB)
SS or
for
Sore Spot
or
Massive
Recurring
Reversals
Diagram
Twenty-Six:
Complex
Urge
Reduction
Treatment
Meridian
Under
Eye
(UE)
1 2
3
Under One
Six
Under
Collarbone (UCB)
(UA)
of
bone
near throat
on the
Under Arm
Little
inches
armpit
fingernail
Finger
(LF)
Inside tip
little
side
rninating
Addictive
Behaviors:
Smoking, Alcohol,
Drugs,
and
Gambling
75
4.
5.
in the Note: The UE, UCB, and UA are repeatedtwice sequence. Tap only hard enough to feel it. The tapping shouldn'tcause any pain. should (a number Again, rate your addictive urge on a 0 to 10scale just pop back 2 into your mind). If there to and is no decrease, go through step cycle which is the sequence three again. If there is not a decrease after attempts, on to the Reduction Treatment. rare, go Urge Highly Complex at the Back of Hand Next, do the Brain Balancer(BB) by tapping repeatedly (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, and then humming a tune, counting to five, then humming again.
6. Repeat the
7.
Again,
rate
l->2-\">3->4->3->2->l. tapping sequence is a decrease, continue your urge from 0 to 10. If there
until there
with
the
treatment
sequence
is
very
little
or
no addictive
urge remaining.
Treat
8.
If
at
any
\"I
this by
times,
the
tapping on the
deeply
point
treatment
(SH) while saying three finger I still have this urge.\"Then repeat even accept though myself until there is very little or no urge left.
little
the urge
stops decreasing,this
Side
indicates
a mini-reversal.
of Hand
9.
When
further
or
(BH),hold your
and
0 to 2, do the Eye
Roll
(ER)
the raise your eyes up toward ceiling. If the urge should return at a later these treatments. In time, the time, repeat will less and less are recurrence of addictive become frequent. When urges you it to resurrect the urge after this overall is best to avoid unable treatment, doing become involved in activities thinking about your addiction. Onceyou are urge-free, that far removed are from the addiction. the Reduction Treatment effectively reduces most Although Complex Urge at it addictive urges, times proves to be insufficient. In this case, a more is needed, follows. comprehensive treatment such as the one that
eyes, look at
the
floor
then slowly
Highly
Complex
you
Urge
Reduction
highest
Treatment urge/craving, rate it on a scale level of urge and 0 indicatingno that tends to trigger urges for you,
urge.
1.
If
are
of 0 to
currently
experiencing
about
and
an addictive
urge.
really
Hand
\"I
Otherwise,
think
a situation the
think
about
the
it,
rate
level of that
2. Treat for
to tap the
problems
possibility
SH or rub
of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of while or saying three times, the Sore Spot (SS) thinking even though I have this urge.\"It also may be helpful with all my the SS while saying, \"I accept myself
and
limitations.\"
3. Look at points
Under
Lip
(UBL),
Under
the locations of the meridian (SE), Under Eye (UE), Under Nose (UN), Eye Collarbone (UCB), Under Arm Under (UA),
27 to
identify
176
Energy Tapping
SS
for Massive or
Recurring 8(UB)
7(UA)
10
\\ \303\266t
(MF)
(IF)
11
12<T)
Diagram
Twenty-Seven:
Highly
Complex
Urge Reduction
Treatment
Meridian
Seq
uence
for Highly
Location
Complex Urge
of
Reduction
Eyebrow
(EB)
Side of
Eye (SE)
Eye
Under
Under
(UE)
1 2 3
4
Beginning
eyebrow
on
Side
of
eye
bony
Nose
(UN)
(UCB)
on
upper
tip
of bone
lip
bottom
Collarbone
Under
Little
Arm (UA)
Finger
Six inchesunder
Directly
under
of of
breast
little middle
on rib
on the
Middle
Finger (MF)
10
fingernail fingernail
side
11
of index
tip
(T)
12
Outside
178
Energy
Tapping
alcoholby
\"pain
feeling, he
For example,
using
of
excellent
At
results
times,
relieving
the desire
he experienced
for
a
the
the
reduction
that
treatment.
however,
He said that although that the feeling would return oncehe was sober again. Although this man's feeling certainly had much to do with the events of his life, his first step which involved the energy treatments for depression, worked rapidly implementing to eliminate his \"emptiness\" he began to fill his life with positive Then, feeling. in such as becoming involved Alcoholics Anonymous, satisfying work, and elements, and the Of course, this took some time. With dedication loving relationships. healthy, help of energy psychology,however, his life improved dramatically.
go away.\"
also
deep feeling
\"emptiness\"
would
cause him to consider drinking to make that drinking would settle the he knew
knew
for
addictive
urges
urges.
reversals
regular basis
that
interfere
can
go a
to
is often
trauma,
related
guilt
long way
other
toward eliminatingaddictive
issues,
recovery
commitment. such as
and psychological
on a
however,
chapters
emotional
comprehensive
we that you address it a recommend you have an addiction problem, make way. Besides utilizing the techniques coveredin this book, Your life and happiness, as well as the livesand other positive, healthy life decisions.
feelings,
and
energy
this book. If
happiness
of
those
you
love,
are at stake.
CHAPTER
14
Satisfying
Relationship
as to written about male-female relationshipsare very revealing of their primary Americans approach and deal with the dynamics Hate Women and the Women connections. Consider titles such as: Intimate Enemies,Men Who Are from Who Love Them, Men Are from Mars and Women Venus, Perfect Husbands and Make Your Partner Other Tales, Why You Can't or Won't Fairy Happy, and How To Make Fall in Love with Based on titles such as these, it would our You. seem Anyone on a battlefield, where the people we love hate us and are from different occur relationships about partners, but we refuse to make the partners in planets. We fantasize perfect in the end, we still want to be loved by them. If our relationships even though, happy are having not be foreign to you. you problems in your relationship, these ideasmay Most of us, however, still want to be in a successfulrelationship. books Therearemany best-selling on the topic of relationshipsthat offer good to rise above ideas and strategies. In the end, however,your emotions negative ability is the and self-sabotagingthoughts primary key to your relationship success.This behaviors that will keep your will you to choose the right person and to develop help in the direction. Your and growing right relationship is not a relationship strong that is from it is an Instead, you. ongoing \"thing\" separate activity in which you are for and to the actions of actions your responses your partner. responsible your
The
titles
of books
how most
Relationships\342\200\224good,
bad,
or
nonexistent\342\200\224are of
the
most
important
and
complex aspects
your
life.
It could
represent
easily be
argued that
families
are
the core
the
foundation
of our
of all relationshipsand
foundation
that
is falling
apart.
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Tapping
million couples get divorced, and their children are separated To some divorce or parents. degree, every breakup of a is a is an traumatic event.It never decision. The long-term relationship easy of a termination is often a of and is decided over time long period relationship commonly and loss. Each person involved in the breakup accompanied by anger, frustration, must an important relinquish part of their life, and certainly raising children as a is much harder and more single parent emotionally draining than it is with a loving partner. On the othersideof the relationship coin are the growing number of people in in their thirties and forties who have not found life. also their partner struggle They with their and doubt about why they are not in a relationship. frustration They wonder if with them. Although people is wrong they are doing something wrong or what continueto strive for and seek relationships, they often behave in ways that sabotage
Each
year
more than a
from at least
one of
their
themselves.
to thoroughly are Although specific treatments for bad relationships and creating good ones,this is not a simple task. fixing The quality of your is a reflection of how you feel about yourself and, relationships how to around you. Therefore, of the treatments from relate those that, you many that will help to improve your have been examined in previous relationships already In this common issues are addressed and chapters. chapter,however, relationship treatment that are have usefulto sequences provided proven especially relationships.
exclusively issue.
It would take an entire bookdevoted cover this complex subject and important
to relationships
there
When forgiveness,
we and
think
the
conflict,
words
anger,
are quite
resentment,
different, including hatred, misunderstanding, intolerance, sadness, frustration, and vindictive behavior.What happens?
that
tolerance, relationships,\" words such as love, caring, mind. When relationships are not healthy, however,
long-term
One
into degenerate
an
common endless
determine
or
marital
relationships
partner that
often
have
to do in
control,
even
issues discussed in
knowledge.
popular
there
temporarily,
will
your
this
book,
books
relationship
those
problems
you
the
affected
the
divorce
As is true of all the of can come partly from a lack love for you to read a few of the best-sellers written about numerous rate. This obviously indicates that
relationships.
In energy psychology, we believethat and psychological imbalances energy in ways that can benefit their relationships. reversals prevent people from behaving and reinforce poor judgment as behaviors Self-sabotaging thoughts may temporarily in a manner that angers and createsan energy well as allow peopleto behave imbalance in their which complicates the problem even further. partner, The selected that are examined in this chapter includechoosing the topics too into a loneliness, blame, wrong person, plunging quickly relationship, rage, and abusive obsessions, dynamics. In addition, somecommon relationship relationship behaviors are explored, including nagging, anger, and feelings relationship and vindictive behavior. Effective treatment sequences are provided frustration, rejection,
for
problem.
each.
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181
Developing
Anyone
Relationships
pick
can
the wrong
person choose
that you
years.
In
effect,
push them away before you get to know them and other attractive the problem of choosing the wrong person their qualities. Although in be true for their can someone more of an issue for people twenties, it is usually who are over thirty of about you is true years age. In the end, you must decidewhat Y our and a and your relationshipbehaviors. friends source of valuable family can be information about what you do in this area in your life. of an endless The problem can be in the form string of short-term relationships or becoming involved that you know are ultimately in long-term not relationships to work. Of course, if you are psychologically reversed on this problem, it can going blind in of your life. If you repeatedly fall you to what is really going on in this part love and end up brokenhearted, you are most likely the relationship sabotaging part of your life. The first step in treating relationship issues with energy is to deal psychology to complete with any possiblereversals and the energy treatments for other problem Todothis in a thorough manner, review chapters 5 and 6 to identify areas. any believe are blocking your success or creating sabotagingbeliefs. The next problems you that to is to the situation needs Some identify relationship change. examples step
especially
rejectingthe right type of people. In quality that you do not find immediately
appealing
partners attractive,
for
you, while
\"right
these situations,
the
simultaneously
of person\"
that
type
or they
lack a
trait
you,
so you
include:
\342\200\242 I
rarely
get seek
involved
in long-term
with
relationships.
who
relationships
men/women
use
me.
make
\342\200\242 I find \342\200\242 I
partners based on
difficult
to find anyone I
get
\342\200\242 I am \342\200\242 I am
men/women
who
make
me feel that
enough.
The
list
happening
need to
category.Once
underlying
you
select
the
situation,
identify
reversals
(i.e.,
beliefs) such
as:
treat
then you
deserve deserve be in
to be
to be in
men/women
who
me right.
never
a relationship
works.
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do what
it
takes
impossible
for me I am
be in
a good
feel
not
bored
with people
me.
Psychological
Reversals
There are
treatment
before
have multiple
treatment
four reversals or sabotaging situations that you use the energy sequences to deal with
relationship
you
should
consider for
If you
a specific
for
a massive and
that will never given up and believe you resolve a specific relationshipproblem, the treatment for a deep-level reversal. You can apply this strategy to the then use or saying on the Under Nose (UN) and yhinking relationshipas a wholeby tapping the following statement three times, \"I deeply accept myself if I never have a at an unconscious Another concern is that, level, you successful, loving happy, relationship.\" have cometo believe that don't deserve to have a good relationship. Forthis, tap you under your bottom lip (UBL) while thinking or saying three times, \"I deeply directly even if I don't deserve to have a successful,happy, accept myself loving my
while thinking
problems
SoreSpot (SS) on
and
is only
one of
problem.
three
that
profoundly
limitations'').
person, or
you
never
relationship.\"
Most
problems
can be
may be important in treating your type as a or such as having a whole relationship problem any specific aspects of the problem, to toward or a to cheat. become desire tendency your having angry partner that reversal corrections Remember corrections are not necessarily permanent. Repeated may There are many be\342\200\224and usually are\342\200\224necessary. problems that can negatively affect the and longevity of relationships, including painful memories, vibrancy relationship and more. loneliness, rejection,
treatment
sequence
for
a specific
SH).This
Painful
When
Relationship Memories
have
you
a memory
can
of a
were
hurt
very
have
being
hurt
the case
times,
again by
memory and,
In memories,
addresses
differently.
these and
painful
sabotaging
still
problem.
So\"
sfying
Relationship
183
Loneliness
Feeling lonely
with
that of
or feeling that
you
you
are
unable
to be
yourself
would Hand
can affect
distress
(SH)
while
though I am
Collarbone
unable to be alone.\"
about
potential relationships. To correctthis, and treat yourself for specific reversal. thinking or saying three times, \"I deeply
Then,
about
a situation
First,
accept
times
tap on
the Side
tap
twenty
the
to
Brain
being
alone.
This
process until
chapter 8
to be
followedby
Then, tap
thirty
the idea of
(See
for
more
details.)
get
of
with
treat
any
yourself
rejection
for
(SH)
while
thinking
of
or saving
Then,
and have given up even trying specific reversal. First, tap on the
deeply
to
Side
even
accept and
rejection.\"
(UCB).
(EB), Under
need to
comfortable
tap five times at each (UA) Eye (UE), Under Arm Balancer
rejection.
point in the
Under
myself
Other Issues
be additional issues that indicate that you don't feel enough a to be in successful yourself you must identify relationship.In this situation, the exact problem, not or not feeling successful. Treat attractive feeling on yourself for reversal. the Side of Hand First, tap (SH) while specific thinking or saying
There
may
good
about
suchas
through
deeply
accept
you
search
for most
a positive
relevant
of the
problemsthat
as
relationship. they
reversals,
You are encouraged, however, to treat often block the development of healthy
even though I have this problem.\" myself the previous chapters, you will find treatment sequences be blocking may you from developing and maintaining
yourself
daily
for
relationships.
Choosing
the
we
Wrong
Partner
sequences.
In this
As
section,
will present
noted,
if
relationship
there
The following
treatments
scenarios provide man}' but can examples, you are additional problems that need correction.
two case studies and appropriate treatment treatments are much more complex than most
substitute
other
issues.
other
The Story of
Tara was
Tara:
Case
Study
woman
who
had
she
short-term chose to
relationships.
be with, however,
misled or cheated
184
on
Energy
Tapping
her.
make
The problem
made
was
same
that
continually
the
to
those
men stopped callingor broke off the relationship. of there could be a number for this situation, in this case, Tara reasons Although was choosing the of man for her. Shewas a woman who wrong type thoughtful very was interested in how people think and feel about situations in life. She also neededa man who would she to feel happy. One problem needed give her the attention that was that when she met men who showed a lot of interest in her, but were not the that she would she shut often down and become bored. She power types preferred, to them without know that because sheassumed weren't them, getting rejected they exciting enough. Interestingly, in her own life, Tara is very much like the average do is give men in less powerful person. What she didn't a chance. Instead, by positions the of man for she maintained a low that her, seeking wrong type self-image reinforced her belief that only by being with someonevery or successful could powerful she feel good about herself. The treatments for problems of this nature are complex, do not instantly and but can be done people change. There are numerous they steps, Once the treatments it a for Tara started to create new awareness quickly. began,
about
relationships
with those men didn't work, and she relationships of mistakes. alsouseda lot of her energy trying She type work. In the end, shefelt disappointed and hurt when the
her
men.
Choosing
the
the
Wrong
in a
Person:
sentence or
you feel
Treatment Option 1
always 0 to
1.
Define
problem
and
own
situation
words.
Rate the
to define
person
it
in
0 meaning
10 being the
for
worst
you.
your
2. Treat
ability to develop a of Hand (SH) or rubbing the or saying Sore Spot (SS) while thinking the problem three times. In Tara's it would be, \"I deeply case,for example, accept myself even though I need to be with men who I consider powerful and exciting.\"Another related reversal to correct may be, \"I deeply accept myself even though I prefer men/women who don't love me and who lower my self-image.\" Although this may to be at odds with what are trying to achieve, you must first appear you behavior before you can change it. accept your
your
the Side
3.
Next,
balance
your
energy
to the
men/women
the
system to
but
attracted
good for
with
Think
about
whom
covered
Use relationship.
this
treatments
a person that
you
problem.
to
4. Again,
sequence
men/women
decrease after
sequence
who are not good for you on a 0 back to step 2 and cyclethrough this go
three
sabotagingbelief (i.e.,reversal)
that
needs
then this is attempts, or there is another else you, correction. (See step 8.)
for
Satisfying
Relationship
85
5.
Next,
(BH)
do the
while
then counterclockwise,
Brain Balancer(BB) by tapping repeatedly on the Back of clockwise, rotating rotating your eyes your eyes a tune, counting to five, and humming again. humming
of distress from 0 to 10.It shouldbe lower 0 to 2 range, go to step 9. Sometimes you'll
you
Hand
6. Repeat
step 3.
rate
7.
Again,
your
level
yet.
When
need
the
to
concern\342\200\224or even
several times while you are imagining you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before
problem.
your
your
feel
relief
this
8. As long
stalls
level
of distress,
treatments
there
the Side of Hand (SH)while saying even though I still have some of this
9. When Back
at any
is very
little or
If no distress remaining.
treatment tapping
by
on
times,
\"I
deeply
accept
myself,
problem.\"
the
the distress
and
distress further
of Hand
at
is 0 to 2, consider doing
to complete
head
the treatment
straight,
look
10. This
the
floor
then slowly
Eye Roll (ER) to lower the effects. To do this, tap on the and, moving only your eyes,
the
ceiling.
is a complexproblem that additional treatments. The next step requires is to treat the \"lack of interest\" that you feel about men/women that would be best for you (unconsciously, think case, you know who they are). In this about a person whom you like, but for whom don't feel an interest. you
Don't
doing is tuning
Treatment
worry,
you in
don't that
have feeling.
to date To treat
that
(MET) found in
treat
use
chapter 8.
MET
specific
person,
what
Midline
you are
Energy
11. Next,
yourself. To do this,
yourself,
man/woman
\"I
you
should
for a
the
better sense
and intelligent
self
or
a positive
thinking
belief about
or
treatment
while
am
an who
attractive cares
this
until treatment should be repeated To determine this, rate from 0 to 5 the with five indicating that you this statement, it. a have this task. At believe Once to five, absolutely you completed you get it will be to treatment so that the this times, necessary positive belief repeat becomesan ongoingand active part of how you feel about yourself.
of you feel the validity level of your belief about
for me.\"
This
saying
to
statement.
12.
Lastly,
you
must
doesn't
fit
your
impatience
in chapter
feel
about
this
new person.
men/women
your eliminate
of
this
treatment
is
don't
reallv
care
sense
of self,
the
problem,
vou will be
stuckin negative,unproductivebehaviors. Onceyou of more open to meeting the right type person for
the emotional
about you.
damage
that
occurs
from
continually
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Tapping
A Case Study old and had never been When to see us, he was forty-two came years Kyle married. He had a good job and enjoyed many hobbies that kept him active and would involved.He had a fear that if he were to get married, his wife never be satisfied or that she would be an emotionalwreck. Heimagined that he would spend all in of his time cateringto her needsand, lose his own lifestyle, one that he effect, in the past who exhibited He had been involved with several women really enjoyed. and that caused him to end thoserelationships. of those such In two behaviors, to avoid he really cared for the person, and he wanted relationships, going through the the next pain of separation again. Kyle felt confused and, in part, believedthat in a would have the same problems. woman behaved Perhapsunconsciously, Kyle manner that attracted or even sought them out to perpetuate his women, needy
The
Story
of Kyle:
sabotaging
beliefs.
Choosing
the
the
Wrong
in a
did
that
Person:
not
Treatment
Option
was
2
by two
all
1.
Identify
problem
statement such
work
as, \"I
traumatized
that
in life. Rate your level of distress from going to create problems your a to scale of 0 on 10, with 10 being the worst situation your past relationships and 0 meaning cause that trauma from past relationshipsdoesnot currently in problems your life.
relationships
are only
believe
prior
men/women
2.
Treat
for
the
possibility three
of the
Hand
reversal
that
all
men/women
are the
(SH)
or rubbing
myself even if I believe yourself, \"I deeply accept in that all men/women will only create problems life.\" To treat the my reversalthat attract can never emotionally healthy people, tap the Under Nose you \"I three times while (UN) saying, deeply accept myself even if I can never
or
saying
times to
same by
attract
men/women
who
are
emotionally
healthy.\"
you.
3. Think about a situation in your past relationshipsthat traumatized for trauma in chapter 10. treat this problem, use a treatment 4. Again, rate your distress about
(a
To
past
traumatic
If
mind). just again. step 2 and cyclethrough this sequence for three then this is either not an appropriate sequence you, attempts, that needs there is another sabotaging belief (i.e.,reversal) correction.
number
should
there
scale
to
or else
(See
step 8.)
5. Next, do the
while
Brain
Balancer
(BB) by
6.
(BH) rotating your rotating your eyes clockwise, then humming a tune, counting to five, and humming Repeat step 3.
Again,
Backof
Hand
counterclockwise,
again.
7.
When level of distress from 0 to 10.It shouldbe lower yet. need to is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9.Sometimes you'll the treatment several timeswhile you are imagining concern\342\200\224or your
rate
your
* So'isfying
Relationship
187
you
feel
complete
relief
8. As
as there is a decrease in your level of distress, with the continue long is very little or no distress remaining. If the treatment treatments until there stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treat this on the by tapping \"I little finger Side of Hand while three times, (SH) accept saying deeply even though I still have some of this problem.\" myself,
9. When
the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further and to complete the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.
used these
that
treatments to get over his trauma about bad and relationships are the same and will ruin his lifestyle. The first behavior was treatment that he no longer sought women who were change he noticed after did when women and, needy needy approach him, he was able to see the problem and not become involved. He also started to view women he differently. Although has not yet found his mate in life, he feels much clearer about who he wants to date and he believes that he can become involved in a relationship again.
Kyle
his beliefs
all
women
Relationship
Obsessions
the
outside obsession is a complexproblemthat requires therapeutic help. But energy that can undermine your ability to obsessive behaviors psychologycan address many with marital obsession, the have a relationship. deals below Although the case study men who treatment could for example, dating, easily apply to those who are casually interest. continually call women who show no reciprocal
have the potential to create always attracted to lose all rational perspective when they feel is not mutual. They feel compelledto continually another person, even if the interest This of control the person loss blocks people and, in the extreme, to stalk phone to others. In the extreme, from moving on with their lives and from being attracted
lack
Relationships,or
Sometimes,
thereof,
obsessive
behaviors.
people
them.
Case
Study
been
Kim is thirty-six
ugly
married.
the
dresses
she was
topic
to talk
about is
this
she
would
do
ashamed
and
embarrassed
that she
she received.Thesenegative If they did not about whom she would date. picky
every wedding invitation
think,
the perfect husband. She alsofelt was not married, and this feeling worsened with
on finding
feelings
fit
made fantasy,
Kim then
her
\"Why
waste
my
time?\"
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Energy
Tapping
Treatment
for
Obsession
1. Identify the obsessivebehavior in a statement suchas,\"I must get married.\" date men/women who Also, identify any beliefs, such as, \"I should only Think about a specific for marriage.\" clearly meet all my requirements rate your feelings of obsession on a scale of 0 to 10, with 10 being situation and and that you have no obsessivethoughts at 0 indicating completelyobsessed
a\303\274.
2.
belief with the appropriate treatment.If there are for for a massive reversal.Otherwise, multiple problems, yourself example, the the little Side Hand or rub Sore on of (SH) tap finger Spot (SS)while even though I am or saying three times, \"I deeply thinking accept myself next reversal involve the obsessed about married.\" The getting may finding the Side of Hand or rub the Sore To do husband/wife. this, (SH) perfect tap while or saying three times, \"I deeply (SS) Spot minking accept myself even if I am looking for the perfect husband/wife.\"
Treat
each
sabotaging
treat
3. Look at the chart and at diagram 28 to identify the locations for the meridian for Under Eye (UE) and Under Collarbone While (UCB). thinking points about the obsessive feeling, tap each of the meridian five times. Tap points UE is repeated them in the following order l->2->l. Note: The twice in the
tapping
shouldn't
cause
any
4.
on a 0 to 10 scale(a number should just 2 back to mind). go pop step and cycle decrease after three attempts, through the sequence again.If this is probably not an appropriate sequencefor you, or else there is another that correction. needs (See step 8.) sabotagingbelief (i.e.,reversal) 5. Next, do the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly on the Backof Hand (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, and then humming a tune, countingto five, humming again.
rate
your
feelings
of obsession
there
into your
If
is
tapping sequence l-\302\2732-\302\273l. It should be lower yet. 7. Again, rate your level of distress on a 0 to 10 scale. need When the distress is in the 0 to 2 range,go to step9.Sometimes to you'll are concern\342\200\224or the treatment severaltimeswhile repeat you imagining your feel complete relief even while you you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before this from problem. with the 8. As long as there is a decrease in your level of obsession, continue If the is obsession treatment until there little or no very remaining. sequence Treat this on the stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. by tapping little finger Side of Hand while saying three times, \"I deeply (SH) accept I of this even still have some problem.\" myself, though
9. When
the the distress level is 0 to 2, consider doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further or to complete the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH),hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, raise look at the floor and then slowly your eyes up toward the ceiling.
6. Repeat
Sc-
stying
Relationship
189
2 UCB)
SSor SoreSpot
for
Massive
or
Recurring Reversals
Diagram
Twenty-Eight:
Obsessive
Behaviors
Treatment
Sequence
for
Obsession
Meridian
Point
(UE)
Location
1
Under Eye
Under
Collarbone
(UCB)
Under the center of the eye on tip of throat One inch under collarbone near
bone
190
Energy Tapping
Because Kim was obsessed with getting her chancesof behaviors and beliefs sabotaged
Kim
married,
finding
she
the
was reversed
right
and her
eliminated her obsession with talk about her future She has not She no need to marriage. longer wedding. found her marriagepartner yet, but she feels more comfortable dating. She believes has had fun dating men whom she that she has started and to look at men differently
used
person
for herself.
the
above
and eventually
previously
would
have
defined
as \"less than
perfect.\"
Identifying
The
Sabotaging
Beliefs
that may block of this exercise is for you to specifically beliefs identify any goal All have to do is use paper and pencil you your ability to have a good relationship. and start down your beliefs. They could be the list of traits you require your writing future You are to have or your beliefs about men or womenin general. partner the relationship that you desire, i.e., the beliefs that block you from having looking for one that will be truly successful. Here are a few examples:
\342\200\242 Men \342\200\242 Women \342\200\242 Women \342\200\242 Men \342\200\242 All \342\200\242
only care
will
interested about
want
is sex.
to control
of beliefs
He/she
Next, identify
example:
\342\200\242 I will \342\200\242 I am \342\200\242 I do \342\200\242 I am \342\200\242 It is \342\200\242 I'm
the
set
more specificallyabout
what I want.
yourself.
For
settle for
less
than
exactly
\342\200\242 I can't
make
there
a relationship
are
work.
alleviate
Although relationship,
the
essential
and positive thinking. For example,if you think rational disputing that than 10 percent of all more old to married, get remembering you in the Center for the United States of involve over age forty (National marriages people will Health Statistics 1997)probably not affect your beliefs. You need to treat the self-sabotaging belief that you are too old to have a the successful, following reversals: loving relationship by addressing
of the
using the
belief with
energy
beliefs that can interfere with having is to goal identify them, target them, and then treatments.It may not be sufficient to simply try to
many
a positive them
by
talk
yourself
out
are too
Satisfying
Relationship
191
1. Tapping
deeply
on the Side of
myself
Hand
(SH)
while
accept
even though I
thinking or saying three times,\"I believe I'm too old to have a successful,
loving
relationship.\"
while
accept
loving
myself
even though I
thinking
or
saying
to
three times,
ever
\"I
have
relationship.\"
3. Tapping
have
on the
deeply
Under
accept
Bottom
Lip
(UBL)
while
times.
a
thinking
\"I
successful,
I believe
Sometimes these
beliefswork in combination
partner
with
each
other.
that
Those who
they
are
not
unable
deserving
to
find
suitable
often believe
it's
of a
(unconsciously)
for them
are
impossible
to have a
successful
and
unsafe.
These underlying
sabotage
Often many
person
their
relationships.
people characteristics
with
relationship
doesn't
will meet someone who treats them well and that please them, yet they don't follow through that The surface rationale or excuse might person.
good
has
interests
look
enough,
push often who
doesn't make
away happens have the
belief
second-bestmatches the feeling and belief that they have inside, an unconscious that drives them are to fail. To correct the beliefsand reversals that blocking in a must them sentence. Don't about identify being you, you worry exact\342\200\224you what know treat these reversals\342\200\224and you feel and believe. Once you may have you this a a while\342\200\224it do on basis for will free to daily up your thinking and feelings, and will less the time chasing spend wrong people. you
a looks, money, and excitement,along with energy seekingpartners knack for making them feel second-best.They this because made to feel do being
enough money,
or
isn't
that
exciting
they
deserve
enough. to be
The Relationship
Another
Plunge
problem
type
of relationship
which
is the
are attracted to the person for various reasons person. In this case, you immediately such as their looks, style, mannerisms, fall or interests. You achievements, deeply in are love right away, and then later you come to realize that you and this person At not this some leave the to compatible. point, people repeat simply relationship, only the same mistake with someone else.Othersmakethe errorof sticking it out, living in a state of boredom or unhappiness. If you have an obvious desireto take the relationship plunge, you may scare Such the other behavior comes as across away person. needy, and the reason you time with desire to spend is clear. The following treatment not potential partner your will address to into too quickly. sequence your tendency plunge relationships
plunge,
know
the
192
Energy
Tapping
Treatment
for
the too
the
1. Identify
happen
problem
quickly
or
feelingsof your need a scale of 0 to 10 scale,with about a specificsituation on highest obsession and 0 indicating no obsessive feelings
appropriate
2. Treat
Relationship Plunge a in statement such as, \"I try to I always chase men /women
make
away.\"
relationships
Think
about
an the
to rush
10 at
into things
indicating all.
for the possibilityof reversal on the Side of Hand (SH) or by tapping \"I the while three Sore or times, (SS) rubbing Spot thinking saying deeply can be more You accept myself even though I rush into relationships.\" specific and use your own words. It also may be helpful to tap the SH or rub the SS while \"I with all and accept problems saying, deeply myself my
limitations.\"
3.
Look
at the
chart and
points
relationships/' following
for Forehead
tap order:
29 to identify the locations for Under Nose (UN), Under Bottom (F), Lip
at
diagram
the
meridian
(UBL), into
and
thinking
or
shouldn'tcause
4.
of these meridian points.Tap them in the l-\302\2732-\302\2733-\302\2734. hard Tap enough to feel it. The tapping only
times
saying
aloud
to yourself.
\"I
rush
on each
any
pain.
feeling about the situation on a 0 to 10 scale (a number mind). If there is no decrease, go back to step 2 and three through again. If there is not a decrease after cycle sequence attempts, this is probably not an appropriate sequence for or else there is another you, that needs correction. (See step 8.) sabotagingbelief (i.e.,reversal) 5. Next, do the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly on the Backof Hand (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, then humming a tune, counting to five, and humming again. 6. Repeat the tapping sequence l-\302\2732-\302\2733-\302\2734.
Again,
rate your
should
just pop
into your
7.
repeat the
even
0 to
10. It
step
should be
lower yet.
you'll
complete
When
go
to
9. Sometimes feel
need to
relief
several
times
while
while
you
are in the
actual
you are
imagining your
you
concern\342\200\224or
situation\342\200\224before
8.
with the As as there is a decrease in your level of distress, continue long If the treatments until there is very little or no distress remaining. treatment stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treatthis by tapping on the little finger Side of Hand while three times, \"I deeply (SH) accept saying I even though still have some of this problem.\" myself,
the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further the treatment effects. To do this, and on to complete tap the Back of Hand (BH). hold your head straight, and, moving only your eyes, the look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward ceiling. The tendency to plunge into relationshipsoften a belief that are comes from you A never find sense not good enough or that someone to love. of desperation you'll When this is the case, that inner may strongly influence your approach to relating.
9. When
* Sc-symg
Relationship
193
2 (UN)
(UBL)
4(CH)
Reversals
Diagram
Twenty-Nine:
Relationship
Plunge
Plunge
Forehead
Under
(F)
1 (UN)
2
One inch
Above
Nose
nose
Under
Bottom Lip
(UBL)
3
4
In depression
Two
Chest (CH)
inches
194
Energy
Tapping
sense
following
of urgency
reversal
self-worth
should
also be
targeted by
thinking
time
1. Tapping
on the
deeply
Under
accept
Bottom
Lip
(UBL)
a
while
times, \"I
myself
even though I
loving that
believe that
or saying
is running
relationship.\"
times
are illustrated
into
Under
(UN), Under
saying aloud or to
also
on diagram
and
29:
while
Chest
(CH),
yourself, \"Rushing
Besides should you using this treatment before you even begin a use it whenever this, By you find yourself beginning to take the doing secure while getting to know the person. You need to you can help yourself to remain accumulate the other before falling \"hopelessly in person enough experience with
relationship, plunge.
truly
becomes
a choice.
Understanding
and
Gray
Accepting
Men
Are
Differences
from
In 1992, John
his book, Gray
better
wrote
the best-seller
to help
Mars,
Women
advice
attempts
men and
to
to
communicate
improve recurring
Women
with one
respond
about
numerous
how men
react
and how
their
relations.
themes
should
readers with
1.
stop
or acting in
situations.
problems.
your partner in
2.
through
affectionate
must
also
show
life.
Showing
your
partner
that you
two do not wish to oversimplify Gray's simple and the be cause of many to maintain on a regular may this problems in We encourage you to read of nature to increase your relationships. and further stimulate about your thinking relationships. We also knowledge Will Is Not the Answer: A Change Save Your Marriage recommend Divorce Heart by George of
Although
we
book,these
behaviors are
difficult
basis,
books
Pransky
(1992) and
Gottman
Why
Marriages
Succeed
by John
information
(1995).
These
books
Can
Make
Yours
Last
about
various
the
sources
is
Tocreate
problems
relationship
that self-examination
achieving success. Onceyou have done this, you book to eliminate or minimize these tendencies. energy and stated, healthy Simply insight knowledge are often not enough to create need You to unwanted relationships. target thoughts, feelings,and behaviorsand then
and
required
of relationship however, you must invest your time in you desire, what beliefs or behaviors are creating to determine
this
the
blocking
you from
in
treatments
balance
your
energy
around
these issues
with
the
treatment
sequences
in this book.
Satisfying
Relationship
195
Relationship
Issues
The following
that
sectiondealsprimarily
or ruining
doubt
with
the
negative
Although
emotions
we
may
be
examples here, no
greatest
hurting
your relationships.
know
have
selected
affect
on your
you
which
feelings
and behaviors
previous
are
the
chapters
to treat
those problems.
Accepting
the
Eliminating
Urge
Nag
in a manner behave you nag your mate is because they you refuse in in the a an man to doctor's office accept. example, waiting room elderly in walked toward the exit door, pulled a cigarfrom his it his mouth, and coat, put to pulledout his lighter. His wife, who was following closelybehind him, exclaimed \"Look at him! Look at him! He hasn't even left the doctor's everyone sitting nearby, and he's \"I'm office trying to smoke that stinking cigar!\"To which the man replied, me about this cigar, sixty years.\" As years old. Sixty years she has nagged ninety-two the man proceeded his cigar, his wife followedhim, out the door trying to light
One reason
For
shaking
her
head.
In almost
belief that
sometimes complaints
are
partner referred to
one
continually
or long-term there is some behavior or relationship, the other partner crazy. These behaviors as pet peeves,and they lead often to one of the most common in relationships\342\200\224a This type of partner believes that nagging partner. by their will their and often mate, (control) nagging berating they change
every marriage
has
that drives
partner's
nagging
behavior.
What
usually
from
happens,
nagging
however,
partner.
is
that
the
person
being
that
withdraws emotionally
mate
their
This doesn't
that
mean
strategy
nagged
the
doesn't
have
nagging rarely
a
works to producethe
If the
a legitimate
nagging
the
of excessive
result.
Nagging
ineffective,
is a
you
combination of
can
is incessant
of
and
be sure
that
reversal
lies at the
heart
it.
where you nag or do not accept a behavior of your as Rate level of frustration and/or partner. specificas possible. your a scale 0 with 10 the and 0 on of to most distress 10, anger representing
about
a situation
Try to be
distress.
indicating
no
2. Treat
Hand
3.
of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of the while or saying three times, Sore (SH) Spot (SS) thinking \"I I even when (name the accept deeply myself though nag my partner It the SH the SS while also be to or rub situation).\" may helpful tap saying, \"I with all and limitations.\" accept deeply myself my problems at the chart and at diagram 30to identify the Look locations for the meridian Arm for Under Under Under (EB), (UA), Eyebrow Eye (UE), points and Little Finger (LF). While thinking Collarbone (UCB), about the situation (don't the discomfort get into it so much that you experience any major during in at each five times of these meridian them the process), tap points. Tap hard enough to feel it. The tapping order: l-\302\2732-\302\2733-\302\2734-\303\244>5. Tap only following
for the
possibility\"
or rubbing
shouldn'tcause
any
pain.
196
Energy Tapping
(EB)
2(UE)
(UCB)
SS or
for
Sore Spot
or
Massive
Recurring Reversals
Diagram
Thirty:
Treatment
for Nagging
Treatment
Sequence
for
Accepting
Your Partner
Meridian
Eyebrow
Location
(EB)
1 2
Under
Eye
Arm
(UE)
(UA)
Under
Under
Collarbone
(UCB)
4
5
near bridge of nose Under the center of the eye on tip of bone Six inches below and under the armpit One inch under collarbone near throat Inside tip of little fingernail on the side
Beginning
of eyebrow
Satisfying
Relationship
97
4.
Again,
should
cycle
attempts,
this
event, or
correction.
about this situation on a 0 to 10 scale (a number mind). If there is no decrease, go back to step 2 and the three sequence again. If there is not a decrease after is probably not an appropriate treatment this for sequence
that
needs
(See
8.) repeatedly
your
5. Next,
(BH)
do the Brain Balancer(BB) by tapping rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating then humming a tune, counting to five, and
while
on the
eyes
Back of
Hand
counterclockwise,
humming
again.
6. Repeat the
7.
l-\302\2732-\302\2733-\302\2734-\302\2735. tapping sequence 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. When your level of distress from is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9. Sometimes need to you'll
times
while
you
while
from the
distressfulsituation.
you
are in the
actual
are imagining
you
the
distress\342\200\224or
situation\342\200\224before
feel
complete
relief
8.
As as there is a decrease in your level of distress, with the continue long is very little or no distress remaining. If the treatment treatments until there stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treatthis by tapping on the little finger Side of Hand while saying three times, \"I deeply (SH) accept even though I still have some of this problem.\" myself,
distress level is 0 to 2, consider to lower doing the Eye Roll (ER) effects. further and to complete the treatment To do this, tap on the Backof Hand (BH), hold your head straight, and, moving only your eyes, raise look at the floor and then slowly your eyes up toward the ceiling.
to
nagging,
These
can
that
your
can
stem from
cruel
any
and a
do
general lack of
beliefs
partner,
treat
about
negative To
and
reversals,
are
this,
refer to
emotions you
Behavior
partner.
You need
to
feelingsof
that
anger
and
book
provide
treatment
Vindictive
your to
behavior
is blinded
forgive
and
can
be very
child
situation. If
vindictive.
you
are
can lead destructive because often emotions your negative in a vehicle to hurt loses vindictive your partner. Everyone as reversed on this issue, however, you will not see yourself
as a
forget. If you
To treat
and painful painful memories causing chapter 10 on trauma that are determine and treat the emotions memories). Next, driving your feelings (see chapter 8). Do Do you need to forgive your you need to eliminate your feelingsof anger? partner? If you feel stuck in your vindictive behavior, reversals are often at the
that
need to
identify,
examine,
and
address
any
it (see
198
Energy Tapping
source, as you
are no longerthinking
them
rationally
about
wishing
to
hurt
(see
chapter
6 on
reversalsand self-sabotage).
Blame
your
partner
when you
are
We can affect would be remiss if we did not mention how energy psychology the complex and dangerousissues On the surface, these of abusive relationships. in a with are a mystery. Why would someonestay types of relationships relationship a person who continually blames them for their problems and takes out their rageby them? For both the person who is battered as well as the one who batters, beating massive reversals are generally the driving force.Our hope is that if either partner will see the problem for (seechapter 6), they repeatedly treats their massivereversal what it is and use the other treatments in this book to treat the memories, painful and addictions that are at the of abuse issues. because often core H owever, rage, in abusive are outside therapeutic help is a necessity\" most relationships dangerous,
instances.
Treatment
If
for the
involved
treatment
Battered
partner who has hit
may
you
you
are
with a
sequence
the
following
be helpful.
abused
or
repeated
regularly.
1. Think
the
left
about a situation when you were side of your chest while thinking
accept
Hand
unconditionally
unconditionally
myself
(SH)
with
all
my
rub the Sore Spot (SS) on \"I and times, saying deeply and limitations.\" Then problems
and three
myself
and
abusive
be abused.\"
relationship,
problem
and saying three times, \"I deeply even though I allow myself to be in this unfulfilling believe that I deserve and even if I unconsciously
while
to
2.
Now
define
your
in a
treatment
for
trauma
provided
in chapter
any
10.
problems, such
with
3. If
Although
you
have
related
of
alone,
or trouble
these
dealing
rejection,
issues
must also
be treated.
of
being
treatments
this problem,
qualified
we again strongly
the
you
can prove
recommend
therapist.
Treatment
for
find
Batterer
are unable
If you your
regularly hitting
that
to control your
or
being
cruel
use
the
following
insecurity\"
and
anger,
resulting
in
when you
side of
were
Spot (SS)
deeply
limitations.\"
on
the
left
to your
Sore
\"I
saying
problems
three
and
times,
\"I deeply
and
Then
and unconditionally
three of Hand (SH)while saying times, I'm abusive.\" accept myself even though
* Sc-
s*ving
Relationship
199
2. Now
I am drunk, I let my define your problemin a statementsuchas.\"When I and I him blame her out of beat or for control, my partner, my anger go use the treatments for and in Now problems.\" anger chapter 8. rage provided you
3. If
We
have
any related
with
problems, such
they
as a heavy
drinking,
shame,
jealousy,
or dealing
strongly
rejection,
must
also be
treated.
recommend
damaging
that
help you
It problems
resolve this
important in their
you seek
behavior
is
that
both the
as
exist
relationship.
One way to
alcoholism.
as safely
do this
to
treat
is
clarity you
needed.
on
this
issue,
the
to
recognize
their safety
is at risk and to
Clarity
may also
take
to deal this
problem.
Summary
It
is
impossible
that
in one
exist
issues
chapter to
in
are willing to participatein self-examination and apply treatment applications. must focus on how can Therefore, help you you yourself to cope with these and to to resolve them. You can also examine problems develop strategies in how your behaviors create or maintain problems your relationship. treatments, Emotionally charged issues, suchas infidelity, may require multiple with treat reversals that are to deal the but you must first any blocking your ability maintain the Your behaviors be to problem problem. self-sabotaging may helping
will change
relationships
are endless.
do justiceto the
complex
issue
of relationships.
partner.
The
They
only if they
and/or
related
may be
preventing you
memories meaning
from
emotional
feelings, such as
or
anger or
trauma.
that
finding
a strategy
jealousy
to stop it.
when
Always
treat
any
(even
For some
they
you believe
they are
if repeated and ongoing energytreatments are even a often have attached to them and, Relationship required. problems long history a family no one can push your buttons better than member, generally, especially your mate. Considerwhether your mate or the people with whom you are in a relationship are energetically imbalanced or if their behavior sabotages your relationship.If your treatments are effective, then you should be able to feel or recognize your issue This and be able to respond in an appropriate manner. doesn't certainly relationship mean that every situation will work out in an ideal way, but it may allow you to avoid spending much of your time upset about your relationships. In closing, relationships are ongoing activities. You are responsible for your to the actions of your partner. If your are not actionsand your response relationships there is some behavior or belief that is to then working well, helping sabotagethem. are far an issue to casestudies that cover too complex present specific Relationships all relationship and list issues. If you use the personalprofile in chapter5, however, will all of your problems and treat eliminate the issues and them, you underlying shouldhave less difficulty using energy psychology to treat the specificissuesin your Our
give
advice is:
Don't
up
relationships.
CHATTES
15
Tools
for
Lifetime
Be
the
change
you want to
see
in
the
world.
Gandhi
\342\200\224Mahatma
Energy
Tapping
has introduced
your
a new approachto
body's
people
own
We have
including anxiety and phobias, otheruncomfortable and limiting beliefs. Energy psychology even makes it emotions, for to enhance and realize average, possible you efficiently your golf swing, or batting in areas life. it's All that's is for you other of And improvement your simple. required to identify the problem by thinking about and then in on it, tap sequence specific
reduce
provided a
number of
and
therapy
and
self-help,
based
on
sequences
that
can be
a variety
of problems,
low moods,
meridian points to
Although
treat
the
problem.
all the time, at as There is always all the methods there should be. However, of we have had the opportunity to study it is the and practice so far, energy psychologyis headsabove the rest. We believe that You're to see and hear a lot more about it in therapy for the new millennium. going it offers the years to come. As a self-helpapproach, effective tools you wonderfully of the Heimlich maneuver. for a lifetime. It's the psychologicalequivalent In this final chapter, we would liketo explore some ideas about the current and We hope that this will spur interest and future practice of energy psychology. the application of this approach to areas we haven't even innovation in considered.
be highly
effective,
works
Into
the
Mainstream
As increasing
psychology,they
numbers of
applying
therapists
are
trained
to
in the
assist
are
this efficient
method
application
their
of
energy
as such resolving many long-standingproblems, This approach is applicableto many other areas,
those
such
as chronic
pain, allergies,and
202
Energy
Tapping
we did not specifically other physical and psychological conditions.Although address these areas in the present to attempt volume of this book, we encourageyou treat and some of these sequences, especiallythe Midline Treatment to (MET), Energy it resolve anything like. Feel free to on you'd try anything. due to its efficiency, but Energy psychology is entering the mainstreamnot only also due to the great needthat exists throughout Most traditional society. therapies at all. do not yield results and, with some concerns, they aren't effective quick to treat certain sometimes Although using energy psychology problems necessarily takes a longer period of time, there are many problems that can and should be The sooner a psychological problem is resolved, the less it is resolved likely rapidly. that it will become a chronic,debilitating We believe that it is the sometimes problem. form of therapy itself that actually causes certain conditionsto becomechronic. For if a severe trauma and the therapy you choose involves example, you experience all extensive the varieties of of even trauma, dredging up forgotten reviewing the therapy but it can also traumas, then may not only prove to be emotionally upsetting, This cause the traumas to becomemoredeeply referred to as process, ingrained. is with effective use of to retraumatization, very unlikely happen energy psychology to a wide array of problems that people techniques. The same consideration applies
many
seek to resolve in
There is therapy
with
therapy.
are
invariably
energy
therapy
system,
that
the
effective people are this approach can afford. We believe that the healthier your energy and healthier you will be overall, physically, emotionally, psychologically.
psychology,
not process. Becausethis is generally more inclined to pursue the brief, highly
people
tolerate
because
Energy
Energy
Psychology
psychology
and
the
Future
in time it will be applied efficient and effective that vocational of business, medicine, education, guidance, therapy, extensively and be limitless. various so on. The to areas, performance applications appear sports, In the area of education, we believe that energy psychology is readily applicable barriers to their success, such as to the needs of inner-city childrenwho suffer many in the offers violence and in the schools. Energypsychology neighborhoods and students opportunities for to alleviate obstacles to motivation, overcometest anxiety, and with school counselors these surmount blocks. psychologists learning Equipping will lead to improvement in these and relatedareas Extensive methods for students. in the larger the of problems use of these methods may also help to reduce incidence
is so
in
the
areas
community.
Energy
psychology stress
also
complements
traditional
down
medical
recover
impact
continual
of
on
physical
illnesses provides
stress
many
can limit
other
lead to
Energy over
approaches. The
and
psychology your
surgery,
and
health.
is a relatively new enhance sports performance athletesto reduce and alleviate anxiety easily applied technique can help beliefs that produce many mental errors. It provides a meansof regaining
Using
energy work to
':\342\200\242: s for
Lifetime
203
crucial
situations
and helps
business
ability
from
their
offers
mental
mistakes. In the
efficient
areas of
of
vocational
pursuits,
energy psychology
alleviating in
means
coping
problems,
that
improving
with job
relationship
these
methods
can
effect
result
in a
positive trickle-down
benefits
the whole
organization.
Insight
that is not simply treating a psychological problem by tapping the cause also prefer to have someinsight into of your problem, which might lead you to seek talk therapy. Many discussion-focused therapists use at client sessions. These techniquesare applied techniques during energy psychology areas in which the feels the session to resolve client points strategic during quickly of room for insight. stuck. This still leaves plenty be into issues to you even if you aren't Having insight your may important with a In this after case, working specific professional therapist. you treat your etc.\342\200\224take some time to think about the problem issue\342\200\224trauma, depression, anger, that used to have. Frequently, relevant insights will emerge. Generally, you will you the find that you think about the once emotional chargeis quite differently problem a the can toward go preventing original problem gone. Insightful thoughts long way a sense of satisfaction in your and can produce newfound from returning
Maybe you
believe
enough.
You may
understanding.
Beyond
Tapping
energy tapping, you can and feelings.Noticethat after treating a with energy psychology, thoughts about the problem no longerhave a problem feel calm the issue. This emotional You now and centered about charge. negative allows you to truly realize that your thoughts cannot have a negative experience are is an effect on you unless you allow them to. You now in a position of choice.This take with life. Each time balance lesson to throughout your important you you energy dismiss such around an emotionally charged issue, it becomeseasierto simply in the future, even without having to tap negative on meridian points. thoughts are remain more brain and to training your energy system Essentially, you your
Once your
identify
energy system
becomes
balanced
through
the
interconnection
between
your thoughts
consistently
in balance.
Feelings
the wonderfully diverse positive emotionsof curiosity, and so on. We gratitude, love, respect, appreciation, such as fear, cherish these also have the capacityfor negative emotions, irritation, anger, rage,jealousy, sorrow, guilt, grief, shame, etc. Here the term negative
Our
lives
are
filled
with
anticipation,
204
Energy
Tapping
should
your
not be
All
emotion.
fear or
interpreted as meaningbad.
are
In
emotions
essentially
of
infancy.
anxiety
Emotions
alerts
are forms
us
a part
information
there is no such thing as a bad reality, of you; they were presenteven before
and
that
communication.
we
have violated a value or a moral; with we see someone to us of something that is ours; and the \"rob\" jealousy trying list goeson.Just as we benefit from the emotions of joy and love, the so-called \"negative\" emotions listed above also serve an admirable purpose. is full about getting to the point where we can experience the Energy Tapping even the them of without our entire ones, emotions, spectrum negative dominating existence. In the words of the Sufi poet, Rumi, \"Welcome and entertain them all! each has been sent as a guide from beyond.\"Negative feelings becomea Because when we predominantly reside in their landscape, that we is, when problem only most our time there. We want to the where never to however, spend living get point, we the capacity that lose to make the differentiation our negative emotional responses
us
to danger;
that
anger tells us
ourselves
strongly
know
we
about
creating
a Stepford
to eliminate
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